Yes. I left a 6 year relationship because he always prioritised his friends over our relationship and i always knew throughout the relationship I was second best and was never going to be enough. It broke me but I refuse to be someone second option. It didn’t matter how much I loved him, I was never going to be enough for him 😣💔
I remember being in high school and being so proud of my hairstyle after watching your tutorial the night before.. and still here now at 35 watching you go through life.. except this time I'm not proud of me, but proud of you. I'm so happy to see you come out on the other side of an unfortunate situation happier and stronger than ever. :)
Aliza...... thank you so much. Know your words mean the UNIVERSE to me. I'm so thankful to cross paths with such beautiful souls here. I'm the lucky one!!
Bubs I only wish the best for you! And you've been a integral part of my teenage life🤍 I just wanted you to know that You are so strong and inspirational. I've been here since I was 11. I'm now turning 21. Just know, we are always here for you🌺
Ok crying in 3 2 1... weagh... Your words really hit the feels for me. Thank you Meren. 21 is such a magical age. The world is your oyster my love. You're going to do INCREDIBLE things.
Although Isaac might not remember much of Tim being around the house, I'm sure he will know a lot more and understand a lot more about the separation than you realise, unlikely to ever verbalise it other than when he was playing with the dinosaurs and cried when Daddy dinosaur left the family. My parents split at age 4, I remember the conversation when they said he would no longer live at our home and how significant my life changed afterwards moving between houses and having separate holidays, so much so that the new normal erased whatever good memories I had of him in the home before the split. Children are much more canny than you think they will be.
Awk bless. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I completely agree with you that children are much more intuitive than you think. I also do believe there is a lot of resilience in them and as long as they continue to be raised with love, they can grow up happy and healthy too. I know there will be more questions to come in the future and as much as I dread the moment, I'll be ready for it.
I feel like I was a very optimistic child because I observed very little, I was the same age as you when my parents divorced and the news only made me excited to have 2 bedrooms. I never noticed any flaws in their relationship as they never argued with us around so it all happened very fast and painlessly. I've always felt glad they split as they both moved on well in life since and both kept up their 50/50 roles in my life. I think all these things combined made it so that even as a kid divorce was never something sad to me.
i remember watching you in my last year of elementary school (your bubbiosity comedy videos were my favourite LOL), now i'm turning 25 this year & getting married in june! your genuine heart & kindness has always radiated through your videos. you have so many people rooting for you & we are all so so proud of how far you've come. ❤️
I love you ♥ I've been watching you since I was in middle school and now I'm turning 23 soon. You've made a huge impact in my life and I'll forever thank you in my heart. You mean the world to me and I'm so happy for you. Please take care. ♥ I love you, domo, ayla, isaac and chubbi. ♥
Wenyu... thank you so much for your beautiful message. I have no doubt you have (and still are) grown to be such a beautiful soul. I'm so touched you kept me in your life and know I am forever thankful for you all in my heart too!!!
The most important for children of divorced parents is that the parents are happy 💜 My parents divorced when I was 7 and nothing of it really hurt me. What has hurt me in my life has been my mother's unhappiness. She stayed alone and she grew bitter and bitter to the point she became really abusive... I wish you the best and advice you to be happy! If you're happy you will always be a great mom
Aw, that is sad. It sounds like your mum was broken by the divorce. It is never to late to for her to get support and to find her own life again. Hard for you to live with your mums unhappiness.
I cried seeing your divorce video a couple years ago, but at the same time, it gave me hope that the people I care about will someday have the courage to leave their incompatible relationships too. Also, I can't believe your 35, I remember you just turned 30 like yesterday! I love growing up with you!
Bubs I’ve been here since 7th grade. I was 12 and now I’m 23. I’ve also found myself a single mom. I’m taking your advice to heart and look to you for single mom tips and what it’s like dating as a single mama. There’s not many people to look up to. Thank you I needed this.
I used to watch you with my friends when I was in middle school in Hong Kong. Now i’m in university in a new country and watching this has shown me how much life has changed for everyone. You’re such an inspiration bubz and we’re all so proud of u
Although i am not a mommy, its still very nice and encouraging to hear your words as I'm currently going through a breakup with someone who I've been with for 8 years. Thank you Lindy, for always giving unintentional advice from just sharing about your experiences. Love you tons! And wish nothing but a lifetime of happiness for you and the kiddos. ❤
Hi Maoshelly. I'm sorry you're currently going through a heartbreak. 8 years is a significant amount of time so know please be patient with your heart and healing. I'm very aware I'm an overshared but my hopes is nobody ever has to feel like they're alone in whatever they're experiencing. I don't know the reason for the breakup but I can only tell you the pain will be temporary. You got this!!
@@Bubzvlogz Thank you so much for the kind words Lindy. I appreciate you🥺 It's been hard... some days are harder than other... but im trying. Thank you Lindy❤❤❤
Hi Lindy! I believe you are one of the most inspirational people that I have ever watched on UA-cam. I’ve watched you for over 10 years now, starting when I was a teenager and now I’m 29. Thank you for doing what you do and overall just being you. You are amazing. Lots of love xx
Bubs I’ve followed you since I was 16.. i am now 26 and you’ve always been an inspiration to me. From DIY cutting up my shirts to relationship advice I’ve always loved your persona. Nothing but love from this side 🤍✨ Keep your head up love.
I've been watching you since I was in middle school, I'm almost 30 now and it's been such a journey following you and continuing to see your growth and resilience. Ayla and Isaac are so blessed to have a wonderful mother like you and while the future conversations will be difficult, you'll certainly have the strength and support to tackle those. I look forward to seeing you continue to chase your own happiness and dreams!
I feel like you're lucky to be able to go on dates and be yourself when you're able to get help from other's to look after the kids. I can't imagine the people that has no one around to help them and that would impact their possible chance of starting to date because you're always going to be with your kids.
So happy for your decision Lindy. You deserve to be happy and taken care of. I know a lot of kids growing up in divorced family and thriving in life. Bless you and your little family.
