That's the problem. Virtuous families are being taxed to finance single mothers. Corporations giving paid maternity leave is also a tax on virtuous families. Just like free higher education is a subsidy for useless degrees. Every single law is a law against long term planning and investment. Removing the injustice of lower outcomes for short term thinking.
@@Bvic3 "Virtuous families" aren't being taxed for it; it's men. The overwhelming majority of taxes are paid by men, and women are recipients of most of it. The real issue is that women no longer rely on an individual man for survival -- the only thing that gets them to behave -- and instead rely on men collectively, so their behavior can be as rotten as possible and she'll still be supported by the system. If "modern women" are ever going to be "fixed", the system would have to first collapse and women go back to relying on individual men for survival.
@@latt.qcd9221 I agree of course. But if men are being giga screwed, married women also are to a lesser extent. It's like all married men having a part of their income going to a pseudo mistress (of a short term thinking badboy with a short term thinking easy woman). Normally, the great terror of married women is that the resources of their husband go to a mistress. Now, all married women have to live with the resources of their husband going to the state mistresses.
As a young mother expecting her third child, often made to feel less than by my childless, career focused peers, thank you for your empowering words about motherhood.
Time is on your side, nobody will miss or remember those women for their careers, their career won’t given them love or true meaning or a sense of well-being on their death bed.
Hi Rose I am sorry that you have been put down in this way. I find it interesting because as a childless career woman who is now 66 i have also been put down many times. I was told in my youth that women who do not have children are not real women! This was highly offensive, not only to me who chose not to have children, but to those women who want them, but cannot have them! It looks like to me that now the situation is reverse. Is it for the better? I am not sure. I also think it should go both ways. I do not agree with people sleeping around wether males or females, but it seems to me that even now in the 21st century it is still ok for men, but not women.
@@lindinle if you know that you're poorly socialized, you could maybe..... Work on being better socialized? You already have an advantage over the leftist looney tunes, at least you acknowledge that there's a problem. Those bat shit insane whackodoodles are completely oblivious to the fact that they're not functional as human beings, there's no fixing them.
In one of these videos a while back a millenial said she had a fantasy that she would meet her husband on a bus in university. I literally met my husband while waiting for a bus as a freshman at university 😂 they probably would think I was making it up too. I'm also a millenial btw...I'm Michael's age.
There's nothing quite like that magical feeling when the person you want to be with says "sure I've slept with 40 or so random people but you... number 44... you're special." Ugh, amazing
I don't know, if they've had a lot of experience they must know what they're talking about right? As opposed to the woman who's never been with anyone saying it............can you really trust her opinion? 😆
I was on the receiving end of that once. Big surprise when she ended up my crazy ex who is still trying to ruin my life after cheating on and dumping me. Learn from my mistakes: don't give people like this the chance to ruin you.
@@jlspracher Read up on Cluster B personality disorders and especially Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality disorder, sounds like you got in the way of one of them.
How to fix it? Simple - bring back shame and social pressure. People like the Kardashians have ALWAYS existed, but "polite society" shunned them, refused to associate with or do business with them, and they got the message.
@@MegaSpideyman well people got sick of puritan overreach and turned hard in the other direction causing the vehicle to spin out veer into a wall crash and burst into flames
@@neatwheat we have eight. Here’s a start: Stop eating out and buying useless crap. Kids aren’t as expensive as you think. Remember, “the experts” lie lie lie.
@@micmacc2014 Well ... having a huge enough car costs, there are costs for clothes and school excursions to cover, kids want entertainment and stuff to play with and to be accepted by their peers or train in a local sports club. Medical bills, probably. And you'll need a house big enough. So probably fine when you live in a rural area but certainly not feasible with big city rental costs, ...
@@neatwheat we have 8 kids, I make 75k, wife stays home. We do live very rural, house was cheap, bought used 12 passenger van, gas is rough. Older kids work and buy their “wants”. I do all house, yard, auto repairs. I’m not bashing anyone. Just letting you know, it’s doable. The house, cars are all paid off. A lot of Americans waste money on useless stuff and don’t realize it. I’m not saying our way is for everyone, but for those who want kids, it can be done.
@@micmacc2014 Ok, that adds up. I know you Americans are also inclined to be fine with moving states, if job and circumstances require it. Thinking about the "standard American diet", as a European who likes to eat considerately, I have to congratulate everyone who cooks and eats at home 🙂
You don't fix modern women. You allow them to continue doing what they want, and failing. You allow younger women to see this, and choose which path they want to follow. All while the men avoid the modern women and choose the ones who decided NOT to follow in their footsteps. "Don't save em, they don't wanna be saved"
Absolutely. As much as I believe in redemption, I have very little mercy for these women who have made these choices through their own free will. I'm more concerned for the younger innocent girls who these older girls will happily lead into the same debauchery they have chosen. These women actually heard Michael out, agreed with him and STILL chose to say NO to leading happy lives. That's their choice. Sod them. I have no sympathy. I have sympathy for young men who have tried to be gentlemen and have been mocked and metooed for it and for young girls who are looking for the right direction in life.
Any discussion about "fixing dating" or "making marriage great again" without one mention of no-fault divorce, alimony, child support, and family courts is not a serious discussion.
not to mention marriage is inherently a religious institution, and to pretend it isnt lead only to the sad state of make/female relationships we have today.
They won't hear it from older women either. I'm only 30 years old and happily married and my twin who has been through a series of so-called queer relationships that ended in disaster and my lesbian cousin that is also been through a series of disastrous relationships feel they are much more qualified to advise my Straight cousin who would just like to be in a good relationship with a man. Literally they treated me like I was a little bit thick for suggesting that she try going to a church that she likes. Immediately jumped in with toxic masculinity problems that she might run into. It was so stupid. Like okay your exes threatened you with weapons and stole your money and so on, and I've been happily married for five years with three children and 0 crazy relationship calamities, but clearly you know what's up.
Like attracts like, essentially. Yes. You go and do the things that are true to your life and that will determine the people you meet. People who go to bars will meet people who go to bars. Gyms to gyms. Churches to churches. You still need to figure out the individuals you meet, but it's a starting point.
@@kathycoleman4648 yes there is certain amount of self selection, no guarantees but you are going to have certain priorities and values if you go to Church/Synagogue/Temple every week and are involved in a faith community.
The problem is there are no women in churches. Not ones whos eggs havent dried up 30 years ago. There are barely any men under 50 either tho. So a young ish person does not go to church for friendship, for advice from people with similar life experiences, for any sense of community , but for God. Its also a sport to sit as far away from each other as possible, even before the virus released by the communist nation.
@@kevind.k7512 i mean, I'm in church and i'm definitely not at the empty egg carton stage. It really, really depends on the church. I met my husband at church, and we have some pretty vibrant, young parishes in our area. Idk man, it's certainly worth checking out imho.
That's been a thing since the dawn of mankind however with how connected everyone is you can no longer go 2 villages over if the local women are not to your liking.
@@almalone3282 that's the insulting part: this illusion of "connection". People are getting so used to talking to the entire planet, they're forgetting (or don't know how to, in the case of these newer generations) how to actually foster personal relationships. Friends, family, and lovers are all concepts detaching themselves from people's ability to be genuine to each other because "why not be friends with everyone?" "Why settle for x when y is over here? Oh, z is better than y though...". Have people trivialized these in the past? Of course. But, at the same time, it's becoming harder and harder to have a genuine connection with anyone due to this endless cultivation of a "perfect life" many people pursue. Then they all end up feeling completely isolated with no one they can trust, mad at the world. As long as we use the internet this way, it's not unreasonable humanity will drive itself to extinction within the next few generations.
Considering our founding fathers didn't have a concept of "lifting" and spent the vast majority of their time studying history, philosophy, rhetoric, ect... maybe focus slightly more on intellectual pursuits than getting swol?
@@dekardkain5469 they also lived in an age when you had to be mote physically active then today's day in age. Physical exercise is the main thing, not necessarily building muscle, but everyone needs to exercise, but men especially need it, even if just for mental health.
Michaels performance was the best debate performance I’ve ever seen. He could have gone the “own the libs” route and “won” the debate via the “cult of the offensive” and as a result alienated all the girls on the panel. But instead he chose the calm, collected, defensive, tough love counterattack method, which allowed him to actually make them think about their positions without angering them too much, and in the end maybe he even managed to save a couple of them. Bravo, I definitely couldn’t have pulled it off.
The problem with the prenup mentioned at 27:00 is that family court is incredibly unfair to men. The judge can throw out the prenup because the woman was under duress because you wouldn't marry her unless she signed it. Family court also breaks laws and assigns child support and alimony at a rate that impoverishes the man. The problem isn't that all women destroy men. It's that all women can. Prenups need the authority of law, and family courts must be reigned in before the marriage rate will ever go back up.
I’m a woman, and I was the one who brought up the No Way Out clause. I was raised by a single mom, and there was no way on earth I was going to have children with someone who thought leaving was an option. And then I chose very carefully. We courted for 4 years while I finished college and my intended began building his career. We shared many holidays, family events (weddings, funerals, etc), and family reunions. When it came time for premarital counseling, out of 20 questions about big topics like finances, parenting, and religious beliefs, we only disagreed on one. When we discussed it, it turned out that we had simply interpreted the question differently. We celebrate 33 years in May. It hasn’t always been easy, but it has been satisfying. If I was told I was dying tomorrow, my only regret would be that we couldn’t have 33 years more.
It's almost as if 10,000 years of monogamous relationships, family, and gender roles wasn't just there for mUh pAtRiArChY and that it's actually the natural state of humans
Lol where did you get 10,000 years? Modern homo saipens have been around for much longer than that. Also chimps and gorillas also have somewhat similar family structures.
@Trash Panda Scientists have found that 8000 years ago, for every 17 women that reproduced and passed on their genetics, only 1 man did. So while I agree that monogamous relationships are good, you can't use this to form the basis of your argument.
Carl has built a power house here. You guys are probably the leaders that you're waiting for. "We need people that can do X" "We need an organization that can do Y" Maybe go look in the mirror and see what you can dig up.
Thing is though... Carl actually put himself out there and stood for election. That is part of leadership. You cannot make change without taking risks and you will inevitably fail before you succeed. Leadership means accepting the risk of looking foolish and going on anyway.
I met my husband when I was 2, he was 6. He was my older brother's best friend, I always had a crush on him, for as long as I can remember. But the Age gap made it weird, for him, lol. When I was in 8th grade he was a senior. We reconnected when I was 20, the age gap wasn't as big a deal. We have been together for 13years, have 5 children & are absolutely loving life together.
Ten thousand women marched through the streets of London saying: 'We will not be dictated to,' and then went off to become stenographers. G. K. Chesterton
As a woman who sees how other women have treated men so abominably through their own free will, I find it hard to be as charitable as you. I'd rather focus on the younger girls who aren't a lost cause yet. These girls heard Miachael out and still said NO. And that's no great loss because they're past it. Its the next generation that needs saving and I have no mercy for the generation who's trying to destroy them.
They did make progress though. I feel your point but also have begun to realize maybe they aren’t hopeless. We should focus on the younger generations primarily but no sense not helping anyone willing to change
@@Mobius118 Hello friend. I'd like to think they made progress, but the fact is they still refused to give up their rotten lifestyles because they think they'd be losing their "autonomy." They don't want to change, and if they do want to change they can help themselves (as many others have, and I'd be over the moon if they did) because this is another problem their ilk have, expecting everyone else to take responsibility and wipe their backsides for them.
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Some people just seem to be incapable of self reflection, much less admitting they've made mistakes. I look at the girls my age and very few strike me as genuinely happy, but not one would admit to it, much less be able to identify why. I really wish I wasn't single, but I have a good life, a good family, food in my belly, a roof over my head, games to play, and friends to talk to. I'm thankful for everything I do have, because the one thing I want might be the only thing other people have.
@@Mobius118 You will never fix a girl with a bodycount of 346 like the one on the far right(she says it's a friend, but come on..). There's no going back after that. Don't pretend otherwise.
@@mothbreeder641 Dont get me wrong, I believe in redemption and believe living a good life from now on for these girls is theirs for the choosing. But I wouldn't wish them on any man. They don't automatically deserve one.
I will never forget a conversation I overheard between my ex and her mother " No-one is going to buy the cow , if you give away the milk for free " . At the time I thought it was cruel , but looking back this motherly advice should be taken by all these girls on this show .
@@defectiveindustries I understood it when I heard it on red vs blue in 8th grade. I’m 29 now. They definitely weren’t sugar and spice and everything nice. They’re hellish.
I love Calvin. He was instrumental in my return to my faith. I lost faith for many years. Seeing his passion and listening to him talk about God and faith helped me find my way back to God.
Yep. You either learn it or you live it. That's like asking why you follow a recipe to make grandma's rice pudding. Because when we look at things, as humans, we see patterns. And we look for and strive to see those patterns because we are either trying to repeat them or to avoid them. Grandma's recipe is the former, bad shit in history is the latter.
@@mothbreeder641 Dumb? You are the only one that is dumb here, making an asinine wild assumption and pretending that anybody was talking about what you wish they were, smh. You have some issues and should take care of them. Nobody said the history of the US and how you actually thought that is what was said or that would even be relevant to the matter at hand is astoundingly slow.
Michael’s openness about his faith is quite an inspiration to me. One of the ways I’ve learned how to talk about and implement my faith into daily life without being too annoying or gaudy about it.
The Catholic church should never be forgiven for protecting paedophile priests from the law, it deserves to be mercilessly derided and mocked for such an evil act.
In the US, the laws that incentivize divorce need to be abolished. Otherwise, there is literally no reason for women to stop taking advantage of it. Realizing that they missed out on the chance for happiness doesn't occur until they are in their mid forties so don't expect young women to care until the laws are changed.
No Fault is definitely a problem. Ending that, couples having to deal with their marital issues/troubles before they (which is to specifically say the woman)could rush off to divorce court could only benefit any society.
TBH, they never stop. Postmenopausal women (I'm late 40s) and women in their late 30s with a string of failed marriages still approach me and expect me to wine and dine them and kiss their hindquarters like I'm 18 and they're my first 'real' girlfriend.
