@@dominocut2963 These are just scripts being read with probably zero feedback, he obviously legitimately didn't know that DIL was daughter-in--law. It's not comment bait or a prank, he's just reading words on a paper, and not paying attention to the post he's reading.
the wife saying that "it's different" annoyed me quite a bit. it's NOT DIFFERENT smh. how would the wife feel if some creep was sexually harassing her daughter and someone said "it's different" when she defended her daughter?? 😐
@@NorsePearl that and anybody who stupidly assumes that a man would "enjoy" being touched without their consent is beyond messed up. what kind of person would say something like that?? 😤
The one with the baby formula being thrown out made my blood boil. People need to know their boundaries. My MIL did stuff like that. Every time she came in my home she would throw out things she didn't think fit in my home and it almost caused us to divorce. Intrusive people just irk me to no end.
Especially since there was very recently a formula shortage. (May still be one, I don't have kids so I haven't paid close attention.) Like, do you want this baby to starve? Also throwing out a product that has already been purchased doesn't save the environment at all. This whole situation just makes me so mad. Edit to add: I looked it up and we are still in the middle of a formula shortage.
Story 2: NTA, you were told it was a costume party. You even asked if there were any dress codes & were told no. When asked if you should change, you were again, told no. Their lack of planning & communication is not your emergency.
I disagree. What kind of person needs to be TOLD not to wear a wedding dress to an ENGAGEMENT party? She clearly had a bunch of other costumes to choose from. She "thought it would be funny", but, from my perspective anyway, it's really only funny if the bride-to-be were to wear it. "BuT tHeY sAiD nO dReSs CoDe" How exactly does one form a dress code for an un-themed costume party other than "don't have your ass hanging out"? Again, nobody should have to be told not to wear a wedding dress to an engagement party. So I'm sure the possibility of her coming in a wedding dress, especially when they probably know she has SO many costumes, didn't even cross their minds. "BuT tOlD hEr ShE dIdN't HaVe To ChAnGe." The GROOM told her she didn't have to change. NOT the bride. He didn't even consult the bride, as evidenced by the later text conversation. I don't think the bride is handling it correctly. She could have asked her to change herself or asked someone else to do it for her. She certainly shouldn't be harassing OP over text. Groom is a POS, too. But all-in-all, the situation wouldn't have even started if OP had the common sense not to wear the wedding-dress cosplay to an engagement party.
28:00 there was a study conducted where some sort of I think customer service place set up mirrors behind the cashiers, and the conclusion was that angry customers were much less nasty when they could see themselves.
Throwing away single use baby products is totally unacceptable imo. Even if the mom decided to switch to reusable products, all the single use stuff is going to end up in landfill anyway so she might as well use what she has left. It's just like when people go vegan but keep their leather shoes because it's more wasteful to replace them with pleather shoes.
It's at the point where if somebody's obviously doing the brutally honest shtick you just automatically know to handle them with the kid gloves. It's very immature.
Yes. My cousin was brutally honest. Asked me my opinion about a dress her best friend gave her. I tild her the truth - it made her look pregnant. She got mad at me.
@littlemoth4956 late, but I'm pretty sure it means essentially permenantly offended. Seems like most "brutally honest" people NEVER forget or forgive for someone being brutally honest back. I've known a "brutally honest" guy (friend of a friend) who brought up something I said after he straight up insulted my weight for no reason and I hit him back with my opinion on his own looks after NINE years. It's dumb as hell
@@littlemoth4956 originally it was “mortally offended”, which meant that the offense was great enough to warrant a challenge to a duel. Terminally offended is just a modern rephrasing.
18:00 Your son is not his brothers keeper! His brother is not his responsibility, he is yours as the parents! It sucks to be disabled, I am, one of my siblings is. But we are not our other siblings responsibility! I cannot stand the mentality that one child has to be the permanent caregiver of their sibling. Helping is one thing, trapping one sibling to force them to be a caregiver is another.
Very valid and accurate point, but bad choice of words. "I am not my brother's keeper" is what Kane said when asked where his brother was. I wouldn't recommend doing an impression of the guy who murdered his brother and was lying about it to make that particular point.
Brutally Honest story: If you can't take it, don't dish it out. If someone ever claims to be brutally honest, you should always stop to ask them or yourself- "Well, are you more concerned about the brutality, or the honesty?"
Story 3: NTA - the "I can do it, but you can't" mentality is beyond childish. If she can dish it out but can't take it, then she needs to stop serving. She's the one who was making fun of you, and you tried to play it off as a jokes & be kind. She pushed it not you.
Story 9: NTA - Did you mary a child??? He seems very immature & doesn't seem to value the relationship you have. TBH, I would think about separating or taking a break. You seem more invested in the relationship than he does.
Story 12: NTA- What's with all these people marying children? He's also going to be a dad, so why can't he work? What's so hard about making sure you turn off your own lights before going to bed??? Why do you need to apologize, but not him?
Story 4: NTA - It's not their stuff to throw out. If they "don't have the money to replace it" then they shouldn't have thrown it out. it's one thing to live a certain lifestyle, but it's another completely to force people to live the same as you. Especailly since baby formula is a hot commodity item.
