That's what I did almost 7 years ago. Blocked my ex everywhere but his new gf started stalking me a year after our break up. She did it for 1.5 years until police and court finally picked up, cause I was getting 400 calls per month. She cried crocodile tears and begged me to not sue her, he tried pleading with me to stop the charge, but nope I went through with it. She got charged and was told by the judge if she does it again she would face jailtime. It's not just the man itself we must avoid, it's his family and everyone surrounding him too!
That’s a lie tho! Men have higher standards than women, they leave ALL the time. The reason why there are so many single mothers, is because….men leave 🥴
Men stay through because they’re not done using you yet. They haven’t found who they want to be with next and you have too many benefits. A man is not leaving a benefits package. A woman leaves because she’s getting no benefits at all.
💯💯💯. And I hope BW will finally realize that a BM will only try to date/marry you because he's BROKE. He needs you to stay afloat. If he had money....(you know the rest).
When a woman leaves she’s emotionally checked out long ago and is tired of asking and begging a man to do to stop doing things. Women don’t leave for no reason. There’s a billion reasons.
There's always a bunch of reasons, not just one. It's easier for a man to tell himself 'she left for no reason' than it is to change the toxic person in the mirror.
its 2025, we know why; alimony, child support, his retirement, false DV accusations to keep full custody of the kids, equalization payment, divorce settlement... its a very lucrative business for women
No. They don't. They just say "Women initiate divorce more than men." Digging into the why requires care for women. These dudes hate women, so they won't be doing that.
Did You watch the video, according to this SADISTIC men for naive, stupid silly reasons like "im not happy" 😂😂😂😂 as if men would stay if they are miserable , selfish manchild, but they Will excuse cheating with i was not happy, they dont SEE women as people
Years ago, I dated a man who left a 7 year relationship. I asked why, he said “I knew that I was never going to marry her.” I asked “but if you knew that why did you stay so long? You was still sleeping with her and enjoying her home cooked meals right?” All he could say was “yea.” They stay because they are reaping the benefits.
Bro I had this same convo! Men are wild!! He also said that she was the one chasing him and he liked that so he just kept her around for years and got her pregnant !! Just gross behavior 🤮🤢
“Marriage is not for happiness” 🤣 Honey they really need to start marrying each other because they’re more compatible with each other at this point. Then one of them can be the woman and let’s see how long that lasts 😂
They won't because they don't want to accept that they actually are attracted to each other. They will continue to marry women to hide their true desires.
Some of the males who are in relationships with males are complaining about how selfish their partners are and how they are considering going with women 😂
You mean that thing in the beginning??😂 I literally had to skip through it it was a struggle to even try to listen to. It was making my ears turn. Lol never knew my ears could become nauseous. 😂😂 Learn something new every day.
That first guy has a beard that screams HOMELESS. He's desparate to get women to stay in unhealthy relationships because he needs a place to rest his own head. Wasn't he already outed for having multiple baby mamas but being a bum father?
They downplay the happiness factor because they know they are the ones making us unhappy. They say for better or worse, but it's always the man getting the better and the women getting the worse. They say they don't leave, but what do they think cheating is?! Cheating is leaving! When they stop treating you right, that's leaving!
And studies have found that the happiest people alive are single women(they are also the ones who live the longest), while the most unhappy are married women....so...yeah men "stay" to use their partners/wives. Seen it time and time again literally the world over(I have lived in other countries).
When he thinks he found an upgrade, he's out! No thoughts of the children, wife or their stability. The cheating manipulative liar's upgrades will one day become downgrades.
That second dude in the robe: if you look up the term "gaslight" in the dictionary, it's a picture of him, with that same neck tattoo, in that same robe, in that same state of being unwashed 🥴
They don't leave because you're the bed warmer, the cook, the housekeeper, the half bill payer, the entertainer when they're bored and don't have plans with their friends.
The first two dudes are just plain evil. The level of gaslighting and projection is crazy. They don’t want their wife appliance (shout out to BNB) to leave.
09:51 This man said, "Self sacrifice in place of actual compatibility is not strength. It's settling out of fear or convenience. Relationships are not defined by how much suffering you can endure." Well said!
I have been told by 3 different men, that they can not be responsible for my happiness. Exact words by 3 men at different stages in my life. Bottom line is that they don't even try.
0:28 Fixers are people who know when something isn't working and let it go. A fixer will be bold enough to cut off dead weight because it no longer serves them. Women are fixers, men are entitled.
Love is action, love is consideration. If one doesn't show love through their actions, they do not love you. If one doesn't consider your feelings, health or well-being in their actions, they do not love you
You will slowly die with the wrong man. Your health WILL decline While theirs get better. You will become more fatigued, stressed, have anxiety attacks etc. You will not get better until after you leave.
