How to Deal with Rejection in Christian Singleness: What to Do When You Get Rejected By Your Crush
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2018
- When you get rejected by your crush, a guy, or a girl that you really liked, it can be hard. How you deal with rejection will be the key. Rejection happens, even in Christian relationships, but we can use it for our good if we know how to deal with rejection. Here are 5 ways to deal with rejection as a Christian single.
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I’ve been battling the spirit of rejection over a guy I had feelings for. He is now married and I am single. I’ve been asking God to bring someone into my life and it hurts that he has what I’ve been wanting. I’m trying to believe that God allowed me to be overlooked for a better purpose. But since I see nothing on the horizon for me, it makes me feel discouraged. Almost everyone I know is getting married now.
Stay strong! With God you are gonna handle everything, I wish you to meet your spouse 🙂
I feel ya. I had this friend who seemed to be godly. He was very kind to me and treated me in a special way. He used to say things like "we are so close everybody is going to think we are a couple". However, I started to notice he was what in Spanish slang we call a "perro". I was really confused and I couldn't know if he liked me or not. In the end, I realized he didn't care about me as much as he said, so I cut off any communication with him. Some time later, he married another girl. It hurt me a bit, but honestly I was more worried about her than jealous. Through the next years, I developed feelings for a few guys... it was weird, bc everytime it seemed I would get close to them, they didn't talk to me anymore or downright ignored me... very rude... Sometimes, I cannot shake the feeling of rejection. I can't see nothing for me, just like you, and get discouraged. Two of my friends are pregnant, another one got married and another one is dating a guy. Is hard to see them so happy, it even makes me feel alone. However, an idea came to my mind this week: that maybe God put a blindfold on these men eyes so they wouldn't see me... and it was an act of mercy, bc maybe if He gave me what I desired it would have been worse for me.
So, I'm trying to rest on Him and I'll pray that you can too, sister.
sorry for the looong comment! (and the awful grammar)
@@raquel4171 stay strong!
I wish you to find your godly man 😊
Same!
What you can’t see on the horizon God can hang in there his already set the date and time but for now he wants you to just spend time with the Lord show a devotion to our amazing Lord Jesus Christ because your reward is approaching he has herd your prayer but don’t be so invested in what’s going on in other people’s lives but instead focus on yours and keep the faith friend God bless you
I feel ya. He said I wasn't "sexy" enough. Just goes to show where his heart was and is. I don't take it as rejection. I take it as redirection from God. He was not Godly, nor was he or is for me. GOD has a GODLY relationship for me. I know it. Then when the guys that mistreated me in the past see it, they will see what and who they lost. I have PURPOSE I am not just a doormat or a swiffer mop. I am a daughter of the King of kings!!! GLORY TO GOD!!!
Thanks for sharing this, I like that line, "It's not rejection but redirection from God." Nice!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Amen!!! ❤❤❤
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John Williams exactly lol it is what it is
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The people that doesn't like you, doesn't need you, doesn't want you, or not interested in you (who 'reject' you) are not the people that God send into your life.
I wish I would have watched this 6 years ago. Seriously. 5 way too hard rejections... And I don't think I learned from any of them until the last one, which was a flat out ghosting, and her reappearing on social media with a new guy. They all make sense now, and what I did wrong makes sense too. Thanks, Mark. I honestly didn't like it when you mentioned that we have to "grieve the loss". It just seemed too dramatic when I first heard it. But after thinking about it and hearing you explain it better, yeah. I need to grieve it, so that all of those experiences can be put behind me. They all happened for a reason, and yes, lessons learned. But I need to move on too. Being rejected multiple times has stripped me of my self confidence. But I think that I'm becoming less afraid by becoming more guarded, and I will be when I ask someone out again.... And I'll expect a no, even if it comes after 4 dates like last time.
@Tyler Gibson I won’t forget how that all felt. Even though I’m happily married now, that particular time was so incredibly sobering in my life. I matured so much and changed, realizing that I needed to just place my singleness at the feet of Jesus and “grieve” the potential single forever possibility. And then literally a month later after feeling pretty confident in my single self in Christ, I met my wife. 😂 Totally didn’t expect it. I’ll be praying for you man. That time was real. It hurt. I won’t forget it. It shaped me into who I am now.
