How to fight loneliness: Everyday hacks for a connected life | Juliana Schroeder | TEDxMarin
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- Опубліковано 26 жов 2023
- There are simple things people can do each day to help combat the epidemic of loneliness sweeping the globe. In this talk, Juliana Schroeder shares her research from the past decade on how to fight loneliness by connecting more effectively with other people.
Juliana Schroeder is a behavioral scientist who conducts research on social interaction. She holds the Harold Furst Chair in Management Philosophy and Values at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business, runs Berkeley’s social science laboratory, and directs the Psychology of Technology Institute.
She studies the psychological processes underlying how people think about the minds of those around them, and how their judgments then influence their decisions and interactions.Her research has been published in a wide range of academic journals and in several book chapters. It has been featured by media outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, Harvard Business Review, NPR, and the Today Show. She has received funding from the National Science Foundation and awards from the Association for Psychological Science and the American Psychological Association. Juliana Schroeder is a behavioral scientist who conducts research on social interaction. She holds the Harold Furst Chair in Management Philosophy and Values at UC Berkeley’s Haas School of Business, runs Berkeley’s social science laboratory, and directs the Psychology of Technology Institute.
She studies the psychological processes underlying how people think about the minds of those around them, and how their judgments then influence their decisions and interactions. Her research has been published in a wide range of academic journals and in several book chapters. It has been featured by media outlets such as The New York Times, The Washington Post, Harvard Business Review, NPR, and the Today Show. She has received funding from the National Science Foundation and awards from the Association for Psychological Science and the American Psychological Association. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
More power to everyone fighting loneliness.
Exactly! We long for genuine interaction and pure connectivity.
That intimation when we talk eye to eye with people, that's what we miss a lot!
My hack list:
1. run errands and (like she said) initiate conversation with folks while you’re out
2. turn on your favorite show from your teenage years and let it run in the background on low volume as you move about your living space
3. call your mom-she’ll always pick up
4. write a nice letter to someone over the age of 60 in your life. walk it to the mailbox and stop at Walgreens and pick up your favorite snack on the way back home
5. don’t judge the feeling. Feeling lonely is not a bad thing or a bad sign-it’s just one of may human emotions, so let the feeling come and go without judging it
This is easier said than done. What if you have social anxiet? What if you are scared of being judged and have CPTSD from connecting with people because you had experiences of people backstabbing you, bullying you, etc.
I've been rejected by women all my life. I'm now 75. Rejection saps confidence, induces resentment, jealousy, bitterness, low self esteem - and loneliness. It affects every aspect of one's life including working life - as it did in my case. For me it's been the worst thing in my life - and I've had cancer! At my age now I've given up trying to communicate with women.
I thought there would be multiple hacks. But she told only two - initiate conversation, and talk not text.
Both these things get you labelled by people as often being weird or desperate. I ignore them and still leave voicemails and initiate conversation with strangers anyway, but you do risk getting judged for it. Everyone just texts now.
How did youtube know that I'm lonely
AI
It's kinda weird.
Because 1 in 3 people are lonely.
😂😂😂😂😂😂they're magicians 😂😂
Some of what she advised to do is super useful but some others are very situational. Speaking to people in the train, very hard since folks already are reading booking, listening to music or something else. Plus cultural differences, beauty of the person also makes a difference. Talking to people as someone who doesn't have good looks comes off as creepy even if the person isn't being so...
thank you, its great when simple but gamechanging insights backed up by strong data
6:48 - Very useful.
Really lovely helpful, thoughtful talk.
Brilliant!
After listening to Mr. Ballen talk about the strange dark and mysterious.....i choose "avoid" 😅
super good word
It was very helpful
I mean what if others don't want to socialize with me? What if I just sit there awkwardly, not knowing what to say?
go ask some questions then move on with conversation starters
Reach out to them first. That's what I do.
I feel like I'm invisible to people sometimes, but once I initiate conversation, things really pick up.
I was thinking the same thing
Hello, It was really very helpful😇
love it
loneliness is very disturbing and eats from inside I've been dealing with it its very very dangerous
super helpful
Very useful and understandable given the society we live in.😢❤
Well you don't need a PhD to figure all that out. Just some bloody common sense which, isn't so common anymore. And round and round we go again a self perpetual society of loneliness, like a mouse on a wheel cage running but going nowhere, or people on a treadmill running a road to nowhere and paying someone else for the privilege of it.
I need a life partner, where are you??? Save me...
I feel you
Exactly
i mean what if others don't want to socialize with me
Easier said than done right?
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معلش❤
It sounds terrible just reading from a Power point screen....
Hehe😂