She nailed every aspect of my worry. I'm so grateful she made this video. I watched it 4 times in a row and took notes, and started a journal. Thank you Teal.
Its the polite thing to do! And psychologically, to have the ones you are teaching, feel the teacher relates totally to you. The second reason, is almost the same as the first. It is because it show you can trust the teacher, that they arent 'above' you. Who wants to listen to a nun teach about sex? In the same way, we want someone whose been there, done that, and learned to overcome. And, is a wonderful speaker, teacher.
I am 55 years old; this video has answered the life questions I have been holding on to and struggled to overcome for most of my life! No psychiatrist, psychologist, or medication has answered this, but you just did!!! I will continually listen to this one video to apply these principles and alter my focus. THANK YOU, TEAL!!! YOU JUST CHANGED MY LIFE!
SUMMARY - Actualized - How to Stop Worrying (Ask Teal Episode on Worry) - Teal Swan We think worrying allows us to see potential negative outcomes and thus prepare for them According to the law of attraction you attract what you focus on, you cant repell something you dont want you cant push something out of your experience people worry about sth. and then they attract it and feel justified and validated for having worried We have created this negative experience and then we feel jsutified about having worried about it not realizing that the worry created the happening in the first place we think worrying prepares us for a negative scenario so that is does not have that much impact on us, but we dont see that we create this situation we worry about ---> why we are addicted to suffering we think pain is good we ignore our emotional guidance system when we continue worrying because it does not feel good the logic is: if I worry and even though I feel pain pain I can prevent myself from more pain. so pain is serving me Why not focussing on what we do want? Or at least releasing resistance towards the worst case scenario People feel like tike the universe is agaisnt us thinking that we are against something we cant win against but we try to win though because survivalty is at risk so we use worry to outsmart the adversary which is the universe we think there will be consequences focusing on the positive, we feel ignorant we are convinced that we deserve doom and pain so that we keep focussing on it we feel powerless it's like those of us who we are headed off a cliff we are so convinced that we are headed towards impending doom and that Doom is what we deserve that we keep focusing on the fall we feel powerless to our own realities and we think we can't avoid that pain so we spend our time focusing on and preparing for that pain we focus on the fall instead on the water we can get out now, before we reach the edge of the waterfall we exactly attract what vibration we hold we can not focus on the problem and be matched to the solution because these things hold different vibrations, its a vibrational contradiction the solution cannot come to you if you are focused on the problem this is why worrying never feels good and never leads to what we hope it will lead us to which is Solutions we use worry to inspire ourselves towards solution-focused preparation once we begin to switch our Focus to Solutions we give worry the credit when worry was the resistance to the solution it was the contrast the focus on the solution is responsible for the solution, worry is the opposite what causes pain is when we think that potential future problem is impossible to avoid its impending we can't escape it we just have to prepare for the Blow chronic worriors hold this belief that no matter what the things which they foreseeing the future are inevitable the idea that its going to rain does not feel us pain you can do something to prepare for it like getting a slicker it inspires us to think solution based but when we are thinking okay it's going to rain I can't do anything about the fact that it's going to rain I am going to get with end of story that's when we start to feel a sense of pain relative to future circumstances which are unwanted which are unwanted those of us who worry number one don't believe we create our own reality even if we desperately want to believe that we do you number two those of us who worry believe deep down that we are not good enough to deserve love or reward and so we think instead that we deserve punishment number three those of us who worry believe that whoever or whatever does create our reality is the authority figure and so we ascribe the personality traits we associated with our primary authority figure in our lives over the traits of the universe and we expect the same kind of treatment from that we got from that original authority figure in our lives and most opposed to worry had a authority figure that believed in punishment and so we come to expect the same kind of treatment from the universe as we got from mom or dad or from whoever the primary authority figure was we expect the universe to cause us pain we have a love-hate relationship with the universe we expect the universe to hurt us just like we saw with our primary authority figures as children we do not feel like we can escape the impending punishment and consequences for not being good enough here is the most important realization for warriors: we think that worry keeps us safe or at the very least lessons are pain but as long as I'm worrying I'm not feeling safe and I'm feeling pain so I will most likely spend my life never actually experiencing safety never actually experiencing enjoyment and that does no good for me worrying is like living the worst case scenario because the brain makes no distinction between thoughts and reality. choose to die or decide that living this way is not worth preventing the worst case scenario For warriors: you cant vibrationally match something that you stop focusing therefore it cant show up in your reality stop worrying about what we worry, means not experiencing the thing we worry about dont expect to stop worrying all at once since you ever thought that worrying keeps you save tips to not worry 1. observe your anxious thoughts and feelings, dont try to ignore, find or control them you cannot think positive while worrying, worrying has to be acknowledged worrying comes with the belief that you can outsmart the universe so you mostly almost experience the thing you worry about to worry does not match with the thing you worry about but with more worry, so you attract mroe worry 2. you have to convince yourself that worry does not serve a positive purpose Does worrying serve you any good or negative? Examine dont tell yourself to stop worrying to distract or suppress worrys makes them stronger and more persistent apply the byron katie process - the work: Is it ture? Who are you with that thought? how does your reality look like without that thought? turn the thought around eg: I'm going to make myself destitute another turnaround is I'm not going to be destitute the turnaround is they are going to be destitute and another to Round is I am going to be wealthy find three proofs or scenarios that proof the validity of all these turnaround statements --> app only thoughts cause us pain that are not questioned Ask yourself: what would I say to a friend that had these worries? 