Three ESSENTIAL qualities to being a man. Does Riding A Harley Count? What Is A Man?

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  • @schmoodhu
    @schmoodhu Рік тому +4

    I was surprised by the philosophical quality of the first of your videos that I watched, so I watched this one. I subscribed. In 2016 I was separated from my wife, I thought, because she cheated on me a couple of times. I realized then that I had approached the marriage all wrong. I became someone I wasn't in order to give everything she wanted. Turns out, all she wanted was the original me. Lesson learned. Then I met a woman that had also been divorced, and she reflected me back to myself in a way that made me see myself as the man I could be. Then She was diagnosed with ALS. I'd been dragging my heels on marrying her due to the past failed marriage, but as soon as we found out about the terminal diagnosis, we made a plan and were married 3 weeks later. She was a registered nurse, and she was strong. She taught me everything I needed to know to take care of her. Again I laid my life down but for the right reasons. I lost her in 2020 in the midst of the lockdowns. These past two and a half years, I've done nothing but throw out old ways of being and reassess values, ethics, and spiritual views, and I now have a life that is mine. I had to learn the hard way that I am the most important person in my life and that if I am not, everyone else suffers. I have grown in so many ways. I ride now, too; A '99 Roadstar that is such an amazing bike. Riding became a part of my healing journey and helped me break out of the state of fear that you mentioned.
    What you said is so spot on, man. It has been my journey almost to the letter, and my kids are better off for it. They are seeing me take back my mind, health, and stature as the kind of man I want to model for my daughter and son. At the beginning of each season, I tell them that there is a risk to riding and that I may not come back one day, but if I didn't, I was doing what I love. I don't want to live my life based on 'what if's' anymore, and I want them to learn that living is more important than not living because you're scared.
    Much respect, man. Keep the shiny side up.
    Be well.

  • @motoheadz-motovlog
    @motoheadz-motovlog 2 роки тому +22

    being a man, for me means standing for values and respect and working hard for your fam

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +3

      Yeah working hard always comes up with being a "man"

  • @davidmcelwaine3968
    @davidmcelwaine3968 Рік тому +7

    I conformed, I overworked and still do, and did what my wife and family expected of me. Married for 35 years and never raised my voice or hand to my wife or children. I am known for being strong, both physically and within myself, honest and reliable. No one new, even my brother, I had a no fail method designed to end it all for the last 30 years. I looked at myself, I looked at my father in-law. I changed my life. When she, her lawyer, her mother and her sister finish trying to get even with me, life will get better. Ride safe, stay strong, brothers.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому +1

      Thanks for the comment, stay strong, I wish you well.

  • @tex9280
    @tex9280 2 роки тому +9

    Getting back up after an major accident has been a battle & the emotional side has been a issue BUT it's my love & passion I have for Harley Davidson has been my sail & all my internal & mental pain is my wind to keep pushing me forward....
    Keep Living the F#@KING Dream ❗
    Safe travels 🙏♥️🐾🐾

  • @Hippy75
    @Hippy75 Рік тому +6

    I used to have a very toxic view on what it means to be a man. It has taken me years to smash my personal barriers down and show some vulnerability. Now I hold my head high with a compassionate integrity that i think makes me "a man".

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому +1

      Thank you, it's always good to hear that someone has improved their "way"

  • @andrewkobylinski
    @andrewkobylinski 2 роки тому +7

    Really enjoying the content. This videos makes you sit back and reflect a little.

  • @crwmdp9
    @crwmdp9 Рік тому +4

    excellent vid. Makes one sit back and self reflect. I will admit for a godly part of my life I have been one that just wants to conform and not make my waves, while in the meantime get more and more resentful and actually ending up pushing more good people away from me rather than attracting them. always thinking it was “them”, when it was actually me. Not only is it a prison but the amount of emotional energy it takes just drains you as not only a man but as a human being. It was only through a series of seemingly tragic events that have changed my life! Thanks for this vid! And… after riding bikes since I was ten, I just bought my first Harley. ( I said I would never buy a Harley). Just love it!