They just keep telling on themselves. They don't care if you're happy, they just see what they can use. All the more reason to leave when you've had enough!
Built to provide?! Potential?! Actually like us?! Sir… Marriages benefit MEN the most (longer lives due to balanced meals, doctor visits, clean living space, etc.) Some men just think that all they have to do is work, come home, focus on their entertainment/what pleases them, and they may not even be the breadwinner!😂 They really believe some of this stuff.
I had this conversation with a man yesterday at rhe store(spoiler: he was trying to get my number). I plainly said that I will never get married bc the risk isn't worth the reward. If I am unhappy, I will leave. The strawberry on top is that I also plainly stated that I don't date. That didn't stop him from giving me his number.🤦🏽♀️ They don't listen.
Men do listen why are you so man hating. They listen to demons, to corn stars breathing heavy and men on the microphone. How dare you confront their brains with conversations it hurts their logical superior brains!!!
Unless your man treats you like a queen and as far as you know doesnt cheat, he's there for convenience. Its much easier to qualify for that nice home in the suburbs and a free maid with your wife's income. And for you career girlies with high incomes, you better keep it to yourself. Dont be flattered bc a man wants to marry you in 6 weeks better find out his motives.
@shani.ninety hey i didnt call any names lol. On the real these men are out here playing chess. I just wish alot more women would wake up out of a dream and marry only when it benefits them. You have well established bw out here paying alimony bc they didnt protect themselves.
As someone who’s been married 20 plus, don’t do us any favors and move the f’k on plz. Men stay because of the benefits but cheat and live a double life outside. Not only am I filing for a divorce, I rather deal with his absence because it brings peace. Bye💅🏾
I believe him. They stay in the relationship because they "see how great she is" and how "amazing you can be together" Because they know they can't do any better than her! They can't lose out on the best thing they can get their hands on. So they keep her around until they can "level up" and call it "loyalty"
I really don't want to have my spouse stay with me out of duty. I want him to stay because he wants to, not because he sees my potential or feels like he has to.
Don't say you're leaving before you do. Don't threaten it. Just do it, leave no trace, and enjoy your happiness ladies. There is no wifely duty you must do just because of which genitals you were born with, don't fall for that bullshit. Don't fall for the patriarchy forcing you into relationships. The system wants you to have children to feed to the machine. The most power you have in this world is in your individuality.
I almost couldn't watch this one. The moment that man said marriage isn't about happiness, it's about duty I had to pause because I was so instantly turned off and enraged. Duty? Duty to what? This isn't war. Humans aren't on the brink of extinction. What duty is so important that your one life is sacrificed to stay tethered to someone who makes you unhappy? He severely overvalues his place and role in this world as a man. All he did was once again use a bunch of different words to say he hates being rejected. I bet if he felt his wife wasn't ever going to change what issues he couldn't handle of hers he'd have no problem leaving. Or did we forget that when women who are married and get diagnosed with cancer, they're often counciled that their husband might leave them/cheat? What a bunch of losers.
Exciting video. A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Most of those men stay out of convenience , and because they are getting their needs met ... Despite putting their woman through struggle love by choice most of the time
Men ONLY stay when the BENEFITS out way the cons. Men dip when they can do better. Women can do better, however they feel guilty they keep hope and they’re scared to start over, they become complacent.
No girls, you know what?? This man is right, we women are just complaining for silly things 🤪, we don't know anything about love and commitment and accountability 😪. We are just not good for these men, they are the real keepers!! They know about duty and genuine, unconditional love!! They are natural fixers, built to provide💪, they are cut for relationships but women are not!!! Don't you see? We are not good enough for men, so I propose we sacrifice ourselves for the better good 😭and stay OUT of relationships, since we are not built for that. Men, who are just meant to stick it through😘, can live together and give each other that unconditional love we don't deserve. So they can live happily ever after 😍🥰😘and we can die alone with our cats 😵💫😭😭😭😭
Most of them don’t want to leave because of social pressure and embarrassment they scared to explain why the relationship didn’t work out because they make people believe they’re such a good person when they’re just full of BS
They're so simple that it translates into their ability to think. "Marriage is not about happiness but duty". These duties is what brings happiness so if a woman is not happy, it means you're not doing these duties they themselves are talking about 🤦
Ladies I’mma give you the best advice my father ever gave to me at 5 years old. Don’t stay in no marriage or abusive relationship if it no longer suit you. Pack your stuff and come back home. You have nothing to prove to anyone. You gave it your best shot, but your life is more important. Leaves if you’re unhappy.
