When I was 15, I wanted a girlfriend. A pretty girl, "arm candy". I found her but, she had no passion. So, at 19, I found an incredibly beautiful lass that had all the passion a man could desire but, she wasn't very smart. Then at 28 I found a great girl... beautiful, passionate, smart with exceptional communication skills. She was an attorney. I married her. Two years later she took me to court, divorced me and took everything that I owned. Now, I just want a girl with big tits.
_"Now, I just want a girl with big tits."_ 😄 She'll use them to get what she wants from you, then discard you for another man in her orbit waiting on his turn once she's bored with you.
All i see is a sea of Red Flags. I am so jaded after all the walking on egg shells and being what my ex's wanted me to be. Single for 10 years and there is no going back, the freedom is priceless. I was a merchant seaman all my life and i honestly believe it has been a natural transition because i am very comfortable being alone. Thinking back all of my relationships were a pain in the butt, i don't miss any of them.
After my 1st wife walked on me, i “though” I learned a few things! and took that to My 2nd married. Big mistake Wife #2 “checked out” after 5 years….. but kept living In my home for 12 more years until she found the right guy to Monkey branch to. Supporting her for 17 years and then fighting in divorce courts to keep what’s mine cost me $800,000. Ugh all the rental Properties investments I wish I had instead! Not a millionaire anymore thanks to investing in wife #2’s businesses. They all crashed ams burned and all that equity lost was all the equity of 1 of my businesses! I invested in my wife because I wanted to help her launch and feel happy about being successful Hoping they would make her happy Oh hell no If a women is not happy, nothing will change that. If a man try’s to make a women happy with his wealth, haha he is a fool, like I was. Now-a-days after 5 years after my endless covid extended 2nd divorce, my life has been #MGTOW. I’m redpill now and share what I learned with young men every day.
After my 1st wife walked on me, i “though” I learned a few things and took that to My 2nd married. Big mistake Wife #2 “checked out” after 5 years….. but kept living In my home for 12 more years until she found the right guy to Monkey branch to Supporting her ans fight in divorce courts to keep what’s mine cost me $800,000 Not a millionaire anymore thanks to investing in wife #2’s businesses All along Hoping they would make her happy Oh hell no If a women not happy, nothing will change that. If a man’s try’s to make a women happy with his wealth, haha he is a fool, like I was. Now-a-days after 5 years after NT 2nd divorce, my life has been #MGTOW. I’m redpill now and share what I learned with young men every day
@@MattyLiam333 Good Stuff, I don't know about you but when you have been around a bit it always ends up the same. So why put yourself through it all again, it's only the names and faces that change. Buy more toys instead !!! 😁😁
Dating later in life is awesome! You don't have to worry about kids or marriage anymore. You feel much more free in a relationship when a woman can't hold these things over you.
@@Greentunic84 God gave me a really hot younger chick at this point in my life. And then 6 months later he turned my dick to mush. Ya it's great having a young hottie and no way to enjoy that. Being old rocks!
As a 40 year old woman this is great to hear. I definitely fall short on some and am striving now more than ever to course correct my life for the better. I definitely am off the dating market for a couple years to focus on myself to come out on the other side ready for something better…. or not! Being single is actually great!
I'm really liking your channel. I'm mid divorce after 32 years together. So much of what you say is so real and true to me. I was in love with my continued illusion of her, the last 10 years, not the real her.
Two big things to remember are that as a man, you are not an entertainment director, and each person in the relationship is responsible for their own happiness.😊
⚠ Beware the polite, demure, and dignified Covert-Narcissistic Female - with her pets. Do NOT stay beyond the second empty apology, or the second irrational, unaccountable circular argument that wrecks a 'perfect' moment together. 👉Heed their ACTIONS, not their words. Just Get out and STAY out!
I can read so much between the lines that we may have experienced thesame horrors of coming aware of what an narcissist is , an covert narcissist. Hope you are doing well on your course of healing.
Best green flags for me when I’m pursuing a relationship or friendship with women are: * Meekness and shyness in the way that she is humble does not want to be the centre of attention, this show virtue and humility. * Another green flag is a lover of books over a lover of instagram. Shows that she can be alone in her company and a drive to explore and learn even in the confides of her own imagination.This is great is you want kids with her. *The ability to understand and see and admit her own contradictions, faults, and hypocrisies. This show self reflection and loss of unneeded pride. * Her not having debt, especially student loan debt. This shows she is smart and wise with money and not easily swayed by authority figures and mass media. It well know that women hold majority of student debt.
I like your green flags. My ex had spirituality, role models, self-development interests, experience with children among other things (from John's list) but, in my opinion, a lot of these are sort of virtue signal devices at their best. I'm not saying this is subject to generalization but I digress. Your list ftw!
@@whatsupbudbud oh yeah, this is why is said shyness and meakness is a green flag, her virutes and "femininity" are not some type of cloth that she puts on for the masses, virtue is not for the gram but for the soul.
This is a great list but at this point in my life, I’m pretty much done with women. Too many bad experiences and just ain’t willing to try anymore. The only green flag I’m looking for at this point is if they’re walking in the other direction.
I hear ya Brah. I'm with you 100%. I've seen too much, and know too much, to ever take a walk on the wild side again. There's just nothing to gain, but too much to lose.
For women, a lot of these would just be an addendum and might as well be a _nice to have_ list behind the man's career, prestige and potential, etc.. Another green flag is if she clearly has a long and demonstrated history to having the same attitude toward spending as you. As frankly an extremely responsible person isn't supposed to balance an irresponsible person and expect that to be fruitful rather than a burden (perhaps for both people).
@gailflora1835 exactly! I don't feel a lot of what he talks about is gender-specific. I witnessed a lot of these behaviors with a man I was with 6 years ago. Men and women are definitely different, but there are as many crazy men out there as there are crazy women.
After going through divorce I realized that there is truly nothing about a relationship that would bring me a benefit. You could argue sex... but is that worth all the negatives. Nope. Is that guaranteed? Nope. What is guaranteed is spending time and money on someone that could burn me again. EVERYONE thought they found a diamond in the rough before divorce. Pass.
You nailed it John. As I think back about it (and in my own case) my late mother demonstrated every single one of the 10 attributes you talk about. And which I strongly suspect may at least partially explain why she and dad managed to stay together for almost 60 years. Mom loved everything from opera to babies, to animals, to shooting the breeze with the ladies who hand out free samples at Costco,to far eastern religion and mysticism to the Dali Lama to poetry, to shopping at Goodwill and the list goes on and on.
I'm doing what you said staying single it's been 9 years now she left November 2015 when I was divorced 2018 of August just got myself financially fixed up again not 100% paid off the house again and guess what she's living with her mom and her stepdad cuz she can't afford to be on her own😂
I'm glad the algorithm started suggesting your videos a couple weeks ago. The nature sounds and calming delivery makes your videos a pleasure to listen to on a crisp fall morning with the kids.
The problem is that it is impossible to know who your future girlfriend partners were (ie gym badboy, rich finance guy, player, athletic guy etc....) and she is going to compare you to them. That is the issue... you might think you are having great sex with her or that you are a gent and treat her great.....but someone else she has been with was better and if you don't match to the standard in her mind then eventually bye bye.
