how to rebuild self-trust | rebuilding your relationship with you | @tiffanylaibhen
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- Опубліковано 25 гру 2024
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first, I’m so happy to be back after an unexpected 2-week hiatus! I had another version of this filmed about a month ago so you can imagine how excited I was to get it up.
self-trust is a crucial part of self-actualizing + achieving the most aligned versions of ourselves. without it, there will always be a little subconscious voice convincing you that it won’t work. as with any other relationship, + more importantly than any other relationship, showing ourselves consistency + that we can in fact trust ourselves takes time to earn back. it will take time to stop hearing that voice… it will take repetitiveness + eventually, the results you’ve been waiting for. you can absolutely fix this relationship with yourself ….+ today, we’re going over some ways to get you started. grab your bevvy + lets get into it!
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keeping your promises to yourself is peak self care! Disciplining ourselves to be consistent is so crucial!! so glad to see more people speak on this
yes yes yes 🎯
I literally struggle with this so much for years. I feel like I lack holding my self accountable and I let myself down all the time so I'm just sharing this here as a start. I really need to try this an let perfectionism and procrastination go, I know I need to😭 !! Y'all please comment back in a few days and check in on me....
we got you! pinning this comment 🤎🤎
thank you sooooo much 💖💖@@TiffanyTV
i’m so happy you found yourself
Sis! this is so me right now. I can really relate to your comment.
we’re checking in on you girl! how’s it going?
This was such a powerful conversation and it was beautifully put. Everything we desire is just waiting for us to leap into it. Once we trust that we encompass what we need to not only create it, but sustain it, it just flows right in to our reality. Our relationship with trust flows through everything we do and experience. Thank you for these reminders and for your delivery🤍
whew. a word sis 🙌🏾
Right!? I’m so inspired, God bless you. This is good UA-cam 😊
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as a perfectionist this was everything i needed to hear. The fear of it not turning out exactly how I want sets me back way more than I’m proud to admit
I completely relate
same here!!!😢
I have wanted to learn Spanish since I was a teenager. I AM 32 NOW. I have (off and on) been "learning" Spanish for over a decade now and I have missed out on opportunities because of it. Thank you for this video! I'm going to try my best and be consistent for a month and see how far I go!
Suerte Chalynda 🧡😉
Espero que tengas todas las cosas que quieres y que tengas mucha alegría y amor en tu vida. Buena suerte. ❤
Are you me? Estudiaba español casi tres años, pero nunco lo logré. Espero que lo he dominado. Viviría en otro pais a este punto en la vida. Échale ganas!
Hola camarón con cola
Hope everything is going well with u!!
Seeing this at a point in my new relationship where I feel I'm not getting enough attention from my partner and it all dawned on me I haven't nourished myself with the attention I crave from someone else, if I gave myself half the time I used in worrying over what I was lacking from someone,I would actually feel less pain or fear of abandonment
oof!! this. I realllly wish I learned this in the beginning of my relationships. strengthening your relationship with yourself will help you determine where your insecurities are + where people are actually falling short. it’s so clear for me now. I pray that for you as well love 🙏🏾🤎
😢 self love is important especially in relationships
Mmmmm! Yes ma’am. And to add to your point, I used to be so anxious when it came to even not getting a response back - until I listened to a podcast and they said “if you are worrying about text back, ask yourself what could be doing right now? and nine times out of 10 there is something that you probably need to get done but instead you more focused on not getting a response. I say that to say, you stress less when you pour into yourself. So I loved that you made this comment.
@zariahsmith3606 Thank you for sharing this tip. I will definitely be trying this. Also would you mind sharing the podcast? It sounds great 👍
This came at the right time just turned 24 this year and I’ve been ALL OVER since 18 and I’ve had the idea of why but never put the pieces together. I just wanna become the person I’ve been dreaming of the last 3 years.
