This dad is so real, and honest. Of course he was shocked..the realization that your son has a life time of painful surgeries ahead of him, bullying, etc.. All birth defects cause anxiety for parents and family. The father's tears show his capablity for empathy for his newly born son's journey.. it will be a long, arduous journey at times. Thank God that sweet baby has a father that loves him so unconditionally.
anita Simpson exactly going from oh everything is great so that's what your expecting to see a healthy baby that has mom's eyes and dad's smile..then all of a sudden you see your child that has severe facial disfiguring and doctors around them basically giving the vibe of your child is not right!!
listen people are mad cause the parents and the news reporter are talking like this baby is the worse thing in the world their not they are just like us they just look different and that is all but they laugh the same and act the same and do everything that you would do
I have treacher Collins syndrome and I know my mum and dad were frightened when I was born at 27 weeks. I completely understand the parents thoughts and feelings even now. I have have 14 surgeries and I don’t look like I did previously. I don’t hate the parents I love the fact they embraced Nathaniel and kept him. They are loving parents
Y'all are wrong for what you say about this father. He sat there in a hospital waiting for his perfect baby boy and that's not how it panned out. Imagine knowing your child is different. Imagine all the hate and how strange their life will be. This dad wanted his son to have a normal life and in one minute all of those hopes were torn away. He was scared and you can't blame him for that.
Exactly! When a baby is born with any disability or deformities, the rest of their life is going to be hard due to such cruel people. They will be treated differently and not in a good way.
Agreed! All parents want the simplist path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
I agree that it's natural to have those feelings at the time, but what's harder to rationalize is the way he still speaks about it now. It just seems dehumanizing. _He_ had to find it in _his_ heart to accept his child by listening to a Christina Aguilera song. _He_ felt the need to be congratulated by someone to reaffirm that _his_ life would be okay despite this. I could be wrong, but it seems like he's more concerned about how difficult his life will be instead of how difficult his son's life will be.
This made me cry. My son was born with Goldenhar syndrome with Craniotomy facial abnormalities, profound gearing loss, bilateral cleft lip and palate, scoliosis, missing kidney, and missing ribs. We were young teenage parents and had him at only 27 weeks. My husband instantly fell in love with his son. Many surgeries followed over the years. We love him to death. He’s a miracle and did everything the doctors said he wouldn’t be able to do. The nurses and doctors tried to get us to put him in an institution but we refused. Many “professionals” told us it would be a better quality of life. I remember one saying look around, you don’t see people like him walking around. That’s the best place for him. I couldn’t do that to him and neither would his dad. Then we had our second child 8 years later. During an ultrasound we learned he would have a cleft lip. Immediately they told us we should get an abortion. They really pressured us but we didn’t give in. If we had gone through so much with our first, cleft lip was a walk in the park for us. Our next child was a girl, 4 years later. Then we were told she would have spina bifita and we should abort as well. We refused and she was born completely healthy. At the age of 2 she began to have seizures. Now she’s on medication to help with that. Out next and last daughter was diagnosed through ultrasound to have down syndrome. Again, the pressure to abort. We didn’t and she’s the smartest child I know and NO she was not born with Down syndrome. It’s sad how wrong the medical community can be. Imagine all those children aborted and in reality there is nothing wrong with them. Today we struggle because we decided I would stay home and not work because of all the appointments the children have. My employers were not understanding that I have disabled children. We struggle financially, and I do lots of things to help with our cost of living by making our own soaps, couponing, being used clothes or swapping them with others. I try my best. Today my oldest is now 21, he’s not ready to leave home and he does have a mentality of a 10 year old and he struggles with his self esteem and self worth. Because even though he’s had all these surgeries, he still looks noticeably different. When he was younger people would stare and say nasty things and hurtful things. I’d get so angry and scold them for doing that. My son said he always noticed people would stare or do a double take. He said it used to get him upset but now he ignores it. He’s sad though because he has not had a girlfriend. (Although, we are Christian and believe in Christian dating.) I tell one day God will send him someone.
Unpopular opinion; I am not a parent, but if you choose to become a parent you need to understand and prepare yourself that there is a chance your child may be born “ different”
The mother is absolutely gorgeous. Beautiful, her accent 😍 omg...even more beautiful with her pixie hair (I know it was cuz of cancer but she looks so cute) beautiful family. God bless them. Stay strong 👏💪
saying the dad is a jerk is sooooo easy ! try to put yourself in his shoes first and then think again ! of course he sure does love his kid but how would you react ? You cannot be thrilled when you know deep down that your kid is gonna suffer but then you try to help him and i think this is what his parents did ! Glad that christina aguilera song helped them through this hardship she sure poured her heart in the song and that's the power of music !
Of course you'd be shocked. But calling your own child "not human" is fucked up. Your kid can still be beautiful with treachers collins. Their face can be beautiful. It's not "regardless of their face" that's fucked up
@@mae._.7676 No, I'm sorry, a child with q horrific deformity is not beautiful. He was in shock. You're delusional if you think you would be blissfully happy and accepting if your baby came out deformed like that.
@@rlee3538 I didn't say I would be blissfully happy. I would worried for their future because of the complications. I would however completely accept and love them. And I would think that they were beautiful because they are my child. Beauty isn't formed by facial symmetry alone. If someone is beautiful it's not solely because of their appearance and a lot of times it's because of that at all
@@mae._.7676 Okay, live in a fantasy. Until you've worked in direct contact with situations like these you'll never know or understand the reality of what these parents said and endured. If you did you'd quit your mouth real quick
So true. My third child has a genetic disorder which causes him to look different to the average kid. The bullying he was subjected to, particularly during high school was appalling and in the end forced him to drop out of school early. He was often called "freak" and taunted by kids chanting "Smeagol" because they said he looked like the Gollum character from Lord of the Rings. Parents need to teach their children from an early age that not all people look the same or behave the same way and to treat people kindly rather than with cruelty. Children can be cruel but empathy can be taught and I think kids can learn to put themselves in someone shoes as in, how would I feel if these horrible things were being said about me.
