Ladies, please try to listen what he is saying. Not refute with reason why it’s being done. Tony is simply trying to provide insight so you don’t waste your time trying to figure it out. Be open to listen to the help that is being provided. Be blessed. 🦋 Thanks Tony for your nuggets of wisdom. Keep up the good work, please know that you are helping those that are truly open to listen to what is being shared. 💙🦋
I once got ghosted by a man, and he married another woman eight months later. After 6 years of marriage, they got a divorce, and he went to prison for 7 years. God protected me. 🙏🏾
Ghosting is disgusting 🤮 it hurts women in a deeper level than men think Imagine recovering from a toxic relationship then you entertain a ghoster who seemed like something real 🙄 Men should stop their lustful ways sies
Ghosting doesn’t spare feelings, it really makes things harder on the woman emotionally and mentally. Yes, in the end you are blessed and dodged a bullet but it really does set a person back for a minute and can mess with your self esteem, even if you are a strong person and know better.
@@reginayfavors I agree! I just experienced this, I was attracting a lot of great men. I decided to give a guy that was shorter, fatter and less attractive than his profile. Over 3 weeks we talked on the phone a lot and went out twice. Then one day he said I will call you back and never did. It doesn’t feel good because often it is a guy who we have a chance to and should of been the one to ghost him.
A lot of times y'all have to realize that him "ghosting" you is a blessing. Some of these guys are carrying around so many demons jumping from one female to the next. Just tell the Lord thank you and move on with your life. Him ghosting you was all the clarification you need. Love yourself...blessings 💫🌸
@@annettescroggins3905 he said as "humans" we hate confrontation, male or female. Maybe you should pay attention to the video instead of putting a different narrative in your head. Y'all act like women aren't ghosting.
If a man ghost you, you are NOT a priority! You ARE an option! He's immature, lame, and disrespectful. Look up & keep it moving ! Let God deal with him.
I'd rather get hurt with the truth than to get hurt with wonder. Wonder of what happened, wonder of what I did wrong, wonder if I was a temporary side chick etc..
@@The1morningstar Exactly. Mine said "I'm not ghosting. I'm having a rough week." 🙄 With his type of work there was the possibility something happened so I gave the benefit of the doubt. 🙄 Well that message was back in May. Yup he would just let me wonder if something happened. But anyone he was gonna deal with was gonna be long distance due to his job.
Frfr!!! I rather you tell me the truth than keep me wondering about the what ifs. That’s so annoying !!!! Once I have that I can move on with my life EASIER because now I know the truth instead of making things up in my mind wondering what I did wrong or if he’s okay. But you know what it is what it is!!
its best not to know bc 🤷 the awful truth is they will most likely blame u! when u r never 2 blame bc he is lame. only lame men ghost. jus keep sayn thanku Lord! that immature never deserved u man-boy ghosted u. u don't ♥️need to no why? bc its a lie anyways bc the truth is NOT in men w/zero integrity aka men who ghost. u can never ever trust them. put rapper Khia song on repeat: Don't 🔥 trust No 😔 Nigga (nigga is lame behavior not a race)
Let’s just be real...dating isn’t the same anymore. People aren’t ready...people are hurt from previous relationships...people rely on social media and memes to define their lives 🙄
If a guy ghosted you, he's just not that into you and doesn't care that much about you. If he returns, it's always either he wants to know if you're still an option or he's just guilty and doesn't want to be the bad guy. Just accept the fact that it's not meant to be. Ignore him.
Why Men Ghost 1. Doesn’t want to confront you with the truth of why he’s leaving (so he chooses the lesser of two evils). 2. Another woman (most men are never 100% single). 3. To leave the door open (he doesn’t want to give you closure because he is not sure that you are “the one”). ** If a guy ghosts you, you ARE NOT the one! **
My husband ghosted me and our 4 children which one of my boys is my step son. Now i as a woman and mother have to do what i have to do. He blames me for everything because he is going through a mid life crisis and wants to have his cake and eat it too. Make a long story short i have filed for divorce. And my husband is 46 and im 30.
Lori Roberta sorry to hear what you and your children are going through. You might take into consideration if he’s 45 he’s probably dealing with libido issues, but refuses to talk about it. This is what usually brings out how they really are at heart and blames the women because he is deeply dissatisfied with his performance and believes you’ll find someone else, so he sabotages the relationship. With that said, if you’ve noticed throughout your relationship that he’s been selfish in other ways, upon going through this time in his life, he’ll do one of two things, he’ll step up or he’ll leave, or cheat to protect his pride. Sorry this was so long😬
Baby G u seem very confrontational and this an open forum and my comment did not attack Tony in any way. I’m giving my opinion just like everybody else in the comment section. Not sure why you are so angry.
Baby G i can have my opinion AND understand what tony said. I think maybe u should take a step back and stop jumping on folx in the comment section. Have a great day.
I wish i knew who liked my comment so i could say Thank you..the lord used you 'cause tonight I just got ghosted and my notifications popped up "someone liked your comment " . The lord knew I would need the encouragement...i don't even remember making this comment. I am greatly comforted tonight 'cause some days i wonder where is God? It is nice to have the reassurance..i can truly say God remembered me. Thank you, Tony... and thank you to the author of the commen,t....may God continually bless you both....
As a man I am way more comfortable being up front and telling a girl to her face that I’d like to move on. Having been ghosted before - there is nothing worst, it’s painful, and immature to no end. Closure is all that’s needed and all people deserve that. Period.
I was about to ask this guy I was talking to (for 1.5 month) if he was interested last time we hung out but the words never came out. Now I haven’t heard from him, and that is so frustrating because like I’d be upset for like 1 day if he wasn’t into me. Just own up!
Ladies just laugh as these men treating you as an option are usually treated the same by lots of women. The best way to deal with this is not ever get attached to one man until you become his wife. Until then act like you single and give other guys a chance too. May the best man win :)
I’ve concluded that most men are immature and damaged. I remember being ghosted by a man who initially seemed so into me. After 6 months he tried to come back, apologizing, saying he left because he wasn’t ready for a relationship. As he was speaking God told me not to trust him. After a week of him blowing up my phone he finally disappeared again. I later found out that he ghosted because he met a woman who was giving him sex and taking him out on dates. 8 months later he tried to come back but I refused to talk to him. I used to get upset when men ghosted me until God spoke to me and told me “why do you care if they leave. Let them leave. Do you not know who you are”. Haven’t been upset over a man since.
I feel your pain girl. My cousin did get married off of a dating app but girl she told me about the app and it’s now 7 years of waisted time. Time I could have put in myself. She said she lucked up and she really did. He is amazing. But it’s like a ton of bad men on there. I just can’t go through it like that. A lot of men waisted my time saying they want a relationship, marriage and come to find out they either ghosted me, sleeping around or not ready. 🙄
1. He doesn’t want to hurt you 2. It’s another woman 3. He has a situationship 4. He wants to be single(highly unlikely) 5. He doesn’t want to give you closure because he’s not sure you’re not the one
I'm so tired of immature man's is a shame 50+ still ghosting. That's why I'm still single, I'm waiting on God to send me my soulmate. I'm not in no rush. God over everything. Thank u for the video.
Tamika Matthews I am so tired of hearing women say that or push that agenda on others. (I am being extreme!) You have to be active. Get out, live your life. It’s ok to converse with men. It’s ok to smile, say hello, or strike up a conversation without pursuing them. Men are insecure and sometimes they need that push to go further. It’s the same as dropping a handkerchief! Just give him a little to go on.
Ashley Williams God didn’t create us to be alone. Loneliness causes depression, now I’m not saying date anyone but you need to apply yourself. If I need a job and I don’t get my resume together, and apply I’ll never get a shot at that job. I’m speaking generally of course
Ashley Williams Waiting on God doesn’t mean you’re passive. That’s a huge misunderstanding. Of course live your life, get out and be friendly to ALL people - men and women. Waiting on God means that you allow God to select the time, place and person you will be in relationship with.
