I got tested for a personality disorder
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This psychiatrist, as portrayed by you, clearly said COMPLEX PTSD - CPTSD. That's *five* letters, so that's something!
Yeah but one is lowercase, so does that even really count? 😛
Yes, CPTSD - my own personal diagnosis - is not just your ordinary PTSD
She is the text book definition of a "3 pump and dump " girl
PTSD is temporary but cPTSD now that’s forever 😂😂😂😂
You're missing the point, the 4-letter ones are banal, the 3-letter ones are cool and any 2-letter ones would be kind of the disorders... a 5-letter one is a death sentence.
Wow. Losing a friend group and finding out that they have such negative thoughts about you? That must have been so hurtful and confusing. I’m so sorry you went through that.
Sounds like he's a narcissist
I lost my friend group of all 6 people all at once who told me in annoying and obnoxious, with one friend telling me she always thought I was annoying even before we were friends. I still deal with the repercussions of that 7 years later.
@@straberryshinigami15g97 Sounds like you either entered a "friend group" you didn't belong in, or you act out when you feel comfortable.
It’s shitty when friends don’t understand what going through a difficult time is like
@@straberryshinigami15g97 I'm currently going through something similar, im almost completely isolated. If it weren't for the one true friend i made 2 weeks before getting abandoned I would still be rotting mentally. It's hard to feel like I'm worthy of love at this point. I want to be vulnerable and nice and sweet but ever since that patience i instinctually default to snapping and being sarcastic as a copping mechanism. I tried embracing being a bad person because if that's all im going to be seen as no matter what i do to make amends, or apologies, or just learn from my past mistakes than what's the point in allowing myself to be vulnerable and hurt without mercy. I don't want their forgiveness, i just want to move on with my life and rebuild my social life and not repeat what ive done. But as of now it feels impossible, especially with new people i meet being just as closed off as me.
"I'm glad they didn't understand me, because that meant they didn't have a similar history" .
Thank you so much for this!! Got diagnosed with C-PTSD last year and ended up thinking the same, it explains so much about my life, and explains so much about some of my personal relationships
being sober is a super power
100% agree!
Almost 8 years myself.
You have got to do it to start seeing the world as it really is. And to stop “blocking” the reality of your own life.
For those of you curious:
Exploding head syndrome is a benign, underdiagnosed sensory parasomnia. It is the sensation of hearing a loud sound during sleep-wake/wake-sleep transitions.
I had this on my antidepressants, so my shrink prescribed me anti-epileptic(?) pills and those are gone😂
I feel like I have this, but it's just that my neighbors like shooting guns (or fireworks) at random times of the day throughout the week (and that I live on the city outskirts where trucks haul metal sometimes).
I wouldnt worry about losing friends, with dissiciative identity disorder you will have all the friends you need😜
thank you google senpai
Sometimes I hear (think I hear?) a loud clap as I wake or fall asleep.
Hey there, I (male, 40) have BPD with a dependant (or submissive) NPD underneath, CPTSD and an anxiety disorder. With three years of therapy and hard work on myself I managed to weaken almost every symptom of it, don't meet the diagnostic criteria of NPD anymore and live a mostly happy life. I am not where I want to be, but on the road to get there within two years. So if you suffer from any of these disorders, know that you can still absolutely live a wonderful life if you are willing to put in the energy and work that is needed to make you and the people around you feel better. :)
❤❤❤
"weakened" is such a great word-- conversely showing the strength you've gained. Super empowering.
So happy for you! ❤
@@areandwhy You are right! I didn't think about my choice of words, but now that I do, it actually feels empowering!
@@yumbunny2566 Thank you! ❤
I really hate how people claim that every person they don’t like is a narcissist. That’s so stigmatising. As someone who recently also had a friendgroup falling out - sounds like you’re better off without them. My friend group had experience with their own trauma. But they still have this horrible idea about how „real“ victims and „real“ trauma are supposed to look. Being damaged themselves doesn’t magically protect them from hurting you or makes them suddenly very understanding and empathetic. I’m sorry you had to learn this the hard way. I had to, too.