A great start would be to stop making the bad guys or villains in movies especially children movies ugly, or monsters, or different looking like they often do and stop making the good guys especially in children’s movies all handsome and or perfect.
The dad is not a jerk. He just wanted what all parents want; the simplest path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
well I appreciate theyre honesty...in the end the parents saw what they're were doing so why degrade them? they're sharing they're story meaning only comes from they're perspective ..
Amen and blessings...to that woman from the surgical center! Every baby is a joy, regardless if the baby is born with an unexpected genetic abnormality. I advocate for all children with different abilities, and spent my career as a Special Eduction teacher. Children are as normal as they are taught to be...parents who learn that early will find all the joy in the world!
I remember watching this when it aired and I thought, I’ve learned something about people like Nathaniel. And you know what I’ve learned? That people like him are treated like people with special needs and Autism. In a bad way and there needs to be something done about it! Bc it breaks my heart that people like him and me are treated poorly in this world😢
What happens when Nathaniel sees this video? The way they are talking at times seems terrible. Being shocked is understandable...but this video was after the initial shock. Clean up your words & phrases. You can express the shock/surprise without sounding so heartless. And am I hearing them refer to him as "it" at certain points? I hope I am hearing it incorrectly.
I really appreciate the parents honesty. I’ve dealt a lot with mental health and it’s hard to face the backlash of being honest about the thoughts that you have in those moments. They seem to have raised him well and as a mom I can understand the shock and loss felt. I had difficulties with my first and it left me feeling robbed of a good experience and it’s tough for sure. I can’t wait to have a better time with my next but my experience doesn’t make me feel any less love for my girl.
As a first time mom, if I did get all the ultrasounds and standard testings done and ended up giving birth to a baby with serious deformity, I'd be in shock, too. Who wouldn't?
I don’t believe that any of the ultrasounds did not show this, something as grave as this. Someone would’ve known early in the pregnancy. Why was this a surprise? This is exactly what they look for in your 20 week ultrasound.
That is exactly the sort of thing they look for. My guess is they skipped the ultrasound, because they thought she was low risk (on account of her age and health).
DP 63 it’s standard practice for everyone though regardless of risk. There’s something fishy going on here... if it was a small abnormality, like I know cleft palate and lips can be missed, fine, but an entire malformed skull, there’s something big omitted from this story
I think his reaction is pretty normal. They didn't know that the baby had any medical problems, it was their first child, he might not have been around children much. They aspected a standard looking baby, you would be in shock because they didn't know what was wrong and if he would be able to survive. If they knew this during the pregnancy they could have prepared themselves and get used to the idea, now it all came at once during a stressfull time. It took them a minute to let everything sink in and then they decide that their baby was beautiful no matter what. I think that's great.
As a parent expecting, we all expect a perfect child.At first i was upset with the fathers words but i could only imagine how hard it was to swallow what was seen in the delivery room. All the emotional triumph, worry, questions then you think how society talks. People stare and children are honestly cruel. This is why i tell my own children, God makes no mistakes and everyone of us is not perfect but very special.
How was this not caught on the 20 week ultrasound? I was told my daughter most likelu had down syndrome based on her facial structure so i know they look at that. I had 3d/4d picture at her 21 week u/s and i could see her face clearly.
Jenifer Clark. My son has down syndrome. My chances were very slim, I didn't get testing for it. I knew it when I saw. All we could think of is how can we be the for him and make sure he knows how important and great he is. Wouldn't change a thing about him.
Happy Horse no. They wanted tp do an amniocentesis but i refused. If she did have ds it wouldnt have mattered as far as aborting her like they asked. Which to me was insane. After i refused for a week they did the blood test that is 99% accurate and it showed she did not have it. I actually wanted her even more when i thought she did. Down syndrome wasnt new to me. I have a close friend with a Daughter who has it. I was worried about heart issues or the chances for cancer which can be raised but i was just at peace about it. We now know that she has a rare genetic disorder. She is developmentally delayed but is so smart cognitively. She has a feeding tube but is making progress. Slowly but its happening. She has sensory issued but not autism as far as we can tell. Shes had a lot of health issues in her short 2 years but im thankful for the health she does have.
TiffLove you are an amazing mom. Mine doesnt have down syndrome but i know how amazing those kids are. It made me so sad when they asked if i wanted to abort her when i was waiting on blood work. It was a definate no. I had fought so hard to keep her alive long enough to deliver her shere she had a chance to survive and here they were asking if i wanted to purposely kill her. It made me so mad. Thankfully i made it to 30w 5d until she was born and although she did spend 2 months in the NICU it would have been much longer if she was born as a micro preemie.
Jenifer Clark Thank you. Takes one to know one! I'm glad that you made the decision that was right for you, despite their opinion. Our children are excellent. No matter what the circumstances may be. Wishing you the best! We'll keep preparing our kids for greatness!🙌🙌🙌💖💖💖
TiffLove he is so lucky to have such loving and accepting parents. You and your partner are also lucky to have such a loving accepting baby. I wish you all much love, happiness and good health. All the best.
watch the second part.... the parents literally said we wanted a normal looking kid so we tried for another baby and when jacob came he was like so perfect like a porcelain doll. his face was beautiful. The mum contributed to this by saying i understood motherhood is so easy and beautiful when my second baby came. the mum said she couldn't look at his face for a year after birth. In the same video, Nathaniel said that kids, even high school kids bully him by saying he is non human, a monster. Then what is the difference between his own parents and those high school bullies. I understand you didn't get what you want but do you have to scream that on top of your lungs on national TV for all to hear, for one day your own son to hear these words from his own parents mouth.