4. Keep a worry journal where you write in all your worrys; dont write into it in the morning or before going to bed write into it everything that is worrying you: beliefs, things you are sure will happen, etc as a chronic worrier do this at the same time each day postopone worry until journay worry time has come postponing breaks the habit of worry addiction analyze your worry list and cheek out worrys you can do something about come up with concrete steps how to deal with it and go into action so you switch your focus from problem to solution if the problem is imaginery (what if..) do things that make you feel less worry; its a vibrational game if you worry less you wont match a situation you worried about use action to line up with the reality you want make a list of everything you can do to reduce your worrys once you start doing action worrys reduce if you cant stop worrying about things you cant do anything about turn that dead end into something 5. Worriers feel incapable to provide the need of safety to themselves and cant stand uncertainty, struggle with uncertainty they want 100% certainty worrying makes them feel like they can predict the future which make them feel safer Provide yourself ways to feel more safe in the present moment uncertainty is better than certainty that the worst case will happen which worriors dont realize make a list of things where you were convinced that the worst case will happen and hasnt happened proof your brain that what it thinks is not true 6. stay focused on the present moment notice that nothing is wrong with the present moment 7. realize that you can never get everything done worriors are obsessed to get things right and done but neither is the possiblity because there is no right or wrong and the minute you get something done you will have new things to do, there is no finish line its about the enjoyment in the moment 8. if you worry about what people think of you focus on them instead of yourself observe them like an alien observer woüuld, focus all your attention on understanding them, make mental list express yourself instead of trying to control what other people think of you this costs less energy and stress When you release resitance to what people think of you makes them think better of you pretend to be an alien gathering data from humans noticing what they do and say without paying attention to your fear of what they might think of you you will feel less self-conscious and they'll feel the non-judgmental attention they've always wanted from you 9. play the zoom out game zoom out whenever you worry and take a snap shot of the world what worry would be bigger than yours at the moment? look into your past and see what worrys might have occured in certain situations and see how lucky you are that you dont have them 10. ---> how to stop a panic attack video 11. As a worrior you need to learn that you create your own reality according to what you focus on keep a synchronizity journal visualize something neutral, you have no resistance to like chicken for 10 minutes and notice how they show up in your reality if you know that its in your hands to create a worst case s you wont worry that much worry is a habit and every habit can be broken Thanks Teal
If you have anxiety it's not healthy to fight it embrace it, it's an opportunity to grow, it's your body & spirit telling you it's time for growth. Take the steps to make a healthy life. Your anxiety is telling you what your lacking, studies show most of your anxiety comes from your stomach, so change your diet, seriously get rid of sugar & caffeine, . Eat blue berries, bananas, oranges, drink ginger, Chamomile tea.
As someone having been diagnosed with Generalized anxiety disorder in my past, it is easy to think that food is the answer as I was a devout vegan before well maybe not totally devout lol but pretty much vegan most of the time. And uggh I just didn't feel like it did much for me in the way of actually healing cus it's very good for your body but it doesnt heal the root trauma that is plaguing your existence
@@jahmallajaima Check out Language lessons of heart Its,on Facebook it's free. Also a man named Chris Douglas He has several videos on his fb page that will save you alot of time
Worrying is blocking solution! In a conflicting state of mind you are attracting conflicting solutions. This will confirm to you that you were justified in worrying. Look at what you are concern about and decide that you are looking at wrong reasons. Decide that you want to let go your conflicting reasons and instead decide for Peace (no specifics). Practice a peaceful frame of mind for little while. Now you have "changed your mind", and your new thoughts will lead you in a non-conflicting direction without worrying. You need to practice this.
it's crazy how as soon as i decided I'm the reason I'm feeling down, and I have the power to change how I feel, I came across this video! I love what you have to say, I wish my whole family would sit and watch this video!
Teal, my husband was very seriously injured with a brain injury five months ago. Since the beginning I have known everything would be okay even though countless doctors told me he would not make it. At the time of the accident I was atheist and could not explain this "just knowing". You have helped me in so many ways throughout this process.
"...we think that worrying about something will make things more certain." Wow, what an eye-opener, thank you so much Teal, your reflections on human behaviour is really mindblowing and healing! A human design reflector as it is written in the book!
I was set up for "impending doom" thinking from childhood. My mother was an alcoholic and most of the time i was beaten or ridiculed upon getting home from school or from a friends house. Then i somehow learned that if i worried all the way home she was always less likely to physically or verbally abuse me. Worry seemed to work for me, and so i made a habit of it. Today, i am a chronic worrier (about some things, not all) and yes, it is a painful state of being which creates chronic mental unrest and anxiety. Thank you for this video 🙏
Thanks for sharing. I have struggled with worrying for years. My mother spends her time worrying, and I picked that up as I grew older. I've done well with shedding a lot of that behavior, but I still get into situations where I worry about what I don't want to happen.
I often struggle with with worrying. This video helped remind me of the law of attraction and it also reminded me to ground myself and change the things that I can change
Teal swan is the most beautiful and most authentic soul I have ever experienced. Thank you Teal for being an amazing person and all the beautiful things you do for humanity.
The worst thing is to worry about someone else. It takes their power away and may give a lack of confidence in being able to change and improve their situation.
Thank you Teal! That is so accurate. I realized a few months ago that when you imagine pain, your brain thinks it really is in pain, and essentially you're really in pain. So, fear of the future is really just pain that you give yourself in the present for no reason.
I LOVE the message(s) in this video. Whenever I worry about something, I immediately think about people in this world who WISH they had only my worries. In other words, there are always people who have it so much worse than we do. It is a really humbling thing to realize. Blessings to everyone.
Very rarely could I say this to all the "Guru wannabes" on UA-cam, but you are the real thing. a true teacher. the honest clarity humility emanates your words and presence. Thank you for your wisdom. I also like how you don't distance yourself from the worrier, you use the word "We" which means allot.
