My daughters are breaking the generational curse of teen pregnancy in my family. My grandmother (who is still living and is 89) had her 1st child at 15, my mom (who is also still living and is 71) had her 1st child at 18, I had my 1st child at 19 (I am 45), but my daughter (who is 26) had her 1st child at 24 (after she was married and graduated from college), and my other daughter (who is 20) doesn’t have any children and is a junior in college 🙌🏽
This is what I'm looking to do too! Very similar with my grandma, mom AND aunt but I'm here, just turned 30 and will not have any until my bf and I are happily married (despite everyone begging for a baby). Good for your daughter I know you're proud!
Renee - I absolutely LOVE this! 🥺 If you don’t mind sharing, for other families who are struggling to break this generational curse, is there any advice or suggestions that you can share that helped break this for your daughter? Is there anything specific that you did as her mom that helped break this cycle?
We grew up in a household of alcoholism, drug abuse, domestic abuse, divorce, poverty, incarceration and every form of dysfunction that exists. And I watched as my siblings and I grew up and broke through every curse and barrier holding us back. We are all college educated, financially stable, happily married, homeowners, and don’t drink or do drugs. I sometimes sit and think about what our lives would have been had we not been born again, and I just marvel at it all. If we followed in the footsteps of the ones who came before us, we would be dead or in prison or homeless right now. I am so grateful for God freeing us from the trauma that we endured and setting us on the right path.
@@agathachris9722 My brother and his wife are having their first baby, a boy, in December and my sister and her husband are expecting their first, a girl, in March of next year. I’m so excited to be double aunt!! :) I think they will be wonderful parents. My brother, especially, is just a staple of what a good man should be which is remarkable considering he had to learn it all himself. I know he will raise his little boy to be something special and give him the tools in life that we never had.
“Trauma in a person without context, can look like personality. Trauma in a family without context, can look like tradition. Trauma in a people without context, can look like culture.” May we break those chains and strive 🖤
What Jeannie said about having a bad temper is so true. Sometimes parents will spank their child for simple mistakes or things that can easily be corrected with words. Spanking them isn't going to stop them from making the same exact mistakes that grown men and women make everyday.
I’ve never understood spanking. If one adult were to hit another adult it would be called abuse but hitting a small child who doesn’t have the brain development to understand the issue and that there are consequences. It just shows that when something doesn’t go your way are you are unhappy you hit people
Giselle, why did you pay for your mom's debts? all you had to do was send copies of her death certificates to all creditors & it's automatically paid off, a write off
I'm LOVING Garcelle on the show now! She brings such a mature, thoughtful energy to the show! I kind of zoned out for a bit during all these cast transitions but now their topics are hooking me back into watching!
@@ilovelife3328 yess I am in love with her presence on the show. She’s so intelligent, smart, and beautiful. She matches the other girls energy to a tea👌🏽
@@apaul5572 I miss that to, but I think it might be because the don’t have a live audience right now so there’s no need for a big set but I totally get your point
Love Jeannie’s honesty about divorce being in the family. I love how self aware she is. I totally believe she is making big changes to help stop the generational curse of divorce
Yes Garcelle you better preach about financial debt. When my mom died her funeral just by itself was such a stressful burden that I didn't know how it would be paid for but thankfully my family was able to figure it out and have it taken care of quickly so it wouldn't linger for too long
I feel you. When my mom passed away I am a single mom so I had no clue how me an my brother would cover the cost. Not only that my grandfather had passed 6 months before my mom(mom's dad) an she was paying on his still. We was in the process of selling the home my grandfather had grew up in because of taxes being so high there. Well the owner of the furneal home new my mom's side of the family an new we stood by our word. So he waited till I sold the house to pay him everything. He didn't charge me interest either I got very lucky. I hated having to sell my childhood home. But I couldn't afford it an it needed alit of work an my brother also wanted to sell. She had a little.bit of life insurance but sense she was in the hospital and hadn't been able to pay for 3 months they wouldn't pay anything even tho she had been paying for 1 yr. Insurance companies get you that way. They don't care. I can't afford life insurance and because of my health they want give it to me now. Which sucks because I have almost passed away an I have 2 teens. I always wonder if something happen to me how would they pay. I have no clue to be honest. I decided to make a will an put in there that I wanted the house sold an my furneal paid that way an then whatever was left to be spilt between the kids and given to them when they are 18. Ppl don't understand that with life insurance you pretty much pay for the rest of your life an if you miss a payment an your family don't know about it an keep paying them they vancell it out an then all the money you put into it you lost. My Nannie got insurance for my brother an me when we was little she paid it off well that company is no longer around an so the money she put into the life insurance is gone an that company want pay out because its no longer around. Thing slime that suck. I wish they teach life lesson alike this stuff in school. Kids need to know about things like this. They have parents that will have to be paid to rest one day. So in high school they need to learn lessons that can be used in the real world. They teach you things that we don't need to know an never use. My kid is learning about the explorers. Yes they need to know about them that stuff should.be in middle school tho. High school should be about life lessons and yes math and science still.
@Nonchalant M I am also South African and surprised to hear that our "s***hole" country like Trump described it have much better provisions and terms for death cover. Even the majority, living below the bread line have funeral cover and are able to bury their loved ones with dignity 🙇♀️.