Sharna Loneliness creates depression when you have nothing going on in your life. I don’t care how much you apply yourself you may still not meet the right man but you are wasting time. I have friends that apply themselves and they don’t have any more luck than me who has chosen to trust God with my love life. God has already selected the man that He has chosen for you. When I was lonely God had me get busy with my purpose. We should be open to meeting people all the time..I’ve ministered to strangers and met valuable connections because I was friendly. It’s not just about meeting a husband. God knows if you want a partner and in due time (His time) you will meet that man. Waiting on God = trusting God.
As a recent victim of being ghosted my feelings would be a lot less hurt if he'd just say " I'm sorry but this isn't working out for me anymore" vs being ignored. That gives me the green light to start moving on rather than wondering if he's okay or not.
Same he not thinking about me and I’ve given myself closure,I think now I’m more mad than hurt.Just know what goes around comes around just don’t come back round to me
I agree, I am guilty of ghosting people before. And I make it a habit to be upfront with someone and just tell them this isn’t going to work out no matter how uncomfortable the situation is.
Come on, we're not asking to hear all that lol. A simple "hey, I've had a great time but I don't see a long term romantic connection." Bye! It's that simple. Ghosting is immature and disrespectful. You're correct, it's usually because they're seeing someone else. That is why women need to multi-date too. I didn't think about ghosting to leave the door open for the future though. Man, y'all are good! 😂
You are absolutely right. I don't believe in closure. When I see the inconsistencies beginning to happen and I know I've done nothing wrong, I remove myself. It saves a lot of time and energy and emotion. The bottom line is it's very rare to find someone whose heart is open and honest and most just aren't willing to do the work of building a relationship. We must trust God's timing and plans for our lives.
Smart lady 💪🏾 totally agree with this! Closure is for people who like self pity and enjoy their own suffering. I'm moving on with my life with or without some words.
I agree with you sis I don’t believe in closure back up and block ! Especially if those in consistency’s start popping up nope nope it’s not on me it’s on them finally I’m not alone NEXT!!
I’ve been ghosted and in all my dating life I’ve had ONE man tell me the truth. He told me he was trying to work it out with his ex. My feelings were hurt, but I felt so much at peace. I wasn’t sitting up there wondering...where is he...why hasn’t he called me...did something happen...blah blah blah. So I’d rather hear the truth. But where I am in my life right now...if a man decides to ghost me.✌🏽 You are blocked...and I’m moving on. I may miss you at first...but who cares. 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve gotten over worse. You will NOT get any more of my energy. So you don’t have to worry yourself about hitting me up in a month or two talking about “Hey stranger.”...You are blocked...FOH Tony...keep giving us truth. You are greatly appreciated.
Tisha King Ok, you sound exactly like me. Shit, I’ll b hurt if he had come to me and been straight up. But I would’ve MUCH rather that then this ghosting shit. Like really, dude? You are 50 yrs old. Grow tf up😒😩😳
We women are strong! I would rather hear the truth and not be left hanging - in my book these are cowards?!? Not men of their word and that is not a REAL man.
This happened to my daughter, my question is should I reach out to this guy and give him a piece of my mind or just focus on my daughter and try and get over this guy?
Everything he has said is true! Every young man that has hurt me in ghosting or not treating me right has came back begging or explaining his reason or trying to get my attention the best thing you can do is move on! Men seem to always want you more when you're focused better yourself and NOT Interested! Trust in believe they will try to TEST YOU & see if they would do it again!
What if u r his wife and u have married him not once but twice married me two times separated working out things he moves back in things r great he says he hurt my feeling and I must have gotten a little offective I told him if u think u r never going to hurt each other's feelings he held me all nite the next morning he said he wanted a set of keys to the hose I said that's fine I left and went to get my morning drink and came back he had taken his stuff and ghosted my phone number changed by coincidence I haven't heard a word but he certainly knows where I live and mind u we r married been a month and a half nothing no money no nothing. Give me some feedback this has felt like a death for sure
This is how I got rid of my friends with benefit when he started being petty and treating me bad. One night at 12 at night I wrote his name on a piece of paper. his full government name ,folded it up into a tiny square and I put it in my front door. The next morning I got up, I Google cemeteries 2 hours away from me. I drove to the cemetery I dug a hold in the ground under a magnolia tree. I buried his name. I came home I changed all the linen off my bed and replaced everything in the bedroom and the bathroom all the way down to the curtains. I never slept better and I haven't thought of him since.
This is the most complete and brutally honest explanation of ghosting that I’ve seen. Tony is definitely telling the truth. When men ghost, it is almost ALWAYS b/c they’ve either met someone else or gone back to their girlfriend. In either case, when it happens, it definitely means that he’s not interested. Best not fall to easily and quickly once you meet a new guy. Sounds like game playing but best to know how to play the game rather than get played.
Ladies if he ghosts on you just wait,if he comes back you start talking to him and give him hope then you do the ghosting, block him on social media and stop taking his calls.
"If he ghosts you, he is not the one...if he ghosts you, he is not the one. If he GHOSTS you, he is NOT the one." You are an option, not a priority." "Give yourself closure and close the door." AMEN.
I've never looked at it from this perspective before. Ladies, these men are also actively dating and looking for the one - like we are. We shouldn't take it personally when they ghost us. We just press on and move forward. Not every guy we meet and start talking to will fall in love with us or see a future with us. Love yourself enough to accept it's not personal and continue to prepare yourself for the One! Our time is coming! 😍 "A man will NEVER ghost a woman that he feels can be his wife".
@@October3074 Obviously not all. But I'd like to think most of us watching Tony's videos are maturing and applying his wisdom outside of socials. So most of us won't be entertaining 'men' who are adding to their rotation or any other hidden agendas. Maybe I should have spoken for myself, but the men I choose to get to know are also looking for the same and we have an understanding that if doesn't go any further then we bow out gracefully and move on. Ain't nobody got time for the 'rotation' man lol 😂
I had a guy ghost me and then come back 2 years later trying to take me out again. I gave him one more chance and on the date he told me he was seeing 2 other women. I told him to take me home right now and threw the food down on the plate, then chugged the beer he paid for while he just stared at me. When he dropped me off at my house I told him to "get better" and slammed the door. During dinner he also confided in me that he cheated on the woman he ghosted me for. This dude thought he was a ladies man but I checked him. No sir.
The scenario you explained about using a woman as a teddy bear is literally what happened to me. He sought me out and lied about being single. Then he ghosted me because the mother of his child wanted to work things out again. Honestly I rather hear the truth than be ghosted. He ghosted me by treating me badly to the point that I locked him off. Men don't like to be the bad guy.
I am a woman and I ghost men all the time. They deserve the ghosting. Their mind goes wild. They deserve every drop of the ghosting. No explanation. No closure. At the first red flag, ghost them
Perfect explanation. Ladies, you deserve better. Slam the door in his face and wait for real, true love to come along. Wait for that man that doesn't leave you wondering. The right guy will come your way. Be patient and wait for him. Be Blessed.
@@nofybn7794 We just gotta wait. Mine is 63 goin on 6. He ain't right either. Hoping the right one will come around one day or id rather be single. Im happy in my own skin and don't honestly need a man to complete my life
Don't talk to ghosts, if a man ghosts you treat him like Casper the Ghost. 🤣🤣 You're hilarious. I cannot, you literally have to spell it out, and they still don't get it.
And for the love of God - Do. 👏🏾Not. 👏🏾Take. Him. Back!! He did you a favor and showed you all of who he was when he ghosted you. Trust is broken. Let it go.
How about this Tony. He’s no longer interested. Anyone who is interested would stick around. If he becomes a ghost, let him go. Don’t take him back. You then ghost him and stay dead (gone) permanently. Men HATE rejection. Ladies. Don’t go for excuses men do what they want to do.
Men who ghost women are insecure punks. I agree he’s choosing to hurt her feelings in private rather than in public which is cowardice. This is yet another reason we, as women, should withhold the cookie and remain celibate until marriage because unfortunately there are some men who will ghost a woman right after she gives it up to him which can be devastating! Women of God, it’s important to maintain your power at all times and remain in control of who you give your body to is part of it. Sadly in today’s dating climate the term “ghosting” is the norm which is completely unacceptable! If a man ghosts you and you haven’t slept with him yet then you are at least able to maintain your integrity, maintain your peace and maintain your power!
