No Contact With Kids Involved: How To Give A Spouse Space
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- No Contact With Kids Involved: How To Give A Spouse Space
Many people are confused about how to do no contact with kids involved, or how to give a spouse space when you have children and need to communicate.
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Finally a video that pertains to folks going through separation and divorce! Most videos are about getting a bf or gf back and not ex spouse. I think dealing with ex spouses is a whole different ball game especially if kids are involved. Please continue making videos that serve this audience!!
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@Personal Vlog im in same boat,if she dont xome back soon then ill be ok with it and fuck everything
Couldn't agree more 👍🏻
Soooo...what happen Jose? It's been 3 years. Are you guys back together or did you say F it? LOL
I’m interested as well what happen
Hello. My wife said she wanna divorce because of my brutal actions. I was begging her to come back like month. Then I realized she will never accept me again. Then Me and my son and my Wife are sit together and talked and I said I love you, don't hate me, apologise me, let's do it as you wish, meanwhile let's love our child lets be parents in his major life events like fathers birthday mothers birthday, holiday events etc. Then she agreed to meet with me in my birthday this November 17th. But we agreed untill she finds a new apartment she won't go to the court. And she allows me to see my child. So here is my question: Do I have a chance win her back? And also she seems to like somebody else in her univercity.
Turbold Batsaikhan > First she agrees to your term to work amicably for your kid and important event u hi lighted, I will say u have chance. As long u both still in this world, fight well and change urself towards the world end.
Sure that's sounds great in a perfect world but she my sister in law is a narcissist
My brother is cordial kind and communicating, but she flips things around to benefit her...
She went to know everything but she wont tell my brother anything not even where she lives, yet she goes to his place anytime she wants.
She brain washes the kids when she takes for her weekend.
She upsets my brother so much, he has had 2 strokes.
Does she care?
No, she just tells him things to make him feel worse.
So what you are talking about is advice for mature healthy civilized people she is not, narcissistic has not empathy.
So what's your advice about that?
if you are giving space/no contact and sharing child about half the week... is it ok to send occasional text asking for an update on the kiddo or how she is doing? I have a 2 year old little girl and some days I just miss her so much.
Married 23 years and separated 4 months. I have 4 kids 2 older and moved out 2 younger still with there mum. I didn't want the split and I have fought tooth and nail to keep the marriage together but she doesn't want to know. Worst thing is now she is advising the kids that it's normal for people to separate. Not giving them the best plan for there relationships
This sounds familiar to me. It is quite similar to my story. How are you now?
What if One of the issues in the relationship was lack of communication and how does no contact affect that?
That's the issue I'm having!...ill do radio silence than 2 weeks later ill call or text and she blows off the hinges!. Wtf do you do??
Think about it when you struggle with lack of communication it’s due to both of you when giving space it really opens not only ur eyes but ur exes mind about what he should have done or she should have done giving space can really open both of ur minds up to what went wrong in the relationship then either grow from it or grow away from it but it’s up to you to build that communication back which means when no contact is over then slowly understand what communication is and bring that into the relationship show you have grown and learned what communication really is so their aren’t no mess ups anymore .
@@monster20874 I’m a girl myself and due to who decided to end the relationship women tend to take it harder and sometimes when you involve urself in her life still when she was the one that left it’s really just about space and if you can’t give her space she’s blowing up due to u not respecting her choices and not giving her space which seems that , that’s what she wants so give it to her done keep pushing let her come to you especially girls or women we sometimes need time to heal from all the negative thoughts and if we’re not involved in ourselves it’s hard to really chance for the better. Give her space
So I'm supposed to act hunky dory after he walked out and hasn't had contact for ten years and then just decided to walk in after being absent for ten years...no thanks
April Johnson of course not every situation is different. I have heard of people getting back together from 1yr to 16 yrs . If they have some sort of personality disorder run, there is no cure.
I'm sorry but this is virtually impossible if your ex is a narssisistic abuser. There is no good way to deal with them besides "no contact", I wish it wasn't the case but for so many of us, it is...
