@@Jasmin-gt5lu thank you, it’s takin every cell in my body to keep me pushin. I’m very sorry for your loss also.. May god bless you with the strength and peace to keep going.
Of course you are not the same. This will change you and your life. But we promise you there is hope and there is help. If you haven't already found support please check out our helpful resources and organizations page on our website www.mygriefcare.com/. Don't do this alone. We are so sorry for your pain.
I really, desperately needed this. I have been spiraling over the passing of a dear friend. Finding this has been so helpful, and I hope to see more. I think I'm going to write that letter.
The guilt is just awful. It’s easy to get totally overtaken by this. It’s so easy to heap this on myself and it’s taken almost three years to get to a bearable place. Others do judge too, that does not help. Thank you for understanding
My Dad passed after I failed to identify how serious his depression was and missed a visit. We were so close, and I **know** that if I hadn't, he'd still be with us. I loved him so much and couldn't bear to believe I was that lynch pin to him. How fucking awful to be proved wrong.
You may choose to throw these following words away. But, having dealt with many survivors of suicide, I can tell you that you are not to blame. This kind of action by the your dad, isn't really ever as a result as something as simple as missing a visit with a physician or therapist. The loss is indeed "fucking awful" but you are not an awful person and you are not responsible for the outcome. I don't even need to meet you to know that. You are not the lynch pin. Please do not put that on yourself. And, if you continue to struggle, I hope that you will please look for help. Please consider our free website that has resources that might be of help to you.www.mygriefcare.com/grief-resources/ then click on the suicide link on the left. If nothing is there, please consider a search for Survivors of Suicide services in your area or available online.
I lost my bf to suicide a day after we broke up. I said really cruel things and denied him of my presence so he came up to that point. It’s difficult not to take the blame. But I want everyone to blame me as well. His family and friend did nothing wrong. It’s on me.
That's tremendously hard to be left with. However, I hope you can come to believe in time that you were not responsible for your ex-boyfriend's reaction to what happened and how you behaved. Most relationships don't end well but most people who break up don't kill themselves. It is tragic that he couldn't cope with the break up and did what he did in such an emotional state, but that was his doing, not yours.
I must agree with Marcus' comment above. There is nothing wrong with having regrets about saying or doing some things that bring up remorse in you. But, that is a far cry from actually taking responsibility for your bf's actions. If your bf was healthy emotionally and psychologically, he might have been very hurt by your words and actions, but he wouldn't have made the decision to take his own life. So, as a friend of mine used to say "Shame off you!" That is to say, the opposite of "shame on you." I would recommend that you seek some professional help through a licensed counselor, a life coach, or anyone who specializes in helping grieving people. You need to thoroughly process and let go of these thoughts that torture you.
Thank you for these videos, unfortunately I’m only here because I can relate and I need to find a way to live because I’m no longer the same
Same here.. I wish a lot of strength to you.
@@Jasmin-gt5lu thank you, it’s takin every cell in my body to keep me pushin. I’m very sorry for your loss also..
May god bless you with the strength and peace to keep going.
Of course you are not the same. This will change you and your life. But we promise you there is hope and there is help. If you haven't already found support please check out our helpful resources and organizations page on our website www.mygriefcare.com/. Don't do this alone. We are so sorry for your pain.
I really, desperately needed this. I have been spiraling over the passing of a dear friend. Finding this has been so helpful, and I hope to see more. I think I'm going to write that letter.
The guilt is just awful. It’s easy to get totally overtaken by this. It’s so easy to heap this on myself and it’s taken almost three years to get to a bearable place. Others do judge too, that does not help. Thank you for understanding
My Dad passed after I failed to identify how serious his depression was and missed a visit. We were so close, and I **know** that if I hadn't, he'd still be with us. I loved him so much and couldn't bear to believe I was that lynch pin to him. How fucking awful to be proved wrong.
You may choose to throw these following words away. But, having dealt with many survivors of suicide, I can tell you that you are not to blame. This kind of action by the your dad, isn't really ever as a result as something as simple as missing a visit with a physician or therapist. The loss is indeed "fucking awful" but you are not an awful person and you are not responsible for the outcome. I don't even need to meet you to know that. You are not the lynch pin. Please do not put that on yourself. And, if you continue to struggle, I hope that you will please look for help. Please consider our free website that has resources that might be of help to you.www.mygriefcare.com/grief-resources/ then click on the suicide link on the left. If nothing is there, please consider a search for Survivors of Suicide services in your area or available online.
I lost my best friend to suicide I miss him every day
Thank you for this
Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks for listening
I lost my bf to suicide a day after we broke up. I said really cruel things and denied him of my presence so he came up to that point. It’s difficult not to take the blame. But I want everyone to blame me as well. His family and friend did nothing wrong. It’s on me.
That's tremendously hard to be left with. However, I hope you can come to believe in time that you were not responsible for your ex-boyfriend's reaction to what happened and how you behaved. Most relationships don't end well but most people who break up don't kill themselves. It is tragic that he couldn't cope with the break up and did what he did in such an emotional state, but that was his doing, not yours.
I must agree with Marcus' comment above. There is nothing wrong with having regrets about saying or doing some things that bring up remorse in you. But, that is a far cry from actually taking responsibility for your bf's actions. If your bf was healthy emotionally and psychologically, he might have been very hurt by your words and actions, but he wouldn't have made the decision to take his own life. So, as a friend of mine used to say "Shame off you!" That is to say, the opposite of "shame on you." I would recommend that you seek some professional help through a licensed counselor, a life coach, or anyone who specializes in helping grieving people. You need to thoroughly process and let go of these thoughts that torture you.