Natural fixers? I give you the problems and you ignore them, like most men, because you downplay our feelings and try to tell us it's not that bad, it's not how it is. You wait for the house to burn down before you call the fire department. I was ignored for years YEARS and then, when I walked, he sat up and paid attention. How long was I supposed to stay? Until HE was ready? Until he was ready to be mature and do the right thing? Men will stay as long as they are benefitting. My ex is struggling now, because I could not be replaced, which tells me that I was only a tool, a pack mule, for him. I am not a project, a tool, for someone to use or manipulate. It was NEVER about money, education, stability, whatever- I had all those things before I was married. I wanted someone to laugh with, hold hands, go through life holding each other up, being kind, travelling, doing silly things like picking out couches and taking walks. Men only become concerned with women when they cannot benefit from them. I said what I said.
If two people are not "synced" no amount of "right" will make the relationship last. You have to genuinely care, think, and consider the other person. Time and trial will wear "duty" down easily.
Facts 😂😂😂 all this bullshit excuse and explanation when we know the truth, it because you provide a service for them plain and simple. Free slaves and maid
Alot of men think woman are operating homeless shelters, thats the issue. Men are looking for a place to live, free food, free internet and free acess to your private area.
The guy at 00:40 what???? Usually when we say "if you arent happy just leave" it's because you're a chronic cheater. If you genuinely love your woman you arent doing that 😂
When have he seen them stick it out ?If they were sticking it out, they would be more fathers in the home.When a baby arrives, they go for milk at the shop/bodega. I have seen Women put up with cheating,sti, side babies, etc. I just watched a video where a woman found out her hubby was DL. And she sticks it out, believing his lies.Good luck to my sistah's.
Yes, my ex husband used to say, “It must be so hard to be you! You have it SO hard!” whenever I’d bring up something I wanted to change in the relationship. They are ALL like this. Our concerns, needs, feelings, wants, etc. do NOT count. Our opinions aren’t wanted or respected-even at work. You’re just supposed to do whatever he wants and STFU.
@chloeg7353 🤣 Oh hell yes! Years later, my ex still tells mutual friends he has no idea why I left because according to him,'we were so happy. Everything was fine'.
@toscadonna Damn, that's hostile (your ex's behaviour). Like a nasty, petulant child. And, yeah, that's been my experience, too. Most men are so insecure and fragile that they take any criticism from a woman as insubordination. It's exhausting and demeaning. I'm out of dating, or even interacting with men if at all possible, for good. 4B for me, forever.
My dad has been asking my mom to divorce him or threatening a divorce her for years because he knows she isn’t leaving. It’s so sad and embarrassing. Mind you he’s damn near 90
0:28 I love how they NEVER come up with anything original. They just take the bs they put women through and then pretend women are doing it to them. EVERYTHING he said is just what women go through. The WHOLE tangent about why “men” stay in unfulfilling relationships is actually why WOMEN stay. Because they are socialised to be this way.
Men- (Choose not to understand you and laugh about how different we are) Women- (Understands they are different and goes their own way) Men- Ohhhhhh wait we still need you! Women- Huh???
1:01 "Men stay with the women cause they see the" potencial" in you" Of course they stay when they got something to benefit! Only leaving once they believe they've reaped all potential and secured the next best thing
In the USA,.11 million fathers don't live with their kids and two-thirds of them are deadbeat dads. Men don't pull their weight in most relationships. Most of the time it takes 2 paychecks to live in this country especially with kids, so the woman works to also provide food and shelter for the family. But men expect the woman to do cooking, cleaning,and all the child rearing on top of working outside the home. The change men need to consider seriously is a' distribution of labor' in the home. Most of these man- babies can't even fry an egg. And it's not just cooking one meal or changing one diaper, its helping every day with something that needs to be done to maintain your household and teach your kids how to be good adults. You'll gain appreciation for all the things a woman can do and she'll appreciate you for stepping up.
Some are also too lazy to do the work bc they're going to do what they want (cheat, spend money on another woman) anyway. I dated one Cameroonian guy and when I found out his father was still living in Africa while he sent his family to the U.S. I decided he was not the man for me 😂 He did pay for a lot of things though before I broke up with him lol.
Men stick it through because they're usually the problem. They can see the light because they feel like you'll get over it and forgive them...again. Honestly, why wouldn't they think this? If someone has repeatedly forgiven bad behavior and disrespect, its a reasonable assumption that it'll be forgiven again so of course he'll see the potential. He'll see the potential to be forgiven and getting his loving partner back. Ladies, it is not your duty to keep being someone's trial and error. It is not your duty to let any man continue to play with your emotions and self-esteem. You don't owe him anything, married or not.
@1:01 Ooooooh... After that guy said his spiel and told all those lies, I had to pause the video. It's been a minute since I heard someone lie like that. I can't even remember the last time I heard someone lie so blatantly and for so long. It reminded me of the way kids lie. Girl... I needed a whole ass break.
