“He has a personality of a sandal” - * looks at my sandals * Dirty, smelly, and held together with hot glue? Oof. 😂 ONE YEAR UPDATE: It happened! I finally have new sandals! :D
Use my sandals instead and save yours. I stepped in a big pile of dog... well. Poop WAS involved but the poor thing lost the fight from both ends (thankfully, the next day he was fine). They are sitting in the shed until I decide if I really want to try to save them or should I just toss them into the burn can. Because I gotta say, it anyone's personality can be described as fecal impaction, sounds like this guy fits the bill.
I'm shocked by how easy it was for the family to accept and move past an adult family member physically attacking OP. This indicates to me that there is something seriously wrong with the entire family.
@@nataliereeves3594 A lot of that. Could also just be the family chooses to avoid confronting the toxic one by simultaneously and unwittingly throwing the good one(s) under the bus; the easier path for them in the short term, but over the long run it will come back to haunt them (deservedly so).
It's just selfish cowards mad that other people won't take everything they throw at them. Their the people that turn into toddlers when conflict arises. And can only care when a situation directly affects them.
@@nataliereeves3594 The Mom was definitely siding waaaaaay too much with the bridezilla. You're not wrong. And why the HELL did no one try to yank Bridezilla off OP?!?! That fight wasn't short enough that they couldn't have made it across the damn living room! AND THEY STILL EXPECTED OP TO ATTEND & PLAY NICE?!?!?!
Imagine "keeping the peace" with 4 siblings. I csnt imagine how their childhood was like with a sister like Bridezilla and a mom that seemingly brushes things over for appearances
I hate it when families just "brush over" things for "appearances." If the parents had gotten the problematic sister mental health support while she was still a child, when they had the power to make her attend, alot of this might well have been avoided. Now, they're left with an adult who clearly needs therapy, but who refuses to go. You can't force an adult to get help, however much she obviously needs it.
It's hard work. I have seven siblings, and I have made choices to keep the peace, but it was my own decision. We have gotten in physical fights, but nothing big. It's always small enough that the same day or maybe a week at the most then we are over it and back to laughing about how stupid the fight was in the first place. I think while we struggle to communicate we all have the same issue and understand it's hard to tell people what's going on or share our feelings in a more calm way. We literally all almost all the same person personality wise so a lot goes unsaid because we already know. 😂
Anybody else get the feeling that OP’s mom is favoring the sister? Because going ‘you can’t NOT be in the wedding party, what will people SAY.’ And being angry at OP over op defending herself from her sister, does not scream ‘unbiased opinion.’
Yeah. I'm getting a sense that Mom has a favorite child or at the very least, is coddling OP's sister and trying to rug sweep for the sake of appearances.
Finally the bridezilla got what was deserved! This sounds like those weird situations where someone thinks it's cute when a sibling marries the in law sibling. That sister is nuts
There's been a few Reddit stories that seem to have originated from that sentiment, oddly. I remember one where a mother and sister went waaaay overboard, trying to get the OP to couple up with her BIL (the sister's husband's brother, as in this story). The sister was utterly obsessed with the idea of 2 brothers being married to 2 sisters. Iirc that one ended in the OP's parents divorcing and the OP plus the entire rest of her family going NC with the mother and sister. Why at least a few people have this obsession I don't know. Though I do have a friend who met her BIL for the first time at her sister's wedding and ended up marrying him. On that occasion, everything worked out very well, but there it happened naturally, nobody tried to force it.
I think it comes from old stories where, it's really common for the story to go, "there are three princes and three princesses and the youngest of the siblings marry the youngest of the other siblings and so on" I think it's one of those "fairytale" clichés that make brides who think they are princesses like
Ah who knows, like i don't think it make it better or worse if you and your siblings go marry someone and their siblings, but talking from family experience (mom-aunt and dad-uncle) it does can get pretty messy later on if one of the marriages doesn't work
@@PonderingStudent Was that the one where the sister put a tracker on OP's dog to find them and it came out later that the brothers wanted a semi-open relationship with the sisters.? I remember one where a bit after everything OP was talking about her sister talking about how nice it would be to have all the kids as siblings instead of cousins. And the mother was fully supportive of this. Weird shit either way.
I'm a little peeved about two things here. 1. The parents still asked Op to do whatever her sister asked her to do, after her sister ASSAULTED her, and tried to set her up with a CREEP even though, she's in a serious and healthy relationship of FIVE years. 2. The boyfriend asking OP to still talk to her sister after all the shit she pulled. I understand he doesn't have that close relationship with his siblings. But Op's sister LIED to her about a double date, let her get crept on by her BIL, told her that she would be walking down the aisle with this CREEP, where he would be able to touch her! Then ASSAULTED her! I would NEVER tell my partner to keep talking to their sibling or family member after they did all of this shit.
The sister playing Matchmaker is so not cool. She earned that punch. I can just imagine how big a new one OP's siblings ripped the brother-in-law's brother. Big brother's "word" to him likely explained how shallow the grave would be. And the drunk twin laying into everybody must have been comedy Gold.
Sadly, my mom's family is like that. They expected me to divorce my husband and marry my creepy 40yo cousin so he could finally have a wife and be happy. They think there's nothing wrong with that. I must be adopted. I wish I was, anyway. Going NC is the best thing I ever did. Now I don't have to listen to their idiotic opinions.
@@savannahhague4989 they're the kind of religious people that spin scriptures to say whatever they want. There's been other cousin marriages in the family and nobody was struck by lightning, so supposedly that proves God is okay with it.
@lorisewsstuff1607 man, I know they are your parents but those are the kind of people I just have an urge to beat over the head with a full Latin Bible with the pope behind me. And I'm not even that religious.
@@PrincessQ-fj9ly This happens without any religious influences at all, regularly, so don't blame it on religion or cults. Secondly there's some places where it's legal to marry when it's outside of several degrees of relation. Thirdly: See: Royal Houses of Europe.
I haven't even gotten to the update or the comments and I feel like this is one of those appropriate situations where you tell the sister. Sorry I'm not coming to the wedding, but don't worry I'll be there for your next one .
I graduated high school 2005 I have a classmate who was pregnant senior year, the day after she gave birth, got married to the guy. They divorced 2007 Dated another guy shortly after, got married to him 2008 while pregnant with his child. Divorce in 2009 2010- married, gave birth to HIS child in 2011 and divorce #3 2013 - marriage, baby, divorce. All of which are number 4. 2015 had a bf - broke up in December… at least it lasted 10 months Marriage 1- claims he was abusive Marriage 2- claims he cheated Marriage 3- claiming he’s an alcoholic Marriage 4- claims he is addicted to gambling. Bf - or 5th whichever number you want- claimed he’s a video game addict Found out all of her excuses were lies. She tried to get them all arrested and taken to court so she can get paid. It backfired. Badly. I agree with you on telling the sister.
Too bad the punch didn’t knock some sense into Sister’s head! Oh, well, you tried, OP. You’re better off cutting them out of your life. Both the Bride and Groom are gross for trying to pimp OP out to creepy BIL. I’d give the marriage 6 months, tops. I feel so bad for that unborn kid. They deserve better than this dumpster fire of a family. Yikes!
