I usually ask myself if I have anything in my closet that is similar to the items that I want to purchase, if I truly love that piece or I just want to follow the trend, and if that piece is in my budget. I just recently discovered your channel and I love it! Keep up with the good work and have a nice day!!
Zoey Tran thank you Zoey! These are perfect rules! I need to shop my closet some more to deter any temptations I might come across too - it can be fun!
Taking my husband shopping with me. He reminds me that I already have something similar to what I just grabbed and he is picky, he tries to find something negative about the item so I end up not getting it Haha. Funny but it helps me with my shopping habits :)
I’m not ready for no buy just yet but I’ve set up rules when it comes to shopping. For clothes, nothing more than $20 for an item. And I ask my self will I wear this item within a week. As far as makeup the only thing I’m allowed to buy are lashes bc I literally so much makeup.
I try to only buy either ethically produced clothes OR from environment-friendlier materials (organic cotton, Lyocell, Linen, etc.). I simply can't afford many of them, and it hurts my H&M-Teenager-Heart to spend so much on one piece, so I reeaally make sure it's a perfect fit for me :) Works great, bought only 2 pants and 1 skirt so far this year..
“Looking for something to want”. Yes, that is definitely the issue! If you stop yourself from browsing stores, it really does help curb your “cravings”. It’s so hard with social media but it’s helpful to remind yourself of that sinking feeling you get when you get something new, the excitement wears off, and you reluctantly hang it up in your closet feeling like garbage and like a failure.
This helped me. It’s interesting seeing most channels on UA-cam are basically advertising for their subscribers to purchase something. Difficult to get away from advertising!
Yes!! I heard something about how it’s only saving you money when you were already going to buy it. So when I need to get my children clothes THEN I will look for deals but I avoid looking at the deals so I don’t run out and buy things we don’t really need.
@@raisingbabydiaz this is such a good tip. Because i search for good deals online and at trift stores for now and for future. Which isn't the best behaviour
It’s so difficult when shopping is intertwined with mental health stuff and childhood scarcity mentality. Thank you for these videos, they’ve been helpful.
At the beginning of the video, she says the process was first "finding something you want". She put the exact words on how it feels like, to go window shopping or browse clothing on internet. That sentence is resonating so much for me. We try to find something we want.
Congratulations on your journey. Unfollowing influencers can be extremely helpful. I keep in mind that influencing is a job; their way of paying for a home and feeding a family or a side hustle. It’s a job. Thinking of it as a job takes out a lot of the excitement for the new shiny things.
When I saw my oldest mimicking my spending habits that was the biggest wake up call. I immediately altered my spending habit. Second wake up call came during the summer when everyone was home from school and I couldn't for the life of me keep up with the dishes, laundry etc. Then it dawned on me the money I was spending on lash extensions could be used to hire a cleaning lady for the summer. Those lashes weren't making a huge impact in my life but that cleaning lady sure did free up a lot of my time!!
Latifah Davis totally agree! Haha I want a cleaning lady too 😂 - but that’s amazing that you recognized that and aimed to set an example for your kids. Totally inspiring! Xo
Great video thank you. I’m further along my no and low buy than you. It took me years to tackle my shopping habit. I did the waiting rule with items. It amazed me how much I forgot about. And for me, I just waited and waited until the item I “wanted forever” got significantly discounted before I purchased. If it didn’t go on sale, I didn’t buy it (even if I wanted it forever), because there are new things all the time. I have discovered that I have never regretted not buying something. It is very satisfying to use stuff up completely, like my Tom ford lipstick. And then my husband bought me another one as a gift because he saw I enjoyed it so much.
I am doing a low-buy year in order to pay back some debt. It’s been 11 days and I am already wanting to buy stuff. Isn’t this crazy? I really need to change my shopping habits. There is no way I cannot go without shopping for 11 days. My closet is full... I think in some way I may have a shopping addiction and going « cold turkey » for a while may be the best way to start this year. Thank you for sharing your experience. It is really helping me do this and also making me feel a little more normal!
I have come up with strong reasons to why not buy. Saving for travel, also saving to buy a house. Also, thinking about doing less laundry and having to clean less things, helps me a lot. Filling my days with activities and experiences is key to keep the low buy. If I ever need or want clothes, I go to thrift stores, If I don't find what I need in there, I will re visit the thrift store other day. And for gift cards, only for underwear stores are accepted.
I used to have three different wardrobes: Professional. Farm. Casual. When I retired and moved to our very small cottage on our small family farm, I was encouraged to purge my wardrobe as we have done our other possessions to consolidate three homes. My walk in closet is full now but I decided not to purge because it is full of classic pieces that I love. I now create capsules every season by combining items that I would not have worn together before but mix well, look great and are comfortable.I may never have to buy another article of clothing other than undergarments.
After watching your previous video, I used your tip and unsubscribed from every clothing and cosmetics company in my email, and cut way back on watching influencers. Now, when I do watch them, it is for pure entertainment value, and I have found that I don't even make it through most of the videos on makeup, (which is my biggest triggers for buying), because I'm just not interested. I have been focusing again on health and wellness, which does actually have a positive impact.
YES! I love this! The unsubscribe tip was honestly one of my strongest for me personally - staying out of the "know" honestly was so helpful. Out of sight, out of mind.
Hey guys! I just wanted to clarify my comment about using credit cards - I still do use credit for certain things (however working on transitioning to 100% cash/debit to better follow Dave Ramsey's teachings on this subject - it's less convenient, but doable) , but my point was that I would NOT allow myself to purchase items that I consider triggering or part of my addiction on credit. By having that hard stop, it makes me more mindful and question if I really am willing to spend the money on the thing or things, and watch my bank account or wallet dwindle in real time at the moment of purchase. This has helped because most of the time, I'm unwilling to pay the money now for it. I hope that makes sense.
