The Closer We Get
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- Опубліковано 19 вер 2023
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Book description:
Adam has spent the last couple of years focusing on himself, trying to get his life and career in order. Now, entering his thirties, he’s painfully alone, struggling to meet and date anyone.
After a series of unusual encounters with a woman whom Adam feels an attraction to unlike anyone he has before, he begins to experience strange problems, and he finds himself in deeply unsettling situations. Adam must discover what it means to love and be loved, and what he's willing to endure and sacrifice to truly be with someone.
"The Closer We Get" combines a timeless exploration of the intricacies and struggles of relationships with the backdrop of an increasingly surreal and mind-bending near-future world.
"Story keeps going until it doesnt".... DAMN!!!!
Such a great line.
Alternative Title: Evangelion in under 2 minutes!
Evangelion only has one ending. That's all
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Wait deadass? Eva is like this 🤣🤣
Love seeing an Eva reference in the wild
The instant I saw this comment I immediately got the reference also nice seeing another Eva cult member around.
It’s much less complicated to be *single*. You can still have friends, acquaintances, be in tune with the world around you, etc. I’ve played the dating game enough for one lifetime. If you can say you are content with who you are and what you have, you win life.
This.
Why cant you be content with who you are and date as well? If you want to be single, be single, but if you want to be single because its less complicated, thats probably a fools errand. The same skills that you use to be content with your life and yourself now, can be used when you're not single
@AlacrityJones why are you second guessing a person's personal decision just because it's not a decision you would make? They're not going to write a 300 page thesis examining the ins & outs, this is the abridged version, accept it.
Being in a couple is a fool's errand if you ask many people including me. It's not for everyone, & the sooner society accepts that & stops trying to ram their ideals down everyone's throats, the better. Happily singles do not need to be persuaded to give up everything they've decided they prefer in life just because the majority doesn't "get it"
bro be honest you just can't get a girlfriend. yeah, life is simpler when you're single. it's also fucking lonely and depressing. I don't care how many friends you have or extracurriculars you do, life is just better when you're in love. Every single person has times when they think they'd rather stay single forever, then they find someone they enjoy, and they realize that they were missing out on everything life is about. @@aussiejubes
@@aussiejubesI concur.
Ironic how im only now at 21 jumping into my dating life for the first time. Its scary man! Getting ghosted or not liked because u don't have enough going on or your being yourself kinda sucks. Obviously u can't change someones attraction towards you or not, u have to accept that, but it does hurt sometimes because its like damn. I guess i wasn't enough
Don't think you weren't enough. You're only 21, stay focused on yourself and build yourself up, women will gravitate towards that. And you can also be more selective at that stage.
so real
@@Diego-Designs yep, find a hobby and perfect it. women also dig guys who do their job well, no matter what it is. women wannabe impressed. how i always worked at it, it didnt work too good considering ive only had 2-4 relationships in 40 years, but hey... at least i had a best friend when i was younger. i miss just being friends with someone, without them hitting on me. it seems i have a glow though...
It will be much less scary if you stop worrying that when someone rejects you, it's because you aren't good enough as a person. The reality is that it's not always about you. There's a thousand reasons someone may say no to you, and the other way around too. Yes, it does hurt, it always hurts no matter how old you are and how many times it happens. But don't worry about it. It's a normal part of life that comes and goes. But when you do fall in love, you will totally forget about the scary part! And you will indeed eventually fall in love. And even if it doesn't last, and your first one or two or so probably won't, know that whatever happens, you're gonna be ok. You do you, don't accept second best, and know you will be enough for someone! Probably a few someone's. Good luck!
Just heard your first chapter of this book ,which you sent me in email. Its wonderful ❤
It was amazing. I just finished it and without spoiling, the book wasnt what I was expecting it to be but not in a bad way. I love how it was kind of like a culmination of a different video topics all with a similar theme that flowed well together aswell as providing reason to re-read/rethink some things that happened earlier in the story. I definitely recommend especially if youre someone who is looking for potential partners
I got goosebumpbs. Man storytelling is catarthic.
cathartic*
I've been thinking about this for a long time as well; about how difficult for me to love and accept being loved. I always feel repulsed by 'bonding' even with my family and friends. I could not even say "I love you" to my parents. Romance is out of the question. I'm 21 now and I have no experience in romantic relationships. I don't know how to love or respond to being loved. I see this as a problem because it inhibits my experience of life due to the emotional detachment and indifference towards others. As of for now, I'd like to try being in a relationship to know more about this side of me and try to overcome my shortcomings so that I can become whole. That is why I'm excited for this book because of how relatable it is.
As someone who is married and has dated extensively in my lifetime, I can offer you some advice. It's your choice to follow it or not. But you should be 100% honest with anyone whom you are thinking of getting into your first relationship with. Tell them of your inexperience and of your possible inability to love them in the way that they want or need to be loved. And make sure to emphasize that if it turns out that you aren't able to feel those deep feelings for them, that it isn't their fault or a reflection of them and whether they are loveable or not. It's something within you that you are trying to overcome and you want to be upfront with them from the start to avoid them being let down or hurt if it doesn't work out.
