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- A woman's words, versus her actions are often very different, ultimately she just want's to know that you just 'get it'
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"It’s not your typical goofy mens conference, plagued by drama and drum circles or presented by men that aren’t good men, or good at being men.
You will be in a room of winners and men that are doing the work, to win at life.". How?. It seems it's likely to just be a room full of people who have $2k to buy a ticket. I don't see any vetting process
2k is the vetting process. Next
Toronto is brick cold 🥶 in January
Crying in front of a woman is like bleeding next to a shark.
Women say they want honesty, but they *never* want full disclosure, because certainty is far less exciting than mystery.
You will keep suffering pointlessly until you learn your lesson.
It is a test for masculinity. Are you faking being a man or are you the real thing? Your response will answer the question.
That's great ,LOL! 😁
@@ozzyrichardson4075but Imagine going through life earning those scars(physically & mentally) becoming a better person, being productive & working hard just to get “tested” by a girl on if you’re “man enough” No established season man is going to deal with that
Oh they want full disclosure for when they're mad at you. That's the point though, it comes down to what advantage is being provided. When you're being weak in front of your girlfriend or society you're disadvantaging her position in life. Once she thinks you're no longer advantageous then she's all about getting an advantage over you.
I rather say less then to confess my problems or my life on my time. It's more a mystery.
This is 1000% true what he is saying! As a 61 yr old I can tell you young guys, if you show emotions, if you complain, if you nag, if you Express weakness, you are FINISHED with women. She will lose attraction and respect even if she is your wife of 30 years. Be a Lion in jungle, unreactive, unfazed to her words.
Not sure how my mate has made his LTR work. He made her his mommy and they’ve been together 27 years...
Did exactly that when in my 20s, took her less than 2 years to divorce me. Turns out I dodged a bullet. I'm a little older than you, and I'm still dating in the 20s pool.
a real true woman that truly loves you will not see crying and complaining of you as a weakness, but as a strength that you can rely to her for answers, that shows true love, but in this world we live, 80% of woman see it as a weakness, I know I was married to one that was a narcassist and told my friends that I was weak for crying and depress after my mom passed away, talk about married to a robot
@@williamclayton9566I don't think getting a divorce is dodging a bullet. Not marrying her in the first place would be dodging a bullet. You got shot, you didn't die, though.
@@williamclayton9566 Holy shit. That's a grandpa/granddaughter age span. You really enjoy spending time with girls in their 20's still?
In the world of feminized men, apply the same rule to everyone (including yourself): You are what you do, not what you say or feel.
Exactly. Talk has never been cheaper. :)
"Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves. You can identify them by their fruit, that is, by the way they act... a good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit... just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions." - Mathew 7:15-17,20, NLT.
And by the same token people will also recognize you by what you do.
This advice is spot on. I think most men don't know how to gauge a woman's interest level in them. If all is well and the girl chooses to take two days to respond to you, and does it more than once, delete her number and move on. Rich is spot on, don't ever go to a woman with your problems.
I don't think that's the only reason. Most men don't have options. Most of your matches are with a combination of fat/fugly/ single mother. When you match with a decent looking chic, you become desperate. Deep down you know she's not interested , but you start justifying to yourself, especially when you're in a dry spell. Best solution is to have multiple girls casually , then look for a decent one. That way you can have an abundance mindset, rather than act desperate. Obviously you have to work on yourself as well.
Lol
It ultimately comes down to self respect.
Since I learnt how to gauge a womens interest level in me, my life hasn't gotten so much easier when dealing with them.
Facts.
Got burned on a real estate deal, vented to my then-gf. You betcha when the relationship ended she used that against me. Never, never again.
either she failed the test, or knew she no good and ran anyways 😐
Agreed ✍🏻women are like HR department they will never have your back ⚠️
You had the wrong women
Trust a woman on her actions not words 🤔
This
Good advice for everyone.
This is the harsh reality. I tried being vulnerable with my (now ex) girlfriend of 9 months during a disagreement. So much so that I started tearing up in front of her during the conversation. Later that night she said she “kinda loved seeing me be vulnerable”. Ha! She loved it so much that she broke up with me 2 weeks later.
Never again.
She wasn’t the one ☝🏻 Thank god you dodged that bullet ⚠️
Women are predictable. Men are learning what they do to get what they want. They act sweet, want marriage ( only if you have resources) and file for divorce to get the resources and children. It's always the same story.
She loved it cause her manipulations of getting under your skin worked .Ego boost for them or ammunition for later use against u 😂😂😂
My guess is you got a shit test before you showed emotion. Typical woman behavior. They try to break you by being disloyal and see how you react. If you fail the shit test then she leaves shortly thereafter.
...she said she “kinda loved seeing me be vulnerable”
Kinda? ...translation either she was narcisstic and enjoyed watching it, because "kinda" leaves room open for interpretation, could be sweet, could not and usually it´s the not.
