We called this “the butterfly theory”. In college. If you chase a butterfly it flies away. If you stop, sit down, and wait…the butterfly will land on your shoulder. It was our dating philosophy
Secret to confidence, focus on yourself and fall in love with yourself. Never need anyone’s validation because your validation is all you need. I totally agree with what he said. Stop trying? Who are you trying to impress because nobody cares literally😂 so impress yourself, do it for you, be the best version of you for you and watch how everyone starts to feel that energy emitting from you because attractive people energy is based on focusing on themselves and filling their own cup. They don’t need the outside world to validate them because they already validated themselves and they come off care free and so fun to be around ❤
"I never saw a wild thing feel sorry for itself..a small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself."-D.H Lawrence
Hey , I can totally understand , dealing with the same shit but I believe we all we'll be real us , confident , strong , powerful, fierce ..... It will take a while .... But we will definitely
Surrender yourself to God doesn't mean God will come physically and help you do your work. It means listening to and trusting God. Even if God is not coming physically, but he will definitely help you
Your saying the same thing: focus on what you can control not what you cannot. Competence is something that you can control, faking or acting confident is trying to control something you can’t. Let the work you put in speak for itself.
@@ThisMeantime "imagine if a celebrity u wanted to meet walked in right now, what would u say?" :/. .. competence is like knowing how to get something done no matter how big or small? Confidence is believing in yourself no matter physical or mental? Easier said than done. You can have confidence, that doesn't mean someone else is still in charge. That's why I throw a trillion darts in the air. Bc im bound to hit on something :/. & even if you get something done, doesn't mean ppl won't stop testing you.
Honestly speaking as a professor, if you have studied entire year, exhausting yourself now will not really change results very much. I have seen students make silly mistakes and not manage their time in exams, getting a bad grade as they didn't finish the paper/ said drastically wrong answers in viva due to anxiety. What I think he means by not trying is you need to still take action, but lose the mindset of desparation. It is probably a taoist advice.
This ish something a pick up artist would preach. You build confidence through repetition & experience/progress you gain from it. So no, keep trying even if you fail. That’s how you grow true confidence.
No, that’s how you convince women to want to date you. That’s more of a sales tactic. I say that because the same set of skills you’re talking about developing apply equally well in the business world. He’s talking more about finding healthy organic relationships with people that don’t involve any form of posturing or social cues
something about energy and manifesting but this totally makes sense, there has been multiplmultiple times I WANTED something that I couldn't get but once I gave up that's when it would find me
I wish this was worded better because trusting oneself could be confused with arrogance and just trusting that I'll do better without effort is useless
Anyone notice his glasses are lopsided in the beginning and gradually go down until the end when he uses the word “control” and addresses our obsession with trying to control outward circumstances . Very subtle and clever technique! I extend peace love and light to all of you on your internal journey! ✨🙏 be patient, you got this🙌🍁🙃
Gaahhh I needed to control those glasses so much I couldn’t even focus on the video content 😂 was looking for the comment about them but you pointing out how it may have been an intentional lesson took it to the next level for me haha
Confidence doesn't come automatically,u get it after doing that , when you try you learn what are the ways to be better everyday to be confident,that accomplishmemt of small wins gives the confidence to do big things
Not at all. Many delusional people are confident for no reason. We ussually call them morons or psychopaths. It's just a state of mind. Ignorance is bliss
Got it. The less I study, the higher the chances of getting an A+. Otherwise, my exam paper will sense my neediness. I have intense trust in my current knowledge. I'm a badass.
Being Ready for the result of your action whether its in your interest or not. That 'it's gonna be ok' thing is called Confidence. Ps - just heard in previous short
@@toddbr5959 some utube vid a homeless guys confessed how much money he gets from the government, has no bills no rent , they given his an phone Free food free showers free beds at the shelter if they line up early , free clothes more food from the church’s every holiday They spend the money on drugs alcohol
Right. That's y I look so young. Bc I dont even wanna do sh. :/. Man, I kinda love the elderly folks. They really just want to speak their mind but I guess most of the times have learnt to try & put a filter on it. i didn't say they're wise.
@Todd Br I went to a small town that told me about their favorite homeless man. He was a physicist, and one day decided to be homeless. The town loved him so much that they pitched in to get him a small apartment. He said "no thanks" and continued to be homeless by choice. Makes one wonder... why?
