I wholeheartedly agree from personal experience. I’ve always been on the slim side but never got picked on, maybe because it was no secret that I trained in various martial arts from early childhood, wrestled in JV & varsity, and while all the jocks played football I played golf lol. Even tho I wasn’t winning championships nobody ever bothered me because I didn’t tolerate or even humor it. Best of all when one of the more popular bigger guys discovered Bruce Lee movies and learned my background, he challenged me to a lighthearted sparring match on the beach in front of everyone cuz his 6’4” 200lb self didn’t believe my little 5’9” 130lb skinny ass could touch him. Needless to say after the 3rd love tap kick to the head he gave up. So yes, Wrestling, combat sports, even golf teaches you how to be chameleon to blend into different social circles and situations, kinda like developing a spidey sense for these things. My best advice to my younger self and any other similar kids is definitely to start some martial arts training because it’s the only thing that can level the playing field in any conflict or test of confidence. Sadly I can’t help think most kids today aren’t pushed to building and testing their confidence beyond exams and inter-social drama.
Casey Burns Investing if you train martial arts to show off then you are a horrible martial artist. A good martial artist will always try to defuse the situation verbally and use fighting as a last resort.
Huginn Bodgaedir no doubt a good martial artist knows how to hurt someone. I’m just saying that a good martial artist will try to defuse the situation verbally if he thinks it’s possible.
@@inactive3184 he literally said "You don't feel the need to act out, you feel safe and confident" what's with the accusation ? He never said he was using it to show off. Chill out white belt.
@saganist unfortunately being "smart" dosent increase ur chamces of survival, being "street smart"( i prefer the term people smart) will increase ur chances of survival
“Wife wants to hug; under hook “ Dying right now.😂😂😂 I put her in closed guard unintentionally. Said she felt “safe” lol. I wish I had Jiu Jitsu in my teens, would have saved me from a lot of issues.
I agree with you. They pushed sports. Tried. I was artsy and into music. My parents n I have worked at healing. 80s and 90s youth propaganda put us at odds and at war with our "outdated" parents and that worked hell into our generation. But I do remember wanting to learn self defense so bad. But, as Jocko and Echo point out, it's not too late now.
@@Joshua-ye2eo i mean its only to late if your dead, im just thinking of all the crap i might not have dealt with at school if people knew i could defend myself, in a way i sort of worked to teach myself martial arts as best as any individual could, i watched alot of ultimate warrior Nd i did alot of practice kicks on the trees in the woods next to my house. One of the kids on my street taught me how to tackle cause his younger brother(who was a year or two older then me) used to mess with me alot, by highschool my freinds were getting into wrestling and i would kinda be a practice dummy for them to test moves on outside of practice, got pinned alot but it taught me how to avoid it as much as possible and i even get good enough that i could roll with one of my freinds for about 8 minutes before he wore me down, and he was in states, i just wish i had known eneough early on so when id get beat up at school in elementary and middle i could have put the kid in a choke hold and shown him that making a target outa me wasnt a good idea. While i cant go back and change the past for me i can definitely make sure i put my kids into it at a young age and ensure they are proficient and confident so they wont have to deal with the same things, someone messes with them they will be able to defend themselves and walk away from the fight without feeling like they we humiliated
My dad showed me every main artery before I was 5 lol... I think judo helped me calm down though, but learning too much before you can control yourself maybe bad..
@@patricknoel3642 Understood man. Totally.ike another person wrote, here, just be sure they understand defense and taking initiative but without looking for or setting up unnecessary fights. Knowing when to do something, I guess it means, and not just pounding someone cause we can. Lol. Easy to do in youth. Take care, I'll keep you and your family in prayer for it all!
I'm 27 and started training Muay Thai at 26. One of the best decisions of my adult male life. Once you learn a self defense craft it's one of the most invaluable skill sets you could possibly learn. Has so much functional carryover in social, physical and sexual dynamics.
Take control of your life. Learning self defence is a powerful tool, however it is simply that. A tool. It´s only one tiny aspect of a bigger underlying issue. Control. Many of us are not in control of our lives. We don´t understand money, so we´re at the mercy of financial advicers, hoping they´re being honest with us. We don´t have marketable skills, so we´re at the mercy of our bosses, hoping they won´t fire us and not treat us like shit. We don´t have social skills so we´re at the mercy of "fate", hoping it will someday throw high quality partners and friends into our laps. We don´t know how to defend ourselfes, so we are at the mercy of stronger and more skilled people, hoping they won´t use their strength against us. This is why it´s so powerful for young people to get their drivers licence. A car is freedom. You just took a tiny piece of control from your parents back. Always keep learning, always keep improving. Stay in control of your life.
You can't control who comes into your life,either. Sometimes fate throws a madman into your lap.Its nice to be able to throw him back into the street where fate awaits.
I mean keeping it a buck fifty, you *cant* control everything you can at best...pretend like you are able to have everything in your control and thats it
This was well written 👏🏻 (and not to detract from you it’s sad that you don’t see people with opinions like yours anymore… it’s just sad to see nowadays)
Dude the being controlled by another human being 100% sets me off. I can’t handle that. I am a big guy, but there’s always someone bigger. I really should start learning to fight instead of letting my muscle and size promote a facade to everyone about what I can actually do. Good tip!
Try starting high school at 90 lbs... in a town FULL of big corn-fed country boys... I never had a fight with a guy that didn't weigh TWO of me... Two years later at 110, I didn't have to fight much... OH... we'd "tussle" and wrestle a bit in the parks, backyards... whatever... BUT it wasn't fighting or getting picked on the way it had started... Something we "little fellers" learn quickly if we're going to survive surrounded by big guys, is they're ALL weak about the lower legs. Sure, they can have legs like tree-trunks, but those knees are trapped forever supporting double or more of the stresses of guys my size... Same with the ankles... and the hips, as long as we're on anatomy. Make the joints buckle, and the big guys go down. It's easier (usually) with particularly larger folks, because all that mass makes them slower... and in the fight-game, every millisecond counts. Bottomline, is you should DEFINITELY learn something. Size doesn't always impress everyone, and relying on it is a shortcut to getting injured or worse. ;o)
i start jiu jitsu on monday because of the inspiration of this podcast. thank you jocko youve helped me in many areas of life. im 29 and never been in a fight but i want to be more aware
I am 29 as well, been in lots of fights but never done BJJ and i really want to, boxing and everything else feels so useless compared to BJJ. Hope it goes well for you man! I hope i get the chance to train BJJ in a healthy way some day.