When you spoke about trying to drive your partner away b/c of your trauma and then saying he choose to stay really hit home. Though my situation is completely different then yours, being I simply suffer from depression since childhood from just being alive it feels like most days; i warned my partner even before getting together that when things "got bad" they " got BAD". Fast forward when things "got BAD" i told him " you still have a chance to leave, I dont think you truly realized what you signed up for." His reply was simply " That may be true but I dont want you going it alone." We now been together for 2 years and my depression is worse than its ever been but he has never left my side, he's taken the time to learn from my doctor appointments what he can do, what are my warning signs, he monitors my meds, is stupid protective and will always bring me my fur-babies to curl up with when feeling extra down hehe. Thank you for reminding me how lucky I am to have him in my life! I am so happy you're happy again. Wishing you and the family continued happiness♡♡♡
I remember watching you way before you had Isaac and now I'm 27 and getting very good real world advice. I'm so grateful that I stumbled across your channel when I did So proud of your journey ♡♡♡
I used to watch your tutorials as a teen. Many years later with my own children I just typed in your channel to see if it's still going. No idea you got divorced, I always thought you were very much out of Tim's league and that he was very lucky! I'm glad you're happy, that is the most important thing. 😊 Your new partner sounds lovely, and very high emotional intelligence. 🥰
Such an insightful and comforting video! I really enjoy when you sit down and talk in depth about a topic on your experiences. There's a lot of us who have different life paths and at the same time many that are the same. Although ours is different, I've always taken the underline message and morals of your stories into my own life. I'm in my mid twenties and I still look up to you, you taught me many things over the past decade and I'm grateful for that! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences ❤️
So amazing to see where you were back in 2020 and where you are now emotionally. I'm so happy to hear your positivity and just love how respectful you are despite what you've been through ♥️ My parents divorced when I was pretty young and aware of what was going on. It was awful and I suffered a fair amount of trauma from the fall out, but despite that my parents are still good friends to this day. Sometimes I wish they weren't, as my dad is still stuck in the past, still in love with my mum, so it's hard to see how painful it is for him, but I've always been thankful that my mum didn't stick it out for my sake as it could have been so much worse! Hope you, RG and Isaac and Ayla are doing well 🤗♥️ Thank you for being and endless fountain of positivity and inspiration!
My parents divorced when I was 5 or 6 and it was really hard on me, but mostly because we lived a pretty unstable life after that. I was angry at my parents for years, BUT: Now that I am older I fully understand why they had to get divorced. The relationship just wasn't good for either of them and now they both are having a much betterl life with lovely partners. I am super happy for both of them and glad it went they way it did :)
This video came at such a good time for me Lindy ☺️ I am still processing my breakup with someone who I thought was perfect for me in the beginning but things ended up differently and your advice is really helping me. Been watching your videos for more than 10 years and its really nice to see you progress through everything❤️ so happy we can post comments again!
Please be careful with mentioning your kids on dating Plattforms. There are People out there looking for that and I mean not in a good way 😞 Thank you for your perspective. I've been watching you for years and your story has helped me when I broke up with the father of our son ♥️ Love from Germany
Literally starting watching you when I was 12 (I'm 24 now) and I've always looked up to you. And I still do. So happy to see you moving on and living life. 💞
Love seeing your growth and how genuine you are about what you've gone through. I've been following you for over 10 years and it's reassuring to see you open up about this. I've gone through a divorce recently and these are all things you eventually think of. Even though things ended badly I'm glad I've gotten to the point where I realize it isn't my fault! Love you bubs
For the question on how to trust after heartbreak, I had gone through a terrible break up back in August last year that has left me with pretty intense traumas that I’m still working through, but I felt that what really helped the trust factor for me was dialing into the trust I have in the other people I love in my life. I was casually dating as a distraction but met someone that I had feelings for but it took a while to admit to myself because I honestly just wrote him off over and over again because I was in a space of trying to build walls to where I wouldn’t need to think about trusting him, which he also proved me wrong frequently that he was trustworthy and I was being stubborn. When going through this my friends would remind me to really focus on his actions and think to myself “If a current loved one of mine (friend or family) did this to/for me, would it add or take away from the relationship? How much? Would it even make a shift because of the trust you’ve built? Why did you build your trust with them? Is it something that this new person has also given to you as well? Essentially I just had to try to be really introspective and understand that the people that come in will all be different, which is what Bubz said, but this exercise is something I forced myself to do because I was starting to get scared that I would push him too far. And it helped to build a mutual trust for him to know that I was at least trying.
I really admire how you have embraced all stages of healing - the beautiful and the difficult. We're not super far apart in age but I STILL want to be you when I grow up 💕
It feels me with so much Joy seeing you so happy, I've been growing up with you since you lived in Hong Kong, I'm a brazilian and at the first I did not undertand a word, you were kinda of my english teacher hahaha, you are an a lovely soul and deserves only true happiness, you've acompleshed a lot, the school that you helped build, raise these amazing kids, and teach us the youtube fam the reality of Life. Hope RG really makes you happy! Gratitude is what I have for you, you are so strong that you inspire US to be like u, Lindy 😍🙏
Can I just say that your English is wonderful and most likely better than mine!! Well done lovely!! Thank you so much for going through these amazing experiences with me. I would NOT have been able to do those things without you all. May we continue to live grateful and peaceful.
I've been here since the video you made about washing your face with oatmeal :') I was a young teenager then HAHA and any hacks were always welcome. Now, I'm already in late 20s and getting engaged. So much has changed. Wishing you well and the start of the new beginning. God bless you always, Bubz!!! 😇💕
Thank you for being so vulnerable about your situation! I know you’re not obligated to share anything, but we do appreciate you for doing this. I’m so glad you’re in a better place ❤️
When kids are 3-5 divorcing is easier for them. The problem I think is when they are older. But either way, I'm so happy you could navigate the situation in a constructive way. Life and be hard sometimes, but you navigate through it with strength and kindness. I wish you the best of the best.
