The reason for HAIR DYSMORPHIA ? | STOP WEARING WIGS & Embrace your natural beauty
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- What are y'all opinions on this topic ? do you think black women need to stop wearing wigs, and embrace their natural beauty ? Let's have a respectful conversation in the comments !
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People need to rock their natural hair or get wigs and weaves that match their REAL curl pattern. One thing I noticed is that, black women with 4B or 4C hair love slapping on a 3C/4A wig 😒 there are 4B/4C wigs that exist….
you seem triggered. who cares ?
I don't wear wigs and never will but who cares? Why do black women have to get a specific style that matches their hair type. If they wanna bus down in a Sarah from Westville wig.. who cares?
And what's the point of slapping on a wig that looks like your hair if you naturally got it?
I disagree with one thing
The looser textures didn't take over.
We have to be truthful.
Black women with type 4 hair never addressed the obsession with "good hair', all the natural hair movement did in the 2010s was trying to get defined curls. Whether if it was twistouts, braidouts, wash and gos and crazy methods like the "Maximum Hydration Method".
It was black women with type 4 hair subscribing and worshiping type 3 under their videos, in the comments. I've been there since 2009 and I saw black women en mass getting big chops and having breakdowns cause they didn't have a loose curl, obsessively checking their new growth for any semblance of a curl, I saw them put down their own hair while they worshiped type 3 hair.
It was black women shaming other black women with type 4c hair. It was black women obsessed with having a curl.
All black women had to do is stop idolising type 3 hair but they didn't. I saw the comments, I saw thousands of comments saying how much they want loose curls while insulting their own hair
Companies saw what black women were gravitating to, so companies put a type 3 on a product and sold it to black women.
This wig apocalypse i believe is a response to the failure of the 2010s Natural hair movement.
This problems will repeat itself unless black women take accountability for the actual downfall of the movement.
Let’s look at reason why black women with type 4 hair idolized type 3 hair so much…. The reason is because it was more widely accepted. Type 3 hair was usually associated with being “exotic” or “ambiguous” and so becuase society accepted that (society accepts anything that is closest to Eurocentric features), that’s why a lot of black women wanted their hair to be looser. Now not all black women. Because I did see a lot of 4 type hair women still appreciate their natural hair during that movement but it wasn’t common. So naturally the 3 type hair women took over because it’s was more accepted in society when it came to “natural hair” …. And this is why the natural hair movement was such a fail NOT because of type 4 women trying to assimilate.
I saw a subliminal video for attaining type 3a/b curls and it was young black girls in there saying that their natural hair is hard to manage… felt so bad..
Agreed!
@@UnCommentaryBriyour comment completely ignores OP's point by making more excuses. the point was, type 3 girlies would not have been ablemto "take over," as you put it, if their channels werent visited en masse by type 4 girlies. these companies that sponsored people didnt do it because type 3 hair was more accepted by society, they did it because type 3 hair was getting more views. its always been more about making money more so than what society deemed as acceptable.
@@killahkurlz7157
Thank you. Everytime it's time for us type 4 hair girls to take accountability for making type 3 hair the face of the movement we have excuses. I have 4a hair and I mostly watch other 4a videos. Unfortunately other type 4 ladies didn't. What you penalize is what gets the visibility, attention and money.
This was such a good topic. A lot of black women truly don’t realize how far gone they truly are. It’s a subconscious hate we’re experiencing with our hair even in little settings. Phrases like “my type 4 hair is hard to maintain” is a good example. It’s “hard” to maintain because you manipulate it to look like another texture. And you’re comparing it to how “easy” it may be to style European hair. Why are we making that comparison when our hair isn’t European? It’s subjective and we’re comparing maintenance to what we think it should be. It takes just the right amount of effort to care for our hair because it is indeed our hair. Straight wigs and weaves on Black women contribute to racism. It’s feeding into the one and only glamorized beauty standard. I like wearing my hair straight sometimes and I secretly have a hard time adjusting to its curly state again. Yes, it looks good straight, but then I see how beautiful my curls are. It’s a bit off putting jumping from one weave to another. And I only say this because it becomes an identity. Like the video title says, it’s dysmorphic. I think every woman should have the freedom to wear their hair the way they choose, but it’s time to look at the reasoning behind it. Like India Arie and Akon said I know we’re not our hair, but it’s worth discussing. Now we have in the media “don’t wear your natural hair to my fancy event” or “box braids aren’t a birthday hairstyle.” Sexy red just said 4c hair looks like carpet??? 😂 it’s getting a weee bit out of hand. I had a friend that told me that my hair is never done because I don’t wear weaves. My hair is always done, but in its natural state. I hear people saying “I look a mess right now” just because their natural hair is out. Our curls and kinks are worth loving. It gives us our character and it is truly a crown.