@@FirstLast-gk6lg really? Boxing is useless? LOL! Just you didn't know how to punch it doesn't mean its useless. I can knockout you using a 1, 2 combinations before you use your fucking useless bjj.
@@travisreacher704 Nah I doubt you've ever been in a fight. But be sure to take that personality of yours out with you, somebody will correct you of that I am sure.
What he’s saying is true. I was bullied but when I got into kickboxing my confidence and physique skyrocketed. Stopped getting picked on and I stopped fearing from people making fun of me. Get your son/daughter into it.
I’m a 5’ 4”, 160 lb 4 stripe purple belt and I walk around feeling like Superman all day, every day. I haven’t felt threatened in several years. Join us...
Yea man, I just got my blue belt two weeks ago and maybe not superman but I definitely feel like batman, Ive always been small and unconfident but each takedown I've sprawled or each time I've choked someone I've gotten a little bit more confident and now I feel invincible. Jiu jitsu is honestly like a superpower man
Which is good for you bud but don't get too carried away I hope. At my old Jits club a purple belt came in one day with a busted lip. Turns out he tried to intervene in an argument at a party and before he knew it someone had clocked him, which dropped him and split his lip. The puncher got out of there before the purple belt could recover. BJJ is fun, I agree everyone should try it, but never assume you are Superman or you're superior to other people in a fight just because someone gave you a coloured piece of cloth to tie round your waist.
Jocko talking about weighing 145 in high-school like thats little, I didnt hit 145 until I left Marine Corps bootcamp and I was on double rations wtf! I'm 170 now so its all good this was over 10 years ago
Shit i was 120 at the end of highschool, 135 end of marines now 145-150 lol. When I started doing wrestling and boxing It started changing the game a bit
Hearing them talk about how you think about it all the time, I had to laugh, because it is soooo true. Lying on the couch, my wife snuggles close and I become uncomfortable... She's got the underhook... Will I give her my back? I don't really feel comfortable with that thought. She might rear naked choke me... Her combined 0 days of Jiu Jitsu Training might put me in danger :-D
Started 2 weeks ago, its a blast dude. You won't get hurt like you think, just pick the right gym. One that is rough but not malicious, don't go to a cuddle gym.
This is very true. My dad grew up street fighting. I grew up with him beating me unconscious. Made me angry, so I found street fights. Eventually cracked my dad's skull with a cast iron pan when I was 12. Went away for a while. Been boxing ever since and it changed me. Now starting jujitsu and wish I had sooner. In my late 20s now.
When you know how to handle yourself you have little desire for confrontation. When people want to test you the light switch goes on. As they size you up the calm demeanor, thousand yard stare and body language speaks volumes and says, “You want to go? I own the space in front of me. No problem.” Being in a boxing gym or rolling on the mat on a regular gives you the proper mindset.
I've been saying this for too long and got plenty of shit from my parents (among other), who taught me that "violence is never way to go". After getting beat couple of times I learned my lesion but they still stay true to their ideology. Going the same way with raising my younger brother. Luckily he's got me but still... Got plenty of shit from them for teaching him how to fight. They go as far as to call me a "violent person" even tho I didn't had fight since early highschool (mid 20s now)... Regardless how many time it's proven wrong, It seems that those ideas that got implanted in their minds in 20s-30s stay forever, and that is what is really scary to me.
Yeah I believe it’s a disservice that parents don’t teach kids how to defend themselves. In most cases people that know how to defend themselves become less violent. It’s the ones that are secretly scared that start shit. Also in martial arts you learn humility pretty quick which deters you from bullying
This goes along with what one of Jocko's guests once said: "A harmless man is not a good man" "A good man is a very, very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control" Dr. Jordan Peterson.
Martial arts is one of the best human development programs in the world. I believe it's more than fighting, it's a staple of character and personality building in my life. Manhood, manliness and masculinity can all be developed in a respectful, healthy, compassionate, and disciplined way in martial arts.
Nine times out of 10, people who understand violence are disturbed by it. Even your everyday fist fight can go wrong a hundred ways - Broken bones, brain damage, death. People who don’t know how to fight don’t understand just how fragile they or their opponent are. So they fight at the drop of a hat.
When I entered High School at around 100 lbs. The wrestling coach had a demonstration at our freshman PE class. He made the statement that "size is not a disadvantage is the sport of wrestling as we pair folks up by weight class". So I went out for the team. Later I decided to go to a Military school for college, turns out it was one of the smartest thing I ever did. The understanding of leverage and how to manipulate the human body to your advantage was invaluable. I still have the muscle memory 30 years later. Our 9 year old just started Taekwondo and it's been so good for him in just a few weeks. Enough so that we've started family classes. The discipline that they are instilling in him has been good for his 9 y/o mind.
sure knowing how to fight can give you more confidence, a feeling of safety etc, but its about integrating repressed instincts such as aggression is what I think he meant by his statement/question. we all have what Carl Jung called the "shadow" i.e. repressed instincts, insecurities, the more primitive side of man. bringing such things into consciousness leads to a more healthy/stable psyche
I taught my daughter small circle jujitsu/joint locks (on top of striking skills) and ended up with a ruptured ligament on my right pinky. I still can't straighten my finger out all the way but I was so proud of her. When you're well trained, you carry yourself differently and are less likely to be a victim. Thanks for the great content!
Back in high school, my life got a lot better when I learned how to box and sparred frequently. Especially because boxing is a sport, you have more respect for your opponent and that makes confrontation a lot easier.