I love this video. I have to stop shopping too. Beginning of this year I stopped shopping fast fashion. But I find myself shopping way to many thrifted clothes.. Next challenge will be shopping less of everything 😉 love from Lisette, the Netherlands
You are not alone! I do my best to only use cash. I save my lone credit card for absolute emergencies. This is a sincere upgrade from how I used to operate.
Perfect video, I've been lusting for a Moto jacket the last three years and it finally went on sale because it was something that was missing in my wardrope, thanks for the helpful tips.
Thank you for sharing! I started low buy for shoes and clothes since February this year. It's been great to become less tied to the materials in my life and appreciate the things I already own better.
I really understand how you feel my reason to stop shopping so much is I get sick of trying to pay off a credit card over and over again and again saying g this time I am going to stop so now I am debit free and I refuse to keep other people rich and me being broke. So good for you girl keep up the good work.
Carol Abdullah YES! Me too. I would go in cycles and cycles of racking up a credit card bill, paying it off and then racking it right back up again. I’m so tired of it and tired of being broke. Financial freedom is waiting for us! Xo
For eye shadows and nail polishes that I own that I don't really use, I like to mix shades and create new ones. I have gotten the most compliments doing that because nobody else is going to have the exact same color. Experiment; you were not going to use them anyway, so you have nothing to lose.
A couple things I do are: I put things ins shopping carts and reevaluate in a few days. If I truly want or need it I'll get it but it helps me narrow it down. If it's clothing and I really feel I'm missing something I try to find it at a second-hand shop. I often find better quality for less and it has what feels like a story. It often takes longer which keeps me from just getting something trendy and lets me focus on finding more classic pieces. I haven't done it in a while but one thing my husband and I used to do was budget ourselves 100 dollars each/month for what we called 'guilt-free no questions asked money.' I could spend it on whatever I wanted however frivolous but after it was gone. It was gone. It helped me really slow down and think ok you really want this sweatsuit and you can have it BUT that means no eyelash serum this month or no iced coffees and if it's worth it then get it!
@13:54 is soooo important! The True Cost documentary on Netflix is really eye opening. Knowing where my clothes came from and where it goes even after I donate it has helped me be more mindful of how I shop.
You are very brave. This video is a game changer...you're helping thousands of people. I am going to put these awesome rules in place TODAY!! Thank you!!!
Watch the documentary 'The True Cost' on Netflix, it is very helpful to be 'motivated' to shop for clothing in a more conscientious manner. It has changed my 'values' in regards to clothing. I do not want to be using my money to contribute to child slave labor for example so I no longer purchase clothes at 'fast fashion' stores. I also do not want any of my money going to support the company Monsanto/Bayer so I will no longer purchase any clothing made of 'conventional' cotton. I only purchase organic cotton or second hand 'conventional' cotton. I also do not want to support the petroleum based industry (and for my health and the health of the environment) so I do not purchase any clothing items made with synthetic (petroleum/plastic) materials. I find that with these 'values' I am not really tempted to buy most clothing items in most stores. When I look at items I see toxic, environmentally polluting, items probably made by modern day slaves and it 'repulses' me so not very tempted. I purchase most of my clothing second hand and a few items such as undergarments and pjs I purchase in organic cotton or linen by certified fair trade brands. I do not have much money at all and so because organic and slow fashion/fair trade/ethical items are more expensive I only purchase what I really need and what I know I will use for a very long time. I feel so much better now about my shopping habits. I buy so much less and I have more money to do things I really enjoy and that brings more fun, excitement, joy, meaning and purpose to my life. I also have so much less stress and feel so much more gratitude, peace and contentment. Shopping knowing I am not causing harm to myself, other people, creatures, and the environment just feels so good because my values and my decisions actually line up with each other. No guilt , no remorse, no 'justifying'. So much better.
I've been told about this documentary - I'll def need to check it out. It sounds eye opening and like a great motivator to think twice about our current habits of consumption. Thank you for sharing how you've changed your views and where it has brought you. xx Love it!
I love your response! I’ve been wanting to make the switch to more eco friendly and cruelty free clothing. Where do you normally shop for these clothes?
Having a budget is a game changer! And being realistic about it. Rules: 1. Only ethically and sustainably made or second hand - research what you want to invest in, purchase from brands or designers that care about the materials, the environment, where they come from and who made them. That way fast fashion generally falls out of the picture. 2. Add it to a list - check if you still want it and can afford it at a later date - save up for special items 3. Investment pieces - will it be worn for many years, is it good quality, is it a replacement and will it stay in style? Further questions to ask: - What impact does spending have on my budget, my self-worth and those around me? - Do you need it or just want it? What for? What else could you purchase for the same amount of money - or how much could you add to debt repayments or to savings instead? Strategies that can help with minimising spending and curbing a bad habit: - Face all expenses and debts head on. Work out a plan and a budget. Ask family or friends to help you with tackling the biggest issues first. Read up and inform yourself on how to set goals. - Set up a seperate or multiple accounts with one account dedicated to frivoulous spending with a small weekly/monthly budget (what you can afford) all leisure and shopping comes out of that account and don't touch your other accounts - Make excpetions - for example, allow small spending on certain items or for special occasions (weddings, etc) coffee, fitness, books, etc by prioritising what has real value and what you will use, brings joy - Invest in experiences not things - like making a regular date to meet a friend for dinner or lunch, seeing a film, etc - check your budget daily - small savings can be extremely fulfilling! - don't beat yourself up if you have set-back :) :) :)
My biggest problem areas are books and thrifting. Thankfully I live a 2 hour drive from the stores so shopping is much more difficult 😁. Also, I don't shop online because the couriers don't deliver to where I live (I would have to drive the 2 hour trip to pick the package up).
I think for me the goal is to stop buying impulsively, but actually buying those things I actually love, cannot wait to wear and use, which make me feel amazing and would wear over and over again. Instead of a quick fix, a true love.
