I remember Jan Leeming in her youth when she read the news but I cannot believe this lovely lady is now 82 - she looks at least 20 years younger! She’s so graceful ,eloquent and charming and my goodness, how honest! I can’t say I think the interviewers or the setting are befitting for an intimate conversation such as this one- there is Jan perched on a high, uncomfortable looking stool - where’s the nice sofa and a drink? The fact that she’s been single for so long is probably why she looks so marvellous!!
This is so interesting. I guess society is geared for couples and when you are on your own you become very aware of the difference in the way you are spoken to and treated.
I’ve never met the lady and so am speaking theoretically. Perhaps someone can appear to be one thing and can maintain that charade for a long period of time but, eventually, the true self will prevail. Perhaps someone can have a pub lit personae but be very different in private. That could apply to both men and women. Does a man or women get married thinking or knowing that they will not be faithful? Is there something in the marriage that causes the man or women to break their vows?
Jan must have met the wrong men, and there's plenty of them! But not only is she still a very pretty lady, she's very intelligent and holds a good conversation. Gosh they must have been fools those men to let her go! 🌸
I think I must be very odd. I married once, he was consistently unfaithful, consistently gas lighted our daughter and I and he was completely blindsided when I told him I was leaving him. That was 17 years ago and I never dated again. I love being on my own, Sundays are the best. If I want company I can go for lunch with friends then go home alone. No regrets and as Maya Angelous character in one of her books said “ why would you put beans up your nose twice”!
I have experienced all of this like Jan , for years I thought it was me and my fault. After many years of soul searching I now realise they were no good for me . Thankyou Jan for being so honest , wonderful lady you are
Watching from Australia and a long admirer of Jan. Lovely energy and a good heart. Also an empath which is a target for the dreaded Narcissist. Wish I had thicker skin to navigate the disappointments of life. We all live in hope of finding that special someone even if fiercely independent as I am in my 60's. A good relationship is so life enhancing and as Jan says as we age the companionship is so important as we have time and perhaps the funds to enjoy life, travel etc.
Thank you. I don't NEED a man as someone suggested - and certainly not financially - always have been financially independent and invariably I was the one who had a home into which my man moved. It would be good to have a companion so that I could plan holidays and trips to the theatre etc.
@@janleeming6800 If you just want somebody as a companion for holidays, trips to the theatre etc you should get a lovely Gay handsome man for that (if you do, tell me where you got him will you?)
I’ve seen Jan out and about in my area many times over the years and I will always remember the lovely smile that she gave me once when I went to see the actor John Challis , Boycie in Only Fools and Horses one man show at Astor Theatre ,Deal and I could feel someone looking at me and so I turned around and was amazed / surprised to see this lovely lady giving me a beautiful smile and it was Jan Leeming and I think she was attracted to the nice Joe Browns shirt that I was wearing that night
Love this episode!! Deep talking and insights. ❤ This coach is good too. 🤩 Empaths or Highly Sensitives Souls - all they need to remember is that they need to put up very high and firm boundaries in every aspect of life!! 🙏🏼 ❤️🩹
Sorry Philippa - bought it years ago so very much doubt you'd still be able to buy one. The maker was Maria Bellatani - can't even remember where I bought it possibly a little shop in Sandwich. Thank you for the compliment
Dear Jan Sorry for your troubles with your relationships you are obviously very empathetic and narcissists are drawn to this, I could write a book on them lol 😂 I expect you have or will ! I’ve been at the receiving end of narcissists in relationships so I completely understand. Anyway sometimes we are better on our own, all the very best to you Debra xx
Jan, sorry to say you just pick the wrong ones. It's not your fault, but with men. If they think or believe a woman is a soft touch, that soft touch can be construded as a form of weakness in a woman, and a very devious man will play on that. You will be used and treated badly by a man. He will get fed up with you and look around for someone else. But there is hope. Don't rush eargly in. Take your time . Try to sus that man out, find out what his true In tensions are.