If your ex partner has been diagnosed with NPD narcissist, well there is no cure no empathy no emotion it’s all a game a chess match. Detach!!!!
I just recently told my ex to please stop sending me pictures of her out with the children...
I told her I just can't handle that right now and its not that i dont want them, it's just hard right now for me to see "a documentary" I used to be in and im almost certain she took that very wromg because she has been really hit headed the past 2 months and acrually said she hates me last night, which was really hard to hear after 6 year relationship w/ 2 children...
Was this a bad gesture on my part?
Jericho tbh I don’t know your situation as of now you may not like what you’re about to read but what I can tell you is that you have to suck it up! It’s showing her you’re only thinking about yourself. The kids are the most important thing! You need to stop curling up I did that shit but I quickly got out of it. I’ve got a kid with my ex. I’m only interacting whenever it’s about my kid. Whenever you meet you’re only there for the kids and that’s that. Are you telling me that a man that has his kids all over him...don’t attract women in general?...trust me you’ll get better for yourself also. Right now just seems like you’re a bit dependent on the relationship.
Me and my baby mother have broken up 5 times obviously this time it’s a lot different but trust me when I say this! Don’t engage in ANY form of conversation unless it’s for the kids or new plans etc.
I don’t mean any malice by my message.
Hope all is well Jericho.
Jericho yes it was... listen do not express how you feel, in regards to please don’t send me photos of the kids and your self of course she is going to tell you FU. Listing keep it to the point if you see picture don’t look at them don’t respond. If she asks you personal questions don’t answer. If it’s about the kids simple thumbs up. Always always keep it cordial. And if there is a personality disorder run there is no cure.
You guys are the best for making this video I'm literally in tears thanks you I'm going to keep fight the good fight
Don't cry!! :D We're glad to hear it, thank you for your support, and it is a privilege to be of service. Good luck! - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
We were together about 2 years and had a child together. Then things started to slip and I began looking other places and taking the relationship for granted time and time again. After multiple chances she finally firmly broke up with me and I went back to my parents house with almost instant regret! I begged and pleaded for weeks until I got the hint that she was serious and needed space. A few weeks later we started hanging little by little when we would exchange our son. But things felt different, she was reserved and I knew somthing didn’t feel right. I discovered she was seeing someone else and I was heartbroken all over again! She confronted me the next day and said she does want a future with me but she was not ready. We still saw eachother for another week until I felt it wasn’t going anywhere and I had reason to believe she was still seeing the other guy! It’s already been 4-5 months since our break up and I know now Limited-contact is our best option to possibly reconcile the relationship. I’m going on day 7 and she has reached out almost every day and I’ve had to be strong because I’ve already broken NC once and felt like crap having to restart from day 0. I love her a lot and have changed so much, this no contact is not easy for either of us, but if she is rebounding then I need to stay away, work on myself, and let time do it’s thing. She breadcrumbs so hard to get me to break nc which has been a huge problem, but I want the mother of my child back and I’ll stay disciplined if it means saving our relationship! I honestly see a great future with us! Any thoughts that could help my situation??
Do you have an update? My situation is the similar.
@@jdrsims mine is similar too , any updates ?
Same here … but she not seeing anyone any update ??
Update?
I really like your advice thank you for sharing it. I am separated and I am having a struggle on how to have no contact with husband we have 3 kids and it's really a tough situation and very stressful. I don't know how to get him back.
separated 4 months. Had anger issues I am working on that cause my wife to feel as if she can't open up to me. This caused me to feel as if she was stepping out on me because of the circumstances that made me upset.
I have 2 special needs kids with her. My daughter is six and physically handicap (just to point out she isn't mentally handicap, she understands a lot of what is going on.) and it's killing her for my wife and I to be apart.
She just asked me last night if I was still mad at mommy, this is a question that happens all the time, but this time she also said, "if you aren't mad at mommy anymore, do you think kissing her will make it so you can come home so we can be a family?" Even just typing that is making me emotional.