It's actually been interesting - I've noticed what triggers me most is online shopping. When I'm physically in a store, I have noticed I dont have that "excitement" or rush response. I've gone into stores lately to check out recent sales out of bordeom or to kill time for example, and took note that I really felt "nothing" when I went in. So far I haven't had the "alcoholic walking into a bar" type of feeling in physical stores. My issue is online so I will need to tackle that more. So I think shopping with friends so far has been ok if that makes any sense at all!
Everything you are saying is hitting me hard.. I am at a point that I'm embarrassed to tell my boyfriend that my credit card is at and need to change asap... I am saving this video for when I am staying from the no buy low buy path ..
i feel like i've been buying a little more lately even tho i've always been good about using stuff up (yup i finished lipsticks) and giving/decluttering instantly when i know i won't use that thing. so yeah this motivated me to start being more minimalistic again and focus on what i already have and love. thanks!
Thanks so much for your experience! Excellent suggestions. I also remind myself : I am enough, I have enough, I do enough Most of my compulsive shopping comes from feeling I am not .... fill in the blank! Debtors Anonymous also helped enormously ....saved my life !
My solution is to avoid shop, shopping only on thrift store but still remember « do I really need this » in case of love without thinking a piece ! (Sometimes fail but better second hand then brand new stuff!!). And best tips how I use my time: gym or shopping? > gym. Cooking a great meal or shopping online? > cooking etc... then u change ur behaviour step by step 🥰
That’s a great method - I like comparing two activities - it seems like there’s always something greater and more satisfying to accomplish than shopping 😍
I actually feel it more when I spend on my debit card than when I do cash, because with cash I have to take all the money back out of my wallet and count it physically. I check my bank balance as often as I need to it's at my fingertips on my smartphone, just the world we live in now. Seeing my bank balance go down is more of a pain response than handing someone a fiver. I have not and will probably never use credit. I'm disabled and live on $500 a month though so I don't really need a credit score. If I did I would only spend money I knew I had, and rarely.
I agree using my debit card gets me more than using cash. Idk why, I think cash just reminds me of playing pretend as a kid - like its not real. But once the money is in my checking account with my name on it I am a lot more attached to it.
Thank u fir helping me!!! Ive been doing pretty well so far on my low buy and I practically dont shop at all anymore. Dont even miss it really and it happened so quick
It's addiction. With most addictions, discovering the source isn't going to help you overcome it, it'll just delay your ability to do something about it.
You fleetingly mentioned lipstick in your video and it triggered this - I have been using the same 2 lipsticks every weekday for over a year now and it has come to a point where I am stubbornly digging out the last of it with my lip brush just to see how much longer it lasts ! 🤪 Kudos to you for making and sharing this video. Sort of resonates with me, as you may relate to my anal behavior with the lipsticks. 🙏
I've started No buy/ Low buy in 2020 since I've got inspired by this video. It's been only like 16 days but it's been going well up until I had found another obsession in swimsuits. I train up to 6 days a week and I cannot seem to stop buying new swimsuits once I find them pretty. (I've got to avoid looking into it, aye) I've bought 2 swimwears already T^T is my rule not hard enough I'm sensing. I've already had like 15 swimsuits. I've sold 5 pieces this week as a secondhand then I bought 2 new pieces. HELP!
I have decided to buy only what i need. for instance i was buying cheap (not cotton) panties. I will now throw out all the ones that have holes and buy the cotton ones again. plus they feel better and last longer. And i replaced 2 shirts that have holes stretched out and are see through, the only non need was a dark green romper that actually fit me and i like. I got rid of the black one and said if i found one that i liked better and was more my style i would get it. It was only 11 dollars and i paid with debt. now no more buying for the next 2 moths, just gas and the phone bill, the rest is going to my debt. so i can be debt free in less than 3 months.
@@Christinamychas its not a lot of debt, but it is the stupid kind. About $2100k, so if i put every single paycheck into it, I should be good. And awesome that you replied. Have an awesome say rain or shine. :)
Thanks for the video. It has really inspired me! I always knew I had a problem and your video helped me come to terms with it. Please keep the videos coming!!
I just watched your videos. Please don't get me wrong but I believe u don't have issues with shopping. It is deeper than what u see. U tend to follow the popular trends however u should work on yourself. Understand your motives and issues and work on them. Best luck
As well as unfollowing unhelpful influencers, follow those that promote good shopping habits. If anyone wants a recommendation, I like Hannah Louise Poston's channel. Its like watching a no buy/budget video journal and have helped me change my thought process/give me tips regarding buying or not buying things as well as being able to still enjoy makeup and skincare.
I know this is three years old, but I have a credit card I use instead of a debit card. It gets paid off every month, and if the number is compromised my bank account isn’t drained.
Lana Lane True! For me i don’t color my hair and go many every 3 months for a cut, but we can certainly just budget for it if it’s something thats important to you/part of a routine you want to maintain - that’s all! No harm in that! Xx
I started making cute little laminated envelopes to separate my cash into their budget categories and that helped me. I'd spend hundreds on makeup/skincare/other useless stuff and would then justify using my visa for my groceries because i 'need' food. while thats true, i didnt need the stuff that took up all my money up until that point. I also started selling the envelopes on Etsy if anyone wants to check them out! KellysCashDesigns :)
Barb B nowadays I’m making videos and doing photography and started exercising daily! 🤗 all of these things are things I love doing and don’t mind the time they take; they really have seemed to help especially with the boredom shopping
Sorry...just started the vid and the rack of coats in the background is distracting on a "how to stop shopping" vid...but hanging in there to hear more.
I lost 100 pounds and went from an eating disorder to a shopping disorder. My biggest issue is watching influencers on you tube. Glad to find yours. Great steps and points.
