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@Jason M Wow sounds like you are well rid of her. It's a shame that the ugly natures and disgusting characters of women like this are usually not reflected in their physical looks.
@Jason M A truly very sad to hear of your story, Jason! I could not imagine the frustration, shock, humiliation, bewilderment, and anger, and confusion about being a nice, decent man. Reading about your story has shocked me, and gave me more realization.
@Jason M Sorry to hear this man. You know what the root problem was? 2 things. 1: You didnt work on yourself to keep your SMV high. 2: Hypergamy. You started earning less than her. You very rarely see plumbers or never see garbage collectors marrying female high earning doctors. Ask yourself why is that?
@Entrepreneursincars dude I’ve watch a lot of your videos and basically it’s all negative like the way you sound it’s like no one can ever get married or trust women at all and I agree with most of your stuff at least 98% of it but who cares about marriage who cares what a woman thinks about you speaking for myself or any other guy who cares if you don’t have the ambition who cares if you’re not going for excellence who cares what she thinks there’s the door she can leave any day you thinkA man a real man is going to worry about what a woman thinks if she leaves him or not because he’s not striving for excellence all the time life is too short and too hard to try to please some dumb ass bitch in my opinion that’s how I feel about this video
The amount of pain you feel at the end of a relationship is directly proportional to the amount you have compromised your terms, mission, and standards
When I was in my early 20s a girlfriend let me saying I was too nice. Life moved on and she ended up in some abusive unsuccessful relationships including kids. She has spent years trying to contact me through other people including my family. I totally ignored her I am still nice, but I am wiser.
It's funny how we get blamed for not taking a chance with a girl who didn't give us that chance. Yet. They never ask the question. Where was the girl when I was too nice? You didn't want a guy for being nice. And when he doesn't want you in the end because you turned him down or he lost attraction. He's all of a sudden the asshole? Women always act like it's a 1 way bike lane.
@Octavian I disagree, you know in today’s world, we see bad as good and good as bad. It’s months later that people realize what they have lost but when they try to get it back, it might be too late then. Appreciate people, been nice don’t mean that they are fake
I owned two homes, a business,and helped raise four successful kids. She still left,and flat out would tell you’why should I stay,when I can take half,and do what I want? The system is broken! Stay single boys!
@LingoMaster Agree and Disagree, The Redpill is not there to give any man any guarantee bro, It is just simply tools for men to navigate relationships with women. Understand that he isn't saying chasing excellence won't guarantee her staying around.
@LingoMaster Ronaldo and DiCaprio are successful, they 'chased excellence' and have 'OPTIONS'. that's Rich's message. So if the woman leaves you... *You're not the guy crying with nothing on the sidewalk. Peace.
Here's the thing: Women will NEVER be satisfied. I recently had a Doctor's wife checking me out because she was obviously bored with him. I make a fraction of what he does. Not saying she would ever leave him, but no matter who you are, your wife is gonna get bored and possibly cheat. Look at celebrities like Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp. Keeping a woman is just never ending maintenance.
Bang on! A good analogy is Rich and his cars. He has had many great cars over the years. Look at his finely tuned Dinan M5.., but he got bored and now has a R8, check that bored again, now 720s.... Make sense??
It really does seem like a good percentage of women will never feel satisfied, no matter what have going for them. Simply comes down to being shallow if you ask me.
I helped her financially while she finished school. I was there when she needed me because her friends screwed her over. Then as soon as my business starts to tank and I go through a bad time of my life, shes out the door and getting with her boss. 5 years with someone means nothing to women.
@mango puppet channel - These are the saddest stories, man. I had a friend who looked after a single mom and her 2 children for a few years. When he lost his businesses and connections, she dumped him. He would say one heartbreaking thing about this: That when you look after and bring up someone's kids, and they get taken from you, it feels like you lost your own kids.
Absolutely true. 31. Married for 2 years... active duty navy, I became disabled and depressed....well she spent 3 weeks back in her home town sleeping with her ex from 4years ago. Textbook. Now back to lifting as much as my broken hip allows and back into my career and investments.
My story: I got in a relationship with my current ex at 15, got married at 20 and she left me at 28. I was never taught self worth, confidence or how to be a man. We were best friends and I told her EVERY insecurity I ever had from the start, which led to her eventually loosing any interest in me, she felt more of a care taker. I have learned more in one year than the rest of my life. We have two kids, and I hate that they will grow up with parents that are separated, but I'll be damned if I'm going to let my past hold me back. I continue to grow every day and have so many goals to achieve. Thank you for teaching that we are not to define ourselves by our relationships but to always reach for achievements and create a high sense of self worth. The struggle has been real but ilI will ultimately come out of this a stronger, more stable minded man. ✌️🤙
Very true Jacob. The interesting part is that women will always maintain that they "want you to open up to them." Bullshit. Don't do it. There's a difference between good communication and appearing weak. Women want to feel safe and protected around you. Stay strong brother, it's far from over for you. You're a young man with the world in front of you. Time to focus on YOU bro. Give those kids a strong, confident, and successful man.
I'm 58 and married a woman with 3 kids 10 yrs ago. I make 3x what my wife makes. I broke my neck early into the marriage. That's when my marriage went down hill. I'm doing well now but it was a struggle to rehab. I took good care of her with many surgeries she had but when it came time for her to take care of me, she lost respect for me. I've worked at a power plant for almost 40 years with excellent pay and benefits and have always provided for her and her kids. I put my life on hold for her and her kids. That was a huge mistake! I repair, sell and test fly ultralight airplanes. I am pulling the plug on this lopsided marriage and going back to my love of flight. I have many friends and relatives who adore me and I have a great dog. I'm looking forward to regaining my old life I had before I met this woman and her brood of brats!
She wanted a workhorse and she found one , now she is done with you and if she is able she will move on to the next one, or maybe now she is ready for true love with someone who treats her like shit.
You are 1000% right. I do however warn men never take back a woman who tries to re-enter your life. After she finds out that you have accomplished the goals you have been pursuing, and are now financially secure.
Exactly. Why should I take her back if she never saw any potential in me? Don't accept being someone's second choice! We should all have enough self respect to not let this happen.
I was an Ace but got comfy. She left me, Hypergamy is real. 6 months later I was an Ace again, she tried to come back. Just validated Hypergamy for me.
As a 25 year old guy that just got out of a relationship that spanned years, this man is preaching. Thank God for this positive reinforcement I needed to hear. Never let another person dictate your future, and never let another person dictate your worth
You are also responsible for that woman in your life, or the one entering it. Make sure she's not an undedicated distraction of a woman. Even if you achieve greatthings while with this person, her not caring about what you had to go through to be successful. They will only drain you dry, she is there for the fun times only..
Past woman: "I want a good man!" Today's woman: "I want a better man!" Tomorrow's woman: "Where are all the good men?" Far tomorrow's woman: "Wish I had a decent man!"
Truth. Women absolutely look for reasons Not to like a man they're dating. 9/10 this highly selective woman brings little to the potential relationship, but thinks she's desirable because 5 - 50+ horny guys are messaging her on tinder, etc. everyday. Ex: I got rejected by a new girl I started dating post my ex. She was into me for a few weeks, then got flaky, then rejected me. I'm pretty sure it was she just got bored w/ me & was still very active on tinder. Never become Complacent in life or too comfortable w/ any 1 woman.
Mike TeeVee Within 5 years, this prophetic word will be fulfilled: Isaiah 4:1 New International Version (NIV) In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say, “We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name. Take away our disgrace!”
I was chatting with a female friend last summer about dating (not interested in her at all). She said that she and some of our shared female friends were "intimidated" by me and would not date me (not that I am interested in any of them). When I asked for more info on this her answer was, "You are fit and in shape, smart and educated, successful in your career, and very goal focused. It is very intimidating to us." I then asked her what any women, including her, would bring to a relationship with me. I am still waiting for her answer to that one...
You're absolutely right and I'm currently going through the same thing. I'm 6'3, master's educated in Economics and Finance, good family, job etc. Got married 10 years ago "as it seemed the right thing to do" and my father was dying of cancer at the time and told me I should settle down but died a week before the wedding. Soon to be ex-wife was an absolute trooper during that time and did everything she could to get me back on my feet. I was broke and broken in every sense of the word. I've come to realise that this support was all just so I could carry all the burden in her plans for the future and she turned me in to a full-blown beta, running the hamster wheel so she could maintain an Instagram personality etc. She put every penny from her job and side business in her pocket while I was paying for everything and running around like a headless chicken keeping the show on the road. A type of narcissism kicked in for her resulting in her totally losing the plot. I started to reign in the spending, telling her I've had enough, making her take responsibility for certain things in order to make her learn some respect for my efforts etc but she's fkd off to her parents and is definitely not coming back. Learn from my mistake. Never lose focus gentlemen and always stay on your A game. Good Luck
There's no romance without finance and even when there is finance, someone else has a larger bank account. Those post WW2 marriages that built families and communities are gone forever
Vegeta, the proud Saiyan Prince (Dragon Ball Z), has one clear goal in his heart: to become the most powerful warrior in Universe and overcome his friend/rival Son Goku. Bulma loves Vegeta, but she was a simple consequence in his life.
