Do Japanese Girls Want to Date Western Guys?
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Nice video and can you look at the langue apps she see which is the most natural way of speaking?
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1:33 beautiful, would like to have coffee with her. Can you connect me?
I was so close to visiting South Korea and Japan at one point. I'm a Motion Capture actor and in late 2015 I was in contact with Capcom about the facial likeness role of Leon for the Resident Evil 2 Remake. I failed to mention I also have a voice acting background, in the end I lost the part and I can't forgive myself for wasting such an opportunity. That would've been a real dream come true to work in Japan and visit South Korea.
@@AnxMa I have Rez 2 (i think) but that's super cool!
It was cute how Takashii looked so happy about the girl liking facial hair 😂
It's a huge relief. Being clean shaven sucks.
Looking good!
@@microcolonel yeah
Lol
facial hair is literally biologically a secondary sexual traits signaling puberty, that u are sexually matured. Being clean is gay.
Idea for a next video: Please interview older people and ask their opinion on younger Japanese people. Their habits, fashion, opinions in general. What they like and dislike about them. What has changed for the best and the worse.
Thanks
Lol why
@@AC-mc6uqbecause it shows cultural changes and since japan is very close too its traditions but is also a Hightech society soo there is a lot of contrast to Westen countries but maybe older people around the world have all the same thinking about the younger generations that would be quite comedic if you hear the same traveling about respect as a day before in your hometown
Fuck yt editing is bugging out mean rambleing not travelling 😅
It is more interesting to listen to people in their 40s than older people.
Love the idea! Haha but takashi only interviews beautiful women 😊
I was stationed in Okinawa for 13 months in the US Marine Corps. I spent all my free time roaming by myself taking photographs. I was a loner exploring through the jungle, cities, towns, cliffs and beaches. I photographed wildlife, architecture and little farm markets. I saw so many beautiful locations and sites. In retrospect, I regret not taking the time to really meet and interact with Japanese people. I enjoyed my travels there but I spent my entire time there in absolute solitude. I would walk to the edge of the tropical forests and would plunge right on away from ant trails. I found beauty buried in the forest. There were many all memorials and cave tombs from WW2. Seeing then hidden in the forest always instilled a feeling of quiet respect. I am deeply introverted and the Japanese women were polite and shy. As an introvert I struggled with what words to say, so I said nothing and expressed myself through my photography. My workmates would always head off to nightclubs and bars. It was just not for me to spend my time having shallow conversations and drink booze. I had more fun at night doing timed shutter release photographs pointing at the stars. The developed photos would show the roation of the earth with stars spinning around an axis in circular light patterns. I also enjoyed the wildlife photography with reptiles, insects, and even those large banana spiders.
Hey brother thanks you for your service. Just wanted to say that you enjoyed doing the things you wanted to do and you should be happy with that fact. Honestly the nightclub girls at the oversea bases aren't exactly "adequate" and they don't really represent true Japanese people. They are mainly there for the quick fun with the Westerners. You would have been better off just doing you or traveling alone to the mainland. And the clubs aren't for everyone brother so never worry about missing out just enjoy the things you like to do. Be safe brother!
@@lt.dashkov1079 Thank you very much for the comment. And also thank you as well for your service. When I first arrived on Okinawa, several Marines decided to welcome me aboard by taking me to several "buy me drinky" bars. They all got ripped down drunk and spent a lot of money. I knew immediately that my time spent on Okinawa would not be done doing that. There were just far too many other better activities to do and beautiful places too see and explore. I have very good memories of my time there and hundreds of photographs of remote and kinda hidden places. I had one time where I did get to interact with a Japanese family. They were farmers farming sugar cane and the father had recently died leaving his family in a rough spot during harvest. A group of us volunteered to drive a 5 ton out to their farm and help them harvest all their sugar cane. It was so much fun taking machetes and just going at it in their field chopping the cane down and loading it up for market. That family was bereaved of the loss of their father but they were so polite and nice.
Imagine reading this and commenting "gay"
Just admit you're a nobody and never will be anything other than a woman chaser
You did you and sounds like you did the things you wanted to do and didn’t heed to the pressure of doing what everyone else seemed to be.
Bro you can still talk to a hottie at a coffee shop lol just tell her her "haircut looks new or?"
I really enjoy these videos. They’re always as informative as they are entertaining.
I LOVE your content. I’m a wheelchair user. Do you mind interviewing wheelchair users? :) I want to know what they think about the accessibility in Japan and how easy it is to get around.
Edit: oh and the attitudinal barriers too. For example, do people feel like they’re treated differently because of disability?
I’m also interested in other apparent and non-apparent disabilities too.
Madam, you are an amazing woman to overcome issues and will be a very inspiring person. thanks for sharing your successful life with us. 🙏
The wheelchair thing is kinda hot ngl
@@WingusJoneswhat? dawg you’re creepy asf ☠️😊
actually good question. a friend asked me for tips on visiting japan with her friends of which one is in a wheelchair and I quickly realized that since japan is so mountainous i did A LOT of stuff thats very inaccessable to wheelchairs. there's plenty to do in the cities but outside of them its difficult. also most public areas are completely equipped for wheelchair users.
I was in a wheelchair for 7 years, now get around with a stick and my Segway. So I walked, until I was 32 and then spent my thirties in a chair after which I again walk (since 10y now) so I really got a serious enough stretch in a chair to feel all aspects of the differences, and accessibility is of course one of the biggest factors but is not THE biggest depending on how you see it.
