I had to create my own life. I'm a Christian, have to depend on God first. He's 84 and Im almost 76, too old to leave. I had to develop "subsitutes", close friends, thank God for that. Community, and good organizations help so much. I have many days where I wonder how I'll make it, but since we are older I may be able to. He pretends to be a christian and we go to church, sometimes together, but he's a hypocrite, so I minimize my involvement with him. I also go to counselors some times. It's difficult however, the constant ignoring, checked out, narcissism and neglect suffered at his hands.
I had colon cancer and he couldn’t even be bothered to go to the hospital with me! I go to college and when I’m around him, I read, watch UA-cam videos and go out with my kids and my friends.
30 years in abusive, isolated marriages. It’s really hard to try to be in friendships. I feel like I did way too much time in solitary confinement. Husband didn’t speak to my son for 10 years. I was so afraid I couldn’t leave and tried to rationalize marriage under God. I am broken. Husband wouldn’t speak to me for months (four). He did the same to my daughters. We are all broken, but children blame me for everything.
I'm a retired teacher, so thank God, I have my own money. He would not give me money and has been emotionally and used to be physically abusive. I used to call the cops on him. We have 4 grown children and one deceased. I am a musician so I play and sing in a small church group, I'm in a Community Band, I joined a poetry/writing group that are creative. I'm in a zoom Bible Study (since covid). I have had two close friends, (one died) and I talk to my closest friend about 1 x per month. I am close esp. to my 14 yr. old grand child. We talk and she wants to learn to sew. I have had physical issues but still hope/plan to teach her some sewing that I know. I have gotten closer to some of my kids, in spite of all of his abuse and neglect.
It wasn't possible to stay with him because if I wanted to talk to him about it, he would lose his temper and even go into a rage. I finally got him to move out. Now I have peace. Now, I am reaching out and finding friends.
I had to create my own life. I'm a Christian, have to depend on God first. He's 84 and Im almost 76, too old to leave. I had to develop "subsitutes", close friends, thank God for that. Community, and good organizations help so much. I have many days where I wonder how I'll make it, but since we are older I may be able to. He pretends to be a christian and we go to church, sometimes together, but he's a hypocrite, so I minimize my involvement with him. I also go to counselors some times. It's difficult however, the constant ignoring, checked out, narcissism and neglect suffered at his hands.
Me too.
Have you ever come across any resources that are specific to couples 70+ ?
I had colon cancer and he couldn’t even be bothered to go to the hospital with me!
I go to college and when I’m around him, I read, watch UA-cam videos and go out with my kids and my friends.
Good comparison of abuse to cancer.
30 years in abusive, isolated marriages. It’s really hard to try to be in friendships. I feel like I did way too much time in solitary confinement. Husband didn’t speak to my son for 10 years. I was so afraid I couldn’t leave and tried to rationalize marriage under God. I am broken. Husband wouldn’t speak to me for months (four). He did the same to my daughters. We are all broken, but children blame me for everything.
Hello I am so sorry for what you have had to endure! My heart is breaking for you. Why do your children blame you? I am praying for you! Blessings
I'm a retired teacher, so thank God, I have my own money. He would not give me money and has been emotionally and used to be physically abusive. I used to call the cops on him. We have 4 grown children and one deceased. I am a musician so I play and sing in a small church group, I'm in a Community Band, I joined a poetry/writing group that are creative. I'm in a zoom Bible Study (since covid). I have had two close friends, (one died) and I talk to my closest friend about 1 x per month. I am close esp. to my 14 yr. old grand child. We talk and she wants to learn to sew. I have had physical issues but still hope/plan to teach her some sewing that I know. I have gotten closer to some of my kids, in spite of all of his abuse and neglect.
It wasn't possible to stay with him because if I wanted to talk to him about it, he would lose his temper and even go into a rage. I finally got him to move out. Now I have peace. Now, I am reaching out and finding friends.
Supportive friends
How do I go to register for the next class that you are talking about?