We're same age nd same ambition but this year I try my best to commit at least one habit I wish us to be better before the end. Of the year
same exact thing here. except i’ll be 25 in october ❤ we got this
Just turned 23 a few days ago, going through the same thing!! Wishing all of y'all the best fr
can I just tell y’all how proud I am to see each of you at this age working on yourselves in this way?? I started my journey around that age + looking back, I wish I had given myself more love. So while you grow + learn, be sure to truly love yourself. love yourself the way you want others to love you. listen to your inner voice … I spent years trying to get back to myself. sending all of you love + the biggest hugs. you got this 🤎
@@TiffanyTV Yes the process is so hard in the beginning, giving yourself grace for the things we’ve been through that holds us back. Ive been learning that loving myself is definitely forgiving myself for just being young and not knowing unlearning, re-learning, & re-mothering myself. The process is very difficult however all journeys are rewarding in the long run. So thank you for the videos you’ve put here these will continue to help me along the way.
11:33 THISSSSSSSSSSS EF THEM right now, forget what they’re doing not doing could’ve done.. it doesn’t matter as long as I’m filling my cup/fueling my tank and reassuring myself LITERALLY NOBODY OR NOTHING ELSE MATTERSSSS , I redirect that energy towards them and gracefully into myself!!!
Thank you. I grew up the same way, lack of discipline and tones of criticism and have had shitty trust in my self. Its like squeezing water out of a rock for me to get things done sometimes. I appreciate your honesty.
those are just habits love. + habits learned + unlearned. I believe in you 😌🤎
Learning to set boundaries is the hardest thing in my life and this is making sense. I lost trust and letting others come 1st. I'm in my 40s and I'm still learning new things about myself 😢
one thing I’m learning… the learning + growing never stops. the longer we’ve had a habit, the tougher it is to break, but it’s possible. sending you love 🤎🤎
Woke up at 4am to get my day started after not waking up on time for the past two weeks. Subconciously clicked on this video to listen to as I got some work done around the house, and had no idea that this would be the message that I needed to the core of me.
Thank you! ❤️
whew. this really warmed my heart. it was meant to be. sending you love sis 🤎
WHAAT!? GIRL..This is the absolute truth. Especially keeping word to self😢 This is an on time message for me. Thank you 💞
you’re so soo welcome love 😌🤎🤎
Thank you for this video! I’m 16 years old and as a young girl i’ve been through a lot in the last 4 years back to back. I have lost myself, fallen in to bad habits, and gained unhealthy detachment issues. I would start things, then quit. I would get mad at people easily and cut them off easily.But, this past two years I’ve really been focusing on myself and learning more about me, and I am now in the process of learning that nothing exists outside of yourself. This video helped me to realize that I need to learn discipline when it come to my goals and to stop self doubting. Thank you!
I was just like you. Keep going baby keep your head held high !!!
Keep going, young one. It will not be a straight line but keep going. I know it's easier said that done. But trust me. I've been there. You got this
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the fact that you’re thinking this way at 16 !!! 🤯 baby girl, you are years ahead of your time. I literally am so proud + I don’t even know you! sending you all the love. you’re special 🫂🤎
Figuring it all out, starting over, having prospects is a blessing, ultimately working towards being the best version of myself, I want to meet her soooo bad 😊❤
she is right there waiting for you!! keep going love, especially in the hard moments. if you can persevere through those, that’s where the magic happens
Whew chile!! This video hit home and stung a little bit!! This has been revealed to me during self-reflecting and self-realization. Trusting myself. Trust is the foundation of ANY healthy relationship, and the most important relationship anyone can have, outside of the one with their God/Creator of all things, is the one you have with yourself. If you don't trust yourself, it will affect every relationship you have, business and personal. Trusting yourself means you also have to forgive yourself for past mistakes and bad decisions. You have to accept that the mistake and/or bad decision is what you did, NOT who you are. You get to learn from those bad decisions and make another choice in the future. This is something that has taken me a long time to learn, and coupled with being a perfectionist, it can make you turn on yourself really quickly. It's important to do a self-assessment and note what was done, why it was done, how it made you feel, and how you responded so you can recognize your patterns and make changes conducive to the life you want for yourself and the person you want to be. Great conversation!!❤
Yesss it’s your job to love you and be there for uu. Ain’t nobody gonna love you like how you love you, unconditional love 🥰💯
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Every single thing you said wow, it’s so me. The wanting to wake up early in the morning, be more organized, show myself love, do my hair, nails, dress up.