Translation, since I also expierenced it once "I kinda loved seeing you be vulnerable with me...means a lot to me..." it sure does mean a lot to her, but not to you, if those were her words she didn´t, she wanted out and needed that...
If you’re important to her, she will make you a priority. No excuses. Don’t be around for her convenience.
Exactly my thought, like i always say if she is interested, the bi tch would call you at 4 am in morning just to hear your voice .
True that. The best GF I ever had chose to ride a greyhound bus for two days to be with me. When she suddenly showed up at my door, I had to leave for work. At the end of the day when I returned, my apartment was all cleaned up.
@@Ace.0.0.0. did you marry her or find her on Facebook years later?? Those GF are Rare gems 💎
@@lovewhitey4462 No, and no. And yes. We were together in the 80s (my age is showing). Unfortunately, there were too many yrs between us. She was ready to settle down & breed. I, at the time, was not ready for that life. So I made the tough choice to end it with her. But she set the bar higher than any subsequent women could clear. All subsequent women, except for one, did not rate. This one, I chose to marry, after 5 yrs of vetting. We met in the early 90s, and married 5yrs later. We are still together.
The point where “she can’t afford to not reply due to competition” is a gem. This why it’s so important to get your shit together. Get fit, get a career, and your own place.
Get your shit together for yourself man.. Not so that you can impress broads!
Exactly your health is your wealth ✍🏻🎯Be your best and then your confidence and clarity will weed out the TAKERS 🚨💔
So true; women are most attracted to the guy who least needs them.
@@lovewhitey4462takers being the type of women that just constantly take and not give anything back?
Even with dating apps and how women make their profiles says a lot too. If they say no Hook-Ups, it's a great way to filter out the weak man and then they still hook up. If they say no drama it means they are chaotic and attract drama or are dramatic themselves. If they say they don't want a guy who lies or cheats they are saying they have dealt with them in the past it's the only thing they know and it's the only thing they will be comfortable dealing with. When they say they know their value they are just telling you that they drink the feminist Kool-Aid because most women don't understand what value is since they don't have any values themselves.
Accurate tbh 🤷♂️
Yep. No hook ups? OK, so she can turn off her attraction to a guy she lust for? Riight. I think what it means is her intentions are not to and she wants to hold herself like that. I get it. Not to mention she knows the guy will come after her differently if she doesn't say that. But it's not like she can't be hot for you from the get go.
In 2023 you are not going to find a good relationship prospect on the dating apps gentleman. The apps should be used purely as casual and recreational use ONLY.
Times have changed.
Women speak in projection. Whatever they say they don’t like is what they do like
It's not all women...its narcissistic women. No such thing as hypergamy....every symptom and behaviour is clinical symptom of narcissism. If you rate women by image as 8, 9 or 10 then you're likely narcissistic yourself...and an absolute magnet for other covert narcissists or BPD partners....so stop bleating there's no good girls around...because you aint the one to judge. You made them the way they are...keep your dck in your pants and take responsibility by refusing to spin plates...rather than excuse your own fun time & later complain and bleat that women have a high notch count. True alphas are leaders of themselves and community ... not just out for themselves. The reason I replied to this post is because you correctly identify these individuals using dating apps and applying "rules" are basically projecting their own behaviour onto others. Projection = main psychological defence mechanism of.... narcissism. Defence mechanisms are egoic. All this biological drive / hypergamy is bs. If you're a man do the fcking work ... which requires actually learning real knowledge and taking real responsibility instead of blindly accepting the ideas of gurus that tell you what you want to hear, sympathise with your plight, and give you a simple solution that only appears to solve your problems...but which never will...until you slay your own narcissistic injuries. This comment is not aimed at anyone in particular and no man should feel insulted ... although your ego may feel that way. Its your ego that tells you your not good enough (yet) and need better game, more money, status and other narcissistic sht to get you what you desire.
I was born and raised in USSR and in one of russian war movies a character said "Men don't cry, men get upset". So true.
Ты говоришь правду, мой друг!
Название этого фильма?
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No wonder most ussr men are alcoholics/drunks. Your culture is in deep shit. I think handling men health is what would bring ussr to western level, but this macho mindset is to extreme ( toxic).
@@edmundlubega9647я тоже не знаю.
I made a completely vulnerable admission to my ex to bond with her better. She broke up with me two days later
And that's why they want you to share this information;
you're effectively doing the work for her by providing reasons that you're not her best option.
Always remember, it's always about her.
She does not want to help you be attractive to her - she wants to find out what's wrong with you.
View women's advice as you would that from an FBI interrogator.
The only time you share your emotions with a woman to whom you are romantically involved is when you want the relationship to end. Whatever a woman says, she means the opposite.
Don’t be afraid to walk away to show your value. It works for me, anytime I do it, women cry and beg me to take them back.
