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I'm an 83 yr old ADHD. I just discovered you last night and look forward to working with and following your ideas. After running my business for 24 years, I came to the realization I was basically unemployable. It's a great understanding.
So many failures that the history is overwhelming. I have always been told that ADHD folks are resilient because they have had to learn how to pick themselves up over and over but, I am finding it hard to do that any more. I don't trust my follow through mostly. An idea can literally go from "This is brilliant!" to "That's dumb" in a matter of hours. I attribute it mostly to a lack of self confidence in my ability to execute.
I get this - but consider a reframe. You have an idea-generating brain, so this is more of a process where you allow your brain to noodle on an idea and within a few hours, you either know it's something you want to do, or not. Trust that process.
Yeah... I feel that a lot! I've the past few years, truly after I realized I has adhd, I feel less confident about my ideas. Great ideas, but history shows I won't follow up on them, so why even start. 😭 I realize what I gotta do, but it's so hard putting down the shiny things that keep me from accomplishing the important goals
I used to be like this but... my husband kept on telling me you have to just keep going and stick to the plan you made and if you give it enough time you will see results. 4.5 years later he was never wrong and now im able to help a friend start his business from all my lessons learned and he is truly grateful I took the falls before he did. Keep going is truly the hardest thing but worth it
Another perspective is to find someone who can help you with the follow through. Shouldn’t be a loss of pride or confidence if you have people to throw ideas through (who also have valuable process/ ideas, and to have someone who can help with and ensure follow through.)
As someone with ADHD, I can totally relate to everything you said! I've learned the hard way that I love making well-thought out plans and schedules, and I get more done when I totally ignore them. When I instantly act on a "great idea", I get more accomplished.
There's gold in this video! "let it be messy" - wow. Downside of a late diagnosis > I'm sad that I've spent so many DECADES trying to put a square career peg in a round hole, but still look forward to a different/better future. Your authenticity shines brilliantly, Karen, happy to be on board > I'll take "authentic you" any day of the week over "consistent you"! :)
I struggle with consistency like most. But all the gurus say this is the guideline of success, blah, blah, blah. And I feel like I'm failing if I can't follow their roadmap. THANK YOU so much for permission to do it my way!
Do you think elon musk is consistent and is doing the same over and over? He is doing completly different stuff on a Daily Basis. Just don’t listen to other people and do things your own way. I say this to light up your guiding light again. This is what hard feels like.
This is exactly my experience right now trying to build an online business on the side whilst working 9-5. I got very frustrated after the first month that I didn't have the energy to get certain tasks done and I started feeling behind on things and overwhelmed. I thought it was because of my 9-5 job draining me. But I've noticed that by doing things my way and prioritizing what works for me and my brain, I actually have the energy to follow through with tasks and be more consistent! 😅
huh. i should think about that. ive been feeling drained lately. not a 9-5 job. i have no job. but ive been doing other stuff to keep busy and have been feeling drained. and run down. and exhausted. im going to try doing things a different way.
Thanks for these reminders. I'm currently drowning in developing my social media plan & was trying to force myself to plan months in advance to "make it easier..." but the overwhelm was just too much. This was a good reminder that I can do things "my way" and still have success.
Me too! I just can't think in months like that. I know that in theory I should but my brain just freezes when I try to think beyond what I have inspiration for.
Yes! Also, this idea of planning in advance is tough for us because we need to feel connected to what we're doing. How can you do that if you're planning what you're going to say 3 months from now? Having a system is critical, also, it's good to have some content ready to go so you can appear consistent, but planning a quarter in advance? nope.
Oh my goodness. I so relate... Not wanting to get fired again, being authentic, doing things your own way...and I also can't do the whole "thumbnail first ". I wanna feel the subject 😅
One of my biggest realizations about consistency is it can often be faked. Which is a good thing for an ADHD brain like mine! Yes the algorithm may prefer my content get published in some kind of consistent pattern, but that doesn’t mean we have to make all the content consistently. I can let myself pump out content when the hyper focus hits and then schedule it to release on a consistent pattern afterwards. The most important part I’m still learning is how to honestly evaluate my own bandwidth over time instead of assume my hyper focus super mode is a reasonable daily standard. If the consistent schedule I set assumes I can produce that way too often it will still become unrealistic.
“Wearing what I want to wear when I come to work and be in the space that I want to be in…and not having to work with people I can’t stand being around.” The real “WHY”… Simon Sinek would be proud 😁🌸🤣👍🏻
I'm ADHD & I actually clicked on the thumbnail bcoz it said you do things "ass backward" & that so resonated with me 😍 I am trying to figure out how to be creative + make some money from it 💵😜
So relatable. I’m 59, work a crappy but sometimes entertaining job, have several businesses I’ve started and put on the shelf. I also have a quirky UA-cam channel that I have yet to niche. I have yet to figure out a system that works for me.
That was the worst thing ever happened to me as well, I followed steps from Indeed for organization, priorities, and time management and you really need to be careful sometimes, I became an A type person and not even succeeded at it because it wasn''t me, more than that type A people get heart diseases and it makes sense, so imagine forcing yourself to something you're not
YES! I completely agree. People don't like fake. They want, or at least I do, want authenticity!! I'm SO HAPPY your channel came across my path. Blessings to you!!