Confidence = from the Latin roots. Con as prefix meaning “with or to carry” Fidere is the Latin origin of suffix “fidence” meaning faith or Trust. So having confidence means “With faith”
I would say that the way to build confidence is yes to “trust yourself” however do so only after you start doing things. If you say oh yea im doing this new thing but you have never done anything similar before you won’t have confidence because it’s factually impossible for you to have it in that situation. You need to prove to yourself that you can do things. Then that certainty that you gain from accomplishing smaller tasks will be your confidence. My point is that if you have no experience and you convince yourself to be confident you are experiencing delusion. You have to do enough that your giving yourself a real statistical chance building your “confidence” in ability because you are just scaling the same skill. This is different then controlling impulses and getting up everyday and doing it regardless of how you feel or “believing in yourself” to do it.
I was driving. My friend was with me in the car watching this video. I was listening to it. I instantly followed what you said. We were on a highway on a hill. A turn came. I said let's not try and just trust. BTW I'm buried now. I typed this from the soul realm.
There’s a big difference between putting in effort and obsessing over outcome. Effort is needed to make things happen, but when you obsess over it, that’s when it repels away from you. You need to trust yourself and the process but that means nothing if you don’t put effort into that process. I think it’s about making a clear intention and letting go of control
I really appreciate your videos. You put out good content that people need to hear but in a positive way. You’re doing good things for the world. Thank you.
The more I worry about my debts the more in debt I am. But I stopped worrying and just started trusting myself to work it out, I found new ways to provide and overcome those obstacles.
...so, confidence makes you attractive. Do things that make you feel more confident, such as, get fit, clean your house/car, pay you bills on time, learn a new skill, be kind to yourself and others, get a new outfit and hairstyle and set and accomplish goals.
I would agree with you. I work with people on this exact thing but from what I've seen, that only works in some cases. Depending on what they are trying to gain confidence in, they conditions for your advice to automatically "connect" may or may not be present. From what I've seen, it's hard for them to actually trust themselves because they have no successful "files" of them trusting themselves and it working out for them. They also just may not be conscious of them, may downplay them, or the things they are confident about are of no real significance to them. Excellent video Brother, making the world better one person at a time. 🏆
Confidence doesn’t come from nowhere. Instead of superficially asking someone to “Just be confident”.. One should explore as much as you could, learn diligently, build experiences, sharpen your skills and knowledges, achieve your goals you set out to, make new friends and get out from your comfort zone. These will help build your confidence on a deeper level, REAL confidence.
Thank you for this, this motivates me a lot.😊 Since I was kinder until now my shyness coming and flows out to me but when I saw this video I realize that trusting myself is the most effective way and letting go everything and trying is not a must.😊😊 Anyway, I now subscribed .😊
I kind of agree but I think a lot of people try to figure out ways to make themselves their own God but trusting in God that things are going to work out just the way he designed them to is a freeing way to be confident, and as long as you're trusting in God's will all things will always work out the way they're supposed to
We called this “the butterfly theory”. In college. If you chase a butterfly it flies away. If you stop, sit down, and wait…the butterfly will land on your shoulder. It was our dating philosophy
why would anyone want their date to sit on their shoulder?
@@alanh7247 youre so stupid
😅😅
@@alanh7247 its just an analogy bruh
"Stop chasing butterflies because they will fly away, instead build a beautiful garden then the butterflies will come to your garden".
Secret to confidence, focus on yourself and fall in love with yourself. Never need anyone’s validation because your validation is all you need. I totally agree with what he said. Stop trying? Who are you trying to impress because nobody cares literally😂 so impress yourself, do it for you, be the best version of you for you and watch how everyone starts to feel that energy emitting from you because attractive people energy is based on focusing on themselves and filling their own cup. They don’t need the outside world to validate them because they already validated themselves and they come off care free and so fun to be around ❤
Absolutely absolutely right....this sums up the way anybody can achieve anything they believe they can....
❤❤❤❤
FACTS OVA FEELINGS. ...
Confidence Doesn't Change Who a Man is it Simply Reveals Who He is
A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking, because its trust is not on the branch but on its own wings.
"I never saw a wild thing feel sorry for itself..a small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself."-D.H
Lawrence
That's one hell of a motivation
Hell yeah man
The older i get the more i like birds
FUCKING AWESOME ADVICE
@@GORILLA_PIMPI concure ❤
I needed this because I’ve been losing confidence in myself. I used to be the opposite and idk what changed as I got older I lost myself 😔
Hey , I can totally understand , dealing with the same shit but I believe we all we'll be real us , confident , strong , powerful, fierce ..... It will take a while .... But we will definitely
That's only because you were ignorant
I hope you can turn it around (or have).
