War Veteran with PTSD interview-Rob
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Rob, a war veteran dealing with PTSD with music. You can find Rob’s music at Rob Fess on Spotify, Apple Music and UA-cam. / rob fess - topic
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The comments are incredible! The love and support is tremendous! I appreciate Mark for giving me the opportunity to share my story and my music. It makes me feel good that my music can help people! Thank you for everyone that commented! It's awesome! Mark is one special guy to hear these stories!
Thank you for sharing your story. Nothing good comes from war. Both sides lose loved-ones….for what?
People in power don’t agree with who the other people worship?!! It doesn’t make anyone right or wrong, it just makes them different.
As long as a person’s beliefs don’t harm anyone, what difference does it REALLY make?! If a person’s beliefs get them through a difficult time, or brings them comfort and joy….that’s what matters.
There’s enough room on this planet for everyone.
I saw a show one time where the host would invite people from opposing countries to break bread together. There was some tense moments, with acceptance….all things are possible. Sharing a meal, or your home, is the kindest thing you can do for other living beings.
Im still hopeful….😢
I'm a 70% rated PTSD combat veteran myself. The last thirty years were hell until I decided to go to the VA and get help.
@thomasc5817 sorry..It's not easy! It will be manageable over time
@thomasc5817 thanks for your service
The music is therapeutic and thank you for being americas ambassador
Great guy! I worked with him and we took a couple killers off the street together. He had no fear and a huge heart
🤲🏽💙💚to you both.
You can tell by listening to him that he has a huge heart. He seems like an awesome, no bullshit, kind of guy.
Thank you for your service. 💕
no one has no fear
Rob, the US Army and the US was fortunate to have you of service.
You play the piano beautifully….music is balm, I wish you continued healing.
Hell yea Brother
Who else was flooded with emotion when he started playing?🙋♀️ Thank you, Rob for sharing your heart with me and with world. Thank you, Mark. You are loved. And to whomever is reading this, you are loved. God bless all❤🌏
P3as
Thank you
For me it told it's own story :) Beautiful :)
Eyes a still a bit wet
@@FockYeah Yep! Anyone got a tissue?
Awesome dude. I was blown away when he started playing the piano! Absolutely beautiful! I was not expecting that to come out of him!
He definitely can play! I know you weren't being insensitive. ☮️
@@meow11.11 seriously 🤦🏻♀️ y'all really be finding every little thing to huff and puff about
@@meow11.11🤷♀️🤦♀️
@@vanessaaacThank you.
@@meow11.11 what? 🤨
I’ve known Rob for over 25 years since before he went into the military. He was married to my best friend who he has kids with. It breaks my heart to see what he has gone through over the years after combat. He truly does have a good heart and would do anything for anyone. Keep playing your music, it’s beautiful.
You need a good woman
Thank u
He wouldn’t do anything for anyone. Throwaway comment
@@terrytownsend5583 who are you ?
@@terrytownsend5583 not anyone 100%
Widow of a Viet Nam Vet with severe PTSD, and ultimately lost to Agent Orange cancer, this interview with Rob profoundly speaks for many Veterans of later "theatres" of war, Bravo for this soldier for being able to speak of it, and finding solace in music. RESPECT!!
So sorry...it's not easy
Sorry for your loss. Thank you for loving him.
Thank you as well
My father in law was a Vietnam vet and died of the same cancer. Everything he did was with dignity and respect. He lived that way and passed that way. I know that was incredibly difficult for you and I'm sorry for your loss.
Agent orange also took my algebra teacher when I was a freshman in HS. Cool guy, he was
The price we pay for US imperialism is an ocean of blood, the least we could do is help these soldiers reclaim normal life if possible once they leave the service.
