If you’ve really been used that much, it’s gotta be something you’re doing bro and it doesn’t matter what race you date. If you don’t figure out what it is they’re going to use you too. I was just about to record a video about this earlier today too. I think I’m going to go ahead a record it now.
You were going after fixer uppers. I used to that. You know why? I didn’t have my stuff together, i was insecure, and I wanted to be with somebody that made me feel like they needed me. I wasn’t even attempting to pull women that had their stuff together around that time. If you’re in those shoes, you don’t need to date any race right now bro. You gotta work on yourself.
@@TheShumakeWay and you can't get your shit right if people pulling strings in the background so you can't get your shit right...people playing on your phone...people snooping in your bank accounts trying to keep you from your children
BM dating out has never offended me. It's the ones who publicly make disparaging comments about us while dating out, that offends me. I've dated outside my race and I NEVER felt the urge to make awful rhetoric toward Black men. Btw thanks for understanding BWs plight.
I feel the same way. The black woman’s plight is my plight as well. To not love y’all is to not love myself, because without y’all we will cease to exist.
You said it. It’s the disrespect you get from the person that’s dating outside. I have seen it from sisters too. Trying rub it in your face. I got attitude before from a mixed couple that was looking for me to comment on their child because he was so cute and I refuse to give them the satisfaction and the sister got mad. It’s not the fact that the child wasn’t pretty. It the fact that we think we are pretty only when our skin tone is lighter. Love my peoples.
You're on a different frequency and most wont even understand the great scheme of life. Yes, many women are forced to be masculine to survive cause BM dropped the ball. Then we too Masculine to be wives and BM feel emasculated because they're competing with us. We all need healing and self awareness because we are a product of our environment. Therapy needs to be a Norm in our communities.
They'll (toxic bm) be on him very soon and say hes pandering. This ain't the 1st time a BM is holding BM accountable. I appreciate it; I just hope they dont run him off like they did another content creator who eventually just gave up on YT
it's half the truth cause once black women found out the guy from power Omari Hardwick was married to a white woman they went crazy that man was minding his business, and black women showed him no respect. This not the first time something like this has happen. Black men at that level don't have time to put down black women.
@@toreyjoseph1286 it's 💯 with me, no half truths goin on here! Black men get so upset when they realize they are no longer the main choice. Look how they tried to drag Jodie Smith because she chose to be with a white man. Black men hate it just as much!
@@dustfreequeen5151 lmao coming from south america and now living in Amsterdam most humans hate it except turkish people because of history and they are very accepting towards african descended people here women or man compared to other europeans .most human beings within a culture hates it when their counterparts date out its a normal thing that exist sinds the beginning of mankind to humans its a sign of losing your culture.beside most humans dont like being out of their comfort zone they will most likely stay within their own ethnic group , people are living to much on the internet a alternative reality that narrows your view point .my black brothers will rather marry a black women because you get us and vice versa. when it comes to mix race african people thats different tho .
I am biracial and I wouldn’t never date or marry a BM who admit that he only date biracial and none black women. I would never procreate with such men due to the disgust of the child looking like his self hating self.
@@cedric6956 It is less to do with the fact that biracial women worship white men, and more to do with black men not having much to offer them economically. The white man purchase stocks and the black man buy an expensive car on credit to impress his uneducated friends.
@@sacoope1 I would agree with you before 2015, but with the numerous grown ups I know and channels for black men that appear,black men tend to be more stable financially. Many work in bank , as accountant,broker and many develop their knowledge in CIS and programing skills. I am surprised by the number of black fellow I see right now in my studies for Commercial and Corporate Finance. I am not saying it to change the mind,I even prefer it this way. I prefer that biracial like white men rather than us. Because this way we can focus on our goals and not having false ideas.
@@cedric6956 You are speaking on a micro scale , I am speaking in general. Black men are fetishised but most of them are not married material. They are not economically savvy.
@@sacoope1 Yes you are right.But I am not worried,I know that with the potential I see,many black men will shine in the future. By the way I am not african american, but west african. And I don't agree about fetishisim of black men about biracial. Their disdain at this level is clear. I don't know for the US context but in the french-speaking world , disdain and hate toward black men.
I don't mind bm dating ww, I honestly wish even more bm dated out. Let ww be the new face of single motherhood. Just don't bash bw when you do, just date out and stfu bout bw..
I grew up with seeing that bm were never interested in bw..at least not in my area. Even as I got older, they were with white and non-black women. My friend invited a guy she just met out with us for new years one year and he brought his black friend...almost immediately he said, "I dont like or date black girls" anyway all this to say, I've spent 20ish years with the understanding that where I'm from, they dont want us. Im not angry, just used to it. I looked elsewhere and found a good guy. Didn't work out but now I'm currently dating a Jamaican. I think because he was born there, that's what he grew attraction and appreciation towards. He loves dark skin, natural hair, which are things looked down upon from the bm in my area. He also works hard and put himself through school... It just seemed many bw will have to look outside their culture and or race to find men who will appreciate, not tolerate
@@levelup9547 when I said I looked elsewhere, I meant that I found a non black man. So I didn't wait. Just said it was always my understanding that bm didn't want us.
@@levelup9547 where did yall grow up? In america I have never seen self hating blsck men... ive seen a handful at most growing up in america but never seen this “sliver of black men that date bw” because they were always more black men who loved bw then vice versa
@@Keemac00 You never turned on the radio and or watched tv? Have you heard of Kobe Bryant? Lil Wayne? 50 cent? Dre? Kanye? Tyrese? Taye Diggs? I’ll 🛑 here - I have things to do.
Is "Masculine" really what they say Black Women are, I think black men forced us to be in a position that was meant for them. I had to be more Bold & Handle Business if though the man of the house were no longer there, I'm all woman nothing masculine about me but handling business like a man would, only to keep from being taken advantage of.... It really confuses me when I hear black men say that. No! we're not bitter or angry we just have to step from one role to the next (woman to man) & it's sometimes stressful.... At least when my children were under 18.. & what's crazy is you've done everything right, I didn't have the opportunity to walk away & leave him with the kids. So I did what I had to do.
As a bw ppl try to mess with you for no reason so it’s tough to maintain an eternally bubbly personality when out of nowhere a coworker, person on the street or educator will try to come for you. Even online when looking at something that has nothing to do with bw, ppl will drag bw into it. So I don’t think it has anything to do with bw actually being masculine. That’s just something they say to offend bw. I’ve seen bubbly and optimistic bw get put through the ringer. I know feminine bw who are not valued. Bm proudly love masculine ww so if all bw became the epitome of femininity today these bm would find something else to say. They look for ways to discredit bw. It’s just how their minds are molded. The strong don’t fall for that so if a bm genuinely loves bw he’s strong minded and maybe bw shouldn’t worry about the rest.
@@LaReign I don't entertain or engage with negativity, people will talk about you all day, us as black women need to ignore these comments on line that black boys drag us into, a Man wouldn't do such things. These boys have deep down mom or dad issues, hurt people tries to HURT PEOPLE. When we ignore this childish wining that some of them do, then they would stop pulling us into it, but when we feed into their mess we are allowing them to get off their chest what they really can't tell the person their mad at.... They love to throw this masculine around because this is something they probably don't have & wish they did. MOVE AROUND & Child STOP DRAGGING & BEING MAD at these lonely black boys. Celebrate you & enjoy your life....
I wouldn’t just say that. It’s the fact that many of the Black Men that do that bash black women. You ask them why you date them and they say because “Black Women this “and “Black Women that” They view them as the ultimate Prize. Not all but many. I don’t see any other ethnicity of Men doing this. Not White, Arab, Hispanics, African etc. But many Black Men feel so comfortable disrespecting their own race. And the sad part is they hate being profiled and discriminated against but have no Problem doing that to their own women. And People of other races see it and laugh at the Irony. I’m an African and it’s very visible to me. I feel sad for American Black Women. It’s sad that men of their race can’t see their beauty. But they can see it in other races of women. And they don’t like their attributes. But they love a black woman’s attribute in a non black woman’s body. Even if it’s fake. They deserve better. I think it’s due to many factors and no one can stop it but y’all. Not the dating outside y’all race but the bashing and hatred of Black Women. Hope I made sense.
You are spot on.... once they appreciate bw, all the rest will fall in place. Honestly a lot of bm, bw, ww, other races are taking notice and are realizing who the real problem is.
Other non-white men also put white women on a pedestal. This isn’t a black-only plight. White beauty standards impact other races as well. White/whiteness is seen as a “trophy” in every non-white society. You may notice it more within your own community, but make no mistake it happens in others.
@@NotSandraBullockYou’re missing the point of the video. This is about Black Men. There is clearly a division between Black Men and Women and this one of the issues. Of course we can talk about European beauty being the “standard” But right now we are talking about Black Men and Women.