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому

      Thanks for watching and I'm glad you got something out of it.

  • @redbullwiseman4805
    @redbullwiseman4805 Рік тому +4

    A man takes responsibility
    Works hard
    Knows the direction of his life
    You stand for something or fall for anything

  • @paulbest7103
    @paulbest7103 2 роки тому +4

    Being a man is a statement that creates a whole new argument that no matter what you are what you are riding a Harley makes you a man !??
    A lot of women ride a Harley so does that make them masculine!!
    Being a man in my view is to be a provider and do the right thing for your family and friends riding a Harley is for pleasure
    providing is a very important for your well being so is riding no matter what you are on I feel blessed every day that I own a Harley and have had one in my life for 30 plus years but I'm also blessed that I have a wonderful wife and home.
    So to me being a man
    Is to work hard & be true to yourself and stand up to what you believe to right 👍

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +1

      very true, "being a man" has so many answers to it and hard work is often associated with it

  • @mpojr
    @mpojr 2 роки тому +6

    Riding a Harley Davidson is the extension of ones personality does not necessarily make you a man.

  • @bradwillard2458
    @bradwillard2458 Рік тому +1

    I started watching your videos for the Harley content, but this one really struck a cord with me. Thank you for being honest and open about manhood in these times. We need more people like yourself.

  • @jasongallagher7646
    @jasongallagher7646 2 роки тому +3

    Integrity, honesty , responsibility are what come to my mind. Real men create opportunity, not sit back and wait for life to be served. Unfortunately I see a lot of men feel they deserve more, but wont do anything about it. It's refreshing to see young men set realistic goals and achieve them! Buy a Harley, LOL!

  • @RussellMKay
    @RussellMKay Рік тому +1

    Spot on! We need to explain this to the next generation that is coming up.

  • @raycranley8205
    @raycranley8205 5 місяців тому

    Certainly reinforces my life choices that have led to who I am, good choices have been a positive, bad choices costly in one way or another but always an education. I can hold my head high for my choices as I continue along this earthly path.

  • @Peter-wc4kr
    @Peter-wc4kr 2 роки тому +5

    Taking responsibility for your actions.
    Lead by examples that will give your children strength, character and courage so they may leave their mark in the world.
    When deserved give loyalty to your friends and family no matter what the consequences or what others may think.
    Omit to your short comings and do your best to fix them.
    Learn to say no.
    Very few people enjoy their jobs. A job is something that you are paid for because otherwise you wouldn’t do it. This makes most of us to some degree slaves. Many make a prison when taking loans to buy a Harley but this gives the freedom to ride, travel etc and to enjoy the precious hours we have outside work hours. On the other hand we live in a country where we have our freedoms and privileges that people from many countries can only dream of. To keep things in perspective remember the saying ‘first world problems’.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому

      Yes you are correct - first world problems lol

  • @MrThuggery
    @MrThuggery 11 місяців тому +1

    Taking ownership of one's responsibilities, family first and always help those that are unable to help themselves (paying it forward).

  • @theobviouschicken
    @theobviouschicken Рік тому +2

    For me its stoicism. EG not loosing your shit over everything but carefully disect/diagnose and the execute a well thought plan that achieves your goals and overcomes whatever the issue is. . Everything falls from that point. Taking responsibility for your own actions , not being a dick . It all can be traced back to stoicism. Even as you mention some of the current societal issues can be traced back to modern men not having a little stoicism and restraint.
    I agree with the other 3 you have there too. I ride a harley now I dont feel more of a man but my 16 year old self certainly does!
    Earned a sub. Your content is easy to have in the background on a listening point of view. Suspect that is your methodology.
    Question : whats the jacket you are wearing ( or can you point me to a " what gear do I ride in " video ) ? Looking to get rid of my old one.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому

      Thanks and welcome to the channel. The jacket is one i had made - hard to find off the shelf that fits me. Thanks for the wise words re philosophy

  • @mattconnolly148
    @mattconnolly148 Рік тому +1

    This is a great piece and shines light on many areas that people are afraid to talk about. Much respect to you. #freedom. #strength.

