My reason is because the internet has turned into a merciless gossip machine that takes ANY accusation as truth and spreads it like wildfire, ruining the lives of millions of innocent, hard-working people.
You saying this as a 30+ makes me laugh cause you don't get the bigger picture. You're not the target market or target audience or company anymore. It's those who are not above this age. So no men aren't done cause the kids will now experience it.
i hate people tho people constantly judge you for what you like what you enjoy what you do what you play what you eat what you drink etc and much more people are f***ing a**holes theres thousands of reasons why i dont wanna socialize irl anymore even online you gotta watch what info you give people...
Exactly!! The laughable part is the fake people actually think they're the be all & end all & that their life is somehow more important & more fullfilling than yours. I've been single 3yrs, never been near a woman in that time & i'm happier for it. I also have no family left & that's fuckin hard but i keep myself occupied & i'm just getting on & giving myself all the stuff i used to give to ungrateful people.
Since I cut my drinking by 90% I just can't stand the company of my old "friends". Turns out socializing was an excuse to drink and drinking was necessary to be around some really boring NPCs. I just stay home, read my books, play my guitar and workout. I also rediscovered prayer. I'm at peace for once in my life.
as long as they throw all their soul laundry on you it is perfect, you seem such a great friend.... but when you also have something to say about it, maybe just 3 mins....then hey they gotta go ....LOL. i experience this non stop
that got all worse because of social media. people csnnot focus anymore and rather look on their phones instead of deep talking. and they wont learn how to hold long conversations because we only communicate through typing on screens
A) We're all phone addicts, people aren't avoiding socializing and sticking to themselves, they go online to youtube comments section etc. B) Some of this crap is just generic man stuff, you are hyper social when you're trying to figure out who you yourself are and trying to find a mate. All men as they age get less social, it's just the nature of not engaging in sexual competition. It's the natural maturation process. C) People naturally gravitate towards their peer group as they age. When we had large families, that weren't divided by politics, economics and geography it was very easy. D) Women are being sabotaged by social media, they engage in real life behaviors that make large in person groups impossible to maintain. There use to be a gender based ying and yang. Where men fought to keep groups together(attacking disloyal members) and women smoothed out the consequence of men's brutality. Now that mechanism is broken and the sense of loyalty is effectively broken. E) The internet is a massive part of the problem, a society where disloyalty is promoted via corporations and left wing thought. F) A lot of this is just a circle jerk of bitter old men being bitter old men. It's just a generic part of life.
I think you're wrong, and no different than those that blame guns instead of the people with guns, or whatever they went thru. I'm even seeing people brainwashed enough to blame the internet for society collapsing, when society hasn't even actually collapsed, you all are psyoped, really need to stop ignoring the elephant in the room.
Here's the rub. Men have realized that society uses them with very little reward. That includes employers, most institutions, all forms of corporation culture, and yes, even individuals. You can not in good faith take part in Western society without eventually coming to this conclusion.
If your a blue collar working doing manual labor. It hits you even harder. God bless all the great men out there. Be safe and patient at obtaining your goals in life🙏
@@michaelhorner6804 … which is one of many, many reasons I have nothing but respect for my fellow working men. We show up to do the hard, dangerous jobs the world depends upon & only get contempt & hatred in return.
People are c…s . I burnt out after Covid. Retreated, got a divorce. My 2 kids are now my best friends and I work part time now. I’m a classic sigma. Can’t stand most of society.
The older I get, I’m 35 now, the less I don’t want to be around people. I have learned through many trials and errors that most people do not care about you, only care for their needs, and pretend to be kind to get you todo things for them. This is why I simply just go to work and come home. I don’t want to travel and see the world. I’m cool where I’m at. I play video games, read, watch tv and movies, and cook my own food. This will be life until I die and I am good with that. Humanity is finished in my book.
Something my father told me when i was in 2nd grade, and I've kept it in my mind ever since, "In order to be offended, one must first value your opinion" its a great response to those trying to insult/belittle you.
Be men be responsible strong and change the world 🌍 the world desperately needs strong responsible masculinity raising children who take on responsibility
If you think you can run from society you’re mistaken the world needs strong responsible masculinity and people raising families take responsibility make a change
Im 48 and now looking back on my life I was the one who brought the topics, the music, I was the host, the one greeting people with a smile... I often wonder if any of those people even realise im not there any more
Amen. Played the same role!! Unintentionally, but via our own strength of character. It was ALSO our own weakness in character that got us so confidently there. So, It is individuality that keeps us rockin on ... Fuck ego or memory....people fade after they have their needs fet or egos ticked off. I never want to meet any users from my past.
Amen. Just made a post about non-reciprocating folks that aren't the "connectors." Without me engaging first, there'd be no connection in the first place. It's exhausting
How often did I host events at my own expense and trouble, and there was little reciprocity! That nonsense had to end. These days if/when I’m invited to an event such as a dinner party, then I immediately propose a date to reciprocate. I am no longer a person who initiates things. A bit pathetic!
50, similar, no, they don't. Get over it. Stay awesome and try not to sweat about life switching up on you. Change is the only constant. Adapt, overcome.
No friends is better than fake friends. I ditched a "friend" of 20 years in 2003 as it was toxic (it took me a while to understand how, but it got worse over time) I made the conscious decision to get rid of him after a terrible night out. I have never looked back and I am so glad I found the courage. Never again!
Great way of saying that . I think it would be very unreasonable to disagree with this point . It takes way too much energy to put effort to not even gain much .
Senior citizen centers or apartments are awful for "group think" and aggressive social behaviors of power mad women. (Sometimes retired prostitutes) They only allow "sheep" to socialize others.
Yeah I had to experience the whole $hit on my very skin. Took me a while to wake my parents up from the trance of stucking in the past and made them understand that socializing is not working anymore.
@Tibor0803 0:04 socializing is a social construct just as dating. Neither felt less than punishing to me. I finally said "enough" and have been content since. I think covid opened many people's eyes.
You hit the nail on the head, I agree with everything you said. I've been saying those exact things, since the 1970's. Gotten lots of criticism, but I stuck with what I knew was true about women. Thanks for the good video, keep up the good work!
@@WhereWereYouStutJo playing/learning a music instrument. thinking about the mysteries of nature and the universe. surfing the web for entertainment, inspiration, education and research. gaming. keeping the body in shape as good as your condition allows. discover new hobbies and give them a go. doing arts - in real, virtually - whatever gives you a blast. learning healthy cooking aka very cheap cooking.
@@WhereWereYouStutJo I'm currently designing a few things, messing around with having a youtube channel, gaming and soon to be getting back into better shape. Society is mostly broken with many atomised people with no genuine leadership from Westminster or their local community. Unity and cohesion is almost non existant. So accruing wealth is important as I want my own place soon and if I get enough money I can leave this place (Britain). All the best to whoever is reading this!
Bummer. 20 years ago it was a good atmosphere to socialize. Social media hadn't quite killed people's minds yet and social connections were everywhere. Drinks were cheap, women were plenty. I think the uploader is talking about now. Now society sucks. But back then it was on like Donkey Kong
I quit drinking in 2014. It didst take long after that for me to realize just how reliant I was on booze to make most other people tolerable. Glad ya'll are finally seeing the light. Do what you want to do w/ whom you want. Save yourself some pointless stress n uninstall FB/X/Instagram while you're reinventing yourself.
Absolutely. I live on the Olympic Peninsula. I work hard. I make pretty good money. Every chance I get - usually twice a week - I’m exploring the Olympic National Forest, off trail. It’s the activity that makes me feel better than anything else ever has.
I’ve discovered that the kind of people I used to hang out with are actually insufferable, I’m just able to see it clearly now. Endless gossip, drama, unkindness, hypocrisy, selfishness, ignorance… I’d rather be alone than pretend that I can stand these people
69 and shake my head at some people i have known for decades,some absolute garbage advice,argue with me if i refuse to drink with them,you listed some.🙄
I've noticed the same thing even with UA-cam content creators. As I get healthier, I look back at some channels I was subscribed to just two years ago and think, Yikes, how could I stand all that toxic energy?
That's my worry. If I somehow got a quality woman to like me how am I going to keep her around with the way my sanity has deteriorated over the years from forced singleness. 😎
I've been single for so long I can't remember what a relationship feels like. I love being alone. Im a massive introvert and have my house exactly the way I want it and I don't think I could deal with a relationship anymore.
That's pretty much where i am at with LTRs with women...not interested enough to even bother anymore, though i do have male friends that i have kept in touch with for decades.
Your father was so correct. The most important people in my life outside myself are; my niece and nephews. No one else is near as important to me as they are. That's mainly because; I know I'm important to them. They show me that with their actions.
The only people that come and go from my life are people who want something from me. As a tattooist, that's all they want me for. Only to be ignored until they want more off me.
In most offices I've worked in, if you don't like gossip, soap operas or football then you have no "personality". Co workers will talk incessantly at you, and then glaze over the second you try to respond. I'm called boring when I don't want to go out for after work drinks, but there is really no benefit to me being there and I yearn all day to be away from these sycophants.
99% of conversations are shallow and meaningless. It's rare to engage in conversation that has any type of useful purpose or positive impact on anything.
I tend to drop silly things into a conversation...but some people just don't notice and just carry on about themselves. The other day a neighbour stopped me and droned on and on, so I said yes things are a lot better since grandma stopped eating the curtains (then a bit later I said) Mmm since I left working at the Polish embassy, my feet have returned to normal. Had no effect at all.
I'm an introvert. I've come to accept that; even embrace it. I no longer feel that I have some social obligation to subject myself to suffering in a room full of people who are laughing too loud at shit that's not funny at all. Everybody talking over each other. Schmoozing people and putting up with fake camaraderie.I now greatly prefer the company of my two loving and earnest dogs.
