Thank you for your posts. You have given me a deeper understanding of what is going on with a person that married into my family. They have been diagnosed with BPD by several therapist, but they deny that they have a problem and won’t get help. Interaction with them is extremely confusing and hurtful and I am alway questioning myself as to what I did or said that set them off. I feel like I am walking on eggshells when I am around them and that I must think carefully about everything I say before it comes out of my mouth. It is absolutely exhausting. I’ve watched other videos about BPD, but they are from the view of a therapist. It is much more insightful to hear what is going on from a person who is dealing with the PD. What you are telling us exactly mirrors the behaviors of my family member. I still don’t know how to react to them, but because of your videos, at least now I have better understanding. Thank you so much and I wish you all the best in life. ❤
Thank you for your support! Sorry to hear that there’s a struggle with this person, I for a long time didn’t know or understand myself (I thought I did) and therefore didn’t realise just how damaging my behaviours were to those around me. I didn’t mean to, just thought I was okay when I wasn’t. It’s hugely considerate that you’re trying to educate yourself despite having your own feelings hurt! Just remember that just Cus someone has a condition it doesn’t condone any wickedness, and protect your own mental well-being. If you need to take some space or have a break (if you can) then that’s totally acceptable. Hopefully one day this person understands themselves like I now do and is able to function and receive support better, good luck!
I recently subbed after finding you by searching for relatable experiences with BPD after being diagnosed in the last few weeks at age 34. This video popped up in my recommended this morning and boy oh boy, how timely. I actually JUST had an anger/blow up episode last night and I relate to this a lot. I am going to show this to my husband. Thank you for sharing and making me feel less alone.
This is literally how i feel and I’ll look back at the bad times and question why my gf is still with me ong >_< thanks for your content and vulnerability
Thank youuuuu I’ll try that music, I LOVE feel good sounds.. and even tho we hate ourselves for acting like this, your girl loves it.. even when you be clashing over it 😅 cus after it all it makes you you, you’re totally unique, and just like you love the good and ‘bad’ in her she loves the good and ‘bad’ in you 💚
I suffer With EUPD I get what your saying, I'm too afraid to get into a relationship because I go hot and cold so quick I don't get angry at people I just getting frustrated with myself been like this
It’s tough, sometimes I’m really horrible, but I’m the flip side I’m so so nice and loving and caring, you deserve a happy relationship lovely! My advice is just be clear from the beginning of what to expect, and give plenty of reassurance 🥰
You talk about this so easily “anyway” do you have actual remorse, feel remorse for your actions? I have ADHD and I think I have bpd and I’m exactly the same and constantly questioning if I have empathy or not.
I deffo have remorse, and I’m very empathetic for others.. however it’s like I have developed the ability to switch off all feeling if that makes sense. Cold, blank, nothing, I suppose it’s a protective factor, it’s not always something I can control, but it’s not too often. Majority of the time it’s the other end of the scale and feeling too much, hope that helps
In another video you say you do not want therapy for your personality disorder but in this video you state a ungodly set of controlling rules about how someone would should behave when around you.
If you have watched my new video you will hear that I stated that in this video I’m in my first trimester of pregnancy which I couldn’t announce at the time.. but that fact has raged pure havoc with my illnesses. Secondly in this video I’ve stated that this is a phase, triggered by my recent losses, my body went through the changes of being pregnant, not pregnant anymore and then pregnant again.. and also the losses of my animals. A huge amount to deal with in a short space of time. I also say that this has been directed at my partner, not the whole world (for which I clearly empathise) but he totally understands me. Do you follow my channel? If so you’ll of seen me talk openly about how I see the world differently because of my pd, and that I have very few people in my life but those who do have are aware of how my mind works differently and choose to be considerate of that. I don’t impose rules on anyone at all but I am who I am. If you know anyone or anything about pd you’ll know we all have these ‘rules’ like go away but don’t leave me. Finally, not wanting treatment for pd doesn’t mean that pd doesn’t affect my daily life, it does. But I’ve made it clear many times that compared to the impact of my depression, the pd is nothing at all, and that I have found ways to mostly manage my pd healthily without it controlling my life.
Thank you for your posts. You have given me a deeper understanding of what is going on with a person that married into my family. They have been diagnosed with BPD by several therapist, but they deny that they have a problem and won’t get help. Interaction with them is extremely confusing and hurtful and I am alway questioning myself as to what I did or said that set them off. I feel like I am walking on eggshells when I am around them and that I must think carefully about everything I say before it comes out of my mouth. It is absolutely exhausting. I’ve watched other videos about BPD, but they are from the view of a therapist. It is much more insightful to hear what is going on from a person who is dealing with the PD. What you are telling us exactly mirrors the behaviors of my family member. I still don’t know how to react to them, but because of your videos, at least now I have better understanding.