Yea, it really stigmatizes people with NPD.
Narcissism has become one of those buzzwords that people will apply to anyone and anything. Reminds me of how, in the 2000s during my youth, any girl who went on a diet or even just tried to eat healthy was accused of having anorexia.
@@straberryshinigami15g97 that’s exactly what I mean! It creates a false equivalence between „evil“ and „NPD“. People with personality disorders truly get treated like they are destructive people who deserve to be ostracised. But the truth is, not every asshole has a personality disorder and vice versa.
you gotta admit though she does kind of give off conceited, self absorbed vibes/know it all
@@torres8988 Not if you like her as a person. Then you just think "wow she's so thoughtful and insightful"
I have BPD. It's not cool and exciting. It comes from a history of childhood trauma. Not something you should wish you have.
Not to mention the stigma around it all :(
Agreed.
Also as someone who was close to a person with NPD, I don't think that was very "cool" either.
I am so sorry you're going through this. If that's any consolation, I don't think she really thinks that. Sometimes the reality is a little bit too hard to accept and weird thoughts can come. CPTSD isn't something anyone wishes either. BPD has actually quite a good prognosis in general so I hope it will get better soon for you as well 🙏
Which I think is the case with Anna. Her sister's sad death and her family's unstable background.
Very much so (from someone who also has it)
My brother committed suicide this year and I’m using cognitive behavioral therapy and EMDR to help myself out
I’m so sorry ❤
so sorry for your loss. Wish you luck in your therapy journey
R.I.P. bro
Deeply sorry for your loss. Don't know if you are religious or not, but I will give a prayer for him. Sending you my strength.
I'm just about to start EMDR therapy. Do you mind me asking how it's going for you?
honestly, if Anna was a confirmed narcissist, mental issue or whatever personality disorder, I don't see her different and still like her. We all have a few screw loose here and there, we just learn to embrace what we have and that of others' as well. We love you, Anna
All true, still love her and all, but if she is NPD, she will near certainly be abusing people around her (to get supply).
For everyone else:
BPD or Bipolar disorder isnt something to wish for. BPD is the closest thing to a curse you could have. The stigma around it that causes alot of pain because you always question if it would be safe to come out to your new relations or if they would shun you, because you know people left for that reason in the past. The sensation that your body and mind are burning and all you want to do is not be here and disapear because you hurt so much and you dont know when its gonna stop. The black and white thinking which dictates your life....
And my mother is Bipolar, and as much as she loves us, she'll never know how much she affects us because we'll never tell her. We cant. Cause that would mean suicide and we dont want to loose her. Because we also feel deeply guilty of resenting her because she's also the most dedicated and loving mother.
I mostly say that because i had another crisis yesterday where i nearly cut every bridge i have with the only friends i have and i just wish i didnt have this godforsaken 3 letters attached to me. I wish i was "normal"...
That makes sense, take care! However, BPD is the acronym for Borderline, while Bipolar Disorder is BP - which one do you have?
I feel you bud. I was diagnosed with BP1 about 10 years ago in the same year my first child was born and also lost my father to a heart attack..2013 was pretty rough for me and I have been on a rollercoaster ride since then..between medications..hospitalizations..jail..recovery..work..raising a child..trying to live a normal life hasn't been so easy for me. I also had one suicide attempt..medics got me in the nick of time tho 🙏...now I'm focused on maintaining my wellness by therapy and mental health treatment and it seems to be working out this time..I highly suggest you try doing the same if you haven't already..
I couldn't have said it better myself. BPD is horrible to live with
@@oddmentedshe talks about both. She has BPD and her mother has BP.