Add everyone staring at their phones looking miserable or bored. I'm also an introvert and love solitude. I'm amused when people get angry because I I'm quiet and don't say much. 95% of conversation is drivel IMO.
I hear that I’ve got my hunting lodge, the woods, 3 Labrador retrievers Outside of that, I see my kids, grandkids, wife and that’s good enough for me. Once every few months, have to make an appearance of wives friends and I can’t get the hell out of there fast enough. Done with the phoney bs
I live in the northeast United States. I stopped the socializing 20 years ago. I’m 50 now. I’ve never been happier. I spend most of my time fly fishing, working on my sports cars, and listening to podcasts. I have a great life, and I don’t want anyone else screwing that up. So I basically just steer clear of other humans.
It's good to have a couple buddies but I get your drift overall. The funny thing reading a person's Facebook profile and they have 598 "friends"...then ask them how many do they speak to on a semi regular basis, they'll say 3 or so.
How do you make money? This life you live is something I want to do. I just have no idea how to begin. Well I don’t socialize at all so I guess that’s a start.
"Being alone for awhile is dangerous, Its addicting, once you see how peaceful it is, you dont want to deal with people anymore" >>Great quotation by Actor Tom hardy>> Im 43, single, self employed, live in London, and iam completely done with socialising and all the hassle it entails>> Been there many times and wore the T-shirt many times and learned the valuable lessons that people have taught me>> that solitude and silence is golden 🙏
Absolutely agree 100% and I was born and live in Greater London for 68 years. My sons feel exactly the same. One thing I notice about the 21st century compared to the last is how devoid of laughter this century is. Was it perfect in the 60's 70's 80's? Of course not, but my goodness daily life was generally happier for most folk.
Yes I agree, I loved the 1970's and 1980's life was definitely more enjoyable.. Although the Internet and technology is amazing, I think it's also ruining society and causing people to be less caring,
Brother you are 100 percent right, I’d rather be alone and enjoy my private life than rather go out with people and friends that drain your inner peace, well said 👍
Giving up nothing will change things will get worse take on responsibility be a man make change stand for what is right have a family get pass port woman
Anytime I am in a social setting, the first question I get asked is what I do for a living. It's not about me or who I am as a person they want to know about. They want to know how much money I make so they can compare. Everything is about social comparison these days. Not only are people very shallow, they are very insecure, they want to compare jobs, cars, houses, even phones. I tried going to meetup events because I was lonely and wanted to make new friends. Everyone just talked about their jobs. It felt so empty and shallow, and it felt like speed dating for friends.
@Dang6712 please don't patronize me. I find it funny that you are telling me I need to work on my self worth more, meanwhile you are being very defensive and condescending. I really think you need to take your own advice pal.
"Socializing Encourages Drama." Truer words have never been spoken. I totally agree...because no one could PAY me to sit in the SAME room with certain people. OH MY GODDESS....NEVER!!!
Worked in clubs and the night life as staff and security for years, the amount of back stabbing you see, friendships destroyed etc... its unbelievable.
Is your Cat a single mother?😂😂 I went deep down a YT rabbit hole watching 'Cat Spanking' videos. Try it with your kitty. Not all cats are into it though.🐈🐈⬛
Got tired of negative people 20 years ago! Started training in crumbling garage lifting rocks doing pushups on paint cans pullups on beams..never felt better..still ripped af at 54 years old!!!
I am not a man. I am a woman and you are just saying literally EVERYTHING that I have been saying for years! Thank you for voicing this out loud. And clear!
Hi Krista, I'm a woman too, also pulled up the drawbridge to keep the warped minded out of my life. I used to be close to family members, but their mindset has altered. I find peace in the mountains and nature and give moral support to my grown up son who, since coming out of a 3 year relationship, is finding young women completely devoid of values and so messed up.
@@TheQNSzzz I am a woman without values. I have spent most of my life doing effort to be valuable for others. Nobody appreciated it. Now I am done. I only live to please myself now. I don't care about yours or your son's opinion cause you have never contributed to my life, why should I please you? You are basically doing what the YT dude just said, you say some stuff to compare yourself to me and come to the conclusion that you are somehow better. :D
Same I go to the park feed squirrels,swans,birds, geese,gulls, they give SOOOO much pleasure they recognise you after a time and fly or swim towards you,seed ,oats,nuts left over veg it's so rewarding and better than interacting with most humans these days 👍
Totally agree, I’ve given up mainstream tv I trawl YT for old films even black and white films. It reminds me of life when life was more enjoyable and people generally were kinder and displayed manners. Society nowadays is a shit bin, why would you want to take part. I’m recently single again and honestly in my own world I’m absolutely fine in my own company. 100% agree with the host of this video
Honestly mate, thank you so much for doing this video. I actually felt like it was me and I was the boring one. I thought I was having a mini midlife crisis! You hit on some very good points here. This video is so refreshing and I can really relate to it. I’ve noticed how people are so materialistic and it’s all about what you got! I had a friend who earned good money brand new car every thing going for him and he has no character, nothing about him, I would say pretty bland. I would be struggling and he talks to me like he is in my shoes and understands when he is the one earning great money works 4 hours a day and can do what he wants when ever he wants and he is talking to me about the cost of living crisis, talking to me about the budget. It’s an insult! He was a subtle bragger and he probably needed to talk to me to make sure he knew he was still doing good by looking at me who struggles knowing he is on top. He never once messaged me to say “how are you mate “? I use to message him and ask him “how are you mate”? I absolutely love doing my own thing, I do spend a lot of time with my gf and I like seeing the old man. This video has made so much sense and i understand a lot more now. I am and have been going through a transition and I look back in life and think wow what a life I used to have it was full of excitement and happiness but now I just don’t enjoy doing those things anymore, I’ve gone off so many things. I actually do feel more happy eating nice food, watching a good film on the sofa or even going to Everyman cinema and having a nice coffee here and there. I think it’s an awakening and not everything goes through it, honestly going out now is full of posers and fake people and I’ve got no time for it. It never use to be like that years back. Going out in the late 90s and early 00s was a fantastic time. Since 2020 is gone down hill. The question is where is the buzz, where is the excitement and where do I get my thrill from ?? Thanks again for this video mate, it was something i definitely needed to see 👊🏼💜
I'm a 48 year old lady and can relate. I haven't had any type of social life since my 20's and even that was shallow. I never talk to anyone from back then anymore, nor do they ever try to get back with me. Social media has just made it worse. Being content at home and having a relationship with Christ is the better choice.
As an older gent, I started to go to yoga to meet new people and keep fit. Whenever I started talking to the women, they would quickly mention their husbands in conversation. I had no interest in them, just making conversation. I stopped going. Most people I know of can’t carry a conversation, they have no interest in current events, or anything really other than the drama in TV. It’s hard work socialising with them. I do have a few friends who I can discuss anything with, have a genuine laugh with. I’m retired, I’m not working anymore, and that includes people who are hard work!
@@TheSnookman Arrogant bytches. It's normally the obese, boring ones that assume that because you are giving them the time of day, that you must be hitting on them? As if!!
What’s wrong with TV? TV has structure, likeable leading men, in reality we have Biden clearly put in place for the Deep State. Anytime you mention True Justice take on Corruption you’re Silenced and Censored.
I'll never forget going to my girlfriend's best friend's wedding, and the groom (mind you, this is right after they said their vows) we were settling in with our drinks at a table, critiqued the shirt I wore to his wedding, which I thought was fashionable enough. He said something along the lines of me just getting off of working at Trader Joe's, because the short had a tropical vibe to it and that's what employees wear, and I can just remember feeling belittled about it. Here we are celebrating your next journey in life, and you're trying to make me feel lesser than at a table of people about my shirt. We had only met a few times. As far as I'm concerned, i looked nice that night, but he made sure to make a comment out of it. As stupid as that may be to others, that stayed with me. Why, i don't know. I'm better than that, but that is one example of going to a social gathering you already don't want to go to, taking the time out of your day to shop and pick an outfit for, taking an Uber to get to a place full of people you don't know, all to be the butt of a joke. Some people just don't know how much it may take for someone to show their face, let alone in a room full of strangers.
He doesn't feel sorry for you, he misses the single life and feels sorry for himself. Alot of times people are actually talking about them if you listen, he's envious and wants out.
What really shocks me is that I am in no way special or super smart but people that I know are much more clever, than I are really stupid regarding matters of the world, literally getting all their opinions and world views from TV. I'm shocked because they are not stupid. Does that make sense.
Yes, like you, I also changed majorly after 2020; the thin veil of society fell off then, exposing life (and people in general) for the illusion it is. And you cannot unsee what you have seen. I no longer socialize, and I work from home and spend most of time at home all alone. And I love it. Whenever I leave home now, an awful dread fills my gut, in anticipation of dealing with rude and aggressive strangers, two-hour traffic jams, overcrowded streets, and general societal decay. Why leave the peace and safety of one's home for this chaos, aggravation, and exhaustion? And why pay $7 for a cup of coffee outside, when I can make my own at home for less than forty cents per coffee? And my homemade coffee tastes a million times better too!
Yup, since Covid I've been working 99% from home, my private office, or from any point on earth. I only physically encounter clients a handful of times per year. This has made my work duller, but life overall is far more pleasant.
@amgis5218 Very well said. Since 2020, people seem ruder, more cold/ uncaring, and self centered than ever before. The veil has certainly been pulled back and I dread to think what it will be like in another 10 years time..
So much foundational truth to this, although a bit to the negative side. I personally don’t think it’s that others are fake, boring or judgmental, but that it just takes too long or effort to discuss something relatable enough to be interesting. And given all other responsibilities and seeing folks at work, it’s nicest to just unwind quietly alone or with your direct people
@@enchironwhatever9295 no i like to encourage and raise people up as best i can. I refuse to socialise and network with egotistical narcissistic idiots. If that means i miss out on certain things then thats a price im willing to pay.