I basically said that's not how it works, but God has our back(Christian here) and the Bible says not to worry because God will take care of us(Matthew 6:25-34 for those who are interested.)
My kids already go through a lot because of the disabilities they have, and as a child of divorce, I know it's devestating effect on people and children.
My wife's experience with divorce is her mom divorced multiple times due to men with anger issues(history repeats itself) and it's better to divorce because her mom was happier after divorce than being married.
We still do some family events together although she doesn't act like a couple, but she is seemingly coming around a little bit. Not projecting my feelings onto her, I already made that mistake since we've been apart.
She lets my daughter stay the night with me on the weekends which my wife, for saying she can't trust me and is afraid of me, she gave that to me when I asked with no resistance, and lots of other little things that I notice that are personal.
I gave a little background to hopefully say where we are at this point.
My question is, my daughter(6 yo) basically never stops asking me(and my wife says it comes up a lot) when we can be a family again and in trying to soothe her and explain in a way a child can comprehend, she has accidentally (not sure how else to describe it) become a pawn in our separation. How do I remedy this?
On one hand, I'm wondering if her seeing my daughter being sad and always asking is helping my wife soften up to me.
But I obviously don't want my daughter to be an emotional wreck.
Suggestions welcome.
God bless
I have made it absolutely clear that I need space from my ex despite having kids. What killed it for me was taking me to court for visitation rights when he was already seeing our kids daily. I just didn’t want to communicate with him. Using our kids to try to keep me talking to him is just a way of trying to control my life and invade my space. I don’t get it when he was the one that disowned us as his family. Some love huh.
What if ur spouse has been black mailing u, bad mouthing u humiliating u ? I really dont intend getting my spouse back but communicating with my son ever since I started the NC rule has been difficult. Son is not of age to handle a phone so What do I do?
I hv two kids with him. He has move on. Seeing him is a heart brake for me. I just wants to forget him. How do I do this?
This is my current situation he also act as if he doesn’t care about me nothing at all
The problem I’m having is that when I accidentally bumped into him and his new wife I walked away he ran after me then called me . I went to my car and he called asked where I went I said I have to go . He then said to me “ why do u act like we didn’t have a relationship”.
This is very GENERAL advice... be cordial blah blah blah. We know this but how do we maintain no contact to get your spouse to have feelings for you again WHILE you have multiple children with them?
So the thing I'm still scratching my head about on this one is no contact. How is this achieved with kids involved? To me it sounded like we should be talking with them still. The title of the video was not actually addressed here. Of course we're putting our child first but how do I go no contact or give space? I have to see him every week for custody exchange and it's so hard for me everytime! Recently he suggested sleeping together after he told me 3 weeks ago that we had to stop, now he says he just wants to have sex. I told him that I couldn't bc I still cared and it wasn't in my best interest moving forward. He said no problem, he just wanted sex. That hurt to hear, I guess bc I was expecting it meant more than that. What do I do now?
kazygrl Don't go deep in your conversation with him, always keep it short then just say bye . Also don't meet him in the home, if he wants to see the child meet at the mall or other public place. lastly don't have sex
kazygrl wow no contact for 30 days will mAke you see things for what they are first of all. I have 3 kids with my ex here is how I did it. If she called regarding a personal question no answer, only text if it’s a question regarding the kids simple thumbs up. What ever happens keep it cordial! Always. Stick to your guns. Here is the real question what are you going to do when he runs back to you...? If he has mental issues runnnnnnn . There is no cure...
Mommy & Me with Natalie To a man, having sex is one of the prime goals in a relationship, unless his penis is dead. If you love him and want to be with him, what prevents you from making that big move?