Thank you for this video, Bubz! It’s so helpful hearing your advice on how to start dating again in general, and how to trust after feelings of betrayal. I love how you put emphasis on “right person” not “right time” and on how they treat you matters more than how you like them
You're so genuine and such a beautiful soul. Truly wishing you the very best, Lindy. You and your children deserve so much joy, inner peace, and love. 🙏❤️
I love you Bubz! I started following you a long time ago and I have been through a lot too. Me and my ex husband separated about two years ago and we got divorced afterwards. I am currently enjoying my alone time and you have given me so much strength, teaching me what self love is and how it should be our priority. Stay blessed, love ❤️
this is wild.. seeing you grow up alongside me has been wild. i believe i started watching close to 10 years ago? i was 14 , wow.. feels just like yesterday! i'm happy to see you thriving. ♡
That was how I met my partner on Bumble and that was the reason I went on it too. I’m the same my partner has two children who will soon be my step children. It’s a lot taking on someone else’s kids but it’s so rewarding and I love them like they’re my own. I also understood that his kids would always come first and he appreciated that so much because a lot of others he had been with didn’t think like that. I love my little family and I wish you all the best Bubs xxx
Thank you bubz. I just started dating after almost 10 years and I find it really hard 😓. I think it’s really important to be with someone who treats you well even if the relationship isn’t serious. I talk to guys a lot who treat me poorly and I continue to go back to them... *sigh* I’m glad your relationship with RJ is going well and that you are taking care of yourself! Love you!! 💕
Bubs, you taught me how to do my eye makeup when I was in middle school. I loved all your makeup, dancing, painting videos - you are so so talented and sweet. And now you are helping me be less scared of dating post-breakup. I learned a lot from your perspective
it’s been awhile since i’ve watched you bubz! thank you for your insights, sometimes i feel pressured to get into a relationship bcos of society norms but this serves as a reminder for me! to be in a emotionally ready and ready to give space (‘:
I've been following you since I was in middle school, and I'm now pursuing my master's degree. I was drawn in by your cute makeup and hair tutorials and stayed to watch all of your vlogs. You are a multifaceted person who has been open about the difficulties of marriage, motherhood, and divorce, and you have worked extremely hard to achieve success. Your love for your kids shines through, and I truly hope you find love! Lindy, we see you, keep giving it your all, we love you!
I was like 17 or something, now I'm 31 😢❤ somehow your words always get to me 😭 LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE GIRLFRIEND! You deserve it!❤🎉 Thank you for always sharing your wise words with us❤
I thought cars overseas was mostly manual, it's interesting to me that yours is an automatic (or at least from what I can tell). But my reason to comment: Lindy you have been the big sister I've looked up too since I was in middle school/high school. I'm nearing 30 now and still find so much solace with things you talked about (and yes i miss your Bubbosity videos!). I may not have been married or have kids, but I left a decade+ long relationship 3 years ago a broken person, only stayed because my family taught me that a financially well off Chinese family was my road to happiness. Now the future is a giant unknown for me, but I am very hopeful and excited. True, I'm scared...but hearing you talk about yourself and your feelings is so comforting to me. I can never thank you enough for being you Lindy!
started watching u since primary and now I 'am 24 :"), suddenly remembering when i was still 13, had a oral examination for my English subject "who is your biggest inspiration", and you were the one that came to my mind
Hi bubz, I hardly ever comment because I am usually shy. Ive been a subscriber since your og bubz beauty channel. I've been watching you since i was in elementary school and as a lot of other commenters have mentioned about growing up, I am now 22. Ive always stuck around because you were one of the few youtubers that had a special energy to them that I could not pinpoint. But now that im older, i think the best way to describe it is that you emanate genuine, heartfelt, soulful energy. I really love this video - i was really anxious and couldnt seem to calm until i listened to the way you articulate your feelings and talk about how you manage your obstacles. Youre very inspiring bubz, i wish you all the best. I hope to foster as much resiliency as you do (working towards it at the moment). Sometimes you feel like a second mom to me, thank you 🧡
I think I'm so late to know about this divorce... A notification came to my phone about your new video and I was shocked reading the title... I've been following you since like 10 years ago, looking at you since you were Ms. to Mrs., etc. But these years I'm rarely into youtube... Omg... I'm so sorry, hope you're okay, we're here still supporting you though. Honestly I'm pro about divorce since I grew up in a family that always fighting in front of their kids, insisting to still together, that divorce is forbidden in our religion and only makes the family broken, and they keep together "for the sake of their kids". But now the kids growing up carrying trauma which the parent built in our lifetime, which makes all of us frightened about marriage.
Hey bubz! I’m revisiting your channel because I recently reconnected with a friend and we used to watch your videos together in high school! That was also around the time when my parents got a divorce. I remember my mom telling me how the image of her family and marriage became shattered in her head afterwards. It made me sad because I saw it as liberation for her as a woman and mother. Thanks for redefining what it is to be a divorcee and mother on behalf of my mom. She is still having trouble to this day (12 years later) but now she proudly shows off how much she does on her own, recognizing herself as an individual. Also lol Isaac was shouting “I KNOW” at the end to the person who asked about discussing divorce with the kids 😂. Lordt knows I knew as a kid.
I've watched you since my teenage years, Bubz. Im 24 now! You've been my older sister, every advice you've given I've always put them in my heart. I live alone most of my teenage years since my mom worked overseas, you were one of the voices that kept me company and in a way you helped me mature. Tbh i think i adapted how i speak from you, i always choose my words carefully idk how to explain it 😅 but yeah... i missed you so much bubz I'm happy and I'm so proud of you!!
Thank you for sharing your heart, your family life and being vulnerable to us. This vlog puts me back into different perspectives in life and relationships. I am reminded to take each stage in our adulthood life only when we are ready not what is expected. Keep going you are awesome! God bless you and your family! ♥️
Like so many others, I watched your beauty channel at a young age and binged your vlogs on a weekly basis. Fell off for the last few years but still follow along. I love watching you grow and you are just so wholesome and caring. Always giving great advice and so respectful. Love u bubz!
Bubz you are an inspiration! I've been watching you since I was a teenager 13 and im 26 now! I'll always support you! I'm so glad you're finding happiness 💖 and that the kids are doing amazing - you're a great mam! ❤
Bubs, we were pregnant about the same time with our older sons, I used to watch ur pregnant videos and it felt like we were going through it together even though we r strangers. I also enjoyed all the videos from ur 20s with the Korean drama ost in the background. I stopped a few years and was shocked to learn about ur divorce, at the same time, I was sadden by the news.you are a good person, as long as u r happy, we r at the age where many things don’t matter as much as being happy, healthy and cherishing the little worthwhile moments. Best wishes!