Remember Sandra Bullock in the movie "Crash" when she realized that her best friend was her maid? One of my analytical friends made a spreadsheet of all his friends and acquaintances and then he asked each person on the list for a donation of $1 to potentially pursue running for public office. He was shocked at who gave him a few bucks and who didn't. His secretary gave him more than many of the other people on the list. He told me about the list after I gave him $50 that he thought he knew in advance who would help him. He said he was only 20% correct. That list changed his life for the better. He no longer goes out, he focuses on his career, and the last time I checked he was looking to buy a small gourmet chocolate store. I didn't make a list, I realized who my friends were during my divorce. Same surprise, I was shocked who was in my corner and who wasn't.
Wow, I felt like you were talking to me directly! All these years I mistakenly thought the problem was myself. Turns out I was right to embrace my peace and solitude.
I’m the same, I thought I was being weird turning off the taps on many of my social circles and maybe put it down to Covid or something. I’m glad it’s actually a thing as I’m very happy with my new found peace.
I once had a good friend who I used to socialise with all the time. He met a woman & was with her for a couple of years & then they fell out & he asked my advice about what he should do. I never liked her because I found her very controlling & overpowering. So I told him straight, I said You can do better & I don't feel you are right for one another & I also said that I really don't like her. He then did the opposite & got back with her & eventually married her, he never contacted me again after that convo! You can only trust yourself in this world & I'm really lucky as I love my own company now I'm in my 50s & single. No drama.
No drama, no stress. I love it. 2 close friends, close family, gaming, motorcycle, hiking, movie theatre, beer and joint occasionally , deep dive into hobbies, education. Peace, lots and lots of peace and quiet.
Most of the people I'm around.Have the mentality of a ten year old child. Just smart enough to Carry a converstation and emotionally Unstable. I'm really tired of being the adult in the room.
As people get older they usually socialize less and less. But these days alot of people in general are more introverted. Social media is a major part of this issue.
I hadnt been out for weeks, went for a drink and felt i was surrounded by people pretending to be something they are not. Went home, alone, and sat and listened to my music. I am more than happy being on my own.
This is what always annoyed me in social settings, 90% of people pretending they are enjoying it. Only small majority actually is made for these things.
best part of leaving people in the bars is that you will most likely not see them again or the next time you do you know theyre gonna be doing the same shit all over again the next day thats why i dont go out much.
I dont know what caused me to stumble across this video, but brother, you are spitting truth. This is me. My wife always says that its sad we dont have friends, but also acknowledges everything you just said. I am content to be bonded to her, my son my cat and two dogs. WE are the family and WE support each other. I am done with fake, boring, shallow people. I no longer really care about friends. Shame, because I used to greatly.
🫡 Sir you have my respect family men are real men with purpose! Reminds me my own dad him caring solely for just me my mom brothers & our dog nothing more.
I hear you. Our office Christmas party was last night and I avoided it like the plague.The thought of having to go to that and be around people that dont even like each other is the ultimate hypocracy, draining and jarring. No chance Im subjecting myself to that anymore, its all fake.
Looking back, this truth always rang true. The best part of any social event was the end when you're leaving and back home. You can literally feel the peace and quiet cleanse your soul.
BOB MARLEY SAID SOMETHING ALONG THE TERMS OF HOW SAD IT IS THAT MOST PEOPLE TREAT GOOD PEOPLE BADLY AND TRY TO EXPLOIT THEM INSTEAD OF LIFTING THEM UP AND JOINING THEIR GOODWILL...SMH
People who does not socialize much, are not necessarily antisocial at all. They just simply don't want any unnecessary drama and fake people in their life. Smart decent individuals just simply want to escape from nowadays superficial hypocritical society, to find the inner peace. They have realized that they don't need any two-faced fake people who only want to be your friend when they need something from you. FIRS YOU GOT TO BE FINE WITH YOURSELF, BEFORE YOU CAN BE FINE WITH AND AMONG OTHERS...!
hello from the US. I couldn't agree more. I'm 41 now and have 1 friend whom I've known almost 20 years now. people in general are toxic, man or woman doesnt matter. I've always felt misunderstood even from a young age. for years, I've had this lingering feeling in the back of skull that no one, not even my family really respects me. all they do is try to give you that pep talk about how much better you could do in life. I live on the opposite side of the country for a reason. all they do is brag about how successful they are or how much money they make, what nice house they just bought or fancy car. I'm the black sheep of the family. I'm the loser who never did anything with his life, never had any kids (my wife cant have kids, so not my fault), never did this or that blah blah blah you get the idea. I dont drink hardly ever, but when I'm more or less 'forced' into family get-togethers, all of a sudden I'm a drunk. I prefer to stay home with my cat in my lap and my xbox.
I've dealt with similar things and moved away from my family when I was 23 (45 now). There was a time where I worked really hard making money etc to show them my "value" and even after doing that I found that none of it really matters - when people are deeply insecure they are reacting always from that place irrelevant to anything else. In other words even if you are rich and have 10 children they will still be unhappy, maybe even more so because you make them look bad ha ha.
Thanks for sharing 👍, this video was good wasn't it Jesus Christ, so is your comment. Feels therapeutic seeing all this and reading that. It's not just me that feels this way ✊✊✊
Aside from my wife and my little brother, the only friend I have is a childhood friend that I lived next to for most of my life. We actually lived together for a large part of our adult lives. Even we don’t talk that much, we have two separate lives and we realize that. We always take the time to genuinely check on each other though.
I'm 54, and proudly English. And I've been an introvert all my life, bordering misanthropic. I left school with no qualifications, I left home penniless, I've been homeless, a drug user, an alcoholic... And after decades of hard work, I'm now happily married, have money in the bank, and mortgage free. I've made more mistakes than I can remember. And they've made me wiser every one.
Ppl are too sensitive to bring up any topics anymore anyway, so it's worthless to go out and socialize. You never know when someone will flip their phone out and start recording you because you said something you "weren't supposed to". Yah, I'll just stay indoors.
at my last job you had to assume you were always being recorded when interacting with any other employee, i was the only person who would never record anyone
@@KitGoldenlance-x7w Depends on the setting and who's around to determine if that's worth it or not / safe for yourself. Like, if it's a chick recording you and she has all her friends with her / boyfriend(s), etc. I'm just saying, you gotta be smart about it. The more eye-witnesses, the more likely you got to jail for simply touching someone else's property.
Yes we do. Keep to ourselves and don't need loud obnoxious people around "one uppers", extravagant outgoing uncomfortable situations leave me alone, it's to time consuming and wasteful time not my cup of tea to know I just don't socialize. It's all about simplicity. So many people just have to keep putting notches on their chopping block to later in life they are just plain old miserable and lost time and don't even know who the hell they are or where they're going.
women have stated quite clearly that they are strong, independent, don't need a man, 4B no sex, cohabitation, marriage, babies. as a man, I accept these terms and intend to hold women to the terms they have set. good luck out there men.
Live alone and have never been out to 'socialise' in ten years ........ never been happier. It's as though an invisible force has cut away all the chains and anchors that weighed me down all my adult life. Great video mate👍😎
Same, I just got bored of the same old shite every night. I work in hospitality, and am surrounded by hundreds of people a night - I like my time alone
Same, I enjoy my alone time, just doing the things I want to do. To be honest it felt like socializing was A LOT more fun way when the Internet was in it's infancy, teenagers going to the mall to hang out with each other, go to the arcade, or just walk around the mall going in and out of shops. Nowadays socializing just feels like a chore. Everyone just gets on social media to yell at each other.
@@countryman5329 you are correct, I just don’t want to be a part of putting myself in the grace any earlier than usual. Because I’ve lived that life and can’t believe I am still alive at 58.
@@marcodarko6941after 40 is when I realized that most everything I had been told or taught or even seen my whole life was a lie. The scales quickly fell off .
Yep. I'm not gonna get anyone hot, and even if I did, I'm 54, and the sex drive is shot. So I don't really have any motivation to go out for anything other than work, gym and groceries.
I live in Thailand. I live in an older condo in Pattaya (a 5-minute scooter ride to the beach). It is all concrete, so the rooms are quiet (I have a video of the condo). I am on the ninth floor, so the sunsets are great, and I do not have much trouble with mosquitoes or road noise. We have a large pool with a slide. There is a restaurant by the pool; most meals are 3-7 dollars. My rent is $207/month. I have a new wall unit A/C, that I run 24/7 and my electric bill is $30/month. My room is 270 square feet or 30 square meters. It has plenty of room for a single guy. I have no plans to move back to the States.
Moral decay with the display of pagan gods everywhere combined with relentless humidity/heat is not something I could endure. I've been there and could not wait to board that plane to vacant that hell hole environment.
I totally get what you're saying. I find most people to be selfish and self-centered. And yes, pretty dull as well. Having said that, I do like talking with people. It gives insight into the views and opinions of the masses and is interesting. As far as men are concerned, yes, there is little to no support for men. Once you realize and accept this, life gets simpler. It is important for men to have time alone, to spend time just with themselves. This time is precious. One more thing. Best advice I ever got: 'In life, it's not what happens, it's how you react.' I find this to be absolutely true.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Same with women. I've ditched every so-called friend and spend most of my time at home with my four elderly cats, and I've befriended a wild guinea fowl that I'm feeding over the winter. I'm ready to leave this matrix at any time. The lack of intelligence, curiosity, open-mindedness, and kindness in people is excruciating for an empathic seeker. Narcissism abounds. Minds are ruled by fear. I've given up trying to help people because they don't want to evolve. We are living amongst the dead.
@@The_Custos We got hit with heavy snow and the poor guinea was all alone stuck in a cold shed. So I caught him and now he's living on a farm with chickens for friends and a warm barn to roost. I miss him but I'm so happy for him.