Talk about synchronicity! I was just thinking about this. The generational curses I’m working on breaking are unhealthy relationships other food, codependency and poor mental health.
I appreciate Jeannie's contributions so much. Every person's normal way of communicating is what they grew up in, that's is so true. This is something I have struggled so much with in my life and it's something that I am working towards, speaking and communicating better.
I am a first Gen college student most people in my family didn’t even graduate high school. School didn’t teach me anything about finances or even how to properly fill out the FAFSA. I feel like they don’t teach you important things you need to be successful but I can tell you so many dumb math formulas ect.
I can relate. I’m a first generation college graduate but I struggled to get where I am. I have never had help with studying, I even had to sign myself up at a middle school that I picked out myself and took a longer path because I had no idea that I could have done a shorter route due to my good grades. Even after graduating from college I still have this mindset that I think I’m not good or smart enough because I never had my family to check up on my process since childhood. Of course they taught me morals and values and some street smart knowledge but not the things that involve education, career, money etc.
I appreciate them talking about this topic. Generational curses are not spoken of much. Most people pretend like they dont exist but they are very real. They were right about knowing what they are and getting educated in order not to repeat them. Really enjoyed this.
In my family I broke the generational curse of teenage pregnancy. My mom was 16 when she had me and my grandmother was 16 when she gave birth to my mom. I'm 40 with no children oh, and I was the first in my family to graduate from university with my Bachelor's.
I think for black families some generational curses are those in regards to emotional baggage ! The way ive seen in my family & even friends that I have the idea of talking about mental health or going to therapy or talking through issues is almost like a taboo thing ! It’s really scary cuz me being a person who is very in touch with my emotions without being emotional I want to shake some people and be like if there is a problem or something going on TELL SOMEBODY ! Closed mouths dont get fed & situations don’t get resolved if you don’t take that risk and just allow yourself to open up whether it be on ur own with a family member or friend or even an unbiased well educated certified opinion ! I think seeing the way Jeannie and her mom almost literally disowned each other and not talk again made me realize it’s common in communities of POC where children are less likely to speak their parents because of not being heard or listened to or understood ! That alone is an issue because children are not just children they are people too ! I don’t want to see another child have to grow up playing catch up to make their voice heard so they start acting out in other ways because of emotional baggage
I’m breaking generational curse right now with my son. he’s 15 months he has a savings account, I use gentle parenting and we BOTH go to threapy every week he thinks it’s a play date lol!!
@@anitaandneedle7545 Correct! Especially as a black male. I want him to know his feelings and emotions are valid, they can and will be heard and it’s ok to have them!
i love this topic! i broke so many generational curse in my family divorce, family drama, single parenting, financial debt...Thank God for this freedom 🙏🏻 my children will not be raised in these curses
Totally identify with Ade's financial talk. Everyone clapped roti or dhalpuri and sold food on the side to make it in this country but we never came together and started a business together. I still see that fear in some relatives and they're drowning financially not surviving like they claim. It's so hard but generational curses and BLESSINGS go hand in hand, those missteps or fears are lessons. Keep the good and work on the bad little by little, and it will not all be solved with you but starting the work is a HUGE head start for the next generation. My single parents came from married households and most of their family got married but it's the health of those relationships that was lacking whether they stayed together or not. I was given the world as a child of immigrants, I'd like to pass on the moon and the stars.
Can I just say that I really appreciate Jeannies vulnerability. Through out every single season from the beginning till now she has never scared away from being open with her audience. It means so much to people listening that we can relate to someone else and know we aren’t alone in what we are going through! Love you so much Jeannie Mai ✨✨💖💖
Absolutely generational curses are real. From my experiences not only do you have to learn new patterns and have accountability but some things come out by fasting and praying. Cover your children under the blood of Jesus and stay consistent with even when it looks like it's not working. I promise you it'll pay off. If you don't know the Lord Jesus he's the best doctor, therapist, teacher and friend anyone could have and his gift is free. He paid it all. ❤️
Guys i never thought there's something like "Generational crisis" till today.....this conversation took me way back and am now getting it, like some of the things that keep recycling over and over again.
That's not true Jeannie, I grew up with my parents arguing alot in our home. I had a tendency to do the opposite in my relationships and hold things in out of fear of confrontation. It's all about how you internalize what you saw growing up.
Thats your truth which is great but that is her truth though. You can’t say it’s not truth, it’s her truth. I agree with what she said, how you grow up influences what you think is normal and ok. Until you start working on yourself and seeing how others do things/behave, you don’t better and so do not know the difference. It’s when you see others acting different that you’re like “maybe the way we do things in my family isn’t right”. I’ve seen members of my family deal with the temper and anger and we KNOW it’s been passed down. The inability to communicate efficiently and deal with emotions turns into anger and issues until people explode, it can be passed from parents to kids. We literally have a saying for certain family members like “just like his/her so and so”.
Is your experience..... What Jeannie say is my truth and I don't want my child to end like me am working every single day to break that curse if you are perfect is good for you sis.....