It was awesome that OP punched out her lunatic sister! Even if it didn't knock any sense into her dumb head, I hope that hurt a lot! OP should take up kickboxing, bet she'd be great at it.
Me too. That poor, poor baby. I can only hope OP doesn't have a niece, simply because I'm incredibly worried about her getting pimped out to some creep, just like she was, not that a nephew would fair much better unfortunately. (٥↼_↼)
She said her sister "just wanted to be married". Wrong, her sister just wanted to be a bride. Big difference. In fact once the reality of married life after her pretty pretty princess party is over hits, and there are bills to pay and responsibilities to someone other than herself, she is going to be miserable and make everyone around her doubly so. You, and in fact, everyone including the groom are just props in the play. Don't give in to her demands, just schedule a romantic getaway with the BF that weekend and let the s#it hit the fan without you around. Oh, and press charges on her she is the one who assaulted you, you just defended yourself.
This reminded me of a story you read earlier about a married, pregnant woman whose sister was obsessed with getting her together with her high-school ex boyfriend becasue the sister had some weird idea about being married to brothers. It blew up the family.
I also remember that one. When though I was reading it, I thought that the sister and mom had something wrong with them mentally. The ex ended up stalking the op and went around saying that they were having an affair and that her baby was his even though none of that was true. Op eventually had to move away to escape them all.
I remember seeing this story when it was posted to reddit. The BIL and brother are creeps. I'm glad her other siblings got her back. I have no doubts the brother would've tried to SA the OP.
The sister's prizes for the stupid games were black eye, cut to the face, some ripped out hair and family not attending wedding (I might have missed some). The bride is so deep into her fantasies that she can't see any other options. It's okay OP's bf, you and her have her other siblings/relatives to count on who are not crazy.
Family did attend the wedding, but OP wasn't a bridesmaid, sat in the front row, and kissed her awesome boyfriend (who was UNINVITED) for the creepy BIL to see. Then OP's twin got wasted at the reception and gave the bride a Reason You Suck Speech at drunk volume.
I feel like we've had this story and somebody's just doing a retelling. The shitty sister wanted the OP to marry shitty sister's BIL so that they'd have a super enmeshed family and was just totally insane about it. This OP is a bit amazing. "My sister attacked me and I gave her a black eye. Should I still go to the wedding?" No, you fucking shouldn't. Come the fuck on. It makes me think OP has to come from a really dysfunctional family to not have this click already. Everyone already recommended not going in the first post, why would anyone suggest attending after you add assault and battery to the equation?
Agreed my father was abusive and that made things a little weird when it came to family interactions but NEVER EVER would it be ok for my sister to attack me like that and she would be dead to me if she did so it really does show how horrible this whole dynamic is and how crazy the sister and BIL r
Right there with you. I am not completely sure I believe the functional families exist. I’m not from one and I’ve never met anyone from one. Helloooo dysfunction!
@Toast Ghost I've never met a *completely* functional family. I have met some functional nuclear families, where at least romantic partners and their children are a loving and cohesive unit. Extended families, never. Everyone has at least one relative who's either mentally ill, eccentric, or just plain nasty (or some combination thereof) and causes issues. Sometimes that relative or relatives are just one-off annoyances, at other times they reflect wider dysfunctional family dynamics. Some families are more dysfunctional than others though.
@@PonderingStudent I think it's kind of like the old "everyone has a gay cousin" joke. Everyone has at least 1 functional family member/group and 1 disfunctional family member/group.
I think you're thinking on that story where OP has an ex, and the sister happen to marry the brother's ex. She tried to get them back but with no avail, worsen by the fact OP got a boyfriend then fiancee. They are happy and with a kid sooner, but .... try to cut contact with the sister who was a nuisance to her by wanting her to get her back with her ex. IT got to a point where they said to "stop acting childish" by ambush her in an intervention with the ex and the Ex's mother, and her mother too. OP didn't had any of it and call them out, to the point her brother and her dad tore a new one apart to the sister and the mother for do this. End up with OP going no contact with her sister and mother and the father divorcing the mother. ALL! because sister dearest wants to get her kink of sister marring brothers and the mom favorite the sister over OP.
I would back out of the bridesmaid gig and take my boyfriend to the wedding, if I went at all. Someone immature enough to present this type of ultimatum should NOT be getting married.
Right?? How disrespectful to OP'S boyfriend , I wouldn't be in that wedding no matter what. Tell your mom to get a flipping reality check. Your sister needs some intense therapy wtf is wrong with her?? Let her try to charge u, counter sue her SHE attacked u, you defended yourself.
OPs sister is so goddamn pathetic, it's honestly sad. If she wasn't such a nightmare, I might even feel pity. This sounds eerily similar to that sister trying to set OP up with her high school ex because hes the brother to her husband and she lived in this fantasy that they'd be best friends forever if they both married brothers, ironically ending up making sure there'd be no friendship at all Meanwhile OPs sister's motivation is sucking up to her husband. Same song, different chorus
@@PonderingStudent I wouldn't say it ended badly. OP got rid of her toxic sister, and mother, daddy also got rid of them, and OP got to live happily with her man, daughter and non-toxic family members
@@MiraTheWarlock maybe "ended far worse" was the wrong choice of phrase. Had a far more *extreme* ending is probably a better way of putting it. Someone wanting her sister to marry her husband's brother caused obsession, stalking, gave OP serious health problems from the stress, colapsed a decades-long marriage and ripped a family apart. The way it ended was the best thing for OP and the rest of her sane family members, but its still a pretty extreme outcome to come from a wish that was so objectively unimportant and indeed silly.
I'm not going to lie that creepy-ass dude is the most delirious person I've ever heard so far in a story and I'm just glad that he finally got the hint once the original poster gave her husband and natural pretty good smooch or I should say future husband is what I meant to say I know right now they're just boyfriend and girlfriend
Not trying to cover for his creepy ass, but it sounds like it was more the sister and fiance. She said he found OP attractive and then the sister kept filling his head with stories about how much sister liked him and was getting rid of her boyfriend anyways. I could easily see him with severe social anxiety and believing his brother and FSIL and not realizing all the crap happening. There's not enough info to determine if he's actually a creep who is just as bad as the rest, or he could have been a victim as well. Being told "She really likes you, but she's having issues getting her boyfriend to leave." He may have believed crap like that. Or, he was hoping his bro could get him a quick score with OP. We'll likely never know.
@@Plaprad I wasn’t paying full attention but I kinda thought the same thing. He was lied to and told he might have a chance with this girl he found attractive. Now there’s no excuse for him trying to get her to break up with her fiancée or not getting the hint but from what I heard from the story I don’t think he deserved being called a creep or weird. The sisters fiancée 100% but not the brother
Paul laprad your idea makes too much sense on how far the sister went to fill her future brother-in-law's head with the idea of having a shot with the original poster when his little fantasies came crashing down the very moment that the original poster started fighting back not only with the creepy brother-in-law like at every moment that they meant but I guess he finally realized it at the wedding but who knows maybe the original poster sister and her husband had a three-way with creepy brother-in-law to satisfy him LOL
@@Plaprad the super creepy part comes AFTER he knows he was lied to and OP has a serious long-term relationship. And yet he still acted like she belonged to him. What the fuck, dude? (BIL not you)
It's hard to determine without knowing what kind of person the BIL is (other than being a creep and lacking any common decency) but I get the impression that the sister is the type of person who will do EVERYTHING to be in a relationship due to whatever self-esteem issue she has. She's also the type that may not believe her child/ren if something were to occur. I had a situation that happened to me that is a bit similar where a family "friend" was all over me despite my objections. An aunt basically pushed me onto him and would call me slurs at each rejection. Safe to say is that we don't talk.