The formula thing made me see red. Some babies are lactose intolerant, some babies don't do well with breast milk, breastfeeding doesn't work for some moms. Whatever the reason, fed is best and WE ARE IN THE MIDDLE OF A FORMULA SHORTAGE! This is just absolutely reprehensible behaviour.
14:28 That is not brutally honest, that is bigotry. He is throwing out his offensive opinions and making excuses under the guise of "brutally honest". Brutally honest is not that. Brutally honest is: 'so I did this project recently and-' 'hey! I notice that there are a few things that are wrong within this project, for example...' "Brutally honest" people are (from my experience) often autistic/neurodivergent people. As a "brutally honest" person myself, I can say that I feel the need to apologize profusely before and after info dumping. Many autistic people feel compelled to correct information they identify as false, this happens so much that there's a title for it. For clarification, I am NOT saying that neurotypical people can't be brutally honest, they can.
A lot of these are WILD, and alot of these people are cry bullies. A cry bully is when a bully acts like the victim just to be clear. Out of all of these, for some reason the last one really got me heated. Ill telll you why. 1st, Ops friend didnt have to say anything and her BS reason that it was "for the record." What record??? This dude they're taking to is a complete stranger and this bs record wont matter if u decided to never go back to that store, or if he quit tomorrow even. You'd never see him again, nor do you have to as he's just some cashier. Also, not everyone wants to be like, Ya, I inherited my house! My partents died! 😊" This just feel like her "friend" was waiting for a moment to make how she got her house a Gotcha moment. This person is NOT her friend. And she went ahead and straight up LIED about buying her house as well??? She was totally trying to feel and seem superior to her friend for some weird ass reason. And not even to someone important or someone they actually know. Wanting to look good to strangers that you dont have to interact with is fkn WEIRD, much less making a gotcha moment out of your friend's parents deaths. Real friends dont do this. Normal people dont do this!
The costume party story - OP is NTA at all. This couple was stupid in thinking that that was a good idea. The video they saw was obviously a set-up and not spontaneous like they make it seemed in the video. Don’t believe every video you see online as face value. Prank channels for one always have a set-up because they want the desired reaction from whomever the prank is played on. It’s how they make the content they want to post.
If someone that old is being creepy towards someone that young that means they would go younger if they could, 18-19yr olds dont look much different from a 16yr old, if a much older adult asks a 19yr old to take their shirt off they would definitely ask a 16yr old the same thing
28:07 NTA, though you should definitely apologise and say that you tried to talk to him about it but this was the only way you could get him to listen. Your mom is right, but this should hopefully at least get him to think about his behaviour
Story 5: NTA - It's your wedding, not theirs. It would be like if someone gave you a laptop but told you could only play Pacman on it. It's not a gift if you tell them what they HAVE to do with it. My parents helped pay for my sister's wedding big time, and even then they made suggestions that they didn't expect my sister to follow. Not showing up because someone else's wedding wasn't what you expected it to be is childish.
23:40 - I haven't finished the story yet but there is no way he isn't having sex with his friend - or at the very least emotionally cheating with this friend.
The “AITA? I didn’t attend my son’s wedding, I instead spent the evening with his ex wife.” one feels like it isn’t even a question (if you remove the context. But, I agree with the people who said he’s NTA. If I hadn’t have heard the context, though, I’d have said you’re probably the a-hole.
They said it was a costume party, no? What was everyone else costumed as; Does a sexy nun, clown, or random zombie make the cut, but corpse bride is the line? Weird
Story 7 :NTA, your husband is. It's not your kid's job to be a caretaker. If your husband wanted him to be, that's something he should have talked about. HE is the one being selfish by expecting your son to give up everything to be a caretaker. I'm autistic & need support, I would never expect my siblings to be the one to provide that for me. Also, isn't inpersonating someone to cancel jobs like fraud or something? As in illegal?
Throwing away the disposable diapers makes no sense. Like the waste was already created. May as well use it all. It’s absolutely better for the environment to use second hand washable diapers and wipes but like… she added those disposables into the garbage pit unused for NO REASON. Now those diapers will exist for another 500 years and they didn’t even see the intended use.
Story 11: NTA - some people need to be shocked to make a change. You're showing him what he's like & he realized he didn't like it. So he's blaming you for showing him.
So many of these AITA posts, the OP is definitely not the AH, they're just surrounded by unreasonable idiots. Although there are definitely some exceptions
The more I listen to these stories the more baffled I am at just how many people think that someone should take someone else's abuse in silence... and for the dumbest reasons ever I would rather have absolutely no family and zero contact with all of them then to take someone's behaviour and abuse in silence
Story 8: NTA - It's not like the underage people would drink the alcohol. & he also made the dress ffs, most likely without compensation. My sister had a childfree wedding, but made allowances for cousins that we are close to. Cousins we don't see very often. If she could make allowances, why couldn't your sister make allowance for your son (her nephew) & the person who made the fucking dresS???