Your videos are so authentic, Teal! There are always a million videos from psychologists or therapists on "how to stop worrying - simple steps!", but such videos are often only small tools to "fool" ourselves into changing our thinking somehow. Sometimes they work, sometimes not. My only point is that you always get to the core of it Teal. Unlike many others. And it's -always- extremely helpful, whatever the topic! So thank you. :)
I am just getting through the 2018 holiday. This time of year always sends me into a weird head space. I have always felt victim to my own worries but knowing its just a habit that can be broken has given me so much hope. I think I came across this video because I needed it. Thank you Teal!
When I find it easy not to worry, it's usually because I have confidence in my ability to face any challenges that come up. I know, from experience, that I have problem-solving skills sharp enough to overcome anything, and that the worst-case scenario is never that bad. So, you dont get what you wanted- just learn to be zen and realize that there is plenty to be happy for without it. When you arent fearing a loss, and realize that youre going to be okay, AND know with confidence that youre good at solving problems, it becomes easy. So, work on your confidence by solving problems a lot (instead of assuming there's no solution, brainstorm all the options to something even something small to give yourself the experience). I have been wavering and worrying a ton because my confidence was shot, but im finally able to see a way back to it thank goodness. When you have enough confidence in your ability to survive anything, nothing scares you.
I am always amazed at you're depth and ability to communicate it. You are a true healer and beautiful soul. thank you for sharing your gifts. many blessings upon you.
My goodness, this was clarified so well. While I completely resonate with the way you explain our time-space reality, I simply have not been perceiving my experience (seen, unseen, known, and unknown alike) with total clarity despite the CONSTANT signals from my body and spirit that have always been there and were surpressed that seem to bubble up no matter how much it’s been surpressed and my god it’s liberating
Omg I am so grateful for your encouragement I like when you asked what kind of life is someone living if your only preserving worries while living, we should let it go let go, we should surrender all worries to our creator of our soul, my creator is lord Jesus Christ.❤️❤️❤️👍 thanks you're the bests
Baby sister is out of town, and Mom just got a scary diagnosis. Marathon watching Teal vids - about catastrophising, F the law of att., what to do when upset, etc. It's getting to the point where just her voice is soothing, because she clearly understands the plight of the worrier and sincerely wants to help. Also, she's very insightful and well spoken. I'm grateful for these videos.
Teal...gurrrrllll I loveeee your work...your videos have enlightened me and privided many confirmations... You are one of my favorite teachers and its easy for me to refer ppl to you cuz you realllyyy break things down in an impeccable way if I ever have anything to do with it I believe that your curriculum should be mandatory in the public school system...so thank you and keep up the good work... You are a gift!!
Darn practical talk. Thank you. Bashar says that the Critic (in your head) is the father or the mother of all lies. I named "my" critic El Critiquo and good golly does he show up a lot so I just (or so it is my unbending intent) allow El Critiquo to yammer on and I even allow myself to curse the shit out of him as an emotional release. I do my best to allow, allow, allow with awareness. El Criticquo is only as real as the lies I was raised with.
Hi Teal, I just subscribed to your channel. I tried one of the ideas you suggested about worrying. I live in Portland , Or. and I am a window sign painter, anyway yesterday I had a job in Salem, 50 miles south of Portland. This client is about 3 years old. I always get confused on how to get to the job site, I know...even after 3 years? But I only go down twice a year, so really only six times. I worry about the route. This time I asked myself "can I do anything about this now?" as you suggest in the video. I thought yeah, I should just call them, they gave me incredibly simple directions which I had never done before, crazy! hahaha! I took action and stopped worrying...Thanks Teal.
I really love the way you describe the vibrational frequency of thoughts and how it matches with other vibrational frequencies in the universe. I have read the secret, seen the film, and a myriad of other books and videos on the law of attraction, the way you delineate the law of attraction is refreshing.
This was the one of the most mind blowing and life changing videos I’ve ever seen, wow!!! I’m new to Teal Swan, I’ve never heard such an accurate impression of worrying. Thank you so much 💖 My worry is all in my stomach and I get such bad cramps that I can’t control, it’s very painful. I wonder why that is? I’m going to keep watching the videos until it all sinks in 🙏🏻
My grandmother does this she worry's about every little thing. Even stay up all night worrying about everything. You manifest your thoughts your thoughts become things people. Much love
It's ironic how Teal talks about envisioning something trivial like chickens towards the end of the video, because as someone who has an irrational fear of spiders I can tell you (with my obsessive worrying over finding one somewhere in my house) that my focus and anxiety toward spiders really does draw them in. I see them everywhere, nearly everyday in places that just don't make sense considering I go to great lengths to keep them away. But as I consider the law of attraction in all of this, I realize how strongly my attention attracted them, and I don't know, this video really resonated with me and it was just so helpful to come across. :) x
That's the cause of my suffering. Every time I want something, I want it for Yesterday, I make plans and organize myself to acomplish it, but I can't enjoy the process (to be honest, I HATE any kind of "invisible process"), I feel like I have to get it done as fast as possible to get my reward or if I don't do that I will be left behind, in other words: anything I want in life (except death) I can only see the end of the line... That's hard.
0:35 what you focus on grows, and that’s what the universe responds to 2:45 process of creating what we don’t want to have happen = worry (this serves us) 3:54 relationship to universe, is there consequence to positive focus? 5:46 the switch to solution 27:38 realize
Oh my God…ess! You got it figured out. Never stop being so perfectly you ❤️🧚🏼♀️ You are my safety, teaching me to trust and keep myself safe. Unity rules 😂
If your negativity gets repetitive or something troubles you a lot Then: 1) identify the problem clearly 2) identify how you view the problem 3) identify if the way you view it is alarming/negative or calming/realistic 4) if alarming challenge the thinking 5) practice the new behavior that you chose. Youre welcome
Woah, she just blew my mind again , ascribing the universe to our primary caregivers, and the mind not knowing the difference between thinking and reality , damn how does she do it??