How do you fix modern women? One word, standards. As a man, only spend your time and resources on a woman that meets a standard of prudence. As a woman, only spend your time and resources on a man that meet a similar standard of prudence. If someone you like has shown enough self-discipline and self-worth to not sleep around all the time, then you know they have the capacity to commit to you.
@@Disenfranchised-lu1zv In the hypothetical discussion above, that individual has already disqualified themself. You cannot demand of others that which you do not demand of yourself.
Connor seems to not understand that this problem lies completely on women and the legal system they did activism for, men can't and won't fix it.. Men's reproductive imperative is to have as many children as they can, which yes, makes Genghis Khan the biggest Darwinian success story ever. But in a civilized society, men will either try to impregnate as many women as possible in the hopes that some succeed, or hiper focus raising the success rate of a few children with 1 or 2 women, and they leverage their genes, and capabilities as providers and protectors to get said women. Women's reproductive imperative is finding the absolute best combination of genes, protection and provider they can SECURE, and their main leverage are sex and motherly skills. If Women as the gatekeepers to sex, stop gatekeeping sex and stop developing motherly skills in exchange of masculine corpo skills, men have absolutely no reason to not behave like Gengis Khan, because: A- Most women have proven to NOT be faithful, so it's very likely to end up raising some other man's children, meaning, there is no value in putting your efforts and resources in a few children. B- Most women have 0 motherly and housekeeping skills, meaning she will be a burden, and WON'T improve your children's chances of success. You will NEVER get most men to act according to religious values or high standards, so long as women keep following materialistic and hedonistic values, so they have no reason to not maximize their Darwinian success through uncommitted casual sex.
One of the major issues I hear here was the idea of 'Just get a prenup'. The issue there is that they are frequently thrown out by judges, a friend of mine recently got divorced and he had a prenup but the judge just tossed it. It wasn't as if it was something hastily scrawled on the back of a napkin, it was an actual document drafted up by a lawyer.
Just don't get legally married and live in a place that doesn't recognize common law marriage. When two people actually love each other, the concept of signing a contract with the state never comes up.
Was it a splitting of assets and rights, or was it the one Knowles said? If women think they’re going to lose everything by bringing divorce, will they risk the court.
My dad is someone who should not have married nor had kids. He's just not wired for relationships. When I was in my late 20s, I remember telling my mom that, "I would rather be single and lonely than with someone who treats me the way dad treats you." On the other hand, my mom's parents have been happily married for 65 years. We lived right by them and I got to see how my grandfather treats my grandma. I set that as my goal, and it took me far longer than I liked but I finally found and married a man who has the same character and ethic as my grandfather. This is a man I can happily be with for 65 years.
@@anaximanderofapollonia9842 boomers thought it was cute to completely rebel and discard ancestral wisdom and customs, destroying society in the process
I got into a massive debate the other day, and was the only one making the argument The comment was that men should act more like mothers, and my argument was naturally that men should act more like fathers, and the thread took exception to that. A lot of them seemed to think I was saying they should act like their father, who I explained, was part of the problem
This is a general problem people have these days. They can't differentiate between their personal experience and a general reality. Just look at the comments on this video right here, tons of guys conflating their bad experiences dating with all women around the world. I have a pretty fucked relationship with my dad, but I can understand that fathers as a whole are not only good, but actually critical to the fabric of society. I've been lied to pretty egregiously by some women, but I understand that women are not inherently dishonest
How is it impressive to beat a few dummies in a battle of wits. How well would you do in this debate? It’s easy work. Nothing impressive about it. I found it predatory, to put these people in the same room!!
@@Dualbladedscorpion7737 there was a poitn in the interview where they were all asked about the realtionship status of their parents and NONE of them had both biological parents together and in the picture. The one girl who is adopted is the best off.
Man the way Michael can talk to 5 different people and still hold his composure is amazing, especially with all the insults thrown his way. Like I don't think I could do that in a 1v2 situation. That's something I reckon, I and many different men, can learn from.
I'll be honest. I don't have enough patience to talk to these kinds of women. He's a braver man than me. I can't stand women who act like this. I would have snapped.
We know one truth, and it is that men can be held accountable. The problem is, men cannot be both parties at the same time. So this whole, "men do better/get to work" approach is not going to fix the problem at all. It is just going to result in more men getting chewed up by the system.
"...all the risk." Yeah thing is both men and women have to do it but women seem to have more incentive not to I guess what will solve the problem is if the men women liked committed eh? Nothing stopping the women from leaving said men after too. I can see why men are like nevermined.
@@kevinmiller6443Exactly. Trads need to get it through their thick skulls of Femidolatry, that Men are held responsible but not given the power to enforce. "Here's duct tape, build a palace. And if you fail, you weren't man enough." Responsibility without Power is Slavery.
We have thousands of years to know what good and bad is. There seems to be this idea in women today that everything in the past is wrong and they are smarter than those people.
Lotus Eaters need more content like this. We need to get to the heart of this issues not just have all these agnostic Brits who say they oppose the current world order when in reality they are a contributor to it and have nothing of substance to say. We need our Brits to be Inklings again so glad to see this and keep it up!
This is one reason muslim women wear hijab. Muslim ppl believe it is protection for society/woman. As they cover their beauty it makes it more important for them to develop their personality, morals and intellect, to be defined by. This makes them pleasant to talk to and hold real conversations around shared values, beliefs and long-term life goals that are also deep and transcend in nature. It prevents ppl getting arrogant and getting a superiority complex based on superficial trates. Keeps ppl down to earth, modesty. Trys to prevent self entitlement and Princess complex. It trys to prevent the commercialisation/weaponising of "beauty", by it not being a publicly displayed and traded commodity/currency. Trys to give women a break from having to compete with each other on just beauty, in open public. That can cause feelings of jealousy. Helps to try to prevent an army of simps and street pestering. As her beauty is for HER and the special people SHE chooses in her life. Helps to try to prevent insecurities trying to maintain unrealistic and unsustainable beauty standards, that are forever changing and expensive to uphold. This can cause mental issues in people and the sense of constant judgement and body shaming from people that don't know you or care about your long-term good. Peace
@@sexistspaghettios yeah and the pendulum could swing back very hard and cause even more damage. That's why we have to do something before these people ruin everything and everyone.
@The Great Sun Hey, I'm with you! I wasn't being sarcastic or anything! I truly hope this can be done! Just a very very uphill battle. They marched through the institutions for decades! Gunna take decades to get ot all back IF we even do! 🙏
@@adararelgnel2695 Exactly. Culture determines the laws that a society functions under, and as culture changes, so too do laws. For example, I don't remember which state this was in, but there is still a law on the books that you do not leave a pie on your window ceil on a Sunday. Do you think anyone is going to enforce that in today's society, despite the fact that it's still on the books? Not unless they can gain something from it politically. (Sorry for the acidic moment there...) Yet at the same time, there are laws that prohibit minors from entering places that serve alcohol, and yet children in Florida were allowed to watch a fully sexualized drag performance at the Hyatt in Miami on December 27th. And the best Ron DeSantis could do is revoke their alcohol license. Police have Pontis Pilotted themselves from dealing with that shit, because our culture has largely 'claimed' to accept it.
No you are absolutely correct, laws come first they influence society and behaviour. Women are rewarded for breaking their marriage contract and men take only pure risk for getting married. There is zero benefit for men getting married and once a women has kids she is set for life the state swoops in with the backup of family courts. I'm a divorced father and trust me we need to fix family courtaws then women won't be so frivolous with whom they sleep with and then treat the fathers of their children.
Going to have to disagree. If you want men to re-engage, then you need to eliminate no fault divorce, you need to get rid of lifetime alimony, especially if the wife decides to cohabitate with another man, and you need to fix the horribly broken child support system, including parental DNA testing. Until these things are fixed, the risk for men getting married far surpasses any benefit a man receives. Then, and only then will men begin to change the culture. Too many men's lives are being destroyed right now.
The girl at the end literally said “First of all, you throwin' too many big words at me, and because I don't understand them, I'm gonna take 'em as disrespect.”
That one girl showed her vast wisdom and knowledge when she asked Michael Knowles "How do we know what's good and bad?" 🤣🤣🤣 How can you answer everything else So confidently and think that giving into every impulse is good if you have no definition of bad?
Well, there are two different ways someone could interpret being asked that question. The first is more akin to "How can I know...", which would potentially be leaning into the idea that different cultures have different concepts of right and wrong, and different consequences in relation to them. "How can one know which of those is true?" The other is asking for a personal explanation of what the person one is speaking to views as right or wrong. In the case of Michael Knowles, a practicing Catholic, that would likely be answered by stating that he strives to conduct himself in a manner befitting a follower of the Christian God, to the best of his humanly flawed ability. At the end of the day most humans are sentient zebras who will do what it takes to be in alignment with the herd. So the key objective of the individual is to find a herd they feel okay being in alignment with. Issues crop up when two herds are fighting for resources ort space, or when a fissure happens within an existing herd where the collective or whole no longer connect on the core values that lead to their initial formation.
@@kathycoleman4648 then by that line of thought, there is no good or evil, just what happens happens. Nothing can be truly valued because nothing has in any true and intrinsic value. And if nothing has any true and intrinsic value, life has no real meaning to it. [vocabulary edit]
@@reidveryan9414 Welcome to leftism where everything is relative and subjective. It's an infectious, poisonous doctrine that's hurting our society one generation at a time.
@@kathycoleman4648 "At the end of the day most humans are sentient zebras who will do what it takes to be in alignment with the herd." I take exception to this, because that's far over-stated by people (and used to negate individual human agency in other instances). While a significant amount of humanity is this way, it's only a plurality. Far more people, by number, follow independent paths and ones in contention with contemporary "values."
I had a friend who thought knowing the difference between good and evil is a sin. He also told me that you cant use certain books in the bible as a guide for living a christian life because they were written after Jesus was alive...
I had no idea things were this bad, I haven't dated for years. I can't believe that sex is just considered a throwaway commodity. I'm 36 and things were pretty bad when I was their age, frigid was a term used if you didn't want to sleep around. There were girls like that in my group, but some of us were actually looking for a relationship. Things have become worse. It was the same for the guys, being egged on to sleep with as many girls as possible. Our whole society needs a do-over because it's so ingrained and multidimensional that it'd take a miracle for men and women to return to good behaviour and traditional roles. There's no underlying community values. I watched the whole 5 hours! Knowles was correct, and decent in the face of indecency. A masterclass in stoism!
Corruption in politics has played a major role. Not enough people care about who they vote for and why. This is the result of indifference and callousness. Politicians also tend to only care about big donors and activists. That in turn creates unjust laws and tears apart the fabric of society. I hate to say everything's political, but in this case, bad politics have destroyed morality in society.
I'm your age. 14 year olds were giving it up regularly, but at least it was mostly to their boyfriends. I blame widespread proliferarion of 'free' pornography
It's not only feminism creating these issues. They were most likely abused as children. The family is being attacked on many fronts and bad parenting is the result.
feminism destroyed the family unit, they intentionally did so because the nuclear family is "patriarchal". I do think giving women the right to vote was the beginning of the end for the west.
Been around for a while, and in my experience the claim that "men won't commit" is rubbish. Leaving out the small percent of men that women chase after (who are never given a _reason_ to make a commitment), it is invariably women that are frivolous in the matter. They demand commitment, but will abandon an average man to chase after one of that small percent at the drop of a hat....
While I agree that it’s BS that you can’t find men who will be loyal, I disagree on how small of a percentage of childish men there are. I know plenty of men who are immature with dating and they’re not all the rich, muscular, and tall chads people think of when they think of the men women chase after.
@@alexschneider8494 Fair enough. I would agree that the percentage of unreliable men has been growing over the years. However, I attribute it to the increasing _feminization_ of men - The conditioning of men to act as frivolously as women traditionally do....
@@alexschneider8494 anecdotal evidence doesn’t change the majority. I can guarantee those people are either genetically gifted or you don’t realize how wellboff your bubble is compared with the average man.
@@ASRMN27 lmfao no they’re not genetically gifted. How are you going to tell me what people I know are like whom you’ve never seen? They’re average looking dudes. Only one of them is what I would call a “chad.” They’re all average height (5’8-5’11) and trade workers yet still have no problem meeting at least average looking women. Hell, I’m a 5’7 guy who doesn’t make tons of money and I have a girlfriend of four years. Women do not all act like they do in Miami, NYC, or California. There are plenty of nice women in the Midwest and the South. These podcasts do a terrible job at representing the average modern woman because they all take place in huge ass, wealthy and progressive cities.
Alot of men have this "I'm one of the few good ones." delusion. Women don't choose Good Men because they're stable, reliable, honest... and BOoooorrrring. And plentiful. Even most Chads are Honest and Good, in the sense they tell the woman right up front it's only for fun. The heartache comes when the woman can't wrap him around her little finger in a few weeks with lots of happy fun time and lovebombing, after she lied to all her friends that they are boyfriend-girlfriend. When she pushes for commitment, he repeats what he said before a single scrap of clothing came off. She then runs off crying "Abuse!" despite it being her who threw herself at him, even though she agreed with his open and honest boundary about non-serious. Then she finds a Good Guy to restore her ego and tells him her fake sob-story (which she probably believes herself). Then once restored, another Chad.
Connor and Calvin 100% earned my subscription to the Lotus Eaters premium with this video. I had been watching the YT content for a while, but this video was such a breath of fresh air and an incredibly insightful look at these current issues. Carl has done a great job bringing all of you together and I am more than happy to help support it.
Exactly. If they want to change, then no one is stopping them. They can help themselves, same as the rest of us have had to help ourselves. I have no mercy however for older women who will encourage younger girls to live debauched loves the way they have. I have more mercy for the innocent girls and boys who are coming up next.
Almost everyone can be redeemed. Sexual promiscuity is not an irredeemable act. Unfortunately, they most likely won't realize they've made a mistake until they're in their 30s or even 40s. The point they're making here is that we need to figure out how to make them realize that as soon as possible so that the next generation will be less perverted, and the generation after that even more so. These women will almost certainly be past their prime before they start to change, but at least they will change
@@MeanBeanComedy Well yeah. It's like the song "Murder by Numbers" except that instead of being a murderer, the women is a slut. "Because [being slutty] is like anything you take to, It's a habit forming need for more and more, You can [screw every member of the high school foot ball team] And anybody else [who'll fuck a whore]." I'm a hopeless romantic who watched people do this stuff from the mid 90s in high school, through my brothers' relationships over the years, and to male friends I've had {generally friends of my bf whom we game with} throughout the years. And honestly, I can't wrap my head around it.