I literally told my therapist this morning that I was my worst enemy and slowly working on embracing who I want to be and forgiving the person I was and no longer speak to that version of myself with resentment. I understand that I had postpartum depression, covid happened, the first death I experienced of a close relative, almost divorcing. These past three years have been hectic and I love the fact that I can understand more and surround myself with people and content that aligns with who I am becoming ❤
I have the opposite issue. I pushed myself so often so much to be really disciplined. And right now, everything in me rebels at trying even the slightest bit of control whether from myself or others.
Needed this. Thank you! Trying to break free from distrusting myself and my intuition after healing from lots of narcissistic abuse and sabotage from MANY envious people.
Beautiful message. I also did not grow up with discipline or routine and I always say I want to go with the flow. This made me realize that going with the flow isn’t working. I’m going to challenge myself to commit to a morning routine for the next 30 days. Hopefully I will see some changes in my life.
This video was everything I needed to hear as I’m on this journey of finding myself again. I have a habit of starting and not finishing things. I will find something to commit to for 30 days to rebuild trust with myself. Thank you ❤
I’ve been there so many times girl. this might be the first time I’ve really seen it through + it’s the most peaceful I’ve been… stick it out, you deservveeee. sending you love on your journey mamas 🤎
Im in this phase of my life. I have become very assertive as I've gotten older. Setting boundaries and trusting myself to honor them before expecting others to.
I felt this video. I started and stopped when it comes weight loss but finally sticking with it and mistakes happen but got to stick it through and put in work and I’m work on waking up at 7 am or 8 am and workout and get dressed early. And bedtime early. I’m feeling so good. This video was helpful ❤
yessss girl!! not easy at all! but you’re doing it 🤎🤎
Firstly you're gorgeous and have such an internal glow. Thank you for sharing this important message so gracefully and authentically.
thank you so much love 🙏🏾🤎
I appreciate this so much. As a 56 yr old wife and mom of 4 I’ve depended on others to let me know how I’m doing. I was always afraid to invest in my wardrobe and my self care but noticed it was me stopping me noone else
im 3 minutes and this is precisely what I needed to hear, wanting to hold on to being undisciplined and going with the flow but still having the things I can relate to so much!
This is exactly how I felt for the past two years. I feel like my relationships with people became trash and I didn’t know how to explain to my close friend on what I was going through. I didn’t even understand what was going on
For me im working 2 jobs currently so by the time im finally off both jobs theres a small window that i try to squeeze as much productivity as possible. Sleep is what i sacrifice most and i tell myself that these 2 jobs are temporary as i use this money im saving to invest in a more fulfilling business and life.
OMG!!! The first 45 seconds of this video hit home hard. I do give up on me quick but will be there for others. I just told myself yesterday that I need to get me a chance the same way I do for others. Thank you for this Tiffany
I was recently asking myself, why can't I get on and do these things I know need finished, especially when it's so painful this feeling of being triggered, overwhelmed, like a failure in some way. I've known discipline is important, but I didn't realize trust in myself or lack of it was part of why I struggled with discipline. Thank you very much for this video, it's exactly what I needed to hear and understand about myself.