Teal you are very beautiful and confident,i wish i could tell you how great you make me feel,sadly it's not something i can express by words. Thanks again
I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much
I've done something stupid at work and am going to be punished so my thoughts are telling me,but you new what kind of work place I work in you would understand the people are so child like and when you are confronted by one person it's all of them,I'm in bed now with worry my a motions are everywhere with sickness and ache in tummy my head is with all kinds of bad thoughts, I've got tomorrow I don't want to go in work ,so I've listening to what you have said I'll give ago ,,,,,I'll be back in later date let you what if it help ,THANKS TEAL.
Your absolutely right about there's nothing i can do,so I went into work the next day off course I was worried but I was trying to convince myself to there's nothing to worry about,it took me about 1 week until it started to work, the thing is it's still going on at work the pettiness and amazingly I don't seem to care anymore wow,I feel so laid back now and I seem to get on with life WHAHA,TEAL I've been watching most of your programmes I've got a lot to learn they help me a lot,TEAL SWAN thank you so much and if anything else comes up I'll give you some feedback. :)
Thank you, Teal! I will try to do the steps you offered cos I feel so worn off because of worrying. I feel worry any minute a day and sometimes I don't even understand what I'm worrying about. I just feel nervous and fearful. Thank you for your advices!
I love this video. I am a big worryer i worry about everything about my loved ones dieing, my health, my families health, my future, the decisions i have already made and i want to believe this video so bad. But i start to think what about people who dont worry and dont focus on negative things but still have bad things happen like car accidents or sudden loss of a loved one. Why do the bad things they were never worried about happen anyways? Also what about people who constantely focus on things like winning the lottery no matter how much they focus on it most of these people will never win. I will definitely be trying some of your techniques i hope they help :)
"Brain lock" by Jeffrey Schwartz cured my OCD ten years ago. I highly recommend it! www.amazon.com/Brain-Lock-Yourself-Obsessive-Compulsive-Behavior/dp/0060987111/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1387801059&sr=1-1&keywords=brain+lock+by+jeffrey+Schwartz
i worry all the time, and have been like that since i lived with my dad that abused me when i was little. So much worrying about that he will get me and just daily things with work, money and relationships. This clip was really good i need to change my point of view even if it will be hard to try change that way of thinking. Been like this for almost 20 years now. *wipe tears away* thanks ones again, favorite this clip is on my "to do list".
This IS amazing timing. I need to meet today with a chronic worryer and this was incredibly helpful. I have time to watch it again. Teal has such a beautiful delivery!
"resonates" is just a word, it's an easy way of saying you hear things that you in your own personal experience relate to. There are billions of people in the world, each of them with many different views and beliefs, the sooner your realize that the less anxiety you will feel. Good luck to you.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! This was my favorite ask Teal EVER! And I have watched them all! You and your truths are so beautiful!!! This ask Teal felt so good to hear! It just brightened my heart!!! Thank you!!! I love you!
Worry is like a rocking chair - it will give you something to do, but won't get you anywhere.
Sam T WRITE THAT DOWN.
Nice one 😊
that was perfect, ill remember it now
I wonder if anyone knows the author of that quote. It seems to be either a motivational speaker named Glenn Turner or an author named Erma Bombeck.
I heard it on moaning/complaining, the exact same one. Just as true.
She nailed every aspect of my worry. I'm so grateful she made this video. I watched it 4 times in a row and took notes, and started a journal. Thank you Teal.
Similiar experience here
How's your journal going?
I watch it every time I feel very worried
I love how she uses herself as an example. Awesome teacher.
Its the polite thing to do! And psychologically, to have the ones you are teaching, feel the teacher relates totally to you. The second reason, is almost the same as the first. It is because it show you can trust the teacher, that they arent 'above' you. Who wants to listen to a nun teach about sex? In the same way, we want someone whose been there, done that, and learned to overcome. And, is a wonderful speaker, teacher.
I am 55 years old; this video has answered the life questions I have been holding on to and struggled to overcome for most of my life! No psychiatrist, psychologist, or medication has answered this, but you just did!!! I will continually listen to this one video to apply these principles and alter my focus. THANK YOU, TEAL!!! YOU JUST CHANGED MY LIFE!
How you doing now?😊
How's it working out for you?
im a chronic worrier of 40+ years .it IS a living hell. i have PSTD and OCD.
this was a good help to me thank you.
