I got married to the wrong person in my mid-twenties and it was not a pleasant experience so don't rush in just for the sake of getting married. I finally found the love of my life at 35 and could not be happier married to the best wife ever.
@@CrunsherExtreme thank you for sharing I recently heard a story of a woman who got married at 24 but couldn't get pregnant until her 40s and had one child, a girl. Some people get married quickly just to have children. I don't blame them. But sometimes the right time comes by itself. So just let things go by itself and believe in yourself love yourself . I say this to everyone who feels like they didn't do things at the right time. The right time is always there. It may seem like you missed it, but it's there when you least expect it.
I just turned 40 this year. You care even less what ppl think and start to fkn demand from life to start giving back. You be you, the road you take is yours alone. Best of luck to you, thanks for sharing!
33 year old black man. No wife, no kids , no girlfriend. In a job that’s unfulfilling. Never could figure things out but trying to love myself and others.
Believe truth exists. Seek it resolutely, beginning with what you are sure of now. For example. A red street light means stop and a green one means go. But always look left and right anyway. There are certain inalienable truths that exist for all people all the time. Those are called absolutes. Things like birth and death. The Bible says the existence of God is self evident from the things He has made. I believe that.
Travel, brother. Travel the world, leverage your situation, turn it into a huge advantage over anyone else. No mortgage, no college payments, no nagging wife. Many men would gladly switch places with you…
I'm much older than you, but in a similar situation. We need to stop believing that following the traditional norm of marriage, having and raising kids or, even, romantic relationship are necessary for a happy or fulfilling life for everyone. We certainly should not feel guilty or lesser for not being married, not having kids or not having girlfriend or boyfriend. There are already 8 billion people in the world, so few of us deciding not to have kids is very unlikely to affect the survival of our human species.
@@KansaiCool brother as long as you take care of yourself physically and get your money right, you good. You’ll definitely be able to find love. I’m sure you’ll do a lot for your future girl.
I’m also a 29 year old woman with no kids and unmarried. Only thing is that I’m unemployed. I still feel just as lost as I did at 19 but I’m slowly finding my way. Maybe I needed this advice too. And maybe my 30s will be better. Thank you❤
I'm exactly the same at 27, not many months left before I am 28. I also have chronic illness + chronic pain on top (GI disease, for 20 years)... actually, that is the root of my unemployment, relationship problems, and everything else that is wrong in my life. I hope I can become self employed... life's just tough. I hope it gets better for the both of us
I graduated in graphic desing in my early 20s, then started working as a photographer in my 30s, and then I was diagnosed wwith colitis in my 40s and because of that, started worrking as a hairdresser. I'm 48 now, single and probably living a very good moment of my life. Don't need a script to live your life, make your own!
I don't usually comment, but I have to say having been a best selling author your ability to connect the dots of life is so well put together you will do fine on the journey through the maze of life we all must endure. This was so well done I am truly beside myself. Thank You
Time flies. You live, learn and experience. I'm a 42 year old dude and I feel like i'm in my twenties in my head. I can blame my surroundings for not feeling 'whole' but I should feel pretty blessed with what I got. I create my own struggles and happy moments and shouldn't be influenced by others. I love your advice in the end regarding old friends, prices, politicians etc. and I should change my views on some of them. Just be happy and live the one life to the fullest. Thank you. Very inspiring. ♥
I just turned 30 & this video is very relatable. I started to accept I might never know what I want to do in life, but I'll just go with whatever happens.
Your video came up as a recommendation when I opened my UA-cam app this morning. I appreciate sharing your story. Life has it’s ups and downs. For many, it’s an uphill struggle. Whether it be finding purpose in life, achieving financial stability, managing work/life balance or even finding love. There are many factors that affect us. From my perspective, I’ll be turning 40 in several months. I already feel old and lived more than half my lifespan. Most of my life I spent working midnight shifts. The job helps pay bills and living expenses. But the downside is that it negatively impacts my health and social life which made me a complete introvert.
LOVE your videos :D I am soon 40 and still feeling like 25 :D not married either, no kids, but I feel no stress at all :) I just DO what makes me happy, and hang around with good energy positive people :D So my life I am happy with. Sure I did only recently got a new full-time job and my goal is now to save up to my dreamcar and then cash it :) since I hate loans!
This is such a beautiful, touching video. My wife is Japanese and was 42 when we got married. She talked a lot about this and how she suffered for years. We have been together for 7 years now and I am determined to make sure she is happy for the rest of her life. I was very moved by the story about your grandmother. My mother is 88 and has vision problems and dementia. It is so painful to watch her, to talk to her. I hope that you will have a happy life. Thank you for sharing.
I’m 65. I’ve never been happier. I spent my 20’s sexually frustrated and working my ass off trying to recover from my childhood. 29 is very young. I don’t recommend getting married just because you think it’s time. It’s better not to ever get married than to marry the wrong person or get married to please your family. I never married and I’m glad I didn’t. I never wanted to. I remember women approaching 30 heard their clock ticking or got “baby rabies”. They tended to make mistakes that f’d up a lot of people’s lives. Stay in the day. Be grateful for it because it’s all you have. Make gratitude lists. Share your God given gifts with those who appreciate it. Pray for guidance. Pray for the sick and suffering. Pay attention to coincidences. Pay attention to how you feel and learn to interpret your emotions. Avoid sunscreen. It’s been found to be harmful since that Bad Lurman commencement speech. Thanks for the video! ❤️
You are not alone im also 29 unmarried and been single for 10years, ive been trying to figure out the right path for me and keept doing mistakes but,last year I build my life again and i still didn’t see significant changes but that’s ok, we are humans and we are supposed to get lost so we can search and find ourselves. English isn’t my first language but I hope that i was able to comfort you
Age is not just a number; lets be real. Life is different at different ages. Kids, teenagers, young adults, middle age people, and the elderly have different concerns and challenges. Age is not just a number. A person is their 60s is closer to death than someone in their 20s generally speaking.
i'm 32 single, i feel like i know myself more than ever before but it is difficult being single. I'm learning to be more productive and disciplined to not feel the intensity of loneliness and sorry about your grandmas condition. also marry when your ready whenever that might be, it's your right, best wishes
Mako, I absolutely adored the editing and filming style of this video (including the music choice), it gives of such a beautiful, slightly nostalgic and retro feel - I think this is your best one so far! 💕 Very relatable and calming too (from a fellow almost-29-years old woman who doesn't know what she's doing in life 😅😊)
Thank you so much, that's exactly what I was aiming for! I wanted this video to feel like a summer nostalgia as the season changes and I think about all the memories I made during summer 🥰
I have found in my darkest moments to set my eyes on others by volunteering at the local hospital comforting patients. It is amazingly healing in so many ways. ❤
I’ll be 29 this December! I am excited about what life is about to offer and all the experiences yet to come. I pray for strength for all of us. Life is not easy, but let’s make it worthwhile.
If a beautiful, fit woman with a good personality and good values is finding it difficult to date and find someone, society has big problems. I thought things were bad in the United States, but this is really rough. HOWEVER there is hope for all of you...or rather all of us, as I'm an unmarried man as well. Let's all get out of the house and meet each other!
I spent more than half of my life in a relationship where I was always made to feel inferior and everything was my fault. In my mid 40ies I was preparing for the end. I have no kids either. I finally left her and found the love of my life, an empath like myself, it was so weird getting appreciation and love back. She is now 31, we are engaged and we are starting life. Life will find a way
You WILL find your way. At 29 years old, you still have so much life to live, people to meet and a big world to explore. And, I agree with you about family.
