This is what happened to me.. Since I was a child I was too much humble and polite, I couldn't say "no", I wanted to see everyone happy and not to offend anyone. Now I have multiple sclerosis . It's been around 15 years. And I can say that only now that I can't move parts of my body, I say " no " . Oh my poor body! I wish I was wiser earlier so that I could protect you! Now I'm 37 years old. I can't work ( I'm/was a school teacher) and I don't even have a boyfriend.. that's the bad side.. But finally I have a stronger personality. I've learned it by the toughest way!
Thank you for taking the time to share your very personal and passionate story with us. It takes a lot of guts to talk about such things, and your willingness to do so is truly impressive. I want you to know that your journey shows your inner power and determination. You've clearly overcome many obstacles, both physically and emotionally, and your ability to find courage in hardship is impressive. Your newly discovered strength and ability to say "no" when necessary are important steps toward self-care and protecting oneself. Multiple sclerosis is a tough disease, and I can only imagine the challenges you've experienced over the last 15 years. The effort you put in to protecting your body and creating your aspiring personality is admirable. If you don't have a boyfriend or are unable to work, keep in mind that your worth isn't defined by your relationship status or career. You are a one-of-a-kind and beautiful person with so much to offer, and your journey represents your character and inner strength. Please continue focusing on your own well-being, self-care, and self-love. Your story has touched many people's hearts, and you have definitely inspired others who are suffering similar difficulties. Thank you for sharing your story again, and please know that you have a kind and understanding community here. We will be praying for you every step of the way on the journey you're on. Sending you love, strength, and positive vibes as you walk the path that lies ahead. With deepest respect and empathy from Your Inner Child Matters Channel🙏✨💖
I'm finally realizing that it’s okay to put myself first. Having endured an 11-year toxic marriage, I married my wonderful husband. He was a widower with two young children, who I helped raise. I also cared for my ailing father, and now assisting my elderly mother. I've always been the caregiver. My professional life also mirrored this, often skipping breaks and overworking to do a good job. The resultant chronic stress has now led to physical ailments like alopecia, chest pain, and migraines. While I’m now taking steps to prioritize my health, guilt is still a persistent companion. This video is a timely reminder that caring for myself is not selfish but essential.
It's definitely not selfish! You are your own person, who is there all the way. And your physical body is a beloved partner of yours, the one who never betrays. Of course it's fair to take care of your beloved self. ❤
Thank you for sharing such a personal and touching story with us. Your journey shows your strength and resilience, and it's clear that you've spent the most of your life caring for others. Acknowledging that it's alright to prioritize yourself can be a difficult and changing realization, especially after an 11-year toxic marriage and shouldering the responsibility of raising your husband's children and caring for your elderly parents. Your selflessness and commitment to your family and profession are admirable.It breaks my heart to hear that your continuous stress has taken such an impact on your health, appearing in physical diseases like alopecia, chest pain, and migraines. It's important that you're now putting your health first, and I admire you for doing so. Self-care is an important act of self-love and protection, not selfishness. Guilt may interfere with this journey of self-discovery and self-care, but keep in mind that you deserve every moment of rest and every effort you make to heal. Your loved ones, including your husband, surely want you to be healthy and happy. By showing that self-care is not only acceptable but also necessary, you are setting a wonderful example for everyone around you.Your movie serves as a poignant reminder to all of us that we must nourish ourselves in the same way that we nurture others. Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging others to put their health first. You are not alone on this journey, and your bravery will inspire many others. As you continue on this path of self-discovery and self-care, I wish you a lot of peace, good health, and happiness. 🙏✨💖
Saying no is good for you. Dismissing others expectations is good for you. Im glad this video reminded me of that before its too late. Really thank you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your comments! I'm happy to hear that this video spoke to you and reminded you of the importance of saying no and ignoring others' expectations when required. Remember, it's all about self-care and living life on your own terms. If you have any questions or wish to share more information, please contact us at any moment. I wish you the best of luck on the journey❤️💖
"You conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself."❤
This part. I can accept it SO much better imagining it coming from myself, my loving self. It hurts so deeply to imagine that my family and friends couldn't be understanding or empathetic with me. When you finally listen to your instincts and trust yourself, then realize that you endured abuse for almost four decades from your parents....it's just too much to process. I like this version that the roadblocks came from me. And now I can let go of wanting the blocks to move. I need time to be away from all of them and their never-ending requests and manipulation disguised as concern for me. The roadblocks feel a lot safer as I type this, actually 😄 it's like they're my boundaries that I never consciously erected. I am under construction...when I'm done, I will remove the blocks and whomever I select will have access to me again, on my terms, for the length of time and in the areas of my life that I choose. I feel so used and discarded in my relationships. Now I can switch that to: I feel safe. I am protected. FINALLY 👏🏼😅✨ I literally went to a park earlier today for the 1st time (I was anxious and sad), and a section of it was blocked off for construction. I didn't even want to be there, but I stumbled upon it bec I kept driving when the trail I wanted to go to had no parking spots. 😭 And then I found this video several hrs later....Wow.
I’ve learned to be able to judiciously sprinkle a bit of “I don’t give a f*ck” on certain moments in my life. I think this has helped me keep sane while living inside an insane world.
I can't fucking believe it! I'm just discovering/realizing for the first time in my 44 years of life... The rage and grief I feel... THESE ARE MY SUPERPOWERS! The fact that I can feel these at all, this alone, is my superpower! It is sacred it is divine it is feminine it is miraculous. Most are too numb to know or to feel. But I know. And I feel. This has all been in preparation for my mission as an alchemist. I am a Lioness. I am a Goddess. I am a Radically Honest Biker Bitch! Holy heaven I am mind-blown! HALLEUJAH! AND PRAISE THE LORD!
I realised the folly of gaining acceptance of family, friends, peers by having many endeavors and being busy all the time. When I retired early to have a relaxed stress free lifestyle most of them distanced away from me. They asked is that all i'm doing as if my life was so boring and not worth living. But I eventually adjusted to this rejection and now by being true to myself I've never been happier and healthier.
I've seen this in my cousin. He's even worse than me in saying no to things he should say no to, and his immune system is so very weak. I used to have minor immunological issues too, back when I was worse at saying no too. But when I improved my ability to say no and said no to things I ought had to to begin with, the symptoms disappeared. No more runny nose, no more irritable throat so much. Gabor Mate knows things. Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It’s amazing how learning to set boundaries and saying "no" can impact not just our emotional health but also our physical well-being. I’m glad to hear that you’ve seen such positive changes in yourself. Dr. Gabor Maté truly does share profound insights, and it’s inspiring to see how they resonate with so many of us. Wishing you and your cousin continued strength and health on this journey
We know how to say no as toddlers. For many of us, that's beaten out of us to placate parents, teachers, religious figures, and peers. So let's honor the toddlers no. It's a safety mechanism.
Thank you for sharing this important perspective. You are 100% right - as toddlers, we have a natural instinct to say 'no' in order to protect ourselves. This component of our early growth must be remembered and respected. Embracing and honoring our inner 'no' can help in setting up of healthy boundaries and the protection of our well-being. Your message reminds us of the importance of following our intuition and nourishing our true selves.🙏
That puts all the responsibility on self, when there are genetics and other factors that can influence diseases, one may be repressing negative emotions but not only! ..
While I love all of the content this man has released, he wouldn't be where he is without working hard, I think hard work AND looking after yourself is key. Healing from childhood trauma is hard work and that's why most people don't do it 🙏💜
Hello, everyone! If you're tired of putting other people's needs before your own, this video is a must-watch. Dr. Gabor Mate shares an uplifting message that will help you prioritize your own needs and achieve life balance. Trust me, it's worth your time to watch every moment of it. Let's help this message go viral by spreading it! 💕🙏✨💖 #selfcare, #motivation, #inspiration, #YourInnerChildMatters, #MentalHealth, #SelfCare, #WellBeing, #PersonalGrowth, #HolisticHealth, #WhenYourBodySaysNo
So insightful. Since I was ten my parents separated and I was given responsibility over my sisters and as adults my sisters lived with me on and off. I was a stay at home mom and I handled everything in the household all my husband did was work, eat,sleep, and I was exhausted and he wasn't supportive, he worked 12-16 hour days. I was diagnosed with a tumor on my right kidney and it was an eye opener and for the first time in my life I prioritized myself and I am daily making decisions for better health all around. I don't take anymore than I can handle and I take time to relax and enjoy my life.
Hello there! Thank you for sharing your experience. Your determination and bravery truly shine through. It's inspiring to see how you prioritized your well-being after experiencing such difficulties. Taking time for yourself is important, and it's wonderful to hear that you're making health-related decisions. Remember, you deserve to take care of yourself and be happy. I wish you all the best on your journey to a healthier and more fulfilling life!💖🙏
Thank you very much for your kind words! You are completely right that sometimes it takes disease to remind us of life's most beautiful realities. I wish you happiness and good health. ❤️
Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to engaged about our inner child. Your words of support and gratitude mean everything to me. It touches my heart to know that this resonated with you. Our inner child is such an important aspect of who we are that we must nurture and pay attention to it. I'm glad for the opportunity to share these messages, and happy to hear that you're looking forward to more. Your encouragement inspires me to create content that touches both the soul and the heart. Please let me know if you have any specific subjects or questions you'd like me to cover in future videos. We can continue this journey of self-discovery and healing together. Thank you for your nice thoughts and support once again. Sending you a lot of love and encouragement on your journey to reconnect with your inner child. 👍😊
The problem is that we live in a world in which society is obsessed with only caring about others and ignoring your needs, passions and life for the sake of people that don't give a dime on you.
