The Truth About Empathy
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- Опубліковано 21 сер 2023
- In this video, I answer a question from one of my youtube subscribers about the importance of empathy.
Robert Greene is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, The Laws of Human Nature, and most recently, The Daily Laws.
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Hands down, he's taught me so much
He is just generous to share with us
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Thank you Robert Greene. Wether you know it or not you're helping guide people throughout this malevolent world.
I had empathy already at age 5! I remember the janitor at our elementary school. I thought he seemed sad and I felt for him.
An emotional process, how profound, how true, opening one self up to others. Another gem from Robert Greene
Soothing voice, clear and concise explanations
Thank you for making it clear that questioning them at first is ok. I used to always have my guard down thinking everybody was a good person.
Seeing this on 23rd Aug, 23. The night when I realised that my mother is not empathetic towards me. Forget compassion! I wish she changed her heart for me and sees my excessively communicated pain. I'm 25 and petrified of my life and I just need my mum right now. She's here and still not. I'm so far gone. I hope my mum loves me back the way she should. I'm not writing this for someone else but just me. So, you can go on with your life! :)
I feel you, I’ve gone through the same feelings as you. My mom ended up abandoning me and my brother emotionally, and then physically, when she literally picked up and left our family to live in France with her new husband, with whom she cheated on my stepdad of 15 years with. Her birthday is on august 23. What I had to realize on my own is that none of the trauma she put on me is my fault, and then I finally felt the unconditional love that the universe gives you if you accept it’s love. You realize that when you love yourself, you can feel the love coming from all directions because we are connected to the universe, and the natural state of the universe is love and creation.
I hope that makes sense. I really know how you feel and the only way I could heal was having the realization that everything my mother caused me to feel is not my fault because it was her responsibility to show me love and empathy. However it is my responsibility to find the love in myself without trying to earn it from anything.
I’m wishing you strength and sending you love 🫶🏾
This year, I have read The 48 Laws Of Power, The Art Of Seduction, and The Laws Of Human Nature. All three were excellent books that helped me understand myself and others better. Thank you for the relentless research, time, and energy you put into the three books I have read of yours so far. I am really looking forward to reading the remaining books in your collection next year. From one writer to another: WELL DONE!!! 👏👏👏
After reading your books I literally feel like i have got a new pair of eyes i want you to make a video about criticism i am really busy with the education now so i can’t really find time to read all your books but your videos are helping me a lot
Robert Greene is a major genius. His book MASTERY was one of the most fascinating books I've ever read. I didn't actually read it, I listened to the audible version which was magnificent. Thank you Robert Greene, for being who you are and for sharing your genius with us.
Being an empath is a blessing and a curse.
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That word empath is ridiculous. Some of the coldest people who have no empathy call themselves that. Probably trying to convince themselves and others they are human and care for others. 😅
@@StoicNature444 I'm sure that's definitely true for some.
@@StoicNature444not always
I'd love to hear more about "infection". I believe my problem in my childhood was being stuck in an auto-introjective state. Growing up I recall a general distrust/disdain toward introversion. It was something that needed to be forced out of children, and if you were an introverted adult, there was something wrong with you. It was looked on with suspicion. Emotional display and extraversion were the healthy way to be, and "showing" care, prying empathy from others was habitual and "normal" behavior. So yes, "empathy" can be toxic, even pathological.
When I was over doing empathy I felt like I was going to cry all the time! I didn't understand how all these people were harassing me when I was "trying to be the change I wish to see in the world." The sad thing is that those people who have assaulted me don't use this wonderful tool. It makes everything so brighter! Like you said this is something that needs to be built and practiced. It's so sad that they may never see the world in an empathic way! Down with victimization! Let's continue to be the change we wish to see the world by spreading empathy! Allah bless you all!
Thx for your book mr.greene
For me you are my mentor
Empathy - I am still learning to put myself in others’ shoes on the daily basis and usually I would imagine what they’d feel like at the moment.
I witnessed the light empath co-workers at my work place often got too involved into other dark toxic empath co-workers. They were unaware that they became the enablers for the toxic dark empath people to steal their light energies and exchanged with the dark energies.
Thank you, Robert Greene.
I think the people who have the greatest natural ability to understand humans are people who are naturally either very narcissistic, or naturally very empathetic. Both have the ability to see underneath the masks that we all wear. This is just my opinion.
There is this general idea that the purpose of life is to be happy, but I think that is a very small part of the world. To have some sense of what others are experiencing sounds so much more enriching.
Thank you
Robert Greene,
Could you please make a collection of your books, where I can buy all of your books in one bundle? That would be great.
