❤ I could listen to you talk and tell stories all day long. You have a beautiful southern drawl. I'm a Texan, so I got a slight drawl myself from time to time depending on who I'm speaking with. ❤
As an older fellow South Carolinian, it’s such a great thing to see the younger generation of gays come into their own. True growth is about being open minded and allowing yourself to experience cultures and lifestyles different than your own upbringing. I appreciate and applaud your candor and presentation of self reflection as a tool to help others. BRAVO 👏
Dylan you really make a big difference in peoples life’s also sharing your story helps straight people to evolve and become more accepting of others . The main thing is to be yourself and be authentic And be honest and true to yourself and others, there are always going to be haters against gays the main point is to not become like them don’t pay attention to the ignorant miserable people, don’t listen to the crows, and the chickens rise up like the eagle in the sky pray for them and ask for forgiveness . there are a lot of good Christians but also a lot of hypocrites and very angry people. God is love I live with my husband of 35 years if you’re ever take a trip to Hawaii your always welcome to stay in our Ohana or Guest house 😇
Thanks for giving some background where you’re from, Dylan, and how life is in the South v bigger cities. I love your accent. It’s melodious, clear, easy to understand and just delightful listening to you! So glad you’ve made good supportive friends in your life.
I’m originally from a small traditional village in the Outer Hebrides, remote islands 40 miles off the coast of Scotland. So Dylan I am ignorant of USA geography & history, and the differences between different places. Because of this unique background where I’m from I have a very melodic accent that lots of ppl love, but I’ve also experienced being treated like a “country bumpkin” & stupid: but like you I’ve a quick mind & have learned to push back, with added disarming charm & humour. I give thanks to YT algorithm serving up one of your videos 2-3 weeks ago, and I’m so grateful for your insights & reflections. I find your sharing stuff to be really meaningful, and you help me at where I’m at, both with your insights & really blessed positive attitude. Our culture was also v fundamental religious, and I speak Scottish Gaelic to my dad, which influences my sing-song accent that everyone seems to love and resonate with. I recognise some of those beautiful colours in your own speech, AND btw learners of English love guys like us, cos we speak slowly and with great clarity 😊. Your wee videos are reaching out & helping folks beyond you might realise, so big thank you and much appreciation from Scotland
I’m a native Spanish speaker in a small Latin country, I do realize that Dylan has a beautiful southern accent, and I really appreciate his vocabulary, not a single swearing word, which is wonderful. I don’t know why, but foul language in my native Spanish or the English that I know, resonates in my mind in a very disgusting way, I’m not a saint of course, but language makes all of us so special, doesn’t it?
Hay Dylan!! I can relate to you and love your helping others that's what we're supposed to do as Christians. Suppose to let our lights shine bright. I see that in you buddy! Love ya.❤❤❤❤
Sending love. Im from upstate sc too but presently live in Charleston. Theres hardly any changing of the leaves here but its always beautiful in the upstate now. I miss it.
As a gay, out, Christian from Mississippi, I’ve lived the last 14 years in the San Francisco Bay Area. I’ve become very used to living an out proud life. Next year I’m planning on moving to Asheville, North Carolina. I miss southern hospitality. I just hope it’s as liberal and accepting as I’ve heard there! Thanks for your insights…
Depends on where in the south I suppose. I grew up in Houston and I was never in the closet tbh. It wasn’t the easiest back then but today it’s very accepting. I don’t have many issues in Texas at least.
Dylan… you are an amazing guy.. you are so honest and speak plainly.. feel bad you suffered so much growing up in the South.. Everything you say about life in the South is true.. so glad that you are such a caring man.. in spite of how poorly you were treated.. especially by your own family.. Ignorance running wild.. so well said.. happy to hear there are some good people where you are that are open minded.. This channel is eye opening.. and you have every right to be happy.. We wish you the best too, Dylan.. you are good man and myself .. I would be proud to have you for a friend.. Please stay as kind and caring as you are.. this awful unfair world needs good people like you.. Btw.. your accent is part of you.. please keep it always.. both it and you are beautiful 🌹 Jen999💙
I identify with this video a lot! I’m from just over the hill on the North Carolina/Georgia border in the southern Appalachian mountains and I’ve had many many similar experiences. Being gay and being from southern Appalachia is definitely a……unique experience to say the least, having an Appalachian accent and sounding like someone who hates gay people because of my accent and being gay myself lol. I really like the video, other southern gays you’re not alone.
You are a special person whose is intelligent beyond belief and wherever life takes you I only hope you find happiness. This video shows how wonderful a person you are. regardless of his preferences..
I totally get where you're coming from. My uncle and I both live in Richmond Kentucky. It's very closed minded just like many other parts of our state. I subscribed to your channel ❤💯
Growing up in SC myself, I can relate to many of the things you say. If I had been born 30 years later, I flatter myself to believe I would have been more like you. I appreciate you making these videos. You are very brave to discuss these things and I wish you the best of life.
Living as a blue collar worker in Maine I can relate to much of this outside of the religious aspect in the work community and a community of common ground working with your hands you are not accepted you go into cities and sometimes even gay men are put off and call me rural. I’m sorry I led my life as my own? Sheesh. People as sensitive as they are are still very critical to what they do not 100% identify with. I am a new subscriber and I’m fascinated with what you say, even tho your pretty it’s not about your looks.