In the one with the Dad and his 16f daughter mocking him, Id say ESH. The dad could be more tactful and grateful for his wife helping home, but at the same time... His daughter could have gotten the point across another way. After all, him earning money is equal (if not more important) to taking good care of the house; he deserves some respect too
about the one with the woman trying to get the 19-year-old shirtless: if you see no problems here or think the guy was too aggressive, swap the genders and have an old man trying to get a 19-year-old girl to take off her shirt. still don't see a problem?
idk man sometimes these stories feel like “AITA for killing my wife?” and then the story is sth like “I know this sounds bad but here’s the twist: she was osama bin laden.” like idk in all of these youre taking the whole story from one side (obviously) and noone wants to sound like the asshole or even feel like one, so they’ll (knowingly or not) change the story around to sound better. idk
40 and single story: Remember hearing this on Rslash's channel years ago, and my thoughts still stand. NTA. Brenda fucked around and found out. She poked her nose where it doesn't belong and then had the balls to complain when it got bitten off. Everyone giving you shit for you and your husband's dynamic needs to shut up.
NTA. 8 tubs of formula alone is gonna be almost $80. Diapers and wipes at least another $30 depending on how many she had. I currently have closer to $60 of diapers and wipes. I’d never be able to replace those things in a day, I’d be way more rude about it. I’d be showing up at brothers house Lol
I feel like brutally honest is probably fake or at least over exaggerated. But honestly I don’t really know why someone would defend someone saying that on their birthday like it’s literally just ableism and a smudge of maybe incelly
31:16 a little observation from a constantly online person (so just take my rant with a grain of sulfuric acid): all the statements starting with "girl-", "gurl-" or similiar are false, unhinged or plain stupid in ~70% of situations, which is concerning because it's a culture that I do not understand, but have a vision of it being mostly negative, which in turn may be not the only case, but also it's hilarious to take on such things as they are something to talk about and maybe you, as a reader, can explain not only to me, but also to others that somehow got to this point of a comment section. thank you for your time and have a nice day.
Uh, no, that’s not how it’s used. It originated as a Black culture version of “dude” like “Dude, your girlfriend is toxic snd needs to go”. It’s basically a way of saying “girl, look me in the eyes and listen to what I’m saying”. You only think negatively of it because it originated from Black culture.
@@jacklynheath3780Nah, he's just saying that sentences starting with "Girl, ..." are generally incorrect. He could have said it more clearly and concisely, but this doesn't seem like r/iamverysmart.
I don't agree with people at all saying that he would be an asshole for leaving her and kicking her out while pregnant. Takes two to tango and she's the one who is not healthy at ALL. RUN
The bride and grrom could and should have communicated this better but wearing a wedding dress to a wedding that isnt your own still sounds like a really stupid idea.
But it wasn't a wedding as far as op knew it was a costume party and after it changed to a wedding the husband said it was fine. So how is op in the wrong?
Ugh the one at 30:00 this is good reason enough to abort ASAP and cut all the ties, because having child with him will make abusor keep a hold on you forever
Dude is someone threw out my formula for my kid i would absolutely be throwing hands. I didnt produce milk until a week after i got out of the hospital. I did use reusable diapers (still used disposable wipes cuz babies skin are sensitive and yeah) because i was jobless living at my moms and that saved my ass for the first few months. But if u threw out hundreds almost thousands of dollars worth of baby supplies (1 can of formula cost 20 bucks for a small can the big ones are 40 amd those arent even the special diet ones like soy or anything else which almost double in price, and prices range for individual area, im lucky enough to live in the cheaper part of the US). They would have had charged pressed and sued,i dont care about crunchy FED IS BEST i dont give a shit, and pacies help with babies who cluster feed, babies who need to soothe/colic, ect. And for a box of diapers is 60$
Also the story with Aiden. . . . IT IS NOT UR CHILDS RESPONSIBILITY TO CARE FOR UR OTHER CHILDREN, regardless of age, disability or anything else. That is ur job as a parent, yes u can ask to help out once in a while lets say cooking dinner one night a week, baby sitting with an allowance, ect. But do not expect ur adult child to raise ur teenager regardless of the issue that is present. If u cant handle ur teenage kid hire someone (theres ways to get help through the state for an in home care/nurse/nanny sort of thing for people with disabilities/lower brain function/medical issues). Do not put that responsibility on ur other children especially when they are supposed to be moving on with their life. Its different if they live at home with u and u guys try to find something to work out (like the original agreement stated) but sabotage is bs. And it sounds like since they can afford an apartment ontop of current expenses they can afford an in home caretaker, even if its only for a couple hours a day/every couple days
The first story makes me sad and envious at the same time. My ex parents in law were horrible. All they wanted was control over my toddler and when i didnt give it they talked my ex into full custody. Me, being in the bible belt/atheist/ broke, didnt stand a chance against rich bible wielding jerks. 10 years of therapy and meds still haven't helped.
Story 5 i think 14:08 :how much more nicer could they be in their response I would've been more assholeish to the family, the family is straight up saying you're an asshole for not letting us control your wedding
14:10 wdym they could ahve been a little nicer? this is their wedding whihc to my understading is a celebration of the bride and groom, so its their say, their choice period.
Nah the infertility and blunt brother in law, her sister and her bf are BOTH major assholes, like she wants it 100% her bfs way and doesnt respect anyone else or their feelings?
Also the one who has fertility issues, I was 42 and had a normal baby. He’s 3 now and is a healthy kid with no issues. Yes you can have issues when older but you have a chance at having issues when younger as well. One of my friends had a baby in her 20s and he’s autistic, it’s not a guaranteed outcome because you’re younger.
