I’ve really been trying to develop my hobbies over the last few months. I sunk so much of my time into scrolling or shopping! Right now, my thing is crochet. I just made a granny square bag that took me about 40 hours of labor to make. That was fun and frustrating at some points, but now I have a very cute summer tote that I made all by myself! I also picked up Pilates, walking, reading, and learning to sing better. I am also trying my hand at knitting now… it’s way harder than crochet lol.
Me too!! I used to bake and paint, and the past 3 years I’ve stopped doing that. This year it’s my New Year’s resolution to indulge more in my hobbies and make time for them instead of scrolling!!
@@stephanie-ty3df that’s a good resolution!! I think I’m going to do that too. I have many games, yarn, art supplies, books etc that are just sitting because I’m waiting for “the perfect time” but that’s now 😆
My basic little treats are a longer shower, buying something a bit better when doing groceries (I'm pretty broke so I always buy the cheapest things), or having a big mug of hot chocolate. Sometimes my little treat is going wandering around second hand shops, but I rarely buy anything beyond craft supplies or books anymore from there - it's just the peacefulness of aimless wandering and the vibe of looking at strange items and getting inspired to sew or craft something myself. Works in libraries too, for me, the aimless wandering and inspiration.
I just allowed myself to buy some new gym stuff because I have been consistently showing up for the past 7 months. This is one of the many things I learned from you!
This year I set several goals, but there's one that is not written that affects the success of the others and that is delaying gratification, I need to work on that to not sabotage myself.
3:14 Makeup is so easy to overconsume because it technically "expires" but most women will use items past the expiration date if it's a really good formula/color. As a result, a really good formula/color is considered an "investment" piece by influencers. How can something that expires be an investment?? Are we make-up prepping for the fashion apocalypse?? 😂💄🛍
Trying to limit my spending on Amazon. However, I live 25 miles from town on dirt roads, so a trip to town is over an hour commute, not including shopping time on top of around $9 in fuel. So over the course of the month I add things to my cart that I either can't find in town for the same price, or can't warrant a trip solely to buy that item. At the end of the month I pull everything out of the cart that I can get in town and whatever is left in the cart is what I end up ordering. It's already made a huge difference
I just majorly decluttered my makeup collection. It had been a while, but I made a new friend who was JUST getting into makeup, so I shifted my mindset to 'what would THEY like to use more than me?' Because I am an artist, I love collecting and owning COLOR, so it's hard to declutter any makeup because I like all the colors etc. But when I changed to essentially curating a small makeup collection for someone else, it became a lot easier. I now think I'm in a really good place to be intentional with what I bring in, after being so intentional with what I decluttered. It feels refreshing!
This morning, I had a micro meltdown over the sheer amount of reusable bags I have. Why? WHY!? (I know why...now). The meltdown was me realizing I'm so over trying to organize and store shit. Too. Much. Shit!
When I find an interest or hobby, I tend to go ham. Scrapbooking I bought all of the stuff, with planners I had to have all the stickers. With clothes I buy stuff in every color. I am reigning that in because it has become burdensome now. I like your idea of focusing on things that don't have a cost like your running.
I think, I hope, that coming across the concept of no/low/slow buy year, I could slowly start unpacking my spending habits too. I'm not the worst case of reckless spending but I have noticed for some years now that I am impulsive to my own, and my family's, detriment. So far I'm still financially pretty ok, I'm not in huge dept etc but I do want to start actually saving for a home and put aside some money for emergencies. Thanks for sharing your journey! Hearing the reality of how long it has taken you to get to the point where you're at now and what steps it took, really comforted me. Maybe I can do it too, with just some patience and determination.
