I believe in you guys..go to the gym , etc you can change your mindset and have willpower and have self control..change your beliefs ..look at law of attraction videos on UA-cam..reprogram your thoughts..and know that we human beings are more than enough and nothing is impossible. Just believe. God wants your well being and loves you. You got this! Love and blessings!
what worked for me is being inside casino one day and just looking how miserable people around me are, and how i "shame" them, just to figure that i'm the same, if not worst. It started consume me inside, notion that i'm just "junkie" that spends time and money while being miserable. Walked away, never looked back. Literally felt reborned within next 3 weeks. Ofc now i have way more money as well, it's actually amazing how money finds way to you ,once you start burning it.
step number one is : admit you are "junkie" that needs help. Step 2: feel fine with notion that you will never get your money back. It's gone. step 3: you are not "smarter, luckier or unluckier " than people who win and lose more. You all end up losing. Step 4: walk away, but don't stress yourself about milestones. Day, week, month means nothing. Day after day simply avoid it. Affter some time you will feel 2 things: 1) you have more money 2 ) you are waaaaaaaaay less depressed. 3 ) It's not worth it
I love this part "Day, week, month means nothing. Day after day simply avoid it. " So many people at 12 step meetings love to boast about the days and weeks and months. Whether you've abstained for 12 days or 12 years, the next bet could be right around the corner.
One time I won $800 at the casino. I knew I should go home. However I told myself " hey let me play just $100 of this. Who knows, maybe I'll turn a good night into a great night. If I lose, who cares, I can then leave with a really good $700. However after losing the $100, now I say to myself " ehhh I couldddd try just $100 more. If I lose that I'll leave with that remaining $600. Still a heckuva day right? " Well next thing I know I'm down to $300 and my thought process changes to " omg I can't leave with a measley $300 when I had a really nice $800 three hours ago!!! I absolutely HAVE to get that $500 back!!! Then I'll be back to $800 and THIS TIME I'll leave ( supposedly ) " Down to $200, down to $100, down to $20. Need gas but say screw it, down to $0. Now I want to puke and/or kick myself in the nuts. Mentally exhausted, stressed out, sickening feeling as I have a walk of shame to my car 😢😭😡🤬🤮
I have been addicted to pretty much everything, drugs,alcohol,sex and gambling. Gambling has been the worse I’ve lost everything I’ve worked hard for and compulsively keep chasing my loses. I’m 26 and have lost 26k of my savings and now have nothing left. I struggle with the relationships around me and feel that I’ve destroyed myself and let everyone down. I can’t let go I’ve lost all my money and have won it back several times just to lose it all over again. It has been the worse emotional rollercoaster in my life and made me feel so worthless.
hey man how r u doing now? its hard but through Christ all things are possible... been an addict, drugs, sex, alcohol, porn, and now my mind wants me to go to gambling thats why im here watching this... 7 years clean and have been celibate for close to a year but the addict still rages... but Christ didnt die for me to give up He didnt die for us to give in... He died for us to have life and to have it more abundantly... hmu man...
I feel your pain I’ve done the same thing Been gambling for 11 years and this has happened to me over 100 times It doesn’t get better, so Stop Now !!!!!!!
Hey brother you might want to check if you have an ADHD.It sounds to me that you are always seeking a dopamine spike.If thats the case and you identify it many things,maybe all,that plagues you will fall in place and there are a lot of things that you can do to manage it and overcome it.
I applaud your honesty. If you strive not to be wealthy but be healthy. To be healthy you must be prepared to pray through your darkness. Argue with God about how beautifully and wonderfully made, yet so flawed, so weak. Stay humble and work simple. Do not envy the 'winners'. Emulate the fulfilled. Well done for today friend. Tomorrow you may not promise - well done for today.
This professor obviously knows what he is talking about. He, not only has personal but, has professional insight into this subject. He is worth listening to.
Lol I did not have a cell phone untill I was 20 which was in 2008 but as soon as I got one my life has been on this phone 24/7 even as I am writing this
From working in a gas station for 2 years in Florida, I can say that I have experienced a lot of what this guy is talking about 1st hand. I have never gambled in my entire life, and watching the way that it controls people was one of the most existentially horrific things I've ever witnessed. It really changed the way that I thought about addiction.
that is so accurate, gambling is a progressive addiction meaning it will just get worse over time. it is truly scary to watch people go to casinos and sink their life saving into the place. i have a family member who is addicted to sport betting and he has won a few times, thats usually the catlyst to this addiction, "a big win" occurs usually something like turning 20 bucks into 500 and its over
Can we get Michael to come and speak again? It's been 11 years since this talk, gambling has become much more rampant now especially with the rise of online casinos like stake. Would love to hear Michael talk about the current gambling situation, he's so eloquent in the way he hits the point home.
A wonderful lecture, a must for any compulsive gambler! Kudos to Dr Souza. Any of the idiotic comments recommending betting sites and claiming to make a living are either stupid or work for the sites!
I quit 6 months ago (again )went back two days ago lost all my savings .Now I had to handle all my cards to my mother and go for treatment.When you think you are cured ,you are not .Very sad disease.God bless you
That sucks, yeah if you got the disease you are stuck with it forever and it is better just not to gamble, I hate watching people win money and be able to leave that easy, my addiction stops me from doing that easily
@@Costalongadiogo yeah I feel you, you should be proud of yourself because it is hard to stop doing no matter how long you stopped doing it for, I was clean for two years and it went down the drain in just a matter of moments that were weak.. any day that you do not gamble is a miracle when you have this curse.. I was 3 years clean of drinking and in a matter of seconds I was back to drinking just like that so it is important to keep staying clean for your own good, not for others sake
@@Costalongadiogo one thing that I commend you on though is you giving up your card to your mom, that is single handedly the most important thing you could have done for yourself, at my weakest point I could not grasp letting someone else hold on to my finances, my ego just could not let that happen but as I got older I realized that is the best thing to do! When we are at our weakest point we need to trust others to have our best interest
@@sillywillie5076 I know right sometimes in bad days the urge comes but I really talk to god and trust the universe to be strong and love your self the urge goes away .Now I have all my cards .I really pray for all gamblers it’s sad it really is especially good hearthy people like you
This is very interesting to me because my sister is a senior casino hostess. She comps everything from free night stays, show tickets, fine dining, cigarettes, just about anything to get the guests to keep coming back. It works. She encourages all players to use their club card. It is the casino's tracking device. If a player hasn't been tracked in a while they call them back with temping offers. The casinos know your habits better than you realize.