I think there was a later update on this story: Op & her sweetie got pregnant, mommydearest, sissypoo, sissypoo’s mil, & creepo staged an “intervention” where they all gained up on Op --including reading letters shaming Op. (Op had gone NC with sissypoo & LC with mommydearest) Op texted her bf, brother & dad an sos, brother showed up first & rescued Op. he read the crazy quartet the riot act. I think Op’s dad & boyfriend came to the rescue too. Op had an anxiety attack which resulted in an emergency trip to the dr. Dad finally realized, though he’d been on Op’s side entirely, that mommydearest & her crazy golden child were toxic dangerous nut cases & is in the process of divorcing mommydearest. Op’s brothers, her twin & their families have cut mommydearest & sissypoo off.
I wouldn't be shocked to find out that the only reason sister's husband started dating her was to try and hook his bro up with OP, and that's the reason she kept flipping out screaming about how OP was going to ruin her marriage.
I don't understand why people like this have such a hard time understanding that other people have boundaries and there is no justification for crossing those boundaries. i know it's an element of entitlement but why are there so many of these people that are incapable of understanding such a basic concept. at least these stories are entertaining from the outside looking in but i really feel bad for the people who have to deal with this nonsense.
As somebody who has chosen to be "the asshole" in the situation on multiple occasions to protect myself and my peace, I've noticed the only people who give a rats ass about appearances and that "people will talk" aren't worth pleasing at all. Especially if they believe they are entitled to it coming at the cost of compromising your boundaries and welfare, mental well being included, to cater to their delusions. If that is the price required to pay in order "to keep the peace" and "to make them happy" is it obscenely expensive. Doesn't matter who's making those kinds of demands, it is always too damn high and it is not to be paid or else the regret you feel later will be the debt you've collected afterwards due to how much of a toll it's taken on you. Good on Op for sticking to her guns and to her boyfriend.
It sounds like the Groom's brother had something over the Bride, and wanted her to try and get him with OP in return for his silence. That's why he was always staring at OP, and the Groom was just as in the dark as OP's family: because she had lied to him as well. Considering how she reacted every time a relationship fell apart, and the fact she found out she was pregnant, I'm wondering of the baby's father is in question between the two brothers and that's what the issue is. She doesn't want to lose the baby because it's a link to keep this man, but she's also terrified the brother could use it to destroy everything and so has to lie to everyone to try and make things work.
Saw this on Mark Narrations' channel. So OP tried being diplomatic, got screaming in return, and then assault. But punching out her lunatic sister was awesome! I hope that hurt a lot! Pity she wasted her time with that pointless wedding. Now she needs to go full NC with psycho-sister. And take up kickboxing, bet she'd be great at it LOL!
What mental gymnastics do you have to go through to go from "matchmaker" to "my sister HAS to date my fiancé's brother or my fiancé will leave me to be a single mother?"
I think O.p made the right move. and choices. I think what she did at the wedding was a smart move and showed the weird bil's bro that she loves her boyfriend and he isn't going anywhere. i'm glad they left as planned and it seems like this was enough because there's been no retaliation attacks after the wedding. I do have to praise her sister for one thing. when people questioned her black eye at her leatherette at least she was hit by something else and didn't try to slander her sister out to be a bad guy to her friends. anyway i hope things continue to go okay with O.p heck if they come back home married that's awesome it'll concrete any worm holes if anyone tries setting her up with the bil's bro again. and yes. very low to possibly zero contact with that sister.
As much as I want to believe that the sis had decency, I don’t think she did it to be decent. She did it because she was afraid of OP. She now knows what OP is capable of when pushed to the edge, and she’s just being smart not to make it worse
ohoho this is such a good story mainly for the fact that OP fought back 😂 Her parents esp the mother suck ass but at least her other siblings were with her.
OP’s boyfriend seems nice, but also like he is WAY too determined to play happy families. OP’s sister, someone he’s known for years, is openly trying to ruin his relationship and trap OP with the creepy future BIL and he’s still giving her endless chances? He still wants OP to be at the wedding and involved with her sister? I’m not saying it would be okay for him to demand OP cuts contact with her sibling, because it wouldn’t, but it’d be nice if he wasn’t nearly as determined as OP’s mom to minimize OP’s sister’s very problematic behavior. Even if he’s somehow cool with someone trying to wreck his relationship, he should acknowledge that OP doesn’t want to feel harassed and objectified by some weirdo who assumes he’s entitled to her and not try to push her to be at the wedding.
“Those brothers were either neglected or breastfed till they were teens.” It's rare to happen, but I had to stop the car just to say that this sentence made me laugh, like really laugh. I wish I knew this before, cause I would for sure use it.
My life is extremely boring. I could never post on reddit because none of these situations will ever happened to me. If it were me in this story and I was OP the story would end really quickly as I would be saying yeah I didn't go to my sister's wedding because of some weird shit going on and that'd be it.
Story 1: I'd go no contact immediately! Sister has lost her mind and there's definitely something else going on besides wanting her wedding her way. Drop out of the wedding, go take a little trip with boyfriend, and let sister have her wedding without you. I'm guessing they'll be divorced within three years because apparently both sister and her fiance are nuts.
Chances are she'll end up a single mom after a year & OP'S sister is jealous of OP because OP is everything her sister isn't & she land a great guy. So OP'S sister wants to ruin OP'S life to make herself feel better.
OP had better not EVER be alone with the psycho and dangerous sister or new BILs, because they are likely to try something again. The mother would even help them! Hope OP stays safe.
It's sad that she thinks the only way to keep her husband is to set up his brother with her sister, she must be so, so desperate because if that was true, why would u want a man like that?? Sad, Desperate and Weird.
It's sad how the crazy sister has been obsessed with the idea of getting married/being a bride for so long that she would have absolutely zero standards, self respect or care for her own sister. I feel for that baby.
OP"a choice of attire for the wedding is hilariously petty. 😆 Ultimate petty would be a proposal ** then complear no contact afterward. Luv her elopement to France idea. That's a wedding no family can ruin 😆
The OP’s parents really dropped the ball. The moment she assaulted the Op, I would have told that brat “now none of us will be coming to your wedding until you apologize sincerely and drop any charges for YOUR stupidity.”
Once again, a wedding makes people go completely crazy instead of being a time for closeness and sharing a special, expensive party. And maybe OP figured out that getting married in France can take months, even for residents. People aren't party favors! OP's sister just tainted her relationships with her whole family. Good thing she's got a baby on the way, which will probably cause them to forgive her. But her relationship with OP is now mostly over. I pity that child who is coming into the world with an unstable mother who regards humans as pawns in game of life.
The mom’s response is just insane to me and it leads me to believe the mom rubbed off on Bridezilla more than anything. Why in the world do I need to cave to unreasonable demands?