SUMMARY - Actualized - How to Stop Worrying (Ask Teal Episode on Worry) - Teal Swan
We think worrying allows us to see potential negative outcomes and thus prepare for them
According to the law of attraction you attract what you focus on, you cant repell something you dont want
you cant push something out of your experience
people worry about sth. and then they attract it and feel justified and validated for having worried
We have created this negative experience and then we feel jsutified about having worried about it not realizing that the worry created the happening in the first place
we think worrying prepares us for a negative scenario so that is does not have that much impact on us, but we dont see that we create this situation we worry about
---> why we are addicted to suffering
we think pain is good
we ignore our emotional guidance system when we continue worrying because it does not feel good
the logic is: if I worry and even though I feel pain pain I can prevent myself from more pain. so pain is serving me
Why not focussing on what we do want? Or at least releasing resistance towards the worst case scenario
People feel like tike the universe is agaisnt us thinking that we are against something we cant win against but we try to win though because survivalty is at risk so we use worry to outsmart the adversary which is the universe
we think there will be consequences focusing on the positive, we feel ignorant
we are convinced that we deserve doom and pain so that we keep focussing on it
we feel powerless
it's like those of us who we are headed off a cliff we are so convinced that we are headed towards impending doom and that Doom is what we deserve that we keep focusing on the fall
we feel powerless to our own realities and we think we can't avoid that pain so we spend our time focusing on and preparing for that pain
we focus on the fall instead on the water we can get out now, before we reach the edge of the waterfall
we exactly attract what vibration we hold
we can not focus on the problem and be matched to the solution because these things hold different vibrations, its a vibrational contradiction
the solution cannot come to you if you are focused on the problem this is why worrying never feels good and never leads to what we hope it will lead us to which is Solutions
we use worry to inspire ourselves towards solution-focused preparation
once we begin to switch our Focus to Solutions we give worry the credit when worry was the resistance to the solution it was the contrast
the focus on the solution is responsible for the solution, worry is the opposite
what causes pain is when we think that potential future problem
is impossible to avoid its impending
we can't escape it we just have to prepare for the Blow
chronic worriors hold this belief
that no matter what the things which they foreseeing the future
are inevitable
the idea that its going to rain does not feel us pain
you can do something to prepare for it like getting a slicker
it inspires us to think solution based
but when we are thinking okay it's going to rain
I can't do anything about the fact that it's going to rain
I am going to get with end of story that's when we start to feel
a sense of pain relative to future circumstances
which are unwanted
which are unwanted those of us who worry
number one don't believe we create our own reality
even if we desperately want to believe that we do you
number two those of us who worry believe deep down that we are not good enough to
deserve love
or reward and so we think instead that we deserve
punishment number three
those of us who worry believe that whoever or whatever does create our
reality is the authority figure
and so we ascribe the personality traits we associated with our primary authority figure in our lives
over the traits of the universe and we expect the same kind of treatment from
that we got from that original authority figure in our lives
and most opposed to worry had a authority figure that believed in punishment
and so we come to expect the same kind of treatment from the universe
as we got from mom or dad or from whoever the primary authority figure was
we expect the universe to cause us pain we have a love-hate relationship with
the universe
we expect the universe to hurt us just like we saw with our primary authority
figures as children
we do not feel like we can escape the impending punishment and consequences
for not being good enough
here is the most important
realization for warriors: we think
that worry keeps us safe or at the very least lessons are pain
but as long as I'm worrying I'm not feeling safe
and I'm feeling pain so I will most likely spend my life never actually
experiencing safety
never actually experiencing enjoyment and that does no good for me
worrying is like living the worst case scenario because the brain makes no distinction between thoughts and reality.
choose to die or decide that living this way is not worth preventing the worst
case scenario
For warriors: you cant vibrationally match something that you stop focusing therefore it cant show up in your reality
stop worrying about what we worry, means not experiencing the thing we worry about
dont expect to stop worrying all at once since you ever thought that worrying keeps you save
tips to not worry
1. observe your anxious thoughts and feelings, dont try to ignore, find or control them
you cannot think positive while worrying, worrying has to be acknowledged
worrying comes with the belief that you can outsmart the universe so you mostly almost experience the thing you worry about
to worry does not match with the thing you worry about but with more worry, so you attract mroe worry
2. you have to convince yourself that worry does not serve a positive purpose
Does worrying serve you any good or negative? Examine
dont tell yourself to stop worrying
to distract or suppress worrys makes them stronger and more persistent
apply the byron katie process - the work:
Is it ture?
Who are you with that thought? how does your reality look like without that thought?
turn the thought around
eg: I'm going to make myself destitute
another turnaround is I'm not going to be destitute
the turnaround is they are going to be destitute
and another to Round is I am going to be wealthy
find three proofs or scenarios that proof the validity of all these turnaround statements
--> app
only thoughts cause us pain that are not questioned
Ask yourself: what would I say to a friend that had these worries?
4. Keep a worry journal
where you write in all your worrys; dont write into it in the morning or before going to bed
write into it everything that is worrying you: beliefs, things you are sure will happen, etc
as a chronic worrier do this at the same time each day
postopone worry until journay worry time has come
postponing breaks the habit of worry addiction
analyze your worry list and cheek out worrys you can do something about
come up with concrete steps how to deal with it and go into action so you switch your focus from problem to solution
if the problem is imaginery (what if..)
do things that make you feel less worry; its a vibrational game
if you worry less you wont match a situation you worried about
use action to line up with the reality you want
make a list of everything you can do to reduce your worrys
once you start doing action worrys reduce
if you cant stop worrying about things you cant do anything about turn that dead end into something
5. Worriers feel incapable to provide the need of safety to themselves
and cant stand uncertainty, struggle with uncertainty
they want 100% certainty
worrying makes them feel like they can predict the future which make them feel safer
Provide yourself ways to feel more safe in the present moment
uncertainty is better than certainty that the worst case will happen which worriors dont realize
make a list of things where you were convinced that the worst case will happen and hasnt happened
proof your brain that what it thinks is not true
6. stay focused on the present moment
notice that nothing is wrong with the present moment
7. realize that you can never get everything done
worriors are obsessed to get things right and done but neither is the possiblity
because there is no right or wrong
and the minute you get something done you will have new things to do, there is no finish line
its about the enjoyment in the moment
8. if you worry about what people think of you
focus on them instead of yourself
observe them like an alien observer woüuld, focus all your attention on understanding them, make mental list
express yourself instead of trying to control what other people think of you
this costs less energy and stress
When you release resitance to what people think of you makes them think better of you
pretend to be an alien gathering data from humans noticing what they do and say without paying attention to your fear of what they might think of you
you will feel less self-conscious
and they'll feel the non-judgmental attention they've always wanted from you
9. play the zoom out game
zoom out whenever you worry and take a snap shot of the world
what worry would be bigger than yours at the moment?
look into your past and see what worrys might have occured in certain situations and see how lucky you are that you dont have them
10.