Anna is really good at helping people laugh through their pain
That's exactly why I am here every time I see a notification from her channel ❤
Shes not funny
Okay that's crazy and at the same time crazy relatable. I kinda wished I'd have bipolar disorder or something that would explain all my behavior. Accepting I was really traumatized by my family over such a long period of time and admitting that I mostly had a bad childhood was pretty hard. Also accepting I'd always have to live in this reality where I get more easily triggered than others - not easy. But yes, seeing that not every person is right for you and not needing everyone's approval to feel good about me is one of the nicest things ever!
Your trauma matters. It explains your behaviour and it wasn't your fault.
Take care of yourself.
More easily triggered is a symptom of Borderline Personality Disorder.
There's a great book by Peter Walker called C-PTSD: from surviving to thriving that has helped me a lot I highly recommend for understanding what C-PTSD is and how to deal!
i'm reading this now and finding it helpful too!
This book is legitimately life changing!!
Awesome recommendation! Was diagnosed with C-PTSD by my psychiatrist while working with her for 2+ years. This is now my #1 go-to book to manage it 🤍
Almost the identical thing happened to me last year. My entire circle of friends labeled me a Narcissist and we had a huge falling out. I went into therapy and eventually was put on an involuntary hold that thankfully got me in contact with a psychiatrist. I was diagnosed with c-PTSD and Major Depressive Disorder severe non-psychotic. I'm medicated for the second on and in therapy for both. I really was convinced I was a Narcissist and I was just out there hurting people like there was some gremlin inside of me getting activated and harming people when I was asleep or something. I've had the chance to fully start over with friends who understand and give me the space I need when I "get dark," and I don't put as much pressure on myself to perform when I need that space.
I'm glad you were able to find people who value you and make you feel like you belong, I wish you success in your healing journey with CPTSD!
Yay CPTSD club! Currently in a Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT*) group with other CPTSD-ers. CFT includes daily visualization meditations and journaling homework assignments that have been transformative. I still get triggered and experience intense emotions, but CFT makes it easier to notice when I’m out of whack, counter my impulsive shame/self-hatred with patience and compassion/self-connection, and “cool down” much faster… which in turn allows me to have control over my own body again and make decisions from a non-threat based mode. Apparently as young as 2 weeks old an infant can tell whether or not they’re in a safe environment 😮. So these neurological connections can run DEEP. Our brains are amazing. And our healing is sacred and beautiful ❤ (*CFT augmented with years of prior DBT, CBT, EMDR, etc, )
do you have any workbooks that you recommend?
Wow, I'd never heard of CFT - and I've looked up treatments for CPTSD a lot! Thank you for sharing! Wishing you the best
I have CPTSD here too. I thought I had a million other things including NPD. I was nervous. My therapist said I couldn’t be a narcissist because usually narcissists don’t seek out help. Also, she said PTSD can mimic other disorders
True. I thought I had ADHD because I've got Hyper Vigilance from the CPTSD (which I've been recovering from, over years, with excellent therapy). But I 'failed' the ADHD test and the psych was really confident in their CPTSD diagnosis. It has given me a lot of useful context and a path forwards to living a better life.
Your ability to see your former friends point of view and wish that they never experienced the pain you have, in my armature opinion says that You are definitely not a narcissist. Also, I’m sorry about your loss. I’ve lost family members to suicide as well, it’s a very hard way to lose someone you love. Kudos to you for working on hearing and sharing valuable insights with others.
I feel like this was content but also this was a message to those friends.
I have been wondering what happened between her and the twins, Melissa and Michelle. This explains a lot now.
@@winniecoffeetogo9454 I had been wondering too! I'm so sorry to hear what happened. I had a similar experience myself and it was very hurtful.
@@winniecoffeetogo9454wait the twins are no longer friends with her then??
Think they’re still friends - the twins are in the animation at 2:49
@@jackieho9301 ohh thank god! This is some other friend group I guess
It's a big pet peeve to me the way people throw around serious diagnostic accusations, as if "person I don't like" automatically means "person with a serious personality disorder."