@@gihanmusa6087 your are correct again. Everyone want to water down our plight by any means necessary. Kind of like “all lives matter”, when the conversation isn’t about all, but about black people specifically. Some people want to intentionally misunderstand.
I dated a black man who was originally from Brazil but was adopted by a white family. He used to go on about “not being black “ and when he slick said something about my dark skin color I was done. Ain’t nobody got time for that
I feel you! We have failed our youth and our Nubian Queens. ME personally...I just want to see them happy. We have to build a strong culture again this time with financial stability. It is time for the "MEN" to step up....anytime we get wealth we forget about the past. King keep pushing your narrative...I'm working on building that wealth and turning that tide....good luck to you!
Nubian queens?😂 man miss me with that bs......skin color doesnt make queens......whats on the inside does, and a large percentage of women in general are not queens including black women
@@franknice187 I HOPE THIS IS A WOMAN commenting with "MISS ME WITH"! I'm going to approach/address if you are a female. I don't know if you like being called B**CH, NI**A, etc. But this gender war within my people need to stop...but like said I'm coming. Date/love whomever make you happy...enjoy your life!! The way I communicate do "NOT" change for no one! I believe in what I believe in and/or 🙏🏿 for what I believe in. SO "QUEEN" good luck to you..praying for the best for you if you're trying to live a good life. But if this a dude...this is another conversation!
I don’t care who black men date. We need to stop caring. The last thing we need is a black man who is forced to be with one of us who truly wants a white woman. Imagine how we would get treated by a man like that.
I hate when they say BW are masculine....no it's more like taking care of their responsibilities, being mature and doing grown-up ish. If that makes BW masculine then BM should be embarrassed
What I can say is black women have the highest demands, but are the least desired woman across the board. Only 1 of 4 black women will get married. Online dating stats say black women are the last to get chosen as well. I'm not pointing this out to put black women down. All I'm saying is these numbers are very telling.
I think many black men get it all wrong. I don't think black women care who you date, just don't add us in the equation. Don't mention us. Don't put us down we have nothing to do with your choices. I date whomever and I don't do it because I view black men in a negative light. I don't see the point in downing my own race for my choices.
I remember a time in the 80s and 90s era where black couples were building empires together and were looked at as strength and unity and made other cultures want to unite and join the black community from media, sports, entertainment, etc...BET and MTV was promoting black love so much which made other communities happy to see the black community lifted. Back to the roots! Protect your loyal lionesses!
Exactly! I grew up during that time so I can definitely remember that. Sometimes I wish I go back to the 90s, particularly 94-95 when I was 16. Best time in my life.
No, it’s not that y’all got to the point that you’ve given up on your women. You’re in the position you’re in because you forsook your women and children before we even got here. Black women, I hope y’all notice this pandering is only because that reality is setting in. Be smart.
This is one reason why I don’t simp for BW like the naive man in this video is doing. Even when being honest, open, and positive, BW will still complain, attack, and tear you down. Instead I cape for other Black men to protect Black men, and i call BW out on their BS.
You know what? I've never find white women attractive for me to date them. When I was about 19, my aunt took me and my mom to get blessings from acolytes and they are mostly WW. I told my mom that I don't want them to touch me, I only want black women to touch me, because I feel comfortable and happy among them. There is something about white women that give me the creeps. Like a eerie, or a hostile presence. It's like the older I get, the more I feel about them that's repulsive. I felt nothing but love from black women when I grew up.
I had to take my son out of middle school, and homeschool him, because he could tell that the ww teachers hated his self assuredness. They kept calling me, complaining, and trying to get me to agree to Ritalin. I brought him home to save him from those witches
You have no idea how much I appreciate this comment. I feel the same way. I went to all white schools when I was growing up, but I never wanted to get close to them and get to know them. Both my parents and I thought I might have been gay because I just wasn't interested in anyone in highschool. No, just turned out that I wasn't attracted to WM. Repulsed really.
I don't get upset about black men dating outside our race but I do think that most of them don't understand or appreciate that no one will ever hold them down like a black woman. We relate to your struggle in ways that others usually can't. We probably are too much to deal with because we have been out here grinding; going to school, putting up with racism in the workplace, and trying to protect our families and often doing all that alone. I don't consider that to be masculine because we do not want to be men. But we are not damsels in distress either.
I'm a blckwoman and we'll hv to agree to disagree... We're in RACIST AMERIKKKA Blck ppl need each other... We are hated by everyone. Divide and conquer
Don't feel that way black women you should care because a time is coming when you think these other races are going to love and protect you you better think twice they don't want you but to use abuse and sex you and you will be ruined wake up pray seek God
It is refreshing to see a black man talking this way. The thumbnail says that black women need black men more. What black men don't realize is that we are the ONLY ones that need black men. It is not only that we need you more. No one else even cares about black men. It is sad that more of them don't realize that. And now black women are walking away. When black men lose black women they will lose the only people who have ever fought for them. And when black women make a decision there is no turning back from it. So sad.
@@supersaturn956 black ppl in general do have issues but it starts with the black man. Black men want to lead in everything except accountability.Dont put it on blackmen? since you state "its a black people issue in general" are you speaking up when black women are mistreated or looked down upon and honor tainted? im willing to bet..that you dont and will say somehow say you didnt see or hear it..so it is "not your experience" 😂..bm just jump on the band wagon with the rest of the people that hate you..You bm be so comical..i swear
@Men of israel - If you don't care why do you have to say you don't care? We already know how much you don't care by just looking around and seeing what is going on in our communities. We just need to do what is right for us. If it is being with a black man, great. If not that is ok too
Yea we all gotta do better and work together as real people not to be hating on each other black men bashing black women and black women bashing black men this needs to stop cause we making our selves look bad that’s why the white man don’t have respect for us because we don’t know how to love each other we just hate each other so bad we kill each other esp hood guys/thugs that’s out there making us look bad but people so worried about the white man being racist when you really need to worry about the black man and the Black woman being colorist well esp black men darkskinned men are bashing their own skin tone (darkskinned Women) im Brownskinned and I also see darkskinned women bashing light skinned men saying their soft,cocky,childish I mean most of them are but not all of them but we need to do better as people and fight together not against each other
A lot of men love using “ submission.” In my opinion, a man does not have to demand submission, or refer to specific Bible verses confirming “submissiveness” of women. When a man honors, respects, commits, edify, cherishes his woman( in public and private), she will naturally respond in kind. But, it starts with VALUES. What values were instilled in you as a man/ woman?
I have a beautiful melanated Empress by my side and I couldn't have asked for anything better, I love her with all I am. She came to me heartbroken once because of a channel she was on where black men were talking crap about black women, she asked me " how could they say that about people who looked like them" and I could not give her a response because It made no sense to me too, you are beautiful sister, more precious than you know, don't let these demon possessed men dim your light🦋🖤
Na man our people are just emotionally unstable. we’re the only race of people who complain and make endless videos and posts about it. Every problem in the black community is a problem that other communities have faced and are facing, but we’re just the only ones that put it on front Street 24/7 365.
Black men hold the most blame, but in the end, it is women that choose the men they have a family and kids with. And don't say you didn't know he was lazy or abusive because rarely do they show no signs. Don't get with someone based on superficial things and then try to change them into decent people
Thank you for saying it how I feel it. I understand love is love, but as a black woman it hurts to see when a black man gets his ducks in a row he dates or marries outside like we don't complete that package.
Sister don’t let that bother you. All of it is toxicity relationships.. some BM have a self hatred and ain’t nothing you can do about that! Without self love- how can HE love anything that resembles him “....
I just dont get it it's like The WW dates a BM shes looked down upon but the BM think hes getting a prize,its like BM aren't proud of who they are tryna chase who they think they should be smh.
Black men don’t date white girls because their a prize alot of them do it because they just happened to like a white girl it’s not all about race sometimes it’s about love
@@JBSkits123 False! Most of them date WW because they hate BW or love their white skin and features. It's a fetish for them and has everything to do with race. Some don't even find BW attractive at all because they subconsciously hate themselves. Stop the lies!
As a white woman I won't date or have anything to do with black men who bash black women. If I'm dating a black man and he starts carrying on about black women are this or that, I look at him like...what's wrong with you? Most of my best friends throughout my life have been black women and if that's how you feel about them then I feel sorry for you. Then they start to back peddle and say things like well some black women are ok but most of them be like...this or that. And that's when he starts getting cut off. What if we have a daughter? Are you gonna hate her? Are you gonna be rude to my friends or my family because there are black women in my family too. But they don't know that about me in the beginning. I find that black men who bash black women and then try to date me are fetishizing me. Or think that it's some kind of societal come up. I don't feel that way but I can see the influence from a predominantly white society influencing that type of thinking. When I see that I understand that he doesn't like me as a person I'm just being used. And I move on.
