You spend enough time alone and eventually you realize you're not able to connect with anyone or do anything nirmal people instinctively do. Its like, your brain just changes permanently and wont allow you to be social wothout being neurotic and anxious.
If spending time alone caused this then doing the exact opposite can reverse it it’s not permanent your spirits are just broken so if you can’t instant results or even results with moderate effort you start feeling like it’s hopeless. But you also have to be hanging around people you actually have chemistry with
Its better for you're own survival and it all seems pretty logical if you would ask me and if you think about it more throughly you'll probably come to the same conclusions.
That's what gets me. I like the "idea" of having a girlfriend but I honestly don't even know what I would do after getting one. Like, do we just do dates once every week? How do I trust in her spare time she isn't getting Tyrone'd or getting hit on by Chad at work? Do couples really have sex every day? I don't even have my own palce. The logistics is what gets me and the fact that I think that way is precisely why I feel it's over for me.
You Go on Dates every Here and then. You wont get To Smash everyday. She probably will get tyroned at one point though. Bro a modern relationship has nothing to offer to you
Facts bro the same here in Ireland. People live to work 9-5 all day so how do they have time to date? I work from home and its still a struggle dating. Have kids whilst in your childhood bedroom isn't option at this rate id say being alone is better than anything. People go out and drink not for the sake to find a parthner but to numb themselves.
There are guys out there who are our age who have kids. That's crazy to think about. I can't even imagine talking to a girl my age let alone have kids with her.
@@defeatisfinal thanks man though i havent been commenting much these days. Also lots of comments vanish into thin air. This has been one of tejanas most relatable videos. I feel just as defeated as him. Also cool profile pic man
You're trapped in a negative feedback loop. Repeated losses compound into a negative outlook in life. You're not alone man. Focus on winning in other areas of your life in order to accumulate wins. You have to shift your focuses elsewhere and not on women. Relationship dynamics have severely changed for our generation and future generations to come.
Men should never simp or bendover in order to please a female they barely know. Whether a guy is single or in a relationship, he should always remain the boss of his life. If it means she leaves you, then so be it....her loss.
I've been in multiple relationships. I have to agree. They're inherently parasitic nowadays on nearly every level. Hoeflation has wrecked the dating market
This is one of the realest videos you’ve made man. I remember back in school I never told my friends when I had a crush on a girl because it felt unnatural for it to be known.
Yup same man. 4 different relationships for me, 3 of them either ended in cheating, false allegations, and one ended amicably. I want to try again but I'm 32 now, it's been over 10 years for me.
@DoctorSantosh Only happened once, came very close, but she changed her story 3 different times, which showed the cops that she was lying. Destroyed any sort of romantic interest I might have had in them....or illusions I had.
Exactly I put a very long response to what he is really missing out on.... Which is much deeper levels of hell married three times myself having to raise two kids by myself yeah the quality of women out there absolutely wretched and probably 85% of them are evil best that he just moves on and lives his life and stays the hell away from women
nah bro.. life starts at 30 for a man.. i know the blackpill is healthy and tastes bitter. Don't fall in the victim mentality. Start taking cold showers. Do workouts for yourself. You need to fall in love with yourself. Even if you are ugly and have many shortcomings.. you can sitll be a king. At least be a king among trolls.
I saw a Dan Bacon video the other day claiming that women never initiate kisses, I was so blown away by his claim this never happens. Its just that it happens only to chad.
Most of the time he would be right. Most women simply dont have the balls to do it. Especially with chads. You guys dont know how insecure women are. Most women will not intiate the first kiss, no matter how the guy looks. Be the man and lead or leave it all behind
You can make efforts to overcome such numbness irrespective of potential relationships with women. You can become involved in life and establish relationships with people doing good and interesting things.
This hits hard. You become defeated by all the rejections and past failures. You remember them more than your successes. The brain remembers pain more than anything else. I remember in the late 2010s ... I probably let a few good opportunities slide right by me. One time, I was too depressed and out of it after work to recognize that a woman trying to stand near me in the grocery store was probably trying to get me to talk to her. Didn't make a move, I could have a relationship or nothing at all Now opportunities like that never come around
ive been destroying myself over the past year remembering opportunities ive wasted because ive let past failures loom over me every moment, even if theres light at the end you dont want to look at it
Ahhh my fellow brothers of inaction. Sometimes it can save your life: I completely ghosted this girl when she gave me obvious choosing signals.. something wasn't right.. I did a background check on her only to find out the details through friends that she hacked up her bfs arm because he denied her seegs only to be found watching corn moments later.
@ I was just staring at the section of butter for the longest and this woman came up right next to me… she was staring off at the butter as well but I just didn’t make the move
I was born and raised in Sweden with Turkish parents, I am 33, I cant relate to anything or feel belonging neither in Sweden or Turkey, I missed out on so many friendships/relationships in Turkey while being miserable in Sweden. It feels like i watch other people living life from outside.
"It feels like i watch other people living life from outside." I like this statement. It exactly describes what I'm experiencing. I don't have the courage to do it, at the same time I can't wait for it to end. Naturally it will. Until then, I'll just watch the world go by.
I relate to you so much. I'm so lonely and its eating me up inside. I have nothing worthwhile. No real life friends, live in a dump of a city, no good job. Everyday is the same. Sure I might have some online "friends." However, I know how it stands there. I don't fit in as myself. Not really. I'm always that older person, lookin in from the outside. So desperate to cling on to something that doesn't exist. I'm a freak. Nothing I say or do will change anything. It's over and I'll can do is, stare up at my ceiling and silently weep. Wishing I wasn't born or was someone else.
Dont let the free time consume your mind fella, after work blast some new playlists while playing a game or something like that, but dont let the mind think by itself, your subcounscious is always trying to fuck us down
I FEEL THE SAME WAY TOO BUT TRY TO THINK OTHER POSITIVE THOUGHTS TOO AND DONT LET YOUR THOUGHTS BE ONLY NEGATIVE ONES ,, I KNOW IN THIS PRISON WORLD IT IS HARD TO FIND PURPOSE AND FREEDEOM AND ADVENTURE SO WE ARE STUCK IN OUR HOMES LIKE PRISONERS JUST WORKING AND SLAVING AWAY SERVING OUR MASTERS .. BUT WE ARE DIVINE BEINGS DONT FORGET THAT AND TRY TO LOVE YOURSELF TOO MY FRIEND, I LOVE YOU :)
I enjoy a quiet home and a full nights rest more than I enjoy a woman. I like the idea of having a woman in my life, but I'm not going to be a therapist for trauma I didn't cause and a cash machine for debt I didn't create.
THIS is the comment I've been looking for. Unlike the rest of the losers in this comment section, I'm not a pathetic defeatist....but I'm also not trying to lose everything I've FOUGHT for (4 LLCS, House paid off, FIVE cars/trucks paid off) to some petulant little girl who a.) Hasn't accomplished SHIT compared to me, and b.) Has nothing to offer in return other than P-ssy. This ain't the Summer of Love, folks. Life is HARD these days, and until a woman shows me she has as much strength as I do, I'm NOT interested.
@@MrAngusyoungisthemanLooking for a woman as strong as you is just the wrong aspiration. Look for a woman who adds to your life and doesn't bring a bunch of trouble. A woman who overall makes your life easier who you enjoy being around and are attracted to. Women by default just will never be what I think you're asking here. A female's job for our species has been to be a helper to a male. Whether that be her father or her brother or her husband
Bro I was pretty much in the same boat. Eventually you'll learn women are a money drain and none of them really love you. They just want to use you for your resources. Really what you got was a blessing. Spending time doing anything other than pursuing women is a better use of your time.