Dylan-You are So Sweet! Always stay True To Yourself! 💜 We are Born what we are and Can Not be Changed. I am NYC Italian/Latino who will be 64 next week. Yes-My Family had difficulties but got over them because of My Loving and Resilient Nature! I lived through the AIDS Crisis. Lost Many Many Friends due to Promiscuity. Luckily I was one of the few that Believed and Still Believe in LOVE!! You are doing a Phenomenal Service to Younger Gay Men and Women that live in those intolerant areas. I Admire you so.👍🏼 if ever you come to NYC, It would be an Honor and a Privilege to Meet You. Stay Strong and As Wonderful As You Are!! 💜💜🇺🇸🇺🇸👍🏼👍🏼 (You can be a Motivational Speaker!! 💜)
Great video and message. I live in NE OH and the same type of homophobia is prevalent here too. Have to seek out other LGBTQ people with whom to interact, but being discreet too. Love going over to Europe: some places are very accepting, but there, too, one has to be careful. God bless you.
I am a South Carolina native myself, but from the Midlands. Where I’m from it’s not quite as bad as where it is in the more country parts of the state but I live my life privately.
I've just subscribed recently and I just love your messages all the time... so true, honest and most of all - interesting. I will be on here for a very long time.
Southwest Arkansas gay man here. Enjoyed your video as I relate to so much you talked about, even though I'm quite a bit older than you (I'm envious of you young guys who are able to come out in their teens, as I was about 27 when I finally came out after having spend almost two decades in the closet (I understood what I wanted at an early age). I also sympathize about the Protestant churches in small southern towns leaning heavily towards the Baptist faith community (I'm Episcopal, a real outsider in small towns). Yes, indeed, the worst part of a small town are the people that never left, never spent time getting to know people unlike themselves, who knuckled under social pressure to get married and start producing children, to hunt and fish and drink for entertainment, and go to church on Sunday morning. I was active in band in high school so I was always going to competitions around the state, band camp at the University, and took a summer course at a university in Colorado. All these meant I was exposed to a wide range of people, some like me, some very different. By my senior year I was anxious to move on to college and get away. And I did, for 40 years, spending half of that in cities in Arkansas, and have in Dallas, TX. I finally came back home to live due to medical problems that I foresaw getting worse (they did). So anyway, I feel like I understand what you had to say. Wishing for you safety in this polarized world, and that you find the happiness you desire.
Dylan, I LOVE your channel!!! I LOVE getting to see a glimpse into your life!! Thank you for so doing!!! I grew up in the South myself, so I know of what you speak in your videos!!! If I understood you correctly, you are still in your home state?? Keep up the good work!!
Yeah, handsome, I hear what you're say'in about the South and alll. However, having been born black, and gay, then, most unfortunately, raised a a Texas Christian, I've found it most enjoyable eating perceived crumbs with condemned bumbs over eating tasty, but stomach-turning steaks with hypocritical snakes. The same sins you find among the unchurched, you find among Christianity, in it's pulpits, never mind its pews. You can have the South, sir. I've concluded it's climate, weather wise and spiritually, not compatible with my peace in God. Remain blessed, sir. :)
Your curly hair style in a mullett style is a great look for you...been letting mine grow out longer in the back...yours would awesome longer...brings your handsome facial features out perfectly framed...your integrity us so impressive...keep on keep'n'-on... you deserve respect & the best!!!
I like yur channel an the way u speak on things that have happened in life. Pls keep up the good work. I look forward to your next video. I'm sorry some people have treated you badly.
Born n raised in North Carolina Im a people person I like the ways of the south the food and people most people speak even when they don't know you. Your a good guy stay that way good karma goes farther.
Have you thought about moving to a larger town (if not a significant city) within your state? Cities and larger towns tend to have plenty of open-minded people.
I was born in Hollywood, pretty much raised in Los Angeles and San Diego. I’ve never had to live any place like that. It must be very difficult. I can only imagine!
I really want to move to Beaufort County… Port Royal area. I’ve always lived in Southern Indiana. Love the Low Country; but worry I might be romanticizing it.
Sorry to hear that you have to live in an area where you don’t feel free to just be yourself! I personally could not live in an arena such as that! I hope your family has grown to appreciate and accept who you are! You mentioned meeting people who are Buddhist like myself, I grew up Catholic, which I gave up at fourteen because of all of the negative aspects of it and many Religions! Let’s face it, Religion was developed for one purpose, to control the masses! Myself not being one of them!
I reckon youd like visiting Australia and New Zealand. Super gay friendly and a wayyy different culture especially if you've never come across us people before. Easy as to get working holiday visas as a young person. All the best mate!
Dylan ,Hi from Minnesota ! Happy for you !! Being from Minnesota I've noticed a lot of what you've had to go through in the south here ! Best Wishes ❤️
Darlin' take it from an out 57 yo gay that came out in 1987...the South has changed in ways, but not as much as I'd have hoped. Also, small town Upstate South Carolina is not same experience as us in larger southern mid-sized cities. Get a passport and see the world!