All these comments are on point. Men stay as long as they're benefiting and will only leave when they have another woman lined up to replace their wife/labor. Women leave to get away from abuse, cheating, extreme stress that's killing them. Men are selfish and entitled, while women are expected to be selfless and reshape their whole identity around their family (husband and children, if they have them).
Ladies don’t just leave… leave silently without a trace
This ☝️
That's what I did almost 7 years ago. Blocked my ex everywhere but his new gf started stalking me a year after our break up.
She did it for 1.5 years until police and court finally picked up, cause I was getting 400 calls per month.
She cried crocodile tears and begged me to not sue her, he tried pleading with me to stop the charge, but nope I went through with it.
She got charged and was told by the judge if she does it again she would face jailtime.
It's not just the man itself we must avoid, it's his family and everyone surrounding him too!
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Wow that’s wild.
@@jesmey4902
They hate seeing you in peace .
This
They don't leave, because they be the problem.
Exactly 💯. And I like your screen name 😅
It’s almost like you read my mind🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yep!
DING DING DING!!!
That’s a lie tho! Men have higher standards than women, they leave ALL the time. The reason why there are so many single mothers, is because….men leave 🥴
Men stay through because they’re not done using you yet. They haven’t found who they want to be with next and you have too many benefits. A man is not leaving a benefits package. A woman leaves because she’s getting no benefits at all.
The only correct answer.
THIS
💯💯💯. And I hope BW will finally realize that a BM will only try to date/marry you because he's BROKE. He needs you to stay afloat. If he had money....(you know the rest).
Right! A lot of dudes don't stick it out cause they like you, they stick it out cause they like what you do for them.
If men are built to provide why do they want to go 50/50?
Great Question!!
they built to use women as maid and ask them to stay and suffer.
Ooo! That right there.
Yes good question 🤔 👏 let's see how they answer this😂😭
😂😂😂😂 damn that’s actually a great question
When a woman leaves she’s emotionally checked out long ago and is tired of asking and begging a man to do to stop doing things. Women don’t leave for no reason. There’s a billion reasons.
Exactly
There's always a bunch of reasons, not just one. It's easier for a man to tell himself 'she left for no reason' than it is to change the toxic person in the mirror.
but they were totally blindsided! she just gave up on him! boohoohoo😪
Exactly
They say women are leaving marriages.....has he ever wondered WHY?????
its 2025, we know why; alimony, child support, his retirement, false DV accusations to keep full custody of the kids, equalization payment, divorce settlement... its a very lucrative business for women
Men hate discussing the CAUSE. They just complain about the results of their actions. Even the good ones don't like understanding the why.✌🏾
No. They don't. They just say "Women initiate divorce more than men." Digging into the why requires care for women. These dudes hate women, so they won't be doing that.
No. Like most narcissistic people, they can never ever accept accountability or self reflect.
Did You watch the video, according to this SADISTIC men for naive, stupid silly reasons like "im not happy" 😂😂😂😂 as if men would stay if they are miserable , selfish manchild, but they Will excuse cheating with i was not happy, they dont SEE women as people
Years ago, I dated a man who left a 7 year relationship. I asked why, he said “I knew that I was never going to marry her.” I asked “but if you knew that why did you stay so long? You was still sleeping with her and enjoying her home cooked meals right?” All he could say was “yea.” They stay because they are reaping the benefits.
Bro I had this same convo! Men are wild!! He also said that she was the one chasing him and he liked that so he just kept her around for years and got her pregnant !! Just gross behavior 🤮🤢
@@jasmine3912exactly! Very gross!
Eatin up the kids snacks 😂
Most men are users , they have always been . Ladies please guard your heart do not allow another human to use you and take advantage of you.
“Marriage is not for happiness” 🤣 Honey they really need to start marrying each other because they’re more compatible with each other at this point. Then one of them can be the woman and let’s see how long that lasts 😂
"Marriage is not for happiness" but he expects to have a full belly and empty peen at any given moment
They won't because they don't want to accept that they actually are attracted to each other. They will continue to marry women to hide their true desires.
Some of the males who are in relationships with males are complaining about how selfish their partners are and how they are considering going with women 😂
They want a work horse
Lol😭😭 even they know how terrible it is to be in a relationship with them. @BlkOnyx0508
Men will leave us If they're happy or sad but they expect you to stay, ridiculous! 😂
Period
If a man leaves he’s not happy and hasn’t been happy for a while. But most men won’t leave they fear being alone.
Yep
The more they talk, the more women are learning. Keep talking.