Me too. I had to replace my entire wardrobe and from buying nothing I've gone a little mad. So it stops right now. I'm making my rules now and unsubscribing.
I didn’t realize I had a shopping problem until you came out with these videos. It’s an emotional shopping problem to get that feeling of being excited for something, and these videos have helped me figure out the problem. Thank you!!
I decided to do this and just came across your videos. 🙏🙏🙏 Oh, and I don’t mind your ‘ bad language’ in your previous video. I found it very mild so couldn’t understand why you apologised. You can’t please everyone, and being authentic is far better to find your own tribe who get you. Just be you! You are inspiring.
Nadja Drobot I’ve seen so many antihauls in my feed - I need to research what they are! Yes shipping your wardrobe is honestly so much fun - I forget that when I get caught up in the “newness”
I stopped shopping/ spending a lot of money on stuff after watching Minimalism on Netflix. That documentary hit me so hard and got me (back) to reality! Since then I am so much happier. I never been in debt because of shopping. The only debt I got is student loan and that’s thankfully not very much as I studied in Germany. After finishing college I sold everything I’ve owned and travelled, found a new place to live and barely added on my belongings. I feel so free because I no longer spend hours of searching the Internet for new stuff or walking through the city shopping. My whole life shifted and I love to see that other people escape this (over)consumerism!! The Minimalists say “Love people, Use things. Because the opposite never works.”
My rule is that I can't have a balance on my credit card by payday. For logistics reasons I do use my credit card but I have to pay it off entirely right after.
I think thats a great rule. I should clarify that I do still use my credit card, but I made a rule that I couldn't use credit to buy all the things that usually feed my addiction like clothing, makeup and skincare.
It’s so reassuring for me to find that I am not the only one going through this shopping addiction. I never realised that I was addicted - I thought , thanks to the merchandising market, that it was normal to buy new clothes each season. I have recently tried to organise my wardrobe and got rid of bags of clothes, many of which I had never even worn and still had the labels on. Now I have to stop buying more. So thanks for all the good advice. I’m finding that avoiding exposure to clothes shops and catalogues is the best way for me avoid temptation. Thankfully I do not live in a city!
My rules for myself are 1.never to use credit. I dont even own a credit card 2. Only shop at high end stores where the quality of the clothes will mean they last for years. Also, because the cost of these clothes is sooo high it takes me ages to convince myself to buy as the pain of parting with $ makes me think twice, three ,four times! I dont even go into fast fashion stores at all any more. I have fewer clothes but I love them and they are classic. 3. Never go shopping of any kind while hungry. 4. I no longer buy gifts for friends, only family and then only at Christmas. I can make a fuss of the people I love without buying them something every week! 5.listing what I am grateful for across all aspects of my life makes me more content and prevents the wanties.
So proud of you doing this AND sharing your journey. It’s time that we stop shaming people here on UA-cam. It’s time that we lean from the differences. At the end we all have our weak spots
Do you have any specific low buy rules?
I usually ask myself if I have anything in my closet that is similar to the items that I want to purchase, if I truly love that piece or I just want to follow the trend, and if that piece is in my budget. I just recently discovered your channel and I love it! Keep up with the good work and have a nice day!!
Zoey Tran thank you Zoey! These are perfect rules! I need to shop my closet some more to deter any temptations I might come across too - it can be fun!
Taking my husband shopping with me. He reminds me that I already have something similar to what I just grabbed and he is picky, he tries to find something negative about the item so I end up not getting it Haha. Funny but it helps me with my shopping habits :)
I’m not ready for no buy just yet but I’ve set up rules when it comes to shopping. For clothes, nothing more than $20 for an item. And I ask my self will I wear this item within a week.
As far as makeup the only thing I’m allowed to buy are lashes bc I literally so much makeup.
I try to only buy either ethically produced clothes OR from environment-friendlier materials (organic cotton, Lyocell, Linen, etc.). I simply can't afford many of them, and it hurts my H&M-Teenager-Heart to spend so much on one piece, so I reeaally make sure it's a perfect fit for me :) Works great, bought only 2 pants and 1 skirt so far this year..
"....a cycle of looking for something to want, finding it, wanting it, acquiring it, and then doing it all over again". Spot on.
YES! So brilliant. I feel like we ALL resonate with this.
I'm so guilty and I'm not proud of it.
My story dude!!
“Looking for something to want”. Yes, that is definitely the issue! If you stop yourself from browsing stores, it really does help curb your “cravings”. It’s so hard with social media but it’s helpful to remind yourself of that sinking feeling you get when you get something new, the excitement wears off, and you reluctantly hang it up in your closet feeling like garbage and like a failure.
I unsubscribed to most of the brands on social media and their newsletter. This way I won‘t get tempted to buy something new.
AidaJamilaMUA Me too! Omg that has helped SO much
This helped me.
It’s interesting seeing most channels on UA-cam are basically advertising for their subscribers to purchase something. Difficult to get away from advertising!
Yes!! I heard something about how it’s only saving you money when you were already going to buy it. So when I need to get my children clothes THEN I will look for deals but I avoid looking at the deals so I don’t run out and buy things we don’t really need.
Yes!
@@raisingbabydiaz this is such a good tip. Because i search for good deals online and at trift stores for now and for future. Which isn't the best behaviour
It’s so difficult when shopping is intertwined with mental health stuff and childhood scarcity mentality. Thank you for these videos, they’ve been helpful.
At the beginning of the video, she says the process was first "finding something you want". She put the exact words on how it feels like, to go window shopping or browse clothing on internet. That sentence is resonating so much for me. We try to find something we want.
Congratulations on your journey. Unfollowing influencers can be extremely helpful. I keep in mind that influencing is a job; their way of paying for a home and feeding a family or a side hustle. It’s a job. Thinking of it as a job takes out a lot of the excitement for the new shiny things.
Keecha M this is actually an amazing perspective I never thought of - thank you!
