Traditional Arab or Pakistani wedding, maybe, or possibly an Indian wedding. I can think of a few other places this could be, including parts of the US. There are huge swathes of the world where weddings are MASSIVE and expensive, and girls are expected to stay home.
Yeah especially if 13k is "almost all gone" that makes me think that there was probably 80-100k in each (Idk I'm not sure how much college costs) so let's assume that there was 100k in each, that's 187k between the both, From what I can tell average weddings with anywhere between 50-75 people including additional costs of the dress venue etc, are a MAXIMUM of 50-60k (Depends on where you live/go but I've heard of plenty of weddings where including all this can be done for 20-40k) so that "almost all gone" could've payed for quite a large portion of the average wedding, how the hell did they manage to dump so much of that money into a wedding, not only is it a waste for 1 day you're using stolen money for it which will probably lead to being arrested for theft (Again Depends on where you live) so with that in mind My own personal theory is They used a decent sum of the money for the wedding and potentially put the rest towards investments or are hoarding the rest of it for themselves and lying OR they gave the rest to the brother for financial stability Regardless of what happened I pray she gets/got her money back and her family are 100% A-Holes for that
I've never understood why people spend so much on one day where the relationship is likely to end in divorce a couple years later, you could buy a house and start a family with that kind of money, you know, the reason people get married in the first place for, rings are also dumb expensive but at least it's tangible and you can sell it
Period talk story- I’d talk to y’all’s caseworker. She is obviously neglecting those kids and she called OP a pervert for not neglecting his kids and forcing the oldest one to just free bleed through their clothes. Nah, the oldest is old enough to decide if they even want to go see their mom at all
Oh my god, the one with the dad and his daughter who just started her period pisses me off so much. What the dad did is what the girl needed! She tried to call her mom about it and she was ignored. How is he the bad guy for making sure his daughters know about something they will all eventually have to deal with, products for it, and whatnot? He was being a responsible parent!
Because mom is a narcissist, and this is classic deflection. Sure, she didn't answer her phone, but it's not her fault, and besides it's *far* worse what he did, that creep old creeper. Le sigh* Can you tell I know this song and dance?
I hate how men are called “perverted” for talking about periods. ALL genders should know what periods are. Some mean date women, some men have daughters, some men are teachers and deal with girls who start their periods and panic about it. They need to know
@@vidal9747So you have to provide whole ass documentation just to say your heritage now? Why is it something you'd need to prove in 95% of situations? That's so stupid
Not only is the woman who refused to make her niece the flower girl NTA, I'd argue that she's in the running for stepmother of the year. People don't understand how important it is for a stepchild to feel loved and included by their new family.
Depending how they go about it and what the kid is like, it could also turn out awful for their self-esteem if they end up feeling like they can't meet any expectations set up for them, especially if those expectations are unreasonable but they can't tell that they are. (Source: I was one of those kids.)
Babysitting for 3 days story- Selfish? I GUARANTEE they wouldn’t pay op a single dime for those kids when they dragged their drunk asses back home. They’d push it off and and when op demanded to be paid they’d cry and scream that op was putting money before family. Cheap trick can watch her own kids like an actual parent. They came out your clam cannon it’s your problem
Ah but when you do the math. It's fun. 3 kids x 15$ x 68 hours the parents would not have enjoyed me. From th moment they left a timer would have been running. Even overnight if the parents weren't there. Then Id be blocking the door and have the non emergency police number if they refused to pay the cash owed immediately.
I love that dude who taught his daughters about periods Periods are nothing to be ashamed of. All people should have at least basic understanding of periods, and how they effect the body. Doesn’t matter what your gender is. Especially kids. Young girls, or those who have periods, need to be taught about it. There’s a lot of people I’ve met and been told about who believe it’s not something that should be talk of, but instead to be ashamed of Which is stupid. Ah yes, I’m gonna be ashamed, be bullied in school, because I have a bodily function, which is completely normal, each month.
In fact, half the population, 3.7 billion people, have or had periods. Let's not demonize something that our mothers had, our sisters have, and our daughters will have, because thats just kind of creepy even seeing it as sexual..
the story at 13:04 reminds me of that one spongebob episode where spongebob and patrick care for a baby clam. while spongebob does all of the work for the clam, patrick just sits at home and watches tv all day
10:30 also to add, periods arent sexual. Far from it actuslly So for those trying to call a dude perverted for talking about it with their kids (or honestly, just in general);is part of the problem they try to "call" people out for
i think those people are the type to think all men are predators until proven innocent. pretty sad, especially since their biggest targets are single dads with daughters who are just trying to live happy lives :(
The thumbnail reminds me of my employer who fired me for accumulating too many points for… visiting my dying grandma and going to her funeral halfway across the country. Great times.
I LOVE when the title is phrased in a way that the story of WHY is way more important than the actual act. Likewise, when you get a title that has you so sure that it's an obvious Yes/No... only for them to give context that completely flips it.
More dads need to be comfortable with discussing things like periods, especially if they have any children or partners that are female. We need to destigmitze periods. It's a very normal and natural thing approx. half the world's population experience. And I'm glad he discussed it with his younger daughters to prepare them. Imagine how scared they would have been once they hit puberty and found they were bleeding and experiencing pain and nausea. His ex shouldn't get pissy with him for discussing basic human functions, and I find it ironic that she called HIM immature! She's the immature one for being hush hush about periods, and for leaving her family for another man, and for never forming a relationship with her daughters.
the person who looked after the kids, while the husband was home is practically a saint ngl (along with the father helping his daughters learn about periods)
I don’t think it’s a crime to use someone’s credit card if they give you permission, she literally told the cashier she had permission and the karen didn’t even listen
So weird thing, it's very iffy about that, let's say the cops were called and the dad came, the cops would be under the assumption that it was stolen from their father or something of the sort. Now if the dad says otherwise, nothing happens. But if this woman did end up calling the cops, these two girls would be held at least until their father could be contacted unless they're adults, then... that's a maybe either way
Unless cashiers start being required to see IDs whenever someone uses a credit card, this is just stupid. Even if it's legally a grey area, it's so unenforced that it's ridiculous to see how hard the OP went in on the girl. The only reason OP had a problem with the girl using the card, was because she heard her say it was her father. And she just assumed it was stolen.
TLDR: Yes, its a crime but it's covered with loopholes that stores use to get out of liability. Store owner who went through a similar situation. It depends on the card, agreements, and the liabilities involved. Most cards, especially with those proprietary store cards, have strict agreements were only an authorized user can use the card. If anyone else uses it, it Is automatically classified as fraud and everyone (cashier, store, the girl) could be in major legal trouble since the girl admitted to it's not personally hers. The cashier taking the card implicates the store since they 'knowing participated' in the fraud and, as what happens with accepting fake money, the store loses all rights to merchandise since it's 'evidence'. Also, since it's a fraud case with a credit card company at the helm, it's going to take months to deal with and a huge deal of paperwork where everyone is pushing it onto others. So, yea, it's illegal to use a card that's not yours. It's just that stores use customer service reasons to push all liability onto you, the customer, so that we can get off scott free. It's the reason why you swipe your card now (since if the cashier takes it, we accept any possible issue that can come from you using our terminals).
dude, if you said it was okay for me to take your car and use your credit card, I would be totally cool with it. Just hand it over and everyone will be cool with it, I'll tell them you said it was ok, I'll even come to pick them up regardless if you're busy or not, free of charge. I promise no one's going to know the difference. 😁👍 The cops won't have a leg to stand on, because I'll tell them that you said it was "ok". I could even say you were so generous as to lend me your identity, for a day, and I could live in your house and threaten to throw you out, because I live there now. Do you see where I'm going with this yet? If not, I can lie to you some more so it'll sound better, you'll believe me as long as I say so right? You're such a great guy.
Credit card story: Actually going to say NTA, though she could have handled it _way_ better. The fact is, cashiers are _not_ supposed to let you use a card that doesn't belong to you because of potential fraud. They could have offered to call the father and double-check or any number of other things, but initially refusing the sale because the person using it is not the cardholder is policy at _most_ retail outlets
$22 per hour for three kids is the going rate. $35 is a little high, though not completely outrageous. I would probably charge $25. (Overnight also adds to this rate).
@@ryanewald9740 It's all very circumstantial. Depends on how old the kids are, if and when they go to school (if your doing a weekday gig), when they go to bed and wake up, if food/money for food is provided, the kids behavior, personal connection to the parents/family, the families financial status, ect. There's a lot that factors into it and none of can be covered by a specific number. $22 for 3 is average, though it can be higher or lower depending on the circumstances.