Yes It can go either way. It's two sides of the same coin. Opposite ends of extremes. You shouldn't have been holding things in and she shouldn't have been lashing out. Everyone processes trauma differently but it still requires healing. much love. God bless
She has to make efforts though. And I think most times Loni presents that she’s strong and sometimes a bit mean so they let her be. It’s like the 2 non black girls are kind of scared of her sometimes. But that’s a thing she herself has to work on fixing and make the effort with the ladies.
@@snenhlanhlankutha1340 black women don't have to make anyone feel comfortable, Loni is a good person and host; it's been proven. They should engage her more if they want to.
I see it a bit, I do believe she gets interrupted a lot but also with Garcelle, loni is a bit more evened out, with Tamara I felt she was more of an Aunty and that role doesn’t have as much space when they don’t talk about Tamara’s children or loni’s personal relationship with them. That’s what I see. But she’s still doing great
I think Loni is just in a good place right now, she’s in a happy, committed relationship, confident in her skin as her outfits/makeup have been on point since they did shows from home. Her energy is different but it feels more calming and at ease.
In my past experiences whenever I try to bring up generational curses to the older generations in my family they get extremely offended and defensive (especially my grandmother who is the main source of a lot them) like I'm not here to judge but rather learn and grow from your past experiences. This type of reaction is what keeps us from putting an end to generational curses.
Previous generations didn't get the "luxury" (I put quotes around that because it shouldn't be a luxury) of mental health and the unpacking of their trauma so they get defensive, for some of them it's the only thing they know. Their attachment styles are unhealthy (I'd guess most have dismissively-avoidant attachment) and getting to healthy and feeling safe enough (emotionally) is probably something they never had sadly.
I’ve become so self aware of what I want and who I want to be. Every person’s “normal” way of communicating is what they grew up with. I totally agree.
Yes, I agree with them all. Especially the family script. Your emotional default is very dependant on the emotional wellness you're exposed to. Generational baggage can be so debilitating if not recognized and appropriately addressed.
I've always wondered why the schools never taught you about credit cards or finances🧐 but, yet your having to learn algebra which you never use in your real life. 🤨
Because if everyone understood it, banks wouldn't be able to exploit people. That Netflix show money explained... explains really well. Especially the episode on credit cards.
Breaking off generational curses is asking God what is in your bloodline, turning ,repenting for your ancestors and turning to Jesus. He is the only one who can break it. Jesus is our bloodline breaker. These ladies need to pray amd ask God for disernment
So true. They don't even know what they are talking about, thinking they have broken or 'trying' to break it without a clue about the spiritual origins or how to solve it spiritually first before they embark on the physical. They will not likely get anyway without serious praying, fasting and stopping any ungodly activity /behaviour.
It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear these ladies talk on the topic because it’s something I’m going through right now! Generational curses are so important to recognise talk about and change especially in these times we’re going through! God bless to all those who are experiencing and working through the same thing 🙏🏾
Love this discussion so much and that this topic is being discussed more 🤍 after experiencing trauma last year of losing my brother to taking his own life, I took a healing course and learnt that we hold onto 14 generations of trauma. The awareness comes first 🤍
Being african and the eldest daughter, our generational curses are mainly how our parents don't believe in therapy and that women's purpose is just get married off and have children.
Exactly so, great topic. My family had no divorce, until me. Married the wrong guy, never knew a nice guy would walk away. Checking it out, his father did the same.
I loved this segment! I've always had to do what I had to at an early age and still do! I'm learning so much along the way as well. I'm so glad the ladies were vocal about this.
I love the topic, generational curses, trauma, abuse, socio economic circumstances, education, and strong holds are very real! It’s very important to acknowledge them and work toward ending the toxicity of generation curses in the name of Jesus Amen
I’m 20 years old and I’m still carrying the consequences of the financial debt/domestic conflicts/ educational decisions of my parents. The thing is that I’m grateful for is that they started recognizing these problems and trying to fix it and at the same time allowing me and my siblings to grow out of it. It is hard, depressing sometimes because it still exists but I’m doing my best to live a life that I’m happy with. I’m in medical school and I’m learning how to face the traumas that I have so that I can have better relationships and hopefully one day I’ll be able to look back and be thankful for my journey 🙏🏽 thank you ladies for sharing 💓💓
Me and another sister have broken the generation curse of having only 1 father for our kids. Our mother has 6 girls all different fathers and also we are raising our kids not dropping them off on other family memebers
Right? It seemed like she was seriously joking. Like she framed it in a joke but there is a grain of truth for black girls growing up that our beauty is tied to our hair directly. There is a reason why black women always talk about their "hair journey" and coming to love their natural hair
@@liyakidane2085 i think she previously jokingly spoke about her hair insecurities but in 2021... she must know there are professionals out there and practices that can maker her natural hair look bomb!.. no matter the texture
My generational curse is family members having a whole bunch of kids they cannot afford them scrounge off the the very few individuals who did things differently!!!!!!
Wow! This is AMAZING! It’s wisdom to discern when to see your loved ones comments as a mirror to look into yourself and not simply a shameful criticism to ignore or refute. Lord help us to see ourselves as YOU SEE US, FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY MADE. ❤️❤️❤️
I will say that my parents getting divorced taught me about mutual respect and what is NOT a healthy and happy relationship. Both of my parents were very respectful towards each other and me about the divorce and it resulted in me having a deeper understanding of what is an is not healthy about a relationship.
