The Truth About Dom/sub Relationships (from a 24/7 slave!)

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  • The Truth About Dom/sub Relationships
    As a submissive slave living the D/s lifestyle 24/7 with my Master, I've learned a lot about what it's like to truly be submissive. Let me tell you, it's SO much different than what the books and movies portray.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 351

  • @DesiresLaidBare
    @DesiresLaidBare  6 років тому +61

    What are some aspects that are important for you for a successful D/s relationship?

    • @adriannalove8700
      @adriannalove8700 5 років тому +1

      Desires Laid Bare Definitely agree with you, trust is absolutely vital. I figured this out since realizing that I want an FLR where I am a sissy (since I love and adore femininity), but I always struggled submitting to random women or men. I realized after all my fantasies revolved around previous women that I trusted with my secret that it was because of my trust that I felt comfortable trusting them to lead the relationship.

    • @marshallstar9438
      @marshallstar9438 4 роки тому

      hey,Yanks,i 'm one of your Chinese fans, would you please
      let me translate this video to Chinese and upload it on bilibili?
      this video is awesome

    • @LaboriousCretin
      @LaboriousCretin 6 місяців тому

      Good job. I was in a long master slave relationship. Yes trust is the best foundation to build off of. Another part was building up qualities. Nice to see a rational talk on the subject. The other thing I think a lot miss is a owner/Master wants the slave to do good on multiple levels. Glad you found a good fit. That's so important. 👍 So many people want to put the dynamic down because they cherry pick and have biases and such. Basically they have no clue what it is really like to have a long term relationship in a Master slave dynamic that is healthy.

    • @MrLamrof
      @MrLamrof 4 місяці тому

      What you are explaining, minus the collars and other modern day things, is all about traditional husband and wife relationships.

  • @Sly-Moose
    @Sly-Moose 6 років тому +165

    He made it by hand?! AAAAWWWWW That's so fucking cute! I ship you two! XD

  • @DahliaLegacy
    @DahliaLegacy 4 роки тому +109

    As a Dom I want my sub to feel me always, like I'm her ride or die, you mess with her no, she's mine. I love her so much. ^_^

    • @briandobson5135
      @briandobson5135 Місяць тому

      As a dom, this is exactly what I expect from my sub. We lay out common sense (to both of us) rules. My sub finds very easy. But she does indeed let me be ceo. That was an excellent analogy btw. You have a lucky master.

  • @huntasoup
    @huntasoup 5 років тому +123

    Very good informative video! With my first Dominant, I used to feel like I was never enough. My job was not good enough, the way I looked did not please him, the way I dressed, etc. It was kind of depressing and stressing, when I think about it. Thankfully, I now have a very good and amazing Dominant who is also my boyfriend and things are completely different. He may have less experience with bdsm but the way he dominates me is sooo much better, in my opinion. I don't feel like I have to climb Mount Everest everyday in order to satisfy him.
    This is the first video of you that I watch and you seem like a very genuine and passionate person. I can't wait to have the time to watch your other videos. :)

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +2

      Yay! So happy to hear how things are going well for you now! Any particular questions or topics you'd like me to cover?

  • @bonnie1430
    @bonnie1430 3 роки тому +38

    WOW. This is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever heard about.

    • @Sky-Child
      @Sky-Child 2 роки тому +7

      BDSM valuing open communication, respecting boundaries and clear expectations are very healthy - vanilla relationships can learn a lot from healthy D/s dynamics!

  • @TrevonTheoriesInc
    @TrevonTheoriesInc 2 роки тому +50

    My wife has let me know that she has some fantasies about being a sub and I've been searching the web learning and getting a proper idea of how to be a good Dom for her. Knowing how your Dom treats and accepts you has really helped me reflect on where I can focus my attention so we have a very healthy relationship.

  • @FancyHatching
    @FancyHatching 6 років тому +106

    I'm so glad to hear you telling us this because even though I wasn't able to explore this kink with a partner yet you're describing everything I dreamed a D/s relationship could be.. Gives me hope I might get there one day ~

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  6 років тому +8

      Fancy Hatching it took me about 10 years to manifest my Master! Don’t settle and keep the vision that you’ll find the right fit for you in and out of kink!

  • @juju_2896
    @juju_2896 6 років тому +92

    What lipstick are you wearing on this video? It looks so good on u

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  6 років тому +20

      I'm wearing Stila! I can't remember the name, but it's the true red color. It's also sitting on top of the Two Faced Lip Insurance.