Hey Dylan, I've been with a Mississippi man for many years (not in MS but in CA). We made many trips to his mamas house in the Delta area. While folks may have known about us, they said nothing and were cordial. Kid of the old way of saying we were "that way". I never experienced any negatives while visiting there. BTW, love your accent and you do not look 29...which is a good thing. Good luck. Also, they only use the parts of the Bible that back up what they want to believe but ignore all of the other admonitions the Bible presents. Religion IS control.
The cussing depends on your environment. Working in construction I don't think I heard 10 words without at least one of them being a cussword. Now you didn't cuss in front of your elders or women.
You're a little dollbug!😊 As for myself, I'm older than dirt, born in Florida (East Coast) raised in the Smoky Mountains of NE Tennessee in the squalor of poverty in mountain woods (age 4-16). I was a very effeminate little boy, I must have popped out of my Mama with a pocketbook & sensible hat, gloves, & high heel shoes. Bless my Mama, she thought I would grow out of it, I was clueless that I acted any different, never really paying much mind that I preferred the company of girls on the playground, because they did cartwheels, danced (I loved dancing), & just had in my humble opinion a better time during recess. The boys were always running around throwing & catching balls & wrestling all covered in dirt, mud, & boogers... 😢OMG! It was horrible to watch! Now mind you I was teased horribly & brutally bullied by some, but mostly adored by others... I mean I am a hoot to hangout with, always have been, unless I'm in one of my pensive moods, 😢then I go sit alone & read until it passes. I still to this day smile & say howdy-do to folks as they pass me on the sidewalk. I get the stink eye from some, while others smile & say hello back. I cook only Southern "sticks to your ribs" cuisine, it's all I onow how to cook. I've got a pot of Chicken & Dumplings on the stove now, you're more than welcome to a bowl & I always have food in the ice box. May not have a pot to piss in, but as all mountain folk I keep a packed cupboard. I've lived in New York City since 1985, due to the dangers of being openly gay in the South, people like myself had awful things done to them & some even lost their lives for simply breathing. I've met more good folks down South than bad, but it only takes one beer bottle thrown from a passing truck to ruin your morning (thanks mom love you too)🥺 & don't get me started on how beer & blood stains are hard to get out of your frilly pirate shirt. (And that was me toning it down) 😮 So when I got out of the military service (that's a whole other post... Best of times worst of times situation) 😂😮😢😂 Instead of going home where it was made abundantly clear that my newly professed sexuality (came out of the closet to my mom when she visted me on the base where I was stationed) & was told that I was an abomination to God & I was not welcome back home until I decided to stop willfully hurting my mother by claiming to be gay. I could wear a pirate shirt & sing Tanya Tucker & Karen Carpenter songs w/ my hand on my hip & the other swishing away to the lyrics until the cows came home, but to be my authentic self-realized Self was not allowed. Until I publicly rejected Satan & his influence & denied being a homosexual & begging for Jesus' forgiveness I wouldn't be allowed back home nor have any communication with them. I had been cut off from my white trash hillbilly family & had my life threatened if I ever came home gay. So, I got an opportunity to move to NYC & son I can certainly back you up when you say it was a definite culture shock. I'd seen city life, but nothing compares to NYC. I was 18, gorgeous, & living on my own & on my terms. Well I'm still here after 40 years & loving life. 😊 I'm glad you got to go back home, that makes my heart sing! Cherish that blessing. 😊Lovely to have met you through your channel & I've liked & subscribed! Can't wait to see more about your journey. 😊❤️
I'm also from the south and also gay i do cuss alot more than i should and church people not all but some will say if your gay your going to hell man i don't know how many times I've heard that but you have too live your life you got to great video 👍✌️👋
Pansexual from GA here. I probably should travel to Atlanta. They have a lot of gay folk there. It's just a weird experience. You feel like an alien here. But it's still a lovely experience. You also have to be very weary of people who are homophobic. I'd rate it 4/5 stars. It's good, but not great.
People just don't get that those of us who come from Appalachia are not southern. We are Appalachian. It is a different culture, and a different accent.
Hi Dylan. I was all set to go on my holiday destination this week, and circumstances have now changed for it to go ahead next week. I found some screenshots from a few weeks ago that I did not know I did with a great amount of commentary of a derogatory nature. I am ashamed as I go for a night out, and there is stuff there I have no recollection of investing in. I do not know you, I have no idea who you really are. The only things I have to say about you are all positive. Please accept my apology one last time.
I admire that you are living your best possible life down South. I can see why many Gay people have to live in the closet-like Lindsey Graham, the senator from South Carolina
Bud come to AUSTRALIA Gay is so respected LOVE IS LOVE IAM GAY and have been all my life and friends and family and god wouldn't have me any other way 🙏
I left so many comments and tou never responded to me. So, this is my last comment. My mother is from Kentucky and daddy is from Georgia. I thought we had a lot in common. I left when I was eighteen to s.o.Calif and never looked back.I hope you give some kinda response.bye! 5:46
Oh Dylan, you have such a wonderful style and are such a thoughtful and understanding person despite the terrible challenges you have overcome in your life. I hope that your stories and wisdom inspire young gay men to live happy and healthy lives. Xx
I was raised in Los Angeles and NYC. Currently I am living in RURAL Kentucky (where my husband was raised) temporarily. (5 more days, been here just under 2 years) What has surprised me here is that the people you might judge as being against you are the ones that are quickest to come to your aide. Whereas the people you might think are the most open and welcoming, turn out to be the ones that disappoint you the quickest. The south isn't what I expected in both very good ways, and some kinda disappointing ways as well.