We are so lucky that we are living at a time Mr. Green is living. He not only knows what he speaks but also know how to put accross what he knows so effortlessly.
The Master wins with apparently no effort.
-Sun Tzu
I love that this video about Empathy begins with the Goldberg Variations, which is the same music Hannibal Lecter used when he ate those guards in his jail cell - my head is still spinning lol - fascinating video
Mr. Greene I studied both The Courage to be disliked (teleology) and your The 48 Laws of Power (aetiology) and now I am confused what should I apply for rest of my life. The ideas stated in the both books are opposite to each other and each argument/perspective both books give for the same situation in life are completely opposite. I think if I follow the any single book of these two to rest of my life, I will lead to unhappiness. Please help me.
I was astounded reading Nietzsche about listening to
Bach: Mathäus Passion
"Who does not cry when listening to that
has no Heart"
the sudden outburst
uncontrollable
I am a German Rescue Swimmer
and I jump into the water
to save a person from drowning
or prevent a bad thing
To your last point, psychologists and others make this distinction to people who are or become empaths. In that state, the empath loses their selves to the other. The toxic person, the narcissistic, sociopathic, or borderline, is naturally attracted to the empath because they can be adsorbed into their way of thinking.
Please make a video about appearances
Yes. Good mic.
Anyone struggling with empathy should read, or listen to The Gulag Archipelago narrated specifically by Ignat Solzhenitsyn. It’s reasonably simplified to the common reader on Russian culture.
You need an uplifting and encouraging spirit, but if the “””48 laws mindset””” starts to make you arrogant/grandiose,,,
hearing these stories will humble you. Things just start making sense
Empathy is the ability to understand someone's silence . Empathetic people are born with it, only few are gifted with it.
It allows you to have develop intense emotional intelligence which makes you feel people’s the first people you meet them
Empathy is the easiest way to understand someone.
Devolopmental Psychology found out, that kids around 4 start to be able to change perspective. They realize (for the first time) that if you sit opposite of them, your perspective of an object (between you and the kid) might have a different view. So some people who have developmental problems, like narcissists, just don't bother or just can't change perspective and see you in your shoes...
Bach's Aria is absolutyely delightful
Great Robert Sir. I am from one of the Worst Maternal families in India. We grew up in a Joint family but most of them are bitches. They used to spread negative vibes for me and fir my father, after got married they tried to do it with my wife but we parted with them before things got worse. Now I am living a happy life getting along with my father , wife and my Kid. Now I realize that your words are very true when i think of my experiences in that toxic family.
finally these vids have music
I wonder if my empathetic muscle is too strong, I've been labeled as too sensitive, how to manage that area then?
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As an empath, I can’t choose to be one or not. I physically feel what others feel and often don’t want to. The only thing I can do is distance myself. I feel drained around others and need a lot of alone time just to feel like myself again. I thought everyone was like that but they are not. I get used to it if exposed regularly (like at work) but I still need to get away often. Ppl think I’m anti-social but I am not. I’m literally tired from emotionally dragged around.
introvert?
Robert sir love from India I respect you and your writing you are ideal person for us
Note the difference between empathy and sympathy. Empathy is not a common state of being.
In essence, empathy is the ability to feel, or sense something another person is feeling or experiencing.
Thereby, producing a connection between two or more people on an emotional, or energetic level.
On the other hand..
Sympathy is merely the ability to ‘relate’ to, or understand something another person is experiencing.
Some empaths have not learned how to separate themselves, and their feelings from the feelings of other people.
If I may suggest a protective measure for actual empaths.
Learning to protect your energy is key. Practice selective empathy. Yes. As Me. Green said, empathy is “a muscle”. Therefore…Empathy can be ‘turned off’, or an energetic guard/ wall can put up in order to make sure your energy isn’t being tapped into by someone else, and you are not inadvertently tapping into other people’s emotions.
Learning how to recognize what emotions are actually ‘yours’ v. taking on the emotions of other persons.
Choose wisely where you invest your energy. Quality over quantity.
If not, burn out is waiting on the horizon for you.
you said what to do but now how. how do we know it's our energy vs not our energy? what's the key distinction or way?
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I am able to share with you some of what worked best for me.
*This post is not intended to be medical advice. This information also does not reflect any views of the content provider. This post was not made on behalf of the content provider. It is your responsibility to conduct your own research in accordance with your own personal needs.*
Though empathy is “a muscle”, there are those of us who were born as ‘sensitive’ individuals. Unfortunately, no training regarding this type of emotional/ energetic sensitivity.