I completely understand your point of view. It can be really difficult to feel as if you are constantly obligated to prioritize others over yourself. It's important to achieve a balance between caring for others and listening to your own needs and passion. It's also okay to place importance on self-care and self-love. You are deserving of happiness and fulfillment in your life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us💖🌻💕
@@yourinnerchildmatterspeople who are not in contact with their sensitivity, may think we have to put others first. But no, nothing can be further from the truth! The more in tune with our essence we are, the more sensitive and so, inevitably more empathic we are! It's only when we deeply know ourselves, we're truly able to offer a high quality support . Otherwise it's just lame, pretentious and forced. All the most beautiful things come from an open heart , and not from the closed mind. Thank you for important videos! ❤
Thank you very much for sharing your inspired viewpoint! You are completely right: real empathy and support come from acknowledging and accepting our own sensitivities. Your comment is an important reminder that the keys to lasting interactions and support are authenticity and an open heart. Continue to spread this wisdom! ❤️
My illness has lasted 35 years housebound and bedbound and I’ve turned myself around since may of this year… this so so so so profound and I thank you greatly for me choosing to listen to this this morning!!! I am in tears of realisation…. I have just done an interview with my breath coach about my transformation and it has gone up on you tube…. I’ve had a couple of responses and am blown away! So yes maybe the 35 years had to happen to bring me to the joy I am experiencing now!!!!! Thank you again Diane
thank you for sharing your experience with us. Your journey is truly inspiring, and your strength shines through your words.Wishing you continued joy and success on your journey ahead💖🌻💕🤗💟
Gabor Mate clearly did alot and understands caring, but we have to look after ourselves first while remaining mindful of others feelings always. I always say if you need to sob, then sob.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! You are completely right; self-care is key, and we must prioritize our well-being. Gabor Mate's insightful observations remind us of the value of self-compassion. We're here if you ever need a safe environment to express yourself or simply have a conversation. Remember, it's alright to express your feelings when necessary. Take care💕🤗
Thank you very much for sharing this insights with us. Understanding and acknowledging when our behavior is influenced by past experiences requires a great deal of courage. Remember that the first step in healing and self-care is self-awareness. You, too, deserve to be loved and cared for. 💕 Take the time to pamper yourself as well.💫💕🙏
I was diagnosed with breast cancer, thanks to the team of amazing doctors and my mindset I’m cancer free. I cannot go back to work yet, as a matter of fact, the psychologist doesn’t allow me to go back to the company I worked for. We’re two years further and it is only now that I have moments that I’m not thinking about going back (which is impossible, I have a severe burn out on top of). I’m grateful for what happened. I finally allowed myself to rest. And take myself first.
Love your new book…..my husband read it three times over the course of three months when we were in Mexico on holidays…..changed our world…..I’m reading it now…..thank you 🙏😌
The fact is not knowing when to stop; not knowing your limits. I guess it happens more to extroverted people who have a lot of energy so they can actually pull off load for two families. My dad was an introvert and he carried on his shoulders at least 6 people. I realize it now. My lesson is learn to ask people for help. It’s also about learning to say no to people and telling them you have your limitations. Even then you might have a sense of guilt. So prioritizing yourself is a risky thing too. Everything in moderation. Good luck
Absolutely, thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's true that finding a balance between helping others and taking care of yourself can be tough. Learning to ask for help and set boundaries is a valuable life lesson for all of us. Your thoughts remind us that taking care of ourselves is just as important as helping others. I wish you and everyone who is watching a healthy and fulfilling journey ahead.💕🙏✨💖
I have decided I don’t care about anyone’s disappointment, including my own, by not being able to find a life partner to have children with in my youthful years. I have put a lot of work. It’s ok.
Thank you for sharing your honest feelings with us. It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge and embrace your own journey, regardless of societal expectations. Your self-awareness is truly inspiring, and your worth isn't defined by anyone else's expectations. We support you in your choices and celebrate your self-love and acceptance. Sending you all the positive vibes on your unique path💫💕🙏✨💖
It's truly eye-opening to hear about how our compulsion to put others' needs before our own can have such a significant impact on our health. It's a wake-up call to reconsider our priorities and learn to say no when necessary. This video has given me a lot to think about, and I appreciate the insights it provides. Thank you for sharing this valuable perspective. 🙏💭
Yes when I was recovering from cancer and a mild stroke I was at the most peace and my mild was at rest. I was still operating like my normal self but my mind took over to protect me and only me.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your great adventure with us. It's incredibly amazing to hear how you found peace and strength in the midst of hardship. Your courage is truly inspiring, and your story reminds us of the greatness of the human spirit. We're glad to hear you're feeling better. Please keep taking care of yourself, and know that your story has touched many of us. Sending you all my best wishes and positive vibes on your ongoing journey. 💪🌟🌟
I hear this time and time again from people who've lost someone to cancer - "I just don't get it, it's not fair, they were just the NICEST PERSON WHO WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR ANYONE." And I think...well yep, there we go.
I appreciate you, Dr. Maté, providing this educational, and enlightening video. I've heard that those who are in charge of their lives have excellent histories of leading healthy lives, but those who lack control over their lives have the worst records of unhealthy lives.❤
Thank you so much for your nice comments and for taking the time to watch the video! You've mentioned a really important part of human well-being. Having a sense of control and agency in our life can positively impact our overall health and happiness. It serves as a reminder for us all of the need for empowerment and balance. ❤️
This advice is very helpful, except for the bit that amounts to "everything happens for a reason" narrative towards the end. While I agree that how we react to things and perceive situations is our responsibility, the notion that horrible things happen because its orchestrated can be very triggering and hurtful to people trying to heal from unimaginable loss. I say this because my 3 year old niece was killed in a car accident and my brother was handicapped from it but survived. Shortly afterwards I was having a very hard time with grief and reached out for help. The nurse at a psychiatric office abruptly told me "well, you know, everything happens for a reason." And it absolutely screwed up my healing for YEARS. Things happen...horrible things because that's the nature of life. How we react is the only thing within our control. I share all this because I know it's common practice to quiet someone who is sharing a deep hurt with this common quote/sentiment and it's damaging. Trauma needs a place to flow and escape the body.
I'd want to begin expressing my deepest condolences for the painful loss you and your family have suffered. Losing your 3-year-old niece in a car accident and leaving your brother disabled is a heartbreaking experience that no one should ever have to go through. Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts on the "everything happens for a reason". Your comment is really valid, and I appreciate you addressing the potential harm of using such phrases during times of severe loss and trauma. It's important to understand that life may be truly random, and some situations are just painful without any higher purpose or reason. The pain and suffering caused by these traumatic experience are very real, and it is our responsibility as caring people to provide assistance and empathy rather than try to justify such painful loss. I'm so sorry to hear that when you reached out for support, you received a dismissive and hurtful response. Trauma is clearly a complex and deeply personal experience, and everyone deals with it differently. Your insight about trauma needing a space to flow and depart the body is 100% correct, and I hope that after your difficult journey, you've gotten the help and healing you deserve. Your point of view serves as an important reminder to be mindful of the words we choose when we try to comfort someone in pain. Thank you for sharing your story; I hope it helps others appreciate the value of empathy and understanding during times of grief and trauma. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻💕🤗
@yourinnerchildmatters What a beautifully thought-out reply. Thank you so much for your compassion. ❤️🩹🙏 I have found that healing doesn't have a "finish line," but I've done loads of work and am able to find healthy coping strategies when life throws its curve balls. 😊
@@valbirkner8131 Your experience and resilience are truly inspirational! 🌟 It's wonderful knowing how you've accepted healing as an ongoing journey. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and positivity with us. 🙏💕 Sending you again lots of love and positivity on your path. ❤🩹🌟take care always, and bless you 🙏
Thank you for taking the time to share your experience with us! It's wonderful to hear that you're actively working on your mental health and have discovered new coping mechanisms. Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and your bravery is impressive. Keep on shining! ❤️
Love this new Gabor book....I highly recommend it to all of us! So glad we live on this planet at this time of fearless humans to speak so profoundly on the truths of our human behavior...Bravo Gabor and your beautiful family who surround you!
thank you for sharing this. It takes great bravery to begin living life for yourself, and I admire you for taking that step. Remember that your happiness and well-being are the most important factors., and you are deserving of the right to live your life on the way you choose. Best wishes on this great journey of self-discovery and self-love🌟 💫💕🙏
100% makes sense, for a good part of my more recent life and some of my youth, I have been told I am selfish by some people...I guess being born with a disability forced me into survival mode from a very early age. I have self taught myself to prioritize my "needs". I am only doing what my reality is by looking out for my best interest. I have had very minimal "other" health issues for most people my age. I have discovered that taking time out for one's selfcare is negotiable, start today if you are not currently doing this.