Oh my goodness… you’ve literally said everything I think. Creative and a little all over the place people can definitely compensate with being yourself and really working from your heart. I’m so about people doing it the way it works for the way they are built! This is an amazing video!! Super on the same page with you!
I’ve been doing UA-cam for six months now and am finding exactly this. There is so much I don’t have figured out yet but that doesn’t mean I haven’t studied and listened to others or tried a tonne of things. I feel like I have to trust that it’s helpful and trust myself to try new stuff all the time. That can be conflicting. Oh, and I love your lighting!
I like what you have going on on your channel! (I just checked it out) It's a spectrum of different things but it looks good! Reactions and interviews are nice!
Bizarre? Coincidence? Both? Had this exact same thought earlier today (even prompted me to make a note of it) and your video pops into my feed. I likened it to the bajillion recipes online on how to make pizza dough, fried chicken, you name it. There are many ways, the trick is finding what works best for you. Just like not every job is for you, not every formula/framework/method is for you.
I don't have AHDH, but I can relate to this Soooooo much. I have always had issues in doing things the way people were telling me to. It was SUCH a problem, that is as if you are struggling So much with the process itself, that even if you get the result you end up arriving at the goal feeling angry, frustrated, etc, that it ends up being confusing about weather or not you actually do like the thing/goal itself or not. I agree with your point about authenticity vs consistency. Great video. 👍 I just found your channel.
I needed this video today, which was especially discouraging. I know I'm good at what I do, but I'm definitely a square peg in a round hole. Thank you!
Caren, thank you. I am AuDHD and like most of us with ADHD, I definitely agree that I find consistency hard, if not impossible, and as a result, that makes self-trust even harder. "Done is better than perfect" is beautiful advice, and while I don't agree with everything Tim Ferriss says or writes, he taught me to ask myself the question “What would this look like if it were easy?” which also helps me overcome my executive function deficiency (when I remember to ask myself). I've watched this video over ten times now, and I think I will likely keep watching it until your voice has completely drowned out that annoying internal self-doubt monologue.
You are speaking to my soul here. ❤ the UA-cam thumbnail thing for sure. I quit filming almost a year ago because I burnt out. Now I have a new business and I do not miss being somewhere from 8-5/5 days a week around people I don’t necessarily want to see everyday. It was exhausting.
Always remind myself that the standard includes a group of people, but not everyone. I helped my husband a lot with creating thumbnails. We never do the thumbnail and first. Keep being you!
I love your videos. They make me feel so much more normal. I'll be honest tho, I'm terrified of starting a business. I don't want to get into it and find I hate it, OR that it becomes what I experienced in the corporate world which left me burned out and unemployed for far too long now. How does one start to sort all this out?? I love NOT working because it makes life so much easier but I can't do this forever. I'm running out of money, although it'll take awhile yet, but I'm also NOT thriving....which i know I do when I have a steady stream of income.
@cozycasasmr4510 I find myself there now, scary times and lack follow through on so many amazing ideas... but, I also need a body dbl or something, and no money to pay for that. What a cycle.
This resonated with me. Im a perfectionist and there is no such thing as perfect. Where I have the most difficulty is that I get overwhelmed with how to setup my channel how to monitize how to track traffic paywall setup website setup etc. I AM Great on camera. I've been a performer since I was 5. I'm 58. If I keep focused on my audience it will all work. Subbed.
This was awesome, I couldn't agree more about all this stuff and find myself very much in the same experience. I even noticed that you also tend to look to the upper right to find the flow of thought and words. Very interesting. I don't necessarily have ADHD but I have a tremendous amount of crossover with what you're talking about including the aversion to inauthenticity and doing things to do them rather than to fulfill mission. Thank you for posting this
Thanks so much. I totally resonate with this outlook and approach but for my own reasons. I don't have ADHD I am just an individual freak and I love it. Much love and blessings ❤️🎉
Because of all the content out there, we’ve never lived in a paint by numbers business strategy world like we do now. And I completely agree. If you look at some of the most interesting and fun companies today when they started their business, they did not know how to do it or how it was supposed to be done. They followed their intuition. They did things differently, and that brought them success. Many of those entrepreneurs when they sell the company or someone takes it over or when they learn more about how it is supposed to be done, those companies stagnate and the entrepreneur‘s life becomes very very boring. When I started my business, I really did not know how it was supposed to be done and I figured it out and that journey was very exciting. Now if I want to start something new and I look and I know now what is supposed to be done? I don’t want to start. There’s something exciting about just diving in with just enough information and following your heart as opposed to consuming so much content about how you supposed to do it and then it just feels like a drag and then every step feels like you’re just doing what you’re told. You are almost working for a boss , so part of the entrepreneurial spirit is being different and taking that risk. Thank you for making this video. Lots of other great thoughts that you gave that inspired me.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences here. It is one of many challenges to know oneself, understand one's own energy flows and how to harness that energy and be productive, which is unlikely going to align with many of Internet's attention-grabbing voices. The way you've shared, with your examples definitely resonated with me. That goes well with the phrase: "Hey, I can do that … " 😉😊
Hang on did she just say record your business plan while on a walk? Yoooooooooo!!!! Instant subscriber! That is the most brilliant thing I’ve heard all 2024!