It’s really unfortunate how the ladies down-played what Jeannie said about having the ability to look at yourself as the problem at times to save your marriage. Jeannie has grown the most over the years of all of the ladies and is now in a very happy marriage where you can see that she has willingly, eagerly accepted her role. 99.9999% chance - her husband will do the same.
@@whtnymchll That's too bad that you're stuck in the past when clearly she has owned up to her very poor choice of wording, evolved in maturity, speaks on Black issues and is now married to a Black man and will have their baby.
This was such a good topic. People do not always see these negative occurances in their lives for what they are, good start to a much needed conversation with oneself and loved ones. Thanks for the being so open and speaking your facts ladies. Xx
We have generational curse of poverty at home it's really bad no one's been married, poverty. It's insane I feel like it's been passed down to all my mothers kids.
Your Family needs alot of prayer Surender everything to Jesus Christ and he Will lift you up .Turn your life around for the better and be loving to one another and you will be 🙌 BLESSED
My daughters are breaking the generational curse of teen pregnancy in my family. My grandmother (who is still living and is 89) had her 1st child at 15, my mom (who is also still living and is 71) had her 1st child at 18, I had my 1st child at 19 (I am 45), but my daughter (who is 26) had her 1st child at 24 (after she was married and graduated from college), and my other daughter (who is 20) doesn’t have any children and is a junior in college 🙌🏽
This is what I'm looking to do too! Very similar with my grandma, mom AND aunt but I'm here, just turned 30 and will not have any until my bf and I are happily married (despite everyone begging for a baby). Good for your daughter I know you're proud!
@@915jasmine I’m proud of you 😊
Yes ! ♥️
I love this so much !!! Thanks for sharing ♥️♥️
Renee - I absolutely LOVE this! 🥺 If you don’t mind sharing, for other families who are struggling to break this generational curse, is there any advice or suggestions that you can share that helped break this for your daughter? Is there anything specific that you did as her mom that helped break this cycle?
We grew up in a household of alcoholism, drug abuse, domestic abuse, divorce, poverty, incarceration and every form of dysfunction that exists. And I watched as my siblings and I grew up and broke through every curse and barrier holding us back. We are all college educated, financially stable, happily married, homeowners, and don’t drink or do drugs. I sometimes sit and think about what our lives would have been had we not been born again, and I just marvel at it all. If we followed in the footsteps of the ones who came before us, we would be dead or in prison or homeless right now. I am so grateful for God freeing us from the trauma that we endured and setting us on the right path.
That is such a blessing. I hope you all continue to change the narrative for your own kids.
Yaaasssss Glory be to God 😇🥳
@@agathachris9722 My brother and his wife are having their first baby, a boy, in December and my sister and her husband are expecting their first, a girl, in March of next year. I’m so excited to be double aunt!! :) I think they will be wonderful parents. My brother, especially, is just a staple of what a good man should be which is remarkable considering he had to learn it all himself. I know he will raise his little boy to be something special and give him the tools in life that we never had.
Thank God. May this improvement be permanent in Jesus name
@@signalfire15 bless your family
“Trauma in a person without context, can look like personality.
Trauma in a family without context, can look like tradition.
Trauma in a people without context, can look like culture.”
May we break those chains and strive 🖤
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Beautifully said!
DEEP❗️
Wow! Well said! Did you come up with this or is this a quote?
this was really well said, Nicole Owuor.very touching.
What Jeannie said about having a bad temper is so true. Sometimes parents will spank their child for simple mistakes or things that can easily be corrected with words. Spanking them isn't going to stop them from making the same exact mistakes that grown men and women make everyday.
Exactly, spanking should be reserved for repeated big offenses.
I’ve never understood spanking. If one adult were to hit another adult it would be called abuse but hitting a small child who doesn’t have the brain development to understand the issue and that there are consequences. It just shows that when something doesn’t go your way are you are unhappy you hit people
It's rly sad bc most use spanking as a way to vent their anger/frustration
It's only inflicting anger in the kids, it builds up over time.
@Hello It's K Kids who are constantly yelled at tend to become very mischievous, I've seen it.
I love Garcelle on this show. Whoever pushed for her to be on the show give that person a raise !
These women are so intelligent. They stated straight up facts
Giselle, why did you pay for your mom's debts? all you had to do was send copies of her death certificates to all creditors & it's automatically paid off, a write off
@@debbieechiribel1860 Garcelle*
I'm LOVING Garcelle on the show now! She brings such a mature, thoughtful energy to the show! I kind of zoned out for a bit during all these cast transitions but now their topics are hooking me back into watching!
@@ilovelife3328 yess I am in love with her presence on the show. She’s so intelligent, smart, and beautiful. She matches the other girls energy to a tea👌🏽
@@apaul5572 I miss that to, but I think it might be because the don’t have a live audience right now so there’s no need for a big set but I totally get your point
Love Jeannie’s honesty about divorce being in the family. I love how self aware she is. I totally believe she is making big changes to help stop the generational curse of divorce
This is her second marriage. Definitely she try and make it work
She's also with somebody who makes her truly happy.
Still not over her “dark meat on the side” comment. She def thought white was “marrying up.”