To be completely superficial for a moment....brilliant schmillant. Gaad. That voice. Youza❤ whoever first coined the phrase "a voice as smooth as butter" probably just returned from a session.
It happened to me recently My rational side told me to distance myself a lot I mean a lot of times. Fear, loneliness and insecurities made me stay in this friendship My tooth gums started to swallow and get inflammation, my skin started to develop some conditions every time I was around this friend of mine Like a signal This is serious, really serious but thanks God it can be avoided
Thank you so much for taking the time to tell us about your experience. Acknowledging when a situation is unhealthy for us and making the required changes takes a lot of bravery. Your health should always come first, and it's encouraging to see how you prioritize it. If anyone else is going through a similar experience, your story could serve as an inspiration of hope. I wish you the best of luck on your journey to a happy and healthier life💖🌻💕🤗
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. It's deeply sad how work pressures can consume our life. Remember to take time for yourself in order to find a balance between work and pleasure. Your point of view speaks to many of us, and it serves as a reminder to prioritize what truly matters💕🙏✨💖
I honestly believe this is what is currently happening to me. I've ask countless doctors to allow me to take time off work for stress but they always tell that I won't get approved. Even though my blood work shows inflammation. They tell I'm to young, or its just in your head you will grt over it. "Here's a pill". I've tried prioritize myself but it is difficult when you have responsibilities such as kids, debt, bills.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. It can be very frustrating to seek help and understanding yet not receive the support that is needed. Your situation is valid, and it's clear that you're making an effort to prioritize your well-being despite the difficulties you're facing. Remember that you are not alone in this, and it is important that you continue to advocate for yourself. I hope things improve for you soon and that you find the help and comfort you deserve. Your health is important, and taking steps to prioritize it is a brave and necessary journey. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖
Please do what you can to lower your inflammation. Listen to your body, I wish I had. I started getting sick at 18- I am 35 and my body is falling apart. It happened slowly at first and in the last 2 months I went from already struggling to pain in every bone in my body. I am having new very scary symptoms in my body. This is not to be alarmist, inflammation being found is a very real warning sign. I might have rheumatoid arthritis or cancer.
The 1st decade of programming by our parents/elders have alot to do with how we are shaped as adults. So, if I'm a people pleasers it's because I was taught to obey the masters, serve their purpose and theirs & put myself at the very last because thats what good daughters, sisters and aunts do. All of us could stop this unconscious self sabotage if only we could realize & address intergenerational negative habits & ongoing passed down trauma. I have RA & I'm constantly told by people whom I've loved dearly & supported immensely lifelong who deliberately hijacked my life from day, all what ive been through has nothing to do with my condition rather God is punishing me for my sins or testing my faith in Him. I'm so glad this angel is giving people educated insight into what's happening to them & opening eyes to the toxicity they are surrounded by.
Thank you very much for your kind words! Your support meant everything to me. May you be blessed with positivity and inspiration every step of your journey. 🙏✨
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! It's wonderful how the appropriate message may appear in our life exactly when we need it the most. Trust the time, and may your newfound wisdom help you on your way. Sending you positive vibes 🌟
THIS IS SUCH IMPORTANT WORK!!! I am mindful enough to know something in me was causing dis-ease in my body, and truly believe we can heal ourselves, recently dealing with inflammation, with no diagnosis root cause. Frustration in that Drs are always quick to throw medicine…Is it possible to reverse what’s going on with the renewing of my mind?!
Start small and build up to the bigger no's. When you feel guilt, tell yourself, "That's the old me, we're working on the new me!". It helps, but it takes time. Be patient with yourself.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! Learning to say 'no' to our own thoughts may be a valuable self-care and mindfulness practice. You are not alone on this journey, and it is okay to prioritize your own well-being. Continue to practice, and remember that it is a process. We'll be here for you every step of the way! 💪💕
KINDNESS EMPATHY....SPRINKLED WITH RUTHLESSNESS ....TO THE GATES OF HELL N BACK TO LEARN YOUR NUMBER 1 A HARSH HARSH LESSON ....NEVER TO BE REPEATED ...SELF LOVE & CARE ALWAYS...
Check out disorganized attachment style, this is where the child in the first few years of life is scared of their primary caregiver. They found most babies in the clinical trial who had this attachment style had become caretakers of their parent by the age of six, it was their way of trying to take control and make things safe with their parent. So caregiving often has fear and trauma underlying it, so as well as ignoring ones own boundaries and limitations, there is also huge stress on the nervous system from the early years of life.
When i was diagnosed with melanoma i felt bad for my family and friends reaction and their feelings and how sick i was during immunotherapy Self compassion is uncommon
Wow Gabor totally relate to the Good Girl syndrome in me set up huge expectations running away from home because I had no choices marriages where I had no choices failing because I married the wrong guy coming from still that child in me still running away .... from the unhappiness suppression to not feel when feeling been my nature state I ve recognised 😮 here yet I keep getting going after what I dont want rather than what I do want !! In expression of self because my inner been polarising against myself for being that good girl with expectations of pleasing others against my new self saying No now that's making me happier and healthier seeing this validated here in this post Gabor understanding my own patterning within me about this wow light bulb moment thank u ❤❤🎉😢 of change in changing this program switch ⚡🌟😊 thank u
Thank you for expressing your comments, and I'm happy to hear that this resonated with you. Remember that it is okay to say NO when you need to prioritize yourself. Sending you all the love and strength you need ❤️
Thak you for sharing :) my hope is that more people connect thwir emotions to their body and care for themselves as soon as they notice what they need.
this makes me think of my mom. she had alot of qualities like this and died of cancer. she spent her life putting herself last and was very much disconnected with her feelings. when she told me about her cancer diagnosis she actually apologized to me when I started to cry. I couldn't believe it in the moment but she was even thinking about me and my feelings. now that I'm a mom I understand more why she felt that way, wanting to protect.
I'm very touched by your comment, and I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. It sounds like she was an very selfless and caring person, putting others before herself, even in the face of such a challenging diagnosis. It's clear that her love for you was immense. As a mom now, you carry on her legacy of love and protection. If you ever want to share more about her or your experiences, I'm here to listen, and this community is here for you too. Wishing you strength and warmth as you navigate the complexities of motherhood and sending heartfelt thoughts to you and your mom's memory. 💕
When i was doing chemo, a male nurse would tell me I should go to the office instead of working from home. I don't know why he thinks he knows better than a person actually going through this ordeal. After the first time, he said that, for subsequent chemos, I made sure to cut off the conversation after the med questions before he gets to that "advice" by popping on my noise cancelling headphones.
Thank you for sharing your personal story during such a difficult time. I'm sorry to hear you had to go through chemotherapy while dealing with inappropriate advise from a male nurse. Your frustration and confusion are completely normal. When someone gives unsolicited advise without completely understanding what you're going through, it may be very disappointing. Nobody knows your unique situation better than you, and you are the expert on your own journey. It's admirable that you used noise-cancelling headphones to protect your emotional well-being during those times. Taking control of our environment and focusing on self-care can sometimes be the greatest way to deal with such situations. Your story is an excellent reminder of the value of empathy and sensitivity in healthcare. Everyone's journey is different and healthcare providers should always strive to listen, understand, and support their patients without making judgment. I hope that sharing your story here raises awareness about the importance of compassion and empathy in healthcare settings. You are not alone in dealing with these difficulties, and your bravery in sharing your story can make a difference in the lives of others who may be in similar situations. My best wishes for continuing strength and resilience on your journey. Thank you for sharing again, and keep in mind that your voice matters🌻💕🤗💟
What I've observed is that many struggle with receptivity to the truth. Honesty often faces resistance, as expressing oneself openly is not universally embraced or comprehended.
great video although now I may resent myself for burning out my mom. she fought cancer twice single mom. I could've made life easier for her. I did try my best though and praised her always. Cautionary tale for others... you never know...