  • @familyjewels2020
    @familyjewels2020 5 років тому +53

    My ex husband was my master 5yrs and I didn't want to be his slave. I have been out for nearly 2 yes and I'm still living with the damage he caused

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +18

      I'm so sorry for all that you are carrying. I hope that whatever comes your way next will be so much closer to all that you deserve. Did you learn things about the last relationship that will help you form a better one moving forward?

    • @Morna777
      @Morna777 5 років тому +41

      Not OP but that isn't BDSM it is abuse. Abusers will find a way to justify it. In my experience Christian men do it by latching onto "the man is the head of the house" thing.

    • @renaadkins5408
      @renaadkins5408 4 роки тому +7

      A sub can deny at any time remember ur the one I'm control he who is the one is leading u to the right path if abuse is all above let go they will be a better Dom to guide u to the right path remember ur the one who can say no just as a safe word

    • @5050TM
      @5050TM Рік тому +2

      Glad you're out of that but that's not master and slave. That's abuser and victim. The comparison shouldn't even be made or it will confuse people about what is acceptable vs. unacceptable.

  • @petezgurl101
    @petezgurl101 4 роки тому +30

    This actually helped me a lot. My Master has always told me to just do me as long as I follow the rules. For the longest I thought that it meant that he doesn’t want me, but you explaining that your Master wants you to do you and pursue your dreams makes me understand what he means.

  • @forrecreationaluseonly
    @forrecreationaluseonly 5 років тому +33

    Your own thoughts got you hot. That was actually pretty funny. Love the video!

  • @Gmen2487
    @Gmen2487 4 роки тому +106

    As a disabled male sub, I feel out of place. I'm just looking for a strong and gentle Domme.

    • @wublubdubdub
      @wublubdubdub Рік тому +8

      Please feel free to reach out to me. As an ethical and responsible domme with a nurturing / gentle side, I can help if you're still seeking

    • @5050TM
      @5050TM Рік тому +2

      I hope you found one, Samuel! Blessings!

    • @Gmen2487
      @Gmen2487 Рік тому +1

      Still nothing.

    • @Gmen2487
      @Gmen2487 Рік тому +1

      @@wublubdubdub ok. how would I do that?

    • @wublubdubdub
      @wublubdubdub Рік тому

      @samuelfreeman do you have an email or some way I can contact you dear?

  • @wingbat
    @wingbat 5 років тому +42

    This was such a beautiful video to watch!!
    I love seeing this raw deeper side of bdsm expressed, and i love that you found someone who accepts you as you are and pushes you to just be you! Loved this video 💛

  • @forrecreationaluseonly
    @forrecreationaluseonly 5 років тому +41

    Your own thoughts got you hot. That was actually pretty funny. Love the video!

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +9

      Yeahhhhhhhhh I thought about cutting that part out but then it's a part of who I am so I kept it hahah

  • @michaelslittleangel7818
    @michaelslittleangel7818 5 років тому +30

    I wouldn’t mind being in a dom/ sub relationship, it’s like the feeling you get when you see your favorite celebrity, it’s like you love them so much you wanna do every nasty freaky thing to them forever lol it’s a love sexual high, and depends how much attraction you have for them and how good they make you feel and treat you. Oh u loyal lmao

  • @kimbloecher1653
    @kimbloecher1653 5 років тому +20

    I’m in my first DS with a person who I’ve trusted for over a year. We became friends and then we started seeing each other. I left for 4 months, but came back to him and have accepted being his slave. As always he’s wonderful and pushes me to achieve my goals and to better myself as well too. This video just helped me to see and how a DS relationship should be and it’s goin’ that way for me. Thank you.

  • @Tasheaj
    @Tasheaj 4 роки тому +8

    This is the type of Dom and Sub relationship. I want to still be me but know I’m always submitting to my Dom. One day he’ll arrive.

  • @emilythelynx5805
    @emilythelynx5805 5 років тому +18

    I have my Master...
    But I'm too shy to do what he say....
    But I luv him :

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +3

      Then it’s really important that you two both sit down and have (perhaps a hard ) talks about what will make you both happy! Win-win.
      If you both need help, I do provide MsDs sessions where I can help facilitate these types of conversations

    • @jesikagarcia3808
      @jesikagarcia3808 4 роки тому +2

      Been there!!

    • @AnimeNewsRadio101
      @AnimeNewsRadio101 4 роки тому

      Got Facebook, help you out. Even I'm new on the group page over a year, join *Little pet play space 2* got near 1,000 people to join.

  • @CrashBoomBang78
    @CrashBoomBang78 5 років тому +15

    This whole video is so, so lovely and it shows the beauty of the D/s dynamic so clearly. Ahhhh, I’m all emotional now, haha.

