Of course, we would probably be noticeably less materialistic in the US if our focus was more oriented toward international travel. Traveling more, especially internationally, gives rise to thoughts about _moving,_ which gives rise to thoughts about what one has that one doesn't really need.
I hate when Americans think they can correct me about German things because their Grandma is from Germany or something, so they clearly know everything about my country. I was only born here and live here, so what do I know… 🙄 Edit: Most Americans are not like this of course!!. Many Americans are truly interested and open minded. Maybe that needs to be said, because… reasons. But it has happened to me. I was told by Americans that it’s not safe to give birth in Germany because of our healthcare system and that there are more Syrians than Germans in my country and Germans are afraid to leave their homes because of all the Syrians and that all Germans do wear Dirndls but only on special occasions - and in all of these three cases they thought they knew better than me although I had told them that I am German. Born here, raised here, live here. It’s really fascinating to me that they thought they know better.
Come on now. You Germans do the same thing. You think you know all about America and are quick to tell us how we are wrong about what we believe in and how we feel about our country. You love to tell us how more logical you do things over there and how we do things that are wrong. That’s funny to me as an American.
Comes down to jealousy. They are not happy with their own lives. I used to know an American woman living here who told her sister she was going to Paris for the weekend and her sister freaked out with jealousy. It must be THE dream for a lot of Americans.
I don't even understand why anyone would respond in a negative way to the information that one travelled to far away places, lived abroad and speaks a second language fluently because of that. It would just make me feel very interested to hear about all the cool experiences or share my own in exchange if I had some.
That is a good one. I think it is deliberate by the US that flights from the US cost more then flights to the US. Keep the people in the country so they can spend the money there and not abroad (Plus, they don't see that other countries might be better). I know that pretty much all of my US family members could not afford to pay and take a 2 weeks trip to Europe, whereas all of my German family and friends have visited the US multiple times. Believe me, I keep my mouth shut when these things come up, or when everybody thinks the US is the best country in the world. I just sit there and smile😃
Being interrogated about speaking another language sounds so crazy. It's also a great pity that people make other people feel bad about accomplishments, anstatt das zu feiern oder einfach zu ignorieren. (See, I pulled a Hayley there. 😅) LG aus Österreich P.S. I've been to Germany, Italy, Hungary, Finland, the UK, Czech Republic, Slovenia and Japan and don't consider myself actuaĺly widely travelled.
Whenever I'm in America and I hear someone speaking German, I'm delighted. I soak it in. At our National Parks we've encountered so many Germans, who speak English to us, "Thank you" and we say, "Bitte sehr" and they just laugh. It's bliss.
In Europe it's also something ordinary to go shopping in other countries because it's a car ride (of less than 45 minutes in my case - from Slovenia) to Italy, Austria, Hungary (1,5h) and Croatia. If you feel like it, you could take a train for 20 - 25 € no big deal.
Wow, dass ist starker Tobak. Maybe that's exactly why we Germans are rather distant at the beginning. Some people have it written on their forehead, "Be careful! This person only causes stress..."
Languages are international, I don`t understand why some people have a problem with that. Germany is also very international and many different languages are spoken,which I really like. Many are married to a man or woman from abroad. People should say what they want.😉
@@AnnaLee33....and not only that. They have no understanding at all for a different culture. They might have never even traveled to s different state in the states. I have seen more from the USA, when I lived iverseas, but fo not even see the state I am living in. Bc Americans do live to work, Europeans work to be able to live well and explore. Logic: Otherwise there would not be the UNITED STATES of AMERICA in existence.
Like why the hell would anyone get offended or angry that you speak German or visited other countries. It doesn't make any sense. People can be really strange my God.
I saw I clip a while ago where an american girl goes absolutly nuts in the airplan (or train not sure anymore) just because 2 Tourist guys near her spoke German
I’m biased so I probably shouldn’t be commenting here, but from my perspective this is just some general US behavior believe it or not. I’m a U.S. American born and raised and immigrated to Mexico btw, those are my credentials, and the US breeds in you this crazy competitive streak where you’re supposed to be better than everyone in everything and if you aren’t then you feel this need to tear the other person down. Mind you this isn’t true of everyone, but it is for those who have this sense of inferiority and superiority at the same time. I also think that her being mixed may have something to do with it, because how dare someone like her get to travel and live in another country? Just my take on it. And I’m not one of those people I described with the personality issues, I’ve just encountered my fair share. Have a great day!😁
@@nrnexusrising i see so one of the reasons is basically just racism. Man, this is really sad that some people feel the need to put other people down just to feel better about themselves 😔
@@luciazaviacicova3594That was also my first thought. How can a young woman with a little darker skin travel to a faraway country and learn the language there?
Beeing from the northern half of Germany I never conciously noticed that Oktoberfest actually starts in September until I was 30+ and lived in the Stuttgart area down south for while
Oktoberfest was in October, because of better weather condition it was moved to September and ends on the first Sunday in October (or, new, on 3rd of October if it is after the first Sunday).
Hey, I'm a German who only speaks English as a second language, but my sister has much more extensive language skills. She also speaks Norwegian, among other languages. And by now you know Germans well enough to know that we don't like being randomly approached. We were once at a restaurant, and my sister decided to annoy me by speaking only in Norwegian (we were in the planning phase of a trip to Oslo, and she really wanted me to learn the language). We also had this situation where some stranger came up and asked her what language she was speaking. Surprised but not impolite, she truthfully said, "Norwegian." He continued to ask, "Aha, so you're not German then?" We didn't like his tone at all; it almost sounded accusatory. So, she told him that she had fallen off a fishing boat as a child and, contrary to expectations, she wasn't a mermaid (even though she could swim really well). She was then swept by the current to Denmark but thought it was Germany. So, she first learned Danish until she realized it wasn't Germany. After that, she bid farewell to her new foster family and moved on to Hamburg, where she found the fishing boat she had fallen off 19 years ago. Our father was still working on that very boat, and... It took the guy quite a while to realize that she was completely messing with him. But I could hardly contain my giggles. Maybe this will help you next time you're in such a situation to "react German" and just not give a damn what random strangers think about you. The guy eventually left, grumbling and cursing.
As a German, I have to say two things: Mike is also not the most polite of all Germans. And no, he is not an a-hole! He's just one of these guys who are very straight forward, even for Germans. At least that is what has come across in the videos with him that I have seen. Also, I get you in a way. But all this is not only difficult to explain to Americans ... it is also fascinating for me as a German how these things are such an issue for you. By now I know enough about America (never been there, though) to kind of have an incling what bothers you - but I guess some of it is really hard to put into words. Anyway, I feel I've learned a lot about American society through this video. Thank you!
Danke, Arno, dir auch! Ich hoffe, ihr habt am Bodensee auch das passende Wetter dazu und keine Unwetter! Hier ist es heute auch wieder sehr sonnig und sehr warm! Mein Frau und ich waren Donnerstag in Hamburg im Miniatur Wunderland! Geht ja jetzt alles, da kein Hund mehr da ist. 5 Stunden! Es war picke, packe voll, wie nicht anders zu erwarten! Und toll! Meine Frau hat sich 5 Stunden den Mund fusselig geredet, und ihr so viel wie möglich zu beschreiben! Sie ist halt einfach die beste aller Ehefrauen! Liebe Grüße aus dem sonnigen warmen Ahrensburg Ben Sprachausgabe deaktiviert Sprachausgabe an❤😊
@@tasminoben686 Hi Ben und die beste aller Frauen! Ein Mann der Kishon noch zu schätzen weiß! 👍Hier war nicht schlimmun heute meist schön. Formel 1 genossen im MiWuLa?
I feel the same but as an American living in Austria. I hate the personal questions and interrogation in social situations here and I too choose to just lie or dodge the questions.
It feels invasive❗️ rude. Every time. The question: Where are YOU from? alone is very impolite and sets you outside the front door again no matter how long you live in the USA and have the citizenship. People in Europe do NOT ASK such questions, they accept you the way you are, and if you want to tell where you are from, you do on your own time and will. It is not squeezed out of you.
@@rich-ard-style6996This isn’t true. In London people even go so far as to ask Americans where are you from? When you say the state you’re from the say no where are your people from? They want to know where your ancestors are from. I think that’s rude and very intrusive. If I say I’m from the state that I was born and raised in that should be enough.
My wife and I don't distinguish who's money it is. Put it in the bank and go from there! We talk about frivolous expenditures and decide together! It's been working for 48 yrs and we see no reason to change.
Travelling around just to show that you can afford that - what's the point? In my opinion it doesn't matter where you've been, only which experiences and impressions you've gained from travelling. And noboby can take that away from you. Concerning Oktoberfest, I'm wondering how many fail to visit it because they get there in October, yet too late. Hayley, Mike, kind regards from the Schwobaländle! Enjoy a good time!