Emotional Sensitivity may often ‘labeled’ as ‘mental illness’. As a result, most true empaths are stuck in fight or flight mode.
1. Meditation.
Take care of your nervous system. You need to *slow down* your responses to external stimuli.
Turn off, and avoid drama. Don’t engage in Doom scrolling etc., create quiet spaces for yourself, and then honor your commitment to maintaining peace in your life.
1(a). Set healthy boundaries around your time, money and anything else of yours that you produce, because all of the aforementioned things translate into energy.
2. Self examination- requires you to be objective.
3. Practicing the fine art of detachment.
This doesn’t mean you don’t care. What this means is that you intentionally ‘step back’ from the stressful, or other situation in order to be able to avoid becoming emotionally enmeshed. *Observe. Don’t absorb. Objectivity.
4. Take care of your physical health. Look for symptoms of…
*Adrenal fatigue.
* glandular/ Endocrine system dysfunction. Discontinue use of as many ‘endocrine disrupters’ as possible.
* I only use natural remedies. If you intend to use an herbal remedy check for interactions with your medication, if any and consult your physician, or other healthcare professional.
Good luck.
Be safe be blessed
@@aprillove10Those are all very good tips for an empath. 🙏🏻
Untill of late I have come to learn and appreciate it that I should feel for those who feel for me👌🏿If you feel for me I return te favout; if you love me I love you back; if you don't love me , I don't love you👌🏿In a nut shell, it treat people exactly the same way they treat me but with caution because some are hypocritical assholes 👌🏿🇺🇬
Robert it seems really clearly that you love the goodness for everyone, i'm so glad i knew you in my vacation this summer, i can say it is the best achievement i made in my summer vacation this year may god give you all what you wish and desire! all the respect from Saudi Arabia
Unfortunately due to neurodivergence empathy is hard to access. I think all humans have the potential but without practice it isn’t unattainable! Ty Robert
If you have neurodivergence there is absolutely no hope for you to gain anything from watching these videos, as that would require correctly assessing social situations in the first place to apply these principles.
You seem as intelligent as you are beautiful. Thank you dear for the this thoughtful and wonderful comment. 🌹
Robert
I understood your concept of seduction
But whenever I go in front of my crush I start talking about myself and then later on I understand the mistake I've made
Please tell us how to stop talking about ourselves,is there any way to do it
Maybe it's happening to me bcoz one of my friend is competing with me over her
Empathy is my superpower, I usually can feel the viewpoints of those I disagree with. Nothing bothers me more than when I cannot empathize with someone. Usually it’s a profoundly different mindset, like a sociopath, addict, or mentally ill person.
So well said
I have empathy nd I also have a cousin that’s toxic but she’s alr to me js not other ppl nd I always feel bad for dem like it literally feels like I’m dem
Robert, what do you think about the new Napoleon movie?
If you are here, you are already an empathetic person.
Ok, but it's always about balance. If u feel too much about the exterior, you can stay in others energy and borrow behavior till that point that I forget about ur self.b
Is there a tutorial for developing empathy?
Thank you for the video, I found out that investing is not for everybody, you just need a strong stomach too see your portfolio go down. It might be wiser for a novice to start with copy trading investing, but it is not easy. To invest in growth stocks it is another level, definitely you need to know what are you doing.
I've been solely investing in real estate. But with the recent hyper home pricing i've liquidated a few things and have $45k in cash laying around idle. Would love to get your recommendations, I'm in search of something lucrative in the current crazy markets, i will be glad.
My portfolio is very much diversified so it's not like i have a particular fund i invest in, plus i dont do that by myself. i follow the trades of Mrs Natalie Marie Kranz
She is a popular broker you might have heard of. I can correctly say she's worth her salt as a financial advisor as her diversification skills are top notch, because i see that in her results as my portfolio grows by averages of 10 to 15% on a monthly basis, unlike i can say for my IRA which has just been trudging along, my portfolio just mirrors what she trades and not just on some particular industries of my choosing.
By following her trades do you mean copying her trades? I have heard about copying trades
Yes, exactly. It's all programmatic and automated, plus it's relatively much easier to set up and connect my accounts than creating a financial plan and drafting investment strategies myself, my account just mirrors her trades in realtime.
Oh well, dear Robert, where were you when I started out on this journey called life decades ago? Would’ve been so much easier with you along for more of the ride… 😢
Thank you for this video Mr. Robert.
I remember that in one of your lectures you uploaded here before, you even refer to this ability of ours to put ourselves in the other persons shoes, and even learn from what they are doing, as the "Maquiavelic mind" since we can pretty much mirror and from that antecipate behaviour from others.