40% of ALL male humanoids that ever lived did not reproduce and it's going to get even worse now that women have extended choice (or at least the illusion of it). We have to come in terms with the numbers.
I'm almost 40 and I miss out on teen love, I miss out a lot of dating opportunity due to me being deselected , the bad boy gets the girls, nice guys come last, I'm definitely to far gone at my age.
That moment a social influencer hearts every comment in the comment section… except yours when it was a perfectly valid even humorous or heart felt comment.
That's exactly where I am now. I actually did get a taste. There was a College sweetheart I knew most of my life and we finally decided to get with each other. It seemed like she was the one for me and I was happy. That got struck dead in one day when I saw her with another man at an event she told me she cancelled. I called her out on it, never took accountability and after all those years we never spoke to each other again. She never told me who he was beyond "just a friend." I want love, but I've seen too many stories of men ultimately getting screwed over by women. I feel like I trust no one now and I'm better off alone. Oh and liking video games makes a woman real dry too.
3-4 days ago, a guy had to die coz his wife had filed 9 cases on him and his family. Bro made an 80 min video and wrote 24 pages explaining his problem with the biased Indian laws. In the end all bro said was "this ATM is closed now".
I was good with women in high school and dated a nice range of women. Once school ended I got a job working in the woods and really just kind of checked out, I've socially atrophied pretty considerably in my 20's and haven't been on a date in over 8 years now. I had a talking stage that lasted way too long when I was 24, and when it fell apart it was soul crushing. I just can't fit in and work things out socially, This world makes me feel like an alien sometimes. Just turned 27 last week and there just isn't any hope left for me in the realm of dating, the writing has been on the wall for nearly a decade. I think at some point I just gave up. Thankfully I have mountain bike racing and other hobbies that give me a sound sense of fulfillment.
29 y.o here and same bro. When im at party i cant talk this bullshit sentences with women. I think im 6/10, im massage therapist and sometimes i can feel interest from women but after few rejections i just feel like i dont exist for girls. Im living ghost. Women like happy fake vibe and useless small talk i dont have it so i will be alone till last day.
Which is crazy because that's even beyond the blackpill. But you're right. _You could be Tom Brady._ The best in your field _in history._ She could still leave you for someone else and that's it.
@@St4rTr3v1Ut10n Yeah, and what's scary is that she might not even tell you a genuine reason to leave you. Some women are innoncent, but most of them today have huge egos because of simps. They now expect us to approach them when they have nothing to offer other than their body (even the beauty is fake). They self-objectified themselves. What's the point of intimacy if you are not connecting with another person on a spiritual/emotional level? It's boring. You can keep ramping up your body count, but it's pointless if you really understand life from a macroperspective.
@TheDragonofRevelation Are you paying attention? There are plenty of examples where status, money, looks, and personality were accounted for and it still wasn't enough. Sit tf down.
Sandman asks, " what's wrong with woman? " Simple, my generation is no longer in their teens or twenties, so the cougars who were MIA from the 00s and 10s re appeared. the incel generation was created by design.
Not by design... Incels exist in nature. If you don't believe me just compare alpha male gorillas and beta male gorillas. The bottom 80 percent of men live the same way as beta gorillas do.
researchers consistently fail to address the magnitude of this issue. People ultimately need love and validation. When a man doesn't matter to a woman, when she doesn't gaze at him with a loving smile, tell him she wants him/needs him, that he matters to her. A lot of guys have never had that. This will cause disillusionment/isolation/soul sadness and mental health issues in men. No amount of material things, por* will be able to replace that. The problem in the west is 2 fold. Incels can't get a woman and the ones that do get one, end up in divorce/breaking up or being cheated on and losing more than the lady. So they swear off relationships and end up lonely all the same. (Mgtow) Both have the effect of creating lonely, angry, atomised ppl and broken society with plummeting birth rates. And can spell the end of that society. What are we seeing in the west now? Falling sperm counts, falling testosterone levels, births, marriage, anomie and a rapidly ageing society, with catastrophic debt levels. White ppl used to have close family bonds but now they no longer keep ties with family and send old ppl to homes. Jobs for life are a thing of the past, from where they used to form friends. White ppl lost their matchmaking culture and used to marry form within their own tried and tested social circle. With all that now gone, internet dating and cold approaching/PUA random women that u know nothing about is the way. Which can be dehumanising and toxic. Peace
I get you. I’m not 100 percent done. Like if a girl it’s overtly showing interest I’ll still take my shot but I don’t even care about these girls anymore. I lose most of them cause I just don’t even care enough to reply and I get a lot of success with women too
Yeah I just leave them on "read" over and over again. I actually feel that they should be trying to win me over since I'm the one who would eventually pay for everything. lol
I feel the same way and im already 36. It wasnt so bad in my 20s. I always managed to get some pretty girls here and there. I was never able to hold down a relationship for very long though just because I guess im so awkward. Sometimes i felt i did everything right and it still happened. Theyve always left me for some one better i guess. That really takes a toll on your confidence. Last girl i was with was in 2020 and havent been laid since. Social media i feel has ruined everything. The times i do go out every female is with someone it seems or they just give me a fake phone number. All the females online are bots and hookers. I have no drive to even be social or go out anymore. Society is worse than ever. Everything truly does seem hopeless and ive been alone so long i feel like ive forgot how to socialize.
Be an average guy. Work hard, achieve some minor accolades in scholarship. Finish college, move out at 20, never go back, eventually own a house. Enjoy slow, but steady career growth and a comfortable, even luxurious lifestyle at times. Make slightly more than the average. (Notice I opened with "average," yet seemingly achieving above-average results) Get ignored and ghosted by any woman who isn't obese, riddled with health problems, a single mom, or an older bored wife (but who is hot). Women just aren't worth it my dude.
It's wild because, I've always felt the exact same way as everybody since high school. Even after 2 divorces and no children. Barely any long term relationships in between. Both lied all the time, kept "male friends". The most disrespectful things they did was to talk to them late at night on the phone or, as with my second ex, caught her getting dropped off around the corner by her male friend numerous times. Married 5 years. Took me 4 year to get rid of her. After that, I threw in the towel. Can't pick 'em.
24yo here, in shape, look good and pretty tall. a lot of girls have come to me but ive always rejected them all because i dont even know what to do and whats is the point besides sex or attention, like, i feel like i DONT need sex or attention at all. the best moments of my life were me alone and when im at most peace im alone too, so whats the deal? its literally over for me in this regard but well, i dont really care that much, my best friend and companion were always myself
You could say to a girl, “I appreciate the attention. But honestly, I don’t have much relationship experience. So I would not really know what to do.” Exploring together can be fun, if you meet the right girl. You have to be willing to take risk and be vulnerable.
Sounds like you're just telling yourself you don't need it, when really you're afraid of messing up. Having sex or getting rejected is how you learn, so when the girl of your dreams comes around your social skills are locked in from years of experience.
@NightsideOfParadise If you can't socialize and make friends, then why think about a girlfriend, that's a step above. First get some IRL hobbies and social clubs where you can meet people, then when you've made some friends a girlfriend comes a whole lot easier. You can also work at a factory where you'll meet plenty of other people who've also hit rock bottom and would love to be friends with you. I have schizophrenia and I slowly worked my way to being socially savvy and banging hot chicks, if I can do it you can too.
Im 35 and I am metally far gone to be in a relationship period. No amount of therapy would ever fix me. I'll just work on getting rich and donate to orphans.