OMG Hayley, you should have really told us what the situation was where everybody was thinking the same thing and Mike was the only person saying it. That made me so curious 😅
@@HayleyAlexis moin, über manche Leute kann man einfach nur den Kopf schütteln! Danke für das Video, interessant, wie immer! Ich hoffe, ihr habt schönes Wetter dieses Wochenende! Hier ist es erstaunlich warm und sonnig gewesen. Die ganze letzte Woche! Liebe Grüße und schönen Pfingstsonntag aus Ahrensburg Ben❤😊
Reminds me of the time, when Hayley reached out to a "German social club" or some such thing in Florida and was denied to join, bc it was only for peeps of "German heritage". Like "Mandy-Lou Schutterschlotter" whose three times removed great great grand uncle came over in the 1800s. (Btw, she apparently would have been the only one, who actually spoke the language and had lived there.) 🤷♀️🤦♀️
In the US, especially when it comes to heritage and identity, German culture is "coded." Genealogically speaking, 1/4 of my ancestors trace back to areas now in Germany. I never learned to speak German but, as a child, I was able to follow conversations my grandparents were having and would reply in English. Where I live the German clubs are very much about identity and are rife with unpacked white supremacy. They are not the wholesome, family-friendly community spaces they portray themselves as... a place to enjoy a beer with "like minded" folks and dance a polka with the grandkids. (The latter part can happen but there's an entire context to it too.) I won't step foot in those places. Another heritage thing is being a Mayflower descendent. Through my maternal side alone I descend from seven Mayflower passengers. (I have relatives big into genealogy.) I don't tell people this due to all the attitudes and beliefs associated with those stake their identity in being Mayflower descendants. It's a bummer too because they offer college scholarships to descendants. If I had more time, I might just apply. If I got the money, I could donate it to some anti-colonialist cause. LOL
Hayley and all the other non-Germans who actually lived here and speak the language are more German than anyone else with German roots in the USA. They can keep their club thing😂
I think why so many Americans are obsessed with heritage is because we move all over the place, way more than people who live in Europe. So, most europeans know where they come from, Americans really don’t, so we kind of cling on to heritage. I saw that the vast majority of Germans never leave the area they were born in, except to travel
Yeah Hayley, I believe you when you`re saying Mike`s NOT an asshole for being honest. Germans are honest - and sometimes the truth hurts and not everybody likes to hear it, I`ve been here almost 35 years, and I `ve gotten used to that, really. Splitting costs: Yeah.. I`ve always been an advicate for that because I believe in fairness. Back when I was engaged - and even before we did, it was always: I buy this - you pay for that kinda thing. And sometimes, explaining that to people you don`t know well about how you run your relationship - or that in general - after a while gets tiring - and for some maybe "none of thier damn business" - So I understand whyy you don`t always want to explain it. Oktoberfest issue: Yeah I only found that out about 10 years ago.. because I never could remember - or I simply didn`t pay attention about the September-October thing. It was like whereever one was - you went. Travel issue: I have a good suggestion for you Hayley.. The nest time a woman gets bitchy about Munich and asks you for any recommendation.. just send her to the Kotzhügel.. lol
Maybe she should even say to her colleague Mr. Nasty: I would recommend you see Kotzhügel, it is a nice place I have heard.🤣😂😂🤣I have never had chance to see it though😂🤣 and my chances are low to ever experience it. But maybe you will get lucky , mrs. Nasty. 😂🤣
Oh yes, be it this being-abroad topic or veganism or being married to a woman with Turkish background - I almost never bring it up myself. But more than often, somebody else mentions it and forces a conversation topic on me that is nothing more than annoying for me ...
I am not vegan but I do try to have 1-2 vegan days in the week and when I tell people this (it could be in Germany as well) they always ask how it is possible....
@@HayleyAlexisI don't see why anyone would ask these questions . It is no big deal and anybody's choice. Greetings from an Austrian who has lived in the US and travelled a lot of countries ... 😅
Oh wow, how do you get away with saying that you never left Florida? That must be hard to do 😀 I never understand, why people are so envious when other people can do something they can't or have been somewhere they haven't. But yeah, I can understand why you keep things to yourself.
You have to realize this is for Haley and Haley only. I live in South Florida (Haley is in bass ackwards Central Florida). People in my area are either from a different country or they have jumped onto a cruise ship or flight somewhere outside the US last minute because it was so cheap. This is what happens when you live not to far from the top 3 busiest airport in Florida (this means Miami).
I should say bass akwards means "in a manner contrary to what is usual, expected, or logical." Parts of Northern Florida and parts of Central Florida is bass ackwards.
@jessicaely2521 I am really tired of you lying under my videos. I do not live in Central Florida nor have I ever lived in central Florida. I am from South Florida and live in South Florida- just like you.
@jessicaely2521 also Miami is a horrible airport that isn't that cheap. By the time you calculate the stress involved with using that airport it is not a decent option- just like LAX or ATL- they are horrendous airports
I had this guy from the USA tell me that the houses in Spain also have wood in them (the frame) I have lived here for 30 years, and have owned 2 homes….”I have lived here for 30 years, sir🤫🤫🤫I know…..you do not” 🤯🤯🤯
Yeah.... People that have never experienced it won't understand. It happened to Mike and I recently here and he was quite upset. I had to laugh because I am so used to it that it no longer bothers me.
@@HayleyAlexis Did you know that an American (Orange...something) is using you as an example of how you can't live well in Germany and that's why you're back in the US?😂
Liebe Hayley, Deine Haare sehen so toll aus! Du bist so schön! Und klug! Und ich kann diese "probing questions" gut verstehen, es ist mir mit Amerikanern auch schon so ergangen! Ich war manchmal sprachlos welche privaten Fragen ich gefragt wurde, zB nach der Finanzierung meines Studiums in den USA, -- wen geht das bitte was an? Und das Schlimmste für mich war, dass mich viele Amerikaner nach Hitler ausgefragt haben! Ob es stimmt, dass wir in der Schule nichts davon hören. Ob ich wüßte wer das sei. Usw!! Geht es Mike auch so?
Oh mein Gott, das habe ich auch schon erlebt, aber nicht von Amerikanern - ich glaube es war eine Nord-Irin. Die Verbrechen der Nazis würden doch sicher verschwiegen in Deutschland... das genaue Gegenteil! Wir haben in der Schule (Geschichtsunterricht in den 60ern) fast nur über die Verbrechen im 3.Reich gelernt, bis wir es nicht mehr hören konnten. Erst relativ kürzlich habe ich gelernt, dass z.B. Stalin auch nicht viel besser war.
Denen hätte ich erzählt, das Holocaust Überlebende in die Schulen eingeladen wurden, um ihre Geschichten den jungen Menschen zu erzählen, um zu vermeiden , dass das jemals wieder geschieht. Und fas stimmt ja auch, auch wenn es nicht möglich war, das mit allen Schülern zu machen. Ich habe selber erst sehr spät in Abendklassen darüber gelernt.
I lived in Germany twice in my life 3 years each time. Also in Korea for 3 years and after the military move to Florida So I can relate have the same experiences with some Americans used as a way to divide themselves from others by letting everyone know their income, education, travel experiences and anything else to used to discriminate against each other. Because you come from humble beginnings, ethnicity, education, income ect. Is frustrating when your experience all those experiences enriched yourself by it, learn, grow and also meet lovely people in your travels that they still your friends but come to America share your ideas and experiences rather to be happy for you they make you ashamed of it and how dare you! you’re not deserve to have those opportunities and you’re in our reality now and should be yours too. Don’t dare to dream of more. Anyway end up moving to SC and having a better and peaceful way of life, considering moving to Germany at some point. Missing those farmers markets too , economically affordable education and healthcare compared to the USA. Move to SC people are a little nicer here. But unpleasant people are everywhere. But keep sharing your ideas always happy to see your videos.
With Oktoberfest, maybe it helps to explain sth like: Christmas time is the time leading up to christmas; Oktoberfest is the time leading up to a date in october. That time span naturally is partly in september.
German here. I´m on an international technical forum. And even on technical discussions I´ve experienced Americans don´t believe in law of physics. They rather tend to believe in random hobbyists and tinkerers informations than on schools and science. Even if they have no proove. They only believe what they like to believe and ignore everything else. And yes - I know not all Americans are like this. And you may find such people all over the world. Americans like to be the best in the world, and I have to agree, they are the best ... in this regard. ;-)
The "Oktoberfest" example: Just leave them stupid. If they don't want to learn, not your problem. (Isn't that actually very typical American thinking?)
And soooo many people say, “oh, Americans aren’t judgmental,” honey give me an effing break! And I can say that with certainty because I’m a U.S. American and I know all too well how they can be after growing up and living there for almost 70 years. I now live in Mexico where the people tend to just be kind generally, at least that’s my experience after 4 years of living among them. Have a beautiful day all!