Hey love, I’ve been watching you since you were making skits, I’ve seen you grow & glow. You are so loved by many many people around the world. You’re doing better than ever, i love you!
well it makes a lot more sense now... because RG doesn't want his own kids, it's a better fit for him to be with a mom. he can have fun with the kids but the responsibility is halved.. i think it makes a lot of sense
Bubz, I have watched your videos and basically grew up with you since my teenage years. As many others have said, I also wish only the best for you and your family. From your videos, I really think Isaac and Ayla will be just fine. I'm so happy for you and so proud of how strong and independent you have become. I'm learning so much through you. So truly thank you for sharing your experience with all of us - bubscribers. ❤️
Waaaaa I haven't been here since your first child, that's so sadddd, its like a sitcom I haven't watched in a while and one of the characters left. Wild
Bubs I have watched your videos since I was 16 years old now 26 😅 I thank god for putting you into a right path and guiding your children along the way ❤️ So much love and respect for you bubs. im happy that you are in a happy place in your life. May god always continue blessing you and your family 🫶🏼 - Los Angeles, CA 📍
Words without action is just a manipulation , set boundaries , don't ignore red flags . I'm so regretful that I don't notice of these in my last relationship 😢 . Now I left him ...
I remember watching your videos from bubs beauty to when you had your first baby. I was pretty young I was probably around 15 now I’m 26. I literally feel like I grew up with you. I wish you the best Bubs ❤️💕
Wow haven't been watching your chanel for ages now what i read is that you are divorced! Another of my fav youtubers just got divorced and is a single mum of 2 kids like you. Keep figthing ! Life will get better soon and all bad memories will be gone.
Hi bubz. I don’t know what cosmic energy made me want to come check up on you? And I’m glad I did. I’ve watched you since 2010 cause of your humor and relatable personality. I know we are each going through our own journey of growth and healing. That seeing you now, still hanging in there strong and trying to assure your fans or people watching your videos. Of life changes and hardship and still keep moving forward. Thank you for this video about discussing on insecurities/relationships/co dependency on partners. As I’m struggling with my anxiety, insecurities within myself and my relationship. Like I don’t feel enough or worthy. Both of my sisters in different states are trying to help me and give me word of advice to heal myself. My older sister signed me up for Bible study group. And my little sister (also a Sagittarius ♐️) was sending me quotes and self help videos to heal. Then I saw you today speaking Similar topics I’m dealing with. Thank you for your assurance and god bless you and your family. That I hope you always happiness ☀️
I really want to thank you for sharing 🙏 your videos really helped me through trying to conceive and now I think I’ll be getting divorced soon too and you always sharing makes me feel less alone. Really, thank you.
Been watching you since i was 12 , now 22 with divorced parents at the age of 19 and an alcohlic sadly father Was eager to see your videos again and im so happy to see youre doing so amazing We re always here for ya
You were my first makeup tutorial, and the reason I created a youtube account so I could subscribe to your channel at age 15 :) It's amazing how as life goes on, your wisdom is still music to my ears and food for my soul. Your honesty helps me reflect on my own life and what's important to me. You're also the reason I watched Boys Over Flowers, so needless to say you've had a BIG impact on my life ;D Much love to you and your family
Omg, I watched your video since you were still in Hong Kong, and I was in my college year.... Now 36 still watching you silently, but see what you went through in life and still keeps thing positive. Keeps it up 👍👍👍👍👍
Thanks Kat. Life happened but I'm still here and smiling. I hope you have been well my love. It's completely fine to be out of touch with UA-cam. I am too myself lol.
I remember when I was in highschool and Id watch you and Michelle Phan’s beauty video. And then now you got kids, and I just got mine too. Wishing you all the best!
thanks for sharing, do what is right for you and no one can say is wrong as you do so much already. stay safe and know your kids are the best as you been an incredible mother ☺️☺️
Oml, I'm late but I just found out Lily petals got divorced and now Bubz video is saying she already got divorced 😭. Millennials, is divorce this common??
Waiiiiittt, I remember religiously watching you watching back in the day before kids. I stopped watching and randomly saw your microblading video on your tummy, now your divorced!! Omg
"How they treat you is more important than how much you like them" Yes. Thank you!
I had to rewind 5 times .... this one ... hurt but is so true
Yes. I left a 6 year relationship because he always prioritised his friends over our relationship and i always knew throughout the relationship I was second best and was never going to be enough. It broke me but I refuse to be someone second option. It didn’t matter how much I loved him, I was never going to be enough for him 😣💔
I remember being in high school and being so proud of my hairstyle after watching your tutorial the night before.. and still here now at 35 watching you go through life.. except this time I'm not proud of me, but proud of you. I'm so happy to see you come out on the other side of an unfortunate situation happier and stronger than ever. :)
Aliza...... thank you so much. Know your words mean the UNIVERSE to me. I'm so thankful to cross paths with such beautiful souls here. I'm the lucky one!!
Bubs I only wish the best for you! And you've been a integral part of my teenage life🤍 I just wanted you to know that You are so strong and inspirational. I've been here since I was 11. I'm now turning 21. Just know, we are always here for you🌺
Ok crying in 3 2 1... weagh... Your words really hit the feels for me. Thank you Meren. 21 is such a magical age. The world is your oyster my love. You're going to do INCREDIBLE things.
Loool me too like when i was 24 and i am now like 31
Omg me too!!!
Same. 14 -26 😅
Same!! From 12-23!
Although Isaac might not remember much of Tim being around the house, I'm sure he will know a lot more and understand a lot more about the separation than you realise, unlikely to ever verbalise it other than when he was playing with the dinosaurs and cried when Daddy dinosaur left the family. My parents split at age 4, I remember the conversation when they said he would no longer live at our home and how significant my life changed afterwards moving between houses and having separate holidays, so much so that the new normal erased whatever good memories I had of him in the home before the split. Children are much more canny than you think they will be.
