From Sensitivity to Being Lonely: We Reveal the Vulnerabilities We Don’t Always Like to Admit
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- Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
- Vulnerability has a way of making some feel uncomfortable, but is there beauty in sharing your emotions? We reveal some of our most private vulnerabilities and the effects they have on our lives.
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#vulnerabillity #loneliness #sensitivity
I can’t wait till Adrienne finally has her baby, she’s been so patient
@@thruthemotions what surgery ?
@@thruthemotions What surgery? Spew your negativity somewhere else. I hope you find peace in your soul.
@@thruthemotions Surgery doesn’t prevent you from getting pregnant unless you have a something like a hysterectomy. To my knowledge, Adrienne has not had that.
So you think having a baby ,is going to solve your problems? look at gabrielle union, she couldnt have a child due to being raped years ago,had 9 miscarriages and look at her she is flourishing. Children arent for everyone,and thats okay. be happy to have life!
@@Fashionpreneurondemand Ummm what about Kaavia pretty sure that's her child!
We all knew what Loni was saying, she’s a good friend, Adrienne is lucky 🤍
Yes, I like how she addressed all of the flack Ade has been getting since Jeannie got pregnant without being explicit and making things uncomfortable. I don't know why people have to assume Ade is jealous and/or depressed about the situation. She can be supportive and happy for her friend while wanting her own desire to be fulfilled. There's nothing wrong with that. I wish they would leave the girl alone.
@@annisaarthur-castro6227 yeah and it’s so unfair
@@annisaarthur-castro6227 it’s other WOMEN talking bullshit. Like always
@@annisaarthur-castro6227 Right... Adrianne is a beautiful person inside out..I watch her channel and I find myself smiling alot..She has good vibes and energy..I love her so much and I wish everybody would just leave her alone...Please God,bless Adrianne with children,please🙏
@@annisaarthur-castro6227 It’s disgusting honestly. 🤢 Like, people just really need to mind their own business - you never know what someone is going through. Hella disrespectful in my personal opinion the flack that she’s been getting. 😣
This is what true friendship is all about, to see Lonnie cry for her friend. This is empathy personified. Vulnerability is a beautiful thing. It is not weakness.
Not sorry, but Loni is FAKE and madd extra...As soon as she ,"cries"...🙄 it doesn't come off as genuine especially when she tries to one up on Jeanine EVERYTIME she tells a story...smdh
I love this 💗
I started crying for her before Loni did. I was like....da hell...I'm crying. I love A so much.
@@playboyprincess7832 I usually agree but I actually think this one was sincere
Thank you! So many people think vulnerability = weakness and it couldn’t be any further from the truth! True vulnerability takes courage and strength!
This moment between Loni and Adrienne was beautiful. Not much was said so that an outsider like myself could understand and that's totally fine but seeing the support and how Loni's mindful of what Adrienne is going through and showing that she's impacted by what Adrienne is going through is absolutely beautiful to see. I appreciate this vulnerable moment so much.
Me too! This SHow has definitely gotten so real!
Not much was said and we still understood. Loni should have kept her mouth shut instead of pressuring Adrienne to spill her business. A didn't spill so Loni indirectly spilled it for her. Loni trash for that, I dnt care that she cried
@@imtheprize Pressuring? I bet you don't know that each of these cohosts have earphones and their producers tells them what questions to ask one another or their guests most times apart from reading from the teleprompter. Stop hating dear, not everything is as it seems.
@@imtheprize What did Loni spill?
I cried!
I pray that Adrienne is able to have a breakthrough. Whatever is weighing her down will not have victory over her. Praying that whatever she asking for, she will receive it!
In Jesus name, amen!
AMEN 🙏🏾
AMEN🙏🏿
❤️❤️❤️🙏
Amen!!
Loni really is a good friend. Can’t imagine what Adrianne is going through.
Loni pressured Adrienne to admit to something she obviously wasn't ready or comfortable doing. Then came out and basically said it for her since A wouldn't fess up. With a friend like that, I wouldn't need enemies.
How did y’all arrive to the conclusion that Loni bullied Adrienne? When what she did was create a safe space and told her it was okay and Loni didn’t even tell her secrets. Just say y’all don’t like Loni.
@@imtheprize But how do you bully someone and be crying for them at the same time tho....
Right! It was hard for Adrienne to vocalize but she didn’t pass on the subject. Loni literally let her know I feel you and I see you. It was such a beautiful example of holding space for a friend in sisterhood.
@@imtheprize what did she make her admit to??👀
I’m obviously not close to any of these ladies but I suffered with infertility for MANY years and if I had to guess I would say Adrienne’s fertility journey is weighing heavy on her. I can tell you it took me for a loop- I didn’t feel like a real woman, I felt like my body had failed me, like I had failed my husband because I couldn’t get pregnant, like I had failed my parents for not giving them a grandchild and ultimately myself for not being able to be what I most wished I could be- a mom. That journey will mess with you at every level and bring down your confidence and even self worth. Thankfully I’m on the other side of it now. I have twin toddlers. Praise Jesus! God gave me the desires of my heart and I pray Adrienne gets hers, whatever they may be. Adrienne, if you read this- remember no woman in the Bible that suffered from infertility stayed sterile. Keep the faith, sis. GODs timing is perfect. 🙏🏻
It’s really the moment you don’t expect it the blessing happens. I’m so happy you have your twins now! As a man I can never understand the whole pregnancy thing but I sympathize with anyone struggling with it.