I left my ex gf at a bar after she made a joke about me to the bartender. Broke up with her when she called telling me to come back to pick her up. Told her to have the bartender take her home. This was 4 years ago. This woman still comes over once a week to fuk. Will come over about any day I tell her too. I go days without texting her back. All the other men that s1mp on her Facebook page get ignored.
Same did for me. One yelled at me saying to never call her again and I didn't. Met her in a about a year with my gf, who later became my wife, the look on her face was priceless.
Well I walked away twice in the past 2 years and nothing no contact with both of them
@BrianWaller-qe7gr it happens. Doesn't always work like it did for the other guys. Just forget them and keep going.
@@BrianWaller-qe7grYou still won. Imagine how much time and effort you would have wasted chasing them when they cared nothing for you?
"Actions express priorities"
I need to read this sentence out loud daily. It is powerful in many ways.
There’s no reason to deal with them in your life on any level
@@SSNESS
The switch up was scary crazy, when I improved myself, I used to think physical appearance doesn't matter but I was naive back then but not now.
Always keep it light and funny. If your world is falling apart. She never needs to know it. Remember: if she’s into you, she will make it easy. Her actions will tell you everything ❤
Who cares what any of them do or think about anything
@@SSNESS it’s a forum. Just giving my thoughts ❤️
I can still remember my initial shock & confusion when I texted or messaged girls who wouldn’t respond back to me or they would wait days to answer a simple question. One girl waited like three days before texting me back with “Hey”. The disrespect and lack of interest was so exhausting. I even told my parents “aren’t men and women supposed to get together? What is going on here?” 😂
You are right: it doesn't make sense that women are supposed to be naturally interested in men, and yet relentless indifference from them seems to be the default. It can be draining and demoralising.
One female told me that she was too busy to talk to me. That happened a couple of times, so I left it. Nine months later, I got a: "Hi my friend". That was from a Filipina.
I think that they have lots of 'options', and they talk to their favourites. It's like being '30th in line to the throne'; you just never get there.
Develop yourself in your own situation. Choose one thing to be really good at. My father always used to say: "If you find yourself doing all the running, stop!". Be great (as you probably already are) and let them come to you.
Most females in 2023 are beyond delusional that they can have quality men and they are a 6 if they are lucky 🍀⚠️💥
@@lindenh2014100% true. I had wierd occasions where women would call me to talk and I'd be like " Hi, I've only got a minute to talk I have to take care of some things". I had a few be like "Yeah ok. You're busy?" For some reason they thought I was some loser who can just sit around and talk on the phone. So my test was " Hey, let's talk about it over drinks. When are you free to get together?" Otherwise they will waste your time.
We no based on decades of non-woke unperverted by political agendas human studies proved
80% of women find 80% of men ugly and repulsive
While it is true women want to get with men it is absolutely true that 80% of women only wish to get with the top 20% of men in terms of looks status physicality hight and wealth
Truer words about women were never spoken than:
If given a choice the vast majority of women would much rather be one of the Kings many mistreses than the wife of a good average man
"I didn't text/call you back because I've been busy." Womanese for, "I wasn't busy; I'm just not interested in you." To which you respond, "NEXT!"
I was starting to cry thinking about my younger brother who passed away on his birthday, my 'wife' then now soon to be ex wife said to me you're not gonna get emotional now are you , stabbed in the heart at that moment
Let me first give my condolences 🙏🏿 to you on the loss of your brother. I lost my oldest brother in 2021, and the pain was immense. You made the right choice to get rid of that woman. Keep up the fire and the grind.
@@_---__ thankyou soo much i appreciate that, and im sorry for your loss aswel , thankyou soo much , yea you're right we just gotta keep on!
Im sorry to hear that, that's terrible. As for what your wife did...yeah no.
A lot of women will tear you apart if you show your emotions when you're sad or having a tough time. Around those girls, just be a monster like them. Some girls will let you cry on them when you're truly down...most will tear you apart they hate weakness. You're more likely to get emotional support from your male friends if something bad happens in your life.
Wow , that was brutal. You had to leave that cold heart.@@michaelregan427
I hate that! So sorry for your loss. I lost my nephew in 2022 and I am not a woman that cries much but ever since he passed away I cry all the time about it usually by myself, I have an aunt that gets uncomfortable when people cry and she tells my mom not to cry! It’s just heartless. My partner has cried over the loss of his stepdad and my nephew and I do my best to comfort him. The more I hear the more I realize I am different from other woman! Men are human and they have bad days too!
I'm an older guy and everything he said is TRUE. I wish I learned this when I first started dating. I'm sick, multiple tumors, fatigue, heart issues, sleep issues, stress from work, etc. I was at the point I was praying to die, every single day. I didn't tell anyone except my wife, because I needed help....I got ....NOTHING. The only woman who will help you is your mother, not your wife. In the end, we men are on our own to fix our problems. As for my wife, I told her I'm moving out and she can keep the house if she doesn't get a job....now she's working. However, in the back of my mind, I know she only stayed because she didn't want to be alone, my income, etc. It's still possible we could get a divorce, if so, I'm already mentally prepared myself. She showed her hand and I'll never forget it. I got myself a motorcycle and I'm enjoying life. Always put yourself first and never share your emotions or problems with your wife.....