Honestly besides the bridezilla sister OP's siblings are some real ones! Lol they had her back and made sure no one at that wedding had fun 🤣 from the twin going off on the sister, the little brother telling everyone the tea and the big brother giving BIL a "talk" all of her siblings stood 10 toes down for her and i love it
Whenever someone very explicitly tries to whore you out there is no question, no compromise, nothing. You escalate and and you go full on belligerent. There is no reasoning with someone that depraved.
The situation with the sister of the bride and the groom's brother reminds me of one of the subplots in a mystery comedy called MURDER WITH PEACOCKS by Donna Andrews -- except it was the heroine's best friend who was the bride and the heroine didn't have a boyfriend. (Also, the best friend and her husband went on to have a happy marriage.)
I never understood why, if you're in a relationship, live together, been together for 5yrs, why do you need to wait until you're more financially stable and in their careers when you're going to be doing all of this together so why not get married... Anyhow It is always nice when a Bridezilla gets what she deserves.. Why would you put your sister in am uncomfortable situation like that? This is all kinds of wrong to do this to your own sister and putting her in something that could even be dangerous.. That dude is a creep and he could be scary... She's literally showing that she's trying to pawn off her sister because she doesn't want her boyfriend there...
Right? I can understand waiting until you're financially stable to have kids, but chances are these people are already living together, so marriage is pretty much just signing a contract and having a small ceremony at that point.
I guess it's more related to the finances of a wedding? OP did say that her parents won't pay for her wedding so maybe they want to save up more money? Idk this is just speculation
I think I remember this story. I actually read it with Mark Narrations first, and my opinion still stands. No lady should be a sacrificial lamb for trash men. There's a reason trash men are avoided like the plague, not just women but men too. She might have gone too far(I don't think OP went too far at all. In fact I think she handled the situation well. I just say that because I'm sure there will be Holier than thou police crawling out of the woodwork), but OP was right to distance herself from her crazy Bridezilla sister. Pushing a creep onto your own sister? When she already has a boyfriend? Eeewwww! Gross! 🤢 Everyone has feelings and boundaries. We must respect them. ❤ Now regarding OP's boyfriend, he was right to be concerned about OP and her family, but he really shouldn't blame himself. OP's sister and BIL started this whole mess, not him.
Wow! I think OP handled the situation as well as could be expected, and the sister needs therapy. Her only life goal was being a wife and mother, which will by why she was so invested in whatever bizarre fantasy she clung to. There was only one response OP could have given, which is exactly how it played out.
oh yes ofc "let's pimp OP out to BIL at our wedding" like bro, that's so creepy. OP is not for sale. hell, she's not even on the market. what a selfish and honestly, by the sounds of it, potentially dangerous thing to do. does sister really think matchmaking the guy who doesn't understand "no" with OP, at her own wedding, is a good idea?
First Story: the bridezilla isn't mature enough to be getting married. Drop out entirely, and take your bf on a weekend retreat from the drama. And, uh, shut your phones off.
1. The brother is a loser; this is how he is trying to rope in a girlfriend. OP needs to ditch the wedding. I love strong OPs I wish we had more of them.
It is very weird that bridezilla sister is so apparently willing to die on this creepy hill. Going as a guest with bf wouldn’t be terrible to throw the family a bone. Not going is a totally reasonable move. OP is under no obligation to play this ridiculous game.
It seems the sister was incredibly desperate to get married. All she ever wanted was to be a wife and a mother and have a big wedding. And she was mare than willing to pimp out her sister to get it. She is incredibly desperate.
"My sister is the type of girl who has dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl". Uh oh, unhinged bridezilla alert. The wedding is more important than the marriage type.
I think op should have been a little harsher with the sister. Maby even get the dad to have a serious talk about how she's acting. Op the best you can do now is go low contact or no contact with the sister. She clearly doesn't Treat you like family other wise she would have respected your request of her dear little sister when she said a guy was creepy she would have been worried. Sounds like she needs tyrapy to start considering others in her life and what the want. I mean she's about to become a mother poor kid.
OP did the right thing, she only defended herself from her crazy wannabe controling pathetic matchmaker sister. I'm fairly sure all the issues were caused by OPs sister and she is just mad she cannot control OP like she wants to.
“He has a personality of a sandal” - * looks at my sandals * Dirty, smelly, and held together with hot glue? Oof. 😂
ONE YEAR UPDATE: It happened! I finally have new sandals! :D
Not the intended result, but a hilarious one Nonetheless XD
Still better than the guy that sister was trying to force on OP!
This comment made me cackle🤣🤣
But people want sandals, sooo…..
Use my sandals instead and save yours. I stepped in a big pile of dog... well. Poop WAS involved but the poor thing lost the fight from both ends (thankfully, the next day he was fine). They are sitting in the shed until I decide if I really want to try to save them or should I just toss them into the burn can. Because I gotta say, it anyone's personality can be described as fecal impaction, sounds like this guy fits the bill.
I'm shocked by how easy it was for the family to accept and move past an adult family member physically attacking OP. This indicates to me that there is something seriously wrong with the entire family.
AGREED.
Golden child much? Or am i reading too many reddit posts?
@@nataliereeves3594 A lot of that. Could also just be the family chooses to avoid confronting the toxic one by simultaneously and unwittingly throwing the good one(s) under the bus; the easier path for them in the short term, but over the long run it will come back to haunt them (deservedly so).
It's just selfish cowards mad that other people won't take everything they throw at them. Their the people that turn into toddlers when conflict arises. And can only care when a situation directly affects them.
@@nataliereeves3594 The Mom was definitely siding waaaaaay too much with the bridezilla. You're not wrong.
And why the HELL did no one try to yank Bridezilla off OP?!?! That fight wasn't short enough that they couldn't have made it across the damn living room! AND THEY STILL EXPECTED OP TO ATTEND & PLAY NICE?!?!?!
Imagine "keeping the peace" with 4 siblings. I csnt imagine how their childhood was like with a sister like Bridezilla and a mom that seemingly brushes things over for appearances
I hate it when families just "brush over" things for "appearances." If the parents had gotten the problematic sister mental health support while she was still a child, when they had the power to make her attend, alot of this might well have been avoided. Now, they're left with an adult who clearly needs therapy, but who refuses to go. You can't force an adult to get help, however much she obviously needs it.
It's hard work. I have seven siblings, and I have made choices to keep the peace, but it was my own decision. We have gotten in physical fights, but nothing big. It's always small enough that the same day or maybe a week at the most then we are over it and back to laughing about how stupid the fight was in the first place. I think while we struggle to communicate we all have the same issue and understand it's hard to tell people what's going on or share our feelings in a more calm way. We literally all almost all the same person personality wise so a lot goes unsaid because we already know. 😂
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@@PonderingStudent I agree with you. Dad and especially Mom failed as parents here. And they're continuing to fail if they allow this to keep going.
The dad isn't much better.
Anybody else get the feeling that OP’s mom is favoring the sister? Because going ‘you can’t NOT be in the wedding party, what will people SAY.’ And being angry at OP over op defending herself from her sister, does not scream ‘unbiased opinion.’
It's obvious who the "golden child" is.
Yeah. I'm getting a sense that Mom has a favorite child or at the very least, is coddling OP's sister and trying to rug sweep for the sake of appearances.