Hi Jan, you just haven`t found the right guy. I have lived alone for 20+ years and had the same experiences many encounters with women but never the right one. It has to go beyond the initial attraction. As guy we have had the same scenarios. Its no easy as I see it its not what one is prepared to accept but what one is not prepared to accept. Which ever its not easy at our time of life. Stay safe. J
@@janleeming6800 You've still got it Jan, have never said "fanciable octogenarian" before...am a very athletic 62-year old if you ever require company! 😜
Omar Sharif all the young women loved him in the ‘70’s but then you realise that looks are not enough when you get older. Where’s the personality and the fun?
Chris Russel went from Jan to my sister in law Christine. I can remember her telling me all about being in love with him and that he’d been married to Jan Leeming. I’m not sure if he cheated with Christine behind Jans back. Christine died over a decade ago so I can safely and sadly say that she was horrible to me and ate men for breakfast.
That is an understatement. I've learned so much about him in the last 24 years and none of it complimentary. He targeted me and thought I was wealthy. I had nothing but my heavily mortgage home which was to have been my pension fund.
Was your sister in law a divorcee from Tunbridge? So sorry to hear that your sister in law was horrid to you. Yes he serially cheated on me. I was totally unaware of his infidelity but was getting suspicious of all the evening meetings he had at school. Because I didn't live in the area and was in a very bad emotional state I simply didn't know him well enough. Have had so many people coming to me with tales of his infidelity. He was a serial womanizer. And who got it in the neck from the press etc when he left - Me. He was heavily in debt when I married him (Lord knows how as he was on a salary I could only have dreamed about). In 1997 you couldn't have 2 mortgages so I had to sell my house in order to cover his loan, overdraft and negative equity and then put down 50% of the deposit. He left me high and dry. The house in Bucks was to have been my pension pot - and now is worth about 2 million. I would have been laughing. I don't know how the local Press never cottoned on to his serial infidelity.
You can't keep a womaniser. As I said in the podcast - a man may have steak at home but still goes looking for mincemeat. The cheated one is usually the last to know.
Unless you are privy to all the circumstances, I suggest you should not stand in judgement. I got nothing from most of my marriages except heart ache and was invariably left financially worse off then when I entered the marriage.
Feel so sorry that you never learned to live without a man also never learned to set boundaries in a relationship! Sounds that you’ve been so dependent on a man that you give that vibe and thus lack of respect!
I remember Jan Leeming in her youth when she read the news but I cannot believe this lovely lady is now 82 - she looks at least 20 years younger! She’s so graceful ,eloquent and charming and my goodness, how honest! I can’t say I think the interviewers or the setting are befitting for an intimate conversation such as this one- there is Jan perched on a high, uncomfortable looking stool - where’s the nice sofa and a drink? The fact that she’s been single for so long is probably why she looks so marvellous!!
She looks amazing and is full of energy！
By far the best of these podcasts, I do hope you have her back again to continue what has been a very interesting discussion.
Please get jan back for a part 2!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
This is so interesting. I guess society is geared for couples and when you are on your own you become very aware of the difference in the way you are spoken to and treated.
Love the lady..Jan Leeming&looks fabulous..👌👍great therapist too.
82 WTF! That shock aside I actually Jan looks the best she’s ever looked! Stunning! I love this lady to bits. ❤
Wow she does look good. 5 times married?
She's such a lovely person, can't believe she has been so unlucky with her husbands cheating
Why did she keep marrying?
Yes, is it really possible to be that unlucky
I’ve never met the lady and so am speaking theoretically. Perhaps someone can appear to be one thing and can maintain that charade for a long period of time but, eventually, the true self will prevail. Perhaps someone can have a pub lit personae but be very different in private. That could apply to both men and women. Does a man or women get married thinking or knowing that they will not be faithful? Is there something in the marriage that causes the man or women to break their vows?
I met Jan Leeming and she is delightful.