Awww that’s amazing 🥰
God will have mercy and give her what she desire.
No disrespect truly. I know it must have been hard for you. But my Question is why don’t people or you personally opt for adoption. Like is it that important for the baby to come out of you. Like would that make you less of a mom. Cause there are a lot of kids who are unwanted that need that. Sorry if it comes of rude
@@QueensloveAdom I think that many women would want to experience the joys and beauty of carrying their own child. Also, adoption is not as easy as it sounds. It cost money to adopt a child and also it’s not an easy process. You don’t just sign up to adopt a child and get it the next day. It’s a process. I see nothing wrong with women wanting to bear their own child.
I hope Garcelle gets the person who takes care of her and sees that she's ok. Real fam, I really think we all need to stop playing with through a dice and guessing at random moments that Ade is pregnant. It is an incredibly sensitive issue and let's try to do better at respecting her.
Exactly. As someone who can’t have kids it’s hard. And I’m hoping she will be able to! But let’s stop guessing until we hear it from her own mouth.
Women should never guess if a women is pregnant to begin with!
I agree! I've always thought this, it's very insensitive to keep asking or saying that someone is pregnant. It's like no one knows what someone is going through as far as trying to get pregnant or maybe someone may have had a miscarriage, we don't know. So I really dislike seeing when people keep asking that question.
Garcelle won't be happy until she finds a REAL man that's hung like a horse...FACTS
I was looking at myself when Adrienne was saying "it's alot" with a smile, but also holding back tears.. that broke me
Same :(
God’s got you. 💕 Luke 1:45
@@peacelove681 My God! That's the Scripture I'm hanging on to as well🙏
I felt that as well💜
Loni definitely knew what Adrienne was feeling and knew how important it was to keep it private, she's such a good friend. Hopefully the other two co-hosts didn't feel excluded lol
Smdt, we all know, if they wanted that to be kept private, Loni shouldn't have said anything
Nah I’m sure they knew..
Well Jeannie may have known
@@imtheprize what did Loni say exactly?
Loni and Adrienne have been having some great sisterly connection, been watching a couple of episodes and seen how they look at each other and how they interact. It's nice to see women be each other's support.
I think that's probably the realest and deepest ade ever got, without even going into detail. She doesn't usually open up a ton over the years. Garcelle really touched me with her sincerity.
Huh? Adrienne opens up A LOT.
@@jazzyj904 yeah I mean but not to the point of being super emotional, crying, and/vulnerable. This just felt different watching it. 🤷🏾♀️
I think so too
But the question is…was it her choice to open up like that? 😩
Agreed!
I love how Ade didn’t say it was the pregnancy thing to not make Jeannie feel bad. But Loni knew.
I peeped that too
She’s human and it’s ok if it did trigger her. A is a loving and genuine person and it’s ok.
@@BriaBarrows yea. Meaning, she is such a good friend…. She didn’t want to make Jeannie feel awkward. Yet she has so much pain. Her love for her friend is evidently showing here.
I think we all know. We just don’t say it. I know she will soon be a Mommy when she least expects it.
Agreed my thoughts exactly I🥰👌🏾💪🏾
Impossible not to cry when I see Loni crying because it's genuine. We all need a Loni in our life. Amazingly, even though I was crying too I felt so much better after 🤗
I cried too lol.
Exactly
Not sorry, but Loni is FAKE and madd extra...As soon as she ,"cries"...🙄 it doesn't come off as genuine especially when she tries to one up on Jeanine EVERYTIME she tells a story...smdh
Loni is such a beautiful, strong, smart, amazing woman! She is a sage of a woman.
The heifer cries every other show
adrienne is the best kind of scorpio: never vengeful but super deep and emotional with a very tough shell
Tough
I'm the same #Scorpio
@@glo1882 thank you for pointing that out, english is my third language, i just changed it :) xx
Scorpios are very private.
I just love Loni. Her heart is just so pure, and Adrienne, Loni is right. You will weather this storm with God by your side and that beautiful rainbow will be well worth the struggle ❤️❤️.
ONLY GOD knows the purety of someone's heart.
Loni was hella wrong. She directly asks A if she had any vulnerabilities. Adrienne says yes and generalized it. Loni goes back at her and wants her to be specific. Adrienne again dances around the question. Then Loni proceeds to cry and tell Adrienne she knows😒. Well, bih, why did you pressure her if you already knew?? Esp. after Loni was just talking about second guessing what she says on air and even if she is comfortable airing her business, everyone may not be there yet. Loni basically told the world A's vulnerabilities for her since A wouldn't do it cuz let's be real, we alllll knew what she meant when she started breaking down. 😒
@@imtheprize they are making a tv show! She’s the moderator it’s her job to push a bit!!and they all know what questions are going to be asked!
@@tavareseuells3789 she loves pushing others but never shares anything about her life. she needs to have several seats.
@@imtheprize EXACTLY.