---> how to stop a panic attack video
11. As a worrior you need to learn that you create your own reality according to what you focus on
keep a synchronizity journal
visualize something neutral, you have no resistance to like chicken for 10 minutes and notice how they show up in your reality
if you know that its in your hands to create a worst case s you wont worry that much
worry is a habit and every habit can be broken
Thanks Teal
Thanks for sum up,helps me to read it better than to hear
Thank you 🙏😇❤️
Thank you so much!!! ❤❤
*Took me abit over a year to think like this. Thank you so much Teal Swan! My life is so much better nowdays!*
I feel the same way. Its as if i know the game but i feel , amateur , for taking so long to master it...
If you have anxiety it's not healthy to fight it embrace it, it's an opportunity to grow, it's your body & spirit telling you it's time for growth. Take the steps to make a healthy life. Your anxiety is telling you what your lacking, studies show most of your anxiety comes from your stomach, so change your diet, seriously get rid of sugar & caffeine, . Eat blue berries, bananas, oranges, drink ginger, Chamomile tea.
Thank you :)
As someone having been diagnosed with Generalized anxiety disorder in my past, it is easy to think that food is the answer as I was a devout vegan before well maybe not totally devout lol but pretty much vegan most of the time. And uggh I just didn't feel like it did much for me in the way of actually healing cus it's very good for your body but it doesnt heal the root trauma that is plaguing your existence
Omg, yesterday i eat junk food, and in the night i have bad Anxiety..
I suffer from major anxiety and I rarely have anything with caffeine or sugar
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For me, worrying makes me feel like I'll eventually come up with the solution.
Worrying is blocking solution! In a conflicting state of mind you are attracting conflicting solutions. This will confirm to you that you were justified in worrying. Look at what you are concern about and decide that you are looking at wrong reasons. Decide that you want to let go your conflicting reasons and instead decide for Peace (no specifics). Practice a peaceful frame of mind for little while. Now you have "changed your mind", and your new thoughts will lead you in a non-conflicting direction without worrying. You need to practice this.
stop worrying! the key is to focus on the things you want. mario andretti once said: look at the track... not the wall!
That's the trap I fell into. Trying to break it now.
it's crazy how as soon as i decided I'm the reason I'm feeling down, and I have the power to change how I feel, I came across this video!
I love what you have to say, I wish my whole family would sit and watch this video!
Same Thing happened to me!
Teal, my husband was very seriously injured with a brain injury five months ago. Since the beginning I have known everything would be okay even though countless doctors told me he would not make it. At the time of the accident I was atheist and could not explain this "just knowing". You have helped me in so many ways throughout this process.
🙏🙏🙏
"...we think that worrying about something will make things more certain." Wow, what an eye-opener, thank you so much Teal, your reflections on human behaviour is really mindblowing and healing! A human design reflector as it is written in the book!
I was set up for "impending doom" thinking from childhood. My mother was an alcoholic and most of the time i was beaten or ridiculed upon getting home from school or from a friends house. Then i somehow learned that if i worried all the way home she was always less likely to physically or verbally abuse me. Worry seemed to work for me, and so i made a habit of it. Today, i am a chronic worrier (about some things, not all) and yes, it is a painful state of being which creates chronic mental unrest and anxiety. Thank you for this video 🙏
Thanks for sharing. I have struggled with worrying for years. My mother spends her time worrying, and I picked that up as I grew older. I've done well with shedding a lot of that behavior, but I still get into situations where I worry about what I don't want to happen.
I often struggle with with worrying. This video helped remind me of the law of attraction and it also reminded me to ground myself and change the things that I can change
Teal swan is the most beautiful and most authentic soul I have ever experienced. Thank you Teal for being an amazing person and all the beautiful things you do for humanity.
I have to see this several times for not to forget it thanks Teal.
Practical. Took six and half pages of notes. Brilliant.
The worst thing is to worry about someone else. It takes their power away and may give a lack of confidence in being able to change and improve their situation.
Thank you Teal! That is so accurate. I realized a few months ago that when you imagine pain, your brain thinks it really is in pain, and essentially you're really in pain. So, fear of the future is really just pain that you give yourself in the present for no reason.
I LOVE the message(s) in this video. Whenever I worry about something, I immediately think about people in this world who WISH they had only my worries. In other words, there are always people who have it so much worse than we do. It is a really humbling thing to realize. Blessings to everyone.
Very rarely could I say this to all the "Guru wannabes" on UA-cam, but you are the real thing. a true teacher. the honest clarity humility emanates your words and presence. Thank you for your wisdom. I also like how you don't distance yourself from the worrier, you use the word "We" which means allot.
A friend often says,"Hope for the best, prepare for the worst," and now I KNOW he's full of it! Another thankful fan here! :-D
Someone so young, so wise.
Love you Teal. Not only are you beautiful and warm, you are so wise.
She is so wise and beautiful. She was sent to teach.
She's becoming my spiritual monolith
Dear Teal,
you are magic, thank you, love you. Keep bringing that wonderful light to people's life.
Your videos are so authentic, Teal! There are always a million videos from psychologists or therapists on "how to stop worrying - simple steps!", but such videos are often only small tools to "fool" ourselves into changing our thinking somehow. Sometimes they work, sometimes not. My only point is that you always get to the core of it Teal. Unlike many others. And it's -always- extremely helpful, whatever the topic! So thank you. :)
I am just getting through the 2018 holiday. This time of year always sends me into a weird head space. I have always felt victim to my own worries but knowing its just a habit that can be broken has given me so much hope. I think I came across this video because I needed it. Thank you Teal!
When I find it easy not to worry, it's usually because I have confidence in my ability to face any challenges that come up. I know, from experience, that I have problem-solving skills sharp enough to overcome anything, and that the worst-case scenario is never that bad. So, you dont get what you wanted- just learn to be zen and realize that there is plenty to be happy for without it. When you arent fearing a loss, and realize that youre going to be okay, AND know with confidence that youre good at solving problems, it becomes easy. So, work on your confidence by solving problems a lot (instead of assuming there's no solution, brainstorm all the options to something even something small to give yourself the experience). I have been wavering and worrying a ton because my confidence was shot, but im finally able to see a way back to it thank goodness. When you have enough confidence in your ability to survive anything, nothing scares you.