I'm 💯💯💯 the same way with the title/thumbnail, it feels impossible to make that "first" before creating the actual video. Glad to know it's not just me!! 😅😅😅
Of all the personal development videos I’ve watched this week this has been the most resonant. I feel seen 😭🙏🏽 this is a topic I think about constantly as well and have been wanting to speak on, especially now that I’m building my business. It’s such a challenge, but this is a reminder that doing it in MY authentic way is not wrong, I’d rather pave my own path than follow some formula for success that has worked for some people but that doesn’t seem to work for my functioning. Thank you for this important message! 🙏🏽
@@CarenMagill Suuuure!!! I use them to brainstome my ideas, I'm so into business and I strated to write my own ideas, so I use different colors for progress for example or what I need, and the ideas that are not important or I'm done with I archive them😍😍😍
Added Value!! 🎉 this is the core of what matters. Authenticity is the only thing building trust with me. it's very important! I do productivity, creative heroic boosts. And then some small semi pointless thing becomes a mountain of struggle, distraction kicks in and ruins the day.
"Instead of a palace, you've created a prison" Absolutely nailed it, I've been an entrepreneur for over 30 years, and adhd diagnosed for only the last few years! Ive recently come off antidepressants after 4 decades, and that has ramped up my diversity, to a point where I've been forced to address it, and I've found your channel Thank you, you are really helping me through this, best wishes to you and yours Ralfy ❤
Wow thank you for this, really nailed it on the head there, i related to everything there, i got that aw moment and answers to why others cant relate to me lately
This is such an important and needed subject! I have been liberating myself from the way I thought I was supposed to do business and marketing throughout this year. The last part for me now is what you just said: the way to do youtube. 😩 Thank you for this video! 🙏
SAME…and even when I plan, my inner creatives refuse to stick with a routine and content calendars for building trust and building relationships with my audience. I know one thing about me for sure and it’s that I am consistently inconsistent! I can’t be a slave to the algorithm or forcing myself to conform to the norms. Nothing about me is normal anyway so I will just continue to show up wherever Source leads me to and however feels authentic for me to share whatever I’m supposed to. Thank you for sharing this message ❤
i feel like that too. growing up and being in school, i disliked the routine. sometimes i liked it. but why i disliked it, is something i wanted to do something else , mostly i got bored and was struggling. but other times i felt like i was getting in that flow and then we had to change classes. it was so frustrating. so i feel like its hard for me now. it feels like i have no routine. in a bad way. but im probably also trying to be a square fitting into a circle . ive tried so hard to be the way i see how others are. that im not sure how i am. and what is my way.
This was great! Can you explore this more. I think you have really hit on something here. It isn't just a topic for owning your own business. It's Something more. It's like project management for non- neurotypicals. Let's talk about what might be messy , but it can still work. For us
Thank You for this video... It took me a while to get this point of accepting my ADHD personality/brain. In the beginning I would start a new hob excitedly then get bored easily, then I started a side business until I eventually got bored too, it became mundane because of inadequate skills. Obviously, I gave my heart of my business which attracted a new creative job that also helped in levellig up my business. For me, they bounce off each other. My job upgrades my business strategy and my business feeds creative strategy I bring to my job.
It’s so cool that you found a way to blend your passions! Also, entrepreneurship is a skill that develops overtime. The longer you stick with it (even with a full time job), the better you'll become.
thank you for this!! I also have tried to do that "plan ahead" and even thinking about recording lots of content ahead of time makes me feel inauthentic to myself.
I love this video! Your message is so relatable and helped me feel less alone in the struggle. Thank you for sharing your beautiful neurodivergent wisdom. 🙏 I'm currently trying to navigate building my own business while working a 9-5, maintaining home/health/relationships, and overcoming extreme burnout. It's been tricky to find a balance between all these things without triggering an overwhelm and shutdown response, which in turn loops back and compounds into feelings of guilt/shame/blame that I "can't" do what I see others doing to build their businesses. I couldn't find the pin to the roadmap you talked about, can you please share?
I love this video! The message is so relatable to me as I navigate building my own business while working a 9-5, maintaining home/health/relationships, all the while overcoming extreme burnout. It's been tricky to find a balance between all these things without triggering an overwhelm and shutdown response, which in turn loops back and compounds into feelings of guilt/shame/blame that I "can't" do what I see others doing to build their businesses. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and advice, and helping me feel less alone in this. I couldn't find the pin to the roadmap you talked about, can you please share?
glad it resonated! Here's the link to the roadmap: adhdfriendly.myshopify.com/products/aligned-to-start-an-adhd-friendly-roadmap-for-starting-an-online-business
Gosh, I resonate so much about creating the video first then dealing with the thumbnail and title afterwards. 😅 I prefer to create from my authentic self not from a preordained plan from a bloody thumbnail.
