For story 6, the friend sabotaging his event is absolutely a thing. I've had friends and family do the same thing and it's all about attention seeking. Could even be upset/jealous that her friend's relationship is going well and she got cheated on. Misery like company.
Definitely jealousy. this friend so a relationship that was going well and didn't like it. People like that friend have the center of attention mindset which becomes even worse when their life isn't going well while everyone else is. They will sabotage as much as they can so everyone can be miserable.
100% planned for sabotaging. My best friends sister ALWAYS has something come up when she is either getting attention(getting her Masters and PhD) or needing to see the doctor about some tests(the sister took some pills to kill herself and needed to be rushed to the hospital just before they were to leave to go get the tests done).
Given the history hinted at in the story I think the commentator has got the wrong end of the stick. She didn't attempt that day to sabotage OP's defence, it's yet another crap test of fiancee and her friendship. She was doing it to see if fiancee would come to her even on a special day like her future husband's PhD defence.
Story #6 made my blood BOIL. OP’s fiancé friend definitely wanted to sabotage the defense. I get that Trauma is processed over time, but with no new triggers it makes no sense to try to commit suicide a week after. I’m not saying that she faked it, but I am saying it is a little suspicious.
OP's fiancé also stated that her friend has a history of selfish behavior along these lines. Maybe not in this extreme per say but, it was bad enough that there's obviously some bad blood history of it
id like to say that yes in fact that friend could indeed only after a week decide on ending it, however its because of her selfish nature she would do it the day before his phd, not because she scheduled it but its because she knew her friend wouldnt be there for her that day, that is quite the emotional trigger for some one that thaught that her friend would always be there for her, while the fiancee didnt betray her friend by not being available that day, but in her selfish mind thats exactly what it meant, so she might have figured she didnt want to live anymore where anyone can just leave her all of a sudden, but again this is her selfish mindset that caused this, not her trauma of her boyfriend cheating on her....so is the fiancee's friend doing it on purpose? yes, yes she is, is it to spite fiancee's boyfriend? no its not, its to keep said fiancee with her rather then not be available that particular day....
Story #6: Never underestimate how crazy people can be. If you suspect for a while, and know for a week your bf is cheating, it's a bit odd that you would try to kill yourself at that point without a specific new trigger. Combined with specifically asking the fiancee to visit all day and the fiancee thinking it is not a coincidence. I would wonder how serious the attempt was or it was a way to demand attention. And I'd also not be surprised if it wasn't so much an attempt to sabotage OP defending his PHD but more of an attempt to sabotage the relationship.
Sort of agree, but as always I'd like to remind people that we have next to no information about this person to make 100% certain decisions. Even if this behavior is deliberate, there's multiple potential causes, and keep in mind there's different levels of deliberatness. Try not to dehumanize her too much; yes, I think one way or another the OP and his fiancee desperately need to start distancing themselves from this person because they will very likely get hurt, but that doesn't dismiss the fact that the friend is still a person, and while yes, there's only about a 35-55% chance this is is all a coincidence and it's a clean case where she's just plain suffering over the boyfriend and didn't realize the damage she was doing, there's only like a 2% she's not suffering greatly and this isn't a direct result of some sort of intense ass mental illness. You can recognize someone as dangerous and harmful while also recognizing they are because they need help and aren't getting it. (...And just in case someone gets the wrong idea: please try not to give them help yourself! They are _genuinely_ dangerous in many ways, so please leave it to the professionals for both your sake and theirs. If you need to hurt a person like this to get them off you- and you do- do it. Period. It sucks, but it's also nessasary.)
In story 4 football is just as important in Britain as the most popular sport in America but it doesn’t mean you should leave your girlfriend in hospital because you can always watch it later
Story 6: you could tell your parents that it started an hour or two earlier... the fiancée friend should not be in the bridal party that is just rewarding some bad behavior. But I understand that grief happens a weird times. The friend should have told your fiancé about it asap...
Story 1: That CEO is awesome. The fact that he even mimicked the foot-stomping made me laugh pretty hard. Story 3: I would've left too. OP isn't a jerk for leaving. Story 4: I understand not wanting to miss a big game, but the OP's partner is a major jerk here. The OP had surgery! I'd be dumping that bf yesterday if i was that OP. Story 5: No one is a jerk here but having the dad use a welsh Barry White voice to scare scammers is pretty funny. Story 7: If i were the OP, i would've exposed that cranky old bag to the manager and other employees. Get her banned or something. Someone like that just likes to cause trouble for no reason at all.
first story - I was on vacation for two weeks when the office manager hired a guy to help with production in the back of our business. We were a printing company and had a couple of presses, binding equipment, cutters and other stuff needed to print. This guy immediately started acting like he was the boss, telling staff how to do things (most of which was against our policies), passing off his work to others, and trying to get one of designers to go out with him. I finally got back from vacation and was in my backroom overalls and ragged shirt because I knew we had a MASSIVE print project that needed boxed and delivered thar morning. On this project, we only allowed 12 boxes per pallet due to the weight. New guy laughs at this and start stacking the boxes so there were 36 boxes on the first pallet. I walked up to him and nicely told him that it was only 12 boxes per pallet. He said "that's stupid! we can fit more on here. I know what I'm doing" I said again it's only 12 because of the weight of the boxes. if you overload it can become a hazard and hurt someone. He dropped a box, walked up to me and literally grabbed me by the shirt and said "I know what the F----- I'm doing. Are you going to shut up or do I have to teach you a lesson." He then let me go, pushing me. I just said, let's go talk to the office manager. He laughed and said "that B-----! She won't do anything." But he followed me to the office managers office. As I walked in, the office manager smiled and said "hi MR OWNER! I didn't know you were back in town." I turned and looked at the guy. He smirked and said "yeah right, you're not the owner." I asked the office manager to pull up our website and show him the company profile page. There I am Owner/Opertor. I then looked at him and said "you have 30 seconds to get off MY property before I call the police and have you arrested for assualt. there are cameras all over this place and I know it got some good pictures of you." He did tell me to F off before leaving.