The problem isn't how much is normally asked it's that op makes 60 and they wanted them to spend 3 days of their own time at 1/4 of their rate they were generous at a little over half would you spend 3 days taking care of kids all day at 1/4 of your average rate? No you wouldn't their time is worth 60 he should be getting paid atleast 35
About the guy that got fired I do understand a company needing to watch out for high paying positions doing their fare share to make it worth it, but I'm sorry this man got a *1 month* leave after his parents died in a car crash? That is in fact not nearly enough to properly grieve for your loved ones, what in the world did they expect? That he'd be back all fine and dandy like he would after a bad flu? This guy's life changed forever and the companies response was to get him jobless with no warning. THAT is what I'd call unprofessional.
10:36 No. Immediately no. Even if the job is relatively easy to do, unless they live with their parents still, its completely reasonable to have that pricing because you need $35 MINIMUM to pay for everything you need if you live alone.
That credit card one... felt. I was going on a work trip to NYC shortly before my birthday, it was the first time I would be meeting my colleagues in person in NYC. My mom decided she would let me take her JCP credit card and get myself some nice outfits to wear during my meetings as a birthday gift. Total maybe came to around $300. My mom was ON THE PHONE with me, and cashier confiscated the card and called the cops on me because she believed it was stolen. Most embarrassing moment of my life, and I was trespassed from the store so I can't even shop there anymore. Funniest part is, I attempted to pay for it with my own card after she refused to let me use my mom's card, but she also refused to let me pay for it because she had "reason to believe" all of my cards were stolen. What a joke.
as someone who has tattoos and designs tattoos, the tattoo thing is completely NTA. tattoo artists dont sign tattoos, their work speaks for them and their style separates them from other artists. this artist straight up branded you and was using you as a walking advert, so she should be paying you a lot more than a refund.
I’m a professional photographer and I cover events, I’m also mostly bedridden crippled with nerve damage so I pick and choose what events I do, I’ve a good reputation I’ve built since I was 19 and have good contacts and friends that are part of big companies in my city. I also do charity events, where I’m not paid a fee and my time is given to photograph a charity event, this means any fee the charity would’ve paid me can go towards their needs instead, I do a few of these a year. I have an event this coming weekend, it’s a charity event with TV celebrities, some I’ve made friends with over the last decade, the event organiser is a close friend, and the TV celebs whenever visiting my area of Scotland specifically ask for me because they not only know me, but know I’m professional and friendly, I treat them like normal people and don’t hound them like paparazzi. I’m always honoured to work with my friends and their colleagues, especially knowing all of us are taking 0 fee to help out a cancer charity! When talking to the event organiser he knows I’m disabled as I’ve known the guy since I was 19 (32 now) and he makes sure there’s comfortable areas for me to sit so I don’t exhaust my body standing (standing longer than 10 minutes just destroys me, I use a walking cane, lots of pain meds kinda nerve damage), he’s also organised food for me and asked if I wanted to sit anywhere specific at the event and I gave the same answer I always give, “somewhere quiet and out of the way, back of house works fine for me”, and it’ll be a proper meal from this classy hotel/restaurant where the evening part of the event is where rich sponsors pay to sit and have a meal with the TV celebrities, I always ask to sit back of house because I get a break from everyone for a short period of time and don’t wanna take a seat away from a VIP because my friend can use that seat so another high paying VIP can have it, aka more money going to the charity. Even events I’m paid for I get regular breaks, if it’s a regular event like a university student association ball, an oil and gas company ceilidh or burns night, they offer food! If they don’t offer food then I’m also okay with this (rare for this to happen) but make it very clear I’m on a break whilst they eat, it allows me to rest. Folk understand regardless if I’m given food or not, that I’ve already warned them I need regular breaks due to disability and my shooting partner will also be on break (always work with my best friend so we photograph events together). We’ve never had anyone try and harass us for not photographing people during meal time, wanna know why? Because nobody wants their photo taken as they’re eating, nobody wants that. So TLDR: professional photographer here saying NTA, you charged mates rates and they couldn’t even treat you like a mate. I’d honestly post on social media saying there will be no photographs from yourself and to ask the husband why that is and leave it open ended, because I’ve absolutely no doubt you’ll sadly be hounded by some folk for photos and the husband will blame you instead of taking accountability.
21:10 As someone with tattoos, yeah, that’s basically vandalism, no matter how small the watermark is. You give them what you want and you sign off on THAT design. The owner is also the one who chose the full refund. OP just wanted partial
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er again, if she had her parents permission, the first words out of her mouth would have been to call her dad; that she walked off shows she shouldn't have been making the purchase. Op saved the dad from a hell of a shock and disappointment of knowing your own child could do this to him
@@cece9cBecause you know the girl personally and know how she'd react being treated like a thief by a grown woman she doesn't know. By the girls actions shes obviously shy or doesn't like confrontation so of course she didn't argue with a grown stranger threatening police and yes OP was a Karen for thinking it was any of her business on what she was buying, and it doesn't matter if OP Karen didn't think she had permission. She had no idea if she did or not so she should have kept her mouth shut
On that babysitting story… $15/per hour/per kid with a minimum rate of the local living wage would be reasonable. So $45 not $35 would be an appropriate price. Those cousins got a $10/hour discount and were insufferable for it
She probably did no kid is dumb enough to spend 1k on a stolen card but the problem is if the cashier was told it wasn't her card and still let it go through they could be fired and even if she did have permission its her word against the card and the law
AITA needs to be more widely known. Sometimes it gives an entitled prick their comeuppance, but those people are often too up their own asses to think it's a possibility and you get so many posts from people bending over backwards to accommodate entitled jerks and they don't have enough of social circle disconnected from the drama to get real talk about looking out for themselves.
Here's the thing about the credit card story. It's fraud, regardless of whether she has permission. In some jurisdictions it may also be considered identity theft. The whole "I have the cardholder's permission" thing is only valid for online transactions. For a transaction with the physical card, the cardholder _has_ to be the one completing the transaction. If you want to give someone permission to use your card, that's what secondary cards are for: same card number with their own name on it, so they can show ID to prove they're not committing a crime. Its actually even worse if she has permission, because she's still committing exactly the same crime, but then he's _also_ committing a crime because he's an accessory to it.
I love when people try to tell me that I don't know how parenting is, because I don't have my own kids yet. You know what I do have? A baby brother and a neglectful mother. SEVEN little cousins that I often had to watch all at the same time for 5+ hours (up to 12 on weekends and during the summer) 5 or more days a week UNPAID until I started working at 14, because my family decided they were entitled to all of my free time. I still had to watch them often even after I started working and was in high school. AND I have experience with daycare, preschool, martial arts, and sunday school teaching.
If you know this guy can do outstanding work well above his pay grade, why wouldn't you invest in getting him back on his feet? Lesser jobs have gone as far as to make sure their employees have access to therapy in situations like these. Do better.
The one about the dad and daughters had me damn near in tears man, this is the exact opposite of what happened when I got my first period at my dad's house. I was 11 and was given a washcloth and was expected to wash it out in the sink myself if "it gets too bloody" and I wasn't allowed annother one because "You can't just bleed on all the washcloths" so I had to keep wearing the wet one for two days until I went back to my mom's (she was furious and chewed him out on the phone when i got home) im super lucky to have not gotten an infection or anything from that.
story1. I would give a speech saying who i was and why i was leaving. I would not have deleted the photos and instead hold them hostage until a payment of minimum 2x was given. story 2. YTA. did you know she didn't have permission? No. Then STHU. story 3. What did mom want to happen? thegirl freang out until she saw mom? I know a lot of guys that wouldnt do what you did. A+ for parenting
tbh, I understand the ladys worry in story 2. I mean, spending tens of thousands of dollars (because she said well above 4 digits) for a pair of boots is kinda strange. I mean, even if your dad tells you you can use his card because it has points doesn't mean you should go that far overboard. HOWEVER, you don't know what her situation is, maybe her parents are very rich and this is a reward or something, maybe she was in a tragic situation, etc etc. Obviously you dont want to put a family into debt, but maybe she should've asked to call the parents instead of just being rude.
my vote for the credit card lady story is "everyone sucks here" because lady should have approached more "do you have evidence your dad gave permission to spend that much money" and less "you shouldn't pay for that with /daddy's money/, you /lazy, entitled teen!/" but the teen /was/ being /pretty shady/ at the same time, considering she didn't tell her friend before they went to the store, /at minimum/. i don't think the lady should have ignored the fact that it was the teen's father's credit card because it "wasn't her business." i'd feel pretty shitty if one of my siblings stole my credit card and everyone ignored the theft because they claimed to have borrowed it and it "wasn't their business," y'know? and if the teen didn't steal the card, she could have told her dad and gone back to get the stuff she wanted later. tl;dr woman should have handled it with less hostility/smugness but wasn't wrong to question the teen using the card. if the teen had permission she could have went back later so she only really prevented the teen getting the expensive stuff if she stole the credit card.