@@whtnymchll She was wrong and learned, be happy for her.
@@whtnymchll seriously. “Dark meat on the side” and “never wanting children” and look where she’s at now💀
Yes Garcelle you better preach about financial debt. When my mom died her funeral just by itself was such a stressful burden that I didn't know how it would be paid for but thankfully my family was able to figure it out and have it taken care of quickly so it wouldn't linger for too long
I feel you. When my mom passed away I am a single mom so I had no clue how me an my brother would cover the cost. Not only that my grandfather had passed 6 months before my mom(mom's dad) an she was paying on his still. We was in the process of selling the home my grandfather had grew up in because of taxes being so high there. Well the owner of the furneal home new my mom's side of the family an new we stood by our word. So he waited till I sold the house to pay him everything. He didn't charge me interest either I got very lucky. I hated having to sell my childhood home. But I couldn't afford it an it needed alit of work an my brother also wanted to sell. She had a little.bit of life insurance but sense she was in the hospital and hadn't been able to pay for 3 months they wouldn't pay anything even tho she had been paying for 1 yr. Insurance companies get you that way. They don't care. I can't afford life insurance and because of my health they want give it to me now. Which sucks because I have almost passed away an I have 2 teens. I always wonder if something happen to me how would they pay. I have no clue to be honest. I decided to make a will an put in there that I wanted the house sold an my furneal paid that way an then whatever was left to be spilt between the kids and given to them when they are 18. Ppl don't understand that with life insurance you pretty much pay for the rest of your life an if you miss a payment an your family don't know about it an keep paying them they vancell it out an then all the money you put into it you lost. My Nannie got insurance for my brother an me when we was little she paid it off well that company is no longer around an so the money she put into the life insurance is gone an that company want pay out because its no longer around. Thing slime that suck. I wish they teach life lesson alike this stuff in school. Kids need to know about things like this. They have parents that will have to be paid to rest one day. So in high school they need to learn lessons that can be used in the real world. They teach you things that we don't need to know an never use. My kid is learning about the explorers. Yes they need to know about them that stuff should.be in middle school tho. High school should be about life lessons and yes math and science still.
@Nonchalant M I am also South African and surprised to hear that our "s***hole" country like Trump described it have much better provisions and terms for death cover. Even the majority, living below the bread line have funeral cover and are able to bury their loved ones with dignity 🙇♀️.
@Nonchalant MIt is really sad that such a rich country don't give their needy citizens some kind of assistance to bury their loved ones with diginty.
This season, Adrienne is much more articulate shes evolved a lot !!!
I still do not like adrienne. She talks too much.
She’s smart
@@millsykooksy4863 very
@@spirit5228 her JOB IS LITERALLY TO TALK...GTFOH
Gosh Jeannie spoke on her fears and they unfortunately came true. I wish the best for her 😓
Not having the table feels more like "Girl Talk" and I love it. It may even feel like they are being more vulnerable...or is it just me.
"We're working on it ,pray for us" that melted my heart Jeannie, sending you lots of prayers everyday.
I love that Jeannie shared temperament that is a "generational curse" that is not talked about enough. She really is keeping it real!
I’m the first in the last 4 generations to not be a teen mom 🤷🏻♀️
Well done
Same here!
That means your mum did a good job
God loves you thank him everyday
Talk about synchronicity! I was just thinking about this. The generational curses I’m working on breaking are unhealthy relationships other food, codependency and poor mental health.
I appreciate Jeannie's contributions so much. Every person's normal way of communicating is what they grew up in, that's is so true. This is something I have struggled so much with in my life and it's something that I am working towards, speaking and communicating better.
Agreed
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I am a first Gen college student most people in my family didn’t even graduate high school. School didn’t teach me anything about finances or even how to properly fill out the FAFSA. I feel like they don’t teach you important things you need to be successful but I can tell you so many dumb math formulas ect.
Bro when I tell you my family was no help when I filled out FASFA.
I can relate. I’m a first generation college graduate but I struggled to get where I am. I have never had help with studying, I even had to sign myself up at a middle school that I picked out myself and took a longer path because I had no idea that I could have done a shorter route due to my good grades. Even after graduating from college I still have this mindset that I think I’m not good or smart enough because I never had my family to check up on my process since childhood. Of course they taught me morals and values and some street smart knowledge but not the things that involve education, career, money etc.
Garcelle is adding much on the show bringing topics that are soo real and affecting people in truth...
This is a good and REAL Conversation, we do need to work on generational curses.
3:48 Wow so sad both of her fears have come to past as Jeezy filed for divorce 😢🙏🏾
I thought the same thing. So sad
I always look forward to Jeannie 's opinions because ever since she's been with Jeezy, she genuinely radiates maturity and bliss.
Still not over her “dark meat on the side” comment. She def thought white was “marrying up.” She needs to address that DEEPLY to be ‘real.’
@@whtnymchll 👀
@@whtnymchll 😂 LOL She Asian, they culture thinks white people are practically GOD'S.
She always had good commentary.
@@whtnymchll y are u every where get over it bye
Having to pay your parents debt is a very real issue, that people don’t understand just goes away. Get some life insurance on your parents!