  • @ms_islandgirlxo
    @ms_islandgirlxo 4 роки тому +15

    Thank you so much for making this video!
    I am someone who’s just coming into this world of BDSM and the info you provided here makes me feel more confident and knowledgeable!
    Thank you

  • @albertsproject
    @albertsproject 5 років тому +12

    This describes what a D/s relationship should be! Thanks for making this video so ppl can understand what its REALLY about

  • @Sky-Child
    @Sky-Child 2 роки тому +6

    Yes! Working on this with my Daddy. He is new to this, so is struggling with the concept that I want and need to serve him. His rules and high standards will help me to be better for both of us.

  • @isabelberg3171
    @isabelberg3171 3 роки тому +3

    What if instead of a wedding ring, someone got a wedding collar that was permanent?

  • @crazylegolady
    @crazylegolady 5 років тому +12

    This video has really helped me. Thank you! Learnt a lot.

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +2

      Thank you! Always here to answer any questions you have

  • @Worgiewoo
    @Worgiewoo 4 роки тому +5

    Never heard it described this way. Really glad you found your unicorn.

  • @MusicLove20395
    @MusicLove20395 6 років тому +38

    I don't normally post comments on anything but i felt like i needed to say this.. You hit the nail on the head on this so much! I am a sub in a long distance relationship, we met on fetlife. He lives in the uk and I live in the us. One of the biggest things for us is communication. I am so proud n happy to call him my dom. We havent met in person yet and are trying to make plans for March 2019. Just to see if it truly does click. He has told me so many times that I am going there as a friend first and a sub last. I've never had a relationship d/s or otherwise like this before. He let's me 100% me. I absolutely love your videos and they really help me understand how I can be better as a sub. Please keep up the amazing work!!!!!!!

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  6 років тому +3

      Awwww that was such a sweet and heart-felt comment, thank you! It’s so wonderful to hear that this video resonated with you.
      Keep doing you, all 100% of you, and I look forward to hearing your stories of growth and fun!

    • @MusicLove20395
      @MusicLove20395 6 років тому +1

      @@DesiresLaidBare Thank you so much! It feels so freeing to say that I am a sub and i belong to a wonderful dom. I was wondering if u could possibly do a video on dom and sub drop. It's something I'm not sure I've experienced nor my dom experienced but I'd like to know what it looks or feels like.

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  6 років тому +1

      Madison Buske yeah, I can absolutely. I can’t speak for Dom drop myself, because #duh so I’ll be asking my Dominant-leaning friends and my Master for their input!

    • @jupiteronkauai
      @jupiteronkauai 5 років тому +2

      Did you meet him.by now??

    • @anneblackfriars1973
      @anneblackfriars1973 4 роки тому +1

      Any updates?

  • @Ivantyaskullz
    @Ivantyaskullz 4 роки тому +5

    YEEEEEEEES!!! You hit the nail on the head for what I've been discovering on my journey..I honestly was beginning to think I didn't belong but I'm happy to see these opinions and ideals coming from someone else🖤💜🖤💜🖤💜🖤💜🖤

  • @jimdigriz3436
    @jimdigriz3436 Рік тому +2

    My parents trusted each other implicitly, and my mom’s normal, STANDARD vows were to Love, Honor, And OBEY for better, worse, richer, poorer, sickness, health, until death. How’s that different from D/S?

  • @jasminenorthington9847
    @jasminenorthington9847 5 років тому +26

    My Mistress and I have been in a D/s relationship for over a year. I finally passed my slave training a month ago and I'm so so happy!! I am getting my day collar for my birthday and I can't wait. We love each other so much and just are perfect for each other. We complete one another in the most beautiful, wonderful ways. We wanna marry when the time is right and I can't wait to spend the entire rest of my life serving and loving my Mistress.❤

  • @SammiLill
    @SammiLill Рік тому +2

    tv and movies are also a big misconception of a M/s and D/s relationship. My last M/s relationship lasted 11 years before he passed on

  • @Blueskywatcher
    @Blueskywatcher 3 роки тому +3

    My Domme makes me feel I am enough. Mind. Blown. Thank you, Goddess.

  • @MrsElena-vx6gq
    @MrsElena-vx6gq 3 роки тому +2

    This is all very new to me but it sounds sooo romantic! Is that crazy?

  • @sonyapeach
    @sonyapeach 4 роки тому +3

    I want to find a dom who can teach me or find a sub who can teach me. This has nothing to do with media influence. I have always been a submissive naturally. I don’t want to be a slave but a submissive. I just don’t even know were to start. I only had one dom and we had known each other online for about 3yrs but when we met he looked like nothing he described and he wanted me to do all of these crazy things I was not comfortable doing at all.