  • @charlesland5169
    @charlesland5169 Рік тому +1

    After watching a few of your vids on your channel, I just had to log in and subscribe. This topic is an interesting one and honestly goes far beyond riding. After all, most of us don't spend all our waking hours getting seat time.
    Its taking me near a lifetime to find my answers to being a man. One size (or answer) doesn't fit all. I can honestly say I'm happy with who I am.
    I congratulate you on broaching topics that all men need to face and answer for themselves.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому

      Welcome to the channel and thanks for the kind words. I hope to bring a lot more of this type of content

  • @stensballe3683
    @stensballe3683 Рік тому +1

    not caring what others think ( ignore general concensus ) - being critical to information and people who want something off or from you.

  • @bobwhitfield3691
    @bobwhitfield3691 9 місяців тому +3

    Being a man...simple...take full unadulterated responsibility for your life and actions whether it is on a Harley, in a commitment or supporting one's self!

  • @stubarnard8073
    @stubarnard8073 Рік тому +1

    Awesome seeing ya twice in Sunday mate..

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому +1

      Likewise, it was a top day -- see you on the next ride

  • @BlueRidgeRider
    @BlueRidgeRider 2 роки тому +1

    At first I thought this would be a load of macho bullshit. I was wrong. You nailed it. The only thing that is a little off the mark is making it sound like only men have these qualities. I’ve known many men and women who fit your description. So is “man” the right term? Maybe “decent human being” is a better choice.
    You are a force for good in the world. Keep it up.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому

      You are correct in regard to the qualities being found in men and women. The viewers of my channel are mainly men and it's difficult to add more detail without making the video too long

  • @odishamiltonjr328
    @odishamiltonjr328 2 роки тому +1

    Excellent job on this one. Thank you.

  • @konradczernik6671
    @konradczernik6671 8 місяців тому

    I just watched 8 of your vids and wanted to share I do am surprised how I like your journey, content and aproach eventhough I am totally different person. Also followed IG. Have many questions from silly to heavy ones. Nice Work! Best

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  8 місяців тому

      I appreciate that! You might like our Face book group where there is opportunity to ask questions. facebook.com/groups/oldnotdead

  • @BrizBiker
    @BrizBiker 2 роки тому +3

    It’s easier to help/create/teach good boys then fix broken men!

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +1

      yes that's probably true - but everyone needs a chance / help if required. So i think the effort would be worth it

    • @BrizBiker
      @BrizBiker 2 роки тому

      @@OldNotDead-Club agree

  • @Ian-le3bu
    @Ian-le3bu 2 роки тому +3

    Hi, this is a tough question, unfortunately I don't have an answer to it. I suppose it is something that everyone must really decide for themselves based on the individual circumstances that they face. I guess a simple test would be to ask yourself if you are comfortable with what you do to yourself and others and could you be better.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому

      Yes it is a very tough question and we will all have different answers

  • @Fever_Rides
    @Fever_Rides Рік тому +1

    I would rather die on my feet than live on my knees. Freedom!

  • @ADSCoachSimonB2112
    @ADSCoachSimonB2112 3 місяці тому

    Depends on the generation, my farther would say works 40 hrs weekly, takes care of the family and kids, he did have a yellow black v8 Holden Torana. I have a Harley 883 Iron, it doesn’t make you any better or worse than any other person, doing what you love as in a job for the betterment of others, learning and growing as things evolve. I believe in ride for therapy. Walk or Ruck for mindfulness.

  • @bfiftytwo1155
    @bfiftytwo1155 2 роки тому +2

    I know one thing. Claiming victimhood certainly does not make a man.