On the tattoo one, goddess above, you don't deviate from the customer's design for something that can't be undone. What an absolute jerk, not only altering the specific -- VERY specific -- artwork, but branding OP.
Idk, in the last one, I'm wondering if the bio dad said something to his girlfriend to make her think he was getting full custody of the kids after her breakdown over her infertility issues?
I've heard this story before and people were theorizing then that maybe the gf and he came up with this plan, after they found out she was infertile. To get another woman pregnant and then get custody of the baby(s) after birth and that's why she was being so crazy and overboard with everything because they were planning on taking custody of the baby(s) the whole time
6:04 I remember my mum once lent me her debit card to buy a pizza from Papa John's. She wanted me to become more independent. If someone had called the cops on me, it would have been awkward, but I could've just gone to the car to fetchy mum so she could tell the cops I had permission. I'm sure using someone else's card with permission isn't illegal. The fact that she couldn't get her dad to prove she had permission implies there was something suspicious going on. I think OP's NTA.
Not really. The dad could've been unavailable, or she might've just wanted to leave asap since OP was escalating to treating to call the cops. I'd wanna get away from that too.
Idk if I was in that girls situation i would have panicked especially since judging by how OP worded it, it sounds like they weren't gonna let her speak or even try to call her dad and just assumed the worst
Girl racked up 4 digit charge and OP thinks shes lying about her dad giving the card to her? Yea...OP is TA who does need to mind her own dang business. I wish she did call the cops and get told to quit being a karen.
The woman at the store calling out the girl with the card needs to mind her own business. It's her parents'job to parent her. She even threatened to call the cops on her. Wtf. She has no clue what this girl was told. I give my kids my cards ALL the time to use.
22:22 stopping her wouldn't of amounted to anything🤣🤣 the first thing that came to her mind was suspicion that alone tells everything about her🤣🤣 22:31 yep everybody sucks here cause they aren't entitled to behave like you want 🤣 sure bud, and it's toxic so what the relationship ain't gonna last long anyways🥴🥴
The credit card one is exactly the reason named cardholders exists... if the Dad did give permission for the daughter to use his credit, then he should have got her a card on the account, which (AFAIK) you don't have to be the regular credit card age to have. Using another's card, without the evidence of permission, is fraud... simple
7:13 I would say the this person was in the wrong. The dad could totally have allowed her to use it and the OP didn’t know that and just assumed that the girl was spending too much. If she really was spending to much without her dad knowing he would find out on the credit card statements and could deal with it within the family. OP didn’t know the whole story and shouldn’t have butted in.
The period story. That’s mom mindset was so outdated. My dad was the one who gave me the talk when I were a kid because my mom was mostly absent for work and mobile phone was not commonly used. Sex education shouldn’t be seen as taboo.
The credit card one is iffy to me. Yes, he could have given permission. Yes, she could've stolen it. She did admit, in a public space, that it wasn't her card. In a public space! OP saved the girl from federal court and the dad from having a huge credit card bill. But: It's not much, but if she offered to call her dad to confirm permission, if she had it. Which is most likely the cops would've done unless she genuinely stole it from her dads wallet/safe/whatever rich people use. Like i said, real iffy situation.
She admitted it to a *friend*. The only reason the cashier gave a shit was because this Karen was trying to like "expose her" so once there was serious pressure from someone and they threatened to call the police the cashier just had to go along with the Karen because hell they might be considered complicit. Generally, it's not a big deal and most people don't care that much because for credit cards if it is fraud the dad would see on his bank statement, get the charge reversed, and force the daughter to return it. The dad still has access to the financial details of the card and if he sees an unauthorized purchase she would get in trouble Also, it's possible that her dad lets her go shopping because he's busy and can't spend time with her, for example, and maybe he made a rule that she cannot call during work hours because he's some kind of important businessman
@@elizathegamer413 i was going to say similar, if this was in the middle of the day, she might not be able to call him for something as silly as confirmation if hes at work. Which...for many rich kids is the case.
Days per week doesn’t really say anything - it’s the number of total hours that determines full or part time. I work 5 days a week, but I’m only part time because I also only work a 5 hour shift each day. You could work three days a week and be full time, if you worked 13 hour days.
@@anna9072 Nailed it on the head! It made no sense to me that the post in the video quantified the work situation of the "reluctant" father using days per week instead of hours per week.
@@anna9072 Although, my part-time job has me scheduled for 4 shifts of 8.75 hours this week, I don't clock in late and it's rare to be clocked out early or even exactly on the minute scheduled, so I'll likely end up clocking over 35 hours. The line between part-time and full time can be a little blurry on any given week, but I digress...
I love how people are so "outraged" by a kod using thwir parents card. Meanwhile we literally have bank cards that you can tap without using a password, and theres no laws/rules requiring ID to use a bank card. Seems like people are just upset about a kid getting expensive AF boots.
op sounded more like a concerned citizen about potential fraud due to how serious that actually is and would rather be safe than sorry, not everyone showing their concern is an evil karen looking to insert herself into everyone's business despite what a lot of people seem to think
22:48 in middle school this one girl was constantly bombarding me with insults and harrassing me because I was short, and the had the audacity to get pissed at me for telling people she was bullying me. I was aware this girl was insecure of her weight (she knew I was insecure of my height), so I told one of my friends that next time she teases me I'd call her a fatass, and they said I was in the wrong and shouldn't do that, so I told my other friends and only one or two said I should, so I felt like an asshole, I added the timestamp as this is somewhat similar, I guess would I have been the asshole? I still know this girl and I know she still talks behind my back, so I may eventually, I just wanna know what random youtube commenters think
first one is 50-50. they needed to find out what was expected of them and the groom needed to make sure it was an acceptable working environment since he is legally the employer in this matter. second one no. the parents committed theft. the money was hers and not theirs. hope the daughter (?) won the case. third one, nope parents house and the son needs to learn consequences... and what a prenup is. forth one i'll have to agree with everyone as in it wasn't any of her business. let the father deal with it. fifth one no. he is just being a responsible dad which is in short supply as of late. sixth thats a bit pricey even for a babysitting business. also if she thinks it'll be too hard that kinda speaks to saying 'no'. seventh nope not the ahole. eighth not the ahole but really naive at thinking he wasn't going to be unprofessional. people take different amounts of time to grieve. hopefully no one finds out the company name as i'm betting they'll get some negative press on this. ninth not the ahole, but the king. they couldn't even speak italian and they going on like that. lol! tenth my inital reaction after "sticking my nose" was yes. then i listened to the rest and it changed my answer to no. eleventh not the ahole. infact they should have sued for the cost of tatoo removal since nothing (apparently) was said about signing the tattoo and who the hell signs tattoos anyway? twelfth nope the fight wasn't theirs they were just an innocent bystander. 13 not the ahole. and no reason to be humiliated as it was the girl that looked stupid to anyone that mattered. oh and to the narrarator, try what you said if you're white and the other person isn't under the exact same circumstances. see how that turns out. 14 not the ahole if they paid for the beer. debatable if you didn't and the party 'host' (?) just used them to get beer and paid for said beer. next time they should think with the big head instead. 15 not the ahole as its THEIR wedding not the brother/sil. no further debate needed. 16 not the ahole but in for a crapload of trouble cause that woman seems to be unhinged as does her mother.
I'm pissed about the Tattoo. You do NOT put anything on someone else's body without consent. What the hell. People DO put their initials into work sometimes....BUT ONLY WITH CONSENT
That one with the underpants where they immediately jumped to cheating, I'd be like... where's the popcorn. Seriously, that relationship isn't going to last, might as well let it end right there.
credit card story: woman is a Karen. she doesn't care whose business it is as long as she inserts herself to feel important period story: mom is a narcissist. dad is doing everything right. mom was pushing his buttons and did it to make him lose his cool in front of their daughters. dad should go for full custody based on neglect
tbh, I understand the ladys worry in the credit card one. I mean, spending tens of thousands of dollars (because she said well above 4 digits) for a pair of boots is kinda strange. I mean, even if your dad tells you you can use his card because it has points doesn't mean you should go that far overboard. HOWEVER, you don't know what her situation is, maybe her parents are very rich and this is a reward or something, maybe she was in a tragic situation, etc etc. Obviously you dont want to put a family into debt, but maybe she should've asked to call the parents instead of just being rude and forcing the girl to put it on her own card.
@@equinox4901 the point is she should have minded her own business. instead she decided to insert herself into someone else's business and try to be moral about it
Honestly I'd just assume either the parents are rich and just let their daughter buy whatever, or they have some sort of arrangement where its like "ok, just buy it on my card then pay me back". OP sounds crazy for taking it so far.