As a fellow trauma survivor, I can strongly recommend EMDR. It is a really effective treatment, although we still didn't quite figure out why it works.
the way you explained that makes it sound like snail oil x_x
And brianspotting!
@@jramseier Only it’s not. It is a treatment officially recognised by NICE in the UK, and also in the US. You’d be surprised by how many things we can’t quite figure how they work
Anna, you really don't want bipolar disorder.
You are better off than most.
Sending virtual hugs.
Anna, I am sorry about that happening with your friends. You deserve friends who do have compassion and who you can trust and feel safe with. I love your content, been watching for a while. Thanks for always keeping it real. ❤
When I was diagnosed with PMDD (premenstrual dysphoric disorder), I felt so relieved. I felt insane before *every* period and had intense thoughts of unaliving myself. 80% of people who have periods have it, the symptoms just get dismissed. It takes 6 months of continuous symptoms to get a diagnosis for PMDD.
I 'm glad you were able to get a diagnosis and feel this sense of relief, but I just want to point out that while PMS is quite common, affecting around 80% of the people who menstruate, PMDD is a more severe condition that affects a smaller percentage, estimated to be in the range of 3% to 8% of those individuals.
80%??
Saaame, I have PMDD, ADHD and MDD (major depression disorder) so lots of letters yay
But, in a good note, it's recognition that leads to treatment and understanding so I'm happy we got the first step
I thought it was 80% of mestruating people who struggled with pms, and of that 80%, a roughly 20% estimated but only 3-8% diagnosed as of 2021. And also, when I got diagnosed, I was given a chart for 2 months, so if the symptoms reoccurred for 2 cycles, you had PMDD. But maybe its different in different countries
It's not 80%... it's estimated around 20-30%. Still a lot of people though.
A sorry that you are experiencing one of the "not cool ones" and hope since you are aware and getting help you continue to be able to be a functional, successful, and hopefully happy human being.
CPTSD here as well. I thought it was all the things you listed until I saw a trauma pro. The memories are buried, so I didn't have a story of why I felt so fucked up. Even though these diagnoses are just labels placed on our complexity, they do help a story begin to crystalize, which helps us orient toward where we want to go with greater ease.
Your inner beauty is lovely to behold, Anna.
Same here. The memories are buried which means a lot of traditional talk therapies don't work. It helps a lot to have a label, so we know we aren't alone.
Tell us more on living with PTSD
I love your videos. You inspired me to make my videos. Thank you for being so vulnerable in sharing your story. You are improving lives.
i have cptsd and i finished several years of therapy 4 months ago. i’ve been feeling very good lately, but this week i’ve suddenly had so many big things hit me that it’s been quite hard to not drown in the overwhelming overthinking and hurt those come with. i was starting to spiral and hearing the message at the end was very validating and has already helped me feel a little lighter again and to give myself some more grace again. thank you so much, i really needed it.
For me, the reason why I wanted to get diagnosed so badly isn't because I thought it was cool, it was because I just wanted some sort of explanation/validation for what I was, and still am going through. Especially since I had been told my entire life that I was faking things. And then I also got a very unexpected diagnosis.
Thank you for all the sharing which you do, I think that you help others by being so open. This is something which I do also, I suffer from PTSD too due to my childhood, my parents were to blame but they were just trying to cope with their dysfunctional relationship so, they had their own issues to deal with and I got caught in the cross-fire of it all. I've found that people can't understand the impact that PTSD has on your life unless they've suffered themselves, they can sympathise but not empathise of course.
Thank you for sharing. We all have highs and lows and it's nice when you have a friend group that accepts you for the good and bad. We all can't be perfect. I think a lot of people blame and label what they see in themselves if you shine a little. Cheers to having our own back and the others that is supportive
2:10 The patients I've come across who got a diagnosis of NPD or antisocial personality disorder weren't too happy. They're not excuses or victim disorders: they're jerk disorders. A girl with the former said, "I have the mean disorder." A guy with the latter broke the news to his mother, "It's kind of a negative label."