All the coaches in this channel know what they r doing. What they say follow it. Trust me on it I've been there and I've done it and the results were in my favor . No contact is the way to go. Thanks to all the coaches. Adrian, Natalie and all the others 😘
You're welcome, and thank you for the testimonial and support! - The WMEA Team
Me and my wife have been together for 5 years - married for 3. She is 23 and I am 32, we have a 3 yr old daughter and I have a 7 yr old daughter from someone else... My wife left me on the 21st of March and blocked me out of the blue on April 1st after sending me a picture of our daughter (earlier that day she came over to where I am staying currently to get her clothes and our daughters - we was staying with her family since we sold our house but I moved in with a guy friend of in January because of issues between me and her moms boyfriend. ) she said there will be no more contact and to wait for court.. we separated March 21st was still talking and then she started seeing someone on the 27th and spent the 27-29th with them and our daughter then on April 1st she came and got her and our daughters clothes - things were ok when she was here i tried to give her space and not hound her she kept asking me to come in the room to talk so i just kept it kinda business like. She was lingering after she was done packing but I didnt want to put pressure on her to stay, after she left i texted saying thank you for bringing our daughter- she called me we talked she told me how some guy sent her flowers to her work “pretty sure it was her manager who had been tryin to get with her” but we talked for 20 minutes then when she got to her moms we texted two or 3 times- she sent the picture I replied then she she did a couple times then I sent another text she read it then 20 minutes later “i guess when she was around the guy she started talking to” she told me there would be no more contact she cant move on when still talking to me and then she blocked me saying to wait for court to see our daughter- her sister talked to me on Easter told me it was my wifes new bf who made her block me and also told her not to let me see Our daughter on Easter - apparently she was going to bring our daughter to see me on easter but the new guy didnt want her to. I dont know how this is going to work out but it has been no contact since April 1st except for one time on the 5th when she called to yell at me because she found out her sister was talking to me cause her sister doesnt agree with all of this. But since that call on the 5th and a few texts on the same day - we have not talked. Its the 20th now. I need some direction but dont have money yet for a coach. I want to save our marriage but I know it will be a long hard road. Pretty sure it is her manager at her work (her sister believes so also but my wife hasnt told any of her family yet who she is seeing - her sister said she would tell me once she found out but I told her I didnt want to know) that she left me for since he always flirted with her, would call her pet names and would touch on her and get her to touch on him - and would spend hours talking to her at work instead of doing his job he would just follow her around and talk to her - she got hired on the spot after filing out an application by him cause he was flirting with her while she filed out the application- she started working at the hotel back in mid January. then she got flowers at work the same week we split. -- this is the 2nd time she has done this- and almost the same exact way and process as well. The first time was a little over a year ago with a 19 year old she talked to on Facebook then left me for them.
Alright I'm going to be throwing you guys a curve ball.
So my ex fiance and I were together for 5 years and I made the mistake working at a remote camp job trying to provide for my fiance and daughter. She went downhill from being alone and got into drugs and all that jazz. Since then she has realized of losing her daughter due to choices. She text me a couple months ago asking if we can talk and she wanted to get back together. Problem is I dont know if she is off drugs. Even though she seems like herself again wanting to see our daughter again. Long story short I have to supervise her visits and want to move on. I love her to death, but I think I need to move on, as I have noticed I've been able to be a happier person without her. How do I do no contact when I have to supervise her visits ?
Hey Eric!
Drugs is like having a third person in the relationship. She has to learn to deal with those issues before getting back into a healthy relationship. All you can do is support her, but don't make her problems yours. I can help guide you more in a coaching session.
Coach Samira
www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
I have personal mental issues and I think the pandemic and other issues really pushed me into an episode. Now I feel I've messed everything up. I'm so afraid of this being it even though its probably not. I can't sleep cuz I can't get over the fear and I'm not being good at self control. I want to be with them all so bad, haven't dealt with this. I like the idea of thinking how I'd want my kids to deal with things though. Maybe that will help a bit.