Oh please. We don't believe anything that man said. CAP😂😂😂😂😂
Girl, they are trying desperately to convince us of that bullshit 😂😂😂😂
You mean that thing in the beginning??😂 I literally had to skip through it it was a struggle to even try to listen to. It was making my ears turn. Lol never knew my ears could become nauseous. 😂😂 Learn something new every day.
@@lcq7901started making me mad, thinking I'm dumb enough to believe you sir???
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He said men stay because they see that the woman has ambition. 😂😂😂😂 he needs to be taken care of. Haha ...he wants a provider woman.
😂😂😂
IMMEGIATELY
They're The OG Gold Diggers 😂😂😂😂😂 It's All About The Benefits For Them
Well who else it going to pay for his tattoos 😫🤣😄
He should go back to his mother
That first guy has a beard that screams HOMELESS.
He's desparate to get women to stay in unhealthy relationships because he needs a place to rest his own head.
Wasn't he already outed for having multiple baby mamas but being a bum father?
Fact!! He look like he don’t have his ish together
@@fendibondie2545 with that nasty beard he don’t
@@fendibondie2545He don't even have his beard together 😅
They downplay the happiness factor because they know they are the ones making us unhappy. They say for better or worse, but it's always the man getting the better and the women getting the worse. They say they don't leave, but what do they think cheating is?! Cheating is leaving! When they stop treating you right, that's leaving!
Well said 💯
And studies have found that the happiest people alive are single women(they are also the ones who live the longest), while the most unhappy are married women....so...yeah men "stay" to use their partners/wives. Seen it time and time again literally the world over(I have lived in other countries).
When he thinks he found an upgrade, he's out! No thoughts of the children, wife or their stability. The cheating manipulative liar's upgrades will one day become downgrades.
We no more self sacrificing. Thats done. We set boundaries.
That second dude in the robe: if you look up the term "gaslight" in the dictionary, it's a picture of him, with that same neck tattoo, in that same robe, in that same state of being unwashed 🥴
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I'm cryinggg this is hilarious. Not unwashed 😂
The cackle I just let out😂😅
😂😂😂
He looks like he smells like Jack in the box onion rings
They don't leave because you're the bed warmer, the cook, the housekeeper, the half bill payer, the entertainer when they're bored and don't have plans with their friends.
The first two dudes are just plain evil. The level of gaslighting and projection is crazy. They don’t want their wife appliance (shout out to BNB) to leave.
Facts
Hey, fellow Burbie!! 👋🏽 👋🏽 👋🏽
BNB is not the one who coined that term 'appliance' in this context. She should give credit where it's due.
@CenterWomen4B burb says "wife appliance," not "appliance." Was there another woman who coined it? I'd love to know
09:51 This man said, "Self sacrifice in place of actual compatibility is not strength. It's settling out of fear or convenience. Relationships are not defined by how much suffering you can endure." Well said!
They don't stay with women bc they like women - they stay b/c they're needs are fulfilled.
I have been told by 3 different men, that they can not be responsible for my happiness. Exact words by 3 men at different stages in my life. Bottom line is that they don't even try.
My first ex said exactly the same. Should have been one of the many red flags that sent me running, but I was young and naive.
They are correct. Take his money and buy happiness
Yoh the way I want to meet my man and get married 😂😂😂 but everytime i see these videos and deal with men I remember why I’ve been single 😭 ai
Babe i cant even get one to just spend the winter with. After 2 days the entitlement they have always rear its ugly head and turn me off!
0:28 Fixers are people who know when something isn't working and let it go. A fixer will be bold enough to cut off dead weight because it no longer serves them. Women are fixers, men are entitled.
They also don't sit around expecting mommy to do everything for them.
@@BrainWitchSiv 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
They are co dependent as well.
Love is action, love is consideration. If one doesn't show love through their actions, they do not love you. If one doesn't consider your feelings, health or well-being in their actions, they do not love you
You will slowly die with the wrong man. Your health WILL decline While theirs get better. You will become more fatigued, stressed, have anxiety attacks etc. You will not get better until after you leave.
Right Pray that junk away
🗣 Truth!
They just keep telling on themselves. They don't care if you're happy, they just see what they can use. All the more reason to leave when you've had enough!
A man will literally get another woman yet stay in the marriage with their serrogate mother. They are commical at this point 😂
Built to provide?! Potential?! Actually like us?! Sir… Marriages benefit MEN the most (longer lives due to balanced meals, doctor visits, clean living space, etc.) Some men just think that all they have to do is work, come home, focus on their entertainment/what pleases them, and they may not even be the breadwinner!😂 They really believe some of this stuff.
💯 ❤
I had this conversation with a man yesterday at rhe store(spoiler: he was trying to get my number).
I plainly said that I will never get married bc the risk isn't worth the reward. If I am unhappy, I will leave.