This man is being criticized by other black women on UA-cam for his transparency and honesty. I think his channel is very much need whether we agree with him or not. We need a Black mans perspective on these issues within our communities. I had to unsubscribe to girl channel cause its like what more do you want, at this point a lot of women are really bitter and I get it.
A lot of boys out here are ok resting in their femininity. I can't really call them men because real men don't act that way. Am feeling the content. I'm gonna need a deeper dive before I can grow with you, so far so good! - From across the pond in Deutschland 👍🏽!
I agree that Black women need us more. We need generational wealth which typically is only achieved through the black family and I'm in no way advocating that we should be flocking to white women but I have a disagreement with you. You say that Black Women want to build with us but at what point are you referring to and what exactly are we building? The growing narrative I see is that they want a "high value man". Someone who makes 6 figures (approx 8% of Black men in America, possibly less globally), has a house that's expected to be the matrimonial home, a nice car, social status, the expectations to buy them red bottoms and berkin bags (putting our wealth in meaningless things), the list goes on. The majority of this type of men are 40+ when you subtract athletes and entertainers and they expect this out the gate from the time they leave high school which is unrealistic. The fact is we need each other and the community to work together so that our descendants have a chance to maybe have a headstart at achieving some of these things earlier than we can. We also need financial literacy and a wealth mindset. So again I ask at what point and what are they trying to build with us? It sounds like we're cooking and they're bringing a plate when the food is ready. They aren't willing to accept us at 21 as is making 30k/yr and achieving those things with us along the way a lot of times by strategizing and working together. They want it done from the jump and that ish takes time, time they are not willing to wait because they think they can just get someone better (hypergamy). The type of man mentioned above is typically emasculated by our own women, further driving a wedge between us and that can lead Black men to look elsewhere for acceptance. There are also other factors that come into play. I don't hear you discussing things like who they are choosing early in life like the Pookies and Ray Rays or how some of them are becoming single mothers as a result of dealing with those men which also repeats the cycle of poverty. If we're going to discuss accountability it has to be across the board. We need to make better decisions as a collective. And if we're going to talk about building it has to be without preconceived expectations or a sense of entitlement where both parties bring something to the table and are ready to put in the work. P.S. I appreciate you discussing these difficult topics and trying to hold men accountable. I'm not trying to disrespect you, your channel or Black Women. I love my people passionately and want to see us all do better.
Thank you so much! I just subscribed to you as well. You almost had me in tears because I thought about my mom, grandmother, having to hold the family down. Young man you are very wise. I think you write a book if you haven’t already.
In most cases white women are just as difficult to deal with, if not more difficult to deal with than black women. Just saying it ain't always peaches and cream. The sooner BM figure that out the better, but to each its own.
Thank you my black king. My black brother THANK YOU! They don’t love us. Us black women love you all so much I KNOW I LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH I WILL NEVER DIVEST AND MIX WITH ONE OF THOSE ! I Devote my life to my brown counterpart no matter how hard If we have love and respect we can do it. I will never sell out
I've been trying for years to love BM I've been super hurt behind just trying to give a BM my all body, mind, and soul and each time I've been taken for a ride and taken very much for granted I've experience high levels of mental and physical and emotional abuse and abandonment. I have grown exhausted with it all I'm so weary and tired behind attempting to be in love with the BM over years I've experienced PTSD because this also stem from my Father in my childhood as well my own brother and no matter how hard I wanted to have a healthy relationship when it came to BM men in general including the men in my family it was a up hill battle,and in this present day I struggle with trust and allowing a man to lead me I had to learn to be tuff because I never felt I had protection from the men in my life or felt accepted or loved by one which created a deep empty wound and at some point of time I had to address my trama and seek a therapist for healing because I had so much anxiety. I've gotten better over time and I'm in the process of healing and learning self love and care, but I still hesitate when being approached by BM because of my lack of trust and it's sad because I want to be open but I just feel like I can't there's so much pain...💔💔💔
I get it. I’m glad you’re in therapy. Self love and self care comes first. Get your happiness back and focus on overcoming the things that are hindering you as a woman. The right guy will come in due time.
People dont believe me when I say this is a generational curse. Its spoken in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 28. Sis learn to love your self I pray you have relationship with Yeshua your heavenly Father. He is the one they call Jesus of today he can heal your broken heart. You are a true queen and just remember we are a broken people who have had our true identity stolen from us. Study your Bible, Love your self and God will give you the desire of your heart. Let God bring Him to you. A lot of times when we are broken in a relationship we unconsciously choose the same type of toxic men to further breaks us down. I'm praying for you sis as I have gone through the same situations but Yeshua has healed my mind body and soul. I recommend Him
@@ms.w3633 Well said. This verse specifically comes to mind... Deuteronomy 28:54 So that the man that is tender among you, and very delicate, his eye shall be evil toward his brother, and toward the wife of his bosom, and toward the remnant of his children which he shall leave:
Hey there! Just became acquainted with your channel because Successful Ladies Live did a response video to your one about Black women losing interest. I am probably your mom's age (mid-50s). Though college-educated, well-spoken, well-taught and possessing the so-called "pedestal" look (fully ADOS/Black light-skinned with long hair) I experienced rejection, rudeness and even open hostility from many Black guys back in my prime, and not just the young ones. Multiple times Black men who were 10-30 years older than me told me that's why they were with White women when I refused sexual advances or other nonsense. By the time I reached 40, I started to pray and asked God to give us to somebody else. I feel like He honored my prayers. That said, I like your content, and am very proud of the steps you've taken to turn your life around. I believe you will make some Black woman - regardless of shade - a very good husband and your children an excellent father. May God's hand rest upon you in favor.
I'm in the process of divorce from an interracial relationship because for the last few years I been telling everyone close to me I feel lonely. I can't speak my st louis language to a white girl. I can't even joke around about black movies and stuff because She don't know. I feel 100 times weaker than I was before i met this woman. I miss my black women.
I do have a problem with the TREND and the number of black men who go outside of our race, because black women don't as often. What I have a problem with the most though, is that the same black men that will marry or date only white, will only have sex with black women. Like that shyt...is soooooo wrong. It's not the white women who are screaming and crying when black men are killed unjustly, even when they have a black man or it's their black man the police kill. It's always us grieving them, when they die, when they leave us, when they don't take any interest in our children but play the ideal dad to their mixed children. It's all too much. I can't even look at this topic too much because it makes my heart hurt.
King where have you been these last 5 decades. We have been telling ya this for at least 5 decades thank God. It is so good to hear that you finally really truthfully understand like no one has ever spoken like we speak to each other about this issue I have never heard a black man come all the way home. There is hope for our future I am so happy
This is such a real conversation....thank you for bringing this up...it reaches me really deeply as a black woman....because I honestly know that we need black men so much. So grateful for putting this on the table.
Ladies, please let them go! Any man that’s guilted into being with you is NOT the right man for you. It will be toxic and potentially abusive. He will resent you. It will not end well. And be careful of any man singing your praises, he might be doing it for his own personal gain. Peace & Blessings ✨💫
2 many of our people-male/female-are using the internet 4 public bashing and making money. Crazy. And those who behave that way, Just LEAVE and go to the community's of those you covet & TELL THEM "I ADORE & WORSHIP you."✌
I never knew I needed to hear a black man say these words... I thought I just didn't care anymore... but I was wrong. Thank u for reminding me... I do care STILL for black men.
Black women ALREADY outnumber black men in the U.S. so really the odds are in men's favor. I know quite a few brothers who are married to beautiful bw they met during college and grad school and online. And these are some very feminine, sweet beautiful bw. (I seriously tell some of them they need to consider modeling) When I asked these guys, why they did not date out like some of their peers, they told me it's not that they couldn't pull a nonblack chick, it's that they wanted a black wife. That let me know that these guys who complain about there being "no good bw" or "all be having an attitude" or all are "masculine" are not telling the truth. The truth is they probably couldn't get the bw they wanted a) because they just weren't a good fit for whatever reason (different goals, different set of value etc.) b)they have some underline issues they haven't addressed and women can pick up on that, so they avoid them c) they were open to dating women of all races and chose to marry a nonblack women; even if they had bw that were genuinely interested in them.
I think your right. I really wish the BM & BW that want each other could just find each other and let every one else go off into the sunset. I truly feel you on the working on yourself part. Crazy thing is...now I just want to keep grinding. I'm not sure if my success lends time for relationships. It will lead to success for legacy. Finding a balance is the struggle.