You are spot on. There is no substitute for quality. And that’s what you are describing when you say “authenticity.” When we are authentic, we are unique and uniqueness is interesting and naturally differentiated from what anyone else can offer. So few people like themselves enough to show up authentically. It’s totally appealing because so few people dan do it. All of the marketing tricks people employ are designed to simulate this. Since you work for yourself and you are the brand, just being yourself precludes the need to do all the cheap tricks. And I’m a marketer. Just sayin’.
Having to feel like doing it. Oh! Yes! That is sooo necessary and true for me. I have thought long and hard how to game this, and I have found a few techniques that works. Many of them comes down to priming myself with the idea. Kind of tricking my brain to think it wants to do it. I can get primed spontaneously by chance, a new idea pops up in my head, or it is a deliberate walk towards the thin I want to do. And that can be a long walk.
I thought I had severe adhd. I took some insane trauma cptsd large group awareness course and it all went away. Most people have trauma, and never learned how to keep their word to themselves. Along with lacking oxytocin and learning to work with others and know it’s okay to ask for help and to form relationships.
I have started sooooo many businesses and been bogged down by the “you should post every day” and not being habitual with posting and whatnot. I’m good at starting. I’m not good at still going.
I appreciate this as I feel pressure to make videos as opposed to doing podcasts--I have done both (u can see on my channel here) and this just freed me😢 Thank u - I have to do it my way or I just cant do it- I start to feel overwhelmed and the ADHD kicks in😂 again, really appreciate this- so timely ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I wasn’t diagnosed until my 30s, and now I’m in my early 40s. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety and have no problem acknowledging those issues and speaking openly about them, but for some reason I can’t allow my brain to accept that I just can’t do things like everyone else. I’m even struggling with the word “neurodivergent” because I’ve tried so hard all my life to be like everyone else, and just recently everything came crashing down in my life so I’m forced to accept that I am not like everyone else. But it’s very difficult.
I know it's difficult to wrap your head around, but once you do, and you truly accept it, that's when you can build a life that works for you. You're on the path now. KEEP GOING!
i tend to get ahead of myself. or the way things should be done. and do something that should be step 4 or 5 when im still on step 1. not stuff like baking or building. but other stuff where it doesnt need to be in order but it makes things easier. i cant think of a recent or relevant example. but if it were a math assignment of 1-10. id do number 1, then 2, struggle then jump to 6. try 7 do 8. then switch back to 2. and just jump around on the assignment.
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“I can’t be consistent” - thank you!! 🙏🏼 It’s such a waste of time to insist a brilliant creative brain work against itself.
I hear you! You don't need to "force" it.
I'm an 83 yr old ADHD. I just discovered you last night and look forward to working with and following your ideas. After running my business for 24 years, I came to the realization I was basically unemployable. It's a great understanding.
“Done is better than perfect”. 💯
So true. Perfect always tells me to throw "done," in the trash can.
💯 This has become my mantra, and “What would this look like if it were easy?” helps me to get to 'done' 😊
So many failures that the history is overwhelming. I have always been told that ADHD folks are resilient because they have had to learn how to pick themselves up over and over but, I am finding it hard to do that any more. I don't trust my follow through mostly. An idea can literally go from "This is brilliant!" to "That's dumb" in a matter of hours. I attribute it mostly to a lack of self confidence in my ability to execute.
I get this - but consider a reframe. You have an idea-generating brain, so this is more of a process where you allow your brain to noodle on an idea and within a few hours, you either know it's something you want to do, or not.
Trust that process.
That’s adulthood in general. That’s why experienced people hesitate and ignoramuses are so 🐓 sure.
Yeah... I feel that a lot! I've the past few years, truly after I realized I has adhd, I feel less confident about my ideas. Great ideas, but history shows I won't follow up on them, so why even start. 😭
I realize what I gotta do, but it's so hard putting down the shiny things that keep me from accomplishing the important goals
I used to be like this but... my husband kept on telling me you have to just keep going and stick to the plan you made and if you give it enough time you will see results. 4.5 years later he was never wrong and now im able to help a friend start his business from all my lessons learned and he is truly grateful I took the falls before he did. Keep going is truly the hardest thing but worth it
Another perspective is to find someone who can help you with the follow through. Shouldn’t be a loss of pride or confidence if you have people to throw ideas through (who also have valuable process/ ideas, and to have someone who can help with and ensure follow through.)
As someone with ADHD, I can totally relate to everything you said! I've learned the hard way that I love making well-thought out plans and schedules, and I get more done when I totally ignore them. When I instantly act on a "great idea", I get more accomplished.
Isn't that crazy? I'm the same way.
"owning your weird" has been my motto for ages. Thanks for the validation 😍❤️
There's gold in this video! "let it be messy" - wow. Downside of a late diagnosis > I'm sad that I've spent so many DECADES trying to put a square career peg in a round hole, but still look forward to a different/better future. Your authenticity shines brilliantly, Karen, happy to be on board > I'll take "authentic you" any day of the week over "consistent you"! :)
Thanks so much for the kind words!!!
i have felt like that my entire life. the square peg in a round hole. im trying to figure out what i want to do. but also have the courage to do it.
I struggle with consistency like most. But all the gurus say this is the guideline of success, blah, blah, blah. And I feel like I'm failing if I can't follow their roadmap. THANK YOU so much for permission to do it my way!