My dear mum passed away almost 2 years ago. And I feel the same, all she wanted was for me to meet someone. I was too busy chasing a lofty career, and never felt like it was the right time to meet someone. Sadly I never got to make her a grandmother, and it pains me every day, thinking I let her down. I breaks my heart that I can’t gonna I and fix it.
You’re making me cry at work stoppp it 😭 my grandma is also in Japan…in her late 80’s…I hope to see her again this year! It’s been since 2019..covid ruined a lot.. but I hope to see her very very soon!!! ❤️❤️❤️ i am married, but don’t want to have kids soon..($$) but I do hope I can make my wish come true for her too.
aww a comment like this 😭💕 I hope you get to see her very soon! It's so hard to find the balance, like I wanna make her happy but then I need to make myself happy too!
My Grandma got dementia during covid and the one thing I regret is not taking her out often or even telling her how much I loved her. Visit her as soon as you can and tell her how much you love her so you dont end up with the same regret as I.
Don’t worry it’ll happen don’t rush for love. Best love is the long waited ones. You find that someone who will be loyal and kindest to you soon. Love never dies love is powerful, when poor or low in life love is stronger when that guy comes rather he work at a restaurant or something he be right for you. You just have to accept him when he comes be ready. Sayonara
DON'T RUSH IT BEAUTIFUL LADY MAKO, I AM MAN 59 YEARS OLD AND I AM CONVINCED, IF YOU GET THE RIGHT PERSON, LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL. 急がないでください、美しい女性マコさん。私は 59 歳の男ですが、正しい人を見つければ人生は美しいと確信しています。
Mako! Happy to see you again! Do not rush to get married! The pain of getting married with the wrong person is so bitter that you will forget the excitement of the wedding day! Do You remember the huge amount of disgust and suffering You had in your past Job? Image that multiplied by 1,000,000! That's what You get from getting married with the wrong person! Stay calm and keep walking one step at a time. If You believe in a Higher Power, pray, and Divine Providence will give you signs on what direction you have to take...see you next time! 😊
This is coming from a middle aged man, my advice is to live your life to the fullest. There’s no need to be a conformist or to live the aspirations of others. Enjoy every moment let every moment be an adventure within itself. Be good to yourself. If you have faith trust in God, live on the worth with gratitude for what you experience. 🙏
I'm 38, unmarried and no kids. Had my fair share of fun in my 20s and don't regret it one bit. Looking to settle down now, but it's definitely difficult meeting people in this day and age. Funny that I got recommended this video as I just came back home from a trip to Japan. Fell in love with the country and now I just want to go back as soon as possible.
I'm 30 years old, single, raising my 8 year old daughter. I was betrayed, hurt, and suffered; but I have no regrets in having my daughter with me and am very grateful to have her existーhealthy, sometimes angry, sometimes happy. So, I know it's difficult, relationships, but children are a blessing and I find a great purpose to live with every day I wake up to. I procrastinate, we all do, and we all faulter, yet I and many others could confidently say that what we do is purposeful. Meaningful. And, I think that's very reassuring as we age, to know that what we do, what we work towards, is meaningful.
I told my parents I don’t want kids, I no longer care about getting married anymore because I’ve seen so many guys lose so much in divorces, and even relationships. The freedom to be 31 and do what I want with no constraints is awesome because I know other guys don’t have that. I have people in my life who are upset about it and I just smile and say “that’s a you problem” My point is you are not less for being single and childless. If it’s what you want keep going for it, I understand others feel differently, but I just want you and everyone to know no one is less for being single. Despite what Brett cooper and JD Vance say.
Your storytelling is as exciting as always, but can I just mention how brilliant the color correction of this video is? I felt just like I was in a cinema😍
Im 35 yr old women who’s getting s divorce soon. I didn’t expect my life to turn around like this. I was mad, sad, and frustrated with myself. I did make mistakes. I’m not afraid to admit it. But I’m still glad I got married even when it was to the wrong kind of person in my early 20s. Love doesn’t pay the bills, but hard work, dedication will. I will cherish the time we had. But I do feel happier every day trying to find who I am again. Sometimes you lose your own identity in a marriage. I do have a child and I’m not afraid to raise him alone. I am thankful to have a good job so I can support the both of us. Even alone I will rise up and be stronger as a woman. You don’t need a man to make you feel good about yourself. You need to love yourself first before you can love another. That is a hard lesson to learn after 15 yrs.
Well, I didn’t think I needed to cry first thing in the morning but I guess I did after all. I’m a 67 year old twice divorced single man, youngest of my aging family who are scattered across North America, father to three women, keeper of a pair of aging dogs that belonged to one of them…and I can affirm that every scrap of that advice is solid gold that I wish I had had the capacity to absorb 50 years ago. I’d only add “try to hang onto and remember and be grateful for the things that are good, because there are plenty of other things to deal with that aren’t”. My two best friends of 50+ years and I do a podcast that nobody listens to, and I’m so grateful I still have those guys in my life to share time with. Life is not for the faint of heart, so be brave and carry on! Harvest the joy we are each afforded and endure the grief we all will experience.
Thank you for your video. I felt depressed today, because the evening wasn't going as I imagined, and I have the feeling that I don't take chances or can't interact really with anyone or just hurt them, because I don't think sometimes before I say something. I'm 20, sometimes I feel very lonely and lost and sometimes I don't care at all and just want to move on. I think I should relax more at least I made one friend happy today. You are right, I will try to go more with the flow, thank you for your kind words. I wish you the best.
Woah... what a wonderful video, incredibly insightful. I love it when people share their thoughts and mindset on things and you just went for it. The very calm and pleasing narrative going along with certain subtleties in the video was so good, like showing up on a scene... leaving... and then coming back; stoping at the traffic lights; going up the stairs; dissapearing at the end; etc. Also, you a poet too or wth was this 😅: "Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than it's worth." 😲
In Sweden a woman can have a man, job and kids at the same time without being shamed or anything. They both share the experience. Wish Japan will change their attitude.
I was the class of 99 and remember that song well! I just turned 43 and remember that feeling of being 29: it felt like yesterday! When you get older you realise that 29 is so young!
This resonated with me a lot as I watch my parents aging into their 70s and I am still in my 20s. I hope life finds you well and you find that security and certainty you may be looking for.
This video appeared on my feed unexpectedly, and as a fellow 29-year-old, I couldn’t agree more with yo!Some things start to make sense, while others become even more confusing, haha. But in the end, it’s all about living life the way you want to!
Nothing wrong being single. Appreciate the freedom that many wish for. Be independent n travel as u afford, near or far not important. Marrying only u are ready or found someone who u think is your right partner Not marrying to please others.
28 years old Japanese woman🙋🏻♀️ UA-cam just recommended this video and I can relate to almost everything on this video. It made me feel less lonely and different but I guess a big portion of Japanese people are living in the same reality now, the first thing that comes to my mind is , what’s gonna happen to our country with so many young adults not getting married and having kids? But I also understand we can’t force things just for the future of the country. Life nowadays are becoming harder in every sense. I honestly feel bad for this situation. It’s a good video and sad because it’s the reality
Beautiful video, Mako! Life is strange, isn't it. I definitely strive to cherish every good moment and appreciate the people close to me. And wow, I see you visited Switzerland! I hope you enjoyed your time here. 😊
I’m 26 and girl I thought I was going to marry broke up with me 2 nights ago. I’m still devastated. I know it may be odd but 29 and lost seems like a better place than where I am right now. I can’t wait to jump forward in time when I’m fully over her.
Keep your head up brother, 2 years ago I also suffered a devastating breakup, on my wedding day. I kept going and kept the faith and now found someone else, you will too, you will grow and heal.