Awk bless. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I completely agree with you that children are much more intuitive than you think. I also do believe there is a lot of resilience in them and as long as they continue to be raised with love, they can grow up happy and healthy too. I know there will be more questions to come in the future and as much as I dread the moment, I'll be ready for it.
What she said 👆
I feel like I was a very optimistic child because I observed very little, I was the same age as you when my parents divorced and the news only made me excited to have 2 bedrooms. I never noticed any flaws in their relationship as they never argued with us around so it all happened very fast and painlessly. I've always felt glad they split as they both moved on well in life since and both kept up their 50/50 roles in my life. I think all these things combined made it so that even as a kid divorce was never something sad to me.
i remember watching you in my last year of elementary school (your bubbiosity comedy videos were my favourite LOL), now i'm turning 25 this year & getting married in june! your genuine heart & kindness has always radiated through your videos. you have so many people rooting for you & we are all so so proud of how far you've come. ❤️
When you said it’s okay to call yourself a divorcee, I just teared up. You’re such a beautiful soul Lindy💜
I love you ♥ I've been watching you since I was in middle school and now I'm turning 23 soon. You've made a huge impact in my life and I'll forever thank you in my heart. You mean the world to me and I'm so happy for you. Please take care. ♥ I love you, domo, ayla, isaac and chubbi. ♥
Wenyu... thank you so much for your beautiful message. I have no doubt you have (and still are) grown to be such a beautiful soul. I'm so touched you kept me in your life and know I am forever thankful for you all in my heart too!!!
Bubz, you made my teenage years. I’m 24 now. I wish you love & luck in life
The most important for children of divorced parents is that the parents are happy 💜 My parents divorced when I was 7 and nothing of it really hurt me. What has hurt me in my life has been my mother's unhappiness. She stayed alone and she grew bitter and bitter to the point she became really abusive...
I wish you the best and advice you to be happy! If you're happy you will always be a great mom
Aw, that is sad. It sounds like your mum was broken by the divorce. It is never to late to for her to get support and to find her own life again. Hard for you to live with your mums unhappiness.
I hope you dont mind bit what happened with her and her ex husband?? I am not updated...sorry
@@khoannekrysllene They broke up like 2 years ago. He wasn't really supportive of her and their children from the very beginning
I cried seeing your divorce video a couple years ago, but at the same time, it gave me hope that the people I care about will someday have the courage to leave their incompatible relationships too. Also, I can't believe your 35, I remember you just turned 30 like yesterday! I love growing up with you!
What happened?
Bubs I’ve been here since 7th grade. I was 12 and now I’m 23. I’ve also found myself a single mom. I’m taking your advice to heart and look to you for single mom tips and what it’s like dating as a single mama. There’s not many people to look up to. Thank you I needed this.
I used to watch you with my friends when I was in middle school in Hong Kong. Now i’m in university in a new country and watching this has shown me how much life has changed for everyone. You’re such an inspiration bubz and we’re all so proud of u
Although i am not a mommy, its still very nice and encouraging to hear your words as I'm currently going through a breakup with someone who I've been with for 8 years. Thank you Lindy, for always giving unintentional advice from just sharing about your experiences. Love you tons! And wish nothing but a lifetime of happiness for you and the kiddos. ❤
Hi Maoshelly. I'm sorry you're currently going through a heartbreak. 8 years is a significant amount of time so know please be patient with your heart and healing. I'm very aware I'm an overshared but my hopes is nobody ever has to feel like they're alone in whatever they're experiencing. I don't know the reason for the breakup but I can only tell you the pain will be temporary. You got this!!
@@Bubzvlogz Thank you so much for the kind words Lindy. I appreciate you🥺
It's been hard... some days are harder than other... but im trying.
Thank you Lindy❤❤❤
Unintentional advice fr Bubz is the best. Thank you Bubz for all that you do!
omg same here (just 6 years tho) .... its my first breakup and i thought - how can one survive this pain :( this video also helped a lot
When you talked about feeling vulnerable 7 months in, I felt that, I tearer up, and you’re so right. Thank you for normalising my emotions
*big hugs*. You're so loved and never ever alone, Jasmine.
Hi Lindy! I believe you are one of the most inspirational people that I have ever watched on UA-cam. I’ve watched you for over 10 years now, starting when I was a teenager and now I’m 29. Thank you for doing what you do and overall just being you. You are amazing. Lots of love xx
Bubs I’ve followed you since I was 16.. i am now 26 and you’ve always been an inspiration to me. From DIY cutting up my shirts to relationship advice I’ve always loved your persona. Nothing but love from this side 🤍✨
Keep your head up love.
Saying your a mom can make you an easy target to child abusers. Be careful. This is something you should disclose after you message them
I've been watching you since I was in middle school, I'm almost 30 now and it's been such a journey following you and continuing to see your growth and resilience. Ayla and Isaac are so blessed to have a wonderful mother like you and while the future conversations will be difficult, you'll certainly have the strength and support to tackle those. I look forward to seeing you continue to chase your own happiness and dreams!
I feel like you're lucky to be able to go on dates and be yourself when you're able to get help from other's to look after the kids. I can't imagine the people that has no one around to help them and that would impact their possible chance of starting to date because you're always going to be with your kids.
Do you think she doesn’t feel lucky?
So happy for your decision Lindy. You deserve to be happy and taken care of. I know a lot of kids growing up in divorced family and thriving in life. Bless you and your little family.
When you spoke about trying to drive your partner away b/c of your trauma and then saying he choose to stay really hit home.
Though my situation is completely different then yours, being I simply suffer from depression since childhood from just being alive it feels like most days; i warned my partner even before getting together that when things "got bad" they " got BAD". Fast forward when things "got BAD" i told him " you still have a chance to leave, I dont think you truly realized what you signed up for." His reply was simply " That may be true but I dont want you going it alone."
We now been together for 2 years and my depression is worse than its ever been but he has never left my side, he's taken the time to learn from my doctor appointments what he can do, what are my warning signs, he monitors my meds, is stupid protective and will always bring me my fur-babies to curl up with when feeling extra down hehe.
Thank you for reminding me how lucky I am to have him in my life!