That's a bit of a chicken and egg question there. Are the type of woman that will sleep around more likely to divorce because of who they are or is their previous sleeping around causing the divorce? I'd say it's a bit of both, but I can't back that up in any way
I think the best way to know that you're "living your best life" is to imagine the ideal, achievable future that you could attain for yourself and then ask yourself "does this action guide me further down that path or set me in a different direction or even backwards?" For instance, if you imagine a future where you're surrounded by family, have a rewarding career, etc do these constant hookups for casual sex lead to that future? You may have a physical "need" for sex but wouldn't it be better to control those urges and find someone who shares a similar life goal to yours and build it with them instead? The casual hookups will never lead you down that path.
But if these women are participating in hookup culture...why would you want to wife them? Mother of your kids? No thank you. For many guys it's just not worth the risk. I've been married for 30 years but I totally get this and if I were in my 20s today I would definitely choose a different path.
@@racheljames7 So does mine. I have a son in his late 20s and it hurts to tell him what I really think about relationships these days. I'd rather not have grandchildren than to see him go through divorce and all those perils. It just completely sucks for everyone.
@@racheljames7 I am a woman. But I have spent 15 years with my boyfriend (we're Ontario / Pennsylvania, so it's complicated) all the while watching the horseshit my two young brothers have gone through. Cheating, lying, conniving to get money, slandering, trying to convince one of the courts that one of my brothers was a freaking child molester. I hope everything for my guy and I works out. If it doesn't (he'd have to chose that; I'm not moving.) I would have no interest in engaging with the dating market of today. A reckoning is coming. A Count of Monte Crisco of the sexes. And if people think that modern feminism is bad, they have No idea what is in store. And the fact of the matter is, there are large swaths of people who are going to live the words of the Joker: "You get what you fucking deserve."
The problem is, many men of my generation still want a family, there's just no one to have it with. There's also a huge disparity in the number of traditionalist men versus traditionalist women these days, so the good ones out there are usually with their future husband before they hit 18
The problem is, many men of my generation still want a family, there's just no one to have it with. There's also a huge disparity in the number of traditionalist men versus traditionalist women these days, so the good ones out there are usually with their future husband before they hit 18
These women don't even want what they're pushing; they just think they want it. There is true value in virtue, in faith, and in uprightness. We all know it, even when we try our hardest to reject it. These women have been surrounded by lies so long that they lie habitually just to not be ostracized. And the truth is that they are no more meant to be alone than man was in Eden.
When Michael is telling the women about the merits of the special nature of marriage they fight him tooth and nail and argue. As soon as he starts telling the guy he’d be better off if he married, they all nod their heads and join his side of the debate.
I'm glad someone else picked up on that. It highlights what marriage has become, and who it really benefits. THAT is why "MGTOW" exists, which is really just a new label for an old concept (1 Corinthians 7: 32-34).
Yes. And Most Churchians are repulsed by 1 Cor 7:22-25. But boy do they know 25-onwards. The Obedience and Cherish go together. It's not just the Man's Cherish duty alone; the Woman's contravailing duty is Obedience. But the moment they hear Obedience, WHOO! it's all distraction and trying to change the subject and extreme what ifs of abuse and such.
Fixing modern women would be easy, it would just take time and there's about zero chance it would actually happen in today's political climate. But all we would have to do is give them the equal responsibility and accountability that is supposed to come with equal rights and privileges. Do that, give it one generation, and bang, problem solved.
No. Men treating women with the dignity and respect they had in the 1950's would change more women then continuing to treat women like there's no difference like culture wants you to.
@@bufficliff8978 equal rights doesn't mean people are the same, it's actually an acknowledgement that people are different. That's why the law should be neutral, so the differences between people are based on their choices, not what the law says.
This is somewhat of a crude analogy but they must behave as though they are good long term investments and worth putting time and effort into. Women, collectively, need to prove that they're worth fighting for. Doing something about the nasty family and divorce courts could be a good start as well.
gross...."don't you want your needs met" YES ! well done Calvin ! Women need to begin shaming other women again. In the past this was one of the biggest ways we women maintained societal standards, by shaming those who stepped beyond those societal expectations, the "scandalous woman" ie having a child out of wedlock ect etc.
I agree. And I understand as Christians we don't want to condemn those who are sorry and want to change etc. But I have ran out of mercy for whores who destroy mena and want to destroy the younger generation of girls.
Women never stopped shaming other women. They just changed the target of shame. Without men to set the rules, women were allowed to set their own rules. And as any male stripper will tell you (or as Queen Victoria would tell you), a woman without rules and requirement of femininity is a vile and sadistic thing. Without some authority imposing rules of proper conduct, they now shame women who want to be mothers, want to be monogamous, see the ultimate good as creating a strong family for the future.
Can I just add something here as a nearly 42 year old woman. You're running away with the idea that women actually listen to other women.....they don't. On the most part, women really don't like other women. I can sit here now and call out other women's behaviour and get an absolute barrage of abuse back. I'll be accused of slut shaming, I'll have my own face and body picked on, I'll be accused of being jealous etc etc. When women get ready for a night out, they don't do it wholly to attract male attention, they do it to prove they are better than the other women who are there, they want to look better than the other women, and they want the other women to notice. Women were more "conservative" in their appearance before because the community agreed, and to some extent, religion played a part. It wasn't because other women told them. A daughter won't listen to her mother, but she'll listen to her father. I hate to say this, but if men expect women to "behave" better, then they need to call it out. Young women/girls see men constantly consuming porn, constantly commenting about breasts, legs, arse etc and think, "I need to be that to get in the game". This doesn't happen when females get to their 20s, this happens from puberty.
Until no-fault divorce ends there is zero incentive to get married. I really wish i could get married, but i cant expose myself to that much liability with a State that already clearly hates me The talk about pre-nups is meaningless because most of the time they get thrown out from court
The baseline motivation behind all of modernism is self serving. The concept that sacrificing of yourself to better the lives of others is completely absent from society. The notion that you should live a life that serves others is completely lost on these people and it's not something you can explain to someone who doesn't understand it. Self-sacrificial behavior is either innate, or you have a personality disorder, and women are being groomed into narcissism and psychopathy en masse.
I can totally understand mgtow. You're living in a different reality if you think be the change you wish to see in dating is the way out of this. Men need to walk away and when women start failing and the next generation see where this nihilistic lifestyle leads to, then there will be a change. You can't help these women, they don't want help, quite the contrary they *want* red flags.
Unfortunately it means you can't help the men, either. We pretty much have to bite the bullet for the next generation in order to protect ourselves. Or else be satisfied raising children that aren't ours, with a wife who hates us because she settled for us and is sleeping around behind our backs.
Well as long as the sex robots, and porn usage(now AI porn is a thing), among other things continues to exist, society will continue to fail regardless.
@@feliciab5019 You will struggle to find more than a 0.000000000001% of extremely mentally ill men who would reject an average-looking woman who treats him well and is faithful, and guess what, 99.9999% of single men (and a majority of married men thanks to their wives denying sex) absolutely consume porn (and the other scapegoats) on a nearly daily basis. Men have absolutely no issue feeling attracted to women, only thing porn does is making them want more than just "missionary position for the exclusive purpose of procreation". Only a nano-minority of already mentally ill men become affected by it. "B-but the dopamine addiction and resistance!!", again, if that extremely hyperbole study's claims had any practical validity, society would've collapsed, because, AGAIN, all single men consume porn.
@@feliciab5019 admits women arent interesting or worthwhile enough to keep mens attention, blames men. Seriously though porn cant love, if you cant compete with porn it's your fault.
In the Hungarian language we have a saying about the role of the man and the woman in the family. "The man is the head, but the woman is the neck who defines the direction of the head." These days it often strikes me how accurate this is in a well working family.
I'm reading Don Quixote for the second time - there is a parallel with what we are seeing here. Don Quixote styles himself as a 'knight-errant' and has a romantic view of love. He regularly encounters the 'modern' sensibilities (of the time) who see him as ridiculous, but even as he describes Dulcinea as being enchanted to appear as a common, unattractive peasant woman he is living an ideal that expresses some lost wisdom.
And the man is seen as mad. I like the helmet he gets. A classic book and the guy that wrote it had an amazing life to. One of my favourites. Enjoy. :)
I have read it again recently as well. Man, poor Sancho, I love Don Quixote for his bravery and resolve, but damn, he and Sancho go through it. I love the idea of dreams warping reality and the true nature of courage is within the heart of our actions, not only the effects. But when Sancho gets tossed in the air by those local goons, I couldn’t help but feel so bad about the guy haha.
Women can be the ultimate heroes if led by the most proprietary men that Kali Yuga may ever see... However, we must become these men, those who know what is right in conflict, for civilization, for themselves, their women, their children, and their souls. It's a long battle and it starts with men. We mustn't be afraid to take the first steps.
Married 17yrs, 2 kids, own more than one home. Have zero finance. Bringing my children up with a strong sense of faith. Asked my wife to stop working to support me and start a family before we were married. When ready I supported her financially in starting her business, she now out earns me so it is my turn to level up. Men and women can have everything and be happy. Men without women and vice versa less so.
Regarding Collins comments at the start and Fr. Robinsons comment on how it all comes down to the difference between men and women, I am reminded of my aunt's in Mexico who would say "why would I leave my husband, I would just have to marry another man."😂 They weren't saying men are bad by it, rather, they were saying the differences and difficulties between their husbands and themselves are going to be the same no matter who they marry because fundamentally there will always be misunderstandings between the two gen ders. It was always said with good humor as well, not in a nasty way. It was them reminding themselves that the grass is not greener on the other side. Old fashioned wisdom.
This year will be our 38th anniversary. We married in high school (he was 17 and I was 16) and had 4 children. Hubby worked (tradesman) and I stayed home and homeschooled. Started in the 1990’s when it was “illegal” (believed to be). Now we have 7 grandchildren who are also being homeschooled. It’s been an amazing blessing ❤. It hasn’t been easy but we stick with it.
In an age before Tinder and Social Media gave gals 100s of likes and "Wow, you're hot, what a fox!" messages DAILY, where a solid "7" guy is a swipe away even for a plain "4" gal, at least for the night. In an age where the media says "5'3" and 180lb? Put on that two piece, girlfriend! No shaming! But guys need a 6-pack and 6 and 6" She doesn't have to leave the house, her social circle/geography is no limit to the unearned affirmation, praise, and validation she gets just from uploading a picture. No need for the aqua net and the scunchie that matches her shoulder padded blouse, no need to go to the bar or out dancing.
Michael's story is so sweet, reminds me of Jordan Peterson's experience. My husband and I started dating when we were 14/15, got married at 25. It is absolutely possible if you take it seriously.
My parents met when they were 15 / 16, and got married when they were 22 / 23 and had me. Then two young brothers a few years later. I was born with cerebral palsy, so they had to make sure I was okay before they felt comfortable giving me siblings. I grew up figuring that this was just the way it was, and that we would all go through the same. And yet here I am at 41 and my bf of nearly 15 years lives in Pennsylvania, meanwhile my brothers went through ALL the shit I hear about on these videos and neither of them is gonna touch anybody with a ten foot poll at this point and I don't blame them.
The lack of a religous center weakens the lotus eaters. I love Carl and we do need secular appeal, but religion is the bedrock of his idealogy and he doesn't know.
This issue should be viewed through the lens of social engineering, the young people in the video want what they've been told to want since they were born. They're then rewarded by the (currently socialist) system for behaving in line with the message. Until the message changes this will go on.
@Somebody's Poisoned the Waterhole Possibly, but Ebola isn't malicious. It doesn't have a historical trend at this point of government support that empowers one side it infects to have better standing under the law. Ebola is Ebola. It just is a thing that exists.
@@Fr33zeBurn Sure, but only if you live in Africa. The odds of getting Ebola in Europe, or the Americas is infinitesimal. Getting falsely accused of rape, especially when putting your neck out there, may be small odds, but not insignificantly so.
She says he's a walking contradiction because she has a preconceived idea of what he's gonna be like and what he believes in and he's not what she thought he was gonna be like. Her own biased judgement is confusing her, lol.
Because there is simply no restraint left in people anymore. They love giving in to their hedonistic desires. Which results in ' he/she is not great or compatible with me in so many ways and we always argue, but hey, he/she is good at sex '. Not a good basis for a healthy, permanent relationship.
@@thetechnocrat4979 also, women are competing with others and they think they have to give sex immediately to keep a man. otherwise he'll find another woman to shag instantly.
As a woman that has not lived the modern western life, I have to say that there is no fixing modern women. These videos of conservatives telling men that they need to be responsible and get married are disingenuous because those same men are married to good women that are part of a minority. It’s basically like having a pantry full of fresh food and then telling the hungry to go find fresh food during a famine. You can’t erase the past that a woman lived and these conservatives that speak of redemption are also the ones who feel disgusted by the past of these women. That disgust is how most men feel about modern women and redemption or regret will not erase the life that a woman lived. It’s basically this: “you men! You go marry these loose women! Not me though. You guys!” We can even get biblical and say that not everyone will be saved. It’s a cold hard truth but there’s simply many who will not be saved and who will reap the consequences of their actions. I would not want any of these women for my brother. The red pill does get things wrong but one thing they are right about is that the solution is not for men to submit and accept the “redemption” of these women. Being forgiving and passive is precisely how we got to this point. These women are to be used as examples for younger women as to what no woman should ever be. They’re not there to be saved, they’re there to serve as cautionary tales.
Just remember that as women mock men and call them incels (using sex as a measurement of worth; promoting promiscuity), there will be "femcels" as well. Made up of either women who have hit the wall, or women who can not compete with other women towards getting the magical "Top Man". As the economy worsens and women's standards (and promiscuity) are not lowered, the number of Top Men will be smaller and smaller, and those men already know the exact woman they want, if any at all. Women think they are invincible and deserve to be treated like gods, but there is a reckoning coming beyond imagining as time passes. They can somewhat partially feel it coming if you know about those articles that they have always been saying "Where are all the good men??" or "Why can I not date men??". When it does, they will kick and scream and devote all their time to dragging humanity down before they go, as they have been doing since the beginning. In my opinion, repealing the 19th would be a good start to fixing the damage.