@@atr6930 Literally screenshotted two of your comments - from 4 years ago and a year ago. It's such a success story man, I'm happy for you. Hope, I'll find the one. Let the God's perfect will be made
@@K9amilo90 Wow! Even a year later after I wrote that comment my life has changed again! Two years of marriage brought out many faults within my character. I didn’t realize I had such anger issues, and the tendencies to be verbally abusive to many people. My wife helped me see this, and she is such a solid rock, so forgiving. I got counseling for my issues, I started attending Celebrate Recovery and found great healing for these issues in my life. I only wish I would have done this much sooner. The gospel is alive and well within my soul and we even ended up moving on to a different church because of the counseling… I realized how my wife was starving for the Word of God, and I was too! So much incredible healing is happening in my life.. things I never thought were issues when I was single. There is no shame in getting one on one counseling and attending group counseling like Celebrate Recovery. It’s absolutely amazing what God is doing in my life.
Dude, as a hockey player myself, that analogy was spot on. Thanks Mark. God Bless.
This has been multiple seasons for me. But God is still Good.
Thank you for the message. As men we are meant to find and pursue our future wife, but being rejected can really mess up our confidence and that is just a snowball effect.
Guys, our value is in Christ not in if we can get a girl to fall in love with us. I say this because I have to remind myself this sometimes :)
Wow. Finding identity in God is beautiful
True bro
This video was so good!! I confessed to a crush and I knew their answer, but the rejection still hit very hard. I think it hit harder because of my assumptions of why I was rejected and also me denying how I truly felt about the whole ordeal. Thank God that I ran across this...blessings!
I’m used to being rejected sadly and almost expect it. Just to be honest. But working through that.
Hang in there man. A lot of us are in that boat. My suggestion is watch Corey Wayne the dating coach, and apply Christian values to what he teaches. Just remember to be the best confident version of yourself, who God made you. , NOT the version you think others want you to be. ;-) If you let yourself truly shine, and get yourself prepared, you WILL find someone who " Fits" you. And She will be great!
This is one of the best messages I've heard on rejection. God Bless you
I have been rejected by every guy after they have been pursuing me and showing lots of interest 😭 I wonder what is wrong with me. I don't chase and enjoy my life but it's hard to not take it personally when it happens so often
That is happening to me also all the time! I was getting sooo frustrated but then I realized that God was saving me from a lot of bad relationships. I thank the Lord for protecting us. Also we should always lay our focus on Jesus and the things of the lord and the rest will be added to us :) we won't miss it
I get u
Same sis. I pray things are better for you. ❤
From a guys view.
Perhaps your body language is a telling sign.
I noticed it slot with the ladies.
BTW, judgement of the outward appearance is sin too, if you didn't know it
Thanks
Yes I’m experiencing the exact same thing. Guys showing a lot of interest, taking me on dates, lots of laughter, things going well and then several dates later “sorry I don’t think we’re a good fit” and it hurts because it’s just like “wait where is this coming from? I thought this was going well”
I’m good at picking up on when things aren’t going well but it just hurts when it seems like things are going great and then they just suddenly do a complete 180. And I’m at the point where I don’t really want to date anymore because I’m tired of being blindsided
Your videos have helped me gain so much perspective. You are a blessing to this community!
"You really have to be willing to risk something to be in a healthy[..] relationship." This should become the pinned comment.
Let's get one thing straight: If you are a man, then you have most certainly experienced rejection.
And let me tell you this: It's perfectly normal. It's a natural part of growing up, like losing your baby teeth, or getting a beard when you reach puberty.
There is NO reason to feel ashamed, or inadequate, just because you were rejected by a woman. Even men who are "successful" with women experience rejection many times. It's just another life experience for us. It's how we learn, how we grow and develop as a person.
I honestly believe even these "bad" things we face make us wiser and braver in the long run. And that's why (in my opinion) God lets us experience it.