I admire your heart, wisdom and capacity to share and teach us..I hope one day you can come to AK and we can work together..! Helping the homeless community here,we have our native community in need of your guidance and humanity..And also OTHERS dealing with addictions.. I do work with energy healing, and will take hypnosis therapy classes in a near future,to go deeply and blend with Reiki, sound therapy (tuning forks) psychic connections and art therapy..! We are stronger when we work together and share our pain, experiences and spiritual journeys..! I also have more healing to do for myself..🌸🙏💚🥺😔💟💠❤️💖🌺
Thank you very much for your thoughtful and kind message. It's wonderful to hear about your dedication to serving your community, particularly the homeless and indigenous peoples, as well as those struggling with addiction. It is admirable that you are committed to energy healing, hypnosis therapy, Reiki, sound therapy, psychic connections, and art therapy. These comprehensive techniques have the potential to significantly improve people's lives. Your willingness to share your personal journey and experiences shows your compassion and strength. Working together and supporting one another on our spiritual journeys is a highly effective approach for creating positive change in the world. Remember that healing is an ongoing process, and you are already having an impact on things. 🌸🙏💚 Your story is filled with compassion and brightness, and I'm sure it will it will touch many lives.❤️💖🌺
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for be part of that eternal healing as well.. Oneness is our real essence and healing is a spiritual choice! When we can transform pain into purpose,we create a ripple effect to spread that cosmic light.. I don't see karma as a punishment! I see Karma as doors of infinite possibilities,to allow us to expand to shift,to evolve,to growth,to relearn,to share,to remember,to rediscover,etc. Doing energy healing, allows me to sw things from many angles.. Also can help me tapping into "hidden gifts",to give a spiritual guidance in some cases or redirect the focus with purpose and clear intentions..Is much more easy to work with kids in some instances, they are more pure and connecting easy through the Spirit World versus adults..Anyway I do what I can,when a door is open and a heart is ready to receive.. Have a blessing healing journey,for the rest of your life.. Light and love always in your path .🙏🌺💚💠
This is the body trying to tell her to protect herself, cos the body isn’t designed to protect others except your kids, so when you put someone before yourself your body will keep on telling you to put yourself first (by getting anxiety your body talks to you) then your body goes into survival cos you’re putting someone before yourself. Because you by default put people before yourself your body will stay in survival mode producing stress hormones, until it develops cancer or other issues. This is your body talking to you. Telling you to stop putting someone before yourself by feeling anxiety. It’s telling you stop harming yourself. Then you must learn to regulate your nervous system with breathing and exercise etc. And also learn to listen to your body. To cease a behaviour when you get anxiety and do some thing that is pleasing to you. Your body will also protect yourself against you saying someone that doesn’t serve you.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts on this important subject. You've clearly put a lot of thought into understanding the messages our bodies tell us when we prioritize others before ourselves. Taking care of our health is important, and it is important to listen to our bodies when they communicate with us through anxiety or other signs. Learning to balance care for ourselves and others is a process, and your insights into regulating the nervous system through practices like breathing and exercise are priceless. Furthermore, self-care and self-preservation are important parts of a healthy lifestyle. Thank you for bringing light on this part of our well-being, and I appreciate your message's emphasis on self-awareness and self-care. 🙏💕
What he described is a person who lacked self-love and spiritually deficient. I am a devoted Christian. We are spiritually guided to prioritize our thoughts and, therefore, we naturally know who we are, love ourselves, and think right. The fastest fix if you have this problem he described, you can ask God to help you become independent from all limitations and think right.
"The suppression of how you feel is a major risk factor for illness" This is a nice silver lining after having had yet another humiliating public meltdown.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your points of view. It takes a lot of courage to open up about personal situations, and I admire your bravery. Remember that we all have bad days, and you are not alone in dealing with difficulties. Your comment shows the need of acknowledging our feelings. This community is here for you if you ever need to talk or need support.💕🤗
I get it. And it seems impossible. I have recently tried to create habits "for me," and it seems like every time things start to ramp up (moving towards level 1), something happens that corroborates my story that I don't matter - then I crash and things come to a stop again. I'm getting desperate to get past this initial stage. Do you have any tips on how to get past the start?
I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. Starting new habits can be difficult, especially when setbacks support negative thoughts. Break down your goals, celebrate small achievements, be kind with yourself when you fail, prioritize consistency over perfection, and seek help from someone you trust. Remember that you matter. Take it one step at a time. ❤️💖
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind words! 😇💫 Your support means a lot to me, and I am truly greatful for it. I'll keep going to work hard to bring you more wonderful content. Stay tuned!🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for the wonderful videos you made for us. I am also Hungarian, so he is a very inspiring person in my life. I am very proud of him. 🫶🏻💫
The title is how to prioritize yourself and the answer to it is 1/5th of the speech. And just for statistics, I'd like to know what is the difference in survival of patients who didn't stop their lives and still worried about others vs patients who did stop and prioritize themselves?
Massive OUCH ! But worth the pain . THANK YOU ! I always look for your videos , you never disappoint . Big hugs coming your way , and a few small wet kisses. XoXo.
Thank you very much for your lovely words! I truly appreciate your support, and am happy to hear that the content is worthwhile. Big hugs right back! 💖🌻💕🤗
I'm very sorry to hear you're feeling this way, and I appreciate your honesty in expressing your feelings with us. It's totally okay to take a break if a video or piece of content is giving you pain or discomfort. Your well-being is most important, and I appreciate your decision to prioritize it. If you have any specific questions or want to talk about your thoughts, please know that there are people who care and are willing to listen including me. You are not alone in this, and I wish you the help and comfort you need. Take care of yourself. Sending you a big hugs 💕🤗
@@irinasolomina1800 Why do you need to sacrifice Jesus to be healed. Sacrificing is wrong, whether of yourself or someone to gain advantage thru a henius act perpetrated on someone, especially someone as good as Jesus. The only proper response is to hold the perpetrators (Roman Empire) accountable not to seek to profit of his torture/déáthh.
Natural medicine philosophy, suggest the breasts ( organs of nurturing) couple with breast pathology equals over caring of others. Thanks for your video, allopathic validation is moving along wiyh natural medicine philosophy 🙏💗
Always profound, another thing to consider is the challenge to the growing immune system. A careful, unbiased study of morbidity vs mortality should be done. Sadly, there's no incentive for such.
You have brought up an important point. Morbidity vs. mortality research can indeed provide valuable insights. It's unfortunate that more incentive isn't available for this research, but discussions like this can help increase awareness. Thank you for your insightful comments! 🙏👏
@@yourinnerchildmatters it's more unfortunate that the limited studies have resulted in censorship, license revocation and worse. No profit in health, apparently.
I wonder if it's a bit more nuanced? Perhaps we need to ask ourselves more often ''do i want to?'. Here we have to be super honest with ourselves and that is not easy. We have to allow ourselves to just not want to, sometimes just because we don't want to. And sometimes it's ok to do it anyway but at least honour the feeling and let it move through us. Danger comes if we repeatedly do stuff for others when deep down we don't want to. Or we suppress that feeling of resentment. On the opposite side, if we want to, these acts of service or whatever become a joy and a healing energy.
"When you don't know how to say no, the body will say it for you"
This is what happened to me.. Since I was a child I was too much humble and polite, I couldn't say "no", I wanted to see everyone happy and not to offend anyone.
Now I have multiple sclerosis . It's been around 15 years. And I can say that only now that I can't move parts of my body, I say " no " . Oh my poor body! I wish I was wiser earlier so that I could protect you! Now I'm 37 years old. I can't work ( I'm/was a school teacher) and I don't even have a boyfriend.. that's the bad side.. But finally I have a stronger personality. I've learned it by the toughest way!
thank you so much for watching, bless you💖🌻💕
Thank you for taking the time to share your very personal and passionate story with us. It takes a lot of guts to talk about such things, and your willingness to do so is truly impressive. I want you to know that your journey shows your inner power and determination. You've clearly overcome many obstacles, both physically and emotionally, and your ability to find courage in hardship is impressive. Your newly discovered strength and ability to say "no" when necessary are important steps toward self-care and protecting oneself.
Multiple sclerosis is a tough disease, and I can only imagine the challenges you've experienced over the last 15 years. The effort you put in to protecting your body and creating your aspiring personality is admirable. If you don't have a boyfriend or are unable to work, keep in mind that your worth isn't defined by your relationship status or career. You are a one-of-a-kind and beautiful person with so much to offer, and your journey represents your character and inner strength. Please continue focusing on your own well-being, self-care, and self-love. Your story has touched many people's hearts, and you have definitely inspired others who are suffering similar difficulties.
Thank you for sharing your story again, and please know that you have a kind and understanding community here. We will be praying for you every step of the way on the journey you're on. Sending you love, strength, and positive vibes as you walk the path that lies ahead.
With deepest respect and empathy from Your Inner Child Matters Channel🙏✨💖
What a profound statement, I caught my breath when I read it. Thank you.
thank you🌻💕
Gabor is a modern day saint. Real, honest, direct. We all need this message.
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! ❤️💖
I have recommended it to others and will watch it again. Thanks for uploading. @@yourinnerchildmatters
I'm finally realizing that it’s okay to put myself first. Having endured an 11-year toxic marriage, I married my wonderful husband. He was a widower with two young children, who I helped raise. I also cared for my ailing father, and now assisting my elderly mother. I've always been the caregiver. My professional life also mirrored this, often skipping breaks and overworking to do a good job. The resultant chronic stress has now led to physical ailments like alopecia, chest pain, and migraines. While I’m now taking steps to prioritize my health, guilt is still a persistent companion. This video is a timely reminder that caring for myself is not selfish but essential.
It's definitely not selfish! You are your own person, who is there all the way. And your physical body is a beloved partner of yours, the one who never betrays. Of course it's fair to take care of your beloved self. ❤
Thank you for sharing such a personal and touching story with us. Your journey shows your strength and resilience, and it's clear that you've spent the most of your life caring for others. Acknowledging that it's alright to prioritize yourself can be a difficult and changing realization, especially after an 11-year toxic marriage and shouldering the responsibility of raising your husband's children and caring for your elderly parents. Your selflessness and commitment to your family and profession are admirable.It breaks my heart to hear that your continuous stress has taken such an impact on your health, appearing in physical diseases like alopecia, chest pain, and migraines. It's important that you're now putting your health first, and I admire you for doing so. Self-care is an important act of self-love and protection, not selfishness.