I went crazy with shopping the last few months and ended up in debt with a cupboard full of products. I’m now doing a no buy quarter (Jan-April then will assess). I’ve organised my cupboard and the last few times things have ran out I just go and ‘shop’ from my store cupboard- it’s almost as exciting as going to the store plus there is no debt! 😆
Thank you shawna. Love your videos. I started to be more considering with my spending while our economy gotten bad which affected even worse on my habits. With your approaches i was able to get a positive motivation and discipline recently. So it didn't become a stress to save up just singling out outgoing expenses with mindful budgeting. I don't know if anyone interested. I know I'm also coming from a country where fresh produce is abundant compared to west so might sound out of touch. However, with simpler and sustainable beauty habits with what's easy to reach and having vitamins in balance from produce gave me better results than 50 usd face cream. Cuz fruits and vegetables are more filling so you can opt them out for junk food. Use few drops of moisturizing serum and cover it with vaseline which is multi purpose from leather shining to zipper fixer helped me a lot. Trust me, the fresh produce is still cheaper than fancy boxes we eventually throw away. Of course I'm not talking about skin conditions like acne which require medical attention not cosmetics. But also you pointed out if I'm correct in one of your videos. People get fillers, bottox, or Accutane to get Instagram worthy glow not layered products with barely recycled containers
I totally get the feeling of “not rushing to adulthood”. I took 10yrs to get my bachelors degree. Then worked for few years but decided to go back to Grad school. Now I am 35 and have zero savings. All my friends are talking about their 401ks and retirement and I’m like “I just want an Emergency Fund 😅”
@@Squishbiscuits Hopefully, ur grad school set u on a better path than u would've been otherwise. Going back to school did for me. ~15 yrs ago, I went back to community college to do pre-reqs for a 2nd bachelors in civil engineering. I knew as I was, my career paths were limited in what I could make and what was interesting to me. After 4.5 yrs (slow bc science pre-reqs must be done in a sequence and then I wasn't passing classes bc I discovered I had a learning disability), I was able to transfer to a 4 yr university. 2.5 yrs after that, I graduated. 3 mos after that I had a stable job w the highest I'd ever been paid. Now I have more experience and have my pick of jobs if I wanted to leave. I am def still behind some of my friends in terms of finances, but in the last 5 yrs I was the most stable financially in my family and was able to help the ppl I loved during the pandemic. I may be behind some friends financially, but def on a better path now compared to if I didn't go back to school.
Definitely agree that thinking about the "pace" of how you use something up is soooo helpful!!! Right now I have like 5 different body lotions.... why??? They are all big bottles that will take me months if not close to a year to use up, even with applying to my full body every day after I shower and lotioning my hands constantly. I also impulse bought some nice soaps last month, which yeah they are nice to use, I like them a lot, but now I have several months worth of soap cluttering up my small bathroom cabinets. Same with makeup, I don't have a lot, but I have more than I need - I only wear makeup for special occasions so aside from basics I really don't need much and it takes me a LONG time to go through it. I did realize recently my mascara & eyeliner are both pretty old and are probably the reason why got a couple of styes in the past few months, so I need to throw those out and replace them at some point. But my blush, powder eyeshadows, lipsticks, etc are all fine, no issues, so no need to buy new ones. I'll just keep using what I have. So I'm definitely doing a low buy/no buy this year, still figuring out the exact rules I want to follow, but for any of my "consumable" items the rule is to use what I have and not buy any new products except to replace products that I actually like and don't have extras of. And hopefully to instill this as my mindset going forward.
I'm project "use stuff up" this year. I finished a big bottle of Obsession perfume today. It's a teeny dent in my perfume stash! (Alternative dopamine hit!) But it's a start. I'm taking a photo of every item I finish this year so I can make a photo collage at the end of the year. I'm taking items close to being finished first so I can see progress. Hope you are ok and things are calmer for you.
Same here! I've started using up my things last May and today I took a picture of all of the empties that I'd collected till December. I counted almost 100 products! Make up, skincare, body care, hair care, supplements. It's really eye opening and intriguing to see how much I used up. Today was also my first empty of the year - hyaluronic acid serum. I'm also almost finished with one of my perfumes which are so hard to finish! Can't wait to take a picture of an empty bottle soon :) Have fun with your project!
Some products I'm Trying to finish in the next couple of weeks/month: - body wash - shampoo - conditioner - brow tint The best part is that I dont have to buy any new things to replace any of this. - new shower gel (gifted) - shampoo/conditioner ( i have a TON of samples collected from hotels- MUST use ALL before purchasing new) - perfect brow pencil that I neglected for way too long... 💙💙💙
Cost per wear is my absolute favourite thing. It lets me justify buying cheaper or more luxury brands, on cost per wear. I find I also allow myself to buy basic items that are more expensive because I know I will use them so much. I have a designer t shirt I spent a lot on that is honestly now down to pennies per wear. I used it up for normal use and it got all stretched and discoloured. Now it's a pjama top or a leisure not going outside top. I'm going to see how long I can keep it going for. It's easily one of my cheapest items of clothing by this metric. So cost per wear can help you buy expensive things guilt free too. I'd rebuy that t shirt if it was still made.