I am going to Japan in a few weeks, and I have been watching a lot of UA-cam videos about it. This evening, your video about being 29 popped up. I watched. I was really touched by it. I thought it was an exquisite piece of filmmaking. Camerawork, editing, music and your lovely voice came together to form a very memorable film. To end with the professor reiterating the use of sunscreen was brilliant. I have subscribed. Thank you.
Good to see you back Mako!the age dont matter.depends on every person moment in life.Thanks for sharing this video with us.Until next time, enjoy your time and take care of yourself!!
I am 52 years old with no kids and unmarried 😂. Somedays I wish I did have someone special but for some reason it hasnt happened yet. I just try to enjoy everyday as much as I can and just take this journey as a new surprise is always lurking around the corner. My mother said I should get married because who will take care of me and my mom said at least i have you so i dont have to worry. I really think there is a reason why I am still single and that there are bigger plans for me, at least that is what I say to myself to keep my morale up 😂😂😂😂. I also go on vacation alone and in bangkok right now on vacation after my business trip to malaysia. Like i said yes it can be lonely and yes I do envy seeing couples together but I refuse to let it bring me down and enjoying the moment. I used to cry when I go on vacation but not anymore😂😂😂😂. I am determined to live life to the fullest! By the way good video 👍
Mako, I can relate to your posted video. My perspective is from an older vantage point. Early 20's up to my late 20's seemed like forever from that age range, with the illusion that there would always be time to complete life goals. Procrastination ruled since it was easier to set something to the side and unwind from the day. You are cognizant of these things early in the timeline and have time to ignite the urgency needed to start the life goal seedlings needed in order to reap the harvest at the appointed time. Thank you for sharing.
I'm 39 y.o and never been married, life has ups and downs for sure but I realized not to put pressure on myself. It's important to befriend with yourself and make your life better but don't stress yourself. it was good to see this video, actually I am new to your channel and I hope you get more energy from subscribers ❤❤
Wow Mako!! ❤❤ This video is so touching and wonderful... The depth of your thoughts, the edit of the music when you changed from a painful massage to one full of hope 🎉 I know you don't know me, but I want to say that you are inspiring me a lot. What you are doing is very brave, and from experience I have learned that when a person lets go of their expectations, life rewards them with a reality that is better than what they might have expected. You are not married, or working a 9-5 job, but I would say you are already winning, because regardless of how you feel with your new reality, you are consistently helping yourself get better, and be a better version of yourself. A suggestion: would you like to do affiliate marketing and promote products that match you through your videos? I wish you could partnership with brands that sell nice journals about mindfulness, organizing your mind, letting be... Or you can create them with your design course!! This is your sign to stop being perfectionist and do it even if you feel you are not ready. I want you to prosper, and the universe and God so do. Sending hugs from New York ❤
Thank you so much, a comment like this makes my day ❤ I agree, so many people said journal when I asked what merch I should create. unfortunately, it seems like many companies that sell journals don't do collaboration, so maybe it's time for me to take action and start market research :)
I’m also 29, married but definitely don’t have my life figured out 😗 this is the first time I came across your channel, just subscribed, love your style ❤️
Come to Spain ! . Life here , somehow feels lighter and easygoing. The Spanish mix in work , leisure and family time daily! . It's the perfect therapy for anyone feeling a little lost and with little purpose . Mako , get in touch. Cheers , hasta pronto!
This very much resonates with me im pretty much on the same boat but sadly my grandma passed away a while ago so she sadly missed on the things i have achieved that i really wanted her to see im the black sheep of my family everyone is already married and have kids and they keep on telling me when are you going to get married? when are you going to be a dad? and im never sure how to answer i dont want to disappoint them but at the same time im just feeling lost but we still here walking this path we call life enjoying every bit of it even with its downsides because i know sometimes time flies and we have to treasure every moment
the good thing men have more chance and lucky about having kids at any age women worry about marriage because of this the most . you will find your way maybe your future partner be the guide sometimes the right person can be the light of our life
Hi Mako, I think you are a very balanced young lady. I would say what friends told me about getting married. Don't rush into marriage for the sake of being married for your family's wishes. Make yourself available to the right people. I waited until age 37 to get married and we are happy even though we could not have kids. Don't take advice from friends that are divorced. But, do keep good trusted and honest friends. They can help you. If your expectations are too high, then this will make it very hard to impossible to find your soul mate. And another thing, if a guy wants you to move in with him to try things out, DONT. You should know each other very well and know each other's personality and behavior well enough to get married, and then move in together. I see too many men young and old that are really 14yr olds in a 35- or 50-year-old body. They should be ready to take care of you, sacrifice for you and be your husband and you should be ready to do the same for him. You might try attending a singles group at Church?
Wow, thank you so much for this video, it's really timely as I'm also in my twenties and completely lost in what I want to do 😅 You give off a super positive energy and I'm so glad I found your channel ! Greetings from Switzerland (Geneva) 🇨🇭❤️🇯🇵
I bet most of us have come to realize that life is never easy. At different stages and times, we face various challenges. While we may not always find the perfect solution in the moment, what truly matters is that we learn to appreciate our efforts n learn patience. The best part is holding on to your loved ones, even when our efforts don’t always meet their expectations.
a few tips to fellow procrastinators: - there is often no way of knowing how a thing will turn out.. except trying - when the result is not as good as you expected.. make a mental note what you'll try different next time.. this is now only your baseline - if you can't get started writing anything good.. just dump your half-baked ideas into a word processor and start massaging then.. it takes time and thinking, a break and finalizing.. but in the end it will be good - if your task is too big to start, divide it. i only go shoveling snow from our staircase, then feel good about it, continue shoveling a narrow path to the bin, get bigger reward of feeling good, proceed to clear out the driveway, feeling good taking over and ending up clearing our whole yard - when you start thinking to finish a task later you're doing right now, use this mantra: "you're almost there, just keep at it"
I'm a 29 year old man, no love life, few friends, unfulfilling job and I feel like I've wasted my 20's away trying to dull the pain of my perceived past failures. I'm finally at a point in my life where I want to actively be a better version of myself and let go of the past. There's a saying I heard that goes "Everyone has two lives and the second one starts the moment you realize you only have one." Let's all live life to the fullest because our time on this planet is fleeting. And thank you for this video. I needed to hear what you had to say ❤
Thank you for sharing! I'm also 29, no kids but got a boyfriend who is 3.5 years younger than me. Im in a happy job and been there for nine years. I have got to the point now that I dont care what other people think of me. I don't have many friends but small circle is enough. Sending you love and happiness x
Life is always a struggle but I feel if you let go of things and not care so much then it’s easier to get by! Just live in the moment and let things be!!!
Thanks Mako for another inspiration. Your videos pass a special atmosphere to a viewer ❤ I'm just relaxing watching. My grandma had the same wish. She died some time ago and I'm still not married. But when I think about her and that wish, I have a feeling as if she would have told me that she Does Not blame me... and that she loves me. I'm sure your family loves you no matter what. They ask about marriage because they worry. P.s. Don't be sad, we are missing your smile.😊 Let your boyfriend watch the video, he may consider taking this step.
Thank you for watching and sharing your story. It's amazing that you decided to go back to school, I think it's so important to keep learning no matter the age :)
24 year old completing my master's... Doing well at university but I can't drive, I live with my parents and I'm not in a relationship 🥹 I really needed this video, thank you so much 🙏🏻
24 years old too. Psych graduate but chose a different path right after graduation. My dream has nothing to do with psych. Sometimes I felt left behind, but whenever I think of my dream and all the reasons why I chose this path, I felt relieved. I'm happy with my decision. Let's do our best! 😁
I got married to my best friend when I was thirty-five. The best thing you can do is to live your life the way you choose. Don't follow the expectations or pressures of family, friends and your society/culture. And don't chase material things, thats not where you will find peace and happiness. We need shelter and food. The rest of life is a blank canvas for you to create your own story.