Story 1: is this voice actually an AI or did the narrator seriously not realize that "DIL" stood for DAUGHTER in law and not DAD in law x] Took me 3 listens to that start to figure out it was being read wrong and this wasn't about a trans man surrigating for his daughter or something.
Not gonna lie, these stories seem extremely hard to belive. I belive you should read those as you would watch a movie, not taking it seriously because it's most like made up. Nothing agaisnt made up stories as I just read them for entertainment porpuses, I actually respect the creativity.
I'm "brutally honest," do NOT ask my opinion if you think you might not want to hear what I have to say. On the other hand, I'm not going to give you my opinion unsolicited unless it's important, like I think you're making a big mistake, and we're close. There are some exceptions, usually involving me directly or something illegal.
Nah, it's their wedding. If you're giving money as a gift, it's a gift. Very entitled and rude to do that to a couple. In terms of the name thing, sexism. Plain and simple. Nobody would care if she took his name. If youre giving a straight couple shit for this- youre just being sexist.
Because this is the first time they threw things away... Having a differing opinion, even trying to convince others to your way of thinking isn't wrong (as long as you're not an AH about it), so there was no sign that these people would straight out destroy OP's property to force OP to their way of living.
Omg this is why I don't visit reddit much anymore. Too much mental illness all around. Worse - decent people are unaware they're around total jerks and etc.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v no it's not it's removal of a parasite, and it's the woman's choice what to do with her body. Not fictional religion(which hint is all religions), not old crusty men in the us government, not any government at all.
Costume party - NTA. OP got the first green light when they asked for a theme and got no restrictions. They came in a cosplay of the Corpse Bride and didn’t get asked to change then. Then, the now-husband gave another green light saying it’s fine. The a-holes are both the friend and husband. She’s an a-hole for not giving restrictions on a surprise wedding then getting so overly upset about it. The husband is an a-hole for telling him it’s fine when he offered to change and trying to backtrack. The pair as a collective are a-holes for blocking him over this silly surprise idea.
Dad in law? You mean daughter in law right?
I thought that was on purpose to screw with us XD
@@Sclasspsycho yeah maybe!! Or to get more comments, or to just see who's paying attention lol
Dad in law.
either comment bait or just them tryna mess with the people watching LOL
@@dominocut2963 These are just scripts being read with probably zero feedback, he obviously legitimately didn't know that DIL was daughter-in--law. It's not comment bait or a prank, he's just reading words on a paper, and not paying attention to the post he's reading.
The fact that the narrator ended up saying 'Dad in Law' instead of 'Daughter in Law' in the first story is both funny and confusing ngl
I would guess its comment bait
@@lesouth0348 They obviously are just reading a script with zero comprehension of what they're reading.
@@kugetsu They're reading from the story...
@@Yuruble the story is a script
@@geometricaldashing-yy1fj They're readingthe redit story. They add in commentary. that's not scripted
the wife saying that "it's different" annoyed me quite a bit. it's NOT DIFFERENT smh. how would the wife feel if some creep was sexually harassing her daughter and someone said "it's different" when she defended her daughter?? 😐
Exactly! Men can be objectified too. Females can be creeps too.
@@Musicalsfangirl exactly. being a disgusting creep isn't just for one gender or the other, it's for all genders and ages. smh
@@NorsePearl that and anybody who stupidly assumes that a man would "enjoy" being touched without their consent is beyond messed up. what kind of person would say something like that?? 😤
The one with the baby formula being thrown out made my blood boil. People need to know their boundaries. My MIL did stuff like that. Every time she came in my home she would throw out things she didn't think fit in my home and it almost caused us to divorce. Intrusive people just irk me to no end.
Especially since there was very recently a formula shortage. (May still be one, I don't have kids so I haven't paid close attention.) Like, do you want this baby to starve? Also throwing out a product that has already been purchased doesn't save the environment at all. This whole situation just makes me so mad.
Edit to add: I looked it up and we are still in the middle of a formula shortage.
Story 2: NTA, you were told it was a costume party. You even asked if there were any dress codes & were told no. When asked if you should change, you were again, told no. Their lack of planning & communication is not your emergency.
THIS!!!
I disagree. What kind of person needs to be TOLD not to wear a wedding dress to an ENGAGEMENT party? She clearly had a bunch of other costumes to choose from. She "thought it would be funny", but, from my perspective anyway, it's really only funny if the bride-to-be were to wear it. "BuT tHeY sAiD nO dReSs CoDe" How exactly does one form a dress code for an un-themed costume party other than "don't have your ass hanging out"? Again, nobody should have to be told not to wear a wedding dress to an engagement party. So I'm sure the possibility of her coming in a wedding dress, especially when they probably know she has SO many costumes, didn't even cross their minds. "BuT tOlD hEr ShE dIdN't HaVe To ChAnGe." The GROOM told her she didn't have to change. NOT the bride. He didn't even consult the bride, as evidenced by the later text conversation.
I don't think the bride is handling it correctly. She could have asked her to change herself or asked someone else to do it for her. She certainly shouldn't be harassing OP over text. Groom is a POS, too. But all-in-all, the situation wouldn't have even started if OP had the common sense not to wear the wedding-dress cosplay to an engagement party.
And dressing as Corpse Bride at an engagement party is genius anyways.