@amandagriffin1751 Thanks for the suggestion. It almost made me shed a tear thinking how the other party would feel if I were to be aloof. Hopefully, I would be accepted for clarifying the situation from the beginning.
@@shadowmoses6843 The fact that it makes you emotional to consider their feelings is a good indicator that you have the necessary capacity to love someone when the right one comes along. If you warn them and they choose to take the risk then that is their decision and they have to weigh the risk to reward ratio. Just do your best to be honest and compassionate in all relationships and you will have nothing to feel guilty about in the end. I've learned the hard way that if you act like an asshole to people and are careless with their feelings then it usually comes back to bite you in the ass somehow. Maybe not immediately, but somewhere down the road when you least expect it and when you really don't want it to happen.
I didnt even read your full comment yet, but it automatically made me think of myself. I could never say I love you to my parents. Probably because they never said it back, but I think that they still did love me though. Bonding was also hard for me. Until I met someone at 22 years old, I also had no romantic experience because I was alwasys awkward and never had good social skills. It changed for me though and I meant someone as awkward as me and that actually accepted me for who I am. It was a work friend so it can happen even though I thought it couldnt. Keep your head up and you can find the one man even if you think its hopeless.
@@shadowmoses6843 Don't overthink it. Don't over theorize it, be as authentic and truthful to yourself and be brave to jump into it. You have one precious thing that many don't, you are self aware and as much as possible at your age, you more, or less know who you really are. You may be surprised, there's no knowing until you experience it. Best of luck 😊
I remember a long time ago i used say you should make your own books and start structuring your own philosophies and im glad to see more n more books by you youre doing something amazing brother ❤️
I just bought the audiobook, and I've got a long drive tomorrow to enjoy it. Looking forward to my drive, now!
There’s always one risk worth taking…it is LOVE without doubt ❤!!
‘Give all to love and love with all thy heart’! - Shakespeare 💕
I agree! 🌝
@@ChristTheLord-jh1pt What makes you think that I’m a catholic? Your comment is inappropriate in regards to the upload! Please stop. Just f’kn stop!! 😡
Btw, I’m a big fan of Jesus Christ as being an extremely charismatic person that walked on the earth, but all the rest is bullshit! So just stop with the rest of the nonsense! 🌝
this is my favorite video on the platform
Great read, totally worth the money!
I really enjoyed the plot. The story telling. And the Inter-twined philosophical questions. Great job. Worth the money.
Been waiting for this , this was probably the easiest purchase i have ever made
All the best!
THANKS!! I NEEDED this.......quite badly. Really going through a very tough phase of life rn. .......
Keep your head up.. things will get better.. might not seem like it right now but it will.. sending you good vibes to help change the frequency your on.. imagine in your minds eye that each day gets better and better.. everything starts with a thought.. I really hope everything gets better for you whatever it is.. 💕
I wonder if the things that initially started unconscious eventually became conscious. How did the consciousness know this until it was conscious?
Wow! I want this so badly! I'm gonna buy it soon I think.
Seems very interesting and engaging, I like that kind of story
The work-around here is to not look for someone to love you, but rather someone who will tolerate you. I prefer someone who is willing to walk away from an argument and knowing with 100% certainty that they will come back and be totally fine even if there is no resolution to the argument (caveat that I would probably settle for 90% certainty if I it came down to it. lol). Really, arguments are generally just a way to blow off steam. Most people don't remember what started the argument anyway. If you can find someone to just agree to disagree and be totally ok, that's a keeper.
I don't know if I'm difficult to love, but people leave me very easily
same here :( im just "too much" for them....... :( it seems to be the sign of the times. they take what they want, then leave. with me, its usually that i warm up a woman, then she wants me to take the next step, which i never do, so she picks someone average instead....
@@teejay08 well I read a quote somewhere, 'Be so rooted in your presence that nobody's absence or presence affects you'. We all can apply this in our lives. Whoever is destined to be with us won't play these games.
@@cherryblossom7761 yes, that was bella. she did play many games in different ways, sometimes she was like a sphinx. cant explain except if youve experienced her world. we were together for 1½ year, my longest relationship. now im in somatic care so no chance of meeting anyone anymore. people bore of me so qickly on social media, i just cant connect to people. before on the internet it was different. and i was different too, i guess...
@@teejay08 I'm sorry about your health, hope you get well. Give yourself enough time to heal. And who knows when we will meet someone significant in life.