When I saw my oldest mimicking my spending habits that was the biggest wake up call. I immediately altered my spending habit. Second wake up call came during the summer when everyone was home from school and I couldn't for the life of me keep up with the dishes, laundry etc. Then it dawned on me the money I was spending on lash extensions could be used to hire a cleaning lady for the summer. Those lashes weren't making a huge impact in my life but that cleaning lady sure did free up a lot of my time!!
Latifah Davis totally agree! Haha I want a cleaning lady too 😂 - but that’s amazing that you recognized that and aimed to set an example for your kids. Totally inspiring! Xo
lol you’re lame
@@StarseedGirl818 sucks to be sad dezi
And all that spending was on clothes and dishes you ended up having to wash, so it was double hurting you
I liked this video as soon as you said you were tired of shopping and spending money. I am sick and tired of shopping. My closet is out of control.
Mine too - youve got this!
Great video thank you. I’m further along my no and low buy than you. It took me years to tackle my shopping habit. I did the waiting rule with items. It amazed me how much I forgot about. And for me, I just waited and waited until the item I “wanted forever” got significantly discounted before I purchased. If it didn’t go on sale, I didn’t buy it (even if I wanted it forever), because there are new things all the time. I have discovered that I have never regretted not buying something. It is very satisfying to use stuff up completely, like my Tom ford lipstick. And then my husband bought me another one as a gift because he saw I enjoyed it so much.
i loveeeeeee this!
I am doing a low-buy year in order to pay back some debt. It’s been 11 days and I am already wanting to buy stuff. Isn’t this crazy? I really need to change my shopping habits. There is no way I cannot go without shopping for 11 days. My closet is full... I think in some way I may have a shopping addiction and going « cold turkey » for a while may be the best way to start this year. Thank you for sharing your experience. It is really helping me do this and also making me feel a little more normal!
I have come up with strong reasons to why not buy. Saving for travel, also saving to buy a house. Also, thinking about doing less laundry and having to clean less things, helps me a lot. Filling my days with activities and experiences is key to keep the low buy. If I ever need or want clothes, I go to thrift stores, If I don't find what I need in there, I will re visit the thrift store other day. And for gift cards, only for underwear stores are accepted.
I used to have three different wardrobes: Professional. Farm. Casual. When I retired and moved to our very small cottage on our small family farm, I was encouraged to purge my wardrobe as we have done our other possessions to consolidate three homes. My walk in closet is full now but I decided not to purge because it is full of classic pieces that I love. I now create capsules every season by combining items that I would not have worn together before but mix well, look great and are comfortable.I may never have to buy another article of clothing other than undergarments.
After watching your previous video, I used your tip and unsubscribed
from every clothing and cosmetics company in my email, and cut way back on watching influencers. Now, when I do watch them, it is for pure entertainment value, and I have found that I don't even make it through most of the videos on makeup, (which is my biggest triggers for buying), because I'm just not interested. I have been focusing again on health and wellness, which does actually have a positive impact.
YES! I love this! The unsubscribe tip was honestly one of my strongest for me personally - staying out of the "know" honestly was so helpful. Out of sight, out of mind.
Hey guys! I just wanted to clarify my comment about using credit cards - I still do use credit for certain things (however working on transitioning to 100% cash/debit to better follow Dave Ramsey's teachings on this subject - it's less convenient, but doable) , but my point was that I would NOT allow myself to purchase items that I consider triggering or part of my addiction on credit. By having that hard stop, it makes me more mindful and question if I really am willing to spend the money on the thing or things, and watch my bank account or wallet dwindle in real time at the moment of purchase. This has helped because most of the time, I'm unwilling to pay the money now for it. I hope that makes sense.
I love this video. I have to stop shopping too. Beginning of this year I stopped shopping fast fashion. But I find myself shopping way to many thrifted clothes.. Next challenge will be shopping less of everything 😉 love from Lisette, the Netherlands
Can you do a video on inventory of everything you own? It might be helpful to everyone
ivanete roark great idea! I’ll def add that to the list!
You are not alone! I do my best to only use cash. I save my lone credit card for absolute emergencies. This is a sincere upgrade from how I used to operate.
Perfect video, I've been lusting for a Moto jacket the last three years and it finally went on sale because it was something that was missing in my wardrope, thanks for the helpful tips.
Thank you for sharing! I started low buy for shoes and clothes since February this year. It's been great to become less tied to the materials in my life and appreciate the things I already own better.
so much amazing!
I really understand how you feel my reason to stop shopping so much is I get sick of trying to pay off a credit card over and over again and again saying g this time I am going to stop so now I am debit free and I refuse to keep other people rich and me being broke.
So good for you girl keep up the good work.
Carol Abdullah YES! Me too. I would go in cycles and cycles of racking up a credit card bill, paying it off and then racking it right back up again. I’m so tired of it and tired of being broke. Financial freedom is waiting for us! Xo
For eye shadows and nail polishes that I own that I don't really use, I like to mix shades and create new ones. I have gotten the most compliments doing that because nobody else is going to have the exact same color. Experiment; you were not going to use them anyway, so you have nothing to lose.
A couple things I do are:
I put things ins shopping carts and reevaluate in a few days. If I truly want or need it I'll get it but it helps me narrow it down.
If it's clothing and I really feel I'm missing something I try to find it at a second-hand shop. I often find better quality for less and it has what feels like a story. It often takes longer which keeps me from just getting something trendy and lets me focus on finding more classic pieces.
I haven't done it in a while but one thing my husband and I used to do was budget ourselves 100 dollars each/month for what we called 'guilt-free no questions asked money.' I could spend it on whatever I wanted however frivolous but after it was gone. It was gone. It helped me really slow down and think ok you really want this sweatsuit and you can have it BUT that means no eyelash serum this month or no iced coffees and if it's worth it then get it!