Dude "DIL" means "daughter in law" in this context
Lmao he was just making a joke(I think) I’m pretty sure he knows
@@Jack-id1lq No... I'm pretty sure he was just wrong
@@tkmax2119 he probably said it to get more comments
@@tkmax2119well I guess we'll never know, right?
What else would it mean
"That's not how that final sentence should be made" (16:22) says the guy that read "daughter-in-law" as "dad-in-law" a million times on story 1. lmao
*Father cancels his son's job application*
Also father: You're unhinged
28:00 there was a study conducted where some sort of I think customer service place set up mirrors behind the cashiers, and the conclusion was that angry customers were much less nasty when they could see themselves.
That’s why they have mirrors in bars in my town.
do you even know if they was upset or just had a neutral or resting btch face?
Throwing away single use baby products is totally unacceptable imo. Even if the mom decided to switch to reusable products, all the single use stuff is going to end up in landfill anyway so she might as well use what she has left.
It's just like when people go vegan but keep their leather shoes because it's more wasteful to replace them with pleather shoes.
16:36 amazing how people think it’s fine to be “brutally honest” and then get terminally offended when someone is brutally honest back at them.
It's at the point where if somebody's obviously doing the brutally honest shtick you just automatically know to handle them with the kid gloves.
It's very immature.
Yes. My cousin was brutally honest. Asked me my opinion about a dress her best friend gave her. I tild her the truth - it made her look pregnant. She got mad at me.
The fuck does terminally offended even mean?
@littlemoth4956 late, but I'm pretty sure it means essentially permenantly offended. Seems like most "brutally honest" people NEVER forget or forgive for someone being brutally honest back. I've known a "brutally honest" guy (friend of a friend) who brought up something I said after he straight up insulted my weight for no reason and I hit him back with my opinion on his own looks after NINE years. It's dumb as hell
@@littlemoth4956 originally it was “mortally offended”, which meant that the offense was great enough to warrant a challenge to a duel. Terminally offended is just a modern rephrasing.
bro him calling it dad in law messed me up till i realized it was daughter in law lol
18:00 Your son is not his brothers keeper! His brother is not his responsibility, he is yours as the parents! It sucks to be disabled, I am, one of my siblings is. But we are not our other siblings responsibility! I cannot stand the mentality that one child has to be the permanent caregiver of their sibling. Helping is one thing, trapping one sibling to force them to be a caregiver is another.
Very valid and accurate point, but bad choice of words. "I am not my brother's keeper" is what Kane said when asked where his brother was. I wouldn't recommend doing an impression of the guy who murdered his brother and was lying about it to make that particular point.
Sorry if you saw those gibberish comments. I must've pocketed my phone without locking it.
Not everyone believes what is written in that book.
Brutally Honest story:
If you can't take it, don't dish it out.
If someone ever claims to be brutally honest, you should always stop to ask them or yourself- "Well, are you more concerned about the brutality, or the honesty?"
Ah yes, dad in law
Story 3: NTA - the "I can do it, but you can't" mentality is beyond childish. If she can dish it out but can't take it, then she needs to stop serving. She's the one who was making fun of you, and you tried to play it off as a jokes & be kind. She pushed it not you.
Guys their Dad gave birth
15:50 She was just being brutally honest to be fair
My thoughts exactly!
I always love these stories but so many of them are so one sided.
That's because most of them are fake.
Story 9: NTA - Did you mary a child??? He seems very immature & doesn't seem to value the relationship you have. TBH, I would think about separating or taking a break. You seem more invested in the relationship than he does.
being brutally honest and insulting people are 2 different things
Also brutal honesty and incredible stupidity is a bad mix
Story 12: NTA- What's with all these people marying children? He's also going to be a dad, so why can't he work? What's so hard about making sure you turn off your own lights before going to bed??? Why do you need to apologize, but not him?
Story 4: NTA - It's not their stuff to throw out. If they "don't have the money to replace it" then they shouldn't have thrown it out. it's one thing to live a certain lifestyle, but it's another completely to force people to live the same as you.
Especailly since baby formula is a hot commodity item.
The formula thing made me see red. Some babies are lactose intolerant, some babies don't do well with breast milk, breastfeeding doesn't work for some moms. Whatever the reason, fed is best and WE ARE IN THE MIDDLE OF A FORMULA SHORTAGE! This is just absolutely reprehensible behaviour.
Baby supplies are expensive as hell, SIL needs to pay up asap
Last Name: Why do these people even care that much about someone else's last name?
Cuz sexism unfortunately, someone in the comments was saying "the husband was in charge" .....as if that's a normal and healthy way to view a marriage
ICU nurse doesn't need marriage counseling. She needs a divorce lawyer.
14:28
That is not brutally honest, that is bigotry. He is throwing out his offensive opinions and making excuses under the guise of "brutally honest". Brutally honest is not that. Brutally honest is: 'so I did this project recently and-' 'hey! I notice that there are a few things that are wrong within this project, for example...' "Brutally honest" people are (from my experience) often autistic/neurodivergent people. As a "brutally honest" person myself, I can say that I feel the need to apologize profusely before and after info dumping. Many autistic people feel compelled to correct information they identify as false, this happens so much that there's a title for it. For clarification, I am NOT saying that neurotypical people can't be brutally honest, they can.