I am married to a woman that has ALL the first 8 characteristics BUT fails miserably on the last 2 and the relationship is pretty much non salvageable. I have a great relationship with her mother who lives with us and my teen age step sons (non tension), but the emotional immaturity and out of balance with internal locos of control of my wife has been profoundly destructive. Of course, I've paid for everything for 4 years (800K more in expenditures above my prior budget due to the relationship). So, I simply and not sure of anything but don't marry after you have experienced the insanity of modern women twice now. Thanks for your channel!
No offense, but unless you married a widow, you married a single mom with kids, what did you expect? She sees you as the back up plan and nothing more.
@@Blackraptor1234 I am not complaining to the world. I am sharing that EVEN if a woman has 8 out of 10 "green" characteristics that does not protect you from a bad experience. It was a public service announcement. And when you are in your 40 or 50s a woman with no children probably has as many issues as the single mom. Granted the single mom situation is harder do to be outnumbered by her and kids. :) And, My wife has practiced neurology as a doctor for 20+ years which doesn't change the level of crazy as I would have hoped. I take FULL responsibility for my life and decisions.
I'm a player, but divorced twice. But that's not the end of the world. So much in life doesn't matter. Keep your senses about you you maybe OK. Not like me who can't think straight around a pretty girl. 😅. There wisdom in your words John.
You needed to make this video. There's something I call "red pill anger" that guys go through when they start seeing the light. Most go through it for a while before they can start living again. Others never come out of it.
I know, I see it all the time in the comments. Most young Andrew Tate Followers. Very funny. they think they know something special. All they know is to say no to women. I guess they prefer to pleasure themselves?
I felt red pill rage, to a degree, as I left religion behind. There was a simmering anger about being lied to all my life (growing up), and having truth withheld. Then, angry at myself as an adult for not seeing g the truth sooner and leaving earlier. Religions are expert at gas-lighting. Never forget this. And their motto should be “get them young”!
@@learningisfun2108 It’s not red pill to leave Christianity (I assume you weren’t Muslim - were you?). Leaving Christianity is the popular deconstructionist thing to do. The rebellious red pill thing to do these days is to enter a church after being told you whole life there is no God.
@@learningisfun2108 Their motto actually IS "get them young". Proverbs 22:6 says, "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it". (Even if it's bullshit!) Children cannot see that religion is nonsense, and later they cling to it as adults without ever examining it.
im 59, 6'5'' ex chad. have had more vajj than most, agree with what you say, but i have yet to find a single one of even half decent quality, let alone a great woman. there are no shortage of self centered, narcissistic, wack jobs out there; this i know for sure.
Exactly. But if you have any game at all, good “dateflow” is easy to generate. There are women past 40 who want to get laid a few days a week and then go back to her apartment.
@@mjaybee it has nothing to do with game. even those who just want a shot every now and then, you are still going to have to deal with some kind of psycho, disrespectful, bs. they get sooooooo desperate, needy, with age, its unreal.
Bugger i made a post on other video which was better suited to this one, the very next video i watched. But yet again im in full agreement and wish i hadve known much of this before being overwhelmingly love bombed. John's advice aligns perfectly with my life experiences so i wouldn't dismiss any of it lightly. The question im wondering now is how long before women start flooding this channel to learn what the good men are looking for. It would be nice to see it and hopefully happens.
Animals is NOT automatic green. It can be misplaced love because she can't love or calm herself. Think comfort Animals, that is a red flag, because you are her second comfort animal. That said, animal for empathy is green. Just saying love for animals is tricky. I wouldn't use it for green or red flag since it's tricky.
Exactly on point , coming from experience...the narc's work this way ... They can't be alone in thoughts whatsoever so they often has animals around them to keep them busy from the reality of all the people that they have destroyed.
The locus of control is a big one. When I met my girl who later became my wife, she had lived a rather protected and crisis-free life. As a result, she never developed the coping mechanisms in dealing with life’s ups and downs. She would fall apart whenever things didn’t quite go as planned, get belligerent and proceed to blame everyone and everything but herself. She did outgrow it, but it took a LOT of patience on my part. In the end, I have a wonderful wife (30 years and going strong) who is much more resilient to the bumps in the road than she was when I first met her. Would it have been easier to have the locus of control software preloaded? Sure would be, but at least she did come around.
1. Check her friends 2. Does she like children 3. Does she show gratitude to you 4. Is she happy 5. Has she completed college 6. Is she a party girl 7. Has lots of tattoos 8. Does she say sorry 9. how her parents are and what kind of relationship they have 10.does she takes responsibility These are the questions which I ask myself about the girl I'm dating before taking her seriously.
Let's not forget physical health and yes that includes being fit, slim and flexible because in my experience women who exercise are healthier, happier, and have higher self-esteem. The other benefits of healthy, happy woman are obvious.
I mostly agree to the green flags, I have about 20. But that is a guy that is 51 and it's good advise for older men that have found those answers. But a young man doesn't typically have that maturity from his own failures. I have a new neighbor that is 30 and a pilot in the military. Thin fit young man that has a good head on his shoulders. I tell him to take it slow and I gave him the book " the rational male " for better understanding of human nature. I send him these videos to assist him in his questions. It's funny, my 2nd ex wife hit most of the green flags, but the one that is specific was how she should be with her kids with a step dad. She was training her kids to not respect me as they grew older and they had seen the divide. She want them protected and I was teaching the to be independent. As older men, we will date mothers, and how they treat a man around their children, can be a flag on its own(green or red). It was what separated us. Not our relationship that her and I had, but the relationship with the kids I raised that were not mine. I did not see that one coming. Still love my ex wife, but she was a poor supporter of the rules and confidence that I was teaching young men. It's always what we learn when in a relationship shows us the flags we need to see.😊
So many guys will say that all women are just a ticket to hell, and yes, if you don't pick wisely, that's true. Also true it that picking the right woman will help you find heaven on earth. That's not simping, voice of experience with a wonderful woman who made my life incredible for 25 years. This is an excellent list, and if you follow it, I can't see how you can go wrong.
Current gf scores 3/10. Or 3/9 if we ignore animals, because I've never heard her express anything positive or negative about animals, so I can't see docking her for that. In any event I'm not totally surprised. I know who she is I think and she's not long-term. But she's fun now... ✅ Religious & spiritual ✅ Good family relationships (but not with either parent) ✅ Emotionally mature Is it enough? With no mentor, absent father & clingy dependent mother, no real hobbies, no experience with (and possible aversion to) children, and differing though not wildly different view on our family future... ya, probably not.
Those are all fine traits but realistically how many women have those traits in this day & age? My 24 yr old son said he hasn't met any girls with those traits. He says they spend all their time on Instagram, TikToc, Tinder, etc. & don't even know how to carry on a conversation. Lol. And I haven't met any women in my age group (63) with those traits either - they too are glued to their phones. The world has changed because of technology - we're all becoming cybertronic junkies. 😆
Time 9:40......47 y.o., i was married for 13 years, marriage ended december 2018.......there are many wonderful things about women. You(we men) just need to be realistic about their nature and motives.....do not get "starry eyed romantic" to the point you ignore their behavior,motives
I don't fully agree with the animal part. Off course, there is nothing wrong with loving animals, like children do. However, there are many angry, selfish catladies who have failed in relationships and are not empathic to humans at all. The sister of the girlfriend of my oldest son told me that she is going to work with animals only, she doesn't want a job which involves dealing with people. She intends to dedicate her life to "saving animals". She is 19 and pretty, I'm 59 and wouldn't want to spend a day with her, because of her lack of empathy.
another great video by a wise man. admits there are still good women out there. my starting criteria is are they “hot”. those other positive green flags can be considered later on. oh well guess that’s the basic trap we fall into..