If you want warm weather, without the humidity and bugs, most beautiful beaches and freedom for gays COME TO CALIFORNIA. I CANT UNDERSTAND YOU BEING THERE. Hilarious to think Missourians are open to gays. You could have true freedom.
I am in the blue ridge of Virginia and you are right about everything. The only state I will go out of my way to cuss out loud is Tennessee, and mainly just to be a little shit.
Well, guys, if you want to move to the deep South, very much including NC, which has one of the most right-wing political ruling parties in the nation, you will suffer but you can only enrich us with your presence. The legislatures are already working on anti-sodomy laws, supported by evangelical protestant, mostly Baptists, churches whose members for the most part need a righteousness they can keep (nothing gay) so their salvation is earned and not by faith. I live in a town of about 10,000, and I don't know of a single gay couple living together. The subject is never mentioned. The youth are a bit more open than their parents probably because of porn. Anyway, for deeply personal historic influences on me in particular, I remained celebate all my life into old age. My community supported my work, I think, because they personally prospered from it. I love them anyway. I even have some mercy on myself because if God finds that gift to be in His nature, who am I to exceed Him? Bless all you men out there: hugs, kisses, and pats on the butt through digital touch, since in no other way can I love you.
For whatever it’s worth, I returned to celibacy after college (after only a small handful of experiences). Here I am at 58 taking care of my remaining parent here in Greensboro, NC. I just learned to concentrate on the things I enjoy in life: trout fishing, history, my family, the stock market, weather, etc.. There’s more to life than sex and pairing. 😎
@@molipaul Almost the same story here in SC. Made my life through cultural studies, productive work, creativity, and a life of listening for God who actually does speak in so many ways. But, the desire for manly contact has only increased with celibacy, transfiguring itself into a longing for union with God Himself where all desires are met, the union and contact of the I and Thou.
OK, Dylan Dealing with your hater family. You simply take control of the subject. They pull that crap, you say yes, thats ok (In a real friendly caring tone) But you quicky "spook" them by saying but when you die, I won't miss you. Etc. They will quickly "table" the subject and accept you Also, your boyfriend, turns into your "bodyguard" and quickly solidifies your lifestyle. Pull some witchcraft on that sweet southern family God bless them. RC cola & moon pies and all. LOL ...Dylan
This is my spiritual belief, I'm gay and going to heaven, but the only way to heaven and eternal life is with the acceptance of Jesus Christ as our Savior. Only through HIS death and HIS resurrection could I be saved from my sins and have the hope of eternal life. There's NO other way.
You know man, if everything like science and religion disappeared completely; science would come back the same. Religion would not. That informs one, one is not true. There's only one way everything physical works and the scientific reality once worked out can never be any different. Note this: The ancient civilisations had many gods, but they weren't moralistic gods, by nature.They discovered and had developed much knowledge into engineering. Hardline monotheism has always destroyed what was once known, but never is in discovery. Often dictatorships. Religion and faith by nature of belief, is utter bullshit.
I'm also from South Carolina. I know what you are talking about. I've been watching your videos for a while now. You are a very interesting person. You keep being your beautiful self, and know there are people out there that are rooting for you. Stay Strong.❤❤
"I love you all ❤" is the best part of this video. We out here all love ya, too.
❤ I could listen to you talk and tell stories all day long. You have a beautiful southern drawl. I'm a Texan, so I got a slight drawl myself from time to time depending on who I'm speaking with. ❤
As an older fellow South Carolinian, it’s such a great thing to see the younger generation of gays come into their own. True growth is about being open minded and allowing yourself to experience cultures and lifestyles different than your own upbringing. I appreciate and applaud your candor and presentation of self reflection as a tool to help others. BRAVO 👏
WELL SAID!!!
Dylan you really make a big difference in peoples life’s also sharing your story helps straight people to evolve and become more accepting of others . The main thing is to be yourself and be authentic And be honest and true to yourself and others, there are always going to be haters against gays the main point is to not become like them don’t pay attention to the ignorant miserable people, don’t listen to the crows, and the chickens rise up like the eagle in the sky pray for them and ask for forgiveness . there are a lot of good Christians but also a lot of hypocrites and very angry people. God is love I live with my husband of 35 years if you’re ever take a trip to Hawaii your always welcome to stay in our Ohana or Guest house 😇
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Thanks for giving some background where you’re from, Dylan, and how life is in the South v bigger cities. I love your accent. It’s melodious, clear, easy to understand and just delightful listening to you! So glad you’ve made good supportive friends in your life.
I’m originally from a small traditional village in the Outer Hebrides, remote islands 40 miles off the coast of Scotland. So Dylan I am ignorant of USA geography & history, and the differences between different places.
Because of this unique background where I’m from I have a very melodic accent that lots of ppl love, but I’ve also experienced being treated like a “country bumpkin” & stupid: but like you I’ve a quick mind & have learned to push back, with added disarming charm & humour.
I give thanks to YT algorithm serving up one of your videos 2-3 weeks ago, and I’m so grateful for your insights & reflections. I find your sharing stuff to be really meaningful, and you help me at where I’m at, both with your insights & really blessed positive attitude.