We are so naive when young, it seems strong smart male father figures and actual fathers do make an amazing impact. I think lots of sports outside is the best stabilizer in many ways - self defense is good too. This was the 70's for me, but today ?? Wow the amount of fantasy worlds young people have access to online are everywhere, it's got to be confusing as hell
Go ahead and commit to it my guy, whether it's bjj, boxing, muay thai even straight into Mma as a beginner is okay nowadays. What ever appeals to you commit and find a spot, maybe try more than one gym and sign up at the best one. That burning desire does not stop!!
I'm a small town dude myself dude. I recognize many of the proposals ^^^^ just said, probably aren't possible. Get after it. You have a dog? You can throw a dog in a guillotine. Try to find a friend who wants to train too. Remember, small town dudes, refuse to let their egos get in their way. The farm teaches humility, thus finding a training partner is easier than you think. Fins a wrestler. Somebody was on the wrestling team. They know more than you think. Buy training videos. Find somebody who wants to fight. Hint: only smart people get good and bjj. Find somebody smart and convince them...
@@gideonevans9717 Take at least one lesson and see for yourself, I can guarantee with no training you will learn a couple things in one hour. Move to another city if you can (not just to train, unless thats your goal) 21 is young, a year of training and a year away from your home city will do so much for your confidence and state of mind.
One of my best memories as a young kid was putting on the Karate jacket and tying my white belt on. Although I didn't pursue the courses for reasons I forgot, I will never forget simply showing up and learning basic stage 1 karate techniques. Horse stance. Bam.
“We didn’t know how to fight. That’s why we had to prove we knew how to fight. If we knew how to fight we wouldn’t have to prove we knew how to fight.” So true.
Couldn't agree more, Jits Skills/Fighting Skills=Awesome Situational Awareness Whenever I enter a room filled with people, I am sizing up every person in that room going through 100's of possible fight scenarios, thought it was just me being crazy.
I see this lacking in the kids who work for me. It concerns me. My son was born craving physical conflict and has been wrestling and kickboxing and going to jujitsu since he was 4 because if we don't he is a wild beast.
That's normal. It's called masculinity. It's a good idea to have him do combat sports where he can fulfill his masculine urges for competition and domination in a safe environment; while simultaneously he learns to control himself and is less likely to act out.
I got lucky as a 300 pound powerlifter and former university football player from my gym informed me about wrestlers and ji jitsu experts.As part of his training for football he used to wrestle national level wrestlers as he stated being a linebacker was essentially a 3 second wrestling match.He also used to go up to the ji jitsu club and told me how he had been dominated by our buddy who is now a Blackbelt but was a brown belt at the time.Later on I went up to the same club to do boxing as they shared a space with the ji jitsu club.The boxing coach wasn't there but my black belt friend was and told me I was doing ji jitsu that day.I got dominated badly but I knew what to expect because of what my football friend had told me.I havnt had to wrestle any good wrestlers yet but according to my buddy they take you off of your feet fairly effortlessly at the national level.
This is an interesting topic in neurology. Studies of brain development in young boys has found that clinically measurable cognitive deficits are incurred if deprived of wrestling/rough and tumble play. I believe it's certainly the case that being able to practice offensive and defensive techniques in a reasonably safe environment is important for the development of boy's sense of self confidence and self esteem.
Rock climbing and mountain hiking are big wins. They're both sure combinations of competence builders and sports (or disciplines) that force you to get into shape.
Iv always wanted to get into mountain climbing shape those dudes are insanely strong but i am 240lb 6'4" and cant do a single pullup lol so id have a long road ahead of me
@@FirstLast-gk6lg You started to think about it. That's a good sign. Anything you rationally believe you can do, that you can do. Go for it! And good luck!
I totally agree that self defense is a huge stabilizer in people. I also think it helps deescalate verbal conflicts as well, people who are afraid of conflict and have never seen a conflict turn physical often behave like cornered animals. Insulting and threatening you, whereas someone who can fight wouldn’t threaten anyone unless they were 100% serious. But I do think as young boys sometimes fighting out small disagreements is useful, it’s a quick way to establish pack order and is usually not actually dangerous since kids aren’t strong enough to cause real damage
I would like to be trained in ju jitsu when a was 10 or 12... 😢... Thank God at my 40's finally training this... it feels like super powers... this separate you from all the people who isn't trained ... I don't need to prove anything to anyone... cuz now I can fold people clothes when people are still in them...❤
I've never trained jiu-jitsu however I'm aware of everything around me so much so that friends and family think I am paranoid I noticed people doing things that are abnormal in that situation I noticed where all security systems are where vulnerabilities are where my vulnerabilities are sizing up everything I mean everything 100% of the time my head stays on a swivel it always sounds corny but it's the truest thing if one stays ready they never have to get ready and that is a distinct advantage in my opinion
When you learn to fight the most important lesson is the fact that some smaller guy than you will mess you up time and time again and all you can do is accept it and learn more.
For that reason I would not tell My Friends when i start to train muay thai jajaja I don't want these guys trying to lift up their egos or challenge me
I learned to box 10 years ago and I never feel intimidated, even around bigger ppl. I just know they have no chance. I can take care of myself. It s always better when Im in training. That confidence multiplies.
It's also a "Good worker bee" campaign. The whole podcast is about being a good slave to our corporate masters. That being said, best podcast/podcasters ever.
You can`t teach what you don`t know. Jocko knows BJJ (and other stuff), so he teaches that. Meanwhile, in the Czech Republic, boys and men play ice-hockey.
Recently did wrestling for 30 days. I do not know how to fight. I learned how much I didn't know and now I'm just in awe. Been much more careful about conflict since.
The smart thing to do when somebody can physically dominate you is pick up a weapon. That's the only way to win in that situation. But that's what we want to avoid is the necessity of using a weapon. What I like about BJJ is the control it gives you in a situation. You can submit somebody instead of hurting them.
I'll admit, I was a violent pre teen. I struck my friend frequently when we rode the bus together. I did it jokingly but I still was aggressive to someone I called my friend. That ended when I started tae kwon doe and later MMA. I didn't have the self awareness to see it at the time, but now I understand that I finally learned control of my more aggressive violent impulses. I finally had someone put those feelings and urges in the right context. Within a few months I stopped being violent with my friend beyond the occasional mutual roughhouse or pickup football. We became actual friends. Even when I lost interest in the discipline of the martial art, I had control over myself and my emotions that I might have otherwise lacked.