    • @chrisfrary724
      @chrisfrary724 3 роки тому +1

      @Sonyapeach great. Glad you are wanting to search. Hope you are doing well. I battle and search myself for someone to connect with and understand more. Even friendship too

  • @imjustrambling
    @imjustrambling 2 роки тому +4

    This is beautiful and I would recommend it to anyone struggling with setting boundaries, regardless of whether or not they are into BDSM. Thank you so much for make this video. I really appreciate you taking the time to explain this. It inspires me and gives me hope, not only for a relationship with another person, but also for establishing a healthy relationship with myself. Again, thank you!

  • @jessicapeterson8031
    @jessicapeterson8031 4 роки тому +3

    Yes. I'm claiming it, I will be happy and I will find the right D/s partner for me.

  • @skyler8863
    @skyler8863 5 років тому +10

    I've began a sub/dom relationship 8 months back and it is about trust. You're video was absolutely wonderful and I did note things as well. My dom is extremely supportive and he is very loving, caring, and he always know how I feel because I'm an open book. 😂 sorry, I just really love him and it's hard not to talk about him because him and I click. I am never scared to be myself around him and I've never lied to him because I'm loyal because he accepts me. Knowing this, it makes me happy to know your in a relationship that makes you happy. People deserve good relationships.
    P.s. it's so sweet your master made that collar! It means something when he took the time to make it and thought of you ♡♡

  • @s.gharavi1614
    @s.gharavi1614 2 роки тому +1

    No, BDSM id absolutely about authority transfer. Trust is what's required to do that, but it's not BDSM without Power Exchange.

    • @grahamrskelly6042
      @grahamrskelly6042 2 роки тому

      Bdsm does not need power exchange. That may be the important part for you but it isn't necessary. I like bondage, I like the look of it. They don't have to be my submissive while I tie them up. I have done self bondage to practice it was lots of fun. That said power exchange is hot.

    • @s.gharavi1614
      @s.gharavi1614 2 роки тому +1

      @@grahamrskelly6042 Don't confuse your kink with actual BDSM. You're just parroting people who don't know crap.

  • @magicdolphin3090
    @magicdolphin3090 4 роки тому +4

    Wow, I felt how much this meant to you, it made me smile :)

  • @vasujain8176
    @vasujain8176 Рік тому +2

    Theres a huge difference between an abuser and a dom, guys aftercare is important discuss the limits a safe word and whether this relationship is for the bed time or all of it

  • @Morna777
    @Morna777 5 років тому +3

    Genuine question: Could you explain why someone has to be dominant for them to help you be your best self? Or does that help you to push past whatever would otherwise get in your way (like self doubt) because there's another motive? I have experiened the "I am enough" with my faith in God but even though i like getting spanked by my partner the idea of allowing someone to make decisions for me gives me a panic attack. Probably because i was in a situation where I didnt have the option to opt out and decisions were made for me that profoundly damaged me.

  • @cayenneberrie7632
    @cayenneberrie7632 4 роки тому +4

    I'm working on a comic currently where the couple is in a sort of BDSM mindset and this really helps with my writing. Thank you for this

  • @garychen9831
    @garychen9831 3 роки тому +3

    My SO and I just discussed exploring a D/S relationship of our own. The way her dynamic is being described here is ideally how I want our D/S relationship to be. Great vid!

  • @michaeld.morris4407
    @michaeld.morris4407 3 роки тому +3

    Your three truths are so on point, and your content aides me as Alpha in helping my submissive understand what is truly her deepest self. So I thank you for that

  • @AikiraBeats
    @AikiraBeats Рік тому +2

    As a new Dom, I’m still learning to know what my sub wants and needs. He’s very soft and gentle and I want to make sure that I provide the absolute best for him. Sometimes, I feel that I’m not doing enough for him, but he reassures me that I’m doing a good job. So thank you for this video, it’s something that I needed to hear.