I’m just a kid who got rejected by a girl I liked and I don’t want to go back to school and see her
At least you tried. It takes guts to try :) If you turn to Jesus he can use this pain to grow you and mature you for his purposes for you
When everyone close to you in your life rejects you for one reason or another, it results in a deep heart and soul wound that completely annihilated your self-worth and self-esteem. If you stop there, you'll quickly think of suicide and may die as a result. But if you wait moment and realize the revelation that you had been gaining your self-worth from others, and now remember that God knew your soul before you were born, then formed your body in the womb and He died for you knowing that you'd be a sinner to offer His loving grace and eternal life to you personally, than you can obtain the self-worth and self-esteem that God Almighty has given to you and no one else can ever take it away from you again.
Now respect God and follow Jesus who has instructed us to love others as we would love ourselves, to treat others as we want to be treated, not ever condemning but instead forgiving them always as long as we're still fallible and until we're resurrected in incorruptible new Heavenly bodies that no longer suffer from temptations, faults and failures.
I was rejected from the guy, I complimented many times in Facebook but I apologized to him and let it be. And eventually, our friendship is ok so far.
This is great, thanks for tackling this sensitive topic so well 😊🙏
The hockey metaphor is amazing. Your concept of being guarded yet coinciding taking risk is perfect. Holy Spirit came over me from that entire article, I missed church today and my buddy told me they discussed Psalm 4, same ch. you talked about in your article/vid here!
i got used to this... i am rejected, denied, discarded, dumped, ignored.... that's always the case... maybe God wants me to be alone and accept my fate whether i like it or not....
just remember don’t worth in these woman, but be content with Christ.
Thank you for releasing this video! Your advice really helps!!
I'm so glad it was helpful!
This is so......timely. I can't deal. wow Lord.
Thank you 🙏🏿 So much....I’m glad I found this channel 👍🏿
This is good info. I'm in a relationship now after a divorce. I am excited and nervous all at the same time. I think its health to know the worst can happen. I also think it wise to enjoy the moments. In anything ,especially relationships, I have this saying "It is what it is until its not"
This is a really inspiring vid. Thanks Mark.
Amen, blessed by this video much, thanks and God bless
I am so happy to see this video. I need it so much to hear this messege. Thank you so much !!!
So glad it was helpful!
Amen very good Godly wisdom! Stay blessed!
Thank you sir! This is really helpful
So glad this was helpful :)
Good advice that's why we need to seek the lord first before we get into a relationship
Hi Mark. Is it possible for you to make a video regarding NON- BELIEVERS 1.) developing healthy friendships with the opposite sex 2.) Establishing good/healthy boundaries and be able to guard ones heart and NOT the friendship to avoid falling for them or getting hurt 3.) how to deal with developing feelings with non-believers (like do we pray for them, cut them off, give up all hope, leave them etc. how do we interact/deal with them) in light of the Bible
Thank you!
Your videos are so helpful....I praise God for you and your channel.
I think this video may help you ua-cam.com/video/CCts89zs494/v-deo.html
Thank you God for this video
Hi mark, idk if you will even see this but please keep me in prayer for I'm going through alot inside and out especially on the inside I'm struggling with and one of the main issues is to want to keep on this life living. I know it sounds wrong and weak but if I could fully tell you in detail why then you probably understand why I believe that. Please don't forget me, Ulysses.
Just prayed for you
Praying 🙏🏼
Praying...
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praying❤
How are you doing lately?
I love your straight talking wisdom it shows your strength love and support God bless you and your family and ministry and country love from Wendy Drummond from Adelaide South Australia
I’m from SA too ❤
I have just recently had this experience and I wanted to ask any Brothers and Sisters in Christ if they would agree with me that I should move churches temporarily in order for me to grieve.
I am now at a place where I Thank God for every person that rejected me. I understand that they were not meant to be in my life for whatever reason. It taught me that I had to really lean on God. I had to learn the difference between being alone and being lonely. You can be with a crowd of friends and still feel lonely. You are never alone for God said he would never leave you nor forsake me! I learn not to always take it personal. They weren't rejecting me, they were rejecting the God that was in me at that time. There is a huge difference.
For guys, the girl you may be seeking maybe not be your rib. You're trying to fit the wrong rib into your rib cage. The ribs protect the internal organs. Therefore, men it is very important that you seek the missing rib that God took from you to form your Eve. Ask God to take you to your missing rib. Genesis chapter 2 verse 21 - 23. Is she your rib? Only God knows that answer! Blessings to all!!