Our culture was also v fundamental religious, and I speak Scottish Gaelic to my dad, which influences my sing-song accent that everyone seems to love and resonate with. I recognise some of those beautiful colours in your own speech, AND btw learners of English love guys like us, cos we speak slowly and with great clarity 😊. Your wee videos are reaching out & helping folks beyond you might realise, so big thank you and much appreciation from Scotland
I’m a native Spanish speaker in a small Latin country, I do realize that Dylan has a beautiful southern accent, and I really appreciate his vocabulary, not a single swearing word, which is wonderful. I don’t know why, but foul language in my native Spanish or the English that I know, resonates in my mind in a very disgusting way, I’m not a saint of course, but language makes all of us so special, doesn’t it?
This is the most heartwarming thing someone has commented on this channel! Appalachians are the grandchildren of Scotland, as am I🏴🇺🇸
Being Gay, isn't a Life Style, it's Life!!! ✌🏽💜👍🏽
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Hay Dylan!! I can relate to you and love your helping others that's what we're supposed to do as Christians. Suppose to let our lights shine bright. I see that in you buddy! Love ya.❤❤❤❤
Great video Dylan, and thanks for sharing your story and life experiences 😊😊😊
Sending love.
Im from upstate sc too but presently live in Charleston. Theres hardly any changing of the leaves here but its always beautiful in the upstate now. I miss it.
As a gay, out, Christian from Mississippi, I’ve lived the last 14 years in the San Francisco Bay Area. I’ve become very used to living an out proud life. Next year I’m planning on moving to Asheville, North Carolina. I miss southern hospitality. I just hope it’s as liberal and accepting as I’ve heard there! Thanks for your insights…
I've been thinking of moving there but because of the music scene I was told about
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Depends on where in the south I suppose. I grew up in Houston and I was never in the closet tbh. It wasn’t the easiest back then but today it’s very accepting. I don’t have many issues in Texas at least.
I wish you the best.I wouldn't go to North Carolina.Your in for a shock.
Wow, why? Southern hospitality? Like racism, hate of gays, or like acting polite but hating people like us.
Dylan… you are an amazing guy.. you are so honest and speak plainly.. feel bad you suffered so much growing up in the South..
Everything you say about life in the South is true.. so glad that you are such a caring man.. in spite of how poorly you were treated.. especially by your own family..
Ignorance running wild.. so well said.. happy to hear there are some good people where you are that are open minded..
This channel is eye opening.. and you have every right to be happy..
We wish you the best too, Dylan.. you are good man and myself .. I would be proud to have you for a friend..
Please stay as kind and caring as you are.. this awful unfair world needs good people like you..
Btw.. your accent is part of you.. please keep it always.. both it and you are beautiful 🌹
Jen999💙
I identify with this video a lot! I’m from just over the hill on the North Carolina/Georgia border in the southern Appalachian mountains and I’ve had many many similar experiences. Being gay and being from southern Appalachia is definitely a……unique experience to say the least, having an Appalachian accent and sounding like someone who hates gay people because of my accent and being gay myself lol. I really like the video, other southern gays you’re not alone.
I wish I was 29 again…you’d be the ideal boyfriend I never found
You are a special person whose is intelligent beyond belief and wherever life takes you I only hope you find happiness. This video shows how wonderful a person you are. regardless of his preferences..
You are so right!
I totally get where you're coming from. My uncle and I both live in Richmond Kentucky. It's very closed minded just like many other parts of our state. I subscribed to your channel ❤💯
Ur definitely right,it's a daily struggle,but it's not as bad as it used to be,I'm almost 60 and I believe communication is the key to progress.
Growing up in SC myself, I can relate to many of the things you say. If I had been born 30 years later, I flatter myself to believe I would have been more like you. I appreciate you making these videos. You are very brave to discuss these things and I wish you the best of life.
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I say this and know this, God and Jesus love all people and being gay is seen by God and Jesus as something beautiful. All are loved.
I absolutely love your dialect. Do everything you can to keep it. Thanks for a good, honest and touching channel. Take care handsome😉
I absolutely love ... love ... love your accent ... you are too adorables 😊 I'm south african but I did live in North Carolina a few years ago
I am gay, 50, a native South Carolinian from Greenville. I love our state. You seem very nice Dylan!
Living as a blue collar worker in Maine I can relate to much of this outside of the religious aspect in the work community and a community of common ground working with your hands you are not accepted you go into cities and sometimes even gay men are put off and call me rural. I’m sorry I led my life as my own? Sheesh. People as sensitive as they are are still very critical to what they do not 100% identify with. I am a new subscriber and I’m fascinated with what you say, even tho your pretty it’s not about your looks.
Dylan-You are So Sweet! Always stay True To Yourself! 💜 We are Born what we are and Can Not be Changed. I am NYC Italian/Latino who will be 64 next week. Yes-My Family had difficulties but got over them because of My Loving and Resilient Nature! I lived through the AIDS Crisis. Lost Many Many Friends due to Promiscuity. Luckily I was one of the few that Believed and Still Believe in LOVE!! You are doing a Phenomenal Service to Younger Gay Men and Women that live in those intolerant areas. I Admire you so.👍🏼 if ever you come to NYC, It would be an Honor and a Privilege to Meet You. Stay Strong and As Wonderful As You Are!! 💜💜🇺🇸🇺🇸👍🏼👍🏼
(You can be a Motivational Speaker!! 💜)
You are so right, being from the south myself, we hardly ever used foul language in public, but in the home environment, swearing is more verbalized.