Now I'm just a simple guy who has only attended 3 weddings in my life but I feel like a compromise on the flower girl thing from the story would be to have...y'know...TWO flower girls? The first wedding I ever attended had two. The third wedding I ever attended had two. The second didn't but that's only because it didn't have an actual aisle. But that's just sidestepping the real problem anyway.
W for the asain girl and she didn't go too far it was a completely valid reaction, i would have actually bullied back the trailer dwelling girl to oblivion🤣🤣(and surprisingly that's the only time the school would have taken any action)
The daughter with daddy's credit card: it sure feels like OP is the AH, but if you take a closer look, is she really? The fact is, even if daughter had permission, it was absolutely a crime for her to use it. "Well, everybody does it?" but, really, so what? A lot of people commit human trafficking, does that mean you shouldn't get involved if you see it? "That's not the same."Except every law that is ignored actually contributes to the perceived weakening of all laws. Ever hear of the "bystander effect"? People will stand around watching terrible crimes take place in front of them, or witness a medical emergency and everyone just stands around doing nothing. It happens all the time. I know it absolutely feels like OP is the AH, but when you look closer, is she really? What if everyone got involved when they see a crime or emergency - can you honestly say the world would be a worse place if people would involve themselves when they see an event like that taking place? I really don't think it would be - I suspect the world would be a better place to live - safer for everyone. But it still FEELS wrong, doesn't it?
the guy that bought the beer is a total simp so you liked a girl in highschool then out of knowwhere she asks you buy somwthing for her and you see nothing fishy going on
Am I missing something here? How is the credit card person TAH? She spots that the kid is about to spend something in the 4 digit mark on SOMEONE ELSE'S CREDIT CARD. Why does it matter that it's her dad's? That's alot of money to randomly let your kid spend on your credit card and it's not like she doesn't have her own card in this case too. Surely there's nothing wrong with getting her to call her dad and making sure she has permission first. I used to buy some stuff at my local corner shop every now and then with my mams card. Once they realised it was hers, they stopped me and waited until they knew I had permission. It's not like they didn't know who we were either, we would always get our quick shopping from there.
When the school isn't handling bullying, *stay on them*. They didn't do anything because "tensions are high"? They're gonna be a hell of a lot higher when there's a lawsuit.
I'm surprised how many people are sayin OP is TAH in the Credit Card story. A lot of kids LIE/STEAL (me being one of them and knowing others who would also lie) in order to do/get something they want, the girl could've easily said "I'll call my dad and you can hear him give me permission" problem would've been solved or the "karen" would back off before she even made the call.
Yes but op stuck her nose where it doesn't belong thats a asshole move It's not her place she's nit the main character mind your own damn business and let her father deal with it if she is lying
And what if dad was busy? Like, sorry but you being a trashy kid doesn't mean you should just assume others are. The only "evidence" OP had, was overheating the kid say it was her dad's card to her friend. There was no reason to escalate like this. Unless you think bank card usage should require identity checks, this is just you projecting.
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er any form of payment that isn't cash absolutely should require an identity check also kids lie all the time, especially when put on the spot like op did
Heck I had a little brother that stole ALL the time like hundreds of dollars. I’m surprised also at how many called her the AH since yeah might seem over the top but clearly if the boots are that expensive I doubt her dad would be ok with it.😅
second story is obviously NTA she probably just saved that girl and their dad from being eaten out by dad and having to see 2,000$ go down the drain cuz your daughter wanted some cool boots respectively
You’re making a whole lot of assumptions there, just like the lady in the story. You know nothing about the girl, her father or any agreement or lack there of between them in regards to the use of the card.
Credit Card Story: I know I'm bias but I know stories of kids stealing their parent's credit card to buy expensive stuff, so I'm glad OP stepped in just in case. NTA imo. If she wanted an expensive bag she can either get her own money for it or have her parents buy it for her.
Its not her buissness though now imagine the kid did have permission for a birthday or something and op stuck her nose where it doesn't belong and stopped her and the kid was saying that her dad was buying It for her using his card with permisson
@@Officerbagel imagine if the little girl's parents went into DEBT because of a pair of frikkin boots that were at the very least 1,000 dollars and probably muchmore. That's not a small amount of money. It might be none of her buisness, but think about what would happen if the little girl was stealing from a father who couldn't afford it. Also, why didnd't the little girl call her Dad to prove she was telling the truth. If she had that kind of money surely she had a cellphone. Litte girl was mad she got caught- and who knows if she'd send her family into debt. Also, even fi she did get permission- are we SURE her father gave her permission to use a credit card that recklessly? Are we sure she didn't intentionally stretch the truth on how expensive these boots are to get "permission" to buy them.
OP didn't handle the situation well, but she had good intentions. I don't think "it's none of 'Karens' buisness" applies wehn she's worried about someone being cheated out of 1,000+ dollars and was worried for someone else's financial safety. If the girl really got permission, she could call her Dad to prove it, or come back with her father. We have no idea of truly knowing whether or not the girl is lying or OP is just being overly nosy, but I think calling her a Karen is a bit much. Karens exist, but I'm not sure OP truly can be considered one when she's just concerned with the little girl putting her fmaily into debt.
@@Officerbagel because kids totally never lie about having permission to do things, why would any child EVER lie about whether theyre allowed to do the thing they want to do??????????
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My question is how expensive is that wedding that they had to use TWO college funds
the brother probably didn’t kick in any of his own money
Traditional Arab or Pakistani wedding, maybe, or possibly an Indian wedding. I can think of a few other places this could be, including parts of the US. There are huge swathes of the world where weddings are MASSIVE and expensive, and girls are expected to stay home.
Yeah especially if 13k is "almost all gone" that makes me think that there was probably 80-100k in each (Idk I'm not sure how much college costs) so let's assume that there was 100k in each, that's 187k between the both, From what I can tell average weddings with anywhere between 50-75 people including additional costs of the dress venue etc, are a MAXIMUM of 50-60k (Depends on where you live/go but I've heard of plenty of weddings where including all this can be done for 20-40k) so that "almost all gone" could've payed for quite a large portion of the average wedding, how the hell did they manage to dump so much of that money into a wedding, not only is it a waste for 1 day you're using stolen money for it which will probably lead to being arrested for theft (Again Depends on where you live) so with that in mind My own personal theory is
They used a decent sum of the money for the wedding and potentially put the rest towards investments or are hoarding the rest of it for themselves and lying OR they gave the rest to the brother for financial stability
Regardless of what happened I pray she gets/got her money back and her family are 100% A-Holes for that
I've never understood why people spend so much on one day where the relationship is likely to end in divorce a couple years later, you could buy a house and start a family with that kind of money, you know, the reason people get married in the first place for, rings are also dumb expensive but at least it's tangible and you can sell it
Period talk story-
I’d talk to y’all’s caseworker. She is obviously neglecting those kids and she called OP a pervert for not neglecting his kids and forcing the oldest one to just free bleed through their clothes. Nah, the oldest is old enough to decide if they even want to go see their mom at all
Oh my god, the one with the dad and his daughter who just started her period pisses me off so much. What the dad did is what the girl needed! She tried to call her mom about it and she was ignored. How is he the bad guy for making sure his daughters know about something they will all eventually have to deal with, products for it, and whatnot? He was being a responsible parent!
she called him a perverted freak but ironically she's the actual perverted freak who left her husband for a bigger d!ck lol
So it’s wrong to be a good dad now? Stop protecting men from women’s bodily functions. You’re big boys, you can handle it
Because mom is a narcissist, and this is classic deflection. Sure, she didn't answer her phone, but it's not her fault, and besides it's *far* worse what he did, that creep old creeper. Le sigh* Can you tell I know this song and dance?
@@amandahall1878it is her fault for not answering her phone
I hate how men are called “perverted” for talking about periods. ALL genders should know what periods are. Some mean date women, some men have daughters, some men are teachers and deal with girls who start their periods and panic about it. They need to know
'You aren't good enough to be in my life now'
- Okay, i'll have my house back then
*surprised Pika*
I'd babysit three kids for three days for $15, but it would be $15 per child per hour.
Exactly and that'd still less than what op would usually be making
Hell, I only charge $9 a kid, and it's still almost double what they wanted to pay.
The Italian story cracked me up. People should try to learn the language if they're *so* proud of their heritage.
I certainly have tried but man Gaelic is a bitch 😂
You just shouldn't say that you're (insert nationality here) if you don't have the documents proving double nationality or grew up on the country.
@@vidal9747So you have to provide whole ass documentation just to say your heritage now? Why is it something you'd need to prove in 95% of situations? That's so stupid
@@bellhop_phantom you don't NEED to show documentation to anyone. You should HAVE it to call yourself that nationality.