"Get the feeling?" It's so obvious she might as well be wearing a neon sign saying "I only care about *this* kid."
That and she’s obsessed with appearances
Finally the bridezilla got what was deserved! This sounds like those weird situations where someone thinks it's cute when a sibling marries the in law sibling. That sister is nuts
There's been a few Reddit stories that seem to have originated from that sentiment, oddly. I remember one where a mother and sister went waaaay overboard, trying to get the OP to couple up with her BIL (the sister's husband's brother, as in this story). The sister was utterly obsessed with the idea of 2 brothers being married to 2 sisters. Iirc that one ended in the OP's parents divorcing and the OP plus the entire rest of her family going NC with the mother and sister.
Why at least a few people have this obsession I don't know. Though I do have a friend who met her BIL for the first time at her sister's wedding and ended up marrying him. On that occasion, everything worked out very well, but there it happened naturally, nobody tried to force it.
I think it comes from old stories where, it's really common for the story to go, "there are three princes and three princesses and the youngest of the siblings marry the youngest of the other siblings and so on"
I think it's one of those "fairytale" clichés that make brides who think they are princesses like
Ah who knows, like i don't think it make it better or worse if you and your siblings go marry someone and their siblings, but talking from family experience (mom-aunt and dad-uncle) it does can get pretty messy later on if one of the marriages doesn't work
@@PonderingStudent Was that the one where the sister put a tracker on OP's dog to find them and it came out later that the brothers wanted a semi-open relationship with the sisters.? I remember one where a bit after everything OP was talking about her sister talking about how nice it would be to have all the kids as siblings instead of cousins. And the mother was fully supportive of this.
Weird shit either way.
@@Plaprad yep, that was the one.
I'm a little peeved about two things here.
1. The parents still asked Op to do whatever her sister asked her to do, after her sister ASSAULTED her, and tried to set her up with a CREEP even though, she's in a serious and healthy relationship of FIVE years.
2. The boyfriend asking OP to still talk to her sister after all the shit she pulled. I understand he doesn't have that close relationship with his siblings. But Op's sister LIED to her about a double date, let her get crept on by her BIL, told her that she would be walking down the aisle with this CREEP, where he would be able to touch her! Then ASSAULTED her! I would NEVER tell my partner to keep talking to their sibling or family member after they did all of this shit.
with you 💯
The sister playing Matchmaker is so not cool. She earned that punch. I can just imagine how big a new one OP's siblings ripped the brother-in-law's brother. Big brother's "word" to him likely explained how shallow the grave would be. And the drunk twin laying into everybody must have been comedy Gold.
OP sure is lucky that her other siblings are there for her. Same goes for Dad. 😊
Especially when she's already in a relationship...
Sadly, my mom's family is like that. They expected me to divorce my husband and marry my creepy 40yo cousin so he could finally have a wife and be happy. They think there's nothing wrong with that.
I must be adopted. I wish I was, anyway. Going NC is the best thing I ever did. Now I don't have to listen to their idiotic opinions.
They do realize it’s incest, right? I’m pretty sure the Bible says something against something like that.🥶
@@savannahhague4989 they're the kind of religious people that spin scriptures to say whatever they want. There's been other cousin marriages in the family and nobody was struck by lightning, so supposedly that proves God is okay with it.
@@lorisewsstuff1607 It sounds like you were unfortunately born into a religious cult. Glad you got out of there though. Hope you're doing well. ❤
@lorisewsstuff1607 man, I know they are your parents but those are the kind of people I just have an urge to beat over the head with a full Latin Bible with the pope behind me. And I'm not even that religious.
@@PrincessQ-fj9ly This happens without any religious influences at all, regularly, so don't blame it on religion or cults.
Secondly there's some places where it's legal to marry when it's outside of several degrees of relation.
Thirdly: See: Royal Houses of Europe.
I haven't even gotten to the update or the comments and I feel like this is one of those appropriate situations where you tell the sister. Sorry I'm not coming to the wedding, but don't worry I'll be there for your next one .
I graduated high school 2005
I have a classmate who was pregnant senior year, the day after she gave birth, got married to the guy. They divorced 2007
Dated another guy shortly after, got married to him 2008 while pregnant with his child. Divorce in 2009
2010- married, gave birth to HIS child in 2011 and divorce #3
2013 - marriage, baby, divorce. All of which are number 4.
2015 had a bf - broke up in December… at least it lasted 10 months
Marriage 1- claims he was abusive
Marriage 2- claims he cheated
Marriage 3- claiming he’s an alcoholic
Marriage 4- claims he is addicted to gambling.
Bf - or 5th whichever number you want- claimed he’s a video game addict
Found out all of her excuses were lies. She tried to get them all arrested and taken to court so she can get paid. It backfired. Badly.
I agree with you on telling the sister.
@@Denverbroncos87Damn, I'm exhausted just reading all that! 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
@@MaryTheresa1986 yeah…. It’s break up is new accusation to someone else.
The post reminded me of my classmate.
@@Denverbroncos87Holy crap! 😲 Talk about a nutcase!
@Billy Noyes Sounds like a serial baby-trapper too.
I can't believe some people offer their family to creeps, your family should try and keep them as far away as possible. 😬
Yea seriously. My older siblings put the fear of god in any guy who even looked at me. I just don’t understand
You should look for the one about the sister that tried to have a threesome with her creepy boyfriend. That one ended crazy too
My thoughts exactly! People who force creeps on their loved ones don't deserve their families in my opinion.
Too bad the punch didn’t knock some sense into Sister’s head! Oh, well, you tried, OP. You’re better off cutting them out of your life. Both the Bride and Groom are gross for trying to pimp OP out to creepy BIL. I’d give the marriage 6 months, tops. I feel so bad for that unborn kid. They deserve better than this dumpster fire of a family. Yikes!
It was awesome that OP punched out her lunatic sister! Even if it didn't knock any sense into her dumb head, I hope that hurt a lot! OP should take up kickboxing, bet she'd be great at it.
Also the mom too
Me too. That poor, poor baby. I can only hope OP doesn't have a niece, simply because I'm incredibly worried about her getting pimped out to some creep, just like she was, not that a nephew would fair much better unfortunately. (٥↼_↼)
Well, it clearly knocked a _little_ bit of sense into the sister's head; she didn't try that again, now did she~?
You give the marriage too much credit lol. I give it a month😂
She said her sister "just wanted to be married". Wrong, her sister just wanted to be a bride. Big difference. In fact once the reality of married life after her pretty pretty princess party is over hits, and there are bills to pay and responsibilities to someone other than herself, she is going to be miserable and make everyone around her doubly so. You, and in fact, everyone including the groom are just props in the play. Don't give in to her demands, just schedule a romantic getaway with the BF that weekend and let the s#it hit the fan without you around. Oh, and press charges on her she is the one who assaulted you, you just defended yourself.
OP's sister is the worst matchmaker ever; she should hang up that apron for good. 😬
Who needs enemies when you have family?
"Personality of a sandal", I'll have to remember that one
"He has the personality of a sandal."
"Maybe they were breastfed until they were teens."
OP, 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
OP’s sister: *grabs OP’s hair*
OP: You woke the wrong dog!