Do you think elon musk is consistent and is doing the same over and over? He is doing completly different stuff on a Daily Basis.
Just don’t listen to other people and do things your own way.
I say this to light up your guiding light again. This is what hard feels like.
Saaaaame
This is exactly my experience right now trying to build an online business on the side whilst working 9-5. I got very frustrated after the first month that I didn't have the energy to get certain tasks done and I started feeling behind on things and overwhelmed. I thought it was because of my 9-5 job draining me. But I've noticed that by doing things my way and prioritizing what works for me and my brain, I actually have the energy to follow through with tasks and be more consistent! 😅
YES!!!! I'm glad you're leaning into this idea!
huh. i should think about that. ive been feeling drained lately. not a 9-5 job. i have no job. but ive been doing other stuff to keep busy and have been feeling drained. and run down. and exhausted. im going to try doing things a different way.
Seriously, divine timing on this one. Thank you.
Right?!! Me too!!
This makes me feel so much better! I can’t follow certain rules for business. They make me feel robotic and clunky.
agree!
Thanks for these reminders. I'm currently drowning in developing my social media plan & was trying to force myself to plan months in advance to "make it easier..." but the overwhelm was just too much. This was a good reminder that I can do things "my way" and still have success.
Me too! I just can't think in months like that. I know that in theory I should but my brain just freezes when I try to think beyond what I have inspiration for.
Yes! Also, this idea of planning in advance is tough for us because we need to feel connected to what we're doing. How can you do that if you're planning what you're going to say 3 months from now? Having a system is critical, also, it's good to have some content ready to go so you can appear consistent, but planning a quarter in advance? nope.
First thing I taught my daughter was think outside the box, and be yourself. It always work.
I love that you're teaching her to embrace her individuality!
Oh my goodness. I so relate... Not wanting to get fired again, being authentic, doing things your own way...and I also can't do the whole "thumbnail first ". I wanna feel the subject 😅
One of my biggest realizations about consistency is it can often be faked. Which is a good thing for an ADHD brain like mine! Yes the algorithm may prefer my content get published in some kind of consistent pattern, but that doesn’t mean we have to make all the content consistently. I can let myself pump out content when the hyper focus hits and then schedule it to release on a consistent pattern afterwards. The most important part I’m still learning is how to honestly evaluate my own bandwidth over time instead of assume my hyper focus super mode is a reasonable daily standard. If the consistent schedule I set assumes I can produce that way too often it will still become unrealistic.
This is exactly what I do as well. It's not easy to find that perfect balance of energy, but I also don't try to find it.
“Wearing what I want to wear when I come to work and be in the space that I want to be in…and not having to work with people I can’t stand being around.”
The real “WHY”… Simon Sinek would be proud 😁🌸🤣👍🏻
judgmentcallpodcast covers this. ADHD entrepreneur breaks all rules.
I'm ADHD & I actually clicked on the thumbnail bcoz it said you do things "ass backward" & that so resonated with me 😍 I am trying to figure out how to be creative + make some money from it 💵😜
So relatable. I’m 59, work a crappy but sometimes entertaining job, have several businesses I’ve started and put on the shelf. I also have a quirky UA-cam channel that I have yet to niche. I have yet to figure out a system that works for me.
It’s a process!
I subscribed and tagged some of your videos to watch later. 😊 keep at it! 👍
“I am consistently inconsistent” … I have identified with this statement since I was in my 20s… I got diagnosed with ADHD in my 50s!?! Thank you!
That was the worst thing ever happened to me as well, I followed steps from Indeed for organization, priorities, and time management and you really need to be careful sometimes, I became an A type person and not even succeeded at it because it wasn''t me, more than that type A people get heart diseases and it makes sense, so imagine forcing yourself to something you're not
YES! I completely agree. People don't like fake. They want, or at least I do, want authenticity!! I'm SO HAPPY your channel came across my path. Blessings to you!!
Perfection exists in the moment. The moment is fleeting, therefore perfection is fleeting.
Oh my goodness… you’ve literally said everything I think.
Creative and a little all over the place people can definitely compensate with being yourself and really working from your heart.
I’m so about people doing it the way it works for the way they are built!
This is an amazing video!!
Super on the same page with you!
Caren, your channel has been such a blessing. It feels like the most grounded, helpful account I’ve come across in the ADHD sphere. Thank you!
I’ve been doing UA-cam for six months now and am finding exactly this. There is so much I don’t have figured out yet but that doesn’t mean I haven’t studied and listened to others or tried a tonne of things. I feel like I have to trust that it’s helpful and trust myself to try new stuff all the time. That can be conflicting. Oh, and I love your lighting!
I like what you have going on on your channel! (I just checked it out) It's a spectrum of different things but it looks good! Reactions and interviews are nice!
@ thank you
Thanks! Just keep doing what feels right to you, but also look at your analytics. Let your audience show you what they want to see, too.
🎉🎉🎉🎉 They call me a robot when I follow their "rules" and a pile of chaos when I experiment...but the experiment is the part I love.....