Yeah I went on a road trip from Cali to Florida with a friend and we stopped at Vegas, spent all the money I had all night long, had someone else telling me what machine to play as he was all out of money to lol.. had to borrow money the rest of the trip
I’m to tight to even do that. I played video poker once. I don’t know anything about poker. Guy beside me was telling me what to do. I started with 20 ended up with 60. I shot the guy beside me a 20 for helping and walked away. Went and ate buffet. Never had an urge to do it again. Not even lotto.
Great lecturer, looking at this from the 2023 future, when everyone is addicted to their phones, gambling apps are everywhere, loot box mechanics in games, and the AI is just about to completely take over...it seems like simpler times.
brilliant lecture. I'm one of those "pathological gamblers" who thinks they're somehow in control of the game. Control is key. We have so little control in the real world that control in this make believe world is very attractive.
Thank you for this video Dr. Souza for raising awareness of this sick disease of compulsive gambling. Part of the psychology of a compulsive gambler is that he wants to always win (well actually he wants to always play) and when you tell him he's never going to really win or get the "big win," he feels that you're taking away all his hopes and dreams. But we both know that winning is actually the worst thing that can happen to a pathological gambler. Thanks for the video, grateful recovering compulsive gambler
how bizarre, i have a family memeber dealing with compulsive gambling to sport betting. reading that "he really just wants to always play", was such an eye opener. how can one balance the urge to play and always wanting a W? i'm glad i do not participate in this because it seems mind spinning.
Gambling, porn, drugs etc are all Traps for the human mind. Understand the enemy deeply so you can know better how to deal with him. Just the fact that these Traps have manged to Ruin & Obliterate millions of L-i-f-e-s shows the Incredible Power and Grip that they have on the human Psyche. These traps are not to be underestimated..~!!
like trying to rationalize by thinking you can make money out of it, like a job. like "gamers" promoting casino online, pretending odds are not in there favour, or that they don't receive actual salaries from sponsors.
Top lecturer! I studied Consumer Psych' MSc and have had cannabis and gambling addictions along the way in life, and I really think the reward systems presented here and which I studied in Addictive Behaviours in my Psych' BSc should form part of the Consumer Psych MSc that I studied. I hope it is included now. I would've loved these lectures by this lecturer in my MSc course. I feel consumerism and addictive behaviours are highly related due to the things presented here that prove vendors of many products or services exploit the addictive nature of our brains to sell their shit. Im just anti consumerism altogether by now and have zero trust in businesses and politicians lol
Gambling is the worst thing happened to me and I fucken just can't stop. I live next to Atlantic City and I remember the first day I gamble 🎲 and lost 20 dollars I was upset for two days , now I lose every penny I make for the last 12 years , very sad 😔.
Its a heart wrenching disease destroys your soul and the depression from it is horrendous. Leaves u isolated and alone and leaves u riddled with guilt and anxiety cause u get money from somewhere u shouldn't
It's horrible & I know. As truckers- we have access to casinos all over, & we been to a lot. Pray to the Lord that you get so sick of it, that's exactly what I did & it's happening!!🙄try it
The lecture was very interesting and well delivered. I will try to find the lecture that gets into more of the physiological elements. By the way in 2018 Macau revenues are more than twice that of Las Vegas.
Winners don't have problems gambling. It's the losers who have the problem. Their problem is chasing losses. They can't just accept that they lost. No they got to go and they got to chase it to the end. And the losses always run faster than they do.
''I don't have a cellphone any more''. I thought I was the only one. Once you ditch it you see just how obsessive peoples' behaviour has become with them.
Someone said it's not the losing but the winning that ruins you, when you gambling your actually winning your way to losing, small wins get you more addicted till eventually you dip back into your own money again and again and again
Yeah I feel for you guys 😂, you guys have to deal with us type alot.. I just had to self ban myself because it is such a strong euphoria winning but losing sets a much different mood and I had to get out of that paradigm..
Addiction is crazy.. I know that my odds of winning anything is basically 0 but I still put my money in and lose it most of the time.. I know it is the worst thing in the world yet I still do it 😳 you can know all the facts yet still go through with it
Will power mm not so simple . Imagine you have a blinding headache and you have Tylenol in your medicine cabinet . Can will power take away the pain or will the Tylenol work faster. The gambler has a pain deep in him or her than only gambling relieves, it takes more than will power to deal with that pain
J ML yea will power won’t hear a cut either and probably won’t make you instantly forget about the gambling rush, but it can allow you to actually stop yourself from going and deal with whatever your feeling. Most people’s problem is boredom. Solve that and the addiction will lose its grip.