Watch Chris Rock comedian current show he makes it clear ( he’s divorced) how men are only good for financial support Sadly 98% true Especially in 2023 💔⚠️🎯
Not even mother in some cases...
@@justathinker8669Your right, unless your Blessed to have a good mother
Glad your still here if god is real hes a sadistic psychopath
For women, men are disposable tools, nothing more..or men want To be loved they have To get a dog
What a woman THINKS she wants
SAYS she wants
FEELs she wants
and REALLY wants are four entirely different things
It really is that schitzo. And we think giving women power and authority is a good thing?
women wait at the finish line; they want to hear how you succeeded, but not experience it with you. they only want to hear about problems you solved, not the ones you're still struggling with.
most guys think that crossing the finish line with a woman (relationship) means he can hang up his running shoes. Wrong. every time you open your mouth she's waiting at the finish line to hear how you won. She's not interested in your stories unless then end really well.
Are you trying to say at the end there, "..unless they ended really well"?
@@stopdrunkdriving1061 makes sense. I don't think Giselle ever wanted to hear how Tom Brady's drills went, how sweaty he got or how muddy the field was.
and the lower her virtue, the more exclusively focused she becomes on the end-result; touch downs aren't even interesting, just... what's the contract paying you.
Hugh Jackman's wife didn't even watch his most recent stage performances.
@@stopdrunkdriving1061 for sure.
I have personal experience when fixing my car and getting a lot of praise and admiration for it. I then start to explain the struggle I had, which is listened to, but if the story goes on more than a few sentences, or I reveal my frustration or the despair I had along the way, it kills the effect. I was told explicitly that it becomes less impressive and even a downer.
they want you to act like a winner: don't inflate yourself by bragging, or reduce yourself by downplaying your success. Own it and it make it look effortless.
@@stopdrunkdriving1061 thanks. I've been doing so many of my own vehicle repairs just because I'm cheap.
I think it only has to suck if we refuse to adapt to it. female nature can be understood and then adapted to our benefit. In my auto example, I just need to learn to accept praise graciously (a personal flaw) and own my successes without second guessing people's reactions to them.
Why date any women who by nature is weak, and she can't handle our weaknesses?
Modern women are pathetic.
i dated this girl that actually told me she was capable of unconditional love, and she was submissive because she was a catholic girl, that she didn't care about my money and she would pay her half (she never did).
She is probably the opposite on all characteristics.
They’re literally a paradox. Their own existence contradicts all of the crap they say.
You can't reverse natures intent. When will all Men understand that a women is the total opposite of a man. That's femininity, understand it and move on.
😂😂😂
I was devastated from my dad’s death and that cost me my marriage. But now I look at it like my father’s last gift to me. Now I’m free and happy.
110% true .. she said she liked men who vent and she wanted to help me and " show me how she can support me" turns out it drives women into the arms of other men.
Actions Only. This has been my mantra for a while now and it works in all situations. If you erase every word ever said, you can look back in time and see who really appreciated you. Now apply that knowledge moving forward.
I'm a female and I agree with you. I don't go by people's words anymore.
Actions speak louder than words ☝🏻
I remember many years ago when I was 20 my first real girlfriend was breaking up with me. In the haste of trying to keep her I let out a few tears. Not bawling my eyes out, but I wasn't trying to hold back either. Treating me like the little bitch I was, she pretended to pat my eyes dry with an invisible tissue. Turned out to be one of the greatest teaching moments I have ever received.
2 lessons in one.
U dodged a bullet with at that girl. U could have found out yrs later what she was really like.
😂😂😂
I recently got the courage to spill my heart to my close friend that I have been secretly in love with for 18 years. She obviously rejected me, but she said that she will always be here for me if I need her. A few days later I opened up to her about my suicide attempt in 2020 that I have never told anyone about. She didn't even respond to the text.
Yep, typical woman right there. I hope.that helped you stop loving her
Don't stop looking for help. Ppl are good out there and ppl who have seen enough of life, want to help and see you thrive and succeed.
There are some women who will allow you to vent or even cry on her shoulders. However, and this is important, after you're done venting she expects you to be a man and have an action plan to deal with your issue. Then you really have to do it. Also don't make a habit of this sort of thing. A good woman will accept vulnerability up to a point.
Makes sense, you can do it once or twice...you've got all that shit bottled up so it should be fine if you take it out once or twice.
True 💯 👍
That's just it. There are more women out there than you think that will let you vent cry etc. and even give you advise if you ask. What they really don't like are the guys that complain about everything all day long and never do anything or make any effort to address their problems.