This reminded me of a story you read earlier about a married, pregnant woman whose sister was obsessed with getting her together with her high-school ex boyfriend becasue the sister had some weird idea about being married to brothers. It blew up the family.
I remember that story too. OP was right to cut Mom and Sis out of her life. They NEED massive help.
I also remember that one. When though I was reading it, I thought that the sister and mom had something wrong with them mentally. The ex ended up stalking the op and went around saying that they were having an affair and that her baby was his even though none of that was true. Op eventually had to move away to escape them all.
I remember seeing this story when it was posted to reddit.
The BIL and brother are creeps.
I'm glad her other siblings got her back. I have no doubts the brother would've tried to SA the OP.
The sister's prizes for the stupid games were black eye, cut to the face, some ripped out hair and family not attending wedding (I might have missed some). The bride is so deep into her fantasies that she can't see any other options.
It's okay OP's bf, you and her have her other siblings/relatives to count on who are not crazy.
Family did attend the wedding, but OP wasn't a bridesmaid, sat in the front row, and kissed her awesome boyfriend (who was UNINVITED) for the creepy BIL to see. Then OP's twin got wasted at the reception and gave the bride a Reason You Suck Speech at drunk volume.
I feel like we've had this story and somebody's just doing a retelling. The shitty sister wanted the OP to marry shitty sister's BIL so that they'd have a super enmeshed family and was just totally insane about it.
This OP is a bit amazing. "My sister attacked me and I gave her a black eye. Should I still go to the wedding?"
No, you fucking shouldn't. Come the fuck on.
It makes me think OP has to come from a really dysfunctional family to not have this click already. Everyone already recommended not going in the first post, why would anyone suggest attending after you add assault and battery to the equation?
Agreed my father was abusive and that made things a little weird when it came to family interactions but NEVER EVER would it be ok for my sister to attack me like that and she would be dead to me if she did so it really does show how horrible this whole dynamic is and how crazy the sister and BIL r
Right there with you. I am not completely sure I believe the functional families exist. I’m not from one and I’ve never met anyone from one. Helloooo dysfunction!
@Toast Ghost I've never met a *completely* functional family. I have met some functional nuclear families, where at least romantic partners and their children are a loving and cohesive unit. Extended families, never. Everyone has at least one relative who's either mentally ill, eccentric, or just plain nasty (or some combination thereof) and causes issues. Sometimes that relative or relatives are just one-off annoyances, at other times they reflect wider dysfunctional family dynamics. Some families are more dysfunctional than others though.
@@PonderingStudent I think it's kind of like the old "everyone has a gay cousin" joke.
Everyone has at least 1 functional family member/group and 1 disfunctional family member/group.
I think you're thinking on that story where OP has an ex, and the sister happen to marry the brother's ex. She tried to get them back but with no avail, worsen by the fact OP got a boyfriend then fiancee. They are happy and with a kid sooner, but .... try to cut contact with the sister who was a nuisance to her by wanting her to get her back with her ex. IT got to a point where they said to "stop acting childish" by ambush her in an intervention with the ex and the Ex's mother, and her mother too. OP didn't had any of it and call them out, to the point her brother and her dad tore a new one apart to the sister and the mother for do this. End up with OP going no contact with her sister and mother and the father divorcing the mother.
ALL! because sister dearest wants to get her kink of sister marring brothers and the mom favorite the sister over OP.
Non-supportive mom: "people will TALK!"
Me, in my head: "Let them talk. I'm happy to explain to them exactly why I wasn't there."
Op is an independent adult and doesn’t have to go to the wedding just because mommy says.
I would back out of the bridesmaid gig and take my boyfriend to the wedding, if I went at all. Someone immature enough to present this type of ultimatum should NOT be getting married.
Right?? How disrespectful to OP'S boyfriend , I wouldn't be in that wedding no matter what. Tell your mom to get a flipping reality check. Your sister needs some intense therapy wtf is wrong with her?? Let her try to charge u, counter sue her SHE attacked u, you defended yourself.
Perhaps a bit of Ex-Lax frosting on the bride's piece of cake? Start that marriage off with a bang.
OPs sister is so goddamn pathetic, it's honestly sad. If she wasn't such a nightmare, I might even feel pity.
This sounds eerily similar to that sister trying to set OP up with her high school ex because hes the brother to her husband and she lived in this fantasy that they'd be best friends forever if they both married brothers, ironically ending up making sure there'd be no friendship at all
Meanwhile OPs sister's motivation is sucking up to her husband.
Same song, different chorus
This reminded me of that story too. Though that one ended far worse than this one did, if I recall.
@@PonderingStudent I wouldn't say it ended badly. OP got rid of her toxic sister, and mother, daddy also got rid of them, and OP got to live happily with her man, daughter and non-toxic family members
@@MiraTheWarlock maybe "ended far worse" was the wrong choice of phrase. Had a far more *extreme* ending is probably a better way of putting it. Someone wanting her sister to marry her husband's brother caused obsession, stalking, gave OP serious health problems from the stress, colapsed a decades-long marriage and ripped a family apart. The way it ended was the best thing for OP and the rest of her sane family members, but its still a pretty extreme outcome to come from a wish that was so objectively unimportant and indeed silly.
@@PonderingStudent That does make more sense. So much could've been avoided if OP only had to say 'drop it' once
@@MiraTheWarlock She did tho, sis, ex and mom just ignored it again and again
OP needs to cut off all contact with her insane sister.
"The personality if an Adidas sandal " is now in my list of insults.😂
I'm not going to lie that creepy-ass dude is the most delirious person I've ever heard so far in a story and I'm just glad that he finally got the hint once the original poster gave her husband and natural pretty good smooch or I should say future husband is what I meant to say I know right now they're just boyfriend and girlfriend
Not trying to cover for his creepy ass, but it sounds like it was more the sister and fiance. She said he found OP attractive and then the sister kept filling his head with stories about how much sister liked him and was getting rid of her boyfriend anyways.
I could easily see him with severe social anxiety and believing his brother and FSIL and not realizing all the crap happening. There's not enough info to determine if he's actually a creep who is just as bad as the rest, or he could have been a victim as well. Being told "She really likes you, but she's having issues getting her boyfriend to leave." He may have believed crap like that.
Or, he was hoping his bro could get him a quick score with OP. We'll likely never know.
@@Plaprad I wasn’t paying full attention but I kinda thought the same thing. He was lied to and told he might have a chance with this girl he found attractive. Now there’s no excuse for him trying to get her to break up with her fiancée or not getting the hint but from what I heard from the story I don’t think he deserved being called a creep or weird. The sisters fiancée 100% but not the brother
Paul laprad your idea makes too much sense on how far the sister went to fill her future brother-in-law's head with the idea of having a shot with the original poster when his little fantasies came crashing down the very moment that the original poster started fighting back not only with the creepy brother-in-law like at every moment that they meant but I guess he finally realized it at the wedding but who knows maybe the original poster sister and her husband had a three-way with creepy brother-in-law to satisfy him LOL
Ngl that was all the sister
@@Plaprad the super creepy part comes AFTER he knows he was lied to and OP has a serious long-term relationship. And yet he still acted like she belonged to him. What the fuck, dude? (BIL not you)
It's hard to determine without knowing what kind of person the BIL is (other than being a creep and lacking any common decency) but I get the impression that the sister is the type of person who will do EVERYTHING to be in a relationship due to whatever self-esteem issue she has. She's also the type that may not believe her child/ren if something were to occur. I had a situation that happened to me that is a bit similar where a family "friend" was all over me despite my objections. An aunt basically pushed me onto him and would call me slurs at each rejection. Safe to say is that we don't talk.