As I see it (within reason in the western world) accessibility rarely force you to give up needs but it does have a huge impact on how much hassle and energy plus time it takes to do "needs" on top of what most people need to invest to get a rested hour to put on wants. Or save up such time and energy for a vacation for that matter.
If shopping takes 3h extra and all your energy for the day sure you got what you needed but the 3h and all your energy for the rest of the day had to be taken from what you want. Time spent with friends, with family. Hobbies etc.
That is the price, not whatever you wanted in the shop you could not get into.
That you got anyway, but on top of $$$ you had to put in "a dinner with friends" to get groceries for 2 days. I now have a totally different view on the importance of accessibility. Sure "they" can go to another shop 300m down the street.
They will.
But those 600m extra has a price far beyond what most people think.
And STILL I see that as only one of the biggest aspects of being in a chair. Going to japan, I have NO doubt accessibility is great, in cities. Less so in smaller ones as is to be expected to some degree.
And Im pretty sure @nicolebette knows that as well and that the bigger thing is in her
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Your sence of dignity. Without it you wont get a good vacation anywhere after all.
The biggest cost in your life sitting down compared to standing up in my point is that close to everyone you meet initially assume you are mentally challenged to some degree just because of the chair alone. Meaning, they often ask questions about you to a friend standing beside you before adressing you, if they do directly they do so in a calm clear voice using language that you would someone who needs stuff dumbed down a knotch.
And sure you can tell them, and often do, it is really infuriating but then again. If you always do you basically start every new meeting with new people showing them you were difficult from first word spoken to them. For something most people genuinely did to BE nice to you. But did not understand themselves , came from the worst possible way of helping you, Assuming you are mentally handicapped and adapting to that assumption BEFORE the first word spoken.
And that being a problem every where I was in a wheelchair, i traveled quite a lot, it is everywhere. Bit less In some places, worse in others.
But I bet Japan is likely to be a really bad one on this front. As all my experiences with Japan has tought me:
Any percieved weakness or basically being different heavily devalues you in most peoples eyes. So I'd be seriously worried about my chance of getting a good vacation because of that "fact" as a foreigner in a wheelchair in japan.
Hopefully I'm about to be proven wrong though, but until then I'd be hesitent to say the least.
I'd love to hear the experiences of a, say, american or european person in a wheelchair who lived in japan for a couple of years actually. If you find such a person, that persons experiences would be super interesting. And hopefully shames ME for thinking this might be a worse problem going to Japan than to many other places. I
'd be glad to accept that shame in fact.
But hearing from foreigners who has lived or visited Japan in a wheelchair would no matter what be very interesting. :)
I like how Takashii touched his facial hair, as the girl said I find facial hair manly. I really appreciate shows like this because it showcase the different cultures & gives insight I would never have known plus gives me a better understanding of the people in the world around me! Taskashii keep going you will get more views and will get to a million subscribers and more!
Yeah I noticed that too. Lol
@@nely26 great minds think a like..lol 😊
Yes, I noticed that too. It was very cute.
You mean touched his facial hair lmao
That facial hair touch made me die of laughter (in a good way)-not sure if he was trying to be funny but it was reallly funny because then she touched hers too!
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Really interesting to understand different cultures
It's been a while, "how was it that was interesting" still my favourite part to watch😂.
Have you done a video about where locals prefer to go on weekends vs where foreigners prefer to go on weekends?
That's a good idea!🙂👌
My fav part too😂 he doesn't need anyone to answer haha.
yah, a good question to ask would be where girls that are interested in meeting foreign guys go.
😂😂 i thought only i noticed
"americans seem gentlemanly" *remembers all the stories from my japanese girl friends about american men in japan behaving like animals with women*
Those are just dick Americans lol
Exactly
If among japanese men there wasn't a case of misogyny and cruelty towards women
Japanese men, in general, are super sexist. And it’s accepted in society 🤷🏻♀
@@SM-ef7yp two things can be bad at the same time, can you imagine that
Thanks for the great videos, great social commentary and understanding of your culture
Thanks for this informative video. Definitely was interesting.
"The grass is always greener on the other side". Sometimes we don't value what we have because we are too curious about what we do not have.
Preach!
What are you Talking about ??? I lived i Japan for 4 Mouths . It was Horrible ! . Japanese People work like Slaves for 10 Hours a Day and Live in Small Shoe Box Apartments and No can Afford to Buy a House ! So Expensive ! Women have no sex there ! Of Course Jap Women would want to Marry and Foreigner and Escape the Slavery there !
I love that you always say "how was it" at the end of your videos. My answer is always "very good, thank you"
Would be cool to see a similar video from an older age group as well. All these interviews are great, keep up the good work!
It's interesting how Japanese people have a large culture around being able to "read the room"... until it comes to dating. at which point they have a very direct conversation about how they would like to officially be with their partner, which seems like the exact opposite.
And in the west, it's the other way around. More direct in social situations, but more "read the room" for the relationship.
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100% true - 😂.
It sucks so much and feels so disrespectful every time.
why do you think, "reading the room" only applies to "until it vomes to dating". Actually "reading the room" is ubiquitous in Japan and you almost never talk in a direct manner. Be it before dating, in a relationship or any other situation,... maybe not, when they are drunk though
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The girls at 09:00 definitely make a good point. Even in multicultural countries or cities you see that most people just prefer to stick to their own group. It's a lot easier to interact if you come from the same cultural background where people have a similar mentality.