I started muay thai 6 years ago and jits 3 years ago because I remember thinking I'm 5'7 155lbs and I hate confrontation but I need to understand how to defend my person and those around me when shit hits the fan. I'm not superman but I sure as hell will scrap with anyone knowing at any moment I could take his back and hit a rnc. My 16month old daughter will for sure at minimum will be a blue belt in BJJ and hopefully some judo and muay thai/boxing
When I was a teenager in the 2000s, if guys didn't do rugby or football ⚽ then they were usually into climbing /rowing or martial arts (I did japanese jiu-jitsu) and plenty of guys began weightlifting, from chatting with a rugby coach recently it was suggested that young guys generally have gone the opposite way. (Broad statement but still).
I agree...sports and combat sports in particular are essential to character development. That confident business guy you meet might have been a NCAA wrestler.
Good morning gentlemen! I am not on Instagram or twitter but I’d like to submit a question here if that’s possible? I started BJJ about 6-7 weeks ago and would like to know how to become a sponge of a white belt. I want to learn everything but find it challenging some days to grasp the material. I believe my ego to be in check and most days I’m relaxed on the mat. I wrestled through high school so those aspects I don’t worry about as much. It’s grasping the material and how to become better I find myself dwelling on.
I have a lot of teenagers working for me. The boys really concerned me. It has been about 15 years since I was in a position like this and there is a BIG difference in the kids.
Assessing every man you meet? That’s a crazy thought to me! As a guy. And I’ve been through basic and AIT. Then again i don’t fight and haven’t since 6th grade. And if I do I have knife cuz fuck fighting fair
I’d pay soo much money to watch jocko double leg Santa coming down the chimney
Lol
Haha
"Oh, come on man"
Plot twist, Santa is a coral belt in bjj
getting bullied is just as much to mentality as it is to physicality maybe even more so
My 13 year old son has been doing BJJ for a year and it has totally changed his self-confidence for the better. Absolutely invaluable.
That great good for him
I'm 13 and I have been training too. It's really helped me to feel more confident and not scared all the time
Im 13 and i want to learn mma or any martial art me and my family watch joe rogan.
I wholeheartedly agree from personal experience. I’ve always been on the slim side but never got picked on, maybe because it was no secret that I trained in various martial arts from early childhood, wrestled in JV & varsity, and while all the jocks played football I played golf lol. Even tho I wasn’t winning championships nobody ever bothered me because I didn’t tolerate or even humor it. Best of all when one of the more popular bigger guys discovered Bruce Lee movies and learned my background, he challenged me to a lighthearted sparring match on the beach in front of everyone cuz his 6’4” 200lb self didn’t believe my little 5’9” 130lb skinny ass could touch him. Needless to say after the 3rd love tap kick to the head he gave up. So yes, Wrestling, combat sports, even golf teaches you how to be chameleon to blend into different social circles and situations, kinda like developing a spidey sense for these things. My best advice to my younger self and any other similar kids is definitely to start some martial arts training because it’s the only thing that can level the playing field in any conflict or test of confidence. Sadly I can’t help think most kids today aren’t pushed to building and testing their confidence beyond exams and inter-social drama.
Good for your son but i would like to challenge him to a spelling bee
"It's better to be warrior in the garden than gardener in a war"
-Bruce Lee
what war are you referring to? 😛
Shinobi were said to dress as a gardener with "tools" to infiltrate the enemy, and in this instance.. One could be both simultaneously.
My father exudes that
@@dragonballZbigBang No, not Bruce Lee.
When you don’t feel like you have something to prove you don’t feel the need to act out. You feel safe. You feel confident.
Do you train a martial art?
Casey Burns Investing if you train martial arts to show off then you are a horrible martial artist. A good martial artist will always try to defuse the situation verbally and use fighting as a last resort.
Huginn Bodgaedir no doubt a good martial artist knows how to hurt someone. I’m just saying that a good martial artist will try to defuse the situation verbally if he thinks it’s possible.
@Jesse A. Yep, that's an old Marine Corps adage. The truly tough guy is the quiet confident guy who knows he has nothing to prove to anyone.
@@inactive3184 he literally said "You don't feel the need to act out, you feel safe and confident" what's with the accusation ? He never said he was using it to show off. Chill out white belt.
When im in good shape and/or training MMA that's when i feel the most calm and confident. And safe
Black Vito - Moneyology Im an instructor n wish i had a dollar for every time I heard that. Just go! It will get you in shape quickly!
Absolutely agree
Cant help but kinda want someone to try something........especially a smaller, unarmed individual(s)....😛
Adam Gardener Everybody has arms.
I'm 73yrs old. I still evaluate every man when I walk in somewhere! I guess it never goes away. Retired Jarhead.
... and that's probably why you've made it to 73, well done. Respect & thx for your service (even though I'm not from the US)
Jocko was bullied as a kid??? Did he go to school with dinosaurs and grizzly bears and shit??
He dropped the soap
Jocko's existence killed off the dinosaurs
DANI M. Sag Yup. Jocko kept the chickens alive for protein and crocs/alligators cuz you know, SEALs. Has a soft spot for amphibious things.
@saganist unfortunately being "smart" dosent increase ur chamces of survival, being "street smart"( i prefer the term people smart) will increase ur chances of survival
Khabib did
“Wife wants to hug; under hook “ Dying right now.😂😂😂 I put her in closed guard unintentionally. Said she felt “safe” lol. I wish I had Jiu Jitsu in my teens, would have saved me from a lot of issues.
They are our grappling partners by association.
I wish my parents knew this when i was a child in the late 90s and early 2000's, i feel like it could helped me so much
I agree with you. They pushed sports. Tried. I was artsy and into music. My parents n I have worked at healing. 80s and 90s youth propaganda put us at odds and at war with our "outdated" parents and that worked hell into our generation. But I do remember wanting to learn self defense so bad. But, as Jocko and Echo point out, it's not too late now.