Great video and message. I live in NE OH and the same type of homophobia is prevalent here too. Have to seek out other LGBTQ people with whom to interact, but being discreet too. Love going over to Europe: some places are very accepting, but there, too, one has to be careful. God bless you.
I am a South Carolina native myself, but from the Midlands. Where I’m from it’s not quite as bad as where it is in the more country parts of the state but I live my life privately.
I've just subscribed recently and I just love your messages all the time... so true, honest and most of all - interesting. I will be on here for a very long time.
Southwest Arkansas gay man here. Enjoyed your video as I relate to so much you talked about, even though I'm quite a bit older than you (I'm envious of you young guys who are able to come out in their teens, as I was about 27 when I finally came out after having spend almost two decades in the closet (I understood what I wanted at an early age). I also sympathize about the Protestant churches in small southern towns leaning heavily towards the Baptist faith community (I'm Episcopal, a real outsider in small towns). Yes, indeed, the worst part of a small town are the people that never left, never spent time getting to know people unlike themselves, who knuckled under social pressure to get married and start producing children, to hunt and fish and drink for entertainment, and go to church on Sunday morning. I was active in band in high school so I was always going to competitions around the state, band camp at the University, and took a summer course at a university in Colorado. All these meant I was exposed to a wide range of people, some like me, some very different. By my senior year I was anxious to move on to college and get away. And I did, for 40 years, spending half of that in cities in Arkansas, and have in Dallas, TX. I finally came back home to live due to medical problems that I foresaw getting worse (they did). So anyway, I feel like I understand what you had to say. Wishing for you safety in this polarized world, and that you find the happiness you desire.
Hang In there! Do not despair! It’s a big world with a lot of people anxious to meet you. And always be yourself. You are good enough. 😊
Thanx Dylan for this wonderful video! Me and my partner live in Amsterdam and both really love your southern accent! Hope you are doing well
Thank YOU Dylan. I always enjoy anything You talk about here. Keep them coming and much success to You
Dylan, I’m from south Mississippi, I can relate to you in so many ways, awesome, thanks for sharing!
Dylan, I LOVE your channel!!! I LOVE getting to see a glimpse into your life!! Thank you for so doing!!!
I grew up in the South myself, so I know of what you speak in your videos!!! If I understood you correctly, you are still in your home state?? Keep up the good work!!
The South is beautiful. I went to school in North Carolina.
Yeah, handsome, I hear what you're say'in about the South and alll. However, having been born black, and gay, then, most unfortunately, raised a a Texas Christian, I've found it most enjoyable eating perceived crumbs with condemned bumbs over eating tasty, but stomach-turning steaks with hypocritical snakes. The same sins you find among the unchurched, you find among Christianity, in it's pulpits, never mind its pews. You can have the South, sir. I've concluded it's climate, weather wise and spiritually, not compatible with my peace in God. Remain blessed, sir. :)
Your curly hair style in a mullett style is a great look for you...been letting mine grow out longer in the back...yours would awesome longer...brings your handsome facial features out perfectly framed...your integrity us so impressive...keep on keep'n'-on... you deserve respect & the best!!!
I like yur channel an the way u speak on things that have happened in life. Pls keep up the good work. I look forward to your next video. I'm sorry some people have treated you badly.
This video was interesting because you are sharing the perspective and how life is or can be in the South. Thank you Dylan.
Born n raised in North Carolina Im a people person I like the ways of the south the food and people most people speak even when they don't know you. Your a good guy stay that way good karma goes farther.
The churches are trying to save yer soul son. In the north, you are on yer own. My favorite phrase in the south, " well bless yer heart".
Have you thought about moving to a larger town (if not a significant city) within your state? Cities and larger towns tend to have plenty of open-minded people.
You are simply amazing don’t ever change! Just keep your head up and keep going
I was born in Hollywood, pretty much raised in Los Angeles and San Diego. I’ve never had to live any place like that. It must be very difficult. I can only imagine!
I really want to move to Beaufort County… Port Royal area. I’ve always lived in Southern Indiana. Love the Low Country; but worry I might be romanticizing it.
Sorry to hear that you have to live in an area where you don’t feel free to just be yourself! I personally could not live in an arena such as that! I hope your family has grown to appreciate and accept who you are! You mentioned meeting people who are Buddhist like myself, I grew up Catholic, which I gave up at fourteen because of all of the negative aspects of it and many Religions! Let’s face it, Religion was developed for one purpose, to control the masses! Myself not being one of them!
I reckon youd like visiting Australia and New Zealand. Super gay friendly and a wayyy different culture especially if you've never come across us people before. Easy as to get working holiday visas as a young person. All the best mate!
You're such a light. Thank you for sharing. ❤
Dylan ,Hi from Minnesota ! Happy for you !! Being from Minnesota I've noticed a lot of what you've had to go through in the south here ! Best Wishes ❤️
I'd definitely love to spend time getting to know you, Dylan!
OMG, you are HANDSOME...!!! And you have a head full of sense, too.