Speak for yourself
Wow Robert that piano solo was absolutely beautiful!!! Thank you for serving in our military!! I am so sorry for what you had to go through. I am so glad this can help you with your PSTD. And so glad you have this wonderful support system. YOU ARE A GOOD MAN!!!!! ♥️🇺🇸♥️
Thank you for the kind words
@@robfess23 thank you for your service as both a soldier and a police officer. Music and other art therapy is such a wonderful way of managing mental health. As a pharmacist I can tell you that medication is also a helpful tool but getting the right combination is key. I wish you all the best in your future and keep on playing that beautiful music not only for yourself but for other vets ❤
@tammic2016 thank you! Means alot❤
@@tammic2016thanks
Mark, please do more interviews like this that inspire us with ways to overcome life's challenges. I was expecting hard rock but instead was so pleasantly surprised with that beautiful, relaxing tune.
Thank you❤
“Without music life would be a mistake” - Friedrich Nietzsche
Beautiful music Robert! Remember, God is our hope and our peace 🤗
After battling 20 years of chronic pain, PTSD, and the like, I can totally relate to music being used as a tool for coping, and sweeping the litter from the mind. Rob, may you continue playing for yourself, and for your brothers and sisters. It is a very good thing to share.
Noooo.
@@scottcrawford7674
Never again volunteer yourself
@@scottcrawford7674 well thankfully for the military a new sucker is born every minute
@@scottcrawford7674 gawd bless Murica 💩🖕
@@scottcrawford7674 sure I will move you going to pay for it?
People don’t understand how difficult it is for people battling with mental issues like ptsd hopefully he has a blessed life and overcomes this .🙏🏼
I have sever PTSD and autistic I tell you it's not easy dealing with it all the thoughts u get are scary
@@cameronlowery3424Ty for your service sir 🙏🏻🇺🇸❤
I’m a retired therapist and people with PTSD need to get connected with a therapist experienced in trauma informed therapy. It really works. It’s the latest treatment and I’ve worked with vets my entire career, not exclusively but in acute suicidal states and I wish this treatment was available 30 years ago. Even 10 years ago.
PTSD sucks , the night terrors haunt oftentimes.
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He’s a great guy and a great leader. Was my platoon leader at FORT Lewis.
Thanks buddy!
I absolutely loved this guy. Music definitely helps bring order to chaos. He plays beautifully!
Love these interviews and these guys don’t get the love appreciation and respect that they deserve coming home from that shit they endured and still struggle with
Gawd bless Murica 🤓🖕
I’m a nurse who works for the VA and I love my veterans. I wish nothing but the best for this man and then him for his sacrifice. Everybody should thank a veteran for their sacrifice when they see them.
Sacrifice for whom? Not for Americans and individual freedom but for destruction of the Middle East and the balkanization of the Arab nations. When Sec. of State Madeline Albright (((Jana Korbel))) was asked about the deaths of 800,000 Iraqi children because of the U.S. sanctions did not allow food or medicine in, she answered “it was worth it."
Mark interviewed another veteran who said not to thank him because what he did in war was awful
@@sublime7480 Most people (including the veterans) do not understand the true point of the wars.
VA is terrible
I am his cousin, I am so proud of him, with so much talent❤️🤗
Liar
I am a female disabled veteran with PTSD. Music is my best friend and I believe it has prevented me from committing suicide. This true hero has admitted his truth and it’s the only thing that can make you feel free again. Truth is wicked but necessary. I was a corpsman who did not see combat but experienced Military Sexual Trauma multiple times and I realize after victory with my claim #iamvanessaguillen recently during the psych exam that I have been manic for over 33 years. If the general public could just once step foot into a VA facility they would be shocked at what they see. The malpractice I personally have witnessed is appalling. My father a Korean vet also recently passed and reality is we get $300 for a dead sailor who died from mesothelioma all for his country.
It’s insane the stories we all have but most of all I am grateful to God to allow s to live another day of victory and triumph. Rob I am glad you are not one of the 22 a day we loose to suicide. There are many triggers that can test us , but you are changing lives by telling your story. Thank you for letting us in. Semper Fi Anchors away IGY6 Dental Doc 1988-1996
Thank you for your service. My dad is a Marine ❤
I'm so sorry all that happened to you. I understand what you mean about music. Lately I've been listening to Hold On by Triumph. It helps bring my sprit up. It is very sad how our country treats the veterans that fought to protect us and others during times of war. Also veterans that have been traumatized during their service time.