Saying that the dad is a jerk,cuz he said that he didnt look like a human being but they still love him i bet that would be about your reaction too if u had a baby like that u would aslo be shoked but the parents srill love him even tho he look like that🤗💕👍
I gave birth to my son Joshua in 2015. I was scared when he was born. He could only breathe when he cried and they had to take him immediately. He has Aperts syndrome which is one in 65,000. It occures spontaneously so I did nothing to cause it. I was personally shocked at his hands and feet which were fused at first, but as time went on other babies looked weird to me. There is a lot going on at these kinds of births. I myself was in labour for thirty eight hours. Don't be too harsh on parents that don't know what to think at first.
This dad was standing in his own shoes he is being raw and honest with how he was feeling and thinking in a surprise moment the nasty people with the rude comments are the deformed ones because your lacking empathy and sympathy for for this man would you rather he lie and say his first reaction was oh he is beautiful or perfect when those were not his true thoughts or feelings it only took the man a few hours to let it sink in and see this baby as not imperfect but perfect as a human being God bless this family and their children.
Awwww these parents make me sick he is a handsome young boy god makes everything different even humans and this boy has a bright future he is alive and he has a gift to share with the world. I will have him no problem.
As a nurse whose specialty is developmental disorders as well as severe mental illness, I have worked with Treacher Collins children. I would have immediately told those parents that same thing. "Your son will live a long, healthy, wonderful life" energized the room with my own joy to begin lifting their shock. They are just having natural shock of having to adjust to a new reality. I think OBGYN staff need to have at least 1 staff onsite who is experienced and trained to work with children with pervasive developmental disorders and craniofacial issues as well as other physiological birth congenital issues. Those parents should have not had to deal with staff's shock. that exacerbated their own shock and adjustment. It breaks my heart. If I had been there that would never have happened.
I know this would be a complete shock to parents that have a child with treacher Collins, and I know that the child would have a rough life but he and they would be fine. I have always thought children born with this, are super beautiful, I don’t know why, I just find them so beautiful. There was a movie about a boy that had this and had been home schooled, they decided he needed the interaction so his parents put him in public school. He had such a hard time at first but, he finally found a best friend, they were so close that the other kids began to accept him just the way he was. It was hard to watch what he went through but, his parents were amazing and everyone accepted him just as he was, all became good! I wish everybody, especially adults could see the beauty in every child equally. These kids have a hard life and do not need adults or children to treat them different. They are so precious.
Oh my god... Their kid is absolutely fine. The worst part is going to be how other kids treat him not even counting his parents. If that was my kid I would be a little shocked at first and I would smile within a minute and be so happy with my lovely living boy.
Lmao you're the kind of superior bitch that thinks she's got it all figured out but I guarantee if you had a baby that badly deformed you would be the first person to say something along the same lines as these parents did. Get a grip and quit acting perfect.
Ok ABC. Enough of these videos that are only partial stories that leave you hanging. Then you can’t find the rest of it. Bless those parents. Treacher Collins is I’m sure a shock to parents not expecting it but those born with can live good happy lives.
Suzanne Hedderly I AGREE!!! It is so doggone irritating when you watch 7-8 minutes of something and you don’t know what else happened! And, it’s not easy to find it either!! They should have the link in the description for crying out loud😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬
My best friend has Treacher Collins syndrome. It hasn't stopped her from being a best student in the school ending school with best scores from exams and now she's studying medicine. I'm very lucky to have such friend.
Been thru something similar although we had some idea from a 6 month scan. I'd rather hear the truth from parents so we know these feelings of shock are not an indication of a lack of love but of fear, shock and the knowledge of what is to come. We loved our nephew for everything he was. He only lasted 3 days but was held and cherished by all.
What is wrong with you people? They are recounting their first feelings, real, raw. I may have reacted the same way at first, so stop being hypocritical.
They talk about their son like he is a freak it's really sad. Just the choice of words was like they were looking at the pictures online rather than talking about their own child. I hope he never sees this interview, that his parents were practically disgusted by him when he was born.
The parents aren’t jerks. I get why they are upset. They don’t want their kid to have problems due to possibly death or bullying or any problems. No parent wants their kid to have issues.
Nathaniel is beautiful. He was created by God's Hands!! Sperm and egg and genetics are trivial without God saying "Here, I sculpted this beautiful child for you and he is perfection in my hands and my eyes. I give him to you for you to love."
The dad is not a jerk he could've easily bailed on his wife and kid but he didn't... put yourself in his place the kid didn't look human how the fuck would you feel or react...he's a person he's not perfect give him a chance damn
Don’t be such jerks to these parents. It must have been a shock to them. My 2nd child came out with wrinkled ears and a large purple birth mark between his eyes. I cried and said , “He’s gonna need to wear a hat for the rest of his life!”
"Thats going to be my son" the dad is disgusting. The baby was still beautiful and i would never of said shit like that. The baby is alive be fucking joyful theres people out there that still cant be a parent!
I thumbed down because it's so sad but thx for putting it on UA-cam and also the mom is very pretty with pretty hair and her voice is beautiful like shakira
"Left alone on the delivery table while doctors rushed to care for the baby" ...ok slow down there, media. OBs dont care for babies. I am positive the OB and OR staff was continuing the section, removing the placenta, and closing her up. She was not left alone on the delivery table lol
I'm sorry but I agree with the comments about how awful the parents are for the way they talk about him. And I can easily put myself in their shoes. It wouldn't take a fucking Christina Aguilera song, that I'm listening to at home, to convince me to DECIDE he's beautiful, NOT in the outside though just the inside, AND to decide to hold him for the FIRST time. And then to call him "it" but call the brother by his name. Thinking someone is nuts by saying it's wonderful you have him. And then to talk about how you wanted a "normal baby" and when you did, how much easier he was. I'm sorry, but just to SAY the shit on national tv, where their son will see it, along with the bullies who can use it as ammo, is awful. I'd be crushed if I heard my parents talking about me like this, like I was a disgust burden. But to the even think/feel that way is awful to me. I cannot imagine not instantly loving my son, bc I did and I do and I never once felt like he was a burden. And yes we're all human and FLEETING thoughts do happen, (she cried every time she had to hold him for a year, out of disgust) but you still don't let the child know that. Jesus. But they're sure fine banking $ on it.
