My significant other is passive aggressive. It's his tone. If I say one thing, he says the opposite. He's always annoyed, irritated, and rude. He judges me by my words, but it's his attitude that I am responding to. I get the "I'm sorry you feel that way" "I apologized but you chose not to accept it" " It's all on me," "Got it." He's always short, corrects everything, mocks, scolds, and offers up silent treatment on a regular basis. He says things and then denies it, which is crazy making. He wants to grant versus ask me. It's like he goes out of his way to be rude; like spitting (only around me), burping on every call, and details about poop. I'm just tired of the bad attitude. But, I'm the bad one & should love him just the way he acts. I really needed to vent.
I developed a lifelong Auto Immune disease from the constant fight, fright, freeze and fawn response of my body Also my condition of battling to swallow got worse to the point Doctors here told me I have 99% swallowing difficulty.. They were mind blown that I am still able to swallow eat and drink although I have it and I told them ITS ONLY GOD SUSTAINING me and protecting me for His calling and His purposes . Also started battling with my breathing and my Physiotherapist said I am only using the top quarter of my lungs to breathe like a marathon runner at their last mile....so I sleep with an open mouth at night and battled a few times with "air hunger". Also started getting anxiety attacks where it felt like a rocks weight on my chest I tried to be the living sacrifice by laying down my life ,my dreams, my hopes for my husband and my boy before God to try and help my husband with his unhealed wounds, trauma and hurts but I could not anymore as it felt like I was going to die if I stayed by just not waking up one morning... And I cant fix him or safe him. I couldt stay anymore for the sake of our Autistic little boy and myself , so separated and God gave me the strength to move out so tbat He can work on him while we are not around to experience collateral damage anymore of his own unhealed wounds and trauma. So now I keep on praying for him daily so he would allow Jesus in his heart to come heal him and know Him. I stayed 8 years. Please do not be afraid to do this and dont make a person an idol or your relationship as God said not too as He hates idols and we are to have no other gods before Him.
@@thefinalgeneration5231 Amen. I did idolize my husband, yet he still discarded me. It wasn't worth giving up God for. I hope your body will heal as you renew your mind! 💓
I've been living in fear of being screamed at and threatened over and over for 9 months, since I told my houseguests I needed them to find another place to live, and they began retaliating ragefully. I'm stuck in a freeze response. I can't think of solutions or carry them out. I wake up during the night with unexplainable burning abdominal pain that radiates up into my neck and shoulders, then I wake up again in the morning depressed about facing another day with squatters in charge of my house controlling what I'm allowed to do in it. I've struggled with suicidal ideations and plans. I hate spending the days all alone because I'm being stonewalled. My house feels haunted. Hypervigilance makes me react to the slightest bumps or noises. My stomach is filled with anxiety and hurts all the time. My church has not been supportive. They want me just to smile, die to myself, and say everything is great, praise the Lord. I walk around in a slump, going thru the motions of my daily chores, absorbed in ruminations of their abuses. No new thoughts come to mind, and memories of the past are fading. I have no hope. I live in a fog with nowhere to go and nothing to look forward to.
Wow. I can't imagine the scenario that brought this about, but my lack of imagination doesn't make it untrue. For the sake of clarity, what would it take to set you free/be ok? Sounds terrible and like being in a prison!
@@alyssamurphy2002Thank you for asking. I'm not sure I have an answer. I've been praying for God to open up my mind to access solutions or to help me change my perspective so I can let go of the terror I live in. I continue to bring my anxious thoughts to Him, but I end up ruminating over them again during my prayer. I have also asked Him to provide a better place for them to live so they will want to leave. I've asked my church to intervene and encourage them to leave. So far, only the pastor has talked to them and asked them why they are not contributing and trying to support themselves, since they claim to be ministering Christians. They said they could pay no more than they had offered me, now 7 years ago, for space in my front yard, which I had waived in exchange for their friendship. I had allowed them to camp in my front yard in their tent for 6 years because they were homeless. We would hang out under the trees and chat. Thinking we were friends, I was instead being groomed to provide financial support and eventually take them into my house, following 2 Tim 3:6. When Code Enforcement came by and demanded that I remove the tent, and my friends made no effort to pack up and leave, I was forced through threats of heavy fines and criminal charges by Code Enforcement, along with pleas, demands, and coercion by my friend to take them inside. They immediately began rearranging my house, and within one month, they were controlling me using the same threats of legal retaliation previously used in their favor. As squatters in CA take legal precedence over homeowners' rights, they are allowed to do this. It is a prison sentence I volunteered for. Only this one I could walk away from if I were to give up my house and trade my life for theirs. At this point I have not been willing to do that, and I hope I won't have to, because I am so old I don't think I could survive.
@victoryamartin9773 I see what you mean. It's hard to believe CA law helps squatters. Is it possible for you to serve them an eviction notice with a move-out date and then once that date passes, get the court-ordered eviction? Once that happens, the police should help and maybe you can get the protective order? Is there somewhere else you can stay during the eviction time? I'm praying for you and your situation. ♡
1 Cor. 6:10 Do not be deceived. No ...reviler shall inherit the Kingdom of God. Not only is emotional abuse in the Bible but it also appears to categorize the saved from the unsaved. God thinks it's pretty serious business.
Fear, withholding affection and intimacy, gaslighting
My significant other is passive aggressive. It's his tone. If I say one thing, he says the opposite. He's always annoyed, irritated, and rude. He judges me by my words, but it's his attitude that I am responding to. I get the "I'm sorry you feel that way" "I apologized but you chose not to accept it" " It's all on me," "Got it." He's always short, corrects everything, mocks, scolds, and offers up silent treatment on a regular basis. He says things and then denies it, which is crazy making. He wants to grant versus ask me. It's like he goes out of his way to be rude; like spitting (only around me), burping on every call, and details about poop. I'm just tired of the bad attitude. But, I'm the bad one & should love him just the way he acts. I really needed to vent.