For women, every rib cage is not yours to try to fit yourselves into. We try to fit ourselves where we do not belong.
Love and Peace be yours......
I've been rejected from job after job I've applied to and being unemployed right now it's been rough. This video helped me with that big time. Thank you!
LOVE THIS 🧡🍁🍂🙏
Amen, so glad this was helpful to you!
If I could like this video a thousand times, I would.
I am always prepare for any thing that comes my way like hurt troubles,or disgrace and shame. When a rejections comes my way I don't worry about that, it makes me strong so firm. in the midst of that rejection. I feel I don't have to react to any rejections or abuse my duty is to pray effectively for God to stand by me. I Will respond to rejections with prayers and fasting.So true blessed eye opener teachings.I don't think somebody has rejected me in a relationship because any man who comes my way is very blessed they will always proud of me, just to meet with me I am diving with the word of God.
Amen, very well explained.In every subject you spoked about. Sometimes people have to learn also how to respect. Their way of them being with a woman it's an improper way for a proper Christian woman. God bless you📙
There is reason why God said be fruit and multiply. Bcus there a millions of people out there who could even suitable than ur crush
This was really helpful thank you, I just went through a situation where like you said it could bring me closer to the lord or it could go the other way and because I feel rejected I go and get drunk and try and get out of it or something like that, but this vid has helped me to relize that rejection can help you grow depending on how you act
Hallelujah Jesus! You are so worthy Lord! This word/messaged blessed me so much. Lord please help me to hold onto this knowledge on today, and any other time that I may feel rejected in Jesus name. Amen.
You can’t lose if you don’t play the game. God put enmity between man and woman. Focus on work, health and doing right. Avoid unnecessary heartache.
Thank you.
My pleasure!
Thank You ..never thought about the guard your heart verse , i m hurt tho , i thought he was ""the one "" , i ve prayed about it , and he s a man of God , doing ministry , i previously put God in a box by saying " he has to have this eye color , this tall , dress like this " how foolish i was ..God took me to see i was being critical towards his servant , all that doesn t matter ...an i reaching out to God in prayer , i don t think i want answers to his dissappearance , i m just going to forgive , guard my heart, i ll ask God again to show me what i did or what happened an look not to the past . .. Thank You Mard ..i love the videos ..🌹
I have many suiters wanting to date me. But, they aren't Christian. So I had this guy at church I wanted to get to know because he seemed nice and we talked about specific topics. I wasn't super attracted to him physically because he's not really my type (but, I figured I could give up on looks) and didn't know him that well. I emailed him a few times regarding some topics and he responded in the beginning but then stopped responding. (It was kind of hard to guage because he has a very busy job. I've dated people in the same industry before they were not good with texting or emailing so I didn't take it personally) I didn't get to see him at church, either, for a while. So I sent my last email suggesting getting to know each other by praying. I didn't hear from him for a while so I wanted to ask him in person when I see him. One Sunday after church, I simply said " Hi"(just to ask him if he read my email or what the answer was) and he was like " why do you run after me after church?" (as if I do that all the time) "You're making me feel uncomfortable." (We used to talk in person.) He goes - do you wanna make a scene in front of the church? (basically threatened me to embarrass me if I don't get the message) He goes " I know you're a good person. Me not responding to your email - I was being nice and being a gentleman. (Well, when I am not interested in a guy, I always communicate I am not interested and very nice to them. I don't intend to waste someone else's time.)
Actually he was making a scene by talking to me that way. (A few of the church people were walking by. ) If he tried to communicate with me at least a bit, I probably would not even attempted to talk to him after church.
This church guy comes to church every Sunday for confession and very very religious. Here's how he was talking to a church sister right after church. I was so shocked for a day because I was never treated with such a disrespect and rudeness in my entire life. I am very well regarded socially and professionally. Most importantly, I am a precious child of God. No one should treat someone like a stalker or stupid that came from lack of communication and misunderstanding. He could have talked to me in the corner nicely. Knowing his personality, I don't have any interest of getting to know him any more. I was mortified and humiliated and all of my friends felt the same for me and they were very mad. It's his loss because I have so much better things to offer. A lot of guys come after me for those qualities and they respect me for that.