Also, telling myself if I use something up I can buy "any" replacement within reason. Eg use up cheap drugstore shower gel, let myself buy an expensive one. But I have to use it up. Then I can have whichever one I want again. It means I don't have to panic buy things on offer I won't use, or buy things to try as I don't get to try, I only get to fully use. I have a stockpile from Christmas so I'll be going for a while. I won't declutter them because I would have to buy more. Any I don't like the smell or feel of become handwash. That gets rid of them really quick as the whole household uses that. I'm happy that "using up" includes anyone here using them.
Great video as always. One of the things I know I struggle with when it comes to the cost per use principle is that realistically, as a remote worker who works out every day, the items I wear the most are athletic wear. But, I don't want to spend e.g., $150 on a pair of leggings even though it's totally possible I'd wear them half the days out of the year for several years. Something about it just doesn't sit right. I think part of it as well is that price doesn't guarantee quality, so even if I do spend a lot on a pair of leggings and intend on wearing them all the time, who know if they will actually last longer than cheaper leggings. I've heard Lululemon's quality has declined in recent years, but I have pairs that are 10+ years old that I still wear, so that was a good purchase at the time. But if I bought their $128 leggings today, will they still outlast the $30 pair at Reitmans or Old Navy? I'm just not sure anymore. There's also the idea that I think a lot of people are far more willing to spend more on fancier items (like a dress for special events), but then not want to be photographed wearing the same thing all the time, which means they wear those items less, buy more of them, and spend a lot when they do and yet they might only wear it a few times.
you're 100% right with this. That something costing more doesn't = quality or that you would even wear it. I tend to lean on the number of times I see myself wearing something and how long it would take to wear that item that set amount of time (ex how long to 100 wears). If CPW doesn't make a lot of sense for you that's very much ok! There could be other questions to ask yourself
I'm in a similar situation - I mainly work from home and exercise almost every day, so I live in my sweatpants & leggings/bike shorts most of the time, and I like having enough of them that I don't need to do laundry all the time. I have some pairs from years ago that have held up very well. In general clothes just don't hold up well any more even if you take good care of them so yeah it's hard to justify investing more money when they will probably wear out just as much as the cheaper option.
Custom slip covers cost a fortune but nothing can change the look of a room as effectively and delightfully. So far I have successfully slipped covered a chair! Time and money found by not scrolling and shopping. The couch is next….
Forgot to write sounds like you are doing a great at your not buying goal give yourself credit thrifting is great but i have to watch with that too its still shopping i try to think what do i need when i was younger i would get alittle carried away with thrifting things i wanted but didnt need you live you learn
I'd love to see a video from you deinfluencing digital hoarding and microtransaction addictions. I barely buy any physical stuff but I struggle to not buy more digital currency for the latest cosmetic in a game I play or another ebook that I won't read. I know I'm not alone. Could you talk about how to step back from buying these kinds of things?
Wow! I'm 66 years old and I've NEVER worn makeup or lipstick or any beauty products in my life. I wash with soap and water, cut my own hair and use a vitamin C serum and moisturizer daily. My skin is beautiful. I would love to know how much money I've saved myself over all those years! Also, I don't feel like people think any less of me because I don't conform to female norms. In fact, if I ever showed up somewhere with makeup on my face people would probably freak out! Men don't wear makeup, why should we? I can't even imagine the chemicals absorbed over 50 years of smearing that stuff on your face.
Great listening i recently was out for the day with a family member not all shopping went to eat and local sightseeing this is so funny i saw a black sweatshirt hoodie i loved 50 dollars soft made real nice i hesitated i could thrift that maybe no i thrift everything rare to find a black hoodie that soft and not faded well i didnt buy it i should have but didnt my family member said buy it for yourself so its kind of the opposite of buying too much for me i guess and 50 dollars im like too much but on the other hand it was like i said super soft and well made i might go back some time and buy it but by that time it might be hotter weather ha who knows
I still scroll, but now when I see blatant “oh you’re not teaching me something, you’re selling g me something” a lot sooner and I’m able to block and move on. It’s def helped my headspace a lot.