My fucking god I didn't even realize I was writing an essay 💀💀
Exactly! Too many people use being "brutally honest" as an excuse to insult others and be phobic towards certain groups.
A lot of these are WILD, and alot of these people are cry bullies. A cry bully is when a bully acts like the victim just to be clear. Out of all of these, for some reason the last one really got me heated. Ill telll you why. 1st, Ops friend didnt have to say anything and her BS reason that it was "for the record." What record??? This dude they're taking to is a complete stranger and this bs record wont matter if u decided to never go back to that store, or if he quit tomorrow even. You'd never see him again, nor do you have to as he's just some cashier. Also, not everyone wants to be like, Ya, I inherited my house! My partents died! 😊" This just feel like her "friend" was waiting for a moment to make how she got her house a Gotcha moment. This person is NOT her friend. And she went ahead and straight up LIED about buying her house as well??? She was totally trying to feel and seem superior to her friend for some weird ass reason. And not even to someone important or someone they actually know. Wanting to look good to strangers that you dont have to interact with is fkn WEIRD, much less making a gotcha moment out of your friend's parents deaths. Real friends dont do this. Normal people dont do this!
The costume party story - OP is NTA at all. This couple was stupid in thinking that that was a good idea. The video they saw was obviously a set-up and not spontaneous like they make it seemed in the video. Don’t believe every video you see online as face value. Prank channels for one always have a set-up because they want the desired reaction from whomever the prank is played on. It’s how they make the content they want to post.
If someone that old is being creepy towards someone that young that means they would go younger if they could, 18-19yr olds dont look much different from a 16yr old, if a much older adult asks a 19yr old to take their shirt off they would definitely ask a 16yr old the same thing
28:07 NTA, though you should definitely apologise and say that you tried to talk to him about it but this was the only way you could get him to listen.
Your mom is right, but this should hopefully at least get him to think about his behaviour
33:07 NTA! If she trusts her friend more than her HUSBAND then she can go stay with her only if the house isn’t the wives!
Story 5: NTA - It's your wedding, not theirs. It would be like if someone gave you a laptop but told you could only play Pacman on it. It's not a gift if you tell them what they HAVE to do with it. My parents helped pay for my sister's wedding big time, and even then they made suggestions that they didn't expect my sister to follow. Not showing up because someone else's wedding wasn't what you expected it to be is childish.
DAUGHTER IN LAW
23:40 - I haven't finished the story yet but there is no way he isn't having sex with his friend - or at the very least emotionally cheating with this friend.
The “AITA? I didn’t attend my son’s wedding, I instead spent the evening with his ex wife.” one feels like it isn’t even a question (if you remove the context. But, I agree with the people who said he’s NTA. If I hadn’t have heard the context, though, I’d have said you’re probably the a-hole.
Sometimes you just have to let them cook.
Not always though.
@alunbuss7877 Don't know what "let them cook means," but you should always know the full picture before judging.
@DevilsAdvocate669 that's exactly what it means hahaha
They said it was a costume party, no? What was everyone else costumed as; Does a sexy nun, clown, or random zombie make the cut, but corpse bride is the line? Weird
Story 7 :NTA, your husband is. It's not your kid's job to be a caretaker. If your husband wanted him to be, that's something he should have talked about. HE is the one being selfish by expecting your son to give up everything to be a caretaker. I'm autistic & need support, I would never expect my siblings to be the one to provide that for me. Also, isn't inpersonating someone to cancel jobs like fraud or something? As in illegal?
"My dad in law gave birth-"
Wait WHAT
" brutally honest" people , either are on the spectrum , a huge jerk, or both!
Not to mention there's A little bit of a difference between "brutally honest" and "nobody asked you"
Throwing away the disposable diapers makes no sense. Like the waste was already created. May as well use it all. It’s absolutely better for the environment to use second hand washable diapers and wipes but like… she added those disposables into the garbage pit unused for NO REASON. Now those diapers will exist for another 500 years and they didn’t even see the intended use.
I was literally watching an older aita video of yours when this came out lol
Story 11: NTA - some people need to be shocked to make a change. You're showing him what he's like & he realized he didn't like it. So he's blaming you for showing him.
So many of these AITA posts, the OP is definitely not the AH, they're just surrounded by unreasonable idiots. Although there are definitely some exceptions
A lot of these are very one-sided stories. Whenever someone is surrounded by idiots and jackasses in their opinion, it's usually them...
How could they have been any nicer about the gifted money? They literally put it politely and respectfully
The more I listen to these stories the more baffled I am at just how many people think that someone should take someone else's abuse in silence... and for the dumbest reasons ever
I would rather have absolutely no family and zero contact with all of them then to take someone's behaviour and abuse in silence
22:21 I heard all I needed to hear.
"Your honor, League of Legends."
*"Death."*
Story 8: NTA - It's not like the underage people would drink the alcohol. & he also made the dress ffs, most likely without compensation. My sister had a childfree wedding, but made allowances for cousins that we are close to. Cousins we don't see very often. If she could make allowances, why couldn't your sister make allowance for your son (her nephew) & the person who made the fucking dresS???
My doesn't brain work is the most valid excuse I have heard in a while
That first one sounds like the mother enabled the son.