I’ve just bought a wig for the first time at 37 years old lol. I’m actually really excited because I got a texture that looks about the same as mine. I agree with the woman in the video saying a fro is the easiest style, but I don’t agree that it’s easy for maintaining my type 4 hair. It’s easier to take care of my hair if I have it somewhat stretched out, because it dries out fast, and it’s too easy for my hair to mat and tangle.
And I’m not messing with any complicated lace wigs or parts lol. The one I bought is a 3-in-1, made to be worn as a headband/half wig, or you can close it up with the drawstring and do like a puff/ponytail.
I know folks will do what they want, but I wish more Black women would at least embrace more natural texture wigs. Because I’ve seen some comments lately, and why would you every want to assist in the superiority complex some of these non-Black women have? One thing they could never accuse me of is thinking their hair is better, or wanting to look like them.
I'm 27 now and I've been natural since I was 17 and its an easy journey honestly if you have the time and patience to take care of it! I think about my hair like my Haitian culture everything takes time to the way we make food and to the way we do our hair it just. Its certain steps to take for sure! I've done wigs, extensions, natural hairstyles etc. Do what's best for you but always remember to come back to your natural hair and to be patient to love your hair its easy if your willing to take the time that's all! love this videos and I have 4C hair with a full fro I would love too see more black girls with it :)
After a while I started feeling insecure in wigs. Also got sick of the maintenance. I got the most compliments I’ve seen in a while when I big chopped from ppl I know and strangers. This old yt woman said that my haircut was beautiful and accentuated my facial features. Even when I wear head wraps whenever I don’t feel like doing my hair it’s a different vibe. Ppl treat me so kindly. I just feel naturally beautiful either way.
Plus when I got deeper into my faith, I sort of felt weird about knowing that not all the hair is ethically sourced. Some women overseas sacrifice their hair to their gods, and I know from scripture that I’m not even supposed to eat anything sacrificed to idols, so I’m not gonna take anything potentially sacrificed to idols. I’m just learning a lot about hair spiritually. I’m not even gonna chop my hair anymore, but Yk that’s a whole other conversation, and a personal choice for me. I love the look of a good bussdown 😂 so it’s hard for when I want to switch it up, but I’m embracing my real hair and Afrocentric styles.
Exactly, I got so many compliments when I big chopped. I went to a job interview with my natural hair and knew 20 min into it I had the job. Where do you live where wearing a wig is required? To be honest with you I’ve seen a women with natural hair get better public perception than women with wigs and weaves.
@@GabrielaMeredith I personally have never seen that irl, the natural hair discrimination, I just mentioned it cus some black women have mentioned it. I don’t wanna dismiss it because I’ve never seen it in proximity to me. I’m from Louisiana, and my state has passed the crown act, but I know that other states have not. Only 25 states have passed this law.
And I agree. Tbh I hear more ppl talk down on the wigs than I do natural hair. Cus not everyone lays their wig well.
I tried straight hair a bit ago, and it's just not me. Wigs are too hot and I'm always afraid to get embarrassed lol. Wigs are just a no for me. Recently, I wear ktips afro extensions for length. I love my hair, it took a minute to find the love, but no turning back.
It's much easier to rock a fro daily vs. a wig. Especially the maintenance of a wig. Trust me, I was a pure wig wearer 😅
I wear head wraps because I don't like wigs and my head hurts in them. All that glue is bad for your foreheads also. I love my hair. I wear it when I want to and stopped wearing wigs. I use to wear my hair all the time but got into drama all the time with people hating even though I got lots of compliments. Black people always talk mess about people who wear afros. Plus someone else hair is nasty.
Same. I’ve experienced the same thing . I’m a postal worker and usually would wear my hair out but I feel different energies more intensely and choose to wear a head wrap at work and will only have it out once a week to breathe.