Guilt may interfere with this journey of self-discovery and self-care, but keep in mind that you deserve every moment of rest and every effort you make to heal. Your loved ones, including your husband, surely want you to be healthy and happy. By showing that self-care is not only acceptable but also necessary, you are setting a wonderful example for everyone around you.Your movie serves as a poignant reminder to all of us that we must nourish ourselves in the same way that we nurture others. Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging others to put their health first. You are not alone on this journey, and your bravery will inspire many others.
As you continue on this path of self-discovery and self-care, I wish you a lot of peace, good health, and happiness. 🙏✨💖
thank you so much for sharing your insights about this topic, much appreciated🙏✨💖
I appreciate the comments. It gives me validation that what I'm doing is the right thing for me and my family. ❤ life is quite the journey.
💖🌻💕🤗bless you 💖🌻💕
Saying no is good for you. Dismissing others expectations is good for you. Im glad this video reminded me of that before its too late. Really thank you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your comments! I'm happy to hear that this video spoke to you and reminded you of the importance of saying no and ignoring others' expectations when required. Remember, it's all about self-care and living life on your own terms. If you have any questions or wish to share more information, please contact us at any moment. I wish you the best of luck on the journey❤️💖
Then considered yourself lucky If the video served as reminded. I'm glad this video introduced me to this concept for the first time. ❤ blessings
Not just saying no but saying yes to things deep down you want to say yes to.
So very true ....self abandonment at its finest. Saying yes to yourself and no to others is a life changer ♥️🙏🏼 Thank you Gabor Mate for your insight.
So true! Thanks for watching, bless you 🙏✨💖
"You conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else.
The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself."❤
thanks for taking time to watch this content, bless you❤️💖🌺
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This part. I can accept it SO much better imagining it coming from myself, my loving self. It hurts so deeply to imagine that my family and friends couldn't be understanding or empathetic with me. When you finally listen to your instincts and trust yourself, then realize that you endured abuse for almost four decades from your parents....it's just too much to process. I like this version that the roadblocks came from me. And now I can let go of wanting the blocks to move. I need time to be away from all of them and their never-ending requests and manipulation disguised as concern for me. The roadblocks feel a lot safer as I type this, actually 😄 it's like they're my boundaries that I never consciously erected. I am under construction...when I'm done, I will remove the blocks and whomever I select will have access to me again, on my terms, for the length of time and in the areas of my life that I choose. I feel so used and discarded in my relationships. Now I can switch that to: I feel safe. I am protected. FINALLY 👏🏼😅✨ I literally went to a park earlier today for the 1st time (I was anxious and sad), and a section of it was blocked off for construction. I didn't even want to be there, but I stumbled upon it bec I kept driving when the trail I wanted to go to had no parking spots. 😭 And then I found this video several hrs later....Wow.
I’ve learned to be able to judiciously sprinkle a bit of “I don’t give a f*ck” on certain moments in my life. I think this has helped me keep sane while living inside an insane world.
Yes me too. To gain my mental health back I cut off ties with siblings, relatives, friends who expect too much.
I can't fucking believe it!
I'm just discovering/realizing
for the first time in my 44 years of life...
The rage and grief I feel...
THESE ARE MY SUPERPOWERS!
The fact that I can feel these at all,
this alone, is my superpower!
It is sacred it is divine it is feminine it is miraculous.
Most are too numb to know or to feel.
But I know. And I feel.
This has all been in preparation for my mission
as an alchemist.
I am a Lioness.
I am a Goddess.
I am a Radically Honest Biker Bitch!
Holy heaven I am mind-blown!
HALLEUJAH! AND PRAISE THE LORD!
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video and for sharing your insights! ✨💖🙏
I realised the folly of gaining acceptance of family, friends, peers by having many endeavors and being busy all the time. When I retired early to have a relaxed stress free lifestyle most of them distanced away from me. They asked is that all i'm doing as if my life was so boring and not worth living. But I eventually adjusted to this rejection and now by being true to myself I've never been happier and healthier.
I've seen this in my cousin. He's even worse than me in saying no to things he should say no to, and his immune system is so very weak. I used to have minor immunological issues too, back when I was worse at saying no too. But when I improved my ability to say no and said no to things I ought had to to begin with, the symptoms disappeared. No more runny nose, no more irritable throat so much.
Gabor Mate knows things. Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It’s amazing how learning to set boundaries and saying "no" can impact not just our emotional health but also our physical well-being. I’m glad to hear that you’ve seen such positive changes in yourself. Dr. Gabor Maté truly does share profound insights, and it’s inspiring to see how they resonate with so many of us. Wishing you and your cousin continued strength and health on this journey
We know how to say no as toddlers. For many of us, that's beaten out of us to placate parents, teachers, religious figures, and peers. So let's honor the toddlers no. It's a safety mechanism.
Thank you for sharing this important perspective. You are 100% right - as toddlers, we have a natural instinct to say 'no' in order to protect ourselves. This component of our early growth must be remembered and respected. Embracing and honoring our inner 'no' can help in setting up of healthy boundaries and the protection of our well-being. Your message reminds us of the importance of following our intuition and nourishing our true selves.🙏
So true . Often little children’s no is a fight back for people not noticing their emotional needs . Being so small their no is all they have .
How true Betty. Respect the toddler & the toddler within. Shout NO! Practice
Preach
That puts all the responsibility on self, when there are genetics and other factors that can influence diseases, one may be repressing negative emotions but not only! ..
While I love all of the content this man has released, he wouldn't be where he is without working hard, I think hard work AND looking after yourself is key. Healing from childhood trauma is hard work and that's why most people don't do it 🙏💜
Hello, everyone! If you're tired of putting other people's needs before your own, this video is a must-watch. Dr. Gabor Mate shares an uplifting message that will help you prioritize your own needs and achieve life balance. Trust me, it's worth your time to watch every moment of it. Let's help this message go viral by spreading it! 💕🙏✨💖
#selfcare, #motivation, #inspiration, #YourInnerChildMatters, #MentalHealth, #SelfCare, #WellBeing, #PersonalGrowth, #HolisticHealth, #WhenYourBodySaysNo
So insightful. Since I was ten my parents separated and I was given responsibility over my sisters and as adults my sisters lived with me on and off. I was a stay at home mom and I handled everything in the household all my husband did was work, eat,sleep, and I was exhausted and he wasn't supportive, he worked 12-16 hour days. I was diagnosed with a tumor on my right kidney and it was an eye opener and for the first time in my life I prioritized myself and I am daily making decisions for better health all around. I don't take anymore than I can handle and I take time to relax and enjoy my life.
Hello there! Thank you for sharing your experience. Your determination and bravery truly shine through. It's inspiring to see how you prioritized your well-being after experiencing such difficulties. Taking time for yourself is important, and it's wonderful to hear that you're making health-related decisions. Remember, you deserve to take care of yourself and be happy. I wish you all the best on your journey to a healthier and more fulfilling life!💖🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks for your content and kind encouragement 💜😌💛
These are amazing truths, but only illness makes most of us take these seriously. Thank you for sharing! ❤
Thank you very much for your kind words! You are completely right that sometimes it takes disease to remind us of life's most beautiful realities. I wish you happiness and good health. ❤️
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A Godly message to pay attention to our inner child. Thank you very much, expecting more such messages 👍
Thank you so much for watching and taking the time to engaged about our inner child. Your words of support and gratitude mean everything to me. It touches my heart to know that this resonated with you. Our inner child is such an important aspect of who we are that we must nurture and pay attention to it. I'm glad for the opportunity to share these messages, and happy to hear that you're looking forward to more.
Your encouragement inspires me to create content that touches both the soul and the heart. Please let me know if you have any specific subjects or questions you'd like me to cover in future videos. We can continue this journey of self-discovery and healing together. Thank you for your nice thoughts and support once again. Sending you a lot of love and encouragement on your journey to reconnect with your inner child. 👍😊
The problem is that we live in a world in which society is obsessed with only caring about others and ignoring your needs, passions and life for the sake of people that don't give a dime on you.
I completely understand your point of view. It can be really difficult to feel as if you are constantly obligated to prioritize others over yourself. It's important to achieve a balance between caring for others and listening to your own needs and passion. It's also okay to place importance on self-care and self-love. You are deserving of happiness and fulfillment in your life. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us💖🌻💕
@@yourinnerchildmatters You're welcome!
@@yourinnerchildmatterspeople who are not in contact with their sensitivity, may think we have to put others first. But no, nothing can be further from the truth! The more in tune with our essence we are, the more sensitive and so, inevitably more empathic we are! It's only when we deeply know ourselves, we're truly able to offer a high quality support . Otherwise it's just lame, pretentious and forced. All the most beautiful things come from an open heart , and not from the closed mind. Thank you for important videos! ❤
Thank you very much for sharing your inspired viewpoint! You are completely right: real empathy and support come from acknowledging and accepting our own sensitivities. Your comment is an important reminder that the keys to lasting interactions and support are authenticity and an open heart. Continue to spread this wisdom! ❤️
Totally agree.