You’re story is💔, I’ll glad you have discovered music is therapeutic, I wish you the all the best☮️
our stories are very similar, i’m also a disabled veteran (out of the army) i did have a combat deployment YET my PTSD is mainly from the sexual trauma i experience in the Army. the VA is such a joke, and it’s such a terrible feeling seeing how many other women are in such a similar position as i am. you’re not alone 🩵
I was also a corpsman! Sorry to hear about your awful experience while in the Navy. I hope you are doing much better now
People don't understand the gravity of what war is like. War is hell.
They don't understand what 'Hell' is
Exactly! Because people would rather be, excuse my language, dumb-fucks who won't get off of TikTok to face the bitter truth of reality and, sorry for the expletive again, just won't give a shit.
Beautiful interview! Rob is so honest and genuine. Started crying when he began to play!
People you call “terrorists” were defending their country because you were unwanted guests on their land, which is exactly what you would have done if anyone sent troops to your country. You went to Iraq with the ruse of existing WMD and you found absolutely nothing. The war resulted in nothing but the death of millions of innocent people and left the country in complete chaos.
I agree
Exactly and then people say thank you for your service! I understand people back in the Vietnam war didn't have a choice, and that's awful. Nowadays all armies do is invade others for oil, and land grabs.
You have no idea how abusive that country was to its people. Although sending troops in possibly did little to break it up.
Known Rob for many years! Man with so much emotion when he plays the piano and one with the biggest heart you could ever imagine. So proud of you Sir for all you have overcome over the years! Keep it up!!
Thanks ❤
Did not expect the amazing piano performance at the end. You never know what ppl have unbelievable natural talents. You would never know that The men or women you work with on a daily basis have some sort of talent. Because most ppl just casually get thru life without really sharing anything about themselves. Work consumes ppl and you really just begin to think, “This is what life is all about”… but nope not at all. Life is about being surprised with things like this from the least ppl you’d imagine.
What a beautiful person. Truly our armed forces, first responders, Police, Firefighters, & all others that are similar deserve the highest honors for their selflessness and desire to better their community & world. Myself included - I know many of us would have a hard time caring so much about this that we would commit our career to it. For some, they give their lives. Even if they return home.
Thank you❤
@@robfess23 thank YOU man. Thanks for sharing your journey & especially what work you are doing to try to move forward. 🙏 helps us all
FTP
His piano playing really hit home...as a guitar player it's the only way to escape the pain.
Guitarist here also, and I totally agree ❤
I wish there was something I could say that would bring some healing to you and every person suffering with PTSD which would make a difference.
Thank you and all military personnel is thank you for your service. I’m sorry it came at such a high cost, greater than we can imagine.
I appreciate your openness.
Thank you for sharing your source of peace
with us.
Keep on being you. Don’t down yourself for the hard times.
Love and a hug from this Michigan grandma ❤❤❤
Thank you! Means a lot!
@@robfess23 ❤️
Thank you Mark for facilitating the interview so we had the chance to hear Robert play on a grand piano. There’s definitely a story to be heard in his music as well! Well done!
Wow! What an awesome guy. I can tell that I’d really like him. Interesting story. I’ll never understand war. It’s just so wrong and doesn’t do an ounce of good. Why?? I just don’t understand. Horrible what it does to those who serve!
Thanks for the video. I loved it and his piano playing was awesome, definitely relaxing. I really enjoyed the piece he played and will definitely look him up. It’s music I could listen to all day. I’ve always regretted not learning to play piano. Thanks for sharing and all the best from Canada. 🇨🇦 🍁 🍂💕👏🏻👏🏻
Question - “What are some of the most extreme things you saw?”
What is REALLY being asked is to relive their worst nightmare.
In the future, please don’t do that.
To be fair, I would imagine the key aspects of the interview were probably discussed prior to the actual filming. Whether or not in the moment he was willing to answer would be his prerogative, obviously, but this man doesn't seem like he is one to jump into an interview like this blindly.
To every single person reading this who has been/is military or a first responder, thank you for your service.
I’m so very glad you made it home. I’m so sorry for the things you’ve experienced/seen that nobody should ever have to experience/see.
Please make sure you’re taken care of, because you deserve that….and you matter.