Yes I feel at work just wear head wraps and then out on your days off. People be discriminating for real at work with afros. Even dreads are looked at better because they don't stand up like an afro.
This is a fantastic topic and I really appreciate you for drawing attention to it however the lady you reference is also wearing hair that is not her own. I completely accept that this is a deeply rooted, painful subject-matter to dissect but her message would be much stronger if she weren't also wearing fake hair.
Post Video Edit: I love what you said about wig quality being tied to economically standing. I would agree with this take which is why we need to shed the wigs. I personally wear wigs too, but I'm on a journey to reduce how much wigs, and to only wear realistic textures which match my own since I truly do not have the time, energy, or desire to be blending my natural 4b/c hair with a straight buss down wig which will never ever look fully blended or right beyond the two seconds it takes to walk away from the stylists chair and into the real world. Great video btw! I really enjoyed your thoughts on this!
What about weaves and wigs that look like black hair?
Weaves and wigs don’t always resemble other types of women hair
Yaki hair, curly hair, 4c hair
@@UnCommentaryBri yes, there are weaves and wigs that resemble black hair textures and styles, from afros, braids, locs, to tight coily, kinky, & curly textures.
Oh sorry, I didn’t understand the initial comment. I honestly believe weaves and wigs that resemble black hair texture is fine! That’s what I’m moving more towards. My past two wigs were Afro/curly texture and I loved it! Because i didn’t have to put heat to it to make it straight like my other wigs. And also I truly believe curly wigs smell better 🤭 you just put some tropical conditioner on it and wet it a little bit and the curls pop all day. But with straight wigs it smell like flat iron 🙁
i disagree that the afro is the easiest style. leads to extreme dryness and tangles.
Great points about the identity crisis. Freaked out to see a man I used to date once I became natural after not seeing him in years (used to wear braids, sew-ins, wigs) and I'm pretty sure he was taken aback by the new look. lol sigh
A man who’s really interested in YOU will still like you even without the wigs and weaves. Trust me, you want to be comfortable around your person. And the right person will make you feel comfortable in your natural beauty
Afros or wearing your hair out curly is not the easiest style that is a lie. I would have to do a blowout to wear a afro for it not to be problematic, but i dont like to use heat like that. I love my wash and go's but its not easy and low maintenance at all.
I agree. Afros are probably the hardest style to wear 🤣
@@UnCommentaryBrifor yall. Get a diffuser
@@miracle-pi5wsright I pretty much only do wash and go’s because I can do my wash and go in the morning and let it dry naturally. I usually only diffuse if I really have somewhere important to go. My wash and gos can last 2 weeks.
I agree and i wish ppl would stop spreading misinformation about how easy 4c hair for everyone. Wash and go would obliterate my hair bc it will dry out and break. Sometimes i doubt if some actually believe what they’re saying. I personally spend hours caring for my hair bc I like to take my time as Im learning my hair as it changes. Tbh, anything that requires care will not always be easy for everyone. Sure, managing type 4 hair may be simple for some but it can be a learning curve for others and that is okay.
This narrative of bw hating their hair is ridiculous. If someone does hates their hair, that’s for the individual to sort out, not for society and other bw to finger wag at, Tbh The natural hair movement is so toxic, inconsistent and judgmental as hell. Bw just do you!
@@skindippedingold sounds like a lot of cope.
I have a serious question as a white woman. How is it any different for a BW to wear a wig, get extensions, etc. than a WW coloring or perming her hair? I color my hair, have for 30 years. It's just the way I like it. I feel like a woman should wear her hair any way she wants! We have to feel good about ourselves.
The difference is that black women use wigs as a protective hair style; which white women don’t really have to do since their curl pattern is not as prone to damage like black women’s curl pattern is. The wig helps black women from having to put too much heat or product on to our natural hair. But over time using a wig as a protective hair style becomes an EXCUSE, because some women neglect their hair under the wig. Also this excuse hides the fact that black women do not love their natural beauty. Another major difference is that black women use wigs to assimilate to Eurocentric beauty standards; which white women already have.
I agree with feeling good about yourself! But I also feel like going to the extremes to do so, (like wearing a wig 365 days a year) is not feeling good about yourself but rather hiding your true self. And only feeling good about the “self” you present to society.