Darlin' take it from an out 57 yo gay that came out in 1987...the South has changed in ways, but not as much as I'd have hoped. Also, small town Upstate South Carolina is not same experience as us in larger southern mid-sized cities. Get a passport and see the world!
Hey Dylan, I've been with a Mississippi man for many years (not in MS but in CA). We made many trips to his mamas house in the Delta area. While folks may have known about us, they said nothing and were cordial. Kid of the old way of saying we were "that way". I never experienced any negatives while visiting there. BTW, love your accent and you do not look 29...which is a good thing. Good luck. Also, they only use the parts of the Bible that back up what they want to believe but ignore all of the other admonitions the Bible presents. Religion IS control.
Dylan, always just be you and you'll be a good person.
Well done. A GREAT vlog. I think you a beautiful soul. Keep on keeping it real!
The cussing depends on your environment. Working in construction I don't think I heard 10 words without at least one of them being a cussword. Now you didn't cuss in front of your elders or women.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
you are a good storyteller/speaker
You're a little dollbug!😊 As for myself, I'm older than dirt, born in Florida (East Coast) raised in the Smoky Mountains of NE Tennessee in the squalor of poverty in mountain woods (age 4-16). I was a very effeminate little boy, I must have popped out of my Mama with a pocketbook & sensible hat, gloves, & high heel shoes. Bless my Mama, she thought I would grow out of it, I was clueless that I acted any different, never really paying much mind that I preferred the company of girls on the playground, because they did cartwheels, danced (I loved dancing), & just had in my humble opinion a better time during recess. The boys were always running around throwing & catching balls & wrestling all covered in dirt, mud, & boogers... 😢OMG! It was horrible to watch!
Now mind you I was teased horribly & brutally bullied by some, but mostly adored by others... I mean I am a hoot to hangout with, always have been, unless I'm in one of my pensive moods, 😢then I go sit alone & read until it passes. I still to this day smile & say howdy-do to folks as they pass me on the sidewalk. I get the stink eye from some, while others smile & say hello back. I cook only Southern "sticks to your ribs" cuisine, it's all I onow how to cook. I've got a pot of Chicken & Dumplings on the stove now, you're more than welcome to a bowl & I always have food in the ice box. May not have a pot to piss in, but as all mountain folk I keep a packed cupboard.
I've lived in New York City since 1985, due to the dangers of being openly gay in the South, people like myself had awful things done to them & some even lost their lives for simply breathing. I've met more good folks down South than bad, but it only takes one beer bottle thrown from a passing truck to ruin your morning (thanks mom love you too)🥺 & don't get me started on how beer & blood stains are hard to get out of your frilly pirate shirt. (And that was me toning it down) 😮
So when I got out of the military service (that's a whole other post... Best of times worst of times situation) 😂😮😢😂 Instead of going home where it was made abundantly clear that my newly professed sexuality (came out of the closet to my mom when she visted me on the base where I was stationed) & was told that I was an abomination to God & I was not welcome back home until I decided to stop willfully hurting my mother by claiming to be gay. I could wear a pirate shirt & sing Tanya Tucker & Karen Carpenter songs w/ my hand on my hip & the other swishing away to the lyrics until the cows came home, but to be my authentic self-realized Self was not allowed. Until I publicly
rejected Satan & his influence & denied being a homosexual & begging for Jesus' forgiveness I wouldn't be allowed back home nor have any communication with them. I had been cut off from my white trash hillbilly family & had my life threatened if I ever came home gay.
So, I got an opportunity to move to NYC & son I can certainly back you up when you say it was a definite culture shock. I'd seen city life, but nothing compares to NYC. I was 18, gorgeous, & living on my own & on my terms. Well I'm still here after 40 years & loving life. 😊 I'm glad you got to go back home, that makes my heart sing! Cherish that blessing. 😊Lovely to have met you through your channel & I've liked & subscribed! Can't wait to see more about your journey. 😊❤️
Same here in Alabama just have to keep things down low
you're a great guy and you have a great attitude. - Fairfax, VA
I'm also from the south and also gay i do cuss alot more than i should and church people not all but some will say if your gay your going to hell man i don't know how many times I've heard that but you have too live your life you got to great video 👍✌️👋
Dat smile doe! 😁
Lort have mercy! 😍
Such a sweet little guy.adorable. could do very well in film or TV.magic with camera.
You're awesome bud. ❤
I agree 100%!! Dylan you are a breath of fresh air and easy to listen to! Thank you for sharing your stories ❤
Life as a gay man in Texas really sucks.
You have beautiful accents and you are beautiful good looking guy god bless you brother
I would so that the people from all groups are much tighter in the south, for all support systems.
Pansexual from GA here. I probably should travel to Atlanta. They have a lot of gay folk there. It's just a weird experience. You feel like an alien here. But it's still a lovely experience. You also have to be very weary of people who are homophobic. I'd rate it 4/5 stars. It's good, but not great.
I’m Russian guy, wish I had such a nice boyfriend like you😢. Btw I love your accent
you have a beautiful soul. thank you
People just don't get that those of us who come from Appalachia are not southern. We are Appalachian. It is a different culture, and a different accent.