"He has the personality of a sandal."
I lost my shit. XD
I think there was a later update on this story: Op & her sweetie got pregnant, mommydearest,
sissypoo, sissypoo’s mil, & creepo staged an “intervention” where they all gained up on Op
--including reading letters shaming Op. (Op had gone NC with sissypoo & LC with mommydearest)
Op texted her bf, brother & dad an sos, brother showed up first & rescued Op. he read the crazy quartet the riot act.
I think Op’s dad & boyfriend came to the rescue too. Op had an anxiety attack which resulted in an emergency trip to the dr. Dad finally realized, though he’d been on Op’s side entirely, that mommydearest & her crazy golden child were toxic dangerous nut cases & is in the process of divorcing mommydearest. Op’s brothers, her twin & their families have cut mommydearest & sissypoo off.
I wouldn't be shocked to find out that the only reason sister's husband started dating her was to try and hook his bro up with OP, and that's the reason she kept flipping out screaming about how OP was going to ruin her marriage.
I don't understand why people like this have such a hard time understanding that other people have boundaries and there is no justification for crossing those boundaries. i know it's an element of entitlement but why are there so many of these people that are incapable of understanding such a basic concept. at least these stories are entertaining from the outside looking in but i really feel bad for the people who have to deal with this nonsense.
*Reads that Bridezilla gets a black eye* Oh boy. Things are gonna escalate.
After update: oh yeah. Sis deserved it.
Why do people think that being thrown out of someone else's wedding party, with all the work and expense that imvolves, is such an awful thing?
As somebody who has chosen to be "the asshole" in the situation on multiple occasions to protect myself and my peace, I've noticed the only people who give a rats ass about appearances and that "people will talk" aren't worth pleasing at all. Especially if they believe they are entitled to it coming at the cost of compromising your boundaries and welfare, mental well being included, to cater to their delusions. If that is the price required to pay in order "to keep the peace" and "to make them happy" is it obscenely expensive. Doesn't matter who's making those kinds of demands, it is always too damn high and it is not to be paid or else the regret you feel later will be the debt you've collected afterwards due to how much of a toll it's taken on you. Good on Op for sticking to her guns and to her boyfriend.
Yeah the mother is an enabler
It sounds like the Groom's brother had something over the Bride, and wanted her to try and get him with OP in return for his silence. That's why he was always staring at OP, and the Groom was just as in the dark as OP's family: because she had lied to him as well. Considering how she reacted every time a relationship fell apart, and the fact she found out she was pregnant, I'm wondering of the baby's father is in question between the two brothers and that's what the issue is. She doesn't want to lose the baby because it's a link to keep this man, but she's also terrified the brother could use it to destroy everything and so has to lie to everyone to try and make things work.
Saw this on Mark Narrations' channel. So OP tried being diplomatic, got screaming in return, and then assault. But punching out her lunatic sister was awesome! I hope that hurt a lot! Pity she wasted her time with that pointless wedding. Now she needs to go full NC with psycho-sister. And take up kickboxing, bet she'd be great at it LOL!
What mental gymnastics do you have to go through to go from "matchmaker" to "my sister HAS to date my fiancé's brother or my fiancé will leave me to be a single mother?"
I think O.p made the right move. and choices. I think what she did at the wedding was a smart move and showed the weird bil's bro that she loves her boyfriend and he isn't going anywhere. i'm glad they left as planned and it seems like this was enough because there's been no retaliation attacks after the wedding. I do have to praise her sister for one thing. when people questioned her black eye at her leatherette at least she was hit by something else and didn't try to slander her sister out to be a bad guy to her friends. anyway i hope things continue to go okay with O.p heck if they come back home married that's awesome it'll concrete any worm holes if anyone tries setting her up with the bil's bro again. and yes. very low to possibly zero contact with that sister.
As much as I want to believe that the sis had decency, I don’t think she did it to be decent. She did it because she was afraid of OP. She now knows what OP is capable of when pushed to the edge, and she’s just being smart not to make it worse
"Go kick rocks within socks" 🤣😂🤣
ohoho this is such a good story mainly for the fact that OP fought back 😂 Her parents esp the mother suck ass but at least her other siblings were with her.
As soon as the sister started making this ultimatum i would say 'ok, i won't come them.'
Ooooh! Ooooh! Ooooh! 99k, LG!!!Glad OP has supportive siblings and BF. Sounds like she/they handled the situation as non-dramatically as possible.
Yes!! almost there! I’m thinking two weeks :)
OP’s boyfriend seems nice, but also like he is WAY too determined to play happy families. OP’s sister, someone he’s known for years, is openly trying to ruin his relationship and trap OP with the creepy future BIL and he’s still giving her endless chances? He still wants OP to be at the wedding and involved with her sister? I’m not saying it would be okay for him to demand OP cuts contact with her sibling, because it wouldn’t, but it’d be nice if he wasn’t nearly as determined as OP’s mom to minimize OP’s sister’s very problematic behavior. Even if he’s somehow cool with someone trying to wreck his relationship, he should acknowledge that OP doesn’t want to feel harassed and objectified by some weirdo who assumes he’s entitled to her and not try to push her to be at the wedding.
"It doesn't matter who propose, the important is that she would get married"
I mean, I think we should just stop here😂
If her marriage is dependent on you getting assaulted then it should end, and all contact with her and mom.
Well that story jumped to 11. OP's sister has issues
Oh the mom is mad at the OP when the sister attacked and hit her first?? Yeah it’s clear who her favorite kid is.
“Those brothers were either neglected or breastfed till they were teens.”
It's rare to happen, but I had to stop the car just to say that this sentence made me laugh, like really laugh.
I wish I knew this before, cause I would for sure use it.
Whether this story is true or not, the OP knows how to write comedy like a champ. Her level of sarcasm is my dream.
Ridiculousness aside, thank you to the OP for the "personality of a sandal" quip. That gave me a good laugh.
My life is extremely boring. I could never post on reddit because none of these situations will ever happened to me. If it were me in this story and I was OP the story would end really quickly as I would be saying yeah I didn't go to my sister's wedding because of some weird shit going on and that'd be it.
Lmao… “the personality of a salmon”.
She can try to press charges but she put her hands on you first and you defended yourself. I hope your family backs you up.
Story 1: I'd go no contact immediately! Sister has lost her mind and there's definitely something else going on besides wanting her wedding her way. Drop out of the wedding, go take a little trip with boyfriend, and let sister have her wedding without you. I'm guessing they'll be divorced within three years because apparently both sister and her fiance are nuts.
Why is op acting so hopeless she knows what do just go no contact because her sister will not change
Oh yeah act like it’s such an easy decision to make
Chances are she'll end up a single mom after a year & OP'S sister is jealous of OP because OP is everything her sister isn't & she land a great guy. So OP'S sister wants to ruin OP'S life to make herself feel better.
