Great video Teal. I've gone through all of that, abandonment, isolated, shamed and have been alone. I suffered trauma because of it. Thanks to people like you, and therapy, I've brought myself out of all that but it's still not over. Thank you.
Super helpful video! Loneliness happens when you don't like the person you are alone with or you don't like being alone with your thoughts. Self improvement, setting goals, "finding" yourself, self care, & focusing on your passions help banish the feelings of loneliness and actually help develop positive feelings around being alone. Years a go I felt super lonely and down, but once I started relishing in some "me" time and used my free time to go all in on my passion, I now cannot go a day without being alone doing what I love (making youtube videos) or indulging in a something that relaxes me. Instead of focusing on the absence focus on the presence of what there IS and how you can improve. Infinite blessings to everyone!
Amazing timing for me, I’ve been thinking about connection a lot lately. I want to cultivate connection in the real world around me and not through the internet anymore.
the connection starts while we are in the warmth of the water that surrounds us in our mothers belly ,,,,but that is not the story that brings me here dear lovely Teal ...
"The pain of the human condition is that we walk this planet with several billion other people and yet each of us experiences isolation and feels alone. That's a serious problem. It's like starving to death in a grocery store" At the same time it sounds like the most promising potential possible for improvement. Imagine what the world would look like if this illusion completely dissolved. I fantasize about it a lot. I think this feeling of isolation has a lot to do with the mere fact that humans a rational beings (to an unhealthy degree) Rational thoughts by definition, separate reality into pieces. In evolutionary terms, our ability to reason is brand new. Maybe our cortex is like a new gadget we have yet to integrate into our experience in a healthy way. Most people are trapped in an never-ending stream of (reality dividing) thoughts, up to the point they've become hypnotized into seeing it as absolute truth. Meanwhile, because attention is always directed outwards - to a thought/emotion or sensation - it completely overlooks the part that is giving attention itself; awareness. The key to being truly connected is, the ability to not only be aware of whatever content you're aware of - but of awareness itself. Nothing unifies more than thoughtless awareness of awareness.
I crave genuine friends and connection in my life yet it terrifies me at the same time. i feel like someone being that close to me would have a lot of power over me and the potential to really hurt me Its hard when you feel like you are being pulled in opposite directions Ive made some progress and I have my first therapy appointment next week... I don't want to feel isolated or skeptical of people anymore!! Good luck to anyone dealing with this. I'm here with you
Ordered the Completion Process still reading it but it has helped me go deeper into my self awareness. Still working on not taking things so personally. I plan on meeting you one day and soaking up that energy....Have a blessed day.
Thank you. Definitely on point. The birds in the background add a beautiful connected energy to this video, while your raw energy and the two colors behind you demonstrate the human essence perfectly. Namaste
You helped me so much to overcome my trauma and work in self love and self worth. Thank you for changing my life to better! I pre ordered your book and I cannot wait to read it! Very excited and looking forward to heal myself again with your help ❤️
That was a powerful one. I mean you always make me feel "seen" in the spookiest of ways, but this is literally part of what I was realizing the night before last. When I have money, I'm buying that book.
I really hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated. I really hope. Please know that you are an amazing human being, the smartest I know. You help people like nobody does. You are pure, incredible, the most wonderful soul. WE ALL LOVE YOU SO MUCH TEAL. SO MUCH.
Thank you so much for developing on this fundamental topic in a thoughtful, clear and sensitive manner. I am so glad you are being what you are in the world.
man, this is my challenge... through isolation, I met my spirituality and was able to dive deep into my being. Now, it's hard for me to climb back up and put these realizations into use. Finding relationship is hard enough that I keep being a wall flower. finding the balance, knowing other people have their own states of consciousness and values and may not match up with my own, respecting that but at the same time fearing rejection and unable to take the plunge, being in that state of limbo. it's frustrating.
You are so accurate ! More people are going through this on the planet. This is especially true for those who face a catastrophic illness. Many people don't have a choice and are forced to go it alone. If emotional healing doesn't take place the effects are devastating. Great video and great work !