The trouble with all this red flag/green flag exercise is that you are trying to apply objective methods to a subjective problem. In the end, the chances of success are slim.
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Great video John! Love the advice to the young guys. And the last words are so spot on regarding taking your time. I like to add by taking your time and being patient, you set the frame and it anchors you more solidly in your masculinity. Women completely vibe off of your patience and sexual discipline… it think it makes them feel and causes them to submit and go with the flow. I appreciate your channel. Stay well.
I can't quite agree on everything that is said in this video. If someone loves animals that doesn't necessarily mean that they are any better than any other person. There is plenty of people that love animals but don't like people as much for example. Still probably a good tell if someone is abusing animals - you can expect the similar treatment if not the same. But loving animals means loving animals first and foremost. I wouldn't bet on that when it comes to commitment between two people. I am split about the parents part as well. I get it, of course. I agree that good relations with parents and siblings is a green flag. Still I cannot shake the feeling that it isn't right to automatically 'judge' someone's character if the person has bad relations with their parents. Can you expect the person to carry on bad interpersonal patterns? Most certainly. Can people learn and change? I believe so. Is a bad relationship with a parent (or both parents) their fault? Who knows. I'd abstain from making this judgement. I love the 'internal locus of control' part and I'd put it front and center: If someone cannot find joy in the way things already are, best to stay away. The only catch-22 with this is : If someone is truly at peace with oneself - why add anyone else to that or change it in any way? Life is a mystery, gents. Amor fati.
I agree. I know someone who loves animals and works for an animal charity. She a terrible person (narcissistic) who hates humans. She is very vocal about her hatred for humanity (thinks global depopulation would be a great thing) She is also a vegan. Stay away from vegans.
I graduated HS in 1980 and all throughout the 80's and into the mid 90's had the time of my life because I had the respect, the looks and the tools (car, motorcycle, boat and self employed) to make it all happen. Then, at age 37 I decided to settle down and got married to a covert narcissist. I went through pure he77 for the majority of our 17 year marriage and I'm still licking my wounds and its been 5 years since I divorced her. However, you hit the nail on the head when you said women used to respect and look up to men and in reverse, we wanted to provide, care for and love them. Without respect, there is nothing.
Hello, John. Nice video. I believe you are 100% right, and those points are incredibly accurate and necessary. I would put emotional maturity at the top of the list as number one. While I was listening to each point, I thought to myself, maybe we should title this episode “She Doesn’t Exist.” 😂 I’m kidding-I think she does, but man, I’d rather spend the rest of my life alone. If I eventually stumble upon her, I would probably accept, but this list is so real and so true. I understand why, when you’re 16, 18, or 20, it’s better to have no idea what you’re doing in order to mate. If I had come across this list earlier in my life, it would have implied that I needed to grow to discern each aspect. Anyway, it’s a good list. Thank you again
You said your wife looked so good like a model or did modelling. That is the worst wife material just good looks. Such women usually are narcissistic and selfish. My observations are women who are modest looking and behaving without bright and revealing clothes with no loud behaviour or princess traits. Very important she comes from a good family where both parents are together and her father is respected in the family. When you are dating her she let's you decide about things and not tells you what to do. The truth however is women like these are so rare and usually already snatched at young age that it is becoming less sensible to even bother searching for one. If one can't find a kind submessive woman solitude appears next best thing😊 Much better it seems than living with a selfish contentious woman. Simps are usually afraid to live alone as they are so used to having a boss around😂
I have to respectfully disagree on the "animal lover" thing. I've met a lot of women (and men) who fall into this category who are not good people. Many times, they have issues building healthy relationships with other people and gravitate towards animals (primarily dogs) since there is far less work required to form a bond. My motto, based on my life experience and rational thinking is, being a pet owner doesn't make you a good person, nor does not wanting pets in your life make you a bad person. There are far more important and more complex things to consider regarding the quality of someone's character.
Sir, regarding your comment about younger men, there is a massive disconnect between the below 30 generation and the above 30... a friend of mine had said: "they're tiktok brains"... they just swipe at the slightest moment for any or no reason. They treat men across them like a 5 second Tiktok video which is why their behaviour is evil and perceived to be so... they cannot differentiate between a social media video human and a human in real life as they grew up with it... unlike us who met social media after we lived in the offline world of human connection... I've dealt with above 30s and below 30s even 19-22s and 20 years ago they would be locked in a mental asylum... and many many.... all real life, all met at cafes, at bookshops and the sort... Younger women have been destroyed by Tiktok... They are nothing like the 20 year olds I met 20 years ago... Their outlook to life is like a brain mush in general... are there outliers? I'm sure there are... but it's like finding a unicorn...
Hey glad someone said it. If you are old and out of the game, they have very little room to be talking on dating. Are there some decent women? Sure. The vast majority isn't it though. Its why 60% of men that age are single. 1/2 of that want a relationship but aren't in a position to get one, and rhe other 1/2 realize what a crapshow it is. You basically have to be born lucky in a community that has value now so you meet a girl that was raised right as a young man to have any hopes of finding someone decent. The vast majority of guys will not be able to have a relationship with a woman who has green flags, simply because there aren't many women with green flags anymore. Its why the math is fun. If only 30% of women were decent, that means at best 30% of men can get an actual decent relationship. So 70% of men would not find a decent woman no matter what. And its very much reflected in what we see today. So more and more men are opting out entirely.
Most important from my experience is, make sure her and her mother respect the father as the man of the house. if she doesn't respect her father, she will not respect you!!!
Take care with the animal lover as a green flag. Many girls use animals as a source of narcissistic supply. Taking care of an animal is much easier than a person that may call you out for your bad behaviour. A lot of women also have them as an accessory. Tread carefully, my ex was kind and head over heels in love with her dogs until their care became more complex. The care and love shown may be a covering for covert traits. Having said this I still think it’s a green flag indication worth taking into consideration.
Great advice. Regarding animals, however, I tend to see that as a red flag lol. I have met many people who obsess over animals and neglect their children and others. It is almost like they love animals and hate people. I find this trait to be correlated with emotional immaturity often.
The 10 Greek flags are really just about creating a commitment. I assume that love can come along. It’s been my experience that romantic love often times it’s just a projection.