I'm sorry to hear you've been diagnosed with CPTSD. i have been too. I urge you to seek EMDR therapy as it's helped me immensely. Feels like a decade of therapy and processing and healing in just a couple of years. That being said, i appreciate your candidness about being excited about potentially having a diagnosis, but i wouldn't wish NPD/BPD/CPTSD/PTSD on my worst enemies; it means you were forced to adapt to intolerable levels of pain in your formative years. PTSD and CPTSD are quite different as CPTSD can look like many things and it can be hidden and not so obvious; it affects every aspect of my life, relationships, career, health, self esteem. Thank you for talking about this and urge you not to take it lightly.
I’m always so grateful for your videos! CPTSD is a beeeeetch sometimes. I also had a mass exodus of friends last year during a breakdown. 😅 but now I have much more understanding and compassionate people in my life.
First-off, Anna, I love you. Your videos help me a lot through my life. I have been struggling with mental illness all my life. However, I did not know what was wrong with me until I turned 40 and could afford to see a doctor. (America Needs Universal Healthcare Now!) I found out I was manic-depressive and had huge PTSD from a terrible childhood. For 20 years, I've been dealing with it pretty well. I take med (that thankfully work) and see a therapist (I've been through a lot of therapists). It's good to know even someone who is talented, funny, smart and beautiful like you can also be faced with some of the same stuff people like me (fat, ugly, self-hating) have to face. Thank you.
I love you David
Thank you, C. Good to know, I'm not alone. These are lonely times. @@Chekedaki
Wasn't expecting to almost spit out my coffee laughing...! Beyond the humor, this was such good info packed into just a few minutes. I love the healthy self-reflection. All the best from a longtime viewer and undiagnosed (but pretty sure) C-PTSD survivor...
I'm so sorry for what you went through Anna. I'm glad you're doing something great despite your traumatic past. Thank you so much for making such awesome content and making us laugh time to time. We love you soooooo muchhhhh ❤
In addition to CBT, EMDR is incredibly helpful and evidence based for PTSD and CPTSD. As someone who's also been in therapy basically my whole adult life, I'm experiencing improvements and progress with EMDR that I've never gotten from any other modality.
Always so informative and inspiring! We love you Anna! 🌸💕
Not the night terrors backdrop HAHAHA !
2:46 .. Had to replay to catch
that t/phantoms are pigs,
t/clones are t/Macedo twins,
& I still can't make-out who's
head is exploding @1/4speed,
but it's not Trump or anyone
I would expect to recognize.
I’m glad you opened up about the friend group thing. I went through a similar situation after being cheated on. I went through a lot of stages of believing there was something wrong with me until I started to find myself again.
Good luck and my prayers to you. And ik wish you a lot of strength
I love and appreciate that you exist.
Thanks for caring and sharing Anna
Fellow CPTSD haver here. Thank you for speaking about this when I got diagnosed there werent people online talking about it. When I got diagnosed I had no idea what the heck this ment. Keep being you girl!
im so sorry for yours and your family's loss. May your sister be in peace now.
You are delightful and always bring the humor. When I found out that I have CPTSD I was like woooooooooooooooooooooow. This. Explains. So. Much. And while it may seem painfully obvious after the thing is named and all the dots are connected...(mom suicide and other t and T things in my case)...hindsight only works backwards. I'm so grateful when people like your lovely self talk openly about these things because it lessens the power of the shadow dwelling shame gremlins. In my experience a lot of people are uncomfortable with grief and loss so it can be very awkward to navigate even basic 'getting to know you' scenarios even years later because when you disclose things people often don't know what to say. Thanks for always posting eloquent content on these tough subjects. ♥
I always appreciate the jocular tone Anna employs in discussing difficult topics. For some of us C’est la vie and la vie is okay and it will be okay (eventually)
And lol there really js a hierarchy of acceptable mental illnesses. My bipolar isn’t the sexy kind and when i was bulimmic I envied people who had annorexia. Many times I’ve wished I was “worse” bc I didn’t feel like my little hardships were valid enough to be counted as suffering. Painful diagnoses can be hard to talk about and mental illness hurts both individuals and the people impacted by their behavior more than people realize - but in-the-know jokes (that don’t belittle people’s suffering) help me feel less alone and less patholog-ized.