@UnCommentaryBri ok, I get it better. I wasn't trying to be mean or anything either. 😊 I just feel like all women should feel good about how we look. I do my nails, color my hair, etc. I did not realize all the underlying issues.
@Tina_GenX no worries, I didn’t take your question as rude or mean at all. I appreciate the curiosity ❤️ and I’ll answer any questions if I feel like I have the answer
1) BW don’t like BW ….start there
2) BW didn’t hold bc accountable over texturism
3) 3a-c isn’t the same as 4a-c
4) BW do you !!
It’s true as black women we need to embrace ourselves more!
You’re right! A lot of bw are mean girls to other bw and many times topics like this are not being delivered in good faith. I think it sometimes coming from a condescending, finger wagging perspective.
*risk your life wearing human hair.
Elaborate 🤔
How? Tbh I read something that braiding hair has chemicals in side
@@UnCommentaryBriwearing wigs weave and braiding hair is all fake hair by the way.
The girl with twists in the video is crazy to me. Cuz she still has fake hair in her head.
@@cutiepiea3687
The glue in the wig adhesive is toxic. Braiding hair is toxic. Relaxers is toxic. The gels and stylers are toxic as well. Some Perfume is toxic.
The food we eat is toxic. Everything is toxic.
The wigs are just ugly. You can see the lace, I don't care how much glue, foundation or baby hair can cover up those lace holes.
In person you can instantly see that but on video it looks better.
Why is this on my algothrim ?! I’m out
Maybe u need to stop wearing wigs ! 😂
@LS-hh3mv lmaoooo exactly. UA-cam tryna tell her to free her edges
@@LS-hh3mv lol I guess
Here comes the lies.
Lmao the video hasn’t even premiered yet. Chill
Everyone doesnt wear wigs because they hate themselves. Yall forget ppl are sick, have diseases, and suffers alopecia for whatever reasons. I really wish this narrative would stop. We can talk about wigs and self love but this one perspective sounds judgmental and tiring.
You may not have watched the video. If I had some health condition I’d get a 4a wig not a silky wig that didn’t look like what I had before.
@@GabrielaMeredith Thats still a problem cause why should ppl have to conform to wear a wig in a certain way? People wear dramatic makeup, clothes, piercings thats nothing like their original look. Especially wearing a 4c wig ppl clown you more for that. Im just saying yall hate how yt ppl and men try and say what black women should or should not be doing but then yall turn around and do the same. Everyone should wear hair the way they want and unless you have experienced it you dont know how that feels or what that experience for wigs w/ ppl with hairloss is. Ppl clown women for 4c wigs and braided wigs all the time. And braids are naturally for a 4c texture as well.
@@lexipooprincessTHANK YOU! omfg. black women complain that “black women get policed about how they look” then turn around and try to police how other black women. chase a bag, don’t worry about what the next girl is doing. tf ?
Thank you!! Finally someone said it!! As bw, we dont like the scrutiny from others yet we continue to be so hard on one another with the constant critiques and criticism. Im a 4c girl who wears twists out, straight wigs, curly wigs, afro etc. I just think we should simply do what works for us as individuals. I had issues with hairstylist damage my hair and even as a child my mom not knowing what she was doing to my hair resulting in long term damage from heat, too much manipulation and relaxers. My hair is finally in a healthy state today and I want to maintain that.
Bc we’re women, we are already under a microscope by society at large for simply existing in our own bodies. To take it a step further, as bw, the scrutiny is far more excessive and comes from everyone! With all these think pieces about hair/makeup/body image, femininity schools, etc it sends the warped message to young black girls and bw in general that they’re inherently flawed and that’s far from true. It’s as if there’s no “correct” way for bw to exist in their own bodies.
I finally gave in and bought a wig myself for this very reason and i bought straight hair, i might try curly ... But I'm thinking why does a wig deserve my good hair products and attention lol. Everywhere on the internet someone's telling you the way to live, it's up to us control those messages and just live. because the internet also seems to be in a parallel world to the real world an echo chamber that doesn't reflect how people are living sometimes. I didn't place so much importance on hair until discovering natural hair videos over a decade ago then suddenly it started getting lumped with identity and became a bigger deal than dead cells on the head. If someone has self hate though, i pray for them to heal because it seems like an uncomfortable way to live.
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