Hi Paul, I've had first hand experience in a Japanese funeral, usually goes over 2 days and as a family member, I also was included in the picking up of the bones from the cremation table and placing them into the urn with myself and another family member on the other side of the table during the ceremony of my Father in Law. Another custom I learnt at that time was during this process, the Jaw Bone must remain intact and unbroken and the professional staff will ensure the jaw bone will be the last to be placed into the Urn. At the house, they have a family shrine which you ask the deceased permission and thankyou for the welcoming into their house, also to offer rice during family meals and to burn incense in their honour. I think this is such a respectful custom and belief. It also makes the other family members happy that you respected this custom. I had to ask my wife about the sleeping in the North direction meant and she confirmed it's the direction the deceased is placed. Another custom and belief that i found hard to understand is the (not sure of the spelling) Buddha-metsu day in the calendar. My wife said never buy anything big on buddha Metsu day (buddha dead day) but you can on Buddha born day) which is a new life or something.......if we do buy something on Buddha metsu day, my wife will say "hope nothing goes wrong"
I have been to one Japanese funeral, and I admit I didn't know about the jawbone! Thanks for that. As for auspicious or inauspicious days - my mother in law is a big believer. She wouldn't let us move into our new home unless it was on a 'proper' day (which ended up being a huge inconvenience, but when in Rome...)
@@Exjapter I write serialized Yuri Paranormal Romance light novels. My current serial is loosely inspired by “The Peony Lantern.” Stylistically, it is a cross between Iruma Hitoma (Adachi to Shimamura) and Iori Miyazawa Lori (Otherside Picnic). Who would recognize if you read yuri otherwise proably not.
I think that I have heard all of these superstition-based etiquette before, but you explained them well and succinctly. I think that this would make a great series of videos - explaining other etiquette, along with a brief explanation for the background of each. It could help us try to avoid 'blowing ourselves up' on the social 'minefield' while visiting Japan.
Actually, a video about what sorts of things are "ignorable" for most Japanese vs things that will grate on the Japanese nerves, would be an interesting video.
I find your videos very informative and helpful. Thank you for making the video! I enjoy learning more about Japanese culture, customs, and etc. Looking forward to your future videos! Stay awesome! 😎👍
I feel that a lot of these rules of etiquette have changed over the years. I do remember a very dignified looking lady absolutely losing it in a cake shop because the box of biscuits she had bought as a gift were too near the use by date. I thought she was going to murder everyone in the store 😂
Sometimes the customer staff relationship in Japan can be less than cordial, that's for sure. I haven't seen anything that drastic personally, but I know it exists (and sometimes shows up on the news or in variety show dramitizations).
Glad I found you on UA-cam…..great posting!
Thank you!
Hi Paul, I've had first hand experience in a Japanese funeral, usually goes over 2 days and as a family member, I also was included in the picking up of the bones from the cremation table and placing them into the urn with myself and another family member on the other side of the table during the ceremony of my Father in Law. Another custom I learnt at that time was during this process, the Jaw Bone must remain intact and unbroken and the professional staff will ensure the jaw bone will be the last to be placed into the Urn. At the house, they have a family shrine which you ask the deceased permission and thankyou for the welcoming into their house, also to offer rice during family meals and to burn incense in their honour. I think this is such a respectful custom and belief. It also makes the other family members happy that you respected this custom. I had to ask my wife about the sleeping in the North direction meant and she confirmed it's the direction the deceased is placed. Another custom and belief that i found hard to understand is the (not sure of the spelling) Buddha-metsu day in the calendar. My wife said never buy anything big on buddha Metsu day (buddha dead day) but you can on Buddha born day) which is a new life or something.......if we do buy something on Buddha metsu day, my wife will say "hope nothing goes wrong"
I have been to one Japanese funeral, and I admit I didn't know about the jawbone! Thanks for that. As for auspicious or inauspicious days - my mother in law is a big believer. She wouldn't let us move into our new home unless it was on a 'proper' day (which ended up being a huge inconvenience, but when in Rome...)
I had no idea about the red lettering. Very interesting.
I knew most of those but not writing a name in red letters was new to me. Going to be useful detail in my writing.
Interesting. What are you writing?
@@Exjapter I write serialized Yuri Paranormal Romance light novels. My current serial is loosely inspired by “The Peony Lantern.” Stylistically, it is a cross between Iruma Hitoma (Adachi to Shimamura) and Iori Miyazawa Lori (Otherside Picnic). Who would recognize if you read yuri otherwise proably not.
I think that I have heard all of these superstition-based etiquette before, but you explained them well and succinctly. I think that this would make a great series of videos - explaining other etiquette, along with a brief explanation for the background of each. It could help us try to avoid 'blowing ourselves up' on the social 'minefield' while visiting Japan.
Actually, a video about what sorts of things are "ignorable" for most Japanese vs things that will grate on the Japanese nerves, would be an interesting video.
I find your videos very informative and helpful. Thank you for making the video! I enjoy learning more about Japanese culture, customs, and etc. Looking forward to your future videos! Stay awesome! 😎👍
Thank you! I am glad you enjoy the videos.
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I feel that a lot of these rules of etiquette have changed over the years. I do remember a very dignified looking lady absolutely losing it in a cake shop because the box of biscuits she had bought as a gift were too near the use by date. I thought she was going to murder everyone in the store 😂
Sometimes the customer staff relationship in Japan can be less than cordial, that's for sure. I haven't seen anything that drastic personally, but I know it exists (and sometimes shows up on the news or in variety show dramitizations).