I think just like a diet is not a long term solution for weight loss, a no buy is not a quick fix for consumption habits. The thing is that we have to change our mindset, environment and habits to make it something sustainable. I really liked atomic habits from James Clear for that, it was quite helpful to understand better all the ways you can shift the way you see the world and the way you shape your environment to make overeating or overconsuming less appealing! I have a very similar experience than you about spotting better what is normal vs what is overconsumption after a no buy ❤❤❤ thank you so much for sharing your journey with us!
If you are a writer but struggling to write, you might consider finding a free writing meetup in your area. You could study a new language. That is a way to engage with your interest in language but not have the pressure to write. If you have disposable income classes are great. I’m a big fan of UA-cam university, but in person classes are good because it’s good to meet new people and be involved in your community. You can also find volunteer opportunities in your area. If you have over consumption issues, think about the things that you over consume, find a way to be a contributor to the culture of whatever that instead just being a consumer. Do you overconsume clothes? Take a sewing class instead. Or volunteer at a place that donates professional clothes to women who were homeless or incarcerated or otherwise trying transition from a bad situation to independence. Maybe you can teach them to put together outfits for job interviews. Do you eat out too much? Take a cooking class instead… you get the idea.
I am a painter and have been feeling insanely drained lately, but I still get my watercolors out and spend a few minutes a day in a cheap sketchbook drawing abstract shapes just to enjoy watching the paint move, have fun layering colors etc. It's like I get to enjoy the process without having to worry about making a result. Maybe there is something like that for you in writing? My roommate is a writer and writes fanfiction for fun haha 😅
I’ve really been trying to develop my hobbies over the last few months. I sunk so much of my time into scrolling or shopping! Right now, my thing is crochet. I just made a granny square bag that took me about 40 hours of labor to make. That was fun and frustrating at some points, but now I have a very cute summer tote that I made all by myself! I also picked up Pilates, walking, reading, and learning to sing better. I am also trying my hand at knitting now… it’s way harder than crochet lol.
Me too!! I used to bake and paint, and the past 3 years I’ve stopped doing that. This year it’s my New Year’s resolution to indulge more in my hobbies and make time for them instead of scrolling!!
@@stephanie-ty3df that’s a good resolution!! I think I’m going to do that too. I have many games, yarn, art supplies, books etc that are just sitting because I’m waiting for “the perfect time” but that’s now 😆
18:15 Tracking your cost-per-wear for your closet is completely perspective-shifting 🔥
My basic little treats are a longer shower, buying something a bit better when doing groceries (I'm pretty broke so I always buy the cheapest things), or having a big mug of hot chocolate. Sometimes my little treat is going wandering around second hand shops, but I rarely buy anything beyond craft supplies or books anymore from there - it's just the peacefulness of aimless wandering and the vibe of looking at strange items and getting inspired to sew or craft something myself. Works in libraries too, for me, the aimless wandering and inspiration.
I just allowed myself to buy some new gym stuff because I have been consistently showing up for the past 7 months. This is one of the many things I learned from you!
7 months is an awesome track record! congrats on this!
@shawnaripari thank you!
This year I set several goals, but there's one that is not written that affects the success of the others and that is delaying gratification, I need to work on that to not sabotage myself.
3:14 Makeup is so easy to overconsume because it technically "expires" but most women will use items past the expiration date if it's a really good formula/color. As a result, a really good formula/color is considered an "investment" piece by influencers. How can something that expires be an investment?? Are we make-up prepping for the fashion apocalypse?? 😂💄🛍
Trying to limit my spending on Amazon. However, I live 25 miles from town on dirt roads, so a trip to town is over an hour commute, not including shopping time on top of around $9 in fuel. So over the course of the month I add things to my cart that I either can't find in town for the same price, or can't warrant a trip solely to buy that item.
At the end of the month I pull everything out of the cart that I can get in town and whatever is left in the cart is what I end up ordering. It's already made a huge difference
I just majorly decluttered my makeup collection. It had been a while, but I made a new friend who was JUST getting into makeup, so I shifted my mindset to 'what would THEY like to use more than me?' Because I am an artist, I love collecting and owning COLOR, so it's hard to declutter any makeup because I like all the colors etc.
But when I changed to essentially curating a small makeup collection for someone else, it became a lot easier. I now think I'm in a really good place to be intentional with what I bring in, after being so intentional with what I decluttered. It feels refreshing!
This morning, I had a micro meltdown over the sheer amount of reusable bags I have. Why? WHY!? (I know why...now). The meltdown was me realizing I'm so over trying to organize and store shit. Too. Much. Shit!