You seem to be one of the kindest, nicest people Hayley. You would be welcome in Canada anytime. BTW, it’s not really cold everywhere or all the time 😂😂.
I just like you, Hayley. For what you say from 11:39 I love you. This just speaks to me on so many levels and personally I’m gratful that you addressed this. Good for you, well done for living your live and doing your thing, absurd that people love to interfere with that but like you say, not worth the stress. Really enjoy your attitude, style and vids! Wishing you and Mike all the best 😊
I'd never thought about this before, the concept of celebrating a festival/holiday at the point just before it exists, so Tanz ins Mai on April 30 and Oktoberfest - both are celebrations before the actual arrival of the calendar date. Is that a German thing? It contradicts the superstition of wishing happy birthday before the actual date. So confusing! Ideas?
To add some more examples: We celebrate Christmas Eve instead of Christmas, and St Nicholas' Eve is arguably more important in terms of ritual than the day itself. Also, obviously, New Year's Eve, but that is not specifically German. Also, Easter bonfires are more often than not lit the night before Easter, even though that varies somewhat depending on the region. One major influence may actually be Judeo-Christian: In Jewish culture, a new day starts at sundown, i.e. the night is actually first half of the day. That's why Jews celebrate Erev Shabbat, the Eve of Sabbath, and also why Catholic churches usually have their first mass of the weekend on Saturday evening (or, more generally, the eve of a holiday, as in the case of Christmas). What's also important is the idea of celebrating a threshold, which usually means, celebrating in the evening and at least past midnight. This is true with Tanz in den Mai, New Year's Eve obviously, and Midsummer Night celebrations in Nordic countries. There may be some Germanic roots to be found as well, but that's not my area of expertise. Oktoberfest seems to be a slightly different matter, as the traditional date of the festival seems to have been in October, as Hailey mentioned, which was changed to late-September/early October for economical reasons. The threshold character may have been used as a rationale for keeping the traditional name though.
I think it is common to share but not a 50/50 split. A lot of times the stereotypical "man" will have the biggest share of bills compared to the stereotypical "woman"
Split bills nd costs as a couple. Sadly this goes both ways. Being born and grown up in Germany to Croatian parents, I've come to live with 2 cultures and having to combine them to my own. However, as much as I dislike women, who expect that the man should pay for everything in return for " a pretty face" I as well dislike men, who thibk they are the patriarch. I've had to put women in their place, when they told me to date a man, because "he's got money" or "he's driving a Porsche" or being told as 20yo pretty girl "to go on vacation to Sylt to find a million, because they are there looking for trophy wifes". To them I've said, that I would ratherchave man men riding a bicycle treating me with love and respect and, if I want a Porsche so badly, I would work hrd and buy one, or at least rent one for a week. Men who thaught to be "progressive" and "modern" despite growing up in a "macho" culture and accepting that women getting higher education and well paid jobs is enough emancipation but not being aware, that they do not transfer this thinking onto their private relations I politely made aware how it would be rather finacially stupid to make the better earner stay at home instead of becoming a "housmen" and take care of the children. Some were shocked, some were pissed, but a few DID start thinking about it. What ever lifestyle you chose, make sure, your partner is on the same page, but do not expect for one second, that anybody is owing you anything. Let alone finansing your life.
Hi Hayley. You should be proud to speak another language. It is sad that you feel like you have to hide it. Also I love how open you are when it comes to taking from other cultures what you feel enriches your life. I'd say brush of stupid comments and just be yourself. Exploring the world is not all about money but about curiosity and dedication. I love your videos.
I am dating a German too and I have to pay for atleast half...I was completely shocked when after 5 years dating he finally asked me to a resturant and offered to pay for both of us! LOL I tolerate this because in Germany this is "normal" But to be honest I really miss not the mans money but the feeling of value it gives you when he is prepared to spend it on you! Spending money is hard....So it shows me how valuable my time is for him. Outside of a commited relationship it is often the only way you know the ma is not just "using you". I miss American men, but since I have lived in Germany since 20056 there is no way I am going back to the USA now.
I also think this video is on the funny side because I'm 20, 25% German & my German side comes out (LOL) and I can be direct / honest sometimes; don't care if you like or what you think of me. I said that cause I used to be bullied, people would drag me down & make me feel bad about myself.
I first travelled to the US in 1982 as a student. On a party somebody asked me where I was from. I told them Germany. A few drunk guys immediately freaked out and shouted at me "So you´re a fucking communist". They really wanted to punch me in the face. I tried to explain that there were 2 Germanies at the time, one western where I was from and 1 eastern communist one. They never heard of that and I really had a hard time surviving that situation. Well, there was no Google at that time plus it was at the top of the cold war.
Smart ass question would be to ask , hey, why is the Oktoberfest in September, what determined the change and when? No more tourists? Weather too cold up north to be funny? I mean, something has got to have changed. What do you think?
As a German girl, I don't understand women who expect men to pay for everything at all. That's so selfish and also, don't these women have any sense of self worth and independence at all? I am proud of the things I can afford with my own money and I love being able to treat my loved ones...
Weeeell, who does it hurt if you refrain from saying Oktoberfest begins in September? All those fools who listen to those foolish claims, plan their Germany trip around going to Oktoberfest, and then finding out the hard way that it is either over already or they've arrived on the very last days. Mind you, not doing a little research before going on a long distance trip and expecting everything to be as in your imagination is a pretty good wakeup call for some people. 😁 Others, on the other hand, might drop straight from obnoxious right into Ultra-Karen mode. We don't need more of those here; we got more than enough. 😂 Sooo, maybe, rethink your stance on giving them a piece of your mind. It might actually save some people quite some trouble.
Why does the Oktoberfest not take place in Oktober? For a reason every American will understand: Better business! The Oktoberfest took place for the first time on October 12, 1810 as a horse race on the occasion of a royal wedding. After it was so entertaining, another horse race was held there the next year, and each time the festival continued to grow. But in the middle of October, the weather in Munich can be very, very unpleasant. At the end of the 19th century the decision was made to extend the festival and move it to September, guaranteeing nicer weather and more profit.
That with the travelling and language skills seems like Americans just constantly want to one-up each other and compete in everything basically for ego instead of just being happy for the other guy. Makes even the good things go sour in your mouth.
I hated Saltzberg... The city is beautiful but I felt like I was in Beverly hills or something..Everyone was in designer clothes from head to foot and completely styled...even in my best clothes I felt like a beggar there!🤣
The main reason Americans can’t travel internationally is 1) no vacation time 2) priorities: people blow all there money on McMansions & luxury cars, and other stupid stuff.
I'd say, Europe nowadays consists of 'united states', even if the political system is different from the USA. I travel (Western) Europe perhaps once a year, and I don't really feel like travelling 'abroad'. The only difference is - the myriad of languages.
People think it's "not your place" to travel or know anything about other countries. You are constantly running into people that don't wish you well. Your part of Florida does not seem like the best place for "certain kinds" of people.
I either attract very kind people or very rude people. Mike says it is just the curse of me and that he has never experienced people being so rude and unprovoked to others like he sees people in the USA towards me. I am a hate or love person.... Hate is an easier emotion to feel :)
Those last videos of you, I often thought, you do not sound like an American, you sound like an Adult instead. And I wrote Adult with a capitable A on purpose.
It might be, that floridians have THAT attitude. I didn't meet such people in MI. WE SPEAK also the two languages. The people here start talking about their German heritage and when they have been in Germany and how much they loved it. I would/could not care less about those negative jealous people you are mentioning, maybe I would start bragging to shut those negativies up, that want to make others feel bad about being themselves.
According to Wikepedia, 'Oktoberfest' DID originally start in October - I mean, I DO believe you when you say 'Oktoberfest' starts in September nowadays- maybe some Americans of German ancestry have ancestors that LIVED in Bavaria in 1810. It says that in the late 19th century the 'fest' was moved to September. I am aware of the fact that some people who travel to Europe (and Germany) like to treat the trip as someting exotic. I do know someone who claims to know all about Germany, although she had not ever been to Germany in the early 80's. She had know knowledge of German whatsover, so she ended up being extremely bored when it came to a family reunion in Germany. Fortunately, most Americans I had the pleasure to meet in California were all open minded, and one has to take into consideration that traveling to Europe IS a luxury, and I did not deal with wealthy people on a daily basis. North America is a world of its own, and I am sure you remember how is was, Hayley, as you actually grew up there. My cousin lives pretty close to Canada, but she is not the least bit interested in taking a trip there, plus the fact that there are 4 seasons where she lives. And in the northern United States and Canada, it can get extremely cold. You are always going to stand out when you speak to someone in a foreign language, i.e. German. There was a guy at Barne's and Noble that asked me what kind of dialect I was speaking when talking to a friend on WhatsApp in Germany. I told him it was good ol' 'standard German' and it was an interesting converation. Like I said, most people I dealt with were not wealthy people. in my experience, people the not so wealthy are among the most interesting people to talk to.