Very good knowledge on gambling it's highly additive just like drugs and alcohol there are so many addictions in this world just have be a strong and spiritual.
i think to win gambling on horses you need the right mentality..playing roulette and playing cards i don't know anything about ..only about 5% of people have the raw ability to win backing horses but of that 5% few have the right mentality.....i would always advice anyone DONT GAMBLE you are long odds to succeed
I've sat there 4 hours after putting in 100 on roulette made it up to 1000 and down to 5$ then back up to 400 then down some back up a few hundred then all down to 0. Only lost 100 of my own money but played with thousands of dollars winning and losing it back with the casinos money
True story. I once saw an old Italian man press the play button on a poker machine as he was clutching a cheap statuette of the Virgin Mary. So the statue was "hitting" the button as some sort of conduit of religious intervention. 😥 Tragic
Such a horrible feeling to blow your paycheck within 2 - 3 hours of getting it. Driving home with tears in your eyes and wondering how in the hell am I gonna pay for gas/groceries the next 13 days? Loans? Credit cards? Pawn shop? All terrible choices 😢
I’m my opinion there is no such thing as responsible gambling, maybe for some people with very strong self control and will power, but for a lot of people once you pop you can’t stop, it hypnotises you sends you into a trance and they are designed to do that, to keep you there, so better not to start at all especially when it comes to pokie machines, u can go in there planning on spending five dollars and spend 500 easy. Trick is to make a decision to not play them and stand by it, think about the pain it causes you, Our mind forgets the pain it causes alot of the time and just thinks about the good times it’s self destructive behaviour decide you aren’t going to do it any more and you will never win your losses back, let it go, cuz a win is a loss in pokies anyway and stay away from that environment, and don’t even put one dollar through, Ive had a problem with pokie machines and now I’ve decided to not go into clubs and pubs or drink alchohol or do things that trigger me to want to play, and I’m much happier that way
Gambling has two definitions. 1. Betting on an event for sport. 2. Making an assumed risk and betting on that risk. If you do no. 1, enjoy it but don't overdo it. If you do no.2, you will find out sooner or later if you have the math skills and discipline to succeed.
If anything, he didn't take a biased approach at all. I love gambling, but I will be the first one to admit that there is a dark side to it and that it certainly is not for everyone. I find it refreshing and honsest that he talks about this downside of gambling without treating it as the be all, end all of gambling - like so many self-righteous preachers out there do.
In a perfect world an individual could walk into a casino and risk a couple twenties once in a great while and be entertained briefly and not face financial ruin, but unfortunately that is not the real world and people are drawn in by a very devious well organized institution which is well versed on human weaknesses and knows how to exploit those weakness. The various governments who promote this reprobate industry and take a slice from the pie are no better and are not working toward the best interests of the citizenry. There is no winning unless you own a casino, otherwise stay away from this parasitic enterprise and find another way to be entertained and keep your money in your own bank account.
Casino Gambling can be 'fun' - as long as you are in a group, socialising and interacting with each other. If you have the urge to gamble on your own then you have a problem, because it is the most boring experience in the world. Solitary gamblers have something else going on in their lives that is driving them to gamble as an 'escape'
We are a society of gamblers. If you don't play in a casino perhaps you have your 401K or retirement account (which is another kind of gambling) and the list goes on. I'm a gambler and I have ups and downs! The secret is never bet more than you can afford to lose.
I see why you perceive the 401k as a form of gambling since it goes up and down in stock funds. Yet if one continues to contribute to it and don’t watch the ups and downs, over time it will grow nicely.
Gambling destroyed my life too. I played Craps for two years. I heard it has best odd to player. i lost almost 50 grands in two years in craps and black jack. some assholes convinced me that I could control the dice or beat the house by progressive betting. I ended up as a loser unfortunately.
+Cara Institute of Advanced Hypnosis you will WIN when you lose all so keep on trying for Win so that win comes when the win wants to come after trying so many wins
I looked at a short clip on UA-cam yesterday that made a lot of sense to me as someone who plays roulette, having spent ages working out all sorts of system & some quite successful...but I'm rarely able to hang on to my winnings & like many believe that if I can win some, then maybe I can win a lot more...anyhow the jist of what I viewed was that for an addicted gambler it is not about the money...it's the sheer joy of playing on & on for as long as possible no matter where in the hell the money comes from & borrowing is quite common with addicted gamblers..."Oh I will pay you back"...yeah right !!...anyhow it also said that a smart gambler who is not addicted will be quite content to call it a day once they having a satisying profit & that can vary from person to person too of course !!
Thomas McGillivray this is true. Even applies to earning or coming into money in general. Some people find it thrilling and love to be frivolous in spending and “live it up” while others are (imo) more sensible and realize the bigger goal/drive to continue to get ahead and create a more comfortable life long term rather than trying to buy excitement.
One day at a time is all it takes, you might win big one day but it will never be enough sadly to stop, that constant needing wins drives us to continue sadly,
I’ve lost probably close to $100,000 gambling and I still love it. I don’t love that my life is now an endless struggle in debt, but I had a lot of fun both winning and losing the money, and my life would have been more boring without it, and we are only here once. Do I want to die a boring life with a Ferrari and no debt or an exciting life with nothing left over?
I enjoy occasional gambling and so far (20 years) I have not lost (or made) any substantial amounts of money but it is fun and I enjoy it. I can step away if I want or go back - winning most of the time and losing some of the time. I would be disappointed if the opportunity would be taken away because some people are getting addicted and lose all their money.
***** Psychologists say that people who are degenerate gamblers actually don't enjoy winning, they want to lose to punish themselves for some reason. I never understood how anybody can get addicted to losing but there has to be some reason people steal and lie to their families just to keep throwing more money away.
This sounds a bit complicated to me. I understand the "high" one gets from winning and the "low" when losing. I feel that as an hour individual I am entitled to gamble with my money regardless of anyone's objections.