Yes my partner knows he can vent to me especially if it’s something serious. Men are human and they have bad days too.
@@MelModica
You here for a reason. Please learn how not to be a stupid woman. Listen to what the men are saying here. Don’t be like the other woman. Don’t think like the other woman.
My son calls me, says dad, can you help me break up with the girl, what should I say? I told him just text her and tell her, it is not working, goodbye. She started texting him asking for details. I told him: DO NOT RESPOND, she is going to use it against you.
I've known for years that complaining pushes them away. Using that when you want to get rid of them is a bit of slow race but very effective 😂
Yeah i sometimes complain and nag on purpose, even about nonexistent problems I pretend to be facing, just to improve my chances on keeping low value women at arm's length. Sometimes they just insist and you do not want anything to do with them because you see the red flag miles away. This also serves as a test to see how a woman might react if you are actually going thru hardships.
Reverse psychology works wonders with these modern ladies.
@@ChrisPTY507 exactly ✍🏻I have 2 div male friends in late 50’s very financially comfortable.. I tell them constantly to pretend they are broke and Weed out the takers 🚨⚠️It works
Yes! Don’t cry in front of her. That will backfire!
Yep. Soon as I show my vulnerability they are repulsed, has happened every single time I’ve ever made that mistake
From my experiences women don’t mind being there for you if you lost your mom, or something really traumatic. But never never be over emotional. They don’t care.
Yes I think the general rule is it's ok to tear up for someone else, but not yourself and not for small things.
And definitely keep actual sobbing to yourself.
So, someone close to you dies, your eyes moisten at their funeral - ok.
You lose your job and bawl your eyes out - not ok.
And correct, they don't care.
I think many men get caught out because there is a perception that women are innately caring, loving and nurturing.
And they are.
But this IS NOT FOR YOU.
It's for her children.
She wants you to care about her. There is no biological need for that to be reciprocated, only for you to think it is.
What I’ve noticed is that women want to help you under 2 conditions:
1) She is interested in you
2) You DIDN’T ask for her help
I find the second part really fascinating. Every time I’ve had a chick (young or old) offer to help me with something in some sort of fashion, it was when I DIDN’T ask them for it.
It’s almost as if you specifically ask them for help, it makes you come across as needy and less capable, hence they get turned off.
I’ve also noticed that if you want a chick to help you with something, it’s best for you to not frame it in a way that makes it seem like you would be vulnerable and lost without them.
It’s better if you frame it in such a way that you are telling them what to do. Like a leader commanding one of their troops to perform a necessary task.
Man, that is sound advice.
If you complain about your job being difficult, without even thinking, they will tell you to quit. Because that's exactly what they do! Quit when anything is difficult
“Too busy” is a myth; it only represents a person’s priorities and reflects your position among those priorities. Anyone that doesn’t return your calls, texts, or emails, it means you are not important enough to bother replying.
Yep 👍
Maybe it was Rich maybe someone else but they said once just imagine for a sec that real Ryan Gosling would text her during the time of her being busy…oh yeah most likely she will stop being busy immediately and texts right back.
If you have to wait for days for a response from her…man move on you are definitely not in her priority list.
One of the Rich's golden quotes - "Actions Express Priorities". This applies for almost every human relationships.
So Spot on 💯!
From my experience, that happened to me. Before I was 100% in Florida from Pa, I had to test her. I shared some worry about selling my business in time and was stress over the process. It was only 25% real. Selling my business took 2.5 years but it's sold I'm 2020. But to rewind back to 2018 I shares these feelings with her. She basically stated seeing someone in Florida behind my back and with in a few months I was disposed of like trash. All after I bought us a house. Anyway in the long run I did myself a huge favor because I didn't waste anymore time on someone who stood on weak legs along with weak emotions. It was painful but im better for it. Good luck guys, relationships are not easy and as we get older it becomes more difficult.
Opened up to a girl last month about a recent job loss earlier this year. I have a new job now and have been killing it for the past 6 months but I mentioned I was a bit stressed at work that week and mentioned i sometimes am a bit off when I'm stressed due to what happened at my last job, and i didn't over share, but it was too much. Went to hers that weekend, was a fun weekend, but she binned me off a day after I left her house. She didn't say that was the reason, BUT I now know why.
was what
@@besmart2350 eh?
@@angusharley5947 nothing
Next ⚠️👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻U dodged a bullet. When you get a great job again Date & pretend you are still in dire straits U will weed out the Takers 🔥⚠️✌🏻
@@lovewhitey4462 that's exactly what I still do. Looks and money attract the girls you want, struggle attract the girls you need
What it does is cause them anxiety. If you give her things to worry about, eventually she's going to get tired of it and find someone who's life is under control and not about to fall apart.
Whoa - that's deep. It really is. I'll make a note of that.