Spelling police here. In this context, the correct spelling is complement, which is a worthwhile addition. Compliment is when a person says something nice.
One thing I learned chasing love my whole life.. any focus or effort you could put into one particular girl, you could instead invest in yourself and get the same results. Either you’ll masterfully pursue her and give her exactly what she needs, or you’ll build yourself into something SHE pursues instead. One option leaves you with nothing when the relationship is over and the other leaves you with a better happier life no matter how things turn out.
This is very true. I was married, in great shape and ambitious in my late teens. Over time I got lazy and sloppy. After my divorce, I made a vow: smarter, stronger, better. I swore to be better, stronger and better than I was the man I was yesterday and I will be smarter, stronger and better tomorrow than I am today. My wife now knows that she will always go to bed with a better man than she did yesterday. Stay hungry.
You were exactly spot on. I blame myself for letting myself get to that place, but she left because I couldn't pull myself out of it and I stopped chasing excellence. Chase excellence, do the work.
Spot on. In my last relationship, my ex did most of the pursuing at the beginning to middle. I was ambitious then, focused on myself - was aiming high for my undergrad degree, had a band going too. As it progressed, I made the mistake of making her my main priority. Started forgetting my own personal goals, and just like you said - problems started there. Finally ended with her leaving, getting with another guy within a week of the breakup. Moral of the story : invest in yourself and never stop chasing greatness
These girls are trash. There are phases in life. Sometimes you will be in shape, sometimes you won't. Sometimes you will be happy, sometimes you will be sad. Sometimes you will have a great social life, sometimes you will be lonely. Sometimes you will be ambitious, sometimes you will be just caring about the people you love and cherishing the moments. Man phuk this notion that as a man, you have to be pushing pushing pushing every single month of every single year or you're less of a man. There is nothing wrong with you having loved your ex and going through a phase where your ambition kinda fell behind. U didnt do nothing wrong. These girls are just trash.
If a guy everytime he spends a lot of the time out of contact and gets the woman to reach for other dudes interest, well working is better time use than babysitting a dubious character, and with money one can always bang hot chicks with bad character too and not waisting time
PhantomFilmAustralia interesting. I have a friend who is a seven figure earning businessman with a wife and kids. How does your statement make sense in this example?
Right... my drive for chasing my dreams has nothing to do with any woman. Its MY god damn dreams not hers I dont aim high because I want to be seen as a high value male, I just want what is mine in the world.
Attach yourself to a transcendent ideal and you become invincible to any suffering that comes your way. I say this as a man who left the homeless shelter, got sober, got my masters degree and did it without a woman by my side. This ideal was with me before any woman came into my life and will be with me if they decide to leave. Their loss is no disaster, only the ideal matters.
I'm 29, single father that's currently fighting for son. One thing my father has taught me is to never get married, get myself in order and have my fun before having kids. Well I never got married but had my son at 23. I'm more than grateful for the content you put out Rich. Once I get more of my affairs in order I'm gonna join your community.
I was married for ten years, have two sons, I’m divorced and single now. And this might sound sad, but I will never, ever again be in a relationship that I’m not prepared to walk away from with zero emotion behind it. If she tries to emotionally abuse me, bye... if she cheats, bye... if she’s just not happy, bye... I will not get myself into anything I can’t walk away from and have minimal pain. It does sound sad but I will never invest myself into someone that could rip my heart and soul away again, not going to happen.
This attitude will make you more attractive to women. You must let them know that they can be replaced. If things go south for too long, give yourself permission to leave. Put yourself first, always. Do not trash others. Just put yourself first.
Dealing with modern women is too time consuming and a waste of money, I put myself first and I am growing my finances like a boss, 28 no wife, no kids. I will date on my terms once I achieve my financial goals.
I'm going to say this, in my short time on this earth so far; I've learned that when it comes to women, It doesn't matter how much you're in love, or how much she loves you. It all hangs by a thread and you better harden your heart to that reality. If you take the plunge for marriage, accept the fact that you may become a divorced man by no fault of your own. Try to view the positives of being single as a comfort to that possibility. Also, set and enforce the boundaries early on. Women have a tendency to try to mold you into what they think they want. She will make demands regarding your life or lifestyle. If you do not like them, refuse them. Or you'll be signing up for a package you don't want and one she doesn't want either.
Spot on, Rich. I ironically lost my wife on this exact day after 19 years of marriage, 23 in total (RIP). Went crazy at the gym from July to August and was entertaining 25's in September. Fellas, stay true to your goals and vision.
Dude! I found this channel at the right time... I've been stuck on a woman for too long and frustrated with everyone after and your point that you MUST chase excellence is so true. and has moved me forward. Thank you!
Single mom broke up with me month ago because Im living in small old aparment saving for a house and didt want to take her to expensive vacation to Italy with her daughter this year...she told me that she needs someone OLDER....
You are 100% correct That is what happened to me. As soon as i lost my job, she started to behave differently. In my case, i was the one that finished the relationship, I realized she was only with me for a good time and that's it. I am truly glad that is over.
This literally happened with me last year, 13 years relationship ended because I got comfortable on my career, I'm glad I've found you now and I'm working to fix and have fun since I've wasted 13 years of my time. I'm 32 now.
This is true. This all happened to me. When I was married and I began to fall into “comfort mode” (where you stop working out and become lazy). Next thing I know I’m getting left in the rear view mirror. Divorce time. Stay driven gentlemen. Not just for keeping the women around, but for your own well being.
I am 46 and the more I watch these videos the more I reflect back on my life and How i've done all these mistakes many many times :) still learning and growing. Makes me wonder what'll happen if we don't watch and Learn? we'll keep going in circles of these women and never realize our own Value. Thank you for making these awareness videos and guiding men
"got a crazy video for you today she's not yours it's just your turn a woman should be a complement to your life, not the focus do. the. work. women do not care about your struggles they hang out at the finish line and they pick the winners" can't get enough of this intro, it's great!
All the women I dealt with that so-called broke things off with me regret doing it when they realized the grass wasn't as green on the other side . When they tried to come back after I got successful, I definitely didn't want them.
Don't messy with your future. Never believe in love. Chase your dreams and never allow woman to distract. The more successful you the more women you get. 1st hand experience, Richard is 100% spot on.
Most modern day love evaporates as soon as money is depleted. It's all about benefits and what i can extract from you the faster. That's the saddest thing about relationships.
Because being a "good man" demands that you have to go out of your way to do what she wants, and in general, becoming more aggreable. Which means that your point of focus has shifted on her instead of going after your dream. And that shit isn't attractive
It's a shit test, basically. How bad do you want what you say you want. If she can derail you, you don't want it bad enough and she'll lose interest because of it. Your best bet really is to put her lower on your list of priorities...it'll drive her nuts.
@@entropiated9020 my ex derailed me years ago... same bullshit stupid ass reasoning... SHE fucked me over and talks as if I'm the one with the problem. I dumped her stupid ass, now I'm the one sitting in the seat hitting my success... oh she's married to a swinger lol... tried to give me her sad stories once, I just walked off... how does an entire human being end up so dirty and rotten is beyond me.
Never go out of your way to please her. Focus on your mission and if she won't follow leave her in the past....been there and those women will kill u so they can have their desires fulfilled. if a woman isn't happy with a guy who is pursuing a good job that pays well, doesn't go to the bar, doesn't trash talk her, doesn't put his hands on her in a harmful way and tries to involve her in his life then leave her.
@LingoMaster How do you know? He's been in an LTR for the last several years now. Have you asked him if it is at 10 years or not? You are exactly the kind of guy he's talking about, and it sounds like he hit a nerve.
@LingoMaster I'm going to agree with LingoMaster here, I don't think it is ever enough. Just maybe if she has a strong enough buffer in place such as religion that she's really into, but even then she still might dump you. The fact of the matter is; there is just no guarantee pill with women or with anybody for that matter, but especially women. As men, we should do the work for ourselves and never invest more than our ltr have.
LINGO MASTER: At first blush that surgeon u speak of perhaps was chasing $, not excellence. Money and excellent are not the same. (BTW, if the surgeon is not telling people to eat a diet that limits the need for a cardio surgeon - then he doesn't give a rat's ass about people. He wants $$$$ ) Additionally, The surgeon you speak of has many variables that are missing for the divorce. Did the Dr. have game? Have known millionaire Docs who are the most dull and boring people been divorced 2 or 3x's, but have their a God mentality. Have known millionaires that are always bragging out their $ because that's all they can offer a woman - then when the woman takes his $ that he was flaunting - he's pissed. LOL Does the Doc know how to kiss a woman, know how to bang the fuck out of his wife? Was the Doc a cruel and brutal tyrant to his wife? (major signs of deep seed insecurity). Did he work 70 hrs a week, and forget to date his wife? Was the Doc from a culture that you can do anything to the wife - and she has to take it because he owns her? You've left out lots of factures.
LINGO Master: You are speaking double speak yourself. Why would a woman in a relationship dread her man, if other women are attracted to him? Lots of options, could mean if she acts up - 'you' leave. Not get ready for her to leave. Your mind-set tells me, your used to women leaving you - or afraid of it happening to you.