Women can sense it like sharks in the water. Any tidbit of insecurity, timidness or in other instances creepiness, erotomania and coming on too strong and you’re cooked. Lots of men forget that being obsessive is a huge problem. You find a female you like and you can’t stop thinking about them. The harsh reality is they’re not thinking about you at all. You need to occupy yourself with things that people care about to get that social credit - hobbies, scenes and picture perfect memory worthy moments or people and life pass you by
I've been in many relationships, long term short term, I've had what some only dream of. I even consider a few of them successful relationships. I feel this way too.
As someone who used to be ugly. If you put in the work your body will naturally change trust me. I’m very proud of how attractive I am now when girls off the bat you to tell me I was too ugly
nobody can make you feel insecure about yourself without your permission. Just be aware of that fact. It will get better with time if you repeat and train it.
Im in the same position but you still need to play it cool, dont show them youre afraid, ignore them, they may not be giving you anything so dont give them anything to take from you
Feeling uncomfortable showing interest ,I can relate to that . Its a problem magnified by having bad experiences and rejections over many years . Chad doesn't even need to show interest the women does it for him and normies get some success doing it ,thats why they don't have the problem.
I had everything you say, wife, kids, house, Christmas etc... but now I've been single for 9 years and my kids are abroad :(. We're in the same boat, believe me, you haven't missed anything. KOPF HOCH ! ;)
childhood love fucks up your perception of love in your adult life because its not the same at all especially when you only expirience that and then nothing ever again it makes you more akward later in life
I also feel guilty about asking a girl out. I think she could probably do better and I'm holding her back. If she rejects me, that might make her feel bad and i feel guilty for putting her in that situation.
23 bro. Same. I now hate dealing with attractive women. I’m stuck thinking about my cowardice for weeks to months. “I felt like crying”. Brother I have
I've had plenty of partners but yeah I've lost all desire to be a boyfriend anymore - women require effort, and I've become extremely lazy xD peace is much more valuable to me; women these days aint worth the effort - focus on making guy friends and finding a job/purpose to life.
I’ve been on this struggle ride for nearly five years now and now I’m 52 years old All I do is work and go home When I do go out I’m just totally ignored and always go home on my own I feel your pain and frustration You have youth on your side do make the most of your life as it just flys by ! I feel the same I don’t think I’ll ever be with another woman again
My dad and my brothers are studs and I’m 5’5. They all got divorced and destroyed. My oldest brother is 6’4 and my other brother has 9 1/2 inches. Relationships are overrated
"I'm too far gone" is an expression of how you feel I think, not a description of the truth of your life. Lack of love in childhood damages you massively. It damages your sense of self, perception of the world, your ability to connect with others. The lack of intimate relationships with women isn't the problem. It's a symptom of the problem. Id say go to therapy and/or a support group. If you are open to that. Becoming aware of what's really going on and so developing a different relationship with yourself and the world is where your focus needs to be. Inner work. The outside stuff like girls etc will look after itself. You are looking outside to fix the inside. That I'm afraid doesn't work. I'm sorry you feel so bad about yourself. A woman can't fix that. Only your own healing journey can do that. You are not done at 26. OK?
@@BEHEMONAUT Yeah exactly lmao. Women don't actually care about men. It's just a subconscious expression of "Well uhh who's gonna work so that I can enjoy the benefits of civilization!!??"
@BEHEMONAUT It is demoralizing a little, to realize there is some truth there...They get our hard earned money through taxes, don't need marriage for that...
100% correct. It's coming from somewhere far back. No woman will heal it ... and you will sabotage it anyway because you haven't solved the underlying problem. Get some help my friend.
That thing about your body decaying after 25 is complete bullshit. They're taking the average - which is a sedentary / crappy diet individual that likely has other bad consumption habits. If you're eating properly, working out, stretching, and recovering / sleeping properly on a consistent basis - your body should be still getting stronger. I'm 30 next year and i've always been athletic, but I started really taking lifting seriously a couple of years ago and i've never been in better shape. Of course, you are probably going to plateau, and it will become increasingly difficult to get better or even maintain as you age. But the differences in the people that have it as a part of their lifestyle and the ones that don't are VAST - especially the older they get.
idk bro im athletic af too, always ate healthier than 99.9% of ppl, but my health problems got worse at 30... could just be bad luck though. Otherwise my body and athleticism is fine, even better than 20s.
Treat dating as immersion therapy or as exersise in dating. Go on a date with anyone with no expectation. Its like anything. Practice helps. And even terrible dates are in a way fun or memorable. Can be scary to turn up. But its worth it.
Bro, it really doesn't matter anyways. There are many ways to live. Not just the conventional / traditional way. People put so much emphasis on this relationship stuff. It's all fake, hollow, socially engineered, following trends, ticking off boxes, etc. These people get tired of each other in 10 years time and bail. Ever heard the expression "familiarity breeds contempt?" They leave relationships only to get into another one, repeating the madness. You're not missing out on anything. Besides, all these relationships (romantic, platonic, etc)... they're just endless drama fests anyway. Too much drama and it takes away from peaceful living being constantly surrounded by it.
This is a lot more common amongst men than what you probably think, you should emphasize into the things you can accomplish because women can also be a curse, believe me
I think part of this is that even if you do get into a relationship women today are so untrustworthy and generally unstable that it's a lot of investment with little to zero return
This video hits different because I feel that I’m too far gone to handle a serious relationship as well at age 23. The best I could probably do in the future is just become a baby daddy but we all know nothing good comes from that. In my life I always saw the relationships around me as fake. I guess I’m just not cut out for the game. I did have girlfriends in middle school and elementary school, as well as some girls liking me in high school but I just couldn’t take them seriously. I still have family members hounding me about getting a girlfriend and they think something is wrong with me.
I know this feeling. I think what helps is really exploring the parts of you that you suppress and the things you’re ashamed of. Some call it your shadow. If one can confront and come to terms and be comfortable with their darkness, confidence naturally begins to manifest itself. Not a guarantee to get laid, but you will be happier.
i think i understand the bit about not wanting people to ask if you like a girl. For me, i've had males and females show no interest in me, but if word got out that they saw me talking to someone, then all of the sudden they want to pump me for information and connect. Yes, i'm offended by that. Even if were friendly before with these people, i feel it's my business, and no one is close enough to ask me that. I feel you
I'm glad you addressed some of these talking points like, "The Man Initiates," which ignores and downplays a lot of the psychological issues and neurological issues (especially if you're neurodiverse). I can feel this energy, but I personally don't feel like being with a woman. I feel as though my time and energy would be better spent elsewhere. Because communicating over text and chat, to me, has just become so dull and boring. I do not have the mental and emotional capacity, or attention span to accommodate another person's wants and needs. I respectfully refrain from dating to actually spare other women's time and emotions. Because I know I would not be a good boyfriend and so I don't want some poor girl to have to go through the malaise of depression and dissatisfaction by just being with me. Instead of focusing on another, I'm just going to discover how to love myself and be on my own. I'm going to find some way to master my mind and my self. I want sole ownership of me, and I don't want to share that. Especially since I never felt I had that sense of agency in my entire life and I'm 31 btw.
It’s sometimes helpful to remember that the value of a thing is merely a projection of your beliefs - “there is no moral phenomena, only the moral interpretation of phenomena”. As well as the less you have the less likely you are to fall into the most common bacchanalian pit falls.