Just stumbled across your channel randomly. Ive done the travel thing, worked around the world and now live in Japan (originally from NZ). Im 35 but I don't regret a thing. Would I love to find that one person who I can give my life to? Absolutely. I don't let time and age dictate my next move. I hope you don't either! Keep living & things will find you. "Energy goes where energy flows". You got this 💪頑張ってください! Subscribed.
It's even worse when you're 39, male and single, living in a country that does not even give you economic chance to travel... :\ I live completely alone in loneliness, no friends I can relate with and call them real friends except one.
I just turned 30 yesterday and seriously such a relief. I was feeling sad that my 20s are ending, instead now I feel so excited for this new chapter. I had so much experiences throughout my 20s, got a master degree, lived in 6 countries(including Japan), traveled the world, learned 5 languages, broke up and found a true love, tried different professions (model, bar-tender, teacher, journalist, news anchor, radio host) super fun. I look even better and even more beautiful and even though I had all these experiences I still feel childish and fun each day. I’m in a great health and blooming ❤ on the way to achieve new goals and move to another country It’s important to surround yourself with right people. I’m proud that I was able to do all those things diagnosed with ADHD currently I live in Italy and working on making a vlog about lifestyle in South of Italy 😊 Good luck and bless who read this ❤
I think sometimes we listen too much about what society views about how our lives should turn out. I was in a generation that believed you had a career at age 18 years old...a house and family by 21 years old and Retired at 50 years old...this is a great plan and it works for some people but a person is not required to be exact on each timeline of events. You are still Young..You are Beautiful and You don't need to follow someone else guidelines for your life and that includes your family. You have not decided what you want to do in life and that is OKAY ..Find something you enjoy doing and let that guide you to happiness ❤❤❤❤❤❤. So many people end up doing a job or living a life based on making others happy and they end up just being unhappy in life. The more you search for happiness in your life the closer you become to being HAPPY ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Life is pretty empty without someone you love and they love you back. I can't imagen my life without my wife. we learn and grow so much in a good way :) life is about sharing
I loved hearing your talk full of truths and wisdom, with the very impressive calmness that comes from a remarkable ability to surrender where it is on place, that comes from insight, which comes from the integrated, distilled experiences of a prudent and reflective observer, and with the positivity and charity that comes from a refined, generous mature heart of a true conqueror and overcomer. I can affirm that you are not alone in what you are going through. It is a very phenomenon of the current days. But what you are making out of it, the accuracy in your descriptions, the courage and ability to see what is truly taking place, and to shape those very personal undergone experiences in a valid and helpful testimony, so that others that are going through similar pains and struggles that life undeterred throws in our ways can learn from it, the very personal battles that can and are being waved into a bigger tapestry of attainable and available common knowledge of a wider experienced phenomenon, so that deeper insights and wisdom can derive and be harvested from it, is spot on! Thank you for sharing, for those very beautiful insightful images coming from the inside, and those perfectly matching lofty images of the sublime surroundings as well.
you are beautiful, an accomplished communicator, a content creator and you don´t really need to feel the pressure of family and society to rush having a family or even just marry someone who you don´t love. your value donesn´t decrease with time. absolutely not
I'm only 26 now but I was blessed with a very understanding grandmother. My family line is quite big with 17 uncles and 10 aunts from my father's and mother's side combined. my only grandfather died when I was 6 years old (Mother's side), so that left my paternal grandmother alive. She has five great grandchildren now from my cousins and she loves them dearly. But I always knew from a young age that I didn't really want to have a significant other nor do I want children, it might change someday but I still hold on to that belief. She always understood my stance and supported my decision and I think it might have something to do with her own unhappy marriage. Her life was not really happy when she was married to my grandfather and everyone on my father's side knows that. Even so, I have been her only grandchild she would see every week when growing up and she has done so much for me before and after I was born, it makes me feel a bit sad that she most likely won't see me get married nor will she ever get to see my children if I ever have them, since she is 87 at this point.
Wow! Loved this video 😍 Beautifully narrated! Oh I thought elders asking for the young ones to get married was only the Indian thing. I am surprised to see that elders all around the world want us to get married 🙈
I will start again or find some other inspiration, because that seems to be how life works. I hope, I get lost, I find my way, then the path disappears again, and I just have to keep looking. Success and happiness come in small pieces, surrounded by struggle and plenty of failure. Accepting that and moving forward may get me to a good place again… I hope…❤
Life is peppered with moments of happiness but it's not required. Experience the life in being. Sometimes it's the discovery who you really are besides othes expectations of their needs. Go Mako make it your own!!! beautiful winding path -Peace
I got married to the wrong person in my mid-twenties and it was not a pleasant experience so don't rush in just for the sake of getting married. I finally found the love of my life at 35 and could not be happier married to the best wife ever.
Thanks for sharing this, it's motivating
It doesn't matter if you marry young or early
The important thing is to meet the right person
That is amazing, thank u for sharing :)
Same here... married the wrong person... no love... I forced the divorce... don't rush guys!
@@CrunsherExtreme thank you for sharing
I recently heard a story of a woman who got married at 24 but couldn't get pregnant until her 40s and had one child, a girl.
Some people get married quickly just to have children. I don't blame them. But sometimes the right time comes by itself. So just let things go by itself and believe in yourself love yourself .
I say this to everyone who feels like they didn't do things at the right time.
The right time is always there. It may seem like you missed it, but it's there when you least expect it.
I just turned 40 this year. You care even less what ppl think and start to fkn demand from life to start giving back. You be you, the road you take is yours alone. Best of luck to you, thanks for sharing!
33 year old black man. No wife, no kids , no girlfriend. In a job that’s unfulfilling. Never could figure things out but trying to love myself and others.
Believe truth exists. Seek it resolutely, beginning with what you are sure of now. For example. A red street light means stop and a green one means go. But always look left and right anyway. There are certain inalienable truths that exist for all people all the time. Those are called absolutes. Things like birth and death. The Bible says the existence of God is self evident from the things He has made. I believe that.
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Travel, brother. Travel the world, leverage your situation, turn it into a huge advantage over anyone else. No mortgage, no college payments, no nagging wife. Many men would gladly switch places with you…
I'm much older than you, but in a similar situation. We need to stop believing that following the traditional norm of marriage, having and raising kids or, even, romantic relationship are necessary for a happy or fulfilling life for everyone. We certainly should not feel guilty or lesser for not being married, not having kids or not having girlfriend or boyfriend. There are already 8 billion people in the world, so few of us deciding not to have kids is very unlikely to affect the survival of our human species.
@@KansaiCool brother as long as you take care of yourself physically and get your money right, you good. You’ll definitely be able to find love. I’m sure you’ll do a lot for your future girl.
I’m also a 29 year old woman with no kids and unmarried. Only thing is that I’m unemployed. I still feel just as lost as I did at 19 but I’m slowly finding my way. Maybe I needed this advice too. And maybe my 30s will be better. Thank you❤
thank you so much for watching 😊 we are not alone after all
this is exactly my situation and age too. it feels nice knowing i'm not alone, but i'm also sad that others are similarly impacted
I'm exactly the same at 27, not many months left before I am 28. I also have chronic illness + chronic pain on top (GI disease, for 20 years)... actually, that is the root of my unemployment, relationship problems, and everything else that is wrong in my life. I hope I can become self employed... life's just tough. I hope it gets better for the both of us
@@shinrinyokumusic1808 🙄
Looks like game over for you guys
I graduated in graphic desing in my early 20s, then started working as a photographer in my 30s, and then I was diagnosed wwith colitis in my 40s and because of that, started worrking as a hairdresser. I'm 48 now, single and probably living a very good moment of my life. Don't need a script to live your life, make your own!