@@TheShumakeWay hopefully you will get your message out....it could definitely help both sexes understand one another....if you haven't already check out Shahrazad Ali, she wrote a book for black men basically holding bw accountable....it was just too far ahead of it's time...New Subscriber!
@@TheShumakeWay I'm not sure if it's even still in print...I loaned (apparently gave) mine away years ago...I'll check around and see if I can source you one
Your contributions to the community are greatly appreciated brother💪🏾 I salute you all the way from the motherland, be constructive because a lot of minds around you are systematically programmed to be destructive, you are the true definition of a "king", righteousness and honor to maintain order, Camagu☀️
Thank you my Brother for having a desire to bring people together on a level that has been ignored for many, many years. I commend you and I support you in making a stand from a place of integrity and love.
I can honestly say I don't care if black men date outside of the race. I don't like how BM put BW down. I have no problem marrying outside of the race to a man who loves and appreciates me over a black man who disrespects me. I will not be with a man just because he's black
The shaming language stopped working in the 80's. Black men will marry whomever they want with no apologies and without giving any reasons, it's nobody's business.
It hurts. I am a single 53 yr old black woman. I waited for a black man. I turned down other races because I wanted to be married to a black man. As you say, I have given up and will look elsewhere.
Here's the thing... I've never been in any official relationship with any woman in general. Furthermore, I've only approached BW and i can't count the number of times on one hand i've been rejected, turned down, over look, misjudged, not taken seriously or played. American, African, and Caribbean. I have never gone out of my race ever. Its June 2021 and if i decide to go out and try and the experience is favorable then what will now happen when i share my experiences with others = A LONG RIPPLE EFFECT. At this point in time it's either one continues to suffer emotionally or DO whats best for you to be happy.
Most black men dont share with black women, but will give it outside of...but the black woman doesn't mind working beside their man, most have nothing material wise to offer, but love which is a foundation enough to make it through if we work together and make a life towards more. But just when things get good, the men leave to go outside of , to impress something younger or new who has no idea what's it's taken to get what the outside sees. They never look back, ever unless what' came up is on the way back down
This topic isn’t played out with black men. It’s past due time for a real BM to come here on YT and check the dusty BM logic! There aren’t enough good BM telling the truth to the dusties in these YT streets.
You made water appear in my eyes because you spoke so eloquently about a Nation of people who have been beaten down before and after slavery's existence and we are so lost for the lack of knowledge that we do not even consider the possibilities of the actual truth being the truth. In my honest opinion I believe when the masks are taken off the scary events to come will sync in and one of many questions will be "is it to late for change?" That's when you'll know it's too late! Thank you king for sharing...APTTMHY!!
You gotta be the only black man I’ve seen (at least in the comments) that gets some type of respect from black women when you praise and show your respect and love towards them, maybe they find you attractive or something because in reality they focus on the men that don’t want them, disrespects them but ignore the ones who do want and appreciate them. It’s weird af and kills a lot of hope for black men that do appreciate black women. Hopefully they see before it gets too late cause many men are starting to just be done with women in general
I understand the points you made, but if BW want a a good BM they actually have to COMPETE for him. BW are not entitled to commitment from a good BM and vice versa. Men in general know that if they want a good/desirable woman that they have to compete for it, but modern women, BW especially seem to think they inherently deserve a good man.
Wow UA-cam and others are really checking me, when i check surten video's like this one the thing start buffering and trippin, only let me know that this is a good channel for me ...see how that works..and hiding information in books does not work on me, greetings from Daniël (man) from Amsterdam😊😆😆😆
Each and Every One of us can DATE who we want. It's NONE of YOUR or ANYONE ELSE'S BUSINESS!! Like Diana Ross said in her Song: "It's MY HOUSE, and I LIVE HERE!" What we decide to do with our LIVES is OUR CONCERN, not yours nor any other person. Focus on YOU and get Yourself Together so you can LIVE LIFE to the FULLEST!! Interracial Dating is going to continue to BOOM whether you like it or not, and Reality is definitely going to continue to SLAP you in the Face!!
Everything you've said is 100% I love my black men and will continue to support them. But since they have seemed to find so called peace in another race instead of there own beautiful black women, I'm no longer against dating and possibly even marrying outside of my race either.
I feel you if black people could just stick together completely instead of going against each other over every little thing will be so much better off!
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Bro I haven't had a real relationship in my life...ive been used the whole time...why shouldn't I see what's out here?
If you’ve really been used that much, it’s gotta be something you’re doing bro and it doesn’t matter what race you date. If you don’t figure out what it is they’re going to use you too. I was just about to record a video about this earlier today too. I think I’m going to go ahead a record it now.
@@TheShumakeWay yea that's why I changed my environment...i felt sorry for a lot of the ones I slept with
You were going after fixer uppers. I used to that. You know why? I didn’t have my stuff together, i was insecure, and I wanted to be with somebody that made me feel like they needed me. I wasn’t even attempting to pull women that had their stuff together around that time. If you’re in those shoes, you don’t need to date any race right now bro. You gotta work on yourself.
@@TheShumakeWay and you can't get your shit right if people pulling strings in the background so you can't get your shit right...people playing on your phone...people snooping in your bank accounts trying to keep you from your children
BM dating out has never offended me. It's the ones who publicly make disparaging comments about us while dating out, that offends me. I've dated outside my race and I NEVER felt the urge to make awful rhetoric toward Black men.
Btw thanks for understanding BWs plight.
I feel the same way.
The black woman’s plight is my plight as well. To not love y’all is to not love myself, because without y’all we will cease to exist.
Exactly you said it all
You said it all. 👏🏿👏🏿
You said it. It’s the disrespect you get from the person that’s dating outside. I have seen it from sisters too. Trying rub it in your face. I got attitude before from a mixed couple that was looking for me to comment on their child because he was so cute and I refuse to give them the satisfaction and the sister got mad. It’s not the fact that the child wasn’t pretty. It the fact that we think we are pretty only when our skin tone is lighter. Love my peoples.
Slavery is OVER! BLK Women have CHOICES in Life!
You're on a different frequency and most wont even understand the great scheme of life. Yes, many women are forced to be masculine to survive cause BM dropped the ball. Then we too Masculine to be wives and BM feel emasculated because they're competing with us. We all need healing and self awareness because we are a product of our environment. Therapy needs to be a Norm in our communities.
They'll (toxic bm) be on him very soon and say hes pandering.
This ain't the 1st time a BM is holding BM accountable.
I appreciate it; I just hope they dont run him off like they did another content creator who eventually just gave up on YT
Word.
I could've agreed more 💯👏🏽
I personally don't mind black men dating white woman, just don't disrespect your own race in doing so! It's that simple!
it's half the truth cause once black women found out the guy from power Omari Hardwick was married to a white woman they went crazy that man was minding his business, and black women showed him no respect. This not the first time something like this has happen. Black men at that level don't have time to put down black women.
Yes I agree 💙
@@toreyjoseph1286 it's 💯 with me, no half truths goin on here! Black men get so upset when they realize they are no longer the main choice. Look how they tried to drag Jodie Smith because she chose to be with a white man. Black men hate it just as much!
Sista we love black women.Dont let Media and Soo called fools saying they don't like sistas.
@@dustfreequeen5151 lmao coming from south america and now living in Amsterdam most humans hate it except turkish people because of history and they are very accepting towards african descended people here women or man compared to other europeans .most human beings within a culture hates it when their counterparts date out its a normal thing that exist sinds the beginning of mankind to humans its a sign of losing your culture.beside most humans dont like being out of their comfort zone they will most likely stay within their own ethnic group , people are living to much on the internet a alternative reality that narrows your view point .my black brothers will rather marry a black women because you get us and vice versa. when it comes to mix race african people thats different tho .
✨Femininity can not exist without Masculinity.
AMEN
Balance, if one energy overpowers the other, it becomes toxic
That's it 🎯✨🌟
it can’t exist without security, protection, a safe environment
@@PrincessYonna1 Amen!
You have no idea how happy I am that you have stood up, told the truth and held your brothers accountable...VERY RARE
I’m just trying to spread the truth. Y’all been saying it for the longest. Maybe hearing it from a man will make a difference.
@@TheShumakeWay it absolutely will, you are appreciated! 😊
@@TheShumakeWay and i'm here for it !
Very rare !!!
We don't want to lose you
As a black man, I will trade any other races of women for a glass of coffee. But I'll protect my black queen with my life. ✌
Simpleton
@@franknice187 nincompoop
That’s sweet, but why are you against other races? All races are equal!
@@KS-ky3ln He prefers black women and thats ok.......being a sucka and protecting some broad with his life is not.
I feel the same way bout my Kings 🥰
One of the BROTHERS that SPEAKS TRUTHS!