Harmony Atlas16 Obviously he knew it was a human being that’s beautiful or whatever, but nobody wants their child to have something like treacher Collins, and the way he was describing his son was true, you don’t exactly look normal with it
I think his parents are amazing. Being able to go through all those tough times and raise up such a beautiful child inside out is definitely not an easy thing to do. The way Nathaniel speaks and presents himself shows how his parents has been motivating him and raise him up just like all the other kids.
The doctors were idiots for not testing. This level of craniofacial abnormalities can even be detected in ultrasound, they can see the shape of the face and head. They could have been better prepared for this.
“Juliana Wetmore is known as “the girl without a face.” One of the worse documented case of a genetic disorder called Treacher Collins Syndrome and it causes, Juliana was born with severe deformations of face due to missing bones.” Juliana had Treacher Collins Syndrome but her case was the worst doctors had seen. Her parents loved her. She is 13 now, very intelligent and very artistic. To abort a child because of facial deformities, for her looks, is unbelievable to me. When ultra sounds get so sophisticated you can see exactly what your baby looks like that should be reassuring to those here wanting a planned baby to be aborted because of her looks. Just think, they will be able to abort their baby if it’s ugly and say I didn’t want her bullied. Search UA-cam for Juliana. Her bravery is astounding. Documentary on Juliana Wetmore: ua-cam.com/video/tjpTVYVM5wQ/v-deo.html
Oh please don't act like you'd have reacted any differently if that was your child!! This is shock and trauma for the parents to see their child and it looks like that and EVERY single person in the world who says they'd act any differently are lying their asses off! I can't even imagine giving birth and then seeing the child looking like that! I'd probably cry for weeks!! and not just because he looked like that, because of his future and all the pain that's gonna come with it! So please get off your high horse and shut up!
It will never cease to amaze me how some humans have no empathy. That most certainly was not an honest or normal thing to say. I feel sorry for the guy, he is obviously dealing with mommy issues. My guess would be he was spoiled, so bad, that god gave them this child to save his soul. Yes, most people would be shocked and horrified out of concern for their child, but then go into survival mode. Not worry about how this is going to reflect on his life. They made the decision to bring an innocent soul into their lives and knew there would be risks and challenges. If he doesn't have any faith, then how is he gonna teach it to his child? And as for the people commenting and sticking up for his behavior, you guys are just as bad. I am sure this convo is going to turn real ugly, real quick, from the amount of comments I saw condoning it. Get woke people. Take your blinders off.
Daisy Duke And? It was a shock to them. Of course nothing would knock you down right? Nothing except other people's reaction to what really happened as opposed to what you imagine you would feel like. That's the point of sharing the story, to tell YOU what it actually felt like.
This dad is so real, and honest. Of course he was shocked..the realization that your son has a life time of painful surgeries ahead of him, bullying, etc.. All birth defects cause anxiety for parents and family. The father's tears show his capablity for empathy for his newly born son's journey.. it will be a long, arduous journey at times. Thank God that sweet baby has a father that loves him so unconditionally.
Right my son is Autistic, a handsome boy but it has my anxiety on 1000000000...
Flame Gang It will be ok. Hopefully, you have some faith because that will sustain you and also guide you. Bless you and your son!
Oh please! If you had a baby and it didn't look like how you thought. You would be shocked. They kept him. They raised him. Good grief.
anita Simpson - THANK YOU!
anita Simpson exactly going from oh everything is great so that's what your expecting to see a healthy baby that has mom's eyes and dad's smile..then all of a sudden you see your child that has severe facial disfiguring and doctors around them basically giving the vibe of your child is not right!!
listen people are mad cause the parents and the news reporter are talking like this baby is the worse thing in the world their not they are just like us they just look different and that is all but they laugh the same and act the same and do everything that you would do
wait until people find out that im leaving it at the hospital if it makes me scream
I have treacher Collins syndrome and I know my mum and dad were frightened when I was born at 27 weeks. I completely understand the parents thoughts and feelings even now. I have have 14 surgeries and I don’t look like I did previously. I don’t hate the parents I love the fact they embraced Nathaniel and kept him. They are loving parents
Y'all are wrong for what you say about this father. He sat there in a hospital waiting for his perfect baby boy and that's not how it panned out. Imagine knowing your child is different. Imagine all the hate and how strange their life will be. This dad wanted his son to have a normal life and in one minute all of those hopes were torn away. He was scared and you can't blame him for that.
Exactly! When a baby is born with any disability or deformities, the rest of their life is going to be hard due to such cruel people. They will be treated differently and not in a good way.
100% agree. Say it louder for the assholes in the back.
It’s only a thing if they make it a thing, and I’m sorry but THEY ARE!
Agreed! All parents want the simplist path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
I agree that it's natural to have those feelings at the time, but what's harder to rationalize is the way he still speaks about it now. It just seems dehumanizing. _He_ had to find it in _his_ heart to accept his child by listening to a Christina Aguilera song. _He_ felt the need to be congratulated by someone to reaffirm that _his_ life would be okay despite this. I could be wrong, but it seems like he's more concerned about how difficult his life will be instead of how difficult his son's life will be.