Couch samira
I've 41 days NC with my ex. We are studying in same uni and day after tomorrow a trip is arranged by the university she is going.. should i go?? What should i do? Plz give advice...
niaz muhammad I hope you didn’t go
I am really doing the best i can for my daughter (2years old). Even her father (left us when our child was 1years) tells me i am doing an amazing job and than he could not wish for a better mother for his daughter. . But thats it.. he is in another relationship with the mistress he left us for.. he slept with me back in the days when he left us and was in a relationship with her , but i started to set boundaries because he was just getting the best of both worlds.. i put all my focus on our daughter and on gettting my life back together.. he isnt involved a lot with our daughter and doesnt show much interest because he is too focused on his girlfriend... i did all i could to get back together but he is not thinking about getting back i start to think.. he is only 22years old and i think he is not ready for such big responsibilities (although he wanted a child) thats why he is in this relationship with a younger girl and goes on trips all the time..
What are your thoughts?
Sina Lala, while he's fooling around being a BOY, you're getting your affairs together and being a WOMAN. You don't deserve a boy, even if he is the father of your child. Once he matures, and realizes he is forgoing substance for instant gratification, he will regret it, especially if another man decides to step in and be a full-time father figure to your little girl - Coach Steven
Im kind of going through the exact situation...stay focused on your kid and yourself if you believe in God he will be a father to the fatherless and once he sees the dedication and change you have implemented into yourself you will be blessed with the man that will be there for you and your daughter! Keep the faith! Although it is hard good things come to those who wait!
hello coaches fro love advice tv.. i got a really quick quest thats bothering me abt making an ex miss u.. my issue is if my ex is talking to another guy and i stop talking to her to make her miss me, will she miss me or jst get closer to the other guy ??
Quick answer: she'll miss you - Coach Steven
ohh i see.. in my head i thought the other way round.. thnk u so much coach.. keep up the good work
@@ismaeladam7118 so how did it go,,cuz my babymoms defintely talking to a guy i know nothing of,but i wont go back if she is wirh this guy!!
My ex left 2 weeks ago with a txt said he feels like a failure and can't provide how he wants for us and he feels I can do better. We have 2 kids together first week he had 0 contact then exactly 1 week later he asked to.see kids I took kids to him. He said thanks I said welcome. Since the txt he has yet to come get things or try to talk of then ask about the kids. Then yesterday he msged about the kids and then told happy Birthday. I msged about the kids then just said thanks. I am so confused we had no fights the only thing was he has been wanting to party lately and I told him we are a family he can't do whatever he wants then next day sent me this long txt about how he can't hurt me anymore and I did 0 wrong. I been doing no.contact and only telling him about the kids. He keeps asking his mom how I am and he now thinks I have a date this weekend that he got in his head and kept asking and asking his mom. But when he is around me he just says thanks and be safe. Tomorrow will be 2 weeks its so hard because literally nothing happened that I am aware of.
But what if she’s still in love with her first baby daddy that cheated on her and left her 10 years ago and remarried and recently got divorced and that’s when my split with my sons mom started occurring since he’s marriage didn’t work while me and her had our own family and she’s starting to treat me like im a nobody and giving him all the attention
this video is so helpful in a way people can understand, I'm going through a hard break up ATM & these tips & advice have given me even more strength to say I can do this & still be a great mother to my children.
Janice Milne 30 day no contact
I'm not using my kids as a weapon but son wants to be with me :/ hes said that him self to me and his mum she left me after 7 years and I'm still at home shes at her mums, it's really hard for us all involved but she finds it really easy I'm not seeing my daughter as much as I'd like either tbh
Hey Hectic Sheff, continue taking the higher ground in this situation and continue being strong :) - Coach Nat
Is there any chance we are getting back or she has moved on. We were together for 2 year. She were talking with me for 4 months after break up. then she suddenly disappeared. After 8 weeks I contacted her she ignored me. Then waited 8 weeks and I got ignored again. It’s been almost a year now and she is still ignoring me. 3 weeks before was her birthday and I wished her and asked her out again cause I thought that is the best moment but I got blocked by her. Today I saw her in town centre but she ignored me in person too. I followed her for 5 min and she didn’t speak even one word then I started thinking maybe I am harassing her and I left her alone. Can anyone tell if she has moved on or she still thinks about me. Is there any chance we are getting back not at all.