The strawberry on top is that I also plainly stated that I don't date. That didn't stop him from giving me his number.🤦🏽♀️
They don't listen.
That’s also part of the problem 🤦♀️
Men do listen why are you so man hating. They listen to demons, to corn stars breathing heavy and men on the microphone. How dare you confront their brains with conversations it hurts their logical superior brains!!!
They hear, they just don't care.
They h4ear. They simply want to sleep around. A day without tr5ying to get into the pants of a woman, is a day wasted.
He heard, I don't date, so I'll have s e x. I didn't say that.🙄
Girl you need to keep up your channel. It is spreading awareness . Helping women. Thank you. 😊
Thank you so much!! ☺️ that’s encouraging ❤️❤️
He was born in the wrong time to say that marriage is about duty. He sounds like he MUST produce an heir for his esteemed lineage.
Unless your man treats you like a queen and as far as you know doesnt cheat, he's there for convenience. Its much easier to qualify for that nice home in the suburbs and a free maid with your wife's income. And for you career girlies with high incomes, you better keep it to yourself. Dont be flattered bc a man wants to marry you in 6 weeks better find out his motives.
Be careful speaking so many facts you may offend someone 😂💯
@shani.ninety hey i didnt call any names lol. On the real these men are out here playing chess. I just wish alot more women would wake up out of a dream and marry only when it benefits them. You have well established bw out here paying alimony bc they didnt protect themselves.
@@shani.ninetylol hey . I just thought some folks would like to know .
I’m so happy I’m single and can leave when I want to. Thank God The Almighty! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
As someone who’s been married 20 plus, don’t do us any favors and move the f’k on plz. Men stay because of the benefits but cheat and live a double life outside. Not only am I filing for a divorce, I rather deal with his absence because it brings peace. Bye💅🏾
They leave all the time.😂
I believe him.
They stay in the relationship because they "see how great she is" and how "amazing you can be together"
Because they know they can't do any better than her! They can't lose out on the best thing they can get their hands on. So they keep her around until they can "level up" and call it "loyalty"
These men opened up their mouths to tell those lies. They oughta be ashamed.
0:22 marriage is not about happiness? Marriage isn’t about misery. This man has never been married. He has two kids out of wedlock.
Insane to talk about duty with a history like that 😂
OMG I JUST POINTED THAT OUT!!!
The town jester.
i couldnt roll my eyes hard enough! shadapppp!!
My thoughts exactly🙄
1:30 he lying 🤥 😂😂
Exactly my immediate thoughts.He"s bs-ing and he knows it. Kinda proud of myself that I finally pick up on such things.
Frfr
Girl! I was laughing my ass off!! 😂
“We see the potential” 🤣🤣
I really don't want to have my spouse stay with me out of duty. I want him to stay because he wants to, not because he sees my potential or feels like he has to.
Don't say you're leaving before you do. Don't threaten it. Just do it, leave no trace, and enjoy your happiness ladies. There is no wifely duty you must do just because of which genitals you were born with, don't fall for that bullshit. Don't fall for the patriarchy forcing you into relationships. The system wants you to have children to feed to the machine. The most power you have in this world is in your individuality.
I'm Thankful For My Journey Into Abstinence && The Wisdom I've Gained In Isolation 🙏🏾🕊️🥰 #West4B 🎉
I almost couldn't watch this one. The moment that man said marriage isn't about happiness, it's about duty I had to pause because I was so instantly turned off and enraged. Duty? Duty to what? This isn't war. Humans aren't on the brink of extinction. What duty is so important that your one life is sacrificed to stay tethered to someone who makes you unhappy? He severely overvalues his place and role in this world as a man. All he did was once again use a bunch of different words to say he hates being rejected. I bet if he felt his wife wasn't ever going to change what issues he couldn't handle of hers he'd have no problem leaving. Or did we forget that when women who are married and get diagnosed with cancer, they're often counciled that their husband might leave them/cheat?
What a bunch of losers.
Indeed.
Exciting video. A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have him back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?.
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Priscilla you are a lifesaver to women and now some men are triggered by you speaking the truth.💯
Chile the gaslighting has reached an all time high!!
Of course they see the potential. They have a forever "maid appliance" to do all the cooking, cleaning, child care , laundry, mental load ect ect
Most of those men stay out of convenience , and because they are getting their needs met ... Despite putting their woman through struggle love by choice most of the time
Emphasis on the "by choice"
Men ONLY stay when the BENEFITS out way the cons. Men dip when they can do better. Women can do better, however they feel guilty they keep hope and they’re scared to start over, they become complacent.
No girls, you know what?? This man is right, we women are just complaining for silly things 🤪, we don't know anything about love and commitment and accountability 😪. We are just not good for these men, they are the real keepers!! They know about duty and genuine, unconditional love!! They are natural fixers, built to provide💪, they are cut for relationships but women are not!!!