One thing that a lot of people seem to not realize is that sex gets better over time in a committed relationship. Even if both people have little or no prior sexual experience, the love you have for your spouse and your desire to please them will lead to better sex in the long run. How? Because the relationship, the trust, the commitment is there in a way that leads you to make the happiness and pleasure of your partner a priority. As a man, this means that my wife is much more to me than just a wet hole. I really don't understand this modern idea that sex is some skill you have to hone by sleeping with as many people as possible before you commit to someone. If you love and are committed to each other, the rest will follow.
This will be remembered as our age of apostasy, when we renounced faith and tradition and everything that was proven by time immemorial and we, in our great hubris, decided that we would try something new and different. Something Godless and soulless, something material to fill the holes left in our hearts where strength used to live. A time when we delude ourselves in droves to think that it was always this way, and that there was never any soul within us. I refuse to sell myself so cheaply, but I worry there aren't enough of us who are doing the same.
The really tragic part about this is that these women are likely all acting from trauma. I feel like everyone uses "fatherless behavior" and "daddy issues" as if they're just insults and not a serious problem in society. But, at this point, several generations of women have been psyopped by feminism and I think that one of the biggest factors that entice women to the allure of feminism is the lack of a strong, loving, male role model in our lives. It's easy to reject the feminist narrative when it runs counter to your experiences with men, but unfortunately too many women (including myself) literally have no men in their family to look up to. No brothers, no father, no uncle, etc. It becomes even worse if our first dating experiences were shallow or "predatory." (As in: being emotionally manipulated into having sex and then discarded, or simply treated like a living s*x doll, rather than a person.) It's those types of experiences, coupled with no positive male role model to serve as a counter example, that cause women to behave like the ones in this video. The logic is that, if men are going to treat me as an object regardless, it might as well be consentual. Because it's actually soul crushing to have feelings for someone that turned out to only be telling you what you want to hear as a means to gain access to your body. It's much easier emotionally to "consent" to being used, rather than allow yourself to be prey. This is why I can't stand the red pill ideology...because the red pill stuff perpetuates the exact conditions that produce these women--the very women that red pillers despise... If men want decent women, they need to do their part to show up as a father, a brother, or an uncle for the next generation. And women need to stop putting out fully until there is a reasonable level of commitment in a relationship. Stop giving away the milk for free. Make them buy the damn cow. And for any paranoid people out there: get a prenup with an infidelity clause.
The fact at these young women ended up reaching the argument of "There is no good, there is no evil, nothing matters"... actually sheds some light on the seemingly lunatic Orwellian shift in modern culture. After all, if your primary motivation is to avoid feeling responsible for your bad decisions... if your parents have failed you, and you have spent your life trying to figure it out yourself, and failing, and feeling like it's all your fault, then you inevitably lean towards undoing the very fabric of reality itself in pursuit of denial; declaring that objective fact doesn't matter. Because if objective fact doesn't matter, then you can never be objectively wrong, and you can keep lying to yourself forever. And therein lies the real cruelty of the social collapse - the real root of these young women proclaiming that it's not their fault, that they have no responsibility, that they are incapable of making bad decisions, that whatever their decisions are, they're "being true to themselves" etc? The real root of it... is a deeply buried feeling of guilt; an overwhelming feeling that they are the ONLY person responsible. After all, their parents proved inadequate role models; their parents did not prove to be the ultimate authority, and no alternative was offered. In simple animal terms, if you look around and can't see the alpha... it must mean you're the alpha. And if you're the alpha, EVERYTHING is your fault, and the weight of the world is on your shoulders. And if you know deep down that you're not up to the task of carrying such a massive weight, you are filled with fear and resentment, and anger. Ultimately, the path to salvation lies in understanding why these young women are so... aggressive in defending something that even they know is bad for them; when you tell them "your decisions are bad", you're telling them what they already know, and blaming them for something they already feel guilty about. For women, this is likely to make them double down on the bad decision, just to spite you. That's just how they're wired. You need to make them come to terms with the fact that it's not actually their fault; that's the only context in which they'll truly come to terms with the idea that their decisions are bad. You need them to seriously examine their relationship with and memories of their parents. You need them to be able to say, "I did this, because they didn't show me the way." You need to get them to surrender that weight they're carrying, or they will stubbornly cling to it forever.
Completely skipped his response that prenups are often thrown out in court and she still walks with half the cash and prizes. Until there is no legal/financial benefit for them to say the three magic words "I am unhappy" and walk out, the bad behavior will continue.
If you listened to the actual Whatever podcast, most of the girls are kinda unhappy about the state of dating. They participate, because they are young and pretty and so have high status in that world. But they know it's bad for them. At the start of the show Knowles told the (true) story of how he met his wife when they were kids. None of the girls were happy for him, they all looked kinda guilty and envious.
There's nothing more powerful than asking someone who isn't happy to really investigate whether their behavior is improving their happiness. Most of the time, the answer is no, they just nod and continue doing what they're doing anyway, but have at least had the seed planted to be more accountable.
It's also important to examine your own influence on how things in your life are because you are the only thing in the world that you can actually change. Everything else is up for debate.
ANOTHER well-done segment! Fantastic, positive message Connor! You guys at the Lotus Eaters are on FIRE today!! Last segment was the levity in the current situation; this segment was the noble pursuit forward towards lasting happiness. I commend you all. Especially you Carl for putting together a FANTASTIC team!!!
The fact that one girl had to ask Michael Knowles, if his story on how he met his wife was true, is sad. It's like she didn't think that true love actually exists.
26:35 "the Knowles Pre-nup" is actually an astounding, impressive idea imo. "Whoever brings the divorce gets nothing". That does seem like the only thing that could actually put the _marriage_ back into marriage.
Right... and how would you deal with claims of abuse? They are already made when none is present. If people are incentivized to be bad actors and there is no pressure for them not to be then nothing changes. How on earth is everybody so slow they cant think and form a complete idea?
@@thomgizziz What do you mean? Would not such a prenuptial agreement disincentivize false abuse claims? With such an agreement , presumably the abuse would have to actually be bad enough to want to leave while getting nothing other than freedom, no?
@@thomgizzizThe law already takes into account abuse or infidelity. Also, if male "Abandonment" (financial) is a thing, why is female "(Lack of) Fornication" not a thing? In the Bible, fornication is the only reason allowed! In our society, lack of fornication is a prohibited reason!
@@thomgizzizi was thinking the same thing. So if you are in an abusive marriage you have to put up with it for life or you get nothing! This is rewarding bad behaviour! I know that i would have left with nothing, but that can't be right! What about the children?
You say we shouldn’t walk away yet fail to acknowledge the fact that all the men these women have slept with means they’re unable to pair bond with a man so we’re forced to look toward the end of the relationship and acknowledge that even if we do take them on we will be unhappy and any child born of an unhappy relationship will be unhappy and have a very poor example for their own relationships. You can lead a 304 to water but you can’t make her sip rather than gulp.
Absolutely. I believe in redemption, burning wouldn't blame any man for not wanting to give them a chance. That is absolutely your perogative. I'd rather focus on. Saving the next generation of girls and boys, and there is hope because they hate the sight of what the older generation are doing.
It's more like the state is a tool that the mother uses to destroy the family and society. The state took advantage of Briffault's Law and hypergamy to appeal to the intrinsic character flaws of their largest demographic block of voters.
As long as women are financially rewarded for bad behavior, they will continue doing it.
Financially.
That's the problem. Virtuous families are being taxed to finance single mothers. Corporations giving paid maternity leave is also a tax on virtuous families. Just like free higher education is a subsidy for useless degrees.
Every single law is a law against long term planning and investment. Removing the injustice of lower outcomes for short term thinking.
Yep. They're literally being paid to be bad people, theres no reason they would stop.
@@Bvic3 "Virtuous families" aren't being taxed for it; it's men. The overwhelming majority of taxes are paid by men, and women are recipients of most of it. The real issue is that women no longer rely on an individual man for survival -- the only thing that gets them to behave -- and instead rely on men collectively, so their behavior can be as rotten as possible and she'll still be supported by the system. If "modern women" are ever going to be "fixed", the system would have to first collapse and women go back to relying on individual men for survival.
@@latt.qcd9221 I agree of course. But if men are being giga screwed, married women also are to a lesser extent.
It's like all married men having a part of their income going to a pseudo mistress (of a short term thinking badboy with a short term thinking easy woman).
Normally, the great terror of married women is that the resources of their husband go to a mistress. Now, all married women have to live with the resources of their husband going to the state mistresses.
As a young mother expecting her third child, often made to feel less than by my childless, career focused peers, thank you for your empowering words about motherhood.
Lol, 'less' ask those career focused women if they'll ever hear the words "I love you mommy."
Misery loves company. Today we have an army of unhappy women trying to bring others down.
You're a hero to me love. As the great poem says, 'the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world'.
Time is on your side, nobody will miss or remember those women for their careers, their career won’t given them love or true meaning or a sense of well-being on their death bed.
Hi Rose
I am sorry that you have been put down in this way. I find it interesting because as a childless career woman who is now 66 i have also been put down many times. I was told in my youth that women who do not have children are not real women! This was highly offensive, not only to me who chose not to have children, but to those women who want them, but cannot have them! It looks like to me that now the situation is reverse. Is it for the better? I am not sure. I also think it should go both ways. I do not agree with people sleeping around wether males or females, but it seems to me that even now in the 21st century it is still ok for men, but not women.
For Michael it was a simple story of love
For them it's literally unbelievable
That's honestly just so sad.
Yep, it’s really sweet that he married someone that he knew from high school. It’s very rare for something like that to happen nowadays.
Its impossible for me to. Cuz my experience was that of "everyone hated me and made fun of me." I admit im considered poorly socialized.
@@lindinle I'm sorry about that.
@@lindinle if you know that you're poorly socialized, you could maybe..... Work on being better socialized? You already have an advantage over the leftist looney tunes, at least you acknowledge that there's a problem. Those bat shit insane whackodoodles are completely oblivious to the fact that they're not functional as human beings, there's no fixing them.
In one of these videos a while back a millenial said she had a fantasy that she would meet her husband on a bus in university. I literally met my husband while waiting for a bus as a freshman at university 😂 they probably would think I was making it up too. I'm also a millenial btw...I'm Michael's age.
There's nothing quite like that magical feeling when the person you want to be with says "sure I've slept with 40 or so random people but you... number 44... you're special."
Ugh, amazing
LOL
That could be a good way of explaining to young ppl why it’s best not to sleep around.
I don't know, if they've had a lot of experience they must know what they're talking about right? As opposed to the woman who's never been with anyone saying it............can you really trust her opinion? 😆
I was on the receiving end of that once. Big surprise when she ended up my crazy ex who is still trying to ruin my life after cheating on and dumping me. Learn from my mistakes: don't give people like this the chance to ruin you.
@@jlspracher Read up on Cluster B personality disorders and especially Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality disorder, sounds like you got in the way of one of them.
How to fix it? Simple - bring back shame and social pressure. People like the Kardashians have ALWAYS existed, but "polite society" shunned them, refused to associate with or do business with them, and they got the message.
What changed, do you think?
@@MegaSpideyman well people got sick of puritan overreach and turned hard in the other direction causing the vehicle to spin out veer into a wall crash and burst into flames
@@vonfaustien3957 I suppose I can understand that, but it seems to have taken it from one extreme to the other.
Shame still exists, and social pressure still exists it's just all against you
A lack of balance unfortunately.
As a grandmother, married 36 years, mother of 7, this podcast is music to my ears. I pray that young ppl will listen to you.
Mother of 7? How do you get by money-/timewise with such a big family these days? 😮
@@neatwheat we have eight. Here’s a start:
Stop eating out and buying useless crap. Kids aren’t as expensive as you think. Remember, “the experts” lie lie lie.
@@micmacc2014 Well ... having a huge enough car costs, there are costs for clothes and school excursions to cover, kids want entertainment and stuff to play with and to be accepted by their peers or train in a local sports club. Medical bills, probably. And you'll need a house big enough. So probably fine when you live in a rural area but certainly not feasible with big city rental costs, ...
@@neatwheat we have 8 kids, I make 75k, wife stays home. We do live very rural, house was cheap, bought used 12 passenger van, gas is rough. Older kids work and buy their “wants”. I do all house, yard, auto repairs. I’m not bashing anyone. Just letting you know, it’s doable. The house, cars are all paid off. A lot of Americans waste money on useless stuff and don’t realize it. I’m not saying our way is for everyone, but for those who want kids, it can be done.
@@micmacc2014 Ok, that adds up. I know you Americans are also inclined to be fine with moving states, if job and circumstances require it.
Thinking about the "standard American diet", as a European who likes to eat considerately, I have to congratulate everyone who cooks and eats at home 🙂
You don't fix modern women. You allow them to continue doing what they want, and failing. You allow younger women to see this, and choose which path they want to follow.
All while the men avoid the modern women and choose the ones who decided NOT to follow in their footsteps. "Don't save em, they don't wanna be saved"
Yes.
Exactly, these women are ruined, allow the next generation to see this destruction, and give them the chance to become free of that.
Absolute truth.
Simps gotta simp.
Absolutely. As much as I believe in redemption, I have very little mercy for these women who have made these choices through their own free will. I'm more concerned for the younger innocent girls who these older girls will happily lead into the same debauchery they have chosen. These women actually heard Michael out, agreed with him and STILL chose to say NO to leading happy lives. That's their choice. Sod them. I have no sympathy. I have sympathy for young men who have tried to be gentlemen and have been mocked and metooed for it and for young girls who are looking for the right direction in life.
Any discussion about "fixing dating" or "making marriage great again" without one mention of no-fault divorce, alimony, child support, and family courts is not a serious discussion.
Yep and not much you could really do about it as far as i know.
The Michael Knowles prenup covered it. If you want out, you abandon your claims to the shared assets, and are free to go.
This 110%, men fear divorce, not marriage.
not to mention marriage is inherently a religious institution, and to pretend it isnt lead only to the sad state of make/female relationships we have today.