I feel ya Anna. I had so many difficult situations with friends and friend groups because of PTSD. It took a while before I was able to find helpful ways of dealing with conflict and also finding friends who were understanding and patient enough to deal with me. If it helps, I’m sure being a narcissist isn’t as awesome as people make it seem ;)
As someone who has taken an interest in psychology and human thoughts over the past decade and more (not professionally) to understand how and why people have treated me in certain situations - I found this insightful. Thanks for sharing something so personal (and with humour Anna)
2:16 😅🤣 Oh my word Anna. This is back like your older videos! I love it because not only are you creative, funny, attractive, and multi-talented, but you're so relatable!!
I think I've commented before, but I honestly often see you like a big sister to me ❤ (I only have younger brothers, I'm pretty sure I'm older than you, and I just automatically think of everyone around me as smarter or more experienced than me so... 🤷).
I've gone through this thought process before as well, being proud of the "alphabet letters" I've collected. 😏 I have MDD, OCD, ADHD, SAD (Social Anxiety), Dyscalculia (no good abbreviation for that), plus another one.
Thank you for being awesome and helping me laugh at myself while getting a little different perspective. 💛
I also have PTSD from being forcefully abducted by my family and trying to put me under conservatorship. Every time I hear the doorbell I stare at the person coming in, even if it is someone I see everyday, as If they are here to get me. I even have dreams of several distant family members crowding around me while I sleep.
You trying to help others with your channel is very nice and appreciated.
There’s been some great research programmes with MDMA and talking therapies for PTSD. Just an FYI with PTSD some people find CBT triggering/gaslighty. Another recommended therapy is DBT ☺️
What's the difference between those? I just looked up DBT and turns out it's exactly what I thought CBT was. And how can CBT be triggering or gaslighting?
IFS therapy is also great, more psychosomatic since trauma is also stored in the body, it's the opposite of talk therapy
@@saviitrius Actually be careful with DBT. There are a lot of bot so great therapists in that area.
For c-PTSD there are many options f.e. EMDR, somatic experiencing and NARM and also the vagus nerve is interesting. There is a good book by Bessel van der Kolk "The body keeps the score" about c-PTSD.
I found myself giggling like a little boy at the diagnosis tantrum. I was like "Oh Anna... you're so silly" It gets parasocial around here. But I'm really glad we have this channel.
Love to all
ive been a fan for almost a decade now
Love you Anna!
love your work.
The fact that you are very good at specific things and know about it is often perceived as narcissism, and this is just a good assessment of reality :)
Thank you for sharing this ❤️❤️
I went thought a very similar thing. I got diagnosed with complex PTSD while also in the middle of a fallout with a group of friends. That was about 3 years ago now. It gets better.
Thanks for sharing. - inspiring set of insights to guide others to self care.
'I' am glad they didn't understand me, because that meant they didn't have a similiar history' made me cry 😭 and changed the way I think about my relationships. I was diagnosed with cPTSD and I am autistic so I guess my experience is unique and that's why most people just don't get me 😮💨
I had the opposite experience. My therapist diagnosed me with Borderline Personality Disorder after 4 sessions with me and didn't tell me. I found out because it was on a document for my job as I was requesting medical leave due to burnout. The whole time she never brought this up, never even steered the conversation towards it. She was validating of all my traumas. Never told me that any of my reactions to things were overblown
It really felt crappy to know this whole times she thought I had a personality disorder and didn't tell me.