You're just adorable and gorgeous and great in telling your stories, an improved version of Travis Bryant. 🤗
Southerners use lots of salt and bacon grease cooking food. 😅😅😅😅
I think 🤔 that you are very cute and sweet.❤
Hi Dylan. I was all set to go on my holiday destination this week, and circumstances have now changed for it to go ahead next week. I found some screenshots from a few weeks ago that I did not know I did with a great amount of commentary of a derogatory nature. I am ashamed as I go for a night out, and there is stuff there I have no recollection of investing in. I do not know you, I have no idea who you really are. The only things I have to say about you are all positive. Please accept my apology one last time.
I admire that you are living your best possible life down South. I can see why many Gay people have to live in the closet-like Lindsey Graham, the senator from South Carolina
You’re an inspiration. Thank you for your wisdom of the ages.
Thank You for Sharing 😊
I too grew up in the Pentecostal Church
You don't have a lifestyle, you have a life like anyone else!
Bud come to AUSTRALIA
Gay is so respected
LOVE IS LOVE
IAM GAY
and have been all my life and friends and family and god wouldn't have me any other way 🙏
I left so many comments and tou never responded to me. So, this is my last comment. My mother is from Kentucky and daddy is from Georgia. I thought we had a lot in common. I left when I was eighteen to s.o.Calif and never looked back.I hope you give some kinda response.bye! 5:46
Oh Dylan, you have such a wonderful style and are such a thoughtful and understanding person despite the terrible challenges you have overcome in your life. I hope that your stories and wisdom inspire young gay men to live happy and healthy lives. Xx
I was raised in Los Angeles and NYC. Currently I am living in RURAL Kentucky (where my husband was raised) temporarily. (5 more days, been here just under 2 years) What has surprised me here is that the people you might judge as being against you are the ones that are quickest to come to your aide. Whereas the people you might think are the most open and welcoming, turn out to be the ones that disappoint you the quickest. The south isn't what I expected in both very good ways, and some kinda disappointing ways as well.
If you want warm weather, without the humidity and bugs, most beautiful beaches and freedom for gays COME TO CALIFORNIA. I CANT UNDERSTAND YOU BEING THERE. Hilarious to think Missourians are open to gays. You could have true freedom.
Don't worry about hell it doesn't exist!
what an adorable, sexy man.......and that wavy hair.....Grrrrr
I am in the blue ridge of Virginia and you are right about everything. The only state I will go out of my way to cuss out loud is Tennessee, and mainly just to be a little shit.
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Well, guys, if you want to move to the deep South, very much including NC, which has one of the most right-wing political ruling parties in the nation, you will suffer but you can only enrich us with your presence. The legislatures are already working on anti-sodomy laws, supported by evangelical protestant, mostly Baptists, churches whose members for the most part need a righteousness they can keep (nothing gay) so their salvation is earned and not by faith. I live in a town of about 10,000, and I don't know of a single gay couple living together. The subject is never mentioned. The youth are a bit more open than their parents probably because of porn. Anyway, for deeply personal historic influences on me in particular, I remained celebate all my life into old age. My community supported my work, I think, because they personally prospered from it. I love them anyway. I even have some mercy on myself because if God finds that gift to be in His nature, who am I to exceed Him? Bless all you men out there: hugs, kisses, and pats on the butt through digital touch, since in no other way can I love you.
For whatever it’s worth, I returned to celibacy after college (after only a small handful of experiences). Here I am at 58 taking care of my remaining parent here in Greensboro, NC. I just learned to concentrate on the things I enjoy in life: trout fishing, history, my family, the stock market, weather, etc.. There’s more to life than sex and pairing. 😎
@@molipaul Almost the same story here in SC. Made my life through cultural studies, productive work, creativity, and a life of listening for God who actually does speak in so many ways. But, the desire for manly contact has only increased with celibacy, transfiguring itself into a longing for union with God Himself where all desires are met, the union and contact of the I and Thou.
Thank you for sharing.
OK, Dylan
Dealing with your hater family.
You simply take control of the subject.
They pull that crap, you say yes, thats ok
(In a real friendly caring tone)
But you quicky "spook" them by saying but when you die, I won't miss you. Etc.
They will quickly "table" the subject and accept you
Also, your boyfriend, turns into your "bodyguard" and quickly solidifies your lifestyle.
Pull some witchcraft on that sweet southern family
God bless them.
RC cola & moon pies and all.
LOL ...Dylan
Where are u living now? I would love to take u out for dinner snd talk about life
This is my spiritual belief, I'm gay and going to heaven, but the only way to heaven and eternal life is with the acceptance of Jesus Christ as our Savior. Only through HIS death and HIS resurrection could I be saved from my sins and have the hope of eternal life. There's NO other way.
Great accent mate.
You know man, if everything like science and religion disappeared completely; science would come back the same. Religion would not. That informs one, one is not true.
There's only one way everything physical works and the scientific reality once worked out can never be any different.
Note this: The ancient civilisations had many gods, but they weren't moralistic gods, by nature.They discovered and had developed much knowledge into engineering. Hardline monotheism has always destroyed what was once known, but never is in discovery. Often dictatorships. Religion and faith by nature of belief, is utter bullshit.
I'm also from South Carolina. I know what you are talking about. I've been watching your videos for a while now. You are a very interesting person. You keep being your beautiful self, and know there are people out there that are rooting for you. Stay Strong.❤❤
Yep u're from deep. Deep south are there alot oof gays in the south
No thank you.