Not only is the woman who refused to make her niece the flower girl NTA, I'd argue that she's in the running for stepmother of the year. People don't understand how important it is for a stepchild to feel loved and included by their new family.
TATTOO ARTISTS CAN'T BRAND PEOPLE!
OP is NTA, it is not okay to do this and tattoo artists do not do this.
Yeah that's insane my skin is not a signed piece of art and I would of sued
treating the "miracle" baby like the universe revolves around them is a guarantee to turn them into a demon when they're older
I remember a story where this brother had miracle baby sister and she basically took over his birthdays.
@@Storm_Bird456 remember that too and by the time other family intervened and called out the crap parents the sister was pretty much a lost cause
Depending how they go about it and what the kid is like, it could also turn out awful for their self-esteem if they end up feeling like they can't meet any expectations set up for them, especially if those expectations are unreasonable but they can't tell that they are. (Source: I was one of those kids.)
@@Storm_Bird456yep, she destroyed the car he got for his bday just because she couldn't have one either
Babysitting for 3 days story-
Selfish? I GUARANTEE they wouldn’t pay op a single dime for those kids when they dragged their drunk asses back home. They’d push it off and and when op demanded to be paid they’d cry and scream that op was putting money before family. Cheap trick can watch her own kids like an actual parent. They came out your clam cannon it’s your problem
Ah but when you do the math. It's fun. 3 kids x 15$ x 68 hours the parents would not have enjoyed me. From th moment they left a timer would have been running. Even overnight if the parents weren't there. Then Id be blocking the door and have the non emergency police number if they refused to pay the cash owed immediately.
I love that dude who taught his daughters about periods
Periods are nothing to be ashamed of. All people should have at least basic understanding of periods, and how they effect the body.
Doesn’t matter what your gender is.
Especially kids. Young girls, or those who have periods, need to be taught about it. There’s a lot of people I’ve met and been told about who believe it’s not something that should be talk of, but instead to be ashamed of
Which is stupid.
Ah yes, I’m gonna be ashamed, be bullied in school, because I have a bodily function, which is completely normal, each month.
In fact, half the population, 3.7 billion people, have or had periods. Let's not demonize something that our mothers had, our sisters have, and our daughters will have, because thats just kind of creepy even seeing it as sexual..
Gotta love how the ex cares more about hurting her daughters to stick it to her ex rather than her daughters
0:22 "I very seldom shoot things other than dogs" is a line that can be taken out of context VERY easily
the story at 13:04 reminds me of that one spongebob episode where spongebob and patrick care for a baby clam. while spongebob does all of the work for the clam, patrick just sits at home and watches tv all day
Yeah it does
10:30 also to add, periods arent sexual. Far from it actuslly
So for those trying to call a dude perverted for talking about it with their kids (or honestly, just in general);is part of the problem they try to "call" people out for
i think those people are the type to think all men are predators until proven innocent. pretty sad, especially since their biggest targets are single dads with daughters who are just trying to live happy lives :(
@@tanktank4057 I know it makes me so mad >:[
yep that mom narrow minded asf
The thumbnail reminds me of my employer who fired me for accumulating too many points for… visiting my dying grandma and going to her funeral halfway across the country. Great times.
The husband humiliated by his mother... hung out with his friends instead of his wife for his wife's birthday... he's an asshole just for that tbh
I LOVE when the title is phrased in a way that the story of WHY is way more important than the actual act.
Likewise, when you get a title that has you so sure that it's an obvious Yes/No... only for them to give context that completely flips it.
More dads need to be comfortable with discussing things like periods, especially if they have any children or partners that are female. We need to destigmitze periods. It's a very normal and natural thing approx. half the world's population experience. And I'm glad he discussed it with his younger daughters to prepare them. Imagine how scared they would have been once they hit puberty and found they were bleeding and experiencing pain and nausea. His ex shouldn't get pissy with him for discussing basic human functions, and I find it ironic that she called HIM immature! She's the immature one for being hush hush about periods, and for leaving her family for another man, and for never forming a relationship with her daughters.
the person who looked after the kids, while the husband was home is practically a saint ngl (along with the father helping his daughters learn about periods)
I don’t think it’s a crime to use someone’s credit card if they give you permission, she literally told the cashier she had permission and the karen didn’t even listen
So weird thing, it's very iffy about that, let's say the cops were called and the dad came, the cops would be under the assumption that it was stolen from their father or something of the sort. Now if the dad says otherwise, nothing happens. But if this woman did end up calling the cops, these two girls would be held at least until their father could be contacted unless they're adults, then... that's a maybe either way
It's her word against the law though I could say I have permission to use someone's car and actually of stolen it you see how that sounds?
Unless cashiers start being required to see IDs whenever someone uses a credit card, this is just stupid. Even if it's legally a grey area, it's so unenforced that it's ridiculous to see how hard the OP went in on the girl. The only reason OP had a problem with the girl using the card, was because she heard her say it was her father. And she just assumed it was stolen.
TLDR: Yes, its a crime but it's covered with loopholes that stores use to get out of liability.
Store owner who went through a similar situation. It depends on the card, agreements, and the liabilities involved. Most cards, especially with those proprietary store cards, have strict agreements were only an authorized user can use the card. If anyone else uses it, it Is automatically classified as fraud and everyone (cashier, store, the girl) could be in major legal trouble since the girl admitted to it's not personally hers. The cashier taking the card implicates the store since they 'knowing participated' in the fraud and, as what happens with accepting fake money, the store loses all rights to merchandise since it's 'evidence'. Also, since it's a fraud case with a credit card company at the helm, it's going to take months to deal with and a huge deal of paperwork where everyone is pushing it onto others.
So, yea, it's illegal to use a card that's not yours. It's just that stores use customer service reasons to push all liability onto you, the customer, so that we can get off scott free. It's the reason why you swipe your card now (since if the cashier takes it, we accept any possible issue that can come from you using our terminals).
dude, if you said it was okay for me to take your car and use your credit card, I would be totally cool with it. Just hand it over and everyone will be cool with it, I'll tell them you said it was ok, I'll even come to pick them up regardless if you're busy or not, free of charge. I promise no one's going to know the difference. 😁👍
The cops won't have a leg to stand on, because I'll tell them that you said it was "ok". I could even say you were so generous as to lend me your identity, for a day, and I could live in your house and threaten to throw you out, because I live there now.
Do you see where I'm going with this yet? If not, I can lie to you some more so it'll sound better, you'll believe me as long as I say so right? You're such a great guy.
Credit card story: Actually going to say NTA, though she could have handled it _way_ better. The fact is, cashiers are _not_ supposed to let you use a card that doesn't belong to you because of potential fraud. They could have offered to call the father and double-check or any number of other things, but initially refusing the sale because the person using it is not the cardholder is policy at _most_ retail outlets
I thought the same.
$22 per hour for three kids is the going rate. $35 is a little high, though not completely outrageous. I would probably charge $25. (Overnight also adds to this rate).
Would you still charge 25 when you would had been making double during your normal Job, also for three days?
@@ryanewald9740 Probably. $20 at the lowest.
@@yelljal2764 yall don't know how to haggle?
@@ryanewald9740 It's all very circumstantial. Depends on how old the kids are, if and when they go to school (if your doing a weekday gig), when they go to bed and wake up, if food/money for food is provided, the kids behavior, personal connection to the parents/family, the families financial status, ect. There's a lot that factors into it and none of can be covered by a specific number. $22 for 3 is average, though it can be higher or lower depending on the circumstances.
The problem isn't how much is normally asked it's that op makes 60 and they wanted them to spend 3 days of their own time at 1/4 of their rate they were generous at a little over half would you spend 3 days taking care of kids all day at 1/4 of your average rate? No you wouldn't their time is worth 60 he should be getting paid atleast 35
About the guy that got fired
I do understand a company needing to watch out for high paying positions doing their fare share to make it worth it, but I'm sorry this man got a *1 month* leave after his parents died in a car crash? That is in fact not nearly enough to properly grieve for your loved ones, what in the world did they expect? That he'd be back all fine and dandy like he would after a bad flu? This guy's life changed forever and the companies response was to get him jobless with no warning.
THAT is what I'd call unprofessional.
"This guy's life changed forever"
*on the top of that the company basically ruined his carrier because a karen wanted to satisfy her ego*
@@friendlyneighborhoodshinigami that's not even the correct usage of the slang "karen" you zoomer
@@TheGhostFart then feel free to enlighten me on the correct usage
@@TheGhostFart Me when the gates need keeping:
17:46 Drop the GF. Pick up the grandpa.