I heard a story about a man who wanted to marry a virgin. She said she was saving herself for marriage. He got engaged to her. He convinced her to sleep with him a few days before the wedding. Then he ghosted her! How disgusting can a person be?!
@@gloriahenry9149 I’m soo sorry to hear that about your babygirl. Recently my crush & I hooked up (I’m still a virgin but I gave him blowjob) amongst other sexual things but not vaginal sex or anything below the belt. I felt heartbroken that after the hookup it was like he got what he wanted & ghosted me when I tried to reasonably reach out by text/phone call. I didn’t call or text the guy 10 times a day or anything crazy but I did reach out like 2-3 times to make sure if he was ok or if we were just a one night stand or fwb because we truthfully never discussed what we were despite that we were talking for a few months more so around January-February timeline of this year. Honestly I know I never had sex with him from below but by us being intimate with eachother in other ways, it still definitely hurt me because we went from talking alot to now not even speaking due to him not reciprocating anymore. I just honestly felt disgusted by my actions for giving it up so easily (by mouth) even though I have given blowjobs to other guys before but every time it was always a bad experience of men treating me terribly. I tried the whole hookup thing & I get too attached easily so I know it isn’t for me anymore or at least it was something I tried doing but I was fooling myself into thinking I can handle this because I’ve been through worse. I dealt with my own personal traumas fron my parents both in which are abusive in different ways that mentally fucked me up in my self-esteem. So to tell every girl who still is a virgin the truth, pls save your virginity in someone special who loves & respects you not just only for your body but for your mind & soul… wait until marriage with the right guy when you know he’s a genuine soul for you. Soul ties are a real thing, even though I never gave it up vaginally & I’m glad we never went that far into it, it still hurt me that I was intimate in other ways just to please him only for him to now just be done with me. I knew right then & there after that hooking up isn’t for me. I want something genuinely real & with pure intentions from a man who will love/respect me as his queen. Never settle for less ladies, honestly it saves you in the long run to see the red flags before it gets worse or your feelings will hurt much worse later on. My advice to all the ladies regardless if you had sex or not, please choose wisely who you spend your energy & love to. I gave my crush a bracelet just to cheer him up from a situation, his words of him saying thank you don’t align with his actions by ghosting me. Remember who you are & have some respect for yourself bc honestly nobody is gonna do it for you besides you❤
I was ghosted once and it hurt me to my core . I was left with a bag of feelings and when I looked they were my own. It’s not the way a Libra woman would have handled things . It hardens our hearts to future relationships. But thank God for Clarity from self . You can get over it girl. He ain’t worth it . Sometimes you will not get the closure you need . And it’s ok .
I was just about to say I appreciate a guy who ghosts. I can block and delete. Then again I’ve been focusing on myself to where I don’t entertain guys anymore. I offer friendships. Also I don’t talk to guys on dating apps.
I appreciate this... I just got ghosted 2 weeks ago, and did not understand. He was telling me how much he liked me and enjoyed spending time with me then......👻
If a man ghost u HE is not the one. I do not disagree with Tony, but he can only speak from the male’s perspective. When men say that a man’s sex drive is higher than a woman’s I can’t understand it. I know I’m not the only woman who has a sexual thought every 30 seconds, I just can’t be. I feel like the difference is that it’s socially acceptable for a man to sleep around but not for a woman and that’s why we tend to have more self control. But I’ve known some men who have practiced self control and have also gone a long time without sex for the Kingdom’s sake. Devon Franklin is one who is publicly known. The difference is these men are purpose driven while the others are p*ssy driven. There’s a difference.
No one in your life should be having you questioning your relationship with them. If you are having doubts, then something is wrong. Please do yourself the courtesy of giving yourself something much better please, please. Be blessed!
I’ve been ghosted many times before and it no longer bothers me. I was ghosted by boys as a young girl and by men as a grown woman. They did me a huge favor because they were all wrong for me and didn’t deserve to have any of my precious time and energy. I finally have the closure I need and the door is locked forever. Goodbye! ✌🏽
im literally going through this now. And it hurts so bad. 😢😢😢. The truth really does hurt, and All those late night talks hours of spending time together, Even said he loved me first and everything. Im just tired.😭
I’m going through this myself and it hurts like hell. Don’t worry though..these dudes will regret letting us go and by that time, we’ll have long moved on from these users. Ghosting shows absolute lack of character and integrity, so it’s really a blessing in disguise for us to heal and make way for the man God has for us ❤️
That's exactly how it's been with me and him! Verbatim!!! N ow,nothing,and we work together,we make a great team at work,I guess that's where we ends fir us
Ghosting...at this point my self love and standards are so high. I truly do look at ghosting as a gift from men who weren't going to be assets in my life in the first place. #thankyounext! 😊
If a man Ghost me DONOT come back period I have closed the door my time is valuable!! A guy I dated for a few months ghosted he recently reached out of the blue after brief conversation of him asking me out. I knew the answer was NO shortly after I get a text so how is your week going I never answered and deleted!! he stop texting. He got the point!!! I do not look backwards you are in the pass for a reason!!! I only date with a purpose my destiny and purpose is far more important.
I was just watching a show on ghosting with Dr. Phil. The woman was really insecure and projecting those insecurities onto the guys she was meeting. For the most part though, I've come to realize that a guy ghosts you because he's not interested or has a woman. The point is never to give him anymore attention after he goes ghost.
Imature and cowardly men, ghost.. They do not respect themselves nor you. You are right Tony, grown boys not men. Thank you for your insights.. God Bless!
He ghosted & blocked me as I waited for him to meet me for our date. He told me I was a breath of fresh air, safe, beautiful, I felt like we genuinely connected & he just blocked me on everything. I deal w depression so this feels extra painful. Please pray for me.
Tony Gaskins, be blessed. I needed to hear this because I’ve always thought that if he comes back, the relationship is meant to be... only to find myself in a repeat cycle of dysfunction.
👸had to learn: if it were meant to be, he never would've left 🤬. him ghosting is of the utmost disrespect thus proof it was never meant to be. no 2nd chances to ever disrespect me @ any level, let alone one of the highest levels, ever again! no, nope, nah & hell nah! bye grown-boy 🏃♀️
This is crazy just leaving a woman without any explanation 🙄 Tony I’m going through this right now and it’s my first time going through this... After two in a half months of consistency and good conversation.... Still no response!!! Thank you for this video. I trust your opinion 💯
Bighearted Sunshine I’m sorry but everyone isn’t a narcissist. He might just be immature, or he just isn’t into the lady. The word ‘narcissist’ is bandied about too much
Honestly being ghosted sucks especially when you thought they were in to you and you were in to them. Like I don’t understand how hard it is to just be honest and tell the person hey this was fun but I don’t want to continue. But I’ve come to the realization that I’m not responsible for someone else’s actions and that their actions have everything to do with them and their struggles and nothing to do with me. ✌🏻 someone’s option is someone else’s priority. ❤️
Erica Wilson you may not understand now but it’s most likely a blessing in disguise! But think twice if this person tries to re-enter your life! Could be more games girl!
He is a coward/jerk and ghosting is better than him continuing to use you. It is better he does so sooner than later, you will heal your heart quicker or not get so involved with him.