My mom used to go about once a month, it's ok. I had a problem with casinos, I don't like going anymore. I just got tired of it, especially the smoke!😝
@@Vidaldemonti you bring up a great point, no one should ruin your fun just because we got an addiction to it, we just need to stop gambling 💯 if we can't control ourselves
There is actually a way to make money. Not an EASY way but there is. Read business books, learn marketing and sales. And by the way people do not go to Casion because they want to win money, They believe this is the reason but It is not. I am a recovery addict myself, so Iknow what im talking about
Take what you are willing to LOSE and you will still maintain a semblance of control. If you win it is all gravy and if you lose, oh well... Be careful and know the odds going in. A very risky form of entertainment if you have a weakness towards gambling but a $1,500 vacation is a $1,500 vacation whether it's club med or Vegas...
When I hear people say this gambling is just a form of entertainment, just spend what you are willing to lose, it's similar to people who say its ok to shoot heroin or smoke crack every once in a while for entertainment. Casinos and gambling are designed to suck you in and addict you, everyone starts playing for entertainment. It's a fact that casinos spend millions of dollars to figure out better ways to addict people, and even hire addiction specialists and attend seminars. They aren't focused on entertaining you, they are focused on getting a hold on you and extracting as much money as possible from you. The money isn't in the entertainment, it's in the addiction.
randy109 In essence your statement sums up why gambling is a problem for many.When gambling is viewed as entertainment,we give ourselves permission to lose,a poor state of affairs.If we want to win or at least be Mr Even Steven,we need to view gambling as a far more serious activity than pure entertainment.Indeed if we can learn to ignore the adrenaline/emotional state brought on by gambling we can learn to stop losing.Gambling is a very serious activity that should never be viewed as entertainment or a way to pass time.Unfortunately for there to be winners there always needs to be more losers,so either give it away or get super serious,and only indulge where some degree of skill is involved.
I see gambling as a way to relax and have fun. Now it is even possible to play casino games without a house advantage, so even more addicting. For example you can play roulette with no zero, which is pretty unusual to see. I usually only play dozens strategies like the "Super Double Dozen" strategy, where the odds are good for winning, or another strategy for single dozens with higher payouts.
omg this class was really great hahaha xD remembered when i was in college, does anyone knows if they have MA counseling or education psychology classes? because I'm really interested on apllying to that program. Thank you
I m watching this because i am tired of feeling bad after loosing . My head feels is going to explode . I want to feel like before less stress and live a normal life and dint spend my hard earn money.
From this talk people gamble because they think they are going to win because of near misses etc but logically people should know that they will not win in the long run. Something is really messed up with these people or maybe everyone is susceptible under certain conditions. Its interesting why people would act in such as irrational way.
I'm watching these videos to help me overcome my gambling addiction. I don't want the anxiety and stress it causes anymore.
How is it going for you?
Im here for exact same reasom but my brain just seems not being able to understand this
I believe in you guys..go to the gym , etc you can change your mindset and have willpower and have self control..change your beliefs ..look at law of attraction videos on UA-cam..reprogram your thoughts..and know that we human beings are more than enough and nothing is impossible. Just believe. God wants your well being and loves you. You got this! Love and blessings!
what worked for me is being inside casino one day and just looking how miserable people around me are, and how i "shame" them, just to figure that i'm the same, if not worst. It started consume me inside, notion that i'm just "junkie" that spends time and money while being miserable.
Walked away, never looked back. Literally felt reborned within next 3 weeks.
Ofc now i have way more money as well, it's actually amazing how money finds way to you ,once you start burning it.
Good luck !! You can do it
step number one is : admit you are "junkie" that needs help.
Step 2: feel fine with notion that you will never get your money back. It's gone.
step 3: you are not "smarter, luckier or unluckier " than people who win and lose more. You all end up losing.
Step 4: walk away, but don't stress yourself about milestones. Day, week, month means nothing. Day after day simply avoid it. Affter some time you will feel 2 things:
1) you have more money
2 ) you are waaaaaaaaay less depressed.
3 ) It's not worth it
Well said great advice
I love this part "Day, week, month means nothing. Day after day simply avoid it. " So many people at 12 step meetings love to boast about the days and weeks and months. Whether you've abstained for 12 days or 12 years, the next bet could be right around the corner.
Exactly!!!
@@ricardosoca7380 been out of it for a year. Feels great. I hope that people used lockdown as great tool to get off addiction.
i agee with all besides step 3 some gamblers are luckier than others because ive witnessed with my own 2 eyes over the last 35 years.
One time I won $800 at the casino. I knew I should go home. However I told myself " hey let me play just $100 of this. Who knows, maybe I'll turn a good night into a great night. If I lose, who cares, I can then leave with a really good $700. However after losing the $100, now I say to myself " ehhh I couldddd try just $100 more. If I lose that I'll leave with that remaining $600. Still a heckuva day right? " Well next thing I know I'm down to $300 and my thought process changes to " omg I can't leave with a measley $300 when I had a really nice $800 three hours ago!!! I absolutely HAVE to get that $500 back!!! Then I'll be back to $800 and THIS TIME I'll leave ( supposedly ) " Down to $200, down to $100, down to $20. Need gas but say screw it, down to $0. Now I want to puke and/or kick myself in the nuts. Mentally exhausted, stressed out, sickening feeling as I have a walk of shame to my car 😢😭😡🤬🤮
Even worse doing this online. Way easier to sit home and do this can't imagine doing it in person
That's the biggest problem we face,if you win u can't leave unless you lose everything...
@@josephsiyanda.5112 Yep, fighting a losing battle.
Haha I lost 2K plenty of nights after being up
Been here too
I have been addicted to pretty much everything, drugs,alcohol,sex and gambling. Gambling has been the worse I’ve lost everything I’ve worked hard for and compulsively keep chasing my loses. I’m 26 and have lost 26k of my savings and now have nothing left. I struggle with the relationships around me and feel that I’ve destroyed myself and let everyone down. I can’t let go I’ve lost all my money and have won it back several times just to lose it all over again. It has been the worse emotional rollercoaster in my life and made me feel so worthless.
hey man how r u doing now? its hard but through Christ all things are possible... been an addict, drugs, sex, alcohol, porn, and now my mind wants me to go to gambling thats why im here watching this... 7 years clean and have been celibate for close to a year but the addict still rages... but Christ didnt die for me to give up He didnt die for us to give in... He died for us to have life and to have it more abundantly... hmu man...