This made me cry. My son was born with Goldenhar syndrome with Craniotomy facial abnormalities, profound gearing loss, bilateral cleft lip and palate, scoliosis, missing kidney, and missing ribs. We were young teenage parents and had him at only 27 weeks. My husband instantly fell in love with his son. Many surgeries followed over the years. We love him to death. He’s a miracle and did everything the doctors said he wouldn’t be able to do. The nurses and doctors tried to get us to put him in an institution but we refused. Many “professionals” told us it would be a better quality of life. I remember one saying look around, you don’t see people like him walking around. That’s the best place for him. I couldn’t do that to him and neither would his dad. Then we had our second child 8 years later. During an ultrasound we learned he would have a cleft lip. Immediately they told us we should get an abortion. They really pressured us but we didn’t give in. If we had gone through so much with our first, cleft lip was a walk in the park for us. Our next child was a girl, 4 years later. Then we were told she would have spina bifita and we should abort as well. We refused and she was born completely healthy. At the age of 2 she began to have seizures. Now she’s on medication to help with that. Out next and last daughter was diagnosed through ultrasound to have down syndrome. Again, the pressure to abort. We didn’t and she’s the smartest child I know and NO she was not born with Down syndrome. It’s sad how wrong the medical community can be. Imagine all those children aborted and in reality there is nothing wrong with them. Today we struggle because we decided I would stay home and not work because of all the appointments the children have. My employers were not understanding that I have disabled children. We struggle financially, and I do lots of things to help with our cost of living by making our own soaps, couponing, being used clothes or swapping them with others. I try my best. Today my oldest is now 21, he’s not ready to leave home and he does have a mentality of a 10 year old and he struggles with his self esteem and self worth. Because even though he’s had all these surgeries, he still looks noticeably different. When he was younger people would stare and say nasty things and hurtful things. I’d get so angry and scold them for doing that. My son said he always noticed people would stare or do a double take. He said it used to get him upset but now he ignores it. He’s sad though because he has not had a girlfriend. (Although, we are Christian and believe in Christian dating.) I tell one day God will send him someone.
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That’s an amazing story ❤😊
As a fellow Christian who doesn't have children. I pray your son has a girlfriend and god bless you all and i hope you all have a good life
Unpopular opinion; I am not a parent, but if you choose to become a parent you need to understand and prepare yourself that there is a chance your child may be born “ different”
The mother is absolutely gorgeous. Beautiful, her accent 😍 omg...even more beautiful with her pixie hair (I know it was cuz of cancer but she looks so cute) beautiful family. God bless them. Stay strong 👏💪
saying the dad is a jerk is sooooo easy ! try to put yourself in his shoes first and then think again ! of course he sure does love his kid but how would you react ? You cannot be thrilled when you know deep down that your kid is gonna suffer but then you try to help him and i think this is what his parents did ! Glad that christina aguilera song helped them through this hardship she sure poured her heart in the song and that's the power of music !
Zack GRAHAM Now you said that...I totally agree
Of course you'd be shocked. But calling your own child "not human" is fucked up. Your kid can still be beautiful with treachers collins. Their face can be beautiful. It's not "regardless of their face" that's fucked up
@@mae._.7676 No, I'm sorry, a child with q horrific deformity is not beautiful. He was in shock. You're delusional if you think you would be blissfully happy and accepting if your baby came out deformed like that.
@@rlee3538 I didn't say I would be blissfully happy. I would worried for their future because of the complications. I would however completely accept and love them. And I would think that they were beautiful because they are my child. Beauty isn't formed by facial symmetry alone. If someone is beautiful it's not solely because of their appearance and a lot of times it's because of that at all
@@mae._.7676 Okay, live in a fantasy. Until you've worked in direct contact with situations like these you'll never know or understand the reality of what these parents said and endured. If you did you'd quit your mouth real quick
More kids need to be taught from a very young age that looks do not make you a monster...what defines you is what is on the inside ♡
So true. My third child has a genetic disorder which causes him to look different to the average kid. The bullying he was subjected to, particularly during high school was appalling and in the end forced him to drop out of school early. He was often called "freak" and taunted by kids chanting "Smeagol" because they said he looked like the Gollum character from Lord of the Rings. Parents need to teach their children from an early age that not all people look the same or behave the same way and to treat people kindly rather than with cruelty. Children can be cruel but empathy can be taught and I think kids can learn to put themselves in someone shoes as in, how would I feel if these horrible things were being said about me.
Not just kids but also adults and teens and old people.
A great start would be to stop making the bad guys or villains in movies especially children movies ugly, or monsters, or different looking like they often do and stop making the good guys especially in children’s movies all handsome and or perfect.
Why? Teach them that, so they find worse from strangers? That would somehow, been worse.
Try telling that to everyone on social media.
The dad is not a jerk. He just wanted what all parents want; the simplest path in life for their children. The one not marred with cruelty and physical limitations. Knowing that you can’t do what others can do so easily can be hard for adults; let alone children who are equipped with imaginations and hopes beyond their wildest dreams.
well I appreciate theyre honesty...in the end the parents saw what they're were doing so why degrade them? they're sharing they're story meaning only comes from they're perspective ..
Amen and blessings...to that woman from the surgical center! Every baby is a joy, regardless if the baby is born with an unexpected genetic abnormality.
I advocate for all children with different abilities, and spent my career as a Special Eduction teacher. Children are as normal as they are taught to be...parents who learn that early will find all the joy in the world!
I remember watching this when it aired and I thought, I’ve learned something about people like Nathaniel. And you know what I’ve learned? That people like him are treated like people with special needs and Autism. In a bad way and there needs to be something done about it! Bc it breaks my heart that people like him and me are treated poorly in this world😢
Oh my... You can see the love this dear man has for his son... He will be a wonderful support and encourager...
Sandy Grogg YES!
What happens when Nathaniel sees this video? The way they are talking at times seems terrible. Being shocked is understandable...but this video was after the initial shock. Clean up your words & phrases. You can express the shock/surprise without sounding so heartless. And am I hearing them refer to him as "it" at certain points? I hope I am hearing it incorrectly.
That one congratulations changed everything! A blessing!💞💞💞
Nathaniel is a beautiful little boy. ❤️
I really appreciate the parents honesty. I’ve dealt a lot with mental health and it’s hard to face the backlash of being honest about the thoughts that you have in those moments. They seem to have raised him well and as a mom I can understand the shock and loss felt. I had difficulties with my first and it left me feeling robbed of a good experience and it’s tough for sure. I can’t wait to have a better time with my next but my experience doesn’t make me feel any less love for my girl.