Jan must have met the wrong men, and there's plenty of them! But not only is she still a very pretty lady, she's very intelligent and holds a good conversation. Gosh they must have been fools those men to let her go! 🌸
I think I must be very odd. I married once, he was consistently unfaithful, consistently gas lighted our daughter and I and he was completely blindsided when I told him I was leaving him. That was 17 years ago and I never dated again. I love being on my own, Sundays are the best. If I want company I can go for lunch with friends then go home alone. No regrets and as Maya Angelous character in one of her books said “ why would you put beans up your nose twice”!
Can you do another interview sometime soon Jan...look at all the love in the room for you here! 🥰
I have experienced all of this like Jan , for years I thought it was me and my fault.
After many years of soul searching I now realise they were no good for me . Thankyou Jan for being so honest , wonderful lady you are
Jan- You were the Sunshine when the News came On !!😃and still Shining Brightly !.
You are Good News !!😃
I always said - Jan Gleaming is On !!😁
Watching from Australia and a long admirer of Jan. Lovely energy and a good heart. Also an empath which is a target for the dreaded Narcissist. Wish I had thicker skin to navigate the disappointments of life. We all live in hope of finding that special someone even if fiercely independent as I am in my 60's. A good relationship is so life enhancing and as Jan says as we age the companionship is so important as we have time and perhaps the funds to enjoy life, travel etc.
Thank you. I don't NEED a man as someone suggested - and certainly not financially - always have been financially independent and invariably I was the one who had a home into which my man moved. It would be good to have a companion so that I could plan holidays and trips to the theatre etc.
@@janleeming6800 If you just want somebody as a companion for holidays, trips to the theatre etc you should get a lovely Gay handsome man for that (if you do, tell me where you got him will you?)
Defo always fancied Jan Leeming. 😀
And I also, had a similar encounter with Omer, and at that time he was 22 years older than me….❤
This was absolutely brilliant and fascinating - and the life coach is amazing! She’s taught me a lot - thank you 😊
What a great discussion.
I’ve seen Jan out and about in my area many times over the years and I will always remember the lovely smile that she gave me once when I went to see the actor John Challis , Boycie in Only Fools and Horses one man show at Astor Theatre ,Deal and I could feel someone looking at me and so I turned around and was amazed / surprised to see this lovely lady giving me a beautiful smile and it was Jan Leeming and I think she was attracted to the nice Joe Browns shirt that I was wearing that night
What a love lady
Jan Leeming
Beautiful vibrant Lady
Met Jan in Canterbury, lovely lady.
Love you jan a legend ❤
I love these !
Wow. She's absolutely lovely ❤
I really enjoyed listening to this
Wow good for her ❤❤❤❤
Love this episode!! Deep talking and insights. ❤
This coach is good too. 🤩
Empaths or Highly Sensitives Souls - all they need to remember is that they need to put up very high and firm boundaries in every aspect of life!! 🙏🏼 ❤️🩹
More like they need to find a soulmate.
She looks amazing
Moral of these experiences is Don’t get married! Are you nuts! Why marry!
I's love to know where Jan got her jumper from. What a lovely lady, always very ladylike.
Sorry Philippa - bought it years ago so very much doubt you'd still be able to buy one. The maker was Maria Bellatani - can't even remember where I bought it possibly a little shop in Sandwich. Thank you for the compliment
Dear Jan Sorry for your troubles with your relationships you are obviously very empathetic and narcissists are drawn to this, I could write a book on them lol 😂 I expect you have or will ! I’ve been at the receiving end of narcissists in relationships so I completely understand. Anyway sometimes we are better on our own, all the very best to you Debra xx
Jan, sorry to say you just pick the wrong ones. It's not your fault, but with men. If they think or believe a woman is a soft touch, that soft touch can be construded as a form of weakness in a woman, and a very devious man will play on that. You will be used and treated badly by a man. He will get fed up with you and look around for someone else. But there is hope. Don't rush eargly in. Take your time . Try to sus that man out, find out what his true In tensions are.
English and i live in France ❤
Jan could teach the "expert" a thing or two ... I ask you !
Possibly. Always felt I'd make a good Agony Aunt - I've been there, seen it, done it as they say.
Narcissists have a habit of hoovering you,they are repulsive creatures who behave like a cat terrorising a mouse before killing it.