It helped me a lot to understand the transcendence, that God can also be lonely! Feeling His original loneliness, being forsaken by us, made me overcome my self-pity and gain charity.
Dude, that disconnection bit of not realize how bad ignoring others could hurt struck home. I lost many friends this way, and it still sucks even after I've tried mending things. It can be so detrimental.
This one really touched me. Teal. I never felt lonely until I reached my 50's and it's seems to be true that it paralleled the feeling of fear. I will ponder this more. I'm lucky that my loneliness is of the sort that you described as the first type, less intense. And I have started spending more time with loved ones and it's helping. I tend to spend most of my time at work (which I enjoy) and alone so I needed that wake up call. I've been bonding more with my family and close friends since I realized I felt lonely and I'm glad I did. I'm appreciating them more now than I have in the past and nurturing those relationships. And I do agree about the reason for all the horrible actions committed by people being a result of their disconnection. It is very similar or the same as how so many people seem to only experience empathy for people in their own group (e.g. ethnicity, family, church, etc.). They can be kind to someone from their group but cruel to those they perceive as different from them. This is also what makes labels dangerous. Labels allow us to dehumanize and disconnect from people, giving tacit permission to abuse, scapegoat, project onto, disenfranchise, etc. them. People whom we label (e.g. "gang-bangers", "thugs", etc.) become less human when in reality they are every bit as human with their own strengths, weaknesses, dreams, fears, loves and need for belonging.
I watched it about 3 times already. we are always aware of ourselves, we know what we feel, when we are in home , when we are sad and etc, when we are in love we bring the other person too. We say she would have liked this if she were here, she would have laughed and etc. we become aware of the other person as the result of the knowledge we gain from the significant other. Shame might be as the result of internalising the critic and that when many people do this. you barely have enough information to consider them as same as you.
Thanking you eternally for your profound inspirational wisdom igniting evolution around the planet! thanku thanku THANKU TEAL SWAN. Your timing of deliverance of this content is exactly at the right moment for my life events. Please continue to mold minds. I crave your next video and pass it to my neighbours after its consumed. Honored to be gifted with your Presents.
i used to see 3333 all over at some period of my life i searched for the meaning and it means the universe is telling you YES, to something. Its the opposite of 44444 which means No.
Lauren Steinhoff Your comment just had 32 likes and 2 comments... once I post this it will be 33 and 3.... so... wow. xD edit 33 and 3 now haha.... so 3.3k 333 33 and 3
Thank you for this message. Its helpful. Your way of delivering a deeper understanding of the material discussed can reach more cleanly and concisely. Thank you again for all the messages you share.
I’m really excited for this book but trying to remind myself a book isn’t going to save me from this feeling..I have to save me and this book will be a helper
My need for connection is SO BIG and yet i am still so blocked because of all the shame and fear of rejection and abandonment.. It's such a long road to fixing this i hope i will someday because i can't live a life without it !!!
Howdy!..Teal..i've been watching your videos and subscribed a month ago...i like you, what you doing is so admirable...the awareness...and when the moment ive knwn your story...i say to myself, such a brave soul in this Time/ Era.. a real lady Warrior! Thk you for doing the right thing.☆☆☆
When she said "save *your* race" an unnervingly cold chill ran through my spine. Brrr :D Joke aside, I'm reading the book currently. It brings me comfort to finally sense an understanding by someone else.
separation shame - mechanism of fragmentation fear - push sumn away,not make it part of you (abandonment, loss of self, trapped in fear, rejection) we cannot fear the unknown. we actually fear what we have experienced before that we could not resolve, aka trauma. fear is what we project into theunknown. when we live in oneness, we dont need anymore the concept of connection. but most of us arent in that state of oneness. therefore, connection is a critical step in re actualizing. connection: physical, emotional, mental, energeti !every crime that has happened is because the person who commits it against another person believes himself to be separate from the other.