Hey, I agree as a woman to nearly all of these. But if your parents have mental illnesses, that's not your issue, and ot your fault, but I agree that then you need to have a strong mentor, a "noble north", and a strong believe in a higher power and learn the ability to regulate yourself. I experienced all of that and I am now a strong, caring and loyal woman. Beware of "hero-drinkers"! Alcohol can be a brutal thing! I think men or women should look after someone who is not drinking or numbs themselves with other stuff.....strong and sober couples, strong children ❤ greetings from Germany
There are times when you need to listen to your head and not your heart. Just because you’re pain will be delayed doesn’t mean it will be less painful. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. It’s much more likely with the Pena experience in the future will be multiple times more than what you experience now if you just ended it. Because in the future commitment to her will have increased significantly. You might even have children with her. And then she will take you for all your money and she will probably cheat on you. You’ll lose your children you’ll lose your money and you’ll lose your peace of mind. Nothing is worth that
You seriously need therapy for your problematic childhood and other issues. It is a psychological "law" that we unconsciously are living under the condition of repetition compulsion. You are burnt but attracted to fire... This means that the soul wants to develop, grow, and be free to become what it is meant to be. But we got hurt, misdirected, and stopped under way, by certain important people (like parents) and certain circumstances that have been too hard to escape. These were so difficult to stand, so they didn't come fully clear to us. Then, later, we get attracted to, or create, other relationships and circumstances, where we perhaps have a chance to overcome what was so difficult, as a chance to learn anew and redeem us. Regrettably that is not so easy on our own - therapy can help to realize the patterns and find solutions. It is not about being mentally ill, but learning how to handle situations which have been too ovewhelming, for us at that time in the past. You can become free from being spell-bound... If you know of problems like forms of abuse and addictions in your life, there might be groups you could join for some first steps in new and healthy directions. Give yourself permission to take it slow and learn and develop your inner strength and wisdom, slowly but surely. I wish you all the best, keep watching the world and people with those clear eyes, and keep questioning what doesn't match your core values.
When I suggested that we wait a few days before buying an expensive puppy, my ex threatened to burn down the wooden boat I was restoring. Definitely a red flag and low internal locus of control!
@@john-griffin By that time I was married and had a wonderful son. Needless to say, things got worse, before they got better. The divorce was horrific, but I have learned to restructure my emotions, ways of relating to women (and the world in general), and found a modicum of peace. Your channel, which I found recently, is a good reinforcement, and I've found it inspiring. Thank you.
Sorry John, not even gonna watch this one ! Because I don't want to find a woman, good, bad or otherwise ! I like being divorced/single for the the last 37 years.
I walked away from marriage, and the meat market, over 25 years ago. Since I don't need sex or validation, but love my independence and freedom - I'll never go back.
@@jacksquat4140 YES. Most people will never know what true peace or freedom is; but once you've experienced them for an extended period of time, you will never go back. And you will do absolutely anything to protect them.
The other thing to bear in mind is if this woman has lived with multiple men in the past, she has been preconditions to think a certain way and all the guys that have passed through her life have put there ideas and thoughts into her mind, so now she thinks like them and they could be complete maniacs, so stay away from women that have lived with a lot of different guys.
No woman is a finished product. A husband must be his wife's mentor. A husband must be fatherly and show paternalistic, compassionate, merciful love to his wife if he wants her to love him. He must be the man in her heart. A husband is like a father to his wife; this was the patriarchy.
@@Woodsman_797 Then you do not know how to be a father. A father is never nice to his children, nor does he care about them. He corporally punishes them when necessary. Et cetera.
@@Woodsman_797No, he’s a leader. Hard to find a strong leader vs an insecure controller. It’s sad. There’s a *huge* difference between the two, yet the controllers love red pill content because it convinces them they’re leading.
5 weeks is much too quick, one of the greatest things in life is romance and the pursuance of a woman, at least 3 months before you sleep with her. And it really should be 6 months, that way you extend the enjoyment, because once you have sex with a woman everything changes.
This is the best video of yours I have seen so far. It is very well balanced and even the light is perfect fot the subject and your intonation of it. Don`t you think. I am glad that you are not sarcastic or dissapointed, but constructive, becasue there ARE good women and deeply happy marages, although so fiew that I dont know them. =) Greetings from Croatia.
Thanks! It was kind of hard to get the lighting right because the sun was low in the sky. So I had to keep moving around to find it while I was shooting the video. Thanks for noticing.
When I was 15, I wanted a girlfriend. A pretty girl, "arm candy". I found her but, she had no passion. So, at 19, I found an incredibly beautiful lass that had all the passion a man could desire but, she wasn't very smart. Then at 28 I found a great girl... beautiful, passionate, smart with exceptional communication skills. She was an attorney. I married her. Two years later she took me to court, divorced me and took everything that I owned. Now, I just want a girl with big tits.
_"Now, I just want a girl with big tits."_ 😄 She'll use them to get what she wants from you, then discard you for another man in her orbit waiting on his turn once she's bored with you.
i was thinking, should have stuck with the dumb one lol
Hahahaha.... this is so funny!
I had the perfect chick until she wasn’t perfect as we all had😂😂😂😂
🤣😂🤣😅🤣
All i see is a sea of Red Flags. I am so jaded after all the walking on egg shells and being what my ex's wanted me to be. Single for 10 years and there is no going back, the freedom is priceless. I was a merchant seaman all my life and i honestly believe it has been a natural transition because i am very comfortable being alone. Thinking back all of my relationships were a pain in the butt, i don't miss any of them.
Same. 2 yrs 👍🏼💪🏼🤠
After my 1st wife walked on me, i “though” I learned a few things! and took that to My 2nd married.
Big mistake
Wife #2 “checked out” after 5 years….. but kept living In my home for 12 more years until she found the right guy to
Monkey branch to.
Supporting her for 17 years and then fighting in divorce courts to keep what’s mine cost me $800,000. Ugh all the rental Properties investments I wish I had instead!
Not a millionaire anymore thanks to investing in wife #2’s businesses. They all crashed ams burned and all that equity lost was all the equity of 1 of my businesses!
I invested in my wife because I wanted to help her launch and feel happy about being successful
Hoping they would make her happy
Oh hell no
If a women is not happy, nothing will change that.
If a man try’s to make a women happy with his wealth, haha he is a fool, like I was.
Now-a-days after 5 years after my endless covid extended 2nd divorce, my life has been #MGTOW.
I’m redpill now and share what I learned with young men every day.
After my 1st wife walked on me, i “though” I learned a few things and took that to My 2nd married.
Big mistake
Wife #2 “checked out” after 5 years….. but kept living In my home for 12 more years until she found the right guy to
Monkey branch to
Supporting her ans fight in divorce courts to keep what’s mine cost me $800,000
Not a millionaire anymore thanks to investing in wife #2’s businesses
All along Hoping they would make her happy
Oh hell no
If a women not happy, nothing will change that.
If a man’s try’s to make a women happy with his wealth, haha he is a fool, like I was.
Now-a-days after 5 years after NT 2nd divorce, my life has been #MGTOW.
I’m redpill now and share what I learned with young men every day
@@MattyLiam333 Good Stuff, I don't know about you but when you have been around a bit it always ends up the same. So why put yourself through it all again, it's only the names and faces that change. Buy more toys instead !!! 😁😁
Just have a few gfs, they will eventually stay with you or not, but you’re the prize at this point in life - they need to understand that.
“Being right over being happy” …. Damn, you hit the nail on the head with most women!!!
Right! That's perfect!
Women's hobbies: You, manipulating you, finding a better version of you, makeup, handbags, making other women jealous, travel, etc
Some women maybe, but you’re describing narcissism, not a hobby
Their #1 hobby is taking selfies of themselves and all of the amazing things they are doing
@@sw6118 narcissism IS their hobby 😄
@@sw6118 aren't they the same thing when it comes to women???
succinct and perfectly stated. When you and everything you do is all they think about and talk about. Beware, take cover.
Dating later in life is awesome! You don't have to worry about kids or marriage anymore. You feel much more free in a relationship when a woman can't hold these things over you.