Gf isn't mad though the family is I think the girlfriend of ashamed that her brothers got called out
10:36 No. Immediately no. Even if the job is relatively easy to do, unless they live with their parents still, its completely reasonable to have that pricing because you need $35 MINIMUM to pay for everything you need if you live alone.
That credit card one... felt. I was going on a work trip to NYC shortly before my birthday, it was the first time I would be meeting my colleagues in person in NYC. My mom decided she would let me take her JCP credit card and get myself some nice outfits to wear during my meetings as a birthday gift. Total maybe came to around $300. My mom was ON THE PHONE with me, and cashier confiscated the card and called the cops on me because she believed it was stolen. Most embarrassing moment of my life, and I was trespassed from the store so I can't even shop there anymore.
Funniest part is, I attempted to pay for it with my own card after she refused to let me use my mom's card, but she also refused to let me pay for it because she had "reason to believe" all of my cards were stolen. What a joke.
as someone who has tattoos and designs tattoos, the tattoo thing is completely NTA. tattoo artists dont sign tattoos, their work speaks for them and their style separates them from other artists. this artist straight up branded you and was using you as a walking advert, so she should be paying you a lot more than a refund.
I’m a professional photographer and I cover events, I’m also mostly bedridden crippled with nerve damage so I pick and choose what events I do, I’ve a good reputation I’ve built since I was 19 and have good contacts and friends that are part of big companies in my city. I also do charity events, where I’m not paid a fee and my time is given to photograph a charity event, this means any fee the charity would’ve paid me can go towards their needs instead, I do a few of these a year.
I have an event this coming weekend, it’s a charity event with TV celebrities, some I’ve made friends with over the last decade, the event organiser is a close friend, and the TV celebs whenever visiting my area of Scotland specifically ask for me because they not only know me, but know I’m professional and friendly, I treat them like normal people and don’t hound them like paparazzi. I’m always honoured to work with my friends and their colleagues, especially knowing all of us are taking 0 fee to help out a cancer charity!
When talking to the event organiser he knows I’m disabled as I’ve known the guy since I was 19 (32 now) and he makes sure there’s comfortable areas for me to sit so I don’t exhaust my body standing (standing longer than 10 minutes just destroys me, I use a walking cane, lots of pain meds kinda nerve damage), he’s also organised food for me and asked if I wanted to sit anywhere specific at the event and I gave the same answer I always give, “somewhere quiet and out of the way, back of house works fine for me”, and it’ll be a proper meal from this classy hotel/restaurant where the evening part of the event is where rich sponsors pay to sit and have a meal with the TV celebrities, I always ask to sit back of house because I get a break from everyone for a short period of time and don’t wanna take a seat away from a VIP because my friend can use that seat so another high paying VIP can have it, aka more money going to the charity.
Even events I’m paid for I get regular breaks, if it’s a regular event like a university student association ball, an oil and gas company ceilidh or burns night, they offer food! If they don’t offer food then I’m also okay with this (rare for this to happen) but make it very clear I’m on a break whilst they eat, it allows me to rest. Folk understand regardless if I’m given food or not, that I’ve already warned them I need regular breaks due to disability and my shooting partner will also be on break (always work with my best friend so we photograph events together). We’ve never had anyone try and harass us for not photographing people during meal time, wanna know why? Because nobody wants their photo taken as they’re eating, nobody wants that.
So TLDR: professional photographer here saying NTA, you charged mates rates and they couldn’t even treat you like a mate. I’d honestly post on social media saying there will be no photographs from yourself and to ask the husband why that is and leave it open ended, because I’ve absolutely no doubt you’ll sadly be hounded by some folk for photos and the husband will blame you instead of taking accountability.
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As someone with tattoos, yeah, that’s basically vandalism, no matter how small the watermark is. You give them what you want and you sign off on THAT design. The owner is also the one who chose the full refund. OP just wanted partial
The credit card woman radiates Karen energy...😓
Then she could have called him or come back with him?
@@cece9cshe threatened to call the cops, because somebody was using their parent card with permission. That's a Karen.
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er again, if she had her parents permission, the first words out of her mouth would have been to call her dad; that she walked off shows she shouldn't have been making the purchase. Op saved the dad from a hell of a shock and disappointment of knowing your own child could do this to him
@@cece9c No ShEs A kArEn HoW dArE yOu NoT iMmEdIatElY bElIeVe ThE tEeNaGeR
@@cece9cBecause you know the girl personally and know how she'd react being treated like a thief by a grown woman she doesn't know. By the girls actions shes obviously shy or doesn't like confrontation so of course she didn't argue with a grown stranger threatening police and yes OP was a Karen for thinking it was any of her business on what she was buying, and it doesn't matter if OP Karen didn't think she had permission. She had no idea if she did or not so she should have kept her mouth shut
Coding OP is an adult and not “damn near” a child. These people are crazy
Unmarried people are damn near children
@@LynetteTheMadScientist bruh 😂
Yep, sister's husband is useless. The two sisters can rebuild their relationship after the inevitable divorce.
On that babysitting story… $15/per hour/per kid with a minimum rate of the local living wage would be reasonable. So $45 not $35 would be an appropriate price. Those cousins got a $10/hour discount and were insufferable for it
What if she did have permission to use the card? I’ve given my card to my siblings, mom, and even friend to use at times.
Right? Shes racking up a 4 digit charge and OP assumes shes lying? Give me a break.
She probably did no kid is dumb enough to spend 1k on a stolen card but the problem is if the cashier was told it wasn't her card and still let it go through they could be fired and even if she did have permission its her word against the card and the law
@@Officerbagel the name on the card would tell the cashier that its not her card though.
@@Rhaenarys exactly
@@OfficerbagelI'd have trouble buying into that since cashiers normally don't do identity checks when a customer is using a card.
AITA needs to be more widely known. Sometimes it gives an entitled prick their comeuppance, but those people are often too up their own asses to think it's a possibility and you get so many posts from people bending over backwards to accommodate entitled jerks and they don't have enough of social circle disconnected from the drama to get real talk about looking out for themselves.
German Law is kind of nice, it forces your parents to pay for university education. You can sue if your parents don't want to pay
so that guy only wanna experience the "fun" part of having kids and wants no part in taking care of his children? he deserved it
Here's the thing about the credit card story. It's fraud, regardless of whether she has permission. In some jurisdictions it may also be considered identity theft. The whole "I have the cardholder's permission" thing is only valid for online transactions. For a transaction with the physical card, the cardholder _has_ to be the one completing the transaction. If you want to give someone permission to use your card, that's what secondary cards are for: same card number with their own name on it, so they can show ID to prove they're not committing a crime.
Its actually even worse if she has permission, because she's still committing exactly the same crime, but then he's _also_ committing a crime because he's an accessory to it.
I love when people try to tell me that I don't know how parenting is, because I don't have my own kids yet. You know what I do have? A baby brother and a neglectful mother. SEVEN little cousins that I often had to watch all at the same time for 5+ hours (up to 12 on weekends and during the summer) 5 or more days a week UNPAID until I started working at 14, because my family decided they were entitled to all of my free time. I still had to watch them often even after I started working and was in high school. AND I have experience with daycare, preschool, martial arts, and sunday school teaching.
If you know this guy can do outstanding work well above his pay grade, why wouldn't you invest in getting him back on his feet? Lesser jobs have gone as far as to make sure their employees have access to therapy in situations like these. Do better.
Hahaha the wedding photo story is delicious.
The one about the dad and daughters had me damn near in tears man, this is the exact opposite of what happened when I got my first period at my dad's house. I was 11 and was given a washcloth and was expected to wash it out in the sink myself if "it gets too bloody" and I wasn't allowed annother one because "You can't just bleed on all the washcloths" so I had to keep wearing the wet one for two days until I went back to my mom's (she was furious and chewed him out on the phone when i got home) im super lucky to have not gotten an infection or anything from that.
Love how he says New Jersey fully but not Pennsylvania
story1. I would give a speech saying who i was and why i was leaving. I would not have deleted the photos and instead hold them hostage until a payment of minimum 2x was given.
story 2. YTA. did you know she didn't have permission? No. Then STHU.
story 3. What did mom want to happen? thegirl freang out until she saw mom? I know a lot of guys that wouldnt do what you did. A+ for parenting
tbh, I understand the ladys worry in story 2. I mean, spending tens of thousands of dollars (because she said well above 4 digits) for a pair of boots is kinda strange. I mean, even if your dad tells you you can use his card because it has points doesn't mean you should go that far overboard. HOWEVER, you don't know what her situation is, maybe her parents are very rich and this is a reward or something, maybe she was in a tragic situation, etc etc.