I feel your pain
I’ve done the same thing
Been gambling for 11 years and this has happened to me over 100 times
It doesn’t get better, so Stop Now
!!!!!!!
Hey brother you might want to check if you have an ADHD.It sounds to me that you are always seeking a dopamine spike.If thats the case and you identify it many things,maybe all,that plagues you will fall in place and there are a lot of things that you can do to manage it and overcome it.
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I applaud your honesty. If you strive not to be wealthy but be healthy. To be healthy you must be prepared to pray through your darkness. Argue with God about how beautifully and wonderfully made, yet so flawed, so weak. Stay humble and work simple. Do not envy the 'winners'. Emulate the fulfilled. Well done for today friend. Tomorrow you may not promise - well done for today.
This professor obviously knows what he is talking about. He, not only has personal but, has professional insight into this subject. He is worth listening to.
This video is such gold. Love this guy. Great topic and amazingly executed. True blessings that this is publicly available
WOW, this man talking about smartphone addiction nearly 10 years ago!! Way ahead of his time!
Lol I did not have a cell phone untill I was 20 which was in 2008 but as soon as I got one my life has been on this phone 24/7 even as I am writing this
From working in a gas station for 2 years in Florida, I can say that I have experienced a lot of what this guy is talking about 1st hand. I have never gambled in my entire life, and watching the way that it controls people was one of the most existentially horrific things I've ever witnessed. It really changed the way that I thought about addiction.
The crazy part is, alot of people don't see how gambling can be addictive.. this addiction kills people emotionally
that is so accurate, gambling is a progressive addiction meaning it will just get worse over time. it is truly scary to watch people go to casinos and sink their life saving into the place. i have a family member who is addicted to sport betting and he has won a few times, thats usually the catlyst to this addiction, "a big win" occurs usually something like turning 20 bucks into 500 and its over
Can we get Michael to come and speak again? It's been 11 years since this talk, gambling has become much more rampant now especially with the rise of online casinos like stake. Would love to hear Michael talk about the current gambling situation, he's so eloquent in the way he hits the point home.
Agreed, he's an amazing speaker.
A wonderful lecture, a must for any compulsive gambler! Kudos to Dr Souza. Any of the idiotic comments recommending betting sites and claiming to make a living are either stupid or work for the sites!
I quit 6 months ago (again )went back two days ago lost all my savings .Now I had to handle all my cards to my mother and go for treatment.When you think you are cured ,you are not .Very sad disease.God bless you
That sucks, yeah if you got the disease you are stuck with it forever and it is better just not to gamble, I hate watching people win money and be able to leave that easy, my addiction stops me from doing that easily
@@sillywillie5076 I’m very glad I’m doing better investing on my self ,psycological treatment and personal goals .If I did anyone can
@@Costalongadiogo yeah I feel you, you should be proud of yourself because it is hard to stop doing no matter how long you stopped doing it for, I was clean for two years and it went down the drain in just a matter of moments that were weak.. any day that you do not gamble is a miracle when you have this curse.. I was 3 years clean of drinking and in a matter of seconds I was back to drinking just like that so it is important to keep staying clean for your own good, not for others sake
@@Costalongadiogo one thing that I commend you on though is you giving up your card to your mom, that is single handedly the most important thing you could have done for yourself, at my weakest point I could not grasp letting someone else hold on to my finances, my ego just could not let that happen but as I got older I realized that is the best thing to do! When we are at our weakest point we need to trust others to have our best interest
@@sillywillie5076 I know right sometimes in bad days the urge comes but I really talk to god and trust the universe to be strong and love your self the urge goes away .Now I have all my cards .I really pray for all gamblers it’s sad it really is especially good hearthy people like you
This is very interesting to me because my sister is a senior casino hostess. She comps everything from free night stays, show tickets, fine dining, cigarettes, just about anything to get the guests to keep coming back. It works. She encourages all players to use their club card. It is the casino's tracking device. If a player hasn't been tracked in a while they call them back with temping offers. The casinos know your habits better than you realize.
This is a brilliant lecture. Constantly referring to Las Vegas as Loss Vegas is a stroke of genius.
Yeah I went on a road trip from Cali to Florida with a friend and we stopped at Vegas, spent all the money I had all night long, had someone else telling me what machine to play as he was all out of money to lol.. had to borrow money the rest of the trip
To double your money, fold it up and put it in your pocket.
I’m to tight to even do that. I played video poker once. I don’t know anything about poker. Guy beside me was telling me what to do. I started with 20 ended up with 60. I shot the guy beside me a 20 for helping and walked away. Went and ate buffet. Never had an urge to do it again. Not even lotto.
Jaja I like that
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Great lecturer, looking at this from the 2023 future, when everyone is addicted to their phones, gambling apps are everywhere, loot box mechanics in games, and the AI is just about to completely take over...it seems like simpler times.
He gives a COMPASSIONATE lecture!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
brilliant lecture. I'm one of those "pathological gamblers" who thinks they're somehow in control of the game. Control is key. We have so little control in the real world that control in this make believe world is very attractive.
Im so tired of gambling 😭
Many use gambling to relieve painful thoughts of divorce or loss of a child . The escape builds the addition. gtret job
Finished his psych 207 course today :D he's definitely one memorable prof
Did you blow him dry
Aww would love to take his course
VERY GOOD LECTURE. This has started to open my eyes and mind on this topic.