Most people do not prefer to stick to their own group. In the United States, most dating couples are interracial, and mixed race people are the fastest growing demographic group, while monoracial births are actually declining.
@@Cardboard90 Citation needed.
@@Cardboard90 No, most people do prefer to stick to their own group. You can see it everywhere. The world doesn't revolve around the US buddy.
@@Cardboard90 I've travelled all over the United States. The vast majority of couples are still same raced couples. Only in places like Manhattan did i see a lot of interracial couples above the norm and those were the typical Asian girl white guy couples where the girl is pretty much a white girl in an Asians body, even the often talked about black guy white girl paring while not rare they weren't close to being the majority.
@@strife2746online where most couples meet nowadays, just try to get a match as an asian guy, then try it again as a white guy. And see the differences. Most researches are bs anyway. Read the book “how to lie with statistics”
I really enjoy videos such as these, to hear the thoughts and opinions of people in other countries/cultures. I don't travel abroad very often, so I find it very interesting to know how they think.
WOW this is a really awesome channel! Its great to learn things about the Japanese people! Always love Japan and the people! Never had much interaction but much respect for their business abilities and culture. Got some software to learn Japanese language and maybe visit some day!
Thanks takashii-san for sharing a new video again! i watch your videos often times because i want to exercise my japanese so i won't forget the things i've learned..
Really informative 😁👍🏻✨
Thank you Takashi-san!! You're my fav ❤😊
anyway, arigato osaimas for the video, that was pretty informative
I’m committed to coming to Japan for a year to write... I appreciate the content on this channel.
That cut away from the French guy was brutal 😂
To me it showed they were in a good relationship.
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Have a nice Day.
Greetings from Austria.
I'm sorry for my bad English.
Can you explain why? I seem to be out of the loop.
It’s called a cock block 😂
fr hahaha
I really like these interviews in Japanese… more please!
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10:26 I love it how he ends all his videos by answering his own question. Love the content. As I know how unlikely it can be from happening, I hope to run into you when I visit Japan late next month.
The ladies are so beautiful in this video.❤🙏🏻
I love how wholesome these videos are, happy to see you doing so well
I’m an American living in Japan for a period. I absolutely love your videos! Thanks for the absolutely amazing street journalism!
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Great video. It's hard enough maintaining a relationship and understanding each other when you are both fluent in the SAME language. Not being fluent is a barrier. Still, a deep connection and determination to make things work on BOTH sides can overcome the language barrier. Those girls are beautiful. For the record, their demeanor and beauty would be worth figuring it out.
Your thinking is too linear. You must widen your gaze...
It's so refreshing to see people who're open and interested in other cultures. Being open minded is extremely SEXY!
I think it makes a difference if you ask someone if they would date someone from a different culture or if they would actually consider marrying them (or having children,etc)
Would you marry a foreign guy/girl would be such a good title of the video haha
By data, most people prefer to marry their own race, so most likely they prefer to marry their own kind. The thing is, people will say they dont mind to marry foreigner, but they are not honest cuz they are in front of the camera. However, since most people stick to their own race, therefore most likely they wont marry outside.
It would interesting to know if they treat dating differently than the west. Like Dating is to find out if you want to marry this person? In the west modern dating is more about having fun
@@CoolNumber1That data doesn't necessarily indicate people "are not honest" about marrying a foreigner. Naturally, if 99% of the people around you and that you regularly interact are the same race, you're significantly more likely to end up marrying someone of the same race. Especially in a country like Japan. Then factoring in the likelihood of similar ideals and cultural values commonly derived from where you grew up, it just makes sense. You could be right about people not being honest " my point is just that the data you cited isn't a direct indication of that as it's circumstantial.
@@jcarby23 Not really. Even the asian america mostly stick to their own race. America majority are white, so that's mean they interact with white people a lot and yet still stick to their own race for the most part. Since those Asians live in America, they are used to American culture. It's biological instinct to prefer those who look like you because you feel more connected and feel more home. When you feel connected, the other person will view you as more attractive. Because look aren't the only thing in attraction. Attraction comes with many factor like good personality, look, attitude, culture, or looking the same, and so on.
I really like the statement made by the last interviewed lady and speaking about the greatest difference between foreign dating and Japanese and that is the confession. I guess I'm a romantic at heart, but I have always confessed my adoration to a lady and asked for her heart
The second girl is gorgeous! She speaks so well!
interesting interviews and many good opinions were expressed. Good job!
Dating a foreigner will be interesting if you meet a nice person then you can learn about them and their culture and enjoy your time together. However for a long-term relationship, it's much harder and a bigger commitment due to the differences eg learn the language, consider working in another nation and even living and raising a family abroad and be separated from your own family or else for your husband or wife the same situation. In that case having a clear goal in life is going to help with that kind of situation and if having children there's nothing like having many friendly family members to help with raising them!
I think the confession status was very interesting and is helpful letting people know that they should treat each other with a bit more significance if they decide to move from friendship to romantic interest. It's good because if just friendship then deciding to move on and not continue is less personal. Whereas in the West the lack of clarity leads to so much what is called "ghosting" and a lot of women feel hurt by this behaviour and probably some men also. I think that is a negative trend and people also mix motivations with someone dating to look for a long-term relationship while the other person is interested in a one-night stand instead. The confession status seems a helpful way for people to negotiate with each other fairly?
Another viewpoint here. Lived in Japan for over 30 years and yearn to go back to the US. The lack of emotional bonding I've had here after 2 marriages and much dating is exhausting. I wonder if other western men out there feel the same. Language isn't an issue in my case.