Disagree. Just don’t cry or whine to her. Keep her anxious and emotional she keeps coming back to pound town. After that do it to a few of her good friends. Keep banging all of them until it dries up.
Very true. Women worry all the time even if they don't show it
As a Business Owner, I notice in regards to women that they use a lot of Double Speak, I tell them what I won't do, they sit down in our store in defiance, nag, and complain, they try to get me to rush their orders, they pop up before the agreed time for orders and often don't listen when I firmly say I am not doing your order until the agreed to time.
I don't care that you were on this side of town, I don't care about your hair appt, your headache, your bad mood..it will be ready at the agreed time.
It's a constant daily battle with Women who think that they can boss Men around and get their way and I can tell that they had no Father in their lives; because I have had 2 women call the police about an Order right before our store closes and it's always on a Friday.
So I sit there waiting for over an hour for an Officer to show up, as they get on their phones and commence to talk crap to the person on the phone like they have some authority in my store; then a Male Officer shows up, listens to them nag & complain, writes a report, then escorts their entitled @sses out!
Women have no clue how to negotiate with Men and resort to all kinds of emotional mind games and tactics and I have sent a lot of them packing. I'm in my 40s and I be d@mnded if anyone male or female comes in our store and bosses me around!
Good for you!! I am also a small business owner and find women are always more difficult and I also hold the line with them and refuse to take their crap. Well done, great story!!
I enjoyed reading your story. In my part of the world it's not that frequent but still relatable. When I was younger I was helping my dad in his store and I do remember several times when women were acting like that. Mostly old ladies who were used to boss their families around. Sometimes young entitled women who just had bad upbringing and no manners
When I was a kid I decided never to cry in public, had this gut feeling it was a display of weakness for others to prey into. Gut feelings are always right
As a woman I don’t even like to cry in front of anyone. Gotta be careful who you vent too cause sadly a lot of people will use it against you.
100%. I always tell her everything’s good. No matter what.
I've always hated the notion that men can't be vulnerable around women. Still do. But after about 20 years fighting the stereotype by being open and vulnerable (around women who were at least trusted friends, I wasn't crying to anyone who walked by), the ONLY woman who didn't weaponize my vulnerability was my mother. Literally every single other woman I was weak around lost respect for me at best, and at worst called my lifelong struggle with suicidal ideation a "sob story" or told all our coworkers and turned me into a laughingstock. So yeah, there are women who won't punish you for being weak, but they are the exception, not the rule. Open up to your bros or a (male) therapist. It hurts to admit but I don't think I'll ever open up to a woman again
A little insideinformation about « womanese» for « why don’t you open up». Most females are insecure, and imature ( ignorant) about male psykology. That is it’s overwhelming to them. Talk to a male therapist first when there is a issue you need to vent/sulk about that is « traumatic». This takes the rough edges of the emotions ( you no longer sound neurotic). Then you can share with a female that is not narcissistic ( imature, self obsessed, weak). It’s important to your mental health to be able to went to somebody, but to say it diplomatic the modern female is to say the least of highly confused about men. They often lack empathy and insight in men, and are brainwashed from social media/media and think all men should be their « Mr alpha». When reality is that they not entiteled to anything more than a regular man. Stay strong, but don’t neglect your emotions ( invest in a good therapist)
Something I've learned is fighting against stereotypes doesn't work. I've been a stereotype fighter my whole life, going my own way, doing it in my own way and people just don't like it and they'll view you as weird.
I'm north of 60 with several relationships under my belt. What Rich says is 100% accurate. Your woman CANNOT be your counselor/confidante. With every vulnerability you show, she loses more respect for you. Some will leave fast, others will stick around longer ... but all will eventually leave.
He's telling the truth. If you start telling your girlfriend or wife about all your problems. It's a guaranteed breakoff, separation or divorce. The only woman you could tell about your problems is your : Mom or Grandmother who will not judge you no matter what.
All of this squares 100% with my experience. The response that has worked best for me…. ignore all of the examples described. That’s yielded surprising results. If she says she’s not much of a texter (or something along those lines)… Ignore. Any reply will make it worse. A non-reply might very well pique her interest. She’ll think there’s more to you than she first thought.
“I’m not happy” or expressing doubts about the relationship. Tell her adios. Best possible response. Most likely to get her changing her tune, and if she does this, you’ll have a better sense of how manipulative she can be……She’ll also know that you know this.
The “please be vulnerable” request………ignore, as if you didn’t hear it. As R.C. stated, this will burn you hard. Ignoring will add to your mystique.
Facts on top of facts bruh
100% agree. This is why you need male friends. I don’t have a wife or steady girlfriend to complain to anyway, but in the past when I did and I was vulnerable? They consistently used that against me. Women can and will use anything you say against you. So move accordingly.