Awesome prof. Highly recommend him for his extremely fluid lectures.
I just graduated from gambling after attending this class thanks professor
Thank you for this video Dr. Souza for raising awareness of this sick disease of compulsive gambling. Part of the psychology of a compulsive gambler is that he wants to always win (well actually he wants to always play) and when you tell him he's never going to really win or get the "big win," he feels that you're taking away all his hopes and dreams. But we both know that winning is actually the worst thing that can happen to a pathological gambler.
Thanks for the video, grateful recovering compulsive gambler
how bizarre, i have a family memeber dealing with compulsive gambling to sport betting. reading that "he really just wants to always play", was such an eye opener. how can one balance the urge to play and always wanting a W? i'm glad i do not participate in this because it seems mind spinning.
how do I get more recordings of this brilliant man's work. He covers so many critical elements.
Gambling, porn, drugs etc are all Traps for the human mind. Understand the enemy deeply so you can know better how to deal with him. Just the fact that these Traps have manged to Ruin & Obliterate millions of L-i-f-e-s shows the Incredible Power and Grip that they have on the human Psyche. These traps are not to be underestimated..~!!
Islam opened my eyes to all of these traps. So glad I found Islam. Alhumdulillah.
You know its an addiction when you try and win back the money you lost...
no, i disagree. The addiction isn't when you want to win and believe you can win,, it's when you think it's okay to lose and keep going.
like trying to rationalize by thinking you can make money out of it, like a job. like "gamers" promoting casino online, pretending odds are not in there favour, or that they don't receive actual salaries from sponsors.
Top lecturer! I studied Consumer Psych' MSc and have had cannabis and gambling addictions along the way in life, and I really think the reward systems presented here and which I studied in Addictive Behaviours in my Psych' BSc should form part of the Consumer Psych MSc that I studied. I hope it is included now. I would've loved these lectures by this lecturer in my MSc course. I feel consumerism and addictive behaviours are highly related due to the things presented here that prove vendors of many products or services exploit the addictive nature of our brains to sell their shit. Im just anti consumerism altogether by now and have zero trust in businesses and politicians lol
This lecturer is phenomenal
I'm not a gambler, but so interesting in the psychology and lures casinos use to get you to gamble. A wonderful talk, thank you.
Gambling is the worst thing happened to me and I fucken just can't stop. I live next to Atlantic City and I remember the first day I gamble 🎲 and lost 20 dollars I was upset for two days , now I lose every penny I make for the last 12 years , very sad 😔.
Replace the bad habit with a new habit. Make a routine so that everytime you want to gamble you do this other habit.
Its a heart wrenching disease destroys your soul and the depression from it is horrendous. Leaves u isolated and alone and leaves u riddled with guilt and anxiety cause u get money from somewhere u shouldn't
It's horrible & I know. As truckers- we have access to casinos all over, & we been to a lot. Pray to the Lord that you get so sick of it, that's exactly what I did & it's happening!!🙄try it
move to another place, get therapy
fadi azzam - how are you doing? Can you give us an update?
The lecture was very interesting and well delivered. I will try to find the lecture that gets into more of the physiological elements. By the way in 2018 Macau revenues are more than twice that of Las Vegas.
Winners don't have problems gambling. It's the losers who have the problem. Their problem is chasing losses. They can't just accept that they lost. No they got to go and they got to chase it to the end. And the losses always run faster than they do.
''I don't have a cellphone any more''.
I thought I was the only one. Once you ditch it you see just how obsessive peoples' behaviour has become with them.
That's so true I never realized how much Hollywood glamorized gambling. Everybody in the movies always wins.
May God help us overcome this addiction cause it’s ruining our lives 😞
I do sports betting but found a secret way to win in the long run .
Put it in your mom's ass@@kevinwilson3337
Someone said it's not the losing but the winning that ruins you, when you gambling your actually winning your way to losing, small wins get you more addicted till eventually you dip back into your own money again and again and again
Facts
By the way this guy is great professor
I'm a slot attendant and I see this every day people who gamble on the daily basis have a illness it's really sad to see
Yeah I feel for you guys 😂, you guys have to deal with us type alot.. I just had to self ban myself because it is such a strong euphoria winning but losing sets a much different mood and I had to get out of that paradigm..
Gambling ruined my life completely. Whenever I get money I try to chase my loses but end up stressed
Addiction is crazy.. I know that my odds of winning anything is basically 0 but I still put my money in and lose it most of the time.. I know it is the worst thing in the world yet I still do it 😳 you can know all the facts yet still go through with it
I’m so sorry
Its fuckin dopamine and serotonin Rush..brain chemistry..dont be impulsive
it would change his life more if he lost all the $ 70.000 rather than doubling it
exactly
Will power mm not so simple . Imagine you have a blinding headache and you have Tylenol in your medicine cabinet . Can will power take away the pain or will the Tylenol work faster. The gambler has a pain deep in him or her than only gambling relieves, it takes more than will power to deal with that pain
Spot on
J ML yea will power won’t hear a cut either and probably won’t make you instantly forget about the gambling rush, but it can allow you to actually stop yourself from going and deal with whatever your feeling.
Most people’s problem is boredom. Solve that and the addiction will lose its grip.
J ML no matter how much you win you will still feel like a lose. The win eases the pain but creates the desire to gamble more. It damages your brain
That man said a chipotle burrito cost $5 😂😂😂😂 gotta love inflation
Very good knowledge on gambling it's highly additive just like drugs and alcohol there are so many addictions in this world just have be a strong and spiritual.
I stopped gambling but went back again but I’m fighting it even harder…
I realized I had a gambling problem today when I walked in with 100 dollars was up to 500 dollars and walked out with 80 dollars.