I love the true friendship between these women, Loni has so much empathy
It’s true sisterhood
Not sorry, but Loni is FAKE and madd extra...As soon as she ,"cries"...🙄 it doesn't come off as genuine especially when she tries to one up on Jeanine EVERYTIME she tells a story...smdh
Loni is able to cry on Q to avoid truly having to share her own vulnerabilities. She lied about what truly bothers her, then created a distraction to avoid answering the question. She has every right to not share her true vulnerabilities, but those tears were definitely fake...
@@AkireMaru How do you know that it was a lie?
@@ceterisparibus8966 if someone asks you “what makes you vulnerable, so much so, you don’t even talk to your coworkers about” it’s extremely odd to respond with “I cry too much.” The term “vulnerability” implies you have a feature or attribute that others consider to be “bad” or less than ideal. No one shames women for crying. And Loni cries so often, I doubt she is truly ashamed of it.
Infertility is a vulnerability. Feeling ugly is a vulnerability. Feeling like others think you are smelly is a vulnerability. Feeling lonely (implying you are friendless) are vulnerabilities because these are the type of things that are extremely uncomfortable to reveal and may drastically shift people’s opinions of you or affect your ability to attract a mate.
That’s why I believe Loni is lying. And why she started asking other women about their vulnerabilities and why she cried about an issue that Adrienne has had for years… it was all an attempt to distract the audience, deflect, and avoid the question
This show is such a blessing. I hope these ladies know that they have saved lives and have brighten up the dark days of many. Love all 4 of them. Tam too. Miss her on the show but Garcelle is just class personified .
I agree!!
Even though Loni tries to be tough on the outside, she is definitely compassionate and intuitively aware, great gifts to have. Can def relate! Crying with y’all!!😭💛
Not sorry, but Loni is FAKE and madd extra...As soon as she ,"cries"...🙄 it doesn't come off as genuine especially when she tries to one up on Jeanine EVERYTIME she tells a story...smdh
Loni is such an empath, she really feels peoples emotions and she’s such a good friend. ❤️
Oh wow when Loni started speaking to Adrienne🥺❤️
It’s really going to be alright Adrienne. We (fans) are all praying for you. Everything will happen in God’s perfect timing. Don’t even let whatever it is bothering you keep you from living your life and enjoying the blessings around you. Your prayers will be answered very soon. Sending you love, light and positive healing energy. Love ❤️ you girl. 🌹🙏🏽🤗
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It's soo interesting that Jeannie has been such a reality check for Adrienne. She's always wanted to keep that aspect of her life private but now she has to confront it head on in front of all of us. The constant having to be happy and genuine or she'll be deemed bitter. Ahh, I'm with her 100%
I think I used to judge others for this, but she is human and we all are. It probably isn’t even envy, it’s just a trigger. Some days are probably better than others. I just want us all to be ok with being vulnerable. This life was not meant for us not to feel.
Adrienne handles and expresses herself very well.
Especially since Jeannie talked about not wanting kids, and all Adrienne has talked about is wanting kids.
It has to hurt and probably doesn’t instant why her. I’m praying for her. 🙏💕
And now she’s a mommy
I wish i had someone like loni who could feel my energy and cry for me too. Adrienne is so blessed
U may not have a Loni but Jesus is ALWAYS there!He's there 24/7❤❤❤😊
@@tboss3276 Amen
Me too I pray god sends someone like that to all of us 🥺💕🦋!
I hope and pray that whatever your going through, will pass soon. God loves you, it’s gonna be okay ❤️
My goodness me tooooo!! I’m scared of someone feeling my energy and asking me if I’m ok.😑
Loni is such an empath I love these women 💛💛
They used to have these moments all the time when Tamera was on the show. It’s good to see them come again
Yess! It really is 🥺😭
Bro it's also therapeutic for us. I agree with you, we need a lot of these moments 🙏
Clearly, the producers wanted Adrienne to open up about her fertility struggles. Very strange way to do that, though. 😐
My thoughts exactly 😕
And clearly she didn’t want to but loni decided to make it clear anyways. She could also see Ad didn’t want to talk about it after having asked her twice! I thought that was wrong of her to do so
@@Aisha-qs2ul Yeah it seemed so awakard on her end 😬
@@Aisha-qs2ul but I’m glad she did cause maybe she wouldn’t have if it wasn’t done this way
@@Aisha-qs2ul I think Adrienne handled it so well though because she didn’t confirm or deny anything and she didn’t go into any detail, especially for being put on the spot like that
Adrienne’s “it’s a lot” touched the deepest of my heart🥺♥️
Awww Loni!!! The way you comforted Adrienne was so beautiful 💕
(I think we all know why, don’t need to say it in the comments)
Facts! Agree!
*Like they say "If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans".. Ppl NEED to understand we are in borrowed time and we are NOT in control...You just gotta sit back and watch God work.. KEEP YOUR FAITH, PRAY AND SIT STILL🤷🏽♀️.. SHE'S GNA BE OK*
Loni’s friendship and intuition toward Adrienne is so empathetic and loving.