I am biracial and I wouldn’t never date or marry a BM who admit that he only date biracial and none black women. I would never procreate with such men due to the disgust of the child looking like his self hating self.
That doesn't change anything because biracial worship white men normally . I prefer black woman personally.
@@cedric6956 It is less to do with the fact that biracial women worship white men, and more to do with black men not having much to offer them economically. The white man purchase stocks and the black man buy an expensive car on credit to impress his uneducated friends.
@@sacoope1 I would agree with you before 2015, but with the numerous grown ups I know and channels for black men that appear,black men tend to be more stable financially. Many work in bank , as accountant,broker and many develop their knowledge in CIS and programing skills. I am surprised by the number of black fellow I see right now in my studies for Commercial and Corporate Finance. I am not saying it to change the mind,I even prefer it this way. I prefer that biracial like white men rather than us. Because this way we can focus on our goals and not having false ideas.
@@cedric6956 You are speaking on a micro scale , I am speaking in general. Black men are fetishised but most of them are not married material. They are not economically savvy.
@@sacoope1 Yes you are right.But I am not worried,I know that with the potential I see,many black men will shine in the future. By the way I am not african american, but west african. And I don't agree about fetishisim of black men about biracial. Their disdain at this level is clear. I don't know for the US context but in the french-speaking world , disdain and hate toward black men.
The problem of no father in the home affects black women as well as black men...
I don't mind bm dating ww, I honestly wish even more bm dated out. Let ww be the new face of single motherhood. Just don't bash bw when you do, just date out and stfu bout bw..
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Nah.......bw are the face of single motherhood its just sad yall dont see why
New face of single motherhood 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@Japhya Senorta they already know why when yall open ur mouths
😂😂😂😂 single biracial kids
I grew up with seeing that bm were never interested in bw..at least not in my area. Even as I got older, they were with white and non-black women.
My friend invited a guy she just met out with us for new years one year and he brought his black friend...almost immediately he said, "I dont like or date black girls" anyway all this to say, I've spent 20ish years with the understanding that where I'm from, they dont want us. Im not angry, just used to it.
I looked elsewhere and found a good guy. Didn't work out but now I'm currently dating a Jamaican. I think because he was born there, that's what he grew attraction and appreciation towards. He loves dark skin, natural hair, which are things looked down upon from the bm in my area. He also works hard and put himself through school...
It just seemed many bw will have to look outside their culture and or race to find men who will appreciate, not tolerate
Was dating non- Black men ever an option for you? I'm not sure why Black women wait around for the sliver of Black men that are willing to date us.
@@levelup9547 when I said I looked elsewhere, I meant that I found a non black man. So I didn't wait. Just said it was always my understanding that bm didn't want us.
@@levelup9547 where did yall grow up? In america I have never seen self hating blsck men... ive seen a handful at most growing up in america but never seen this “sliver of black men that date bw” because they were always more black men who loved bw then vice versa
@@Keemac00
Lies
@@Keemac00 You never turned on the radio and or watched tv? Have you heard of Kobe Bryant? Lil Wayne? 50 cent? Dre? Kanye? Tyrese? Taye Diggs? I’ll 🛑 here - I have things to do.
Is "Masculine" really what they say Black Women are, I think black men forced us to be in a position that was meant for them. I had to be more Bold & Handle Business if though the man of the house were no longer there, I'm all woman nothing masculine about me but handling business like a man would, only to keep from being taken advantage of.... It really confuses me when I hear black men say that. No! we're not bitter or angry we just have to step from one role to the next (woman to man) & it's sometimes stressful.... At least when my children were under 18.. & what's crazy is you've done everything right, I didn't have the opportunity to walk away & leave him with the kids. So I did what I had to do.
I talked about that in this video
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Check it out and let me know what you think.
@@TheShumakeWay
Love That Video!!!!
Thank you 🙏🏽
As a bw ppl try to mess with you for no reason so it’s tough to maintain an eternally bubbly personality when out of nowhere a coworker, person on the street or educator will try to come for you. Even online when looking at something that has nothing to do with bw, ppl will drag bw into it. So I don’t think it has anything to do with bw actually being masculine. That’s just something they say to offend bw. I’ve seen bubbly and optimistic bw get put through the ringer. I know feminine bw who are not valued. Bm proudly love masculine ww so if all bw became the epitome of femininity today these bm would find something else to say. They look for ways to discredit bw. It’s just how their minds are molded. The strong don’t fall for that so if a bm genuinely loves bw he’s strong minded and maybe bw shouldn’t worry about the rest.
@@LaReign
I don't entertain or engage with negativity, people will talk about you all day, us as black women need to ignore these comments on line that black boys drag us into, a Man wouldn't do such things. These boys have deep down mom or dad issues, hurt people tries to HURT PEOPLE. When we ignore this childish wining that some of them do, then they would stop pulling us into it, but when we feed into their mess we are allowing them to get off their chest what they really can't tell the person their mad at.... They love to throw this masculine around because this is something they probably don't have & wish they did. MOVE AROUND & Child STOP DRAGGING & BEING MAD at these lonely black boys. Celebrate you & enjoy your life....
Simple. Black women love black men more than black men love themselves.
If ppl learn to surround themselves with positive influences they will no longer feel insecure.
Exactly
If they love us they won’t be giving us attitude
119 dumbass people actually liked your comment.
@@StylistecS those dumbasses understand that she's right
I wouldn’t just say that. It’s the fact that many of the Black Men that do that bash black women. You ask them why you date them and they say because “Black Women this “and “Black Women that” They view them as the ultimate Prize. Not all but many. I don’t see any other ethnicity of Men doing this. Not White, Arab, Hispanics, African etc. But many Black Men feel so comfortable disrespecting their own race. And the sad part is they hate being profiled and discriminated against but have no
Problem doing that to their own women. And People of other races see it and laugh at the Irony. I’m an African and it’s very visible to me. I feel sad for American Black Women. It’s sad that men of their race can’t see their beauty. But they can see it in other races of women. And they don’t like their attributes. But they love a black woman’s attribute in a non black woman’s body. Even if it’s fake. They deserve better. I think it’s due to many factors and no one can stop it but y’all. Not the dating outside y’all race but the bashing and hatred of Black Women. Hope I made sense.
You are spot on.... once they appreciate bw, all the rest will fall in place. Honestly a lot of bm, bw, ww, other races are taking notice and are realizing who the real problem is.
Other non-white men also put white women on a pedestal. This isn’t a black-only plight. White beauty standards impact other races as well. White/whiteness is seen as a “trophy” in every non-white society. You may notice it more within your own community, but make no mistake it happens in others.
@@NotSandraBullockYou’re missing the point of the video. This is about Black Men. There is clearly a division between Black Men and Women and this one of the issues. Of course we can talk about European beauty being the “standard” But right now we are talking about Black Men and Women.
@@gihanmusa6087 your are correct again. Everyone want to water down our plight by any means necessary. Kind of like “all lives matter”, when the conversation isn’t about all, but about black people specifically. Some people want to intentionally misunderstand.
American Blackwomen are dating other races like never before..it was rare at first.
I dated a black man who was originally from Brazil but was adopted by a white family. He used to go on about “not being black “ and when he slick said something about my dark skin color I was done. Ain’t nobody got time for that
I feel you! We have failed our youth and our Nubian Queens. ME personally...I just want to see them happy. We have to build a strong culture again this time with financial stability. It is time for the "MEN" to step up....anytime we get wealth we forget about the past.
King keep pushing your narrative...I'm working on building that wealth and turning that tide....good luck to you!
I agree and I appreciate your support bro. Thank you 🙏🏽
Ron....good luck to you as well.
Thank you, stay strong
Nubian queens?😂 man miss me with that bs......skin color doesnt make queens......whats on the inside does, and a large percentage of women in general are not queens including black women
@@franknice187
I HOPE THIS IS A WOMAN commenting with "MISS ME WITH"!
I'm going to approach/address if you are a female. I don't know if you like being called B**CH, NI**A, etc. But this gender war within my people need to stop...but like said I'm coming. Date/love whomever make you happy...enjoy your life!! The way I communicate do "NOT" change for no one! I believe in what I believe in and/or 🙏🏿 for what I believe in.
SO "QUEEN" good luck to you..praying for the best for you if you're trying to live a good life.
But if this a dude...this is another conversation!
I don’t care who black men date. We need to stop caring. The last thing we need is a black man who is forced to be with one of us who truly wants a white woman. Imagine how we would get treated by a man like that.
Thank you Brother. You are so refreshing from the other relationship channels geared towards our people!
I appreciate you
Check out king of reads. He is also great
I hate when they say BW are masculine....no it's more like taking care of their responsibilities, being mature and doing grown-up ish. If that makes BW masculine then BM should be embarrassed
Nah were talkn about loud ass aggressive man like confrontational argumentative behavior.