Thanks you❤
Operation Iraqi Freedom, Operation Enduring Freedom Afghanistan. Ya... I was there for both. Glad he made it out!
Thankyou for your service brave soldier. Though i am from New Zealand and live in Australia, we all fight the good fight against those that mean harm. Hope you are doing ok 💚
Thanks for your service
PTSD is made worse by traditional talk therapy. Our autonomous nervous system doesn't differentiate between talking about trauma and the actual trauma. This interview was probably extremely triggering for him. I wish him the very best. He seems to instinctually found something that does help and is a big part of trauma therapy called DBT. You can use sensory tools to disrupt the body and mind from the trauma response. Things like putting your hand in ice or putting on music, as long as it's not triggering in itself. You wouldn't want to play music that you relate to the trauma or love songs when you're dealing with a break up. Everyone has to find their own thing that they can use. For me it's rocks. If I'm having anxiety and the fight or flight response is activated I will go rockhounding. The hiking releases the fight/flight response and focusing on finding cool rocks diverts my attention. If I'm having intrusive thoughts researching something interesting helps. Trauma causes physical changes to rhe brain. There was a study done that showed that learning new things helps heal the brain so it makes sense that playing the piano and learning to play better helps him!
Thank you!!
Working, staying busy. Helps Big Time!!!
Beautiful music and amazing story Rob! Thank you!
This was a very touching interview. Loved it. When he started playing I started wiping the tears. Good luck to him and thank you all for your service. God bless ❤
Thank you ❤
Stay strong, brother! Your music is great, keep at it!
“To bear children into this world is like carrying wood to a burning house.”
― Peter Wessel Zapffe
100% agree
Absolutely!
bro sup
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hru bro
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I was 11B Iraq 2006-2007 / Afghanistan 2010...................I didn't finish the video, too many triggers
Thank you for your service. I sincerely hope you find peace and healing one day soon ❤
Sorry brother! Didn't mean it
Good interview and great music, not a veteran, no PTSD but it did touch me.
I’ve never seen my father in someone else so much, fantastic interview. Genuinely brought me to tears. I hope every veteran gets the help they deserve!
Thank you
Hope is not a plan
Wow what a beautiful human being!! You deserve so much peace and respect! Thank you for sharing a part of your life with us, and please play that beautiful music every chance you get!! I started to cry when you began to play and my heart goes out to you!! ❤ Thank you for your service!! 🇺🇸❤
You're amazing. Genuine, honest, big heart, brave, vulnerable, badass. People are blessed knowing you.
Glad you found music.
So so sorry for all you've experienced.
GOD BLESS YOU FOR ALL YOU'VE DONE FOR US.
Speak for yourself
Best of Luck to you! Thanks for serving our country! 🙏🏼🇺🇸💜
Serving the elite
Good Morning Good People!👋😕or whatever time it is in your part of the world. Peace!, Love!, and Respect! from a chilly 50° 6:40am Brooklyn morning, to you and wherever in the world🌍 you are, my SWU fam…and if that part of the world happens to be Palestine, hang in there, every bit of my anti colonist Irish Heart is with you💚, and also Ukraine.
Respect to the regular Citizen of Israel and Russia too.
And lastly BIG RESPECT!🫡 to you Rob, and all Veterans, you’ve all seen all this already. Same sh**, different war…huh. I guess that’s just the way it goes.
President LBJ warned us against the Military Industrial Complex when it was still in its infancy in his 1969 Farewell Address Speech.
Good Mornin Eyes! Have a great day and new week ahead! ☘️🌞💚
@Linda-in9ns Hey Linda! Right back atcha!🫵😉 Enjoy your day!
Rob thank you for your service! You play beautifully so keep making the right decisions ❤
Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your experience.
My partner has a similar veteran story.
Also, you are a wonderful pianist! Keep it up.
Thank you!
"OH that is so beautiful" - my ten yr old daughter with intellectual disability and a receptive language disorder. Even she gets how simply beautiful your humanity is man! Thank you for sharing! It takes a lot!!! Thank you so much!!!
Thank you very much❤
I could listen to him play all day. Beautiful. Don't ever stop playing.