  • @oneydamoreno9140
    @oneydamoreno9140 5 років тому +3

    Having this ideas lately that this lifestyle is something that I want to at least explore. So I went on UA-cam and found you, and holy cow. First video, You made me feel confident in myself that I could try this and open myself up to someone in this way. Thank you I'm gonna keep watching :)

  • @Tooshytospeak
    @Tooshytospeak 2 роки тому +2

    I’m looking into wanting to be a sub and you’re video helped me so much… stay happy 😊

  • @liveflower895
    @liveflower895 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so so much for your videos !!! Me and my man of 10 years just started a 24/7 d/s relationship. We actually just started bdsm in general. It has been life changing for us so far. I truly believe this lifestyle is for us. We can already see sooo many positive effects this dynamic exchange has brought to literally every aspect of our life ! Thank you so much for the information videos, and everyone stay happy, healthy, and horny 😊

  • @shawnchen583
    @shawnchen583 5 років тому +3

    Great video! The kind of video that makes me want to meet you and make a friend out of you. You hear people telling each other to be themselves, but, you put it in such a powerful way that it's my 1st time feel I understand what being self truly means and how powerful it could be. This is beyond inspirational. This video could be applied in every aspect of life. And, your master wants you to achieve your biz goal as a way of submitting to him, wow, powerful happiness

  • @karenjensen2616
    @karenjensen2616 Рік тому +2

    Yes! A thousand times yes. This is something I’ve wanted in my life for a long time. I’ve recently become involved with a new man and we have discussed my desire for a master. He is very receptive to the idea and would like to be my Dom. We are now on the journey of learning more and discussing how we want this dynamic to manifest itself in our lives.

  • @RossBerger
    @RossBerger 5 років тому +14

    You are literally just describing a traditional 1950s American relationship...

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +10

      Yeah, but the difference is, I'm consenting to it fully whereas not everyone in the 1950s probably did but had to.

    • @Ohvee1100cc
      @Ohvee1100cc 4 роки тому

      Ross Lucien hahahahaha this actually sound like a straight old fashioned relationship. With some freedom on her behalf.

  • @themadhousewithin2191
    @themadhousewithin2191 4 роки тому +3

    YESSS!!!! I LOVE MY BABYGIRL SO MUCH, SHE IS JUST LIKE THAT, AND I AM 100% COMMITTED TO SHOWING HER I AM THE PERSON SHE'S MEANT TO BE WITH. -The Madhouse Within, to the best living being in our life.

  • @kalasummers7742
    @kalasummers7742 4 роки тому +2

    I found it very informative, and it’s comforting how at ease you are w/your lifestyle and point of view! I’m in an uncommon situation you might say, I try not to see it as bad or good, I just am. My lack of experience w/both trust & intimacy (and sex) are definitely factors, I am 29 yrs old and it’s harder as time passes to understand why I have so much fear. But the d/s dynamic and a lot bdsm aspects appeal to me. There’s a lot of information out there and plenty of novels to fulfill basically any kinks, I’ve even found it therapeutic and very telling to write out my own fantasies and stories. But I’m not sure what the first steps should be to actually enter into this world ? 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @karolinahagegard
    @karolinahagegard 4 роки тому +2

    I appreciate the initiative with this video and I like the emotions that come out, how personal it is. :)
    It could be clearer, though!... Like on what the difference really IS between power and trust... HOW are you still in power? etc

  • @kokonutisagiantnut8381
    @kokonutisagiantnut8381 3 роки тому +1

    Does....does she being so thankful that her partner accept her 100%? o.O eh? Doesn't it the base of healthy relationship?
    'so powerful that just by being 100% i'm enough'
    Emm ._. it's not powerful, its just how a healthy relationship works

  • @nukeout
    @nukeout 2 роки тому +2

    Good girl
    Shared with my slave 🖤

  • @timothyadowns
    @timothyadowns Рік тому +1

    This is the confidence I want my future slave to have

  • @diyoregonnowtexas9202
    @diyoregonnowtexas9202 3 роки тому +1

    BDSM is unique to each person. I dont get the "submissive slave" classification. To me you're either submissive, or you go to the next level of slave. Maybe this category is higher than submissive,but not quiet all the way to slave. In my opinion, slaves are not loud or feisty,do not complain or resist. They are truly owned by their master and are there to serve and please him. If he says stay naked for the next two weeks, then you stay naked for two weeks. If he says we're going to the store and be naked under your coat or dress, then thats what you do. What he asks you to do,you just do. That includes what you wear, sexual and domestic tasks.

  • @khauriteverbaugh7866
    @khauriteverbaugh7866 3 роки тому +2

    Yes!
    Your video made me take a deep breath and smile. ☺️

  • @YahhGirlJazz
    @YahhGirlJazz 2 роки тому +1

    So glad I came across this video I’m a very submissive girl I describe myself as a little haven’t found the proper dom yet hopefully God send him my way😌!!

  • @parvezbiswas4357
    @parvezbiswas4357 3 роки тому +1

    I had also been interested to know about the psychology behind the sexual interaction from a subs perspective. After encountering it many times including personally, that the subs expression of pleasure when his master is satisfied. And I am saying in the most sexual context, if you catch my point. I am curious to find out the psychology behind that pleasure. Hope you read, understand and response to this. U seem like some who talks from experience. So would appreciate your thoughts. Thanks.