I am so happy you're happy again. Wishing you and the family continued happiness♡♡♡
So proud to see how far you’ve come mama! You deserve all the happiness and congratulations on your new journey! ❤️
I remember watching you way before you had Isaac and now I'm 27 and getting very good real world advice. I'm so grateful that I stumbled across your channel when I did
So proud of your journey ♡♡♡
I used to watch your tutorials as a teen. Many years later with my own children I just typed in your channel to see if it's still going. No idea you got divorced, I always thought you were very much out of Tim's league and that he was very lucky! I'm glad you're happy, that is the most important thing. 😊 Your new partner sounds lovely, and very high emotional intelligence. 🥰
Such an insightful and comforting video! I really enjoy when you sit down and talk in depth about a topic on your experiences. There's a lot of us who have different life paths and at the same time many that are the same. Although ours is different, I've always taken the underline message and morals of your stories into my own life. I'm in my mid twenties and I still look up to you, you taught me many things over the past decade and I'm grateful for that! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences ❤️
Her videos are like a hug for my soul. She is such a peacefull human being.
So amazing to see where you were back in 2020 and where you are now emotionally. I'm so happy to hear your positivity and just love how respectful you are despite what you've been through ♥️ My parents divorced when I was pretty young and aware of what was going on. It was awful and I suffered a fair amount of trauma from the fall out, but despite that my parents are still good friends to this day. Sometimes I wish they weren't, as my dad is still stuck in the past, still in love with my mum, so it's hard to see how painful it is for him, but I've always been thankful that my mum didn't stick it out for my sake as it could have been so much worse! Hope you, RG and Isaac and Ayla are doing well 🤗♥️ Thank you for being and endless fountain of positivity and inspiration!
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My parents divorced when I was 5 or 6 and it was really hard on me, but mostly because we lived a pretty unstable life after that. I was angry at my parents for years, BUT: Now that I am older I fully understand why they had to get divorced. The relationship just wasn't good for either of them and now they both are having a much betterl life with lovely partners. I am super happy for both of them and glad it went they way it did :)
This video came at such a good time for me Lindy ☺️ I am still processing my breakup with someone who I thought was perfect for me in the beginning but things ended up differently and your advice is really helping me. Been watching your videos for more than 10 years and its really nice to see you progress through everything❤️ so happy we can post comments again!
Please be careful with mentioning your kids on dating Plattforms. There are People out there looking for that and I mean not in a good way 😞
Thank you for your perspective. I've been watching you for years and your story has helped me when I broke up with the father of our son ♥️
Love from Germany
Amen sister. *applauds* This mama is extremely protective. I waited 10 months before I introduced RG to the kids.
Literally starting watching you when I was 12 (I'm 24 now) and I've always looked up to you. And I still do. So happy to see you moving on and living life. 💞
Love seeing your growth and how genuine you are about what you've gone through. I've been following you for over 10 years and it's reassuring to see you open up about this. I've gone through a divorce recently and these are all things you eventually think of. Even though things ended badly I'm glad I've gotten to the point where I realize it isn't my fault! Love you bubs
For the question on how to trust after heartbreak, I had gone through a terrible break up back in August last year that has left me with pretty intense traumas that I’m still working through, but I felt that what really helped the trust factor for me was dialing into the trust I have in the other people I love in my life. I was casually dating as a distraction but met someone that I had feelings for but it took a while to admit to myself because I honestly just wrote him off over and over again because I was in a space of trying to build walls to where I wouldn’t need to think about trusting him, which he also proved me wrong frequently that he was trustworthy and I was being stubborn. When going through this my friends would remind me to really focus on his actions and think to myself “If a current loved one of mine (friend or family) did this to/for me, would it add or take away from the relationship? How much? Would it even make a shift because of the trust you’ve built? Why did you build your trust with them? Is it something that this new person has also given to you as well?
Essentially I just had to try to be really introspective and understand that the people that come in will all be different, which is what Bubz said, but this exercise is something I forced myself to do because I was starting to get scared that I would push him too far. And it helped to build a mutual trust for him to know that I was at least trying.
I really admire how you have embraced all stages of healing - the beautiful and the difficult. We're not super far apart in age but I STILL want to be you when I grow up 💕
It feels me with so much Joy seeing you so happy, I've been growing up with you since you lived in Hong Kong, I'm a brazilian and at the first I did not undertand a word, you were kinda of my english teacher hahaha, you are an a lovely soul and deserves only true happiness, you've acompleshed a lot, the school that you helped build, raise these amazing kids, and teach us the youtube fam the reality of Life. Hope RG really makes you happy! Gratitude is what I have for you, you are so strong that you inspire US to be like u, Lindy 😍🙏
Can I just say that your English is wonderful and most likely better than mine!! Well done lovely!! Thank you so much for going through these amazing experiences with me. I would NOT have been able to do those things without you all. May we continue to live grateful and peaceful.
I've been here since the video you made about washing your face with oatmeal :') I was a young teenager then HAHA and any hacks were always welcome. Now, I'm already in late 20s and getting engaged. So much has changed.
Wishing you well and the start of the new beginning. God bless you always, Bubz!!! 😇💕
Thank you for being so vulnerable about your situation! I know you’re not obligated to share anything, but we do appreciate you for doing this. I’m so glad you’re in a better place ❤️
When kids are 3-5 divorcing is easier for them.
The problem I think is when they are older.
But either way, I'm so happy you could navigate the situation in a constructive way. Life and be hard sometimes, but you navigate through it with strength and kindness. I wish you the best of the best.