Obviously you dont want to put a family into debt, but maybe she should've asked to call the parents instead of just being rude.
but deleting the photos in front of them is satisfying
Tattooing your initials hidden in someone else's design on another person who didn't ask for it is psychotic.
my vote for the credit card lady story is "everyone sucks here" because lady should have approached more "do you have evidence your dad gave permission to spend that much money" and less "you shouldn't pay for that with /daddy's money/, you /lazy, entitled teen!/" but the teen /was/ being /pretty shady/ at the same time, considering she didn't tell her friend before they went to the store, /at minimum/. i don't think the lady should have ignored the fact that it was the teen's father's credit card because it "wasn't her business." i'd feel pretty shitty if one of my siblings stole my credit card and everyone ignored the theft because they claimed to have borrowed it and it "wasn't their business," y'know? and if the teen didn't steal the card, she could have told her dad and gone back to get the stuff she wanted later.
tl;dr woman should have handled it with less hostility/smugness but wasn't wrong to question the teen using the card. if the teen had permission she could have went back later so she only really prevented the teen getting the expensive stuff if she stole the credit card.
I would have charge $16/hour for 3 kids when I was babysitting in 2004 ($8 base, half again for each additional child).
I like this channel, you should make a channel where you look at more image based subreddits, maybe with three or four narraters lol
"I rarely shoot anything other than dogs."
The ATF requests your resume.
NTA for the father who took HIS property back, people who throw their parents aside to lick the in-laws' arses are the worst
Man I Left this video for a second and then came back and unpaused on the sentence "I very seldom shoot things other than dogs"
On the tattoo one, goddess above, you don't deviate from the customer's design for something that can't be undone. What an absolute jerk, not only altering the specific -- VERY specific -- artwork, but branding OP.
Idk, in the last one, I'm wondering if the bio dad said something to his girlfriend to make her think he was getting full custody of the kids after her breakdown over her infertility issues?
the gf would probably become a baby snatcher if given the chance imo
I've heard this story before and people were theorizing then that maybe the gf and he came up with this plan, after they found out she was infertile. To get another woman pregnant and then get custody of the baby(s) after birth and that's why she was being so crazy and overboard with everything because they were planning on taking custody of the baby(s) the whole time
6:04 I remember my mum once lent me her debit card to buy a pizza from Papa John's. She wanted me to become more independent.
If someone had called the cops on me, it would have been awkward, but I could've just gone to the car to fetchy mum so she could tell the cops I had permission. I'm sure using someone else's card with permission isn't illegal.
The fact that she couldn't get her dad to prove she had permission implies there was something suspicious going on.
I think OP's NTA.
Not really. The dad could've been unavailable, or she might've just wanted to leave asap since OP was escalating to treating to call the cops. I'd wanna get away from that too.
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er whyareyourunning.mp4
Idk if I was in that girls situation i would have panicked especially since judging by how OP worded it, it sounds like they weren't gonna let her speak or even try to call her dad and just assumed the worst
That wedding one about the flower girl is just gross. Talk about entitlement. I would instantly uninvite them to the wedding.
narcissism is a hell of a drug
That dad is awesome, every dad should be like him.
this is emkay done right
OH. MY. GOD. That last one gave me anxiety. 😳😶🌫️
"I very seldom shoot things other than dogs even if I have a nice setup."
Girl racked up 4 digit charge and OP thinks shes lying about her dad giving the card to her? Yea...OP is TA who does need to mind her own dang business. I wish she did call the cops and get told to quit being a karen.
how does the windex taste?
@@TheGhostFart you tell me since youre the one with the ideas of tasting it in your head...
The woman at the store calling out the girl with the card needs to mind her own business. It's her parents'job to parent her. She even threatened to call the cops on her. Wtf. She has no clue what this girl was told. I give my kids my cards ALL the time to use.
22:22 stopping her wouldn't of amounted to anything🤣🤣 the first thing that came to her mind was suspicion that alone tells everything about her🤣🤣
22:31 yep everybody sucks here cause they aren't entitled to behave like you want 🤣 sure bud, and it's toxic so what the relationship ain't gonna last long anyways🥴🥴
The credit card one is exactly the reason named cardholders exists... if the Dad did give permission for the daughter to use his credit, then he should have got her a card on the account, which (AFAIK) you don't have to be the regular credit card age to have. Using another's card, without the evidence of permission, is fraud... simple
7:13 I would say the this person was in the wrong. The dad could totally have allowed her to use it and the OP didn’t know that and just assumed that the girl was spending too much. If she really was spending to much without her dad knowing he would find out on the credit card statements and could deal with it within the family. OP didn’t know the whole story and shouldn’t have butted in.
The babysitter one, average babysitting ratesvare $20/h per child so they should've asked for 60 lmao
The period story. That’s mom mindset was so outdated. My dad was the one who gave me the talk when I were a kid because my mom was mostly absent for work and mobile phone was not commonly used. Sex education shouldn’t be seen as taboo.
Man 20€ for 10 hours is still good! But the camera is expensive too
The credit card one is iffy to me. Yes, he could have given permission. Yes, she could've stolen it. She did admit, in a public space, that it wasn't her card. In a public space! OP saved the girl from federal court and the dad from having a huge credit card bill.
But:
It's not much, but if she offered to call her dad to confirm permission, if she had it. Which is most likely the cops would've done unless she genuinely stole it from her dads wallet/safe/whatever rich people use.
Like i said, real iffy situation.
She admitted it to a *friend*. The only reason the cashier gave a shit was because this Karen was trying to like "expose her" so once there was serious pressure from someone and they threatened to call the police the cashier just had to go along with the Karen because hell they might be considered complicit. Generally, it's not a big deal and most people don't care that much because for credit cards if it is fraud the dad would see on his bank statement, get the charge reversed, and force the daughter to return it. The dad still has access to the financial details of the card and if he sees an unauthorized purchase she would get in trouble
Also, it's possible that her dad lets her go shopping because he's busy and can't spend time with her, for example, and maybe he made a rule that she cannot call during work hours because he's some kind of important businessman
@@elizathegamer413 hell, this probably isn't the first time this cashier had seen her in the store.
@@elizathegamer413 i was going to say similar, if this was in the middle of the day, she might not be able to call him for something as silly as confirmation if hes at work. Which...for many rich kids is the case.
@@Luchabul also good point.
@@Rhaenarys if its an emergency she could've gotten a hold of him which this would've been considered
You should put timestamps in the description
16:02 bro i would have told that management team to die.
I use my parents’ debit cards all the time with their permission, with no problems. That lady is a total Karen.
1st story. NTA, _and_ you have a good case to sue for the work you already did, even after you deleted the photos. And more, actually.
Hmmmm... if 6 days per week is a part-time job, what does it take to work full-time? 12 days per week?
Days per week doesn’t really say anything - it’s the number of total hours that determines full or part time. I work 5 days a week, but I’m only part time because I also only work a 5 hour shift each day. You could work three days a week and be full time, if you worked 13 hour days.
@@anna9072 Nailed it on the head! It made no sense to me that the post in the video quantified the work situation of the "reluctant" father using days per week instead of hours per week.
@@anna9072 Although, my part-time job has me scheduled for 4 shifts of 8.75 hours this week, I don't clock in late and it's rare to be clocked out early or even exactly on the minute scheduled, so I'll likely end up clocking over 35 hours. The line between part-time and full time can be a little blurry on any given week, but I digress...
15:52 a little, but they have a job to run, so idk. i wouldnt say they are an asshole, but they should have given more of a warning.
with the asian story, turnabout is fair play
I love how people are so "outraged" by a kod using thwir parents card. Meanwhile we literally have bank cards that you can tap without using a password, and theres no laws/rules requiring ID to use a bank card.
Seems like people are just upset about a kid getting expensive AF boots.
op sounded more like a concerned citizen about potential fraud due to how serious that actually is and would rather be safe than sorry, not everyone showing their concern is an evil karen looking to insert herself into everyone's business despite what a lot of people seem to think
SHE'S TWO!!!!!