I’m 50. What I’ve noticed is there’s so many rules now nobody would ever actually tell the truth on something or put themselves out there to risk being cancelled. People are not the same anymore. But this is a disastrous route to be taking. Humans need each other. What a waste of life.
You nailed it. I wasted so many years on other people who weren't grateful or reciprocal. Even family. Now, if i don't want to do something I just say 'No thanks, I don't want to'. Why did I find that so hard when I was younger? I've never felt as content and secure as I do since I just started saying 'No'.
For me, it's a complete loss in trust in people. I've gone through 3 friend groups since graduating high school. It became a pattern of being taken advantage of because of my empathy. It was getting to a point where I was becoming resentful and bitter of the entire world. Trauma bonds are no joke especially when they come from people who are supposed to be your "friends." To me, it feels worse than going through a bad breakup. I've found peace by myself. It gives me the chance to work on myself. Something i havent been doing since I graduated in 2019.
Bro am 36 and been like this my whole life, i think we just put so much energy and time into work that when the day is done you just want some peace and quiet
Bro , take time out and revalidate your life . im 64 and realised that people are so two faced , but at the end of the day its all about you . stuff the rest . Work can take a back seat , take time for yourself .
last time I socialised was 2 years ago - it's not solitude that I want, it's a feeling of peace - it just so happens that being alone is the only way to achieve it
I feel the same way. I’ve become almost reclusive in the last 25 years ( I’m 61). Can’t stand most people. And because I quit social drinking I can’t relate to a lot of people. If you don’t fit in with their way of doing things they think you’re weird or there’s something wrong with you. I like my own company. I only socialise when I want to which is rarely
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I can't comment on this channel with a dime a dozen message? You that weak?
Only low IQ pussies would seek or need your advice...
My reason is because the internet has turned into a merciless gossip machine that takes ANY accusation as truth and spreads it like wildfire, ruining the lives of millions of innocent, hard-working people.
you hit every aspect of this issue perfectly
@maegalroammis6020 yep
You saying this as a 30+ makes me laugh cause you don't get the bigger picture. You're not the target market or target audience or company anymore. It's those who are not above this age. So no men aren't done cause the kids will now experience it.
"I don't hate people, I just feel better when they're not around" - Charles Bukowski
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i hate people tho people constantly judge you for what you like what you enjoy what you do what you play what you eat what you drink etc and much more people are f***ing a**holes theres thousands of reasons why i dont wanna socialize irl anymore even online you gotta watch what info you give people...
I don't see a problem in hating on the ones making the world a worse place
I just worry about how I act in different situations. Atleast I try to.
I say I feel better when the right people are around and the ones I don't like get lost go away
It drains me because many people are fake, and when you're authentic and truthfull it feels like a waiste of time.
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Same man!
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It is bro but we need to search for the real ones and when we find them we must appreciate them
Exactly!! The laughable part is the fake people actually think they're the be all & end all & that their life is somehow more important & more fullfilling than yours. I've been single 3yrs, never been near a woman in that time & i'm happier for it. I also have no family left & that's fuckin hard but i keep myself occupied & i'm just getting on & giving myself all the stuff i used to give to ungrateful people.
Since I cut my drinking by 90% I just can't stand the company of my old "friends". Turns out socializing was an excuse to drink and drinking was necessary to be around some really boring NPCs. I just stay home, read my books, play my guitar and workout. I also rediscovered prayer. I'm at peace for once in my life.
You are 100% right.
Been in this headspace for the past couple months, it's really peaceful.
God bless brother!
Good for you!! I pray for your peace!!
I did the same, cut drinking and found myself alone, ever since I moved from my country, I just couldn’t find myself there anymore
Drinking implies you have to dumb yourself down in order to tolerate socializing with morons.
Socializing is so frustating because people are never really listening
Too busy listening to themselves.....
as long as they throw all their soul laundry on you it is perfect, you seem such a great friend.... but when you also have something to say about it, maybe just 3 mins....then hey they gotta go ....LOL. i experience this non stop
And they’re constantly waiting to record something for virality.
that got all worse because of social media. people csnnot focus anymore and rather look on their phones instead of deep talking. and they wont learn how to hold long conversations because we only communicate through typing on screens
A) We're all phone addicts, people aren't avoiding socializing and sticking to themselves, they go online to youtube comments section etc.
B) Some of this crap is just generic man stuff, you are hyper social when you're trying to figure out who you yourself are and trying to find a mate. All men as they age get less social, it's just the nature of not engaging in sexual competition. It's the natural maturation process.
C) People naturally gravitate towards their peer group as they age. When we had large families, that weren't divided by politics, economics and geography it was very easy.
D) Women are being sabotaged by social media, they engage in real life behaviors that make large in person groups impossible to maintain. There use to be a gender based ying and yang. Where men fought to keep groups together(attacking disloyal members) and women smoothed out the consequence of men's brutality. Now that mechanism is broken and the sense of loyalty is effectively broken.
E) The internet is a massive part of the problem, a society where disloyalty is promoted via corporations and left wing thought.
F) A lot of this is just a circle jerk of bitter old men being bitter old men. It's just a generic part of life.
I think cell phone addiction has ruined people and society and social media has caused the shallowness.
Exactly this. Things started to go downhill quickly when these damn phones came along. Horrible things.
Really and truly phones take a lot of time of our lives.
Went without a phone for 3 weeks recently. Productivity went up so much.
I think you're wrong, and no different than those that blame guns instead of the people with guns, or whatever they went thru. I'm even seeing people brainwashed enough to blame the internet for society collapsing, when society hasn't even actually collapsed, you all are psyoped, really need to stop ignoring the elephant in the room.
BINGO a weird combo of Orwells 1984, Huxleys Brave New World, and The Matrix. This world is so vapid and awful.
Here's the rub. Men have realized that society uses them with very little reward. That includes employers, most institutions, all forms of corporation culture, and yes, even individuals. You can not in good faith take part in Western society without eventually coming to this conclusion.
If your a blue collar working doing manual labor. It hits you even harder. God bless all the great men out there. Be safe and patient at obtaining your goals in life🙏
@@michaelhorner6804 … which is one of many, many reasons I have nothing but respect for my fellow working men. We show up to do the hard, dangerous jobs the world depends upon & only get contempt & hatred in return.
This is the true core of the disturbance.
People are c…s . I burnt out after Covid. Retreated, got a divorce. My 2 kids are now my best friends and I work part time now. I’m a classic sigma. Can’t stand most of society.
I can't stand society either.
The older I get, I’m 35 now, the less I don’t want to be around people. I have learned through many trials and errors that most people do not care about you, only care for their needs, and pretend to be kind to get you todo things for them. This is why I simply just go to work and come home. I don’t want to travel and see the world. I’m cool where I’m at. I play video games, read, watch tv and movies, and cook my own food. This will be life until I die and I am good with that. Humanity is finished in my book.
Thanks for your comment. Same here. 1 John 2:15, James 4:4 reflect what I feel
Relatable af! Well said
Same here 🎉
Get on the gym too mate. Made a massive difference to my mental health.
+1 to your list but i also include the gym and i go out for my hobbies. It's okay to mingle if i'm there to do what i genuinely enjoy.
Something my father told me when i was in 2nd grade, and I've kept it in my mind ever since, "In order to be offended, one must first value your opinion" its a great response to those trying to insult/belittle you.
Your retahdrd
At 49 I've realized that socializing is spending a bunch of time listening to problems I did not create!!!!
If you were listening to someone else's problems you weren't socializing. You were being a simp.
And not caring about, no doubt.😂
FACTS lmao
@dominicestelley3169💯
Specially with women
Men are realizing this world has nothing to offer.
Be men be responsible strong and change the world 🌍 the world desperately needs strong responsible masculinity raising children who take on responsibility
yup
@@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894 good thought. tell women that, especially the ones in seattle. nah nevermind they are all libs.
It never did, it was all just a fantasy since
from the beginning of time !
One reason to never have children.
The best days of my life started when I stopped socializing
If you think you can run from society you’re mistaken the world needs strong responsible masculinity and people raising families take responsibility make a change
@@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894 Then give this guy a good wife so he can start a family. It's insulting that you think this guy hasn't tried. 😎
Won't last long
Exactly!
Piss off @@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894
Im 48 and now looking back on my life I was the one who brought the topics, the music, I was the host, the one greeting people with a smile... I often wonder if any of those people even realise im not there any more
Amen. Played the same role!!
Unintentionally, but via our own strength of character. It was ALSO our own weakness in character that got us so confidently there.
So, It is individuality that keeps us rockin on ... Fuck ego or memory....people fade after they have their needs fet or egos ticked off.
I never want to meet any users from my past.
Well dne tho mate. I did what you have claimed for 25 years at least.
Cheapskate maggot try hard wanker life I invited to live.
Amen. Just made a post about non-reciprocating folks that aren't the "connectors." Without me engaging first, there'd be no connection in the first place. It's exhausting
How often did I host events at my own expense and trouble, and there was little reciprocity! That nonsense had to end. These days if/when I’m invited to an event such as a dinner party, then I immediately propose a date to reciprocate. I am no longer a person who initiates things. A bit pathetic!
50, similar, no, they don't. Get over it. Stay awesome and try not to sweat about life switching up on you. Change is the only constant. Adapt, overcome.
No friends is better than fake friends. I ditched a "friend" of 20 years in 2003 as it was toxic (it took me a while to understand how, but it got worse over time) I made the conscious decision to get rid of him after a terrible night out. I have never looked back and I am so glad I found the courage. Never again!
Never alone in nature without people...
I agree 100%. moving on from users and takers is very liberating releasing dead weight. Thank you as I thought it was just me.
Got rid all of my “ friends “ happier than ever.
What happened that night? If you want to tell of course
@@FJano12 For familiarity breeds contempt, for you get sick of the old crowd including relatives.