It has been a struggle for me as in teens I don’t have any female friends nor have any girlfriends life. It’s really frustrating seeing other guys getting choosing singles while I ain’t anything. I am pretty much invisible towards females. My only believe towards this problem is giving up on dating. Accepted and moving with the understanding that Dating was a brutal experience that we had to been through. Seeing other guys having so much smoother and easier with women and they getting the attention from girls. But us we get treated like nothing girl didn’t give us a chance ,ignored us,rejected without any sympathy for us. Our best option is to give up dating and moving forward with life.
Over 40, had some relationship and even married for 13y... They are not worth it, with women it's just about what they can get out of you. I've seen good looking good men settle with a not so atractive woman... And the women got ego boost and cheated on those rare men that would marry them 🤷 They made it that is just not worth it.
You got to get comfortable being uncomfortable. Face your fears & anxiety. Rejection is a part of life. Even "Chads" get rejected so dont take it to heart.
It's never been about the rejection or failure. It's about the lack of success driving you mad eventually. Your self-esteem just crumbles and becomes delusions to cope.
I’m kind of in the same boat. I understand the feeling man. It’s very lonely. I don’t want to give up though. I swear I’m gonna figure this out and when I do, I’m gonna tell the world for free.
feel you bro..been there. but guess what? then my whole family died in less than a year.. you think that not having a GF hurts me now?.. there are bigger challenges and struggles in life than not having a girl. stay strong bro
This one is disturbingly close to my predicament. My last and only real relationship ended about 6 years ago and it was an online thing-a long distantce relationship. I only goot to meet her 3 times. And every other time in my life i've been around attractive girls, i just don't know what to do. Now at almost 26 and living alone with no job, so even less chance for me to meet a girl
You hit it right on the head bro. I gave up too. You try so hard getting nowhere and you accept one day that it’s over. You don’t even care if women look at you and want you, you’re just gone. I’m also mentalcel, skinny 6 incher, fucked up body. So much trauma over your life leads to this experience and men all over the west are feeling it.
There is a coping mechanism called Learned Helplessness; it is the giving up instinct. It is a reaction to stress that over time becomes a learned belief. Eventually, after failing to overcome a certain obstacle, you decide that it is impossible to overcome. It's the incel ideology to a Tee. You have to be mindful of how you speak to yourself because what you say to yourself can become your truth. Are you really too far gone to connect with another human being or have you accepted a truth you told yourself?
You spend enough time alone and eventually you realize you're not able to connect with anyone or do anything nirmal people instinctively do. Its like, your brain just changes permanently and wont allow you to be social wothout being neurotic and anxious.
true
FR ive tried so hard to re-socialize but I think its actually permanent
@@leenbeen3269 same
If spending time alone caused this then doing the exact opposite can reverse it it’s not permanent your spirits are just broken so if you can’t instant results or even results with moderate effort you start feeling like it’s hopeless. But you also have to be hanging around people you actually have chemistry with
Its better for you're own survival and it all seems pretty logical if you would ask me and if you think about it more throughly you'll probably come to the same conclusions.
That's what gets me. I like the "idea" of having a girlfriend but I honestly don't even know what I would do after getting one. Like, do we just do dates once every week? How do I trust in her spare time she isn't getting Tyrone'd or getting hit on by Chad at work? Do couples really have sex every day? I don't even have my own palce. The logistics is what gets me and the fact that I think that way is precisely why I feel it's over for me.
I dont even know how couples spend their. This whole dating thing seems like fiction. A make believe world.
You Go on Dates every Here and then. You wont get To Smash everyday. She probably will get tyroned at one point though. Bro a modern relationship has nothing to offer to you
Facts bro the same here in Ireland. People live to work 9-5 all day so how do they have time to date? I work from home and its still a struggle dating. Have kids whilst in your childhood bedroom isn't option at this rate id say being alone is better than anything. People go out and drink not for the sake to find a parthner but to numb themselves.
Focus on you and family everything will fall into place
@@AlexVentura-tg4dp bullshit
There are guys out there who are our age who have kids. That's crazy to think about. I can't even imagine talking to a girl my age let alone have kids with her.
Same here bro
Not counting my mom and cashiers, i havent talked to one in half a decade.
@@MrStinkels You're an OG. I see your comments on almost every BP video I watch. Always the best comments from you
@@defeatisfinal thanks man though i havent been commenting much these days. Also lots of comments vanish into thin air.
This has been one of tejanas most relatable videos. I feel just as defeated as him.
Also cool profile pic man
@@MrStinkels Thanks I am off to gym cope / rot right now Lol
"I feel uncomfortable expressing interest" too damn real
Once you hit your 30s you start to no give a fuck you'll see
Holy cope
I gave up on that bs at 17
@@tevinmoss12 me at 15
I'm 29 you right idc and it dope
As single men age they become comfortable. As 304’s age, they panic. Thats nature at work. No mysteries there.
Bro it’s over for me as well. I’m in the shadow realm dawg. Beyond the event horizon. Over
@@SentMyOwnWay 😔
Time to start making gorenoise
Did You lose a shadow duel and yami marik sent you there? Muahahaha
explore the nightcrawler pill.
@@xadionwc3mine is the blatant tax evasion and weapon procurement pill.
You're trapped in a negative feedback loop. Repeated losses compound into a negative outlook in life. You're not alone man. Focus on winning in other areas of your life in order to accumulate wins. You have to shift your focuses elsewhere and not on women. Relationship dynamics have severely changed for our generation and future generations to come.
You're asking him to renounce to his own human condition. Remember survive and reproduce is the only reason our genes care.
facts 💯
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Men should never simp or bendover in order to please a female they barely know.
Whether a guy is single or in a relationship, he should always remain the boss of his life.
If it means she leaves you, then so be it....her loss.
Youre not "gone". Youre advanced. All men eventually realize the relationship is parasitic, at best. This is from a Chad.
I've been in multiple relationships. I have to agree. They're inherently parasitic nowadays on nearly every level. Hoeflation has wrecked the dating market
IM Not a chad but had my e
relationships and yeah. Im done too. The relationships are parasitic.
That’s black pilled
Isn't it against our instinct? I really feel weird to the level I reached of being able to stay alone and happy
This is one of the realest videos you’ve made man. I remember back in school I never told my friends when I had a crush on a girl because it felt unnatural for it to be known.
You said exactly whats been on my mind the last 2 years. And its only degraded over time. I am tired. Fatigued.
Consider yourself lucky not to have experienced this "love" thing. Got burnt 3 times, and that really teaches you a lesson.
Yup same man. 4 different relationships for me, 3 of them either ended in cheating, false allegations, and one ended amicably.
I want to try again but I'm 32 now, it's been over 10 years for me.
@Jake23115 damn, that sucks man.
I hope none of the false allegations made their way to the court. These 304s are crazy and always get away with it
@DoctorSantosh Only happened once, came very close, but she changed her story 3 different times, which showed the cops that she was lying.
Destroyed any sort of romantic interest I might have had in them....or illusions I had.
Exactly I put a very long response to what he is really missing out on.... Which is much deeper levels of hell married three times myself having to raise two kids by myself yeah the quality of women out there absolutely wretched and probably 85% of them are evil best that he just moves on and lives his life and stays the hell away from women
Both my ex girlfriends cheated on me, been single for 6 years now. There is benefits and negatives to being single
This video hit home brother. Iam 33 be 34 in February. And after 30 life gets worse. I have schizophrenia issues so its really brutal.
I've been waiting for you to drop some more videos bro. Hope you're doing well 👍
Do you have to take medication for it? If so, does it help with the symptoms?