@@Joshua-ye2eo i mean its only to late if your dead, im just thinking of all the crap i might not have dealt with at school if people knew i could defend myself, in a way i sort of worked to teach myself martial arts as best as any individual could, i watched alot of ultimate warrior Nd i did alot of practice kicks on the trees in the woods next to my house. One of the kids on my street taught me how to tackle cause his younger brother(who was a year or two older then me) used to mess with me alot, by highschool my freinds were getting into wrestling and i would kinda be a practice dummy for them to test moves on outside of practice, got pinned alot but it taught me how to avoid it as much as possible and i even get good enough that i could roll with one of my freinds for about 8 minutes before he wore me down, and he was in states, i just wish i had known eneough early on so when id get beat up at school in elementary and middle i could have put the kid in a choke hold and shown him that making a target outa me wasnt a good idea. While i cant go back and change the past for me i can definitely make sure i put my kids into it at a young age and ensure they are proficient and confident so they wont have to deal with the same things, someone messes with them they will be able to defend themselves and walk away from the fight without feeling like they we humiliated
My dad showed me every main artery before I was 5 lol... I think judo helped me calm down though, but learning too much before you can control yourself maybe bad..
@@patricknoel3642 Understood man. Totally.ike another person wrote, here, just be sure they understand defense and taking initiative but without looking for or setting up unnecessary fights. Knowing when to do something, I guess it means, and not just pounding someone cause we can. Lol. Easy to do in youth. Take care, I'll keep you and your family in prayer for it all!
It's not too late. Jiujitsu will make your life better regardless of your age...
I'm 27 and started training Muay Thai at 26. One of the best decisions of my adult male life. Once you learn a self defense craft it's one of the most invaluable skill sets you could possibly learn. Has so much functional carryover in social, physical and sexual dynamics.
Take control of your life. Learning self defence is a powerful tool, however it is simply that. A tool. It´s only one tiny aspect of a bigger underlying issue. Control. Many of us are not in control of our lives.
We don´t understand money, so we´re at the mercy of financial advicers, hoping they´re being honest with us.
We don´t have marketable skills, so we´re at the mercy of our bosses, hoping they won´t fire us and not treat us like shit.
We don´t have social skills so we´re at the mercy of "fate", hoping it will someday throw high quality partners and friends into our laps.
We don´t know how to defend ourselfes, so we are at the mercy of stronger and more skilled people, hoping they won´t use their strength against us.
This is why it´s so powerful for young people to get their drivers licence. A car is freedom. You just took a tiny piece of control from your parents back.
Always keep learning, always keep improving.
Stay in control of your life.
I agree 100%! Teaching our kids to become self reliant. That's the most important thing that a parent can do.
This is great and honest perspective. I love it. Clearly all of us can relate to one or more of those issues.
You can't control who comes into your life,either.
Sometimes fate throws a madman into your lap.Its nice to be able to throw him back into the street where fate awaits.
I mean keeping it a buck fifty, you *cant* control everything you can at best...pretend like you are able to have everything in your control and thats it
This was well written 👏🏻 (and not to detract from you it’s sad that you don’t see people with opinions like yours anymore… it’s just sad to see nowadays)
Dude the being controlled by another human being 100% sets me off. I can’t handle that. I am a big guy, but there’s always someone bigger. I really should start learning to fight instead of letting my muscle and size promote a facade to everyone about what I can actually do. Good tip!
True fighters know there is ALWAYS someone bigger, faster and stronger.. That's why you pick your fights wisely!
100%, i am a big guy too but fought a lot as a kid so i know size isn't something that you can rely on. I wish I learned BJJ when I was young.
Lol if you can’t handle that then you’re gonna have a really bad time when you start doing bjj
Try starting high school at 90 lbs... in a town FULL of big corn-fed country boys... I never had a fight with a guy that didn't weigh TWO of me... Two years later at 110, I didn't have to fight much... OH... we'd "tussle" and wrestle a bit in the parks, backyards... whatever... BUT it wasn't fighting or getting picked on the way it had started...
Something we "little fellers" learn quickly if we're going to survive surrounded by big guys, is they're ALL weak about the lower legs. Sure, they can have legs like tree-trunks, but those knees are trapped forever supporting double or more of the stresses of guys my size... Same with the ankles... and the hips, as long as we're on anatomy. Make the joints buckle, and the big guys go down. It's easier (usually) with particularly larger folks, because all that mass makes them slower... and in the fight-game, every millisecond counts.
Bottomline, is you should DEFINITELY learn something. Size doesn't always impress everyone, and relying on it is a shortcut to getting injured or worse. ;o)
Find a legit bjj gym and go train man. Then come back here in a year and thank me.
“Okay who wants to get shot” -Echo Charles.
i start jiu jitsu on monday because of the inspiration of this podcast. thank you jocko youve helped me in many areas of life. im 29 and never been in a fight but i want to be more aware
I am 29 as well, been in lots of fights but never done BJJ and i really want to, boxing and everything else feels so useless compared to BJJ. Hope it goes well for you man! I hope i get the chance to train BJJ in a healthy way some day.
Not about getting into fights. The more you train, the less you'll want to but you'll be ready should you have to.
@@FirstLast-gk6lg really? Boxing is useless? LOL! Just you didn't know how to punch it doesn't mean its useless. I can knockout you using a 1, 2 combinations before you use your fucking useless bjj.
@@travisreacher704 Nah I doubt you've ever been in a fight. But be sure to take that personality of yours out with you, somebody will correct you of that I am sure.
How's your journey going are you still doing BJJ?
What he’s saying is true. I was bullied but when I got into kickboxing my confidence and physique skyrocketed. Stopped getting picked on and I stopped fearing from people making fun of me. Get your son/daughter into it.
I’m a 5’ 4”, 160 lb 4 stripe purple belt and I walk around feeling like Superman all day, every day. I haven’t felt threatened in several years. Join us...
That comment inspires me
I’m 170 and I feel like I need to be at least 185 to be able to do anything. Then again, I’m far from a high level purple belt lol
mrkrabz123 not that far my friend. Just keep coming. You’ll be a Viking in no time.