You can see how much these ladies genuinely love each other, and I love to see that❤
Jesus loves you soo very much!😊❤
Same
me too. They're my youtube family😭. I thank God they are all walking with God. ❤️❤️❤️
Not sorry, but Loni is FAKE and madd extra...As soon as she ,"cries"...🙄 it doesn't come off as genuine especially when she tries to one up on Jeanine EVERYTIME she tells a story...smdh
This was awkward, I felt like the other ladies were trying to get Adrienne to open up about something specific. She said it could b anything so people should stop pushing it. She will open up whenever she feels like doing so.
Agreed! It was just unfair towards A... I even thought the procuders must have come up with this topic on purpose! A bit insensitive, I felt. And Loni at the end... Nah, I felt that was inappropriate. Loni herself did not open up about anything specific about herself, then she starts bawling about A's very specific and private matter! Unfair!
Adrienne really tried not to cry.. 😕 awww
I pray that Adrienne is able to release whatever is causing her so much hurt and lays heavy on her heart.
Amen 🙏
Amen 🙏🏽
I think it's because she wants kids
Amen 🙏🏾
@@jamaiquina6597 I think so too
It's funny everyone assumes it's about infertility with Adrienne but I feel it may actually be something else to.. Whatever it is, her husband her family are so supportive and I pray she can find contentment and Joy in her life in an abundant way.
Loni has to be an empath cause the way she felt Adrienne's emotions. That be me with the people I love. I feel their stress, their anxiety, their hurt... Joys and positives too. But man, being an empath can be draining.
I was actually tearing up while watching. Please God give Adrienne inner peace and the kids 🙏
As someone who has just lost our beautiful baby after so many years of wanting/trying for a baby and recovering from surgery, I feel every emotion that Adrienne is feeling and more. This week has been the hardest for me after my surgery, because of the amount of baby scans I have to look at and congratulate people for. For every woman that is going through this, just know we are going through this together! We are warriors!
I'm sorry for your loss 😔 sending lots of love ❤️
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Sending you love
I feel that when she said sometimes I wish someone would take care of me. I have a wonderful husband, but my mum once said you are the rock that holds everything together. And I feel the need to be that for my family, I feel like I have the weight of the family problems or issues on my shoulders because I'm the one everyone goes to. I don't always feel strong even if I portray that I am.
That's me in my family. It's exhausting. Lately, i have become more detached and emotionally distant bc i can't do it anymore. But i don't know how to tell anyone.
Yes it's very difficult. Am starting feeling used by my family.
@M Muss what does being masculine have to do with anything we're talking about? 🧐🤔
@M Muss thank you for your words. I think you misunderstand. Being someone's rock is just a way of saying being someone's emotional strength. My mum definitely didn't push for a masculine daughter. After 2 sons she had me and did pink dresses, I hate pink, but bless her for trying 😂🥰
Adrienne hides her emotions of vulnerability because she plays the strong person but it’s just getting tooooo HEAVY for her to keep pretending. I do the same so people don’t see me a “certain” way; it’s my weakness…. LONI hit it on the nail! 💛💛💛💛💛
When Adrienne said she cried during the Friends reunion I really felt that.
I pray complete peace, joy, healing and all good things for Adrienne. May God deliver her through this season and any rough places in her life and bring her double blessings for her trouble. I pray that she will let go of stress and allow herself to enjoy her life's journey as God works. May God bless her with the desires of her heart and grant all her petitions (Psalm 20:4-5) in Jesus' name.
Amen
*Like they say "If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans".. Ppl NEED to understand we are in borrowed time and we are NOT in control...You just gotta sit back and watch God work.. KEEP YOUR FAITH, PRAY AND SIT STILL🤷🏽♀️.. SHE'S GNA BE OK*
“But that’s not a problem” I love that Jeannie! I love a positive friend like that! Pick me up!💗
Jeannie says such “on time” words💛
I love this.
I think Adrienne was talking about the infertility and I feel so bad for her that it’s so hurtful to the point where she barely even talks about it🙏🏽👶🏽
This was a really good conversation. Life is so much better when you can accept your emotions for what they are, let them pass through you and be OK at the end. I felt Adrienne 100%. I NEVER cried and now if I feel moved by something, I just start to feel the tears flow. I'm glad there are more open and honest conversations about emotional well-being. I only hope we could have a male equivalent to this, so we can show guys (but really anyone) that acknowledging vulnerability is a strength.
Amen, Mr. Will !!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Amen
I really love how you worded this
Adrienne is so brave and tough. She still show up to work for this show despite all the judgemental, spectators, cold hearted people always wondering about her fertility. She is human, a brave courageous woman she is.