Hi Jan, you just haven`t found the right guy. I have lived alone for 20+ years and had the same experiences many encounters with women but never the right one.
It has to go beyond the initial attraction.
As guy we have had the same scenarios.
Its no easy as I see it its not what one is prepared to accept but what one is not prepared to accept.
Which ever its not easy at our time of life.
Stay safe.
J
I’m 82 , lives in Montpellier and still fully functioning. Jan Leeming might be interested then again she might not !
Clearly taken good care of her health, would easily pass for 60...a very fanciable octogenarian!
Many thanks and have taken care of my health. Never smoked or taken drugs.
@@janleeming6800 You've still got it Jan, have never said "fanciable octogenarian" before...am a very athletic 62-year old if you ever require company! 😜
@@willjones4085🙄desperate Dan.
@@peterbalac1915 Get a life fella, it's only a bit of fun...maybe try it sometime!
That would be a grey haired sixty year old librarian type!
Still totty
Lovely woman , old Cockermouth
Omar Sharif all the young women loved him in the ‘70’s but then you realise that looks are not enough when you get older. Where’s the personality and the fun?
He had the looks but also the charisma and personality.
They should have Janet Street Porter on; she has had a few marriages. Colleen Nolan 😮
Please no, not Colleen - she'll be making monotonous jokes about her bosum😢
Sorry, but who are the presenters? 😊
That's what I'd like to know. They didn't introduce themselves!
Tim Vincent, not sure of the female presenter.
@@sam.s4998 She looks familiar 🤔
Five marriages,says a lot about her....lol 😂
Chris Russel was awful.
Chris Russel went from Jan to my sister in law Christine. I can remember her telling me all about being in love with him and that he’d been married to Jan Leeming. I’m not sure if he cheated with Christine behind Jans back. Christine died over a decade ago so I can safely and sadly say that
she was horrible to me and ate men for breakfast.
That is an understatement. I've learned so much about him in the last 24 years and none of it complimentary. He targeted me and thought I was wealthy. I had nothing but my heavily mortgage home which was to have been my pension fund.
@@janleeming6800It's sad that being nice often leads to others taking advantage - oh well, you still look and sound so lovely!
Jan lemming was not innocent but Chris Russell was worse!
Was your sister in law a divorcee from Tunbridge? So sorry to hear that your sister in law was horrid to you. Yes he serially cheated on me. I was totally unaware of his infidelity but was getting suspicious of all the evening meetings he had at school. Because I didn't live in the area and was in a very bad emotional state I simply didn't know him well enough. Have had so many people coming to me with tales of his infidelity. He was a serial womanizer. And who got it in the neck from the press etc when he left - Me. He was heavily in debt when I married him (Lord knows how as he was on a salary I could only have dreamed about). In 1997 you couldn't have 2 mortgages so I had to sell my house in order to cover his loan, overdraft and negative equity and then put down 50% of the deposit. He left me high and dry. The house in Bucks was to have been my pension pot - and now is worth about 2 million. I would have been laughing. I don't know how the local Press never cottoned on to his serial infidelity.
Married 5Times!!!…Really not her!😂
You are not " suddenly single " at 82 years of age
Must be something wrong with her if she’s been married so many times.
No. It was something wrong with the men. She is lovely.
She likes wedding cake 😝🤣
You can't keep a womaniser. As I said in the podcast - a man may have steak at home but still goes looking for mincemeat. The cheated one is usually the last to know.
No man would look twice at her now. Obsessed with career springs to mind. Feminist.
Unless you are privy to all the circumstances, I suggest you should not stand in judgement. I got nothing from most of my marriages except heart ache and was invariably left financially worse off then when I entered the marriage.
Feel so sorry that you never learned to live without a man also never learned to set boundaries in a relationship! Sounds that you’ve been so dependent on a man that you give that vibe and thus lack of respect!
Not dependent ever - financially as I've usually been the one who had a heavily mortgaged home😆. I like to be part of a couple and am a home maker.
Bert Weedon wasn't good looking