  • @AmbeanWambulance
    @AmbeanWambulance 4 роки тому +2

    Omg >~< my bf is the exact same.
    This video made me really happy to know that my current thingy is healthy and that i really should value my master even more 💖

  • @beyondphases
    @beyondphases Рік тому +1

    Yes…Omg I just got into my D/S and this video made me relax about this. He is patient with me and showing me I am a lucky sub. So far I feel I’m treated like a Goddess

  • @mialynell5532
    @mialynell5532 5 років тому +2

    This video was extremely informative. Thank you 😍 I understand it alot better now.

  • @Julianakun
    @Julianakun 5 років тому +3

    A kinky person who was raised religious here: how do you deal with people who think that yours and his roles are inherent based on biology? The people who think you’re an s-type because XX and he’s d-type because XY? I’m a mostly d-leaning female, and I’ve run into soooo many kinksters who make wrong assumptions based on my gender. It makes me super uncomfortable.

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +1

      You know, that's a really hard thing. Social conditioning is such a bitch! The best thing you can do is either correct them or be proactive and say, "Hey I'm X and I'm more d-leaning". Think of this as an opportunity to educate people and challenge them

    • @yungbaphometandlilmegz9374
      @yungbaphometandlilmegz9374 4 роки тому +1

      I was raised religious and it’s really hard for me to get into this lifestyle and it’s so hard for me

  • @moondust9652
    @moondust9652 4 роки тому +3

    I'm really curious what kinda trauma you had that made you think this way

  • @mariamartinademarte
    @mariamartinademarte 3 роки тому +1

    This is weird as shit but whatever I gotta be open minded 😂

  • @rachmaninoffenthusiast5563
    @rachmaninoffenthusiast5563 5 років тому +4

    Ahhhhhdhskajskdks that collar looks awesome

  • @kaymontes2778
    @kaymontes2778 4 роки тому +1

    Question: I’m new to all of this and I am just doing some research because of a guy I am dating is into this type of relationship, but what is the difference between a D&S relationship and a old fashion patriarchal relationship between a man and a woman? I’m only asking because like you stated it seems like I would be giving up myself to do the biding of another and that scares me

  • @rohitram9565
    @rohitram9565 2 місяці тому

    00:02 Dominance and submission is not about power and control
    01:08 Dom/sub relationships are about trust, not control.
    02:24 Balancing individuality in a Dom/sub relationship
    03:43 Trusting the dominant partner to lead the relationship.
    05:02 Submission is a mindset, not always physical
    06:16 Dom/sub relationships involve support and service towards shared goals.
    07:27 Find a partner who accepts and supports you completely
    09:01 Building trust and honesty in Dom/sub relationships
    Crafted by Merlin AI.

  • @schnacke
    @schnacke 5 днів тому

    That Sound goog. I Like your vibes and i Wish i found a good das relationship Like yours.

  • @larissamichelledupree8621
    @larissamichelledupree8621 2 роки тому +1

    Yes, yes, yes! I am not in a DS relationship but I’ve known in my heart it could be what is right for me. I can only pray I might find one that will fulfill me in such a way

  • @NatureFreak1127
    @NatureFreak1127 5 років тому +2

    I thought dom/sub was a thing in the bedroom only. I am confused. How can being a 'slave' 24/7 mean that you are his equal? What does it even mean to be a slave during the day in terms of activities?

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +2

      It can be in the bedroom only or it can be incorporated into your everyday; whatever makes you happy. 24/7 for me is a mindset practice so that even if we are not in the same city (he goes to work for instance), my headspace is still the same. I view that I am his equal. A title is just a title, and it means different things to everyone. Slave works for me well, because it makes us both happy. Day to day is pretty "normal". I run my business; I work; I workout; I buy groceries. But again it all comes down to mindset.

  • @aliahassan8076
    @aliahassan8076 3 роки тому +1

    I’m def a sub, but as a black woman I can’t be called a slave

    • @kriss939
      @kriss939 3 роки тому

      Other cultures and races have slaves lol

    • @oilandwine8
      @oilandwine8 3 роки тому

      You're allowed to just label yourself as submissive. I'm also a black sub, and though unrelated to racial reasons, I don't really like being called a servant/slave, either.