This clip really got to me. Because I’m like Adrienne in the sense of I hate being vulnerable yet I’m a sensitive person and cry when I’m alone . I’ve went through a few things in my 20’s from finding my Biological Father when I was 23 years old , then losing the man I love from a Drug Overdose in 2018 and thinking I had time to tell him how I felt about him when little did I know his time was up here on Earth .. and not being able to let him know before hand that I had feelings for him and wanted to build a romantic relationship with him , and still everyday trying to cope with his death . To my Health , to a Speech Issue I have . My 20’s have been a rough ass Decade …. But ladies : Loni , Adrienne , Garcelle , and Jeannie , God Bless you all and I pray for you all
Amen and Amen to all that Loni said...God's got you Adrienne 🙏
*Like they say "If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans".. Ppl NEED to understand we are in borrowed time and we are NOT in control...You just gotta sit back and watch God work.. KEEP YOUR FAITH, PRAY AND SIT STILL🤷🏽♀️.. SHE'S GNA BE OK*
This segment REALLY touched me! I could definitely see a change in Adrienne. Sometimes it can come off as a lot, but many times we’re in pain our moods change, our bodies are changing , our wants change and we don’t know how to deal. I too am going through some unexplained emotions. I’m so used to taking care of friends and family and now at 31 I look around and realize I don’t even know what i like anymore, what i truly want anymore, I’m all over the place and i can’t put my finger on what it is. I want kids and a family and then I don’t. I’m lonely which sometimes feel good but sometimes it doesn’t. I appreciate Loni telling Adrienne it’s ok, and comforting her. Sometimes you think you’re putting on a good front because you’re so used to being strong and you don’t realize how much better it feels to be able to release it. So i loved this segment and i wish we were able to watch the full show
I love Adrienne and you can def tell this season her energy hasn’t been right , I’m glad loni let her know in a loving way it’s ok to not be ok.
And it’s perfectly ok to feel out of sorts love. That just means you have a beating heart and human just like the rest of us. Wishing you nothing but the best to come 💕
@@binibini7975 thank you so much for your encouraging words and understanding it means more than you know!
@@binibini7975 exactly
So we all just sat here and cried together like girlfriends😩🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I just wish Jeannie would not cut Adrienne when she was about to share some of her vulnerabilities. Adrienne I can only imagine what you are going through. You are human and I know you are suffering. Lets hope one day you have the strength to share more about your infertility issues that would help a lot of people including you. Dont get discouraged.
I think Jeanne needs to remember that Adrienne really is going through it sometimes. I love them all, but she needs to mindful of this. Idk, since Tamera left, the panel feels a lot more cold and business like. So I appreciated Loni’s comfort here. Cause I know Tamera would be hugging A.
@@BriaBarrows Yes Bria I truly believe she's going through it, its a lot, dealing with your personal feelings and even if she's happy for Jeannie its hard knowing that she got pregnant so easily at 42 while Adrienne is trying so hard without success. I remember once Adrienne said that she had the dream of having a house full of children and living a happy life with her husband... So its hard.
@@mmconceicao of course, she is human and that’s ok. We never know someone’s full story.
I feel for Adrienne but I have to admit I feel more for Garcelle... Adrienne has a huge family that supports her, and a very loving husband, she has support. Support is so important when going through hard times, Garcelle literally said she wanted more support. Maybe Adrienne doesn't have the baby she wants, but like Loni said, she will be okay...Garcelle on the other hand strikes me as the woman who holds it together for her kids \ friends etc. But I think she is the saddest of them all.
That's a very good point!
They both have struggles. You don’t need to compare it to one another’s.. they’re both hard thing for them emotionally, ones not worse then the other!!
Such a good point and they brushed it over so casually. Maybe because she doesn't show her emotions but what she said was really poignant. She lost her support through no fault of her own when her marriage ended and it must be hard. Pray she finds love.
Wow, never would have looked at it from that point of view. Loni made me cry...
I get you totally. I know Addrienne is going to be okay by God's grace. You know sometimes jobs like these are a blessing and a curse , cause I rather not see Garcelle vulnerable.. triggering for me
Jeannie nailed it. Loni is a vault. Loni never revealed her true vulnerability - just distracted with a nonsense answer and tears afterwards to “prove her point” to further shift the focus away from herself.
That’s true all I know about her is she is a engineer resided by a single mom in Detroit who dates a white guy
@@Ipaintprettyfaces I don’t understand your message unfortunately…
Hectic... But I think you're right! I really thought what she did to A in the end was unfair. I know everyone is praising her but I just felt like what she did wasn't actually unkind towards A. She just put her on the spot and shifted so much focus towards the one person in the room that struggles with vulnerability! Worse still, about such a private and difficult situation in A's life. Nah fam, cry about your own issues, not A's private issues that she did not bring up herself.
@@thabsmkhize2481 yep - crocodile tears. Loni used Adrienne’s issue to appear as if she was being vulnerable (when, in fact, she was not) - just bringing up something that A was uncomfortable about to avoid bringing up her true vulnerability.
I, too have been getting very emotional as I get older. I hardly cried in my teens and 20's. However, life has really dealt me some mental and emotional blows and I've had no choice but to learn to let myself feel. I used to cherish my ice queen persona because it made me seem strong. And to this day I don't want people to know that I'm extremely sensitive and things impact me on a very deep level for a long time. So, Ade, I get you! We're gonna be alright! (in my Kendrick Lamar voice)
Adrienne, Lonnie just spoke for MILLIONS of us. Part of being vulnerable is overcoming fear. But when we are natural lovers of people, and we know that speaking out about our greatest fear might hurt someone - even slightly - then we hold it in instead. And that begins to kill us emotionally. *No one wants to say what you NEED to say. But we must in order to heal. God can handle our honesty; HE Is GOD.*
[This is me speaking from the OUTSIDE so take this with a big ass grain of salt.]