She move on bruh
This is super hard because my ex won’t move out of the marital home.
What if your ex spouse texts you asking about how the kids doing what should I do if I’m doing the no contact rule ? But he also calls everyday and text once in a while but I been ignoring the texts
Impossible, you have to text back never answer the phone. As far as what to text keep it simple and to the point. Thumbs up for the kids are ok. If he asks something about you do not answer. If your dropping off child keep it cordial, good morning that is it if he asks how are you answer fine.... no more
Wife wants divorce she kicked me out should I go to see my children everyday at the home because she won't let me see them without her being present.
Most definitely! Your kids should be more important than your romantic relationship. It's all about having the right priorities in her eyes - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
Going on vacation with a 4 and 1 year old and also with my ex boyfriend. We didn't want to burned the tickets so we decided to go but he decides to stay in another hotel. Should I be afraid to be alone with my kids in a foreign country?
Depends on the country... are you going somewhere with no centralized government and no law enforcement? Are you staying in a shady part of the city? If not, then you should be fine - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
Me and my ex has gone through bad times we have kids and I have chased and chased and pushed her away she has met someone new. We are now getting on now and doing it for the kid's. I can't use no contact and iffeel like me being nice gives her nothing to miss. What technique can I use to not let her feel like she got me at her bek and call so that I can create respect and desire and love again? I hope that this happens and I know I have to move on and get myself right for anyone to come into my life but I want my wife and kids back.
Hey ozzydj ozzy, you have to show her that you have a fulfilling life independent of her and the kids. You need to show her, "Hey, you and I have a great time together with the kids, but I have my own fun life away from you. You're missing out!" I suggest you do things with her and the kids, but fall back on doing things just you two alone. Do the things that will make her want to have another baby with you! - Coach Steven
My thing is that my ex wife says that she doesn't want to get back together because she says it will hurt the kids. I think she feels like their expectations won't be met and they would end up suffering more.
Hey George Bonilla, that is just a challenge being presented to you from your ex to be SuperDad! Step it up and prove her wrong - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
What if my ex see all my status on whatsapp.. What shd i do? How to respond?
If she's only "seeing" your statuses on whatsapp, then there's nothing to respond to, unless she messages you - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
Please continue making videos
You guys are awesome. I have a question. Me and my qife have 2 kids together and i want to use the no contact rule butnim afraid she will lose love for me and more. We have 2 yr pld twins and a 10 yr old. I am very much i love with her as we have been together for almost 10 yrs. I was the one who messed up. What i did was o carroed o a conversation with a woman eho used to be married to a guy who used to b a friend of mine until he passed. Well after a year of his passing his wife contacted me and told me how she had a crush on me for a while and how she was so jeslous of how i trwated my wife who was a woman who a lot of times tool me for granted. She would make me go months at a tome without any affection and really she just existed here. Id get off work and have to do for my kids after a 15 hr day while she laid in bed on social media. I had a conversation with this woman and my wife saw the conversation where the lady said she wished my twins were hers bc she always wanted twins. How can i implement this no contact rule with my wife to be effective for me? She doesnt really wanna talk on the phone she also tells me we are taking tome apart while telling others we are broke up. How do i stop this or fix this? Does she still want to be with me? Os she doing things she shouldn't be doing while im nt around? I mean odk qut to think or do plz help. All i did was have a converaatik. with the lady and i never slept with her or nthn. It really seems as if she wanted this to happen. By making me go without and not trying to be successful. Im the knlynone who qorks but when ahe moves out ahe acts like she accomplishea more on hwr own qhwn i hold her back from nothing. The porblwm is there are ppl here that help her and she yake advantage of that and does nothing. But in turn says she accomplishes more when she not here. I dnt get it.
Hello Marcus, your situation is going to require a long term plan to get your wife back on your good graces. Reach out to us here www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/ Right now she is still angry at you and we have to get her to get over that and remind her that she still loves you - Coach Steven
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This is a great message... important to role model respectful boundaries and behaviours to kids after separation...