I've seen other foreigners in Japan (I recall an Indian woman) state they could not find meaningful friendships in Japan and stick to their own ethnic groups because of it.
Maybe a subject to touch on in a future video.
Go to Greece ... you need to feel the love.
@@afisemenaborevlaka48 I assume you are from Greece? The women around my age I've talked to in the US all seem to have hang ups and deep seated issues. Maybe the US is a bad call.
I knew this was the standard ending for the gaijin that never bothered to master the language, but really, even after doing that it still wasn’t possible to connect? Which region have you lived in? Why the hell does this still happen?
@@costin0749 I won't mention region for the sake of anonymity, but I've talked about this with coworkers, and all that are married to Japanese women seem the same way. No touching, hugging, kissing, or hand holding within their marriage. If I try to hug my wife before I go to work, I'm met with arms held tightly to her sides with zero reciprocation. It's gotten to the point my animosity for simply being a human ATM is at an all time high.
@@afisemenaborevlaka48 i love greece 👍❤️
This ia a well ballanced program. Well done!
I like the way you ask the same questions and change the way you ask them every time.
Hi Takashi, haven’t watched the full video but I know it’s a good one! Your video inspired me to finally live here in Japan and learn the language. Much love from Kyoto man!
sheeeshhhhhhhh
Where are you from and how do you find Japan so far? Is there racism or xenophobia?
@@akritasdigenis4831 From what I've seen, there is kind of racism, but it's different than in countries like the US or many European countries. In the country where I'm from for example, the racism is way more direct, it's literally hate towards other races, as well as trash talking and discrimination (not everyone of course, but IF you encounter racism, it's usually this kind of racism).
Japanese racism is more indirect and not because they don't like foreigners, but rather because they are kind of afraid of foreigners and therefore might avoid you if possible, though they don't (or extremely rarely) hate on foreigners or discriminate them. If anything you often have the "foreigner bonus", whereas you can allow to not follow some of their unwritten social rules (which are sometimes a pain in the a*s tbh) to 100% and get away with it, because they believe that non-japanese people don't really understand them and their mindset.
Another thing is, that no matter how long you live there and how good your japanese is, you probably won't ever be accapted as a "real japanese", which for me personally is something I can live with or rather don't care about, but other people might find this offending.
Also, sometimes even if your japanese is fluent, staff in supermarkets or restaurants will try to speak in english to you, which some people find offending as well. Usually though that's because they believe it's good customer service if you can talk in your mother language (even though it's not always english) and therefore having an easier time to communicate, while not realizing that it's usually harder to understand their english than to understand a japanese sentence with a few difficult words, even if you are not quite fluent in japanese.
@@sacrashin thank you for the response and for your time to write that comment!
@@sacrashin thanks for the inside's. I might move to Japan for a year next April. I'm already nervous
Really hope this guy hits a million subs. Amazing content. Never disappoints
Your channel has really grown, congrats man
You have no idea how valuable this channel is for language learners
I have a suspicion that a few previous videos from other UA-camrs included mainly girls who said yes to dating western men. I'm sure it's because the audience is mainly foreigners, and it would rack up more views that way. I appreciate how Takashii included a bit of both opinions in this video.
yes, I noticed that in the other videos also. This video felt way more neutral than the other videos on this topic.
When they say Western it obviously means white.
@@nego7350 Wrong, Actually British, Australian, and Western European men like Scandinavians are more popular than white American men.
@@wilkesmcdermid7906 Scandinavians would be considered northern europe as a correction, even northeast in a lot of parts
Totally, these foreign whites watching these videos are the ones that fantasize getting a submissive asian women because they cant do any better in their home country, thankfully these women are likely just saying what they are saying becuase the cameras are rolling and in reality they dont want a dirty white perv near them
Hmm I've never heard about the body odor thing before lol. Being from America I'm pretty comfortable in saying that its pretty normal to take a shower both in the morning and at night and pretty much after any sort of physical activity (gym, sports, etc), but I guess sometimes if you've done nothing the entire day but stay in, then skipping a shower isn't uncommon. I think most people want to be clean when they get in their bed to go to sleep though.
I take a cold shower in the morning and a warm shower in the evening. 👍Though occasionally I've skipped the evening shower when I've gotten back home really late and feel like I'm about to pass out. Nights like that I've just hopped straight in bed and passed out.
@@flynnoflenniken7402 Pretty much my same routine. Cold showers are king.
Body odor doesn´t mean sweat by default. There are just people that smell different. Especially in some regions of the world where a lot of spices are used in the food.
@@Ammageddon89 I guess so sure but the video was talking about showering so…
Every one sweats a bit when it's warm, shower or not. The difference, on a genetic level, is that most folks of European descent develop a musk from it. It isn't necessarily unpleasent, but that trait is absent from most Asians, so it is a bit of a shock. I showered twice a day and once more when I would work out or just be outside is the Southern USA summer heat while I dated a Vietnamese woman. She said she could smell it when I had been in a room, let alone near her. I was fortunate at the time that she seemed to like it.
After watching a lot of these videos (and also being an anime watcher) I find that that trademark Japanese politeness seems to be hampering their ability to elaborate deeper topics in conversations. Like, their spend a lot of time just trying to find words for saying things that sound conceptually like... very basic? and also struggling to deal in abstractions (ie: often they tend to use very specific examples when it seems that they mean more broad things). If you compare with foreigners that speak more freely, they are often more articulated and seem to have a bit more nuance in what they express.