Thanks Teal, you really opened my eyes on many things, you are awesome!
I am always amazed at you're depth and ability to communicate it. You are a true healer and beautiful soul. thank you for sharing your gifts. many blessings upon you.
HEy my friend nice to see you hear! Yes she is amazing I totally agree!
My goodness, this was clarified so well. While I completely resonate with the way you explain our time-space reality, I simply have not been perceiving my experience (seen, unseen, known, and unknown alike) with total clarity despite the CONSTANT signals from my body and spirit that have always been there and were surpressed that seem to bubble up no matter how much it’s been surpressed and my god it’s liberating
We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
Albert Einstein
Omg I am so grateful for your encouragement I like when you asked what kind of life is someone living if your only preserving worries while living, we should let it go let go, we should surrender all worries to our creator of our soul, my creator is lord Jesus Christ.❤️❤️❤️👍 thanks you're the bests
That was exactly what I needed after a hell of a week. Thank you for being here in time Teal!
Baby sister is out of town, and Mom just got a scary diagnosis. Marathon watching Teal vids - about catastrophising, F the law of att., what to do when upset, etc. It's getting to the point where just her voice is soothing, because she clearly understands the plight of the worrier and sincerely wants to help. Also, she's very insightful and well spoken. I'm grateful for these videos.
Hope your mom is doing well
@@NuLyteTV thank you. Kind of you to say that. My mom is ok.
Teal...gurrrrllll I loveeee your work...your videos have enlightened me and privided many confirmations... You are one of my favorite teachers and its easy for me to refer ppl to you cuz you realllyyy break things down in an impeccable way if I ever have anything to do with it I believe that your curriculum should be mandatory in the public school system...so thank you and keep up the good work... You are a gift!!
I have never been called like I have after watching this video. Its so much to digest.
Darn practical talk. Thank you. Bashar says that the Critic (in your head) is the father or the mother of all lies. I named "my" critic El Critiquo and good golly does he show up a lot so I just (or so it is my unbending intent) allow El Critiquo to yammer on and I even allow myself to curse the shit out of him as an emotional release. I do my best to allow, allow, allow with awareness. El Criticquo is only as real as the lies I was raised with.
bamboosa lol im stealing that
Great way of conceptualising it!
It's like the level of light speed how advanced and good your knowledge is. I am in awe and truly grateful.
Hi Teal, I just subscribed to your channel. I tried one of the ideas you suggested about worrying. I live in Portland , Or. and I am a window sign painter, anyway yesterday I had a job in Salem, 50 miles south of Portland. This client is about 3 years old. I always get confused on how to get to the job site, I know...even after 3 years? But I only go down twice a year, so really only six times. I worry about the route. This time I asked myself "can I do anything about this now?" as you suggest in the video. I thought yeah, I should just call them, they gave me incredibly simple directions which I had never done before, crazy! hahaha! I took action and stopped worrying...Thanks Teal.
hahahaha! LOL
That's awesome!! I love this video.
Wow, Teal, this was such a good video! Thankyou from the bottom of my heart!❤
I really love the way you describe the vibrational frequency of thoughts and how it matches with other vibrational frequencies in the universe. I have read the secret, seen the film, and a myriad of other books and videos on the law of attraction, the way you delineate the law of attraction is refreshing.
This is a Revelation regarding this subject. Teal You’re Simply Amazing.
This is so deeply what I needed to hear today. Thank you, Teal.
I'm here again, so many years later. I needed a refresher course, lol. THANK YOU! My day has already turned around.
You are amazing Teal. Beautiful and full of wonderful advice. Thank you so such.
You explain and express in exactly the right way for me. I am so glad I found you.
This universe is so interesting, I love learning and getting new perspective.
Love what you bring to attention in all your videos 😍
Thank you sister
She said reality is what the mind perceives but surely what perceives the mind is fundamental also.
This was the one of the most mind blowing and life changing videos I’ve ever seen, wow!!! I’m new to Teal Swan, I’ve never heard such an accurate impression of worrying. Thank you so much 💖 My worry is all in my stomach and I get such bad cramps that I can’t control, it’s very painful. I wonder why that is? I’m going to keep watching the videos until it all sinks in 🙏🏻
My grandmother does this she worry's about every little thing. Even stay up all night worrying about everything. You manifest your thoughts your thoughts become things people. Much love
It's ironic how Teal talks about envisioning something trivial like chickens towards the end of the video, because as someone who has an irrational fear of spiders I can tell you (with my obsessive worrying over finding one somewhere in my house) that my focus and anxiety toward spiders really does draw them in. I see them everywhere, nearly everyday in places that just don't make sense considering I go to great lengths to keep them away. But as I consider the law of attraction in all of this, I realize how strongly my attention attracted them, and I don't know, this video really resonated with me and it was just so helpful to come across. :) x
Synchronicity.
I have recommended Till Swan's videos to all my friends and family so they can have a better perspective of life and grow spiritually and emotionally.
That's the cause of my suffering. Every time I want something, I want it for Yesterday, I make plans and organize myself to acomplish it, but I can't enjoy the process (to be honest, I HATE any kind of "invisible process"), I feel like I have to get it done as fast as possible to get my reward or if I don't do that I will be left behind, in other words: anything I want in life (except death) I can only see the end of the line... That's hard.
"Uncertainty is much better than the thought about certainty of the worst thing that could happen"
wat is it about this woman? ilove her pronounciation. i could listen to her in person all day.
