"Heav'n has no Rage, like Love to Hatred turn'd, Nor Hell a Fury, like a Woman scorn'd." from The Mourning Bride (Act III Scene 2) by William Congreve 1697
It's interesting that you all agree around 1:10:00 that the understanding of attachment styles is not well-deployed by contemporary therapists. Anecdotally, I have seen attachment theories mentioned more often recently by people in popular online venues, e.g., websites where people discuss relationship problems. Do you feel as though there has been a sea change in the last four years with regard to this subject? If so do you feel there may be any issues with this that have either developed or may in the future? I am thinking of when the gentleman spoke up and went in front of the camera to talk about earned security. Everyone (not incorrectly) said "Yes, yes, but we are talking about infants in the study, historically." But attachment is not just what your Hogwarts house is, or what sign you're born under! Human beings are not just plastic (even late into life, and under the most restrictive of circumstances) but conflicted. We are not just here as an "ad for therapy" - although it's a big plus - but because even these "basically secure" people walking around in everyday life are carrying at least not just the capacity to heal and grow more secure but also in some part the tendancy to regress given certain circumstances.
I think he help me to decide to stop being bad. I was being a bad boy. I decided it was time to try to be good. Then I found I could write and do other things as well.
@@doncarveth Oh I am sorry.... Sorry about my English... what I meant is : if I try to think like the way you mention: maybe you were being bad....bla bla bla... even when I try to take the same thought to myself.. I dont see that in me....I am stuck... and I dont know why.....trying to use your example and speak english as well lol... hope you understand...
Maria Luiza Mendes I do understand. I think the point is there is an unconscious mind. We may be completely unaware of things we are doing that go against our conscience. I think only with analytic therapy can we become aware of these unconscious feelings.
I'm so grateful for these
Thanks. Try Mitchell and black, Floyd and beyond. A bit dated but still good.
Thanks so much! Will continue to listen to your videos and hope there will be more to come. Thanks
Francesco
"Heav'n has no Rage, like Love to Hatred turn'd, Nor Hell a Fury, like a Woman scorn'd."
from The Mourning Bride (Act III Scene 2) by William Congreve 1697
It's interesting that you all agree around 1:10:00 that the understanding of attachment styles is not well-deployed by contemporary therapists. Anecdotally, I have seen attachment theories mentioned more often recently by people in popular online venues, e.g., websites where people discuss relationship problems. Do you feel as though there has been a sea change in the last four years with regard to this subject? If so do you feel there may be any issues with this that have either developed or may in the future? I am thinking of when the gentleman spoke up and went in front of the camera to talk about earned security. Everyone (not incorrectly) said "Yes, yes, but we are talking about infants in the study, historically." But attachment is not just what your Hogwarts house is, or what sign you're born under! Human beings are not just plastic (even late into life, and under the most restrictive of circumstances) but conflicted. We are not just here as an "ad for therapy" - although it's a big plus - but because even these "basically secure" people walking around in everyday life are carrying at least not just the capacity to heal and grow more secure but also in some part the tendancy to regress given certain circumstances.
I think attachment theory is a valuable add on to the rest of psychoanalytic theory, but not more than that.
This one is the sexiest, especially regarding Bowlby proceeding to Erikson.
Why can this be called the sexiest?
I am stunned that these therapists/counsellers have no understanding of attachment theory in their training.
What did your analist said to you to start to write ?? I have the same problem here at this moment...
I think he help me to decide to stop being bad. I was being a bad boy. I decided it was time to try to be good. Then I found I could write and do other things as well.
@@doncarveth being bad ?? How come ?? I dont feel like I am being bad with this...What should I understand ?? :-(
Maria Luiza Mendes I’m not sure what you are referring to, can you clarify? Can you point to where in the video I say what you are asking about?
@@doncarveth Oh I am sorry.... Sorry about my English... what I meant is : if I try to think like the way you mention: maybe you were being bad....bla bla bla... even when I try to take the same thought to myself.. I dont see that in me....I am stuck... and I dont know why.....trying to use your example and speak english as well lol...
hope you understand...
Maria Luiza Mendes I do understand. I think the point is there is an unconscious mind. We may be completely unaware of things we are doing that go against our conscience. I think only with analytic therapy can we become aware of these unconscious feelings.