I wish my girlfriend (she is living in California) would see this. But if it was me forwarding this video to her, she would be already offended again. It is an ongoing struggle for both of us right now. I don't think that she will begin to understand the cultural differences unless she has moved here (Ruhrgebiet) and lived here for a while. If it works out, that chapter will start in August this year. I tried to tell her, that a good deal of our arguments have their roots in cultural differences. She wont have any of that and keeps complaining about me being just rude. Oftentimes she is upset because what I did or said is perceived as rude by her. From my point of view she is oftentimes overly sensitive to a lot of things and has a lot of sensitivities that she expects me to tiptoe around. At the same time she is showing behaviour sometimes that I (I am German btw) do perceive as ignorant, entitled and outright disrespectful. She thinks of those as here personal freedom. The concept that one persons freedom ends where another persons freedom starts seems to be somewhat difficult to understand for her. It is in general pointless to argue with someone who is willfully ignorant and refuses to educate him- or herself. So she will have to find out herself. And hopefully we will figure things out as time goes by. Either both of us at some point begin to learn and understand, or it's gonna be a fail. The thing is: what's rude in the US is not necessarily rude in Germany and vice versa. And if I am a guest in the respective other country, it's good pratice to learn about what is considered to be appropriate and try to blend in as goold as you can. Thank you for this video, it kinda saved my day!
You could send her clips from other channels that tackle the US/Germany culture differences, but are quite tame/funny, especially their shorts. LaEdwards_Family (German wife and US husband, lived together in the US and moved to Germany just now) Uyen Ninh (Vietnamese girl, who moved to Germany to be with her boyfriend) or @liamcarps (Brit, who lives in Germany). All are wholesome, comedic and deal with the German way of life, not really criticising the American one bzw. the one of of their origin. It may be easier for her to listen to that, before "graduating" to Hayley and Nalf for example. And if your gf isn't interested in things about the country she's going to move to, "dann kann ich ihr auch nicht helfen." 😉
Maybe send her some videos from Brittany Allaine. They deal with German/US cultural differences as well, but don't go that deep. Good luck to you and your gf!
All of this sounds like, in the land of the free, the loudmouths take their freedom in putting down everybody else. What German translation would you suggest for that kind of entitlement? Yeah, sure, Mike can be brash, but it's a friendly kind of brash whereas the local knowitalls you have talked about in this video who are just not worth the hassle of having to deal with them, are an unfriendly kind of brash.
I used to live in the US for a while and absolutely agree that envy and showing off is a big thing. Mine is better faster larger more expensive ….than yours.
Makes me kind of sad that people cant just accept that you can speak german. After all, everyone can learn a language if they want to do it an dedicate the time and effort into it. This reminds me of your bad experience at the "german club" where they could not wrap their racist heads around the fact that you just ... learned german, lived and germany and know more about german culture than they will ever know. 😅 Its so weird how on one hand many americans are very into genaology and claim to be german or irish because of their great grandparents but also dont want to ever leave the usa and experience the culture they claim to be a part of.
I love that you internalised that US citizens call themselves American and that you keep pointing it out. 😂 I remember your early videos where you kept saying "American" and people kept telling you in the comments that America is bigger than just the US and that you should consider the correct term when doing your videos 😂
It seems like you've unfortunately run into some envious people. So sad. Those people are wasting their life being envious of you and Mike. Also, that one lady from work is a snob. Like you've said, who cares where she's been. Nobody has asked her. I've been to Germany, mainly Berlin. I have friends there, but I navigate by myself alot now. Anyway, if I've mentioned a trip of traveling to Berlin, some of my friends here may ask what I've eaten there. Many times I mention I've had burgers and pizza and some friends don't believe me. They seem to think that the whole of Germany only eats Bavarian food. I also get the price question. Isn't Germany really expensive. I tell them it's cheaper than flying in the US, especially if you go in the fall. They don't seem to believe me on that either. Anyway, next time you and Mike are back in Germany, have a great time traveling the EU and enjoying Octoberfest in September!😊❤
Who does it hurt?! Imagine you've been kidnapped with all of your friends and the sick bastard who did it is hosting a torture game show, where you have to answer trivia questions correctly or else they will hurt your friends and then they ask "does Oktoberfest start in October" and you'll be like "doh, obviously smart-ass, it's in the name!" and then all your friends will get tortured! That's who gets hurt: All your friends!
4:20 seems to be a real Bavarian thing. Because the major rest of Germany couldn’t care less about the Oktoberfest. Ask a Ruhrpottler, a Berliner, a Thüringer or a „Nordlicht“ from Kiel (they can probably tell you more about some Danish festivals) about the exact dates of Oktoberfest and I’m sure they’d be as clueless as your US fellows. ☀️
@@HayleyAlexis that's why I said: "major rest of Germany". Really culture wise, language wise (meaning dialect), custume wise, religion wise, landscape wise... a Barvarian might have more in common with an Austrian than someone from the far north of Germany and vise versa. So I'm trying to point out, that Bavarians are very particular about their culture which might not necessarily relate/translate to the rest of the country. And Oktoberfest is just the pinacle of Bavarian culture. So not all of us are aware of when and how and why (regarding dates) it actually takes place. Ps: 78% Germans have never been to the Oktoberfest.
Still does not relate to the video or what I said. I brought up that it is difficult to explain to us citizens that Oktoberfest starts in September. You brought up that the “rest of Germany” could care less about Oktoberfest. Nonetheless if they do or do not care- it is part of German culture.
@@HayleyAlexisit related in the sense of your description about us citizens being so surprised Oktoberfest starts in September and not in Oktober. My point is, that also many of us Germans wouldn’t know that. Then you continued talking about it being hard to explain us citizens that in fact it already starts in September. My answer was not relating to that. Of course Bavaria is a part of Germany, I was not questioning that.
Equal pay is better than relying on men paying for women’s bills. Young people in Europe are way less materialistic.
Of course, we would probably be noticeably less materialistic in the US if our focus was more oriented toward international travel. Traveling more, especially internationally, gives rise to thoughts about _moving,_ which gives rise to thoughts about what one has that one doesn't really need.
I hate when Americans think they can correct me about German things because their Grandma is from Germany or something, so they clearly know everything about my country.
I was only born here and live here, so what do I know… 🙄
Edit: Most Americans are not like this of course!!.
Many Americans are truly interested and open minded. Maybe that needs to be said, because… reasons.
But it has happened to me. I was told by Americans that it’s not safe to give birth in Germany because of our healthcare system and that there are more Syrians than Germans in my country and Germans are afraid to leave their homes because of all the Syrians and that all Germans do wear Dirndls but only on special occasions - and in all of these three cases they thought they knew better than me although I had told them that I am German. Born here, raised here, live here. It’s really fascinating to me that they thought they know better.
Come on now. You Germans do the same thing. You think you know all about America and are quick to tell us how we are wrong about what we believe in and how we feel about our country. You love to tell us how more logical you do things over there and how we do things that are wrong. That’s funny to me as an American.
Comes down to jealousy. They are not happy with their own lives. I used to know an American woman living here who told her sister she was going to Paris for the weekend and her sister freaked out with jealousy. It must be THE dream for a lot of Americans.
Ha, ha, ha,and I thought that we Germans are the Besserwisser. 😂
I don't even understand why anyone would respond in a negative way to the information that one travelled to far away places, lived abroad and speaks a second language fluently because of that. It would just make me feel very interested to hear about all the cool experiences or share my own in exchange if I had some.
That is a good one. I think it is deliberate by the US that flights from the US cost more then flights to the US. Keep the people in the country so they can spend the money there and not abroad (Plus, they don't see that other countries might be better). I know that pretty much all of my US family members could not afford to pay and take a 2 weeks trip to Europe, whereas all of my German family and friends have visited the US multiple times. Believe me, I keep my mouth shut when these things come up, or when everybody thinks the US is the best country in the world. I just sit there and smile😃
Being interrogated about speaking another language sounds so crazy. It's also a great pity that people make other people feel bad about accomplishments, anstatt das zu feiern oder einfach zu ignorieren. (See, I pulled a Hayley there. 😅)
LG aus Österreich
P.S. I've been to Germany, Italy, Hungary, Finland, the UK, Czech Republic, Slovenia and Japan and don't consider myself actuaĺly widely travelled.
Whenever I'm in America and I hear someone speaking German, I'm delighted. I soak it in. At our National Parks we've encountered so many Germans, who speak English to us, "Thank you" and we say, "Bitte sehr" and they just laugh. It's bliss.