Be confident; not egotistical. Trust yourself; Let go and Let God handle it.
that's a brilliant mindset
@rs7458 blue lock says otherwise
@@cobie-raehart2742 who blue lock? Anime character?
Surrender yourself to God doesn't mean God will come physically and help you do your work. It means listening to and trusting God. Even if God is not coming physically, but he will definitely help you
Ego is tates problem
Confidence follows competence
Your saying the same thing: focus on what you can control not what you cannot. Competence is something that you can control, faking or acting confident is trying to control something you can’t. Let the work you put in speak for itself.
Exactly, confidence is earned.
Wow, very true.
@@ThisMeantime "imagine if a celebrity u wanted to meet walked in right now, what would u say?" :/. .. competence is like knowing how to get something done no matter how big or small? Confidence is believing in yourself no matter physical or mental? Easier said than done. You can have confidence, that doesn't mean someone else is still in charge. That's why I throw a trillion darts in the air. Bc im bound to hit on something :/. & even if you get something done, doesn't mean ppl won't stop testing you.
So basic, you need to doubt to really understand and of course knowlegde.
Tomorrow is my exam. I thought of studying but I guess I trust myself now 😝
Wow😂
Real men don't study for their exams, they believe in themselves. 🤣💪
How did the exam go
Honestly speaking as a professor, if you have studied entire year, exhausting yourself now will not really change results very much. I have seen students make silly mistakes and not manage their time in exams, getting a bad grade as they didn't finish the paper/ said drastically wrong answers in viva due to anxiety. What I think he means by not trying is you need to still take action, but lose the mindset of desparation. It is probably a taoist advice.
😭🤣🤣🤣
Bro summoned the whole fandom....!💜
What fandom, which fandom
@@AlmightyXaio77 BTS ARMY fandom
It’s about trusting our own abilities, judgments, and worth, even when life gets tough or people doubt us
This ish something a pick up artist would preach.
You build confidence through repetition & experience/progress you gain from it.
So no, keep trying even if you fail.
That’s how you grow true confidence.
No, that’s how you convince women to want to date you. That’s more of a sales tactic. I say that because the same set of skills you’re talking about developing apply equally well in the business world.
He’s talking more about finding healthy organic relationships with people that don’t involve any form of posturing or social cues
Hello
That makes sense: Op.
something about energy and manifesting but this totally makes sense, there has been multiplmultiple times I WANTED something that I couldn't get but once I gave up that's when it would find me
Jimin floating on in the waterr🥹🥹🥹
Bruh I was looking for this comment cuz like is it only me who noticed jimin floating lol!😭🤣🤣Damn 🤌
Me too@@nandinichangela
I wish this was worded better because trusting oneself could be confused with arrogance and just trusting that I'll do better without effort is useless
Thank you, my stepmom and (real) dad were confronting me about my confidence earlier TvT
This is the most valuable thing I learnt ❤
This is the greatest video of all time on you tube ❤
Anyone notice his glasses are lopsided in the beginning and gradually go down until the end when he uses the word “control” and addresses our obsession with trying to control outward circumstances . Very subtle and clever technique! I extend peace love and light to all of you on your internal journey! ✨🙏 be patient, you got this🙌🍁🙃
Gaahhh I needed to control those glasses so much I couldn’t even focus on the video content 😂 was looking for the comment about them but you pointing out how it may have been an intentional lesson took it to the next level for me haha
Confidence doesn't come automatically,u get it after doing that , when you try you learn what are the ways to be better everyday to be confident,that accomplishmemt of small wins gives the confidence to do big things
Fantastic! I am having surgery today and I am now confident AF. I have complete trust in my doctor and my body's ability to heal. 😁
🙏🏼Put your trust in God = all will be well 😊
@@LiveLoveLaugh22 Thank you my friend, and I sure do! I am healing well with no complications. 🙏🥰
@@darla4042 Thank God! Glad for u that everything is going well :D
Get well 🥺💗🙏
Trust God
Thanks man.