I am 28, single. At this point of my life, I have understood one thing
Travel as much as you can..
I don't usually comment, but I have to say having been a best selling author your ability to connect the dots of life is so well put together you will do fine on the journey through the maze of life we all must endure. This was so well done I am truly beside myself. Thank You
thank you so much :)
Time flies. You live, learn and experience. I'm a 42 year old dude and I feel like i'm in my twenties in my head. I can blame my surroundings for not feeling 'whole' but I should feel pretty blessed with what I got. I create my own struggles and happy moments and shouldn't be influenced by others. I love your advice in the end regarding old friends, prices, politicians etc. and I should change my views on some of them. Just be happy and live the one life to the fullest. Thank you. Very inspiring. ♥
thank you so much
Im 30 yr old white guy, unmarried, no kids, no job, still live with parents, i can relate 😂
I can also relate and I’m 26
Bro shooting his shot 😂. This girl prob wants a good looking white guy which is why she has problems with dating
@@RobertDniroLHCYou are weird .
What qualities of a guy you are looking for, Mako?
My cousin is 35, still no job, no marriage and lives with his parents
life is family. You have a nice family that cares about you, so you are not alone
Not only your videos are highly positive and inspiring, but also they’re aesthetically pleasing ❤ “Salutations” from a 31 year old french woman
thank you
I am 59 next year and I am feeling better than ever before. I solved my problems and started living at 50 . Enjoy your lives, you young people
And try very hard to not get married. That’s the key you can be happy and love yourself and friends.
I just turned 30 & this video is very relatable. I started to accept I might never know what I want to do in life, but I'll just go with whatever happens.
Your video came up as a recommendation when I opened my UA-cam app this morning. I appreciate sharing your story. Life has it’s ups and downs. For many, it’s an uphill struggle. Whether it be finding purpose in life, achieving financial stability, managing work/life balance or even finding love. There are many factors that affect us. From my perspective, I’ll be turning 40 in several months. I already feel old and lived more than half my lifespan. Most of my life I spent working midnight shifts. The job helps pay bills and living expenses. But the downside is that it negatively impacts my health and social life which made me a complete introvert.
thank you for watching this video and sharing your story :) Life really has ups and downs, but I guess that's what makes it a life!
LOVE your videos :D
I am soon 40 and still feeling like 25 :D
not married either, no kids, but I feel no stress at all :)
I just DO what makes me happy, and hang around with good energy positive people :D
So my life I am happy with.
Sure I did only recently got a new full-time job and my goal is now to save up to my dreamcar and then cash it :) since I hate loans!
Welcome back and thank you so much! I love that and congratulations on your new job🎉
Your post gave me so much hope for someone being 27 :')
@@mylifeasmako ofc I am here, you do so inspiring videos Mako 🥳👍🙂 thanks! Yeah I applied to 175 Jobs until I got this.
Love it!❤
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This is such a beautiful, touching video. My wife is Japanese and was 42 when we got married. She talked a lot about this and how she suffered for years. We have been together for 7 years now and I am determined to make sure she is happy for the rest of her life.
I was very moved by the story about your grandmother. My mother is 88 and has vision problems and dementia. It is so painful to watch her, to talk to her.
I hope that you will have a happy life. Thank you for sharing.
thank you so much for watching and for your comment :)
I’m 65. I’ve never been happier. I spent my 20’s sexually frustrated and working my ass off trying to recover from my childhood. 29 is very young. I don’t recommend getting married just because you think it’s time. It’s better not to ever get married than to marry the wrong person or get married to please your family. I never married and I’m glad I didn’t. I never wanted to. I remember women approaching 30 heard their clock ticking or got “baby rabies”. They tended to make mistakes that f’d up a lot of people’s lives. Stay in the day. Be grateful for it because it’s all you have. Make gratitude lists. Share your God given gifts with those who appreciate it. Pray for guidance. Pray for the sick and suffering. Pay attention to coincidences. Pay attention to how you feel and learn to interpret your emotions. Avoid sunscreen. It’s been found to be harmful since that Bad Lurman commencement speech. Thanks for the video! ❤️
You are not alone im also 29 unmarried and been single for 10years, ive been trying to figure out the right path for me and keept doing mistakes but,last year I build my life again and i still didn’t see significant changes but that’s ok, we are humans and we are supposed to get lost so we can search and find ourselves. English isn’t my first language but I hope that i was able to comfort you
remember..... AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. and it takes many people so long to understand that
Age is not just a number; lets be real. Life is different at different ages. Kids, teenagers, young adults, middle age people, and the elderly have different concerns and challenges. Age is not just a number. A person is their 60s is closer to death than someone in their 20s generally speaking.
i'm 32 single, i feel like i know myself more than ever before but it is difficult being single. I'm learning to be more productive and disciplined to not feel the intensity of loneliness and sorry about your grandmas condition. also marry when your ready whenever that might be, it's your right, best wishes
Thank you so much for watching and for your comment. I agree, it really helps to focus on yourself :)
@@mylifeasmako your welcome and thank you too
Mako, I absolutely adored the editing and filming style of this video (including the music choice), it gives of such a beautiful, slightly nostalgic and retro feel - I think this is your best one so far! 💕 Very relatable and calming too (from a fellow almost-29-years old woman who doesn't know what she's doing in life 😅😊)
Thank you so much, that's exactly what I was aiming for! I wanted this video to feel like a summer nostalgia as the season changes and I think about all the memories I made during summer 🥰
This hit me harder than I thought it would… I hope you and every else finds that fulfilling happiness in your lives
Thank you so much 🥰
I have found in my darkest moments to set my eyes on others by volunteering at the local hospital comforting patients. It is amazingly healing in so many ways. ❤
that's great.
I’ll be 29 this December! I am excited about what life is about to offer and all the experiences yet to come. I pray for strength for all of us. Life is not easy, but let’s make it worthwhile.
Lucky 🍀
I’ll be 30 this December 😅🥲
@@iamcyborg2353 May you have more joyous years to come!
If a beautiful, fit woman with a good personality and good values is finding it difficult to date and find someone, society has big problems. I thought things were bad in the United States, but this is really rough. HOWEVER there is hope for all of you...or rather all of us, as I'm an unmarried man as well. Let's all get out of the house and meet each other!
I spent more than half of my life in a relationship where I was always made to feel inferior and everything was my fault. In my mid 40ies I was preparing for the end. I have no kids either. I finally left her and found the love of my life, an empath like myself, it was so weird getting appreciation and love back. She is now 31, we are engaged and we are starting life. Life will find a way
Happy for you @Fredrik take care of each other
You WILL find your way. At 29 years old, you still have so much life to live, people to meet and a big world to explore. And, I agree with you about family.
thank you :)
My dear mum passed away almost 2 years ago. And I feel the same, all she wanted was for me to meet someone. I was too busy chasing a lofty career, and never felt like it was the right time to meet someone. Sadly I never got to make her a grandmother, and it pains me every day, thinking I let her down. I breaks my heart that I can’t gonna I and fix it.
Yes, it’s a stupid and naive mistake so many people make. But it’s better like this to been a whore with many mens and remain alone with a child
You’re making me cry at work stoppp it 😭 my grandma is also in Japan…in her late 80’s…I hope to see her again this year! It’s been since 2019..covid ruined a lot.. but I hope to see her very very soon!!! ❤️❤️❤️ i am married, but don’t want to have kids soon..($$) but I do hope I can make my wish come true for her too.
aww a comment like this 😭💕 I hope you get to see her very soon! It's so hard to find the balance, like I wanna make her happy but then I need to make myself happy too!