My attept to date a christian man seemed to fail. (I always dated non-Christian.) But, overall, I am thankful I got rejected. Rejection is God's protection. The fact that he rejected me didn't hurt at all because I know God has better plans for me. I know I'm a good person with much love. But, the fact that a christian man treats someone like a crap was pretty shocking to me. I am ready to move onto another man :) Someone will enjoy his beautiful life with me :)
i was rejected by 2 guys the same way within a ten year gap...so i am generalizing sadly...its just not fair...i started cursing them!!
Its hard to move wen i asked god specifically what i want n found it and she dumps me for no realistic reason hurts
I was praying God for my crush but not to be my will or her but His and His answer was NO... And I continued to pray for her but this time not because I wish to have here back but to choose right man for her... but not myself rather the right one. I have my own path...
No dislikes!! God bless
I've just had to reject someone. It pains my heart to do so, she was a good friend, but I just didn't see her that way.
I just come to grips with my failure that will last my life on Earth is that 'I Never Know what a Woman is Thinking!'
I think this can even be applied (carefully) when it comes to generalizations that pertain to the racial. Both ways.
I see.
I am not responding well to a ten year rejection
What about if it isn't just an isolated case, because I've experienced rejection of multiple kinds more times than I can count. I'm now at a point where I'm desperately trying to not focus on guys, but recently a guy started talking to me, led me on BIG time (even told me I'd be "a dream wife") and then told me he's not into me like that ....
I didn't pursue him at all. Im beginning to just be angry because I feel like I can't escape any of this. I can't guard my heart for the life of me, no matter how many times I ask God to help me do so. I think I need to learn to just shut off my feelings and then hopefully I won't get hurt anymore.
I’m so scared of being rejected that’s why I think I haven’t been able to do or recibir algo que sigo rezando ...
She told me she was not ready for a rellashionship that she wants to focus more on God
I needed to here this. Especially after I got rejected by my crush today. I see her on the train I ride to work every now and again for about 6 months. I finally gained the courage to talk to her. I stared by giving her a compliment on her dress, she said thank you. It went down hill from there because I froze up on what to say next. I ended up saying was she from around my area, she kind of got puffy with her voice and said can I help you sir? I repeated myself and she said not interested.
I was so sure of myself today which I knew I shouldn't have been. Maybe if I had said the right words maybe things would've been different. Now I just feel stupid. I wonder if I'll see her on the train going forward or will she avoid it thinking I'm a creep now? Either way this hurts way more than I thought it would, I feel hopeless now.
It stings now but I commend you for giving it a shot. The more you talk to women the more comfortable you will get. Also, this video I made about talking to strangers you want to get to know might help you: ua-cam.com/video/5yQ9qpKu01s/v-deo.html
She needs to see you do something heroic, like help an old lady onto train, or give up your seat to older person, pull a kid out of danger, etc.
I was just thinking there aren’t any messages or teaching on how to deal with rejection when you’re a Christian who is engaging in dating and relationships. I hear sermons about rejection and how God is protecting you but nothing practical about how to navigate through hardships, pain and rejection with people you romantically desire to be with but the feelings are not mutual.
But, God lead me to your Podcast on UA-cam ApplyGod’sWord by Mr. Mark and I am so thankful to you for providing such an excellent, practical, effective and wonderful explanation on how to deal with rejection as a Christian in the dating and relationship process.
There is a great need to discuss this more often because before you can enter a relationship with someone often you will experience pain and rejection and remain single as a result. You will try to date and ultimately desire to be married but it feels impossible because you never get a chance to be with someone you like because they rejected you.
It can be very painful, frustrating and overwhelming but thank you Mark for your great message and you’re doing an excellent service!
I especially love how you said to avoid over generalizations and making them become your beliefs because this turns into depression, low self esteem, bitterness, pain, fear and hopelessness.
God bless you Mark, your family and your ministry!
all kinds of good advice there -
but you seem to have missed the most important - and most Christ-centered -
answer to the sting of rejection - namely *PRAY FOR YOUR ENEMY* *!!!* .
whenever we feel hurt - or in any way discomforted - by someone -
that person is - consciously or unconsciously - experienced as our "enemy" -
in a very real and deep emotional sense.
so - how to deal with such intense discomfiture ?
simple - just follow Our Lord's Most Wise and Fatherly advice -
and PRAY FOR THE "OFFENDING" PARTY !!!
nothing else will do so much good for you -
and for the elusive object of your unrequited love.
indeed - you will instantly feel VERY loved and comforted by
the One and Only - Most True and Faithful - Lover of Your Soul.