If you worry to much about politeness, past a certain point, you will be missing opportunities to comunicate, and often is in communication that thoughts get provoked to reach more nuanced takes.
This can also be just an artifact of said politeness, but what do I know (i.e.: people here just avoid any complicated topic, just because they worry about saying something wrong, IDK).
That is one thing that I think the Japanese people do really well with confessions and clear lines between if you are just friends or if you are dating. Would clear up a lot of confusion if people were like that in the states.
I dig how this french guy speaks better english than the french guys in the university of technology I went to in Finland, makes it much easier for her. I had a couple of group course works where I had a french member in the group and I just couldn't understand what he was saying majority of the time due to how he spoke english. Which I don't find happens often when I'm online. Sadly I never had japanese students to work with, would've been interesting. I tend to see quite a few japanese people in the uni or around my home, but never have had an interaction with them.
The language barrier is really interesting, because I have plenty of international friends and know international women and can discuss with them easily, but whenever I think of dating level it feels way too much, since I'm a guy who loves language quirks and finnish has a lot of them that can't be explained, a lot of song lyrics can't be explained in translation even if they might be so clever that it tickles some part of your brain. It feels like a lot of english music almost completely lacks this aspect of word plays and such connections in language. So dating someone from a different country, you could never explain some of your life's key delights to them and share it. And a lot of people nowadays seem interested in learning finnish, but it's a hard language and takes a lot of time. Not only there is the formal book finnish you need to learn, but then you have to learn the spoken finnish and consider all the different dialects that twist words into completely different words. So it's a bit of an obstacle with really deep connection.
Very interesting as always! Regarding the confession thing, I think that is actually more similar to how it’s done in the West than it looks from the outside. It’s true many romantic relationships do start on kind of unofficial terms, but I think the majority of these relationships do start with an explicit conversation about it. Perhaps there are fewer rules about it than in Japan, but I think most people consider it beneficial to be clear and communicative about these things from the start, especially mature adults. IMO, not having those explicit conversations often is a mistake when we people try to skip that step. It’s always better not to assume your partner is on the same page as you.
Yes that was one of the most important differences. However, I don't think most nations in the West are as serious about the confession as the Japanese and I wonder if younger people even do that or just hang-out together and go on dates and see how it goes?
The pick lines I see especially from US people is to approach the person and say how they find them attractive and if they can have their number and then go out with each other... unfortunately if they don't like them they then ghost them and never speak to them again.
It's not treating people as seriously. Everything is too fast and disposable in the West in that way and leads to bad behaviour because of low standards.
@@commentarytalk1446 i don’t think it’s so much as everything is fast and disposable in the US as it’s we have tons more media that glorify and like…make romance a bigger deal than it really kind of looks like. i forget the word for that. i’m not saying japan is too prude about it or whatever but making big lovey dovey displays of affection ain’t what they like to do and that would also affect a foreigner’s perception of how they should love someone bc we’re so used to every other movie and show showing us that love is displaying and being straightforward with our affections
@@necobubbles That's brilliant observation and way of putting the difference in one way. Culture plays it's part on expectations in a big way.
With that said, to build on the topic, I have the impression in the West, that LTR (long-term relationship looking for a potential spouse/marriage) has loosened into dating (looking for a romantic interest) which has loosened into "hook-up"/one-night-stand culture and then so with the speed of dating apps accelerating that "disposable/consumable" attitude and behaviour even more?
But equally as you say the culture puts WAY too much emphasis on romantic love as being the source of all happiness and an end unto itself instead of perhaps fertile grounds (pardon the pun) for a long-term relationship leading potentially towards starting a family?
If dating becomes a numbers game, then the quality/value of each date probably decreases, I'd guess and that explains a lot of the dissatisfaction? There's also the fact I'd guess, in the West people are dating older either after putting careers first or as single mothers and my guess is it's a lot harder to date with a view to marriage then with people more worn down by experience and cynical and also set in their own individualistic ways? Long-term relationships are as much a process you believe in and buy into as they are finding personal satisfaction or "romantic ecstasy" as portrayed in the movies. That may be true at the beginning but the rest is a lot of hard-work, building together!
Love the videos! Keep up the great work! Like your man on the street interview style, well done! ビデオが大好きです!これからもいい結果を出し続けてください！あなたの男性の街頭インタビュースタイルのように、よくやった！
Side question, what causes the shuttering in the video? Is that the camera itself, the frame rate, or something in post? Seems to me that it's either in post or the rendering stage.
Thank you for sharing your interviews. As a Singaporean, I do agree to some of the ladies who prefer to date a guy who is the same race as them just like in my own country, people prefers to date someone from their country of origin. However, more and more Singaporeans are marrying foreigners including myself. My spouse is Indonesian. Intercultural marriage is a norm. For my own experience, dating an Indonesian is that we speak English to each other. I've been married for 14 years yet I can't speak Bahasa Indonesia. I do understand a bit of Malay Language though. However not being able to speak his Mother tongue does not bother him as he always wanted to live in Singapore. As a couple, we shares the same hobbies and interests. We often talk about Classical music and learn Japanese Language together.
Beautiful. Thanks for sharing.
Can i ask does having a spouse from indonesia means u have converted to their religion? not sure about the country,
@@TheSourcerer111 My spouse and I share the same religion. Yes, it is common for people to change their religion to be the same as their spouse. For some, they maintain peace i.e., two different religious beliefs co-exist in the same household. A few of my cousins whose parents (my aunties and uncles) have two different religions.