Jeannie is beautiful and amazing. She had a hard life in which she could never be safe. *Because of that lack of safety and being with a man Jeannie could never truly trust, she never wanted to have children.* Meanwhile, Adrienne always wanted to be a mommy. It's in her DNA and she is already prepared to be the greatest mom (and I believe God WILL bless her and Israel!!). Those two women are friends and coworkers.
I know this situation is super hard for both of these phenomenal ladies. Adrienne can't help but to be hurt that God blessed "only" Jeannie. And Jeannie may feel hurt that she can't fully enjoy her pregnancy because her friend Adrienne has been trying so long and hasn't gotten pregnant YET. I know it feels unfair that the one who said (out of fear!!!) that she never wanted kids is pregnant, while the one who always wanted them is having trouble conceiving (for Now!!!). But just *remember God has NOT forgotten you. Neither of you is forgotten!!!* And you literally have millions of people praying for you both DAILY!!!!
We love you ladies on The Real. All of you. And *right now, in the precious, almighty name of Jesus Christ, I speak healing, comfort and love over each one of you. And I pray for BOTH Adrienne and Jeannie to be fruitful in every aspect of life. Walk in that blessing, Ladies.*
Wow! I usually skip over long posts!....but I just started reading & couldn't stop. You spoke directly to me, everything I'm going through now....I couldn't stop crying while reading...I had to reply to let you know this ha truly blessed & comforted me tonight. God bless you for your wisdom in talking to me. I'm grateful for you 💛
I love this comment
Not sorry, but Loni is FAKE and madd extra...As soon as she ,"cries"...🙄 it doesn't come off as genuine especially when she tries to one up on Jeanine EVERYTIME she tells a story...smdh
I felt every word u said. So true
@@playboyprincess7832 We are all entitled to our opinions so even though you attacked Loni without reason, I won't do the same. We don't know their hearts, only God does, which is why I said to take this with a grain of salt.
I got emotional, argh. I understand Adrienne, I’m kind like that too. And Loni is such a great friend🥺❤️. God bless these ladies!
This one segment showed me the most how true of a friend Loni is to Adrienne. What a sweet moment 💕
Honestly
True sisterhood is a blessing
I think I can understand where Adrienne is coming from. Because for me personally, I’ve always looked at vulnerability as like a “weakness” almost and just not really in tune with my emotions or I didn’t really know how to express my emotions that well. And now that I’m getting older I’m 25 but, when I was younger I was so closed off and just felt like if I did show emotions or vulnerability that it’s weakness and I’m showing that side of myself that I don’t want to show. Because behind closed doors is a different situation, but I also feel like LIFE itself happens and sometimes it either changes us for the better or the worst. I recently became more in tune with my emotions last year, during the lockdown. Im pretty sure for everyone last year was the most stressful and uncertainty year we’ve face, but yes I was dealing with that and then losing my dad the year before I suppressed those emotions as well! So long story short, I have become more vulnerable in a way and I’m trying to express more. I still have my moments of feeling weak when I’m crying or sharing those etc but I just think it’s simply me letting it out and if I cry, then I just cry 🤷🏽♀️ lol. Plus! Being in therapy for an year now has happened with the break through as well. But yes this is lovely to see. 🤍
I cried just watching that clip - what a real moment. That's friendship right there.
Awwww Loni!!! She has such a big beautiful heart ♥️♥️ I can relate to her, she’s def an empath!
“It’s a lot.” Adrienne’s smile with her tears resonated with me so much. Because I’ve been there. Those new emotions are scary, but let them come up. Don’t run
Anyone else felt uncomfortable about this. Why was Adrienne the one reading this? Everyone knows she has a lot going on. Not to assume Anything. But I almsot feel like as a show this topic could've been avoided. She didn't seem willing or ready to share. I love that loni empathized with her... still felt like she was kind of put on the spot. She knows people want to hear her story and feel a part of her story and also know that someone they admire also struggles with the same things. But she is not ready to be that hero to her viewers and that is okay!!
Omg my comment was almost identical to yours because I really felt like it was not Loni's place to do that. Like, this woman already struggles with vulnerability and you put her on the spot like that about her most intimate, private source of pain... Like, guys... Come on!
I felt very uncomfortable!
@@thabsmkhize2481 I was kind of in between with loni's comment. I felt like she felt overwhelmed with empathy a d she really tried to hold it in. If you watch her leading up, she's biting her lip, looking back and forth, taking breaths. And it seemed like loni wanted to help her and was saying you don't have to share its okay. But to be honest Adrienne answer, to me, at first made me feel like it was multiple things. My brain "went there" for a second but then I though Home, Covid, new show set and format, like just soo much change. Either way her response should've been enough.
But in general, where was Jamal the intern to day, hey guys...too soon. Too soon.
@@aylanow that's a very considered opinion and I 100% agree with you! Yes, I noticed her trying to hold her emotions... She should have tried harder! 😂 I mean seriously though, I empathise with her but she's grown enough ... She could have held it together if she chose to.
I feel for Adrienne. I just want her to take some trips to relax. Eat right. Get your vitamins. Pray more for what you really want in life and it will come to you. Good luck.