Yea man, I just got my blue belt two weeks ago and maybe not superman but I definitely feel like batman, Ive always been small and unconfident but each takedown I've sprawled or each time I've choked someone I've gotten a little bit more confident and now I feel invincible. Jiu jitsu is honestly like a superpower man
Which is good for you bud but don't get too carried away I hope. At my old Jits club a purple belt came in one day with a busted lip. Turns out he tried to intervene in an argument at a party and before he knew it someone had clocked him, which dropped him and split his lip. The puncher got out of there before the purple belt could recover.
BJJ is fun, I agree everyone should try it, but never assume you are Superman or you're superior to other people in a fight just because someone gave you a coloured piece of cloth to tie round your waist.
Jocko talking about weighing 145 in high-school like thats little, I didnt hit 145 until I left Marine Corps bootcamp and I was on double rations wtf! I'm 170 now so its all good this was over 10 years ago
I've seen kids 6'2 180lbs in middle school.. That's when you need an equalizer lol
InFamous Spoon lol I‘m 17 6,2 203 lbs not fat training boxing and lifting weights for like 2 yearsnow everyday
Was thinking the same thing lol.... I was 155lbs in college!
Glad I wasn't the only one who thought 145 in high school didn't seem so small!
Shit i was 120 at the end of highschool, 135 end of marines now 145-150 lol. When I started doing wrestling and boxing It started changing the game a bit
Hearing them talk about how you think about it all the time, I had to laugh, because it is soooo true. Lying on the couch, my wife snuggles close and I become uncomfortable... She's got the underhook... Will I give her my back? I don't really feel comfortable with that thought. She might rear naked choke me... Her combined 0 days of Jiu Jitsu Training might put me in danger :-D
Sigh
* Signs up for jujitsu class..
This is gonna hurt...
Better now than never.
Just had my first class today friend. Go, try, smile. It's was an awesome experience for me. Tomorrow morning.... maybe a different story. 🤷♂️😁
Chad Hardman Hey man I started training last week, I hope I stick with it, good luck and enjoy!
It's not good training if it doesn't hurt homie
Started 2 weeks ago, its a blast dude. You won't get hurt like you think, just pick the right gym. One that is rough but not malicious, don't go to a cuddle gym.
It's a good hurt though.
This is very true. My dad grew up street fighting. I grew up with him beating me unconscious. Made me angry, so I found street fights. Eventually cracked my dad's skull with a cast iron pan when I was 12. Went away for a while. Been boxing ever since and it changed me. Now starting jujitsu and wish I had sooner. In my late 20s now.
ummmm ... wow that's wild
Jocko Willink for President 2024
He would be the greatest president in US history without a doubt
Don't think the Republic will make it until then, we need him now in 2020.
@@thegreenman2030 All this chaos will end in November.
Why?. We have Trump! #Trump2020
Jocko willink/Dan crenshaw
When you know how to handle yourself you have little desire for confrontation. When people want to test you the light switch goes on. As they size you up the calm demeanor, thousand yard stare and body language speaks volumes and says, “You want to go? I own the space in front of me. No problem.” Being in a boxing gym or rolling on the mat on a regular gives you the proper mindset.
Ok, so if I ever meet Mr. Willink in public and shake his hand, I'll understand why he falls to the ground laughing uncontrollably.
Assuming he's a sane enough person to not attack random people he just met, you'll be fine. Why go to jail for attacking someone you don't know?
It’s Jocko Willink. He doesn’t laugh.
I want to learn how to box and wrestle but those gyms ain't opening till the end of time
Train at home.
@@BadassMindset
Don't listen to this guy.
No one can learn self defense alone.
You always need a partner to train or someone to teach you.
@@teIekid You can train with other people at home, or at least, go over techniques... Or like you suggest, do nothing.
Some gyms are open u just need to look. Dont let covid be ur excuse
Some gyms have opened up, you just have to wear a mask or take a Covid test.Im in NYC btw.
"Let's see how smart THIS guy is..."
I've been saying this for too long and got plenty of shit from my parents (among other), who taught me that "violence is never way to go". After getting beat couple of times I learned my lesion but they still stay true to their ideology.
Going the same way with raising my younger brother. Luckily he's got me but still... Got plenty of shit from them for teaching him how to fight. They go as far as to call me a "violent person" even tho I didn't had fight since early highschool (mid 20s now)...
Regardless how many time it's proven wrong, It seems that those ideas that got implanted in their minds in 20s-30s stay forever, and that is what is really scary to me.
Yeah I believe it’s a disservice that parents don’t teach kids how to defend themselves. In most cases people that know how to defend themselves become less violent. It’s the ones that are secretly scared that start shit. Also in martial arts you learn humility pretty quick which deters you from bullying
This goes along with what one of Jocko's guests once said:
"A harmless man is not a good man"
"A good man is a very, very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control"
Dr. Jordan Peterson.
"Only strength can cooperate"
"Weakness can only beg"
Dwight D. Eisenhower
Martial arts is one of the best human development programs in the world. I believe it's more than fighting, it's a staple of character and personality building in my life. Manhood, manliness and masculinity can all be developed in a respectful, healthy, compassionate, and disciplined way in martial arts.
I can’t even count how many times I tapped on my first day of jiu jitsu...it was a learning experience. Forever humbled by it.
I love how it took them 15 minutes to say:
"Guys are always sizing each other up."
Great content and hilarious as usual 😄
Nine times out of 10, people who understand violence are disturbed by it. Even your everyday fist fight can go wrong a hundred ways - Broken bones, brain damage, death. People who don’t know how to fight don’t understand just how fragile they or their opponent are. So they fight at the drop of a hat.
I very much enjoy these q@a's where echo talks! Thanks!
Firas Zahabi says that kids learning martial arts is equally as important as learning science and math.
100%.
When I entered High School at around 100 lbs. The wrestling coach had a demonstration at our freshman PE class. He made the statement that "size is not a disadvantage is the sport of wrestling as we pair folks up by weight class". So I went out for the team. Later I decided to go to a Military school for college, turns out it was one of the smartest thing I ever did. The understanding of leverage and how to manipulate the human body to your advantage was invaluable. I still have the muscle memory 30 years later.