I don't hate people, i hate the energy it takes to maintain social hierarchies
Great way of saying that . I think it would be very unreasonable to disagree with this point .
It takes way too much energy to put effort to not even gain much .
Senior citizen centers or apartments are awful for "group think" and aggressive social behaviors of power mad women. (Sometimes retired prostitutes) They only allow "sheep" to socialize others.
pure lazyness. don't bother to reply me .
@@ManCityCL it's you who are unreasonable. depends.
Why maintain ?
My most hated thing is the fact people think they can enforce a hierarchy over anyone
I checked out of socializing 21 years ago. I was back stabbed by friends, girlfriend, it was already degrading in 2003.
Yeah I had to experience the whole $hit on my very skin. Took me a while to wake my parents up from the trance of stucking in the past and made them understand that socializing is not working anymore.
I was backstabbed in 2003 too! Ruined my chance at love with the best woman I have ever known. 💔
You don’t give in the world needs strong responsible masculinity raise family get pass port woman follow JESUS and take on responsibility
@@hospitalsgivingpatientsdan8894 kiss my 3ss.
@Tibor0803 0:04 socializing is a social construct just as dating. Neither felt less than punishing to me. I finally said "enough" and have been content since. I think covid opened many people's eyes.
You hit the nail on the head, I agree with everything you said. I've been saying those exact things, since the 1970's. Gotten lots of criticism, but I stuck with what I knew was true about women. Thanks for the good video, keep up the good work!
I completely stopped socializing when I was 25. I'm 45 now & haven't regretted anything yet & living the best time of my life.
How do you spend your days?
@@WhereWereYouStutJo Probably working?🤷🏽♂️
@@WhereWereYouStutJo playing/learning a music instrument. thinking about the mysteries of nature and the universe. surfing the web for entertainment, inspiration, education and research. gaming. keeping the body in shape as good as your condition allows. discover new hobbies and give them a go. doing arts - in real, virtually - whatever gives you a blast. learning healthy cooking aka very cheap cooking.
@@WhereWereYouStutJo I'm currently designing a few things, messing around with having a youtube channel, gaming and soon to be getting back into better shape. Society is mostly broken with many atomised people with no genuine leadership from Westminster or their local community. Unity and cohesion is almost non existant. So accruing wealth is important as I want my own place soon and if I get enough money I can leave this place (Britain).
All the best to whoever is reading this!
Bummer. 20 years ago it was a good atmosphere to socialize. Social media hadn't quite killed people's minds yet and social connections were everywhere. Drinks were cheap, women were plenty. I think the uploader is talking about now. Now society sucks. But back then it was on like Donkey Kong
What happens if you beat down a dog over decades and decades?
He cowers in a corner and avoids everybody.
That comment is spot on
Yes, exactly 💯 ✅️
i wonder if anyone actually sees the horrible way they treat me every day or if theyre all just so infatuated with the abuse..
@@jomojojo6603 if the dog had any brain's,he would park his arse on someone else's deck."
@@bigtomboye Or turns - then the poor creature (man's best friend - we do not deserve him) is done.
I have been living in the woods alone with 8 dogs , a few goats and some chickens for 11 years . Glad to hear that its not just me 👍
Dream of mine
Lol redneck
I've stayed alone for 23 years need a roommate 😂
You're not alone Bigfoot is watching you!
I've been doing the same for 25 years. My dogs are better company than most people. 🐶🐕🦮🐕🦺
I quit drinking in 2014. It didst take long after that for me to realize just how reliant I was on booze to make most other people tolerable. Glad ya'll are finally seeing the light. Do what you want to do w/ whom you want. Save yourself some pointless stress n uninstall FB/X/Instagram while you're reinventing yourself.
👍🏻off it 32 years.. none of my drinking mates ever called..
Most long dead anyway ..
Am still off the drink. Best decision I ever made🧐🇮🇪
@@karylhogan5758congratulations 👍
@@karylhogan5758they probably died from the booze lol. You made 100% the right decision mate, especially with the price of booze these days.
Solo hiking trips... Solo car rides...solo Netflix...solo this solo that...can't complain
Solo motorcycle rides.......
Wonder why men dont live longer than women...@@virgil840
It's the way :.
Absolutely. I live on the Olympic Peninsula. I work hard. I make pretty good money. Every chance I get - usually twice a week - I’m exploring the Olympic National Forest, off trail. It’s the activity that makes me feel better than anything else ever has.
Once you start seeing how peaceful it is, you don't wanna deal with anyone's bullshit anymore
I’ve discovered that the kind of people I used to hang out with are actually insufferable, I’m just able to see it clearly now. Endless gossip, drama, unkindness, hypocrisy, selfishness, ignorance… I’d rather be alone than pretend that I can stand these people
69 and shake my head at some people i have known for decades,some absolute garbage advice,argue with me if i refuse to drink with them,you listed some.🙄
I should have never been around %50 of kids in highschool. Everyone is a snake.
You grew up, and moved on. Well done, very few people are worth knowing at any depth.
Me too. But I've gotten to a stage now where I don't excuse myself, I just tell them why unashamedly.
I've noticed the same thing even with UA-cam content creators. As I get healthier, I look back at some channels I was subscribed to just two years ago and think, Yikes, how could I stand all that toxic energy?
Ive been single for so long now, i wouldnt even know how the hell to maintain a relationship
That's my worry. If I somehow got a quality woman to like me how am I going to keep her around with the way my sanity has deteriorated over the years from forced singleness. 😎
What is "forced" singleness? No one is "forced" to be single.@ModelJames13
@@ModelJames13 i hear both of you.. 2010 last time with a woman.
I've been single for so long I can't remember what a relationship feels like. I love being alone. Im a massive introvert and have my house exactly the way I want it and I don't think I could deal with a relationship anymore.
That's pretty much where i am at with LTRs with women...not interested enough to even bother anymore, though i do have male friends that i have kept in touch with for decades.
Your father was so correct. The most important people in my life outside myself are; my niece and nephews. No one else is near as important to me as they are. That's mainly because; I know I'm important to them. They show me that with their actions.
100% The only time people wanted to be friends with me was when I could do something for them.
Yep, the older I get, the more I realise why bigfoot wants to be alone.
The only people that come and go from my life are people who want something from me.
As a tattooist, that's all they want me for. Only to be ignored until they want more off me.
Agree....99% of incomings calls are somebody wanting something.
Exactly. No one has a good time anymore, just getting used.
yeah you're probably a Tradesman or own a truck LOL.....Plumber just tell people your a mortician they stop asking
In most offices I've worked in, if you don't like gossip, soap operas or football then you have no "personality". Co workers will talk incessantly at you, and then glaze over the second you try to respond. I'm called boring when I don't want to go out for after work drinks, but there is really no benefit to me being there and I yearn all day to be away from these sycophants.
Amen
Oh my lord I am experiencing this too!
Thank you
So true
Here, here. Word for word
99% of conversations are shallow and meaningless. It's rare to engage in conversation that has any type of useful purpose or positive impact on anything.
0:04 no one listens to each other. It's all about them.
I tend to drop silly things into a conversation...but some people just don't notice and just carry on about themselves.
The other day a neighbour stopped me and droned on and on, so I said yes things are a lot better since grandma stopped eating the curtains (then a bit later I said) Mmm since I left working at the Polish embassy, my feet have returned to normal.
Had no effect at all.
alot of the time talking is just a way to cope with awkward silence or for affirmation
Internet ruined everything
@@Prodrive1 I totally agree.
I quit social media 8 years ago....best single thing I ever did for my mental health!
ive met some good people through it but there is days i happily dont log in
You just said that on the second largest social media platform in the world
I'm an introvert. I've come to accept that; even embrace it. I no longer feel that I have some social obligation to subject myself to suffering in a room full of people who are laughing too loud at shit that's not funny at all. Everybody talking over each other. Schmoozing people and putting up with fake camaraderie.I now greatly prefer the company of my two loving and earnest dogs.
Add everyone staring at their phones looking miserable or bored. I'm also an introvert and love solitude. I'm amused when people get angry because I I'm quiet and don't say much. 95% of conversation is drivel IMO.
I am exactly the same.
And good jar of peanut butter 😂
My thoughts exactly
I hear that
I’ve got my hunting lodge, the woods, 3 Labrador retrievers
Outside of that, I see my kids, grandkids, wife and that’s good enough for me.
Once every few months, have to make an appearance of wives friends and I can’t get the hell out of there fast enough.
Done with the phoney bs
I live in the northeast United States. I stopped the socializing 20 years ago. I’m 50 now. I’ve never been happier. I spend most of my time fly fishing, working on my sports cars, and listening to podcasts. I have a great life, and I don’t want anyone else screwing that up. So I basically just steer clear of other humans.
It's good to have a couple buddies but I get your drift overall. The funny thing reading a person's Facebook profile and they have 598 "friends"...then ask them how many do they speak to on a semi regular basis, they'll say 3 or so.
How do you make money? This life you live is something I want to do. I just have no idea how to begin. Well I don’t socialize at all so I guess that’s a start.
Sounds really cool! Which cars do you own? Best wishes from Germany!
@sageoldmann5157 you have a twin on the Australian East Coast 😉 I do exactly the same things, except rock fishing and not fly.
How to blame you...
"Being alone for awhile is dangerous,
Its addicting, once you see how peaceful it is, you dont want to deal with people anymore"
>>Great quotation by Actor Tom hardy>> Im 43, single, self employed, live in London, and iam completely done with socialising and all the hassle it entails>> Been there many times and wore the T-shirt many times and learned the valuable lessons that people have taught me>> that solitude and silence is golden
🙏
This society scare isolated people the most (if most people are). Because their plan will not work anymore. So fck them.
