My eating disorder: Arfid
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- Опубліковано 13 тра 2016
- Hello y'all!
Today I thought I'd share to you a little bit about my eating disorder; Arfid. Arfid stands for: Avoidant Restrictive Food Intake Disorder. I've struggled with it all my life, and I'm finally trying to better myself now.
Thanks for watching!
Xoxo Jaide
I'm so glad to find others going threw this , I live on bread and butter and last year nearly died because of it. :( I had to have b12 injections to literally save my life. There's not much awareness of arfid. I'm 22 and have had the disorder for 20 years but have only recently been diagnosed
The anxiety I would get going over to a friends house and not knowing what they're making for dinner always sucked. I hated going to family reunions and people would say "Oh Histify is coming over we made these 'special' for you" I don't want to be special, I want to eat normally like everyone else but the stress I felt of trying a new food would be enormous. If someone pressured me into it I would go into a full blown panic attack and couldn't eat anything at all.
Recently I've gotten better and have been trying new foods but I have to do it my way... Usually no one around, I tried a bell pepper and no one was around and there was no pressure except myself and I just was curious and calmed myself down and was able to do it... Those moments are rare but I'm trying to take advantage of them to expand my palate. But I don't just eat bell peppers raw. I think I've had them once since I tried them like over a year and half ago so things are still mostly the same all my life diet wise.
And I agree with snacking all day. Saltines, Combos, Doritos. I know it's unhealthy for me and I worry and have anxiety that my health is bad but I just have to trust my doctors when they say I'm ok.. Sorry for rambling.
Histify I’m with you! Everything you said is me too. We gotta stay strong💜
Ive had the same experience ive had to turn down sleepovers with my friends even though I want to go because I get worried about not eating their foods
Yup I would always pack my own food to parties. And I pushed to get help after my first panic attack that was caused by being pushed to eat something new. As I've been going to therapy I've come to realize recovery can't be reached by just diving into it. This takes time. But it is possible! ❤️
i have the same thing, its really hard and all the pressure when someone is with you making you try foods, its so hard... plus on top of that my mom has done no research on arfid and doesnt think i have it when i clearly do...
I'm 19 and I only found out it wasn't "just me" the other week, but I've been like this since I was really young and my BMI is so bad because my only 24/7 safe foods are green apples and raspberries, and I ended up in the emergency ward last week because I kept fainting. It's so hard, but it's amazing to find others so I know I'm not alone! Mines from a) pressure and b) emetophobia, so basically anxiety.
I dont have ARFID myself, but my GF does. I find it interesting that you two have almost the same diet. Her favorites are grilled cheese, chicken nuggets and fries. She does eat a few other things, but those are definitely the most common. I've been trying to do more research on ARFID because I love her and want to find the best ways to accommodate/help her condition.
I'm 22 and haven't been diagnosed with anything but I know I have arfid, for as long as I can remember I've only eaten white food and chocolate, no fruit or vegetables, no sauces, no drinks other than water and hot chocolate... it frustrates me when people think I'm being stubborn, but the thought of eating other food just makes me sick, it's like it's not edible, how a normal person would think of eating mud.. I'm perfectly healthy, not deficient in anything, normal cholesterol, ideal weight range, I exercise a lot and always have energy.. the only thing that bothers me is restaurants and having to order something not on the menu, or worrying about going to someone else's house for food. I have been doing a lot better, I eat a lot more variety than I did when I was younger and I've been open to trying more foods recently.. hope it keeps going well for you too
It's crazy right!! And it's like Arfid ppl are perfectly healthy! Makes you wonder if the people who do eat healthier than us are doing it right 😭
Never read anything more like me in my life! I'm 20 and only really eat beige foods. It's such a pain and people are always blaming my parents saying they must not have fed me properly as a child. It's so frustrating but I hate going to people's houses or restaurants for food so much as I'm always getting judged for whatever I order x
I only drink water and hot chocolate too, I think I don’t have it as bad tho because I have a wider range of food that I eat then others that I see talking about it, I haven’t been diagnosed, but I’m pretty sure. My family always makes fun of me for the food I eat, but they don’t even know the half of it bc I get veggies on my plate but throw them away when they aren’t looking.