Yes, you can't love a woman the way she says she wants. She will become unattracted fast. Seen a woman in comments of TikTok last night complaining her husband was ignoring her. Good job I said he is keeping you attracted lol. she didn't get it. I said he has you thinking about him driving you crazy. It works. she started whining that she thought he didn't love her. I thought perfect. He has her where he wants her.
What are you doing on TikThot, let alone engaging with woemen (especially married ones) there … ??!! 🤯
It's a lie I pulled away alittle from my girlfriend and now she is my ex lol! She said my effort was less than 10%
@@danielmar4532prolly simped too much prior to that
I always get the "I have flaw/problem shutting people out" 🙄
This man is correct, never tell your wife about a problem. Never. She only wants to hear about flowers, sun shine and gifts coming her way.. If you deviate, she will divorce and that leaves the man homeless.
Why you need wife then?
She doesn’t care about your job or anything that goes wrong in your life. She cares about how you handle things and are capable of doing
Dealing with them is just a waste of everything
I wish this wasn’t true, but it totally is! I’ve been married almost 25 years and have learned through stat experience over the years, there’s only so many things you can ever tell your wife. Everything else, has to either be told to your Homies or to a tree. Or a therapist.
I remember this one time I was speaking to this girl I was dating about my late dad(how I was missing him and how I wished he were still alive)and tears started flowing down my cheeks. Instead of understanding my situation and consoling me, she made it seem as though I was crying over an ex girlfriend(someone we had spoken about 2 months prior). Showing emotions won't get you anywhere with women; they always find a way to make things to be about them.
She sounds heartless! My partner has cried over the loss of his step dad and his uncle and I try my best to comfort him.
What she's REALLY saying is, "I suck at replying to men who are ROCK BOTTOM on my priority list."
"I suck at replying" is a hilarious one
I agree with a lot of what you said. As a woman I must said, I have never tell a man to be emotionally vulnerable simply because I'm not super emotional either. I prefer having conversations about world history, culture, mathematics, etc. So it bores me to hear someone complain. I do think women ask men to be emotionally vulnerable because they think it'll create emotional connection.
However, most men see emotions as either being completely emotionally unavailable, or being a huge cry baby. Women do this as well, however the male brain is emotionally wired differently. Women are constantly emotional, where areas males have massive highs and lows. I've had men do that unprovoked, so it's a safety hazard. IDK why women ask for that. Regardless of gender, it all boils down to emotional maturity. You can't remain in a relationship if you use someone as an emotional composite, nor if you're too emotionally indifferent.
I agree. Some people say that man&woman that are in love should be best friends and best lovers. Well, I suggest to discuss some of you private problems with your buddies rather with your woman/girlfriend.
“When someone shows you their red flags, believe them”
- Robin Sharma
Preach big bro!!! Coaches and mentors are awesome!
Her: "I suck at replying."
Him: "Which one are you again?"
Kevin from Sales never cries on her shoulder lol
It's true. I don't 😅
@@kevinjohnson8220oh hi Kevin
I wish this channel was around 15 years ago!! So much good advice.
In other words men aren’t allowed to have life problems and always supposed to have a solution regardless how complex the issue is.
Rich, you are correct. At 2:52 you asked for us to comment, absolutely true; the clock will start ticking to Dissolution of Marriage papers.
You can have emotional vulnerability ONCE in a while with your woman, in fact if you are typically strong, stoic and she has high attraction to you, in my experience she actually enjoys seeing that side of you. She loves and desires me even more now. For the most part I agree though you're right
Yes the softer side needs to be heavily outweighed by the masculine side.
A little drop of Yin in an ocean of Yang.
Your dreaming, she will file for divorce once she finds someone.
@@georgesontag2192 I see your perspective and it's yours to have. I was very jaded in the past also. Best of luck brother
I've got a really good poker face to the point an ex thought I was incapable of feeling emotion. A bit over 2 years into the relationship I missed my deceased brothers birthday. When I remembered I wept a little. She saw and hugged me, asked to explain. She was relieved that I had emotion. She had burning desire until the day I left her due to issues with her finances/character flaws she was unable to rectify.
NEVER. she pries you tell her to fuck off.
Yeah this was my ex wife, she said something but meant something else, and then she said something and did the opposite and then she said not to do this or that, but she went ahead and did what she told me not to do lol complete mind games and narcassist tactics that they use to make you break down, your mental health, your sanity, down the drain, I was done after 4 years. She doesn't want a whiner and complainer, but she has the right to complain and whine about everything to us men LOL what a bs way of life I swear
Rich Cooper is a great leader/motivator for men in these current times. Thanks for being here!
Thank you for a great video. I am glad to read how men are waking up and started focusing on the real issues. Focus on excellence not on women.
Rich keep dropping these nuggets of knowledge dude 👍
I can vouch for the: "watch what they do", before the "listen to what they say". Apply it to women, but also with guys and certainly apply it with friends. In late years I've had to painfully apply this to people I thought I was friends with, but their actions proved otherwise.