Story 6: legitimately there are people crazy enough to do this. This one girl I hung out with had a friend who would do that. Like he'd hang out with us and seem pleasant and when he wasn't getting enough attention from the girl he'd be gone and *BAM* "OH MY GOD I HAVE TO TALK SO AND SO DOWN CUZ HE'S THINKING OF ENDING IT" Or when we made plans for a day and she told him she was busy *BAM* I didnt stay around her very long since she wouldn't listen that this was clearly abnormal
Story 6. Im going to have to disagree with you about the friend. It is heavily inferred that this isnt the first time she has done something similar to what she did here. If you want my take on it, she is a attention seeker and didnt like that op would be getting so much attention and she didnt get any.
True. the issue is the suicide call. there is no length an attention seeker will go to be the center of attention. first it is one-uping everyones achievements and trauma, then when that doesnt work it is self harm claims, then actual self harm, then false suicide attempts, then actual suicide attempts. and you can't not ignore a suicide attempt
I'm actually confused aF as to why no one, not even the OP, are throwing shade at the fiancee. Yeah something bad happened to make her not go...she had a whole day, multiple hours to send 1 text to him and explain or say anything at all and didn't. Even WITHOUT the event he had taking place, would you ignore your significant other for a whole day? Literally not thinking about him even once? Sorry but if your mind operates at such a low level then you're clearly a trophy wife and nothing else.
With the Fiancée friend in Story 6, I can see that they scheduled it to pull the Fiancée away from the Defense for multiple reasons, one of which being that I know people who had friends like that.
The party crasher no you're not the jerk that's on him and the chic was just a little rude about it as well. It doesn't matter if it's American football or European football no game is more important than the person who you're supposed to care about. And how he treated you after, you deserve a way better person than him.
I work in food service. I once went to an Italian restaurant right after the dinner rush. My waitress was soooo frazzled. I legit asked her if she was ok. She was chill in her answer and very grateful for the concern. I gave her a good tip for her work. Another time I bought cookies from a barbecue place just to give them back to the overworked staff since it WAS the day before July 4th. Sometimes just knowing what others are going thru is enough to spread the good. ❤❤
Having been through the rigors of a STEM PhD, public and private defense, it is a very big deal and should be shared with loved ones. I am sad that you went through such a significant event without your loved ones present. They obviously don’t understand how important that event is.
Story 3: OP not a jerk at all, the chic is a little bit of a jerk in how it was handled but not at fault, OP’s boyfriend is the jerk 100% for knowing how this chic is and just springing bringing his GF on the chic Story 4: OP better break up with that guy. If my mom was in a hospital and he had tickets to his favorite sports team game, he would hand off the tickets to one of his friends and be by my mom’s side as much as the hospital will let him. Story 6: I feel so bad for OP and I have had friends forget my events and grandparents miss events due to leaving late. The fiancé’s friend is terrible! As much as I don’t want to victim blame, it really seems she is trying to drive a hard wedge between OP and fiancé. Fiancé did the best she could for the situation and was an MVP for doing all the calling around for the OP and giving him space he needed at the time
I remember my school gcse dance performance and my mum and dad didn’t show up it devastated me at the time but luckily my neighbour was there and became my surrogate mum for the night 😂
Could be a translation issue (for friend, not OP) when what was meant was "Stranger" but BF introduced OP, so how is she still a "stranger" in the literal sense? it is absolutely not like she saw a party going on and lobbed in...she was invited to attend by her BF so the hostess was very inhospitable and maybe possessive of BF.
@@Kayenne54 yeah but who says "I dont like people in my house" when they're throwing a party with ten people in their house? If i was op, id look around and be like "bitch you serious? there's ten other people here in YOUR house."
@@ghoulruby9871 "i dont like strangers in my house" "bitch you serious? there's ten of your close friends here in YOUR house" that doesnt sound like a smart comeback :/
The story about no one coming to her wadda-call-it. It's human nature to feel that way and shouldn't feel bad for it. On her friend trying to take her own life and planning on doing it that day. That is a petty dick move. Shame on that person for doing that. Sorry not sorry.
My dad used to answer telephone calls "hello Battersea Dogs home" quiet a few people appologisd and hung up. Even though they were not dialling London's prefix!
Story 1: Well that was an epic way to get fired by the CEO, but How did that jerk get hired or why he wasn't fired right away when he was causing issues in the company? I'm baffled as a HR manager myself who handles toxic employees in our company Story 3: She was told to leave nothing there so, why she is being blamed? Story 4: OP not a jerk and as the narrator said leave the jerk. No game is ever important than a person who is getting discharged in a hospital and needs special care. Story 6: I understand the OP's family's and friends reason but it's really annoying for that to happen, But definitely remove that Fiancee's friend from being a bridesmaid and as a guest for the wedding, she did lied to her friend about her situation.
I feel like story 3 the boyfriend might've thought they're *BEST FRIEND* would accept his girlfriend to her house. I don't even need to explain why. Also you repeated "he knew she didn't like people in her house" when the boyfriend said "I didn't know she would react this way" meaning he didn't know and I have a theory that the best friend didn't like his girlfriend because she likes him as well.
I also have that theory because go back and listen to how he intorduces his gf. He didn't say "Hey this is my girlfriend I've been wanting you to meet" or "Hey I've been wanting you two to meet," But rather "Hey this is the PERSON I've been wanting you to meet!" Making it sound like he didn't want the best friend to know that him and OP were together or something.
Hospital story: I think OP's b/f is the jerk. He prioritizes a football game over his g/f? WTF???? I think OP was generous with the offer of spending the night at a hotel. I hope OP dumps this guy.
usually those folk are very hospitable. I've been invited to a family gathering by a Pizza shop owner (old guy) after ten minutes of convo, while we waited for our pizza lol. We were all strangers to one another. Some women are possessive of their male friends, but seems like there was another agenda there...?