Very strange, suddenly, I wish that this lady were my mum！She is so a spiritual and aware of her own feeling!! My mum was so confused all the time!! I didn't have this feeling before!!
pause the video 0:03 , focus your attention at one of her eyes, allow your gaze to just get curious about what happens you will see that she made that background on purpose, light and darkness its all about integration
One of the coolest people I’ve ever met had this issue. I found him very handsome. Unfortunately he was so full of anger that it was hazardous to be around him. I’d say he got in his own way.
Oh, I love it when people have physical uniqueness! It makes them more interesting and beautiful to me. Most people will not even notice or care... and if someone does care they are too shallow to value their opinion 🤗🤗🤗
I have a question: How can a person create a connection with anyone, if no one seems to give this person a chance? The reason why I'm asking is because, all my life, I have been on social outcast. I never did fit in, and because of that, I fear that I will never meet the right one for me. And thus, my goals of getting married have been shattered because of it! I've been living like this for about 32 years now, and I'm 37, and diagnosed with autism. All I ever wanted, was someone, to look into my heart, and accept me for who I am. However, it seems that, I have a curse on me, that prevents me from meeting the right one. People usually blow me off, and don't want to get to know me. I'm starting to believe that this is my destiny. I know I should have more faith, but I've been living through this for so long, it seems like everytime I try to dig my way out of that hole, I'm sinking deeper and deeper into it! Why can't someone just give me a chance?
Teal speaks of two things that connects with me - loneliness and shame. The strange thing about shame is that it can remain submerged at a conscious level and I don't realize that I have that emotion. Associated with shame is also feeling "not good enough ". All of these shadowy emotions lead to feeling isolated and lonely. So how do we truly heal that fragmentation in us?
![How We Became the Loneliest Generation [Documentary]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/I19btmIBhx0/mqdefault.jpg)
I see so much pain in her eyes. I can feel the trauma she’s been through. Oh my god. I wish I could have given her a hug in this moment. A good hug.
Great video Teal. I've gone through all of that, abandonment, isolated, shamed and have been alone. I suffered trauma because of it. Thanks to people like you, and therapy, I've brought myself out of all that but it's still not over. Thank you.
Marc Lopez me too
That paint job is amazing
Thank you Teal for helping me..Ive been suicidal for a very long time and loneliness is the big motivator
Super helpful video! Loneliness happens when you don't like the person you are alone with or you don't like being alone with your thoughts. Self improvement, setting goals, "finding" yourself, self care, & focusing on your passions help banish the feelings of loneliness and actually help develop positive feelings around being alone. Years a go I felt super lonely and down, but once I started relishing in some "me" time and used my free time to go all in on my passion, I now cannot go a day without being alone doing what I love (making youtube videos) or indulging in a something that relaxes me. Instead of focusing on the absence focus on the presence of what there IS and how you can improve. Infinite blessings to everyone!
She is so woke, I love her 😍
Just when I feel the most lonely Teal comes to the rescue. 😢 I couldn't appreciate this video more. Love you Teal
I love you. Story of my life. I’m around people and feel even more alone than actually being alone.
Oh boy... I want this book
Teal Swan.. you need to be on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday talking about this! Why are you not on there already!!!!!????? - you're amazing xxxx
Also Teal is super beautiful so yeah, she may not end up on that particular show as a spiritual teacher.
Amazing timing for me, I’ve been thinking about connection a lot lately. I want to cultivate connection in the real world around me and not through the internet anymore.
I love you Teal, you are honestly the best spiritual teacher!
The book is released on my birthday :) Great present to myself
Forever deeply alone.
the connection starts while we are in the warmth of the water that surrounds us in our mothers belly ,,,,but that is not the story that brings me here dear lovely Teal ...
"The pain of the human condition is that we walk this planet with several billion other people and yet each of us experiences isolation and feels alone. That's a serious problem. It's like starving to death in a grocery store" At the same time it sounds like the most promising potential possible for improvement. Imagine what the world would look like if this illusion completely dissolved. I fantasize about it a lot.