As a first time mom, if I did get all the ultrasounds and standard testings done and ended up giving birth to a baby with serious deformity, I'd be in shock, too. Who wouldn't?
I don’t believe that any of the ultrasounds did not show this, something as grave as this. Someone would’ve known early in the pregnancy. Why was this a surprise? This is exactly what they look for in your 20 week ultrasound.
Wynter Fox unless it’s a 3D it may not show. My black and white ultrasounds look like their child.
Nwa I’m no OBGYN ultrasound expert but I could’ve sworn physical abnormalities are what they look for in those ultrasound
That is exactly the sort of thing they look for. My guess is they skipped the ultrasound, because they thought she was low risk (on account of her age and health).
DP 63 it’s standard practice for everyone though regardless of risk. There’s something fishy going on here... if it was a small abnormality, like I know cleft palate and lips can be missed, fine, but an entire malformed skull, there’s something big omitted from this story
Wynter Fox For sure. She skipped the ultrasound, most likely.
"I am beautiful!" Omg, I am crying!!! And then they went and held him!
I think his reaction is pretty normal. They didn't know that the baby had any medical problems, it was their first child, he might not have been around children much. They aspected a standard looking baby, you would be in shock because they didn't know what was wrong and if he would be able to survive. If they knew this during the pregnancy they could have prepared themselves and get used to the idea, now it all came at once during a stressfull time. It took them a minute to let everything sink in and then they decide that their baby was beautiful no matter what. I think that's great.
I wanted to see the baby.....
As a parent expecting, we all expect a perfect child.At first i was upset with the fathers words but i could only imagine how hard it was to swallow what was seen in the delivery room. All the emotional triumph, worry, questions then you think how society talks. People stare and children are honestly cruel.
This is why i tell my own children, God makes no mistakes and everyone of us is not perfect but very special.
Bernadette Vasquez Bravo!
How was this not caught on the 20 week ultrasound?
I was told my daughter most likelu had down syndrome based on her facial structure so i know they look at that. I had 3d/4d picture at her 21 week u/s and i could see her face clearly.
Jenifer Clark. My son has down syndrome. My chances were very slim, I didn't get testing for it. I knew it when I saw. All we could think of is how can we be the for him and make sure he knows how important and great he is. Wouldn't change a thing about him.
Happy Horse no. They wanted tp do an amniocentesis but i refused. If she did have ds it wouldnt have mattered as far as aborting her like they asked. Which to me was insane. After i refused for a week they did the blood test that is 99% accurate and it showed she did not have it.
I actually wanted her even more when i thought she did. Down syndrome wasnt new to me. I have a close friend with a Daughter who has it. I was worried about heart issues or the chances for cancer which can be raised but i was just at peace about it.
We now know that she has a rare genetic disorder. She is developmentally delayed but is so smart cognitively. She has a feeding tube but is making progress. Slowly but its happening. She has sensory issued but not autism as far as we can tell.
Shes had a lot of health issues in her short 2 years but im thankful for the health she does have.
TiffLove you are an amazing mom. Mine doesnt have down syndrome but i know how amazing those kids are. It made me so sad when they asked if i wanted to abort her when i was waiting on blood work. It was a definate no. I had fought so hard to keep her alive long enough to deliver her shere she had a chance to survive and here they were asking if i wanted to purposely kill her. It made me so mad.
Thankfully i made it to 30w 5d until she was born and although she did spend 2 months in the NICU it would have been much longer if she was born as a micro preemie.
Jenifer Clark Thank you. Takes one to know one! I'm glad that you made the decision that was right for you, despite their opinion. Our children are excellent. No matter what the circumstances may be. Wishing you the best! We'll keep preparing our kids for greatness!🙌🙌🙌💖💖💖
TiffLove he is so lucky to have such loving and accepting parents. You and your partner are also lucky to have such a loving accepting baby. I wish you all much love, happiness and good health. All the best.
This Video Makes Me Happy Considering I Had Craniofacial Surgery At A Young Age
FOR ALL U GUYS THAT ARE PUTTING THE PARENTS DOWN AND TALKING ABOIT THEIR CHILDREN SHAME ON U BULLYS GO LOOK IN THE MIRROR
WELL WELL SAID ..shame on the judgement ..could u imagine living like that :)
watch the second part.... the parents literally said we wanted a normal looking kid so we tried for another baby and when jacob came he was like so perfect like a porcelain doll. his face was beautiful. The mum contributed to this by saying i understood motherhood is so easy and beautiful when my second baby came. the mum said she couldn't look at his face for a year after birth.
In the same video, Nathaniel said that kids, even high school kids bully him by saying he is non human, a monster.
Then what is the difference between his own parents and those high school bullies.
I understand you didn't get what you want but do you have to scream that on top of your lungs on national TV for all to hear, for one day your own son to hear these words from his own parents mouth.
I saw this when it aired. This couple is awesome!
Saying that the dad is a jerk,cuz he said that he didnt look like a human being but they still love him i bet that would be about your reaction too if u had a baby like that u would aslo be shoked but the parents srill love him even tho he look like that🤗💕👍
His dad sounds like a jerk describing it..like i understand what he was going through but still
Glixity You just called a baby an " it " so you are no better !
DESCRIBING "IT" as in the story guy
Glixity oh shut up he is describing what he went thru
Oh please dont be rude its his son hes talking about and WHAT HIS SON went thru
What a jerk u are that wasn't nice what you posted
I gave birth to my son Joshua in 2015. I was scared when he was born. He could only breathe when he cried and they had to take him immediately. He has Aperts syndrome which is one in 65,000. It occures spontaneously so I did nothing to cause it. I was personally shocked at his hands and feet which were fused at first, but as time went on other babies looked weird to me. There is a lot going on at these kinds of births. I myself was in labour for thirty eight hours. Don't be too harsh on parents that don't know what to think at first.