Thanks
Welcome home brother... sending good vibes from NJ,your a bit north of me.
Thank you for sharing your experiences with us, Rob. Much love and respect to you!
What a lovely man. Best wishes!
Thank you ❤
Most people that were in the front line or witnessed deaths can’t talk about it. It’s awful to experience.
His music is so full of emotion.
Thank you for that.
Thanks ❤
WOW!! Thank you Mark🫶 Thank you for sharing your story Rob & for your Service🙏🇺🇸👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻
EVERYONE NEEDS A PURPOSE TO SERVIVE❤🤍💙
Oh my gosh. The music was absolutely beautiful. It gave me chills. You are so talented. Thank you for sharing it with the world. ❤
Thank you ❤
You're an incredible person Rob- keep making the right decisions. You've done more for humanity than most will ever even attempt. Thank you for your service and I wish you all the best 🎶 🎵
The interview, the music, all perfect. ❤
If Rob is single, so am I. 😊
Wow thank you for your service wishing you lots of mental well being
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE ROB AND TO ALL OUR AMERICAN SOLDIERS!
Thank you❤
Serving the elite 🤓🖕
Magnificent. Thank you for your service sir.
Great piano player! He’s a good man and I wish him nothing but the best! My husband is a retired A10 pilot. He’s seen combat from a different perspective.
Amazing beautiful playing, thank you for ur service
What a great guy, may God bless you ❤
Thank you so much for your service I know that sounds cheesy but, I have a daughter in the Air Force I worry about her, I also struggle with PTSD and spend most of my day in my bedroom, haven't found my purpose yet, Lost my son, entire family is military may God bless you❤. Rambling don't know what to say
Chills, swelling in my chest, teary eyes, internal bliss and peace- how I felt listening to you play. It was beautiful
Thank you❤
@@robfess23loved the playing brother from one veteran (Navy) to another. Keep the Faith! 💪
I never did drugs but the casinos and beer and woman were my F ups after I got out. So I feel the pain. Those casinos are dangerous lol. Been reading the Bible more and taking walks out in the nature. Listening to Rob play the piano was like a breath of fresh air. Maybe I should look into learning.
@@drewdelaney4166 you are right about casinos 💯
This was a great interview. Listening to his beautiful music right now. Best wishes to you, Rob. Thank you for your service.
Thank you❤
Serving the elite
Simply beautiful
Moved to tears...hearing his heartbreaking story of his time in the service, and then to see and hear this beautiful music flow from his soul...amazing. That, to me, is like the Gods healing hands flowing through him, giving him the peace he needs. Thanks for your service ❤
Im so tired of hearing that "unless you sacrifice your life your a coward"
Wow!!! It’s crazy how music with no words can be sooo deep!! Amazing talent! ❤❤
More interviews like this, please! Especially in a time with so much war breaking out it is important for people to truly understand what war is.
Rob thank you for your service and sharing your story. You play the piano beautifully.
Beautiful music. Sacrificial life. Thank you. ❤ "There is no greater love than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."
-Jesus, the gospel of John
Absolutely beautiful, I could listen to him all day. I really was interested in his story and happy that he has found a way to live. Rob, thank you for sharing it all, you are a beautiful soul.
Thank you to SWU for bringing this inspiring content. Thank you Rob for sharing your moving story and your beautiful music. Thank you so much for your service. ❤
Solid dude! OEF 2008 11B here. Glad this gentle, giant it's doing good, and fighting a good fight !
Hooah
13B OEF ‘11 🫡
Salute to Rob. Keep riding that piano.
🦍🦍🦍🦍🦍
Thanks!
@robfess23 You're welcome, big guy.
Thank you, Rob for your music. Keep playing. You are not only healing yourself, but you are also healing all who hear its beauty. A gift from above!
Absolutely amazing! Way to go Rob!! I can imagine a beautiful ballet with this music.
What he said should be taught to children from a young age from everyone who deals with them.
"People without purpose are fucked.
People without purpose, motivation and direction."
We all need to feel valued, loved and have a purpose.
Without that, we ARE fucked.
The more people that tell there story the better brother. Your strength will bring strength to others like us.