Honestly, this video made me feel better. The first half where you dissected the little things that can make a man ghost and what it may do to the woman’s psyche if he in fact did detail his reason ie. “You were less attractive .. you don’t shave .. I found a woman I’m more interested in ect” ladies if he ghosts then silence is an answer. Thank God you dodged the bullet, learn from your mistakes, enhance your value and discernment. The man that is for you won’t ghost or confuse you. 🖤☀️✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
A lot of people are saying “If it’s another woman or an ex, why not just say that.” The reason is usually guilt honestly. They could say that if that was the ONLY reason. The thing is, most times it’s the extra stuff Tony was talking about like thinking you had low self esteem and would be low hanging fruit. Or not even being attracted to you. It’s the part where he knows that from the jump he wasn’t going to be with you and he was getting you excited for nothing. His intentions weren’t good from the jump and if it wasn’t the ex it was going to be another woman. He was usually waiting on meeting a woman he REALLY wants and was using you to not be alone in the meantime. So he can’t just say that because that’s not all there is to it! He knows that’s not TRULY the reason. And saying “I was just using you but now I can get with somebody I actually want and you gotta go.” is not easy to say. And it’s hurtful. So they let you make up your own narrative that makes you feel better. The truth is a part of them knows their intentions weren’t good from the jump! They knew they were going to be walking away when they pretended to like you! That’s the messed up part. That’s why when it comes to people who ghost you, it’s in your best interest to not lie to yourself to comfort yourself. They didn’t want you and never truly did. Accept it and heal and move forward with somebody who does.
I like to hear the reason honestly. I am very understanding and logical so I would have so much respect for a man that could communicate that way. Whenever I get ghosted I don't feel sad I just be disappointed in them. Like Dang I thought you were better than that. Leave us both with some dignity.
This is What Healing Looks Like People. It is uncomfortable removing toxicity from your system but, ohhh what a relief it is. Thank you Tony for Displaying LOVE
Ladies, please try to listen what he is saying. Not refute with reason why it’s being done. Tony is simply trying to provide insight so you don’t waste your time trying to figure it out. Be open to listen to the help that is being provided. Be blessed. 🦋 Thanks Tony for your nuggets of wisdom. Keep up the good work, please know that you are helping those that are truly open to listen to what is being shared. 💙🦋
He's definitely helping, Tony has taught me so much and prevent future heartache
kimharris1920 thank you! I continue to do these videos for people with your spirit and understanding. Thank you!
Very true!! Thank you 🙏🏾
I completely agree with Bro Gaskins
kimharris1920 sadly many women are in masculine energy so you can’t tell them anything.
“If a guy ghost you, you are not the one. You are an option, not a priority”👌🏾
Coming from a man this is true.
Right. It’s hard to hear but words to live by none the less.
👏👏 @Elle Jaye, enough said
Elle Jaye amen 🙏
Elle Jaye period
"He's immature, he's lame, he's weak. He's not a grown man yet."
Sum it all up. 🙌🏾💯basically
Nontobeko Mncwabe PERIODT!!!
So a man is lame because he chooses not to explain himself to a woman
So true.
@@larkford4460 YES, he is.
I once got ghosted by a man, and he married another woman eight months later. After 6 years of marriage, they got a divorce, and he went to prison for 7 years. God protected me. 🙏🏾
His REJECTION is Gods protection
Ghosting is disgusting 🤮 it hurts women in a deeper level than men think
Imagine recovering from a toxic relationship then you entertain a ghoster who seemed like something real 🙄
Men should stop their lustful ways sies
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I agree! This happen to me recently, and it’s disgusting.
Adrian Dial I’m so sorry for that happening to you
I hope you heal
Well you hurt us by friend zoning us
I'm going thru it as we speaks. It's true it's disgusting and it hurts me right now. 🥺😢💔
Ghosting doesn’t spare feelings, it really makes things harder on the woman emotionally and mentally. Yes, in the end you are blessed and dodged a bullet but it really does set a person back for a minute and can mess with your self esteem, even if you are a strong person and know better.
This. Ugh
@@reginayfavors I agree! I just experienced this, I was attracting a lot of great men. I decided to give a guy that was shorter, fatter and less attractive than his profile. Over 3 weeks we talked on the phone a lot and went out twice. Then one day he said I will call you back and never did. It doesn’t feel good because often it is a guy who we have a chance to and should of been the one to ghost him.
Agree 💯. It definitely plays with you mentally until you start to see him for the donkey that he is .
@@Amccm4qu yes ! It's worse when it's someone you gave a chance to that wasn't your choice ..I did this for someone with children when I have NONE 🙄
@@reginayfavors agreed it hurts
There are alot of Immature males out here over 40....smh...
Yes, I've noticed that also. Men in their mid 40's very immature...its almost weird. I think its in the water lol lol
Yes maam... I WAS dating a grown boy and he was 45!!! Smdh
Yes, I’ve made the same observation.
@@sayless1445 mine was almost 50!!! I thought older was a bit better....but it's like grandma said there are old fools too
There are grown kids out here damn near 60!! 😳 smh 😁
A lot of times y'all have to realize that him "ghosting" you is a blessing. Some of these guys are carrying around so many demons jumping from one female to the next. Just tell the Lord thank you and move on with your life. Him ghosting you was all the clarification you need. Love yourself...blessings 💫🌸
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@@lashawndacooper4396 💯🌸
Most times, I find out the woman is not right for my spirit so I cut them off
@@larkford4460 that's what your suppose to do. 💯 My peace is top priority lol
Cher H 💯
When a man does this he's weak in my opinion.
Felisha Pittman Yes mam, it definitely says weak. Just man up, it’s simple.
Yes, a coward!
Tony is right men hate confrontation...
Yup
@@annettescroggins3905 he said as "humans" we hate confrontation, male or female. Maybe you should pay attention to the video instead of putting a different narrative in your head. Y'all act like women aren't ghosting.
If a man ghost you, you are NOT a priority! You ARE an option! He's immature, lame, and disrespectful. Look up & keep it moving ! Let God deal with him.
He's a terrible person!!!!
I'd rather get hurt with the truth than to get hurt with wonder. Wonder of what happened, wonder of what I did wrong, wonder if I was a temporary side chick etc..
...all of these and if you really cared about him wondering if he is ok. 😞
@@The1morningstar Exactly. Mine said "I'm not ghosting. I'm having a rough week." 🙄 With his type of work there was the possibility something happened so I gave the benefit of the doubt. 🙄 Well that message was back in May. Yup he would just let me wonder if something happened. But anyone he was gonna deal with was gonna be long distance due to his job.
That makes sense jus keep it 💯
Frfr!!! I rather you tell me the truth than keep me wondering about the what ifs. That’s so annoying !!!! Once I have that I can move on with my life EASIER because now I know the truth instead of making things up in my mind wondering what I did wrong or if he’s okay. But you know what it is what it is!!
its best not to know bc 🤷 the awful truth is they will most likely blame u! when u r never 2 blame bc he is lame. only lame men ghost. jus keep sayn thanku Lord! that immature never deserved u man-boy ghosted u. u don't ♥️need to no why? bc its a lie anyways bc the truth is NOT in men w/zero integrity aka men who ghost. u can never ever trust them. put rapper Khia song on repeat: Don't 🔥 trust No 😔 Nigga (nigga is lame behavior not a race)
Let’s just be real...dating isn’t the same anymore. People aren’t ready...people are hurt from previous relationships...people rely on social media and memes to define their lives 🙄
YES! ALL very true and correct! 👏👏👏
Facts! Their Communication is all off.
I agree . Men now of days lack patience in forming relationships and Communicating effectively
Capeverdeprc 💯
its too much sex nowadays but not true intimacy and communication
Some of these dumb dumbs ghost the best women. They're just not ready to grow up & commit! SMH.
DeShawn Whitaker Ha! You better Say that shit💯
Commit that's a deadly disease to most men
Complete facts. Then always try to come back.
Yes , exactly
This man ghosted me after 2 years and have the nerve to be trying to come back now. I told myself he will never have access to me again.
yes access denied
Wow, the nerve. He doesn't deserve to know you
Lady Virtue I went through that and hell no I ghost his ass without a trace and he feel apart..I have the gift of good buye
I agree once you're gone stay gone don't come back.
@Lady Virtue: You did right by closing that door completely.
Ghosting is GOD REMOVING THE MESS FROM YOUR LIFE! THANK YOU LORD🙏🙏
Amen 🙏🏽
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Thanks I needed to hear this!!
If a guy ghosted you, he's just not that into you and doesn't care that much about you. If he returns, it's always either he wants to know if you're still an option or he's just guilty and doesn't want to be the bad guy. Just accept the fact that it's not meant to be. Ignore him.