It’s so simple yet i always forgot
This kinds of videos never actually helped me until now. That was a really good advice
He just said trust yourself to be confident aka be confident to be confident 😂 I like this guy, but this isn’t any advice
Listen to Alan Watts
@@kroepoek3764if it works for people to hear, then it is great advice. To each their own
@@kroepoek3764 did you even watch the video? his advice for dating and money is on point
Stop trying start trusting! Got it thanks
The literal Latin root of confidence is “with faith”.
Love your videos man!
Your right! I need to start trusting in God!
Trust God
Great advice! And also, Confidence is a mindset and preparation 💯
Confidence is imagined. 💓
This just made me smile. I have got this. I need to learn to let go
Confidence only comes from small wins that accumulate over time
I never trust to much confident people.
Not at all. Many delusional people are confident for no reason. We ussually call them morons or psychopaths. It's just a state of mind. Ignorance is bliss
@E.T. Phone Home confidence is knowing you don't fear death even if it will strike u anytime. Arrogance is developing superiority complex.
Got it. The less I study, the higher the chances of getting an A+. Otherwise, my exam paper will sense my neediness. I have intense trust in my current knowledge. I'm a badass.
Overcoming limiting beliefs has always been tough for me. Can’t wait to learn how to do it!
Interesting timing on this one, Clark 👏🏼 much love
Love it. Needed it. Thank you
"Intense trust in myself." Phrase to place on bathroom mirror.
Love this … start trusting stop trying
The more stressed you get the more resistance you create.
Very good insight !!! Thank you
I agree. Although I think some trying is okay it's just when it's too much it can be repeling. People and the universe work the same way. lol
THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!
Being Ready for the result of your action whether its in your interest or not. That 'it's gonna be ok' thing is called Confidence.
Ps - just heard in previous short
Love your content!!!
Now I see why the homeless people are the most sucsesfull , they don't stress over anything , they don't even try , they only trust themselves.
The smart homeless know where the free food at, which area people are willing to give them money
Where people are willing to support them
@@piqueny8872 Okk... Now is it smart being homeless?? Wtf?!
@@toddbr5959 some utube vid a homeless guys confessed how much money he gets from the government, has no bills no rent , they given his an phone
Free food free showers free beds at the shelter if they line up early , free clothes more food from the church’s every holiday
They spend the money on drugs alcohol
Right. That's y I look so young. Bc I dont even wanna do sh. :/. Man, I kinda love the elderly folks. They really just want to speak their mind but I guess most of the times have learnt to try & put a filter on it. i didn't say they're wise.
@Todd Br I went to a small town that told me about their favorite homeless man. He was a physicist, and one day decided to be homeless.
The town loved him so much that they pitched in to get him a small apartment. He said "no thanks" and continued to be homeless by choice.
Makes one wonder... why?
" Stop Trying, Start TRUSTING YOURSELF "
Yep!!! Fake it til you make it!!! I just dont worry about money and bills anymore. Money will come. As long as i am healthy i will be fine
Thanks Clark, your compassion is very much appreciated. this 60 message is well received and welcomed. 😁💛👍
I needed this. Thanks
Just gotta start trusting myself to finally get a job and possibly some money 😢
Confidence = from the Latin roots. Con as prefix meaning “with or to carry” Fidere is the Latin origin of suffix “fidence” meaning faith or Trust. So having confidence means “With faith”
I would say that the way to build confidence is yes to “trust yourself” however do so only after you start doing things. If you say oh yea im doing this new thing but you have never done anything similar before you won’t have confidence because it’s factually impossible for you to have it in that situation. You need to prove to yourself that you can do things. Then that certainty that you gain from accomplishing smaller tasks will be your confidence. My point is that if you have no experience and you convince yourself to be confident you are experiencing delusion. You have to do enough that your giving yourself a real statistical chance building your “confidence” in ability because you are just scaling the same skill. This is different then controlling impulses and getting up everyday and doing it regardless of how you feel or “believing in yourself” to do it.
Could you give an example on trusting yourself??
Special thanks for using Jimin’s picture 😊 one his smile can brighten my day
Really great video
Great advice ✌🏽❤️
Gratitude in the morning and gratitude before bed is all you need. No need to thank me, I'm happy to help.
I was driving. My friend was with me in the car watching this video. I was listening to it. I instantly followed what you said. We were on a highway on a hill. A turn came. I said let's not try and just trust.
BTW I'm buried now. I typed this from the soul realm.
Jimin shi😆
Stop trying, starts trusting. Best advise ever!