This is GOLD ✨️ thank you for sharing these things and providing this valuable context
Thank you Alexa!!
When I find an interest or hobby, I tend to go ham. Scrapbooking I bought all of the stuff, with planners I had to have all the stickers. With clothes I buy stuff in every color. I am reigning that in because it has become burdensome now. I like your idea of focusing on things that don't have a cost like your running.
I think, I hope, that coming across the concept of no/low/slow buy year, I could slowly start unpacking my spending habits too. I'm not the worst case of reckless spending but I have noticed for some years now that I am impulsive to my own, and my family's, detriment. So far I'm still financially pretty ok, I'm not in huge dept etc but I do want to start actually saving for a home and put aside some money for emergencies.
Thanks for sharing your journey! Hearing the reality of how long it has taken you to get to the point where you're at now and what steps it took, really comforted me. Maybe I can do it too, with just some patience and determination.
I went crazy with shopping the last few months and ended up in debt with a cupboard full of products. I’m now doing a no buy quarter (Jan-April then will assess). I’ve organised my cupboard and the last few times things have ran out I just go and ‘shop’ from my store cupboard- it’s almost as exciting as going to the store plus there is no debt! 😆
I like the idea of a no-buy quarter! It is a good way to start in and not scare yourself away with the high commitment.
@@wkwheezytotally! I’ve just told myself that I have everything I need at home plus it’s only a few weeks 🙏🏽
shawna you are my comfort account ❤❤❤ i hope you never stop making content, srsly
Hello! I'm a new subscriber as of last week at the beginning of my shopping rehab and your content is so helpful. Thank you so much!
Welcome to the club! Remember, it’s not a punishment it’s a change you want to make!
I have the flu so thanks for keeping me company while I feel so awful.
Thank you shawna. Love your videos. I started to be more considering with my spending while our economy gotten bad which affected even worse on my habits. With your approaches i was able to get a positive motivation and discipline recently. So it didn't become a stress to save up just singling out outgoing expenses with mindful budgeting.
I don't know if anyone interested. I know I'm also coming from a country where fresh produce is abundant compared to west so might sound out of touch. However, with simpler and sustainable beauty habits with what's easy to reach and having vitamins in balance from produce gave me better results than 50 usd face cream. Cuz fruits and vegetables are more filling so you can opt them out for junk food. Use few drops of moisturizing serum and cover it with vaseline which is multi purpose from leather shining to zipper fixer helped me a lot. Trust me, the fresh produce is still cheaper than fancy boxes we eventually throw away.
Of course I'm not talking about skin conditions like acne which require medical attention not cosmetics. But also you pointed out if I'm correct in one of your videos. People get fillers, bottox, or Accutane to get Instagram worthy glow not layered products with barely recycled containers
I totally get the feeling of “not rushing to adulthood”. I took 10yrs to get my bachelors degree. Then worked for few years but decided to go back to Grad school. Now I am 35 and have zero savings. All my friends are talking about their 401ks and retirement and I’m like “I just want an Emergency Fund 😅”
@@Squishbiscuits Hopefully, ur grad school set u on a better path than u would've been otherwise. Going back to school did for me.
~15 yrs ago, I went back to community college to do pre-reqs for a 2nd bachelors in civil engineering. I knew as I was, my career paths were limited in what I could make and what was interesting to me. After 4.5 yrs (slow bc science pre-reqs must be done in a sequence and then I wasn't passing classes bc I discovered I had a learning disability), I was able to transfer to a 4 yr university. 2.5 yrs after that, I graduated. 3 mos after that I had a stable job w the highest I'd ever been paid. Now I have more experience and have my pick of jobs if I wanted to leave. I am def still behind some of my friends in terms of finances, but in the last 5 yrs I was the most stable financially in my family and was able to help the ppl I loved during the pandemic. I may be behind some friends financially, but def on a better path now compared to if I didn't go back to school.
Just wanted to say that this comment felt like reading about my current life :P so you're not alone!
Definitely agree that thinking about the "pace" of how you use something up is soooo helpful!!! Right now I have like 5 different body lotions.... why??? They are all big bottles that will take me months if not close to a year to use up, even with applying to my full body every day after I shower and lotioning my hands constantly. I also impulse bought some nice soaps last month, which yeah they are nice to use, I like them a lot, but now I have several months worth of soap cluttering up my small bathroom cabinets.