Please don’t think that trips and veggies land you success on a fertility journey. Was so tired of hearing that after years and years on my own path.
You mean well, but please don't offer advice. You have no idea. Sometimes just sending well wishes, positive energy, or prayer is the best move.
Again, common knowledge. I’m pretty sure the original posters “take trips and eat veggies” is not something she hasn’t already heard. She is a child of God and knows in her heart it’s in His timing but she is still allowed to feel vulnerable. I was 8 years on this journey, multiple vids, multiple miscarriages, etc. So damn tired of hearing people tell people to get rest or stop trying so hard. %#*^. Just appreciate this beautiful soul sharing her vulnerable side. If you have ever been on this infertility journey then you would know how womens comments are either heartbreaking or infuriating
@@Sali-yw1rd Adrienne and Isreal are successful entrepreneurs, entertainers, professionals. They're worth millions. I'm sure they have a team of medical professionals and spiritual advisors helping them through their fertility journey. Strangers need to be quiet.
@@Sali-yw1rd and you telling her what to do is going to?
This is so beautiful. Adrienne said everything without saying too much. We felt it. 🥺
I felt Ade when she said I could cry right now!! Your secret vulnerabilities always try come at you in the most random ways. I wish her well.
Can I just say I've grown to love the new format (them being in the studio without the audience) soooo much. I feel like they've gotten closer and are afforded the opportunity to be even more vulnerable and intimate with these conversations.
Over the last few years I’ve learned that when women say they’re dealing with fertility issues it’s not always conceiving, which is what the word “fertility” literally means.
Sometimes it’s not problems conceiving, it’s problems keeping and carrying the pregnancy once you conceive. But we as women just use the term fertility as an umbrella term. Not many women want to reveal the problem is not conception but carrying the baby.
So, to Loni’s point, let’s not give women “fertility” advice on how to get pregnant. Because you could literally be talking to a woman who can get pregnant but just can’t sustain it or a woman who has been pregnant more times than you. And they don’t need advice. 🤍
Sometimes I wonder if all these comments about this issue is harder for her. I know they are all or mostly positive, but I wonder if it's harder for her to see them.
🙏🏾 thank you for this
@@brigettepowell9730 I can imagine it is. People need to stop with the “I pray you get pregnant soon.” It’s not helping.
@@BriaBarrows they are not praying. They are saying the word praying.
Children are reward from the Almighty God, our Creator.
This was our issue. Secondary infertility. We still grieve our two early miscarriages, our son who was stillborn, and celebrate our miracle 2 yr old. All we can do is listen to those who want to share their experience, and share ours in solidarity, when they ask us to share. Each journey is so different. And we can support each other the best in listening.
Loni is such a sincere person and friend. We’d be blessed to have someone like that. People that love you care about how you feel.
This is why i love “The Real” cause they keep it hella real!! 💜
She has the biggest heart. She deserves to have a family just to love them. They can consider adoption.
*Like they say "If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans".. Ppl NEED to understand we are on borrowed time and we are NOT in control...You just gotta sit back and watch God work.. KEEP YOUR FAITH, PRAY AND SIT STILL🤷🏽♀️.. SHE'S GNA BE OK*
God definitely has a plan for her.
She wants her own kids.
Adrienne is just one of those really special people where some of their rewards will be in heaven only! A beautiful spirit! I wish her everything and more!
I love how Jeannie directs the questions to people so it’s not filled with silence.
Yes Adrienne, I like it better when I wasn't so soft! The older I get the more mushy I get!
I wish for more than anything for Ade to get pregnant soon. She’s so patient and loving. She’s waiting for her time and i just want her to be happy and her finally becoming pregnant will make her feel so happy.
Yes 🙌🏼 ❤️
Dear Adrienne, I do not normally comment on videos or try to contact ppl.on social media this way...but my heart was so moved by this. Just know that you are being prayed for and lifted up by ppl who truly love God. All will be well. Our vulnerability is our strength because in our vulnerability the most High can have His rightful place in our lives. It's so hard to let go of control but we must. I am fighting to let go and be vulnerable in my own life and I am praying for you as well. We need Him and although it's a hard and sometimes painful lesson to learn... it is a blessing to be in a position to truly learn it. Keep the faith. ❤🤗💓
Got me at work crying at my desk cuz the love is real. Struggles in life no matter what they are make every part of your life feel vulnerable and overwhelming sometimes. I feel like Adrienne was really fighting it off because she wasn't ready to be that open and real about whatever it is. Which is ok. It's a season and she'll be alright.
I felt what Garcelle said it can get very lonely when you are doing it all and no one is there too comfort you 🤍❤️
Me too
Me too
My heart is going out for Adrienne, because she is good, talented, beautiful person. I do believe that everything will work out for the better. I will be keep her up in prayer. She know she got people and fans (like me) who love/ support her in positive ways. I’m that way I didn’t notice it till I got older because I hate getting emotional like it’s could be anything. Love you Adrienne and keep your head up.