Definitely!
she opened the room now see must clean it🤣
Story 1 - That he was so quick to start dating & then mary tells me that he was already seeing her when he was married. The son is the ahole
Wow... some of these people..
"I'm brutally honest"
Okay but did anybody ask for your opinion?
That's not brutal honesty babe.
In the one with the Dad and his 16f daughter mocking him, Id say ESH. The dad could be more tactful and grateful for his wife helping home, but at the same time... His daughter could have gotten the point across another way. After all, him earning money is equal (if not more important) to taking good care of the house; he deserves some respect too
about the one with the woman trying to get the 19-year-old shirtless: if you see no problems here or think the guy was too aggressive, swap the genders and have an old man trying to get a 19-year-old girl to take off her shirt. still don't see a problem?
I.. Why are there no comments yet? *looks at timestamp* Oh.. Huh
Dad in law bro its daughter in law you're killing me
26:30 Has he never heard of a microwave oven?
idk man sometimes these stories feel like “AITA for killing my wife?” and then the story is sth like “I know this sounds bad but here’s the twist: she was osama bin laden.” like idk in all of these youre taking the whole story from one side (obviously) and noone wants to sound like the asshole or even feel like one, so they’ll (knowingly or not) change the story around to sound better. idk
40 and single story: Remember hearing this on Rslash's channel years ago, and my thoughts still stand. NTA. Brenda fucked around and found out. She poked her nose where it doesn't belong and then had the balls to complain when it got bitten off. Everyone giving you shit for you and your husband's dynamic needs to shut up.
NTA. 8 tubs of formula alone is gonna be almost $80. Diapers and wipes at least another $30 depending on how many she had. I currently have closer to $60 of diapers and wipes.
I’d never be able to replace those things in a day, I’d be way more rude about it.
I’d be showing up at brothers house
Lol
bro for crying outoud use a GODDAMN DECLICKER
I feel like brutally honest is probably fake or at least over exaggerated. But honestly I don’t really know why someone would defend someone saying that on their birthday like it’s literally just ableism and a smudge of maybe incelly
31:16 a little observation from a constantly online person (so just take my rant with a grain of sulfuric acid): all the statements starting with "girl-", "gurl-" or similiar are false, unhinged or plain stupid in ~70% of situations, which is concerning because it's a culture that I do not understand, but have a vision of it being mostly negative, which in turn may be not the only case, but also it's hilarious to take on such things as they are something to talk about and maybe you, as a reader, can explain not only to me, but also to others that somehow got to this point of a comment section. thank you for your time and have a nice day.
R/iamverysmart
Uh, no, that’s not how it’s used. It originated as a Black culture version of “dude” like “Dude, your girlfriend is toxic snd needs to go”. It’s basically a way of saying “girl, look me in the eyes and listen to what I’m saying”. You only think negatively of it because it originated from Black culture.
@@jacklynheath3780Nah, he's just saying that sentences starting with "Girl, ..." are generally incorrect.
He could have said it more clearly and concisely, but this doesn't seem like r/iamverysmart.
I don't agree with people at all saying that he would be an asshole for leaving her and kicking her out while pregnant. Takes two to tango and she's the one who is not healthy at ALL. RUN
The bride and grrom could and should have communicated this better but wearing a wedding dress to a wedding that isnt your own still sounds like a really stupid idea.
But it wasn't a wedding as far as op knew it was a costume party and after it changed to a wedding the husband said it was fine. So how is op in the wrong?
Ugh the one at 30:00 this is good reason enough to abort ASAP and cut all the ties, because having child with him will make abusor keep a hold on you forever
Dude is someone threw out my formula for my kid i would absolutely be throwing hands. I didnt produce milk until a week after i got out of the hospital. I did use reusable diapers (still used disposable wipes cuz babies skin are sensitive and yeah) because i was jobless living at my moms and that saved my ass for the first few months. But if u threw out hundreds almost thousands of dollars worth of baby supplies (1 can of formula cost 20 bucks for a small can the big ones are 40 amd those arent even the special diet ones like soy or anything else which almost double in price, and prices range for individual area, im lucky enough to live in the cheaper part of the US). They would have had charged pressed and sued,i dont care about crunchy FED IS BEST i dont give a shit, and pacies help with babies who cluster feed, babies who need to soothe/colic, ect. And for a box of diapers is 60$
Also the story with Aiden. . . . IT IS NOT UR CHILDS RESPONSIBILITY TO CARE FOR UR OTHER CHILDREN, regardless of age, disability or anything else. That is ur job as a parent, yes u can ask to help out once in a while lets say cooking dinner one night a week, baby sitting with an allowance, ect. But do not expect ur adult child to raise ur teenager regardless of the issue that is present. If u cant handle ur teenage kid hire someone (theres ways to get help through the state for an in home care/nurse/nanny sort of thing for people with disabilities/lower brain function/medical issues). Do not put that responsibility on ur other children especially when they are supposed to be moving on with their life. Its different if they live at home with u and u guys try to find something to work out (like the original agreement stated) but sabotage is bs. And it sounds like since they can afford an apartment ontop of current expenses they can afford an in home caretaker, even if its only for a couple hours a day/every couple days
How does a 23 yr old have an allowance???