@13:54 is soooo important! The True Cost documentary on Netflix is really eye opening. Knowing where my clothes came from and where it goes even after I donate it has helped me be more mindful of how I shop.
You are very brave. This video is a game changer...you're helping thousands of people. I am going to put these awesome rules in place TODAY!! Thank you!!!
I needed to see this video right now. I’m so far down the hole of shopping addiction and it’s constant with the clothing. I need help!
bbbsq11 I’ve been there too - you’ve got this. I hope it helps! Xo
Watch the documentary 'The True Cost' on Netflix, it is very helpful to be 'motivated' to shop for clothing in a more conscientious manner. It has changed my 'values' in regards to clothing. I do not want to be using my money to contribute to child slave labor for example so I no longer purchase clothes at 'fast fashion' stores. I also do not want any of my money going to support the company Monsanto/Bayer so I will no longer purchase any clothing made of 'conventional' cotton. I only purchase organic cotton or second hand 'conventional' cotton. I also do not want to support the petroleum based industry (and for my health and the health of the environment) so I do not purchase any clothing items made with synthetic (petroleum/plastic) materials. I find that with these 'values' I am not really tempted to buy most clothing items in most stores. When I look at items I see toxic, environmentally polluting, items probably made by modern day slaves and it 'repulses' me so not very tempted. I purchase most of my clothing second hand and a few items such as undergarments and pjs I purchase in organic cotton or linen by certified fair trade brands. I do not have much money at all and so because organic and slow fashion/fair trade/ethical items are more expensive I only purchase what I really need and what I know I will use for a very long time. I feel so much better now about my shopping habits. I buy so much less and I have more money to do things I really enjoy and that brings more fun, excitement, joy, meaning and purpose to my life. I also have so much less stress and feel so much more gratitude, peace and contentment. Shopping knowing I am not causing harm to myself, other people, creatures, and the environment just feels so good because my values and my decisions actually line up with each other. No guilt , no remorse, no 'justifying'. So much better.
I've been told about this documentary - I'll def need to check it out. It sounds eye opening and like a great motivator to think twice about our current habits of consumption. Thank you for sharing how you've changed your views and where it has brought you. xx Love it!
I love your response! I’ve been wanting to make the switch to more eco friendly and cruelty free clothing. Where do you normally shop for these clothes?
Having a budget is a game changer! And being realistic about it.
Rules:
1. Only ethically and sustainably made or second hand - research what you want to invest in, purchase from brands or designers that care about the materials, the environment, where they come from and who made them. That way fast fashion generally falls out of the picture.
2. Add it to a list - check if you still want it and can afford it at a later date - save up for special items
3. Investment pieces - will it be worn for many years, is it good quality, is it a replacement and will it stay in style?
Further questions to ask:
- What impact does spending have on my budget, my self-worth and those around me?
- Do you need it or just want it? What for? What else could you purchase for the same amount of money - or how much could you add to debt repayments or to savings instead?
Strategies that can help with minimising spending and curbing a bad habit:
- Face all expenses and debts head on. Work out a plan and a budget. Ask family or friends to help you with tackling the biggest issues first. Read up and inform yourself on how to set goals.
- Set up a seperate or multiple accounts with one account dedicated to frivoulous spending with a small weekly/monthly budget (what you can afford) all leisure and shopping comes out of that account and don't touch your other accounts
- Make excpetions - for example, allow small spending on certain items or for special occasions (weddings, etc) coffee, fitness, books, etc by prioritising what has real value and what you will use, brings joy
- Invest in experiences not things - like making a regular date to meet a friend for dinner or lunch, seeing a film, etc
- check your budget daily - small savings can be extremely fulfilling!
- don't beat yourself up if you have set-back
:) :) :)
Nadia Brandstätter these are an amazing set of guidelines!!
Thanks for this post. I’m doing better myself but it’s very hard to break the habits. Strength to us all!
Me too! It's always up and down. You've got this and we've got each other!
My biggest problem areas are books and thrifting. Thankfully I live a 2 hour drive from the stores so shopping is much more difficult 😁. Also, I don't shop online because the couriers don't deliver to where I live (I would have to drive the 2 hour trip to pick the package up).
ritalyn b that def works in your favor!!!
I think for me the goal is to stop buying impulsively, but actually buying those things I actually love, cannot wait to wear and use, which make me feel amazing and would wear over and over again. Instead of a quick fix, a true love.
I never heard "low buy" rules before. Very interesting!
Shopping can be a social and bonding experience for a lot of women, how do you navigate when your mom or friends want to go???
It's actually been interesting - I've noticed what triggers me most is online shopping. When I'm physically in a store, I have noticed I dont have that "excitement" or rush response. I've gone into stores lately to check out recent sales out of bordeom or to kill time for example, and took note that I really felt "nothing" when I went in. So far I haven't had the "alcoholic walking into a bar" type of feeling in physical stores. My issue is online so I will need to tackle that more. So I think shopping with friends so far has been ok if that makes any sense at all!
@@a.w5533 Love that idea - just pretend you are their personal shopper :)
Everything you are saying is hitting me hard.. I am at a point that I'm embarrassed to tell my boyfriend that my credit card is at and need to change asap... I am saving this video for when I am staying from the no buy low buy path ..
i feel like i've been buying a little more lately even tho i've always been good about using stuff up (yup i finished lipsticks) and giving/decluttering instantly when i know i won't use that thing. so yeah this motivated me to start being more minimalistic again and focus on what i already have and love. thanks!
alsooo i'm continuing the video and i've been meaning to thrift for the longest time
Any shirts I've noticed I dont wear, I repurpose them and sew them into shopping bags. :)
omg thats awesome!!! i need a tutorial!
With new trends I try to find similar thrifted options to see if I really like the trend or not. Specifically trends that are not as timeless/classic.