Absolutely agree 100% and I was born and live in Greater London for 68 years. My sons feel exactly the same. One thing I notice about the 21st century compared to the last is how devoid of laughter this century is. Was it perfect in the 60's 70's 80's? Of course not, but my goodness daily life was generally happier for most folk.
Yes I agree, I loved the 1970's and 1980's life was definitely more enjoyable.. Although the Internet and technology is amazing, I think it's also ruining society and causing people to be less caring,
Brother you are 100 percent right, I’d rather be alone and enjoy my private life than rather go out with people and friends that drain your inner peace, well said 👍
Giving up nothing will change things will get worse take on responsibility be a man make change stand for what is right have a family get pass port woman
It sucks us men feel this way, but when brought up to anyone, they try to invalidate and say you're the problem.
Ain't that the truth! 😎
Maybe you are the problem, men aren’t perfect.
@Michael0663-qo4wx no one is perfect and I'm confident I'm not the problem.
@@Michael0663-qo4wx I'm confident I'm not the problem.
@@Michael0663-qo4wx Fake news. 😎
Anytime I am in a social setting, the first question I get asked is what I do for a living. It's not about me or who I am as a person they want to know about. They want to know how much money I make so they can compare. Everything is about social comparison these days. Not only are people very shallow, they are very insecure, they want to compare jobs, cars, houses, even phones. I tried going to meetup events because I was lonely and wanted to make new friends. Everyone just talked about their jobs. It felt so empty and shallow, and it felt like speed dating for friends.
Just lie to them and say you own 50 rental properties, or real estate investor! Lol
is completely pointless
@@Dang6712 great points
@Dang6712 yet you still needed to brag to me about your job 🤣🤣 oh the irony
@Dang6712 please don't patronize me.
I find it funny that you are telling me I need to work on my self worth more, meanwhile you are being very defensive and condescending. I really think you need to take your own advice pal.
"Socializing Encourages Drama."
Truer words have never been spoken. I totally agree...because no one could PAY me to sit in the SAME room with certain people. OH MY GODDESS....NEVER!!!
Man up, you're soft.
Worked in clubs and the night life as staff and security for years, the amount of back stabbing you see, friendships destroyed etc... its unbelievable.
Clubs aren't where decent people congregate to begin with. Places are a reflection of the mentality of the people who gather there.
The mentality of the people go clubs is very weak, no sign of intelligent life anywhere.
Same lad.. and yeah, it's exactly what happens.
@@de14jabswell, what about bars?
Seek JESUS follow him take on responsibility change the world 🌍
I might be wrong - Mark Twain said " the more I talk to people, the more I enjoy the company of my DOG! 😅
dog weirdos
Mark Twain was an extremely wise man. His lessons are more poignant now than ever!!
@@Ricardofromage Like this quote fom him:
"NEVER ARGUE WITH STUPID PEOPLE, THEY WILL DRAG YOU DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL AND THEN BEAT YOU WITH EXPERIENCE"
Very wise words 😅. He ain't lying. Dog's don't judge and are faithful.
@@obelic71 politicians and diapers should be changed regularly, and for the same reasons, is another pearl
I talk to my mom and a stray cat that decided to move in over the summer. That's it.
Well said
Is your Cat a single mother?😂😂 I went deep down a YT rabbit hole watching 'Cat Spanking' videos. Try it with your kitty. Not all cats are into it though.🐈🐈⬛
The cat will be a better friend.
Same thing happened to me. I talk to my mum, and a stray cat moved in.
The cat has a lot to teach about life.
Socialising has always been a waste of time and money
Got tired of negative people 20 years ago! Started training in crumbling garage lifting rocks doing pushups on paint cans pullups on beams..never felt better..still ripped af at 54 years old!!!
Just checked your channel garageman brutal training keep it up grandpa 🔥
Well done grandad
@@GymGarageMan Good, Man 👍🏻 same. I'm 48, but I train with my son.
Good for you
Ripped sounds good🎉
I am not a man. I am a woman and you are just saying literally EVERYTHING that I have been saying for years! Thank you for voicing this out loud. And clear!
Yup many men have bailed because its just not working out for us.
Maybe you have to find the right person/people like searching for gold. Not sure where to look though. Lol maybe voluntary charity work or church.
Hi Krista, I'm a woman too, also pulled up the drawbridge to keep the warped minded out of my life. I used to be close to family members, but their mindset has altered. I find peace in the mountains and nature and give moral support to my grown up son who, since coming out of a 3 year relationship, is finding young women completely devoid of values and so messed up.
@@TheQNSzzz I am a woman without values. I have spent most of my life doing effort to be valuable for others. Nobody appreciated it. Now I am done. I only live to please myself now. I don't care about yours or your son's opinion cause you have never contributed to my life, why should I please you? You are basically doing what the YT dude just said, you say some stuff to compare yourself to me and come to the conclusion that you are somehow better. :D
Same I go to the park feed squirrels,swans,birds, geese,gulls, they give SOOOO much pleasure they recognise you after a time and fly or swim towards you,seed ,oats,nuts left over veg it's so rewarding and better than interacting with most humans these days 👍
I don't like people generally.
BINGO
Majority of people are programmed puppet brains so I can see why
Likewise
society will hate you
Ye same here, even though I'm an empath; socializing kinda feels like a chore at this point seeing as how basically nothing matters anymore
Thanks!
I walk 5 miles a day. Meditation and prayer time. I like the quiet. Envigorating.
Invigorating, sounds nice.
Sit for an hour and watch an 80s or 70s movie....its nothing short of mindboggling compared to the shit of today!
So true! Back then things were simple and less superficial! Today it almost feels like a high percentage of the people have lost their mind!
Totally agree, I’ve given up mainstream tv I trawl YT for old films even black and white films. It reminds me of life when life was more enjoyable and people generally were kinder and displayed manners. Society nowadays is a shit bin, why would you want to take part.
I’m recently single again and honestly in my own world I’m absolutely fine in my own company. 100% agree with the host of this video
Good blockbusters died around 2000. Avengers is mindless.
@@GT-pl1wxever since covid I think
@@kenrowland7864 British comedy of same era for me 👍🏻
As you get older the things that are important become evident and you channel your energy Into them , not socialising.
Honestly mate, thank you so much for doing this video. I actually felt like it was me and I was the boring one. I thought I was having a mini midlife crisis! You hit on some very good points here. This video is so refreshing and I can really relate to it. I’ve noticed how people are so materialistic and it’s all about what you got! I had a friend who earned good money brand new car every thing going for him and he has no character, nothing about him, I would say pretty bland. I would be struggling and he talks to me like he is in my shoes and understands when he is the one earning great money works 4 hours a day and can do what he wants when ever he wants and he is talking to me about the cost of living crisis, talking to me about the budget. It’s an insult! He was a subtle bragger and he probably needed to talk to me to make sure he knew he was still doing good by looking at me who struggles knowing he is on top. He never once messaged me to say “how are you mate “? I use to message him and ask him “how are you mate”?
I absolutely love doing my own thing, I do spend a lot of time with my gf and I like seeing the old man. This video has made so much sense and i understand a lot more now. I am and have been going through a transition and I look back in life and think wow what a life I used to have it was full of excitement and happiness but now I just don’t enjoy doing those things anymore, I’ve gone off so many things. I actually do feel more happy eating nice food, watching a good film on the sofa or even going to Everyman cinema and having a nice coffee here and there.
I think it’s an awakening and not everything goes through it, honestly going out now is full of posers and fake people and I’ve got no time for it. It never use to be like that years back. Going out in the late 90s and early 00s was a fantastic time. Since 2020 is gone down hill.
The question is where is the buzz, where is the excitement and where do I get my thrill from ??
Thanks again for this video mate, it was something i definitely needed to see 👊🏼💜
I'm a 48 year old lady and can relate. I haven't had any type of social life since my 20's and even that was shallow. I never talk to anyone from back then anymore, nor do they ever try to get back with me. Social media has just made it worse. Being content at home and having a relationship with Christ is the better choice.
Amen,sister in Christ!
whatever work for us.
Christ doens't make you horny. At least I hope so.
"The antidote for loneliness is [learning how to enjoy] being alone with God."
Christ is KING!! Our eternal KinG and savior. Thank you Lord for saving a poor wretch like me. I am not worthy but you are.
As an older gent, I started to go to yoga to meet new people and keep fit. Whenever I started talking to the women, they would quickly mention their husbands in conversation. I had no interest in them, just making conversation. I stopped going. Most people I know of can’t carry a conversation, they have no interest in current events, or anything really other than the drama in TV. It’s hard work socialising with them. I do have a few friends who I can discuss anything with, have a genuine laugh with. I’m retired, I’m not working anymore, and that includes people who are hard work!
It's funny how quickly they insert "my husband..." into a conversation.😂
Women always do that. They love to flatter themselves.
@@TheSnookman Arrogant bytches. It's normally the obese, boring ones that assume that because you are giving them the time of day, that you must be hitting on them?
As if!!
Women are mentioning their husbands bc they are not available nor interested in you. Maybe just stop creeping on underage girls.
What’s wrong with TV?
TV has structure, likeable leading men, in reality we have Biden clearly put in place for the Deep State.
Anytime you mention True Justice take on Corruption you’re Silenced and Censored.
I'm 63, live on my own and love my own company. Solitude is heaven.
I'll never forget going to my girlfriend's best friend's wedding, and the groom (mind you, this is right after they said their vows) we were settling in with our drinks at a table, critiqued the shirt I wore to his wedding, which I thought was fashionable enough. He said something along the lines of me just getting off of working at Trader Joe's, because the short had a tropical vibe to it and that's what employees wear, and I can just remember feeling belittled about it. Here we are celebrating your next journey in life, and you're trying to make me feel lesser than at a table of people about my shirt. We had only met a few times. As far as I'm concerned, i looked nice that night, but he made sure to make a comment out of it.