Facts
Agreed
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What I can say is black women have the highest demands, but are the least desired woman across the board. Only 1 of 4 black women will get married. Online dating stats say black women are the last to get chosen as well. I'm not pointing this out to put black women down. All I'm saying is these numbers are very telling.
Wow. This guy is a gentle but warrior lion!!!!
Took the words right out of my mouth 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Yep!
love u L
I think many black men get it all wrong. I don't think black women care who you date, just don't add us in the equation. Don't mention us. Don't put us down we have nothing to do with your choices. I date whomever and I don't do it because I view black men in a negative light. I don't see the point in downing my own race for my choices.
BS.
I remember a time in the 80s and 90s era where black couples were building empires together and were looked at as strength and unity and made other cultures want to unite and join the black community from media, sports, entertainment, etc...BET and MTV was promoting black love so much which made other communities happy to see the black community lifted. Back to the roots! Protect your loyal lionesses!
Exactly! I grew up during that time so I can definitely remember that. Sometimes I wish I go back to the 90s, particularly 94-95 when I was 16. Best time in my life.
No, it’s not that y’all got to the point that you’ve given up on your women. You’re in the position you’re in because you forsook your women and children before we even got here. Black women, I hope y’all notice this pandering is only because that reality is setting in. Be smart.
FACTSSS Sydney !! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
How should we "be smart"?
What do you recommend?
Yep. Totally agree. I appreciate this video but I've been gone
This is one reason why I don’t simp for BW like the naive man in this video is doing. Even when being honest, open, and positive, BW will still complain, attack, and tear you down. Instead I cape for other Black men to protect Black men, and i call BW out on their BS.
@@DiverseLA that's nots us at all
You know what? I've never find white women attractive for me to date them. When I was about 19, my aunt took me and my mom to get blessings from acolytes and they are mostly WW. I told my mom that I don't want them to touch me, I only want black women to touch me, because I feel comfortable and happy among them.
There is something about white women that give me the creeps. Like a eerie, or a hostile presence. It's like the older I get, the more I feel about them that's repulsive. I felt nothing but love from black women when I grew up.
I felt the same thing beginning at 3 years old.
I had to take my son out of middle school, and homeschool him, because he could tell that the ww teachers hated his self assuredness. They kept calling me, complaining, and trying to get me to agree to Ritalin. I brought him home to save him from those witches
@@WapajeaWalksOnWater Can't say that I blame you.
@@WapajeaWalksOnWater
Good for you. I homeschooled my children too. Best decision I've ever made.
You have no idea how much I appreciate this comment. I feel the same way. I went to all white schools when I was growing up, but I never wanted to get close to them and get to know them. Both my parents and I thought I might have been gay because I just wasn't interested in anyone in highschool. No, just turned out that I wasn't attracted to WM. Repulsed really.
I don't get upset about black men dating outside our race but I do think that most of them don't understand or appreciate that no one will ever hold them down like a black woman. We relate to your struggle in ways that others usually can't. We probably are too much to deal with because we have been out here grinding; going to school, putting up with racism in the workplace, and trying to protect our families and often doing all that alone. I don't consider that to be masculine because we do not want to be men. But we are not damsels in distress either.
Well said
Why can't a Beautiful white women relate to a Black man struggle?
Black women could care less who y’all date because most of us are coming to our senses & realize there’s better outside of black men
I'm a blckwoman and we'll hv to agree to disagree...
We're in RACIST AMERIKKKA
Blck ppl need each other...
We are hated by everyone.
Divide and conquer
There’s nothing better in my eyes than a black man, but the baggage is what I’m done with. The games and all that.
Don't feel that way black women you should care because a time is coming when you think these other races are going to love and protect you you better think twice they don't want you but to use abuse and sex you and you will be ruined wake up pray seek God
It is refreshing to see a black man talking this way. The thumbnail says that black women need black men more. What black men don't realize is that we are the ONLY ones that need black men. It is not only that we need you more. No one else even cares about black men. It is sad that more of them don't realize that. And now black women are walking away. When black men lose black women they will lose the only people who have ever fought for them. And when black women make a decision there is no turning back from it. So sad.
Don't put this just on Black men. The same can be said about Black women. Black people in general have issues.
@@supersaturn956 black ppl in general do have issues but it starts with the black man. Black men want to lead in everything except accountability.Dont put it on blackmen? since you state "its a black people issue in general" are you speaking up when black women are mistreated or looked down upon and honor tainted? im willing to bet..that you dont and will say somehow say you didnt see or hear it..so it is "not your experience" 😂..bm just jump on the band wagon with the rest of the people that hate you..You bm be so comical..i swear
@Men of israel - If you don't care why do you have to say you don't care? We already know how much you don't care by just looking around and seeing what is going on in our communities. We just need to do what is right for us. If it is being with a black man, great. If not that is ok too
@@supersaturn956 - We all have issues. We need to start working on them instead of just saying we all have issues.
Yea we all gotta do better and work together as real people not to be hating on each other black men bashing black women and black women bashing black men this needs to stop cause we making our selves look bad that’s why the white man don’t have respect for us because we don’t know how to love each other we just hate each other so bad we kill each other esp hood guys/thugs that’s out there making us look bad but people so worried about the white man being racist when you really need to worry about the black man and the Black woman being colorist well esp black men darkskinned men are bashing their own skin tone (darkskinned Women) im Brownskinned and I also see darkskinned women bashing light skinned men saying their soft,cocky,childish I mean most of them are but not all of them but we need to do better as people and fight together not against each other
A lot of men love using “ submission.” In my opinion, a man does not have to demand submission, or refer to specific Bible verses confirming “submissiveness” of women. When a man honors, respects, commits, edify, cherishes his woman( in public and private), she will naturally respond in kind. But, it starts with VALUES. What values were instilled in you as a man/ woman?
Preach!!!!!!!
Black men, please date who you want. Black women, raise your standards. If you did, you really would not cry over spoiled milk
Yes black woman must continue to date and Marry Out. Especially, to the Alpha's of the World 💕
Most ppl "standards" are superficial and unrealistic.
I, as a Black woman don't care. Just refrain from putting down BW to justify your WW.
I’m more into Asian, black or Hispanic woman. White woman is ok. But I’m not really into them.
@@rain1676 congratulations
@@a_noelle8595 sorry if I a came up rude.
@@rain1676 it didn't
Ww?
We need more black men like you. Who speak the truth and who hold other black men accountable for their fuckery.
I literally started crying during this video. I've felt undervalued and unprotected for so long. 😕 . Thank you!
I have a beautiful melanated Empress by my side and I couldn't have asked for anything better, I love her with all I am. She came to me heartbroken once because of a channel she was on where black men were talking crap about black women, she asked me " how could they say that about people who looked like them" and I could not give her a response because It made no sense to me too, you are beautiful sister, more precious than you know, don't let these demon possessed men dim your light🦋🖤
I can care less if black men date out .. they always stare at me but I just smile 😊
It’s the norm
Calm down
But when I do it🤫
lol
The truth bombs just keep dropping! Loving it all the way from the UK. Keep it coming my brother.
Na man our people are just emotionally unstable.
we’re the only race of people who complain and make endless videos and posts about it.
Every problem in the black community is a problem that other communities have faced and are facing, but we’re just the only ones that put it on front Street 24/7 365.
You are the man, speaking y(our) calmly and sensibly. I hope that more men see your videos, it is time for a turnaround. Thank you sir!
Black men hold the most blame, but in the end, it is women that choose the men they have a family and kids with. And don't say you didn't know he was lazy or abusive because rarely do they show no signs. Don't get with someone based on superficial things and then try to change them into decent people
Thank you for saying it how I feel it. I understand love is love, but as a black woman it hurts to see when a black man gets his ducks in a row he dates or marries outside like we don't complete that package.
Awwww
Sister don’t let that bother you. All of it is toxicity relationships.. some BM have a self hatred and ain’t nothing you can do about that!
Without self love- how can HE love anything that resembles him “....
Because y’all aren’t lmaoo. Y’all show attitudes so what’s the point?
@@humzanafees9348 every other race show’s attitude, it’s an emotion everyone has ??
@@aimforaplanet8238 they will find out 😂
I love black women period.
They smell bro
Thank you brotha! Your support for black women is greatly appreciated❤
I hope your channel goes farther than you could even imagine. 👏🏾👏🏾
I just dont get it it's like The WW dates a BM shes looked down upon but the BM think hes getting a prize,its like BM aren't proud of who they are tryna chase who they think they should be smh.
U hit it on the head darling!
It's all about self gratification and control at the expense of others.