Who cares move on Ladys
They come back for sex once they've plowed thru everyone else.
Why Men Ghost
1. Doesn’t want to confront you with the truth of why he’s leaving (so he chooses the lesser of two evils).
2. Another woman (most men are never 100% single).
3. To leave the door open (he doesn’t want to give you closure because he is not sure that you are “the one”).
** If a guy ghosts you, you ARE NOT the one! **
My husband ghosted me and our 4 children which one of my boys is my step son. Now i as a woman and mother have to do what i have to do. He blames me for everything because he is going through a mid life crisis and wants to have his cake and eat it too. Make a long story short i have filed for divorce. And my husband is 46 and im 30.
Eboné Barnes thank you for being my notetaker!
@crooked truth83 Yep. THAT'S more the truth. HE wasn't it.
Lori Roberta sorry to hear what you and your children are going through. You might take into consideration if he’s 45 he’s probably dealing with libido issues, but refuses to talk about it. This is what usually brings out how they really are at heart and blames the women because he is deeply dissatisfied with his performance and believes you’ll find someone else, so he sabotages the relationship. With that said, if you’ve noticed throughout your relationship that he’s been selfish in other ways, upon going through this time in his life, he’ll do one of two things, he’ll step up or he’ll leave, or cheat to protect his pride. Sorry this was so long😬
Tony Gaskins you’re welcome!
Sounds like a lack of accountability on the man’s side
Baby G why are you going off?
Baby G you reading way too much into what I said.
Baby G u seem very confrontational and this an open forum and my comment did not attack Tony in any way. I’m giving my opinion just like everybody else in the comment section. Not sure why you are so angry.
Baby G i can have my opinion AND understand what tony said. I think maybe u should take a step back and stop jumping on folx in the comment section. Have a great day.
MHMM!!
Omg did he hit this one on the nail. My male coworker told me this. Stop waiting on closure. The closure is his actions.
wow
Wow this just stood out to me
I wish i knew who liked my comment so i could say Thank you..the lord used you 'cause tonight I just got ghosted and my notifications popped up "someone liked your comment " . The lord knew I would need the encouragement...i don't even remember making this comment.
I am greatly comforted tonight 'cause some days i wonder where is God? It is nice to have the reassurance..i can truly say God remembered me.
Thank you, Tony... and thank you to the author of the commen,t....may God continually bless you both....
@@mikasplayhouse5658
Hope you are getting on with your life hun and you are right God is our protector. Time heals wounds 🙏🏼❤
Your coworker? Mixing pleasure with business is dangerous
Ghosting is a relief from being used. You can now have your time back.
As a man I am way more comfortable being up front and telling a girl to her face that I’d like to move on. Having been ghosted before - there is nothing worst, it’s painful, and immature to no end. Closure is all that’s needed and all people deserve that. Period.
I was about to ask this guy I was talking to (for 1.5 month) if he was interested last time we hung out but the words never came out. Now I haven’t heard from him, and that is so frustrating because like I’d be upset for like 1 day if he wasn’t into me. Just own up!
Accept the ghosting as your closure!! You were an option & he is not the one!! 🙇🏽🙌🏽
Amen
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Ladies just laugh as these men treating you as an option are usually treated the same by lots of women. The best way to deal with this is not ever get attached to one man until you become his wife. Until then act like you single and give other guys a chance too. May the best man win :)
I’ve concluded that most men are immature and damaged. I remember being ghosted by a man who initially seemed so into me. After 6 months he tried to come back, apologizing, saying he left because he wasn’t ready for a relationship. As he was speaking God told me not to trust him. After a week of him blowing up my phone he finally disappeared again. I later found out that he ghosted because he met a woman who was giving him sex and taking him out on dates. 8 months later he tried to come back but I refused to talk to him. I used to get upset when men ghosted me until God spoke to me and told me “why do you care if they leave. Let them leave. Do you not know who you are”. Haven’t been upset over a man since.
Wow! Thank you for sharing!
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Amen! That man is doing you a favor!
Amazing 🤩
Same
let's keep it real, most men ghost because they sleep around sometimes
Doris Johns sometimes..you mean way too much
To many people(women)have "options" in this day of age. That's why (I) would ghost a female.
There just not into you...
SOMETIMES???!!!...ALL THE TIME!! Smh
@@jessekirksey1980 even if you tell her you care for her?
Whats wrong with simply saying, Hey, I've been talking with my ex and we've decided to try and work on it one more time?" The end....
Thats being a man and respect.
This video hurts soooo much...so so much... but I am stronger because I allowed myself to hear and feel it.
We all been there, I feel your pain, stay strong this too shall pass.
We all women r together in this dear !
Have to Bust our Ghosts 👻
I know it does hurt but we better then this. Know what your worth 😊
I feel your pain girl. My cousin did get married off of a dating app but girl she told me about the app and it’s now 7 years of waisted time. Time I could have put in myself. She said she lucked up and she really did. He is amazing. But it’s like a ton of bad men on there. I just can’t go through it like that. A lot of men waisted my time saying they want a relationship, marriage and come to find out they either ghosted me, sleeping around or not ready. 🙄
Yeah it does. I started bawling damnit. Ha
If a clown ghost you simply move on n don't let him come back.
mslady312 why would I comeback to someone I ghosted lol obviously they didn’t meet the standard in the first place
You don't simply move on, can't flip a switch when I liked him!!
I have been ghost, and they have tried to come back ...I had to block him.. because he wouldn't stop calling or messaging me...
What if it’s a bootycall ?
If he ghost me. And he comes back. I friend zone em. Because I don't really like you anymore.. I get easily turned off.
Why...
He's not a friend either
Are they really worth being a friend tho? Seems dangerous to keep them on standby/near
They ghost you and then watch you on social media lol lol🤣🤣🤣😆😆
Tinisha Mitchell Real Talk Time girl. This is my current situation 😭
@@BayouTheModel factssssssss
unreal very immature smh they just want to leave that door open smh
Facts...im going though this now..the negroe is now stalking me..
blockt. i don't play lol
@@Maya-xm5jx factssssssss I don't even block I won't answer 😆😆😆 when you ignore them that will piss them off
I disagree that men don’t want to hurt a woman man feelings. They do it all the time.
Accept his ghosting/rejection as God’s protection - thank God and move on!
1. He doesn’t want to hurt you
2. It’s another woman
3. He has a situationship
4. He wants to be single(highly unlikely)
5. He doesn’t want to give you closure because he’s not sure you’re not the one
Correct woman ❤️
@@lucybraun8969 : The guy wants to keep you as an option because you may or may not be the one.
Most important he's immature.
Grils have ghosted me all the time.
6. He saw you flirt with someone else, after you flirted with him for weeks. And now he thinks you were just playing with him.
Bc men are non confrontational. They just scared to deal with the drama when hurting a woman. Which means he’s a COWARD.
Yeah but then they try to come back so why they not afraid of confrontation at that time
@@user-mb9jx5tx9y cos they are also SHAMELESS on top of that 🤣
I'm so tired of immature man's is a shame 50+ still ghosting. That's why I'm still single, I'm waiting on God to send me my soulmate. I'm not in no rush. God over everything. Thank u for the video.
Tamika Matthews I am so tired of hearing women say that or push that agenda on others. (I am being extreme!)
You have to be active. Get out, live your life. It’s ok to converse with men. It’s ok to smile, say hello, or strike up a conversation without pursuing them.
Men are insecure and sometimes they need that push to go further. It’s the same as dropping a handkerchief! Just give him a little to go on.
Amen....exactly..God over everything!!!
Ashley Williams God didn’t create us to be alone. Loneliness causes depression, now I’m not saying date anyone but you need to apply yourself. If I need a job and I don’t get my resume together, and apply I’ll never get a shot at that job. I’m speaking generally of course
Ashley Williams Waiting on God doesn’t mean you’re passive. That’s a huge misunderstanding. Of course live your life, get out and be friendly to ALL people - men and women. Waiting on God means that you allow God to select the time, place and person you will be in relationship with.