True! One of the few really great advantages of being old
Exactly!
@@Greentunic84 God gave me a really hot younger chick at this point in my life. And then 6 months later he turned my dick to mush. Ya it's great having a young hottie and no way to enjoy that. Being old rocks!
100⁰%
An elderly girlfriend is not on my bucket list
As a 40 year old woman this is great to hear. I definitely fall short on some and am striving now more than ever to course correct my life for the better. I definitely am off the dating market for a couple years to focus on myself to come out on the other side ready for something better…. or not! Being single is actually great!
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I'm really liking your channel.
I'm mid divorce after 32 years together.
So much of what you say is so real and true to me.
I was in love with my continued illusion of her, the last 10 years, not the real her.
I know how you feel
Been there, done that.
When and how you realised you love the ilusion ?
Wow... That needs some guts to say that.
Two big things to remember are that as a man, you are not an entertainment director, and each person in the relationship is responsible for their own happiness.😊
⚠ Beware the polite, demure, and dignified Covert-Narcissistic Female - with her pets. Do NOT stay beyond the second empty apology, or the second irrational, unaccountable circular argument that wrecks a 'perfect' moment together.
👉Heed their ACTIONS, not their words. Just Get out and STAY out!
I can read so much between the lines that we may have experienced thesame horrors of coming aware of what an narcissist is , an covert narcissist. Hope you are doing well on your course of healing.
@@olzzon you too my friend. I sincerely wish you a pleasant healing.
The betrayal from these types is crippling. Everything one mentions to them is weaponized.
Best green flags for me when I’m pursuing a relationship or friendship with women are:
* Meekness and shyness in the way that she is humble does not want to be the centre of attention, this show virtue and humility.
* Another green flag is a lover of books over a lover of instagram. Shows that she can be alone in her company and a drive to explore and learn even in the confides of her own imagination.This is great is you want kids with her.
*The ability to understand and see and admit her own contradictions, faults, and hypocrisies. This show self reflection and loss of unneeded pride.
* Her not having debt, especially student loan debt. This shows she is smart and wise with money and not easily swayed by authority figures and mass media. It well know that women hold majority of student debt.
I like your green flags. My ex had spirituality, role models, self-development interests, experience with children among other things (from John's list) but, in my opinion, a lot of these are sort of virtue signal devices at their best. I'm not saying this is subject to generalization but I digress. Your list ftw!
@@whatsupbudbud oh yeah, this is why is said shyness and meakness is a green flag, her virutes and "femininity" are not some type of cloth that she puts on for the masses, virtue is not for the gram but for the soul.
Unfortunately, I’ve never dated a woman who is independently happy.
Most are a financial wreck too.
So... Basically stay single! 😂😂😂
This man is right... I married a low maintenance woman, and it makes a difference
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We all change over time! That is the real problem. The woman you marry is not the woman you split from.
This is a great list but at this point in my life, I’m pretty much done with women. Too many bad experiences and just ain’t willing to try anymore. The only green flag I’m looking for at this point is if they’re walking in the other direction.
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I hear ya Brah. I'm with you 100%. I've seen too much, and know too much, to ever take a walk on the wild side again. There's just nothing to gain, but too much to lose.
@@Freedom-Fighter1 Absolutely
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Same here! The only green on the flag I’m lookin for is a green leaf.
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Solid list. Beware the Jezebels.
Good advice!
I'm female, and I actually agree with your list. I would say a lot of these are also traits a woman should look for in a man.
Thanks!!
For women, a lot of these would just be an addendum and might as well be a _nice to have_ list behind the man's career, prestige and potential, etc.. Another green flag is if she clearly has a long and demonstrated history to having the same attitude toward spending as you. As frankly an extremely responsible person isn't supposed to balance an irresponsible person and expect that to be fruitful rather than a burden (perhaps for both people).
Female viewer 👍 green flag 😁
I was going to say the same thing. I think a lot of why I watch this channel is because much of it can be turned around and apply to men also.
@gailflora1835 exactly! I don't feel a lot of what he talks about is gender-specific. I witnessed a lot of these behaviors with a man I was with 6 years ago. Men and women are definitely different, but there are as many crazy men out there as there are crazy women.
After going through divorce I realized that there is truly nothing about a relationship that would bring me a benefit.
You could argue sex... but is that worth all the negatives. Nope. Is that guaranteed? Nope.
What is guaranteed is spending time and money on someone that could burn me again.
EVERYONE thought they found a diamond in the rough before divorce.
Pass.
You nailed it John. As I think back about it (and in my own case) my late mother demonstrated every single one of the 10 attributes you talk about. And which I strongly suspect may at least partially explain why she and dad managed to stay together for almost 60 years. Mom loved everything from opera to babies, to animals, to shooting the breeze with the ladies who hand out free samples at Costco,to far eastern religion and mysticism to the Dali Lama to poetry, to shopping at Goodwill and the list goes on and on.
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yes i think older generations fared better.much more simple times.
I'm doing what you said staying single it's been 9 years now she left November 2015 when I was divorced 2018 of August just got myself financially fixed up again not 100% paid off the house again and guess what she's living with her mom and her stepdad cuz she can't afford to be on her own😂
Pathetic and hilarious 🤣
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Why did she leave?
@raspberrykissable because they can always get better 🤣🤣 come on u should know that by now....
she didnt try to get back with you after?
I'm glad the algorithm started suggesting your videos a couple weeks ago. The nature sounds and calming delivery makes your videos a pleasure to listen to on a crisp fall morning with the kids.
As someone who’s been with countless women and many relationships, your green flag lists are on point mate ❤thanks for your wisdom
I missed a lot of those flags, and it was a pain for the relationship
If the person isn't honest, man or woman, run!
@@joelhines7449 Yes that can replace animals.
The title of this video should have been, “The 10 characteristics of a female unicorn”……
The problem is that it is impossible to know who your future girlfriend partners were (ie gym badboy, rich finance guy, player, athletic guy etc....) and she is going to compare you to them. That is the issue... you might think you are having great sex with her or that you are a gent and treat her great.....but someone else she has been with was better and if you don't match to the standard in her mind then eventually bye bye.
Best Decision of my life.....was not getting married!!
#11. Turns into a pizza and 6 pack at midnight.
LOL....INDEED.
Great, insightful info., John!
Thank you for sharing!
I am married to a woman that has ALL the first 8 characteristics BUT fails miserably on the last 2 and the relationship is pretty much non salvageable. I have a great relationship with her mother who lives with us and my teen age step sons (non tension), but the emotional immaturity and out of balance with internal locos of control of my wife has been profoundly destructive. Of course, I've paid for everything for 4 years (800K more in expenditures above my prior budget due to the relationship). So, I simply and not sure of anything but don't marry after you have experienced the insanity of modern women twice now. Thanks for your channel!
No offense, but unless you married a widow, you married a single mom with kids, what did you expect?
She sees you as the back up plan and nothing more.
@@Blackraptor1234 I am not complaining to the world. I am sharing that EVEN if a woman has 8 out of 10 "green" characteristics that does not protect you from a bad experience. It was a public service announcement. And when you are in your 40 or 50s a woman with no children probably has as many issues as the single mom. Granted the single mom situation is harder do to be outnumbered by her and kids. :) And, My wife has practiced neurology as a doctor for 20+ years which doesn't change the level of crazy as I would have hoped. I take FULL responsibility for my life and decisions.