0:35 what you focus on grows, and that’s what the universe responds to 2:45 process of creating what we don’t want to have happen = worry (this serves us) 3:54 relationship to universe, is there consequence to positive focus? 5:46 the switch to solution 27:38 realize
Thank you so much!!! You've helped me alot!! Blessed Be!!
teal i worry a lot , all sorts of dreadful worries, im thinking that worry isnt helpful after watching this so thankyou bruv
Oh my God…ess! You got it figured out. Never stop being so perfectly you ❤️🧚🏼♀️ You are my safety, teaching me to trust and keep myself safe. Unity rules 😂
Me, too!
Every Word so True and full of Wisdom everbody can learn from Teal.Divine Wisdom from the Heart of an Enlightened Woman.
you've done it again Ms Swan **clap clap**
Speaking of synchronicity, your videos are so on point for me these past weeks! It just keeps flowing..
I'm a chronic worrier. I HATE this!
Daniel Alvarado me too :(
Daniel Alvarado me too
If your negativity gets repetitive or something troubles you a lot
Then:
1) identify the problem clearly
2) identify how you view the problem
3) identify if the way you view it is alarming/negative or calming/realistic
4) if alarming challenge the thinking
5) practice the new behavior that you chose.
Youre welcome
Daniel Alvarado same... i hate it
Same l hate it too
Thank you Teal for being freely giving. You are a true soul.
this should be the Manuel of every Virgo
Why do you say that?
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Yep, I am one. Horrid anxiety issues.
Fair Just I feel it. Neurotic is an understatement with us
I think Gemini is even more so prone to excessive worry..
i like that teal often gives personal examples in her videos and shows her vulnerabilities while sharing her insights. thanks for that, teal!
Woah, she just blew my mind again , ascribing the universe to our primary caregivers, and the mind not knowing the difference between thinking and reality , damn how does she do it??
Teal you are very beautiful and confident,i wish i could tell you how great you make me feel,sadly it's not something i can express by words.
Thanks again
You are the best, I suffer from anxiety and bad depression and you helped me through the day, thank you sweet lady.
Some solid advice Teal, thanks for the reminder :) Namaste
I think its awesome that you are offering to donate all your money to those that are hurting That's how I know you are the real thing! Good for you! Especially during a world pandemic where so many people have lost so much
I've done something stupid at work and am going to be punished so my thoughts are telling me,but you new what kind of work place I work in you would understand the people are so child like and when you are confronted by one person it's all of them,I'm in bed now with worry my a motions are everywhere with sickness and ache in tummy my head is with all kinds of bad thoughts, I've got tomorrow I don't want to go in work ,so I've listening to what you have said I'll give ago ,,,,,I'll be back in later date let you what if it help ,THANKS TEAL.
Your absolutely right about there's nothing i can do,so I went into work the next day off course I was worried but I was trying to convince myself to there's nothing to worry about,it took me about 1 week until it started to work, the thing is it's still going on at work the pettiness and amazingly I don't seem to care anymore wow,I feel so laid back now and I seem to get on with life WHAHA,TEAL I've been watching most of your programmes I've got a lot to learn they help me a lot,TEAL SWAN thank you so much and if anything else comes up I'll give you some feedback. :)
Your videos are a constant source of light , love and wisdom to one and all .
Thanks a ton .
God Bless.
That's so funny, I was just speaking about this very thing to a client the other day! It's funny that this was brought into my reality, sync!
Teal is the proof that the universe love us all
another great video .
Thank you, Teal! I will try to do the steps you offered cos I feel so worn off because of worrying. I feel worry any minute a day and sometimes I don't even understand what I'm worrying about. I just feel nervous and fearful. Thank you for your advices!
Thank you
From a chronic worrier, thank you, this is very helpful.
I love this video. I am a big worryer i worry about everything about my loved ones dieing, my health, my families health, my future, the decisions i have already made and i want to believe this video so bad. But i start to think what about people who dont worry and dont focus on negative things but still have bad things happen like car accidents or sudden loss of a loved one. Why do the bad things they were never worried about happen anyways? Also what about people who constantely focus on things like winning the lottery no matter how much they focus on it most of these people will never win. I will definitely be trying some of your techniques i hope they help :)
"Brain lock" by Jeffrey Schwartz cured my OCD ten years ago.
I highly recommend it!
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Thank you i will check that out :)
we all have our gifts. Teal has found hers. Thanks so much Teal. You ARE a gift to many.
You're awesome! And really beautiful
i worry all the time, and have been like that since i lived with my dad that abused me when i was little. So much worrying about that he will get me and just daily things with work, money and relationships. This clip was really good i need to change my point of view even if it will be hard to try change that way of thinking. Been like this for almost 20 years now. *wipe tears away* thanks ones again, favorite this clip is on my "to do list".
There is no right and wrong? Oh, um, except worrying ... right?
Touché
Wrong and unwanted are two different things.
This IS amazing timing. I need to meet today with a chronic worryer and this was incredibly helpful. I have time to watch it again. Teal has such a beautiful delivery!
I love your voice :)
Moment of truth- Amen amen amen amen amen amen amen amen amen AMEN!
Can you please upload english subtitles ? Thank you (i find this video so important)
"resonates" is just a word, it's an easy way of saying you hear things that you in your own personal experience relate to. There are billions of people in the world, each of them with many different views and beliefs, the sooner your realize that the less anxiety you will feel. Good luck to you.
Teal, Believe is misspelled many times throughout this video. Just thought you may want to know.
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! This was my favorite ask Teal EVER! And I have watched them all! You and your truths are so beautiful!!! This ask Teal felt so good to hear! It just brightened my heart!!! Thank you!!! I love you!
This lady is superhuman
I love your channel so much. You’ve truly changed my life and my mindset.
You're the best
That's a profound insight at 12m50s, that we worry so we can worry some more.
Its like she went to college and picked Humans as a major