I just got diagnosed with schizophrenia as well and my future worries me. I’m 22
nah bro.. life starts at 30 for a man.. i know the blackpill is healthy and tastes bitter. Don't fall in the victim mentality. Start taking cold showers. Do workouts for yourself. You need to fall in love with yourself. Even if you are ugly and have many shortcomings.. you can sitll be a king. At least be a king among trolls.
Stop smoking weed
Its healthy
To say im
Done.
I saw a Dan Bacon video the other day claiming that women never initiate kisses, I was so blown away by his claim this never happens. Its just that it happens only to chad.
It's happened to me many times. It's always shocking though.
Dan bacon is a goose
Lol it happened to me 2 times in life
It is an evolutionary behavior set which has her being chosen rather than choosing. A normal woman would initiate kissing only about 1/5 of the time.
Most of the time he would be right. Most women simply dont have the balls to do it. Especially with chads. You guys dont know how insecure women are. Most women will not intiate the first kiss, no matter how the guy looks. Be the man and lead or leave it all behind
Ya bro I'm right where you are at. I wouldn't even be psychologically capable of being in a relationship. I'm so numb inside it's brutal.
You can make efforts to overcome such numbness irrespective of potential relationships with women. You can become involved in life and establish relationships with people doing good and interesting things.
@@kevinhornbuckle*You sound like a boomer...*
This hits hard. You become defeated by all the rejections and past failures. You remember them more than your successes. The brain remembers pain more than anything else.
I remember in the late 2010s ... I probably let a few good opportunities slide right by me. One time, I was too depressed and out of it after work to recognize that a woman trying to stand near me in the grocery store was probably trying to get me to talk to her. Didn't make a move, I could have a relationship or nothing at all
Now opportunities like that never come around
ive been destroying myself over the past year remembering opportunities ive wasted because ive let past failures loom over me every moment, even if theres light at the end you dont want to look at it
Ahhh my fellow brothers of inaction. Sometimes it can save your life:
I completely ghosted this girl when she gave me obvious choosing signals.. something wasn't right..
I did a background check on her only to find out the details through friends that she hacked up her bfs arm because he denied her seegs only to be found watching corn moments later.
That light at the end comment was super profound @@NoobyNick0710
@ you think so???
@ I was just staring at the section of butter for the longest and this woman came up right next to me… she was staring off at the butter as well but I just didn’t make the move
I was born and raised in Sweden with Turkish parents, I am 33, I cant relate to anything or feel belonging neither in Sweden or Turkey, I missed out on so many friendships/relationships in Turkey while being miserable in Sweden. It feels like i watch other people living life from outside.
its over.
I can relate to that, only I'm Mexican American stuck between two worlds/cultures 😢
"It feels like i watch other people living life from outside." I like this statement. It exactly describes what I'm experiencing. I don't have the courage to do it, at the same time I can't wait for it to end. Naturally it will. Until then, I'll just watch the world go by.
I relate to you so much. I'm so lonely and its eating me up inside. I have nothing worthwhile. No real life friends, live in a dump of a city, no good job. Everyday is the same. Sure I might have some online "friends." However, I know how it stands there. I don't fit in as myself. Not really. I'm always that older person, lookin in from the outside. So desperate to cling on to something that doesn't exist. I'm a freak. Nothing I say or do will change anything. It's over and I'll can do is, stare up at my ceiling and silently weep. Wishing I wasn't born or was someone else.
Dont let the free time consume your mind fella, after work blast some new playlists while playing a game or something like that, but dont let the mind think by itself, your subcounscious is always trying to fuck us down
@@RX69420XT for real.. your mind is not your friend. Always trying to bring you down. You need to unfk yourself. Every day.. baby steps.
I FEEL THE SAME WAY TOO BUT TRY TO THINK OTHER POSITIVE THOUGHTS TOO AND DONT LET YOUR THOUGHTS BE ONLY NEGATIVE ONES ,, I KNOW IN THIS PRISON WORLD IT IS HARD TO FIND PURPOSE AND FREEDEOM AND ADVENTURE SO WE ARE STUCK IN OUR HOMES LIKE PRISONERS JUST WORKING AND SLAVING AWAY SERVING OUR MASTERS .. BUT WE ARE DIVINE BEINGS DONT FORGET THAT AND TRY TO LOVE YOURSELF TOO MY FRIEND, I LOVE YOU :)
I enjoy a quiet home and a full nights rest more than I enjoy a woman. I like the idea of having a woman in my life, but I'm not going to be a therapist for trauma I didn't cause and a cash machine for debt I didn't create.
True man. Cant fix ungrateful 304’s. Would be stupid start that game. Also helps to save money.
THIS is the comment I've been looking for. Unlike the rest of the losers in this comment section, I'm not a pathetic defeatist....but I'm also not trying to lose everything I've FOUGHT for (4 LLCS, House paid off, FIVE cars/trucks paid off) to some petulant little girl who a.) Hasn't accomplished SHIT compared to me, and b.) Has nothing to offer in return other than P-ssy. This ain't the Summer of Love, folks. Life is HARD these days, and until a woman shows me she has as much strength as I do, I'm NOT interested.
Snoop dogg wasn't playing when he was rapping bout doggystyle...
@@MrAngusyoungisthemanLooking for a woman as strong as you is just the wrong aspiration. Look for a woman who adds to your life and doesn't bring a bunch of trouble. A woman who overall makes your life easier who you enjoy being around and are attracted to. Women by default just will never be what I think you're asking here. A female's job for our species has been to be a helper to a male. Whether that be her father or her brother or her husband
Honestly even if u have a “deep meaningful conversation” they get bored or have no interest
Bro I was pretty much in the same boat. Eventually you'll learn women are a money drain and none of them really love you. They just want to use you for your resources. Really what you got was a blessing. Spending time doing anything other than pursuing women is a better use of your time.
Not everyone will get a life partner. Just how it is...biology, human life, society
The problem is - I dont see any people worth being partners with
40% of ALL male humanoids that ever lived did not reproduce and it's going to get even worse now that women have extended choice (or at least the illusion of it). We have to come in terms with the numbers.
@@jakelexington7610are you worth being with? What do you offer?
@@jakelexington7610 The problem is you can't get any. Not an insult just pulling you away from cope.
the emptiness in my heart gets bigger by the day
Same here man this comment hit me and I so far relate it’s like you sink deeper into the void 🌀♾️
26 is too young to give up. I got laid last year when I was 26. It didn’t solve my problems either.
try not ever married at 62...😮
@williamshaw8106 *Why would you want to lose half of your stuff?*
@toxicwhiteGermanmale 🛫🛬🇲🇽
Yep, the blackpill is to finally get a girl and realize that it isnt some magic pill.
When is too old?
Being affectionate to a girl in public feels like a 9 to 5 warehouse job to me id be a horrible boyfriend
Lmfao
I'd be a horrible magician because I'll eff a trick up 😂😂
Lmaoo and the worst thing is, guys who show alot affection get often burned hard
Same bro I would be absolutely terrible at doing boyfriend things lol
Damn this is your most relatebly brutal video.
I'm almost 40 and I miss out on teen love, I miss out a lot of dating opportunity due to me being deselected , the bad boy gets the girls, nice guys come last, I'm definitely to far gone at my age.
You Just enjoy watching woman get stomped by chads and then begging you to marry them when they reach 30s
You ain't chasing single moms so you're winning. Plenty of simps chasing them.
Same here bro and most people will never understand this struggle
Dang life is so brutal even UA-cam deletes my normal comments.its sooo fckinover...........