Why would you overthink about a girl who doesn't care about you? She's waiting for someone other, she literally could not care less, do not fell into a trap of your own emotions, those things are dangerous mind illusions, she's not worth that, she's not worth your effort, someone other is. Better take care of yourself and your trust in God. There is always someone better for you and you will know that if you stay together till the very end and if you broke up before then she was never meant to be your wife.
It’s because that “no” is a punch to your inner most character. She or he is not only saying no to your physical appearance, but also your entire life that got you to the point that you asked the other person out. That’s why it’s hard for people to move on at times.
I reacted rather than responded and I didn’t expect to do that. So because I did that did that set me back?
What if a guy rejected you because you're not ready to get married? And you just found out the reason why he broke-up with you is because there is another girl? And he choose to marry that girl rather than you. Do you have any videos with regards to this topic?Thanks and Godbless you and your family Pastor Mark!
The most dumb remark, I get from married Christians, is being single is a gift from God, I say return to sender.
Christopher Munn when people say that they are referring to the extreme minority of people who want to be single and don't struggle with sexual sin, there certainly is a season of singleness for all of us(I'm going through it too, it SUCKS unlike anything else), but our job is to grow in Christ to become godly men so we can actually get married without the marriage crumbling immediately.
Basically, it may feel like a curse, but it's a necessary evil so we can stop being single :)
How old are you? Being single, when you are young is one thing, still being single at 56 is another. It does make me doubt that God cares for me, as he does not answer my prayers.
Christopher Munn
I'm not even 20 yet, so I would take everything I say with a grain of salt, and yes they certainly are very different things. I'd recommend talking with your pastor at your church, but here's my view on the matter:
God always answers prayers in one of 3 ways: yes, no, or wait. So really I'd just suggest doing everything you can to grow as a Christian man and hope for the best.
Again, I'm rather young so I'm not the most knowledgeable on the subject so if I were you I'd talk to some more seasoned individuals :)
Thanks for your honest reply. I think the answer is no one really knows the answer. Being married is great, if you find the right person, if not it is hell.
Christopher Munn no problem man. many people do say being married to the wrong person is worse than not being married at all.
1 Corinthians 7:38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
Amen. Praise God. In Jesus name I pray, amen.
First time I ever tried playing this "personal relationships" game I got smacked in the head by a cheating girl in the engagement stage of the relationship, this was painful enough to kept me from ever trying again, so to be honest I don't see myself ever trying to play this game and putting my heart out in the line, I guess I no longer have any will to do it, specially when you keep seeing your "bad example" on other relationships. I no longer want to experience this again, so I guess I'd rather not to take risks ever again 😕
Arturo Mena there's still hope to them that believe in Jesus Christ forget the past n try again.
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What if you fucked up on this wayyy to much. I don’t take rejection well.
Yes, I have experienced rejection. But not in the way that most people experience rejection. There were times where gals was into me and my good brothers in Christ said that I should ask her out so I did. And they all had boyfriends. These women didn't make it obvious in conversation about their boyfriends. The most extreme example was a few years ago. Where she made it clear that she was into me. When I asked her out she said sure I would like coffee with you and by the way I do have a boyfriend. She sat next to me at church and her boyfriend wasn't there. So I thought she was single... and my bros thought the same thing. Is it a Minnesota thing or is it across the country?
That sounds odd. I think most Christian girls would not do that.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger they do and when it happens to me I treat her as if the boyfriend is there. So I don't buy into the non verbal flirting.