Thanks
Many probably won't understand this and I hope this isn't perceived as disrespectful, but I can't possibly imagine another career to be more proud to say your friend or family is a part of but literally nothing I'd rather my son's do less then be in the service.
Military has changed ! Wouldn't join now!
🎹 ❤🔥👍 What a great story Rob. Thank you sharing it and thank you for your service and the sacrifice to your mental health. Keep up the great work with your music. I know since a child that music had saved my mental health and helped me to calm my anxiety. You play beautifully!
His music touches the heart. Beautiful.
The song reminded me of the fragile condition of humanity not lost, but won!
I understand the necessity of retiring from the police force after what you've been through but how could you afford it at such a young age? The piano playing was beautiful as are you and really seems to convey the depth of emotion under the surface . I am very appreciative of your ultimate sacrifice and others like you ❤
He retired so probably gets some type of pension.
I had to go on medical retirement at age 43 (neurological issues plus PTSD) all from trauma
unfortunately or fortunately, the government is taking care of me:( agree it's not the best care but it is what it is.
Some states are better than others, fortunately I live in Colorado (Denver) we get pretty good care
@@girlnextdoor7012 Glad to hear it !
Amazing and beautiful music! I want to purchase this song!
I'm 47, I have CPTSD, Panic Disorder, and Agoraphobia. Thank you so very much Rob, I just downloaded every song you have. I seriously have not been moved by music in what feels like a decade or more. You brought me to tears and for the first time in 20 years I actually felt calm, and my mind actually stopped that record on repeat thing it does. Thank you , thank you so very much. I'm going to try and figure out how I can actually purchase your songs now. I have Prime music so it doesn't give me the option to purchase since I pay the monthly fee, but I'm not sure if that get you anything so I'll buy it elsewhere ❤❤
Thank you!
He has a book on Amazon too. WHO IS MAJOR ROB? children’s book
Thanks for liking my music! Very humbling
Major respect for this humble, courageous man.
Thank you for your service Rob🙏🏻🇺🇸
calm down his efforts over there were pointless. i dont get people who glaze people who served in the army. you're plumber is has more worth than these naive dumb asses who served. you dont see people riding their dicks. greatest miltary couldn't take over a nation of goat lovers in sandals.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR SERVICE ROB. YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME! RESPECT! 🇺🇸
Thanks
Much love my friend, great interview! Told you not to stress it. Your a great man, with one hell of a gift!
Thanks Fabian!
Thanks for your service Rob! I have four sons who served with the USMC in Iraq and Afghanistan. I appreciate your insight on things like using music to help.
That is awesome! I know you are very proud!
Wow a Marine! That is awesome!! Marines are always professional and always ready to serve
Serving the elite 🤓🖕
I love how Robs face relaxes as he starts to play ! PTSD has been part of my journey due to childhood trauma and self inflicted trauma later . Music has helped me as well . Thank you for your service Rob and I wish you peace 💜
Thank you! Hang in there! You can always reach out to me!
Robert, continue to stay inspired through your music, which is healing and comforting.
Thank you for your service! ✨️
Serving the elite 🤡🖕
He seems like a wonderful human. I find it inspiring how much he believes in the healing power of music.
He’s my brother. Music heals
Great interview, Mark. Combat veterans do not get the recognition that they deserve for everything they've been through. Was I the only one who felt like I was chopping onions while he played the piano? It was beautiful! 🩷
Thank you Rob, for being so brave through your traumas and sharing your story. As a female Veteran, I'm still fighting through 22 years of pain, combat deployments and multiple traumas myself. So accurate and relatable, thank you Mark for posting the War Veteran's story.
You will be ok never give up
Thank you !❤
Thank you ❤ Thank you for your service❤
Rob, thank you for your service. You play beautifully.
Tears from that piece. Looking out at the world after having experienced so much. Thank you
Rob, the US Army and the US is fortunate to have had you of service!
You play the piano beautifully….music is balm, I wish you continued healing.
Thanks❤
Like these interviews when veterans have a moment to share their stories, like he is on too, talking helps. Wish him the best ! Greetings from Sweden