Don't you see? We are not good enough for men, so I propose we sacrifice ourselves for the better good 😭and stay OUT of relationships, since we are not built for that. Men, who are just meant to stick it through😘, can live together and give each other that unconditional love we don't deserve.
So they can live happily ever after 😍🥰😘and we can die alone with our cats 😵💫😭😭😭😭
Sarcasm detected 🤔
😂 Touché! Yes, we’re not marriage material! Males belong together in holy matrimony where they’ll show us how it’s done!😂
GASLIGHT!!! 😂😂😂 They really think yall stupid! LOL!
Oh, brother. That man lied straight through his twist. They stay because of LABOR!
Most of them don’t want to leave because of social pressure and embarrassment they scared to explain why the relationship didn’t work out because they make people believe they’re such a good person when they’re just full of BS
They're so simple that it translates into their ability to think. "Marriage is not about happiness but duty". These duties is what brings happiness so if a woman is not happy, it means you're not doing these duties they themselves are talking about 🤦
A man will leave you because it's a Tuesday.😂😂😂The men that spoke are full of it.
The second guy with the tattoos is a bloody liar 😂😂😂
“We stay cause we’re providers”. Sir, I have a job. You on the other hand don’t have basic life skills that is why you stay in unhappy relationships.
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Who’s he providing for with neck tattoos like that? I’ve never met a man with neck tattoos that has any money.
Ladies I’mma give you the best advice my father ever gave to me at 5 years old. Don’t stay in no marriage or abusive relationship if it no longer suit you. Pack your stuff and come back home. You have nothing to prove to anyone. You gave it your best shot, but your life is more important. Leaves if you’re unhappy.
That first speaker guy’s beards looks like a blanket that rats made holes in and he is lying from one of those holes🤣.
Ewwww
😂😂😂 not ‘lying from one of those holes’ 😂😂
Lol, that was such a visual 😂
On todays episode of Repackaged: The Dusty Edition
The lies are so laughable 😂!
0:54 men stay because they’re scared to be alone.
Today's XL propaganda: "marriage isn't about happiness".
Yeah. I've been married twice. They're not lying.
Natural fixers? I give you the problems and you ignore them, like most men, because you downplay our feelings and try to tell us it's not that bad, it's not how it is. You wait for the house to burn down before you call the fire department. I was ignored for years YEARS and then, when I walked, he sat up and paid attention. How long was I supposed to stay? Until HE was ready? Until he was ready to be mature and do the right thing? Men will stay as long as they are benefitting. My ex is struggling now, because I could not be replaced, which tells me that I was only a tool, a pack mule, for him. I am not a project, a tool, for someone to use or manipulate. It was NEVER about money, education, stability, whatever- I had all those things before I was married. I wanted someone to laugh with, hold hands, go through life holding each other up, being kind, travelling, doing silly things like picking out couches and taking walks. Men only become concerned with women when they cannot benefit from them. I said what I said.
You have spoken in volumes!
@@thembekadorcaskhumalo866She really did.
If two people are not "synced" no amount of "right" will make the relationship last. You have to genuinely care, think, and consider the other person. Time and trial will wear "duty" down easily.
Ma'am I came here running, you need to do a video on the "broke boyfriend hug"...
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0:47 they stay for the benefits of having you around until they see a better opportunity.
Facts 😂😂😂 all this bullshit excuse and explanation when we know the truth, it because you provide a service for them plain and simple. Free slaves and maid
If they like you, why they waste your time and make things difficult?
Stick it through!?
Alot of men think woman are operating homeless shelters, thats the issue. Men are looking for a place to live, free food, free internet and free acess to your private area.
Baby if u ain't happy leave, Respectfully ! Life is 2 short for this ish... 😂
Shiiiiiiit I’m just going to stay in my snail shell 🐚
Ohh you just made me LOL! 😂
@ stay blessed
It's so comfy!! 😅
@ comfy and safe! Lol 😂
I thought they hated paying rent and bills all by themselves 😮
Looks like the dust has followed us into 2025! Ah! We have suffered 😩
The guy at 00:40 what???? Usually when we say "if you arent happy just leave" it's because you're a chronic cheater. If you genuinely love your woman you arent doing that 😂
“We stay because we are built to provide “. Weren’t yall just saying that you won’t provide for your wives and how your wives need to go 50/50 ?! 🙄
When have he seen them stick it out ?If they were sticking it out, they would be more fathers in the home.When a baby arrives, they go for milk at the shop/bodega. I have seen Women put up with cheating,sti, side babies, etc. I just watched a video where a woman found out her hubby was DL. And she sticks it out, believing his lies.Good luck to my sistah's.