  • @ElectraWillem
    @ElectraWillem 2 роки тому +2

    Wow.... that was deep ! 🤔 Never knew what a man was, but for sure, I met lot's of wimps, winers and losers riding a Harley Davidson in my lifetime! 🤣

  • @padre2275
    @padre2275 Рік тому +1

    A man does not make excuses for what he's done wrong, but accepts the responsibility. A man stands up against the strong to protect the weak. A man has moral courage, not just physical courage, and sticks to his core values even when the mob says otherwise. A man does not go along just to get along. A man can articulate himself without the use of profanity, respects women, and never apologizes for being a man. A man does not put others down trying to prove he's a man. Of course a real man rides a Harley, but that's just a given:)

  • @abssnipes
    @abssnipes Рік тому +1

    hey OND, do you believe in synchronicities. this video came up when i needed badly a pep talk before starting a risky buisness. i am old but not yet dead you see ... thanks

  • @daviscampbell9020
    @daviscampbell9020 Рік тому +1

    Interesting perspective.

  • @miketudy3272
    @miketudy3272 Рік тому +1

    Fantastic video

  • @rosssteward9890
    @rosssteward9890 2 роки тому +2

    Mental strength,fortitude,compassion,thick skin,and when you get knocked down get up dust yourself off and move on,and never give 2 ₩¥£€$ what people think about you as we are all different,hope that helps,I have more 😆 and great sense of humour on top

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому

      Thanks - very valid comment and so true! It's a difficult thing to answer isn't it

    • @rosssteward9890
      @rosssteward9890 2 роки тому +1

      @@OldNotDead-Club My last 8 years with very unstable work and the you know what flu lol and not seeing my gf who lives Os for 3 years and the Bs of living in Melbourne but I left there and I'm the happiest I have ever been since I moved,Follow your dreams and do what your head,heart and soul tell you to do,that's my words of wisdom

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +1

      @@rosssteward9890 thank you -- your words of wisdom are spot on!

  • @lornedauphinais9007
    @lornedauphinais9007 6 місяців тому

    Love your video Matte … a reel man for me his one that respect women and people in general. A minimum of muscle for sure … a Harley for sure Take care. Im going to see my steps childrens and dauther in Australia in décembre 2024. Im from Québec canada 💪🏼✌️👍😎🛫

  • @frontoffice777
    @frontoffice777 Рік тому +1

    my wife ,very sick ,depresed , hung herself may 11th 2022
    i lost her ,my house ,and livelyhood all at once
    i can now say imma real man ,
    have a new wife ,a oppesd character as my poor dead wife had
    have a new house
    have a harley
    i cry dont be ashamed to do so
    lesson learned ,never ever give up

  • @dustinchadwick7640
    @dustinchadwick7640 4 місяці тому

    Love this view!

  • @chuckFlynn-z9o
    @chuckFlynn-z9o Місяць тому

    Responsible, does what he says he’s going to do honesty to have humility and for me a brief in a power greater than any human. And I say that because I grew up in violence and was in the army more violence! God as I don’t understand him but trust him anyway my life has just gotten better in the last 26 yrs gifts that I thought I’d never have like my Harley😜😜😜

  • @user-fy9lm1gi6r
    @user-fy9lm1gi6r Рік тому +1

    Saying that being a man is about freedom, and being free to make you own decisions. That is in fact true, but not having a discussion with those closest to you will seem egotistical and narcistic. In today's world being a man is not about making every decision for your better good or what you think is right for your family or friend's. It is a compromise. Knowing when to lead and knowing when to follow. Not all leaders know the path. They often have to consult in those they trust most. If we always followed our own thoughts and desires, we would be no better than the cavemen we came from. Evolution at its finest, has made traditional definitions of man, obsolete. A new era, requires education and allowing those around us to grow, as we grow. Men stand up for what they believe is right, morally conflicting at times, especially due to a society in which we abide by. In most cases, a man is conflicted by what he believes is right and what he believes he must do to survive. Ultimate oppression when we feel like we are not holding up to this view in which was created of us to fulfill.