Same with makeup, I don't have a lot, but I have more than I need - I only wear makeup for special occasions so aside from basics I really don't need much and it takes me a LONG time to go through it. I did realize recently my mascara & eyeliner are both pretty old and are probably the reason why got a couple of styes in the past few months, so I need to throw those out and replace them at some point. But my blush, powder eyeshadows, lipsticks, etc are all fine, no issues, so no need to buy new ones. I'll just keep using what I have.
So I'm definitely doing a low buy/no buy this year, still figuring out the exact rules I want to follow, but for any of my "consumable" items the rule is to use what I have and not buy any new products except to replace products that I actually like and don't have extras of. And hopefully to instill this as my mindset going forward.
I'm project "use stuff up" this year. I finished a big bottle of Obsession perfume today. It's a teeny dent in my perfume stash! (Alternative dopamine hit!) But it's a start. I'm taking a photo of every item I finish this year so I can make a photo collage at the end of the year. I'm taking items close to being finished first so I can see progress. Hope you are ok and things are calmer for you.
this is such an awesome project!
Same here! I've started using up my things last May and today I took a picture of all of the empties that I'd collected till December. I counted almost 100 products! Make up, skincare, body care, hair care, supplements. It's really eye opening and intriguing to see how much I used up. Today was also my first empty of the year - hyaluronic acid serum. I'm also almost finished with one of my perfumes which are so hard to finish! Can't wait to take a picture of an empty bottle soon :) Have fun with your project!
That could actually be a better approach for people who think they can't do no-buys
Some products I'm Trying to finish in the next couple of weeks/month:
- body wash
- shampoo
- conditioner
- brow tint
The best part is that I dont have to buy any new things to replace any of this.
- new shower gel (gifted)
- shampoo/conditioner ( i have a TON of samples collected from hotels- MUST use ALL before purchasing new)
- perfect brow pencil that I neglected for way too long...
💙💙💙
Cost per wear is my absolute favourite thing. It lets me justify buying cheaper or more luxury brands, on cost per wear. I find I also allow myself to buy basic items that are more expensive because I know I will use them so much. I have a designer t shirt I spent a lot on that is honestly now down to pennies per wear. I used it up for normal use and it got all stretched and discoloured. Now it's a pjama top or a leisure not going outside top. I'm going to see how long I can keep it going for. It's easily one of my cheapest items of clothing by this metric.
So cost per wear can help you buy expensive things guilt free too. I'd rebuy that t shirt if it was still made.
Guess what? I'm on a no buy 2025 unless inflation comes down and my pay goes up.
My over consumption is from the thrill of finding a great deal
Congratulations on your progress!! 🎉
Also, telling myself if I use something up I can buy "any" replacement within reason. Eg use up cheap drugstore shower gel, let myself buy an expensive one. But I have to use it up. Then I can have whichever one I want again. It means I don't have to panic buy things on offer I won't use, or buy things to try as I don't get to try, I only get to fully use. I have a stockpile from Christmas so I'll be going for a while. I won't declutter them because I would have to buy more. Any I don't like the smell or feel of become handwash. That gets rid of them really quick as the whole household uses that. I'm happy that "using up" includes anyone here using them.
Great video as always. One of the things I know I struggle with when it comes to the cost per use principle is that realistically, as a remote worker who works out every day, the items I wear the most are athletic wear. But, I don't want to spend e.g., $150 on a pair of leggings even though it's totally possible I'd wear them half the days out of the year for several years. Something about it just doesn't sit right. I think part of it as well is that price doesn't guarantee quality, so even if I do spend a lot on a pair of leggings and intend on wearing them all the time, who know if they will actually last longer than cheaper leggings. I've heard Lululemon's quality has declined in recent years, but I have pairs that are 10+ years old that I still wear, so that was a good purchase at the time. But if I bought their $128 leggings today, will they still outlast the $30 pair at Reitmans or Old Navy? I'm just not sure anymore. There's also the idea that I think a lot of people are far more willing to spend more on fancier items (like a dress for special events), but then not want to be photographed wearing the same thing all the time, which means they wear those items less, buy more of them, and spend a lot when they do and yet they might only wear it a few times.