You're right, it should be tackled
They won't hear it from older women either. I'm only 30 years old and happily married and my twin who has been through a series of so-called queer relationships that ended in disaster and my lesbian cousin that is also been through a series of disastrous relationships feel they are much more qualified to advise my Straight cousin who would just like to be in a good relationship with a man. Literally they treated me like I was a little bit thick for suggesting that she try going to a church that she likes. Immediately jumped in with toxic masculinity problems that she might run into. It was so stupid. Like okay your exes threatened you with weapons and stole your money and so on, and I've been happily married for five years with three children and 0 crazy relationship calamities, but clearly you know what's up.
Like attracts like, essentially. Yes. You go and do the things that are true to your life and that will determine the people you meet. People who go to bars will meet people who go to bars. Gyms to gyms. Churches to churches. You still need to figure out the individuals you meet, but it's a starting point.
She's going to try to have sex with your husband.
@@kathycoleman4648 yes there is certain amount of self selection, no guarantees but you are going to have certain priorities and values if you go to Church/Synagogue/Temple every week and are involved in a faith community.
The problem is there are no women in churches. Not ones whos eggs havent dried up 30 years ago. There are barely any men under 50 either tho. So a young ish person does not go to church for friendship, for advice from people with similar life experiences, for any sense of community , but for God. Its also a sport to sit as far away from each other as possible, even before the virus released by the communist nation.
@@kevind.k7512 i mean, I'm in church and i'm definitely not at the empty egg carton stage. It really, really depends on the church. I met my husband at church, and we have some pretty vibrant, young parishes in our area. Idk man, it's certainly worth checking out imho.
Calvin nailed it. Sex, dating, relationships and even marriage I may add, have all turned into commodities to be consumed.
That's been a thing since the dawn of mankind however with how connected everyone is you can no longer go 2 villages over if the local women are not to your liking.
Men have always been treated as things to be used.
@@almalone3282 that's the insulting part: this illusion of "connection". People are getting so used to talking to the entire planet, they're forgetting (or don't know how to, in the case of these newer generations) how to actually foster personal relationships. Friends, family, and lovers are all concepts detaching themselves from people's ability to be genuine to each other because "why not be friends with everyone?" "Why settle for x when y is over here? Oh, z is better than y though...". Have people trivialized these in the past? Of course. But, at the same time, it's becoming harder and harder to have a genuine connection with anyone due to this endless cultivation of a "perfect life" many people pursue. Then they all end up feeling completely isolated with no one they can trust, mad at the world. As long as we use the internet this way, it's not unreasonable humanity will drive itself to extinction within the next few generations.
women were always a commodity
@@shioq. based
Lift weights, eat clean, learn to negotiate, self reflect, make babies and home school. Only way we get out of this mess, boys.
I see you went to hustlers University
Considering our founding fathers didn't have a concept of "lifting" and spent the vast majority of their time studying history, philosophy, rhetoric, ect... maybe focus slightly more on intellectual pursuits than getting swol?
@@dekardkain5469 Both/and.
@@dekardkain5469 they also lived in an age when you had to be mote physically active then today's day in age. Physical exercise is the main thing, not necessarily building muscle, but everyone needs to exercise, but men especially need it, even if just for mental health.
Crush your enemies, see them driven before you, hear the lamentations of their women.
Michaels performance was the best debate performance I’ve ever seen. He could have gone the “own the libs” route and “won” the debate via the “cult of the offensive” and as a result alienated all the girls on the panel. But instead he chose the calm, collected, defensive, tough love counterattack method, which allowed him to actually make them think about their positions without angering them too much, and in the end maybe he even managed to save a couple of them. Bravo, I definitely couldn’t have pulled it off.
The problem with the prenup mentioned at 27:00 is that family court is incredibly unfair to men. The judge can throw out the prenup because the woman was under duress because you wouldn't marry her unless she signed it. Family court also breaks laws and assigns child support and alimony at a rate that impoverishes the man. The problem isn't that all women destroy men. It's that all women can. Prenups need the authority of law, and family courts must be reigned in before the marriage rate will ever go back up.
Yep. Marriage is the only contract someone benefits from breaking. Nothing can get fixed until marriages get fixed.
It's a feature not a bug. They dont want to fix it
I’m a woman, and I was the one who brought up the No Way Out clause. I was raised by a single mom, and there was no way on earth I was going to have children with someone who thought leaving was an option.
And then I chose very carefully. We courted for 4 years while I finished college and my intended began building his career. We shared many holidays, family events (weddings, funerals, etc), and family reunions. When it came time for premarital counseling, out of 20 questions about big topics like finances, parenting, and religious beliefs, we only disagreed on one. When we discussed it, it turned out that we had simply interpreted the question differently.
We celebrate 33 years in May. It hasn’t always been easy, but it has been satisfying. If I was told I was dying tomorrow, my only regret would be that we couldn’t have 33 years more.
family courts won't get reigned in when they're money printers for the government
@@llamasugar5478 And if he started beating you 3 years in you'd be sitting here making that comment. Oh wait...
It's almost as if 10,000 years of monogamous relationships, family, and gender roles wasn't just there for mUh pAtRiArChY and that it's actually the natural state of humans
Lol where did you get 10,000 years? Modern homo saipens have been around for much longer than that. Also chimps and gorillas also have somewhat similar family structures.
@@Cbd_7ohm human civilization
@Trash Panda Scientists have found that 8000 years ago, for every 17 women that reproduced and passed on their genetics, only 1 man did. So while I agree that monogamous relationships are good, you can't use this to form the basis of your argument.
I can already hear a neckbeard redditor yelling "ApPeAl To NaTuRe"
@@TheEmperorsChampion964 Complex human civilizations existed before 10,000 years ago. There are just few records of them.
Brian always says "Don't enter into a contract where the other person is rewarded for breaking it"...
Carl has built a power house here.
You guys are probably the leaders that you're waiting for.
"We need people that can do X"
"We need an organization that can do Y"
Maybe go look in the mirror and see what you can dig up.
Do you think that could work, even after Carl's failure to get elected?
I entirely agree with this
Thing is though... Carl actually put himself out there and stood for election. That is part of leadership.
You cannot make change without taking risks and you will inevitably fail before you succeed. Leadership means accepting the risk of looking foolish and going on anyway.
@@MegaSpideyman Britain's political climate is in an even bigger shitshow that it used to be. Honestly, why not?
@@MegaSpideyman there is more to politics than elections
I met my husband when I was 2, he was 6. He was my older brother's best friend, I always had a crush on him, for as long as I can remember. But the Age gap made it weird, for him, lol. When I was in 8th grade he was a senior. We reconnected when I was 20, the age gap wasn't as big a deal.
We have been together for 13years, have 5 children & are absolutely loving life together.
THATS AMAZING!!! 👍🙏
Lovely. 😁😁🥰🥰☺️😊
Why does such wholesome cuteness exist!
“So you were groomed by him”- so lefties
@@ajsouza3720 it doesn't
Ten thousand women marched through the streets of London saying: 'We will not be dictated to,' and then went off to become stenographers.
G. K. Chesterton
As a woman who sees how other women have treated men so abominably through their own free will, I find it hard to be as charitable as you. I'd rather focus on the younger girls who aren't a lost cause yet. These girls heard Miachael out and still said NO. And that's no great loss because they're past it. Its the next generation that needs saving and I have no mercy for the generation who's trying to destroy them.
They did make progress though. I feel your point but also have begun to realize maybe they aren’t hopeless. We should focus on the younger generations primarily but no sense not helping anyone willing to change
@@Mobius118 Hello friend. I'd like to think they made progress, but the fact is they still refused to give up their rotten lifestyles because they think they'd be losing their "autonomy." They don't want to change, and if they do want to change they can help themselves (as many others have, and I'd be over the moon if they did) because this is another problem their ilk have, expecting everyone else to take responsibility and wipe their backsides for them.
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. Some people just seem to be incapable of self reflection, much less admitting they've made mistakes. I look at the girls my age and very few strike me as genuinely happy, but not one would admit to it, much less be able to identify why. I really wish I wasn't single, but I have a good life, a good family, food in my belly, a roof over my head, games to play, and friends to talk to. I'm thankful for everything I do have, because the one thing I want might be the only thing other people have.
@@Mobius118 You will never fix a girl with a bodycount of 346 like the one on the far right(she says it's a friend, but come on..). There's no going back after that. Don't pretend otherwise.
@@mothbreeder641 Dont get me wrong, I believe in redemption and believe living a good life from now on for these girls is theirs for the choosing. But I wouldn't wish them on any man. They don't automatically deserve one.
I will never forget a conversation I overheard between my ex and her mother " No-one is going to buy the cow , if you give away the milk for free " . At the time I thought it was cruel , but looking back this motherly advice should be taken by all these girls on this show .
I heard that on 'Red Vs Blue'
If the cow's only asset is her milk, she's just good for the butcher.
@@defectiveindustries I understood it when I heard it on red vs blue in 8th grade. I’m 29 now. They definitely weren’t sugar and spice and everything nice. They’re hellish.
@crassgop no, it’s about women not giving it up quickly. But sure, whatever you said 🤡
Now, no man will buy the cow without first tasting the milk for free. Get into reality, idiot.
I love Calvin. He was instrumental in my return to my faith. I lost faith for many years. Seeing his passion and listening to him talk about God and faith helped me find my way back to God.
A great many people have lost their faith because their church leaders were, bluntly, atheists playing dress up.
"Why would you look at history when so much of history is bad?"
Because those who don't Learn from history are doomed to repeat it🤓
It's also a really dumb American way to look at things. Believe it or not, but the world wasn't purgatory until 1776.
Yep. You either learn it or you live it. That's like asking why you follow a recipe to make grandma's rice pudding. Because when we look at things, as humans, we see patterns. And we look for and strive to see those patterns because we are either trying to repeat them or to avoid them. Grandma's recipe is the former, bad shit in history is the latter.
So here is the panel trying to repeat it
Spoken like a true anti intellectual. Complete lost cause and no hope.
We've always had people like this.
@@mothbreeder641 Dumb? You are the only one that is dumb here, making an asinine wild assumption and pretending that anybody was talking about what you wish they were, smh. You have some issues and should take care of them. Nobody said the history of the US and how you actually thought that is what was said or that would even be relevant to the matter at hand is astoundingly slow.
I’m not Catholic, but the line, “If you’re not Catholic yet” is a banger.
Yeah, when I heard that I chuckled. The way he just casually slid it in was funny.
Michael’s openness about his faith is quite an inspiration to me. One of the ways I’ve learned how to talk about and implement my faith into daily life without being too annoying or gaudy about it.
@Mr Spitsworth the context was that Catholic marriage is a way to avoid the pitfalls of modern divorce problems. It was also a charming joke.
The Catholic church should never be forgiven for protecting paedophile priests from the law, it deserves to be mercilessly derided and mocked for such an evil act.
Not a fan of abrahamic religion, but if you have to pick one pick greek Orthodox, significantly less compromised than catholicism
In the US, the laws that incentivize divorce need to be abolished. Otherwise, there is literally no reason for women to stop taking advantage of it. Realizing that they missed out on the chance for happiness doesn't occur until they are in their mid forties so don't expect young women to care until the laws are changed.
No Fault is definitely a problem. Ending that, couples having to deal with their marital issues/troubles before they (which is to specifically say the woman)could rush off to divorce court could only benefit any society.
TBH, they never stop. Postmenopausal women (I'm late 40s) and women in their late 30s with a string of failed marriages still approach me and expect me to wine and dine them and kiss their hindquarters like I'm 18 and they're my first 'real' girlfriend.
How do you fix modern women? One word, standards. As a man, only spend your time and resources on a woman that meets a standard of prudence. As a woman, only spend your time and resources on a man that meet a similar standard of prudence. If someone you like has shown enough self-discipline and self-worth to not sleep around all the time, then you know they have the capacity to commit to you.
Tell that to every man with an only fans subscription.
@@Disenfranchised-lu1zv In the hypothetical discussion above, that individual has already disqualified themself. You cannot demand of others that which you do not demand of yourself.
@@Disenfranchised-lu1zv those simps disgust me!
Women would change overnight if men stopped simping.
Connor seems to not understand that this problem lies completely on women and the legal system they did activism for, men can't and won't fix it..
Men's reproductive imperative is to have as many children as they can, which yes, makes Genghis Khan the biggest Darwinian success story ever. But in a civilized society, men will either try to impregnate as many women as possible in the hopes that some succeed, or hiper focus raising the success rate of a few children with 1 or 2 women, and they leverage their genes, and capabilities as providers and protectors to get said women.
Women's reproductive imperative is finding the absolute best combination of genes, protection and provider they can SECURE, and their main leverage are sex and motherly skills.
If Women as the gatekeepers to sex, stop gatekeeping sex and stop developing motherly skills in exchange of masculine corpo skills, men have absolutely no reason to not behave like Gengis Khan, because:
A- Most women have proven to NOT be faithful, so it's very likely to end up raising some other man's children, meaning, there is no value in putting your efforts and resources in a few children.
B- Most women have 0 motherly and housekeeping skills, meaning she will be a burden, and WON'T improve your children's chances of success.
You will NEVER get most men to act according to religious values or high standards, so long as women keep following materialistic and hedonistic values, so they have no reason to not maximize their Darwinian success through uncommitted casual sex.
One of the major issues I hear here was the idea of 'Just get a prenup'.
The issue there is that they are frequently thrown out by judges, a friend of mine recently got divorced and he had a prenup but the judge just tossed it.
It wasn't as if it was something hastily scrawled on the back of a napkin, it was an actual document drafted up by a lawyer.
Sounds like a judge ruling based on opinion rather than law.
@Long John Thilver they’re a huge waste of time, I don’t know why people even suggest it as a solution to the issue of divorce for men.
Just don't get legally married and live in a place that doesn't recognize common law marriage. When two people actually love each other, the concept of signing a contract with the state never comes up.
Just do not get married.
Was it a splitting of assets and rights, or was it the one Knowles said? If women think they’re going to lose everything by bringing divorce, will they risk the court.
My dad is someone who should not have married nor had kids. He's just not wired for relationships. When I was in my late 20s, I remember telling my mom that, "I would rather be single and lonely than with someone who treats me the way dad treats you."