My illness has lasted 35 years housebound and bedbound and I’ve turned myself around since may of this year… this so so so so profound and I thank you greatly for me choosing to listen to this this morning!!! I am in tears of realisation…. I have just done an interview with my breath coach about my transformation and it has gone up on you tube…. I’ve had a couple of responses and am blown away! So yes maybe the 35 years had to happen to bring me to the joy I am experiencing now!!!!! Thank you again Diane
thank you for sharing your experience with us. Your journey is truly inspiring, and your strength shines through your words.Wishing you continued joy and success on your journey ahead💖🌻💕🤗💟
THnk you for taking the time to reply.. I will continue with my healing journey xx@@yourinnerchildmatters
That’s fantastic. 💪🏻
Gabor Mate clearly did alot and understands caring, but we have to look after ourselves first while remaining mindful of others feelings always. I always say if you need to sob, then sob.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! You are completely right; self-care is key, and we must prioritize our well-being. Gabor Mate's insightful observations remind us of the value of self-compassion. We're here if you ever need a safe environment to express yourself or simply have a conversation. Remember, it's alright to express your feelings when necessary. Take care💕🤗
me. I put everyone before myself. Always have. Thanks for helping me see it is a trauma response.!
Thank you very much for sharing this insights with us. Understanding and acknowledging when our behavior is influenced by past experiences requires a great deal of courage. Remember that the first step in healing and self-care is self-awareness. You, too, deserve to be loved and cared for. 💕 Take the time to pamper yourself as well.💫💕🙏
thank you.@@yourinnerchildmatters
I was diagnosed with breast cancer, thanks to the team of amazing doctors and my mindset I’m cancer free. I cannot go back to work yet, as a matter of fact, the psychologist doesn’t allow me to go back to the company I worked for. We’re two years further and it is only now that I have moments that I’m not thinking about going back (which is impossible, I have a severe burn out on top of). I’m grateful for what happened. I finally allowed myself to rest. And take myself first.
Love your new book…..my husband read it three times over the course of three months when we were in Mexico on holidays…..changed our world…..I’m reading it now…..thank you 🙏😌
The fact is not knowing when to stop; not knowing your limits. I guess it happens more to extroverted people who have a lot of energy so they can actually pull off load for two families. My dad was an introvert and he carried on his shoulders at least 6 people. I realize it now. My lesson is learn to ask people for help. It’s also about learning to say no to people and telling them you have your limitations. Even then you might have a sense of guilt. So prioritizing yourself is a risky thing too. Everything in moderation. Good luck
Absolutely, thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's true that finding a balance between helping others and taking care of yourself can be tough. Learning to ask for help and set boundaries is a valuable life lesson for all of us. Your thoughts remind us that taking care of ourselves is just as important as helping others. I wish you and everyone who is watching a healthy and fulfilling journey ahead.💕🙏✨💖
I have decided I don’t care about anyone’s disappointment, including my own, by not being able to find a life partner to have children with in my youthful years. I have put a lot of work. It’s ok.
Thank you for sharing your honest feelings with us. It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge and embrace your own journey, regardless of societal expectations. Your self-awareness is truly inspiring, and your worth isn't defined by anyone else's expectations. We support you in your choices and celebrate your self-love and acceptance. Sending you all the positive vibes on your unique path💫💕🙏✨💖
YOU!!!, my friend saved many lives with this video!!!!
THANK YOU
You are welcome!, thank you so so much for your time watching our video, much appreciated🙏✨💖
It's truly eye-opening to hear about how our compulsion to put others' needs before our own can have such a significant impact on our health. It's a wake-up call to reconsider our priorities and learn to say no when necessary. This video has given me a lot to think about, and I appreciate the insights it provides. Thank you for sharing this valuable perspective. 🙏💭
Yes when I was recovering from cancer and a mild stroke I was at the most peace and my mild was at rest. I was still operating like my normal self but my mind took over to protect me and only me.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your great adventure with us. It's incredibly amazing to hear how you found peace and strength in the midst of hardship. Your courage is truly inspiring, and your story reminds us of the greatness of the human spirit. We're glad to hear you're feeling better. Please keep taking care of yourself, and know that your story has touched many of us. Sending you all my best wishes and positive vibes on your ongoing journey. 💪🌟🌟
I hear this time and time again from people who've lost someone to cancer - "I just don't get it, it's not fair, they were just the NICEST PERSON WHO WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR ANYONE." And I think...well yep, there we go.
I appreciate you, Dr. Maté, providing this educational, and enlightening video. I've heard that those who are in charge of their lives have excellent histories of leading healthy lives, but those who lack control over their lives have the worst records of unhealthy lives.❤
Thank you so much for your nice comments and for taking the time to watch the video! You've mentioned a really important part of human well-being. Having a sense of control and agency in our life can positively impact our overall health and happiness. It serves as a reminder for us all of the need for empowerment and balance. ❤️
This advice is very helpful, except for the bit that amounts to "everything happens for a reason" narrative towards the end. While I agree that how we react to things and perceive situations is our responsibility, the notion that horrible things happen because its orchestrated can be very triggering and hurtful to people trying to heal from unimaginable loss. I say this because my 3 year old niece was killed in a car accident and my brother was handicapped from it but survived. Shortly afterwards I was having a very hard time with grief and reached out for help. The nurse at a psychiatric office abruptly told me "well, you know, everything happens for a reason." And it absolutely screwed up my healing for YEARS. Things happen...horrible things because that's the nature of life. How we react is the only thing within our control. I share all this because I know it's common practice to quiet someone who is sharing a deep hurt with this common quote/sentiment and it's damaging. Trauma needs a place to flow and escape the body.
I'd want to begin expressing my deepest condolences for the painful loss you and your family have suffered. Losing your 3-year-old niece in a car accident and leaving your brother disabled is a heartbreaking experience that no one should ever have to go through. Thank you for sharing your experience and thoughts on the "everything happens for a reason". Your comment is really valid, and I appreciate you addressing the potential harm of using such phrases during times of severe loss and trauma. It's important to understand that life may be truly random, and some situations are just painful without any higher purpose or reason. The pain and suffering caused by these traumatic experience are very real, and it is our responsibility as caring people to provide assistance and empathy rather than try to justify such painful loss.
I'm so sorry to hear that when you reached out for support, you received a dismissive and hurtful response. Trauma is clearly a complex and deeply personal experience, and everyone deals with it differently. Your insight about trauma needing a space to flow and depart the body is 100% correct, and I hope that after your difficult journey, you've gotten the help and healing you deserve.
Your point of view serves as an important reminder to be mindful of the words we choose when we try to comfort someone in pain. Thank you for sharing your story; I hope it helps others appreciate the value of empathy and understanding during times of grief and trauma. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖🌻💕🤗
@yourinnerchildmatters What a beautifully thought-out reply. Thank you so much for your compassion. ❤️🩹🙏
I have found that healing doesn't have a "finish line," but I've done loads of work and am able to find healthy coping strategies when life throws its curve balls. 😊
@@valbirkner8131 Your experience and resilience are truly inspirational! 🌟 It's wonderful knowing how you've accepted healing as an ongoing journey. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and positivity with us. 🙏💕 Sending you again lots of love and positivity on your path. ❤🩹🌟take care always, and bless you 🙏
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Because of going for counseling, I have new tools to cope with life.❤
Thank you for taking the time to share your experience with us! It's wonderful to hear that you're actively working on your mental health and have discovered new coping mechanisms. Remember that you are not alone on this journey, and your bravery is impressive. Keep on shining! ❤️
Love this new Gabor book....I highly recommend it to all of us! So glad we live on this planet at this time of fearless humans to speak so profoundly on the truths of our human behavior...Bravo Gabor and your beautiful family who surround you!
thank you so much for your kind words.Bless you🙏✨💖
Which book
Makes so much sense as you are not living your authentic self. Which is the highest frequency
I want to start living my life for me
thank you for sharing this. It takes great bravery to begin living life for yourself, and I admire you for taking that step. Remember that your happiness and well-being are the most important factors., and you are deserving of the right to live your life on the way you choose. Best wishes on this great journey of self-discovery and self-love🌟 💫💕🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you
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Good 👍 for You ❤
Priorities yourself!🙏🏾💝👌🏾
100% makes sense, for a good part of my more recent life and some of my youth, I have been told I am selfish by some people...I guess being born with a disability forced me into survival mode from a very early age. I have self taught myself to prioritize my "needs". I am only doing what my reality is by looking out for my best interest. I have had very minimal "other" health issues for most people my age. I have discovered that taking time out for one's selfcare is negotiable, start today if you are not currently doing this.
To be completely superficial for a moment....brilliant schmillant. Gaad. That voice. Youza❤ whoever first coined the phrase "a voice as smooth as butter" probably just returned from a session.
It happened to me recently
My rational side told me to distance myself a lot I mean a lot of times. Fear, loneliness and insecurities made me stay in this friendship
My tooth gums started to swallow and get inflammation, my skin started to develop some conditions every time I was around this friend of mine
Like a signal
This is serious, really serious but thanks God it can be avoided
Thank you so much for taking the time to tell us about your experience. Acknowledging when a situation is unhealthy for us and making the required changes takes a lot of bravery. Your health should always come first, and it's encouraging to see how you prioritize it. If anyone else is going through a similar experience, your story could serve as an inspiration of hope. I wish you the best of luck on your journey to a happy and healthier life💖🌻💕🤗
If you don’t have the fullness in Father, you might fall any time.