The first story makes me sad and envious at the same time. My ex parents in law were horrible. All they wanted was control over my toddler and when i didnt give it they talked my ex into full custody. Me, being in the bible belt/atheist/ broke, didnt stand a chance against rich bible wielding jerks. 10 years of therapy and meds still haven't helped.
10:55 editing stops for a while
Story 5 i think 14:08 :how much more nicer could they be in their response I would've been more assholeish to the family, the family is straight up saying you're an asshole for not letting us control your wedding
8:19 Wow what a hypocrite brenda is also a mysoginist
The most bait subreddit on existence
If that affects your sons care, why dont you take care of him, its your job not your sons
14:10 wdym they could ahve been a little nicer? this is their wedding whihc to my understading is a celebration of the bride and groom, so its their say, their choice period.
FORGOT TO COMMENT i would have been comment 6 :(
Nah the infertility and blunt brother in law, her sister and her bf are BOTH major assholes, like she wants it 100% her bfs way and doesnt respect anyone else or their feelings?
Is this AI? Dad in law? Lol😂
Also the one who has fertility issues, I was 42 and had a normal baby. He’s 3 now and is a healthy kid with no issues. Yes you can have issues when older but you have a chance at having issues when younger as well. One of my friends had a baby in her 20s and he’s autistic, it’s not a guaranteed outcome because you’re younger.
Story 1: is this voice actually an AI or did the narrator seriously not realize that "DIL" stood for DAUGHTER in law and not DAD in law x]
Took me 3 listens to that start to figure out it was being read wrong and this wasn't about a trans man surrigating for his daughter or something.
Wedding are not necessary
Daughter in law I think you mean
Not gonna lie, these stories seem extremely hard to belive. I belive you should read those as you would watch a movie, not taking it seriously because it's most like made up. Nothing agaisnt made up stories as I just read them for entertainment porpuses, I actually respect the creativity.
I'm "brutally honest," do NOT ask my opinion if you think you might not want to hear what I have to say. On the other hand, I'm not going to give you my opinion unsolicited unless it's important, like I think you're making a big mistake, and we're close. There are some exceptions, usually involving me directly or something illegal.
Nah, it's their wedding. If you're giving money as a gift, it's a gift. Very entitled and rude to do that to a couple.
In terms of the name thing, sexism. Plain and simple. Nobody would care if she took his name. If youre giving a straight couple shit for this- youre just being sexist.
You should out timestamps
Daughter in law*
10:20 I feel no sympathy for this OP you already lnew these people why tf did you let them watch your child? 😂
Because this is the first time they threw things away... Having a differing opinion, even trying to convince others to your way of thinking isn't wrong (as long as you're not an AH about it), so there was no sign that these people would straight out destroy OP's property to force OP to their way of living.
Omg this is why I don't visit reddit much anymore. Too much mental illness all around. Worse - decent people are unaware they're around total jerks and etc.
Is it just me or is there something wrong with the audio?
Did you really have to edit in a belch RIGHT into the mic? Common decency says you edit OUT that stuff.
Naw That was hilarious
@@FrancisR420 I grew out of thinking burping and farting was funny when I was 11...
God damn im very early
This video is poorly edited and I didn't enjoyed you puking into the microphone.
The thumb nail aita line. Spend w sons ex on his wedding and have to ask?
17 is not child labor.
They are not a legal adult, so they are still a child
@@Elf-yourself You can legally work at 17 in most countries, and they are considered working-age adults per the Bureau of Labor Statistics.
@user-fe8gx3ie5v yes, but without payment, it's considered child labor. She wasn't going to pay him or even invite him to the wedding
@@Elf-yourself It's child labor whether you pay for it or not. Unpaid labor is indentured servitude or slavery.
that's definitely a minor therefore child labor
Taking your wife's last name is worthy of roasting.
Elaborate
@@Applz_ It generally means you are not the one in charge or at least have an equal standing to your wife.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v And having an equal standing to your partner is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship.
@@making5641 And being your wife's bitch isn't the way to do it. You have to take the lead as the husband.
@Red_Diamond The ignorant don't ask. Geniuses illuminate.
Brutally honest guy is right about w*men having kids too old can be bad for kids they conceive.
It works the same for women and men. Guys forget their sperm gets old too which leads to issues as well. It's not just on the women.
Abortion is murder, and telling someone to get an abortion over a fight is beyond cruel. R*ddit moment.
Bro censors the word Reddit💀
@@spartelkat My m*m says I shouldn't say bad words.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5vabortion isn't murder
@@pikachufantastic It's homicide that is not self-defense or accidental, so yes, it is murder.
@@user-fe8gx3ie5v no it's not it's removal of a parasite, and it's the woman's choice what to do with her body. Not fictional religion(which hint is all religions), not old crusty men in the us government, not any government at all.
Costume party - NTA. OP got the first green light when they asked for a theme and got no restrictions. They came in a cosplay of the Corpse Bride and didn’t get asked to change then. Then, the now-husband gave another green light saying it’s fine.
The a-holes are both the friend and husband. She’s an a-hole for not giving restrictions on a surprise wedding then getting so overly upset about it. The husband is an a-hole for telling him it’s fine when he offered to change and trying to backtrack. The pair as a collective are a-holes for blocking him over this silly surprise idea.