On the other hand, my mom's parents have been happily married for 65 years. We lived right by them and I got to see how my grandfather treats my grandma. I set that as my goal, and it took me far longer than I liked but I finally found and married a man who has the same character and ethic as my grandfather. This is a man I can happily be with for 65 years.
So why did your mother chose your father as her mate?
@@anaximanderofapollonia9842 boomers thought it was cute to completely rebel and discard ancestral wisdom and customs, destroying society in the process
Brilliant
Honestly, small town and naive. There werent many options and the family didnt know how to recognize certain red flags.@anaximanderofapollonia9842
Because women have terrible taste in men.
I got into a massive debate the other day, and was the only one making the argument
The comment was that men should act more like mothers, and my argument was naturally that men should act more like fathers, and the thread took exception to that.
A lot of them seemed to think I was saying they should act like their father, who I explained, was part of the problem
People are so confused poor things
Stop talking to (read: arguing with) women.
Mike Pence rule was correct.
Reminds me of the slew of MSM op-eds about Father's Day every year. Daddy issues, the lot of them.
This is a general problem people have these days. They can't differentiate between their personal experience and a general reality. Just look at the comments on this video right here, tons of guys conflating their bad experiences dating with all women around the world. I have a pretty fucked relationship with my dad, but I can understand that fathers as a whole are not only good, but actually critical to the fabric of society. I've been lied to pretty egregiously by some women, but I understand that women are not inherently dishonest
“ , tons of guys conflating their bad experiences dating with all women around the world.”
Passport bros don’t have a problem with foreign women.
It was nice to see Michael do so well, especially to see him win the women over at a few different points. Very impressive indeed.
@@chewcab8008 What do you mean?
Some people write off Daily Wire since it's "planned opposition" which is a dogwhistle for "Ben Shapiro is Jewish"
@@MegaSpideyman Presumably that Michael Knowles is the greatest host at Daily Wire.
@Mr. Battle He's able to be relatable, unlike Shapiro. Shapiro is like the autistic chess kid that keeps screeching about how cheese is pasteurized.
How is it impressive to beat a few dummies in a battle of wits. How well would you do in this debate? It’s easy work. Nothing impressive about it. I found it predatory, to put these people in the same room!!
The idea of sleeping with a woman who is seeing other men is thoroughly disgusting.
I'm amazed, those women really didn't believe that childhood sweethearts actually exist.
Well i don't know about these women's past but they don't seem to know love at all
@@Dualbladedscorpion7737 there was a poitn in the interview where they were all asked about the realtionship status of their parents and NONE of them had both biological parents together and in the picture. The one girl who is adopted is the best off.
The issue is most women salivate in front of the same few dudes at school.
@@adararelgnel2695 That's nuts, but I guess that's the demographic that we should expect to be represented on chat shows about dating.
@@adararelgnel2695 they probably have crazy moms. Apple doesn’t fall far
Man the way Michael can talk to 5 different people and still hold his composure is amazing, especially with all the insults thrown his way. Like I don't think I could do that in a 1v2 situation.
That's something I reckon, I and many different men, can learn from.
I'll be honest. I don't have enough patience to talk to these kinds of women. He's a braver man than me. I can't stand women who act like this. I would have snapped.
Why do you care what women have to say?
That's a genuine question for you to ponder. The Truth is, they have nothing useful to say.
@@JeffCaplan313 Low-IQ MGTOW take.
Yeah, I would've been a _bit_ harsher... 😬😬😬
@Mean Bean Comedy That's neither funny nor accurate. You must be a woman, eh?
"We need to come together to fix this...but men have to take all the risk."
That's not a winning bet.
We know one truth, and it is that men can be held accountable. The problem is, men cannot be both parties at the same time. So this whole, "men do better/get to work" approach is not going to fix the problem at all. It is just going to result in more men getting chewed up by the system.
@@kevinmiller6443 No, you have to line up for the slaughter it’s the only way to save the thing that hates you.
@@kevinmiller6443 it’s ironic because the majority of the issues are on womens side yet men are still expected to make all the changes.
"...all the risk." Yeah thing is both men and women have to do it but women seem to have more incentive not to I guess what will solve the problem is if the men women liked committed eh? Nothing stopping the women from leaving said men after too. I can see why men are like nevermined.
@@kevinmiller6443Exactly. Trads need to get it through their thick skulls of Femidolatry, that Men are held responsible but not given the power to enforce. "Here's duct tape, build a palace. And if you fail, you weren't man enough."
Responsibility without Power is Slavery.
That "yaah" after each sentence was all i needed to hear to understand her intelligence and contribution to the discussion
We have thousands of years to know what good and bad is. There seems to be this idea in women today that everything in the past is wrong and they are smarter than those people.
Lotus Eaters need more content like this. We need to get to the heart of this issues not just have all these agnostic Brits who say they oppose the current world order when in reality they are a contributor to it and have nothing of substance to say. We need our Brits to be Inklings again so glad to see this and keep it up!
You can't fix these women. We have to fix the next generation. That's the real play.
Fix the next generation! By doing nothing.
This is one reason muslim women wear hijab. Muslim ppl believe it is protection for society/woman.
As they cover their beauty it makes it more important for them to develop their personality, morals and intellect, to be defined by.
This makes them pleasant to talk to and hold real conversations around shared values, beliefs and long-term life goals that are also deep and transcend in nature.
It prevents ppl getting arrogant and getting a superiority complex based on superficial trates.
Keeps ppl down to earth, modesty. Trys to prevent self entitlement and Princess complex.
It trys to prevent the commercialisation/weaponising of "beauty", by it not being a publicly displayed and traded commodity/currency.
Trys to give women a break from having to compete with each other on just beauty, in open public. That can cause feelings of jealousy.
Helps to try to prevent an army of simps and street pestering. As her beauty is for HER and the special people SHE chooses in her life.
Helps to try to prevent insecurities trying to maintain unrealistic and unsustainable beauty standards, that are forever changing and expensive to uphold.
This can cause mental issues in people and the sense of constant judgement and body shaming from people that don't know you or care about your long-term good.
Peace
Good luck with that! Have you SEEN what they're doing to the next generation of kids?!
@@sexistspaghettios yeah and the pendulum could swing back very hard and cause even more damage. That's why we have to do something before these people ruin everything and everyone.
@The Great Sun Hey, I'm with you! I wasn't being sarcastic or anything! I truly hope this can be done! Just a very very uphill battle. They marched through the institutions for decades! Gunna take decades to get ot all back IF we even do! 🙏
If you want to fix the relationship, you first need to fix the laws and the family court
Not true. You need to fix the culture. The views around family and the value people place on marriage and bearing children.
@@adararelgnel2695 Exactly. Culture determines the laws that a society functions under, and as culture changes, so too do laws.
For example, I don't remember which state this was in, but there is still a law on the books that you do not leave a pie on your window ceil on a Sunday. Do you think anyone is going to enforce that in today's society, despite the fact that it's still on the books? Not unless they can gain something from it politically. (Sorry for the acidic moment there...)
Yet at the same time, there are laws that prohibit minors from entering places that serve alcohol, and yet children in Florida were allowed to watch a fully sexualized drag performance at the Hyatt in Miami on December 27th. And the best Ron DeSantis could do is revoke their alcohol license. Police have Pontis Pilotted themselves from dealing with that shit, because our culture has largely 'claimed' to accept it.
No you are absolutely correct, laws come first they influence society and behaviour. Women are rewarded for breaking their marriage contract and men take only pure risk for getting married. There is zero benefit for men getting married and once a women has kids she is set for life the state swoops in with the backup of family courts. I'm a divorced father and trust me we need to fix family courtaws then women won't be so frivolous with whom they sleep with and then treat the fathers of their children.
Going to have to disagree. If you want men to re-engage, then you need to eliminate no fault divorce, you need to get rid of lifetime alimony, especially if the wife decides to cohabitate with another man, and you need to fix the horribly broken child support system, including parental DNA testing. Until these things are fixed, the risk for men getting married far surpasses any benefit a man receives. Then, and only then will men begin to change the culture. Too many men's lives are being destroyed right now.
Can't upset their precious females.
The girl at the end literally said “First of all, you throwin' too many big words at me, and because I don't understand them, I'm gonna take 'em as disrespect.”
Micheal Knowles is a prime example of positive masculinity.
LOL
@@libertariansasquatch Why LOL? He seems pretty good to me. Incredibly well spoken, passionate, polite, with a good heart.
@@MegaSpideyman libertarians are sexual degenerates.
@@MegaSpideyman But still a shabbos
@@genericyoutubeuser8957 the fuck is a Shabbos?
That one girl showed her vast wisdom and knowledge when she asked Michael Knowles "How do we know what's good and bad?"
🤣🤣🤣
How can you answer everything else So confidently and think that giving into every impulse is good if you have no definition of bad?
Well, there are two different ways someone could interpret being asked that question.
The first is more akin to "How can I know...", which would potentially be leaning into the idea that different cultures have different concepts of right and wrong, and different consequences in relation to them. "How can one know which of those is true?"
The other is asking for a personal explanation of what the person one is speaking to views as right or wrong. In the case of Michael Knowles, a practicing Catholic, that would likely be answered by stating that he strives to conduct himself in a manner befitting a follower of the Christian God, to the best of his humanly flawed ability.
At the end of the day most humans are sentient zebras who will do what it takes to be in alignment with the herd. So the key objective of the individual is to find a herd they feel okay being in alignment with. Issues crop up when two herds are fighting for resources ort space, or when a fissure happens within an existing herd where the collective or whole no longer connect on the core values that lead to their initial formation.
@@kathycoleman4648 then by that line of thought, there is no good or evil, just what happens happens. Nothing can be truly valued because nothing has in any true and intrinsic value. And if nothing has any true and intrinsic value, life has no real meaning to it.
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@@reidveryan9414 Welcome to leftism where everything is relative and subjective. It's an infectious, poisonous doctrine that's hurting our society one generation at a time.
@@kathycoleman4648 "At the end of the day most humans are sentient zebras who will do what it takes to be in alignment with the herd."
I take exception to this, because that's far over-stated by people (and used to negate individual human agency in other instances). While a significant amount of humanity is this way, it's only a plurality. Far more people, by number, follow independent paths and ones in contention with contemporary "values."
I had a friend who thought knowing the difference between good and evil is a sin. He also told me that you cant use certain books in the bible as a guide for living a christian life because they were written after Jesus was alive...
"She's salvageable"
Glowing endorsement for a wife, and no she's not... But if YOU want to bet the family farm against her, that's your business.
Life is awful, innit
@@antihebrew nah, just women and libs... Life's good.
I had no idea things were this bad, I haven't dated for years. I can't believe that sex is just considered a throwaway commodity.
I'm 36 and things were pretty bad when I was their age, frigid was a term used if you didn't want to sleep around. There were girls like that in my group, but some of us were actually looking for a relationship. Things have become worse.
It was the same for the guys, being egged on to sleep with as many girls as possible.
Our whole society needs a do-over because it's so ingrained and multidimensional that it'd take a miracle for men and women to return to good behaviour and traditional roles.
There's no underlying community values.
I watched the whole 5 hours! Knowles was correct, and decent in the face of indecency. A masterclass in stoism!
Corruption in politics has played a major role. Not enough people care about who they vote for and why. This is the result of indifference and callousness. Politicians also tend to only care about big donors and activists. That in turn creates unjust laws and tears apart the fabric of society. I hate to say everything's political, but in this case, bad politics have destroyed morality in society.
Knowles was disgusting in talking about these girls having sex with a dog. Keep your sick bestial fantasies to yourself.
I'm your age. 14 year olds were giving it up regularly, but at least it was mostly to their boyfriends. I blame widespread proliferarion of 'free' pornography
It's not only feminism creating these issues. They were most likely abused as children. The family is being attacked on many fronts and bad parenting is the result.
Very sad if so.
That's a terrible take.
And feminism is what killed the family unit.
feminism destroyed the family unit, they intentionally did so because the nuclear family is "patriarchal".
I do think giving women the right to vote was the beginning of the end for the west.
@@scrappydoo7887 Why's that?
Been around for a while, and in my experience the claim that "men won't commit" is rubbish. Leaving out the small percent of men that women chase after (who are never given a _reason_ to make a commitment), it is invariably women that are frivolous in the matter. They demand commitment, but will abandon an average man to chase after one of that small percent at the drop of a hat....
While I agree that it’s BS that you can’t find men who will be loyal, I disagree on how small of a percentage of childish men there are. I know plenty of men who are immature with dating and they’re not all the rich, muscular, and tall chads people think of when they think of the men women chase after.
@@alexschneider8494 Fair enough. I would agree that the percentage of unreliable men has been growing over the years. However, I attribute it to the increasing _feminization_ of men - The conditioning of men to act as frivolously as women traditionally do....
@@alexschneider8494 anecdotal evidence doesn’t change the majority. I can guarantee those people are either genetically gifted or you don’t realize how wellboff your bubble is compared with the average man.
@@ASRMN27 lmfao no they’re not genetically gifted. How are you going to tell me what people I know are like whom you’ve never seen? They’re average looking dudes. Only one of them is what I would call a “chad.” They’re all average height (5’8-5’11) and trade workers yet still have no problem meeting at least average looking women. Hell, I’m a 5’7 guy who doesn’t make tons of money and I have a girlfriend of four years. Women do not all act like they do in Miami, NYC, or California. There are plenty of nice women in the Midwest and the South. These podcasts do a terrible job at representing the average modern woman because they all take place in huge ass, wealthy and progressive cities.
Alot of men have this "I'm one of the few good ones." delusion. Women don't choose Good Men because they're stable, reliable, honest... and BOoooorrrring. And plentiful.
Even most Chads are Honest and Good, in the sense they tell the woman right up front it's only for fun. The heartache comes when the woman can't wrap him around her little finger in a few weeks with lots of happy fun time and lovebombing, after she lied to all her friends that they are boyfriend-girlfriend. When she pushes for commitment, he repeats what he said before a single scrap of clothing came off. She then runs off crying "Abuse!" despite it being her who threw herself at him, even though she agreed with his open and honest boundary about non-serious. Then she finds a Good Guy to restore her ego and tells him her fake sob-story (which she probably believes herself). Then once restored, another Chad.