That moment a social influencer hearts every comment in the comment section… except yours when it was a perfectly valid even humorous or heart felt comment.
Bro half my comments get deleted for no reason. How many human typing hours has Alphabet deleted? Fuck Google
Drink every time he says "I'm too far gone."
google shadowbans content that doesnt fit their ideologic goals
@@topy706 YES JUST LIKE THEY DO WITH FLAT EARTH THE EARTH IS FLAT
That's exactly where I am now. I actually did get a taste. There was a College sweetheart I knew most of my life and we finally decided to get with each other. It seemed like she was the one for me and I was happy.
That got struck dead in one day when I saw her with another man at an event she told me she cancelled. I called her out on it, never took accountability and after all those years we never spoke to each other again. She never told me who he was beyond "just a friend."
I want love, but I've seen too many stories of men ultimately getting screwed over by women.
I feel like I trust no one now and I'm better off alone.
Oh and liking video games makes a woman real dry too.
What do you play? if I may ask
3-4 days ago, a guy had to die coz his wife had filed 9 cases on him and his family. Bro made an 80 min video and wrote 24 pages explaining his problem with the biased Indian laws. In the end all bro said was "this ATM is closed now".
I was good with women in high school and dated a nice range of women. Once school ended I got a job working in the woods and really just kind of checked out, I've socially atrophied pretty considerably in my 20's and haven't been on a date in over 8 years now. I had a talking stage that lasted way too long when I was 24, and when it fell apart it was soul crushing. I just can't fit in and work things out socially, This world makes me feel like an alien sometimes. Just turned 27 last week and there just isn't any hope left for me in the realm of dating, the writing has been on the wall for nearly a decade. I think at some point I just gave up. Thankfully I have mountain bike racing and other hobbies that give me a sound sense of fulfillment.
What do you do in the woods if i may ask
@@Dayethoven
He's probably a woodsman.
29 y.o here and same bro. When im at party i cant talk this bullshit sentences with women. I think im 6/10, im massage therapist and sometimes i can feel interest from women but after few rejections i just feel like i dont exist for girls. Im living ghost. Women like happy fake vibe and useless small talk i dont have it so i will be alone till last day.
I was over for me . I realise I'm doomed to be inkwll at 18 now I'm 27 live is a damn lotterry 😅
At least you accepted early and aren't making YT videos about how you still cant accept it 😂🤣
Even if you are a chad, it's over. It's not worth it.
Which is crazy because that's even beyond the blackpill. But you're right. _You could be Tom Brady._ The best in your field _in history._ She could still leave you for someone else and that's it.
@@St4rTr3v1Ut10n Yeah, and what's scary is that she might not even tell you a genuine reason to leave you. Some women are innoncent, but most of them today have huge egos because of simps. They now expect us to approach them when they have nothing to offer other than their body (even the beauty is fake). They self-objectified themselves. What's the point of intimacy if you are not connecting with another person on a spiritual/emotional level? It's boring. You can keep ramping up your body count, but it's pointless if you really understand life from a macroperspective.
That's not how Chad thinks.
@TheDragonofRevelation Are you paying attention? There are plenty of examples where status, money, looks, and personality were accounted for and it still wasn't enough. Sit tf down.
Doesn't really matter when I get called ugly by both men and women alike almost everywhere I go.
This mentality of not wanting a woman in your life is spreading like a wildfire in consciousness I guess. Different kinda energy altogether.
Have you interacted with the average woman nowadays?
@@GimbalLocksOnlyYeah exactly lol. Vast majority of women just aren't worth the stress with how they act.
Sandman asks, " what's wrong with woman? " Simple, my generation is no longer in their teens or twenties, so the cougars who were MIA from the 00s and 10s re appeared. the incel generation was created by design.
Not by design... Incels exist in nature. If you don't believe me just compare alpha male gorillas and beta male gorillas. The bottom 80 percent of men live the same way as beta gorillas do.
incels are an unforseen side effect of a multitude of other things that were done by design in order to destroy society
"I didnt have a girl when i was 6" thats the problem right there. Enjoy your life. Girls will show basic interest if you are having a good time.
Imagine being 37 like me and never had a GF.
@@bojangles4071 no need to imagine. I’ll get there, unless I pass away.
And in 3 more years you'll be just like that guy from the movie buddy boyo.
At least there's that to look forward to.
@ yeah, but at least e$corts are easy access here, Ive already slept with more than 20 e$corts. Without it, I probably lost my sanity a few years ago
researchers consistently fail to address the magnitude of this issue.
People ultimately need love and validation. When a man doesn't matter to a woman, when she doesn't gaze at him with a loving smile, tell him she wants him/needs him, that he matters to her.
A lot of guys have never had that.
This will cause disillusionment/isolation/soul sadness and mental health issues in men. No amount of material things, por* will be able to replace that.
The problem in the west is 2 fold. Incels can't get a woman and the ones that do get one, end up in divorce/breaking up or being cheated on and losing more than the lady. So they swear off relationships and end up lonely all the same. (Mgtow)
Both have the effect of creating lonely, angry, atomised ppl and broken society with plummeting birth rates. And can spell the end of that society.
What are we seeing in the west now?
Falling sperm counts, falling testosterone levels, births, marriage, anomie and a rapidly ageing society, with catastrophic debt levels.
White ppl used to have close family bonds but now they no longer keep ties with family and send old ppl to homes.
Jobs for life are a thing of the past, from where they used to form friends.
White ppl lost their matchmaking culture and used to marry form within their own tried and tested social circle.
With all that now gone, internet dating and cold approaching/PUA random women that u know nothing about is the way. Which can be dehumanising and toxic.
Peace
I just read a comment saying he was 39 lost his virginity and got his first gf
I get you. I’m not 100 percent done. Like if a girl it’s overtly showing interest I’ll still take my shot but I don’t even care about these girls anymore. I lose most of them cause I just don’t even care enough to reply and I get a lot of success with women too
Yeah I just leave them on "read" over and over again. I actually feel that they should be trying to win me over since I'm the one who would eventually pay for everything. lol
I feel the same way and im already 36. It wasnt so bad in my 20s. I always managed to get some pretty girls here and there. I was never able to hold down a relationship for very long though just because I guess im so awkward. Sometimes i felt i did everything right and it still happened. Theyve always left me for some one better i guess. That really takes a toll on your confidence. Last girl i was with was in 2020 and havent been laid since. Social media i feel has ruined everything. The times i do go out every female is with someone it seems or they just give me a fake phone number. All the females online are bots and hookers. I have no drive to even be social or go out anymore. Society is worse than ever. Everything truly does seem hopeless and ive been alone so long i feel like ive forgot how to socialize.
after early 20s its wraps
Be an average guy.
Work hard, achieve some minor accolades in scholarship.
Finish college, move out at 20, never go back, eventually own a house.
Enjoy slow, but steady career growth and a comfortable, even luxurious lifestyle at times.
Make slightly more than the average.
(Notice I opened with "average," yet seemingly achieving above-average results)
Get ignored and ghosted by any woman who isn't obese, riddled with health problems, a single mom, or an older bored wife (but who is hot).
Women just aren't worth it my dude.
It's wild because, I've always felt the exact same way as everybody since high school. Even after 2 divorces and no children. Barely any long term relationships in between. Both lied all the time, kept "male friends". The most disrespectful things they did was to talk to them late at night on the phone or, as with my second ex, caught her getting dropped off around the corner by her male friend numerous times. Married 5 years. Took me 4 year to get rid of her. After that, I threw in the towel. Can't pick 'em.