  • @jaimiemaass2511
    @jaimiemaass2511 2 роки тому +1

    Yes

  • @noakalocsa333
    @noakalocsa333 4 роки тому +1

    So.. I have a question. If you are in this type of relationship, you guys love each other, right? And also, can a “master” and a “slave” get married? And can they have children one day? I’m kind of confused

  • @Dr_Doctor_Lee
    @Dr_Doctor_Lee Рік тому

    well...
    partner is technically more suited for the dom part. he just is.
    i am on the other side am switch prefer to be sub.
    now he wants me to be dom permanently while he is powerbottom.
    what now?
    being sadistic and someone else wanting one to be a dom doesnt goes that well when one is unexperienced

    • @Dr_Doctor_Lee
      @Dr_Doctor_Lee Рік тому

      i have to correct myself.
      as something unforseen has happend, im now in the position of being a natural gifted dom :3

  • @parvezbiswas4357
    @parvezbiswas4357 3 роки тому +1

    Loved your video. U managed to put together the beauty of it in a very healthy manner, I was honestly expecting some feminist bs in the comments against the topic. But looks like the community is also healthy here after all. We need more positive open minded subs like you. And ofc I do acknowledge the toxic abuse in the name of dominating as well. So I suppose appropriateness is needed in both sides.

  • @shashaunawellborn5518
    @shashaunawellborn5518 5 місяців тому

    For me it’s being able to trust my dom as I’m new to this lifestyle it’s hard for me to adjust and I’m just finding it hard to grasp how I would be a good submissive to my dom wen in the past I have been abused while my ex was using bdsm for his sick game. Hence the reason why it’s hard for me to trust but my dom I’ve known him for awhile and I want to be the best sub for him as possible.

  • @yaelmatos3199
    @yaelmatos3199 4 роки тому +1

    It sounds like a good boyfriend, like someone that supports you and also someone in who you proyect your highest self. cool.

  • @kaylaallen-mccoy7975
    @kaylaallen-mccoy7975 3 роки тому +1

    How can I have this conversation with somebody I just start talking to and that I know that’s a dominant male?

  • @DeMonicDeimoz
    @DeMonicDeimoz Рік тому +1

    Ÿes absolutely 💯

  • @judiplouffe8911
    @judiplouffe8911 5 років тому +2

    Having deep profound trust ushers the freedom encourages you freely to step into your individuality that alone speaks volumes, you have true freedom to live and express who you truly are inside to your partner, the world, all you do and touch from a place of protection.
    D/s does this healthy dance with the right partner.
    I sit here heart fulfilled you’ve found yours, you radiate love for yourself, for him and your dynamic. Blessed Be ♥️🖤

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому

      Awww thank you so much for the kind words, Judi! I truly felt them. Are you also in a D/s-type dynamic yourself?
      And that freedom, that unapologetic freedom from a place of protection? That hits home so hard.

    • @judiplouffe8911
      @judiplouffe8911 5 років тому +1

      Yes Ma’am I am in a D/s Dynamic best choice I’ve ever made!
      I approached my Husband expressing my desire for this Dynamic.
      Its very refreshing to witness this soundness beyond my own dynamic in yours!

  • @silverstar1805
    @silverstar1805 3 роки тому +1

    I'm trying to learn about bdsm world and I found this video really good. you gave me a perfect example of a good relationship between master and slaves thanks and once again really good viseo!

    • @chrisfrary724
      @chrisfrary724 3 роки тому +1

      @Barba Rainbow glad you enjoyed. I liked it. It helps us both then. Hope you are doing well. I search for myself someone to connect with on this. I’m tired of being alone or not having a friend to understand

  • @roosahatinen
    @roosahatinen 5 років тому +8

    Omg... I might only be a teen, but i know that this is what I want my future relationship to be 💛

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +7

      I’ve wanted this since I was a teen, too, so I know the feeling ❤️ stand strong, educate yourself about this lifestyle, don’t take shit, and know that you are enough exactly as you are.

    • @melancholicjuls253
      @melancholicjuls253 4 роки тому +1

      I'm 16 and I'm looking forward to this kind of relationship🍷

    • @kalanmortenson6647
      @kalanmortenson6647 3 роки тому +1

      @@melancholicjuls253 same im 17 and I've always been very interested in this type of relationship

  • @rnbsteenstar
    @rnbsteenstar Рік тому

    I could never be a slave. I'm a switch.

  • @shawnchen583
    @shawnchen583 5 років тому +1

    I just have to add another comment as I am watching the video for the 2nd time. The video is just beautiful. We hear ppl give each other encouraement and inspiration all the time to help each other achieve, but watching your video, I feel master to sub inspiration is while lot more powerful almost in a different world. I don't understand why.