Story #6's call you made - Nah, it's more likely than not that she scheduled it. Have to consider the history of that friend. Now does it mean she 100% planned it for then? No, but the chances are higher that she did than it being it randomly struck her then
10:14 not the jerk, my voicemail box is setup specifically to ward off scammers (my dad fell for it and tried something similar to the OP but I just denied changing it to a normal voicemail box and left it)
story 5, in a way, it did surprised her, because yes, her dad didn't tell anyone, so she had the right response, although nothing is wrong with a little voice change, it did scared her thinking he had covid, so, i am debating if she was in the right or wrong
A game you aren't paid to play in is not a reason to skirt your responsibility. The story about the guy getting his doctorate, yeah the friend scheduled it to see if she is more important than the fiancee, as someone who attempted suicide a few times due at the time to an undiagnosed mental health condition, you don't wait days to attempt suicide, unless you are dead set to take over an important event where everyone will be at. Even then, you just want the attention. Kick her out of the wedding and set limits, the fiancee needs to make the OP her priority. This friend just wants attention, and doesn't want to kill herself. The fiancee needs to tell her friend to get help, and if she doesn't then the fiancee needs to cut her out of her life. A lesson I learned with a mom who was an RN, a dad who was a firefighter, plus my life guard, and combat medic training, you do everthing in your power to save a life, but you can't save eveyone. The hardest part is knowing when you have to stop, and accept the outcome.
The finance is by far the worst one. A whole day went by where her significant other didnt even pop into her mind. Much funnier that it was a day that they had something scheduled. Imagine not even thinking about your fiance on an important day for him and not sending him a quick text. Are people really as slow as her that they don't catch that little detail?
The presentation was just an hour and yet she couldnt make it? The bestfriend is a narcissist no doubt, i remember "You" from Netflix where Becky's bestfriend is such a manipulative narcissist. I hope the fiancee isnt a Becky tho, a whole day without a word and she only realize her bestfriend is doing it on purpose after a day of ignoring OP 😂And dont even get me started with The parents like wtf my mom would always be there to watch me even in my most humiliating day
being hit by bad news and then acting out in an attempt to grab power and control of Something in your life is not uncommon, so I am far from sure the friend was innocent.
Also I do remember one time now that he mentioned it, that happened at one of my birthday parties when I think I might have been in third grade. My parents invited the entire class and everyone said yes they would go All the parents and whatnot. They didn't even have to bring a present. I had a 33 people not a single one of them showed up after RSVPing. This was 32 years ago, and even though I do forget it sometimes, certain things can make that come rushing right back. And no I'm not super upset or distraught about it but it really does sucks still
Story 6: If I were a well known Author and received an Award for my book and nobody in my family or my friends didn’t show up to the event when they said they would I would be furious just like the OP was.
Well the rude customer in line thing never happened to me personally. But back in 2004 when I worked at a restaurant in Oklahoma City known as Whataburger we would always have a very rude customers show up on the overnight shift because we were the only restaurant open INSIDE and drive-thru within the range of FIVE bars at closing time. Can you imagine what hell that is to have dozens if not well over a hundred drunk people show up within an hour? And half of them went to the drive-thru!
I used to work at WM and resigned for everyone's safety, (due to low vision). One day, long after I resigned, I was sitting on a bench INSIDE the store, (cane out and everything), a customer saw me, I guess thinking I was the greeter, showed me his receipt. I went along with it, scanned his receipt , scanned the items in his car, gave him back his receipt, and said "Looks good.". Was I the jerk?
I think her will being is a lot more important than a football game if it were that really that important he could have arranged to have it recorded then it could watch it whenever he wanted I don't know if they even have a recording in their country so I'm at a loss here
I used to work at Walmart, one of the main things I truly hated about that job was having 24 managers with several of them working all on the same shift. I unloaded trucks and did all the stock in the back putting them up on the bins and the high shelves for extra inventory. I always thought it was pretty fucked up that a FRONT END SHIFT MANAGER could go back to the store stockroom and order us around. They would tell us we need to rearrange things the way they wanted them, often not proper procedure and dangerous, and if we didn't do it we could actually get written up. My wife also used to work at 1:00 and this was after I had gotten let go for what they called Gross Insubordination(one of these higher up managers ordered me to go and pick up roadkill out of the parking lot with MY BARE HANDS and I told them no, so yeah I would definitely call that GROSS, but yes it was technically insubordination), but my wife actually work there as well and was threatened with losing her job from two separate managers because they both gave her orders to go to do two SEPARATE THINGS at the EXACT SAME TIME in two DIFFERENT PARTS of the store. Fortunately at around that time, one of my cousins was actually a higher up manager at the store she worked at, so he had her back. The two managers didn't get in trouble but they got talked to
Stoey 6 this opinion on friend is subjective. It all depends on backstory. If she has done something like this a dozen times and this is just the time it's happening to the op then that makes sense for it to be purposeful. Sadly some people do crazy stuff for attention.
for the PHD forgive, but don't forget. There will be a time when they will turn to you for comfort and support, when they do.... heh heh heh when they do.
No one giving his fiance heat. She literally didn't take one moment of the whole day to even think about him. Like how slow is your brain that you can't think of your significant other for the whole day much more if it's a day that you had planned something with him. Look at her trying so hard to win his favor back. She will be nice to him for a bit but her cloudy mind will phk them one day.
story 6 he should dump the fiancee and go low to no contact with his friends and family. They all had excuses as to why the missed his event and I bet this wasn't the first time they had an excuses for missing something important to O.P.
Story 4: As a Englishman, I can defiantly tell you the significance of Football here culturally is obsessive, dangerously. Like, care about more than their own wives excessive, like how Truck Guys care more about their trucks than their own wives and would happily divorce them over the obsession, so honestly the OP is Not a jerk especially since they were also in hospital, I'd say she should just dump the guy for chosing a sport over her.
OK, came here because of the PhD defense story. 1. The friend wasn't trying to sabotage the defense, she was trying to destroy the relationship. Miser loves company, and why should she be the the only single one? Why should anyone else be happy? So, the hell she didn't. 2. His friends suck. OK, the one person that was sick as hell remains to be seen if he sucks, but the rest are just horrible people and should be ashamed of themselves. 3. OP's parents should be ashamed of themselves. Period. I want to say "They are failures as parents" but who knows? Maybe they had something to do with his success other then "I'm going to prove you dbags wrong."