Connor and Calvin 100% earned my subscription to the Lotus Eaters premium with this video. I had been watching the YT content for a while, but this video was such a breath of fresh air and an incredibly insightful look at these current issues. Carl has done a great job bringing all of you together and I am more than happy to help support it.
Oh boy, you’re in for a treat. They have an extensive library of top content by now.
Ligma?
I've heard it only affects sugondese people.
Connor is the reason I watch these things less and less.
Huge audience shift, I guess.
No, this is not about getting bad actors back to "our side" we need to set boundaries and purge these viruses and start a new
Exactly. If they want to change, then no one is stopping them. They can help themselves, same as the rest of us have had to help ourselves. I have no mercy however for older women who will encourage younger girls to live debauched loves the way they have. I have more mercy for the innocent girls and boys who are coming up next.
Connor is in the "I can fix/save her!" stage. He'll get his heart broken by some garden tool he'll take a chance on.
Almost everyone can be redeemed. Sexual promiscuity is not an irredeemable act. Unfortunately, they most likely won't realize they've made a mistake until they're in their 30s or even 40s. The point they're making here is that we need to figure out how to make them realize that as soon as possible so that the next generation will be less perverted, and the generation after that even more so. These women will almost certainly be past their prime before they start to change, but at least they will change
You're missing the point that Michael and Calvin are both Christians. Redemption is at the heart of the faith.
@@filmandfirearms No, in terms of psyche / physiology, some things cannot be redeemed. In terms of ethics, you can do whatever.
Marry a sincere Catholic woman. My wife converted to Catholicism to marry me and I am still very happily married 43 years later.
25:08 you're also missing the point that sleeping around DAMAGES WOMEN; they're damaged goods, the chances of divorce go up the higher the body count.
And infidelity.
@@MeanBeanComedy Well yeah. It's like the song "Murder by Numbers" except that instead of being a murderer, the women is a slut.
"Because [being slutty] is like anything you take to,
It's a habit forming need for more and more,
You can [screw every member of the high school foot ball team]
And anybody else [who'll fuck a whore]."
I'm a hopeless romantic who watched people do this stuff from the mid 90s in high school, through my brothers' relationships over the years, and to male friends I've had {generally friends of my bf whom we game with} throughout the years. And honestly, I can't wrap my head around it.
It can destroy the ability to pair-bond
That's a bit of a chicken and egg question there. Are the type of woman that will sleep around more likely to divorce because of who they are or is their previous sleeping around causing the divorce? I'd say it's a bit of both, but I can't back that up in any way
@@filmandfirearms it can destroy the ability to pair bond in men never mind women who are much more psychologically susceptible to this harm.
I think the best way to know that you're "living your best life" is to imagine the ideal, achievable future that you could attain for yourself and then ask yourself "does this action guide me further down that path or set me in a different direction or even backwards?"
For instance, if you imagine a future where you're surrounded by family, have a rewarding career, etc do these constant hookups for casual sex lead to that future? You may have a physical "need" for sex but wouldn't it be better to control those urges and find someone who shares a similar life goal to yours and build it with them instead? The casual hookups will never lead you down that path.
Bless you Connor. Keep looking for your unicorn.
But if these women are participating in hookup culture...why would you want to wife them? Mother of your kids? No thank you.
For many guys it's just not worth the risk. I've been married for 30 years but I totally get this and if I were in my 20s today I would definitely choose a different path.
My heart absolutely breaks for young men. It must be demoralising and scary.
@@racheljames7 So does mine. I have a son in his late 20s and it hurts to tell him what I really think about relationships these days. I'd rather not have grandchildren than to see him go through divorce and all those perils. It just completely sucks for everyone.
@@racheljames7 I am a woman. But I have spent 15 years with my boyfriend (we're Ontario / Pennsylvania, so it's complicated) all the while watching the horseshit my two young brothers have gone through. Cheating, lying, conniving to get money, slandering, trying to convince one of the courts that one of my brothers was a freaking child molester.
I hope everything for my guy and I works out. If it doesn't (he'd have to chose that; I'm not moving.) I would have no interest in engaging with the dating market of today. A reckoning is coming. A Count of Monte Crisco of the sexes. And if people think that modern feminism is bad, they have No idea what is in store. And the fact of the matter is, there are large swaths of people who are going to live the words of the Joker: "You get what you fucking deserve."
The problem is, many men of my generation still want a family, there's just no one to have it with. There's also a huge disparity in the number of traditionalist men versus traditionalist women these days, so the good ones out there are usually with their future husband before they hit 18
The problem is, many men of my generation still want a family, there's just no one to have it with. There's also a huge disparity in the number of traditionalist men versus traditionalist women these days, so the good ones out there are usually with their future husband before they hit 18
These women don't even want what they're pushing; they just think they want it.
There is true value in virtue, in faith, and in uprightness. We all know it, even when we try our hardest to reject it. These women have been surrounded by lies so long that they lie habitually just to not be ostracized.
And the truth is that they are no more meant to be alone than man was in Eden.
When Michael is telling the women about the merits of the special nature of marriage they fight him tooth and nail and argue. As soon as he starts telling the guy he’d be better off if he married, they all nod their heads and join his side of the debate.
I'm glad someone else picked up on that. It highlights what marriage has become, and who it really benefits. THAT is why "MGTOW" exists, which is really just a new label for an old concept (1 Corinthians 7: 32-34).
Yes. And Most Churchians are repulsed by 1 Cor 7:22-25. But boy do they know 25-onwards. The Obedience and Cherish go together. It's not just the Man's Cherish duty alone; the Woman's contravailing duty is Obedience. But the moment they hear Obedience, WHOO! it's all distraction and trying to change the subject and extreme what ifs of abuse and such.
Fixing modern women would be easy, it would just take time and there's about zero chance it would actually happen in today's political climate. But all we would have to do is give them the equal responsibility and accountability that is supposed to come with equal rights and privileges. Do that, give it one generation, and bang, problem solved.
No. Men treating women with the dignity and respect they had in the 1950's would change more women then continuing to treat women like there's no difference like culture wants you to.
@@bufficliff8978 equal rights doesn't mean people are the same, it's actually an acknowledgement that people are different. That's why the law should be neutral, so the differences between people are based on their choices, not what the law says.
@@bufficliff8978 Treating women like they had in the 1950's would get them into jail.
This is somewhat of a crude analogy but they must behave as though they are good long term investments and worth putting time and effort into. Women, collectively, need to prove that they're worth fighting for. Doing something about the nasty family and divorce courts could be a good start as well.
Or import millions of muslims and beat women into submission
gross...."don't you want your needs met"
YES ! well done Calvin ! Women need to begin shaming other women again. In the past this was one of the biggest ways we women maintained societal standards, by shaming those who stepped beyond those societal expectations, the "scandalous woman" ie having a child out of wedlock ect etc.
I agree. And I understand as Christians we don't want to condemn those who are sorry and want to change etc. But I have ran out of mercy for whores who destroy mena and want to destroy the younger generation of girls.
Women never stopped shaming other women. They just changed the target of shame. Without men to set the rules, women were allowed to set their own rules. And as any male stripper will tell you (or as Queen Victoria would tell you), a woman without rules and requirement of femininity is a vile and sadistic thing. Without some authority imposing rules of proper conduct, they now shame women who want to be mothers, want to be monogamous, see the ultimate good as creating a strong family for the future.
Can I just add something here as a nearly 42 year old woman. You're running away with the idea that women actually listen to other women.....they don't.
On the most part, women really don't like other women.
I can sit here now and call out other women's behaviour and get an absolute barrage of abuse back. I'll be accused of slut shaming, I'll have my own face and body picked on, I'll be accused of being jealous etc etc.
When women get ready for a night out, they don't do it wholly to attract male attention, they do it to prove they are better than the other women who are there, they want to look better than the other women, and they want the other women to notice.
Women were more "conservative" in their appearance before because the community agreed, and to some extent, religion played a part. It wasn't because other women told them.
A daughter won't listen to her mother, but she'll listen to her father.
I hate to say this, but if men expect women to "behave" better, then they need to call it out. Young women/girls see men constantly consuming porn, constantly commenting about breasts, legs, arse etc and think, "I need to be that to get in the game".
This doesn't happen when females get to their 20s, this happens from puberty.
As long as they get benefits, they will take the shame to get the resources
@@mgm6708
But what are the benefits exactly and where are they coming from?
God bless Fr. Robinson! Here’s hoping that he crosses the Tiber and joins the Church that Christ Himself founded.
Until no-fault divorce ends there is zero incentive to get married.
I really wish i could get married, but i cant expose myself to that much liability with a State that already clearly hates me
The talk about pre-nups is meaningless because most of the time they get thrown out from court
Yes
Child custody laws need a complete overhaul
The baseline motivation behind all of modernism is self serving. The concept that sacrificing of yourself to better the lives of others is completely absent from society. The notion that you should live a life that serves others is completely lost on these people and it's not something you can explain to someone who doesn't understand it. Self-sacrificial behavior is either innate, or you have a personality disorder, and women are being groomed into narcissism and psychopathy en masse.
It's 4th & 5th generational warfare
Noticed that in some movies ive seen. Look at the independence day sequel and star wars the last jedi. Both have a moot heroic sacrifice thing.
Noticed that in some movies ive seen. Look at the independence day sequel and star wars the last jedi. Both have a moot heroic sacrifice thing.
@@lindinle Moot?
That and Cynisism.
I can totally understand mgtow. You're living in a different reality if you think be the change you wish to see in dating is the way out of this. Men need to walk away and when women start failing and the next generation see where this nihilistic lifestyle leads to, then there will be a change. You can't help these women, they don't want help, quite the contrary they *want* red flags.
Unfortunately it means you can't help the men, either. We pretty much have to bite the bullet for the next generation in order to protect ourselves. Or else be satisfied raising children that aren't ours, with a wife who hates us because she settled for us and is sleeping around behind our backs.
Well as long as the sex robots, and porn usage(now AI porn is a thing), among other things continues to exist, society will continue to fail regardless.
@@feliciab5019 You will struggle to find more than a 0.000000000001% of extremely mentally ill men who would reject an average-looking woman who treats him well and is faithful, and guess what, 99.9999% of single men (and a majority of married men thanks to their wives denying sex) absolutely consume porn (and the other scapegoats) on a nearly daily basis.
Men have absolutely no issue feeling attracted to women, only thing porn does is making them want more than just "missionary position for the exclusive purpose of procreation". Only a nano-minority of already mentally ill men become affected by it.
"B-but the dopamine addiction and resistance!!", again, if that extremely hyperbole study's claims had any practical validity, society would've collapsed, because, AGAIN, all single men consume porn.
@@feliciab5019 admits women arent interesting or worthwhile enough to keep mens attention, blames men. Seriously though porn cant love, if you cant compete with porn it's your fault.
These women want war in which the enemy would conquer their land and do with them as they please.
In the Hungarian language we have a saying about the role of the man and the woman in the family. "The man is the head, but the woman is the neck who defines the direction of the head." These days it often strikes me how accurate this is in a well working family.
The man is the head and the woman is the body. They come together in the heart chakra
So in Hungary, women must be the leaders then. Because how is a man to lead when his direction is controlled by someone outside of himself?
Well Reka, in my language I am both the head and the neck. I am not here to be a womans pet for her to order around.
Im Hungarian and Ive never heard that proverb before
Western culture has a broken neck.
I'm reading Don Quixote for the second time - there is a parallel with what we are seeing here. Don Quixote styles himself as a 'knight-errant' and has a romantic view of love. He regularly encounters the 'modern' sensibilities (of the time) who see him as ridiculous, but even as he describes Dulcinea as being enchanted to appear as a common, unattractive peasant woman he is living an ideal that expresses some lost wisdom.
And the man is seen as mad. I like the helmet he gets. A classic book and the guy that wrote it had an amazing life to. One of my favourites. Enjoy. :)
I have read it again recently as well. Man, poor Sancho, I love Don Quixote for his bravery and resolve, but damn, he and Sancho go through it. I love the idea of dreams warping reality and the true nature of courage is within the heart of our actions, not only the effects. But when Sancho gets tossed in the air by those local goons, I couldn’t help but feel so bad about the guy haha.
@@frawDgnicnaD are you a source of wisdom?
@@frawDgnicnaD are you a source of wisdom?
@@frawDgnicnaD it's relevant. :) I like it.
"Just enable this bad behavior a little harder and it will all work out." Flawless logic
Based
ProTip: You can't!
Finally, someone said it.
Women can be the ultimate heroes if led by the most proprietary men that Kali Yuga may ever see...
However, we must become these men, those who know what is right in conflict, for civilization, for themselves, their women, their children, and their souls.
It's a long battle and it starts with men. We mustn't be afraid to take the first steps.
Married 17yrs, 2 kids, own more than one home. Have zero finance. Bringing my children up with a strong sense of faith. Asked my wife to stop working to support me and start a family before we were married. When ready I supported her financially in starting her business, she now out earns me so it is my turn to level up. Men and women can have everything and be happy. Men without women and vice versa less so.
Regarding Collins comments at the start and Fr. Robinsons comment on how it all comes down to the difference between men and women, I am reminded of my aunt's in Mexico who would say "why would I leave my husband, I would just have to marry another man."😂 They weren't saying men are bad by it, rather, they were saying the differences and difficulties between their husbands and themselves are going to be the same no matter who they marry because fundamentally there will always be misunderstandings between the two gen ders. It was always said with good humor as well, not in a nasty way. It was them reminding themselves that the grass is not greener on the other side. Old fashioned wisdom.
The audacity of these girls to do anything but sit quietly and listen to good wisdom is staggering to me.
They don't WANT to learn. They want to "win it all".
They’d rather be right than be happy and learn something smh
Toxic misogynistic repressive show reviews clips of toxic misogynistic repressive show that has a literal blow up doll on it.
Wisdom does not pay there bills.
@@JeffCaplan313 battle of the sexes, but people have been lied to about the win conditions.
This year will be our 38th anniversary. We married in high school (he was 17 and I was 16) and had 4 children. Hubby worked (tradesman) and I stayed home and homeschooled. Started in the 1990’s when it was “illegal” (believed to be). Now we have 7 grandchildren who are also being homeschooled. It’s been an amazing blessing ❤. It hasn’t been easy but we stick with it.