Thank you for this video, Bubz! It’s so helpful hearing your advice on how to start dating again in general, and how to trust after feelings of betrayal. I love how you put emphasis on “right person” not “right time” and on how they treat you matters more than how you like them
You're so genuine and such a beautiful soul. Truly wishing you the very best, Lindy. You and your children deserve so much joy, inner peace, and love. 🙏❤️
I love you Bubz! I started following you a long time ago and I have been through a lot too. Me and my ex husband separated about two years ago and we got divorced afterwards. I am currently enjoying my alone time and you have given me so much strength, teaching me what self love is and how it should be our priority. Stay blessed, love ❤️
this is wild.. seeing you grow up alongside me has been wild. i believe i started watching close to 10 years ago? i was 14 , wow.. feels just like yesterday! i'm happy to see you thriving. ♡
That was how I met my partner on Bumble and that was the reason I went on it too. I’m the same my partner has two children who will soon be my step children. It’s a lot taking on someone else’s kids but it’s so rewarding and I love them like they’re my own. I also understood that his kids would always come first and he appreciated that so much because a lot of others he had been with didn’t think like that. I love my little family and I wish you all the best Bubs xxx
Thank you bubz. I just started dating after almost 10 years and I find it really hard 😓. I think it’s really important to be with someone who treats you well even if the relationship isn’t serious. I talk to guys a lot who treat me poorly and I continue to go back to them... *sigh* I’m glad your relationship with RJ is going well and that you are taking care of yourself! Love you!! 💕
Bubs, you taught me how to do my eye makeup when I was in middle school. I loved all your makeup, dancing, painting videos - you are so so talented and sweet. And now you are helping me be less scared of dating post-breakup. I learned a lot from your perspective
it’s been awhile since i’ve watched you bubz! thank you for your insights, sometimes i feel pressured to get into a relationship bcos of society norms but this serves as a reminder for me! to be in a emotionally ready and ready to give space (‘:
I've been following you since I was in middle school, and I'm now pursuing my master's degree. I was drawn in by your cute makeup and hair tutorials and stayed to watch all of your vlogs. You are a multifaceted person who has been open about the difficulties of marriage, motherhood, and divorce, and you have worked extremely hard to achieve success. Your love for your kids shines through, and I truly hope you find love! Lindy, we see you, keep giving it your all, we love you!
I was like 17 or something, now I'm 31 😢❤ somehow your words always get to me 😭 LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE GIRLFRIEND! You deserve it!❤🎉 Thank you for always sharing your wise words with us❤
Lindy, i love watching your content
RG seems to be such a lovely man. I am happy for you, Lindy 💕
Ahhhh I love you Lindy. Your strength is palpable. I’m so glad you’ve found someone that is on your wavelength. ❤️❤️
I thought cars overseas was mostly manual, it's interesting to me that yours is an automatic (or at least from what I can tell).
But my reason to comment: Lindy you have been the big sister I've looked up too since I was in middle school/high school. I'm nearing 30 now and still find so much solace with things you talked about (and yes i miss your Bubbosity videos!). I may not have been married or have kids, but I left a decade+ long relationship 3 years ago a broken person, only stayed because my family taught me that a financially well off Chinese family was my road to happiness. Now the future is a giant unknown for me, but I am very hopeful and excited. True, I'm scared...but hearing you talk about yourself and your feelings is so comforting to me. I can never thank you enough for being you Lindy!
started watching u since primary and now I 'am 24 :"), suddenly remembering when i was still 13, had a oral examination for my English subject "who is your biggest inspiration", and you were the one that came to my mind
Hi bubz, I hardly ever comment because I am usually shy. Ive been a subscriber since your og bubz beauty channel. I've been watching you since i was in elementary school and as a lot of other commenters have mentioned about growing up, I am now 22. Ive always stuck around because you were one of the few youtubers that had a special energy to them that I could not pinpoint. But now that im older, i think the best way to describe it is that you emanate genuine, heartfelt, soulful energy. I really love this video - i was really anxious and couldnt seem to calm until i listened to the way you articulate your feelings and talk about how you manage your obstacles. Youre very inspiring bubz, i wish you all the best. I hope to foster as much resiliency as you do (working towards it at the moment). Sometimes you feel like a second mom to me, thank you 🧡
Bubs, I am so happy you are in a stronger and healthier state! 🥺
Sending you blessing!!! 😘
I love how you didn’t shade Tim even if he did you wrong. Classy 💛
what did tim do?
@@mylda1003 I can’t confirm or deny, but I believe there was a third party. Among other things of course.
I think I'm so late to know about this divorce... A notification came to my phone about your new video and I was shocked reading the title... I've been following you since like 10 years ago, looking at you since you were Ms. to Mrs., etc. But these years I'm rarely into youtube... Omg... I'm so sorry, hope you're okay, we're here still supporting you though. Honestly I'm pro about divorce since I grew up in a family that always fighting in front of their kids, insisting to still together, that divorce is forbidden in our religion and only makes the family broken, and they keep together "for the sake of their kids". But now the kids growing up carrying trauma which the parent built in our lifetime, which makes all of us frightened about marriage.
Hey bubz! I’m revisiting your channel because I recently reconnected with a friend and we used to watch your videos together in high school! That was also around the time when my parents got a divorce. I remember my mom telling me how the image of her family and marriage became shattered in her head afterwards. It made me sad because I saw it as liberation for her as a woman and mother. Thanks for redefining what it is to be a divorcee and mother on behalf of my mom. She is still having trouble to this day (12 years later) but now she proudly shows off how much she does on her own, recognizing herself as an individual. Also lol Isaac was shouting “I KNOW” at the end to the person who asked about discussing divorce with the kids 😂. Lordt knows I knew as a kid.
Thank for this video Bubz! You’re so level-headed and it’s refreshing. I’m so happy for you and glad to hear you are doing good.
I've watched you since my teenage years, Bubz. Im 24 now! You've been my older sister, every advice you've given I've always put them in my heart. I live alone most of my teenage years since my mom worked overseas, you were one of the voices that kept me company and in a way you helped me mature. Tbh i think i adapted how i speak from you, i always choose my words carefully idk how to explain it 😅 but yeah... i missed you so much bubz I'm happy and I'm so proud of you!!
Thank you for sharing your heart, your family life and being vulnerable to us. This vlog puts me back into different perspectives in life and relationships. I am reminded to take each stage in our adulthood life only when we are ready not what is expected. Keep going you are awesome! God bless you and your family! ♥️
"Words without action is just manipulation" it's so true.
Like so many others, I watched your beauty channel at a young age and binged your vlogs on a weekly basis. Fell off for the last few years but still follow along. I love watching you grow and you are just so wholesome and caring. Always giving great advice and so respectful. Love u bubz!