I have ADHD , thank you for acknowledging our kind
Bizarre? Coincidence? Both? Had this exact same thought earlier today (even prompted me to make a note of it) and your video pops into my feed. I likened it to the bajillion recipes online on how to make pizza dough, fried chicken, you name it. There are many ways, the trick is finding what works best for you. Just like not every job is for you, not every formula/framework/method is for you.
Subscribed and shared my heart needed this years ago
I don't have AHDH, but I can relate to this Soooooo much. I have always had issues in doing things the way people were telling me to. It was SUCH a problem, that is as if you are struggling So much with the process itself, that even if you get the result you end up arriving at the goal feeling angry, frustrated, etc, that it ends up being confusing about weather or not you actually do like the thing/goal itself or not.
I agree with your point about authenticity vs consistency.
Great video. 👍
I just found your channel.
I needed this video today, which was especially discouraging. I know I'm good at what I do, but I'm definitely a square peg in a round hole. Thank you!
You have such a lovely energy 💕
Thank you! 💖
Caren, thank you. I am AuDHD and like most of us with ADHD, I definitely agree that I find consistency hard, if not impossible, and as a result, that makes self-trust even harder.
"Done is better than perfect" is beautiful advice, and while I don't agree with everything Tim Ferriss says or writes, he taught me to ask myself the question “What would this look like if it were easy?” which also helps me overcome my executive function deficiency (when I remember to ask myself).
I've watched this video over ten times now, and I think I will likely keep watching it until your voice has completely drowned out that annoying internal self-doubt monologue.
I watched this twice. Wow. Thank you for your spirit. I believe you hit the nail on head. You are a beautiful soul and very much appreciated.
Thank you so much!
You are speaking to my soul here. ❤ the UA-cam thumbnail thing for sure. I quit filming almost a year ago because I burnt out. Now I have a new business and I do not miss being somewhere from 8-5/5 days a week around people I don’t necessarily want to see everyday. It was exhausting.
Always remind myself that the standard includes a group of people, but not everyone. I helped my husband a lot with creating thumbnails. We never do the thumbnail and first. Keep being you!
I love your videos. They make me feel so much more normal. I'll be honest tho, I'm terrified of starting a business. I don't want to get into it and find I hate it, OR that it becomes what I experienced in the corporate world which left me burned out and unemployed for far too long now. How does one start to sort all this out?? I love NOT working because it makes life so much easier but I can't do this forever. I'm running out of money, although it'll take awhile yet, but I'm also NOT thriving....which i know I do when I have a steady stream of income.
I understand the fear, but there are ways to test the waters!
I've been in the exact same position, let me know if you find a way 😂
@cozycasasmr4510 I find myself there now, scary times and lack follow through on so many amazing ideas... but, I also need a body dbl or something, and no money to pay for that. What a cycle.
thats how i feel right now too
Getting ready to start new business in the new year, and I really needed to hear this! Thank you! ❤❤❤
You're so welcome!
I feel so seen and heard with this video!
This resonated with me. Im a perfectionist and there is no such thing as perfect. Where I have the most difficulty is that I get overwhelmed with how to setup my channel how to monitize how to track traffic paywall setup website setup etc. I AM Great on camera. I've been a performer since I was 5. I'm 58. If I keep focused on my audience it will all work. Subbed.
Where have you been all my life? I'm very excited that the algorithm finally brought me to you!!! Thank you for this. And I look forward to more!
This was awesome, I couldn't agree more about all this stuff and find myself very much in the same experience. I even noticed that you also tend to look to the upper right to find the flow of thought and words. Very interesting. I don't necessarily have ADHD but I have a tremendous amount of crossover with what you're talking about including the aversion to inauthenticity and doing things to do them rather than to fulfill mission. Thank you for posting this
Authenticity over consistency!❤
Thanks so much. I totally resonate with this outlook and approach but for my own reasons. I don't have ADHD I am just an individual freak and I love it. Much love and blessings ❤️🎉
Because of all the content out there, we’ve never lived in a paint by numbers business strategy world like we do now. And I completely agree. If you look at some of the most interesting and fun companies today when they started their business, they did not know how to do it or how it was supposed to be done. They followed their intuition. They did things differently, and that brought them success. Many of those entrepreneurs when they sell the company or someone takes it over or when they learn more about how it is supposed to be done, those companies stagnate and the entrepreneur‘s life becomes very very boring. When I started my business, I really did not know how it was supposed to be done and I figured it out and that journey was very exciting. Now if I want to start something new and I look and I know now what is supposed to be done? I don’t want to start. There’s something exciting about just diving in with just enough information and following your heart as opposed to consuming so much content about how you supposed to do it and then it just feels like a drag and then every step feels like you’re just doing what you’re told. You are almost working for a boss , so part of the entrepreneurial spirit is being different and taking that risk. Thank you for making this video. Lots of other great thoughts that you gave that inspired me.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences here. It is one of many challenges to know oneself, understand one's own energy flows and how to harness that energy and be productive, which is unlikely going to align with many of Internet's attention-grabbing voices. The way you've shared, with your examples definitely resonated with me.