I might be the oldest to comment but I am only 33. it has taken me years to develop methods to widen the foods I eat. First thing is so many people don't understand is that at least 3 times a day you must face your fear of eating certain foods. That eating is one of the biggest social constructs that exist and people, for God knows what reason, judge you for what you eat. With that being said, I find that first I must take interest in a certain food. Then over time become comfortable with the idea of trying it. At that time I can either try it alone without anyone around or with a group of people who have no idea that I am trying something like a taco for the first time. which I don't believe I have ever tried a taco , yet. texture, smell, taste, and the way a food looks has always bothered me. if it's burnt or has seer marks I stay clear of it. so another thing I do is try things on my time frame. some people see me as very stubborn person but it allows me to push past the anxiety and try a food with the greatest chance of success. for instance when someone offers to you something to try. my biggest problem when I try something new is sometimes I gag and have to spit out the food so I don't throw up. you may be the same. one of the things I find that if I can add a sauce or at minimum have water near by to help ease said food down the hatch. another thing I always do when I try something is have a backup plan. so if I was going to try a burger, I know at least I have some fries and maybe nuggets so I know I won't go hungry. I hope that some of this helps because it has taken me years and years to figure some of this stuff out. I still struggle with it at almost every meal and I am sure you could say the same as it has been the bane of my existence.
Shark Narc I’m quite young and my mom just came and told me that we’re going to see a doctor in a couple months and that the doctor thinks that I have arfid. I have a list of about 10 foods that I eat regularly (pasta with marinara, pbj but only with a few specific brands of stuff, eggo microwave pancakes with Nutella, some kinds of plain cheese pizza, breaded mozzarella sticks with marinara, but not if they’re burnt or if the cheese is spilling out the sides, stuff like that), but my parents always just told me that I was a picky eater and that I would grow out of it. I also randomly get sick to my stomach, full, or get reflux at the table, and when I try a new food, especially at a friends house, even before I have to try it, gagging (not on purpose, of course) and I feel so bad for gagging, or getting reflux, or not being able to try a food because I know how much the person who made that put their time and effort into it... but I just can’t eat it. I have no worry about gaining weight and I actually really want to gain weight, because I know that I’m underweight and I’m not happy about it, so I knew I wasn’t anorexic, but I never really understood “what was wrong with me”. I’m so sick of people saying, “oh, you’re lucky you’re so skinny,” or, “just try it, it’s not that bad” because no matter how badly I want to be polite and eat the food served or gain weight by eating healthier things, I just can’t bring myself to do it sometimes.
I have this same problem and I just found out this past week that it’s an actual eating disorder. I don’t eat any meat, besides like you fast food meat like hamburgers and chicken nuggets, and no fruits and vegetables besides green beans and pineapple. I get severe anxiety when it comes to trying new foods and I hate foods that have a certain texture or smell. I never knew anyone else had this issue. I stopped trying new food like in middle school bc I would get so sick and would be scared to gag or choke. I’m soo glad I found out about this because I need actual help.
I'm now 38 and from the age of 5 I have had a fear of the texture of foods to the point I now find it hard to even leave the home to engage society. Family dinners and buisness meals have become nonexistent and a source of intense fear. It's to the point that I don't even recognize items outside my norm as actual food ... to me trying new things is as against the grain as placing my hand into a flame... you just don't...its subconscious... last week I was diagnosed with afrid after a lifetime of not understanding myself and holding intense self resentment... I cried when I finally had a name to start to gain understanding and thus power over...these videos are empowering to watch because I know I'm not alone now, thank you for your service to those who are just discovering and I hope all is well
I’m 43 and only just released what this is. I understand the frustration having to explain yourself all the time it drives me mad
I am 28 and just discovered I had this my entire life. I am always scared for my health because I grew up on basically cereal and macaroni. Didnt even try salad and a burger until i was 20. I have been binge watching all these videos on youtube and trying to figure out what to do from here haha
Im 58 and have struggled with this my whole life . Im left socially isolated , the effect on my life is extreme . Arfid has had the biggest impact on my life.
Hey there 33 y/o arfid sufferer here thank u for having the courage to speak out about this. I live near a research Center that is uncovering a lot linked to genetics when it comes to ARFID. It's definitely not our fault and may have more to do with our taste buds.
ajpello2003 What research center? My eating disorder specialist/nutritionist tells me that it’s genetic with ties to OCD and anxiety but I really am frustrated with myself and my ARFID and I feel like it’s because I never ate at a table with my family and was only offered what I wanted most... being grilled cheese and chicken nuggets for 19 years
@@samstewart5509 Hi Sam I can totally understand your frustration but I have to agree with your nutritionist this does seem to be a lifelong genetic condition with ties to anxiety and OCD, which I also suffer from. My neice who I've barely spent any time with has ARFID as well and even has the same safe foods/texture & smell issues I do. At 33 I have tried everything under the sun and had a pretty strict upbringing but no matter what my parents tried my palette never adjusted.