Thank you for your support, Maddi D'accione! Keep coming back for more videos. We upload everyday! - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
I am a signal father and have full custody of our son. she has not seen our son in a long time and won't make any effort to do so. she is in another relationship. I have tried to reconnect with her for a long time. our son is autistic and struggle daily she has no idea what or how his is. she wants visits without me around. please help me to reconnect with her. . we stopped calling her . I don't want to use my son to talk to her. . I have shared pictures and with no reply.
Brandon Druckenmiller I’m so sorry you and your son have to put up with her poor behaviour. At this point I would do as she wants and try to get someone to arrange with her to see her son without you around. It’s important that your son has a relationship with his mother even if she makes little effort.
One day you’ll meet a women who will be there for the both of you. There is always someone out there that is perfect for you.
Thank you for this suggestion! - Coach Steven
Hey Brandon Druckenmiller, thank you for sharing your story. I second Sarah's suggestion. I will also go so far as to document EVERY SINGLE THING that happens with relation to your son, for custody purposes. - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
I have same problem my first kids is autistic my wife break up with me for that reason i feel you, any update ?
My wife wanted a separation and I have been separated for 3 months now. Our son is 11 months old. Over the course of these 3 months we've had good contact over text and calls mainly about our son. We only see one another for our son. Just within the past 3 weeks she has told me she is no longer in love with me but still loves me. So cliche it pissed me off before it began hurting. 2 days ago she told me that she feels as though I'm smothering her and she needs time to think and wants space. we have been living apart of the whole entire 3 months me and our house and her and our son at her mother's. I feel as though I have given her space, I know I started acting irrational and insecure a couple days after she told me she was not in love with me. But she told me she needs space after I had gotten over being that way. I am the reason behind separation I have an addictive personality when it comes to most if not all things I'm all in all out. Something my therapist and I have been working on. Sometimes I get the feeling she has found someone else. I can tell that she wants a divorce I just don't know why she won't go ahead and file. I don't believe it's for any financial means I am starting to think she doesn't want to look like she gave up when it was my fault we separated in the first place. That I should be the one who files "so I would be the one who not only broke us but also gave up on us". She is a child of divorce so I know she will always do right by our sun when it comes to custody. I've been working towards making fundamental changes for myself and I am at a loss of what to do in my situation I know it is best to do what is right for my son. We do not fight or argue would it be best for our son us to divorce and move on? Or should I still cling on to the hope we will get back together?
One last thing. Do you feel as though spouses who going live with family during separation do not have the opportunity to feel the loneliness and gravity of the separation? Her brother had also recently moved home a month or so before her and I know he has stepped in for me since I cannot be there all the time. So I feel as though this gives her a level of way too much comfort she's not experiencing what it is in feels to be alone. Am I wrong in that opinion?
Hi Justin,
Thank you for sharing your story. You should give her enough time and space as she needs and respect the boundaries she has given you. You should also begin to focus more on your life and less on hers because then she will want to be a part of yours even more.
Coach Samira
Justin Kraft Shes with another man and doesn’t want to say it because it’ll hurt you more my guy. If you let her go, she’ll miss you because you already have children with her. She may or may not . But you don’t want someone that doesn’t reciprocate your love anyways because it’s not a true relationship. Give her space. Only talk about the kid
So my ex and i broke up 2 weeks ago, i saw him at a friends birthday yesterday and he was acting like he never knew me, it was like im looking at a completely new person, I decided to be the bigger person and say hi but he responded in such a horrible way I can't even explain it, then a friend of mine came and he kept talking and kinda flirting with her, i felt so shitty , im so heartbroken its been 2 weeks and i cry myself to sleep everyday, especially after how he acted at that birthday party, we were together for almost a year I can't believe or I can't understand why he would do this to me, i never cheated, never did anything with any other guy, i was so in love with him and now that he's gone I don't know what to do, plus we didn't contact eachother these whole 2 weeks , And to add to that we broke up because he told me it's what's best for us since our relationship started getting repetitive and boring plus all the arguments we got into and all the fights which were over stupid stuff,(keep in mind we never used to fight,we were so perfect for eachother like 4 months ago , but the fights started the last two months)and i agreed, but after he left I realized how attached i was to him, but I didn't try to reach out because i knew that he didn't wanna see or talk to me i don't know what to do anymore, should i keep the no contact? Or should i try to understand why he's acting like this through his friends? Please help I really want the old him, the old us back
Dmoh I do sympathise with you, and I know you’re hurting but please put things into perspective.