In Europe it's also something ordinary to go shopping in other countries because it's a car ride (of less than 45 minutes in my case - from Slovenia) to Italy, Austria, Hungary (1,5h) and Croatia. If you feel like it, you could take a train for 20 - 25 € no big deal.
I'm Swedish. Been to Oktoberfest twice in the 90s and I loved it. Both times in September... 😂
born German, never been there, its to far away from Northern Germany!
and i only speak German or English!!
I am German, from the north, never been there in my life ( pretty long lifespan by now. lol)
@@ViviNorthbell dafür haben wir die Kieler Woche 😄
Hayley taming the Bavarian beast ! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
(... sorry Mike, just couldn't hold back)
Speaking as a U.S. American, there are so many Americans that REALLY embarrass me!
I'm sorry that you have to deal with this.
Wow, dass ist starker Tobak. Maybe that's exactly why we Germans are rather distant at the beginning. Some people have it written on their forehead, "Be careful! This person only causes stress..."
Languages are international, I don`t understand why some people have a problem with that. Germany is also very international and many different languages are spoken,which I really like. Many are married to a man or woman from abroad. People should say what they want.😉
Many Americans usually don't speak a second language. It's luxury. A class issue.
@@AnnaLee33....and not only that. They have no understanding at all for a different culture. They might have never even traveled to s different state in the states. I have seen more from the USA, when I lived iverseas, but fo not even see the state I am living in. Bc Americans do live to work, Europeans work to be able to live well and explore. Logic: Otherwise there would not be the UNITED STATES of AMERICA in existence.
„I hope you enjoyed the video, if not I can’t help you“ 😂😂❤
Like why the hell would anyone get offended or angry that you speak German or visited other countries. It doesn't make any sense. People can be really strange my God.
I saw I clip a while ago where an american girl goes absolutly nuts in the airplan (or train not sure anymore) just because 2 Tourist guys near her spoke German
I’m biased so I probably shouldn’t be commenting here, but from my perspective this is just some general US behavior believe it or not. I’m a U.S. American born and raised and immigrated to Mexico btw, those are my credentials, and the US breeds in you this crazy competitive streak where you’re supposed to be better than everyone in everything and if you aren’t then you feel this need to tear the other person down. Mind you this isn’t true of everyone, but it is for those who have this sense of inferiority and superiority at the same time. I also think that her being mixed may have something to do with it, because how dare someone like her get to travel and live in another country? Just my take on it. And I’m not one of those people I described with the personality issues, I’ve just encountered my fair share. Have a great day!😁
@@nrnexusrising i see so one of the reasons is basically just racism. Man, this is really sad that some people feel the need to put other people down just to feel better about themselves 😔
@@DanielAnke this is insane. I am shocked
@@luciazaviacicova3594That was also my first thought. How can a young woman with a little darker skin travel to a faraway country and learn the language there?
Beeing from the northern half of Germany I never conciously noticed that Oktoberfest actually starts in September until I was 30+ and lived in the Stuttgart area down south for while
Oktoberfest was in October, because of better weather condition it was moved to September and ends on the first Sunday in October (or, new, on 3rd of October if it is after the first Sunday).
... a german with a french cousin that have a spanish sister in law... basicly european royals but it dosnt mean you cant fight your cousin in ww1
Hayley's Besserwisser-face is the best 😆
Hey, I'm a German who only speaks English as a second language, but my sister has much more extensive language skills. She also speaks Norwegian, among other languages. And by now you know Germans well enough to know that we don't like being randomly approached. We were once at a restaurant, and my sister decided to annoy me by speaking only in Norwegian (we were in the planning phase of a trip to Oslo, and she really wanted me to learn the language).
We also had this situation where some stranger came up and asked her what language she was speaking. Surprised but not impolite, she truthfully said, "Norwegian." He continued to ask, "Aha, so you're not German then?" We didn't like his tone at all; it almost sounded accusatory. So, she told him that she had fallen off a fishing boat as a child and, contrary to expectations, she wasn't a mermaid (even though she could swim really well). She was then swept by the current to Denmark but thought it was Germany. So, she first learned Danish until she realized it wasn't Germany. After that, she bid farewell to her new foster family and moved on to Hamburg, where she found the fishing boat she had fallen off 19 years ago. Our father was still working on that very boat, and...
It took the guy quite a while to realize that she was completely messing with him. But I could hardly contain my giggles.
Maybe this will help you next time you're in such a situation to "react German" and just not give a damn what random strangers think about you.
The guy eventually left, grumbling and cursing.
People's ignorance in USA would kill me... I couldn't stand it and I I would not be able to shut my mouth.
Congratulations, you're 100% german😂
That's our american German girl . 😅.
As a German, I have to say two things: Mike is also not the most polite of all Germans. And no, he is not an a-hole! He's just one of these guys who are very straight forward, even for Germans. At least that is what has come across in the videos with him that I have seen.
Also, I get you in a way. But all this is not only difficult to explain to Americans ... it is also fascinating for me as a German how these things are such an issue for you. By now I know enough about America (never been there, though) to kind of have an incling what bothers you - but I guess some of it is really hard to put into words.
Anyway, I feel I've learned a lot about American society through this video. Thank you!
Schöne Pfingstfeiertage!
Danke, Arno, dir auch! Ich hoffe, ihr habt am Bodensee auch das passende Wetter dazu und keine Unwetter! Hier ist es heute auch wieder sehr sonnig und sehr warm! Mein Frau und ich waren Donnerstag in Hamburg im Miniatur Wunderland! Geht ja jetzt alles, da kein Hund mehr da ist. 5 Stunden! Es war picke, packe voll, wie nicht anders zu erwarten! Und toll! Meine Frau hat sich 5 Stunden den Mund fusselig geredet, und ihr so viel wie möglich zu beschreiben! Sie ist halt einfach die beste aller Ehefrauen! Liebe Grüße aus dem sonnigen warmen Ahrensburg Ben Sprachausgabe deaktiviert Sprachausgabe an❤😊
@@tasminoben686 Hi Ben und die beste aller Frauen! Ein Mann der Kishon noch zu schätzen weiß! 👍Hier war nicht schlimmun heute meist schön. Formel 1 genossen im MiWuLa?
I feel the same but as an American living in Austria. I hate the personal questions and interrogation in social situations here and I too choose to just lie or dodge the questions.
It feels invasive❗️ rude. Every time. The question: Where are YOU from? alone is very impolite and sets you outside the front door again no matter how long you live in the USA and have the citizenship. People in Europe do NOT ASK such questions, they accept you the way you are, and if you want to tell where you are from, you do on your own time and will. It is not squeezed out of you.
@@rich-ard-style6996This isn’t true. In London people even go so far as to ask Americans where are you from? When you say the state you’re from the say no where are your people from? They want to know where your ancestors are from. I think that’s rude and very intrusive. If I say I’m from the state that I was born and raised in that should be enough.
So interesting every time! Thx so much ❤. Loved your parting shot 😆
And this is how it should be as a German. 👍. Hi Mike, Grüße aus Stuttgart 🇩🇪
You can take a girl out of Germany, but you can't take Germany out of her ^^
My wife and I don't distinguish who's money it is. Put it in the bank and go from there! We talk about frivolous expenditures and decide together! It's been working for 48 yrs and we see no reason to change.
Travelling around just to show that you can afford that - what's the point? In my opinion it doesn't matter where you've been, only which experiences and impressions you've gained from travelling. And noboby can take that away from you.
Concerning Oktoberfest, I'm wondering how many fail to visit it because they get there in October, yet too late.
Hayley, Mike, kind regards from the Schwobaländle! Enjoy a good time!
I agree about sharing costs with my significant other. But then I am European :)
OMG Hayley, you should have really told us what the situation was where everybody was thinking the same thing and Mike was the only person saying it. That made me so curious 😅
No....that person watches my videos and I don't want to be mean 😅😅😅
@@HayleyAlexis Love your videos. Thank you so much for posting them ☺
Thank you for watching them 😇😇😇
@@HayleyAlexis moin, über manche Leute kann man einfach nur den Kopf schütteln! Danke für das Video, interessant, wie immer! Ich hoffe, ihr habt schönes Wetter dieses Wochenende! Hier ist es erstaunlich warm und sonnig gewesen. Die ganze letzte Woche! Liebe Grüße und schönen Pfingstsonntag aus Ahrensburg Ben❤😊
My trigger was always the heritage thing in the states, as soon as they know you are german ... oh,boy!
Reminds me of the time, when Hayley reached out to a "German social club" or some such thing in Florida and was denied to join, bc it was only for peeps of "German heritage". Like "Mandy-Lou Schutterschlotter" whose three times removed great great grand uncle came over in the 1800s.