That is called the classic way too friendly flirtatious friendzoneing experience. I've been there myself. I was obsessed with a girl that friend zoned me, but texted me daily, and shared really sensitive things with me in conversation, and faith. And then I found out she had been secretly dating a mutual friend of ours for like, 2 years... And I thought I had a chance. You don't really ever know, but in both cases, yours and mine, she was dishonest with you. Guys have a definite *inability* (yes, I mean inability) to shut off feelings when friendzoned. That's not the case with girls. So she may treat you like her BFF, but in reality she doesn't see you any different than a sister. Even if you confessed your feelings before. It's really hard for a guy to hear "let's just be friends" from a girl, but even harder when she really means it, and wants to be your BFF. It's so confusing. I was caught in a relationship like this that lasted far too long. Now she's another man's wife, and I'm so embarrassed of the things I shared with her that were personal, my heart. Thank God we were just friends that were a bit too close to be just friends, but I'm glad that I didn't touch her, or kiss her, or do anything that she would tell her husband about. He likely already knows way too much about me, and I've never met him, because I cut off my communication with her about 3 years ago.... But still... It's scary. Treat them like their someone else's wife, because they might be....in the future... and if you ever meet her husband, he will know things about you....
And not just Minnesota HAha! I'm in Wyoming, but we do have a large presence of Norwegians and Germans, like Minnesota... ;)
Hello,
One reason that may have happened is that coffee dates can be neutral, meaning that they can be romantic or just friendly. A lot of people don't see getting coffee as an official date. I think the girl may have thought you were being friendly but just in case you had a crush, she let you know she had a boyfriend.
What to do when you're inlove with somone already being courted/engaged.??
WeirdInternetz move on
Uh.... I think you know the answer . Leave
I'm fine with rejection because I respect people's choices, but I struggle with the repeat experience of meeting only lukewarm Christians and not men who are mature in their walk with the Lord enough to lead. I'm a new Christian myself (2 years), so I don't expect a lot and would actually like to grow together with someone in the faith...but I feel like I'm being deceived by Satan over and over again, pursuing things that simply are not there... advice?
That’s a tough situation but remember just because someone says they’re a Christian doesn’t mean they actually are one. Remember, the path is narrow for the ones who make it in the end. It seems that you’re getting deceived by the world’s culture. However, you rejecting the lukewarm men might give them a change of heart as well through God’s work. All you have to do is hang in there, my experience is that there is more hurt until eventually finding happiness in relationship. Even in a Christian lifestyle.
But Mark, why would God allow me to go out with a guy who hardly knows anything about relationships in his life? I went out with him one on one. But now, I don't anymore.
Perhaps through this date you got the answers you were asking for, God speaks through our circumstances too
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
Yup, so true. When I think back you're right. Thanks, Mark.
What if it's been a constant experience of being friendzoned by men? I'm almost 50. Tired of coming SO close...by the way, all of the guys pursued ME first while I was minding my own business.
What about constant rejection?
That’s an issue that a lot of non attractive non financially successful people like me suffer.
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What does it mean if one experiances series of rejection??strange thing is many of them come back after rejecting you..why would that happen??
It's a part of life
Through the same experience, you are not alone, I believe that He is trying to teach you/ he/ or both of you something.
@@tl5345 well after reserching and fasting about it I came to know it was spirit of rejection which came as result of sexual sin masturbation(spirit spouse causing hatred in people who may be intersted in us romantically) and the root cause might be evil altars raised against our destinies due sins of our ancestors..these are generational curses and I am at the verge of breaking it once and for all..you can reserch more on this topic on youtube channel by minister L.a.ewing..bible says through knowledge the just will deliver..so we should not be ignorant to these things,we feel are part of life..if it is occuring more than once or twice then its a pattern and you better deal with it at root cause..
Is this rejection? I will explain.
I asked a guy out for coffee he said yes what time? I said at noon at Starbucks. He said I can't make it at that time I leave to go home. Than I never heard back from him.
This second guy I asked him out for coffee he says he works. He can't do because of work.
The third guy just ignored my messages.
The fourth guy said he can't because he is gay.
Why is this happening to me? Is there something wrong with me? Would you call all this a form of rejection? They all basically saying NO.
Picture it as a filtering out process. Don’t waste your time on people who don’t value you or your time. Just keep on with it and take each experience to build you up til the next time.
Me: *steps out of my comfort zone*
Her: *No, for whatever reason*
Me, to me: "Okay. She just wasn't the one God has set aside for me. So I wouldn't have been as happy with her, as I am single, anyway."