That is a big problem. Should have bet the other 80. Nobody wins betting scared.
i think to win gambling on horses you need the right mentality..playing roulette and playing cards i don't know anything about ..only about 5% of people have the raw ability to win backing horses but of that 5% few have the right mentality.....i would always advice anyone DONT GAMBLE you are long odds to succeed
@@etiennedegaulle3817 lol I went to Vegas with 500 and left with 100.. if only I would of tried
You're not a full blown addict though. Or you would have walked out with $0 dollars, like me 🤬😡😱😭😢
I've sat there 4 hours after putting in 100 on roulette made it up to 1000 and down to 5$ then back up to 400 then down some back up a few hundred then all down to 0. Only lost 100 of my own money but played with thousands of dollars winning and losing it back with the casinos money
True story. I once saw an old Italian man press the play button on a poker machine as he was clutching a cheap statuette of the Virgin Mary. So the statue was "hitting" the button as some sort of conduit of religious intervention.
😥 Tragic
Such a horrible feeling to blow your paycheck within 2 - 3 hours of getting it. Driving home with tears in your eyes and wondering how in the hell am I gonna pay for gas/groceries the next 13 days? Loans? Credit cards? Pawn shop? All terrible choices 😢
Takes weeks to make what we lose in an hour
Been there, horrendous
@@dididhbdde6571 You got that right. Sometimes months 😥
After the lecture this guy went home and tried to hit a 10 team parlay and hoping he wouldn’t need to give another lecture again.
Amazing speaker
This is very professional with good research. I am a real gambler trying to escape. I know what he is talking about.
The way that all these gambling venues deceive people out of their money is nothing short of psychological extortion/torture.
This is posted 13 years ago. What do you know now?? thank you for a really good resource!
I’m my opinion there is no such thing as responsible gambling, maybe for some people with very strong self control and will power, but for a lot of people once you pop you can’t stop, it hypnotises you sends you into a trance and they are designed to do that, to keep you there, so better not to start at all especially when it comes to pokie machines, u can go in there planning on spending five dollars and spend 500 easy. Trick is to make a decision to not play them and stand by it, think about the pain it causes you, Our mind forgets the pain it causes alot of the time and just thinks about the good times it’s self destructive behaviour decide you aren’t going to do it any more and you will never win your losses back, let it go, cuz a win is a loss in pokies anyway and stay away from that environment, and don’t even put one dollar through, Ive had a problem with pokie machines and now I’ve decided to not go into clubs and pubs or drink alchohol or do things that trigger me to want to play, and I’m much happier that way
Amazing video. Absolutely amazing
Gambling has two definitions.
1. Betting on an event for sport.
2. Making an assumed risk and betting on that risk.
If you do no. 1, enjoy it but don't overdo it.
If you do no.2, you will find out sooner or later if you have the math skills and discipline to succeed.
If anything, he didn't take a biased approach at all. I love gambling, but I will be the first one to admit that there is a dark side to it and that it certainly is not for everyone. I find it refreshing and honsest that he talks about this downside of gambling without treating it as the be all, end all of gambling - like so many self-righteous preachers out there do.
it 2023 and this video only has 310000 views .i live in south africa and many casino are opening up
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In a perfect world an individual could walk into a casino and risk a couple twenties once in a great while and be entertained briefly and not face financial ruin, but unfortunately that is not the real world and people are drawn in by a very devious well organized institution which is well versed on human weaknesses and knows how to exploit those weakness.
The various governments who promote this reprobate industry and take a slice from the pie are no better and are not working toward the best interests of the citizenry.
There is no winning unless you own a casino, otherwise stay away from this parasitic enterprise and find another way to be entertained and keep your money in your own bank account.
Casino Gambling can be 'fun' - as long as you are in a group, socialising and interacting with each other. If you have the urge to gamble on your own then you have a problem, because it is the most boring experience in the world. Solitary gamblers have something else going on in their lives that is driving them to gamble as an 'escape'
While you at it why dont you tell Crack heads to stay out the cracks house and that alcoholic to stay away from the bar?
We are a society of gamblers. If you don't play in a casino perhaps you have your 401K or retirement account (which is another kind of gambling) and the list goes on. I'm a gambler and I have ups and downs! The secret is never bet more than you can afford to lose.
I see why you perceive the 401k as a form of gambling since it goes up and down in stock funds. Yet if one continues to contribute to it and don’t watch the ups and downs, over time it will grow nicely.
great lecture. thanks for the upload
15:35 when it gets real
How can someone be assisted if he or she had been seriously addicted by gambling please?
Gambling destroyed my life too. I played Craps for two years. I heard it has best odd to player. i lost almost 50 grands in two years in craps and black jack. some assholes convinced me that I could control the dice or beat the house by progressive betting. I ended up as a loser unfortunately.
Search Jesús 🙏😑
I lost $6666 in craps.
Dice were against me. Still need to pay the debt bcz I bet on credit
The varied response is a huge hook because the next play could be a hit. Varied response works on lab rats as well as humans. It's very interesting.
Lost more money than I care to admit. I’m always hoping to get the grand jackpot and gambled away my needed money.
Thanks bro i went to a casino on my birthday and never stopped lol
I play poker. I win more than i lose. BUT!!! I listen and learn. This info will help my hourly win rate.
A brilliant talk thank you.
Phenomenal lecture.
I already know how to lose, professor, teach us how to win.
+Cara Institute of Advanced Hypnosis
you will WIN when you lose all so keep on trying for Win so that win comes when the win wants to come after trying so many wins
open a casino
Don't play. That's how you win
I looked at a short clip on UA-cam yesterday that made a lot of sense to me as someone who plays roulette, having spent ages working out all sorts of system & some quite successful...but I'm rarely able to hang on to my winnings & like many believe that if I can win some, then maybe I can win a lot more...anyhow the jist of what I viewed was that for an addicted gambler it is not about the money...it's the sheer joy of playing on & on for as long as possible no matter where in the hell the money comes from & borrowing is quite common with addicted gamblers..."Oh I will pay you back"...yeah right !!...anyhow it also said that a smart gambler who is not addicted will be quite content to call it a day once they having a satisying profit & that can vary from person to person too of course !!