(Btw, she apparently would have been the only one, who actually spoke the language and had lived there.) 🤷♀️🤦♀️
In the US, especially when it comes to heritage and identity, German culture is "coded."
Genealogically speaking, 1/4 of my ancestors trace back to areas now in Germany. I never learned to speak German but, as a child, I was able to follow conversations my grandparents were having and would reply in English. Where I live the German clubs are very much about identity and are rife with unpacked white supremacy. They are not the wholesome, family-friendly community spaces they portray themselves as... a place to enjoy a beer with "like minded" folks and dance a polka with the grandkids. (The latter part can happen but there's an entire context to it too.) I won't step foot in those places.
Another heritage thing is being a Mayflower descendent. Through my maternal side alone I descend from seven Mayflower passengers. (I have relatives big into genealogy.) I don't tell people this due to all the attitudes and beliefs associated with those stake their identity in being Mayflower descendants. It's a bummer too because they offer college scholarships to descendants. If I had more time, I might just apply. If I got the money, I could donate it to some anti-colonialist cause. LOL
@@bryonyvaughn2427 That's interesting.
Hayley and all the other non-Germans who actually lived here and speak the language are more German than anyone else with German roots in the USA.
They can keep their club thing😂
I think why so many Americans are obsessed with heritage is because we move all over the place, way more than people who live in Europe. So, most europeans know where they come from, Americans really don’t, so we kind of cling on to heritage. I saw that the vast majority of Germans never leave the area they were born in, except to travel
The Oktoberfest starts indeed in September.😊 - Thank you very much for another episode!🙂👍
4:53 who cares about this folk, let them book their flights....😂😂😂😂
Also: Minimum vacation days! They allow you to travel.
Yeah Hayley, I believe you when you`re saying Mike`s NOT an asshole for being honest. Germans are honest - and sometimes the truth hurts and not everybody likes to hear it, I`ve been here almost 35 years, and I `ve gotten used to that, really. Splitting costs: Yeah.. I`ve always been an advicate for that because I believe in fairness. Back when I was engaged - and even before we did, it was always: I buy this - you pay for that kinda thing. And sometimes, explaining that to people you don`t know well about how you run your relationship - or that in general - after a while gets tiring - and for some maybe "none of thier damn business" - So I understand whyy you don`t always want to explain it. Oktoberfest issue: Yeah I only found that out about 10 years ago.. because I never could remember - or I simply didn`t pay attention about the September-October thing. It was like whereever one was - you went. Travel issue: I have a good suggestion for you Hayley.. The nest time a woman gets bitchy about Munich and asks you for any recommendation.. just send her to the Kotzhügel.. lol
Maybe she should even say to her colleague Mr. Nasty: I would recommend you see Kotzhügel, it is a nice place I have heard.🤣😂😂🤣I have never had chance to see it though😂🤣 and my chances are low to ever experience it. But maybe you will get lucky , mrs. Nasty. 😂🤣
Oh yes, be it this being-abroad topic or veganism or being married to a woman with Turkish background - I almost never bring it up myself. But more than often, somebody else mentions it and forces a conversation topic on me that is nothing more than annoying for me ...
I am not vegan but I do try to have 1-2 vegan days in the week and when I tell people this (it could be in Germany as well) they always ask how it is possible....
@@HayleyAlexisI don't see why anyone would ask these questions . It is no big deal and anybody's choice.
Greetings from an Austrian who has lived in the US and travelled a lot of countries ... 😅
In the US, in most cases, its all about the money .........
Americans live in a bubble and that bubble is about to burst.
That is one tough bubble, I don't think it will burst...
Oh wow, how do you get away with saying that you never left Florida? That must be hard to do 😀 I never understand, why people are so envious when other people can do something they can't or have been somewhere they haven't. But yeah, I can understand why you keep things to yourself.
You have to realize this is for Haley and Haley only. I live in South Florida (Haley is in bass ackwards Central Florida). People in my area are either from a different country or they have jumped onto a cruise ship or flight somewhere outside the US last minute because it was so cheap. This is what happens when you live not to far from the top 3 busiest airport in Florida (this means Miami).
I should say bass akwards means "in a manner contrary to what is usual, expected, or logical." Parts of Northern Florida and parts of Central Florida is bass ackwards.
@jessicaely2521 I am really tired of you lying under my videos. I do not live in Central Florida nor have I ever lived in central Florida. I am from South Florida and live in South Florida- just like you.
@jessicaely2521
also Miami is a horrible airport that isn't that cheap. By the time you calculate the stress involved with using that airport it is not a decent option- just like LAX or ATL- they are horrendous airports
@@HayleyAlexisI didn't know that. I used MIA in the 1980s and in 2008 and didn't see much difference to other airports. Ok, LAX is bad.
I had this guy from the USA tell me that the houses in Spain also have wood in them (the frame) I have lived here for 30 years, and have owned 2 homes….”I have lived here for 30 years, sir🤫🤫🤫I know…..you do not” 🤯🤯🤯
Yeah.... People that have never experienced it won't understand. It happened to Mike and I recently here and he was quite upset. I had to laugh because I am so used to it that it no longer bothers me.
@@HayleyAlexis
Did you know that an American (Orange...something) is using you as an example of how you can't live well in Germany and that's why you're back in the US?😂
@nonamegirl9368 no.... people are so weird on the internet
@@Lysandra-8really?! 🙄oh wow
Liebe Hayley, Deine Haare sehen so toll aus! Du bist so schön! Und klug! Und ich kann diese "probing questions" gut verstehen, es ist mir mit Amerikanern auch schon so ergangen! Ich war manchmal sprachlos welche privaten Fragen ich gefragt wurde, zB nach der Finanzierung meines Studiums in den USA, -- wen geht das bitte was an? Und das Schlimmste für mich war, dass mich viele Amerikaner nach Hitler ausgefragt haben! Ob es stimmt, dass wir in der Schule nichts davon hören. Ob ich wüßte wer das sei. Usw!! Geht es Mike auch so?
Solche fragen sind nicht böse oder unüblich.... bei kindern, nicht von erwachsenen😂
Oh mein Gott, das habe ich auch schon erlebt, aber nicht von Amerikanern - ich glaube es war eine Nord-Irin. Die Verbrechen der Nazis würden doch sicher verschwiegen in Deutschland... das genaue Gegenteil! Wir haben in der Schule (Geschichtsunterricht in den 60ern) fast nur über die Verbrechen im 3.Reich gelernt, bis wir es nicht mehr hören konnten. Erst relativ kürzlich habe ich gelernt, dass z.B. Stalin auch nicht viel besser war.
Denen hätte ich erzählt, das Holocaust Überlebende in die Schulen eingeladen wurden, um ihre Geschichten den jungen Menschen zu erzählen, um zu vermeiden , dass das jemals wieder geschieht. Und fas stimmt ja auch, auch wenn es nicht möglich war, das mit allen Schülern zu machen. Ich habe selber erst sehr spät in Abendklassen darüber gelernt.
I lived in Germany twice in my life 3 years each time. Also in Korea for 3 years and after the military move to Florida So I can relate have the same experiences with some Americans used as a way to divide themselves from others by letting everyone know their income, education, travel experiences and anything else to used to discriminate against each other. Because you come from humble beginnings, ethnicity, education, income ect. Is frustrating when your experience all those experiences enriched yourself by it, learn, grow and also meet lovely people in your travels that they still your friends but come to America share your ideas and experiences rather to be happy for you they make you ashamed of it and how dare you! you’re not deserve to have those opportunities and you’re in our reality now and should be yours too. Don’t dare to dream of more. Anyway end up moving to SC and having a better and peaceful way of life, considering moving to Germany at some point. Missing those farmers markets too , economically affordable education and healthcare compared to the USA. Move to SC people are a little nicer here. But unpleasant people are everywhere. But keep sharing your ideas always happy to see your videos.
I think it's rude for people to say 'you don't look German. There are people of different races living in Germany..
Siehst gut aus, Hayley. Danke fuers Video
Danke danke :)
Keep cool about American unknowledge. You are so much cleverer than they. So, smile about their stupidity
Stay how you are. You are perfect.
With Oktoberfest, maybe it helps to explain sth like:
Christmas time is the time leading up to christmas; Oktoberfest is the time leading up to a date in october. That time span naturally is partly in september.
German here. I´m on an international technical forum. And even on technical discussions I´ve experienced Americans don´t believe in law of physics. They rather tend to believe in random hobbyists and tinkerers informations than on schools and science. Even if they have no proove. They only believe what they like to believe and ignore everything else.
And yes - I know not all Americans are like this. And you may find such people all over the world.
Americans like to be the best in the world, and I have to agree, they are the best ... in this regard. ;-)
Germans also have 6 weeks paid holidays and they live mostly in small apartments so they travel extensively.