This is such a powerful message...this is exactly what I needed to hear today. 🥺 Thank you so much Tiffany!
you are so welcome, love🤎
I needed this! I pray to reestablish my relationship with myself. I’ve been trying and giving up this year and it has affected my confidence and believing in myself. It’s been self sabotaging, not showing myself grace or love. It’s been so heartbreaking and deep down within my soul I want the relationship back with myself ❤❤❤ p
Wow 12:35... What you said about giving yourself back that power and looking within... Wowwww that was very insightful
This is my first time on your channel, and I'm so taken with how eloquent and elegant you are. I loved watching you speak. That was just the cherry on top of all the sensible points you were putting across. Keep up the great work!
This video was awesome !! Even at this age(that I won't mention lol) I have been struggling to "get back to me" for the last two years. Everything you said is very true. It all starts with us, and when show up for ourselves everything else flows!
I've been struggling with these stuff for years. I keep letting myself down and keep on going back to square one. I'm glad I found your video! This came at the right time. I'll try to work on committing to myself for 30 days and I'll see where it goes.
I’m so happy I found your channel. I’ve been struggling with staying true to myself every since a traumatic event. I’m slowly starting to trust myself again. It feels good to take my power back.
This is exactly what I did and stuffed. Staying true to my word starts with discipline.. So glad I found your channel
discipline 🙌🏾 welcome to the family love 🤎
This video captivated me for some reason. I haven’t even watched it yet and the cover photo just snatched my attention !
oof. that feels like something calling you to it 🤌🏾
I've heard this message communicated in different ways but this resonated in a completely different way, really thankful I found this channel
You describe it how I felt. Like I heard it before, but it was different this time. Very motivating!
My wife sent me this video and after listening to this, I get why she sent me this. She knows how I tend to struggle with trusting myself and being confident in myself. This message just gave me those steps required to assert that self-trust back into myself once more!
I feel so seen. Perfectionnism stopped me from doing so much in my life because it wasn't perfect the first time around. When I journaled this week, I wrote this "I can’t keep promises with myself. I will keep promises with everyone one else but not me. I don’t value myself enough to keep the promises i do to myself. " I put everyone else before me, because I feel they're more important than me, always. I don't have healthy boundaries. The "treat yourse;d the wau you expect others to treat you" is a great start to this journey of self thrust. Thank you for this video, I needed to hear those words.
listen as many times as you need to mamas. it’s not an easy habit to break + build back up, but it’s possible. send you love on this part of your journey 🫂🤎 you are not alone
Sometimes the algorithm knows me better than I know myself. I've never seen your videos before, but this showed up and ON TIME. Thank you for this.
algorithm… universe. something is at work 😌 you’re so welcome love 🤎
"Treat yourself the way you expect others to treat you."💖
Finally found someone who is real ❤
Thank you sooo much for this! This is one of the best "self help" videos I've seen. I got more out of this than multiple high dollar therapy sessions 😂. This really hit me hard..step 1: identify the problem...this honest, gem-filled video helped me do just that. Definitely gonna watch this a few more times to let it soak into my subliminal...someone should do a 30 day early wake up/routine challenge so we can support one another. Ive been trying for YEARS just as you mentioned. ❤
Setting boundaries with the ones close to is that we love dearly is because we wish to keep them in our lives. I say this to myself as I've had some self doubts in the beginning of my boundary Setting journey. I'm still very much in the midst of unlearning so much... and then I find your content💓
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love the treat yourself the way you expect others to treat you method!
This is what 2023 helped me come to terms with and therefore embody this finally.
Amazing video! Self-love is what we must have initially before looking to gain/give it elsewhere. Discipline is the root of all success. You hit MAJOR points!
I have literally been praying about a lot of key points that you said in this video! I have never seen your channel before and all of a sudden it just popped up and I started your video but I kept putting it off and say look for watch it later or I’m let me do this and then I’ll go back to it! I am so grateful that something remind me to finish this because it is exactly what I needed to hear and exactly what I’ve been praying for! Thank you so much❤
The best self trust video Ive seen yet and I agree, self love and self trust go hand in hand. I realize that I'm lacking in both.
So true what you said about when you take good care of yourself you don't look outside
Damn, this was a SERMON.