Peter Parker's biggest mistake was dating Mary Jane Watson instead of Ursela Ditkovich.
24yo here, in shape, look good and pretty tall. a lot of girls have come to me but ive always rejected them all because i dont even know what to do and whats is the point besides sex or attention, like, i feel like i DONT need sex or attention at all. the best moments of my life were me alone and when im at most peace im alone too, so whats the deal? its literally over for me in this regard but well, i dont really care that much, my best friend and companion were always myself
You could say to a girl, “I appreciate the attention. But honestly, I don’t have much relationship experience. So I would not really know what to do.” Exploring together can be fun, if you meet the right girl. You have to be willing to take risk and be vulnerable.
You are seeking for a genuine relation and a meaningfull bond which is hard to find especially in this generation
Sounds like you're just telling yourself you don't need it, when really you're afraid of messing up. Having sex or getting rejected is how you learn, so when the girl of your dreams comes around your social skills are locked in from years of experience.
My nephew has a gf and he’s 7-8 years old and im 27 😂 never had a gf in person
Ha, that is wild to hear! I got my 1st GF at like 10.
Brutal man.
@Tejana Go to Africa or Dominican republic trust me you will get a girlfriend there
I got my first girlfriend at 3.
Why is is always that the older brother gets mogged?
I just staw away from all that shit. You dont need it anyway.
You need to find other hobbies or you will go to mental ward some day with this girlfriend obsession
😂😂
Deadass, the RP and BP has turned men into pathetic animals
Human connection is not an obsession. Its who we are as humans.
Learn to play a music instrument.
@NightsideOfParadise If you can't socialize and make friends, then why think about a girlfriend, that's a step above. First get some IRL hobbies and social clubs where you can meet people, then when you've made some friends a girlfriend comes a whole lot easier. You can also work at a factory where you'll meet plenty of other people who've also hit rock bottom and would love to be friends with you.
I have schizophrenia and I slowly worked my way to being socially savvy and banging hot chicks, if I can do it you can too.
Im 35 and I am metally far gone to be in a relationship period. No amount of therapy would ever fix me. I'll just work on getting rich and donate to orphans.
You know all that pain gives you resentment too because that pain seems very unjustified. For me it's resentment that I think is not wrong too
You have to figure out an escape route from the resentment trap.
Women can sense if you are awkward so just be open about it, self awareness is a good thing.
Women can sense it like sharks in the water. Any tidbit of insecurity, timidness or in other instances creepiness, erotomania and coming on too strong and you’re cooked. Lots of men forget that being obsessive is a huge problem. You find a female you like and you can’t stop thinking about them. The harsh reality is they’re not thinking about you at all. You need to occupy yourself with things that people care about to get that social credit - hobbies, scenes and picture perfect memory worthy moments or people and life pass you by
Women can sense it bro, until it’s a chad? Remember how women were fawning over Rodriguez? Or Ted Bundy? They can “sense” bad intentions.
So what? Cant care less about these "facts". Women arent the Center of the universe
So what? Couldnt care less. Theyre not the Center of the universe
Thanks for your honesty about your feelings and thoughts .alot of men are thinking the same way that you do but won't admit it
Could be worse. You could be a CEO of a healthcare company in NYC. Come to Jiujitsu.
*Why is the mainstream-media pushing this shit anyways?*
*Why is the mainstream-media pushing this?*
I've been in many relationships, long term short term, I've had what some only dream of.
I even consider a few of them successful relationships.
I feel this way too.
I don't even leave my house, just to work cuz I fcking have to
Enjoy your SOLITUDE, Tejana!
You struggle to walk up to girls I struggle to go outside and be percieved
As someone who used to be ugly. If you put in the work your body will naturally change trust me. I’m very proud of how attractive I am now when girls off the bat you to tell me I was too ugly
@duckyh9712 Not many changes possible with your face
Agoraphobia is treatable.
True being 5'4 is punishment from God
nobody can make you feel insecure about yourself without your permission. Just be aware of that fact. It will get better with time if you repeat and train it.
At 57 I no going on need get a good hunting dog take up fishing it help me out with life
Im in the same position but you still need to play it cool, dont show them youre afraid, ignore them, they may not be giving you anything so dont give them anything to take from you
New game: Take a shot every time he says “I’m too far gone”
You’re going to need a big bottle.
@8:56 The way you said "Its a wrap" is brutal.
Never thought I’d see you here. The SGP videos were 🔥
@@TheShadowsofYharnam That channel was fun but UA-cam's policy and childish rules got that channel taken down.
@@PARZ90s Did you reupload on a different site?
Feeling uncomfortable showing interest ,I can relate to that . Its a problem magnified by having bad experiences and rejections over many years . Chad doesn't even need to show interest the women does it for him and normies get some success doing it ,thats why they don't have the problem.
I had everything you say, wife, kids, house, Christmas etc... but now I've been single for 9 years and my kids are abroad :(. We're in the same boat, believe me, you haven't missed anything. KOPF HOCH ! ;)
childhood love fucks up your perception of love in your adult life because its not the same at all especially when you only expirience that and then nothing ever again it makes you more akward later in life
I also feel guilty about asking a girl out. I think she could probably do better and I'm holding her back. If she rejects me, that might make her feel bad and i feel guilty for putting her in that situation.
Nah bro dont do that to yourself. Shes gonna suck your blood dont put her on a pedestal.
23 bro. Same. I now hate dealing with attractive women. I’m stuck thinking about my cowardice for weeks to months. “I felt like crying”. Brother I have
You are not alone in that way..... Thank you.
I've had plenty of partners but yeah I've lost all desire to be a boyfriend anymore - women require effort, and I've become extremely lazy xD peace is much more valuable to me; women these days aint worth the effort - focus on making guy friends and finding a job/purpose to life.
I’ve been on this struggle ride for nearly five years now and now I’m 52 years old
All I do is work and go home
When I do go out I’m just totally ignored and always go home on my own
I feel your pain and frustration
You have youth on your side do make the most of your life as it just flys by !
I feel the same
I don’t think I’ll ever be with another woman again
Just relax and stay positive bro
Sounds crazy...but ordering Pizza 🍕..always gets me excited about life..woman..yeah..it's hit and miss
“Just be confident bro!”
My dad and my brothers are studs and I’m 5’5. They all got divorced and destroyed. My oldest brother is 6’4 and my other brother has 9 1/2 inches. Relationships are overrated
Netherlands same bro.im 41 auto immune disseas.
The whole thing is a scam.
Poor dude.
"I'm too far gone" is an expression of how you feel I think, not a description of the truth of your life. Lack of love in childhood damages you massively. It damages your sense of self, perception of the world, your ability to connect with others. The lack of intimate relationships with women isn't the problem. It's a symptom of the problem. Id say go to therapy and/or a support group. If you are open to that. Becoming aware of what's really going on and so developing a different relationship with yourself and the world is where your focus needs to be. Inner work. The outside stuff like girls etc will look after itself. You are looking outside to fix the inside. That I'm afraid doesn't work. I'm sorry you feel so bad about yourself. A woman can't fix that. Only your own healing journey can do that. You are not done at 26. OK?
"Just accept less bro, I dont want you to throw it all away, someone needs to pay taxes so I can get a huge tax refund for all the kids I had" -women
@@BEHEMONAUT Yeah exactly lmao. Women don't actually care about men. It's just a subconscious expression of "Well uhh who's gonna work so that I can enjoy the benefits of civilization!!??"