I was told that he has plans whenever I invited him out. But didn't feel hurt anymore, just accepted it and moved on. But before that that happened, I felt hurt whenever he rejected me when I asked him out until he became mad at me and told me to not ask why is he busy.
This timing is incredible.. 👀👀👀👀👀 I need not say anymore.. lol - @acharich
So glad this was timely :)
Luke 17:27 They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.
I just blow it off my shoulders
One woman who rejected me hurt a little, but in a year or so, I noticed she was going through changes after she moved. She got a few tattoos, which I find to be a turn off and something a real Christian shouldn't do. She seemed to start supporting homosexuality. She once wore a very revealing dress to a Christmas party. There's a chance she's coming back to God lately now based on some Facebook posts, but I am kind of afraid to ask, since I didn't talk to her since the rejection.
Maybe she knew I wasn't going to accept her choices.
Tattoos are a weird subject because I get what you’re saying but I don’t think people go to hell for getting a tat.
@@Shadow12aven I don’t think so either, but how they choose to look and present themselves often shows what they are like. That girl I mentioned hasn’t changed at all and has gotten worse. More tattoos, says she’s bisexual, has a male roommate she calls her best friend and other things that make me sad.
@@Dj.D25 I’m sorry to read that. This might be time to invite her to coffee and ask her what’s going on if you’re still friends with her
@@Shadow12aven We aren’t really friends and I can’t see myself asking her out for coffee. but she has messaged me a couple times last year to help her win some polls. I do hope she will change her ways.
My challenge is that i know most women I meet are not Servants of THe King >>Jesus >>>>>
Christian people aren't supposed to hurt you
That’s setting yourself up for failure and an unexpected lifestyle Joy. People all have differences in what they like and God gave us individuality where one person is never the same as another. Just because two people are Christian doesn’t mean they should date nor should be attracted to each other.
I do think that Christians should be nicer and classier when it comes to rejecting someone but rejection is absolutely acceptable. I’ve been rejected and I have rejected others, it sucks both ways but with time I hope everyone including myself have been able to move on to the one that God has for us.
They aren't but believe me they do....
My wife cheated on me I lost my home almost lost my kid
My heart Is shattered I prey only for a life of singleness and to make money for my daughters school I have 0 desire to marry again
Im sorry to hear. I pray you find peace...
@@veronica3962 its happening slowly but surely Gods time not mine you know lol?
@@EdwardEstacado yes his time! I went through something crazy with my ex so I know there is light at the end of the tunel 🙏
Romans 8:6
For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.
praying for you man
Hello, weird comment here, I have decided to google and watch videos of how to handle heartbreak this is my story. i am a collge student and there is this guy in the class that I liked since the beginning, now he was not christian and In my mind I had a strong feeling that God did not want this relationship to happen. My pastor even preached about it how dangerous being in a relationship with non- christian can be which I considered was a sign from God. What did I do? I ignored all of that I wanted to be with the guy so bad, I was ready to give it all up, also everytime I was close to teh guy I felt distant from God. This guy became my idol. I thought about him day and night he revolved around my world. I even thought that one day I would marry Him despise of how different we are. Until I actaually decided to be bold as a woman and ask him out. Turns out he rejected me even though he says that he does not have a girlfriend. I am truly heartbroken but I am trying to not let my guard down around him and be strong. I feel like I had betrayed God for a guy and was ready to throw it all away in just one matter I mean if the guy had said yes I would probably be in his arms and not look back on what God said. I truly feel ashamed. I keep looking around for the person I want to spend the rest of my life. like literrally I am asking myself with every guy that I meet is that the one? I feel as of I am going out of my mind and feel like no connection is left between me and God I tried to pray but I feel like my prayers are not strong enough and i feel like there is a barrier between me and God. The worst thing is I have no one to talk to about this. It is only me keeping all of this inside of my heart.
It is the women today that are really too blame for that one since there are many of us single guys very seriously looking for love today. Women today are very high maintenance, independent, and really don't want a relationship, selfish, greedy, spoiled, narcissists, gold diggers, cheaters, and just can't commit to only one guy anymore either. Now back in the old days most women were never ever like that at all, and were very old fashioned and real ladies which is why our family members really lucked out back then when they met their loved ones. What a very sad change in the women today unfortunately, and many of us guys were never single by choice in the first place.