I'm a player, but divorced twice. But that's not the end of the world. So much in life doesn't matter. Keep your senses about you you maybe OK. Not like me who can't think straight around a pretty girl. 😅. There wisdom in your words John.
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A positive clip around women has been already very due John. Thank you very much. Good luck.
Great Videos John! Love the advice and value you offer to others.
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Thank you for this positive content. I was shocked to see an indication from this channel that women have any redeeming qualities. Good advice.
I’m trying to avoid becoming extremist. I would like to bring everyone back to some level of sanity.
Great advice John. The key is to ensure you work on yourself, develop hobbies, join clubs, do charity work. Eventually, you’ll meet someone.
Thanks
this format really suits me
Thanks. It's soothing to hear you say these things and to know there is a way forward.
You needed to make this video. There's something I call "red pill anger" that guys go through when they start seeing the light. Most go through it for a while before they can start living again. Others never come out of it.
I know, I see it all the time in the comments. Most young Andrew Tate Followers. Very funny. they think they know something special. All they know is to say no to women. I guess they prefer to pleasure themselves?
"Red Pill Rage" is the correct term
I felt red pill rage, to a degree, as I left religion behind. There was a simmering anger about being lied to all my life (growing up), and having truth withheld. Then, angry at myself as an adult for not seeing g the truth sooner and leaving earlier. Religions are expert at gas-lighting. Never forget this. And their motto should be “get them young”!
@@learningisfun2108 It’s not red pill to leave Christianity (I assume you weren’t Muslim - were you?). Leaving Christianity is the popular deconstructionist thing to do. The rebellious red pill thing to do these days is to enter a church after being told you whole life there is no God.
@@learningisfun2108 Their motto actually IS "get them young".
Proverbs 22:6 says, "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it". (Even if it's bullshit!)
Children cannot see that religion is nonsense, and later they cling to it as adults without ever examining it.
Your thumbnail with the big red X over the OF lizard/ money shot target is hilarious. Made me LOL. Bravo!
Very deliberate. I had a video get limited monetization recently and I want to avoid that as much as possible.
The only way to win is to hit it and quit it.
Life is good with NO commitment.
If you havent been to Everest, doesn`t mean that Hillary wasn`t.
I would add one more, and this one for me is the most important, it even cancels out your ten. She needs to be peaceable.
yes
im 59, 6'5'' ex chad. have had more vajj than most, agree with what you say, but i have yet to find a single one of even half decent quality, let alone a great woman. there are no shortage of self centered, narcissistic, wack jobs out there; this i know for sure.
Exactly. But if you have any game at all, good “dateflow” is easy to generate. There are women past 40 who want to get laid a few days a week and then go back to her apartment.
@@mjaybee it has nothing to do with game. even those who just want a shot every now and then, you are still going to have to deal with some kind of psycho, disrespectful, bs. they get sooooooo desperate, needy, with age, its unreal.
@mjaybee the dryness of women past 40...literally dry
My ex girlfriend was a religious fanatic. It was a deal breaker. 😂
Excellent List!
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Bugger i made a post on other video which was better suited to this one, the very next video i watched. But yet again im in full agreement and wish i hadve known much of this before being overwhelmingly love bombed. John's advice aligns perfectly with my life experiences so i wouldn't dismiss any of it lightly.
The question im wondering now is how long before women start flooding this channel to learn what the good men are looking for. It would be nice to see it and hopefully happens.
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Animals is NOT automatic green. It can be misplaced love because she can't love or calm herself. Think comfort Animals, that is a red flag, because you are her second comfort animal.
That said, animal for empathy is green.
Just saying love for animals is tricky. I wouldn't use it for green or red flag since it's tricky.
Exactly on point , coming from experience...the narc's work this way ... They can't be alone in thoughts whatsoever so they often has animals around them to keep them busy from the reality of all the people that they have destroyed.
I would also add that she should be responsible with money
I had that on my list and I forgot to mention it! Thanks
@@john-griffin No problems, thanks for the great videos John
Most females are looking for a retirement plan.
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@@khanhcao3123 Most meaning all.
The locus of control is a big one. When I met my girl who later became my wife, she had lived a rather protected and crisis-free life. As a result, she never developed the coping mechanisms in dealing with life’s ups and downs. She would fall apart whenever things didn’t quite go as planned, get belligerent and proceed to blame everyone and everything but herself. She did outgrow it, but it took a LOT of patience on my part. In the end, I have a wonderful wife (30 years and going strong) who is much more resilient to the bumps in the road than she was when I first met her. Would it have been easier to have the locus of control software preloaded? Sure would be, but at least she did come around.
Thank you John!!! We are custodians ❤ for our animals, I don’t care if she looks like Pam Anderson, she has to be kind to animals
So much true wisdom here which you have so well articulated.
Thanks!
1. Check her friends
2. Does she like children
3. Does she show gratitude to you
4. Is she happy
5. Has she completed college
6. Is she a party girl
7. Has lots of tattoos
8. Does she say sorry
9. how her parents are and what kind of relationship they have
10.does she takes responsibility
These are the questions which I ask myself about the girl I'm dating before taking her seriously.
Solid advice, ties right in with the OP
Garbage
Let's not forget physical health and yes that includes being fit, slim and flexible because in my experience women who exercise are healthier, happier, and have higher self-esteem. The other benefits of healthy, happy woman are obvious.
Top advice, from lived experience agree on all points, .
I mostly agree to the green flags, I have about 20. But that is a guy that is 51 and it's good advise for older men that have found those answers. But a young man doesn't typically have that maturity from his own failures. I have a new neighbor that is 30 and a pilot in the military. Thin fit young man that has a good head on his shoulders. I tell him to take it slow and I gave him the book " the rational male " for better understanding of human nature. I send him these videos to assist him in his questions.
It's funny, my 2nd ex wife hit most of the green flags, but the one that is specific was how she should be with her kids with a step dad. She was training her kids to not respect me as they grew older and they had seen the divide. She want them protected and I was teaching the to be independent. As older men, we will date mothers, and how they treat a man around their children, can be a flag on its own(green or red). It was what separated us. Not our relationship that her and I had, but the relationship with the kids I raised that were not mine. I did not see that one coming. Still love my ex wife, but she was a poor supporter of the rules and confidence that I was teaching young men. It's always what we learn when in a relationship shows us the flags we need to see.😊
Thanks! I really appreciate you sharing my videos with your neighbor.
So many guys will say that all women are just a ticket to hell, and yes, if you don't pick wisely, that's true. Also true it that picking the right woman will help you find heaven on earth. That's not simping, voice of experience with a wonderful woman who made my life incredible for 25 years. This is an excellent list, and if you follow it, I can't see how you can go wrong.
The problem is that we all change over time. The person you marry is not the person you divorce from.
Current gf scores 3/10. Or 3/9 if we ignore animals, because I've never heard her express anything positive or negative about animals, so I can't see docking her for that.
In any event I'm not totally surprised. I know who she is I think and she's not long-term. But she's fun now...
✅ Religious & spiritual
✅ Good family relationships (but not with either parent)
✅ Emotionally mature
Is it enough? With no mentor, absent father & clingy dependent mother, no real hobbies, no experience with (and possible aversion to) children, and differing though not wildly different view on our family future... ya, probably not.