The Research Center here in Philadelphia is the Monell Chemical Senses Center. There's tons of research being done by HCPs & its also now in the DSM-5 as an eating disorder. I only tell you all of this as I hate to see anyone else beat themselves up the same way I did for years. Its not our fault and there is help.
Oh my god, texture is a big issue for me too. Smell and presentation come in close though. I haven't been diagnosed with Arfid so I plan on telling my psychiatrist about my eating issues and hopefully I'll be able to tell if I'm just super picky or if I really have a disorder.
i have been having arfid since i was 3 :// i get so much anxiety over food and the texture, smells, and appearance of food is what triggers my arfid but in a few weeks i am going to get full treatment😁i have been seeing my nutritionist 3x a week for about 2 months now
I can't do crunchy foods, I eat porridge with frozen berries, yogurt, bananas, pasta with cheese, chips from the fish and chip shop, and some cereal if I let it go soft and I can drink milk or hot chocolate
I am now currently considered "severely overweight" and this is due to ARFID.
It's horrible. I am Now excersizing and trying not to eat and I know that's now what I should be doing but that seems like the only way out.
Im just so thankful more people are speaking up about it. Ive been told so many times, even by doctors that im just being picky and the amount of times ive been embarrased to have to explain ARFID because people would think im lying or just looking for attention. But the more people talk about the experience the more can be learnt about it and ways to overcome it
I understand how you feel its hard for me. Right now im 15 and i am almost always hungry. All i eat is certian types chicken for the most part. Im almost always hungery. I snack constantly and i cant stand things like pasta and noodles. Problem is i want to live in japan. When you talked about the therapist, its the same with me. I cant eat out. I cant have a meal with my friends. I also live in a small town where no one else has the same problem i have. I wouls love to talk face to face with someone like you about this. Anyway thanks for the vide.
dude, i also have it its crazy i would only eat bread with sugar, ceres, fried banana, french fries with salt no sauce, noodles and meatballs plain. those are the only foods i eat and it really sucks i wish i could eat normally but sadly until now im still scared of foods. its crazy man i even got depressed and i wish i could just eat and not strave myself you know? anyways i wish we all could just eat normally. man i wish you all the best and i wish yeah you know? i hope we all could survive it and dont give up man i swear
I hope everyone can overcome this
Thank you for uploading this video,, I have almost the exact same diet as you and have been struggling with this for 17 years. It's very hard because no one knows about this disorder,, all of my friends just get upset that I don't eat. My family doesn't understand, and it's very hard to eat out. I just found out about ARFID a few months ago and since then everything has made so much more sense and I've felt less crazy,, but I still wish there were some easy way to fix this all. Again, thank you for sharing and spreading the word!
Arfid is hard for me to get through happy to see other people doing good
What I pretty much eat is: Plain pasta noddles, cheeze-its, ice cream sandwiches, bread rolls, pizza (with no sauce) and McDonald's fries and nuggets. Drinks are milk (a specific kind idk what it's called) water and a few kinds of pop. I'm so scared to try new foods. And I HATE going to holiday dinners. I would go into full detail but I'm REALLY tired. I might make a video about it but I'm not sure. Prayers coming your way. 🙏🏻😘
+Chip Da Bunny we sound a lot alike! I can't even do noodles. Prayers are coming your way too! We gotta keep strong 💜
Jaide Roberts
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Finally someone gets it! I recently got diagnosed with arfid anorexia and it's hell! I don't eat a lot of kinds of food and when I do it's not the portion size a 14 year old should be eating. Texture is also a big issue with me.
Thanks so much! I'm with you girl, I have the same thing and I feel you!
Dear Jaide I just watched your video and I have had ARFID since birth and I can concur with your experiences trying to deal with it. I'm currently 69 and I know I will never change very much. You can have a great life no matter what you can eat. You have one advantage I never had which was finding out their are others. I lived with it alone until I was about 58 years old. The day I found others was one of my life's most memorable days. Now it even has a name and is in the medical texts. I founded the website www.pickyeatingadults.com back in 2003 and now look how far we have come. Bob K
rkrause957 💜💜
I'm glad I don't have it as intense as other people. If only I can eat more than 2 menu items
My son is 3.5 years old and he has SED - selective eating disorder. It's so hard on him. All he eats is snack foods (crunchy), apple sauce, pudding, bread, rice (rarely)
He loves milk and water.
grilled cheese is my fave too :) it’s comforting to see other people going through the same thing!