  • @StevenWilliams-q6s
    @StevenWilliams-q6s 3 місяці тому

    I also disabled men i also know how too find dom women. Im more of sub guy that whom im

  • @brohamlovesrandom7267
    @brohamlovesrandom7267 3 роки тому +1

    one of my major issues with bdsm is that I feel Uncomfortable with being called a ¨slave" or "Master" it feels odd and an dont like it it makes me feel meaker that I have no freedom so at least outside of the bedroom inside the bedroom he can do any thing he wants for me and I'm a switcher so I like to be a sub one night and a dom the other it helps solve this problem we both own each other he owns me I own Him

    • @grahamrskelly6042
      @grahamrskelly6042 2 роки тому +1

      Use other words,. Pick a language (latin is good) and use those words if Master Slave bothers you in a scene. And you are a switch so some would take offence if you used master slave to describe yourself out side of a scene. But your relationship sounds great

  • @PaperadiGomma123
    @PaperadiGomma123 5 років тому +1

    I don't know if you're cleansing comments but your lifestyle sounds very de-powering and scary.
    I don't think a person can be dominant outside the house and ALSO submissive in every aspect of the relationship.

    • @DesiresLaidBare
      @DesiresLaidBare  5 років тому +3

      I don’t do any comment moderation unless it’s blatant spam or hatred.
      Thank you for your honesty. And I can see how it can look like that based on the 10 minutes you know me. But trust me, it’s anything but disempowering if you really saw the respect, admiration, love, and work that goes into making this relationship and lifestyle so rich and empowering for me and my Master.
      The most important thing in this lifestyle and my dynamic is consent and choice.
      And if we’re to get into nuances at all, I’m also pretty damn dominant ~inside the house, just ask my Master.
      But the difference is me CHOOSING to let him lead fully knowing my self-worth and value to the relationship and most importantly, myself.

  • @melawieeinapfel8594
    @melawieeinapfel8594 10 місяців тому

    I want to be in a 24/7 dom-sub-relationship😻🤝🙏

  • @vickiwise9457
    @vickiwise9457 Рік тому +1

    I'm Soooooooo intrigued!!! ❤️

  • @indigo6485
    @indigo6485 4 роки тому +1

    Your collar is beautiful thank you for this video I'm just trying to gain more knowledge of the bdsm community and it helps a lot hearing it from someone who is coming from a more submissive view such as i am

  • @alienaesthetic4168
    @alienaesthetic4168 5 років тому +2

    Still can’t change my opinion on this, to me it’s sexist. Not going to preach, it’s your choice and opinion, if you’re happy. I’m happy for you. ❤️

    • @SasukeUchiwa104
      @SasukeUchiwa104 5 років тому +1

      Not really because I've seen some guys who are submissive to their girlfriend. Personally I find that weird but their are guys who want to be dominated by women. And gays/lesbians can also be in a dominant/submissive relationship. It isn't sexist because it isn't gender specific and it is just a sexual fetish. It's pretty much just 24/7 consensual roleplay.

    • @alienaesthetic4168
      @alienaesthetic4168 5 років тому +1

      Jason Martin as I said my opinion can’t change. 😂

    • @shivamdaskuldeep9711
      @shivamdaskuldeep9711 4 роки тому +1

      It is basically that both of the partners in relationship discuss about the stuffs and final decision is taken by any one of them..... Don't wanna start a fight, just curiously asking...... What makes you think that it is somehow sexist?? 🤔🤔🤔

  • @c_xoxoxo
    @c_xoxoxo 9 місяців тому

    i think i kinda attacked by this relationship but it always so difficult to find a fit to me 😢

  • @antalapuza
    @antalapuza 4 роки тому +1

    This video puts into words what I want to be.

  • @nightlight6783
    @nightlight6783 3 роки тому +1

    Stuff like this always really put me off but this helped explain it a lot better, because I truly thought for a long time it was just about giving up control

  • @lamrof
    @lamrof 4 роки тому +1

    weird !

  • @paulhutchings5008
    @paulhutchings5008 3 роки тому

    This almost sounds like a normal relationship between a man and a woman expect a bit more formal.

  • @odettegiuliani2091
    @odettegiuliani2091 Рік тому

    Is it ok for my master to cheat? I would assume not cause, Ive given him my 100% trust. Right?

    • @Halgame99
      @Halgame99 Рік тому +1

      No! Masters don’t cheat

  • @nerdygirlgamer2939
    @nerdygirlgamer2939 3 роки тому +1

    Can a Dom have more than one submissive?

    • @stinameaner
      @stinameaner 2 роки тому +2

      Yes but it needs to be consensual for all parties involved

    • @grahamrskelly6042
      @grahamrskelly6042 2 роки тому

      Infact I know some slaves who have more then one master