OP had better not EVER be alone with the psycho and dangerous sister or new BILs, because they are likely to try something again. The mother would even help them! Hope OP stays safe.
Wow sister can’t take a hint. OP is NOT interested in her sister’s BIL.
It's sad that she thinks the only way to keep her husband is to set up his brother with her sister, she must be so, so desperate because if that was true, why would u want a man like that?? Sad, Desperate and Weird.
It's sad how the crazy sister has been obsessed with the idea of getting married/being a bride for so long that she would have absolutely zero standards, self respect or care for her own sister. I feel for that baby.
OP"a choice of attire for the wedding is hilariously petty. 😆
Ultimate petty would be a proposal ** then complear no contact afterward.
Luv her elopement to France idea. That's a wedding no family can ruin 😆
Good evening LG! GREAT story.
That mom of that bridezilla is a nut too. The fruit didn’t fall far from the tree.
The OP’s parents really dropped the ball. The moment she assaulted the Op, I would have told that brat “now none of us will be coming to your wedding until you apologize sincerely and drop any charges for YOUR stupidity.”
Once again, a wedding makes people go completely crazy instead of being a time for closeness and sharing a special, expensive party. And maybe OP figured out that getting married in France can take months, even for residents.
People aren't party favors! OP's sister just tainted her relationships with her whole family. Good thing she's got a baby on the way, which will probably cause them to forgive her. But her relationship with OP is now mostly over. I pity that child who is coming into the world with an unstable mother who regards humans as pawns in game of life.
"So I punched her in the face" BOOYAKASHA!!!
The mom’s response is just insane to me and it leads me to believe the mom rubbed off on Bridezilla more than anything. Why in the world do I need to cave to unreasonable demands?
So, bridezilla attacks OP, twice. Comesout the worse for it. And she's going to press charges against OP for defending herself.
“People will talk”. What a ‘50s mentality.
Totally agree! Thank goodness I stopped caring about what other people think a long, long, long time ago.
*reads title* RING DA BELL 🔔 MY DERP!!!!
Honestly besides the bridezilla sister OP's siblings are some real ones! Lol they had her back and made sure no one at that wedding had fun 🤣 from the twin going off on the sister, the little brother telling everyone the tea and the big brother giving BIL a "talk" all of her siblings stood 10 toes down for her and i love it
OP should have filed charges first. You made that threat, you've fucked around and now you find out.
The sister doesn't want to get married she wants the big princess wedding and to be the centre of attention. The marriage won't last 6 months.
Hello LG. Id cut contact with sister. She is trying to pimp OP out. See you tomorrow
Whenever someone very explicitly tries to whore you out there is no question, no compromise, nothing. You escalate and and you go full on belligerent. There is no reasoning with someone that depraved.
The situation with the sister of the bride and the groom's brother reminds me of one of the subplots in a mystery comedy called MURDER WITH PEACOCKS by Donna Andrews -- except it was the heroine's best friend who was the bride and the heroine didn't have a boyfriend. (Also, the best friend and her husband went on to have a happy marriage.)
I never understood why, if you're in a relationship, live together, been together for 5yrs, why do you need to wait until you're more financially stable and in their careers when you're going to be doing all of this together so why not get married... Anyhow
It is always nice when a Bridezilla gets what she deserves.. Why would you put your sister in am uncomfortable situation like that? This is all kinds of wrong to do this to your own sister and putting her in something that could even be dangerous.. That dude is a creep and he could be scary... She's literally showing that she's trying to pawn off her sister because she doesn't want her boyfriend there...
Right? I can understand waiting until you're financially stable to have kids, but chances are these people are already living together, so marriage is pretty much just signing a contract and having a small ceremony at that point.
I guess it's more related to the finances of a wedding? OP did say that her parents won't pay for her wedding so maybe they want to save up more money? Idk this is just speculation
We can see why the sister is the way she is. Because of the mom.
Bridezilla stories are always the best 😂
I think I remember this story. I actually read it with Mark Narrations first, and my opinion still stands. No lady should be a sacrificial lamb for trash men. There's a reason trash men are avoided like the plague, not just women but men too. She might have gone too far(I don't think OP went too far at all. In fact I think she handled the situation well. I just say that because I'm sure there will be Holier than thou police crawling out of the woodwork), but OP was right to distance herself from her crazy Bridezilla sister. Pushing a creep onto your own sister? When she already has a boyfriend? Eeewwww! Gross! 🤢 Everyone has feelings and boundaries. We must respect them. ❤ Now regarding OP's boyfriend, he was right to be concerned about OP and her family, but he really shouldn't blame himself. OP's sister and BIL started this whole mess, not him.
Wow! I think OP handled the situation as well as could be expected, and the sister needs therapy. Her only life goal was being a wife and mother, which will by why she was so invested in whatever bizarre fantasy she clung to. There was only one response OP could have given, which is exactly how it played out.
oh yes ofc "let's pimp OP out to BIL at our wedding" like bro, that's so creepy. OP is not for sale. hell, she's not even on the market. what a selfish and honestly, by the sounds of it, potentially dangerous thing to do. does sister really think matchmaking the guy who doesn't understand "no" with OP, at her own wedding, is a good idea?
First Story: the bridezilla isn't mature enough to be getting married. Drop out entirely, and take your bf on a weekend retreat from the drama. And, uh, shut your phones off.
I say skip the wedding, and go on vacation with the boyfriend.
1. The brother is a loser; this is how he is trying to rope in a girlfriend. OP needs to ditch the wedding. I love strong OPs I wish we had more of them.
Good Morning LG!
Good morning @JerzeyCheztyr :)
@@LostGenre great story! Enjoy the weekend!
Loved the comment: he has the personality of a sandal! Good one.
Love op’s other siblings they’re really cool❤
It kinda sounds like the bil has a twin fetish, which is why he fixated on op.
“Kick rocks without socks!”
It is very weird that bridezilla sister is so apparently willing to die on this creepy hill. Going as a guest with bf wouldn’t be terrible to throw the family a bone. Not going is a totally reasonable move. OP is under no obligation to play this ridiculous game.
It seems the sister was incredibly desperate to get married. All she ever wanted was to be a wife and a mother and have a big wedding. And she was mare than willing to pimp out her sister to get it. She is incredibly desperate.
Sister wives scenario? Just a stray thought! Cheers
I"m not here for dramatic endings. I'm hear to listen to english being spoken to perfect mine. And I'm happy when a story ends well.
"My sister is the type of girl who has dreamed of getting married since she was a little girl". Uh oh, unhinged bridezilla alert. The wedding is more important than the marriage type.
I think op should have been a little harsher with the sister. Maby even get the dad to have a serious talk about how she's acting. Op the best you can do now is go low contact or no contact with the sister. She clearly doesn't Treat you like family other wise she would have respected your request of her dear little sister when she said a guy was creepy she would have been worried. Sounds like she needs tyrapy to start considering others in her life and what the want. I mean she's about to become a mother poor kid.
OP did the right thing, she only defended herself from her crazy wannabe controling pathetic matchmaker sister. I'm fairly sure all the issues were caused by OPs sister and she is just mad she cannot control OP like she wants to.
OP doesn't have to Not Go, she can just step doen from the wedding party