With that 4th story, and being a grandson of a Christian football fan, I can see where the op's boyfriend is just like "Oh my gosh. The game is starting soon, and I don't wanna miss it!" And I understand that he actually has friends going to the football game and was wanting to join them at it, maybe to save the hassle of them telling him about the whole thing. But this is his girlfriend he's neglecting. She just had surgery and she needed to stay in the hospital for a few more days before she can leave, and he just leaves her behind simply because of the football game, which completely blew my mind. The op here had every right to try and contact him and get mad at him for leaving her behind for some football game that he's not even playing in. If he had been more reasonable and had been more aware of how long she had to stay until she needed to leave, he could have booked the hotel with his girlfriend, the op, and watched the game from there, and if his friends were to have a problem with it, he could have just explained to them that he recently had to pick up his girlfriend, the op, from the hospital and was watching the game from a hotel room they booked. And that would literally be it. Even if he was anxious about the game, he can take the time to wait for the op so he can drive her out of the hospital, and even if he missed the start, he would still be able to watch it play out, and he'd have his friends to inform him of what happened. Completely insane behavior and the op can do so much better than this guy.
Regarding the friend sabotaging The defense. Something she was necessarily directly sabotaging the defense what she seems like that person who needs to be the center of attention and a selfish in that way. This is the type of person who decides to propose or announce pregnancies and such at other people's weddings and baby showers. Might just be worth disinviting them completely from the wedding cuz they will find a way to grandstand. This friends will type that's likely to show up in a wedding dress herself
Story #6 - All but the ill friend and the Fiancee would need to make up for it in varying ways. The ill friend is the ONLY one with a valid excuse, and the Fiance thought the excuse was valid until he found out the friend lied and made up a huge "is she self termination levels of upset?" scene
The football game. Story sounds suss to me. If the lady had to leave the hospital and no one was there to escort her they would have sent her home in an ambulance. No charge. It's the UK, they do that.
Story 3: I smell jealousy 🤔 Its your bestfriends girlfriend. And you just react like that. Asking them to leave right after she arrived. What is she a sorority/clique leader?
why is it called a "defense"? Are supposed to give a reason why you should receive funding? Is it like a pitch meeting? Who or what are defending yourself from?
I can be wrong, but I believe it's called a defence because you have to justify your reasoning behind the paper. So they might ask "why did you put Y in X, when (insert famous proffessor name here). Said that it was X in Z" or something.
in the 7th story I understand and had a bit more crazy but very similar of a story. there was a amazing little Italian restaurant that moved to a bit bigger place it was a very popular place I town but there was always this one group of high school girls that were just plane Karens they always complained about the line and lack of serves cause how many there were in there most day. they one day while I was eating got so mad that one big jock that was with them flat out sucker punched a employee. they got the cops called and in the heap of the moment ran away got into there car and imminently crash in BOTH my and the owner's car like they destroyed our fronts they also got racked from the crash and had to be taken to the hospital were as soon as they were released taken to jail. I got luck cause I actually worked at the hospital and saw the whole thing. (and yes I did rush out and treated them till the first-responders got there.)
The one thing that doesn’t make sense to me about the very white voice story is why he would need to use that on his child. If he has the child’s number saved in the phone the OP says he needs hearing aids to be able to hear never mentioning anything about him being blind, so unless he gets calls through a landline, but doesn’t have caller ID, there should be no excuse, especially if he has a cell phone with the OP’s number saved in his cell phone. However, it is understandable if he does not have the OP’s number saved because sometimes I forget to save numbers so I know who I’m talking to and be able to tell the difference between the scam caller and a family member or friend.
There's an audience for a PhD presentation? I've never heard of that. My brother did his in front of a group of professors, but no spectators. That just seems weird. Maybe it's different for different countries or schools?
Ok wait, did I miss something??? I THOUGHT in Story #3 the bf told OP that his friend was having a party?? @ 5:04 "was having a small party, if you could call it that, there were 10 people at most" yet DOESN'T LIKE PEOPLE AT THEIR HOUSE???!??!?!?!?!? da what?? OP NTA, did the right thing, if I were her I would have left as well rather than felt bad vibes for the rest of the time I was there.
For story 6, the friend sabotaging his event is absolutely a thing. I've had friends and family do the same thing and it's all about attention seeking. Could even be upset/jealous that her friend's relationship is going well and she got cheated on. Misery like company.
Definitely jealousy. this friend so a relationship that was going well and didn't like it. People like that friend have the center of attention mindset which becomes even worse when their life isn't going well while everyone else is. They will sabotage as much as they can so everyone can be miserable.
Yes, indeed! That "friend" needs to go!
100% planned for sabotaging. My best friends sister ALWAYS has something come up when she is either getting attention(getting her Masters and PhD) or needing to see the doctor about some tests(the sister took some pills to kill herself and needed to be rushed to the hospital just before they were to leave to go get the tests done).
Eric Yerxa, HOW DID YOU GET TO STORY 6 !?!?!??!?!?!
Given the history hinted at in the story I think the commentator has got the wrong end of the stick. She didn't attempt that day to sabotage OP's defence, it's yet another crap test of fiancee and her friendship. She was doing it to see if fiancee would come to her even on a special day like her future husband's PhD defence.
Story #6 made my blood BOIL. OP’s fiancé friend definitely wanted to sabotage the defense. I get that Trauma is processed over time, but with no new triggers it makes no sense to try to commit suicide a week after. I’m not saying that she faked it, but I am saying it is a little suspicious.
OP's fiancé also stated that her friend has a history of selfish behavior along these lines. Maybe not in this extreme per say but, it was bad enough that there's obviously some bad blood history of it
id like to say that yes in fact that friend could indeed only after a week decide on ending it, however its because of her selfish nature she would do it the day before his phd, not because she scheduled it but its because she knew her friend wouldnt be there for her that day, that is quite the emotional trigger for some one that thaught that her friend would always be there for her, while the fiancee didnt betray her friend by not being available that day, but in her selfish mind thats exactly what it meant, so she might have figured she didnt want to live anymore where anyone can just leave her all of a sudden, but again this is her selfish mindset that caused this, not her trauma of her boyfriend cheating on her....so is the fiancee's friend doing it on purpose? yes, yes she is, is it to spite fiancee's boyfriend? no its not, its to keep said fiancee with her rather then not be available that particular day....
I was thinking the same thing. The friend strikes me as the type that would do anything to have the fiancée pay attention to her and only her.
I think the fiance's friend just hates OP for some weird reason and is trying to break the fiance and the OP up.
Story #6: Never underestimate how crazy people can be. If you suspect for a while, and know for a week your bf is cheating, it's a bit odd that you would try to kill yourself at that point without a specific new trigger. Combined with specifically asking the fiancee to visit all day and the fiancee thinking it is not a coincidence. I would wonder how serious the attempt was or it was a way to demand attention. And I'd also not be surprised if it wasn't so much an attempt to sabotage OP defending his PHD but more of an attempt to sabotage the relationship.