Thomas McGillivray this is true. Even applies to earning or coming into money in general. Some people find it thrilling and love to be frivolous in spending and “live it up” while others are (imo) more sensible and realize the bigger goal/drive to continue to get ahead and create a more comfortable life long term rather than trying to buy excitement.
Watching this while placing another one of my bet :'(
One day at a time is all it takes, you might win big one day but it will never be enough sadly to stop, that constant needing wins drives us to continue sadly,
@@sillywillie5076 like chasing a big shadow
I’ve lost probably close to $100,000 gambling and I still love it. I don’t love that my life is now an endless struggle in debt, but I had a lot of fun both winning and losing the money, and my life would have been more boring without it, and we are only here once. Do I want to die a boring life with a Ferrari and no debt or an exciting life with nothing left over?
Damn😂
Pick boring!
I enjoy occasional gambling and so far (20 years) I have not lost (or made) any substantial amounts of money but it is fun and I enjoy it. I can step away if I want or go back - winning most of the time and losing some of the time. I would be disappointed if the opportunity would be taken away because some people are getting addicted and lose all their money.
***** Psychologists say that people who are degenerate gamblers actually don't enjoy winning, they want to lose to punish themselves for some reason. I never understood how anybody can get addicted to losing but there has to be some reason people steal and lie to their families just to keep throwing more money away.
This sounds a bit complicated to me. I understand the "high" one gets from winning and the "low" when losing. I feel that as an hour individual I am entitled to gamble with my money regardless of anyone's objections.
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My mom used to go about once a month, it's ok. I had a problem with casinos, I don't like going anymore. I just got tired of it, especially the smoke!😝
@@Vidaldemonti you bring up a great point, no one should ruin your fun just because we got an addiction to it, we just need to stop gambling 💯 if we can't control ourselves
People get addicted to gambling because the casino lets you win the first 3 spins. You are then hooked.
I use that same Chipotle burrito conversion!
this guy is a ledge... thanks you Dr Souza
There is actually a way to make money. Not an EASY way but there is. Read business books, learn marketing and sales. And by the way people do not go to Casion because they want to win money, They believe this is the reason but It is not. I am a recovery addict myself, so Iknow what im talking about
Take what you are willing to LOSE and you will still maintain a semblance of control. If you win it is all gravy and if you lose, oh well... Be careful and know the odds going in. A very risky form of entertainment if you have a weakness towards gambling but a $1,500 vacation is a $1,500 vacation whether it's club med or Vegas...
When I hear people say this gambling is just a form of entertainment, just spend what you are willing to lose, it's similar to people who say its ok to shoot heroin or smoke crack every once in a while for entertainment. Casinos and gambling are designed to suck you in and addict you, everyone starts playing for entertainment. It's a fact that casinos spend millions of dollars to figure out better ways to addict people, and even hire addiction specialists and attend seminars. They aren't focused on entertaining you, they are focused on getting a hold on you and extracting as much money as possible from you. The money isn't in the entertainment, it's in the addiction.
randy109 In essence your statement sums up why gambling is a problem for many.When gambling is viewed as entertainment,we give ourselves permission to lose,a poor state of affairs.If we want to win or at least be Mr Even Steven,we need to view gambling as a far more serious activity than pure entertainment.Indeed if we can learn to ignore the adrenaline/emotional state brought on by gambling we can learn to stop losing.Gambling is a very serious activity that should never be viewed as entertainment or a way to pass time.Unfortunately for there to be winners there always needs to be more losers,so either give it away or get super serious,and only indulge where some degree of skill is involved.
On television and commercials they are always showing slot machines and casinos!!
I see gambling as a way to relax and have fun. Now it is even possible to play casino games without a house advantage, so even more addicting. For example you can play roulette with no zero, which is pretty unusual to see. I usually only play dozens strategies like the "Super Double Dozen" strategy, where the odds are good for winning, or another strategy for single dozens with higher payouts.
Thanks for sharing that lecture and story. It will help.
You must have missed the part at the end about the person suing the casino.
omg this class was really great hahaha xD remembered when i was in college, does anyone knows if they have MA counseling or education psychology classes? because I'm really interested on apllying to that program. Thank you
they just want to take your money, they give you a bit back but only a bit ,thats all, to gamble is stupid
the one i saw was a life saving on red and lost
Very informative. Thank you
I m watching this because i am tired of feeling bad after loosing . My head feels is going to explode . I want to feel like before less stress and live a normal life and dint spend my hard earn money.
From this talk people gamble because they think they are going to win because of near misses etc but logically people should know that they will not win in the long run. Something is really messed up with these people or maybe everyone is susceptible under certain conditions. Its interesting why people would act in such as irrational way.
This guy is great!...
Gambling is totally a lie designed for lossers no one can beat those dent of thieves.
My brother always tells me they are still a business for a reason, because THEY always win in the end
Unless you count cards
Marriage is much much worse than a casino
Lmao, like the saying goes, marriage is grand divorce is a hundred grand... Just another trap for your money
Thanks for the information...l always wondered why people enjoy gambling?🙄 Quite pessimistic endeavors!
Does anyone know how to remove my pleasure sensors
Focus on the pain sensors
Hugely interesting lecture.
Very true video!!! Thanks eye opener!!!
I get better cards when I wear a gold watch to a poker cash game, it’s strongly correlated
OK….
Amazing. Very important stuff right here.