If you got bills to pay you definitely shouldn't be not focusing on paying them 🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
There’s a big difference between putting in effort and obsessing over outcome. Effort is needed to make things happen, but when you obsess over it, that’s when it repels away from you. You need to trust yourself and the process but that means nothing if you don’t put effort into that process. I think it’s about making a clear intention and letting go of control
It's in the Qur'an...follow the Sunnah and prophet Muhammad, do your five prayers a day , do Wudu .....that has saved me MASHALLAH Peace Be To Allah
Love the new content keep it up king!!
Jiminshi what are you doing there😂
I’ve stopped trying and worrying and now I have nothing. ☺️ If you want something you have to work for it.
I really appreciate your videos. You put out good content that people need to hear but in a positive way. You’re doing good things for the world. Thank you.
The more I worry about my debts the more in debt I am. But I stopped worrying and just started trusting myself to work it out, I found new ways to provide and overcome those obstacles.
If this is what will provide for family tomorrow, then fine.
I've experienced this lately, it is ABSOLUTELY TRUE. Well said, sir. 👏
...so, confidence makes you attractive. Do things that make you feel more confident, such as, get fit, clean your house/car, pay you bills on time, learn a new skill, be kind to yourself and others, get a new outfit and hairstyle and set and accomplish goals.
confidence = intense trust. stop trying, start trusting.
Thank you so much!
Been watching your stuff recently and you have really opened my eyes to a lot. Just wanted to say thank you.
why is no one talking about the clip of jimin😭😭😭brings back memories🤧if yk yk💖
Best quotes ever
Trust the process
Thank you I really needed to hear this atm
I would agree with you. I work with people on this exact thing but from what I've seen, that only works in some cases. Depending on what they are trying to gain confidence in, they conditions for your advice to automatically "connect" may or may not be present. From what I've seen, it's hard for them to actually trust themselves because they have no successful "files" of them trusting themselves and it working out for them. They also just may not be conscious of them, may downplay them, or the things they are confident about are of no real significance to them. Excellent video Brother, making the world better one person at a time. 🏆
I agree. Some don't have a reason or memory of why they should trust themselves.
@@AngelNote1 a great way of looking at it. Definitely
Intense trust in my Lord.. I do my part and he always goes the rest.. simple! Never stressed or worry. Because w him there is no need to be 🤷🏽♀️
good example of confidence: "Frick it we ball"
thank you for this reminder, it’s much appreciated.💪🏻
Trusting yourself, so hard for me the last four years after making a series of blunders. Working on swimming with the river✌️
Focus on you and the focus becomes you.❤
This man is so right omg I been down this road and now I understand this true
Self trust is built through repeated results, and results only come through trying things.
thank you I searched up “how to boost your confidence” and this really helped ❤
Clarity is needed. Confidence without clarity is ignorance
Dude instilled "Believe in yourself" in a max level and way 🙌🏽🔥😩
Confidence doesn’t come from nowhere. Instead of superficially asking someone to “Just be confident”.. One should explore as much as you could, learn diligently, build experiences, sharpen your skills and knowledges, achieve your goals you set out to, make new friends and get out from your comfort zone. These will help build your confidence on a deeper level, REAL confidence.
Exactly.... What completely changed my life after 30...
(cause I spent my 20s doubting myself, trying to control things and constantly planning)
Word! Brother I now understand something that needed to be put like how you say it.
This is so very true I use this tactic on a daily basis at Work as a surgeon , they're not too happy about it but I trust myself 😌
relaxation is the key
Thanks, we need to be reminded more than we need to be taught
I love you ❤ your kind heart and wisdom is always helping me ❤ I wish you endless joy and prosperity ❤
Alan Watts is the best and his voice is so calming ,, 👍🏽
Best words ever spoken. Thank you for this. It reached my heart in ways you can’t imagine.
Thank you for this, this motivates me a lot.😊
Since I was kinder until now my shyness coming and flows out to me but when I saw this video I realize that trusting myself is the most effective way and letting go everything and trying is not a must.😊😊
Anyway, I now subscribed .😊
You’re in my top 5 favorite UA-camrs. Thx bro
I kind of agree but I think a lot of people try to figure out ways to make themselves their own God but trusting in God that things are going to work out just the way he designed them to is a freeing way to be confident, and as long as you're trusting in God's will all things will always work out the way they're supposed to
🔑 Start trusting in yourself; confidence will follow.
one of the facts 😁