Agree
Agreed, there was way to much evidence that screamed "SHE'S TRYING TO SABATOGE THE DEFFENSE" to say she wasn't trying to sabo the deffense.
Sort of agree, but as always I'd like to remind people that we have next to no information about this person to make 100% certain decisions. Even if this behavior is deliberate, there's multiple potential causes, and keep in mind there's different levels of deliberatness. Try not to dehumanize her too much; yes, I think one way or another the OP and his fiancee desperately need to start distancing themselves from this person because they will very likely get hurt, but that doesn't dismiss the fact that the friend is still a person, and while yes, there's only about a 35-55% chance this is is all a coincidence and it's a clean case where she's just plain suffering over the boyfriend and didn't realize the damage she was doing, there's only like a 2% she's not suffering greatly and this isn't a direct result of some sort of intense ass mental illness. You can recognize someone as dangerous and harmful while also recognizing they are because they need help and aren't getting it.
(...And just in case someone gets the wrong idea: please try not to give them help yourself! They are _genuinely_ dangerous in many ways, so please leave it to the professionals for both your sake and theirs. If you need to hurt a person like this to get them off you- and you do- do it. Period. It sucks, but it's also nessasary.)
In story 4 football is just as important in Britain as the most popular sport in America but it doesn’t mean you should leave your girlfriend in hospital because you can always watch it later
No game is more important than keeping your loved ones safe, right? So wtf is the logic?
I mean, u can always watch on ur phone in hospital
The 4th one boils my blood. WHO THE F THINKS ITS SELFISH OF A PARTNER TO BE PANICKED ABOUT BEING LEFT AT A HOSPITAL?!
YOU ARE RIGHT IMA KILL THAT BOI
Story 6: you could tell your parents that it started an hour or two earlier... the fiancée friend should not be in the bridal party that is just rewarding some bad behavior. But I understand that grief happens a weird times. The friend should have told your fiancé about it asap...
it was mentioned that the friend is selfish , i wont be suprised if she would pull some shit at the weding as well
Story 1: That CEO is awesome. The fact that he even mimicked the foot-stomping made me laugh pretty hard.
Story 3: I would've left too. OP isn't a jerk for leaving.
Story 4: I understand not wanting to miss a big game, but the OP's partner is a major jerk here. The OP had surgery! I'd be dumping that bf yesterday if i was that OP.
Story 5: No one is a jerk here but having the dad use a welsh Barry White voice to scare scammers is pretty funny.
Story 7: If i were the OP, i would've exposed that cranky old bag to the manager and other employees. Get her banned or something. Someone like that just likes to cause trouble for no reason at all.
CEO is a boss
@@ANDPEGGY-1 Figuratively and literally
first story - I was on vacation for two weeks when the office manager hired a guy to help with production in the back of our business. We were a printing company and had a couple of presses, binding equipment, cutters and other stuff needed to print.
This guy immediately started acting like he was the boss, telling staff how to do things (most of which was against our policies), passing off his work to others, and trying to get one of designers to go out with him.
I finally got back from vacation and was in my backroom overalls and ragged shirt because I knew we had a MASSIVE print project that needed boxed and delivered thar morning. On this project, we only allowed 12 boxes per pallet due to the weight. New guy laughs at this and start stacking the boxes so there were 36 boxes on the first pallet. I walked up to him and nicely told him that it was only 12 boxes per pallet. He said "that's stupid! we can fit more on here. I know what I'm doing" I said again it's only 12 because of the weight of the boxes. if you overload it can become a hazard and hurt someone. He dropped a box, walked up to me and literally grabbed me by the shirt and said "I know what the F----- I'm doing. Are you going to shut up or do I have to teach you a lesson." He then let me go, pushing me. I just said, let's go talk to the office manager. He laughed and said "that B-----! She won't do anything." But he followed me to the office managers office.
As I walked in, the office manager smiled and said "hi MR OWNER! I didn't know you were back in town." I turned and looked at the guy. He smirked and said "yeah right, you're not the owner." I asked the office manager to pull up our website and show him the company profile page. There I am Owner/Opertor. I then looked at him and said "you have 30 seconds to get off MY property before I call the police and have you arrested for assualt. there are cameras all over this place and I know it got some good pictures of you." He did tell me to F off before leaving.
That impersonation of the employe 😂🤣🤣
It’s taking me out 😂😂
I would have paid good money to see that
Story 6: legitimately there are people crazy enough to do this. This one girl I hung out with had a friend who would do that. Like he'd hang out with us and seem pleasant and when he wasn't getting enough attention from the girl he'd be gone and *BAM* "OH MY GOD I HAVE TO TALK SO AND SO DOWN CUZ HE'S THINKING OF ENDING IT"
Or when we made plans for a day and she told him she was busy *BAM*
I didnt stay around her very long since she wouldn't listen that this was clearly abnormal
Story 6. Im going to have to disagree with you about the friend. It is heavily inferred that this isnt the first time she has done something similar to what she did here. If you want my take on it, she is a attention seeker and didnt like that op would be getting so much attention and she didnt get any.
True. the issue is the suicide call. there is no length an attention seeker will go to be the center of attention. first it is one-uping everyones achievements and trauma, then when that doesnt work it is self harm claims, then actual self harm, then false suicide attempts, then actual suicide attempts. and you can't not ignore a suicide attempt
@Elesis Seighart no no, we can totally ignore the attempts. It's like the trash taking itself out.
I'm actually confused aF as to why no one, not even the OP, are throwing shade at the fiancee.
Yeah something bad happened to make her not go...she had a whole day, multiple hours to send 1 text to him and explain or say anything at all and didn't. Even WITHOUT the event he had taking place, would you ignore your significant other for a whole day? Literally not thinking about him even once?
Sorry but if your mind operates at such a low level then you're clearly a trophy wife and nothing else.
With the Fiancée friend in Story 6, I can see that they scheduled it to pull the Fiancée away from the Defense for multiple reasons, one of which being that I know people who had friends like that.
