My Ex Isn't Ready For A Relationship!
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- Опубліковано 29 лип 2020
- Clay Andrews answers the question of what to do when your ex isn't ready for a relationship.
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If you find yourself worrying "My ex isn't ready for a relationship yet" and you don't know what to do now, this video will help you to understand where your ex is at on an emotional level and why they are too polarized to really make a good decision one way or the other right now.
As strange as it sounds, your ex may be too "relationship focused" if your ex is not ready for a relationship right now.
You may think that you want them to be relationship focused, but really you should try to refocus their attention to being more connection focused than anything else.
This will allow them the space and focus they need to actually build the connection with you rather than worrying what this is all building up to.
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This was super helpful because I'm going through this state now and I've found this very helpful, thank you, Clay.
Hi Clay. First off all I want to thank you for your advice and help. Your channel is so underrated and your advice fits to my situation so much! My ex girlfriend also told me today that she has feelings for me but it fades sometimes and she is not ready. I would've never gone so far without your help. Wish me luck!
Thanks, Niko. Happy to hear that our videos resonates with you. All the best on your journey.
Thank you for all your advice. I always give a like and am subscribed 😎
Clay, i just want to thank you bro. Because you are such a humble person, just so natural, when you explain everything in the right way and easy one with such a cozy vibe that every single broken heart gets some warm kindness for a moment. I've been watching you from 1 month since I had my break up. I'm happy to know that you are just for real, not just for money. You are blessed anyway. Keep the good work there, I will always tell people about your work.
Glad I could help. I really appreciate that.
My ex always said she wasnt ready for a relationship in general.... then she started seeing a guy she dated years ago before me and is in a relationship w him now.. if she says that fellas 9/10 times she means not ready for one with you... i thought she told the truth when she;d say she wasnt ready in general but that turned out to be false
Face the fact that she wasn't ready is just another word she has rejected you. Move on with your life.
Clay, I totally stand behind your way of thinking. Keep up the good work! There's on more detail that I'm confused with this topic. But what if you apply everything you said (what you referred in your video) the moment she broke up with you. And at the end both wishes each other "to take care". Should you go 'passive no contact' till she reaches out? I gave her space after the b/u (because she felt lost in a way/scared) and recontact her briefly 3 weeks after, to where she responded quickly and vivid. Asked her how she was doing and took things lightly and ended the conversation when I felt when needed. Is 'passive active no contact' a good thing for this case? Or what's your take on it? Because it's hard to do the reaching out without having the feeling you are just making things worse or lessen your chances.
Hi Clay From Singapore & Good AfterNoon! Can An Ex Have A Real Honest Conversation When He Returns To Give Him Another Chance In Building A Great Relationship With A Woman's? What Is His True Intentions Or Is He Feeling's Remourse Or Sad After He Walks Away Or Goes Silent To Create More Love He Never Feels Before He Was Scared Or Terrified?
Well we just had this conversation last week he is also using that we live three hours apart one of the reasons. And he’s very busy at work right now, he sells medical supplies. Personally I think he scared. But I told him OK np
Mine said this and “needs her time” and got in a rebound which she hide from me and still thinks I don’t know
Hi Clay, do you think this would apply to someone you were dating but not yet officially in a relationship with you? I broke it off because he had another commitment (career) that demands most of his time and attention. The break up was a bit ugly, but we are friendly and kind towards each other.
We are still talking a few times a week, and he said that he’d like to see me again but for now he just needs some time alone for himself (because of the demanding job with travels in between)?
I mean, I am not attached with the outcome but obviously hope that it‘d work in the future.
Is a period of no contact a good idea before you focus on the ‘connection’ side of your relationship with your ex ? I obviously dont want to loose my best friend but also is it wise to have a period of no communication ?
What if she has a rebound?
What if it’s been 4 years, one year off, and it was never a relationship? It was friends with benefits. I told him I can’t be with him anymore if he’s still doesn’t want a relationship. But if one day he does to reach out.
I understand that this must be tough. How do you feel about re-evaluating your personal values if the situation that you both have is something that is aligned with you. From there, you can decide what is best for you and what you want in a relationship.
hey clay, was wondering what I should do in my situation. Me and my girlfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago, after about a week of no contact, she called me and asked to hangout. We ended up talking about it and she was all over me kissing and hugging me, but she said she didn’t want to jump back into a relationship right now. And we’ve hung out a couple times since and she’s still being all loving on me and stuff but the past couple days she’s been kinda cold with texts and having an attitude over the phone. Not sure what I should do here
Same here
She’s probably moving slow. But she might like the idea of being with you but having her freedom to do what she want without a connection or ties to someone coming and going as she please.
My ex has her birthday coming up in a few days. Do I say anything?
Trav P no
No