This dad was standing in his own shoes he is being raw and honest with how he was feeling and thinking in a surprise moment the nasty people with the rude comments are the deformed ones because your lacking empathy and sympathy for for this man would you rather he lie and say his first reaction was oh he is beautiful or perfect when those were not his true thoughts or feelings it only took the man a few hours to let it sink in and see this baby as not imperfect but perfect as a human being God bless this family and their children.
ok but why they keep referring to the child as "it" 😐
4:41 I'm crying what a beautiful family
They seem disgusted by there own child
Awwww these parents make me sick he is a handsome young boy god makes everything different even humans and this boy has a bright future he is alive and he has a gift to share with the world. I will have him no problem.
As a nurse whose specialty is developmental disorders as well as severe mental illness, I have worked with Treacher Collins children. I would have immediately told those parents that same thing. "Your son will live a long, healthy, wonderful life" energized the room with my own joy to begin lifting their shock. They are just having natural shock of having to adjust to a new reality. I think OBGYN staff need to have at least 1 staff onsite who is experienced and trained to work with children with pervasive developmental disorders and craniofacial issues as well as other physiological birth congenital issues. Those parents should have not had to deal with staff's shock. that exacerbated their own shock and adjustment. It breaks my heart. If I had been there that would never have happened.
Brave and strong parents!!!
Imagine what would happend when Nathaniel sees this video... :(
I know this would be a complete shock to parents that have a child with treacher Collins, and I know that the child would have a rough life but he and they would be fine.
I have always thought children born with this, are super beautiful, I don’t know why, I just find them so beautiful.
There was a movie about a boy that had this and had been home schooled, they decided he needed the interaction so his parents put him in public school. He had such a hard time at first but, he finally found a best friend, they were so close that the other kids began to accept him just the way he was.
It was hard to watch what he went through but, his parents were amazing and everyone accepted him just as he was, all became good!
I wish everybody, especially adults could see the beauty in every child equally. These kids have a hard life and do not need adults or children to treat them different. They are so precious.
Oh my god... Their kid is absolutely fine. The worst part is going to be how other kids treat him not even counting his parents. If that was my kid I would be a little shocked at first and I would smile within a minute and be so happy with my lovely living boy.
David Miscaviage and I would send you to jail for life :)
Megan Asdfghjkl and the living abortion would be terminated. I win
Megan Asdfghjkl. you sound real sure of yourself but reality is a bitch.
@@jeanclover3182 I know it's a bitch. I have genetic disorders and they cause me great pain. So I am sure.
Lmao you're the kind of superior bitch that thinks she's got it all figured out but I guarantee if you had a baby that badly deformed you would be the first person to say something along the same lines as these parents did. Get a grip and quit acting perfect.
the news report makes me wanna go to this department and yell the shit outta my head
Ok ABC. Enough of these videos that are only partial stories that leave you hanging. Then you can’t find the rest of it. Bless those parents. Treacher Collins is I’m sure a shock to parents not expecting it but those born with can live good happy lives.
Suzanne Hedderly I AGREE!!! It is so doggone irritating when you watch 7-8 minutes of something and you don’t know what else happened! And, it’s not easy to find it either!! They should have the link in the description for crying out loud😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬
There is a book about it called normal you should read it it’s amazing
I'm cry... Tks xtina
I think the dad is just open and honest.
These parents are very honest letting us have insight into those first hours of seeing their baby.
What a lovely boy!
Give the dad a break
He called his son a thing
I'm very sorry as a parent idk how I'd react just saying . but my son is beautiful rather a limb gone or deformed its a gift from god
I think the baby looks like him.. god bless his baby boy..💙
Magz Rod that’s exactly what I said too. The child looks like his father
His a beautiful creation of God.I'M gonna watch the movie WONDER.
ShawN TyleR same. Im watching it on monday
i wouldn't want my child to look like him but i would keep it because i would feel bad and i would cry
The "Beautiful" part of the story gives me chill. Music is powerful!
My best friend has Treacher Collins syndrome. It hasn't stopped her from being a best student in the school ending school with best scores from exams and now she's studying medicine. I'm very lucky to have such friend.
Looks like the gene came from the dad.
RanZ M. Mean
Your an asswhole.
RanZ M. Absolutely
Thats what i thought
JK Mid I thought the same thing
Been thru something similar although we had some idea from a 6 month scan. I'd rather hear the truth from parents so we know these feelings of shock are not an indication of a lack of love but of fear, shock and the knowledge of what is to come. We loved our nephew for everything he was. He only lasted 3 days but was held and cherished by all.
We held the "thing" my son
meaghan wilson 💀
He said we held nathanial..Not thing
They were in shock. I understand their shock.
He looks like his dad.
What is wrong with you people? They are recounting their first feelings, real, raw. I may have reacted the same way at first, so stop being hypocritical.
What a great dad
God bless them with all my heart
AG Kittenlady NO PITY!
They talk about their son like he is a freak it's really sad. Just the choice of words was like they were looking at the pictures online rather than talking about their own child. I hope he never sees this interview, that his parents were practically disgusted by him when he was born.
That sucks. I just had a baby boy and he is PERFECT i thank God everyday for my healthy child
The parents aren’t jerks. I get why they are upset. They don’t want their kid to have problems due to possibly death or bullying or any problems. No parent wants their kid to have issues.
❤ God bless this family
How did they not see it in an ultrasound? My mom is 7 months and you can see almost every detail of the babies face.
Where's part 2
Audriana Michelin I don’t know 🤔. But I do know it is super irritating!!
ua-cam.com/video/feGliiEsomo/v-deo.html
Nathaniel is beautiful. He was created by God's Hands!! Sperm and egg and genetics are trivial without God saying "Here, I sculpted this beautiful child for you and he is perfection in my hands and my eyes. I give him to you for you to love."
bless this family❣️ where do I find part 2? thank you
The dad is not a jerk he could've easily bailed on his wife and kid but he didn't... put yourself in his place the kid didn't look human how the fuck would you feel or react...he's a person he's not perfect give him a chance damn
The dad is just being honest.