Yeah, but u both are asian people and it's not so different from european or american people right?
I'm Japanese lwho was born in Latin America and I just find interesting and attractive to asian guys. No matter country who they are, but asians guys finally... For me it's not necessary Japanese only.
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Like the girls in the video mentioned, I think generally speaking, Japanese girls tend to want to date or marry other Japanese guys. I think a point that wasn’t mentioned is that Japanese people like to live in a state of comfort-they don’t like to stand out, be uncomfortable, not understand, awkwardness, etc. Thats just how it is for a lot of people in Japan. And being with a foreigner is being in those states. Being with a Japanese guy is just what everybody does and they don’t see why they should go beyond those lines.
In general it may be interesting to date a foreigner but the question of a long-term relationship may also be harder because of the differences and Japanese are more focused on dating as a method towards long-term relationship and then that as a means towards marriage.
I think some of the advice for foreigners is to understand: 1. Japanese language 2. Cultural behaviour eg "confession" 3. Indirect communication is preferred in Japan 4. Being clear about one's own intentions and goals and considering the other person's goals (this applies to all relationships tbh). As you point out making things work together so there's no discomfort or misunderstanding or awkwardness and things are clear and structured.
Well said.
@@commentarytalk1446 "3. Indirect communication is preferred in Japan 4. Being clear about one's own intentions and goals and considering the other person's goals (this applies to all relationships tbh). . . "
Seems like a contradiction. If your intent is to be "clear about one's own intentions and goals," seems to me the last thing you'd want is "indirect communication."
@@randyevermore9323 Long-Term Plans = Clear. Communicating = Indirect.
The former is about organization and the latter is about appreciation.
Yes I did jumble the two together. Then and again being accused of paradoxical seems apt in some respects...
@@commentarytalk1446 My extensive experience in Japan and with Japanese tells me they're really not that different from other nationalities in that regard: ambiguous when it's to their advantage to be ambiguous and clear when it's to their advantage to be clear.
Probably cuz more convenient and easier but if you can speak some Japanese and know the culture you have a chance as a foreigner and maybe good looking helps lmao
I am really entertained by the responses. Some of them are a bit idealistic. As someone who has crossed the cultural barrier I can say it takes a lot of commitment especially in the early years. There is a huge difference between Japanese Americans and Japanese nationals. An international marriage has its benefits. We have grown together in so many ways. Our children view other cultures with understanding instead of ignorance. My life has been truly blessed by all of this
yeah they believe everyone in america is blonde hair and blue eyes. Probably think every other non-white is just the help too...with a smile.
Most Japanese women have never dated a foreign man so they get their ideas of foreign men from Hollywood movies. When they actually date foreign men, cracks and flaws often begin to show in the relationship and it fails. Only around 1% of Japanese women marry foreigners, including Asian foreigners (most foreign husbands in Japan are Korean men) again most of these women get their ideas of men from kdramas and Hollywood. Not reality. And then the marriages often fail because the man didn’t meet her expectations. And the foreign man doesn’t understand Japanese marriage which is like a dead bedroom business contract and the wife becoming cold towards him/only wanting his money after a few years. There’s a reason many Japanese men don’t want to marry anymore.
I’m from the US and I’ve never dated a girl where we haven’t decided to start dating. It’s always been getting to know a girl through a group hang out or going on a “date” as friends and then basically a confession to start dating. Generally people that don’t do that are not looking for something serious I think from experience with friends. America is a big place though and things are done differently all throughout. Although quite a bit less there are people that are tactful and “read the air” in a sense as well among more reserved or quiet people
So you agreed to commitment without the woman really earning you?
Going out on a date and falling in love is a very diferent thing, just like the majority of country's the people consider going out with a foreinger but sometimes that's just it, being nice and being interested can be shown in many ways, if you can go out with a person from japan that lives in japan have in mind of what may come out it, either a friend or just a one time date
So tap and scrap as most it is their only worth
Takashi, great videos as usual! Have you ever noticed that most Japanese women who have never traveled abroad dislike foreigners? But those who have traveled and learned about their culture are more willing to do so? (Update, didnt see the whole vide yet when commented, and at 8:47 one said exactly that)
india is the greatest country all over the world
Watching your vids, its the first time I've heard about "double eyelids" lol, It's also quite funny to see the reasons they have.
Asian homo sapients have to adapt to the extremely cold wheather so they evolved to thicker eyelid
When talking about sweat and body oder it varies wildly across the world through genetics and dietary intake. Some smells permeate even after a thorough shower
Sending much LOVE from the USA to Japan!!! We both love and respect your wonderful country!
🖕from Japan❤
I love being American. Yet the Japanese people are simply incredible as a culture. Your language is gorgeous as well. Love y’all!
Congratulations for 1 million strong family🎉🎉🎉🎉
Have you thought about doing a survey for the best dating apps in Japan? *it's terrible that pairs can't be used outside of Japan anymore, used to not be that way*
Really nice to hear the perspective of Japanese women on dating foreign men thank you! Maybe do a part 2 of the reverse? Asking Japanese men about foreign women. :)
Sorry I'm new here, didn't notice that you already posted something similar haha
So when you say "Foreigner" to Japanese people they usually expect people from America or UK.I would like to know what Japanese people think about people from maybe middle east or South east asia like Malaysia,Thai or India etc etc.Could you make a video of that?