Lingo; What are talking about? Who's advising ? Johnny Depp and Ben stiller are Alpha males to you? $$$ successful yes? But alpha? Hmmmm.....interesting take you have on words. It sounds as if someone has hurt you.
You are right. I had a girlfriend that told me she was going to move on if I didn’t go back to college. I dumped her a few weeks later. She was stocked. She said I broke her heart. This girl was poor. She literally could not afford hot running water. I’m so glad I’m single.
It's a shame. I had watched this video an year or two ago. And I knew this fact. But when it came to applying it in real is where I failed and I was dumped after 2 years for not chasing excellence. And now that I have experienced what Rich is saying , it made a lot of sense and accepting of the truth. And the need to make something happen in my life. To chase excellence and be a top shelf man
The past two years I’ve chased excellence and I’ve honestly never been happier....whether I’ve got a woman in my life or not it doesn’t really matter...but I’ve never been without since I focused on my own shit
Your completely right in the regard of men not chasing excelence/doing self work will lose attraction from women it happened to me when i choose her more than myself with a bad case of oneitis i have learned that lesson the hard way and i am now working on myself more and getting red pilled continously every day!
Rich you 100% correct in your summary/examples. The older these women get the more it applies! Last GF was always asking me.."what is your number?" a quote from the movie Wall Street. She wanted to know how much 'bank' I thought was enough...massive narc and hypergamy at its finest. I hit the delete button on that!
This is 100% true. I got hurt at work 2 months ago and my wife and I both agreed that I should sign up for school and pick up a trade while I healed. 2 months later we're getting a divorce because I found out through her chats that she's having an emotional affair with her boss who lives on the other side of the country.
I chased excellence by working too much and not helping in with the kids. It caused a lot of tension but she wasn't trying to divorce me for that. Then I gave up a stable salary to start a business with initial low profits. Then divorce was on the table. I didn't care, I was willing start from scratch to build up again. The more I was OK with divorce, the more she backed off.
I just had the same issue with an Ex. She was just with me as she thought I was her passport to economic freedom. Once I noticed it. I started playing the game I was having problems economically. Then guess what. She left me for someone else. The last word I told her was. Thank you!. Women are with you for a trade. Once she is not hot dump them with your provisions!
Damn...this hit the nail on the head. Im 27 and my wife is leaving me after 8 years together and 2 years of marriage after a bout of 6 years of depression and anxiety. I wasnt working or anything in that time (which is totally on me) but she became a completely different person seemingly all of a sudden. Shes ghosted all our friends and started hangin out with all new people and just acts like she hates me and like all our other friends dont even exist anymore
Yes this exactly happened to me. I helped her get more education and become able to make more money and get to higher social level. Then when I was financially at my lowest point because of some shifts in life, she left me. I could see then her patience was running out with me. However after separation, I focused on my courier and succeeded. Now we talk because of our child together and I just laugh at the past and know that is a fact you say in this video.
Been watching your videos for a few months now Rich, what you say is true and if these men don't listen they're gonna have to learn the hard way. Hypergamy absolutely does not care, you have to do the work. I see so many dudes who truly think they're hot shit YET the reality is they're sloppy looking, obnoxious, overweight, don't trim their facial hair/ look incredibily unkept. When my wife has friends over and I over hear them complain about their husband's who they've been married to for 5,10, 15 years and have 2,3, some 4 kids....doesn't matter their complaints about their husband's are always the same. They feel unappreciated by their husband's, not truly listened to or heard, they feel disrespected by them, and the other common demoninator is most of their husband's are not Chad's or in great shape. They're all dudes who have gotten too comfortable with their situations and started to take things for granted, esp their wife's. Lift weights, ride bikes / run / hike / jog, eat healthy, maintain a masculine frame, be a Leader, switch things up, keep things exciting, keep her interested.
Dude, you are right on the money. It happened to me, I got comfortable and lost everything. Took me some time to get it together but I'm not chasing anyone and working on where I want to be in life. 👍
Have seen it many times - She is a 6 (at best) Dentist, dude is a real estate agent, financial adviser, something with mediocre income - He stays home, becomes Mr. Mom and 2 - 3 years later she's out the door and down the street. Then there is the 8 medical student with the 7 engineer. She's out the door and living with another med student before the end of the 1st semester of medical school. Yep, it happens all the time. If you ain't #1, you're # None.
I’m thankful for all the women who dumped me for not chasing my excellence. For without those experiences, I would never have decided to chase my excellence. The ironic thing is now I’m not chasing women because I don’t want to jeopardize my excellence lol
14- 23: 2- 6 months 24- 29: 4months- 1 year 30: If she isnt where she wants to be in life that means married, have a big nice house, a car, kids and a high paying job. She will destroy herself and everyone around her. 35: she starts to lose her looks (if not sooner). 45: she starts to get mature and realize that life is not all about her.
This is true, I lost my job about 3 months into the pandemic. I continue to struggle to this day. The one thing I noticed is that the sex completely stopped. I also noticed a few times (so far) that whenever I walk into the bedroom like all of a sudden, she switches tabs on her PC or phone super fast as if she's protecting someone I should not know about. I have not got into the point where I have to call her out. I choose to just continue to bounce back financially, stay on my path and purpose. I have this gut-feeling that she's slowly starting to look for other options. I choose not to let it bother me because that's just how women are. lol.
Entrepreneurs in Cars You are absolutely correct. I'm going through this right now. I got laid off in March, been sitting around drawing unemployment since, and now we're getting divorced after 8 years together..
I’m in this weird place (29 - No kids - Never married) where nearly all my friends are now married or in LTR with kids and in these exact same situations but feel like I can’t put them on to this type of logic until they experience it themselves.
People dont want to see it until it is their own reality. I talk to some of my friends about this stuff but you cant be direct about it or its too raw and they just shut down the conversation. If you subtly raise points you can see in their faces how correct they thibk something was.
@@robzombie5928 Don't fix people. They'll fix themselves once they mess up. Correcting people is like bending the barrel of a shotgun you are holding and pulling the trigger.
She wants total control over the decision of who works and when for when she wants to flake out and "find herself". If you can't assure she'll be able to do so without affecting her quality of life, she will look for a better option.
100% agree, I see this now as I tread this path after a 23 year marriage. Got lazy and depressed and didn't take long after expressing this to her she is ready to roll. Additionally, She starred to read garbage like Reflections of a Man giving her horrible advice at 40 given her SMV. Good news for me, I make very good money train Jujitsu and lift, very fit @ 43 and was a very big player in my youth. Going to be a very different life. Time for excellence!
Wow man. This happened to me. Decided to take a year and half off to raise my newborn. Had the money tucked away to do it. My then partner finished nursing school and took off. She pushed me to stay home so she can finish school.
Dating have become so obscure last 3-5 years. Older women (acquaintance) want 10 year younger dudes, who look 10 year younger for their age. Can't stop laughing.
It is like this since 1995 when ''Sex and the City '' released . They want the Chads until 35 and then they want the perfect deal with a beta bucks .They feel entitled to that and that`s why they are so picky. Riding the cock carousel for 20 plus years they get bored extremely easily. So they need also girls nights out with the Chads .They will never be happy! They are the cause of their own destruction.
I think the advice is accurate, although I'd add that I also look for excellence and ambition in a woman. If she has a good body, great. But in the long run, I need her vision and mine to be simmilar. A relationship for me is a partnership to build something great, and the two parties need to complement each other. So, in general, I think both men and women look for the same, a well rounded human being that keeps developing himself.
Thanks Rich, been a follower for a while now and your content has been invaluable to me in helping to maintain a healthy frame for myself. Long story short, I was that guy in my twenties and early thirties, blue pilled to the max, very little direction, chip on my shoulder. I only started to turn things around when I stopped blaming everything but myself. I see a lot of guys in your comments blaming women, society or ideology etc etc, if you're gonna play the blame game start with yourself, fuck everybody else and what they want from you. Take a hard look in the mirror. Once you have some grasp on yourself then go out and bend the world to your will. Women are not a scarcity, HVM are. Aim high brothers.
100% truth. I got dumped HARD out of nowhere (well nowhere to me) cause she was crushing it and I wasn’t really doing much at all with my life. I thought how we presented together (I definitely had the looks, she had the brains) and how I f’ed her woulda been enough to be with her for life. She started cheating, and acting like I was unworthy of her time (maybe I was, idk). I was a really good bf to her, just wasn’t out there crushing it. When she dumped me, it was like I was getting cut from a team, or getting fired and she was extremely cold and emotionaless about it. Since then I’ve really came up, lost a bunch of weight, started new hobbies, take my health and image more seriously, started a small business, bought a house and have a pretty nice life. She’s had what I’d consider some major turbulence and is cheating on her current bf who she owns a home with and has told mutual friends, she wanted me back or at least wanted to get back to f***ing again. I laughed and made it known, my dignity is worth more. Sweet revenge. Believe in karma, everybody gets theirs..
I am a woman, I was pursuing this man, we shared conversations and I knew there was a spark between us. He wasn’t necessarily a man with lots of money or very good looking. But there was this good vibe the simplicity and truthfulness in his eyes and words. I wanted us to work and I was very present in his life. But after months of sharing this connection with him. He for unknown reasons gave me this hot and cold response. As much as I wanted us to work and stay by his side for all the times. He has this pattern of having ebb and flowed connections. I felt so unwanted. I left him. Not all woman walked away because you are not making good money and having dashing looks. I just wanted consistent efforts from him.