In an age before Tinder and Social Media gave gals 100s of likes and "Wow, you're hot, what a fox!" messages DAILY, where a solid "7" guy is a swipe away even for a plain "4" gal, at least for the night.
In an age where the media says "5'3" and 180lb? Put on that two piece, girlfriend! No shaming! But guys need a 6-pack and 6 and 6"
She doesn't have to leave the house, her social circle/geography is no limit to the unearned affirmation, praise, and validation she gets just from uploading a picture. No need for the aqua net and the scunchie that matches her shoulder padded blouse, no need to go to the bar or out dancing.
Michael's story is so sweet, reminds me of Jordan Peterson's experience. My husband and I started dating when we were 14/15, got married at 25. It is absolutely possible if you take it seriously.
My parents met when they were 15 / 16, and got married when they were 22 / 23 and had me. Then two young brothers a few years later. I was born with cerebral palsy, so they had to make sure I was okay before they felt comfortable giving me siblings. I grew up figuring that this was just the way it was, and that we would all go through the same. And yet here I am at 41 and my bf of nearly 15 years lives in Pennsylvania, meanwhile my brothers went through ALL the shit I hear about on these videos and neither of them is gonna touch anybody with a ten foot poll at this point and I don't blame them.
I tried at that age. They didn't. It sucks.
Connor is a gem. Connor and Calvin together - fabulous. More God-centred content, please
Connor is an idealistic fool.
Religion is a crutch for the weak.
The lack of a religous center weakens the lotus eaters. I love Carl and we do need secular appeal, but religion is the bedrock of his idealogy and he doesn't know.
@@boomerbillium3974 well said!
This issue should be viewed through the lens of social engineering, the young people in the video want what they've been told to want since they were born. They're then rewarded by the (currently socialist) system for behaving in line with the message. Until the message changes this will go on.
Until the laws change, this won't get fixed. There is too much risk in even trying to date anymore
Not dating a woman because she could falsely accuse of rape is very similar to not wanting to leave your house because you might catch Ebola.
@Somebody's Poisoned the Waterhole Possibly, but Ebola isn't malicious. It doesn't have a historical trend at this point of government support that empowers one side it infects to have better standing under the law. Ebola is Ebola. It just is a thing that exists.
@@Fr33zeBurn Sure, but only if you live in Africa. The odds of getting Ebola in Europe, or the Americas is infinitesimal. Getting falsely accused of rape, especially when putting your neck out there, may be small odds, but not insignificantly so.
@@Fr33zeBurn yeah totally the same thing /s
@@TonyTonyChopper4949 He said dating not marriage
I agree insulting won’t change anyones minds
She says he's a walking contradiction because she has a preconceived idea of what he's gonna be like and what he believes in and he's not what she thought he was gonna be like. Her own biased judgement is confusing her, lol.
Kissing on the first date has so quickly turned into sex straight away.
Because there is simply no restraint left in people anymore. They love giving in to their hedonistic desires. Which results in ' he/she is not great or compatible with me in so many ways and we always argue, but hey, he/she is good at sex '. Not a good basis for a healthy, permanent relationship.
@@thetechnocrat4979 also, women are competing with others and they think they have to give sex immediately to keep a man. otherwise he'll find another woman to shag instantly.
Yes to Natural Family Planning! I'm so thankful for the Church's objection to contraception.
Every day that passes makes me all the more grateful that I'm single
This is the most rational time to be single as a man.
I'd raise a glass to that.
Calvin floors me how does he have such wisdom beyond his years?
You're not fighting against modern society you're fighting against the varied nature of women
Step 1) Repair morality.
There is no step 2.
@Layne Staley That's like saying 'wet water' There's no other kind.
Christianity is what led us to this mess. Your own woke church is what allowed and even pushed all this since the 1950's.
@@ivan_says_hi Yes. The church got soft.
When the church preaches the unfiltered word of God, it tends to go well
@@RedYDG That's exactly the kind of arrogant solipsism that makes the world a worse place to live in.
As a woman that has not lived the modern western life, I have to say that there is no fixing modern women. These videos of conservatives telling men that they need to be responsible and get married are disingenuous because those same men are married to good women that are part of a minority. It’s basically like having a pantry full of fresh food and then telling the hungry to go find fresh food during a famine. You can’t erase the past that a woman lived and these conservatives that speak of redemption are also the ones who feel disgusted by the past of these women. That disgust is how most men feel about modern women and redemption or regret will not erase the life that a woman lived. It’s basically this: “you men! You go marry these loose women! Not me though. You guys!”
We can even get biblical and say that not everyone will be saved. It’s a cold hard truth but there’s simply many who will not be saved and who will reap the consequences of their actions. I would not want any of these women for my brother. The red pill does get things wrong but one thing they are right about is that the solution is not for men to submit and accept the “redemption” of these women. Being forgiving and passive is precisely how we got to this point. These women are to be used as examples for younger women as to what no woman should ever be. They’re not there to be saved, they’re there to serve as cautionary tales.
Just remember that as women mock men and call them incels (using sex as a measurement of worth; promoting promiscuity), there will be "femcels" as well. Made up of either women who have hit the wall, or women who can not compete with other women towards getting the magical "Top Man". As the economy worsens and women's standards (and promiscuity) are not lowered, the number of Top Men will be smaller and smaller, and those men already know the exact woman they want, if any at all. Women think they are invincible and deserve to be treated like gods, but there is a reckoning coming beyond imagining as time passes.
They can somewhat partially feel it coming if you know about those articles that they have always been saying "Where are all the good men??" or "Why can I not date men??". When it does, they will kick and scream and devote all their time to dragging humanity down before they go, as they have been doing since the beginning. In my opinion, repealing the 19th would be a good start to fixing the damage.
One thing that a lot of people seem to not realize is that sex gets better over time in a committed relationship. Even if both people have little or no prior sexual experience, the love you have for your spouse and your desire to please them will lead to better sex in the long run. How? Because the relationship, the trust, the commitment is there in a way that leads you to make the happiness and pleasure of your partner a priority. As a man, this means that my wife is much more to me than just a wet hole.
I really don't understand this modern idea that sex is some skill you have to hone by sleeping with as many people as possible before you commit to someone. If you love and are committed to each other, the rest will follow.
Calvin is a new hero of the faith. Love watching content with him in it.
"How can I say slutty in a nice way?" 🤣🤣🤣
I could never watch this show. I commend Knowles for hanging in there with them. They're over socialized and under informed.
Man: Asks question
Woman: "That's a lie"
Me: "What?!"
This will be remembered as our age of apostasy, when we renounced faith and tradition and everything that was proven by time immemorial and we, in our great hubris, decided that we would try something new and different. Something Godless and soulless, something material to fill the holes left in our hearts where strength used to live. A time when we delude ourselves in droves to think that it was always this way, and that there was never any soul within us. I refuse to sell myself so cheaply, but I worry there aren't enough of us who are doing the same.
Woo! Calvin Robinson! What a rock star (equivalent)!
I've been married 30 years... if I see my husband doing household chores its definitely a turn on.
The really tragic part about this is that these women are likely all acting from trauma. I feel like everyone uses "fatherless behavior" and "daddy issues" as if they're just insults and not a serious problem in society. But, at this point, several generations of women have been psyopped by feminism and I think that one of the biggest factors that entice women to the allure of feminism is the lack of a strong, loving, male role model in our lives. It's easy to reject the feminist narrative when it runs counter to your experiences with men, but unfortunately too many women (including myself) literally have no men in their family to look up to. No brothers, no father, no uncle, etc. It becomes even worse if our first dating experiences were shallow or "predatory." (As in: being emotionally manipulated into having sex and then discarded, or simply treated like a living s*x doll, rather than a person.) It's those types of experiences, coupled with no positive male role model to serve as a counter example, that cause women to behave like the ones in this video. The logic is that, if men are going to treat me as an object regardless, it might as well be consentual. Because it's actually soul crushing to have feelings for someone that turned out to only be telling you what you want to hear as a means to gain access to your body. It's much easier emotionally to "consent" to being used, rather than allow yourself to be prey. This is why I can't stand the red pill ideology...because the red pill stuff perpetuates the exact conditions that produce these women--the very women that red pillers despise... If men want decent women, they need to do their part to show up as a father, a brother, or an uncle for the next generation. And women need to stop putting out fully until there is a reasonable level of commitment in a relationship. Stop giving away the milk for free. Make them buy the damn cow. And for any paranoid people out there: get a prenup with an infidelity clause.
The fact at these young women ended up reaching the argument of "There is no good, there is no evil, nothing matters"... actually sheds some light on the seemingly lunatic Orwellian shift in modern culture. After all, if your primary motivation is to avoid feeling responsible for your bad decisions... if your parents have failed you, and you have spent your life trying to figure it out yourself, and failing, and feeling like it's all your fault, then you inevitably lean towards undoing the very fabric of reality itself in pursuit of denial; declaring that objective fact doesn't matter. Because if objective fact doesn't matter, then you can never be objectively wrong, and you can keep lying to yourself forever.
And therein lies the real cruelty of the social collapse - the real root of these young women proclaiming that it's not their fault, that they have no responsibility, that they are incapable of making bad decisions, that whatever their decisions are, they're "being true to themselves" etc? The real root of it... is a deeply buried feeling of guilt; an overwhelming feeling that they are the ONLY person responsible.
After all, their parents proved inadequate role models; their parents did not prove to be the ultimate authority, and no alternative was offered. In simple animal terms, if you look around and can't see the alpha... it must mean you're the alpha.
And if you're the alpha, EVERYTHING is your fault, and the weight of the world is on your shoulders. And if you know deep down that you're not up to the task of carrying such a massive weight, you are filled with fear and resentment, and anger.
Ultimately, the path to salvation lies in understanding why these young women are so... aggressive in defending something that even they know is bad for them; when you tell them "your decisions are bad", you're telling them what they already know, and blaming them for something they already feel guilty about. For women, this is likely to make them double down on the bad decision, just to spite you. That's just how they're wired.
You need to make them come to terms with the fact that it's not actually their fault; that's the only context in which they'll truly come to terms with the idea that their decisions are bad. You need them to seriously examine their relationship with and memories of their parents. You need them to be able to say, "I did this, because they didn't show me the way."
You need to get them to surrender that weight they're carrying, or they will stubbornly cling to it forever.
Completely skipped his response that prenups are often thrown out in court and she still walks with half the cash and prizes. Until there is no legal/financial benefit for them to say the three magic words "I am unhappy" and walk out, the bad behavior will continue.
Never consistently pay for anyone who isn't willing to do the same for you. It very quickly turns into an expectation, rather than a nice gesture.
Generation slapper.
As long as tinder, only fans and social media exist as they do today, this attitude will always exist.
If you listened to the actual Whatever podcast, most of the girls are kinda unhappy about the state of dating. They participate, because they are young and pretty and so have high status in that world. But they know it's bad for them.
At the start of the show Knowles told the (true) story of how he met his wife when they were kids. None of the girls were happy for him, they all looked kinda guilty and envious.
I hate to break it to ya but this attitude has always existed long before social media existed.
Nah, this is women.
Modern convenience just made her free to be this way
@Tangarisu Thank you, glad to see some based comments here. 🙏
@@Dualbladedscorpion7737 Yes, but socially media amplified and exposed it for the masses to see.
Calvin is always great when he is on Lotus Eaters. That said he is great when speaks in general.
There's nothing more powerful than asking someone who isn't happy to really investigate whether their behavior is improving their happiness. Most of the time, the answer is no, they just nod and continue doing what they're doing anyway, but have at least had the seed planted to be more accountable.
It's also important to examine your own influence on how things in your life are because you are the only thing in the world that you can actually change. Everything else is up for debate.
ANOTHER well-done segment! Fantastic, positive message Connor! You guys at the Lotus Eaters are on FIRE today!! Last segment was the levity in the current situation; this segment was the noble pursuit forward towards lasting happiness.
I commend you all. Especially you Carl for putting together a FANTASTIC team!!!
The fact that one girl had to ask Michael Knowles, if his story on how he met his wife was true, is sad. It's like she didn't think that true love actually exists.
26:35 "the Knowles Pre-nup" is actually an astounding, impressive idea imo. "Whoever brings the divorce gets nothing". That does seem like the only thing that could actually put the _marriage_ back into marriage.
Right... and how would you deal with claims of abuse? They are already made when none is present. If people are incentivized to be bad actors and there is no pressure for them not to be then nothing changes. How on earth is everybody so slow they cant think and form a complete idea?
@@thomgizziz What do you mean? Would not such a prenuptial agreement disincentivize false abuse claims? With such an agreement , presumably the abuse would have to actually be bad enough to want to leave while getting nothing other than freedom, no?
@@thomgizzizThe law already takes into account abuse or infidelity. Also, if male "Abandonment" (financial) is a thing, why is female "(Lack of) Fornication" not a thing? In the Bible, fornication is the only reason allowed! In our society, lack of fornication is a prohibited reason!
@@thomgizzizi was thinking the same thing. So if you are in an abusive marriage you have to put up with it for life or you get nothing! This is rewarding bad behaviour!
I know that i would have left with nothing, but that can't be right!
What about the children?
@@KirisutonoNekodefine bad enough. It is not only physical. Emotional abuse is real too!
You say we shouldn’t walk away yet fail to acknowledge the fact that all the men these women have slept with means they’re unable to pair bond with a man so we’re forced to look toward the end of the relationship and acknowledge that even if we do take them on we will be unhappy and any child born of an unhappy relationship will be unhappy and have a very poor example for their own relationships.
You can lead a 304 to water but you can’t make her sip rather than gulp.
Absolutely. I believe in redemption, burning wouldn't blame any man for not wanting to give them a chance. That is absolutely your perogative. I'd rather focus on. Saving the next generation of girls and boys, and there is hope because they hate the sight of what the older generation are doing.
the state alienating the mother was the next step in the destruction of the family
It's more like the state is a tool that the mother uses to destroy the family and society. The state took advantage of Briffault's Law and hypergamy to appeal to the intrinsic character flaws of their largest demographic block of voters.