Good morning Germoney 🌈
The "Oktoberfest" example: Just leave them stupid. If they don't want to learn, not your problem. (Isn't that actually very typical American thinking?)
I think that is the reason we have so many idiots though... So it is always a struggle of... do I want to correct them or not
And soooo many people say, “oh, Americans aren’t judgmental,” honey give me an effing break! And I can say that with certainty because I’m a U.S. American and I know all too well how they can be after growing up and living there for almost 70 years. I now live in Mexico where the people tend to just be kind generally, at least that’s my experience after 4 years of living among them. Have a beautiful day all!
Why would people look weird at you if you treat your partner like a partner and not like a sugar daddy?
4:57
You just have to start talking german with them to shut them up :)
You seem to be one of the kindest, nicest people Hayley. You would be welcome in Canada anytime. BTW, it’s not really cold everywhere or all the time 😂😂.
I just like you, Hayley. For what you say from 11:39 I love you. This just speaks to me on so many levels and personally I’m gratful that you addressed this. Good for you, well done for living your live and doing your thing, absurd that people love to interfere with that but like you say, not worth the stress. Really enjoy your attitude, style and vids! Wishing you and Mike all the best 😊
I'd never thought about this before, the concept of celebrating a festival/holiday at the point just before it exists, so Tanz ins Mai on April 30 and Oktoberfest - both are celebrations before the actual arrival of the calendar date. Is that a German thing? It contradicts the superstition of wishing happy birthday before the actual date. So confusing! Ideas?
To add some more examples: We celebrate Christmas Eve instead of Christmas, and St Nicholas' Eve is arguably more important in terms of ritual than the day itself. Also, obviously, New Year's Eve, but that is not specifically German. Also, Easter bonfires are more often than not lit the night before Easter, even though that varies somewhat depending on the region. One major influence may actually be Judeo-Christian: In Jewish culture, a new day starts at sundown, i.e. the night is actually first half of the day. That's why Jews celebrate Erev Shabbat, the Eve of Sabbath, and also why Catholic churches usually have their first mass of the weekend on Saturday evening (or, more generally, the eve of a holiday, as in the case of Christmas). What's also important is the idea of celebrating a threshold, which usually means, celebrating in the evening and at least past midnight. This is true with Tanz in den Mai, New Year's Eve obviously, and Midsummer Night celebrations in Nordic countries. There may be some Germanic roots to be found as well, but that's not my area of expertise. Oktoberfest seems to be a slightly different matter, as the traditional date of the festival seems to have been in October, as Hailey mentioned, which was changed to late-September/early October for economical reasons. The threshold character may have been used as a rationale for keeping the traditional name though.
I understand the Mike not being an asshole. I have to do the same with my husband.
good points! love to listen to you, always.
Pretty top Hayley.
German frankness can be hilarious for non-Germans. It's common for American couples to not share financial resources?
I think it is common to share but not a 50/50 split. A lot of times the stereotypical "man" will have the biggest share of bills compared to the stereotypical "woman"
Hayley, return to Munich, you´ll always be welcome here!
I will come back sooner or later... for a visit :)
Split bills nd costs as a couple. Sadly this goes both ways. Being born and grown up in Germany to Croatian parents, I've come to live with 2 cultures and having to combine them to my own. However, as much as I dislike women, who expect that the man should pay for everything in return for " a pretty face" I as well dislike men, who thibk they are the patriarch. I've had to put women in their place, when they told me to date a man, because "he's got money" or "he's driving a Porsche" or being told as 20yo pretty girl "to go on vacation to Sylt to find a million, because they are there looking for trophy wifes". To them I've said, that I would ratherchave man men riding a bicycle treating me with love and respect and, if I want a Porsche so badly, I would work hrd and buy one, or at least rent one for a week.
Men who thaught to be "progressive" and "modern" despite growing up in a "macho" culture and accepting that women getting higher education and well paid jobs is enough emancipation but not being aware, that they do not transfer this thinking onto their private relations I politely made aware how it would be rather finacially stupid to make the better earner stay at home instead of becoming a "housmen" and take care of the children. Some were shocked, some were pissed, but a few DID start thinking about it.
What ever lifestyle you chose, make sure, your partner is on the same page, but do not expect for one second, that anybody is owing you anything. Let alone finansing your life.
Hi Hayley. You should be proud to speak another language. It is sad that you feel like you have to hide it. Also I love how open you are when it comes to taking from other cultures what you feel enriches your life. I'd say brush of stupid comments and just be yourself. Exploring the world is not all about money but about curiosity and dedication. I love your videos.
I am dating a German too and I have to pay for atleast half...I was completely shocked when after 5 years dating he finally asked me to a resturant and offered to pay for both of us! LOL I tolerate this because in Germany this is "normal" But to be honest I really miss not the mans money but the feeling of value it gives you when he is prepared to spend it on you! Spending money is hard....So it shows me how valuable my time is for him. Outside of a commited relationship it is often the only way you know the ma is not just "using you". I miss American men, but since I have lived in Germany since 20056 there is no way I am going back to the USA now.
I also think this video is on the funny side because I'm 20, 25% German & my German side comes out (LOL) and I can be direct / honest sometimes; don't care if you like or what you think of me. I said that cause I used to be bullied, people would drag me down & make me feel bad about myself.
What shocks me is being instilled with the same values, and having to grow up in America. It sucked! 😩
good lord, the did-you-know-that-face, ha ha ha ha ha :-D
who would not want to be corrected like this? baffles me.
I first travelled to the US in 1982 as a student. On a party somebody asked me where I was from. I told them Germany. A few drunk guys immediately freaked out and shouted at me "So you´re a fucking communist". They really wanted to punch me in the face. I tried to explain that there were 2 Germanies at the time, one western where I was from and 1 eastern communist one. They never heard of that and I really had a hard time surviving that situation. Well, there was no Google at that time plus it was at the top of the cold war.
Smart ass question would be to ask , hey, why is the Oktoberfest in September, what determined the change and when? No more tourists? Weather too cold up north to be funny? I mean, something has got to have changed. What do you think?
Weather was the main contributing factor :)
"..they ask me about Mike and me" (they ask about me) - die fragen über Mike und mich. (sie fragen über mich)
As a German girl, I don't understand women who expect men to pay for everything at all. That's so selfish and also, don't these women have any sense of self worth and independence at all? I am proud of the things I can afford with my own money and I love being able to treat my loved ones...
I like it to be invited. It is nice. Why should they not pay? Its a curtesy that should not make you feel bad, but happy.
Ah, don't worry, just say he is from Munich ;) (or where you lived in Bavaria, should have been near of Munich)
Weeeell, who does it hurt if you refrain from saying Oktoberfest begins in September?
All those fools who listen to those foolish claims, plan their Germany trip around going to Oktoberfest, and then finding out the hard way that it is either over already or they've arrived on the very last days. Mind you, not doing a little research before going on a long distance trip and expecting everything to be as in your imagination is a pretty good wakeup call for some people. 😁
Others, on the other hand, might drop straight from obnoxious right into Ultra-Karen mode. We don't need more of those here; we got more than enough. 😂
Sooo, maybe, rethink your stance on giving them a piece of your mind. It might actually save some people quite some trouble.
Why does the Oktoberfest not take place in Oktober? For a reason every American will understand: Better business! The Oktoberfest took place for the first time on October 12, 1810 as a horse race on the occasion of a royal wedding.
After it was so entertaining, another horse race was held there the next year, and each time the festival continued to grow. But in the middle of October, the weather in Munich can be very, very unpleasant.
At the end of the 19th century the decision was made to extend the festival and move it to September, guaranteeing nicer weather and more profit.
Oh praise the lord you have hair agian!! Yaaaaaaay!!!! Love it!!😀😀😀
The last point was very surprising.
That with the travelling and language skills seems like Americans just constantly want to one-up each other and compete in everything basically for ego instead of just being happy for the other guy. Makes even the good things go sour in your mouth.
It is wried how people ask those questions.
I hated Saltzberg... The city is beautiful but I felt like I was in Beverly hills or something..Everyone was in designer clothes from head to foot and completely styled...even in my best clothes I felt like a beggar there!🤣
Do you mean Salzburg? I reckon you do because Saltzberg doesn't sound familiar in German.
The main reason Americans can’t travel internationally is 1) no vacation time 2) priorities: people blow all there money on McMansions & luxury cars, and other stupid stuff.
I'd say, Europe nowadays consists of 'united states', even if the political system is different from the USA. I travel (Western) Europe perhaps once a year, and I don't really feel like travelling 'abroad'. The only difference is - the myriad of languages.
People think it's "not your place" to travel or know anything about other countries. You are constantly running into people that don't wish you well. Your part of Florida does not seem like the best place for "certain kinds" of people.