That goes well with the phrase: "Hey, I can do that … " 😉😊
I love this because your so reallllllllll 🙌🏻🙏🏻✨
Hang on did she just say record your business plan while on a walk? Yoooooooooo!!!! Instant subscriber! That is the most brilliant thing I’ve heard all 2024!
100%!! Who says it has to be written on a powerpoint deck? You do you, boo!
Awesome video! Rocked it out of the park!!!
I'm 💯💯💯 the same way with the title/thumbnail, it feels impossible to make that "first" before creating the actual video. Glad to know it's not just me!! 😅😅😅
It's all about that creative flow, right?
@ Yus! Exactly!! 🤓🎉
Of all the personal development videos I’ve watched this week this has been the most resonant. I feel seen 😭🙏🏽 this is a topic I think about constantly as well and have been wanting to speak on, especially now that I’m building my business. It’s such a challenge, but this is a reminder that doing it in MY authentic way is not wrong, I’d rather pave my own path than follow some formula for success that has worked for some people but that doesn’t seem to work for my functioning. Thank you for this important message! 🙏🏽
I’m so glad you’re embracing your authentic approach!
I use index cards they work for me super well and I go throught them super quick, so obsessed!!!
I’m curious - are you using index cards for planning or for organization?
@@CarenMagill Suuuure!!! I use them to brainstome my ideas, I'm so into business and I strated to write my own ideas, so I use different colors for progress for example or what I need, and the ideas that are not important or I'm done with I archive them😍😍😍
Added Value!! 🎉 this is the core of what matters.
Authenticity is the only thing building trust with me. it's very important!
I do productivity, creative heroic boosts. And then some small semi pointless thing becomes a mountain of struggle, distraction kicks in and ruins the day.
This resonates with me even though I have bipolar not ADHD. Thanks!
I think this idea of doing things your own way is a lesson that all humans have to learn. You are welcome here too.
@@CarenMagillThank you 🙏 So true 😊
Same!
I love this. I needed it
Finally, someone who speaks my language!
All these “do what I did to succeed” people aren’t doing anything for anyone with ADHD.
"Instead of a palace, you've created a prison"
Absolutely nailed it, I've been an entrepreneur for over 30 years, and adhd diagnosed for only the last few years! Ive recently come off antidepressants after 4 decades, and that has ramped up my diversity, to a point where I've been forced to address it, and I've found your channel
Thank you, you are really helping me through this, best wishes to you and yours Ralfy ❤
Glad you're here, Ralfy!
Wow thank you for this, really nailed it on the head there, i related to everything there, i got that aw moment and answers to why others cant relate to me lately
I'm so glad it resonated with you!
I needed this today! 🎉 Thank you!
Everything about this video is spot on ❤
This is such an important and needed subject! I have been liberating myself from the way I thought I was supposed to do business and marketing throughout this year. The last part for me now is what you just said: the way to do youtube. 😩
Thank you for this video! 🙏
5:00 AYOO CHILL OUT PLEASE.. WHY YOU DESCRIBING ME SO ACCURATELY..
SAME…and even when I plan, my inner creatives refuse to stick with a routine and content calendars for building trust and building relationships with my audience. I know one thing about me for sure and it’s that I am consistently inconsistent! I can’t be a slave to the algorithm or forcing myself to conform to the norms. Nothing about me is normal anyway so I will just continue to show up wherever Source leads me to and however feels authentic for me to share whatever I’m supposed to. Thank you for sharing this message ❤
It’s so freeing to finally embrace your unique way of being!
i feel like that too. growing up and being in school, i disliked the routine. sometimes i liked it. but why i disliked it, is something i wanted to do something else , mostly i got bored and was struggling. but other times i felt like i was getting in that flow and then we had to change classes. it was so frustrating. so i feel like its hard for me now. it feels like i have no routine. in a bad way. but im probably also trying to be a square fitting into a circle . ive tried so hard to be the way i see how others are. that im not sure how i am. and what is my way.
Wow I love this. Everything I’ve been thinking about.
This was great! Can you explore this more. I think you have really hit on something here. It isn't just a topic for owning your own business. It's Something more. It's like project management for non- neurotypicals. Let's talk about what might be messy , but it can still work. For us
sure! I can dive into this topic more, but I do have other videos that address it
Thank You for this video... It took me a while to get this point of accepting my ADHD personality/brain. In the beginning I would start a new hob excitedly then get bored easily, then I started a side business until I eventually got bored too, it became mundane because of inadequate skills. Obviously, I gave my heart of my business which attracted a new creative job that also helped in levellig up my business. For me, they bounce off each other. My job upgrades my business strategy and my business feeds creative strategy I bring to my job.
It’s so cool that you found a way to blend your passions! Also, entrepreneurship is a skill that develops overtime. The longer you stick with it (even with a full time job), the better you'll become.
what is your business?
Thank god for your work!!! ❤
The key for me is to hire people to show up consistently so I can operate in my creative space that’s outside of time.
Thank you so much! Great video, I am very much resonate with what you've said. Being aligned to who we are and the way our non-linear brain works.
thank you for this!! I also have tried to do that "plan ahead" and even thinking about recording lots of content ahead of time makes me feel inauthentic to myself.
oh I even commented that befoe you started talking about inauthenticity
It’s funny how many of us feel that way.