I'm 23 having recently graduated college. My college sweetheart and I so to speak got together in Jan 2018 and only a couple months after I began being handed a slew of major health problems over time (injuries, vision impairment) being a high quality athlete prior. We broke up soon after school when we went long distance. She had been on her way out for a while however after things I've learned and can look back on it. Crazy how you can go from a woman more or less begging you to love her, to later one, having done no real wrong to her, she leaves and basically says fuck off.
They're ruled by emotion and shortsightedness. They don't even take themselves that seriously by shooting themselves in the food by saying one thing and doing another. They're children in a sense. Be stoic with them, entertain them but don't succumb to their mood swings and irrationalities. There's plenty of them around anyhow.
Very true. But there's a certain type of woman who knows how to give her man confidence and motivation. So that he doesn't get lazy and complacent. Unfortunately, most women resort to nagging, which doesn't work. Nagging is the sign of the death-knell.
That's never talked about in these videos. Women used to hold men down, support men, be our rib, etc. Feminism really turned them against us and they do nothing but drain our energy and step on us now. We were supposed to be a team.
I was once married to a man who said, “ Baby, you don’t have to do man stuff anymore, I got this!” I was over the top in love with this man & we both valued traditional roles as husband & wife. When I told my husband my car would need an oil change in the next two weeks ( it burned oil ), he said he’d take care of it. 2 weeks later he hadn’t changed the oil & it had almost none in it!! When I asked him if he had addressed it, I’m now nagging. Imagine if I had done that to HIS vehicle!! Men say women nag because they don’t do what they say they’re going to do.
Great video, Rich. Im 27, lost many of my 27-28 year old guy friends this last year for mentioning more red pilled advice to them. They didn't get any action age 18-27, they land a good job, and then they have all settled with 25-29 year old women; 4/5 of them have proposed already within a year or two.. In most of the pictures, they are looking towards woman as woman is looking right at camera with a grin. Im proud of these guys for landing good jobs, but worried their beta game will defeat them long term. Despite being best friends with many of these guys for 10-15 years, they don't want to hear it, becoming emotive & angry. Alot of them are trad con, one of them even was devout to his religion but switched to his girlfriend's religion.. I just gotta focus on myself; appreciate the wisdom from you and rollo and the crew.
Pulled the pin on the ‘fat grenade’😂😂. Never heard that one before. Thanks for all the educational videos Rich, wish I knew all this material years ago before I complicated my life.
Just started watching your videos. I recently, went through my "oneitis". But, now have more of an understanding of what happened with it. I was working, taking of my kids and hers (she worked 3rd shift) due to stress at home and work, ended up losing my job. Almost instantaneously, her interest in me dropped. There were other reasons also. Not knowing at the time, she wanted a polyamorous lifestyle(she was in a biker club) I wasn't into that. She fed off my insecurities then, just dropped me like a bad habit.
I'm not pro athlete. been dating the same girl 15 yrs. She has a job she can't stand she has already been there 32 years. at least another 4 more to go.. at which time she be 60. She's not happy for me because I got my retirement Pension. And Bank always stacking $$$. No children , No debt, not smoker not Drinker. work out almost daily .Walk daily and still work 2 part time jobs just to stay on my Grind and Purpose. I have Options. She cared more about me giving her my PENSION if we were going to be Married. I had to walk away from her I dumped her. For a lot more reasons. She said your gonna miss me. YEAH she is right I do. I do miss her, and the Chicken Dinners and the Tuesday night Taco Dinners. Plus watching Jeopardy, and Wheel of Fortune. During the show I would look over at her while she was falling a sleep. At least I get to keep my PENSION and Bank Accounts. Yes I will Miss You.
The honesty and brutal truth is refreshing. I’m subscribing, definitely need more of this, I’m sick of these sugar coating channels that give vague unrealistic advice.
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@Jason M Wow sounds like you are well rid of her. It's a shame that the ugly natures and disgusting characters of women like this are usually not reflected in their physical looks.
@Jason M A truly very sad to hear of your story, Jason! I could not imagine the frustration, shock, humiliation, bewilderment, and anger, and confusion about being a nice, decent man. Reading about your story has shocked me, and gave me more realization.
@Jason M
Sorry to hear this man.
You know what the root problem was?
2 things.
1: You didnt work on yourself to keep your SMV high.
2: Hypergamy.
You started earning less than her.
You very rarely see plumbers or never see garbage collectors marrying female high earning doctors.
Ask yourself why is that?
@Entrepreneursincars dude I’ve watch a lot of your videos and basically it’s all negative like the way you sound it’s like no one can ever get married or trust women at all and I agree with most of your stuff at least 98% of it but who cares about marriage who cares what a woman thinks about you speaking for myself or any other guy who cares if you don’t have the ambition who cares if you’re not going for excellence who cares what she thinks there’s the door she can leave any day you thinkA man a real man is going to worry about what a woman thinks if she leaves him or not because he’s not striving for excellence all the time life is too short and too hard to try to please some dumb ass bitch in my opinion that’s how I feel about this video
The amount of pain you feel at the end of a relationship is directly proportional to the amount you have compromised your terms, mission, and standards
Agreed.
Also proportional to the enculturation one has been subjected to.
Basically it's how much you're losing on your investment
David Kay 👍🏾💯
100%
Wow. Spot on
When I was in my early 20s a girlfriend let me saying I was too nice. Life moved on and she ended up in some abusive unsuccessful relationships including kids. She has spent years trying to contact me through other people including my family. I totally ignored her I am still nice, but I am wiser.
It's funny how we get blamed for not taking a chance with a girl who didn't give us that chance. Yet. They never ask the question. Where was the girl when I was too nice? You didn't want a guy for being nice. And when he doesn't want you in the end because you turned him down or he lost attraction. He's all of a sudden the asshole? Women always act like it's a 1 way bike lane.
Yeah once they come back into the picture with kids by several losers I act like I never knew her
You dodged a bullet there
Bro, it’s later in life they wanna come around but it’s too late. Am 23 now and am happy that am able to learn all this info now
@Octavian I disagree, you know in today’s world, we see bad as good and good as bad. It’s months later that people realize what they have lost but when they try to get it back, it might be too late then. Appreciate people, been nice don’t mean that they are fake
I feel bad for men whose only goal/vision is a relationship.
Those aren't men.
Laughing Lark A man is a human with a penis. Enough with the idiotic abstractions.
Other UA-cam channels say that sex and a relationship is a fundamental need and we can't achieve greatness without it.
@@sageywavey Clearly a blue-pilled troll. It takes a LOT more than anatomy for a male to be a man. You are exactly what he's talking about.
@@Aedonius Yes, plenty do. Those cater to the soy boys. When your whole life is a woman, you will become her. Unavoidable.
This man is literally teaching me things that my dad should have taught me. God bless you Rich!
true but i’m happy i’m finding out now through my mistakes
If he would have told you you wouldn't have listened. You have to have life experience to truly understand this stuff.
I agree with you here...
Maybe he didn't know himself
@@sunsetvest3048 You’re right. He didn’t.
I owned two homes, a business,and helped raise four successful kids. She still left,and flat out would tell you’why should I stay,when I can take half,and do what I want? The system is broken! Stay single boys!
Still talk to your kids?
Wow, despicable.
Yep!
Yeah, he's essentially saying that women want a high achieving beta provider. That is not what women want and not why they leave their husbands.
2 sides to every story though man
She lives in the moment.
@LingoMaster it always ends up sounding like "work your ass off to be an ideal male to impress other guys' leftovers"
@LingoMaster Agree and Disagree, The Redpill is not there to give any man any guarantee bro, It is just simply tools for men to navigate relationships with women. Understand that he isn't saying chasing excellence won't guarantee her staying around.
@LingoMaster Ronaldo and DiCaprio are successful, they 'chased excellence' and have 'OPTIONS'. that's Rich's message. So if the woman leaves you... *You're not the guy crying with nothing on the sidewalk. Peace.
hear! hear!
@@SmartPhotoVault good point
Here's the thing: Women will NEVER be satisfied. I recently had a Doctor's wife checking me out because she was obviously bored with him. I make a fraction of what he does. Not saying she would ever leave him, but no matter who you are, your wife is gonna get bored and possibly cheat. Look at celebrities like Brad Pitt and Johnny Depp. Keeping a woman is just never ending maintenance.
Bang on! A good analogy is Rich and his cars. He has had many great cars over the years. Look at his finely tuned Dinan M5.., but he got bored and now has a R8, check that bored again, now 720s.... Make sense??
The amount of women at work that flirt and cheat on their husbands is very very under reported
Not to mention Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, LOL ... Even a prince isn't good enough for these psychos.
It really does seem like a good percentage of women will never feel satisfied, no matter what have going for them. Simply comes down to being shallow if you ask me.
No sense trying. She will never be happy...never. she is good for the first 1-3 years but after that, flip a coin.
I helped her financially while she finished school. I was there when she needed me because her friends screwed her over. Then as soon as my business starts to tank and I go through a bad time of my life, shes out the door and getting with her boss. 5 years with someone means nothing to women.