I either attract very kind people or very rude people. Mike says it is just the curse of me and that he has never experienced people being so rude and unprovoked to others like he sees people in the USA towards me. I am a hate or love person.... Hate is an easier emotion to feel :)
Those last videos of you, I often thought, you do not sound like an American, you sound like an Adult instead. And I wrote Adult with a capitable A on purpose.
It might be, that floridians have THAT attitude. I didn't meet such people in MI. WE SPEAK also the two languages. The people here start talking about their German heritage and when they have been in Germany and how much they loved it. I would/could not care less about those negative jealous people you are mentioning, maybe I would start bragging to shut those negativies up, that want to make others feel bad about being themselves.
Es gibt in Deutschland einen Ort der heisst Oberkotzau. Its a fun fact. ❗️Sende die "armholders"dort hin.
According to Wikepedia, 'Oktoberfest' DID originally start in October - I mean, I DO believe you when you say 'Oktoberfest' starts in September nowadays- maybe some Americans of German ancestry have ancestors that LIVED in Bavaria in 1810.
It says that in the late 19th century the 'fest' was moved to September.
I am aware of the fact that some people who travel to Europe (and Germany) like to treat the trip as someting exotic. I do know someone who claims to know all about Germany, although she had not ever been to Germany in the early 80's. She had know knowledge of German whatsover, so she ended up being extremely bored when it came to a family reunion in Germany.
Fortunately, most Americans I had the pleasure to meet in California were all open minded, and one has to take into consideration that traveling to Europe IS a luxury, and I did not deal with wealthy people on a daily basis.
North America is a world of its own, and I am sure you remember how is was, Hayley, as you actually grew up there. My cousin lives pretty close to Canada, but she is not the least bit interested in taking a trip there, plus the fact that there are 4 seasons where she lives. And in the northern United States and Canada, it can get extremely cold.
You are always going to stand out when you speak to someone in a foreign language, i.e. German. There was a guy at Barne's and Noble that asked me what kind of dialect I was speaking when talking to a friend on WhatsApp in Germany. I told him it was good ol' 'standard German' and it was an interesting converation. Like I said, most people I dealt with were not wealthy people.
in my experience, people the not so wealthy are among the most interesting people to talk to.
Thanks for that entertaining video - but I must say, it doesn't do well at selling "american smalltalk" to us
lmao... Just try it
I wish my girlfriend (she is living in California) would see this. But if it was me forwarding this video to her, she would be already offended again.
It is an ongoing struggle for both of us right now. I don't think that she will begin to understand the cultural differences unless she has moved here (Ruhrgebiet) and lived here for a while.
If it works out, that chapter will start in August this year.
I tried to tell her, that a good deal of our arguments have their roots in cultural differences. She wont have any of that and keeps complaining about me being just rude. Oftentimes she is upset because what I did or said is perceived as rude by her. From my point of view she is oftentimes overly sensitive to a lot of things and has a lot of sensitivities that she expects me to tiptoe around. At the same time she is showing behaviour sometimes that I (I am German btw) do perceive as ignorant, entitled and outright disrespectful. She thinks of those as here personal freedom. The concept that one persons freedom ends where another persons freedom starts seems to be somewhat difficult to understand for her.
It is in general pointless to argue with someone who is willfully ignorant and refuses to educate him- or herself. So she will have to find out herself. And hopefully we will figure things out as time goes by. Either both of us at some point begin to learn and understand, or it's gonna be a fail.
The thing is: what's rude in the US is not necessarily rude in Germany and vice versa.
And if I am a guest in the respective other country, it's good pratice to learn about what is considered to be appropriate and try to blend in as goold as you can.
Thank you for this video, it kinda saved my day!
You could send her clips from other channels that tackle the US/Germany culture differences, but are quite tame/funny, especially their shorts.
LaEdwards_Family (German wife and US husband, lived together in the US and moved to Germany just now)
Uyen Ninh (Vietnamese girl, who moved to Germany to be with her boyfriend)
or @liamcarps (Brit, who lives in Germany).
All are wholesome, comedic and deal with the German way of life, not really criticising the American one bzw. the one of of their origin. It may be easier for her to listen to that, before "graduating" to Hayley and Nalf for example.
And if your gf isn't interested in things about the country she's going to move to, "dann kann ich ihr auch nicht helfen." 😉
Maybe send her some videos from Brittany Allaine.
They deal with German/US cultural differences as well, but don't go that deep. Good luck to you and your gf!
Good luck, it'll be funny😅
Why don't you GOODBYE HER. ?
Do not think it will get better. It will not! Or it takes DECADES of unhappyness trying to convince. Believe me.
All of this sounds like, in the land of the free, the loudmouths take their freedom in putting down everybody else. What German translation would you suggest for that kind of entitlement?
Yeah, sure, Mike can be brash, but it's a friendly kind of brash whereas the local knowitalls you have talked about in this video who are just not worth the hassle of having to deal with them, are an unfriendly kind of brash.
I used to live in the US for a while and absolutely agree that envy and showing off is a big thing. Mine is better faster larger more expensive ….than yours.
Makes me kind of sad that people cant just accept that you can speak german. After all, everyone can learn a language if they want to do it an dedicate the time and effort into it. This reminds me of your bad experience at the "german club" where they could not wrap their racist heads around the fact that you just ... learned german, lived and germany and know more about german culture than they will ever know. 😅 Its so weird how on one hand many americans are very into genaology and claim to be german or irish because of their great grandparents but also dont want to ever leave the usa and experience the culture they claim to be a part of.
I love that you internalised that US citizens call themselves American and that you keep pointing it out. 😂
I remember your early videos where you kept saying "American" and people kept telling you in the comments that America is bigger than just the US and that you should consider the correct term when doing your videos 😂
I read and listen to complaints ;)
@@HayleyAlexis I know 😏😁
It's probably just called "Oktoberfest" because "Septemberfest" is not as catchy.
It seems like you've unfortunately run into some envious people. So sad. Those people are wasting their life being envious of you and Mike. Also, that one lady from work is a snob. Like you've said, who cares where she's been. Nobody has asked her. I've been to Germany, mainly Berlin. I have friends there, but I navigate by myself alot now. Anyway, if I've mentioned a trip of traveling to Berlin, some of my friends here may ask what I've eaten there. Many times I mention I've had burgers and pizza and some friends don't believe me. They seem to think that the whole of Germany only eats Bavarian food. I also get the price question. Isn't Germany really expensive. I tell them it's cheaper than flying in the US, especially if you go in the fall. They don't seem to believe me on that either. Anyway, next time you and Mike are back in Germany, have a great time traveling the EU and enjoying Octoberfest in September!😊❤
Ich liebe es wenn hier jemand englisch spricht! Oder jemand in den USA würde deutsch sprechen und er wäre aus den USA. Das ist doch MEGA 😍
What did I learn in this video?
Keep your mouth shut in the land of the free😅
Who does it hurt?! Imagine you've been kidnapped with all of your friends and the sick bastard who did it is hosting a torture game show, where you have to answer trivia questions correctly or else they will hurt your friends and then they ask "does Oktoberfest start in October" and you'll be like "doh, obviously smart-ass, it's in the name!" and then all your friends will get tortured! That's who gets hurt: All your friends!
Or it hurts them if they travel in october and they are a little surprised that they are too late.
4:20 seems to be a real Bavarian thing. Because the major rest of Germany couldn’t care less about the Oktoberfest. Ask a Ruhrpottler, a Berliner, a Thüringer or a „Nordlicht“ from Kiel (they can probably tell you more about some Danish festivals) about the exact dates of Oktoberfest and I’m sure they’d be as clueless as your US fellows. ☀️
Bavaria is Germany
@@HayleyAlexis that's why I said: "major rest of Germany". Really culture wise, language wise (meaning dialect), custume wise, religion wise, landscape wise... a Barvarian might have more in common with an Austrian than someone from the far north of Germany and vise versa. So I'm trying to point out, that Bavarians are very particular about their culture which might not necessarily relate/translate to the rest of the country. And Oktoberfest is just the pinacle of Bavarian culture. So not all of us are aware of when and how and why (regarding dates) it actually takes place.
Ps: 78% Germans have never been to the Oktoberfest.
Still does not relate to the video or what I said. I brought up that it is difficult to explain to us citizens that Oktoberfest starts in September. You brought up that the “rest of Germany” could care less about Oktoberfest. Nonetheless if they do or do not care- it is part of German culture.
@@HayleyAlexisit related in the sense of your description about us citizens being so surprised Oktoberfest starts in September and not in Oktober. My point is, that also many of us Germans wouldn’t know that.
Then you continued talking about it being hard to explain us citizens that in fact it already starts in September. My answer was not relating to that. Of course Bavaria is a part of Germany, I was not questioning that.