I’ve never heard of that. How does that work ? My parents for sure need it because I know they’re not planning for the future
I appreciate them talking about this topic. Generational curses are not spoken of much. Most people pretend like they dont exist but they are very real. They were right about knowing what they are and getting educated in order not to repeat them. Really enjoyed this.
In my family I broke the generational curse of teenage pregnancy. My mom was 16 when she had me and my grandmother was 16 when she gave birth to my mom. I'm 40 with no children oh, and I was the first in my family to graduate from university with my Bachelor's.
I think for black families some generational curses are those in regards to emotional baggage ! The way ive seen in my family & even friends that I have the idea of talking about mental health or going to therapy or talking through issues is almost like a taboo thing ! It’s really scary cuz me being a person who is very in touch with my emotions without being emotional I want to shake some people and be like if there is a problem or something going on TELL SOMEBODY ! Closed mouths dont get fed & situations don’t get resolved if you don’t take that risk and just allow yourself to open up whether it be on ur own with a family member or friend or even an unbiased well educated certified opinion ! I think seeing the way Jeannie and her mom almost literally disowned each other and not talk again made me realize it’s common in communities of POC where children are less likely to speak their parents because of not being heard or listened to or understood ! That alone is an issue because children are not just children they are people too ! I don’t want to see another child have to grow up playing catch up to make their voice heard so they start acting out in other ways because of emotional baggage
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Imagine if the inner self energy equaled, or surpassed, the outer self energy.
"People care more about how to look instead of how to be!"
-- Oprah
Many, of our folks, consider therapy as "snitchin'!".
I’m breaking generational curse right now with my son. he’s 15 months he has a savings account, I use gentle parenting and we BOTH go to threapy every week he thinks it’s a play date lol!!
Why does a 15 month old need therapy?
@@ashlieleavelle I don't think it's about the baby needing therapy it's about mom and making going to therapy normal whilst baby is still very young.
@@anitaandneedle7545 Correct! Especially as a black male. I want him to know his feelings and emotions are valid, they can and will be heard and it’s ok to have them!
I love thissss!! keep being an amazing mom ❤️
@@yzma6142 thank you
Jeannie's maturity is beautiful to watch😘😘😘😘
i love this topic! i broke so many generational curse in my family
divorce, family drama, single parenting, financial debt...Thank God for this freedom 🙏🏻
my children will not be raised in these curses
Totally identify with Ade's financial talk. Everyone clapped roti or dhalpuri and sold food on the side to make it in this country but we never came together and started a business together. I still see that fear in some relatives and they're drowning financially not surviving like they claim. It's so hard but generational curses and BLESSINGS go hand in hand, those missteps or fears are lessons. Keep the good and work on the bad little by little, and it will not all be solved with you but starting the work is a HUGE head start for the next generation. My single parents came from married households and most of their family got married but it's the health of those relationships that was lacking whether they stayed together or not. I was given the world as a child of immigrants, I'd like to pass on the moon and the stars.
Can I just say that I really appreciate Jeannies vulnerability. Through out every single season from the beginning till now she has never scared away from being open with her audience. It means so much to people listening that we can relate to someone else and know we aren’t alone in what we are going through! Love you so much Jeannie Mai ✨✨💖💖
Absolutely generational curses are real. From my experiences not only do you have to learn new patterns and have accountability but some things come out by fasting and praying. Cover your children under the blood of Jesus and stay consistent with even when it looks like it's not working. I promise you it'll pay off. If you don't know the Lord Jesus he's the best doctor, therapist, teacher and friend anyone could have and his gift is free. He paid it all. ❤️
Amen 🙏🏽
Amen praise the Lord
Amen
All hail Bronze Age sky daddies in the clouds! We need imaginary friends more than anything!
Facts
Guys i never thought there's something like "Generational crisis" till today.....this conversation took me way back and am now getting it, like some of the things that keep recycling over and over again.
You have to acknowledge the trauma/generational curse, heal and work like hell to keep from passing it to another generation. It stops with you.
That's not true Jeannie, I grew up with my parents arguing alot in our home. I had a tendency to do the opposite in my relationships and hold things in out of fear of confrontation. It's all about how you internalize what you saw growing up.
Thats your truth which is great but that is her truth though. You can’t say it’s not truth, it’s her truth.
I agree with what she said, how you grow up influences what you think is normal and ok. Until you start working on yourself and seeing how others do things/behave, you don’t better and so do not know the difference. It’s when you see others acting different that you’re like “maybe the way we do things in my family isn’t right”.
I’ve seen members of my family deal with the temper and anger and we KNOW it’s been passed down. The inability to communicate efficiently and deal with emotions turns into anger and issues until people explode, it can be passed from parents to kids. We literally have a saying for certain family members like “just like his/her so and so”.
Is your experience..... What Jeannie say is my truth and I don't want my child to end like me am working every single day to break that curse if you are perfect is good for you sis.....
@@nsalimk1449 exactly, it’s all about how you internalized what you saw growing up. She’s saying we all mimic what we saw but it’s not true.