I think this feeling of isolation has a lot to do with the mere fact that humans a rational beings (to an unhealthy degree) Rational thoughts by definition, separate reality into pieces. In evolutionary terms, our ability to reason is brand new. Maybe our cortex is like a new gadget we have yet to integrate into our experience in a healthy way. Most people are trapped in an never-ending stream of (reality dividing) thoughts, up to the point they've become hypnotized into seeing it as absolute truth. Meanwhile, because attention is always directed outwards - to a thought/emotion or sensation - it completely overlooks the part that is giving attention itself; awareness. The key to being truly connected is, the ability to not only be aware of whatever content you're aware of - but of awareness itself. Nothing unifies more than thoughtless awareness of awareness.
I crave genuine friends and connection in my life yet it terrifies me at the same time. i feel like someone being that close to me would have a lot of power over me and the potential to really hurt me
Its hard when you feel like you are being pulled in opposite directions
Ive made some progress and I have my first therapy appointment next week... I don't want to feel isolated or skeptical of people anymore!! Good luck to anyone dealing with this. I'm here with you
Ordered the Completion Process still reading it but it has helped me go deeper into my self awareness. Still working on not taking things so personally. I plan on meeting you one day and soaking up that energy....Have a blessed day.
Green Rozes yeah that's the hardest thing.
Experiencing both types of loneliness...
Teal Swan speaks the truth that most people are afraid to listen to.
Thank you. Definitely on point. The birds in the background add a beautiful connected energy to this video, while your raw energy and the two colors behind you demonstrate the human essence perfectly. Namaste
Already Pre-Ordered the book. Ready to do more work .
Thank you Teal, for your wisdom, love, and connection. Please keep existing.
So grateful I found you Teal. Your message is so true. Sending love and hope your teachings reach all humanity.
Thank you Teal, I see Disconnection as the causal problem on Earth, and Reconnection as the priority!
I bought your book through Amazon
Corona and loneliness epidemic started since 2019 and still will hover for decades
Teal Swan, you are healing me, one UA-cam video at a time. Thank you
Finally! A book for me. No more "hey google why am I alone in the world" ^-^ wonderful
LMAO same same
Thank you teal. I suffer from loneliness inside myself. I hope you are well, your eyes tell a story.
She's not just smart, she found the genius in her! Tell us Teal!
This information transcends time itself
You helped me so much to overcome my trauma and work in self love and self worth. Thank you for changing my life to better! I pre ordered your book and I cannot wait to read it! Very excited and looking forward to heal myself again with your help ❤️
That was a powerful one. I mean you always make me feel "seen" in the spookiest of ways, but this is literally part of what I was realizing the night before last. When I have money, I'm buying that book.
Fantastic video Teal! Thank you so much!!
I really hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated. I really hope. Please know that you are an amazing human being, the smartest I know. You help people like nobody does. You are pure, incredible, the most wonderful soul. WE ALL LOVE YOU SO MUCH TEAL. SO MUCH.
Thank you so much for developing on this fundamental topic in a thoughtful, clear and sensitive manner. I am so glad you are being what you are in the world.
man, this is my challenge... through isolation, I met my spirituality and was able to dive deep into my being. Now, it's hard for me to climb back up and put these realizations into use. Finding relationship is hard enough that I keep being a wall flower. finding the balance, knowing other people have their own states of consciousness and values and may not match up with my own, respecting that but at the same time fearing rejection and unable to take the plunge, being in that state of limbo. it's frustrating.
You are so accurate ! More people are going through this on the planet. This is especially true for those who face a catastrophic illness. Many people don't have a choice and are forced to go it alone. If emotional healing doesn't take place the effects are devastating. Great video and great work !
Please consider doing audiobooks as well! I can't seem to focus on written texts anymore whatsoever.
Yes! I would love audiobook versions too
Yesss audiobook! Your voice makes it easier to absorb this information..
It helped me a lot to understand the transcendence, that God can also be lonely! Feeling His original loneliness, being forsaken by us, made me overcome my self-pity and gain charity.
Thank you
U ROCK Teal Swan !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Right ON!!!!!!!!! Lets All Come Together ONE LOVE
Dude, that disconnection bit of not realize how bad ignoring others could hurt struck home. I lost many friends this way, and it still sucks even after I've tried mending things. It can be so detrimental.