Thanks so much for your experience! Excellent suggestions. I also remind myself :
I am enough,
I have enough,
I do enough
Most of my compulsive shopping comes from feeling I am not ....
fill in the blank!
Debtors Anonymous also helped enormously ....saved my life !
Do you have any info on debtors anonymous? Is it local or online? Thanks!
Loving the George Harrison album in the background.
My solution is to avoid shop, shopping only on thrift store but still remember « do I really need this » in case of love without thinking a piece ! (Sometimes fail but better second hand then brand new stuff!!). And best tips how I use my time: gym or shopping? > gym. Cooking a great meal or shopping online? > cooking etc... then u change ur behaviour step by step 🥰
That’s a great method - I like comparing two activities - it seems like there’s always something greater and more satisfying to accomplish than shopping 😍
looking for something to want... preach girl
I actually feel it more when I spend on my debit card than when I do cash, because with cash I have to take all the money back out of my wallet and count it physically.
I check my bank balance as often as I need to it's at my fingertips on my smartphone, just the world we live in now. Seeing my bank balance go down is more of a pain response than handing someone a fiver. I have not and will probably never use credit. I'm disabled and live on $500 a month though so I don't really need a credit score. If I did I would only spend money I knew I had, and rarely.
I agree using my debit card gets me more than using cash. Idk why, I think cash just reminds me of playing pretend as a kid - like its not real. But once the money is in my checking account with my name on it I am a lot more attached to it.
Thank u fir helping me!!! Ive been doing pretty well so far on my low buy and I practically dont shop at all anymore. Dont even miss it really and it happened so quick
Have you thought about approaching the original source of the shopping addiction? It doesn't come from nowhere.
It's addiction. With most addictions, discovering the source isn't going to help you overcome it, it'll just delay your ability to do something about it.
I can so relate to this. I am learning to deal with this and learning better boundaries. Thank you!
I am extremely thankful for your honesty and this video! Just thank you 🥺
You fleetingly mentioned lipstick in your video and it triggered this - I have been using the same 2 lipsticks every weekday for over a year now and it has come to a point where I am stubbornly digging out the last of it with my lip brush just to see how much longer it lasts ! 🤪 Kudos to you for making and sharing this video. Sort of resonates with me, as you may relate to my anal behavior with the lipsticks. 🙏
Great! About second hand, agree 100%, you can find good thing for a funny price!
This was so helpful and so needed and SO GOOD. thank you! 💋
I've started No buy/ Low buy in 2020 since I've got inspired by this video. It's been only like 16 days but it's been going well up until I had found another obsession in swimsuits. I train up to 6 days a week and I cannot seem to stop buying new swimsuits once I find them pretty. (I've got to avoid looking into it, aye) I've bought 2 swimwears already T^T is my rule not hard enough I'm sensing. I've already had like 15 swimsuits. I've sold 5 pieces this week as a secondhand then I bought 2 new pieces. HELP!
"slip and fall and go down this hill" is an accurate description of my habits lol thank you for sharing this!
I am realizing that for me the most dangerous thing that make me over buy is not having a purpose in my life… I am training to fill the void…
I have decided to buy only what i need. for instance i was buying cheap (not cotton) panties. I will now throw out all the ones that have holes and buy the cotton ones again. plus they feel better and last longer. And i replaced 2 shirts that have holes stretched out and are see through, the only non need was a dark green romper that actually fit me and i like. I got rid of the black one and said if i found one that i liked better and was more my style i would get it. It was only 11 dollars and i paid with debt. now no more buying for the next 2 moths, just gas and the phone bill, the rest is going to my debt. so i can be debt free in less than 3 months.
YES! 3 months is not a long time - GET IT!
@@Christinamychas its not a lot of debt, but it is the stupid kind. About $2100k, so if i put every single paycheck into it, I should be good. And awesome that you replied. Have an awesome say rain or shine. :)
What do you do when it comes to buying gifts for people? I tend to spend a lot on gifts without setting a budget because “it’s not for me”
Alyssa L I still 💯 set a budget for gifts!!
Thanks for the video. It has really inspired me! I always knew I had a problem and your video helped me come to terms with it. Please keep the videos coming!!
you can face this and win! youve got this babe xo
Thanks❤️
It's amazing I've already been doing all of this because I was poor.
Yes, so helpful will be reviewing for myself again 👍
Great New Year Message for 2020 - these rules take care of our planet as well as our savings 😎 🌍💚 Thank you
I just watched your videos. Please don't get me wrong but I believe u don't have issues with shopping. It is deeper than what u see. U tend to follow the popular trends however u should work on yourself. Understand your motives and issues and work on them. Best luck
theses five coats in the background do not provide much variety
sabine schlicht Lol theres my shopping habit right there for you
Shopping to feel like I am interested in life, myself, to others-
My dad only ever paid attention to me even he was buying me something
As well as unfollowing unhelpful influencers, follow those that promote good shopping habits. If anyone wants a
recommendation, I like Hannah Louise Poston's channel. Its like watching a no buy/budget video journal and have helped me change my thought process/give me tips regarding buying or not buying things as well as being able to still enjoy makeup and skincare.
Very helpful tips. Thank you!
Great video! I am trying to consume less overall, make up is definitely my vice! I also need to start reading Dave Ramsey lol
lol i love when he yells at me on youtube haha
OMG totally helpful!!! Thank you!😍
very inspiring, thank you!
I know this is three years old, but I have a credit card I use instead of a debit card. It gets paid off every month, and if the number is compromised my bank account isn’t drained.
Thank you 😎
Thank you!
DazzleMeRed Rockafella love! Thank you!
what about getting hair cuts and color at the salon?