@mango puppet channel brutal
5 year is 1 year
@@ThebigGLRams in dog years
Women only live in the NOW. Their emotions are alpha omega.
@mango puppet channel - These are the saddest stories, man. I had a friend who looked after a single mom and her 2 children for a few years. When he lost his businesses and connections, she dumped him.
He would say one heartbreaking thing about this:
That when you look after and bring up someone's kids, and they get taken from you, it feels like you lost your own kids.
Absolutely true. 31. Married for 2 years... active duty navy, I became disabled and depressed....well she spent 3 weeks back in her home town sleeping with her ex from 4years ago.
Textbook.
Now back to lifting as much as my broken hip allows and back into my career and investments.
My story: I got in a relationship with my current ex at 15, got married at 20 and she left me at 28. I was never taught self worth, confidence or how to be a man. We were best friends and I told her EVERY insecurity I ever had from the start, which led to her eventually loosing any interest in me, she felt more of a care taker. I have learned more in one year than the rest of my life. We have two kids, and I hate that they will grow up with parents that are separated, but I'll be damned if I'm going to let my past hold me back. I continue to grow every day and have so many goals to achieve. Thank you for teaching that we are not to define ourselves by our relationships but to always reach for achievements and create a high sense of self worth. The struggle has been real but ilI will ultimately come out of this a stronger, more stable minded man. ✌️🤙
Good luck my friend! Keep focusing on you, everything will ultimately come together.
Know your worth brother.
Get into crypto. 😎👍
Very true Jacob. The interesting part is that women will always maintain that they "want you to open up to them." Bullshit. Don't do it. There's a difference between good communication and appearing weak. Women want to feel safe and protected around you. Stay strong brother, it's far from over for you. You're a young man with the world in front of you. Time to focus on YOU bro. Give those kids a strong, confident, and successful man.
Hope it’s actually your kids
To keep a woman you have to be a guy that other women want.
Nah I was that too. I had all the girls in my hometown and I was cheated on with this buff bodybuilder meathead. Some girls always want more
while that makes her aroused somewhat, it is no magic pill to a successful ltr
@kbrigsby61 Mr Excuses
Not always
Goes back to having OPTIONS
I'm 58 and married a woman with 3 kids 10 yrs ago. I make 3x what my wife makes. I broke my neck early into the marriage. That's when my marriage went down hill. I'm doing well now but it was a struggle to rehab. I took good care of her with many surgeries she had but when it came time for her to take care of me, she lost respect for me. I've worked at a power plant for almost 40 years with excellent pay and benefits and have always provided for her and her kids. I put my life on hold for her and her kids. That was a huge mistake! I repair, sell and test fly ultralight airplanes. I am pulling the plug on this lopsided marriage and going back to my love of flight. I have many friends and relatives who adore me and I have a great dog. I'm looking forward to regaining my old life I had before I met this woman and her brood of brats!
Hope you make it out clean with minimal.....abuse from the family court.
You have to make a UA-cam channel and tell this story, a lot of single moms screws good men's lifes
She wanted a workhorse and she found one , now she is done with you and if she is able she will move on to the next one, or maybe now she is ready for true love with someone who treats her like shit.
I’ve heard so many horror stories like this. As a young man, you better believe I will never marry a woman!
@@angelmunoz465 so marry a man.
You are 1000% right. I do however warn men never take back a woman who tries to re-enter your life. After she finds out that you have accomplished the goals you have been pursuing, and are now financially secure.
Exactly. Why should I take her back if she never saw any potential in me? Don't accept being someone's second choice! We should all have enough self respect to not let this happen.
what if you wanna do it just so you can fuck with her.then dump her later or cheat on her hard.
I disagree; set an elaborate date with her on a Friday or Saturday night then don’t show up.💀🔥
@@skeletonshorror5184 You're diabolical Mr Simpson 💀
Great advice
I was an Ace but got comfy. She left me, Hypergamy is real. 6 months later I was an Ace again, she tried to come back. Just validated Hypergamy for me.
What is an "ace"?
@@coprilettodelnapoli5466 probably a Chad or a successful man
@@coprilettodelnapoli5466 he’s an ace fighter pilot shooting down the zeros… 😂 but really, he was on his game. An Ace!
As a 25 year old guy that just got out of a relationship that spanned years, this man is preaching. Thank God for this positive reinforcement I needed to hear. Never let another person dictate your future, and never let another person dictate your worth
Damn straight!
Feminists- "Because of my poor life choices and failures in life, men has to be held responsible"
Nailed it!
You are also responsible for that woman in your life, or the one entering it. Make sure she's not an undedicated distraction of a woman. Even if you achieve greatthings while with this person, her not caring about what you had to go through to be successful. They will only drain you dry, she is there for the fun times only..
That was deep 👍🏻
pick up heavy shit
this video was not about feminists ..
Past woman: "I want a good man!"
Today's woman: "I want a better man!"
Tomorrow's woman: "Where are all the good men?"
Far tomorrow's woman: "Wish I had a decent man!"
Make this a big fucking glossy poster staple it around every college campus...
Mike TeeVee
Gospel sir.
Truth. Women absolutely look for reasons Not to like a man they're dating. 9/10 this highly selective woman brings little to the potential relationship, but thinks she's desirable because 5 - 50+ horny guys are messaging her on tinder, etc. everyday. Ex: I got rejected by a new girl I started dating post my ex. She was into me for a few weeks, then got flaky, then rejected me. I'm pretty sure it was she just got bored w/ me & was still very active on tinder. Never become Complacent in life or too comfortable w/ any 1 woman.
do the work
Mike TeeVee
Within 5 years, this prophetic word will be fulfilled:
Isaiah 4:1 New International Version (NIV)
In that day seven women will take hold of one man and say,
“We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name.
Take away our disgrace!”
She might leave BECAUSE you’re chasing excellence and she’s not, and being around you makes her feel pathetic. This happened to me. She told me this
I was chatting with a female friend last summer about dating (not interested in her at all). She said that she and some of our shared female friends were "intimidated" by me and would not date me (not that I am interested in any of them). When I asked for more info on this her answer was, "You are fit and in shape, smart and educated, successful in your career, and very goal focused. It is very intimidating to us." I then asked her what any women, including her, would bring to a relationship with me. I am still waiting for her answer to that one...
Yup.
@@thebatman8895 You need to be with Catwoman.
She should have atleast be there as your support man.
What if she said it not to hurt your feelings?
You're absolutely right and I'm currently going through the same thing.
I'm 6'3, master's educated in Economics and Finance, good family, job etc. Got married 10 years ago "as it seemed the right thing to do" and my father was dying of cancer at the time and told me I should settle down but died a week before the wedding. Soon to be ex-wife was an absolute trooper during that time and did everything she could to get me back on my feet. I was broke and broken in every sense of the word.
I've come to realise that this support was all just so I could carry all the burden in her plans for the future and she turned me in to a full-blown beta, running the hamster wheel so she could maintain an Instagram personality etc. She put every penny from her job and side business in her pocket while I was paying for everything and running around like a headless chicken keeping the show on the road.
A type of narcissism kicked in for her resulting in her totally losing the plot. I started to reign in the spending, telling her I've had enough, making her take responsibility for certain things in order to make her learn some respect for my efforts etc but she's fkd off to her parents and is definitely not coming back.
Learn from my mistake. Never lose focus gentlemen and always stay on your A game.
Good Luck
There's no romance without finance and even when there is finance, someone else has a larger bank account. Those post WW2 marriages that built families and communities are gone forever
Sounds like Tony Evan's. Very true.
Sounds like Tony Evan's. Very true.
We lost the ability to live with "adults" when we put "social media" first. The price was paid in relationships, and we're the fools that paid it.
Because of feminism
@@sayeed7255 yup
"Chase excellence, not women." That is facts bro.
Easy to say hard to do for most men. Hard part is stop thinking about them
@@airlebron7467 Just takes time man.
Chase success and they will chase you.
I like this one better
Vegeta, the proud Saiyan Prince (Dragon Ball Z), has one clear goal in his heart: to become the most powerful warrior in Universe and overcome his friend/rival Son Goku. Bulma loves Vegeta, but she was a simple consequence in his life.
"A woman should be a compliment to your life, not your focus".
Spelling police here. In this context, the correct spelling is complement, which is a worthwhile addition. Compliment is when a person says something nice.
@@Ace.0.0.0. ya fuck Pete
Ace Never knew that. Thanks for that clarification.
Your in India I assume, they are high quality.
@@jerrypeukert5732 You are*
One thing I learned chasing love my whole life.. any focus or effort you could put into one particular girl, you could instead invest in yourself and get the same results. Either you’ll masterfully pursue her and give her exactly what she needs, or you’ll build yourself into something SHE pursues instead. One option leaves you with nothing when the relationship is over and the other leaves you with a better happier life no matter how things turn out.
This is very true. I was married, in great shape and ambitious in my late teens. Over time I got lazy and sloppy.
After my divorce, I made a vow: smarter, stronger, better. I swore to be better, stronger and better than I was the man I was yesterday and I will be smarter, stronger and better tomorrow than I am today.
My wife now knows that she will always go to bed with a better man than she did yesterday. Stay hungry.