@@Loladee19 she said it was true for everyone, I’m saying everyone is different
Yes It can go either way. It's two sides of the same coin. Opposite ends of extremes. You shouldn't have been holding things in and she shouldn't have been lashing out. Everyone processes trauma differently but it still requires healing. much love. God bless
I feel like ever since Tamara left, Loni lost her mojo.... I don't know how to explain it.... But those who see it, will get it
She has to make efforts though. And I think most times Loni presents that she’s strong and sometimes a bit mean so they let her be. It’s like the 2 non black girls are kind of scared of her sometimes. But that’s a thing she herself has to work on fixing and make the effort with the ladies.
@@snenhlanhlankutha1340 black women don't have to make anyone feel comfortable, Loni is a good person and host; it's been proven. They should engage her more if they want to.
I see it a bit, I do believe she gets interrupted a lot but also with Garcelle, loni is a bit more evened out, with Tamara I felt she was more of an Aunty and that role doesn’t have as much space when they don’t talk about Tamara’s children or loni’s personal relationship with them. That’s what I see. But she’s still doing great
I think Loni is just in a good place right now, she’s in a happy, committed relationship, confident in her skin as her outfits/makeup have been on point since they did shows from home. Her energy is different but it feels more calming and at ease.
It’s so much easier said than done but it’s important to recognize them and catch yourself “slipping”.
In my past experiences whenever I try to bring up generational curses to the older generations in my family they get extremely offended and defensive (especially my grandmother who is the main source of a lot them) like I'm not here to judge but rather learn and grow from your past experiences. This type of reaction is what keeps us from putting an end to generational curses.
Previous generations didn't get the "luxury" (I put quotes around that because it shouldn't be a luxury) of mental health and the unpacking of their trauma so they get defensive, for some of them it's the only thing they know. Their attachment styles are unhealthy (I'd guess most have dismissively-avoidant attachment) and getting to healthy and feeling safe enough (emotionally) is probably something they never had sadly.
I love this conversation generational curses is a very important topic that alot of us shy away from.
Adrienne’s outfit today is so cute ! I love it
Prayers can also break generational curses
THE best way
Most important first step it reveals the root and solution
Yes. Bronze Age lordies are the way! As long as you have invisible cloud friends, ur set!
I appreciate this convo! Humanity is truly evolving in every instance. Blessing
I’ve become so self aware of what I want and who I want to be. Every person’s “normal” way of communicating is what they grew up with. I totally agree.
I love how transparent and self-aware Adrienne is❤️😍.. It's always interesting hearing stories about her life and family.
Omg the temper thing with Jeannie is exactly what I'm trying to break
Love the way the four of you share so openly and honestly with each other and how you allow opportunities for each to share! It’s a beautiful thing!
I am LOVING this season!!!!
Dang Jeannie 💔 …”we’re working on it, pray for us”
Yes, I agree with them all. Especially the family script. Your emotional default is very dependant on the emotional wellness you're exposed to. Generational baggage can be so debilitating if not recognized and appropriately addressed.
I've always wondered why the schools never taught you about credit cards or finances🧐 but, yet your having to learn algebra which you never use in your real life. 🤨
Because if everyone understood it, banks wouldn't be able to exploit people. That Netflix show money explained... explains really well. Especially the episode on credit cards.
@@Traveler-rf8ye Do you remember the name of the show?
@@therealkoolaidandkale is it not money explained? 😂😂
Breaking off generational curses is asking God what is in your bloodline, turning ,repenting for your ancestors and turning to Jesus. He is the only one who can break it. Jesus is our bloodline breaker. These ladies need to pray amd ask God for disernment
The Only! We can get all the knowledge but Generational Curses is spiritual.
So true. They don't even know what they are talking about, thinking they have broken or 'trying' to break it without a clue about the spiritual origins or how to solve it spiritually first before they embark on the physical. They will not likely get anyway without serious praying, fasting and stopping any ungodly activity /behaviour.
It’s such a breath of fresh air to hear these ladies talk on the topic because it’s something I’m going through right now! Generational curses are so important to recognise talk about and change especially in these times we’re going through! God bless to all those who are experiencing and working through the same thing 🙏🏾
Love this discussion so much and that this topic is being discussed more 🤍 after experiencing trauma last year of losing my brother to taking his own life, I took a healing course and learnt that we hold onto 14 generations of trauma. The awareness comes first 🤍
This is a much needed conversation to be had all over the world!
Everyone looks gorgeous
Being african and the eldest daughter, our generational curses are mainly how our parents don't believe in therapy and that women's purpose is just get married off and have children.
I have an older brother but dang most of the times it's like iam his older sister in terms of taking care of the house and being "2nd mom"
@@matyfortune5734 Same. They make the eldest daughter the 3rd parent all the time.
Mam you are spot on !
Sis,say that loud!
I get this.
What a great and meaningful topic. Wow they’ve grown
Exactly so, great topic. My family had no divorce, until me. Married the wrong guy, never knew a nice guy would walk away. Checking it out, his father did the same.
I loved this segment! I've always had to do what I had to at an early age and still do! I'm learning so much along the way as well. I'm so glad the ladies were vocal about this.