Lana Lane True! For me i don’t color my hair and go many every 3 months for a cut, but we can certainly just budget for it if it’s something thats important to you/part of a routine you want to maintain - that’s all! No harm in that! Xx
I started making cute little laminated envelopes to separate my cash into their budget categories and that helped me. I'd spend hundreds on makeup/skincare/other useless stuff and would then justify using my visa for my groceries because i 'need' food. while thats true, i didnt need the stuff that took up all my money up until that point. I also started selling the envelopes on Etsy if anyone wants to check them out! KellysCashDesigns :)
the envelope system works! i do it for my gorceries! such a cute idea ill check out your shop! xx
style apotheca wow thanks so much! There are only a few on there now but adding a couple more tonight :)
Hi! Just came across your UA-cam channel, been following you on insta for a while. Subbed!
Shop at the Dollar Tree store where everything is 1 dollar. That is when you will really see the truth about yourself!
5 coats at back ......almost the same color.... I see what is your problem...
Thank you
What do you do with your time when you would normally be online shopping or watching the videos that lead to that?
Barb B nowadays I’m making videos and doing photography and started exercising daily! 🤗 all of these things are things I love doing and don’t mind the time they take; they really have seemed to help especially with the boredom shopping
you are giving me rosa from brooklyn99 vibes!
isaak D ha! Awesome. I’ll take it. Coolcoolcoolcoolcoolcoolcool
Good luck
Please do another no buy video.
Sorry...just started the vid and the rack of coats in the background is distracting on a "how to stop shopping" vid...but hanging in there to hear more.
After paying my credit card, I will cut it and block it. I will only use my prepaid visa. At least , that’s my money !
You are gorgeous!
Awww ... I thought this would be an update as to how u were doing after 3 months or so ... too bad
Katharine Leeder it’s coming! Thanks Katharine!
I followed you on instagram. im jay from korea ^^
thank you so much!
I love this video and topic! Something I have started to think about lately...happy to see others speak about it as well! Thank You
I lost 100 pounds and went from an eating disorder to a shopping disorder. My biggest issue is watching influencers on you tube. Glad to find yours. Great steps and points.
Hi Lisa! im also going through that. Do you have any tips to help you overcome that?
Me too. I had to replace my entire wardrobe and from buying nothing I've gone a little mad. So it stops right now. I'm making my rules now and unsubscribing.
Almost 2 years later and this is still so helpful
agreed. this has helped me so very much
every time i need a refresh on my no buy rules / mindset i come back here. keeps me from temptation
Four years now & I’m glad I found it!
"Shop"from your own wardrobe. Create new combos from what you already own.
so much YES! I need to do this more
Been doing this for the last 4 1/2 yrs I don't have the needs to buy buy, I no longer enjoy shopping that much either.
First rule starts at 4:35
Thank you!
I didn’t realize I had a shopping problem until you came out with these videos. It’s an emotional shopping problem to get that feeling of being excited for something, and these videos have helped me figure out the problem. Thank you!!
Takes grit to put yourself out there like this. Thank you for sharing yourself with us!
Please stop apologizing. I enjoy your videos. Thank you.
😭thank you - haha I'm so Canadian - apology is in our veins. 😆
I decided to do this and just came across your videos. 🙏🙏🙏 Oh, and I don’t mind your ‘ bad language’ in your previous video. I found it very mild so couldn’t understand why you apologised. You can’t please everyone, and being authentic is far better to find your own tribe who get you. Just be you! You are inspiring.
Anti hauls are also great) or styling things you already have, shopping your own wardrobe 😎
Nadja Drobot I’ve seen so many antihauls in my feed - I need to research what they are! Yes shipping your wardrobe is honestly so much fun - I forget that when I get caught up in the “newness”
I stopped shopping/ spending a lot of money on stuff after watching Minimalism on Netflix. That documentary hit me so hard and got me (back) to reality!
Since then I am so much happier. I never been in debt because of shopping. The only debt I got is student loan and that’s thankfully not very much as I studied in Germany.
After finishing college I sold everything I’ve owned and travelled, found a new place to live and barely added on my belongings. I feel so free because I no longer spend hours of searching the Internet for new stuff or walking through the city shopping. My whole life shifted and I love to see that other people escape this (over)consumerism!!
The Minimalists say “Love people, Use things. Because the opposite never works.”
My rule is that I can't have a balance on my credit card by payday. For logistics reasons I do use my credit card but I have to pay it off entirely right after.
I think thats a great rule. I should clarify that I do still use my credit card, but I made a rule that I couldn't use credit to buy all the things that usually feed my addiction like clothing, makeup and skincare.
No “thing” will ever make you feel as good as being debt free. The day you realize that you are no longer a slave to debt is such a high.
It’s so reassuring for me to find that I am not the only one going through this shopping addiction. I never realised that I was addicted - I thought , thanks to the merchandising market, that it was normal to buy new clothes each season. I have recently tried to organise my wardrobe and got rid of bags of clothes, many of which I had never even worn and still had the labels on. Now I have to stop buying more. So thanks for all the good advice. I’m finding that avoiding exposure to clothes shops and catalogues is the best way for me avoid temptation. Thankfully I do not live in a city!
My rules for myself are 1.never to use credit. I dont even own a credit card 2. Only shop at high end stores where the quality of the clothes will mean they last for years. Also, because the cost of these clothes is sooo high it takes me ages to convince myself to buy as the pain of parting with $ makes me think twice, three ,four times! I dont even go into fast fashion stores at all any more. I have fewer clothes but I love them and they are classic. 3. Never go shopping of any kind while hungry. 4. I no longer buy gifts for friends, only family and then only at Christmas. I can make a fuss of the people I love without buying them something every week! 5.listing what I am grateful for across all aspects of my life makes me more content and prevents the wanties.
3 years later and I still re-watch all of these videos to give myself inspiration and motivation to keep myself in check. Thank you ❤️
So proud of you doing this AND sharing your journey.
It’s time that we stop shaming people here on UA-cam. It’s time that we lean from the differences. At the end we all have our weak spots
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