If you don’t know the Father like Jesus, you’re cursed
Our lives have been reduced to work, trying to get enough to have any kind of life.
There's no time, no room for pursuits of joy.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. It's deeply sad how work pressures can consume our life. Remember to take time for yourself in order to find a balance between work and pleasure. Your point of view speaks to many of us, and it serves as a reminder to prioritize what truly matters💕🙏✨💖
I honestly believe this is what is currently happening to me. I've ask countless doctors to allow me to take time off work for stress but they always tell that I won't get approved. Even though my blood work shows inflammation. They tell I'm to young, or its just in your head you will grt over it. "Here's a pill". I've tried prioritize myself but it is difficult when you have responsibilities such as kids, debt, bills.
I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a difficult time. It can be very frustrating to seek help and understanding yet not receive the support that is needed. Your situation is valid, and it's clear that you're making an effort to prioritize your well-being despite the difficulties you're facing. Remember that you are not alone in this, and it is important that you continue to advocate for yourself. I hope things improve for you soon and that you find the help and comfort you deserve. Your health is important, and taking steps to prioritize it is a brave and necessary journey. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and virtual hugs,💖
Please do what you can to lower your inflammation. Listen to your body, I wish I had. I started getting sick at 18- I am 35 and my body is falling apart. It happened slowly at first and in the last 2 months I went from already struggling to pain in every bone in my body. I am having new very scary symptoms in my body.
This is not to be alarmist, inflammation being found is a very real warning sign. I might have rheumatoid arthritis or cancer.
Get more sleep. It's very important.
Thank you, Dr. Gabor Mate.
thank you so much for watching 💖 💖 💖
The 1st decade of programming by our parents/elders have alot to do with how we are shaped as adults. So, if I'm a people pleasers it's because I was taught to obey the masters, serve their purpose and theirs & put myself at the very last because thats what good daughters, sisters and aunts do. All of us could stop this unconscious self sabotage if only we could realize & address intergenerational negative habits & ongoing passed down trauma. I have RA & I'm constantly told by people whom I've loved dearly & supported immensely lifelong who deliberately hijacked my life from day, all what ive been through has nothing to do with my condition rather God is punishing me for my sins or testing my faith in Him. I'm so glad this angel is giving people educated insight into what's happening to them & opening eyes to the toxicity they are surrounded by.
Thank you for sharing this inspirational message! God bless you, Dr. Gabor Mate!
Thank you very much for your kind words! Your support meant everything to me. May you be blessed with positivity and inspiration every step of your journey. 🙏✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters You're welcome! 🙂
say No if not that important. say Yes if it gives you Joy wholeheartedly.
thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic, bless you🙏✨💖
Thank you Gabor
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏
Thank you for the reality check! I’ve been thinking that I’ve been failing ….maybe I just have to listen to alarm going off!
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Exactly what I needed to hear. If it's not Devine time for this to come into my life idk what else I'd be calling it.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! It's wonderful how the appropriate message may appear in our life exactly when we need it the most. Trust the time, and may your newfound wisdom help you on your way. Sending you positive vibes 🌟
THIS IS SUCH IMPORTANT WORK!!!
I am mindful enough to know something in me was causing dis-ease in my body, and truly believe we can heal ourselves, recently dealing with inflammation, with no diagnosis root cause. Frustration in that Drs are always quick to throw medicine…Is it possible to reverse what’s going on with the renewing of my mind?!
Hey ladies, if you care for someone who take you for granted, leave. Living alone is better with someone who deplete your life energy.
I needed this, I think I just need to practice saying "no" to my own thoughts more often
Start small and build up to the bigger no's. When you feel guilt, tell yourself, "That's the old me, we're working on the new me!". It helps, but it takes time. Be patient with yourself.
thank you so much for sharing this, much appreciated. Bless you 💕🙏✨
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! Learning to say 'no' to our own thoughts may be a valuable self-care and mindfulness practice. You are not alone on this journey, and it is okay to prioritize your own well-being. Continue to practice, and remember that it is a process. We'll be here for you every step of the way! 💪💕
@@yourinnerchildmatters ❤️ 🤗
Put yourself first.
Thank you for your kind words and advice! I hope you're taking care of yourself too! 💕 🙏
This is me! I really NEEDED to hear this again today. Thank you, Dr. Mate 🙏 🤲
Glad it was helpful! thank you very much for watching, hope you are okay!
Thank you Dr. Mate - I really needed to hear this! Thank you so much!
KINDNESS EMPATHY....SPRINKLED WITH RUTHLESSNESS ....TO THE GATES OF HELL N BACK TO LEARN YOUR NUMBER 1 A HARSH HARSH LESSON ....NEVER TO BE REPEATED ...SELF LOVE & CARE ALWAYS...
Check out disorganized attachment style, this is where the child in the first few years of life is scared of their primary caregiver. They found most babies in the clinical trial who had this attachment style had become caretakers of their parent by the age of six, it was their way of trying to take control and make things safe with their parent. So caregiving often has fear and trauma underlying it, so as well as ignoring ones own boundaries and limitations, there is also huge stress on the nervous system from the early years of life.
Thankyou ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for watching!
Such an amazing explanation Dr Maté❤
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your generosity and for taking the time watching the video! ✨💖🙏
When i was diagnosed with melanoma i felt bad for my family and friends reaction and their feelings and how sick i was during immunotherapy
Self compassion is uncommon
Wow Gabor totally relate to the Good Girl syndrome in me set up huge expectations running away from home because I had no choices marriages where I had no choices failing because I married the wrong guy coming from still that child in me still running away .... from the unhappiness suppression to not feel when feeling been my nature state I ve recognised 😮 here yet I keep getting going after what I dont want rather than what I do want !! In expression of self because my inner been polarising against myself for being that good girl with expectations of pleasing others against my new self saying No now that's making me happier and healthier seeing this validated here in this post Gabor understanding my own patterning within me about this wow light bulb moment thank u ❤❤🎉😢 of change in changing this program switch ⚡🌟😊 thank u
If you don’t have the fullness in Father, you might lose happiness any time.
If you don’t know the Father like Jesus, you’re cursed
I will keep clapping for others until uts my turn 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Thank you Gabor❤❤❤❤
Thank you...i needed to hear this today...i am going through this now....i must say no...❤
Thank you for expressing your comments, and I'm happy to hear that this resonated with you. Remember that it is okay to say NO when you need to prioritize yourself. Sending you all the love and strength you need ❤️
Great video! Thank you ❤
You are so welcome💖🌻💕
Thak you for sharing :) my hope is that more people connect thwir emotions to their body and care for themselves as soon as they notice what they need.
this makes me think of my mom. she had alot of qualities like this and died of cancer. she spent her life putting herself last and was very much disconnected with her feelings.
when she told me about her cancer diagnosis she actually apologized to me when I started to cry. I couldn't believe it in the moment but she was even thinking about me and my feelings. now that I'm a mom I understand more why she felt that way, wanting to protect.
I'm very touched by your comment, and I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. It sounds like she was an very selfless and caring person, putting others before herself, even in the face of such a challenging diagnosis. It's clear that her love for you was immense. As a mom now, you carry on her legacy of love and protection. If you ever want to share more about her or your experiences, I'm here to listen, and this community is here for you too. Wishing you strength and warmth as you navigate the complexities of motherhood and sending heartfelt thoughts to you and your mom's memory. 💕
When i was doing chemo, a male nurse would tell me I should go to the office instead of working from home. I don't know why he thinks he knows better than a person actually going through this ordeal. After the first time, he said that, for subsequent chemos, I made sure to cut off the conversation after the med questions before he gets to that "advice" by popping on my noise cancelling headphones.
Thank you for sharing your personal story during such a difficult time. I'm sorry to hear you had to go through chemotherapy while dealing with inappropriate advise from a male nurse. Your frustration and confusion are completely normal. When someone gives unsolicited advise without completely understanding what you're going through, it may be very disappointing. Nobody knows your unique situation better than you, and you are the expert on your own journey. It's admirable that you used noise-cancelling headphones to protect your emotional well-being during those times. Taking control of our environment and focusing on self-care can sometimes be the greatest way to deal with such situations.
Your story is an excellent reminder of the value of empathy and sensitivity in healthcare. Everyone's journey is different and healthcare providers should always strive to listen, understand, and support their patients without making judgment. I hope that sharing your story here raises awareness about the importance of compassion and empathy in healthcare settings. You are not alone in dealing with these difficulties, and your bravery in sharing your story can make a difference in the lives of others who may be in similar situations.
My best wishes for continuing strength and resilience on your journey. Thank you for sharing again, and keep in mind that your voice matters🌻💕🤗💟
@@coolnamebroShe was referring to the male nurse's inappropriate advice not Gabor's btw.
What I've observed is that many struggle with receptivity to the truth. Honesty often faces resistance, as expressing oneself openly is not universally embraced or comprehended.
Thank you so much for uploading this video, I said it from the heart. Wish you he best.