  • @daniellehewitt3305
    @daniellehewitt3305 Рік тому +1

    After being I’ll for an extended time I’ve lost my confidence. I have an opportunity that’s come my way and have been procrastinating over it. Fuck it, I’m in balls and all!

  • @willraven7
    @willraven7 2 роки тому +1

    Good stuff, and definitely has absolutely nothing to do with a damned in-animate object, no matter what brand it is.
    Been a damned tough F'n 2.5 yrs for all my friend.
    Thank the Lord ALMIGHTY for never leaving us in our battles through it all 🙏❤️

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +1

      Thanks - yes it's certainly been a tough time time for many people

    • @willraven7
      @willraven7 2 роки тому +2

      @@OldNotDead-Club and for sure the ol iron horse helps get away and clear the cobwebs...
      Thanks bro

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому

      @@willraven7 yes its therapy for many of us.

    • @willraven7
      @willraven7 2 роки тому

      @@OldNotDead-Club 💯🤘

  • @AdamSuperAC
    @AdamSuperAC 2 роки тому +1

    Just a no-bullsh!t kind of Bloke. Fair and dont put up with garbage ! Forever Two Wheels !!!!

  • @danwilson7581
    @danwilson7581 Рік тому +1

    Look in the mirror. Ive been punched in the mouth enough times to know ill get back up. I even respect many things that have punched me in the face, and learned. Find whats good, real and damnit helping another produces happiness. Thanks for making me think.

  • @saddle8bag
    @saddle8bag 2 роки тому +3

    Based on my swollen prostate, I'm pretty sure I'm a man.

  • @jondoe8816
    @jondoe8816 3 місяці тому

    Having a HD. Don’t maketh the man. The problem is people think that. As said 40 or so years ago. 30 grand and 30 miles don’t make you a bikie.
    But people in a HOG chapter think they are. Enuf said

  • @arlanwade3268
    @arlanwade3268 Рік тому +1

    Inner strength; a man of maturity must have self control over his emotions (Prov.25:28), pursue strength and have a good conscience. The prisons are full of criminals, and streets littered with drug addicts who lack inner strength, tenacity, and godly wisdom (they act, react, and live like animals. They tend to reap destruction).
    Being a loving father who provides and fearlessly protects his family is the highest calling of a man (everything else is secondary).
    But owning a Harley doesn't make ANYBODY a man: It doesn't give you superpowers, it won't make you a better fighter (you gotta train for that), it won't increase your Testosterone levels (you might need TRT for that), it won't make your tool grow 3 inches, and it won't make you a better person: A Harley Davidson is just a man-made machine (though it can inflate your ego if you let it).
    I've met men who rode Hondas and punks who rode Harleys; a machine doesn't make the man; striving to be noble, strong and successful is what separates men from boys.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому

      Thanks for your comments - isn't there more to being a man than noble strong and successful?

    • @arlanwade3268
      @arlanwade3268 Рік тому

      No

    • @arlanwade3268
      @arlanwade3268 Рік тому

      Well, actually yes: a real man has to have 2 other qualities; XY chromosomes and a penis

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому

      @@arlanwade3268 LOL, that's the beauty of it - so many ways to look at it

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому

      @@arlanwade3268 lol, true

  • @kennedymcgovern5413
    @kennedymcgovern5413 Рік тому +1

    About the women: It is very sad that young women, starting with us in Gen X honestly, have been taught by society that there is something wrong with being women and that in order to be successful in life they need to be men.
    It sucks for everyone. First, I miss women. Oh, they come around but they aren't really women anymore. What remains in society are a bunch of little amateur men in skirts who try so hard to be something that it is not in their nature to be. And then there are the young men, so willing to lay down and let this happen in their lives, all while accepting the rate at which they are being feminized.
    Don't get me started. I am holding back from writing a novel on this subject, as a youtube comment.