I love the topic, generational curses, trauma, abuse, socio economic circumstances, education, and strong holds are very real! It’s very important to acknowledge them and work toward ending the toxicity of generation curses in the name of Jesus Amen
This convo was powerful and needed
I’m 20 years old and I’m still carrying the consequences of the financial debt/domestic conflicts/ educational decisions of my parents. The thing is that I’m grateful for is that they started recognizing these problems and trying to fix it and at the same time allowing me and my siblings to grow out of it. It is hard, depressing sometimes because it still exists but I’m doing my best to live a life that I’m happy with. I’m in medical school and I’m learning how to face the traumas that I have so that I can have better relationships and hopefully one day I’ll be able to look back and be thankful for my journey 🙏🏽 thank you ladies for sharing 💓💓
@Divine thank you so much sis, I promise you I won’t give up. God bless you, your message made my happiness today 💓🙏🏽🙏🏽
I broke so many generational curses and later on will break some more … beating teen pregnancy is one of them
Love how mature Jeannie has gotten. This generational curses is real
Praying to God and trusting God breaks generational curses. 😊
Me and another sister have broken the generation curse of having only 1 father for our kids. Our mother has 6 girls all different fathers and also we are raising our kids not dropping them off on other family memebers
I wanted to know what Loni was gonna say about her hair being done ..seemed interesting if she was serious
Right? It seemed like she was seriously joking. Like she framed it in a joke but there is a grain of truth for black girls growing up that our beauty is tied to our hair directly. There is a reason why black women always talk about their "hair journey" and coming to love their natural hair
@@liyakidane2085 i think she previously jokingly spoke about her hair insecurities but in 2021... she must know there are professionals out there and practices that can maker her natural hair look bomb!.. no matter the texture
You ladies are simply K-K-K-K-K-LLLLLLLING IT this season! Can someone spell E .M.M.Y.S?😍😍
My generational curse is family members having a whole bunch of kids they cannot afford them scrounge off the the very few individuals who did things differently!!!!!!
Why they cut off Loni at the end when she finally started talking.
This the deepest I've ever seen these girls go on this show in terms of conversational topics. Evolution!
The Real has changed woow!! Loving it more
Divorce is the generational curse in my family. Most of the marriages are broken up. Here’s to hoping that does not happen to me.
Loved this episode and this new forum in which they doing the show love these ladies
I am loving these conversations. They’re talking about the right things.
Wow! This is AMAZING! It’s wisdom to discern when to see your loved ones comments as a mirror to look into yourself and not simply a shameful criticism to ignore or refute. Lord help us to see ourselves as YOU SEE US, FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY MADE. ❤️❤️❤️
Garcelle your hair and make-up is on point. Loving the classy look.
Adrienne's jewelry collection is amazing 💕😍
This is a vital conversation and I'm thankful that The Real Daytime keeps it truly REAL. You are helping millions and I'm grateful!!! 🤗🥰🙏🏽
These are the friends you need! I just got off the phone discussing this with my aunt.
I will say that my parents getting divorced taught me about mutual respect and what is NOT a healthy and happy relationship. Both of my parents were very respectful towards each other and me about the divorce and it resulted in me having a deeper understanding of what is an is not healthy about a relationship.
It’s really unfortunate how the ladies down-played what Jeannie said about having the ability to look at yourself as the problem at times to save your marriage. Jeannie has grown the most over the years of all of the ladies and is now in a very happy marriage where you can see that she has willingly, eagerly accepted her role. 99.9999% chance - her husband will do the same.
Still not over her “dark meat on the side” comment. She def thought white was “marrying up.”
@@whtnymchll That's too bad that you're stuck in the past when clearly she has owned up to her very poor choice of wording, evolved in maturity, speaks on Black issues and is now married to a Black man and will have their baby.
LITERALLY taking accountability and knowing when you’re wrong weather your stubborn can fix so much
This season is lit the vibe is amazing I just miss them dancing on the “this is our time” song. The energy between them 4 is amazing.
Jeannie is glowing and I am loving it 😍
I really appreciate how the real continues to reconfigure it’s format to improve. It just keeps getting better.
This was WELL understood and WELL discussed. Bravo 👏 👏 👏 👏
Oh my God , what a great topic- this should just be a series.
Very nice conversation.
Kudos!! It takes guts to accept the flaws! Being so candid ....hugely appreciate!!!
This is awesome!! I needed confirmation and you ladies did just that!
We gotta encourage and teach our children and love and protect them
This was such a good topic. People do not always see these negative occurances in their lives for what they are, good start to a much needed conversation with oneself and loved ones. Thanks for the being so open and speaking your facts ladies. Xx
this segment was perfect!
We have generational curse of poverty at home it's really bad no one's been married, poverty. It's insane I feel like it's been passed down to all my mothers kids.
Your Family needs alot of prayer Surender everything to Jesus Christ and he Will lift you up .Turn your life around for the better and be loving to one another and you will be 🙌 BLESSED
In my family it's a lack of ambition and consistency in our professional lives and dysfunction.
Self awareness is a super power💪👏❤
I love this!!! This might be my fave season yet🤎✨
One of the best conversation they ever had. Pretty good!!
Great topic. Seems like these ladies have found a perfect balance. Garcelle was a brilliant add 👏🏾👏🏾
The real is getting soo real
Jeanie's hair, makeup, and OUTFIT. omg her team killed it!
Great subject. And Garcelle OWED this conversation
Loni in the that dress. YASSSS Queen!!