Long as you know what you’re getting for your money
Totally agree with your analogy about all females.thanks for sharing
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Those are all fine traits but realistically how many women have those traits in this day & age? My 24 yr old son said he hasn't met any girls with those traits. He says they spend all their time on Instagram, TikToc, Tinder, etc. & don't even know how to carry on a conversation. Lol. And I haven't met any women in my age group (63) with those traits either - they too are glued to their phones. The world has changed because of technology - we're all becoming cybertronic junkies. 😆
Soon the best partner would be Android robot
I call them Phombies.
Time 9:40......47 y.o., i was married for 13 years, marriage ended december 2018.......there are many wonderful things about women. You(we men) just need to be realistic about their nature and motives.....do not get "starry eyed romantic" to the point you ignore their behavior,motives
Female perspective here. Great insights. I do see how some of your conclusions are clouded by your past experiences
I don't fully agree with the animal part. Off course, there is nothing wrong with loving animals, like children do. However, there are many angry, selfish catladies who have failed in relationships and are not empathic to humans at all.
The sister of the girlfriend of my oldest son told me that she is going to work with animals only, she doesn't want a job which involves dealing with people. She intends to dedicate her life to "saving animals". She is 19 and pretty, I'm 59 and wouldn't want to spend a day with her, because of her lack of empathy.
another great video by a wise man. admits there are still good women out there. my starting criteria is are they “hot”. those other positive green flags can be considered later on. oh well guess that’s the basic trap we fall into..
I have a strong sense of self. I look to no one else.
The trouble with all this red flag/green flag exercise is that you are trying to apply objective methods to a subjective problem. In the end, the chances of success are slim.
True but you gotta start somewhere
@@john-griffin Well, you don't "have" to start at all. A fella can choose to just not go down that road at all, and just live in peace !
John john john john. You’ve seen me comment a bunch so you know I watch and enjoy your videos. Keep up the good work! So…… I’m asking a favor. Please do a video on your rig! Hi from Ocean City MD.
Great video John! Love the advice to the young guys. And the last words are so spot on regarding taking your time. I like to add by taking your time and being patient, you set the frame and it anchors you more solidly in your masculinity. Women completely vibe off of your patience and sexual discipline… it think it makes them feel and causes them to submit and go with the flow. I appreciate your channel. Stay well.
Content keeps getting better on your videos.
Thanks. I do get some negative feedback from some viewers. Some just want me to be a woman hater.
really liked this video
Gold list 🎉
"You'll have more luck finding a leprechaun on a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow" (Rich Cooper).
That’s good to know, I think I would prefer the leprechaun
you got a new sub!
I can't quite agree on everything that is said in this video.
If someone loves animals that doesn't necessarily mean that they are any better than any other person. There is plenty of people that love animals but don't like people as much for example. Still probably a good tell if someone is abusing animals - you can expect the similar treatment if not the same. But loving animals means loving animals first and foremost. I wouldn't bet on that when it comes to commitment between two people.
I am split about the parents part as well. I get it, of course. I agree that good relations with parents and siblings is a green flag. Still I cannot shake the feeling that it isn't right to automatically 'judge' someone's character if the person has bad relations with their parents. Can you expect the person to carry on bad interpersonal patterns? Most certainly. Can people learn and change? I believe so. Is a bad relationship with a parent (or both parents) their fault? Who knows. I'd abstain from making this judgement.
I love the 'internal locus of control' part and I'd put it front and center: If someone cannot find joy in the way things already are, best to stay away. The only catch-22 with this is : If someone is truly at peace with oneself - why add anyone else to that or change it in any way? Life is a mystery, gents. Amor fati.
I agree. I know someone who loves animals and works for an animal charity. She a terrible person (narcissistic) who hates humans. She is very vocal about her hatred for humanity (thinks global depopulation would be a great thing) She is also a vegan. Stay away from vegans.
Women don't have youtube channels talking about this. I remember in the 60s to early 80s when American women still looked up to men.
I graduated HS in 1980 and all throughout the 80's and into the mid 90's had the time of my life because I had the respect, the looks and the tools (car, motorcycle, boat and self employed) to make it all happen. Then, at age 37 I decided to settle down and got married to a covert narcissist. I went through pure he77 for the majority of our 17 year marriage and I'm still licking my wounds and its been 5 years since I divorced her. However, you hit the nail on the head when you said women used to respect and look up to men and in reverse, we wanted to provide, care for and love them. Without respect, there is nothing.
Thanks John. As always. I feel like having or having had a longish term job that she has committed to, is also a Green flag.
Hello, John. Nice video. I believe you are 100% right, and those points are incredibly accurate and necessary. I would put emotional maturity at the top of the list as number one. While I was listening to each point, I thought to myself, maybe we should title this episode “She Doesn’t Exist.” 😂 I’m kidding-I think she does, but man, I’d rather spend the rest of my life alone. If I eventually stumble upon her, I would probably accept, but this list is so real and so true. I understand why, when you’re 16, 18, or 20, it’s better to have no idea what you’re doing in order to mate. If I had come across this list earlier in my life, it would have implied that I needed to grow to discern each aspect. Anyway, it’s a good list. Thank you again
Good video! Do they have the same physical values OVERWEIGHT OR TOO SKINNY? JOHN ARE YOU A PHYCOLIGIST or ?
You said your wife looked so good like a model or did modelling. That is the worst wife material just good looks. Such women usually are narcissistic and selfish. My observations are women who are modest looking and behaving without bright and revealing clothes with no loud behaviour or princess traits. Very important she comes from a good family where both parents are together and her father is respected in the family. When you are dating her she let's you decide about things and not tells you what to do. The truth however is women like these are so rare and usually already snatched at young age that it is becoming less sensible to even bother searching for one. If one can't find a kind submessive woman solitude appears next best thing😊 Much better it seems than living with a selfish contentious woman. Simps are usually afraid to live alone as they are so used to having a boss around😂
Be aware of covert narcs though 😆
awesome video
I have to respectfully disagree on the "animal lover" thing. I've met a lot of women (and men) who fall into this category who are not good people. Many times, they have issues building healthy relationships with other people and gravitate towards animals (primarily dogs) since there is far less work required to form a bond. My motto, based on my life experience and rational thinking is, being a pet owner doesn't make you a good person, nor does not wanting pets in your life make you a bad person. There are far more important and more complex things to consider regarding the quality of someone's character.
I think you make some pretty good points
Sir, regarding your comment about younger men, there is a massive disconnect between the below 30 generation and the above 30... a friend of mine had said: "they're tiktok brains"... they just swipe at the slightest moment for any or no reason. They treat men across them like a 5 second Tiktok video which is why their behaviour is evil and perceived to be so... they cannot differentiate between a social media video human and a human in real life as they grew up with it... unlike us who met social media after we lived in the offline world of human connection... I've dealt with above 30s and below 30s even 19-22s and 20 years ago they would be locked in a mental asylum... and many many.... all real life, all met at cafes, at bookshops and the sort... Younger women have been destroyed by Tiktok... They are nothing like the 20 year olds I met 20 years ago... Their outlook to life is like a brain mush in general... are there outliers? I'm sure there are... but it's like finding a unicorn...
Hey glad someone said it. If you are old and out of the game, they have very little room to be talking on dating.
Are there some decent women? Sure. The vast majority isn't it though.