Because Foreigners means Europe and the image of Europe created by the media is only positive. definitely they also have a negative side like drug addicts, homeless people and gun violence, robbery and human trafficking and all those issues. But these issues are neglected. ( Maybe just the sake of beauty standards)
But at the same time other asian county means poverty and filled with garbage etc such an image is created ( it may be true to some extent ) but that doesn't mean they have nothing on the positive side. It is just ignored
they dont care
they see whites as exotic and non whites as "foreign"
I think OP should be more specific in the interview as to what race is he referring to. We just all assuming he's talking about white men and not black men or mexican men or Arab men.
@@jcjohnson0 I'm not talking about only white people though,I mentioned people from the west.Yes I am assuming but there's a good reason for it,I'm from SEA and most people here think of someone from the West(Doesn't matter color/race) when you mention the word 'Foreigner' to them.I believe it's the same in most part of Asia.Still I could be wrong
@@jcjohnson0 western means white european,nobody uses western to mean black or hispanic,they say african or afro american or south american.
western means white american,australian,nz,european/british and canadian.
One thing I would love to see is where should Latin American foreigners go in japan to find a partner or places to go that may have Latin American influences
What area of Japan was this video in? It looks peaceful there
it's none of your business Clark.
Love your videos, want to slowly learn Japanese and visit Japan someday. Keep up the awesome work 🙏🏻
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@@hailhydra8888 why dude
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Because we are full.
@@PurpleTeamer good😅
I don't know why I watched this video, but it was quite interesting👍
I am from America and just found out recently that people don't shower before bed and it blows my mind. Everyone I knew growing up always showered before bed but i guess that isn't the case everywhere.
I have just found you videos , very interesting comments from the ladies in your country, I visited Japan about 8 years ago and loved everything about it , I would like very much to to visit again , I came to visit Osaka and Tokyo , I was In Japan for 10 days when I came before, great video my friend
Im From india I Like your content .It was really good And I love japanese anime and your Language ❤
Thanks for sharing this video.
I still think it's very inspiring to date someone from another country. It's nice to be able to compare and maybe take the best of each culture. Sometimes then love comes suddenly without even letting you choose who you could fall in love with (foreigner or not) 😅.
By the way interesting topic.
Bye and see you to the next video! またねたかしさん❗😊
Which grade are you study?
@@Reyasoddin-ws1yq excuse me?
Good job! Very interesting...
Takashi bhai you are great
Interesting that you brought up showering at night. I'm an American who moved to Asia in 2008, first living in China and then moved to Taiwan. At first, I continued my morning showering habit but I gradually switched to showering at night. I also shower in the morning when I workout but, other than that, I've completely switched to showering at night.
I believe what they're saying is they shower both in morning and at night. It makes sense since the idea is to not bring negative energy (and germs) into the home.
@@Native_Creation In Taiwan, they only shower in the evening. I would assume it's the same in Japan.
@@martialdoctor3482 Aside from the athletic types who work out in the morning, I would say this is the case. They mostly shower at night.
For the girl that was talking about body odor, it's almost a cultural thing to shower in the morning since you start the day fresh. Many people opt to shower later in the day since they're working, however for me, I opt to shower first thing since it helps me wake up and also i'm a person that has greasy hair and sweats a lot when they sleep, so showering in the morning is almost essential for me.
It is a thing in Europe as well, i shower after a work day or before bedtime, it is usually a subtle message to the rest of the people in the house. "I showered, i am done for today, leave me alone" 😅 i don't like to go to bed dirty. Taking a shower before bed helps me sleep better. Increases blood circulation i guess?
She means the body odour coming from apocrine glands. East asians either have far less or almost no apocrine glands. Almost 100% Koreans don't have the apocrine glands which means that they don't have the foul smelling sweat odour. Approx 70% of Japanese don't have them. Approx 50% of Chinese don't have them. Google it.
I was wondering if the woman showered twice a day or just evening? Fresh in the morning just before going to work would seem to be better for others around you. I wash my hair at night and in the morning it won't comb right and it has already started to get a bit oily overnight. Interesting answer from the woman.
Takashii is a marketing genius.. a lot of suckers myself included..LOL
I have always wanted to date a Japanese girl/woman and have been fascinated at how many women in the interview intelligent and beautiful are open to it. I also understand about language and cultural barriers. It is best I think to approach any relationship as equals and in the middle for growth from any man or women while always showing respect to cultural beliefs and norms as a guest in any society. Japanese culture is so beautiful to me. All people of Japan are beautiful as well as their beautiful country. Thank you for this channel in understanding more being that I from California.
I was with a Japanese woman for five years. She said the same about the body odor. She said that she eventually got used to it but yes, to Japanese we definitely smell differently.
Europeans or Americans?
Thank you for being so fair to foreigners. There are many things admirable about Japanese culture. The low crime rate, great food, people are law obeying, you can go anywhere and never worry. Any time of day or night.
About body odor as a Hungarian who has lived in the US and western Europe for over 10 years, I think I can say safely that it highly depends on your food intake. For example, I don`t tend to have it even if I don`t shower for days (although I do once it happened), but I also noticed that if I eat food with black pepper, or other strong spices the odor is inevitable, milk also a contributing factor to a strong odor.
The body odor thing comment got me...🤣 I live in North America and I noticed some people don't take showers daily. It must be because of the cold weather? I'm not sure now though since pandemic require lots of showering to stay clean...
i used to teach japanese ppl in the 90s and the women were crazy about white guys then but it all changed around 2000, not sure why but the white fever just passed!