The party crasher no you're not the jerk that's on him and the chic was just a little rude about it as well. It doesn't matter if it's American football or European football no game is more important than the person who you're supposed to care about. And how he treated you after, you deserve a way better person than him.
About the story with the hospital....well, if my boyfriend left me for a stupid game, I would likely abandon him....forever.
story #2 reminds me of BBT when Sheldon started helping customers at the computer store hahaha
Glory to the Empire!
I work in food service. I once went to an Italian restaurant right after the dinner rush. My waitress was soooo frazzled. I legit asked her if she was ok. She was chill in her answer and very grateful for the concern. I gave her a good tip for her work. Another time I bought cookies from a barbecue place just to give them back to the overworked staff since it WAS the day before July 4th. Sometimes just knowing what others are going thru is enough to spread the good. ❤❤
Having been through the rigors of a STEM PhD, public and private defense, it is a very big deal and should be shared with loved ones. I am sad that you went through such a significant event without your loved ones present. They obviously don’t understand how important that event is.
Story 3: OP not a jerk at all, the chic is a little bit of a jerk in how it was handled but not at fault, OP’s boyfriend is the jerk 100% for knowing how this chic is and just springing bringing his GF on the chic
Story 4: OP better break up with that guy. If my mom was in a hospital and he had tickets to his favorite sports team game, he would hand off the tickets to one of his friends and be by my mom’s side as much as the hospital will let him.
Story 6: I feel so bad for OP and I have had friends forget my events and grandparents miss events due to leaving late. The fiancé’s friend is terrible! As much as I don’t want to victim blame, it really seems she is trying to drive a hard wedge between OP and fiancé. Fiancé did the best she could for the situation and was an MVP for doing all the calling around for the OP and giving him space he needed at the time
You handled it well. Specially since you didn’t know what was the problem with everyone
I remember my school gcse dance performance and my mum and dad didn’t show up it devastated me at the time but luckily my neighbour was there and became my surrogate mum for the night 😂
nice video man i loved it
the voice acting for the employee turned into a transformer deep voice
Story 1: There is a cashier where I work who treats courtesy clerks as garbage even in front of customers.
"I don't like people in my house." yes say that when your throwing a party with ten people in YOUR house, that isn't a stupid statement at all.
Could be a translation issue (for friend, not OP) when what was meant was "Stranger" but BF introduced OP, so how is she still a "stranger" in the literal sense? it is absolutely not like she saw a party going on and lobbed in...she was invited to attend by her BF so the hostess was very inhospitable and maybe possessive of BF.
@@Kayenne54 yeah but who says "I dont like people in my house" when they're throwing a party with ten people in their house? If i was op, id look around and be like "bitch you serious? there's ten other people here in YOUR house."
@@ghoulruby9871 Very hostile. I would have walked out too.
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"i dont like strangers in my house"
"bitch you serious? there's ten of your close friends here in YOUR house"
that doesnt sound like a smart comeback :/
@@vergorance thats what id say though, her response to meeting op is so fucking dumb
I need to thank everyone who came to theatre performances I’ve been a part of
That poor customer lmao
Story 1 That dude (entitled employee) got some gusts/balls to yell a the CEO (and everyone else) without thinking
The story about no one coming to her wadda-call-it. It's human nature to feel that way and shouldn't feel bad for it. On her friend trying to take her own life and planning on doing it that day. That is a petty dick move. Shame on that person for doing that. Sorry not sorry.
@1:02 the voice kills me 😂 woke up my nb niece by accident
My dad used to answer telephone calls "hello Battersea Dogs home" quiet a few people appologisd and hung up. Even though they were not dialling London's prefix!
You know that if the boyfriend’s friend hate people in his house,why did you have a party of ten people
For story 5, I wouldn't say jerk, but definitely drama queen.
Story 1: Well that was an epic way to get fired by the CEO, but How did that jerk get hired or why he wasn't fired right away when he was causing issues in the company? I'm baffled as a HR manager myself who handles toxic employees in our company
Story 3: She was told to leave nothing there so, why she is being blamed?
Story 4: OP not a jerk and as the narrator said leave the jerk. No game is ever important than a person who is getting discharged in a hospital and needs special care.
Story 6: I understand the OP's family's and friends reason but it's really annoying for that to happen, But definitely remove that Fiancee's friend from being a bridesmaid and as a guest for the wedding, she did lied to her friend about her situation.
Security: happens every day
I feel like story 3 the boyfriend might've thought they're *BEST FRIEND* would accept his girlfriend to her house. I don't even need to explain why. Also you repeated "he knew she didn't like people in her house" when the boyfriend said "I didn't know she would react this way" meaning he didn't know and I have a theory that the best friend didn't like his girlfriend because she likes him as well.
I also have that theory because go back and listen to how he intorduces his gf. He didn't say "Hey this is my girlfriend I've been wanting you to meet" or "Hey I've been wanting you two to meet," But rather "Hey this is the PERSON I've been wanting you to meet!" Making it sound like he didn't want the best friend to know that him and OP were together or something.
And it was at that moment he realized he f up (2.07)
Story 2 sounds like Home Depot
Story 3: So what, it's just a FUCKING SOCCER GAME. What he should've done was DVR it and watch it later.
Hospital story: I think OP's b/f is the jerk. He prioritizes a football game over his g/f? WTF???? I think OP was generous with the offer of spending the night at a hotel. I hope OP dumps this guy.
Story 3 he did what they asked. If you ask someone to leave your rude if you leave you aren’t rude it’s your option.
In story 1 I would ask the fellow employees If they know who he is since he dont know
Goofy ahh didn't understand the story
Phd story congratulations op. Your family friends were wrong
For the third story it could also be some language issues as you mention Italian and Greek ek are her mother tongue
usually those folk are very hospitable. I've been invited to a family gathering by a Pizza shop owner (old guy) after ten minutes of convo, while we waited for our pizza lol. We were all strangers to one another. Some women are possessive of their male friends, but seems like there was another agenda there...?