This resonates so much Similar situations happened to me: old friends who have personality disorders kept labelling me with one: got checked by 3 psychiatrists.... C-PTSD. I found EMDR helped significantly
Really enjoyed
Anna Um happy to see you out here again Ive been a fan for a while now my ex had BPD So I was told so this is important stuff thx
❤ to you and everyone who needs it
Thank u 4 all the videos
❤ I love you. And thank you.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm going through a hard time right now and your content is very soothing. Hope your shows went well. I would have loved to assist. Will we ever be able to see them online ?
I commend you for taking feedback and looking inward. It’s hard to do, but when when that many people think it… it’s something to look at
I have PTSD, but definitely not complex-PTSD. I know there are differences, but I definitely would like to educate myself in this regard. Thank you so much for sharing this!
Never casually allow people to "label" you. If it feels off, *listen* to that feeling. That sounds traumatic in itself - having your "friend" group label you as a narcissist behind your back ? Yikes
Yeah that was weird and she just brushes it off
Rooting for you.
Wow. I am glad you found out.
I feel so represented. I thought that was me I was looking at for a second but nah just a flashback because I'm pretty sure you said things I said like verbatim about c-ptsd for yeeeears.
But yeah, solidarity -- I, too, was hoping for something cooler and edgier that could help my brand because I can't help myself without doing so accidently.
Solidarity.
Thanks ❤
Loving the velma outfit 🧡🧡
As someone with bipolar disorder and Childhood PTSD it is not fun because I experience psychosis Paranoia and OCD. I have Schizo affective bipolar as well. I also tend to hear voices with different personalities and life experiences different from mine which leads me to believe I have some form of DID but thats just my opinion. I take like 3 meds that really help and the first 3 rounds of meds did not help and I have been Baker Acted 3 times and voluntary once. And I need trauma and family therapy. I have gone to group therapy and have weekly therapy. So yeah its been a lot.
When you were talking all about those things, I just see that you are so cute, and at the same time strong. I like your personality - on these videos, because this is all I know about you - whether it is narcissist or not.
Oof at the end. Yeah. I had some insight for a friend who had what they described as a "near trigger"... and described heightened anxiety as the response. And I'm like... that's a less strong reaction, which is good, but not really a "miss"... but I have found those times valuable for finding out what self care works, because I'm still rational during such an episode, and if something isn't working, it's not a crisis.
And like... it helped them as it had me, reframes the situation putting one back in the driver's seat, with a solvable/manageable task that increases one's confidence in their coping/care strategies.
And I felt both happy to help, and sad for both of us.
every single nurse I've worked with has been resounding about hearing bed alarms, Ascom ringtones, IV pump alarms and screams for help while they're sleeping. I thought it was just a fun and quirky side effect of being in the healthcare field 😅
Love you Anna ❤💯
Having bpd is the closest you can come to hell. People romanticize it on the internet makes my skin crawl, while you wish you had "a cool disorder" people with bpd would give their left hand to not have it. Have you seen the statistics of people with bpd a t t e m p t i n g it's insane how big the numbers are. Saying you want "a cool disorder" is disturbing are honestly as someone with bpd quite offensive
Woah 😅 I wouldn’t give my left hand away
i took one book when i moved out to college, and it was yours
Sometimes you can be a "normal" person or just yourself, there isn't a personality disorder there. But people simply do not jive with you or like you. Or they change and they simply do not feel the same about you anymore. It hurts, but it is what it is. It also doesn't mean there is anything really wrong with them either or that they "don't have any trauma" like what you're saying at the end. They may very well have trauma as well or other issues, but because they are not connecting with you, they don't feel comfortable sharing that with you. It is just that they simply do not like you anymore and it's no real fault of your own. You can't change how they feel and it is better to let go. I'm a very emotional person, but once I learned how to let go of people who do not care about me, I was free.