I hope she makes an audio book version as well. 😊👍🏻
This is the most powerful youtube video ive ever seen.
This one really touched me. Teal. I never felt lonely until I reached my 50's and it's seems to be true that it paralleled the feeling of fear. I will ponder this more. I'm lucky that my loneliness is of the sort that you described as the first type, less intense. And I have started spending more time with loved ones and it's helping. I tend to spend most of my time at work (which I enjoy) and alone so I needed that wake up call. I've been bonding more with my family and close friends since I realized I felt lonely and I'm glad I did. I'm appreciating them more now than I have in the past and nurturing those relationships.
And I do agree about the reason for all the horrible actions committed by people being a result of their disconnection. It is very similar or the same as how so many people seem to only experience empathy for people in their own group (e.g. ethnicity, family, church, etc.). They can be kind to someone from their group but cruel to those they perceive as different from them. This is also what makes labels dangerous. Labels allow us to dehumanize and disconnect from people, giving tacit permission to abuse, scapegoat, project onto, disenfranchise, etc. them. People whom we label (e.g. "gang-bangers", "thugs", etc.) become less human when in reality they are every bit as human with their own strengths, weaknesses, dreams, fears, loves and need for belonging.
I wish a lot of succes of your books dear Teal. You are such a light in my life!
I watched it about 3 times already. we are always aware of ourselves, we know what we feel, when we are in home , when we are sad and etc, when we are in love we bring the other person too. We say she would have liked this if she were here, she would have laughed and etc. we become aware of the other person as the result of the knowledge we gain from the significant other. Shame might be as the result of internalising the critic and that when many people do this. you barely have enough information to consider them as same as you.
So powerful
Preordered and I might order a second copy for a friend
Waiting for my copy to arrive italy!!!
Thank you Teal for the insights and the depth of understanding you’re presenting
sending you love and Im grateful for you to bring out this book
Thanking you eternally for your profound inspirational wisdom igniting evolution around the planet! thanku thanku THANKU TEAL SWAN. Your timing of deliverance of this content is exactly at the right moment for my life events. Please continue to mold minds. I crave your next video and pass it to my neighbours after its consumed. Honored to be gifted with your Presents.
The expression on your face in this video reminds me of me. You are an amazing woman.
sooooooo deeep and profound , thanks
When I liked this video it had 3.3k views and 333 likes...
here at 5,055 views 505 likes lolol
i used to see 3333 all over at some period of my life i searched for the meaning and it means the universe is telling you YES, to something. Its the opposite of 44444 which means No.
Lauren Steinhoff Your comment just had 32 likes and 2 comments... once I post this it will be 33 and 3.... so... wow. xD
edit 33 and 3 now haha.... so 3.3k 333 33 and 3
Lauren Steinhoff 👍
i see 333 and 33 all the time
Thank you for this message. Its helpful. Your way of delivering a deeper understanding of the material discussed can reach more cleanly and concisely. Thank you again for all the messages you share.
Thank you so much for this!!
I’m really excited for this book but trying to remind myself a book isn’t going to save me from this feeling..I have to save me and this book will be a helper
Let's all become enlightened!
to end loneliness: see yourself as part of them , see them as part of you
My need for connection is SO BIG and yet i am still so blocked because of all the shame and fear of rejection and abandonment.. It's such a long road to fixing this i hope i will someday because i can't live a life without it !!!
When I got children, I used to tell them that most beautiful are smiling faces.
Oh you said the words in my mind
Exactly what I'm feeling.
Oh man just today my friends couldnt come to our date both of them couldnt and now i feel so lonely and i feel ashamed that i do so :/
Howdy!..Teal..i've been watching your videos and subscribed a month ago...i like you, what you doing is so admirable...the awareness...and when the moment ive knwn your story...i say to myself, such a brave soul in this Time/ Era.. a real lady Warrior! Thk you for doing the right thing.☆☆☆
Wow, I can't believe this is her fourth book! Good job, Gemini! Way to live up to your sign. :)
Soon to be in Audiobook? My neck hurts so much when reading.