Our 9 year old just started Taekwondo and it's been so good for him in just a few weeks. Enough so that we've started family classes. The discipline that they are instilling in him has been good for his 9 y/o mind.
sure knowing how to fight can give you more confidence, a feeling of safety etc, but its about integrating repressed instincts such as aggression is what I think he meant by his statement/question. we all have what Carl Jung called the "shadow" i.e. repressed instincts, insecurities, the more primitive side of man. bringing such things into consciousness leads to a more healthy/stable psyche
I taught my daughter small circle jujitsu/joint locks (on top of striking skills) and ended up with a ruptured ligament on my right pinky. I still can't straighten my finger out all the way but I was so proud of her. When you're well trained, you carry yourself differently and are less likely to be a victim. Thanks for the great content!
I'm in my 60s and still like this.....
Bjj+powerful takedown skills+basic striking skills=good to go!
I’m 16 and I just started last year and it’s one of the funniest things and humbling things I’ve ever done
9:30 “You’re walking around with this gun thinking, ‘Who wants to get shot?’”Took me out on that one 😂 I love these guys
Back in high school, my life got a lot better when I learned how to box and sparred frequently. Especially because boxing is a sport, you have more respect for your opponent and that makes confrontation a lot easier.
Even more happy to hear this now.
Started my BJJ two weeks ago!
Something I've thought about often thought this last decade.. i think the answer is ABSOLUTELY
We are so naive when young, it seems strong smart male father figures and actual fathers
do make an amazing impact. I think lots of sports outside is the best stabilizer in many ways - self defense is good too. This was the 70's for me,
but today ?? Wow the amount of fantasy worlds young people have access to online are everywhere, it's got to be confusing as hell
Literally so important, ever since I learned how to box I have been 100 times more confident, changed my life for the better
"When I shake someones hand, etc..." I've lived by that motto as long as I can remember!
100%, couldn’t agree more! Never scared, but always and forever prepared.
I will say that my life has improved dramatically since I started taking the necessary steps to correctly defend myself.
I’m a twenty one year old small town dude, and I would LOVE to learn how to fight
Go ahead and commit to it my guy, whether it's bjj, boxing, muay thai even straight into Mma as a beginner is okay nowadays. What ever appeals to you commit and find a spot, maybe try more than one gym and sign up at the best one. That burning desire does not stop!!
I'm a small town dude myself dude. I recognize many of the proposals ^^^^ just said, probably aren't possible.
Get after it. You have a dog? You can throw a dog in a guillotine. Try to find a friend who wants to train too. Remember, small town dudes, refuse to let their egos get in their way. The farm teaches humility, thus finding a training partner is easier than you think. Fins a wrestler. Somebody was on the wrestling team. They know more than you think.
Buy training videos. Find somebody who wants to fight. Hint: only smart people get good and bjj. Find somebody smart and convince them...
Well I talked to some people and the only thing that I know of around here is a Krav Maga focused MMA class. Dunno if Krav Maga is any good. Thoughts?
@@gideonevans9717 completely depends on the instructor. Ranges from okay, to garbage. Somebody at that class wants to learn jiu-jitsu also. Find them.
@@gideonevans9717 Take at least one lesson and see for yourself, I can guarantee with no training you will learn a couple things in one hour. Move to another city if you can (not just to train, unless thats your goal) 21 is young, a year of training and a year away from your home city will do so much for your confidence and state of mind.
That's is so true, congratulations from Brazil
One of my best memories as a young kid was putting on the Karate jacket and tying my white belt on. Although I didn't pursue the courses for reasons I forgot, I will never forget simply showing up and learning basic stage 1 karate techniques. Horse stance. Bam.
I'm glad we all have all the same crazy thoughts, thank you guys.
“We didn’t know how to fight. That’s why we had to prove we knew how to fight. If we knew how to fight we wouldn’t have to prove we knew how to fight.”
So true.
Couldn't agree more, Jits Skills/Fighting Skills=Awesome Situational Awareness
Whenever I enter a room filled with people, I am sizing up every person in that room going through 100's of possible fight scenarios, thought it was just me being crazy.
Agreed..... I’m the most confident and most calm when I started training Muay Thai and JiuJitsu, and getting competent shooting guns
I see this lacking in the kids who work for me. It concerns me. My son was born craving physical conflict and has been wrestling and kickboxing and going to jujitsu since he was 4 because if we don't he is a wild beast.
might want to get that checked
That's normal. It's called masculinity. It's a good idea to have him do combat sports where he can fulfill his masculine urges for competition and domination in a safe environment; while simultaneously he learns to control himself and is less likely to act out.
I got lucky as a 300 pound powerlifter and former university football player from my gym informed me about wrestlers and ji jitsu experts.As part of his training for football he used to wrestle national level wrestlers as he stated being a linebacker was essentially a 3 second wrestling match.He also used to go up to the ji jitsu club and told me how he had been dominated by our buddy who is now a Blackbelt but was a brown belt at the time.Later on I went up to the same club to do boxing as they shared a space with the ji jitsu club.The boxing coach wasn't there but my black belt friend was and told me I was doing ji jitsu that day.I got dominated badly but I knew what to expect because of what my football friend had told me.I havnt had to wrestle any good wrestlers yet but according to my buddy they take you off of your feet fairly effortlessly at the national level.
Jocko meeting Santa Clause and the first thing he thinks about is doing a double leg on him 😂
Always good||always progressing..big love from another youtuber 🔥🤘🔥🤘
1:55 That's some maniacal thinking.
This is an interesting topic in neurology. Studies of brain development in young boys has found that clinically measurable cognitive deficits are incurred if deprived of wrestling/rough and tumble play. I believe it's certainly the case that being able to practice offensive and defensive techniques in a reasonably safe environment is important for the development of boy's sense of self confidence and self esteem.
Rock climbing and mountain hiking are big wins. They're both sure combinations of competence builders and sports (or disciplines) that force you to get into shape.
Iv always wanted to get into mountain climbing shape those dudes are insanely strong but i am 240lb 6'4" and cant do a single pullup lol so id have a long road ahead of me
@@FirstLast-gk6lg
You started to think about it. That's a good sign.