As usual, thanks for the content, we live in such an self-abosrbed and egomaniac era, is a breath of fresh air to be reminded how to be human and connect to others, in an smart meaningful way, without overcommitting.
Robert sir ❤
Your books and lectures changed my life thankyou
Law #2 in the laws of human nature is to turn self-love into empathy. The superpower tip to do this is to become interested in the other person. Put yourself in their shoes and it will be super easy to empathize. If you combine this by confirming to their self opinion, they will like you even more and feel like you understand them.
The laws of human nature and the 48 laws of power changed my life!
biggest takeaway from each book?
Could you please give an example of how a certain law changed what part of your life?
This is amazing. Thank you Robert
as always, Robert Greene's books and videos are so critical for daily lives.. thank you so much, Mr. Greene!
Mr Greene , thanks for this one. Pls how do I regulate myself from feeling every bit of emotion people around me are carrying. Its exhausting because they are mostly negative.
Ahhh I feel you! Means we need to extra care of ourselves right?
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My tution teacher gives me similar advice like you sir, I like you both ❤
Man you must be an actual realist Robert, because it so easy to forget the obvious right? But how do you actually know reality? Maybe simply.youve stared back at the abyss longer... thank you for sharing your thoughts on this empathy
Everyday I thank God that for your teachings
Very smart! Love this!
Hey Robert,
Why don't you try to read the ancient Indian books and share your thoughts on it? Like Thirukural in Tamilnadu
Best writer 👍👍👍
It’s tough if you don’t have the same empathy bone in your body like everyone else 🦴
I don’t believe it. You just have to awaken it.
yeah well.... I alienised some good friends by more or less reading their minds... So they fear to trust me and it hurts... and I think they fear I might judge them. I dont know exactly but I have a hard time to get close again out of fear they will reject me.... just stupid
Imagine if 48 Laws was required reading in high school.
It's weird but fr walking around irl I can relate the most to people with disabilities. When I seem nothing like them more than half the time. Cause conventionally, I would imagine that when someone disabled is attempting to do something significant, they would be treated the same as I would. I feel that people around me only feel empathy when they see others either do as much or have the same ability as they themselves do (I don't even think that's empathy LOL) .That gives me strength. Cause I know that they won't be as nice or rather reveal who they actually are when someone goes out of their way to do something that lives up to a standard that deems some form of significance.
Robert, I read and finished art of seduction and now I’m dating a girl who I would have considered waaaaaay out of my league before I read it. Thank you very much for all your work. I am currently reading art of mastery and I’m confident something just as good if not better will come after I finish that!!❤❤❤❤
what do you think about a person who says: I don't like children?
My empathy alerted me to your health maybe not too great right now and wanting to clear your illness from here. My mind reading let me know that it might not be a good idea, and possibly swine/bird hybrid viruses aren't something im prepared to deal with
❤❤❤❤❤👍👍👍👍👍There are two anomalies in this world
Robert Greene and lionel Messi
All book lovers have empathy, I think it’s impossible to enjoy a book without empathy
Anatomy of human body. My surgeon siblings enjoy science hooks without any empathy.
But what if one of my favorite authors is John Douglas? 🤷🏻♂️
why would we want to do that? Are you going to help the problem? At the end of the day?
Unless they talk and do very clear signs of emotions. It's very hard for me to understand ppls emotions. I try to understand cognitively how they feel..then I try to read about what they feel and help them accordingly. It's not easy for all ppl to read micro gestures or guess someone's emotions. Unfortunately
Just finished reading the 48 laws of power again
I personally have a natural tendency to feel empathy towards people who show empathy towards others. The reverse is also true : i feel very little of it towards those who have very little or none towards others , especially if they abuse the goodness of kind people.
I consider those unempathtic people as disabled . Spiritually disabled . They know no better and they are missing out on so much blessings .
For he makes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust. ... That ye may be the children of your Father who is in heaven: ...Mathew 5.45
Just imagining who they are...
Are you feeling us?
To Kill a Mockingbird taught me that when she was thinking about what the albino ghost fella was up to all day...big shoes to fill she said
I don't care for empathy. It's a pain in the ass
TRUMPISM? How can Trumpsters be reached, with empathy?
There must be a way to connect with the Right and save the nation?
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I don't agree at all. You can have sympathy for someone but to be TRULY empathetic you yourself must have experienced the suffering yourself!!
did you pay these.. people?
Trying to sympathize with Genghis khan is absurd to me. "I wonder what he felt like as he was eating babies and rapping women"
When you lose your patents in a four month period. Then your only brother Christmas eave, you pay attention to what meaning in your life.
Thank you for youre labor