The reason the football game was important it was the game that Tom Brady lost the game for a change
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football as in soccer, not american football
Story #6's call you made - Nah, it's more likely than not that she scheduled it. Have to consider the history of that friend. Now does it mean she 100% planned it for then? No, but the chances are higher that she did than it being it randomly struck her then
10:14 not the jerk, my voicemail box is setup specifically to ward off scammers (my dad fell for it and tried something similar to the OP but I just denied changing it to a normal voicemail box and left it)
story 5, in a way, it did surprised her, because yes, her dad didn't tell anyone, so she had the right response, although nothing is wrong with a little voice change, it did scared her thinking he had covid, so, i am debating if she was in the right or wrong
Well she knows her father is alright why stop him? Just because she isnt comfortable?
In the 5th story she's just lucky she wasn't dialing me cause I usually say something completely inappropriate
A game you aren't paid to play in is not a reason to skirt your responsibility. The story about the guy getting his doctorate, yeah the friend scheduled it to see if she is more important than the fiancee, as someone who attempted suicide a few times due at the time to an undiagnosed mental health condition, you don't wait days to attempt suicide, unless you are dead set to take over an important event where everyone will be at. Even then, you just want the attention. Kick her out of the wedding and set limits, the fiancee needs to make the OP her priority. This friend just wants attention, and doesn't want to kill herself. The fiancee needs to tell her friend to get help, and if she doesn't then the fiancee needs to cut her out of her life. A lesson I learned with a mom who was an RN, a dad who was a firefighter, plus my life guard, and combat medic training, you do everthing in your power to save a life, but you can't save eveyone. The hardest part is knowing when you have to stop, and accept the outcome.
The finance is by far the worst one. A whole day went by where her significant other didnt even pop into her mind. Much funnier that it was a day that they had something scheduled. Imagine not even thinking about your fiance on an important day for him and not sending him a quick text.
Are people really as slow as her that they don't catch that little detail?
The presentation was just an hour and yet she couldnt make it? The bestfriend is a narcissist no doubt, i remember "You" from Netflix where Becky's bestfriend is such a manipulative narcissist. I hope the fiancee isnt a Becky tho, a whole day without a word and she only realize her bestfriend is doing it on purpose after a day of ignoring OP 😂And dont even get me started with The parents like wtf my mom would always be there to watch me even in my most humiliating day
Dude i do a toddler voice to ward off scam callers.
Yeah my mom also didn't show up to my graduation...
being hit by bad news and then acting out in an attempt to grab power and control of Something in your life is not uncommon, so I am far from sure the friend was innocent.
Also I do remember one time now that he mentioned it, that happened at one of my birthday parties when I think I might have been in third grade. My parents invited the entire class and everyone said yes they would go All the parents and whatnot. They didn't even have to bring a present. I had a 33 people not a single one of them showed up after RSVPing. This was 32 years ago, and even though I do forget it sometimes, certain things can make that come rushing right back. And no I'm not super upset or distraught about it but it really does sucks still
in the football game one o think the people working at the hospital are the jerks
Story 6: If I were a well known Author and received an Award for my book and nobody in my family or my friends didn’t show up to the event when they said they would I would be furious just like the OP was.
In story 3 I think the "friend" had a crush on OP's boyfriend
*AHEM it's girlfriend
@@dacomplex1Yuhanhan.hanna-Xia nope it's boyfriend
@@kawliga9890 oh sorry wrong story I thought you were talking about story 6
Well the rude customer in line thing never happened to me personally. But back in 2004 when I worked at a restaurant in Oklahoma City known as Whataburger we would always have a very rude customers show up on the overnight shift because we were the only restaurant open INSIDE and drive-thru within the range of FIVE bars at closing time. Can you imagine what hell that is to have dozens if not well over a hundred drunk people show up within an hour? And half of them went to the drive-thru!
I used to work at WM and resigned for everyone's safety, (due to low vision). One day, long after I resigned, I was sitting on a bench INSIDE the store, (cane out and everything), a customer saw me, I guess thinking I was the greeter, showed me his receipt. I went along with it, scanned his receipt , scanned the items in his car, gave him back his receipt, and said "Looks good.". Was I the jerk?
my old boss had a great way of dealing with employees he was scraed to fire. pepper spray.
I think her will being is a lot more important than a football game if it were that really that important he could have arranged to have it recorded then it could watch it whenever he wanted I don't know if they even have a recording in their country so I'm at a loss here
Someone like that is not worth it, their priorities are all wrong. If they think a game is more important than someone’s life.
7:27 The age difference?????
I used to work at Walmart, one of the main things I truly hated about that job was having 24 managers with several of them working all on the same shift. I unloaded trucks and did all the stock in the back putting them up on the bins and the high shelves for extra inventory. I always thought it was pretty fucked up that a FRONT END SHIFT MANAGER could go back to the store stockroom and order us around. They would tell us we need to rearrange things the way they wanted them, often not proper procedure and dangerous, and if we didn't do it we could actually get written up.
My wife also used to work at 1:00 and this was after I had gotten let go for what they called Gross Insubordination(one of these higher up managers ordered me to go and pick up roadkill out of the parking lot with MY BARE HANDS and I told them no, so yeah I would definitely call that GROSS, but yes it was technically insubordination), but my wife actually work there as well and was threatened with losing her job from two separate managers because they both gave her orders to go to do two SEPARATE THINGS at the EXACT SAME TIME in two DIFFERENT PARTS of the store.
Fortunately at around that time, one of my cousins was actually a higher up manager at the store she worked at, so he had her back. The two managers didn't get in trouble but they got talked to
Stoey 6 this opinion on friend is subjective. It all depends on backstory. If she has done something like this a dozen times and this is just the time it's happening to the op then that makes sense for it to be purposeful. Sadly some people do crazy stuff for attention.
Well, in the actual post, it’s much more implied that the friend has pulled similar stunts like this before.
for the PHD forgive, but don't forget. There will be a time when they will turn to you for comfort and support, when they do.... heh heh heh when they do.
story 4: football is important but not that important u are not the jerk
Story 6: I would just leave the fiance for priortize the "friend" than a person whom they plan to get married 😇
Same the fiance looks so fishy
No one giving his fiance heat. She literally didn't take one moment of the whole day to even think about him. Like how slow is your brain that you can't think of your significant other for the whole day much more if it's a day that you had planned something with him.
Look at her trying so hard to win his favor back. She will be nice to him for a bit but her cloudy mind will phk them one day.
story 6 he should dump the fiancee and go low to no contact with his friends and family. They all had excuses as to why the missed his event and I bet this wasn't the first time they had an excuses for missing something important to O.P.