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  Рік тому +1

      I agree I might do a video on this issue soon, thank you great insight

  • @DonLeist
    @DonLeist 2 місяці тому

    Harleys used to have class,and you pay for it!

  • @harrywebb9127
    @harrywebb9127 Рік тому +1

    Why is there no sound on this video

  • @LuisCypher4666
    @LuisCypher4666 Рік тому +1

    It's not limited to Harley riders. I chose to ride a Victory. I believe that many of the same principles apply, but I do it on a Victory Hammer.

  • @cariwendt9844
    @cariwendt9844 Рік тому

    It’s not complex at all. A man is 1-male. 2-God honoring. 3-family loving. Beyond that is Sico babble.

  • @garymaclean6903
    @garymaclean6903 Рік тому

    Risks that don't have a worthwhile accomplishment at the end are actually pointless. There's nothing about riding a Harley that provides a risk that actually accomplishes anything. It's only a recreational activity. If you're taking on unnecessary risks doing that, you're doing it wrong...
    You don't have to ride a Harley to have 'freedom'. There are many bikes that can do whatever a Harley can - some even much better...
    In order to have 'inner awareness' you first must be reasonably well educated about the ways of the world, and the nature we live in, plus the wisdom to know what values are actually important. Owning a Harley has nothing to do with 'inner awareness'. It certainly can't provide 'inner awareness'!!!
    Yes, character and actual accomplishment defines a man. The ability to buy and ride a Harley doesn't come close. You CANNOT buy your manhood...!!! That's such a wrong-headed notion.
    If you believe that, again, you're doing it wrong...

  • @jamescampolo7824
    @jamescampolo7824 Рік тому +1

    Why do you harp on the specific brand "Harley Davidson". Spend some time watching Itchy Boots Solo Global adventures on several brands of bikes. She has bigger balls than 99% of the Harley riders that I have met and riden with. Itchy Boots has her own UA-cam channel and has been traveling the World by herself. I am almost 70 and will never understand the mistique of HD and it's indoctrinated.

  • @jamescampolo7824
    @jamescampolo7824 Рік тому +1

    WTF does riding a HD make you a man? You can't buy character.

  • @tonykelly6757
    @tonykelly6757 Рік тому +1

    Absolutely not !!

  • @malikknows3510
    @malikknows3510 15 днів тому

    This is rubbish. Crime caused by injustice? LOL…

  • @davidfellows6250
    @davidfellows6250 2 роки тому +3

    id say a bicycle in the rockies would have a better chance of " turning you into a man" you'd get the exercise and maybe commun with nature. riding a harley is just part of the uniform to be " one of the boys".

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +1

      lol, exercise is certainly good - but cycling has replaced golf and is now being one of the "executive boys" here in Australia anyway.

    • @davidfellows6250
      @davidfellows6250 2 роки тому +1

      @@OldNotDead-Club if cycling has replaced golf good at least now the guys with little balls are getting some real exercise. sure once you put on all the spandex and weird helmet you dont look all that manly. but neither does some 300lb dude dressed in black leather . where's he going, to the ymca?

    • @OldNotDead-Club
      @OldNotDead-Club  2 роки тому +1

      @@davidfellows6250 lol, i actually did try to buy non colourful cycling gear once -- without company logos etc. was impossible, there is some available now.

    • @davidfellows6250
      @davidfellows6250 2 роки тому +1

      @@OldNotDead-Club haha. i know im an asshole but in summer months i usually just wear geans ,sandals and a long sleeve button down. in winter yeah im part of the ymca crew. chaps, leather jacket ect... i dont own harley anything ( but bikes) except for a belt buckle given to me 35 years ago. im just f$%kin with people i dont care what you ride or wear while doing it two wheels is two wheels were all out there for the sanity. and illusion of freedom.