You were exactly spot on. I blame myself for letting myself get to that place, but she left because I couldn't pull myself out of it and I stopped chasing excellence. Chase excellence, do the work.
Spot on. In my last relationship, my ex did most of the pursuing at the beginning to middle. I was ambitious then, focused on myself - was aiming high for my undergrad degree, had a band going too. As it progressed, I made the mistake of making her my main priority. Started forgetting my own personal goals, and just like you said - problems started there. Finally ended with her leaving, getting with another guy within a week of the breakup.
Moral of the story : invest in yourself and never stop chasing greatness
Sounds like my story
These girls are trash. There are phases in life. Sometimes you will be in shape, sometimes you won't. Sometimes you will be happy, sometimes you will be sad. Sometimes you will have a great social life, sometimes you will be lonely. Sometimes you will be ambitious, sometimes you will be just caring about the people you love and cherishing the moments.
Man phuk this notion that as a man, you have to be pushing pushing pushing every single month of every single year or you're less of a man. There is nothing wrong with you having loved your ex and going through a phase where your ambition kinda fell behind.
U didnt do nothing wrong.
These girls are just trash.
Same shit happened to me no dad no big brother no masculine Friend just her she was my whole World 🤣 now I think that is ridiculous
It's like I m reading my story xD
Yea they move on quick, all the time you spent putting them on top is never appreciated by them, so now you know. U gotta put that time into yourself
Statistically, a man who invests predominantly in a relationship would make a very poor businessman.
If a guy everytime he spends a lot of the time out of contact and gets the woman to reach for other dudes interest, well working is better time use than babysitting a dubious character, and with money one can always bang hot chicks with bad character too and not waisting time
PhantomFilmAustralia interesting. I have a friend who is a seven figure earning businessman with a wife and kids. How does your statement make sense in this example?
@@BGFitnessNY Bro, I have also seven figure. I'm 25y/o.But still afraid to marriage
Sampad Mondal you earn seven figures a year?
@@anshul1341 😂😂😂😂👌👌👌👌👌👌👌
Who cares what she thinks. She doesn't deal in reality or accountability. I'll stay on my purpose.
Facts. Preach bro
Faxxx
Bro, I like it.
Damn this comment hit hard
Right... my drive for chasing my dreams has nothing to do with any woman. Its MY god damn dreams not hers I dont aim high because I want to be seen as a high value male, I just want what is mine in the world.
Attach yourself to a transcendent ideal and you become invincible to any suffering that comes your way. I say this as a man who left the homeless shelter, got sober, got my masters degree and did it without a woman by my side. This ideal was with me before any woman came into my life and will be with me if they decide to leave. Their loss is no disaster, only the ideal matters.
I'm 29, single father that's currently fighting for son. One thing my father has taught me is to never get married, get myself in order and have my fun before having kids. Well I never got married but had my son at 23. I'm more than grateful for the content you put out Rich. Once I get more of my affairs in order I'm gonna join your community.
I was married for ten years, have two sons, I’m divorced and single now. And this might sound sad, but I will never, ever again be in a relationship that I’m not prepared to walk away from with zero emotion behind it. If she tries to emotionally abuse me, bye... if she cheats, bye... if she’s just not happy, bye... I will not get myself into anything I can’t walk away from and have minimal pain. It does sound sad but I will never invest myself into someone that could rip my heart and soul away again, not going to happen.
Same here brother. Married for 15 years. Tore my soul out. Never gonna get emotionally invested again
I share that with you.
True power is people realising you will walk away in an instant and never look back
Save yourself the pain and walk away befor it even happens.
This attitude will make you more attractive to women. You must let them know that they can be replaced. If things go south for too long, give yourself permission to leave. Put yourself first, always. Do not trash others. Just put yourself first.
Dealing with modern women is too time consuming and a waste of money, I put myself first and I am growing my finances like a boss, 28 no wife, no kids. I will date on my terms once I achieve my financial goals.
G Alpha-yoh fxcartel (on ig)/sebastiendub(ig) brother make that WiFi dollar ✊✊🦾
Stay focus
You just inspired me man!
Damn I am 28 and I feel pathetic compared to you.
Same, life goes on
I'm going to say this, in my short time on this earth so far; I've learned that when it comes to women, It doesn't matter how much you're in love, or how much she loves you. It all hangs by a thread and you better harden your heart to that reality. If you take the plunge for marriage, accept the fact that you may become a divorced man by no fault of your own. Try to view the positives of being single as a comfort to that possibility.
Also, set and enforce the boundaries early on. Women have a tendency to try to mold you into what they think they want. She will make demands regarding your life or lifestyle. If you do not like them, refuse them. Or you'll be signing up for a package you don't want and one she doesn't want either.
Straight facts brother
Right! Instead of trying to build the man that she wants, only date men who are already "at the finish line". 😘
God bless you best to stay out of relationships
Spot on, Rich. I ironically lost my wife on this exact day after 19 years of marriage, 23 in total (RIP). Went crazy at the gym from July to August and was entertaining 25's in September. Fellas, stay true to your goals and vision.
Is the gym the best place to pick up hottest guys in their 50s?
Dude! I found this channel at the right time... I've been stuck on a woman for too long and frustrated with everyone after and your point that you MUST chase excellence is so true. and has moved me forward. Thank you!
I blame todays social media for the failure of relationships today.A whole world of prospects at the click of a mouse.
Video games, porn, internet in general. It's too easy to be content.
A major conduit to the problem, but it's not the fundamental problem itself.
@@matthewnelko I thought it was unattractive, wife happy life?
I'm old and they were Sluts back then too.
But they are not really prospects--just fools' gold.
Single mom broke up with me month ago because Im living in small old aparment saving for a house and didt want to take her to expensive vacation to Italy with her daughter this year...she told me that she needs someone OLDER....
You got off lucky.
She did you a favor. Bro, why are you dating a single mom to begin with? Respect yourself and know your worth.
She’ll be back. Don’t fall for it.
Single mom’s belong in the dumpster... love yourself more bro
She misspelled RICHER
You are 100% correct That is what happened to me. As soon as i lost my job, she started to behave differently. In my case, i was the one that finished the relationship, I realized she was only with me for a good time and that's it. I am truly glad that is over.
Good man
This literally happened with me last year, 13 years relationship ended because I got comfortable on my career, I'm glad I've found you now and I'm working to fix and have fun since I've wasted 13 years of my time. I'm 32 now.
Wow same here Brother. I was with my ex wife for 13 years (6 married) I’m 30 now. Starting over and I’m loving it.
At least you still have a career, though. My life destroyed been a nice guy.
32 is still young. You probably haven't even hit your stride, yet. Keep plugging away 🤘🤘
@@monyetdeb3025 dude you can become successful again. I’m fighting a disability from an injury and I’m still striving for goals and excellence
32 is nothing. I got out at 45 and found opportunities since. Parentally alienated from the kids though, everything rich says is true
I'm 60 years old and I have learned a lot watching these videos
Gave you a thumbs up for the phrase "blindly marched into a slaughter house" referencing getting married.
Crushed em.
This is true. This all happened to me.
When I was married and I began to fall into “comfort mode” (where you stop working out and become lazy). Next thing I know I’m getting left in the rear view mirror.
Divorce time.
Stay driven gentlemen. Not just for keeping the women around, but for your own well being.
Chasing women is like looking at an empty bottle thinking that it's going to magically fill up.
Good analogy! Brilliant!
I am 46 and the more I watch these videos the more I reflect back on my life and How i've done all these mistakes many many times :) still learning and growing. Makes me wonder what'll happen if we don't watch and Learn? we'll keep going in circles of these women and never realize our own Value. Thank you for making these awareness videos and guiding men
I have no desire to chase anything. Apart from my own peace and contentment.
"got a crazy video for you today
she's not yours it's just your turn
a woman should be a complement to your life, not the focus
do. the. work.
women do not care about your struggles they hang out at the finish line and they pick the winners"
can't get enough of this intro, it's great!
All the women I dealt with that so-called broke things off with me regret doing it when they realized the grass wasn't as green on the other side . When they tried to come back after I got successful, I definitely didn't want them.
🤣🤣🤣💪💪💪😁
💯- they always come back
There is no such thing as "investing" in a relationship. It's just a depreciating waste.
Make sure to not reproduce.
There's truth in this too.
I would give 10 years of life to know this at 20, I would have gotten rid of the torment now.
I would of saved sooo much money. Live and learn. 😅
Same here - I wish I can go back 10'years. 30s now, and all this is the truth!
Being a woman, I got to tell you that I do damn agree with you . From beginning till the end
Don't messy with your future. Never believe in love. Chase your dreams and never allow woman to distract. The more successful you the more women you get. 1st hand experience, Richard is 100% spot on.
Love and fear are the only emotions that exist. So that means that you are...never mind. Best wishes.
@@applescience1065 Only 2 emotions to exist...Where are you getting those facts from? out of your bumhole?
Love is the only meaning of life
Most modern day love evaporates as soon as money is depleted. It's all about benefits and what i can extract from you the faster. That's the saddest thing about relationships.
Because being a "good man" demands that you have to go out of your way to do what she wants, and in general, becoming more aggreable.
Which means that your point of focus has shifted on her instead of going after your dream.