I developed a lifelong Auto Immune disease from the constant fight, fright, freeze and fawn response of my body
Also my condition of battling to swallow got worse to the point Doctors here told me I have 99% swallowing difficulty..
They were mind blown that I am still able to swallow eat and drink although I have it and I told them ITS ONLY GOD SUSTAINING me and protecting me for His calling and His purposes .
Also started battling with my breathing and my Physiotherapist said I am only using the top quarter of my lungs to breathe like a marathon runner at their last mile....so I sleep with an open mouth at night and battled a few times with "air hunger".
Also started getting anxiety attacks where it felt like a rocks weight on my chest
I tried to be the living sacrifice by laying down my life ,my dreams, my hopes for my husband and my boy before God to try and help my husband with his unhealed wounds, trauma and hurts but I could not anymore as it felt like I was going to die if I stayed by just not waking up one morning...
And I cant fix him or safe him.
I couldt stay anymore for the sake of our Autistic little boy and myself , so separated and God gave me the strength to move out so tbat He can work on him while we are not around to experience collateral damage anymore of his own unhealed wounds and trauma. So now I keep on praying for him daily so he would allow Jesus in his heart to come heal him and know Him.
I stayed 8 years.
Please do not be afraid to do this and dont make a person an idol or your relationship as God said not too as He hates idols and we are to have no other gods before Him.
@@thefinalgeneration5231 Amen. I did idolize my husband, yet he still discarded me. It wasn't worth giving up God for. I hope your body will heal as you renew your mind! 💓
Amen dear sis! Stay strong too and stay at HIS FEET.We have to be obedient to our King! And forgive and pray for these people@victoryamartin9773
Developed high blood pressure, rashes, neck surgery from stress.
It can be SO covert… as well.
That is me PTSD
I've been living in fear of being screamed at and threatened over and over for 9 months, since I told my houseguests I needed them to find another place to live, and they began retaliating ragefully. I'm stuck in a freeze response. I can't think of solutions or carry them out. I wake up during the night with unexplainable burning abdominal pain that radiates up into my neck and shoulders, then I wake up again in the morning depressed about facing another day with squatters in charge of my house controlling what I'm allowed to do in it. I've struggled with suicidal ideations and plans. I hate spending the days all alone because I'm being stonewalled. My house feels haunted. Hypervigilance makes me react to the slightest bumps or noises. My stomach is filled with anxiety and hurts all the time. My church has not been supportive. They want me just to smile, die to myself, and say everything is great, praise the Lord. I walk around in a slump, going thru the motions of my daily chores, absorbed in ruminations of their abuses. No new thoughts come to mind, and memories of the past are fading. I have no hope. I live in a fog with nowhere to go and nothing to look forward to.
Wow. I can't imagine the scenario that brought this about, but my lack of imagination doesn't make it untrue. For the sake of clarity, what would it take to set you free/be ok? Sounds terrible and like being in a prison!
@@alyssamurphy2002Thank you for asking. I'm not sure I have an answer. I've been praying for God to open up my mind to access solutions or to help me change my perspective so I can let go of the terror I live in. I continue to bring my anxious thoughts to Him, but I end up ruminating over them again during my prayer. I have also asked Him to provide a better place for them to live so they will want to leave. I've asked my church to intervene and encourage them to leave. So far, only the pastor has talked to them and asked them why they are not contributing and trying to support themselves, since they claim to be ministering Christians. They said they could pay no more than they had offered me, now 7 years ago, for space in my front yard, which I had waived in exchange for their friendship.
I had allowed them to camp in my front yard in their tent for 6 years because they were homeless. We would hang out under the trees and chat. Thinking we were friends, I was instead being groomed to provide financial support and eventually take them into my house, following 2 Tim 3:6. When Code Enforcement came by and demanded that I remove the tent, and my friends made no effort to pack up and leave, I was forced through threats of heavy fines and criminal charges by Code Enforcement, along with pleas, demands, and coercion by my friend to take them inside. They immediately began rearranging my house, and within one month, they were controlling me using the same threats of legal retaliation previously used in their favor. As squatters in CA take legal precedence over homeowners' rights, they are allowed to do this.
It is a prison sentence I volunteered for. Only this one I could walk away from if I were to give up my house and trade my life for theirs. At this point I have not been willing to do that, and I hope I won't have to, because I am so old I don't think I could survive.
Do you own the home? If so, you can call the police and get them out and get a protective order.
@@stephm5877 Yes I am working on trying to get help with that. The police aren't being helpful, however.
@victoryamartin9773 I see what you mean. It's hard to believe CA law helps squatters. Is it possible for you to serve them an eviction notice with a move-out date and then once that date passes, get the court-ordered eviction? Once that happens, the police should help and maybe you can get the protective order? Is there somewhere else you can stay during the eviction time? I'm praying for you and your situation. ♡
Where can we go if we missed your webinar dear Leslie? Would really love to have it to work through if myself too please to help with my healing work
Co-dependent😊
Is there a way we can watch the replay?
Fear
Can you ladies talk about ambient abuse? I know a few people who might be dealing with this… Is it the same as emotional abuse?
Respect, manipulator
Oppresswd
Disregard
1 Cor. 6:10 Do not be deceived. No ...reviler shall inherit the Kingdom of God. Not only is emotional abuse in the Bible but it also appears to categorize the saved from the unsaved. God thinks it's pretty serious business.