..... fuck!!
Now it’s the other way around thanks to K-pop, anime culture, etch
The confession thing, in my personal experience, is the opposite.
I've had to ask Japanese men if we were dating. I had to ask my ex 3 times before I realized "Ah...this is true." Hahaha. He even said, "This is the third time you asked!!" And I replied, "Yeah, because you don't say anything!!"
But with western guys, they immediately tell me if they are interested in me, and want to date me. So it's very different, but my experience is the opposite. I always thought because Japanese guys do not take western women seriously...maybe we are just for fun? But I don't like that mindset...not all foreign women are just for fun. I've rejected many guys in Japan because of this reason. (EDIT: Also, my ethnicity isn't western, so I don't look western, even if I'm from a western country...So I should have said Foreign women*, not western women...)
It's mostly because western women are how should I put it ... easier. I mean lots of western women nowadays would blow a guy for just a drink while most eastern women will not sleep with a guy at least not a few dates in. I mean it is not always the case but the chances of getting a one night stand is much higher with western women than it is with eastern women not counting paid women ofcourse so since Japanese men don't get that with Japanese women it is easier for them to get it with western women.
@@endefisto123 From what I've seen, I disagree, but it could just be the people I've seen. I'm sure everyone's experiences are valid!
(Also, my ethnicity isn't western, so I don't look western, even if I'm from a western country...So I should have said Foreign women*, not western women...)
Not true at all, a massive percentage of Japanese women admit to cheating and they are also very easy. They often sleep with men for less than 100 bucks in high school and engage in enjo kosai or prostitution to earn pocket money from a young age.
@@endefisto123Sadly that’s true. Western culture might be seen as “easy” compared to more traditional cultures. I personally reject that type of attitude, easy girls are a turn off.
@@sinistarz0253 Depends for a one night stands they are fine just for fun, but every culture has these women thing is in the west they are a lot more common than in the east.
“I like ragaee and Latin music.” That makes me so happy to hear that muy culture is in Japan!
Reggae is HUGE in Japan.
It's funny to see at minute 8:20 what looks like and interracial couple as you guys talk about that exact thing:))
Since I was a child my dream was to visit Japan probably because it was the most different culture compared to europe and I did do a solo trip for 3 weeks now. I really have to say its such a beautiful country wth lovely people. I dont speak 5 words japanese and didnt face any issues. If needed I did communicate with hand and feets and never got refused by people if we struggled we laughed together I think a positive energy can change everything and dont make them uncomfortable. However its a shame that Japanese are so shy and closed to themselves share your beautiful culture and learn other cultures the world has endless beautiful things to be shared in any aspects. Now i enjoy my last 3 days in Tokyo 😭 but will definitely come one day again❤
It makes sense that a lot of women in any region of the world don't have any aspirations for something exotic. So, in the case of Japanese women, most of them will prefer dating Japanese men. So, color me not surprised.
Thanyou ❤ you are good man❤
8:17 mixed couple with mixed baby walk by? Was this planned? 😄
I find really interesting to know what Japanese girls think on western guys. As an european portuguese girl, i would also date a Japanese guy, or any other nationality, because i like the person, so if somebody interests me, likes me the way i am, i really dont care where they are from. (Your heart decides 😅😅)
Im very interested in different cultures and languages as well, so i totally understand the girl dating the french guy. 😊
About the body odor...i agree, but it depends on the person, in general guys are quite concern about smells and they use a lot of perfume and deodorant 😂
"in general guys are quite concern about smells and they use a lot of perfume and deodorant"
Perfume/deodorant/any smell is not well perceived in japan
@@1000OtherFoxes had no idea! Good to know! 😊
I wouldnt date outside my culture, even if I like the person
@@sercba8728 depends on the culture. The arabic culture for exemple, its a no for me. I value my freedom and some arabic countries are way too extreme. Plus, i have no religion and would never convert to one. 😅
@@Biancawaker lol They also tend to devalue women and are to controlling.
yeah i think it's mostly the language thing that stops both Japanese Women and Foreign Men to give each other a try.
I'm one of them that wouldn't mind dating a Japanese girl (i find lots of them extremely cute) but it would be very difficult unless she knew English.
That second girl motivated me to lift weights, thanks
0:45 Is she Osaka from the anime Azumanga Daioh? Cute!
I see this as an absolute win!
Great video from the Dominican Republic.
yea thats what we want to hear !🤣
Great video Takashi. The "body odor" and "facial hair" comments were pretty interesting to say the least. As a western guy, I should, in theory, be offended, but I am not. Right or wrong, I respect these ladies for their honesty. To each their own.
The odour one is interesting to me. Takashi mentioned about not going to bed clean, and I get that. But I think people also sweat when sleeping, and not cleaning yourself before putting on fresh clothes to me is just as bad.
I didn't get offended cuz I mean, in Brazil we hear a lot about this, that foreigns don't use to take much baths. So I think it's not for us since we take about 20 baths a week..
There are a lot of people from Brazil who lives abroad and say that is very odd that their roommates takes so few baths.
@@_Drac os brasileiros quando vão pra europa, quando usam trem lotado ficam horrorizados com o fedor que é. nós tomamos banho até duas vezes por dia, eles 3x por semana
@@yasashii_ exatamente kkk, fora que ouvi alguns esteriótipos que eles não usam desodorante
Don't be a beta, human is human Japanese people some smell like urine.