Don’t be such jerks to these parents. It must have been a shock to them. My 2nd child came out with wrinkled ears and a large purple birth mark between his eyes. I cried and said , “He’s gonna need to wear a hat for the rest of his life!”
"Thats going to be my son" the dad is disgusting. The baby was still beautiful and i would never of said shit like that. The baby is alive be fucking joyful theres people out there that still cant be a parent!
When the host said “he saw an opportunity and seized it”. That makes me think of a job not so much of a romance hahaha
Sad to say, but as horrible as it is/was for a "father" to respond in such a manner, his response could have been worse.
Is it bad that I cry every time I see this
I thumbed down because it's so sad but thx for putting it on UA-cam and also the mom is very pretty with pretty hair and her voice is beautiful like shakira
Also the dad is a bitch because he is identifying their son
She looks better now than at 24!
"Left alone on the delivery table while doctors rushed to care for the baby" ...ok slow down there, media. OBs dont care for babies. I am positive the OB and OR staff was continuing the section, removing the placenta, and closing her up. She was not left alone on the delivery table lol
If people know ahead of time that the fetus will be so malformed, they should abort. It is morally wrong not to.
It's not morally wrong. Abortion is
I was born with a mild case of treachers Collins
I'm sorry but I agree with the comments about how awful the parents are for the way they talk about him. And I can easily put myself in their shoes. It wouldn't take a fucking Christina Aguilera song, that I'm listening to at home, to convince me to DECIDE he's beautiful, NOT in the outside though just the inside, AND to decide to hold him for the FIRST time. And then to call him "it" but call the brother by his name. Thinking someone is nuts by saying it's wonderful you have him. And then to talk about how you wanted a "normal baby" and when you did, how much easier he was.
I'm sorry, but just to SAY the shit on national tv, where their son will see it, along with the bullies who can use it as ammo, is awful. I'd be crushed if I heard my parents talking about me like this, like I was a disgust burden. But to the even think/feel that way is awful to me. I cannot imagine not instantly loving my son, bc I did and I do and I never once felt like he was a burden. And yes we're all human and FLEETING thoughts do happen, (she cried every time she had to hold him for a year, out of disgust) but you still don't let the child know that. Jesus. But they're sure fine banking $ on it.
Harmony Atlas16 Obviously he knew it was a human being that’s beautiful or whatever, but nobody wants their child to have something like treacher Collins, and the way he was describing his son was true, you don’t exactly look normal with it
I think his parents are amazing. Being able to go through all those tough times and raise up such a beautiful child inside out is definitely not an easy thing to do. The way Nathaniel speaks and presents himself shows how his parents has been motivating him and raise him up just like all the other kids.
Like father, like son!
NAH THIS IS MY BIGGEST FEAR CUZ IF THE BABY MAKES ME SCREAM WHEN I SEE IT IM NOT KEEPING IT
What if the baby had been you? And your parents didn't want you
The doctors were idiots for not testing. This level of craniofacial abnormalities can even be detected in ultrasound, they can see the shape of the face and head. They could have been better prepared for this.
“Juliana Wetmore is known as “the girl without a face.” One of the worse documented case of a genetic disorder called Treacher Collins Syndrome and it causes, Juliana was born with severe deformations of face due to missing bones.”
Juliana had Treacher Collins Syndrome but her case was the worst doctors had seen. Her parents loved her. She is 13 now, very intelligent and very artistic. To abort a child because of facial deformities, for her looks, is unbelievable to me. When ultra sounds get so sophisticated you can see exactly what your baby looks like that should be reassuring to those here wanting a planned baby to be aborted because of her looks. Just think, they will be able to abort their baby if it’s ugly and say I didn’t want her bullied.
Search UA-cam for Juliana. Her bravery is astounding. Documentary on Juliana Wetmore:
ua-cam.com/video/tjpTVYVM5wQ/v-deo.html
The title is weird I mean it's pretty obvious they remember the night their kid was born
I thought the baby didn’t look like a human for the first impression.
Oh please don't act like you'd have reacted any differently if that was your child!! This is shock and trauma for the parents to see their child and it looks like that and EVERY single person in the world who says they'd act any differently are lying their asses off! I can't even imagine giving birth and then seeing the child looking like that! I'd probably cry for weeks!! and not just because he looked like that, because of his future and all the pain that's gonna come with it! So please get off your high horse and shut up!
Exactly. Well said
Please let your wife to talk also, she gave the birth and is also a parent. So stop occupying every second in the video.
It will never cease to amaze me how some humans have no empathy. That most certainly was not an honest or normal thing to say. I feel sorry for the guy, he is obviously dealing with mommy issues. My guess would be he was spoiled, so bad, that god gave them this child to save his soul. Yes, most people would be shocked and horrified out of concern for their child, but then go into survival mode. Not worry about how this is going to reflect on his life. They made the decision to bring an innocent soul into their lives and knew there would be risks and challenges. If he doesn't have any faith, then how is he gonna teach it to his child? And as for the people commenting and sticking up for his behavior, you guys are just as bad. I am sure this convo is going to turn real ugly, real quick, from the amount of comments I saw condoning it. Get woke people. Take your blinders off.
When I was first born ( seconds old ) I was PURPLE. FREAKING PURPLE. It was because of my skin tone
Part 2 anyone
That poor kid
They dont remember the night their son was born they remember the night he was born with a severe craniofacial disorder
Daisy Duke And? It was a shock to them. Of course nothing would knock you down right? Nothing except other people's reaction to what really happened as opposed to what you imagine you would feel like. That's the point of sharing the story, to tell YOU what it actually felt like.
Why can't we see him?
"We held the thing" like really?
he said Nathaniel
Who else came from the movie Wonder?