Your comment reminded me of when I was a teenager and an adult friend gave me some relationship advice for my future. She said: 'You're going to have to dig through some trash before you find a prize worth taking home, and sometimes you are somebody else's trash'. That did not inspire me much at the time. But, some 30 odd years later, she sure was right! Even though I now realize she was probably high as a kite at the time and had no idea what she was talking about. lol But at least I know that I was legitimately living up to my expectations whenever I was 'dumped', and was totally ok with it.
Just ordered the physical copy!
Yes. Next question
One of my life's biggest takeaways: to know me is to avoid me. The reasons remain obscure.
Love is beautiful it is the guiding light out of the absurd. It is the sublime horizon. If you only believe in it when you have it it you will never truly know it. Faith is the word for the place between loves. Some love lasts a lifetime some does not. I see so many people trying to pin it down as one thing it isn’t. It’s everything. The romantics were not telling you it should be easy they were telling you it would be worth every second
Dude I love this.
I just bought it I hope its a good read. But if its the quality of your yt content it will be good!!
This looks great!
How do you post this in the most fitting time in my life?
💯👑 Fantastic 🌟
Yes
No, I am rather easy to love. I give what I get, the warmer the other person, the warmer I am.
Beautiful. Seems like the trailer of some well made movie.
Take every smile as a beautiful flower on top of the highest mountain given exclusively to you in the moment, because you were on top of all mountains. Don't ask why, don't request just enjoy your bliss 🍀
"The story keeps going until it doesn't."
Call me a cynic, but this is why I've always considered the Romance and love story genre to be BS. In the best case scenario it's simply a couple overcoming a few obstacles and getting together at the height of the honeymoon period at the very beginning of a relationship. That's the ending of a typical "happily ever after" romance story. Rarely do they show us the true bulk of relationship, i.e. what happens later and how it ends. Nobody seems to want to talk or think about it since I guess they'd deem it "unromantic", but it's the truth. Romance isn't meant to last. It doesn't make it meaningless per se, but reality is quite different than the 'happily ever after' nonsense that the genre promotes to kids and adults alike. The infatuation phase isn't meant to last the entire span of a relationship. It's only a small part. Unhealthy expectations do not make for a healthy mindset. It's better to accept that romance is fleeting at best, or false and/or non-existent at worst. Keep it real.
You're a cynic.
Humans are humans. Superficial. Selfish. It is what it is. Just be respectful and make sure to get and stay happy any way that you can. Get up. Go
@@ChristTheLord-jh1pt go lay down
is it only 2 of your books that are in audiobook format or can i get some of the others somewhere else?
When does this gem drop?
Am i with the right people
Or Am I the wrong person?
Going by the last several years, including birthdays, apparently impossible.
I don't think I'm difficult to love.
I'm just more picky in the type of person I want to invest my time in.
Yup
Finally❤❤❤❤
Real
Whats the music they are using in this video?
The mellow, kind of melancholic background music
U going up
i really want it but I'll wait when its a bundle so I'll only have to steel mom's card once
real
Loving animals is much easier and far less complicated.
Song name?
You bastard! You give me emotions!
Wish I could get a hardcover version
Music name anyone
Anyone know what he's talking about? No?
Me either
Didn't show up till just now.
Reminds me of the film "Past Lives" that I watched two days ago, I'm so excited to read this😊 I got a physical copy of "Notes From The End Of Everything" and cried reading it. I'm sure it will be another lovely read 🩷
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I'm from India
How can I have his book?
Did you get it brother?
@@sstudent1283 nope
At some point the stuff inside stars become conscious.
Existence is all just assumption, nothing more than just grasping at straws trying to fill that void of wonder. However, that would be considered cynical view of existence, and a dismissive and pessimistic view of wonder and would be implying that existence is uncertain and arbitrary, and that wonder is empty and futile and also that existence has no value or purpose, and that wonder has no answer or solution. I have always believed that truth is self evident if it walks and talks like a duck etc etc.
Everything is hard
i think i am
Struck 747 - strike 29
Let's see if it happens
Impossible to love, unlovable.
I used to like thisbchannel a lot more before enlightenment & awakening & God Realisation. This channel is not truly awake. You must speak on psychedelics it's very over due. Love you
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What's so funny?
@@JSFGuy The whole story
@@Lategum😏.. now that I've seen and heard, I think I get it.
@@JSFGuy Pretty good huh? 😌👌🏻
@@Lategum Yes, kind of what is this impression.
Love is overrated anyway. I try to avoid it at all costs.
Why would you do that?
@@The_Shimp Why wouldn't I?
@@ShangaelThunda222 why do you think it’s overrated?
@@The_Shimp Because it is. Been there, done that. It's overrated. Not necessary. And it never ends well. Even when it goes well, death will eventually end it. And then comes the mourning. Besides, most love isn't even love to begin with, it's just the word that people use. I've never seen anything that's unconditional, including love. So it may not even be real to begin with. Just another belief.
@ChristTheLord-jh1pt 🤔🤨😐🫢🤭😄😅😆😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣............. 👍🏾