And that shit isn't attractive
Exactly. Its just an arrangement built on toothpicks. Very little investment.
It's a understanding issue of what a "Good Man" is. You can be a gentleman, but still stand strong on your belives.
It's a shit test, basically. How bad do you want what you say you want. If she can derail you, you don't want it bad enough and she'll lose interest because of it. Your best bet really is to put her lower on your list of priorities...it'll drive her nuts.
@@entropiated9020 my ex derailed me years ago... same bullshit stupid ass reasoning... SHE fucked me over and talks as if I'm the one with the problem. I dumped her stupid ass, now I'm the one sitting in the seat hitting my success... oh she's married to a swinger lol... tried to give me her sad stories once, I just walked off... how does an entire human being end up so dirty and rotten is beyond me.
Never go out of your way to please her. Focus on your mission and if she won't follow leave her in the past....been there and those women will kill u so they can have their desires fulfilled. if a woman isn't happy with a guy who is pursuing a good job that pays well, doesn't go to the bar, doesn't trash talk her, doesn't put his hands on her in a harmful way and tries to involve her in his life then leave her.
" You limit your options when you get lazy"
@LingoMaster How do you know? He's been in an LTR for the last several years now. Have you asked him if it is at 10 years or not? You are exactly the kind of guy he's talking about, and it sounds like he hit a nerve.
@LingoMaster I'm going to agree with LingoMaster here, I don't think it is ever enough. Just maybe if she has a strong enough buffer in place such as religion that she's really into, but even then she still might dump you. The fact of the matter is; there is just no guarantee pill with women or with anybody for that matter, but especially women. As men, we should do the work for ourselves and never invest more than our ltr have.
LINGO MASTER: At first blush that surgeon u speak of perhaps was chasing $, not excellence. Money and excellent are not the same. (BTW, if the surgeon is not telling people to eat a diet that limits the need for a cardio surgeon - then he doesn't give a rat's ass about people. He wants $$$$ ) Additionally, The surgeon you speak of has many variables that are missing for the divorce. Did the Dr. have game? Have known millionaire Docs who are the most dull and boring people been divorced 2 or 3x's, but have their a God mentality. Have known millionaires that are always bragging out their $ because that's all they can offer a woman - then when the woman takes his $ that he was flaunting - he's pissed. LOL Does the Doc know how to kiss a woman, know how to bang the fuck out of his wife? Was the Doc a cruel and brutal tyrant to his wife? (major signs of deep seed insecurity). Did he work 70 hrs a week, and forget to date his wife? Was the Doc from a culture that you can do anything to the wife - and she has to take it because he owns her? You've left out lots of factures.
LINGO Master: You are speaking double speak yourself. Why would a woman in a relationship dread her man, if other women are attracted to him? Lots of options, could mean if she acts up - 'you' leave. Not get ready for her to leave. Your mind-set tells me, your used to women leaving you - or afraid of it happening to you.
Lingo; What are talking about? Who's advising ? Johnny Depp and Ben stiller are Alpha males to you? $$$ successful yes? But alpha? Hmmmm.....interesting take you have on words. It sounds as if someone has hurt you.
You are right. I had a girlfriend that told me she was going to move on if I didn’t go back to college. I dumped her a few weeks later. She was stocked. She said I broke her heart. This girl was poor. She literally could not afford hot running water. I’m so glad I’m single.
It's a shame. I had watched this video an year or two ago. And I knew this fact. But when it came to applying it in real is where I failed and I was dumped after 2 years for not chasing excellence. And now that I have experienced what Rich is saying , it made a lot of sense and accepting of the truth. And the need to make something happen in my life. To chase excellence and be a top shelf man
The past two years I’ve chased excellence and I’ve honestly never been happier....whether I’ve got a woman in my life or not it doesn’t really matter...but I’ve never been without since I focused on my own shit
Your completely right in the regard of men not chasing excelence/doing self work will lose attraction from women it happened to me when i choose her more than myself with a bad case of oneitis i have learned that lesson the hard way and i am now working on myself more and getting red pilled continously every day!
Rich you 100% correct in your summary/examples. The older these women get the more it applies! Last GF was always asking me.."what is your number?" a quote from the movie Wall Street. She wanted to know how much 'bank' I thought was enough...massive narc and hypergamy at its finest. I hit the delete button on that!
This is 100% true. I got hurt at work 2 months ago and my wife and I both agreed that I should sign up for school and pick up a trade while I healed. 2 months later we're getting a divorce because I found out through her chats that she's having an emotional affair with her boss who lives on the other side of the country.
I chased excellence by working too much and not helping in with the kids. It caused a lot of tension but she wasn't trying to divorce me for that. Then I gave up a stable salary to start a business with initial low profits. Then divorce was on the table. I didn't care, I was willing start from scratch to build up again. The more I was OK with divorce, the more she backed off.
that why work on yourself. family but be ready if things go south. real women stay. and come
ACCURATE🎯...You can never get lazy or complacent. Stay striving for greatness💯
I just had the same issue with an Ex. She was just with me as she thought I was her passport to economic freedom. Once I noticed it. I started playing the game I was having problems economically. Then guess what. She left me for someone else. The last word I told her was. Thank you!. Women are with you for a trade. Once she is not hot dump them with your provisions!
Damn...this hit the nail on the head. Im 27 and my wife is leaving me after 8 years together and 2 years of marriage after a bout of 6 years of depression and anxiety. I wasnt working or anything in that time (which is totally on me) but she became a completely different person seemingly all of a sudden. Shes ghosted all our friends and started hangin out with all new people and just acts like she hates me and like all our other friends dont even exist anymore
Yes this exactly happened to me. I helped her get more education and become able to make more money and get to higher social level. Then when I was financially at my lowest point because of some shifts in life, she left me. I could see then her patience was running out with me. However after separation, I focused on my courier and succeeded. Now we talk because of our child together and I just laugh at the past and know that is a fact you say in this video.
hide success leave normal. so leave she leave. but be man of integrity.
Been watching your videos for a few months now Rich, what you say is true and if these men don't listen they're gonna have to learn the hard way. Hypergamy absolutely does not care, you have to do the work. I see so many dudes who truly think they're hot shit YET the reality is they're sloppy looking, obnoxious, overweight, don't trim their facial hair/ look incredibily unkept.
When my wife has friends over and I over hear them complain about their husband's who they've been married to for 5,10, 15 years and have 2,3, some 4 kids....doesn't matter their complaints about their husband's are always the same. They feel unappreciated by their husband's, not truly listened to or heard, they feel disrespected by them, and the other common demoninator is most of their husband's are not Chad's or in great shape. They're all dudes who have gotten too comfortable with their situations and started to take things for granted, esp their wife's.
Lift weights, ride bikes / run / hike / jog, eat healthy, maintain a masculine frame, be a Leader, switch things up, keep things exciting, keep her interested.
No such thing as "relationship equity"!!! They don't care you bought her the car, paid for her school, and bought the house she wanted.
Ain't that the truth!
Facts.
Dude, you are right on the money. It happened to me, I got comfortable and lost everything. Took me some time to get it together but I'm not chasing anyone and working on where I want to be in life. 👍
Have seen it many times - She is a 6 (at best) Dentist, dude is a real estate agent, financial adviser, something with mediocre income - He stays home, becomes Mr. Mom and 2 - 3 years later she's out the door and down the street. Then there is the 8 medical student with the 7 engineer. She's out the door and living with another med student before the end of the 1st semester of medical school. Yep, it happens all the time. If you ain't #1, you're # None.
I’m thankful for all the women who dumped me for not chasing my excellence. For without those experiences, I would never have decided to chase my excellence. The ironic thing is now I’m not chasing women because I don’t want to jeopardize my excellence lol
Learned the hard way women can’t make you happy. Started trying to help people and live right. Happiest I’ve ever been.
Mans patience in a relationship 10 to15 years
Womens patience in a relationship 2 to 5 years
In her prime: 3 to 6 hours
5 years...if that :)
6 months, maybe less
Yea this is so true
14- 23: 2- 6 months
24- 29: 4months- 1 year
30: If she isnt where she wants to be in life that means married, have a big nice house, a car, kids and a high paying job. She will destroy herself and everyone around her.
35: she starts to lose her looks (if not sooner).
45: she starts to get mature and realize that life is not all about her.
Evertime I feel like slipping, this man shows up, our brother!
"Just when I thought I was out
They pull me BACK IN!"
Guns7469 you just wanting to Fck up ain’t ya.
@@bhillis99 no way will I ever let your mom tempt me again👍
Keep on feeding us the Red Pill, this is so true.
This is true, I lost my job about 3 months into the pandemic. I continue to struggle to this day. The one thing I noticed is that the sex completely stopped. I also noticed a few times (so far) that whenever I walk into the bedroom like all of a sudden, she switches tabs on her PC or phone super fast as if she's protecting someone I should not know about. I have not got into the point where I have to call her out. I choose to just continue to bounce back financially, stay on my path and purpose. I have this gut-feeling that she's slowly starting to look for other options. I choose not to let it bother me because that's just how women are. lol.