As stupid as that may be to others, that stayed with me. Why, i don't know. I'm better than that, but that is one example of going to a social gathering you already don't want to go to, taking the time out of your day to shop and pick an outfit for, taking an Uber to get to a place full of people you don't know, all to be the butt of a joke. Some people just don't know how much it may take for someone to show their face, let alone in a room full of strangers.
Something about Hawaiian shirts triggers some people. He saw your freedom while his was about to be taken away.
@@realmilitia Well thought....
Yup. Lack of reciprocation. Go through it at work. One of my pet peeves. Some people just don’t get it. Not asking much either
My brother feels sorry for me because I'm single, I feel sorry for my brother because he isn't 😆👊
And you are the problem why we have half of Africa in Europe. Thanks
He doesn't feel sorry for you, he misses the single life and feels sorry for himself. Alot of times people are actually talking about them if you listen, he's envious and wants out.
Exactly ;)
Your bro is secretly jealous while trying to shame you into feeling the way he is. Misery loves company
Yep .... very well said. Sharing time with sheeple is just totally draining
What really shocks me is that I am in no way special or super smart but people that I know are much more clever, than I are really stupid regarding matters of the world, literally getting all their opinions and world views from TV. I'm shocked because they are not stupid. Does that make sense.
Yes, like you, I also changed majorly after 2020; the thin veil of society fell off then, exposing life (and people in general) for the illusion it is. And you cannot unsee what you have seen. I no longer socialize, and I work from home and spend most of time at home all alone. And I love it. Whenever I leave home now, an awful dread fills my gut, in anticipation of dealing with rude and aggressive strangers, two-hour traffic jams, overcrowded streets, and general societal decay. Why leave the peace and safety of one's home for this chaos, aggravation, and exhaustion? And why pay $7 for a cup of coffee outside, when I can make my own at home for less than forty cents per coffee? And my homemade coffee tastes a million times better too!
Yup, since Covid I've been working 99% from home, my private office, or from any point on earth. I only physically encounter clients a handful of times per year. This has made my work duller, but life overall is far more pleasant.
@@alannothnaglecovid was a big psy-op of control
Ditto the coffee comment ...
@amgis5218 Very well said. Since 2020, people seem ruder, more cold/ uncaring, and self centered than ever before. The veil has certainly been pulled back and I dread to think what it will be like in another 10 years time..
So much foundational truth to this, although a bit to the negative side. I personally don’t think it’s that others are fake, boring or judgmental, but that it just takes too long or effort to discuss something relatable enough to be interesting. And given all other responsibilities and seeing folks at work, it’s nicest to just unwind quietly alone or with your direct people
i was a trend setter, i stopped socializing when i released most people are idiots and only out for themselves.
Do you blame them?
And you are not out for yourself?
@@violentnewworld Meaning?
@@mosheridan7016 look at most social groups and at the centre are narcissistic people pulling the strings.
@@enchironwhatever9295 no i like to encourage and raise people up as best i can. I refuse to socialise and network with egotistical narcissistic idiots. If that means i miss out on certain things then thats a price im willing to pay.
Remember Sandra Bullock in the movie "Crash" when she realized that her best friend was her maid? One of my analytical friends made a spreadsheet of all his friends and acquaintances and then he asked each person on the list for a donation of $1 to potentially pursue running for public office. He was shocked at who gave him a few bucks and who didn't. His secretary gave him more than many of the other people on the list.
He told me about the list after I gave him $50 that he thought he knew in advance who would help him. He said he was only 20% correct. That list changed his life for the better. He no longer goes out, he focuses on his career, and the last time I checked he was looking to buy a small gourmet chocolate store. I didn't make a list, I realized who my friends were during my divorce. Same surprise, I was shocked who was in my corner and who wasn't.
Wow, I felt like you were talking to me directly! All these years I mistakenly thought the problem was myself. Turns out I was right to embrace my peace and solitude.
You were in the right all along
Me too!
You were right.
I’m the same, I thought I was being weird turning off the taps on many of my social circles and maybe put it down to Covid or something. I’m glad it’s actually a thing as I’m very happy with my new found peace.
I once had a good friend who I used to socialise with all the time. He met a woman & was with her for a couple of years & then they fell out & he asked my advice about what he should do. I never liked her because I found her very controlling & overpowering. So I told him straight, I said You can do better & I don't feel you are right for one another & I also said that I really don't like her. He then did the opposite & got back with her & eventually married her, he never contacted me again after that convo! You can only trust yourself in this world & I'm really lucky as I love my own company now I'm in my 50s & single. No drama.
No drama, no stress. I love it. 2 close friends, close family, gaming, motorcycle, hiking, movie theatre, beer and joint occasionally , deep dive into hobbies, education. Peace, lots and lots of peace and quiet.
2 close friends and close family is not alone
Most of the people I'm around.Have the mentality of a ten year old child. Just smart enough to Carry a converstation and emotionally Unstable. I'm really tired of being the adult in the room.
You mean the pink hair doesn't stimulate the conversation or the tattoos up the neck and face? Come on, that should of "woke" up your conversation.
Birds of a feather...
@stillmaninmotion168 well said. I don't want to know what the next generation will end up like if this is today's world..
As people get older they usually socialize less and less. But these days alot of people in general are more introverted. Social media is a major part of this issue.
It's not just the UK.i live in canada and I do not like to socialize anymore.Its too exhausting
… and America is every bit as bad.
If internet and TV disappeared, would you say that.
@GUITARTIME2024 yeah I would.ive lived before internet and I don't watch TV anyways.
Canadians are so apathetic, ill informed or misinformed it is very draining being around the majority if you even remotely awake.
@@GUITARTIME2024 Having the endless access to material books & music in today’s world, there’s nothing to fear :)
Worked with the public most of my working life,,,now Iam retired, and really cant stand to be around people.
Same. Not sure how people can work "customer service" 40hrs/week year after year. I wouldn't make it a week...
@@mikeblaz i did 17 years in a front facing customer service job its destroyed my ability to deal with others for long less im absolutely hammered.
I hadnt been out for weeks, went for a drink and felt i was surrounded by people pretending to be something they are not. Went home, alone, and sat and listened to my music. I am more than happy being on my own.
This is what always annoyed me in social settings, 90% of people pretending they are enjoying it. Only small majority actually is made for these things.
That’s because you were actually surrounded by people pretending to be something they’re not lol
best part of leaving people in the bars is that you will most likely not see them again or the next time you do you know theyre gonna be doing the same shit all over again the next day thats why i dont go out much.
I dont know what caused me to stumble across this video, but brother, you are spitting truth. This is me. My wife always says that its sad we dont have friends, but also acknowledges everything you just said. I am content to be bonded to her, my son my cat and two dogs. WE are the family and WE support each other. I am done with fake, boring, shallow people. I no longer really
care about friends. Shame, because I used to greatly.
🫡 Sir you have my respect family men are real men with purpose! Reminds me my own dad him caring solely for just me my mom brothers & our dog nothing more.
I've been non social since I was a kid. Im 57 now. Nothing new to me. Been joyous ever since. 😁😁😁
I hear you. Our office Christmas party was last night and I avoided it like the plague.The thought of having to go to that and be around people that dont even like each other is the ultimate hypocracy, draining and jarring. No chance Im subjecting myself to that anymore, its all fake.
Mistake. Show up, be cordial and walk around for 20 minutes so people see you were there, then slip out the door. You messed up.
Christmas parties are hell
Last place worked at over 25 yrs went the first three years then most of us never went again
I've been successfully avoiding Christmas parties for years. Since they're always in the afternoon, I just say I'm working, and there's no problem.
I'd much rather receive a bonus than a damn Christmas party. If a Christmas party is the only option, go for the booze and food then split....
Dang, I've never been invited to one.
I am a Lone Wolf. I do not socialise or have friends. I find people boring and just full of crap.
Knowing oneself is a gift.
Yet you are here sharing your crap.
true, I reckon so too
The question is ... do they feel same for you?
Looking back, this truth always rang true. The best part of any social event was the end when you're leaving and back home. You can literally feel the peace and quiet cleanse your soul.
BOB MARLEY SAID SOMETHING ALONG THE TERMS OF HOW SAD IT IS THAT MOST PEOPLE TREAT GOOD PEOPLE BADLY AND TRY TO EXPLOIT THEM INSTEAD OF LIFTING THEM UP AND JOINING THEIR GOODWILL...SMH
People who does not socialize much, are not necessarily antisocial at all. They just simply don't want any unnecessary drama and fake people in their life.
Smart decent individuals just simply want to escape from nowadays superficial hypocritical society, to find the inner peace. They have realized that they don't need any two-faced fake people who only want to be your friend when they need something from you. FIRS YOU GOT TO BE FINE WITH YOURSELF, BEFORE YOU CAN BE FINE WITH AND AMONG OTHERS...!
I spend all my time at home alone and I'm happy that way. Social media has shown me that many people are not worth bothering with.
social media has shown me that people will beg strangers to give them a better life.
I can't socialise any more, I don't tolerate people anymore, really badly.
Ive never socialized. Ive always been a lone wolf. Do my own thing.
Same with me.
You can't leave a legacy all by yourself. So you are a waste of life basically.
Same
Just curious, so why do you all feel so compelled to tell everyone?
hello from the US.
I couldn't agree more. I'm 41 now and have 1 friend whom I've known almost 20 years now.
people in general are toxic, man or woman doesnt matter. I've always felt misunderstood even from a young age. for years, I've had this lingering feeling in the back of skull that no one, not even my family really respects me.
all they do is try to give you that pep talk about how much better you could do in life. I live on the opposite side of the country for a reason.
all they do is brag about how successful they are or how much money they make, what nice house they just bought or fancy car.