Its why 60% of men that age are single.
1/2 of that want a relationship but aren't in a position to get one, and rhe other 1/2 realize what a crapshow it is.
You basically have to be born lucky in a community that has value now so you meet a girl that was raised right as a young man to have any hopes of finding someone decent.
The vast majority of guys will not be able to have a relationship with a woman who has green flags, simply because there aren't many women with green flags anymore.
Its why the math is fun. If only 30% of women were decent, that means at best 30% of men can get an actual decent relationship.
So 70% of men would not find a decent woman no matter what.
And its very much reflected in what we see today.
So more and more men are opting out entirely.
@Blackraptor1234 or they can become Muslim, move to Afghanistan and guaranteed to find a wife that has more green flags than a Hms parade...
Most important from my experience is, make sure her and her mother respect the father as the man of the house. if she doesn't respect her father, she will not respect you!!!
Take care with the animal lover as a green flag. Many girls use animals as a source of narcissistic supply. Taking care of an animal is much easier than a person that may call you out for your bad behaviour. A lot of women also have them as an accessory. Tread carefully, my ex was kind and head over heels in love with her dogs until their care became more complex. The care and love shown may be a covering for covert traits. Having said this I still think it’s a green flag indication worth taking into consideration.
Great advice. Regarding animals, however, I tend to see that as a red flag lol. I have met many people who obsess over animals and neglect their children and others. It is almost like they love animals and hate people. I find this trait to be correlated with emotional immaturity often.
If she wants horses, run away.
If she likes dogs, she probably expect you to wiggle your tail around her as well.
@@marty906LOL, horses are like owning a boat. They’re great when your friend owns one and terrible when you own one.
Or stay and watch... your choice hahahah
Does love figure into the equation?
The 10 Greek flags are really just about creating a commitment. I assume that love can come along. It’s been my experience that romantic love often times it’s just a projection.
Hey, I agree as a woman to nearly all of these. But if your parents have mental illnesses, that's not your issue, and ot your fault, but I agree that then you need to have a strong mentor, a "noble north", and a strong believe in a higher power and learn the ability to regulate yourself. I experienced all of that and I am now a strong, caring and loyal woman. Beware of "hero-drinkers"! Alcohol can be a brutal thing! I think men or women should look after someone who is not drinking or numbs themselves with other stuff.....strong and sober couples, strong children ❤ greetings from Germany
Pay them to leave or keep it casual and occasionally
What do I do if she's basically all red flags but my heart still wants it? New to this
There are times when you need to listen to your head and not your heart. Just because you’re pain will be delayed doesn’t mean it will be less painful. In fact, it’s quite the opposite. It’s much more likely with the Pena experience in the future will be multiple times more than what you experience now if you just ended it. Because in the future commitment to her will have increased significantly. You might even have children with her. And then she will take you for all your money and she will probably cheat on you. You’ll lose your children you’ll lose your money and you’ll lose your peace of mind. Nothing is worth that
Run, Forest, run !
You seriously need therapy for your problematic childhood and other issues. It is a psychological "law" that we unconsciously are living under the condition of repetition compulsion. You are burnt but attracted to fire...
This means that the soul wants to develop, grow, and be free to become what it is meant to be. But we got hurt, misdirected, and stopped under way, by certain important people (like parents) and certain circumstances that have been too hard to escape. These were so difficult to stand, so they didn't come fully clear to us. Then, later, we get attracted to, or create, other relationships and circumstances, where we perhaps have a chance to overcome what was so difficult, as a chance to learn anew and redeem us. Regrettably that is not so easy on our own - therapy can help to realize the patterns and find solutions. It is not about being mentally ill, but learning how to handle situations which have been too ovewhelming, for us at that time in the past. You can become free from being spell-bound...
If you know of problems like forms of abuse and addictions in your life, there might be groups you could join for some first steps in new and healthy directions. Give yourself permission to take it slow and learn and develop your inner strength and wisdom, slowly but surely. I wish you all the best, keep watching the world and people with those clear eyes, and keep questioning what doesn't match your core values.
It's just one big deception! women will ALWAYS change when they have all their ducks in a row.
When I suggested that we wait a few days before buying an expensive puppy, my ex threatened to burn down the wooden boat I was restoring. Definitely a red flag and low internal locus of control!
I think you diagnosed that one correctly
@@john-griffin By that time I was married and had a wonderful son. Needless to say, things got worse, before they got better. The divorce was horrific, but I have learned to restructure my emotions, ways of relating to women (and the world in general), and found a modicum of peace. Your channel, which I found recently, is a good reinforcement, and I've found it inspiring. Thank you.
Never get the government involved in your relationships,
Remember who gets the cash and prizes when they hit the register...
Sorry John, not even gonna watch this one ! Because I don't want to find a woman, good, bad or otherwise !
I like being divorced/single for the the last 37 years.
No worries
I walked away from marriage, and the meat market, over 25 years ago. Since I don't need sex or validation, but love my independence and freedom - I'll never go back.
@@jacksquat4140 YES.
Most people will never know what true peace or freedom is; but once you've experienced them for an extended period of time, you will never go back. And you will do absolutely anything to protect them.
@@LarryWilliamsArtist: No truer words have ever been spoken. Best wishes and be well.
The other thing to bear in mind is if this woman has lived with multiple men in the past, she has been preconditions to think a certain way and all the guys that have passed through her life have put there ideas and thoughts into her mind, so now she thinks like them and they could be complete maniacs, so stay away from women that have lived with a lot of different guys.
No woman is a finished product. A husband must be his wife's mentor. A husband must be fatherly and show paternalistic, compassionate, merciful love to his wife if he wants her to love him. He must be the man in her heart. A husband is like a father to his wife; this was the patriarchy.
Agreed 100%. Although I think you should do these things because it is the right thing. Not to convince her to love you.
@@mattr.1887 Of course.
Do that and you're a ""nice guy ""
@@Woodsman_797 Then you do not know how to be a father. A father is never nice to his children, nor does he care about them. He corporally punishes them when necessary. Et cetera.
@@Woodsman_797No, he’s a leader. Hard to find a strong leader vs an insecure controller. It’s sad. There’s a *huge* difference between the two, yet the controllers love red pill content because it convinces them they’re leading.
5 weeks is much too quick, one of the greatest things in life is romance and the pursuance of a woman, at least 3 months before you sleep with her. And it really should be 6 months, that way you extend the enjoyment, because once you have sex with a woman everything changes.
green flag #3 is key. has hobbies. this means a person is intrinsically motivated. extrinsically motivated women are hypergamous.
I'm the first here watching good content
Thanks!!!
3:28 on point.
This is the best video of yours I have seen so far. It is very well balanced and even the light is perfect fot the subject and your intonation of it. Don`t you think. I am glad that you are not sarcastic or dissapointed, but constructive, becasue there ARE good women and deeply happy marages, although so fiew that I dont know them. =) Greetings from Croatia.
Thanks! It was kind of hard to get the lighting right because the sun was low in the sky. So I had to keep moving around to find it while I was shooting the video. Thanks for noticing.
@@john-griffin VERY good outcome!
@@antevrankovic4539 👍
These are good and nearly impossible to have all in one person. I have only seen 5 out of 10 so far in life.
Lovely doggies 😊😊😍
Thanks
You’re literally listing all of my gfs red flags 😂