You were together for just 1 year , because that’s only 12 months and 4 of them were not as good.
My partner of 16 years walked out on me 4 days ago, we were together over half our lives.
I think that one day when you’ve been with someone for a decade or more you’ll look back on your 1 year relationship and see how insignificant it really was compared to the one you currently have.
Real love takes years to develop.
I can honestly say I didn’t truly love my partner till we’d been together for over a decade and by that I mean the kind of love you have which means you’d truly let them go if they were happier without you.
I’m not saying your relationship has no hope of rekindling, but I think what you should do is concentrate on yourself and put all your efforts into being productive. That way if you do get back together you’ll be the best version of yourself and it may even bring him back because he’ll see just how great you are.
I know you’re hurting though and I wish I could take away the pain you’re feeling. There is someone out there waiting for you, someone who will be your future I promise x
Hey Sarah, just remember that one person's hurt isn't necessarily more painful than the another's :) - Coach Steven
Hey Dmoh, DEFINITELY go back into no contact. Understanding why he's behaving this way isn't going to help in the way that you think it is. And you DEFINITELY don't want the "old us" back. He certainly doesn't, and you shouldn't either. You need to strive for a NEW relationship with him - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
Hey guys I have a quick question I hope you can help with.
My ex came back wanting a friendship and nothing more and told me he wanted another girl. I tried my best to ignore her and to continue growing our friendship. I made a mistake during late night texting one night by bringing up my feelings. He got very angry and told me to move on already and to leave him alone so there wouldn’t be anything in the way of him trying to pursue said girl. I respectfully said okay and that I wish him the best and assumed that he would have deleted me everywhere, but he didn’t and I was very surprised because that’s unlike him. It’s been almost 3 weeks and I’ve noticed each and every time I post on my Instagram or Snapchat stories (85-90%) he views them very very very quickly (first half hour or so; even almost immediately at many times). I’ve also been using this fact to my advantage by posting myself doing all kinds of fun stuff. We still haven’t spoken since that night and I’m wondering if you guys think this is good sign or I’m incredibly over thinking? Thank you so much love the channel.
Hey Amelia Lopez, thank you for your comment and your support! I would say that this is a good sign, but at the same time, its not very significant. Don't bank on social media to tell you how your ex is feeling. Pay attention to what he does in the REAL WORLD - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
Love Advice TV thanks for the reply coach, ironically enough, the day I posted this comment i saw him 3 times that day, I work at a retail store, he kept coming in and out with 2 of his friends and kept looking around, but not at the clothes that’s for sure. Kinda odd and creepy but 🤷🏻♀️hahaha. Thanks!
Amelia Lopez stick to it 30day no contact.
I love this video I was seriously just thinking about this and this exact subject all day today I want to try to Showcase to my wife currently which we are in the middle of getting a divorce that making good changes but I'm not sure how to do it but this video really helped me give me more confidence in what I need to do thank you
Hey Tyler Schoen, we are glad to hear and always happy to help. Best of luck! - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
Showcase my wife, dude wrong answer no contact first 30 days. This will make you see things for what they are.
thank u
You're welcome, Daniella. Thank you for watching.
Coach Natalie
Thank you for this video it really helps and I am keeping it just business like you said and being calm about the situation. One question how do we know when I should stop the no contact and try again with my ex that I have kids with? We been broke up 4 months
Hi Yecenia Rodriguez, is he showing any signs or effort that he wants to work things out? - Coach Steven www.withmyexagain.com
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