The part about trusting yourself in order to trust others. I needed to hear that
Bubz you are an inspiration! I've been watching you since I was a teenager 13 and im 26 now! I'll always support you! I'm so glad you're finding happiness 💖 and that the kids are doing amazing - you're a great mam! ❤
Bubs, we were pregnant about the same time with our older sons, I used to watch ur pregnant videos and it felt like we were going through it together even though we r strangers. I also enjoyed all the videos from ur 20s with the Korean drama ost in the background. I stopped a few years and was shocked to learn about ur divorce, at the same time, I was sadden by the news.you are a good person, as long as u r happy, we r at the age where many things don’t matter as much as being happy, healthy and cherishing the little worthwhile moments. Best wishes!
Hey love, I’ve been watching you since you were making skits, I’ve seen you grow & glow. You are so loved by many many people around the world. You’re doing better than ever, i love you!
Bubz I’ve been watching you since 1st year of secondary school and I’m still here 8 years later in 2nd year of university! Love you so much!
well it makes a lot more sense now... because RG doesn't want his own kids, it's a better fit for him to be with a mom. he can have fun with the kids but the responsibility is halved.. i think it makes a lot of sense
Bubz, I have watched your videos and basically grew up with you since my teenage years. As many others have said, I also wish only the best for you and your family. From your videos, I really think Isaac and Ayla will be just fine. I'm so happy for you and so proud of how strong and independent you have become. I'm learning so much through you. So truly thank you for sharing your experience with all of us - bubscribers. ❤️
I loved this! I always appreciate how respectful you speak of your ex! You always act and speak with such grace 🙌🏻
Waaaaa I haven't been here since your first child, that's so sadddd, its like a sitcom I haven't watched in a while and one of the characters left. Wild
Bubs I have watched your videos since I was 16 years old now 26 😅 I thank god for putting you into a right path and guiding your children along the way ❤️ So much love and respect for you bubs. im happy that you are in a happy place in your life. May god always continue blessing you and your family 🫶🏼
- Los Angeles, CA 📍
Words without action is just a manipulation , set boundaries , don't ignore red flags . I'm so regretful that I don't notice of these in my last relationship 😢 . Now I left him ...
You’re amazing Lindy!! I love your honesty and vulnerability 🤍
I remember watching your videos from bubs beauty to when you had your first baby. I was pretty young I was probably around 15 now I’m 26. I literally feel like I grew up with you. I wish you the best Bubs ❤️💕
Wow haven't been watching your chanel for ages now what i read is that you are divorced! Another of my fav youtubers just got divorced and is a single mum of 2 kids like you. Keep figthing ! Life will get better soon and all bad memories will be gone.
Hi bubz.
I don’t know what cosmic energy made me want to come check up on you? And I’m glad I did.
I’ve watched you since 2010 cause of your humor and relatable personality.
I know we are each going through our own journey of growth and healing.
That seeing you now, still hanging in there strong and trying to assure your fans or people watching your videos. Of life changes and hardship and still keep moving forward.
Thank you for this video about discussing on insecurities/relationships/co dependency on partners. As I’m struggling with my anxiety, insecurities within myself and my relationship. Like I don’t feel enough or worthy.
Both of my sisters in different states are trying to help me and give me word of advice to heal myself. My older sister signed me up for Bible study group. And my little sister (also a Sagittarius ♐️) was sending me quotes and self help videos to heal.
Then I saw you today speaking Similar topics I’m dealing with. Thank you for your assurance and god bless you and your family.
That I hope you always happiness ☀️
'words without action is just manipulation' you are not wrong about that Bubz
I really want to thank you for sharing 🙏 your videos really helped me through trying to conceive and now I think I’ll be getting divorced soon too and you always sharing makes me feel less alone. Really, thank you.
Never ever settle! You were always out of your ex’s league both physically and mentally
Been watching you since i was 12 , now 22 with divorced parents at the age of 19 and an alcohlic sadly father
Was eager to see your videos again and im so happy to see youre doing so amazing
We re always here for ya
Thank-you for all of your wise words Bubs. 💕 Everything feels so genuine and compassionate when they come from you.
You were my first makeup tutorial, and the reason I created a youtube account so I could subscribe to your channel at age 15 :) It's amazing how as life goes on, your wisdom is still music to my ears and food for my soul. Your honesty helps me reflect on my own life and what's important to me. You're also the reason I watched Boys Over Flowers, so needless to say you've had a BIG impact on my life ;D Much love to you and your family
why did bubz and tim divorce? OMG I haven't seen bubz videos in forever!!! ):
I started watching you when I was 15/16 now I’m just turned 24 😎 and I love you bubz keep being kind and loving
Omg, I watched your video since you were still in Hong Kong, and I was in my college year.... Now 36 still watching you silently, but see what you went through in life and still keeps thing positive. Keeps it up 👍👍👍👍👍
I dont know what happened because I was out of UA-cam for years but I hope you're doing well now Lindy and I will always be here to support you. 😊💞
Thanks Kat. Life happened but I'm still here and smiling. I hope you have been well my love. It's completely fine to be out of touch with UA-cam. I am too myself lol.
You’re the big sister we all grew up watching 💕
Remember this bubz you will find love again in the future dont stop believing
Hi bubz!! Watching this while sick in bed because your videos make me feel better!
I'm so sorry you're feeling under the weather. I hope you feel much much better soon my love!
I remember when I was in highschool and Id watch you and Michelle Phan’s beauty video. And then now you got kids, and I just got mine too.
Wishing you all the best!
Thank you for this video Lindy, it was really nice hearing you. Do more q&a videos!
Can we all call RG, Archie? I keep hearing Bubz say Archie 😍
You've been so strong Lindy 🥺❤️
Bubz you’re such a beautiful human being! You deserve nothing but the best ❤️❤️❤️
thanks for sharing, do what is right for you and no one can say is wrong as you do so much already. stay safe and know your kids are the best as you been an incredible mother ☺️☺️
Oml, I'm late but I just found out Lily petals got divorced and now Bubz video is saying she already got divorced 😭. Millennials, is divorce this common??
I haven’t watched u since ur first child was vvv young! I missed so much, but I’m wishing u and ur family the best!
Waiiiiittt, I remember religiously watching you watching back in the day before kids. I stopped watching and randomly saw your microblading video on your tummy, now your divorced!! Omg