Dont be beta king hold your ground. You are the prize not her. Focus on yourself and find someone worth it
Entrepreneurs in Cars You are absolutely correct. I'm going through this right now. I got laid off in March, been sitting around drawing unemployment since, and now we're getting divorced after 8 years together..
I’m in this weird place (29 - No kids - Never married) where nearly all my friends are now married or in LTR with kids and in these exact same situations but feel like I can’t put them on to this type of logic until they experience it themselves.
When the student is ready, the teacher will appear
People dont want to see it until it is their own reality. I talk to some of my friends about this stuff but you cant be direct about it or its too raw and they just shut down the conversation. If you subtly raise points you can see in their faces how correct they thibk something was.
@@robzombie5928 Why do you care? Let them to their own mistakes. You cannot convince them anyway, so just wait and see how it turns out.
@@robzombie5928 Don't fix people. They'll fix themselves once they mess up. Correcting people is like bending the barrel of a shotgun you are holding and pulling the trigger.
She wants total control over the decision of who works and when for when she wants to flake out and "find herself". If you can't assure she'll be able to do so without affecting her quality of life, she will look for a better option.
100% agree, I see this now as I tread this path after a 23 year marriage. Got lazy and depressed and didn't take long after expressing this to her she is ready to roll. Additionally, She starred to read garbage like Reflections of a Man giving her horrible advice at 40 given her SMV. Good news for me, I make very good money train Jujitsu and lift, very fit @ 43 and was a very big player in my youth. Going to be a very different life. Time for excellence!
I tell my sons this all the time! Don’t get lazy! Keep working on yourself and business you started!
Wow man. This happened to me. Decided to take a year and half off to raise my newborn. Had the money tucked away to do it. My then partner finished nursing school and took off. She pushed me to stay home so she can finish school.
Dating have become so obscure last 3-5 years.
Older women (acquaintance) want 10 year younger dudes, who look 10 year younger for their age.
Can't stop laughing.
Use them and toss them to the curve. They should have got a good deal when they were younger
hope u find the one!
It is like this since 1995 when ''Sex and the City '' released . They want the Chads until 35 and then they want the perfect deal with a beta bucks .They feel entitled to that and that`s why they are so picky. Riding the cock carousel for 20 plus years they get bored extremely easily. So they need also girls nights out with the Chads .They will never be happy! They are the cause of their own destruction.
I think the advice is accurate, although I'd add that I also look for excellence and ambition in a woman. If she has a good body, great. But in the long run, I need her vision and mine to be simmilar. A relationship for me is a partnership to build something great, and the two parties need to complement each other. So, in general, I think both men and women look for the same, a well rounded human being that keeps developing himself.
Thanks Rich, been a follower for a while now and your content has been invaluable to me in helping to maintain a healthy frame for myself. Long story short, I was that guy in my twenties and early thirties, blue pilled to the max, very little direction, chip on my shoulder. I only started to turn things around when I stopped blaming everything but myself. I see a lot of guys in your comments blaming women, society or ideology etc etc, if you're gonna play the blame game start with yourself, fuck everybody else and what they want from you. Take a hard look in the mirror. Once you have some grasp on yourself then go out and bend the world to your will. Women are not a scarcity, HVM are. Aim high brothers.
100% truth. I got dumped HARD out of nowhere (well nowhere to me) cause she was crushing it and I wasn’t really doing much at all with my life. I thought how we presented together (I definitely had the looks, she had the brains) and how I f’ed her woulda been enough to be with her for life.
She started cheating, and acting like I was unworthy of her time (maybe I was, idk). I was a really good bf to her, just wasn’t out there crushing it.
When she dumped me, it was like I was getting cut from a team, or getting fired and she was extremely cold and emotionaless about it. Since then I’ve really came up, lost a bunch of weight, started new hobbies, take my health and image more seriously, started a small business, bought a house and have a pretty nice life.
She’s had what I’d consider some major turbulence and is cheating on her current bf who she owns a home with and has told mutual friends, she wanted me back or at least wanted to get back to f***ing again.
I laughed and made it known, my dignity is worth more. Sweet revenge. Believe in karma, everybody gets theirs..
I am a woman, I was pursuing this man, we shared conversations and I knew there was a spark between us. He wasn’t necessarily a man with lots of money or very good looking. But there was this good vibe the simplicity and truthfulness in his eyes and words.
I wanted us to work and I was very present in his life. But after months of sharing this connection with him. He for unknown reasons gave me this hot and cold response. As much as I wanted us to work and stay by his side for all the times. He has this pattern of having ebb and flowed connections. I felt so unwanted. I left him. Not all woman walked away because you are not making good money and having dashing looks. I just wanted consistent efforts from him.
I'm 23 having recently graduated college. My college sweetheart and I so to speak got together in Jan 2018 and only a couple months after I began being handed a slew of major health problems over time (injuries, vision impairment) being a high quality athlete prior. We broke up soon after school when we went long distance. She had been on her way out for a while however after things I've learned and can look back on it. Crazy how you can go from a woman more or less begging you to love her, to later one, having done no real wrong to her, she leaves and basically says fuck off.
Yup! That's the female mind.
They're ruled by emotion and shortsightedness. They don't even take themselves that seriously by shooting themselves in the food by saying one thing and doing another. They're children in a sense. Be stoic with them, entertain them but don't succumb to their mood swings and irrationalities. There's plenty of them around anyhow.
@@jaymcd8577
Truth.
that why there chivalry in past. and realmen. work if they leave leave. the real one come and stay.
@@jaymcd8577 and stay in taking care of kids and family. if they leave they will cry. and try todo fake sickness. the real one will take care of you.
It’s required reminding friend, absolutely. Life slows you down. So it’s detrimental to get that kick in the arse from time to time.
Very true. But there's a certain type of woman who knows how to give her man confidence and motivation. So that he doesn't get lazy and complacent. Unfortunately, most women resort to nagging, which doesn't work. Nagging is the sign of the death-knell.
That's never talked about in these videos. Women used to hold men down, support men, be our rib, etc. Feminism really turned them against us and they do nothing but drain our energy and step on us now. We were supposed to be a team.
I was once married to a man who said, “ Baby, you don’t have to do man stuff anymore, I got this!” I was over the top in love with this man & we both valued traditional roles as husband & wife. When I told my husband my car would need an oil change in the next two weeks ( it burned oil ), he said he’d take care of it. 2 weeks later he hadn’t changed the oil & it had almost none in it!! When I asked him if he had addressed it, I’m now nagging. Imagine if I had done that to HIS vehicle!! Men say women nag because they don’t do what they say they’re going to do.
@@SagSage73 You did what you had to do.
Great video, Rich. Im 27, lost many of my 27-28 year old guy friends this last year for mentioning more red pilled advice to them. They didn't get any action age 18-27, they land a good job, and then they have all settled with 25-29 year old women; 4/5 of them have proposed already within a year or two.. In most of the pictures, they are looking towards woman as woman is looking right at camera with a grin. Im proud of these guys for landing good jobs, but worried their beta game will defeat them long term. Despite being best friends with many of these guys for 10-15 years, they don't want to hear it, becoming emotive & angry. Alot of them are trad con, one of them even was devout to his religion but switched to his girlfriend's religion.. I just gotta focus on myself; appreciate the wisdom from you and rollo and the crew.
Pulled the pin on the ‘fat grenade’😂😂. Never heard that one before. Thanks for all the educational videos Rich, wish I knew all this material years ago before I complicated my life.
"Hypergamy does not care if there are kids" DAMN!
Well said Richard....you are the psychologist most men need today.
Just started watching your videos. I recently, went through my "oneitis". But, now have more of an understanding of what happened with it.
I was working, taking of my kids and hers (she worked 3rd shift) due to stress at home and work, ended up losing my job. Almost instantaneously, her interest in me dropped. There were other reasons also. Not knowing at the time, she wanted a polyamorous lifestyle(she was in a biker club) I wasn't into that. She fed off my insecurities then, just dropped me like a bad habit.
This is the TRUTH and is based in millions of testimonies
My brother from another mother..... I've been there, done it and seen it with my own eyes. You are NOT lying.
You should do a study on how many pro athletes wives leave them after they retire.
I'm not pro athlete. been dating the same girl 15 yrs. She has a job she can't stand she has already been there 32 years. at least another 4 more to go.. at which time she be 60. She's not happy for me because I got my retirement Pension. And Bank always stacking $$$.
No children , No debt, not smoker not Drinker. work out almost daily .Walk daily and still work 2 part time jobs just to stay on my Grind and Purpose. I have Options. She cared more about me giving her my PENSION if we were going to be Married. I had to walk away from her I dumped her. For a lot more reasons.
She said your gonna miss me. YEAH she is right I do.
I do miss her, and the Chicken Dinners and the Tuesday night Taco Dinners. Plus watching Jeopardy, and Wheel of Fortune. During the show I would look over at her while she was falling a sleep. At least I get to keep my PENSION and Bank Accounts. Yes I will Miss You.
I love that slogan.... "pulled the pin on the fat grenade" , good job Rich!!!
I travel to Costa Rica, phillipines ,colombia...Man what a blast...like Lenny Cravitiz says " American woman get away from me"..
The honesty and brutal truth is refreshing. I’m subscribing, definitely need more of this, I’m sick of these sugar coating channels that give vague unrealistic advice.