Adrienne your confidence is inspiring, please don't doubt yourself. God bless
Loni is a sweetheart and a dime a dozen. Ade is so lucky to have a friend like her. May god bless aderienne with her heart's purest and truest desire very soon! 💜
Adrienne trying her best to avoid eye contact so she don't feel her energy and cry😔
Being vulnerable is ok. I too feel it more with age. I believe it's becoming more aware of life. Hugs to Adrienne!
Real tears! Such a beautiful, raw, tender moment. These women are beautiful!
Wow I felt so sad watching this. I feel like maybe Adrienne feels sad because she wants babies and people still judge her so much, she probably just feels so overwhelmed and pressured. Ppl keep saying she’s jealous of Jeannie and wants to be her and it’s so wrong. I also could relate to Garcelle, I would love to have someone again and be loved on by someone else. I’ve had to learn to love me too.
I agree. It could be other things too. We never know.
I love Loni and her compassion! A very sweet friend.
How is someone as Gorgeous and Intelligent as Garcelle...SINGLE?? I think she's to NICE!
This was a very "REAL" segment. Vulnerability is so hard as we expose our inner truths and/or pain that we keep hidden within us. I understand Loni's point as to why she doesn't share TOO much from her "vault" as Jeannie called it especially being public figures on national television. People already comment on everything they say and do. It could be more hurtful if they use something you've said against you. What Garcelle mentioned was very transparent and vulnerable. I hope she finds somebody just as loving and protective as she is to be her companion/partner. As for Adrienne, we assume we know her struggles because she openly shares her life on here and her channel. But we truly don't know. I'm glad she has the support from her co-hosts, husband, friends, family and fans to remind her that God is always looking out for her and all of us if you truly believe. Also felt it was very important to share Brene Brown's quote on vulnerability “Our stories are not meant for everyone. Hearing them is a privilege, and we should always ask ourselves this before we share: "Who has earned the right to hear my story?" If we have one or two people in our lives who can sit with us and hold space for our shame stories, and love us for our strengths and struggles, we are incredibly lucky. If we have a friend, or small group of friends, or family who embraces our imperfections, vulnerabilities, and power, and fills us with a sense of belonging, we are incredibly lucky.”
Adrienne, sometimes when we're well-loved and arrive at a place of safety in our life, it removes the barb wire around our hearts and helps us to be more vulnerable and in touch with our feelings. It can feel strange because you've been in fight mode for so long and that's been your normal. But vulnerability comes naturally when there is safety. I'm so happy you've gotten to this place in your life.
When Adrienne said everything, my gut said No Adrienne, your fertility journey is weighting on you and it's ok to say it...I'm your age and going through that myself, it's ok to just cry and be vulnerable. Only God knows his plans. I pray for you like you're my cousin💖
Y'all, fertility is a difficult issue, everyone's journey is different. Be kind.
I use to be like Adrienne I never really was open with my emotions. I would put it into my writing or cooking. Now I cry watching Soldiers coming home videos 😂. I’m more of an empath and i take own everyone’s emotions and worries.
It’s hard being man with your emotions
Letting your emotions flow is a relief. It’s so important to tune into emotions, yours and others!
Adrienne has this energy of being hopeful but also being defeated. It's like she doesn't want to verbalize her disappointment in case she sounds ungrateful for all she has. Girl, it's okay. It's really okay.
It took my sister and her husband 3 years to get pregnant and I could tell it took a bad toll on her mood. She had my nephew this year and I have never seen her happier. She is so calm and sweet again. It really does take a toll on you as a woman esp.
I can imagine it being exhausting:( you just want your blessing
Compassion and empathy are natural human characteristics but for some people it’s a gift. Loni has that gift.
Loni trying to deflect from her issues by crying and sobbing over Adrienne’s is not going to help her one bit.
Jeannie said it right, “Loni, you’re a vault”. I appreciate the closeness with Loni & Adrienne, but honestly the display by Loni was not necessarily in tune with what Adrienne was trying to express. I think Loni was overwhelmed by her own vulnerabilities and the lack of being able to truly express them and that’s what drove her to tears.
'Sometimes, l just wish somebody would take care of me.'
I feel you Garcelle,so touching even by the way you put it.
I just love your openness and honesty 🙏🙏
God 'll make a way for you and for each one of us,babie.
Andrienne is damn funny !
Even when in pain,
'I have emotional problems!'
The emphasis and shouting...😁😁
Loni's intervention for Andrienne ?
Priceless...spiritually,on point.🙏🙏
It’s true! Sometimes you just need a good cry & then you right back at it again girl! It’s natural and needed.
I just sat here and cried with these two because I also feel Adrienne's pain.
I just love how comforting they are to each other I love how loni was telling her it’s ok to cry you don’t have to be strong all the time and everything is going to be ok that was beautiful loni 💙
I’m just like Loni. It’s such an overwhelming characteristic to be so compassionate and empathetic that you can NOT let someone cry alone.
Adrianne you are crying because for once in your life you have SO much to lose. I feel you girl. Legit made my eyes water. Without you even explaining it I totally get it cause I feel exactly like you do.
I relate more to what Garcelle shared. I don't have any kids yet, but I am there for my mom my siblings, my friends, my colleagues but when I go through stuff I am on my own. Family just wanna give me space, friends say I am strong I will handle it. I wish there was that one person who showed up for me sometimes.