Sharna Loneliness creates depression when you have nothing going on in your life. I don’t care how much you apply yourself you may still not meet the right man but you are wasting time. I have friends that apply themselves and they don’t have any more luck than me who has chosen to trust God with my love life. God has already selected the man that He has chosen for you. When I was lonely God had me get busy with my purpose. We should be open to meeting people all the time..I’ve ministered to strangers and met valuable connections because I was friendly. It’s not just about meeting a husband. God knows if you want a partner and in due time (His time) you will meet that man. Waiting on God = trusting God.
As a recent victim of being ghosted my feelings would be a lot less hurt if he'd just say " I'm sorry but this isn't working out for me anymore" vs being ignored. That gives me the green light to start moving on rather than wondering if he's okay or not.
Give yourself the green light to move on, do not wait for a guy who doesn't even care to talk to you about it.
Same he not thinking about me and I’ve given myself closure,I think now I’m more mad than hurt.Just know what goes around comes around just don’t come back round to me
lmao you're not a victim, your fels are just dumb & hurt. Eff off & move on.
I agree, I am guilty of ghosting people before. And I make it a habit to be upfront with someone and just tell them this isn’t going to work out no matter how uncomfortable the situation is.
Definitely right! From that moment forward can move on or not worry about them because they’re telling you how they feel
Preach!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽 Never let a man tell you twice that he don't want you!! 🗣️If a guy ghost you,he better stay ghost 👏🏽👏🏽
Come on, we're not asking to hear all that lol. A simple "hey, I've had a great time but I don't see a long term romantic connection." Bye! It's that simple. Ghosting is immature and disrespectful. You're correct, it's usually because they're seeing someone else. That is why women need to multi-date too. I didn't think about ghosting to leave the door open for the future though. Man, y'all are good! 😂
FortyLoveStyle it’s really just that simple!
Many men lost integrity
You are absolutely right. I don't believe in closure. When I see the inconsistencies beginning to happen and I know I've done nothing wrong, I remove myself. It saves a lot of time and energy and emotion. The bottom line is it's very rare to find someone whose heart is open and honest and most just aren't willing to do the work of building a relationship. We must trust God's timing and plans for our lives.
Smart lady 💪🏾 totally agree with this! Closure is for people who like self pity and enjoy their own suffering. I'm moving on with my life with or without some words.
This comment is me! Closure is also for ppl who like to argue and hear excuses. I Just take it for what it is and move on.
We give ourselves closure by healing.
I agree with you sis I don’t believe in closure back up and block !
Especially if those in consistency’s start popping up nope nope it’s not on me it’s on them finally I’m not alone NEXT!!
How do we protect our ❤?
I don't even have to watch this video to tell you the answer. 🗣He doesn't want you!!! Meet someone else.
Ikr....plain and simple
IKDR! Also didn't watch, just reading comments.
When a person man or woman "ghosts" you, think of it like dodging a bullet.
Exactly. Shows his selfishness and unreliability. You dont want to discover that down the road after you invested that much more.
It's all about SELFLOVE. When a man can't love himself, he can't love you... And vice virsa ofcourse ☺️❤️
I’ve been ghosted and in all my dating life I’ve had ONE man tell me the truth. He told me he was trying to work it out with his ex. My feelings were hurt, but I felt so much at peace. I wasn’t sitting up there wondering...where is he...why hasn’t he called me...did something happen...blah blah blah. So I’d rather hear the truth. But where I am in my life right now...if a man decides to ghost me.✌🏽 You are blocked...and I’m moving on. I may miss you at first...but who cares. 🤷🏽♀️ I’ve gotten over worse. You will NOT get any more of my energy. So you don’t have to worry yourself about hitting me up in a month or two talking about “Hey stranger.”...You are blocked...FOH Tony...keep giving us truth. You are greatly appreciated.
Tisha King Ok, you sound exactly like me. Shit, I’ll b hurt if he had come to me and been straight up. But I would’ve MUCH rather that then this ghosting shit. Like really, dude? You are 50 yrs old. Grow tf up😒😩😳
Tisha King And what you said is exactly what I told him.
We women are strong! I would rather hear the truth and not be left hanging - in my book these are cowards?!? Not men of their word and that is not a REAL man.
This happened to my daughter, my question is should I reach out to this guy and give him a piece of my mind or just focus on my daughter and try and get over this guy?
@@gloriahenry9149 Really? Your daughter is a grown up I suppose? Your family ends up looking a little nutty if you do that. Stay away.
Accept “ghosting” but don’t let them back into your life if he changes his mind! ✌🏾foreva 😏
If he ghosts you... he gave you your closure... pls bolt that door closed.! U not missing out on nothing.
Everything he has said is true! Every young man that has hurt me in ghosting or not treating me right has came back begging or explaining his reason or trying to get my attention the best thing you can do is move on! Men seem to always want you more when you're focused better yourself and NOT Interested! Trust in believe they will try to TEST YOU & see if they would do it again!
Facts
What if u r his wife and u have married him not once but twice married me two times separated working out things he moves back in things r great he says he hurt my feeling and I must have gotten a little offective I told him if u think u r never going to hurt each other's feelings he held me all nite the next morning he said he wanted a set of keys to the hose I said that's fine I left and went to get my morning drink and came back he had taken his stuff and ghosted my phone number changed by coincidence I haven't heard a word but he certainly knows where I live and mind u we r married been a month and a half nothing no money no nothing. Give me some feedback this has felt like a death for sure
This is how I got rid of my friends with benefit when he started being petty and treating me bad. One night at 12 at night I wrote his name on a piece of paper. his full government name ,folded it up into a tiny square and I put it in my front door. The next morning I got up, I Google cemeteries 2 hours away from me. I drove to the cemetery I dug a hold in the ground under a magnolia tree. I buried his name. I came home I changed all the linen off my bed and replaced everything in the bedroom and the bathroom all the way down to the curtains. I never slept better and I haven't thought of him since.
You're nuts. He dodged a bullet
I'm do this
That’s was cool
She’s not nuts, she did the necessary hoodoo 😂 aint for everybody
Sounds like witchcraft!!
He’s a clown, only clowns disappear without notice
@Zhara Moreira Makes absolutely no sense 😕
Why does relationships have to be so difficult 🤦🏾♀️
People suck
It has nothing to do with you, it's his own internal issues...close the door to Casper the ghost🙌 I felt that
Idk why I’m watching this as a freshly ghosted woman. I am realizing that I’m actually really sad 😔.
How are you feeling about it now?
Great message! Be a ghostbuster lol Don't let him haunt you! His absence brings you much closer to the man who is meant for you...🤗
Sooooooo positive vibe I got from ur comment dear 💜💚❤️
This is the most complete and brutally honest explanation of ghosting that I’ve seen. Tony is definitely telling the truth. When men ghost, it is almost ALWAYS b/c they’ve either met someone else or gone back to their girlfriend. In either case, when it happens, it definitely means that he’s not interested. Best not fall to easily and quickly once you meet a new guy. Sounds like game playing but best to know how to play the game rather than get played.
If a man ghost you than your are not the one
If a man ghost you than your are not the one
If a man ghost you than your are not the one
doji Aa I love it lol !! Say this a few times and it’ll start to make sense.
Amen move on..move on...move on...
I got ghost saturday than he txt me this morning and wanted me to hook up
Man, I need to say this to myself. I've cried an ocean for this ghost, Im tired of crying and playing so many sad songs. Have to move on.
No it’s the other way around he’s not the man God has for you God don’t bless no mess Period 💯💯💜💜💜
Ladies if he ghosts on you just wait,if he comes back you start talking to him and give him hope then you do the ghosting, block him on social media and stop taking his calls.
"If he ghosts you, he is not the one...if he ghosts you, he is not the one. If he GHOSTS you, he is NOT the one." You are an option, not a priority." "Give yourself closure and close the door." AMEN.
Women definitely got the crappy end of the stick. Lot of these married men are in situationships also...sad but true.