22:48
in middle school this one girl was constantly bombarding me with insults and harrassing me because I was short, and the had the audacity to get pissed at me for telling people she was bullying me. I was aware this girl was insecure of her weight (she knew I was insecure of my height), so I told one of my friends that next time she teases me I'd call her a fatass, and they said I was in the wrong and shouldn't do that, so I told my other friends and only one or two said I should, so I felt like an asshole, I added the timestamp as this is somewhat similar, I guess would I have been the asshole? I still know this girl and I know she still talks behind my back, so I may eventually, I just wanna know what random youtube commenters think
daaaamn how fast do you reaaad
very fast
first one is 50-50. they needed to find out what was expected of them and the groom needed to make sure it was an acceptable working environment since he is legally the employer in this matter. second one no. the parents committed theft. the money was hers and not theirs. hope the daughter (?) won the case. third one, nope parents house and the son needs to learn consequences... and what a prenup is. forth one i'll have to agree with everyone as in it wasn't any of her business. let the father deal with it. fifth one no. he is just being a responsible dad which is in short supply as of late. sixth thats a bit pricey even for a babysitting business. also if she thinks it'll be too hard that kinda speaks to saying 'no'. seventh nope not the ahole. eighth not the ahole but really naive at thinking he wasn't going to be unprofessional. people take different amounts of time to grieve. hopefully no one finds out the company name as i'm betting they'll get some negative press on this. ninth not the ahole, but the king. they couldn't even speak italian and they going on like that. lol! tenth my inital reaction after "sticking my nose" was yes. then i listened to the rest and it changed my answer to no. eleventh not the ahole. infact they should have sued for the cost of tatoo removal since nothing (apparently) was said about signing the tattoo and who the hell signs tattoos anyway? twelfth nope the fight wasn't theirs they were just an innocent bystander. 13 not the ahole. and no reason to be humiliated as it was the girl that looked stupid to anyone that mattered. oh and to the narrarator, try what you said if you're white and the other person isn't under the exact same circumstances. see how that turns out. 14 not the ahole if they paid for the beer. debatable if you didn't and the party 'host' (?) just used them to get beer and paid for said beer. next time they should think with the big head instead. 15 not the ahole as its THEIR wedding not the brother/sil. no further debate needed. 16 not the ahole but in for a crapload of trouble cause that woman seems to be unhinged as does her mother.
I'm pissed about the Tattoo. You do NOT put anything on someone else's body without consent. What the hell. People DO put their initials into work sometimes....BUT ONLY WITH CONSENT
hm
very well could've had permission to use her Dad's card wtf
That one with the underpants where they immediately jumped to cheating, I'd be like... where's the popcorn. Seriously, that relationship isn't going to last, might as well let it end right there.
why did no one tell me about this channel 😭😭😭
Never will visit this subreddit.
credit card story: woman is a Karen. she doesn't care whose business it is as long as she inserts herself to feel important
period story: mom is a narcissist. dad is doing everything right. mom was pushing his buttons and did it to make him lose his cool in front of their daughters. dad should go for full custody based on neglect
tbh, I understand the ladys worry in the credit card one. I mean, spending tens of thousands of dollars (because she said well above 4 digits) for a pair of boots is kinda strange. I mean, even if your dad tells you you can use his card because it has points doesn't mean you should go that far overboard. HOWEVER, you don't know what her situation is, maybe her parents are very rich and this is a reward or something, maybe she was in a tragic situation, etc etc. Obviously you dont want to put a family into debt, but maybe she should've asked to call the parents instead of just being rude and forcing the girl to put it on her own card.
@@equinox4901 the point is she should have minded her own business. instead she decided to insert herself into someone else's business and try to be moral about it
@@drifter139 Yepp!! Idk if you read my comments but I agree with you.
Honestly I'd just assume either the parents are rich and just let their daughter buy whatever, or they have some sort of arrangement where its like "ok, just buy it on my card then pay me back". OP sounds crazy for taking it so far.
@@drifter139 you're probably the type to "mind your own business" if you hear gunshots because "snitches get stitches"
Now I'm just a simple guy who has only attended 3 weddings in my life but I feel like a compromise on the flower girl thing from the story would be to have...y'know...TWO flower girls?
The first wedding I ever attended had two. The third wedding I ever attended had two. The second didn't but that's only because it didn't have an actual aisle.
But that's just sidestepping the real problem anyway.
W for the asain girl and she didn't go too far it was a completely valid reaction, i would have actually bullied back the trailer dwelling girl to oblivion🤣🤣(and surprisingly that's the only time the school would have taken any action)
9:37 this """mother"""" is God awful and emotionally abusive. Smirking over her kids crying is evil just because 'it proved her point'
The daughter with daddy's credit card: it sure feels like OP is the AH, but if you take a closer look, is she really? The fact is, even if daughter had permission, it was absolutely a crime for her to use it. "Well, everybody does it?" but, really, so what? A lot of people commit human trafficking, does that mean you shouldn't get involved if you see it? "That's not the same."Except every law that is ignored actually contributes to the perceived weakening of all laws. Ever hear of the "bystander effect"? People will stand around watching terrible crimes take place in front of them, or witness a medical emergency and everyone just stands around doing nothing. It happens all the time. I know it absolutely feels like OP is the AH, but when you look closer, is she really? What if everyone got involved when they see a crime or emergency - can you honestly say the world would be a worse place if people would involve themselves when they see an event like that taking place? I really don't think it would be - I suspect the world would be a better place to live - safer for everyone. But it still FEELS wrong, doesn't it?
Is this an AI voice? I stopped being able to tell if not halfway through
nope, real people.
the guy that bought the beer is a total simp so you liked a girl in highschool then out of knowwhere she asks you buy somwthing for her and you see nothing fishy going on
Am I missing something here? How is the credit card person TAH? She spots that the kid is about to spend something in the 4 digit mark on SOMEONE ELSE'S CREDIT CARD. Why does it matter that it's her dad's? That's alot of money to randomly let your kid spend on your credit card and it's not like she doesn't have her own card in this case too. Surely there's nothing wrong with getting her to call her dad and making sure she has permission first. I used to buy some stuff at my local corner shop every now and then with my mams card. Once they realised it was hers, they stopped me and waited until they knew I had permission. It's not like they didn't know who we were either, we would always get our quick shopping from there.
too many people with the prison mentality of "its none of you business, snitches get stitches"
When the school isn't handling bullying, *stay on them*. They didn't do anything because "tensions are high"? They're gonna be a hell of a lot higher when there's a lawsuit.
I'm surprised how many people are sayin OP is TAH in the Credit Card story. A lot of kids LIE/STEAL (me being one of them and knowing others who would also lie) in order to do/get something they want, the girl could've easily said "I'll call my dad and you can hear him give me permission" problem would've been solved or the "karen" would back off before she even made the call.
Yes but op stuck her nose where it doesn't belong thats a asshole move It's not her place she's nit the main character mind your own damn business and let her father deal with it if she is lying
And what if dad was busy? Like, sorry but you being a trashy kid doesn't mean you should just assume others are. The only "evidence" OP had, was overheating the kid say it was her dad's card to her friend. There was no reason to escalate like this. Unless you think bank card usage should require identity checks, this is just you projecting.
@@DragonbornMike-ym2er any form of payment that isn't cash absolutely should require an identity check
also kids lie all the time, especially when put on the spot like op did
Heck I had a little brother that stole ALL the time like hundreds of dollars. I’m surprised also at how many called her the AH since yeah might seem over the top but clearly if the boots are that expensive I doubt her dad would be ok with it.😅
second story is obviously NTA
she probably just saved that girl and their dad from being eaten out by dad and having to see 2,000$ go down the drain cuz your daughter wanted some cool boots respectively
You’re making a whole lot of assumptions there, just like the lady in the story. You know nothing about the girl, her father or any agreement or lack there of between them in regards to the use of the card.
Credit Card Story: I know I'm bias but I know stories of kids stealing their parent's credit card to buy expensive stuff, so I'm glad OP stepped in just in case. NTA imo. If she wanted an expensive bag she can either get her own money for it or have her parents buy it for her.
Its not her buissness though now imagine the kid did have permission for a birthday or something and op stuck her nose where it doesn't belong and stopped her and the kid was saying that her dad was buying It for her using his card with permisson
@@Officerbagel imagine if the little girl's parents went into DEBT because of a pair of frikkin boots that were at the very least 1,000 dollars and probably muchmore. That's not a small amount of money. It might be none of her buisness, but think about what would happen if the little girl was stealing from a father who couldn't afford it.
Also, why didnd't the little girl call her Dad to prove she was telling the truth. If she had that kind of money surely she had a cellphone.
Litte girl was mad she got caught- and who knows if she'd send her family into debt.
Also, even fi she did get permission- are we SURE her father gave her permission to use a credit card that recklessly? Are we sure she didn't intentionally stretch the truth on how expensive these boots are to get "permission" to buy them.
OP didn't handle the situation well, but she had good intentions.
I don't think "it's none of 'Karens' buisness" applies wehn she's worried about someone being cheated out of 1,000+ dollars and was worried for someone else's financial safety.
If the girl really got permission, she could call her Dad to prove it, or come back with her father.
We have no idea of truly knowing whether or not the girl is lying or OP is just being overly nosy, but I think calling her a Karen is a bit much. Karens exist, but I'm not sure OP truly can be considered one when she's just concerned with the little girl putting her fmaily into debt.
@@Officerbagel because kids totally never lie about having permission to do things, why would any child EVER lie about whether theyre allowed to do the thing they want to do??????????