@BEHEMONAUT It is demoralizing a little, to realize there is some truth there...They get our hard earned money through taxes, don't need marriage for that...
100% correct. It's coming from somewhere far back. No woman will heal it ... and you will sabotage it anyway because you haven't solved the underlying problem. Get some help my friend.
Listening to this made me feel a rollercoaster of emotions
That thing about your body decaying after 25 is complete bullshit. They're taking the average - which is a sedentary / crappy diet individual that likely has other bad consumption habits.
If you're eating properly, working out, stretching, and recovering / sleeping properly on a consistent basis - your body should be still getting stronger. I'm 30 next year and i've always been athletic, but I started really taking lifting seriously a couple of years ago and i've never been in better shape. Of course, you are probably going to plateau, and it will become increasingly difficult to get better or even maintain as you age. But the differences in the people that have it as a part of their lifestyle and the ones that don't are VAST - especially the older they get.
idk bro im athletic af too, always ate healthier than 99.9% of ppl, but my health problems got worse at 30... could just be bad luck though. Otherwise my body and athleticism is fine, even better than 20s.
@@zkglpqkbn What kinds of health issues are we talkin here?
Treat dating as immersion therapy or as exersise in dating. Go on a date with anyone with no expectation. Its like anything. Practice helps. And even terrible dates are in a way fun or memorable. Can be scary to turn up. But its worth it.
Probably the best advice ive seen on here.
Bro, it really doesn't matter anyways. There are many ways to live. Not just the conventional / traditional way. People put so much emphasis on this relationship stuff. It's all fake, hollow, socially engineered, following trends, ticking off boxes, etc. These people get tired of each other in 10 years time and bail. Ever heard the expression "familiarity breeds contempt?" They leave relationships only to get into another one, repeating the madness. You're not missing out on anything. Besides, all these relationships (romantic, platonic, etc)... they're just endless drama fests anyway. Too much drama and it takes away from peaceful living being constantly surrounded by it.
So real
This is a lot more common amongst men than what you probably think, you should emphasize into the things you can accomplish because women can also be a curse, believe me
I think part of this is that even if you do get into a relationship women today are so untrustworthy and generally unstable that it's a lot of investment with little to zero return
This video hits different because I feel that I’m too far gone to handle a serious relationship as well at age 23. The best I could probably do in the future is just become a baby daddy but we all know nothing good comes from that. In my life I always saw the relationships around me as fake. I guess I’m just not cut out for the game. I did have girlfriends in middle school and elementary school, as well as some girls liking me in high school but I just couldn’t take them seriously. I still have family members hounding me about getting a girlfriend and they think something is wrong with me.
I know this feeling. I think what helps is really exploring the parts of you that you suppress and the things you’re ashamed of. Some call it your shadow.
If one can confront and come to terms and be comfortable with their darkness, confidence naturally begins to manifest itself. Not a guarantee to get laid, but you will be happier.
i think i understand the bit about not wanting people to ask if you like a girl. For me, i've had males and females show no interest in me, but if word got out that they saw me talking to someone, then all of the sudden they want to pump me for information and connect. Yes, i'm offended by that. Even if were friendly before with these people, i feel it's my business, and no one is close enough to ask me that. I feel you
Pack it up boys.
I'm glad you addressed some of these talking points like, "The Man Initiates," which ignores and downplays a lot of the psychological issues and neurological issues (especially if you're neurodiverse). I can feel this energy, but I personally don't feel like being with a woman. I feel as though my time and energy would be better spent elsewhere. Because communicating over text and chat, to me, has just become so dull and boring. I do not have the mental and emotional capacity, or attention span to accommodate another person's wants and needs. I respectfully refrain from dating to actually spare other women's time and emotions. Because I know I would not be a good boyfriend and so I don't want some poor girl to have to go through the malaise of depression and dissatisfaction by just being with me. Instead of focusing on another, I'm just going to discover how to love myself and be on my own. I'm going to find some way to master my mind and my self. I want sole ownership of me, and I don't want to share that. Especially since I never felt I had that sense of agency in my entire life and I'm 31 btw.
It’s sometimes helpful to remember that the value of a thing is merely a projection of your beliefs - “there is no moral phenomena, only the moral interpretation of phenomena”.
As well as the less you have the less likely you are to fall into the most common bacchanalian pit falls.
It has been a struggle for me as in teens I don’t have any female friends nor have any girlfriends life.
It’s really frustrating seeing other guys getting choosing singles while I ain’t anything. I am pretty much invisible towards females. My only believe towards this problem is giving up on dating.
Accepted and moving with the understanding that Dating was a brutal experience that we had to been through. Seeing other guys having so much smoother and easier with women and they getting the attention from girls. But us we get treated like nothing girl didn’t give us a chance ,ignored us,rejected without any sympathy for us. Our best option is to give up dating and moving forward with life.
16:25 Yep. That’s the forever alone kicking in. It’s brutal and truly over 😞
Over 40, had some relationship and even married for 13y... They are not worth it, with women it's just about what they can get out of you.
I've seen good looking good men settle with a not so atractive woman... And the women got ego boost and cheated on those rare men that would marry them 🤷
They made it that is just not worth it.
You got to get comfortable being uncomfortable. Face your fears & anxiety. Rejection is a part of life. Even "Chads" get rejected so dont take it to heart.
It's never been about the rejection or failure. It's about the lack of success driving you mad eventually. Your self-esteem just crumbles and becomes delusions to cope.
I’m kind of in the same boat. I understand the feeling man. It’s very lonely. I don’t want to give up though. I swear I’m gonna figure this out and when I do, I’m gonna tell the world for free.
It gets worse. If they don't like you now, they won't like you at 30 or 40 or 50. If you can accept it, life is more bearable.
feel you bro..been there. but guess what? then my whole family died in less than a year.. you think that not having a GF hurts me now?.. there are bigger challenges and struggles in life than not having a girl. stay strong bro
Sorry to here than man.
first step is learning to be more a socialable person learning to make connections with people in general from one human to the next
This one is disturbingly close to my predicament. My last and only real relationship ended about 6 years ago and it was an online thing-a long distantce relationship. I only goot to meet her 3 times. And every other time in my life i've been around attractive girls, i just don't know what to do. Now at almost 26 and living alone with no job, so even less chance for me to meet a girl
Over for DanceCels. ⚰️
You hit it right on the head bro. I gave up too. You try so hard getting nowhere and you accept one day that it’s over. You don’t even care if women look at you and want you, you’re just gone. I’m also mentalcel, skinny 6 incher, fucked up body. So much trauma over your life leads to this experience and men all over the west are feeling it.
Its the silent epidemic that will be heard thunderously when it effects the economy
@@mor9n243 cope. No one's gonna hear anything. We are insignificant.
There is a coping mechanism called Learned Helplessness; it is the giving up instinct. It is a reaction to stress that over time becomes a learned belief. Eventually, after failing to overcome a certain obstacle, you decide that it is impossible to overcome. It's the incel ideology to a Tee. You have to be mindful of how you speak to yourself because what you say to yourself can become your truth. Are you really too far gone to connect with another human being or have you accepted a truth you told yourself?
You're so out of touch with what it's like for guys like this and the reality of what they go through.
This is insanely near sighted and tone deaf
@@Dayethoven How so?
@@GigaNietzsche Alright, what do you think?
@thebookclub95 because its not a truth you tell yourself if there's imperical and / or object evidence to back your claim.
i don't think at 26, it's too far gone. Leave the door open, and live your life. You seem like a good person, and all girls aren't the same.