I've never looked at it from this perspective before. Ladies, these men are also actively dating and looking for the one - like we are. We shouldn't take it personally when they ghost us. We just press on and move forward. Not every guy we meet and start talking to will fall in love with us or see a future with us. Love yourself enough to accept it's not personal and continue to prepare yourself for the One! Our time is coming! 😍 "A man will NEVER ghost a woman that he feels can be his wife".
Real shxt💯💯💯
😂 😂 😂 😂
@@October3074 Obviously not all. But I'd like to think most of us watching Tony's videos are maturing and applying his wisdom outside of socials. So most of us won't be entertaining 'men' who are adding to their rotation or any other hidden agendas. Maybe I should have spoken for myself, but the men I choose to get to know are also looking for the same and we have an understanding that if doesn't go any further then we bow out gracefully and move on. Ain't nobody got time for the 'rotation' man lol 😂
IT IS PERSONAL.
@Red SunshineLmao. So have I. Don't waste my time and I won't waste yours.
I had a guy ghost me and then come back 2 years later trying to take me out again. I gave him one more chance and on the date he told me he was seeing 2 other women. I told him to take me home right now and threw the food down on the plate, then chugged the beer he paid for while he just stared at me. When he dropped me off at my house I told him to "get better" and slammed the door. During dinner he also confided in me that he cheated on the woman he ghosted me for. This dude thought he was a ladies man but I checked him. No sir.
Wtf
Yea that’s bad...disrespectful and just proud poor behaviors.
What star sign was he, what a complete idiot 🙄
Why in the world would you even take him back and 2 years later at that
The scenario you explained about using a woman as a teddy bear is literally what happened to me. He sought me out and lied about being single. Then he ghosted me because the mother of his child wanted to work things out again.
Honestly I rather hear the truth than be ghosted. He ghosted me by treating me badly to the point that I locked him off. Men don't like to be the bad guy.
I am a woman and I ghost men all the time. They deserve the ghosting. Their mind goes wild. They deserve every drop of the ghosting. No explanation. No closure. At the first red flag, ghost them
Totally be my friend you rock
@@GOTHICMAMBA35 they deserve it
I honestly should’ve done that first or first of all not even talked to them in thr first place! Would have saved me grief
@@tarcisiasiniscalchi6641 I know that’s right.
Perfect explanation. Ladies, you deserve better. Slam the door in his face and wait for real, true love to come along. Wait for that man that doesn't leave you wondering. The right guy will come your way. Be patient and wait for him. Be Blessed.
There is no right guy. Not every woman has a right guy. I don't.
@@nofybn7794 We just gotta wait. Mine is 63 goin on 6. He ain't right either. Hoping the right one will come around one day or id rather be single. Im happy in my own skin and don't honestly need a man to complete my life
@@kimsmith819 well said!
He can ghost me and stay in the afterlife... Dead! ⚰
I won't have my time wasted with his childish games
Jacqueline F 🤣🤣🤣
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DECEASED 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤷🏽♀️
Afterlife 😂🤣🤣🤣
Don't talk to ghosts, if a man ghosts you treat him like Casper the Ghost. 🤣🤣 You're hilarious. I cannot, you literally have to spell it out, and they still don't get it.
And for the love of God - Do. 👏🏾Not. 👏🏾Take. Him. Back!! He did you a favor and showed you all of who he was when he ghosted you. Trust is broken. Let it go.
Some narcs ghost to control and manipulate to see what they can get when they come back. Block ladies!!!
How about this Tony. He’s no longer interested. Anyone who is interested would stick around. If he becomes a ghost, let him go. Don’t take him back. You then ghost him and stay dead (gone) permanently. Men HATE rejection. Ladies. Don’t go for excuses men do what they want to do.
Men who ghost women are insecure punks. I agree he’s choosing to hurt her feelings in private rather than in public which is cowardice. This is yet another reason we, as women, should withhold the cookie and remain celibate until marriage because unfortunately there are some men who will ghost a woman right after she gives it up to him which can be devastating! Women of God, it’s important to maintain your power at all times and remain in control of who you give your body to is part of it. Sadly in today’s dating climate the term “ghosting” is the norm which is completely unacceptable! If a man ghosts you and you haven’t slept with him yet then you are at least able to maintain your integrity, maintain your peace and maintain your power!
My babygirl was ghosted, no sex but still seems to be heart 💔 She is 27 never really dated and still a virgin.
It still hurts deeply even if you didin't give up the cookie.
I heard a story about a man who wanted to marry a virgin. She said she was saving herself for marriage. He got engaged to her. He convinced her to sleep with him a few days before the wedding. Then he ghosted her! How disgusting can a person be?!
@@starrjohnson1327 wow yea men do this
@@gloriahenry9149 I’m soo sorry to hear that about your babygirl. Recently my crush & I hooked up (I’m still a virgin but I gave him blowjob) amongst other sexual things but not vaginal sex or anything below the belt. I felt heartbroken that after the hookup it was like he got what he wanted & ghosted me when I tried to reasonably reach out by text/phone call. I didn’t call or text the guy 10 times a day or anything crazy but I did reach out like 2-3 times to make sure if he was ok or if we were just a one night stand or fwb because we truthfully never discussed what we were despite that we were talking for a few months more so around January-February timeline of this year. Honestly I know I never had sex with him from below but by us being intimate with eachother in other ways, it still definitely hurt me because we went from talking alot to now not even speaking due to him not reciprocating anymore. I just honestly felt disgusted by my actions for giving it up so easily (by mouth) even though I have given blowjobs to other guys before but every time it was always a bad experience of men treating me terribly. I tried the whole hookup thing & I get too attached easily so I know it isn’t for me anymore or at least it was something I tried doing but I was fooling myself into thinking I can handle this because I’ve been through worse. I dealt with my own personal traumas fron my parents both in which are abusive in different ways that mentally fucked me up in my self-esteem. So to tell every girl who still is a virgin the truth, pls save your virginity in someone special who loves & respects you not just only for your body but for your mind & soul… wait until marriage with the right guy when you know he’s a genuine soul for you. Soul ties are a real thing, even though I never gave it up vaginally & I’m glad we never went that far into it, it still hurt me that I was intimate in other ways just to please him only for him to now just be done with me. I knew right then & there after that hooking up isn’t for me. I want something genuinely real & with pure intentions from a man who will love/respect me as his queen. Never settle for less ladies, honestly it saves you in the long run to see the red flags before it gets worse or your feelings will hurt much worse later on.
My advice to all the ladies regardless if you had sex or not, please choose wisely who you spend your energy & love to. I gave my crush a bracelet just to cheer him up from a situation, his words of him saying thank you don’t align with his actions by ghosting me. Remember who you are & have some respect for yourself bc honestly nobody is gonna do it for you besides you❤
Like the book says, he’s just not that into you
This helped. You just helped me block and delete him off my phone. F that noise. Ghosting is cowardly and immature. He can be another woman’s problem.
I was ghosted once and it hurt me to my core . I was left with a bag of feelings and when I looked they were my own. It’s not the way a Libra woman would have handled things . It hardens our hearts to future relationships. But thank God for Clarity from self . You can get over it girl. He ain’t worth it . Sometimes you will not get the closure you need . And it’s ok .
I was just about to say I appreciate a guy who ghosts. I can block and delete. Then again I’ve been focusing on myself to where I don’t entertain guys anymore. I offer friendships. Also I don’t talk to guys on dating apps.
I appreciate this... I just got ghosted 2 weeks ago, and did not understand. He was telling me how much he liked me and enjoyed spending time with me then......👻
Same smh
Same after three months
Be nice if they wouldn't be so enthusiastic. Like, he didn't need to say he wanted to see me again. Don't say that unprompted if you don't mean it!
@@melaniemanning2462 It’s truly sociopathic behavior.