Anything you rationally believe you can do, that you can do.
Go for it! And good luck!
I totally agree that self defense is a huge stabilizer in people. I also think it helps deescalate verbal conflicts as well, people who are afraid of conflict and have never seen a conflict turn physical often behave like cornered animals. Insulting and threatening you, whereas someone who can fight wouldn’t threaten anyone unless they were 100% serious. But I do think as young boys sometimes fighting out small disagreements is useful, it’s a quick way to establish pack order and is usually not actually dangerous since kids aren’t strong enough to cause real damage
I would like to be trained in ju jitsu when a was 10 or 12... 😢...
Thank God at my 40's finally training this... it feels like super powers... this separate you from all the people who isn't trained ...
I don't need to prove anything to anyone... cuz now I can fold people clothes when people are still in them...❤
I've never trained jiu-jitsu however I'm aware of everything around me so much so that friends and family think I am paranoid I noticed people doing things that are abnormal in that situation I noticed where all security systems are where vulnerabilities are where my vulnerabilities are sizing up everything I mean everything 100% of the time my head stays on a swivel it always sounds corny but it's the truest thing if one stays ready they never have to get ready and that is a distinct advantage in my opinion
When you learn to fight the most important lesson is the fact that some smaller guy than you will mess you up time and time again and all you can do is accept it and learn more.
Yes absolutely. Every time its discovered that I train I'm always met with silly questions, jokes, or some story about a scuffle they were in.
For that reason I would not tell My Friends when i start to train muay thai jajaja
I don't want these guys trying to lift up their egos or challenge me
I learned to box 10 years ago and I never feel intimidated, even around bigger ppl. I just know they have no chance. I can take care of myself. It s always better when Im in training. That confidence multiplies.
I feel it I think about fighting everyone I meet and I game plan it to
I say competence give you confidence and control
Is this just a big Ju-Jitsu PR Operation?
Yes and it’s glorious!
It's also a "Good worker bee" campaign. The whole podcast is about being a good slave to our corporate masters.
That being said, best podcast/podcasters ever.
You can`t teach what you don`t know. Jocko knows BJJ (and other stuff), so he teaches that.
Meanwhile, in the Czech Republic, boys and men play ice-hockey.
@@threethrushes this answer made a lot of sense
This entire podcast is a BJJ pr operation.
Old school wrestling from my youth saved my butt a number of times. Being physically aware counts
Just started training bjj, my mind is blown every class.
Recently did wrestling for 30 days. I do not know how to fight. I learned how much I didn't know and now I'm just in awe. Been much more careful about conflict since.
The smart thing to do when somebody can physically dominate you is pick up a weapon. That's the only way to win in that situation. But that's what we want to avoid is the necessity of using a weapon. What I like about BJJ is the control it gives you in a situation. You can submit somebody instead of hurting them.
Spot On!!
100% right on this.
I've never been this early! yay!
It's the little things in 2020 that make me happy.
Weightlifting, kickboxing, and jujitsu should be required curriculum in U.S. schools.
Simply put YES.
Thanks a lot
His son putting a kid to sleep that wanted some smoke while Jocko watches 😂
This episode was the best one of them all 😂😂😂 nothing but the truth!
I'll admit, I was a violent pre teen. I struck my friend frequently when we rode the bus together. I did it jokingly but I still was aggressive to someone I called my friend.
That ended when I started tae kwon doe and later MMA. I didn't have the self awareness to see it at the time, but now I understand that I finally learned control of my more aggressive violent impulses. I finally had someone put those feelings and urges in the right context.
Within a few months I stopped being violent with my friend beyond the occasional mutual roughhouse or pickup football. We became actual friends. Even when I lost interest in the discipline of the martial art, I had control over myself and my emotions that I might have otherwise lacked.
9:02 the fact that Jocko finishes Echo's sentence with the EXACT thing just proves Echo's point so much more LOL
I started muay thai 6 years ago and jits 3 years ago because I remember thinking I'm 5'7 155lbs and I hate confrontation but I need to understand how to defend my person and those around me when shit hits the fan. I'm not superman but I sure as hell will scrap with anyone knowing at any moment I could take his back and hit a rnc. My 16month old daughter will for sure at minimum will be a blue belt in BJJ and hopefully some judo and muay thai/boxing
Very great topic.Fighting styles are changing.MMA or jujitsu being the new fighting style.Many guys are changing the way they fight.
When I was a teenager in the 2000s, if guys didn't do rugby or football ⚽ then they were usually into climbing /rowing or martial arts (I did japanese jiu-jitsu) and plenty of guys began weightlifting, from chatting with a rugby coach recently it was suggested that young guys generally have gone the opposite way. (Broad statement but still).
Early, and great video 👌🏾
I wish they taught it in schools
“It doesn’t matter if I’m meeting Santa Clause, I’m thinking about doing a double leg.” 🎅 💀
2:00 Once you understand the way broadly you can see it in all things
I agree...sports and combat sports in particular are essential to character development. That confident business guy you meet might have been a NCAA wrestler.
Good morning gentlemen! I am not on Instagram or twitter but I’d like to submit a question here if that’s possible?
I started BJJ about 6-7 weeks ago and would like to know how to become a sponge of a white belt. I want to learn everything but find it challenging some days to grasp the material. I believe my ego to be in check and most days I’m relaxed on the mat. I wrestled through high school so those aspects I don’t worry about as much. It’s grasping the material and how to become better I find myself dwelling on.
Mandatory and autonomous.....
Thanks, thoughtful as usual! Going to get my son to JJ or anything else "for self def" what he'll likes. He's 5 now, what age should we start?
I have a lot of teenagers working for me. The boys really concerned me. It has been about 15 years since I was in a position like this and there is a BIG difference in the kids.
Assessing every man you meet? That’s a crazy thought to me! As a guy. And I’ve been through basic and AIT. Then again i don’t fight and haven’t since 6th grade. And if I do I have knife cuz fuck fighting fair
Learning martial arts at 14 was the best thing to happen to me
This can be true depending in the era or nationality. Some writers generalised everything on one aspect of observation.
Kindly please turn on the captions...thanks.