I would yes, it's female nature, I'm too used to this when it comes to any woman, but guys do it too.
I would add this: when women do, most of the time it's not on purpose, they don't even know wtf they want at times, they just want guys to "get it", but when either a gal or a guy does it 100% with intention, that's where you really need to watch out.
This is easier with people you don't know well, cause usually you don't trust them, but with friends you've had for years, it's a harder pill to swallow and I would say it's something similar when you're married, you don't want to see reality.
Reason I don't have ANY friends
Right on point, no BS whatsoever.
Great talk.
One more coach, and this one is from you: When she says: "I don't do that in bed" she means: "I don't do that in bed WITH YOU". Thank you for your videos.
You know how many women I've had sex with that said "We're not fucking tonight?" All of them..ha ha
Good work Rich..Focus on yourself, be cool, confident, nobody's fool..Level Up get yourself and your sh*t together..done
I was talking over the phone with a women once that I recently met and this chic complained about every little thing in her life for 15 minutes straight and when I finally got a word in I said, I got to let you go. Bye.
Rich Cooper is without a doubt the best in this space!!
This is so true...to the point that it's funny in the same time...I really laughed out good few times ....excellent....good job Rich
Love the clips Rich. Keep them coming. I read your book too.
I think living in a low population are makes evaluating your own SMV extremely difficult. I was really starting to think I must not be what they want even though I’m bettering myself in many ways. Then I spent a little time in higher population areas and I noticed a difference. Women that were just as much and even more attractive than my area were nicer and very easy to have conversations with.
Try living in the least populated state....the ratio of men to women is off to begin with, much less the quality of women.
Being vulnerable to a woman only lets them find a reason to disqualify you. They do want the best they can get so this is natural. No need to be mad about it. It is what it is. For an even deeper example us men do it too . Have you ever told a woman she can tell you her sexual past and you’d never judge her? Then you silently disqualified her and became less attracted after she told you certain things? Play the game how it go 😌🥶
It's inappropriate for a man to cry anytime, at all, or for any reason whatsoever. Never.
pretty much every single woman on dating apps "sucks at replying". thats why u dont bother.
They do reply but they have forty other men at the same time saying the same shit to them!
Another top post Rich!
I just love the mere fact that I thought I was alone in this but now that I've found
Long life to the Internet 🙏
Women know what they're doing. They know they'll get away with it.
Years ago I overheard a conversation on the commute home. It was between two women discussing an article in some crappy rag of a magazine. The article's topic was "should men be allowed to cry?"
The view of one of them was "yes, of course they should".
Her friend was more "Yeah, you say that, but ... " and related a story of her own.
It seems that she was at home one time when there was a knock at the door. It was her boyfriend. He came to her because he had just heard that his best friend had been killed in a hit-and-run incident. He was distraught and in floods of tears. She further related that being confronted with this situation all she could think of to say was "Pull yourself together. Be a man".
Women are not prepared for this as an eventuality. There is no need for them to prepare for such an eventuality. They will not ever prepare for such an eventuality.
Rich, very well said 👏.
Slayers riffs have reorientated my neurons making me impervious to that which is illogical.
Thats why so many gangsters had a goomah the true translation is “best friend “ cause you never show your main woman you have any weakness
I have had three serious adult relationships. One when I was 20, one when I was 21, and the last one when I was 22.
I was trying to be the nice gentleman and be emotionally vulnerable and connected to my first girlfriend. Within three weeks of opening up like that she was brutally emasculating me and telling me the I was not a man and could not turn her on. Telling me I was like a little boy.
Second woman, I tried to be stronger but then one day vented to her about some stuff and cried at one point about some stuff I was anxious about. She lost all respect for me at that point and got cold, and the relationship that had lasted over a year was done inside the next sex weeks.
Third woman, I’ve been stoic. Have told her how I feel about things without breaking down but always inside of the context of “this is how I feel about this situation, but I am not going to let it hold me back, and this is my plan for handling it.” Then I handle it successfully and move on, maintaining stoicism and frame and control over my reactions.
Been married to her now for 13 years, together 15 total. 😂
That screencap says it all. Lol.
you nailed it, man. damn. 👏
Action express priorities in life. Good line.
Thanks you for this
Yes!! Old Doc Love used to say this to keep it light and playful always not complain and keep that shit for friends
Real Talk Mr Richard
Be a winner not a whiner. Well said.
I think that when you start getting this kind of attitude or talk then just call it out ( sort of laugh it off but at the same time you are making it clear you know what it really going on and she will get it ) .
Then you can start fading into the distance dont let her be in control
This makes complete sense…
It applies to men too. Actions before words.
Self love, we all need to show compassion and love for ourselves before we can love anyone else. Simple, for men and women too. It's not easy at all! But will be worth it in end.
Jumping from one relationship to another doesn't help us grow.
We grow through pain and suffering unfortunately.