Understand that EVERYTHING is fleeting 💯
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I thought it was just me who was feeling like this , thank you for not making me feel like am alone. I always want to start something and even if I try it and I liked it I can't keep constancy I just leave it alone ....
I watched some of this, had therapy and she said that I don't trust myself. I came back, finished and subscribed.
I'm glad you're here love 🤎
I found my people. I’ve definitely realize how a lack of structure and discipline plays in your life long term. Just have to stop going into things with no plan or directions.
This hits home… especially the have my schedule, meditate, do some stretching and then all of sudden it’s 1pm! We make ourselves feel like where productive but not really doing anything
girl! so much wasted time!
This is such an inspiring video. I love messages, and I am sharing this with a few of my employees to motivate them. Keep up the great work. PRICELESS!❤
Okey:And'did love
thank you mucho Faj 🥹🤎
0:19 So you went for the throat right from the start 😂 You jumped right in. No shallow water over here.
😂 no time for fluff
Powerful..this was me...I have learnt soo much and will keep keeping on. Co dependency robs you much .
oof thisss 🎯
I can't tell you how much this spoke to me. Thank you. I've subscribed.
I've watched a ton of self help videos and the way that you explained how to cultivate self love really resonated with me. Thank you so much 💗
this really resonated with me. as someone who is beginning to rebuild this self trust within me, this made me feel so seen
this warms my heart! sending you love at this part of your journey 🫂🤎
this year i went on a trip to costa rica to heal because i was feeling the emotional, mental and physical effects of the blockages i was having + experienced a really cruel breakup a couple months prior. In Costa Rica my mentors and guides highlighted where i was having the most issues - Self Trust. Once learning about that it changed my entire perspective and made a lot of sense as to why i couldn’t show up for myself. Still working through it everyday but in time it gets better! This video was super actualizing and reassuring
So many broken promises to myself. I’m happy I came across this video because this is something I genuinely want to work on! Thank you 🙏🏾
I wish I could like this video a million times! I felt like you were speaking directly to me. I’m trying to change myself so that I love me and show others how to treat me and I won’t take anything less than. I’ll be 26 this year and I’m in such need of a change and the only time is now. Thank you thank you for this!❤
I’m so happy that this video was in my recommended, this was a much needed wake up call for me!! Thank you!!❤
🌷 listen, I just came across of your video and want to take this timeout to thank you. it's so on point.
Thank you much for sharing your wisdom. I relate to your experience, havent got ahold of the discipline part.
And that's the most important thing.
Thank you again you here.
This video and your insight was really refreshing. I’ve been feeling depressed and there’s a lot of stuff I’ve been letting slip because of that but I’ll go meh I’m pregnant or meh I’m tired to not do what’s best for me. I have to make the time to take care myself and show up so I can be healthier for others because they deserve me at my best too. Thank you for reminding me of that. And your insight about how we can get too dependent on others if we don’t take care of ourselves, it made think of how usually when holidays come around I get frustrated that people don’t think about gifting me clothes, when I should be happy with whatever gifts I do get. I realize that it’s because I don’t take care of myself by buying the clothes I need.
you are so zen when you speak i love it
I just came across your channel and I really appreciate all the gems you just dropped. You've got a new subscriber for sure.
Growing up as a perfectionist, this reminded me why I stopped being one. A year ago I decided to turn my life around and start building my relationship with myself, and now at 17 I am trying to keep up with my promise of becoming more comfortable with failing in order to succeed in life. I definetely needed to watch this video to ensure I stay on my journey and not get distracted by the thousands of thoughts that are trying to throw me off tracks. Thank you ❤
Omg ur literally speaking my exact situation, thw timing of seeing this video is so beneficial.
It’s funny, I found you on TikTok yesterday, then you’re my second video when I open UA-cam today discussing a topic that’s my Achilles heel.