you're 100% right with this. That something costing more doesn't = quality or that you would even wear it. I tend to lean on the number of times I see myself wearing something and how long it would take to wear that item that set amount of time (ex how long to 100 wears). If CPW doesn't make a lot of sense for you that's very much ok! There could be other questions to ask yourself
I'm in a similar situation - I mainly work from home and exercise almost every day, so I live in my sweatpants & leggings/bike shorts most of the time, and I like having enough of them that I don't need to do laundry all the time. I have some pairs from years ago that have held up very well. In general clothes just don't hold up well any more even if you take good care of them so yeah it's hard to justify investing more money when they will probably wear out just as much as the cheaper option.
love love love your vids shawna
This hit on so many levels!! Thank you!!!
im exhausted by all the stuff i own now
make up product sizes are insane they expire before u use the whole thing
Custom slip covers cost a fortune but nothing can change the look of a room as effectively and delightfully. So far I have successfully slipped covered a chair! Time and money found by not scrolling and shopping. The couch is next….
Forgot to write sounds like you are doing a great at your not buying goal give yourself credit thrifting is great but i have to watch with that too its still shopping i try to think what do i need when i was younger i would get alittle carried away with thrifting things i wanted but didnt need you live you learn
I'd love to see a video from you deinfluencing digital hoarding and microtransaction addictions. I barely buy any physical stuff but I struggle to not buy more digital currency for the latest cosmetic in a game I play or another ebook that I won't read. I know I'm not alone. Could you talk about how to step back from buying these kinds of things?
Start by taking off payment methods on your games and ebooks.
Wow! I'm 66 years old and I've NEVER worn makeup or lipstick or any beauty products in my life. I wash with soap and water, cut my own hair and use a vitamin C serum and moisturizer daily. My skin is beautiful. I would love to know how much money I've saved myself over all those years! Also, I don't feel like people think any less of me because I don't conform to female norms. In fact, if I ever showed up somewhere with makeup on my face people would probably freak out! Men don't wear makeup, why should we? I can't even imagine the chemicals absorbed over 50 years of smearing that stuff on your face.
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Great listening i recently was out for the day with a family member not all shopping went to eat and local sightseeing this is so funny i saw a black sweatshirt hoodie i loved 50 dollars soft made real nice i hesitated i could thrift that maybe no i thrift everything rare to find a black hoodie that soft and not faded well i didnt buy it i should have but didnt my family member said buy it for yourself so its kind of the opposite of buying too much for me i guess and 50 dollars im like too much but on the other hand it was like i said super soft and well made i might go back some time and buy it but by that time it might be hotter weather ha who knows
I still scroll, but now when I see blatant “oh you’re not teaching me something, you’re selling g me something” a lot sooner and I’m able to block and move on. It’s def helped my headspace a lot.
I'm early!! Happy New Year Shawna
Happy New Year!
I think just like a diet is not a long term solution for weight loss, a no buy is not a quick fix for consumption habits. The thing is that we have to change our mindset, environment and habits to make it something sustainable. I really liked atomic habits from James Clear for that, it was quite helpful to understand better all the ways you can shift the way you see the world and the way you shape your environment to make overeating or overconsuming less appealing!
I have a very similar experience than you about spotting better what is normal vs what is overconsumption after a no buy ❤❤❤ thank you so much for sharing your journey with us!
Heyyy .. any recommendations for hobbies? I used to write a lot but I'm so drained I rarely write poetry etc anymore
If you are a writer but struggling to write, you might consider finding a free writing meetup in your area.
You could study a new language. That is a way to engage with your interest in language but not have the pressure to write.
If you have disposable income classes are great. I’m a big fan of UA-cam university, but in person classes are good because it’s good to meet new people and be involved in your community.
You can also find volunteer opportunities in your area.
If you have over consumption issues, think about the things that you over consume, find a way to be a contributor to the culture of whatever that instead just being a consumer. Do you overconsume clothes? Take a sewing class instead. Or volunteer at a place that donates professional clothes to women who were homeless or incarcerated or otherwise trying transition from a bad situation to independence. Maybe you can teach them to put together outfits for job interviews. Do you eat out too much? Take a cooking class instead… you get the idea.
I am a painter and have been feeling insanely drained lately, but I still get my watercolors out and spend a few minutes a day in a cheap sketchbook drawing abstract shapes just to enjoy watching the paint move, have fun layering colors etc. It's like I get to enjoy the process without having to worry about making a result. Maybe there is something like that for you in writing? My roommate is a writer and writes fanfiction for fun haha 😅
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