Black men don’t date white girls because their a prize alot of them do it because they just happened to like a white girl it’s not all about race sometimes it’s about love
@@JBSkits123 False! Most of them date WW because they hate BW or love their white skin and features. It's a fetish for them and has everything to do with race. Some don't even find BW attractive at all because they subconsciously hate themselves. Stop the lies!
A black man with sense! Xoxo
Gurl! He a whole unicorn!
I forgot they existed! Men like him have become a mythical creature!
@@dwhite8997 Black women with sense are even bigger unicorns!
@@DiverseLA 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Many got sense y’all the ones with the IQ of a roach 🪳
As a white woman I won't date or have anything to do with black men who bash black women. If I'm dating a black man and he starts carrying on about black women are this or that, I look at him like...what's wrong with you? Most of my best friends throughout my life have been black women and if that's how you feel about them then I feel sorry for you. Then they start to back peddle and say things like well some black women are ok but most of them be like...this or that.
And that's when he starts getting cut off. What if we have a daughter? Are you gonna hate her? Are you gonna be rude to my friends or my family because there are black women in my family too. But they don't know that about me in the beginning. I find that black men who bash black women and then try to date me are fetishizing me. Or think that it's some kind of societal come up. I don't feel that way but I can see the influence from a predominantly white society influencing that type of thinking. When I see that I understand that he doesn't like me as a person I'm just being used. And I move on.
Oh please girl
Don’t be” nice “
Bw hate us
Can’t you see it ??
This man is being criticized by other black women on UA-cam for his transparency and honesty. I think his channel is very much need whether we agree with him or not. We need a Black mans perspective on these issues within our communities. I had to unsubscribe to girl channel cause its like what more do you want, at this point a lot of women are really bitter and I get it.
I wonder which channel that was.....
Wow this is so refreshing seeing a black brother speak the Dam TRUTH. Thanks for being honest and for being a real man to admit this.
Well 1000% of us black women no longer CARE. Black men should date our more. That's a blessing anyways
A lot of boys out here are ok resting in their femininity. I can't really call them men because real men don't act that way.
Am feeling the content. I'm gonna need a deeper dive before I can grow with you, so far so good! - From across the pond in Deutschland 👍🏽!
I agree that Black women need us more. We need generational wealth which typically is only achieved through the black family and I'm in no way advocating that we should be flocking to white women but I have a disagreement with you. You say that Black Women want to build with us but at what point are you referring to and what exactly are we building? The growing narrative I see is that they want a "high value man". Someone who makes 6 figures (approx 8% of Black men in America, possibly less globally), has a house that's expected to be the matrimonial home, a nice car, social status, the expectations to buy them red bottoms and berkin bags (putting our wealth in meaningless things), the list goes on. The majority of this type of men are 40+ when you subtract athletes and entertainers and they expect this out the gate from the time they leave high school which is unrealistic.
The fact is we need each other and the community to work together so that our descendants have a chance to maybe have a headstart at achieving some of these things earlier than we can. We also need financial literacy and a wealth mindset. So again I ask at what point and what are they trying to build with us? It sounds like we're cooking and they're bringing a plate when the food is ready.
They aren't willing to accept us at 21 as is making 30k/yr and achieving those things with us along the way a lot of times by strategizing and working together. They want it done from the jump and that ish takes time, time they are not willing to wait because they think they can just get someone better (hypergamy). The type of man mentioned above is typically emasculated by our own women, further driving a wedge between us and that can lead Black men to look elsewhere for acceptance.
There are also other factors that come into play. I don't hear you discussing things like who they are choosing early in life like the Pookies and Ray Rays or how some of them are becoming single mothers as a result of dealing with those men which also repeats the cycle of poverty.
If we're going to discuss accountability it has to be across the board. We need to make better decisions as a collective. And if we're going to talk about building it has to be without preconceived expectations or a sense of entitlement where both parties bring something to the table and are ready to put in the work.
P.S. I appreciate you discussing these difficult topics and trying to hold men accountable. I'm not trying to disrespect you, your channel or Black Women. I love my people passionately and want to see us all do better.
Honestly, i feel like you are the only brother on youtube who defends his black women folk. You are a true man. An alpha male who is proud. Thank you
Thank you so much! I just subscribed to you as well. You almost had me in tears because I thought about my mom, grandmother, having to hold the family down. Young man you are very wise. I think you write a book if you haven’t already.
In most cases white women are just as difficult to deal with, if not more difficult to deal with than black women. Just saying it ain't always peaches and cream. The sooner BM figure that out the better, but to each its own.
More BM need to subscribe to this channel.
No we don’t. We am an accept if it was 50/50. But this is not. So nah.
@@StylistecS Well get off the page then and stop complaining.
@@StylistecS I don’t understand gibberish 🤷🏽♀️
Thank you my black king. My black brother THANK YOU!
They don’t love us. Us black women love you all so much I KNOW I LOVE YOU ALL SO MUCH I WILL NEVER DIVEST AND MIX WITH ONE OF THOSE !
I Devote my life to my brown counterpart no matter how hard If we have love and respect we can do it. I will never sell out
I've been trying for years to love BM I've been super hurt behind just trying to give a BM my all body, mind, and soul and each time I've been taken for a ride and taken very much for granted I've experience high levels of mental and physical and emotional abuse and abandonment. I have grown exhausted with it all I'm so weary and tired behind attempting to be in love with the BM over years I've experienced PTSD because this also stem from my Father in my childhood as well my own brother and no matter how hard I wanted to have a healthy relationship when it came to BM men in general including the men in my family it was a up hill battle,and in this present day I struggle with trust and allowing a man to lead me I had to learn to be tuff because I never felt I had protection from the men in my life or felt accepted or loved by one which created a deep empty wound and at some point of time I had to address my trama and seek a therapist for healing because I had so much anxiety. I've gotten better over time and I'm in the process of healing and learning self love and care, but I still hesitate when being approached by BM because of my lack of trust and it's sad because I want to be open but I just feel like I can't there's so much pain...💔💔💔
I get it. I’m glad you’re in therapy. Self love and self care comes first. Get your happiness back and focus on overcoming the things that are hindering you as a woman. The right guy will come in due time.
All i can add is THANK YOU.
People dont believe me when I say this is a generational curse. Its spoken in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 28. Sis learn to love your self I pray you have relationship with Yeshua your heavenly Father. He is the one they call Jesus of today he can heal your broken heart. You are a true queen and just remember we are a broken people who have had our true identity stolen from us. Study your Bible, Love your self and God will give you the desire of your heart. Let God bring Him to you. A lot of times when we are broken in a relationship we unconsciously choose the same type of toxic men to further breaks us down. I'm praying for you sis as I have gone through the same situations but Yeshua has healed my mind body and soul. I recommend Him
@@ms.w3633 Well said. This verse specifically comes to mind...
Deuteronomy 28:54 So that the man that is tender among you, and very delicate, his eye shall be evil toward his brother, and toward the wife of his bosom, and toward the remnant of his children which he shall leave:
Sounds like you stay picking the wrong black men do better in your choices
Honestly as black women I could careless if Blackman date nonblackwomen. I believe it a blessing in disguise
We dont care just leave us out of it.
lol
@Blue Siren and some of you don't speak about the same stuff when it comes to black men? Lol. I am not your enemy sister. I love black women.
@@africoon2034 Go and preach that on the plethora of UA-cam platforms of BM bashing BW...
@@indigoGoddess7 I am not here too argue with any of you. I just wanted to say something nice to you all. God bless!
Facts! AND, when Becky takes all your damn money; don't come back to the BW to make you a plate of pancakes! No Tyrone, you can't use my phone either.
Hey there! Just became acquainted with your channel because Successful Ladies Live did a response video to your one about Black women losing interest. I am probably your mom's age (mid-50s). Though college-educated, well-spoken, well-taught and possessing the so-called "pedestal" look (fully ADOS/Black light-skinned with long hair) I experienced rejection, rudeness and even open hostility from many Black guys back in my prime, and not just the young ones. Multiple times Black men who were 10-30 years older than me told me that's why they were with White women when I refused sexual advances or other nonsense. By the time I reached 40, I started to pray and asked God to give us to somebody else. I feel like He honored my prayers.
That said, I like your content, and am very proud of the steps you've taken to turn your life around. I believe you will make some Black woman - regardless of shade - a very good husband and your children an excellent father. May God's hand rest upon you in favor.
I'm in the process of divorce from an interracial relationship because for the last few years I been telling everyone close to me I feel lonely. I can't speak my st louis language to a white girl. I can't even joke around about black movies and stuff because She don't know. I feel 100 times weaker than I was before i met this woman. I miss my black women.