Your therapist is right about the term "narcissist" - people just throw it around to define any behaviour they don't like. Meanwhile, it is actually a diagnosable disorder that is really not that common. Perhaps it is good that this friend group did not work out since they're very comfortable using those terms which highly contribute to stigmatizing those who are actually diagnosed. Perhaps not the best people to have in your life anyway.
This.
While people do have valid personality disorders, with the spread of people accusing others of having them as well as self-diagnosing oneself, it’s important to first consider maybe you’re fine & certain people just don’t like you (anymore) and that’s ok.
I’m a naturally positive and energetic person, I tell jokes and get passionate about certain topics. Folks at my workplace asked if I had ADHD or Autism. For awhile I wondered the same until I realized those people were chronically online & completely miserable, so it made sense why my vibe would be annoying to their group.
Fortunately, it’s normally appreciated by others & was never considered an issue or “mental illness” to anyone else ever.
As one of my friends is always saying "sometimes it's not a diagnosis. Sometimes people just are sh*t"
The fact that you went on a personal hunt to figure out if you were a narcists already told me you weren't a narcists. 🤣
Thank you for sharing your experiences so vulnerably, and normalizing regular and consistent therapy. If I could wish for a world peace and have to give the method of that path, it'd be that every single person would have access to their own personal therapist.
I also would like to reflect to you my agreement that if your "best friends" were unable to hold space for you and your PTSD, it was a brilliant piece of synchronicity to have that revealed to you. And I love how you arrived at "if they don't understand me, it's because they haven't had similar traumatic experiences, and I hope they never will." Sorry to say, that's like, the MOST un-narcissistic thing you could say. 😅 And it's profoundly awesome.
FYI - Not a good way to tell at all. It takes a trained professional months for a reason.
@@OmniscientlyMe Thank you for your input.
aww ily - i have complex ptsd too
After watching this, everything makes sense. Now it nice to know we have something in common. Insomnia and night terrors is me
My Personality is Good i Go on The Right Path to Become a New Better Version of Myself
I have CPTSD/anxiety. I did IFS therapy (which included a lot of Inner Child work), CBT didn't help me at all (I also like other modalities but haven't tried them myself: ACT, CFT, Person Centred Therapy and Positive Psychology). But to begin with, psychedelics (psilocybin) helped me to start the ball rolling so to speak (psychedelics didn't fix me: they just showed me what I need to work on). I know MDMA has been very effective in clinical trials for classic PTSD. Meds didn't help me at all, even tried ketamine in clinical setting and also ECT: no results. Meditation been very helpful. Finding out that I am an introvert. Doing MBTI (tested as INFJ/HSP). And other bits and bobs: reading a lot of psychology books (ones on the topic of forgiveness changed my life), journalling, good boundaries, meaningful work (I work in mental health), avoiding dopaminergic activities (reading about dopamine and understanding how it works helped).
Best advice I can give to anyone: talk to someone if you've been struggling. Ask for help. It's not a weakness: quite the opposite ❤
Similar path here: thank you for mentioning IFS. MDMA and 3-MMC, especially in a safe group setting, using IFS, and with people who have good enough self-regulation was a game changer for me.
PTSD is unique to us and our lived human experience and can be hard to explain to others who may not understand. The military gave me a lot of problems, but at least the feds are paying for the therapy. Hopefully you end up with a more supportive friend group. Sorry to hear this happened.
Anna, don't get confused between what people say you are and who you know you are. Love Xav
Anna you're doing great! (Just incase you needed to hear it!)
You are a survivor Anna, which already says a lot.
“Wouldn’t it be cool if I were a narcissist?”
Probably a narcissist.
A couple weeks ago i was diagnosed with high functioning autism + adhd , i was so relieved because so many pieced fitted together finally in my life. i will be starting some medication to help with the adhd part because i was struggling at work.
What the worst personality disorder of them all in our modern social media landscape? Boring personality disorder. Be a sociopath, be a narcissist, just don't be unengaging to audiences.