My Grandma got dementia during covid and the one thing I regret is not taking her out often or even telling her how much I loved her. Visit her as soon as you can and tell her how much you love her so you dont end up with the same regret as I.
I am 27, going to be 28 this November. Still single.
Don’t worry it’ll happen don’t rush for love. Best love is the long waited ones. You find that someone who will be loyal and kindest to you soon. Love never dies love is powerful, when poor or low in life love is stronger when that guy comes rather he work at a restaurant or something he be right for you. You just have to accept him when he comes be ready. Sayonara
DON'T RUSH IT BEAUTIFUL LADY MAKO, I AM MAN 59 YEARS OLD AND I AM CONVINCED, IF YOU GET THE RIGHT PERSON, LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL.
急がないでください、美しい女性マコさん。私は 59 歳の男ですが、正しい人を見つければ人生は美しいと確信しています。
Mako! Happy to see you again! Do not rush to get married! The pain of getting married with the wrong person is so bitter that you will forget the excitement of the wedding day! Do You remember the huge amount of disgust and suffering You had in your past Job? Image that multiplied by 1,000,000! That's what You get from getting married with the wrong person! Stay calm and keep walking one step at a time. If You believe in a Higher Power, pray, and Divine Providence will give you signs on what direction you have to take...see you next time! 😊
Hi! Thank you so much for your comment and sharing your advice, beautifully said! :)
This is coming from a middle aged man, my advice is to live your life to the fullest. There’s no need to be a conformist or to live the aspirations of others. Enjoy every moment let every moment be an adventure within itself. Be good to yourself. If you have faith trust in God, live on the worth with gratitude for what you experience. 🙏
I'm 38, unmarried and no kids. Had my fair share of fun in my 20s and don't regret it one bit. Looking to settle down now, but it's definitely difficult meeting people in this day and age. Funny that I got recommended this video as I just came back home from a trip to Japan. Fell in love with the country and now I just want to go back as soon as possible.
33 turning 34, and I got married to the wrong person in my mid twenties. I hope I'll be able to find someone later on.
You will always be married to the wrong person.
I'm 30 years old, single, raising my 8 year old daughter.
I was betrayed, hurt, and suffered; but I have no regrets in having my daughter with me and am very grateful to have her existーhealthy, sometimes angry, sometimes happy.
So, I know it's difficult, relationships, but children are a blessing and I find a great purpose to live with every day I wake up to.
I procrastinate, we all do, and we all faulter, yet I and many others could confidently say that what we do is purposeful.
Meaningful. And, I think that's very reassuring as we age, to know that what we do, what we work towards, is meaningful.
I told my parents I don’t want kids, I no longer care about getting married anymore because I’ve seen so many guys lose so much in divorces, and even relationships. The freedom to be 31 and do what I want with no constraints is awesome because I know other guys don’t have that. I have people in my life who are upset about it and I just smile and say “that’s a you problem”
My point is you are not less for being single and childless. If it’s what you want keep going for it, I understand others feel differently, but I just want you and everyone to know no one is less for being single. Despite what Brett cooper and JD Vance say.
Your storytelling is as exciting as always, but can I just mention how brilliant the color correction of this video is? I felt just like I was in a cinema😍
Im 35 yr old women who’s getting s divorce soon. I didn’t expect my life to turn around like this. I was mad, sad, and frustrated with myself. I did make mistakes. I’m not afraid to admit it. But I’m still glad I got married even when it was to the wrong kind of person in my early 20s. Love doesn’t pay the bills, but hard work, dedication will. I will cherish the time we had. But I do feel happier every day trying to find who I am again. Sometimes you lose your own identity in a marriage. I do have a child and I’m not afraid to raise him alone. I am thankful to have a good job so I can support the both of us. Even alone I will rise up and be stronger as a woman. You don’t need a man to make you feel good about yourself. You need to love yourself first before you can love another. That is a hard lesson to learn after 15 yrs.
Well, I didn’t think I needed to cry first thing in the morning but I guess I did after all. I’m a 67 year old twice divorced single man, youngest of my aging family who are scattered across North America, father to three women, keeper of a pair of aging dogs that belonged to one of them…and I can affirm that every scrap of that advice is solid gold that I wish I had had the capacity to absorb 50 years ago. I’d only add “try to hang onto and remember and be grateful for the things that are good, because there are plenty of other things to deal with that aren’t”. My two best friends of 50+ years and I do a podcast that nobody listens to, and I’m so grateful I still have those guys in my life to share time with. Life is not for the faint of heart, so be brave and carry on! Harvest the joy we are each afforded and endure the grief we all will experience.
Thank you so much, a comment like this really motivates me to keep creating more videos. :)
Thank you for your video. I felt depressed today, because the evening wasn't going as I imagined, and I have the feeling that I don't take chances or can't interact really with anyone or just hurt them, because I don't think sometimes before I say something.
I'm 20, sometimes I feel very lonely and lost and sometimes I don't care at all and just want to move on. I think I should relax more at least I made one friend happy today. You are right, I will try to go more with the flow, thank you for your kind words. I wish you the best.
Woah... what a wonderful video, incredibly insightful. I love it when people share their thoughts and mindset on things and you just went for it. The very calm and pleasing narrative going along with certain subtleties in the video was so good, like showing up on a scene... leaving... and then coming back; stoping at the traffic lights; going up the stairs; dissapearing at the end; etc. Also, you a poet too or wth was this 😅: "Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than it's worth." 😲
thank you very much! :)
In Sweden a woman can have a man, job and kids at the same time without being shamed or anything. They both share the experience. Wish Japan will change their attitude.
I was the class of 99 and remember that song well! I just turned 43 and remember that feeling of being 29: it felt like yesterday! When you get older you realise that 29 is so young!
Thank you :)
This resonated with me a lot as I watch my parents aging into their 70s and I am still in my 20s. I hope life finds you well and you find that security and certainty you may be looking for.
Thank you so much, I'm so glad to hear that :)
This video appeared on my feed unexpectedly, and as a fellow 29-year-old, I couldn’t agree more with yo!Some things start to make sense, while others become even more confusing, haha. But in the end, it’s all about living life the way you want to!
thank you for watching :)
Nothing wrong being single.
Appreciate the freedom that many wish for.
Be independent n travel as u afford, near or far not important.
Marrying only u are ready or found someone who u think is your right partner Not marrying to please others.
28 years old Japanese woman🙋🏻♀️
UA-cam just recommended this video and I can relate to almost everything on this video. It made me feel less lonely and different but I guess a big portion of Japanese people are living in the same reality now, the first thing that comes to my mind is , what’s gonna happen to our country with so many young adults not getting married and having kids? But I also understand we can’t force things just for the future of the country. Life nowadays are becoming harder in every sense. I honestly feel bad for this situation. It’s a good video and sad because it’s the reality
Thank you so much for watching and I agree!
I can relate..im also 29, and it makes me a little happy to know that I'm not alone. Thank you for sharing this video, I wish you all the best.
thank you :)
i'm 18 and think this life on earth is quite short compared to eternity
Jesus Christ. Is the Life
Life on earth is really short. Strive to walk in the narrow road. Few get saved.
Beautiful video, Mako! Life is strange, isn't it. I definitely strive to cherish every good moment and appreciate the people close to me.
And wow, I see you visited Switzerland! I hope you enjoyed your time here. 😊
It really is! I did, I loved it so much I didn't want to leave.
I’m 26 and girl I thought I was going to marry broke up with me 2 nights ago. I’m still devastated. I know it may be odd but 29 and lost seems like a better place than where I am right now. I can’t wait to jump forward in time when I’m fully over her.