I'm the black sheep of the family. I'm the loser who never did anything with his life, never had any kids (my wife cant have kids, so not my fault), never did this or that blah blah blah you get the idea.
I dont drink hardly ever, but when I'm more or less 'forced' into family get-togethers, all of a sudden I'm a drunk.
I prefer to stay home with my cat in my lap and my xbox.
And yet they are the ones that are perpetually unhappy and mentally unstable 😂
I've dealt with similar things and moved away from my family when I was 23 (45 now). There was a time where I worked really hard making money etc to show them my "value" and even after doing that I found that none of it really matters - when people are deeply insecure they are reacting always from that place irrelevant to anything else. In other words even if you are rich and have 10 children they will still be unhappy, maybe even more so because you make them look bad ha ha.
Thanks for sharing 👍, this video was good wasn't it Jesus Christ, so is your comment. Feels therapeutic seeing all this and reading that. It's not just me that feels this way ✊✊✊
American here too, soon to retire overseas, I can't take much more of this toxic, hostile culture. Life in the U.S. drains me on every level.
Aside from my wife and my little brother, the only friend I have is a childhood friend that I lived next to for most of my life. We actually lived together for a large part of our adult lives. Even we don’t talk that much, we have two separate lives and we realize that. We always take the time to genuinely check on each other though.
The more people you surround yourself with the more bullshit you surround yourself with.
I'm 54, and proudly English. And I've been an introvert all my life, bordering misanthropic.
I left school with no qualifications, I left home penniless, I've been homeless, a drug user, an alcoholic...
And after decades of hard work, I'm now happily married, have money in the bank, and mortgage free.
I've made more mistakes than I can remember. And they've made me wiser every one.
😊
and no hobbies
amen
Ppl are too sensitive to bring up any topics anymore anyway, so it's worthless to go out and socialize. You never know when someone will flip their phone out and start recording you because you said something you "weren't supposed to". Yah, I'll just stay indoors.
Also too many laws; it’s too risky approach women without getting in trouble with the law; it’s unnatural
Trust. It's gone.
at my last job you had to assume you were always being recorded when interacting with any other employee, i was the only person who would never record anyone
Grab their phone off them 😂 nobody ever thinks to do that . They will turn into a crying little baby
@@KitGoldenlance-x7w Depends on the setting and who's around to determine if that's worth it or not / safe for yourself. Like, if it's a chick recording you and she has all her friends with her / boyfriend(s), etc. I'm just saying, you gotta be smart about it. The more eye-witnesses, the more likely you got to jail for simply touching someone else's property.
Introverts for the first time in my lifetime have a distinct advantage.
Yes we do. Keep to ourselves and don't need loud obnoxious people around "one uppers", extravagant outgoing uncomfortable situations leave me alone, it's to time consuming and wasteful time not my cup of tea to know I just don't socialize. It's all about simplicity. So many people just have to keep putting notches on their chopping block to later in life they are just plain old miserable and lost time and don't even know who the hell they are or where they're going.
Snowflakes are the worst
@@mosheridan7016this guy is a picture perfect snowflake and you all ear it up feeling sorry for yourself
women have stated quite clearly that they are strong, independent, don't need a man, 4B no sex, cohabitation, marriage, babies.
as a man, I accept these terms and intend to hold women to the terms they have set. good luck out there men.
We men do, not talk. Just bunch of annoying parasite keep teaching us what to do in their favour.
Also too many laws; it’s too risky approach women without getting in trouble with the law; it’s unnatural
Live alone and have never been out to 'socialise' in ten years ........ never been happier. It's as though an invisible force has cut away all the chains and anchors that weighed me down all my adult life.
Great video mate👍😎
I drifted away from the party life and socializing 10 years ago. My life might be pretty boring, but I know I’m not going to end up in jail or dead.
Same, I just got bored of the same old shite every night. I work in hospitality, and am surrounded by hundreds of people a night - I like my time alone
Same, I enjoy my alone time, just doing the things I want to do. To be honest it felt like socializing was A LOT more fun way when the Internet was in it's infancy, teenagers going to the mall to hang out with each other, go to the arcade, or just walk around the mall going in and out of shops. Nowadays socializing just feels like a chore. Everyone just gets on social media to yell at each other.
Um, we all end up dead, my friend. And, as far as we know, only have one shot at this life, so best try & make the most of it, huh.
@@countryman5329 you are correct, I just don’t want to be a part of putting myself in the grace any earlier than usual. Because I’ve lived that life and can’t believe I am still alive at 58.
Grave 🪦⚰️
After 40 this is what you realize
Things drastically change after 40.
@@marcodarko6941after 40 is when I realized that most everything I had been told or taught or even seen my whole life was a lie. The scales quickly fell off .
@@marcodarko6941for me it was at 27. I read the book 1984 and saw too many parallels. I can't unsee it.
Yep. I'm not gonna get anyone hot, and even if I did, I'm 54, and the sex drive is shot. So I don't really have any motivation to go out for anything other than work, gym and groceries.
@@theuglytruth4303 apparently what I wrote was so bad that I got shadowbanned
I live in Thailand. I live in an older condo in Pattaya (a 5-minute scooter ride to the beach). It is all concrete, so the rooms are quiet (I have a video of the condo). I am on the ninth floor, so the sunsets are great, and I do not have much trouble with mosquitoes or road noise. We have a large pool with a slide. There is a restaurant by the pool; most meals are 3-7 dollars. My rent is $207/month. I have a new wall unit A/C, that I run 24/7 and my electric bill is $30/month. My room is 270 square feet or 30 square meters. It has plenty of room for a single guy. I have no plans to move back to the States.
Impressive. I might join you in 18 months when my son graduates high school
heaven !!
I mean that's a cool place to live if you are obsessed with hookers 😅
Moral decay with the display of pagan gods everywhere combined with relentless humidity/heat is not something I could endure.
I've been there and could not wait to board that plane to vacant that hell hole environment.
@@mikejohn0088 I've been to thailand five or six times. It's hot as hell!!! I would never want to live there
I totally get what you're saying.
I find most people to be selfish and self-centered. And yes, pretty dull as well.
Having said that, I do like talking with people. It gives insight into the views and opinions of the masses and is interesting.
As far as men are concerned, yes, there is little to no support for men. Once you realize and accept this, life gets simpler.
It is important for men to have time alone, to spend time just with themselves. This time is precious.
One more thing.
Best advice I ever got:
'In life, it's not what happens, it's how you react.'
I find this to be absolutely true.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didn't go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain dear one, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Same with women. I've ditched every so-called friend and spend most of my time at home with my four elderly cats, and I've befriended a wild guinea fowl that I'm feeding over the winter. I'm ready to leave this matrix at any time. The lack of intelligence, curiosity, open-mindedness, and kindness in people is excruciating for an empathic seeker. Narcissism abounds. Minds are ruled by fear. I've given up trying to help people because they don't want to evolve. We are living amongst the dead.
Me to
Feel the same
If that's what you feel, good for you. If you don't harm any people, you're always right.
Friend got guinea fowl recently, she loves them.
@@The_Custos We got hit with heavy snow and the poor guinea was all alone stuck in a cold shed. So I caught him and now he's living on a farm with chickens for friends and a warm barn to roost. I miss him but I'm so happy for him.
A) always Tired.
B) always Stressed Out
C) always Angry
D) always Flat Broke (refer to section [C])
💯
E) all of the above.
I’m 50. What I’ve noticed is there’s so many rules now nobody would ever actually tell the truth on something or put themselves out there to risk being cancelled. People are not the same anymore. But this is a disastrous route to be taking. Humans need each other. What a waste of life.
Friends are overrated
Yes they are
Friendship is overrated.
they make great enemies tho
Especially once you aren't in your "school years" anymore. Once HS / college is over, most of those "friends" disappear anyway, so... good riddance.
You nailed it. I wasted so many years on other people who weren't grateful or reciprocal. Even family. Now, if i don't want to do something I just say 'No thanks, I don't want to'. Why did I find that so hard when I was younger? I've never felt as content and secure as I do since I just started saying 'No'.
Its called growing up!
For me, it's a complete loss in trust in people. I've gone through 3 friend groups since graduating high school. It became a pattern of being taken advantage of because of my empathy. It was getting to a point where I was becoming resentful and bitter of the entire world. Trauma bonds are no joke especially when they come from people who are supposed to be your "friends." To me, it feels worse than going through a bad breakup. I've found peace by myself. It gives me the chance to work on myself. Something i havent been doing since I graduated in 2019.
To say that every word you spoke was my own words is an understatement... thank you for sharing.
Bro am 36 and been like this my whole life, i think we just put so much energy and time into work that when the day is done you just want some peace and quiet
Bro , take time out and revalidate your life .
im 64 and realised that people are so two faced , but at the end of the day its all about you . stuff the rest . Work can take a back seat , take time for yourself .
Yep. Then you get in shit for that.
@@gazzertrn Exactly. Just when you think you meet decent people, they somehow screw you over. Fragile egos
lol.. same..
There is a reason why pet ownership has skyrocketed in the last 20 years.
In south Korea pets stroller sales outnumber toddlers strollers or something like that...unimaginable
A dog saved my life after my divorce.His name was Sammy. Now I return the favor by adopting when I can. I have 2 right now.
So many women say "My family has paws, If my dog don't like you, I won't either."
So true. I've been spanking my monkey for years now.😂🦧
@@orangeandslinky Some dogs are violent or mentally unhinged, even the small ones.
last time I socialised was 2 years ago - it's not solitude that I want, it's a feeling of peace - it just so happens that being alone is the only way to achieve it
I feel the same way. I’ve become almost reclusive in the last 25 years ( I’m 61). Can’t stand most people. And because I quit social drinking I can’t relate to a lot of people. If you don’t fit in with their way of doing things they think you’re weird or there’s something wrong with you. I like my own company. I only socialise when I want to which is rarely