I love this video! Your message is so relatable and helped me feel less alone in the struggle. Thank you for sharing your beautiful neurodivergent wisdom. 🙏
I'm currently trying to navigate building my own business while working a 9-5, maintaining home/health/relationships, and overcoming extreme burnout. It's been tricky to find a balance between all these things without triggering an overwhelm and shutdown response, which in turn loops back and compounds into feelings of guilt/shame/blame that I "can't" do what I see others doing to build their businesses.
I couldn't find the pin to the roadmap you talked about, can you please share?
And you’ve just explained me. I get an idea then I build a brand around it. I am like a Squirrell!
I love this video! The message is so relatable to me as I navigate building my own business while working a 9-5, maintaining home/health/relationships, all the while overcoming extreme burnout. It's been tricky to find a balance between all these things without triggering an overwhelm and shutdown response, which in turn loops back and compounds into feelings of guilt/shame/blame that I "can't" do what I see others doing to build their businesses.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and advice, and helping me feel less alone in this.
I couldn't find the pin to the roadmap you talked about, can you please share?
glad it resonated! Here's the link to the roadmap: adhdfriendly.myshopify.com/products/aligned-to-start-an-adhd-friendly-roadmap-for-starting-an-online-business
I don’t have ADHD but this method of doing business makes so much sense 🎉❤.
Realized I had to rewind it back because you lost me for a while at "suckiness and hardness" 😂Anyways thankyou for the insights!
Thank you for this
I'm the same way
I have a written plan and hit different parts - jumping across projects & the project timelines to get to the end.
Gosh, I resonate so much about creating the video first then dealing with the thumbnail and title afterwards. 😅 I prefer to create from my authentic self not from a preordained plan from a bloody thumbnail.
This video was so on time. Thank you.
I'm glad it resonated with you!
Thanks for video! I hear you saying be creative first as you to to get things done. For example. (A.d.h.d)
Thank you sooooooo much !!!
Such a timely message. Thank you for sharing this, my friend!
Thanks, Ozeal! Hope you're doing great.
You are spot on. There is no substitute for quality. And that’s what you are describing when you say “authenticity.” When we are authentic, we are unique and uniqueness is interesting and naturally differentiated from what anyone else can offer. So few people like themselves enough to show up authentically. It’s totally appealing because so few people dan do it. All of the marketing tricks people employ are designed to simulate this. Since you work for yourself and you are the brand, just being yourself precludes the need to do all the cheap tricks. And I’m a marketer. Just sayin’.
Wow, this statement really has me thinking - "So few people like themselves enough to show up authentically."
Having to feel like doing it. Oh! Yes! That is sooo necessary and true for me. I have thought long and hard how to game this, and I have found a few techniques that works. Many of them comes down to priming myself with the idea. Kind of tricking my brain to think it wants to do it. I can get primed spontaneously by chance, a new idea pops up in my head, or it is a deliberate walk towards the thin I want to do. And that can be a long walk.
I thought I had severe adhd. I took some insane trauma cptsd large group awareness course and it all went away.
Most people have trauma, and never learned how to keep their word to themselves. Along with lacking oxytocin and learning to work with others and know it’s okay to ask for help and to form relationships.
As a baby , I walked backwards first. your thumbnail got me.
loved this video
Absolutely brilliant. Thank you!
I have started sooooo many businesses and been bogged down by the “you should post every day” and not being habitual with posting and whatnot. I’m good at starting. I’m not good at still going.
I appreciate this as I feel pressure to make videos as opposed to doing podcasts--I have done both (u can see on my channel here) and this just freed me😢 Thank u - I have to do it my way or I just cant do it- I start to feel overwhelmed and the ADHD kicks in😂 again, really appreciate this- so timely ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
YES!!!!
I’m so grateful for your videos!!!!
Super cool video. I learned so much ❤
I wasn’t diagnosed until my 30s, and now I’m in my early 40s. I’ve dealt with depression and anxiety and have no problem acknowledging those issues and speaking openly about them, but for some reason I can’t allow my brain to accept that I just can’t do things like everyone else. I’m even struggling with the word “neurodivergent” because I’ve tried so hard all my life to be like everyone else, and just recently everything came crashing down in my life so I’m forced to accept that I am not like everyone else. But it’s very difficult.
I know it's difficult to wrap your head around, but once you do, and you truly accept it, that's when you can build a life that works for you. You're on the path now. KEEP GOING!
i tend to get ahead of myself. or the way things should be done. and do something that should be step 4 or 5 when im still on step 1. not stuff like baking or building. but other stuff where it doesnt need to be in order but it makes things easier. i cant think of a recent or relevant example. but if it were a math assignment of 1-10. id do number 1, then 2, struggle then jump to 6. try 7 do 8. then switch back to 2. and just jump around on the assignment.
Thank you, so liberating!!! 🙏🙏🙏
I am exactly the same. Thank you for making me feel seen ❤❤
This is the theme song to my solopreneur experience! ❤❤
Yes! It's the reason I AM a solopreneur.
Thank you, its so true :-) also for High Sensitive People like me :-)
Fabulous video, Thank you