Be Miserable with me , or be Miserable Alone without Me. These options not it.
5:12 she’s wrong about that one. MOST men will stay in a relationship because they don’t have the guts to leave and men get comfortable.
Every time I told my ex how unhappy I was, he'd explain how I was silly and wrong. Are most men like this?
Mine too. Then when I left he said he had no idea I was unhappy LIKE THAT?? He said he never thought I'd actually leave.
Yes, my ex husband used to say, “It must be so hard to be you! You have it SO hard!” whenever I’d bring up something I wanted to change in the relationship. They are ALL like this. Our concerns, needs, feelings, wants, etc. do NOT count. Our opinions aren’t wanted or respected-even at work. You’re just supposed to do whatever he wants and STFU.
@chloeg7353 🤣 Oh hell yes! Years later, my ex still tells mutual friends he has no idea why I left because according to him,'we were so happy. Everything was fine'.
@toscadonna Damn, that's hostile (your ex's behaviour). Like a nasty, petulant child. And, yeah, that's been my experience, too. Most men are so insecure and fragile that they take any criticism from a woman as insubordination. It's exhausting and demeaning. I'm out of dating, or even interacting with men if at all possible, for good. 4B for me, forever.
My dad has been asking my mom to divorce him or threatening a divorce her for years because he knows she isn’t leaving. It’s so sad and embarrassing. Mind you he’s damn near 90
I love your channel. May the algorithm bless you with likes and many subscribers 💯👍🏾
I love how everything the 2nd guy said, is what WOMEN do
And the girls are tired, that bs dead dead
But good luck with that 😂😂😂😂
You came for them today! ❤️🤣👏🏻 Really enjoyed this one
That’s why divorced is mostly done by women because these men don’t want to look like a villain😦.
0:28
I love how they NEVER come up with anything original. They just take the bs they put women through and then pretend women are doing it to them. EVERYTHING he said is just what women go through. The WHOLE tangent about why “men” stay in unfulfilling relationships is actually why WOMEN stay. Because they are socialised to be this way.
Men- (Choose not to understand you and laugh about how different we are)
Women- (Understands they are different and goes their own way)
Men- Ohhhhhh wait we still need you!
Women- Huh???
1:01 "Men stay with the women cause they see the" potencial" in you"
Of course they stay when they got something to benefit!
Only leaving once they believe they've reaped all potential and secured the next best thing
In the USA,.11 million fathers don't live with their kids and two-thirds of them are deadbeat dads. Men don't pull their weight in most relationships. Most of the time it takes 2 paychecks to live in this country especially with kids, so the woman works to also provide food and shelter for the family. But men expect the woman to do cooking, cleaning,and all the child rearing on top of working outside the home. The change men need to consider seriously is a' distribution of labor' in the home. Most of these man- babies can't even fry an egg. And it's not just cooking one meal or changing one diaper, its helping every day with something that needs to be done to maintain your household and teach your kids how to be good adults. You'll gain appreciation for all the things a woman can do and she'll appreciate you for stepping up.
They know they gotta do everything themselves and rather stay tormenting these women.
Thank you Priscilla. Good morning. 🌹
Some are also too lazy to do the work bc they're going to do what they want (cheat, spend money on another woman) anyway. I dated one Cameroonian guy and when I found out his father was still living in Africa while he sent his family to the U.S. I decided he was not the man for me 😂 He did pay for a lot of things though before I broke up with him lol.
Men stick it through because they're usually the problem. They can see the light because they feel like you'll get over it and forgive them...again. Honestly, why wouldn't they think this? If someone has repeatedly forgiven bad behavior and disrespect, its a reasonable assumption that it'll be forgiven again so of course he'll see the potential. He'll see the potential to be forgiven and getting his loving partner back. Ladies, it is not your duty to keep being someone's trial and error. It is not your duty to let any man continue to play with your emotions and self-esteem. You don't owe him anything, married or not.
12:15 right
@1:01 Ooooooh... After that guy said his spiel and told all those lies, I had to pause the video. It's been a minute since I heard someone lie like that. I can't even remember the last time I heard someone lie so blatantly and for so long. It reminded me of the way kids lie. Girl... I needed a whole ass break.
I can smell the sweat and the drakkar noir on the second guy through my screen
The STAY BECAUSE THEY GETTING THING FOR FREE AND DO NOTHING.. AND SLEEP AROUND HOWEVER THEY WANT .
All these comments are on point. Men stay as long as they're benefiting and will only leave when they have another woman lined up to replace their wife/labor. Women leave to get away from abuse, cheating, extreme stress that's killing them. Men are selfish and entitled, while women are expected to be selfless and reshape their whole identity around their family (husband and children, if they have them).
Lies they tell. Mental health is a must.