I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you will get over her soon and I know you will!
I'm also 26, and exact same happened to me. Good luck, man. We'll get through it✨
Keep your head up brother, 2 years ago I also suffered a devastating breakup, on my wedding day. I kept going and kept the faith and now found someone else, you will too, you will grow and heal.
I am going to Japan in a few weeks, and I have been watching a lot of UA-cam videos about it. This evening, your video about being 29 popped up. I watched. I was really touched by it. I thought it was an exquisite piece of filmmaking. Camerawork, editing, music and your lovely voice came together to form a very memorable film. To end with the professor reiterating the use of sunscreen was brilliant. I have subscribed. Thank you.
thank you so much :)
Having a feeling of emptiness is a blessing, take it from me, it's like watch a satisfying restoration video
I’m in the process of accepting that! 😂
Good to see you back Mako!the age dont matter.depends on every person moment in life.Thanks for sharing this video with us.Until next time, enjoy your time and take care of yourself!!
Hi Florin! Thank you I hope you enjoyed this one :)
I am 52 years old with no kids and unmarried 😂. Somedays I wish I did have someone special but for some reason it hasnt happened yet. I just try to enjoy everyday as much as I can and just take this journey as a new surprise is always lurking around the corner. My mother said I should get married because who will take care of me and my mom said at least i have you so i dont have to worry. I really think there is a reason why I am still single and that there are bigger plans for me, at least that is what I say to myself to keep my morale up 😂😂😂😂. I also go on vacation alone and in bangkok right now on vacation after my business trip to malaysia. Like i said yes it can be lonely and yes I do envy seeing couples together but I refuse to let it bring me down and enjoying the moment. I used to cry when I go on vacation but not anymore😂😂😂😂. I am determined to live life to the fullest! By the way good video 👍
Let God take control of your life. Let him guide you and everything will be happy. He knows what you want already.
Mako, I can relate to your posted video. My perspective is from an older vantage point. Early 20's up to my late 20's seemed like forever from that age range, with the illusion that there would always be time to complete life goals. Procrastination ruled since it was easier to set something to the side and unwind from the day. You are cognizant of these things early in the timeline and have time to ignite the urgency needed to start the life goal seedlings needed in order to reap the harvest at the appointed time. Thank you for sharing.
Very thought provoking and inspirational.
The lucky man who eventually gets to share your life will most surely be blessed 🙏
thank you so much :)
There are so many positivities in your video.Really help me so much
thank you so much :)
I'm 39 y.o and never been married, life has ups and downs for sure but I realized not to put pressure on myself. It's important to befriend with yourself and make your life better but don't stress yourself. it was good to see this video, actually I am new to your channel and I hope you get more energy from subscribers ❤❤
thank you so much for finding this channel and subscribing :)
im 31, alone and very happy
Wow Mako!! ❤❤ This video is so touching and wonderful... The depth of your thoughts, the edit of the music when you changed from a painful massage to one full of hope 🎉 I know you don't know me, but I want to say that you are inspiring me a lot. What you are doing is very brave, and from experience I have learned that when a person lets go of their expectations, life rewards them with a reality that is better than what they might have expected. You are not married, or working a 9-5 job, but I would say you are already winning, because regardless of how you feel with your new reality, you are consistently helping yourself get better, and be a better version of yourself. A suggestion: would you like to do affiliate marketing and promote products that match you through your videos? I wish you could partnership with brands that sell nice journals about mindfulness, organizing your mind, letting be... Or you can create them with your design course!! This is your sign to stop being perfectionist and do it even if you feel you are not ready. I want you to prosper, and the universe and God so do. Sending hugs from New York ❤
Thank you so much, a comment like this makes my day ❤ I agree, so many people said journal when I asked what merch I should create. unfortunately, it seems like many companies that sell journals don't do collaboration, so maybe it's time for me to take action and start market research :)
I’m also 29, married but definitely don’t have my life figured out 😗 this is the first time I came across your channel, just subscribed, love your style ❤️
thank you so much for subscribing
Come to Spain ! . Life here , somehow feels lighter and easygoing. The Spanish mix in work , leisure and family time daily! .
It's the perfect therapy for anyone feeling a little lost and with little purpose . Mako , get in touch. Cheers , hasta pronto!
spain sounds amazing, it's on my bucket list :)
This very much resonates with me im pretty much on the same boat but sadly my grandma passed away a while ago so she sadly missed on the things i have achieved that i really wanted her to see im the black sheep of my family everyone is already married and have kids and they keep on telling me when are you going to get married? when are you going to be a dad? and im never sure how to answer i dont want to disappoint them but at the same time im just feeling lost but we still here walking this path we call life enjoying every bit of it even with its downsides because i know sometimes time flies and we have to treasure every moment
Thank you so much & I agree, it's very hard to find the right balance because I wanna make my family happy but I wanna make myself happy too!
the good thing men have more chance and lucky about having kids at any age women worry about marriage because of this the most . you will find your way maybe your future partner be the guide sometimes the right person can be the light of our life
The lady is very beautiful, wished I had met her. Seems very nice and personable.
thank you so much!
Hi Mako, I think you are a very balanced young lady. I would say what friends told me about getting married. Don't rush into marriage for the sake of being married for your family's wishes. Make yourself available to the right people. I waited until age 37 to get married and we are happy even though we could not have kids. Don't take advice from friends that are divorced. But, do keep good trusted and honest friends. They can help you. If your expectations are too high, then this will make it very hard to impossible to find your soul mate.
And another thing, if a guy wants you to move in with him to try things out, DONT. You should know each other very well and know each other's personality and behavior well enough to get married, and then move in together. I see too many men young and old that are really 14yr olds in a 35- or 50-year-old body. They should be ready to take care of you, sacrifice for you and be your husband and you should be ready to do the same for him. You might try attending a singles group at Church?
I’m a 28 y/o man from Canada who really needed this. Thank you so much.
Wow, thank you so much for this video, it's really timely as I'm also in my twenties and completely lost in what I want to do 😅
You give off a super positive energy and I'm so glad I found your channel ! Greetings from Switzerland (Geneva) 🇨🇭❤️🇯🇵
thank you so much, I'm really happy to hear that
I bet most of us have come to realize that life is never easy. At different stages and times, we face various challenges. While we may not always find the perfect solution in the moment, what truly matters is that we learn to appreciate our efforts n learn patience. The best part is holding on to your loved ones, even when our efforts don’t always meet their expectations.
The transition at 4:14 was so smooth 😍 also super relatable video!
I was going to say the same thing!
Thank you so much
This video randomly popped up for me. I had no clue what I was about to watch, but I watched till the very end. Great message and advice.
thank you so much :)
a few tips to fellow procrastinators:
- there is often no way of knowing how a thing will turn out.. except trying
- when the result is not as good as you expected.. make a mental note what you'll try different next time.. this is now only your baseline
- if you can't get started writing anything good.. just dump your half-baked ideas into a word processor and start massaging then.. it takes time and thinking, a break and finalizing.. but in the end it will be good
- if your task is too big to start, divide it. i only go shoveling snow from our staircase, then feel good about it, continue shoveling a narrow path to the bin, get bigger reward of feeling good, proceed to clear out the driveway, feeling good taking over and ending up clearing our whole yard
- when you start thinking to finish a task later you're doing right now, use this mantra: "you're almost there, just keep at it"
I'm a 29 year old man, no love life, few friends, unfulfilling job and I feel like I've wasted my 20's away trying to dull the pain of my perceived past failures. I'm finally at a point in my life where I want to actively be a better version of myself and let go of the past. There's a saying I heard that goes "Everyone has two lives and the second one starts the moment you realize you only have one." Let's all live life to the fullest because our time on this planet is fleeting.