You are so kind ❤️💖
great video although now I may resent myself for burning out my mom. she fought cancer twice single mom. I could've made life easier for her. I did try my best though and praised her always.
Cautionary tale for others... you never know...
How many people have the luxury of saying No to their responsibilities- that are often imposed on them and not their choice.
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I admire your heart, wisdom and capacity to share and teach us..I hope one day you can come to AK and we can work together..! Helping the homeless community here,we have our native community in need of your guidance and humanity..And also OTHERS dealing with addictions..
I do work with energy healing, and will take hypnosis therapy classes in a near future,to go deeply and blend with Reiki, sound therapy (tuning forks) psychic connections and art therapy..! We are stronger when we work together and share our pain, experiences and spiritual journeys..! I also have more healing to do for myself..🌸🙏💚🥺😔💟💠❤️💖🌺
Thank you very much for your thoughtful and kind message. It's wonderful to hear about your dedication to serving your community, particularly the homeless and indigenous peoples, as well as those struggling with addiction. It is admirable that you are committed to energy healing, hypnosis therapy, Reiki, sound therapy, psychic connections, and art therapy. These comprehensive techniques have the potential to significantly improve people's lives. Your willingness to share your personal journey and experiences shows your compassion and strength. Working together and supporting one another on our spiritual journeys is a highly effective approach for creating positive change in the world. Remember that healing is an ongoing process, and you are already having an impact on things. 🌸🙏💚 Your story is filled with compassion and brightness, and I'm sure it will it will touch many lives.❤️💖🌺
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for be part of that eternal healing as well..
Oneness is our real essence and healing is a spiritual choice!
When we can transform pain into purpose,we create a ripple effect to spread that cosmic light..
I don't see karma as a punishment! I see Karma as doors of infinite possibilities,to allow us to expand to shift,to evolve,to growth,to relearn,to share,to remember,to rediscover,etc.
Doing energy healing, allows me to sw things from many angles..
Also can help me tapping into "hidden gifts",to give a spiritual guidance in some cases or redirect the focus with purpose and clear intentions..Is much more easy to work with kids in some instances, they are more pure and connecting easy through the Spirit World versus adults..Anyway I do what I can,when a door is open and a heart is ready to receive..
Have a blessing healing journey,for the rest of your life..
Light and love always in your path .🙏🌺💚💠
"what you love about that person is also what kills him."
thanks for watching and sharing your words of wisdom. bless you 🙏✨💖
Hannibal ?
Thanks Dr! ❤
This is the body trying to tell her to protect herself, cos the body isn’t designed to protect others except your kids, so when you put someone before yourself your body will keep on telling you to put yourself first (by getting anxiety your body talks to you) then your body goes into survival cos you’re putting someone before yourself. Because you by default put people before yourself your body will stay in survival mode producing stress hormones, until it develops cancer or other issues. This is your body talking to you. Telling you to stop putting someone before yourself by feeling anxiety. It’s telling you stop harming yourself. Then you must learn to regulate your nervous system with breathing and exercise etc. And also learn to listen to your body. To cease a behaviour when you get anxiety and do some thing that is pleasing to you. Your body will also protect yourself against you saying someone that doesn’t serve you.
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts on this important subject. You've clearly put a lot of thought into understanding the messages our bodies tell us when we prioritize others before ourselves. Taking care of our health is important, and it is important to listen to our bodies when they communicate with us through anxiety or other signs. Learning to balance care for ourselves and others is a process, and your insights into regulating the nervous system through practices like breathing and exercise are priceless. Furthermore, self-care and self-preservation are important parts of a healthy lifestyle.
Thank you for bringing light on this part of our well-being, and I appreciate your message's emphasis on self-awareness and self-care. 🙏💕
The best thing happened to me was an accident on a quad while i broke my spine during in 2016... it started a big change in my life. 🎉
enough is enough!
indeed 💕🙏✨💖
What he described is a person who lacked self-love and spiritually deficient. I am a devoted Christian. We are spiritually guided to prioritize our thoughts and, therefore, we naturally know who we are, love ourselves, and think right. The fastest fix if you have this problem he described, you can ask God to help you become independent from all limitations and think right.
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"The suppression of how you feel is a major risk factor for illness"
This is a nice silver lining after having had yet another humiliating public meltdown.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your points of view. It takes a lot of courage to open up about personal situations, and I admire your bravery. Remember that we all have bad days, and you are not alone in dealing with difficulties. Your comment shows the need of acknowledging our feelings. This community is here for you if you ever need to talk or need support.💕🤗
Wonderful!🙏🙏
Thanks for listening
Thank you so much 🎩🙏🤗
thank you so much too for watching 💕🙏✨💖
I loved this video thank you
I get it. And it seems impossible. I have recently tried to create habits "for me," and it seems like every time things start to ramp up (moving towards level 1), something happens that corroborates my story that I don't matter - then I crash and things come to a stop again. I'm getting desperate to get past this initial stage. Do you have any tips on how to get past the start?
I appreciate you taking the time to share your experience. Starting new habits can be difficult, especially when setbacks support negative thoughts. Break down your goals, celebrate small achievements, be kind with yourself when you fail, prioritize consistency over perfection, and seek help from someone you trust. Remember that you matter. Take it one step at a time. ❤️💖
I have cancer, but I have been taking good care of myself. I am not like Gabor discribes and i have been expressing my feelings always.
I think it's one factor
There are others, like environmental toxins, pesticides, genetics and many more...
Amazing work 😇
Thank you so much 💫
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind words! 😇💫 Your support means a lot to me, and I am truly greatful for it. I'll keep going to work hard to bring you more wonderful content. Stay tuned!🙏
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for the wonderful videos you made for us. I am also Hungarian, so he is a very inspiring person in my life. I am very proud of him. 🫶🏻💫
The title is how to prioritize yourself and the answer to it is 1/5th of the speech. And just for statistics, I'd like to know what is the difference in survival of patients who didn't stop their lives and still worried about others vs patients who did stop and prioritize themselves?
Good that is texted, the video, i understand better
thank you for watching 💖🌻💕🤗
Thanks.
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Massive OUCH ! But worth the pain . THANK YOU ! I always look for your videos , you never disappoint . Big hugs coming your way , and a few small wet kisses. XoXo.
Thank you very much for your lovely words! I truly appreciate your support, and am happy to hear that the content is worthwhile. Big hugs right back! 💖🌻💕🤗
I just can’t watch and listen to this.
I need to. But I can't.
I'm already in PAIN!
I'm very sorry to hear you're feeling this way, and I appreciate your honesty in expressing your feelings with us. It's totally okay to take a break if a video or piece of content is giving you pain or discomfort. Your well-being is most important, and I appreciate your decision to prioritize it. If you have any specific questions or want to talk about your thoughts, please know that there are people who care and are willing to listen including me. You are not alone in this, and I wish you the help and comfort you need. Take care of yourself. Sending you a big hugs 💕🤗
@@irinasolomina1800That's cruel to say. A true Christian would wish her healing regardless & without trying to force a conversion.
@@irinasolomina1800 Why do you need to sacrifice Jesus to be healed. Sacrificing is wrong, whether of yourself or someone to gain advantage thru a henius act perpetrated on someone, especially someone as good as Jesus. The only proper response is to hold the perpetrators (Roman Empire) accountable not to seek to profit of his torture/déáthh.
Jesus Said..”Love and Bless your enemies.” To do anything else is to block Gods Love from yourself. 😊❤
thank you💖🌻💕🤗
I have RA and this is all true.
Love you
Natural medicine philosophy, suggest the breasts ( organs of nurturing) couple with breast pathology equals over caring of others. Thanks for your video, allopathic validation is moving along wiyh natural medicine philosophy 🙏💗
Great catch! Seems like such an obvious connection between breasts/nurturing & taking care of others in other ways now that you pointed it out
The medical & insurance systems in this country are major factors for illness, also the lack of spousal support.
thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this topic 💖🌻💕
Th only spouse you can rely on is your heavenly spouse Jesus Christ. If you seek protection or comfort in other place - you’re doomed.
Wow really
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Where's the original video from? You should mention where this is from so we can watch it full and without distracting music.
Always profound, another thing to consider is the challenge to the growing immune system. A careful, unbiased study of morbidity vs mortality should be done. Sadly, there's no incentive for such.
You have brought up an important point. Morbidity vs. mortality research can indeed provide valuable insights. It's unfortunate that more incentive isn't available for this research, but discussions like this can help increase awareness. Thank you for your insightful comments! 🙏👏
@@yourinnerchildmatters it's more unfortunate that the limited studies have resulted in censorship, license revocation and worse. No profit in health, apparently.
I wonder if it's a bit more nuanced? Perhaps we need to ask ourselves more often ''do i want to?'.
Here we have to be super honest with ourselves and that is not easy. We have to allow ourselves to just not want to, sometimes just because we don't want to. And sometimes it's ok to do it anyway but at least honour the feeling and let it move through us.
Danger comes if we repeatedly do stuff for others when deep down we don't want to. Or we suppress that feeling of resentment.
On the opposite side, if we want to, these acts of service or whatever become a joy and a healing energy.