I always got labeled as a picky eater as a child. I never saw myself as picky, just the things I don't like I really don't like. And it's always been a texture thing for me too. I recently have started making myself eat more fish like salmon and tilapia since they're the least fishy tasting fish lol. I still can't do a lot though cause the texture, only like an ounce or two at a time maybe once a week or every other week.
I have a diet of chicken flavored ramen, cheeseburgers with just ketchup from McDonald’s, chicken nuggets, at home sandwiches, and rice and chicken enchiladas but super Americanized enchiladas. I’m underweight and I get comments 24/7 about how skinny I am and how I have a flat hurt and chest. Especially my mom. And she thinks it’s funny. All my bones stick out and just everyone says something every time they see me and I hate it. But I’m trying to push myself to eat more.
Hi jaide i am also a 23 yr old w arfid i am so similar to u my main food source are cheeses although i do like bland meats and some carbs i hate condiments and sauces i hate any of my safe foods if there r sauces or anything on it i dont eat many veggies or fruits i have been through treatment for this and my safe foods have expanded some but not much i hate eating in front of people and if any non food things overstimulated me i wont eat just like i wont eat if food is overstimulating me i have sensory processing disorder arfid and autism spectrum disorder/ sensory processing disorder/ and other mental illness can both be diagnosed in the same person its different for everyone though just want to say ur a rockstar
That’s crazy! I found another twin! You’re a rockstar too!!❤️😜
@@jaideroberts1628 you r awesome im happy to be ur twin lol
I think my brother in law has this. I was very ignorant when it came to him eating really unhealthy. He gets really uncomfortable when I asked him how come he claims he can't eat vegegetables. He said he's tried and his family tried to get him to eat it, but he just couldn't.
im 15 and I've had this since I was two and I feel like I'm never gonna get better and its so hard to explain to everyone around me that just trying a new food is easy and these words like new food have haunted me pretty muvh all my life when is comes to social event i feel pathetic having to order off the kids menu and my parents are expecting me to get better very quickly and also the little amonts off food i do eat i get so sick of them to the point where i cant eat them anymore and i will be at a dead end to eating and like i dont know where to go because this pretty much will never get better and i know this is all just me rambling on but i just need someone i can talk to
I'm 13 years old and I haven't had fruit in almost 10 years, I have tried it but once I bite into it I immediately spit it out because of the textures, I don't know what to do or whats wrong with me if anything
I have been underweight since I was like 5. I'm not 18, and I'm getting increasingly underweight. Its becoming worse. I don't know if I have ARFID. I just don't really feel interested in food, and I eat very little. I went to the doctor once, and they didn't find anything wrong with me. I don't know what to do about it.
My 9 year old son has arfid and I recently made that discovery even though there have been signs since he was 2-3 years old. I want to ask you how treatment helped you??BTW, grilled cheese and chicken nuggets seems to be a very common "safe food" with people who have arfid.
Hi nawar! Treatment is super difficult and i dread going but it really really helps me 😊
Jaide Roberts thanks for your reply! I would love to know more about how it helped you and if the results are temporary.
I am looking into treatment for my son but it's rare to find in the country we are in so I don't know if it will work out...
@@ladypeace8912 Ive been reading about arfid for my 11 year old, No treatment my countru either, what have you found out? Have you found at home therapies that we, moms, can do?
@@lorejoy6979 My 6yo has it as well. Look up 'Everything is a Grasshopper' by Marsha Dunn Klein, 'food chaining' and 'steps to eating'. We have thankfully been able to get therapy for him, so maybe I can give a few tips. Obviously don't take this as official medical advice. We've been interacting with foods in a more playful way. Making faces on a plate, finger painting with sauces, things like that. I'll also ask him to smell, touch, or stir a food that other family members are eating. Much past that is left to him to initiate outside of actual therapy sessions. We have been able to expand his safe foods a bit in the last 9 months and his tolerance for being around other foods and interacting with them in ways other than eating has gone up quite a bit as well.
i think i have it and i almost passed out in the bathroom bc i didnt like any of the food at my aunts house
(also i hate dairy lmao)
Jaide where are you with this now? 2024 June
Hi I am ARFID sufferer to
Have you gained weight from your diet?
I´ve got arfid too lol
im 16 this year ❤ and i have SED- ARFID
i noticed i had this since my nany passed away when i was 6... but only really took into consideration at 14
ive never really met anyone like me ...
ive always felt odd and not normal..
i hate feeling like this !
ive never really had a supportive friends ...
if you wanna help make you food list longer .. eat more or less the same types of foods as u do now... this really helps me alot ❤❤ i hope this does to for u
So you are telling me to eat? Thats the problem, i cant eat food that i dont like