And thank you for this video. I needed to hear what you had to say ❤
Do not wories girl and do not feel insecure. Make you became most valuable women. Love from man in indonesia. Be happy girl
Thank you for sharing!
I'm also 29, no kids but got a boyfriend who is 3.5 years younger than me. Im in a happy job and been there for nine years. I have got to the point now that I dont care what other people think of me.
I don't have many friends but small circle is enough.
Sending you love and happiness x
Life is always a struggle but I feel if you let go of things and not care so much then it’s easier to get by! Just live in the moment and let things be!!!
Yesss! :)
Thanks Mako for another inspiration.
Your videos pass a special atmosphere to a viewer ❤
I'm just relaxing watching.
My grandma had the same wish. She died some time ago and I'm still not married.
But when I think about her and that wish, I have a feeling as if she would have told me that she Does Not blame me... and that she loves me. I'm sure your family loves you no matter what.
They ask about marriage because they worry.
P.s. Don't be sad, we are missing your smile.😊
Let your boyfriend watch the video, he may consider taking this step.
welcome back! so happy to have my OG enjoying this video :) That's so true, perhaps she is just worried about me rather than putting her wish on me.
This made my morning! Wishing you a blissful journey in life 💖
Comment like this 💕 thank you so much!
Beautiful shots and storytelling
Thank you for watching and sharing your story. It's amazing that you decided to go back to school, I think it's so important to keep learning no matter the age :)
24 year old completing my master's... Doing well at university but I can't drive, I live with my parents and I'm not in a relationship 🥹 I really needed this video, thank you so much 🙏🏻
24 years old too. Psych graduate but chose a different path right after graduation. My dream has nothing to do with psych. Sometimes I felt left behind, but whenever I think of my dream and all the reasons why I chose this path, I felt relieved. I'm happy with my decision.
Let's do our best! 😁
@@ainmartinez8186 awesome, good luck also with your dream!
thank you for watching :)
I got married to my best friend when I was thirty-five. The best thing you can do is to live your life the way you choose. Don't follow the expectations or pressures of family, friends and your society/culture. And don't chase material things, thats not where you will find peace and happiness. We need shelter and food. The rest of life is a blank canvas for you to create your own story.
For me your videos are like an evening meditation cause they are calm, beautiful, understandable=)))
thank you so much
Just stumbled across your channel randomly. Ive done the travel thing, worked around the world and now live in Japan (originally from NZ). Im 35 but I don't regret a thing. Would I love to find that one person who I can give my life to? Absolutely. I don't let time and age dictate my next move. I hope you don't either! Keep living & things will find you. "Energy goes where energy flows". You got this 💪頑張ってください! Subscribed.
ありがとうございます☺
It's even worse when you're 39, male and single, living in a country that does not even give you economic chance to travel... :\
I live completely alone in loneliness, no friends I can relate with and call them real friends except one.
I just turned 30 yesterday and seriously such a relief. I was feeling sad that my 20s are ending, instead now I feel so excited for this new chapter. I had so much experiences throughout my 20s, got a master degree, lived in 6 countries(including Japan), traveled the world, learned 5 languages, broke up and found a true love, tried different professions (model, bar-tender, teacher, journalist, news anchor, radio host) super fun. I look even better and even more beautiful and even though I had all these experiences I still feel childish and fun each day. I’m in a great health and blooming ❤ on the way to achieve new goals and move to another country
It’s important to surround yourself with right people.
I’m proud that I was able to do all those things diagnosed with ADHD
currently I live in Italy and working on making a vlog about lifestyle in South of Italy 😊
Good luck and bless who read this ❤
I’m turning 31 soon and I still feel all of this. このビデオはすてきな💓ありがとう
ありがとうございます💗
I think sometimes we listen too much about what society views about how our lives should turn out. I was in a generation that believed you had a career at age 18 years old...a house and family by 21 years old and Retired at 50 years old...this is a great plan and it works for some people but a person is not required to be exact on each timeline of events. You are still Young..You are Beautiful and You don't need to follow someone else guidelines for your life and that includes your family. You have not decided what you want to do in life and that is OKAY ..Find something you enjoy doing and let that guide you to happiness ❤❤❤❤❤❤. So many people end up doing a job or living a life based on making others happy and they end up just being unhappy in life. The more you search for happiness in your life the closer you become to being HAPPY ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Such great wisdom in those words. Thank you for sharing them!
Thank you so much
Life is pretty empty without someone you love and they love you back. I can't imagen my life without my wife. we learn and grow so much in a good way :) life is about sharing
I loved hearing your talk full of truths and wisdom, with the very impressive calmness that comes from a remarkable ability to surrender where it is on place, that comes from insight, which comes from the integrated, distilled experiences of a prudent and reflective observer, and with the positivity and charity that comes from a refined, generous mature heart of a true conqueror and overcomer. I can affirm that you are not alone in what you are going through. It is a very phenomenon of the current days. But what you are making out of it, the accuracy in your descriptions, the courage and ability to see what is truly taking place, and to shape those very personal undergone experiences in a valid and helpful testimony, so that others that are going through similar pains and struggles that life undeterred throws in our ways can learn from it, the very personal battles that can and are being waved into a bigger tapestry of attainable and available common knowledge of a wider experienced phenomenon, so that deeper insights and wisdom can derive and be harvested from it, is spot on! Thank you for sharing, for those very beautiful insightful images coming from the inside, and those perfectly matching lofty images of the sublime surroundings as well.
Take care of yourself. Look after yourself. Be happy with yourself if you want to.
you are beautiful, an accomplished communicator, a content creator and you don´t really need to feel the pressure of family and society to rush having a family or even just marry someone who you don´t love. your value donesn´t decrease with time. absolutely not
28 here! 1/2 Japanese! I’m so jealous you live there 😭 so much peace there, and the people are so much better.
I do really like living in Japan, I hope you can visit very soon :)
Mako, I really enjoyed your story and video. There is so much truth in what you said. Enjoy your life and family.
Thank you so much! :)
I'm only 26 now but I was blessed with a very understanding grandmother. My family line is quite big with 17 uncles and 10 aunts from my father's and mother's side combined. my only grandfather died when I was 6 years old (Mother's side), so that left my paternal grandmother alive. She has five great grandchildren now from my cousins and she loves them dearly. But I always knew from a young age that I didn't really want to have a significant other nor do I want children, it might change someday but I still hold on to that belief. She always understood my stance and supported my decision and I think it might have something to do with her own unhappy marriage. Her life was not really happy when she was married to my grandfather and everyone on my father's side knows that. Even so, I have been her only grandchild she would see every week when growing up and she has done so much for me before and after I was born, it makes me feel a bit sad that she most likely won't see me get married nor will she ever get to see my children if I ever have them, since she is 87 at this point.
You are still young and you still have a long way to go my dear, be happy!
Wow! Loved this video 😍
Beautifully narrated!
Oh I thought elders asking for the young ones to get married was only the Indian thing. I am surprised to see that elders all around the world want us to get married 🙈
welcome back
all over the world
I will start again or find some other inspiration, because that seems to be how life works. I hope, I get lost, I find my way, then the path disappears again, and I just have to keep looking. Success and happiness come in small pieces, surrounded by struggle and plenty of failure. Accepting that and moving forward may get me to a good place again… I hope…❤
Life is peppered with moments of happiness but it's not required. Experience the life in being. Sometimes it's the discovery who you really are besides othes expectations of their needs. Go Mako make it your own!!! beautiful winding path -Peace
thank you, "experience the life in being" I love that :)