Thank you so much and I wish you all the best in life. ❤
Thank you for your support! Sorry to hear that there’s a struggle with this person, I for a long time didn’t know or understand myself (I thought I did) and therefore didn’t realise just how damaging my behaviours were to those around me. I didn’t mean to, just thought I was okay when I wasn’t. It’s hugely considerate that you’re trying to educate yourself despite having your own feelings hurt! Just remember that just Cus someone has a condition it doesn’t condone any wickedness, and protect your own mental well-being. If you need to take some space or have a break (if you can) then that’s totally acceptable. Hopefully one day this person understands themselves like I now do and is able to function and receive support better, good luck!
I recently subbed after finding you by searching for relatable experiences with BPD after being diagnosed in the last few weeks at age 34. This video popped up in my recommended this morning and boy oh boy, how timely. I actually JUST had an anger/blow up episode last night and I relate to this a lot. I am going to show this to my husband.
Thank you for sharing and making me feel less alone.
Book - I hate you, don't leave me - classic behavior!
I wish I could give you a hug. Thank you for putting this up you've helped me lots.
Sending hugs back to you lovely xx
Great video! Describes most of how I feel with my BPD. Your videos are inspirational ❤
This is literally how i feel and I’ll look back at the bad times and question why my gf is still with me ong >_< thanks for your content and vulnerability
Also if you haven’t try 8D music if you haven’t the sounds feel good with headphones
Thank youuuuu I’ll try that music, I LOVE feel good sounds.. and even tho we hate ourselves for acting like this, your girl loves it.. even when you be clashing over it 😅 cus after it all it makes you you, you’re totally unique, and just like you love the good and ‘bad’ in her she loves the good and ‘bad’ in you 💚
Thanks for being eloquent about your behaviours. Strange but sad. God bless you
I suffer With EUPD I get what your saying, I'm too afraid to get into a relationship because I go hot and cold so quick I don't get angry at people I just getting frustrated with myself been like this
It’s tough, sometimes I’m really horrible, but I’m the flip side I’m so so nice and loving and caring, you deserve a happy relationship lovely! My advice is just be clear from the beginning of what to expect, and give plenty of reassurance 🥰
thanks for posting this. its a struggle right now. do you have a video on diagnosis or ways you manage it, counselling, meds, self help etc? thanks.
Hahaha you turn into cold jac…..would you say….Jack frost? 😂
OMG YESSSS! why didn’t I think of this 😅
Scary
You talk about this so easily “anyway” do you have actual remorse, feel remorse for your actions? I have ADHD and I think I have bpd and I’m exactly the same and constantly questioning if I have empathy or not.
I deffo have remorse, and I’m very empathetic for others.. however it’s like I have developed the ability to switch off all feeling if that makes sense. Cold, blank, nothing, I suppose it’s a protective factor, it’s not always something I can control, but it’s not too often. Majority of the time it’s the other end of the scale and feeling too much, hope that helps
Hi I've not seen u for awhile I'm now on u tube its called my life by kathy
I’ll check you out!
In another video you say you do not want therapy for your personality disorder but in this video you state a ungodly set of controlling rules about how someone would should behave when around you.
If you have watched my new video you will hear that I stated that in this video I’m in my first trimester of pregnancy which I couldn’t announce at the time.. but that fact has raged pure havoc with my illnesses.
Secondly in this video I’ve stated that this is a phase, triggered by my recent losses, my body went through the changes of being pregnant, not pregnant anymore and then pregnant again.. and also the losses of my animals. A huge amount to deal with in a short space of time.
I also say that this has been directed at my partner, not the whole world (for which I clearly empathise) but he totally understands me.
Do you follow my channel? If so you’ll of seen me talk openly about how I see the world differently because of my pd, and that I have very few people in my life but those who do have are aware of how my mind works differently and choose to be considerate of that. I don’t impose rules on anyone at all but I am who I am. If you know anyone or anything about pd you’ll know we all have these ‘rules’ like go away but don’t leave me.
Finally, not wanting treatment for pd doesn’t mean that pd doesn’t affect my daily life, it does. But I’ve made it clear many times that compared to the impact of my depression, the pd is nothing at all, and that I have found ways to mostly manage my pd healthily without it controlling my life.
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