I do have a problem with the TREND and the number of black men who go outside of our race, because black women don't as often. What I have a problem with the most though, is that the same black men that will marry or date only white, will only have sex with black women. Like that shyt...is soooooo wrong. It's not the white women who are screaming and crying when black men are killed unjustly, even when they have a black man or it's their black man the police kill. It's always us grieving them, when they die, when they leave us, when they don't take any interest in our children but play the ideal dad to their mixed children. It's all too much. I can't even look at this topic too much because it makes my heart hurt.
Thank you for speaking out. Im always feeling like im never loved by a black man, but I always had love for them,but never get anything in return.
King where have you been these last 5 decades. We have been telling ya this for at least 5 decades thank God.
It is so good to hear that you finally really truthfully understand like no one has ever spoken like we speak to each other about this issue I have never heard a black man come all the way home. There is hope for our future I am so happy
Thank you , thank you, for seeing us.
You better Preach Sir. Keep doing what you are doing, bringing light to the situations that plague us as a race.
This is such a real conversation....thank you for bringing this up...it reaches me really deeply as a black woman....because I honestly know that we need black men so much. So grateful for putting this on the table.
Ladies, please let them go! Any man that’s guilted into being with you is NOT the right man for you. It will be toxic and potentially abusive. He will resent you. It will not end well. And be careful of any man singing your praises, he might be doing it for his own personal gain. Peace & Blessings ✨💫
Facts!!!! Everyone knows by now that there is money in triggering and or pandering to BW. This would be believeable if he was click baiting BM only.
@@allmylifeihadtodivest541 This !!! I think it’s pandering
2 many of our people-male/female-are using the internet 4 public bashing and making money.
Crazy.
And those who behave that way,
Just LEAVE and go to the community's of those you covet & TELL THEM "I ADORE & WORSHIP you."✌
I never knew I needed to hear a black man say these words... I thought I just didn't care anymore... but I was wrong.
Thank u for reminding me... I do care STILL for black men.
Black women ALREADY outnumber black men in the U.S. so really the odds are in men's favor. I know quite a few brothers who are married to beautiful bw they met during college and grad school and online. And these are some very feminine, sweet beautiful bw. (I seriously tell some of them they need to consider modeling) When I asked these guys, why they did not date out like some of their peers, they told me it's not that they couldn't pull a nonblack chick, it's that they wanted a black wife. That let me know that these guys who complain about there being "no good bw" or "all be having an attitude" or all are "masculine" are not telling the truth. The truth is they probably couldn't get the bw they wanted a) because they just weren't a good fit for whatever reason (different goals, different set of value etc.) b)they have some underline issues they haven't addressed and women can pick up on that, so they avoid them c) they were open to dating women of all races and chose to marry a nonblack women; even if they had bw that were genuinely interested in them.
So true
Good job bro keep up there good work keep speaking that truth
When will black women take accountability for their actions?
Keep having the conversations. They are needed. You are a shining light to me
I think your right. I really wish the BM & BW that want each other could just find each other and let every one else go off into the sunset. I truly feel you on the working on yourself part. Crazy thing is...now I just want to keep grinding. I'm not sure if my success lends time for relationships. It will lead to success for legacy. Finding a balance is the struggle.
There is a lot of self hatred amongst the black race...Great to hear this coming from a brother!! You nailed it!
Write a book......self publish if you have to
I would love to do that one day. Thank you 🙏🏽
@@TheShumakeWay hopefully you will get your message out....it could definitely help both sexes understand one another....if you haven't already check out Shahrazad Ali, she wrote a book for black men basically holding bw accountable....it was just too far ahead of it's time...New Subscriber!
I’ll check it out. Thank you 🙏🏽
I just remembered... somebody suggested that book to me, but I couldn’t find one for sale anywhere.
@@TheShumakeWay I'm not sure if it's even still in print...I loaned (apparently gave) mine away years ago...I'll check around and see if I can source you one
Your contributions to the community are greatly appreciated brother💪🏾
I salute you all the way from the motherland, be constructive because a lot of minds around you are systematically programmed to be destructive, you are the true definition of a "king", righteousness and honor to maintain order, Camagu☀️
Ill never turn my back on my black Queens. Bro you solid for pushing the truth
Thank you my Brother for having a desire to bring people together on a level that has been ignored for many, many years. I commend you and I support you in making a stand from a place of integrity and love.
I don’t know how I got this video in my suggestion, but speak that truth.
I can honestly say I don't care if black men date outside of the race. I don't like how BM put BW down. I have no problem marrying outside of the race to a man who loves and appreciates me over a black man who disrespects me. I will not be with a man just because he's black
Love you dude!!! Keep speaking the truth!!!!
Thank you for the support of black women all over the world .Keep making these powerful videos.🤓❤️💯
All praise to the Most High God Almighty, Amen. You said it all my brother. I pray we will listen and change bro.
The shaming language stopped working in the 80's. Black men will marry whomever they want with no apologies and without giving any reasons, it's nobody's business.
That's true.
It hurts. I am a single 53 yr old black woman. I waited for a black man. I turned down other races because I wanted to be married to a black man. As you say, I have given up and will look elsewhere.
This right here is giving me so much life! The honesty and insight on what is really going on is 100!
You’re so relatable and insightful! New subscriber🖤
Here's the thing... I've never been in any official relationship with any woman in general. Furthermore, I've only approached BW and i can't count the number of times on one hand i've been rejected, turned down, over look, misjudged, not taken seriously or played. American, African, and Caribbean. I have never gone out of my race ever.
Its June 2021 and if i decide to go out and try and the experience is favorable then what will now happen when i share my experiences with others = A LONG RIPPLE EFFECT.
At this point in time it's either one continues to suffer emotionally or DO whats best for you to be happy.
Who here cares who bm date?
Sadly a lot of black woman do
Most black men dont share with black women, but will give it outside of...but the black woman doesn't mind working beside their man, most have nothing material wise to offer, but love which is a foundation enough to make it through if we work together and make a life towards more. But just when things get good, the men leave to go outside of , to impress something younger or new who has no idea what's it's taken to get what the outside sees. They never look back, ever unless what' came up is on the way back down
We ain’t looking at y’all no more ..we looking past you ..enjoying life and prospering...this topic is PLAYEDDDDD OUT ✌🏾
This topic isn’t played out with black men. It’s past due time for a real BM to come here on YT and check the dusty BM logic! There aren’t enough good BM telling the truth to the dusties in these YT streets.
So why r u here?
@@Xara_K1 bc I can ✌🏾
Yep we have to continue to evolve and be the queens that we are fuck BM at this point
You made water appear in my eyes because you spoke so eloquently about a Nation of people who have been beaten down before and after slavery's existence and we are so lost for the lack of knowledge that we do not even consider the possibilities of the actual truth being the truth. In my honest opinion I believe when the masks are taken off the scary events to come will sync in and one of many questions will be "is it to late for change?" That's when you'll know it's too late! Thank you king for sharing...APTTMHY!!
You gotta be the only black man I’ve seen (at least in the comments) that gets some type of respect from black women when you praise and show your respect and love towards them, maybe they find you attractive or something because in reality they focus on the men that don’t want them, disrespects them but ignore the ones who do want and appreciate them. It’s weird af and kills a lot of hope for black men that do appreciate black women. Hopefully they see before it gets too late cause many men are starting to just be done with women in general
I kinda agree with this and what you mean by done with women in general? Like becoming gay?
@@kai8865 hell no, just focus on myself and don’t worry about no woman. I would never venture with that gay stuff that’s a no go
I understand the points you made, but if BW want a a good BM they actually have to COMPETE for him. BW are not entitled to commitment from a good BM and vice versa. Men in general know that if they want a good/desirable woman that they have to compete for it, but modern women, BW especially seem to think they inherently deserve a good man.
Wow UA-cam and others are really checking me, when i check surten video's like this one the thing start buffering and trippin, only let me know that this is a good channel for me ...see how that works..and hiding information in books does not work on me, greetings from Daniël (man) from Amsterdam😊😆😆😆
Each and Every One of us can DATE who we want. It's NONE of YOUR or ANYONE ELSE'S BUSINESS!! Like Diana Ross said in her Song: "It's MY HOUSE, and I LIVE HERE!" What we decide to do with our LIVES is OUR CONCERN, not yours nor any other person. Focus on YOU and get Yourself Together so you can LIVE LIFE to the FULLEST!! Interracial Dating is going to continue to BOOM whether you like it or not, and Reality is definitely going to continue to SLAP you in the Face!!
OMG!!!! A BROTHER WITB SOME SENSE!!!! WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN!!!
Everything you've said is 100% I love my black men and will continue to support them. But since they have seemed to find so called peace in another race instead of there own beautiful black women, I'm no longer against dating and possibly even marrying outside of my race either.
I feel you if black people could just stick together completely instead of going against each other over every little thing will be so much better off!