If a man ghost u HE is not the one. I do not disagree with Tony, but he can only speak from the male’s perspective. When men say that a man’s sex drive is higher than a woman’s I can’t understand it. I know I’m not the only woman who has a sexual thought every 30 seconds, I just can’t be. I feel like the difference is that it’s socially acceptable for a man to sleep around but not for a woman and that’s why we tend to have more self control. But I’ve known some men who have practiced self control and have also gone a long time without sex for the Kingdom’s sake. Devon Franklin is one who is publicly known. The difference is these men are purpose driven while the others are p*ssy driven. There’s a difference.
Anaudria UrFavorite Rapper I feel u!
Ghosting stems from a person not having a backbone of being decent.
No one in your life should be having you questioning your relationship with them. If you are having doubts, then something is wrong. Please do yourself the courtesy of giving yourself something much better please, please. Be blessed!
I’ve been ghosted many times before and it no longer bothers me. I was ghosted by boys as a young girl and by men as a grown woman. They did me a huge favor because they were all wrong for me and didn’t deserve to have any of my precious time and energy. I finally have the closure I need and the door is locked forever. Goodbye! ✌🏽
im literally going through this now. And it hurts so bad. 😢😢😢. The truth really does hurt, and All those late night talks hours of spending time together, Even said he loved me first and everything. Im just tired.😭
I feel your pain, my babygirl is going through this right now! She is so broken 💔
I’m going through this myself and it hurts like hell. Don’t worry though..these dudes will regret letting us go and by that time, we’ll have long moved on from these users. Ghosting shows absolute lack of character and integrity, so it’s really a blessing in disguise for us to heal and make way for the man God has for us ❤️
@@christieangel9550 👸preach! bingo 👍!
That's exactly how it's been with me and him! Verbatim!!! N ow,nothing,and we work together,we make a great team at work,I guess that's where we ends fir us
Now I'm glad we never slept together, and I was so ready,whew!
Ghosting...at this point my self love and standards are so high. I truly do look at ghosting as a gift from men who weren't going to be assets in my life in the first place. #thankyounext! 😊
@Truth Speaker Then I must be unproblematic bc I never said it was a recurring theme. 😉 Bye faceless troll. 💅
If I ever have kids and I have a boy, I tell you ima make sure he grows up mature, sensitive and accountable to his actions!
My parents always taught me never to mess over someone. You will respect what you sow.
If a man Ghost me DONOT come back period I have closed the door my time is valuable!! A guy I dated for a few months ghosted he recently reached out of the blue after brief conversation of him asking me out. I knew the answer was NO shortly after I get a text so how is your week going I never answered and deleted!! he stop texting. He got the point!!! I do not look backwards you are in the pass for a reason!!! I only date with a purpose my destiny and purpose is far more important.
I was just watching a show on ghosting with Dr. Phil. The woman was really insecure and projecting those insecurities onto the guys she was meeting. For the most part though, I've come to realize that a guy ghosts you because he's not interested or has a woman. The point is never to give him anymore attention after he goes ghost.
Exactly
What were her insecurities?
@@11940ful If I recall correctly she was jealous and afraid of being cheated on.
Exactly
I just got ghosted. The guy was saying he wanted to take me out. The day of the date he never showed. I believe he had a girlfriend.
Imature and cowardly men, ghost.. They do not respect themselves nor you. You are right Tony, grown boys not men. Thank you for your insights.. God Bless!
He ghosted & blocked me as I waited for him to meet me for our date. He told me I was a breath of fresh air, safe, beautiful, I felt like we genuinely connected & he just blocked me on everything. I deal w depression so this feels extra painful. Please pray for me.
Truth can hurt you but it's better than believing those lies that comfort you.
Tony Gaskins, be blessed. I needed to hear this because I’ve always thought that if he comes back, the relationship is meant to be... only to find myself in a repeat cycle of dysfunction.
That's an awful lesson that most women are taught. You're not the only one who's fallen for this.
they do it because its convenient for him to have a hold over some girl just block & delete the less access you give to time wasters the better
👸had to learn: if it were meant to be, he never would've left 🤬. him ghosting is of the utmost disrespect thus proof it was never meant to be. no 2nd chances to ever disrespect me @ any level, let alone one of the highest levels, ever again! no, nope, nah & hell nah! bye grown-boy 🏃♀️
This is crazy just leaving a woman without any explanation 🙄 Tony I’m going through this right now and it’s my first time going through this... After two in a half months of consistency and good conversation.... Still no response!!! Thank you for this video. I trust your opinion 💯
Same here!
It happens to the best of us, and try not to take it personal and remember sometimes rejection is God’s protection 😉
Bighearted Sunshine I’m sorry but everyone isn’t a narcissist. He might just be immature, or he just isn’t into the lady. The word ‘narcissist’ is bandied about too much
Run sis, this was for your good. Good it happened Very early
Lauren Nicole that’s right
Like Lizzo said don’t txt me tell it straight to my face 😌💯
Honestly being ghosted sucks especially when you thought they were in to you and you were in to them. Like I don’t understand how hard it is to just be honest and tell the person hey this was fun but I don’t want to continue. But I’ve come to the realization that I’m not responsible for someone else’s actions and that their actions have everything to do with them and their struggles and nothing to do with me. ✌🏻 someone’s option is someone else’s priority. ❤️
Ghosting is not a gift. It can become obsessive trying to figure out what happened if the relationship seemed good.
Exactly! 💯💯💯
Damn I needed this I just got “ghost” I didn’t see it coming.
Erica Wilson you may not understand now but it’s most likely a blessing in disguise! But think twice if this person tries to re-enter your life! Could be more games girl!
Jen Owens thank you 🙏
NoeQuithea PeaceFULLY Living thank you 😊
Same here.
He is a coward/jerk and ghosting is better than him continuing to use you. It is better he does so sooner than later, you will heal your heart quicker or not get so involved with him.
Seems to me men can’t handle a strong independent real woman
I truly believe that the woman he wants doesn't feel the same way about him. So he thinks the one he left would openly take him back
Infinite Love22--I guess you mean ALL men huh?
Honestly, this video made me feel better. The first half where you dissected the little things that can make a man ghost and what it may do to the woman’s psyche if he in fact did detail his reason ie. “You were less attractive .. you don’t shave .. I found a woman I’m more interested in ect” ladies if he ghosts then silence is an answer. Thank God you dodged the bullet, learn from your mistakes, enhance your value and discernment. The man that is for you won’t ghost or confuse you. 🖤☀️✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
A lot of people are saying “If it’s another woman or an ex, why not just say that.” The reason is usually guilt honestly. They could say that if that was the ONLY reason. The thing is, most times it’s the extra stuff Tony was talking about like thinking you had low self esteem and would be low hanging fruit. Or not even being attracted to you. It’s the part where he knows that from the jump he wasn’t going to be with you and he was getting you excited for nothing. His intentions weren’t good from the jump and if it wasn’t the ex it was going to be another woman. He was usually waiting on meeting a woman he REALLY wants and was using you to not be alone in the meantime. So he can’t just say that because that’s not all there is to it! He knows that’s not TRULY the reason. And saying “I was just using you but now I can get with somebody I actually want and you gotta go.” is not easy to say. And it’s hurtful. So they let you make up your own narrative that makes you feel better. The truth is a part of them knows their intentions weren’t good from the jump! They knew they were going to be walking away when they pretended to like you! That’s the messed up part. That’s why when it comes to people who ghost you, it’s in your best interest to not lie to yourself to comfort yourself. They didn’t want you and never truly did. Accept it and heal and move forward with somebody who does.
Bingo👍! & why ladies never take back a ghoster & if u do. no sex til marriage. have wedding date set. they'll pretend & string u along again.
I like to hear the reason honestly. I am very understanding and logical so I would have so much respect for a man that could communicate that way. Whenever I get ghosted I don't feel sad I just be disappointed in them. Like Dang I thought you were better than that. Leave us both with some dignity.
Key word IMMATURE. Love it how he delivers that word. 🤣😍👌
This is What Healing Looks Like People. It is uncomfortable removing toxicity from your system but, ohhh what a relief it is. Thank you Tony for Displaying LOVE
Crying so much while watching this the truth hurts ...
No, I still want the truth. I gave him 5 years of my life. I deserve that at the very least
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