This has completely shattered my self-confidence and sense of self, I honestly don’t recognise the person I am today because of how much I’ve let myself down and as a result let myself go, my business has been impacted, my relationships have suffered. It’s something I’m actively trying to fix at the moment, I’m trying to show up everyday for myself and stay consistent.
Thank you for making this video, I really needed to hear it!
can I just tell you… everything you describe was me at the beginning of this Summer… and for the whole year + a half before that… I getttt it.
I hope you had a chance to watch the rest of this series. In the first video, I talked about my journey of getting to this more aligned space. I think that will also speak to you. I’ll tag it below. sending you soo much love at this part of your journey 🫂🤎
ua-cam.com/video/EycApLCn8KY/v-deo.htmlsi=dczoemNFHFLsULMC
I am so grateful for finding your channel, I am a stay at home mom and I've been struggling with putting a pause on my dreams and ambitions and it made it harder watching my husband thrive in his career and being able to follow what he needs... I feel like I've needed to trust in what I feel is going to make me feel fulfilled... Please continue making this type of content, it has truly helped me so much in just one video, so thank you❤
Thank you Tiff for sharing this. This is so helpful and the season I am currently in. I so needed to hear this ❤😊
you are so soo welcome 🤎
This was an amazing watch - thank you so much for sharing! 💕
thank you mama 🙏🏾🤎
i know i’ve rewatched this 10 times.
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Wow wow wow! 😢 thank you for this video🤍 Thank you for being open honest and vulnerable it’s truly appreciated!
of course mamas! thank you 🤎🤎
Wow wow wow!! The timing of this video to show up on my feed in a miracle ❤
Literally seconds before I found your video I was in my head thinking "I need to trust myself." The universe knows its timing. Thank you for this, you beautiful soul
This has been the video I’ve watched that will probably help me the most of all the other self development videos! Amazing!
this is the story of my life. jumping into something new when the one things didn't work.
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God placing this video in my recommended is completely divine. Literally answered the questions I’ve been contemplating in my head, like girl why do you give up so easy 😭
No fr I kept bout to comment something to ask and she would literally answer them in the video 🥺definitely Devine I needed it at this moment literally
it was meant for you love 😌🙌🏾
You did not disappoint! I needed this talk. Thank you!
🙌🏾🙌🏾 i’m happy it resonated sis
Lawd this video is 10 sermons and a half. I've been discovering this in therapy, but to hear this in a video so succinct and beautiful, yep..... I'm definitely needing to do this.
Thank you I’m currently trying to learn discipline honestly it was nice to hear a description of the situation I am in. And how to approach having more discipline❤
doesn’t it feel good to know you’re not alone? 🙌🏾 you’re so welcome love
Thank you for this. I am currently working on my self discipline trying to build my self trust. I always thought I loved myself but I didn’t show up for me. I always saw my potential but didn’t try to actually make me accomplish all the things I could do. It’s hard work but we gotta do it. Thank you for sharing❤️
hard work but so sooo worth it… if I did it, you absolutely can love. you got this 🤎
I appreciate the authenticity of this message. This was very awaking! Thank you.
of course love 🤎 thank you for tuning in!
Thank you - came at the right time at the right place
First 3 minutes are speaking to me soo much subscribing immediately!!
welcome to the family love 🤎🤎
I wish this were longer! I absolutely love your channel! Thank you for this incredible video, I had a cup of tea and my full attention to your voice and what you had to say.
yesss a bevvy is a must 😌 thank you for tuning in love 🤎
The first few minutes reeld me in so quick about discipline omg !
it got us all together... me included 😅
Great video, this usually goes back to experiences in childhood. Not making excuses, but be willing to peel back the layers and be gentle with yourself!
You worded this perfectly
Wow, we are so alike and thank you so much for this video. It definitely open my eyes to understanding more of myself because I have been going back-and-forth myself. I’m like you got to get out of this with the mindset you’ve got to just push through. Yes you have a Lotta crazy circumstances against you were being a single mom now of two young kids under three just lost her job all these things but at the end of the day you have your business, make it work and push.