I so need this book!
TEAL, THANK YOU SO MUCH ♥️♥️♥️
Looking forward to reading your new book...x 😘✌️
Teal tribe!
You killed it this week, Teal. Thank you! :)
When she said "save *your* race" an unnervingly cold chill ran through my spine. Brrr :D Joke aside, I'm reading the book currently. It brings me comfort to finally sense an understanding by someone else.
Very interesting !!!!
You are my teacher for this moment(😌THANK YOU DEAR HEART🦋
I'm prebuying the book. Good luck to you . You deserve the best.
Disconnection happens when our feelings remain shallow, we project into others what we do to ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your knowledge , much love and light xoxo
Thank you Teal 💚🙏
love you teal..
💙 you Teal
This is being released on my birthday. Whoa
separation
shame - mechanism of fragmentation
fear - push sumn away,not make it part of you
(abandonment, loss of self, trapped in fear, rejection)
we cannot fear the unknown. we actually fear what we have experienced before that we could not resolve, aka trauma. fear is what we project into theunknown.
when we live in oneness, we dont need anymore the concept of connection. but most of us arent in that state of oneness. therefore, connection is a critical step in re actualizing.
connection: physical, emotional, mental, energeti
!every crime that has happened is because the person who commits it against another person believes himself to be separate from the other.
thanks for sharing teal
Awesome video T. 🙏🏽✨
Very strange, suddenly, I wish that this lady were my mum！She is so a spiritual and aware of her own feeling!! My mum was so confused all the time!! I didn't have this feeling before!!
pause the video 0:03 ,
focus your attention at one of her eyes,
allow your gaze to just get curious about what happens
you will see that she made that background on purpose,
light and darkness
its all about integration
Deep.
I have lazy eye with strabismus so i feel shame and isolated from society and people I don't want to go outside and mingle with people.
Raghavan Ragav Whoever is in the Oneness state will not judge you... so its a good filter... you get how a person is right away
Mind your guidance system.
One of the coolest people I’ve ever met had this issue. I found him very handsome. Unfortunately he was so full of anger that it was hazardous to be around him. I’d say he got in his own way.
Oh, I love it when people have physical uniqueness! It makes them more interesting and beautiful to me. Most people will not even notice or care... and if someone does care they are too shallow to value their opinion 🤗🤗🤗
Well... bout time I get that book, huh? Thanks Teal :)
Genius Teal
I think its getting easier to see. At least. It makes sense.
I have a question: How can a person create a connection with anyone, if no one seems to give this person a chance? The reason why I'm asking is because, all my life, I have been on social outcast. I never did fit in, and because of that, I fear that I will never meet the right one for me. And thus, my goals of getting married have been shattered because of it! I've been living like this for about 32 years now, and I'm 37, and diagnosed with autism. All I ever wanted, was someone, to look into my heart, and accept me for who I am. However, it seems that, I have a curse on me, that prevents me from meeting the right one. People usually blow me off, and don't want to get to know me. I'm starting to believe that this is my destiny. I know I should have more faith, but I've been living through this for so long, it seems like everytime I try to dig my way out of that hole, I'm sinking deeper and deeper into it! Why can't someone just give me a chance?
Shadow Of The Lone Wolf Thank you for your kind words. I'm glad you understand how I feel. You're an awesome person! May God bless you.
My UA-cam news feed posts your videos and the topic is always relevant kinda make me wonder do the algorithms know me?
I'm facing that
Thank you 💝
Hopefully we can resolve this loneliness quickly, because I've already reached my wits end
I love the photo at 7:57
Teal speaks of two things that connects with me - loneliness and shame. The strange thing about shame is that it can remain submerged at a conscious level and I don't realize that I have that emotion. Associated with shame is also feeling "not good enough ". All of these shadowy emotions lead to feeling isolated and lonely. So how do we truly heal that fragmentation in us?
Write on piece of paper " I am enough" "You are enough" put it where you want to... repeat it to yourself...things can be changed
Marina Danilchenko Thank you so very much!
On point here 🙌
Fascinating to listen to.