For story 3, how are you going to host a party at your house and say, "i dont like people in my house?" That's a major contradiction.
Doesn’t like people in her house, throws a party and invites multiple people…makes sense
Story 4: As a Englishman, I can defiantly tell you the significance of Football here culturally is obsessive, dangerously. Like, care about more than their own wives excessive, like how Truck Guys care more about their trucks than their own wives and would happily divorce them over the obsession, so honestly the OP is Not a jerk especially since they were also in hospital, I'd say she should just dump the guy for chosing a sport over her.
OK, came here because of the PhD defense story. 1. The friend wasn't trying to sabotage the defense, she was trying to destroy the relationship. Miser loves company, and why should she be the the only single one? Why should anyone else be happy? So, the hell she didn't. 2. His friends suck. OK, the one person that was sick as hell remains to be seen if he sucks, but the rest are just horrible people and should be ashamed of themselves. 3. OP's parents should be ashamed of themselves. Period. I want to say "They are failures as parents" but who knows? Maybe they had something to do with his success other then "I'm going to prove you dbags wrong."
In the feel free to leave story, there was only one jerk, and it wasn't OP or the host.
If I know how this work years of education go's into getting to ones defence so it's like a graduation
With that 4th story, and being a grandson of a Christian football fan, I can see where the op's boyfriend is just like "Oh my gosh. The game is starting soon, and I don't wanna miss it!" And I understand that he actually has friends going to the football game and was wanting to join them at it, maybe to save the hassle of them telling him about the whole thing. But this is his girlfriend he's neglecting. She just had surgery and she needed to stay in the hospital for a few more days before she can leave, and he just leaves her behind simply because of the football game, which completely blew my mind. The op here had every right to try and contact him and get mad at him for leaving her behind for some football game that he's not even playing in. If he had been more reasonable and had been more aware of how long she had to stay until she needed to leave, he could have booked the hotel with his girlfriend, the op, and watched the game from there, and if his friends were to have a problem with it, he could have just explained to them that he recently had to pick up his girlfriend, the op, from the hospital and was watching the game from a hotel room they booked. And that would literally be it. Even if he was anxious about the game, he can take the time to wait for the op so he can drive her out of the hospital, and even if he missed the start, he would still be able to watch it play out, and he'd have his friends to inform him of what happened. Completely insane behavior and the op can do so much better than this guy.
that selfish friend? bet she just wanted her fiance /:
Regarding the friend sabotaging The defense. Something she was necessarily directly sabotaging the defense what she seems like that person who needs to be the center of attention and a selfish in that way. This is the type of person who decides to propose or announce pregnancies and such at other people's weddings and baby showers.
Might just be worth disinviting them completely from the wedding cuz they will find a way to grandstand. This friends will type that's likely to show up in a wedding dress herself
Story #6 - All but the ill friend and the Fiancee would need to make up for it in varying ways. The ill friend is the ONLY one with a valid excuse, and the Fiance thought the excuse was valid until he found out the friend lied and made up a huge "is she self termination levels of upset?" scene
story 4: did the op actually break up with the partner?
A stalker...🤔😭🙈
The football game. Story sounds suss to me. If the lady had to leave the hospital and no one was there to escort her they would have sent her home in an ambulance. No charge. It's the UK, they do that.
Lol quote story from the 6st sense
Whats the shaders name at 11:37
Story 3: I smell jealousy 🤔 Its your bestfriends girlfriend. And you just react like that. Asking them to leave right after she arrived. What is she a sorority/clique leader?
I mean thats her house she doesn't know her.
Do they have to react like that tho? OP was clueless about her preference right?
why is it called a "defense"? Are supposed to give a reason why you should receive funding? Is it like a pitch meeting? Who or what are defending yourself from?
I can be wrong, but I believe it's called a defence because you have to justify your reasoning behind the paper. So they might ask "why did you put Y in X, when (insert famous proffessor name here). Said that it was X in Z" or something.
Story four: leave him, he's a jerk.
Football guy is 200% the jerk.. omg I cant even.
I would have hired a few thugs to give him an attitude adjustment.
in the 7th story I understand and had a bit more crazy but very similar of a story. there was a amazing little Italian restaurant that moved to a bit bigger place it was a very popular place I town but there was always this one group of high school girls that were just plane Karens they always complained about the line and lack of serves cause how many there were in there most day. they one day while I was eating got so mad that one big jock that was with them flat out sucker punched a employee. they got the cops called and in the heap of the moment ran away got into there car and imminently crash in BOTH my and the owner's car like they destroyed our fronts they also got racked from the crash and had to be taken to the hospital were as soon as they were released taken to jail. I got luck cause I actually worked at the hospital and saw the whole thing. (and yes I did rush out and treated them till the first-responders got there.)
Story four is sad because it shows the evil of football.
The one thing that doesn’t make sense to me about the very white voice story is why he would need to use that on his child. If he has the child’s number saved in the phone the OP says he needs hearing aids to be able to hear never mentioning anything about him being blind, so unless he gets calls through a landline, but doesn’t have caller ID, there should be no excuse, especially if he has a cell phone with the OP’s number saved in his cell phone. However, it is understandable if he does not have the OP’s number saved because sometimes I forget to save numbers so I know who I’m talking to and be able to tell the difference between the scam caller and a family member or friend.
There's an audience for a PhD presentation? I've never heard of that. My brother did his in front of a group of professors, but no spectators. That just seems weird. Maybe it's different for different countries or schools?
I know exactly which store that one guy works at tge moment he said apron and locker.. Home Depot.
6:45 Boyfriend is a jerk for expecting everything to go his way.
Ok wait, did I miss something??? I THOUGHT in Story #3 the bf told OP that his friend was having a party?? @ 5:04 "was having a small party, if you could call it that, there were 10 people at most" yet DOESN'T LIKE PEOPLE AT THEIR HOUSE???!??!?!?!?!? da what?? OP NTA, did the right thing, if I were her I would have left as well rather than felt bad vibes for the rest of the time I was there.
Story 4: OP is dating the average Messi fan
Football story, i knew it would be bad when i saw the age diff
My answer to do you know who I am is, yes, i do and i really don't care
Sports are 100% irrelevant and unnecessary. Boyfriend needs to learn that and get his priorities straight.
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